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Narcissists will cheat cause they are broke · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Y'all know one of the main reasons that a narcissist will
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  cheat on you? They jealous of you, they hate
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  you, they'll cheat. Look, yeah, narcissist will
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  cheat on you because they're broke and they have nothing to
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  offer. That's what we talked about
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  there, y'all. So why how narcissists have the
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  audacity to cheat and lie and do all this kind of stuff to you
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  when they have nothing to offer anybody else, including you,
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  Including you. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammond. I'm a diagnosed narcissist, and
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  I give you an inside look at the mind of a narcissist.
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  And yeah, we'll hop right into it.
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  There are a lot of bum ish narcissist and the word yeah.
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  When I hashtag the word bum, my videos be getting hit on TikTok
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  and stuff like that. So it's kind of crazy.
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  So I say bum ish. I'm not going to hashtag it on
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  YouTube anywhere or anything like that.
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  But yeah, they will cheat on you because they have nothing to
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  offer you. Did y'all know that?
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  Doesn't that sound crazy as hell?
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  In the mind of a narcissist, there's no peace.
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  I'll tell you straight up, there is no peace within the mind of a
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  narcissistic person. You just will not.
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  You just do not get peace when you're dealing with a highly
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  narcissistic toxic gas person. It just, yeah, I'm being real
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  with you. It just does not work that way.
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  But as the as the flow goes, as things continue to go forward
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  and whatnot, you start to understand that they don't like
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  you. Like, especially if you're doing
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  better than them, especially if you're taking care of them,
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  especially if you're highly successful or more physically
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  attractive than them or whatever the case may be.
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  They are your biggest enemies. Like seriously, these people are
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  not your friends. They are your biggest enemies.
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  Like, I talked to so many people, right?
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  And this comic came from one of my one of my members of my
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  group. They was like, can you do a
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  video about this right here? I just like, yeah, yeah.
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  They have so much audacity and so much hatred in their heart
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  for you. And so because a lot of
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  narcissists are entitled. Yeah.
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  We are just entitled beings. We feel like we deserve more
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  just because we are us. We feel like we deserve the
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  world because we are us. We just feel like there's so
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  many people out here that are doing better than us.
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  They don't deserve it because we feel like we are a higher
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  creature. We, we are a higher level of
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  being than they are. So This is why it's so tough
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  when you're dealing with a narcissistic person.
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  They're like you're trying to take care of we, we are like
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  that narcissist has fallen on hard times.
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  And then you have to take care of this person.
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  You have to take care of a person that's not trying like
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  they hate it. Especially if it's a man.
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  Especially if it's a man you you want to make make a narcissistic
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  male feel emasculated. Just be you and take be.
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  Just be you and step up when they falter when they need help,
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  and sometimes they won't even ask for it when they need help.
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  Just be the one to step up. They get fired from their job
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  and it's tough for them. It's tough for them to find
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  another job. Guess what?
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  You step up, get a second job, or you worked more.
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  You start working more hours, or you start a small business or
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  something like that. You start using your credit
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  cards or whatever the case may be to take care of them.
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  You do stuff like that, they'll lose their damn minds.
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  Like internally, they might not say something to you, but you
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  can tell the shift. You can.
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  You can feel the shift in the household, like if you are doing
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  everything around the household, you have essentially taken over
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  the role of the man, right? So they feel emasculated.
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  They feel like you don't need them.
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  So the anger and resentment inside of them builds up.
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  And it builds up to a point where it's going to day out.
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  It builds up to a point where it's going to explode.
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  It just is. It's not.
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  Yeah. This is not something a
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  narcissist can easily hold in. This is going to build up to a
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  point where it it explodes and that person, that narcissistic
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  person is going to go out. They, they might not yell and
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  scream and raid at you, but they'll become emotionally
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  disconnected from you and then start pursuing new supply.
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  It doesn't mean that they're going to leave you.
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  It just means that they're going to try to even the score.
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  You emasculate me. I have to, I have to do
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  something to make myself feel better.
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  You make me feel smaller. I have to do something to make
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  myself feel better, right? I have.
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  So they'll go here and check on you.
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  They'll go out here and cheat on you and have nothing to offer
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  anybody else. Of course they'd be lying to the
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  new person. Of course they'd be broke bum
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  ish, nothing to offer the next person but body.
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  They'll be driving your car that you might pay for to go cheat on
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  you. They might drop you off at work.
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  I'll hear this story all the time.
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  They might drop you off at work in your vehicle.
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  Use your vehicle to go cheat on you.
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  Go go, go clap some cheeks or get their cheeks claps in the
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  back of the vehicle, your vehicle just to spite you, isn't
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  it? Yeah.
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  Isn't that damn, they're evil. I talked to a lot of people, but
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  a lot of people don't realize how how evil that is right there
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  to go out here and just cheat on somebody to spite them because
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  they because you are not doing well is evil.
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  It is. And I think some people are
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  going to argue with me. We can go back and forth, but
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  y'all understand that that is evil.
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  Y'all get it because how like what, what is possessing you to
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  go out here and do something like that?
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  It's really is an internal, the internal dialogue that goes
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  inside a narcissist mind. It's crazy.
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  That's one thing I tell so many people.
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  It is absolutely insane what is going on inside of my mind
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  sometimes right now all the time, sometimes.
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  But if you're dealing with me, you got to understand like if
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  I'm not doing well, I feel I'm jealous of you.
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  I get angry because you are yes, yeah, I know I said narcissistic
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  men do it like this, but there are a lot of narcissistic women
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  that you can't make happy either.
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  You can have like you can fall into the provider role in the
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  household and they feel like they have nothing to offer
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  anybody but their body and they become they get bored as a stay
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  at home parent or whatever the case may be, stay at home wife
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  or whatever. Stay at home girlfriend, right?
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  Stay at home fiance. Whatever the role is playing,
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  they'll get bored with that. Ain't gonna start cheating on
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  you because you're doing everything that they want you to
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  do, but they'll blame you for not being there.
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  You just work a lot. You never around and.
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  What the what I work? 9:00 to 5:00 I work 8 What?
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  We work nine to four, nine to three.
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  Damn you. You we would be.
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  Doing this since the beginning. You go cheat.
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  On me 'cause I'm working. Damn.
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  I call you on my break. I text you all the what?
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  The hell you said. It goes right there and then
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  when if you catch them cheating on you, guess what happens?
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  Now they're the victim and somehow it's your fault.
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  Now they are the victim of circumstance and they didn't
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  mean to do this. And rabble, rabble, rabble, blah
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  blah blah Boo Boo Boo. Boo B.
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  Now they are the victim somehow, and you somehow you are the
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  aggressor here. You, you how how dare you hold
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  me accountable when you know I'm home hard times.
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  How dare you hold me accountable.
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  Will you know the life that I live?
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  This is why I'm just telling you this is how the mind of a lot of
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  narcissists work right here. They will absolutely have
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  nothing to offer and be cheating so damn much.
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  Yeah, I did a reaction video on my on my reaction channel.
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  It's called Lee actions L EE dot actions, but where a man really
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  had nothing to offer his girlfriend took him on a trip,
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  right. His girlfriend literally took
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  him on a trip and he was cheating on the trip.
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  He was texting his other girl or his other boot on the trip when
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  he had no job, no car, no nothing.
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  And the video is a is a video is literally of him crying because
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  he has no ride home. He's like, you going to leave me
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  here? I don't have a way to get.
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  Home. I'm fucked.
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  He started crying because he had no way home after he got caught
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  cheating. The audacity, Because he's so
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  angry internally that he had nothing to offer anybody else,
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  nothing to offer his partner. He felt like less of a man that
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  he felt he needed the cheat. You don't have made.
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  How, how, how do I feel manly? Go out here and sow my seeds.
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  I'm not trying to sow those seeds.
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  I'm not trying to handle babies. But I'm going out here to try.
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  I'm practice. I'm going here and practice.
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  That's how they try to get a leg up on you.
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  That's how they try to one up you right there is they they try
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  to go out here and do all this stuff and be manipulative and
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  toxic yourself. Be like lying and cheating and
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  doing stuff like that just to get.
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  You that. Is it is wild.
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  It really, Yeah, it really is. Think about it like that.
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  Think about how somebody the the hatred or the internal flame
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  that's burdened within someone to make them feel like the only
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  way to make themselves feel better is not by talking to you
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  or going out and getting a job or trying to pick myself up by
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  my bootstraps, right? Going out here and literally
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  start trying to talk to other people.
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  No, not all the affairs will be physical affairs.
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  Like they're not going to always physically cheat, but maybe
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  they'll be mostly cheat on you. They'll be telling somebody else
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  that they love them. You know I.
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  Love you and I can't wait to be together with you know we
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  haven't met but I do love you and I care about you so much.
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  I can't wait for us to. Just be together time.
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  Nothing is going to be sooner or later.
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  Nothing is going to be the hold of the pot.
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  And I mean nothing. Nothing will hold us the pot
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  sooner. Or later and they'll be they'll
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  be building plans for the future, but someone else the
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  entire time when they're with you.
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  And like I said, y'all, it is evil.
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  It really is. It's evil.
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  And they do. At the end of the day, they do
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  not care how you feel about the situation or how it how things
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  have went or how things are going.
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  They do not care. And I know that's going to
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  rattle some people or shake some people up and whatnot, but they
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  do not care how you feel. At the end of the day, they're
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  trying to make themselves feel better and they don't care how
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  you feel. They actually are trying to hurt
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  you, right? They're trying to bring you
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  pain. They're trying to do this type
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  of stuff to you right here. This is what they're trying to
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  do. But this is the, this is what
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  happens when you're dealing with a toxic, narcissistic, this evil
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  bastard. They will try to bring you down
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  a notch because they will try to knock you off of your high horse
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  because they feel like they themselves are not doing well in
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  life. They feel like they deserve
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  more. And why the hell do you get to
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  be happy? Why the hell do you, why the
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  hell do you get to be happy when I'm out here struggling?
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  Why the hell do you get to live your life when I'm out here
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  feeling the pain? Right, right, right, right.
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  You see what I'm saying? I'm just telling y'all, this is
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  how narcissists work. And if you like, if you forgive
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  them and you catch them cheating, you forgive them.
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  I hope you are ready for Round 2 because you're going to get it
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  right. You're going to get round two.
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  Well, they, they, they're going to find a way to make you feel
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  worse. I can promise you that right
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  there. They're going to find a way to
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  make you feel worse. And when they do it, you going
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  to be mad at telling yourself and forgiving them because
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  they're going to do it again. Well, Lee, I thought they care
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  like they're going to do it again.
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  You have to listen to me. They're going to do it again.
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  If they have nothing to offer and they're still getting new
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  supply, just think about if you help build them up, if they have
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  nothing to offer right now and then you help build them up,
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  they'll cheat on you because you, you're in a, you're in a
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  position to help them. You're in a position to help
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  build them up and they'll cheat on you because of that.
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  That's crazy. And then when you build, when
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  they do have something to offer, they'll take it and give it to
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  the next person. We will.
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  We just not working out. Times have been really hard and
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  we just kind of grew apart and now I'm going to go be with
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  somebody else. And then you leave you broken
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  and then you got to rebuild again.
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  Y'all, if you meet them and they have nothing to offer you, don't
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  go to build a bum. Please don't go to the bill of
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  the bum to find a partner. If they have nothing, absolutely
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  nothing to offer you at the beginning of a relationship and
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  they don't fit the criteria of what you're looking for, don't
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  try to make them into it because then you'll be wasting your time
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  and you're going to look silly. You'll end up looking silly as
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  hell. Or is everybody going to listen
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  to me? No, you're going to hear this
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  video, hear me say exactly this right here, and you go out there
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  and find somebody with nothing to offer you help build them up.
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  They're going to play in your face, make you look stupid, make
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  you feel stupid, and then they're going to leave with
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  somebody else. Anybody.
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  Well, damn it, I should listen. Save yourself some time.
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  Y'll see yourself some hurt. Take your time Dayton.
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  He didn't subscribe button y'all mental illness.net for
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  everything and I am out. Peace.