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HHBSO 13: Grindr Mishaps · He's Hot but Something's Off...

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Hello, welcome to He's Hop and something's off of me, Just Joey
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TI had a very pleasant time setting up for the podcast
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tonight because I got and stuck my not my toe.
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But I was walking to the coffee table in my living room to get
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something, and it's got four really thin metal legs on each
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corner. And I spilled a glass of water
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and I was cleaning it up. So I was like rushing.
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And I stubbed. Not stubbed, but I ram the one
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leg of the table between my big toe and the toe next to it.
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So this thin metal rod basically got jammed between.
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I didn't even know what you call that gap, that gap between your
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big toe and the toe next to it with a lot of force.
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But I was like, rushing. The water was everywhere.
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I was spilling out to the rug and everything.
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That hurt. I think stubbing your toe might
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hurt more. Stubbing your little toe always
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hurts a lot. But like, yeah, that was.
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I was limping for about an hour. I usually eat dinner at the
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coffee table. I have a giant dining table.
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You can sit like eight people in it.
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But I I used to eat on the dining table, but I'm very used
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to watching TV when I'm eating. So David Lam, when he comes
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over, we'll both eat at the coffee table.
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We rarely eat at the dining table.
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And he started sitting on the floor, not on the couch, to eat
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because it's like a more comfortable hype because the
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coffee table's very low. So I now do that.
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I will. I have my food on like the
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coffee table in front of the massive TV and I will sit on the
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floor, legs like under the coffee table and then I'll eat.
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It's very, very comfortable. So thanks David Lamb for that
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tip. One thing I saw today at the gym
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that I found very interesting is there was a dog at the gym.
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Someone had a dog, like a little dog, a poodle or something in a
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stroller for. I know do they make strollers
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for dogs. But it was like this little
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stroller and the dog was in it. And I was on this machine, on
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this bicep machine and right in front of me, like on the other
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side of it was like a bunch of equipment.
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So I was like on this machine. And then I don't know where this
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stroller comes by. This woman is pushing it.
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It's got this like white poodle in it and she like, goes up to
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like a piece of equipment. She's like with her friend and
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they're both working out. And I'm like, I don't know
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whether to like, I didn't really know what to think of the
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situation. I probably seen more weird
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things at the gym. But it was like one part of me
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was thinking, do you really need your dog with you to go to the
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gym? Maybe it's a service animal.
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I guess the service animals they always have like a very obvious
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fest or thing they wear that saves and giant litters like
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service animal don't pet or at least in the airport that the
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animals that work at the airport like sniffing drugs or guns or
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whatever it always they they're always like label.
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But this dog didn't have any obvious service dog markings on
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it so maybe it was a emotional support.
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I mean there's so many. Every dog is an emotional
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support dog for animal these days, right?
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Because we kept on hearing, at least during the pandemic, about
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all these emotional support animals that people were
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bringing onto airplanes. Not just dogs, but like cats or
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birds or whatever. I don't remember all of them.
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And I think I just read there's some airline in the US that's
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clamping down on having emotional support animals in the
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cabin now. I think they might have like
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just banned all of them. And it has to be like a proper
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certified service dog for that animal to be or a service animal
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for that animal to actually be in the cabin with a passenger.
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But yeah, it was like, I was like, yeah, I I took a couple
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photos. I was like, I don't know, it
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seems a little weird. I I guess she needs the dog to
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be there. But like honestly, the dog
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wasn't doing anything. The dogs were not helping her.
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But her lap pull downs, Let's put it that way for sure.
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All right? I know I talked about a lot.
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I talked a lot about the gym last time.
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So I'm not gonna like, go into the gym or anything.
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I'm gonna, I'm spreading out my gym stories and my opinions and
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thoughts on the gym. So I'll save more of that for
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next time. There is someone from my gym
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that just messaged me on Grinder, actually.
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And it's like a little bit awkward sometimes when someone
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you see all the time, maybe you don't talk to me, you don't know
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one. But like if you go to the gym or
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like a coffee shop or wherever often enough and you keep on
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seeing the same people, right, you, you get like, no Of them.
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It's like, Oh yeah, that person goes to my gym or that person
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goes to my coffee shop or whatever.
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So this person just messaged me on Grinder, and for me, Grinder.
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Let's just break this down for me, Grinder.
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I am not mainly using it to hook up, to be really, really honest.
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I'm like window shopping on Grinder, not messaging anyone
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like literally just for fun. I just like to see where are all
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the thirsty gays that are within like 5000 feet or a mile of me
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or whatever. So I have it.
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I don't message people a lot because I'm not usually like,
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looking to hook up. I just have it.
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I'm probably on Grinder every single day, but I'm not
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messaging people 99% of the time.
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So people might message me and usually I don't respond.
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If it's like a random person, I don't know who that person is
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because I know a lot of people do use Grinder to hook up.
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They're messaging someone because you know they want to
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hook up with them. So usually I don't respond, and
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once in a while you get someone that gets mad at you on Grinder
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for not responding. It's like the 1% of the time,
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but I've been gay long enough and I've used Grinder and tech
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and stuff. These apps were long enough to
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know that. Here's a tip.
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If if someone doesn't reply to you on Grinder, like don't keep
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messaging them like you messaged them once.
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If they don't reply, just move on.
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It's what I do like. There's there's no sense in
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saying hi to the same person, like maybe like a second time.
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I've had times where, especially when I'm traveling, I'm out of
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town and I'll see who's on wherever I'm traveling and I
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message someone and then maybe they don't reply, so I don't try
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to message them again right away.
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But maybe a year later or I've gone a different phone or
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whatever, and I traveled back to that place and I had no
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recollection of messaging this person before.
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Maybe like their photo is changed.
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It's been so long ago, I was just in town for like a few
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days, whatever. Then that's where maybe I might
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message someone multiple times, but I'm not going to, like
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message the same person multiple times, like within the week or
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whatever. Someone that I know I've
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messaged before, I'm not going to like probably message them
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again. So that's when they sometimes I
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don't get if someone doesn't message you back on Grinder,
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just like block them if you want.
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I feel like a block is not a slap in the face on Grinder
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because it just kind of cleans up your grid a little bit
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because you message someone they're not messaging back.
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Sometimes you get the receipts and sometimes someone just leave
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you on red. Whatever.
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Like don't take a grinder. It's not serious.
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It's just it's literally just a grinder.
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It's, you know it's not the end of the world.
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Some that doesn't message you back, but blocking is not like a
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slap in the face, so go away to clean up your grid.
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If you know someone is not going to reply back to you, leave you
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in red. Just block them.
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Get them off your grid. You get to serve a you know you
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free up your grid for other guys that you might have a chance
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with or you might be able to connect with it.
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So someone who you message and don't reply back, right.
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This person for my gym. OK so because this is someone at
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my gym that I see all the time, I like replied back.
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He's got like he like like 80% of guys on grinder.
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He's got like the headless torso pig which is completely fine,
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Like I I I'm not we'll get into pictures later, but like that's
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not a problem for me. But like he like he sent the
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photo and he said hi. So I clicked on the message and
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like I said that and I saw his face.
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It's like, OK in my head I'm thinking, OK you go to my gym, I
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recognize your face for sure. So I because he goes to my gym,
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that's why I said hi. And like, you know, it was fine.
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He just said like, oh what you doing?
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Blah blah blah. And then he asked, oh, are you
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like are you looking? And I said sorry, I'm not.
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And if if I message someone and they reply back but they're not
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looking for whatever reason, I don't expect everyone to be
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looking all the time because I'm not looking all the time.
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So if I message someone even if I am looking and I asked are you
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looking? And they said they're not, I'd
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be like whatever, cool. Like I don't like I'll move on
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like it's what else you know this person though, like he
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asked me are you looking? And I said, well he asked me
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what I was doing and I said like, oh, I'm just working on
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some stuff at home. And then he asked are you like
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looking by any chance? And I said sorry, I'm not And
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then I thought that was like it, right?
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But he he replied and I'm going to read to you his reply.
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So he replied. I said sorry now he said LOL.
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Of course you're not. Not sure why I even message
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trying to be nice I guess, but what's the point of seeing all
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that stuff? But if someone telling someone's
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telling you they're not looking, just be like just just take it
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and leave, it's not a problem. Like it's not anything against
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you. Like, I'm literally not looking.
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If I was saying no for other reasons, like because of your
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looks, then honestly, I just wouldn't have replied at all.
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Like if someone sends me a message and it sends me photos
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from themselves and like, I'm not, I don't find that person
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attractive, I'm not sexually attractive to them.
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I just won't reply. Like, that's just me.
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And like I feel like that's what I get from other people when I
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message them if they're not feeling for whatever reason
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looks so subjective. Like you know I'm don't expect
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everyone to find me hot and I don't expect everyone to be
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sexually attractive to me just cuz I messaged them like it's a
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it's a two way street so find it weird that this person has this
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response LOL. Of course you're not not sure
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why even message trying to be nice I guess.
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So for me that's like well I said hi to you.
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I don't. Maybe I'll miss him back later,
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but after the podcast, like, I missed them because I wouldn't
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want to be awkward. But there's one other person
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from my gym that also just like someone.
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I see a gym all the time. Like I've never talked to that
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person. I don't know each other.
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Again, when I go to a gym, I don't socialize.
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I see people all the time that are regulars, but I don't go
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with them and I never talk to them.
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One other person that's messaged me on Grinder before and like, I
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I I'm not like attracted to him in that way.
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So he's got like a faceless profile.
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So he sent the photo, I clicked on the message to to see who it
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is and I just like never replied because again, like if I am, I'm
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not feeling it. Like, I just usually just do
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that. I don't think it's awkward
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between me and him at the gym because again, I don't talk to
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him in the gym earbuds and I'm just working out.
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Like, I I literally don't talk to anyone.
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But like, maybe it's in my head. I swear, sometimes he gives me
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slightly weird looks. I don't know if he's just like
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awkward or like, he's looking at me because, like, he messaged me
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and like, I left him on red technically and like, I just
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pretend like nothing's happened. Honestly, I I I wouldn't mind
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completely serious. Like, I wouldn't mind actually
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like being friends with some of the people, like, at the gym,
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even if it's just like the only time we socialize is at the gym.
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I'm not like against that. So that's kind of sort of why I
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like OK, just a regular I see at the gym he's mentioned me on
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Grinder. I'm not just, I'm like assuming
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he's just looking at me like a piece of meat.
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He just wants to hook up. So you know, it was like very
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like nice polite conversation up until he replies with all of
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that. So I guess I learned my lesson.
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Just not don't don't talk to anyone at the gym on Grinder
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because you get and I'm like this guy.
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Honestly. Like when you say stuff like
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that even if that person might be interested in you when you
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say stuff like oh not sure why even bother like of course
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you're not interested blah blah blah.
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It's like that leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
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Like if if you're going to message someone on Grinder like
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they're say and they you're asking them are you looking and
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they politely say sorry, I'm not just it's just take it and move
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on like they're not. It's not.
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It's nothing personal. Like nothing on Grinders person
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unless someone's literally like making fun of you or attacking
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you or whatever or saying something rude, like kind of
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just Grinder guys chillax. So yeah, so I am on Grinder.
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I'm not looking most of the time.
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Yeah, I think I've mentioned this before in the podcast, but
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like when I'm at home, like I I I'd much rather be doing
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anything else but like just hooking up with random guys.
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Like I'm I'm working on this podcast.
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I've got the side hustles going, even I'm jobless.
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I don't have a day job right now.
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And I have enough activities and hobbies and other things to do
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to, like, fill my day to the point where like, I don't feel
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like I need to, you know, like hook up all the time.
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Like, there are people that hook up all the time.
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Like, that's great, You know? Just me personally, I'm not
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usually looking to hook up some guys.
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I guess just can't see that. Not every gay guy in West
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Hollywood looking to hook up all the time, like all day, every
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day. Yeah, But anyways, I'm just
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reminds of a story of what This is a long time ago.
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This is story time with Joey. This is a story that I don't
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think many people know about and it's kind of hilarious.
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So I was in Singapore on a work trip.
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This is many years ago. I was on the work trip in
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Singapore and I was bored and I was horny and I was looking.
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So I was on Grinder, like one of the apps, whatever it is, and
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there was this guy on this profile we started messaging and
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the best thing I could describe is he looks a little itsy, bit
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like Prince. The profile photo is someone
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that semi kind of sort of resembles Prince Harry, so blah
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blah blah. We decided to like, meet up.
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He said, oh, there's like this, like hostile that he knows
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someone that works there. He can like get a room.
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I know this are really sketchy and risky for people who are not
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used to hooking up, but just bear with me for the story.
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I took a Uber, set the train, for whatever reason, I guess it
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was a night, took an Uber to the address.
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And as the car, like, pulled up to the address, there was like
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someone, like standing on the curb, kind of sort of like
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waiting for someone to arrive. And I was in the backseat of the
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car on the curbside, and the car had like, was slowing down,
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pulled past this person standing on the curb and then stopped
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maybe like 10 or 15 feet past that person.
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And I was like, oh, that's curious.
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Someone, that's someone just like standing there like that,
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like looking at the car. So I got out of the car and
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like, he comes up to me and it's like, are you Joey?
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And then this person, it does not look like the photos.
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This is the key part. The person did not look like the
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photo. So this is like a catfish type
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of a situation I guess, or whatever the technical term is.
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So like I was a little bit like, but trying to be like really
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polite and kind of trying to whatever.
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It was awkward for me and I was like, I don't know what to do.
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I was getting nervous. And then he's like, yeah, blah,
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blah, blah. He's like, so, like, this is
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like the hostile place right here.
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It's like, do you wanna like, do you wanna do it?
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I'm like, yeah, I'm like, OK, But I was like, it was awkward
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to, like, just reject someone right in front of their face,
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like, you know, And I was still like a little bit in shock.
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And I was like, didn't know exactly what I was gonna do.
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I said I know I wasn't gonna sleep with them and he's like,
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OK, let's go in. He's like, OK, oh, let me go in
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and like, I'll find my friend and then like, I'll go get a get
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a room and then I I'll come back outside, which like, which was
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like lucky that he was going to like leave me alone for like a
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little bit and he was going to go inside.
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So he goes in and then after he was inside, I think like 5 or 10
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seconds later I just like bolted and ran and like like just away.
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Just I don't know where I was going any random direction.
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It was like away and it was like I was like Libby standing there,
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the adrenaline was running and I was just like this fight or
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flight type state. And then it was it was probably
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like 5 or 10 seconds after he went into the building that I
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Lou just like ran. So like I ran for probably like
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like sprinted running fast. I don't know for maybe like 3040
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seconds, like to get like a couple blocks away and then I
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remember like okay, I need directions.
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This is like, I just Google mapped like where's the nearest
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like subway station? I took the subway back.
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I remember so because I didn't like wait around for like a car
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to come in case he like found me in the area.
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So I was like, okay, you need to keep moving.
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Head to the nearest subway station.
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Just get on the subway so it could start taking you, like,
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away from this place in, in a way that you're, like, off the
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streets. As I was nearing the subway
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station, I just, like, mentioned him.
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It's like something like, oh, like, sorry, like, I don't think
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this is gonna work, whatever. And then he's like, oh, OK, so
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that was, like, the one time where I went for a Grinder
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hookup and the photo does not match the person.
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I've never, yeah, I've never had any other hookups that was like
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that messed up ever. But again, I don't hook up that
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much on Grinder and things like that.
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So it's. I used to do it more when I was
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younger. But yeah, that one time in
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Singapore, yeah, it was it. It it was kind of crazy.
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It was kind of crazy. I got back to my hotel and that
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thing. I was like, you know what?
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I've had a long night. I'm going to order some room
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service. That's what I do.
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If I'm like a hotel that has room service and I've had like a
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long day for whatever reason, like, for me, room service is
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like a treat. Room service is very expensive
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and there's like a service fee and you have to tip in
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everything. But for me, like, room service
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was like, very, very warranted that night.
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Yeah, that was kind of crazy. All right.
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Next I want to talk about the gay cruises because I know a lot
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of you are watching from my YouTube channel and my YouTube
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channel is. Filled with lots of videos about
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gay cruises, especially the Atlantis gay cruises that sail
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around pretty much all year long.
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So I am booked on the Atlantis Mediterranean cruise.
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It departs from Rome and Italy as a 10 night cruise, which is
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pretty long. You see, cruises are seven
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nights on average. You can get shorter cruises that
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are like three or four nights. Not that gay ones usually like
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the straight ones a week. It's like pretty average.
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But anything longer, that's like 10 days or even like a two week,
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110 day one. I think it's probably like as
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much as most people will want to be on a cruise ship for even
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seven days is fine, for these gay cruises, that's more like a
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party cruise. Seven days sometimes feels like
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a little bit too short because everyone's like having a really
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good time. I think 10 days for like a gay
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party, cruises like the Max that you can really do before feeling
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like you're stuck on the ship forever and you get kind of sort
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of like, what's that word stir crazy and you just want to get
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off the ship, right? But a Mediterranean cruise is
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really nice and it's pretty unique because obviously for one
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that's in Europe and it goes to like a bunch of different ports.
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I don't remember most of the ports because I'm not a
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sightseeing person. The one other time I went on
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this Mediterranean cruise, it went to like a bunch of like big
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name cities in Europe. I also don't remember what they
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are but my memory shit. But I was like OK, I've not been
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to these places before and I had some friends that were going to
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go sightseeing like the regular touristy places for all these
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different ports. So I kind of tag along with
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them, but I it was like, yeah, I can say like, oh, I went to like
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this place. I went to that place or
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whatever. But honestly, those places just
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seems like when you go there, you just surrounded by tourists.
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That's it. And like there was this like
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famous, I really can't remember what city this was.
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This was maybe it was like Rome or whatever, but there was like
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this famous place in the city that's like this big, huge water
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fountain. And like we went there and
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literally like every single person there was just trying to
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take selfies and photos and they're all tourists.
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I was like, I mean the natural beauty or whatever of the place
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is kind of semi destroyed by just having like 500 tourists.
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They're just taking photos of their selfie sticks and
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everything. I just read this article on Vox
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that kind of, sort of talks about this, where with the
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Internet and everything, people will blog or share like, oh,
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these are like the top ten tourist places in like this city
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and that city. And here's like the list of
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things you must do to have like a perfect day.
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You know, if you visit this location, so people look up
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these things that we search, you know, the places they're going
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to go on vacation and they all end up doing all the same
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things. So like, I mean, if you go to
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any of these places, try to do all these things, you you're
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just surrounded by tourists. Like tons and tons of them.
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So yeah, I'm not really like a sightseeing person anyway, so I
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can just go on the Internet and someone with much better skills
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that may will have taken much better photos and videos of
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whatever that place is. Like, I don't get any
23:26
satisfaction taking a selfie of me being at like the Eiffel
23:29
Tower or like, whatever. That's not really, like, worth
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it to me. I much rather have instead of
23:38
like saying I visited this famous place, I much rather say,
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oh, I had a great time with friends on a trip.
23:47
It doesn't matter if it was like, you know, like nowhere
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famous or whatever, Like for me, just going to like some famous
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place like that just doesn't do anything for me.
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So this time when I go on this Mediterranean cruise, it's later
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in August. I'm not going to get up at any
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of the ports, just like you should get off at most of the
24:07
ports anyways. Usually we go to the cruises
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that sail off from Florida down to the Caribbean and you go to
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like Mexico or some places like Mazelon, Cozumel, whatever.
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And, you know, they're not like, they're great for the Caribbean,
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you know, but it's not like going to Rome or going to like
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Ibiza, which is one of the stops or like going to like Sicily or
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these, like, you know, famous cities and towns and stuff in
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Europe. But yeah, I'm just not going to
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get off. I'm just going to stay on the
24:38
ship. And one of my friends would
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like, oh, like why are you going on this cruise if you're not
24:42
going to get off the port site? That's just not me.
24:44
If you want to go on a cruise, like go on a cruise.
24:46
I'm not going to judge you for, like, choices you make on a on a
24:49
cruise, people ask me, oh, what are things they can do on the
24:52
cruise? And then people ask about the
24:55
ports and stuff. My advice for at least the gay
24:58
cruises that I'm familiar with, the beauty of a cruise is that
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there's so many things you can do on the ship and off the ship.
25:06
You know, wherever the ship is going to dock on the itinerary,
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you can't really make it like your own trip.
25:13
There are people that will get up early for like breakfast and
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they'll like watch the sunrise and you know, they'll sunbathe
25:21
by the pool and then you know, like they'll go see the shows at
25:24
night and then they know they don't.
25:25
They're not gonna stay out late and they just, you know, they'll
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go to the casino maybe, like, you can do anything.
25:30
There's there's so many activities and amenities on the
25:34
ship that you can have people that are like party people.
25:38
They party till like 5 or 6 or 7:00 AM, they go to bed, they
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sleep for 8 hours. When they wake up, it's 4:00 PM,
25:44
they get up, they party and then they rinse the repeat.
25:47
So that's one way to do a cruise.
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If there are those types of parties available on the
25:51
Atlantis months, there are. And like I said, there are other
25:53
people. Like, they might get up at 6:00
25:55
AM, take a morning yoga class, eat at breakfast, watch the
25:58
sunrise. And like, you know, they'll have
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like, that type of a day. It can also switch it up.
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We can party one day and, like, have a relaxing day the next,
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right? So there's all these different
26:07
things that you can do, but there's so much stuff on a
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cruise ship. Honestly, these ships like
26:12
massive. They're literally like many
26:14
floating cities. There's a spa.
26:16
There's all these different types of restaurants.
26:18
They've got, like basketball courts and stuff.
26:21
They've got a gym. They've got, like, rock
26:23
climbing. They've got activities like
26:26
there's like so much different type of stuff that you can do on
26:29
the ship. But I tell people also don't
26:33
like tire yourself with trying to do everything because I see
26:36
that with new cruisers all the time, they tire themselves so
26:39
much. So that's like my one piece of
26:41
advice that I always give. It's like don't try to do
26:44
everything. You get this newsletter that
26:46
it's slipped under your table or it's electronic nowadays, but
26:49
after COVID and it would tell you basically all the different
26:53
things that's going on on the ship for that day and it's like
26:56
a four page PDF and it's like 8 point font.
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You get to like the third and four pages because there's like
27:04
so much stuff to do and some people see that and they feel
27:09
like oh if I don't try to do as much as possible I'm going to be
27:12
missing up. But that's really not the point
27:14
of the having that much stuff on the cruise.
27:17
The cruise ship has so much stuff going on so that people
27:19
can pick and choose their own adventure and so that they can
27:23
have a vacation that is like customized or is catered to
27:27
them. The point is not for you to do
27:29
like all hundred things that's available on the cruise that
27:32
particular days for people to pick and choose what they would
27:35
like to do so that it's there's something for everyone.
27:38
It's not for everyone to do everything.
27:41
So yeah, but really looking forward to this cruise.
27:43
I'm going again, not because of the ports, but I just like being
27:46
on the gay cruises. I've been on like 14 or 15 of
27:50
them. I think it's great, especially
27:52
for the logistics, especially when you go to like parties.
27:56
When you go to party on land, like there's like a nightclub or
28:00
a circuit party or like or whatever in town, you have to
28:05
take an Uber or like take the train or transit or whatever to
28:08
get there. Once you get to the party, it's
28:10
usually no in and out. Once you're in the party and you
28:13
leave, like you're you're not going back in.
28:16
So a lot of the times, unless you're going to have tickets for
28:18
multiple parties or you're going to go to The Afters or whatever,
28:21
you're pretty much in that place for like two or three or four or
28:24
five hours. Most parties and clubs and
28:26
stuff, well, at least the gay ones.
28:28
They don't have food, They have alcohol.
28:30
The water is like 8 bucks or something on a cruise ship, at
28:33
least the Lantus ones. There are parties every night
28:37
and there's some like tea dances during the afternoons on some
28:40
days, but there's a party every night and there's no extra
28:43
charge for those parties, right? And you can go to the party, you
28:47
can come in and out the party like as many times as you want,
28:51
you know, It's just like a venue you walk into.
28:53
There's no, like security check every time.
28:57
You have to go in and out. There's no, like, checking
28:59
tickets or anything. It's just like it's just open
29:01
and if you want to like and you forgot something in your state
29:05
room, your state room is right there.
29:06
Your state room is like a 5 minute walk away at most.
29:09
One time I was living down in Silicon Valley just like 10 or
29:13
five years ago and I was going to like a fight.
29:16
Or Saturday night I was gonna drive up to San Francisco from
29:21
Silicon Valley, which is like at night when it's like 9 or 10:00
29:25
PM, it's what is it like 30, thirty 35 miles or something
29:30
like that, or 50 miles. But it's basically like a 45
29:33
minute drive. And one time I got all the way
29:38
to San Francisco after driving for like 4045 minutes, got
29:42
parked my car, got to the club. And then when I was like trying
29:46
to get my idea, I realized I left my wallet at home and I
29:49
didn't have my ID. Not even like a photo of it on
29:51
my phone that particular night. I think I drove home, grabbed my
29:55
wallet, and they came back up. But that's like something that
29:59
would never happen on a cruise ship, because first of all, they
30:01
don't need to check your ID for any of the parties.
30:03
Like everything is on file electronically anyways.
30:04
You're on the ship, you're already 18 plus or like 21 plus.
30:07
And if you did forget something, anything, it's just in your
30:12
room. You walk two or three or five
30:14
minutes back to your room and grab whatever you need, and you
30:17
can come back #2 club. Like toilets and restrooms in
30:22
clubs and bars and stuff could get pretty nasty.
30:25
But when you're on a cruise ship, first of all, like, the
30:28
public area restrooms are like, actually really like, neat and
30:31
tidy. Second, can you just go back to
30:34
your room and use your own bathroom and you've got all your
30:36
toiletries and everything in there?
30:38
Like if you need to blow ass, if you got diarrhea in the middle
30:41
of a party or something, you can just go back to your room and
30:44
like effing let a rip. And like you've got it's your
30:48
private space, it's your private room, it's your private toilet,
30:51
and you've got all your supplies to deal with whatever your
30:54
stomach emergency is. That's like another great thing
30:57
about partying on a cruise. And if you're hungry, there's
31:02
always food available summer on the ship.
31:04
Even if it's like 2:00 AM or 3:00 AM, you should have buffet
31:07
closest like four or five. A lot of these foods is one of
31:09
my favorite things to do is I will go to the buffet I'll
31:15
timing before it closes, but like I'll party, party, party,
31:18
and then I'll go to the buffet like 30 minutes before they
31:22
close, but they don't close to like 4:00 AM.
31:25
We're coming crazy like that on these cruises.
31:28
And I'll go and just like have a buffet and I'll just like stuff
31:31
my face. And then I'll go to bed.
31:33
I go back to my room, I'll take a shower and I'll go to bed.
31:37
But you can come and lead and grab as much food and eat and
31:40
just go back like as much as you want.
31:42
That's so that that's not like awesome part of it.
31:45
Like compared to when you party on land, there's no food at
31:48
these gay parties or it's gonna be super expensive.
31:52
Once you're there, you're stuck there.
31:53
You can't go home. You forget something, God forbid
31:55
it's gonna be a long ride, you know, back home.
31:57
And to come back again, there's no line up.
31:59
So like have to get into the parties, just walked in the
32:02
parties. It's not like some of these
32:04
clubs, you know online where they're like line up.
32:06
You know what? It's really annoying when they
32:08
make people lying up outside the club to give the illusion to
32:12
people outside that the club is busy.
32:14
And if things are happening, sometimes it's so annoying and
32:17
think, we we've all been there before, right?
32:19
There's like a short to moderate that's like a moderate lineup.
32:23
There's maybe like 20-30 people outside and like, they could let
32:27
people in more quickly, but they're doing intentionally to
32:31
make it look busy to other people, to make it not look
32:35
dead. Once you get inside, it's like,
32:36
oh, where the hell is everyone? You go inside, like there's tons
32:38
of space here and they're just like holding up line that's so
32:41
annoying. That doesn't happen on one of
32:43
these cruises. So yeah, and it's so easy to
32:46
make friends on a cruise as well because I'm kind of an
32:50
introvert. I don't make friends.
32:51
Like, it's difficult for me to just randomly walk up to people
32:56
and be like, oh hey, I'm Joey, blah, blah, blah.
32:58
I'm not like a people person. I'm not introvert that way.
33:00
We're strangers. Networking events set my anxiety
33:05
through the roof, like mixers and things like that.
33:09
I try to go to them like once or twice before, like when I was
33:12
like really young in my career. And there's like, oh, there's
33:13
like in San Francisco, for example.
33:15
They're like tech mixers for like people in tech.
33:17
And you go and blow by, you suppose just like Mango and talk
33:19
to strangers. No, no, that that's not for me.
33:22
I can't just randomly go into a room full of strangers.
33:27
I just expected to, like, walk up to random people and just
33:30
start talking to them and just make friends like that.
33:31
That is not how I operate. That kind of environment and
33:34
that kind of environment I would just be like, I just end up not
33:38
talking to anyone. But unlike these gay cruises,
33:42
the dynamic is a little different because everyone's
33:45
really friendly. You know why though?
33:46
Because everybody's on vacation, right?
33:49
In regular everyday life, people are not on vacation even, you
33:52
know, if at one of these like mixtures or whatever, right?
33:58
People are like in like a work mode or like they're running
34:01
chores or errands or like they're always going somewhere
34:03
people or always doing something always like in a hurry to get
34:06
somewhere, right? But when you go on one of these
34:07
cruise ships, everyone is on that ship to be on vacations.
34:11
Everyone becomes a lot more low key and laid back and therefore
34:16
like more approachable. And now you've got like these
34:18
parties and then you've got they have like social events and
34:22
things like that as well. So in that type of a situation,
34:25
on these gay cruises, it's like one of the very few places I
34:28
found where I can actually just like go talk to random
34:32
strangers, people that I absolutely don't know, and just
34:35
say hi and just have like really pleasant, unforced, you know,
34:40
small talk where like I don't feel anxious.
34:42
You know, it doesn't mean that we're going to be like best
34:44
friends, but like, it's actually pretty easy.
34:46
Just like say hi to someone, make some small talk, you know,
34:49
because the the environment is very conducive to that.
34:52
Everyone is in vacation mode. So everyone is like chilled out
34:56
basically. Not like when you go to like one
34:59
of these mixer things, industry mixers or whatever, you know, in
35:02
real life it just feels like everyone is very, I don't know,
35:06
it's a very, very different environment.
35:07
Yeah. So that's one of the reasons I
35:08
really like going on these cruises.
35:10
So I already booked for this met cruise.
35:12
If someone you go into that met cruise, yeah, I'll see you on
35:15
board. By the way, just in case if you
35:18
guys have any like cruise, gay, cruise related questions, I do
35:22
get like spattering of them every so often via various
35:28
channels. Comment down below because yeah,
35:30
I'll be more than happy to maybe talk about the gate cruises in
35:34
more depth. Give you guys some advice on
35:36
this podcast as well, but until next time, make sure you
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to dawn myself so much. So yeah, if you wanna see what
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36:02
But till next time, bye.