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Why Most Homeschool Moms Feel Like They're Failing · Homeschool Revolution

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SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Homeschool Revolution.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm Rebecca Stromsdorfer, homeschool mom of five for over 20 years, and I've been coaching moms just like you for decades.
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SPEAKER_00: I've done this messy, done it wrong, and figured it out as I went.
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SPEAKER_00: This podcast is for the working mom, single mom, stay-at-home mom, and yes, dads too.
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SPEAKER_00: Any parent who is done with the old way and ready to raise creative, confident kids who actually changed the world.
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SPEAKER_00: This isn't just homeschooling.
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SPEAKER_00: This is a revolution.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's get into it.
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SPEAKER_00: So I just did, I tried to add something new and something that will help you in your homeschool lives.
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SPEAKER_00: And this is something that I used.
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SPEAKER_00: Now the funny thing is, is I actually used a daily schedule, and then I just reversed it in my head and would use it that way.
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SPEAKER_00: And I've been talking about it for a long time and I've been giving it to you, but I finally went in and changed it to show daily wins.
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SPEAKER_00: So just to do a quick show for if you don't have it yet, if you haven't seen the post today yet, inside the group, it's right here.
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SPEAKER_00: And let me show you what it looks like.
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SPEAKER_00: Can you see it?
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SPEAKER_00: So I changed it to daily wins, what they learned today, moments I'm proud of, what got done, unexpected wins, where the day took us, gratitude, and today's miracles.
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SPEAKER_00: So I have found, and please tell me, I'm sure some of you do this differently, but I have found when I would plan the day out ahead of time as a homeschool parent, I would be so frustrated with my children, with me, with our schedule, because nothing ever got done the way we planned, hoped, wished, whatever.
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SPEAKER_00: And at the end of the day, I always felt like a failure.
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SPEAKER_00: I keep hearing and reading these things about success comes from pre-planning.
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SPEAKER_00: And if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.
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SPEAKER_00: And all these things, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Well, as a homeschool bomb, that doesn't work.
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SPEAKER_00: Guys, I am here to tell you stop the fight.
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SPEAKER_00: It doesn't work because I'm not dealing with employees.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm not dealing with only my schedule.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm dealing with toddlers with emotions and teenagers with emotions and a parametapausal woman.
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SPEAKER_00: And we are dealing with humanity, and we cannot take humanity and put it on a to-do list.
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SPEAKER_00: We have to live and then report the day.
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SPEAKER_00: And so I created this because I wanted you guys to be able to see when you stop going.
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SPEAKER_00: I mean, sure, write a couple things down if you want to remind you to get it done.
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SPEAKER_00: That's different.
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SPEAKER_00: But since I started counting backwards and going, you know what, here's what we did for the day.
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SPEAKER_00: And I actually did this because I had to report at the time.
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SPEAKER_00: I was taking funding from the state and I had to report on my day.
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SPEAKER_00: And I would forget to do it.
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SPEAKER_00: So I would go back and be like, we got this done, we got this done, we got this.
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SPEAKER_00: And I thought, look at everything we got done.
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SPEAKER_00: And that's when I went, wait, let me just start at the end of the day and write down what we did.
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SPEAKER_00: And I started enjoying homeschooling more and I started seeing the wins and I started seeing how much we got done.
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SPEAKER_00: And when the husband would come home, I'd be like, guess what we did?
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SPEAKER_00: instead of look, guess what we didn't get done.
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SPEAKER_00: And it just changed everything for us.
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SPEAKER_00: So there you go.
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SPEAKER_00: You can print it out, print a hundred of them, you guys.
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SPEAKER_00: Print them out, fill it out every day, or print it out and put it in a dry erase sheet and re-erase it and redo it every day.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, but it this came about because I had to report.
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SPEAKER_00: So if you are reporting somewhere, you need a portfolio.
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SPEAKER_00: This is a great way to keep that portfolio as well.
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SPEAKER_00: Just write down in the past.
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SPEAKER_00: And um, look at all these cute ladies showed up.
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SPEAKER_00: Hey guys, I was gonna say, and here's the little here's the real secret on that, Hydris.
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SPEAKER_00: Um if you are using this for reporting, be honest in all your dealings.
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SPEAKER_00: However, if you need to do a little bit of sure we did math today for the reporter gods, then write it down.
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SPEAKER_00: Just remember CPS isn't coming for you unless you're actually abusing your children, okay?
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SPEAKER_00: So write down what you gotta write down.
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SPEAKER_00: And I would never put that on a social media post or anywhere that if you quote me on this, I will deny it.
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SPEAKER_00: Write down what you gotta write down if you're reporting, just write what they want to hear, do what you want to do.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, here is my justification on that in a spiritual way.
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SPEAKER_00: My calling from God is to be a good mother to my children, not to be a good employee to the government.
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SPEAKER_00: Just say, and so when I get to the tribunal of God and I am sitting there with him, and he's like, You lied on your reports to the government, I'm pretty sure he'll be like, You're a good mana.
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unknown: Well, I hope, right?
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SPEAKER_00: I don't think anyway.
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SPEAKER_00: There's my little justification spiritually on that because I do want to be honest in everything I do, you guys.
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SPEAKER_00: It's one of those things for me that is very, very, very important.
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SPEAKER_00: But there have been many times in my life where you have to choose the better good.
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SPEAKER_00: And sometimes the better good is doing whatever your child needs that day and telling the government whatever the heck they need to hear so you can be the mom you need to be.
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SPEAKER_00: There you go.
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SPEAKER_00: There's my passion for the day.
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SPEAKER_00: Alana, hello, Ashley's here.
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SPEAKER_00: Janelle, welcome.
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SPEAKER_00: Karen, good to see you.
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SPEAKER_00: Hi, Kelsey.
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SPEAKER_00: Lizzie's here.
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SPEAKER_00: Megan, good to see you.
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SPEAKER_00: Michelle Jackson, hi, Priscilla's here.
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SPEAKER_00: And Trish, guys, stick around to the end.
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SPEAKER_00: We're doing a drawing.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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SPEAKER_00: That's right, Lizzie.
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SPEAKER_00: Our kids are the only ones we can take to heaven.
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SPEAKER_00: Not taking a single government agent.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, Alana.
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SPEAKER_00: All right.
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SPEAKER_00: So, how can I help you guys today?
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SPEAKER_00: What do you need?
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SPEAKER_00: Um, the I'm gonna, sorry, I love calling you out, Michelle.
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SPEAKER_00: You are probably our newest face here right now.
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SPEAKER_00: And Kelsey's one of our newer moms too.
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SPEAKER_00: And so you guys get special treatment.
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SPEAKER_00: It's about what do you need?
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SPEAKER_00: Some of these ladies have been here for years.
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SPEAKER_00: They know this program in and out.
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SPEAKER_00: I could practically hand in this whole company to them and they'd be like, I got this.
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SPEAKER_00: So, those of you who are a little newer, Michelle and Kelsey, this is your chance to ask me whatever you want.
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SPEAKER_00: And I am an open book and I will share what I know.
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SPEAKER_00: And the ladies in here will also help.
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SPEAKER_00: So it's not just about my knowledge, it's about what you need.
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SPEAKER_00: So, this is your chance.
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SPEAKER_00: You can ask me about the program, you can ask me about um the homeschooling, you can ask them about marriage and homeschooling with sometimes we, you know, put your hands over the kids' ears for a minute if we need to talk girl to girl, all these things.
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SPEAKER_00: I was gonna tell you guys.
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SPEAKER_00: So, we have started, we have just entered a new homeschool journey.
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SPEAKER_00: So, ask me your questions.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna tell you a little experience while we're doing this.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, my children and I have just entered into a new phase that I have been hoping and praying for for years and I'm so excited about.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, do you guys do schoolwork in the summer other than Zoom classes?
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SPEAKER_00: If we feel like it.
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SPEAKER_00: I do.
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SPEAKER_00: I make my kids still do it because I'm like, you might if they don't have anything to do that day, heck yeah, why not?
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SPEAKER_00: But if we have plans, we just let it go.
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SPEAKER_00: So to me, it's more about if we have something more fun to do, we're gonna go do that instead.
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SPEAKER_00: If we don't have anything else to do, we might as well do the schoolwork.
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SPEAKER_00: How's that pronouncer?
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SPEAKER_00: That's kind of how I see it.
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SPEAKER_00: I figure I'm not putting off fun in the summer for homework because there's too many memories to be made.
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SPEAKER_00: But if we're not making a memory, then we might as well be getting some work done.
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SPEAKER_00: How I do it too, yeah.
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SPEAKER_00: So you're right on track.
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SPEAKER_00: Don't you worry about that at all.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, so I have entered a new phase of educating my teenagers.
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SPEAKER_00: They have come to me and asked me to teach them how to start a business.
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SPEAKER_00: I have been begging for this, praying for this moment, guys.
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SPEAKER_00: This is like an ooh for me.
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SPEAKER_00: Like I had no idea.
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SPEAKER_00: So here's what happened.
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SPEAKER_00: You you've seen me wear things in my hair.
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SPEAKER_00: Well, for I don't know how many of you know, I'm actually pretty bald.
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SPEAKER_00: So all of this is fake.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, I tape it in, I tape it out, whatever.
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SPEAKER_00: And I have very, very thin hair, and I have a bald spot right here that I'm really embarrassed about.
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SPEAKER_00: And I'm always trying to cover it when I don't have fake hair on.
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SPEAKER_00: And my hair is so fine that nothing stays in it, like not even a bobby pin.
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SPEAKER_00: I cannot get things to stay in my hair.
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SPEAKER_00: So my daughter has these adorable curls, but nothing stays in her hair either because it's so like fine.
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SPEAKER_00: Well, we keep seeing these cute wraps and these cute things.
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SPEAKER_00: We're like, I'm gonna put these in my hair.
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SPEAKER_00: And then one day it hit her.
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SPEAKER_00: She's like, Mom, I'm gonna make it for you.
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SPEAKER_00: And look what she did for me.
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SPEAKER_00: It's got a clip in it, so it clips in my hair, and it doesn't come out ever.
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SPEAKER_00: I can wear this thing all day now.
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SPEAKER_00: So then we went and like bought a bunch of cute ones that we love, and she's been sewing these for me and put these clips in so I can now wear them.
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SPEAKER_00: Well, we've had so much fun with them.
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SPEAKER_00: Then my daughter was like, I want some, so she made my daughter some.
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SPEAKER_00: And then we had some friends that were like, I want some, and so she made them some.
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SPEAKER_00: And then she's like, Mom, could I turn this into a business?
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SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, why not?
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SPEAKER_00: So then my son comes along, the 19-year-old, she's like, I love the idea, but I like sewing them and I want to create them and I want to do the pictures, but I don't really want to do the whole business.
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SPEAKER_00: My 19-year-old comes in and says, Great, I don't want to do the creative side, I just want to run the business.
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SPEAKER_00: So we had this whole business meeting this weekend.
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SPEAKER_00: They've decided they split it up between the three of them, who's gonna do shipping, who's gonna, and they've decided they're going to sell these.
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SPEAKER_00: So we have so many cute ones.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, and so if you have liked these, but they don't stay in your hair and you want them with clips, my children will make them for you.
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SPEAKER_00: And I will put the link out as soon as they're finished with the website.
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SPEAKER_00: So they're coming.
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SPEAKER_00: This is part of our education.
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SPEAKER_00: They're gonna learn how to run a business, how to fill an order, how to be responsible, customer service.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, all of these things they're gonna learn and they're going to do.
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SPEAKER_00: And maybe one day we will get to figure out how to get your kids in on something like this.
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SPEAKER_00: Do you want me to show you?
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SPEAKER_00: Let me show you this.
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SPEAKER_00: Pay no attention to the sweat pants that I'm wearing instead of real pants.
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SPEAKER_00: So, like, look at these cute ones, you guys.
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SPEAKER_00: There's and they have clips in them so that they'll stay in your hair.
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SPEAKER_00: So they've been sewing.
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SPEAKER_00: Look at what they've been sewing, right, Trish?
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SPEAKER_00: So they've there's these crocheted ones.
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SPEAKER_00: These are my favorite though.
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SPEAKER_00: They're silky, so they won't come out of your hair, or they won't pull your hair out.
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SPEAKER_00: So we've got they've got the cottage collection.
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SPEAKER_00: They've been so busy.
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SPEAKER_00: That's what that's our real Chanel.
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SPEAKER_00: Look, we've got the cottage collection.
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SPEAKER_00: Look at all the different colors that they're putting together for you guys.
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SPEAKER_00: So we've got the cottage collection, we've got the bandana collection, they call it the biker chick, I think, or biker collection, which is just like the bandana, and then we've got this one.
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SPEAKER_00: So I know my daughter's like, we need a bad girl collection because she's got a bit of a rebel in her, and so we have that in there too.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, so my kids are learning entrepreneurship, and this is how they're doing it.
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SPEAKER_00: So I'll send the link if any of you want some.
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SPEAKER_00: But you'll start to see me pop up a little bit with these because I need to be their influencer.
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SPEAKER_00: So we're gonna work on that.
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SPEAKER_00: But anyway, I'm just really I think I'm more excited that they're finally interested in learning something like this.
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SPEAKER_00: I bought two from the start now.
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unknown: I need all those.
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SPEAKER_00: Priscilla, what did tell me?
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SPEAKER_00: You are they staying in?
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SPEAKER_00: Did you find some with clips?
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SPEAKER_00: Because I've been like researching, I actually looked online everywhere for clips, and I found some people who did like an elastic, but I can't stand elastics on my head.
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SPEAKER_00: Does anybody else have a problem with elastics on your head?
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SPEAKER_00: It's like, and everywhere I look to keep them in were elastics on the head.
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SPEAKER_00: And I'm I will tell you honestly, my daughter and I have spent hours looking for things for our hair that would actually stay, and so much money trying to figure out what will work and nothing.
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SPEAKER_00: Strings on the ends, yeah.
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SPEAKER_00: This ties, I do tie this in the back.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, but I don't even have to tie it tight because this is so good and it stays on.
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SPEAKER_00: Look at this, like it won't come off.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_00: Life is good.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I do it with all my hair up in it, but anyway, it's been fun, and now we're just having so much fun with it.
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SPEAKER_00: That I will send you the link when you are interested.
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SPEAKER_00: But one kid's gonna do the shipping, one kid's working on the pictures, the other kid's working on the fulfillment.
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SPEAKER_00: It's just I'm having so much fun.
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SPEAKER_00: I think we're having more fun just with the business idea, and that my kids are interested in doing this, and so we're spending some focus on that.
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SPEAKER_00: So just FYI, I'm practicing the process on this on my own children, so that if we decide we want our kids to learn this process of like selling a product online or something, I can write down the steps and teach it to your kids if we decide to do that for one of our courses.
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SPEAKER_00: So I will share with you as we go along because as my children are learning this and I learn off my own kids first, then I will be able to move it to your children.
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SPEAKER_00: And if your children want to be able to learn this, then we can figure something out so that they can do something similar.
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SPEAKER_00: So tell your kids to start thinking about ideas.
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SPEAKER_00: One of the things that we did, can't stay my older one has speech therapy.
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SPEAKER_00: I just want to pop by.
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SPEAKER_00: See you, Megan.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm glad you stopped in.
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SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
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SPEAKER_00: Um one of the other things we're gonna be working on this fall.
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SPEAKER_00: So I got to practice the class I'm gonna be teaching in the fall, and I had so much fun.
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SPEAKER_00: So I got to take over Kat's class.
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SPEAKER_00: She was out of town, and sorry, just making sure nobody else has popped in.
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SPEAKER_00: I want to make sure everybody says hi.
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SPEAKER_00: And by the way, ask any questions you have as I talk along.
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SPEAKER_00: I just, oh my chatterbox, I'll go all day unless you guys stop me and ask me a question, and then I'm happy to answer that.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, so I had Kat's class, which is about like entrepreneurship business building, adulting, really.
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SPEAKER_00: It's an adulting class, and she's teaching them business.
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SPEAKER_00: Well, when I got there, they weren't prepared and I wasn't prepared.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, because Kat's class is really, really good, and it just had so much in it.
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SPEAKER_00: I was like, okay, well, and I talked to the kids and they weren't ready.
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SPEAKER_00: She gave them several weeks, and I wasn't sure where to take them next.
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SPEAKER_00: So I went off script and we went over each child and their interests in business, and we talked about their AI.
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SPEAKER_00: And so it was like one kid was like, I just love music.
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SPEAKER_00: I just want to get in.
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SPEAKER_00: So we found him an AI and music that he could use and start playing with and working on.
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SPEAKER_00: And then another kid was like, I just want to learn how to create videos.
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SPEAKER_00: And so I showed him Type C and how Type C has a whole course on how to create and edit videos.
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SPEAKER_00: Go get that.
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SPEAKER_00: And he was like, oh, and then he was like, I'm getting to work.
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SPEAKER_00: And then another kid was like, I want to learn how to, and we went kid by kid, and they told me their interests and what they want to do and what kind of a business they wanted to start.
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SPEAKER_00: And luckily, I knew which AI they needed, and we talked about the AI they needed, how to use it, get mom's permission first, please.
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SPEAKER_00: You know, some of these are free, some of them are not.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, and we just discussed first how to take that first step into the AI world and then start using it to enhance their interests and their skills.
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SPEAKER_00: So we did that, and I was like, this class is gonna be fun.
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SPEAKER_00: So that class is coming in the fall.
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SPEAKER_00: So make sure you're around because that will be part of our high school classes and how to help our children use AI for the future.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, they need to know AI, you guys.
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SPEAKER_00: It is exploding.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't know if any of you are on top of this.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm watching it like a hawk because I'm a businesswoman and I love watching it and how it can help my life.
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SPEAKER_00: And so we are really oh, I talked to your son there too.
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SPEAKER_00: He was there.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, he was working which AI?
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SPEAKER_00: I can't remember what AI he was working on, but we're gonna literally learn it together and work it together.
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SPEAKER_00: And I've been taking some courses on it, and you know what I'm learning?
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SPEAKER_00: Even the people who are trying to teach AI literally are just saying, none of us know where this is going.
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SPEAKER_00: The whole point is to learn as you go, dive in, play with it, figure it out.
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SPEAKER_00: This is what, like, I have been taking these AI classes, and everyone is like, what we know today could change tomorrow, so do your best.
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SPEAKER_00: It's like, I kind of done that by myself.
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SPEAKER_00: So the skills that will really be great in this class isn't just about understanding and learning AI, it's about helping them see that what you learned today might be gone.
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SPEAKER_00: So, how do you stay on top of what might be coming tomorrow?
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SPEAKER_00: How do you do this?
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SPEAKER_00: The information is going to speed up so fast.
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SPEAKER_00: How do you use the information without needing to know all the information?
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SPEAKER_00: And that's where the new skill is.
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SPEAKER_00: How do I use the tools that are out there to fill the holes of the information I don't have?
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SPEAKER_00: That's where the world is going, and that's what I want to prepare your kids for, and that's something nobody else is doing, especially in the homeschool world.
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SPEAKER_00: Especially in the homeschool world.
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SPEAKER_00: So sadly, the homeschool world tends to be a little bit behind.
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SPEAKER_00: Too many parents are afraid of the technologies, which I find sad because that's where this world is headed.
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SPEAKER_00: So off my soapbox.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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SPEAKER_00: Question.
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SPEAKER_00: So your seventh grader doesn't know much too much about it yet, Michelle.
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SPEAKER_00: Well, and by all means, keep them as naive as you want to for as long as you want to.
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SPEAKER_00: I think there is you can expose a child too soon to too much.
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SPEAKER_00: I do believe that with my whole heart.
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SPEAKER_00: Like, I haven't had introduced any, and I am gonna say that honestly, like, yes, I believe the kids need to know this, but that doesn't mean they need to do it at 10, 11, and 12.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, that's up to each parent.
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SPEAKER_00: You know where your child is.
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SPEAKER_00: I have kept my kids off of technology as long as I could.
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SPEAKER_00: And then I needed technology to help with math, to help with certain programs.
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SPEAKER_00: That's when my homeschool village programs have come in.
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SPEAKER_00: Then my children have been more exposed to online games because their cousins or older cousins do it, and so they'll do online games as a family.
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SPEAKER_00: And so as their technology brains are expanding with their age in the world, I am now making sure that they understand the power in their hands.
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SPEAKER_00: But I'm not being the one that, like, hey, let's get started on AI.
18:01
SPEAKER_00: Seventh grader on AI, I say let them be a kid longer if you can.
18:04
SPEAKER_00: Because um, this I would say is probably more for 14 and up.
18:09
SPEAKER_00: If you have a techie 12-year-old, by all means.
18:12
SPEAKER_00: There are a couple of kids in here that are serious techies, and that's fine.
18:16
SPEAKER_00: Um, and not everybody needs AI, they don't.
18:20
SPEAKER_00: Not everybody needs it.
18:23
SPEAKER_00: I have a daughter who has two babies at home and she's like, who cares?
18:26
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
18:26
SPEAKER_00: And as long as you cannot carry, do it.
18:28
SPEAKER_00: Like, nice.
18:29
SPEAKER_00: Although she does get an AI sometimes with this and like create music and do artsy stuff.
18:33
SPEAKER_00: So as an artist, she's enjoying it a little bit.
18:36
SPEAKER_00: But yeah, don't rush it.
18:39
SPEAKER_00: So, as much as I believe they need it, I also believe that you need to keep their childhood as long as possible.
18:44
SPEAKER_00: So don't confuse my two messages, it's an age issue.
18:47
SPEAKER_00: So 14 and up, I think AI is a great place to be.
18:50
SPEAKER_00: 16 and up, they should be diving in.
18:52
SPEAKER_00: That's where the money's gonna be, that's where the education's gonna be, that's where it's at.
18:56
SPEAKER_00: But if they are younger than that, keep the childhood.
19:01
SPEAKER_00: Like, I will fight for kids' childhood to my last breath.
19:06
SPEAKER_00: So let them be kids as long as possible.
19:09
SPEAKER_00: Now, oh trying to show me.
19:14
SPEAKER_00: Are we good?
19:15
SPEAKER_00: Everybody else can hear me?
19:17
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
19:18
SPEAKER_00: What else?
19:20
SPEAKER_00: Oh, we're good.
19:21
SPEAKER_00: Okay, thank you, Priscilla.
19:23
SPEAKER_00: Okay, everybody's good.
19:26
SPEAKER_00: What else?
19:26
SPEAKER_00: What else do you guys need to know?
19:28
SPEAKER_00: We've got how are summer classes going?
19:30
SPEAKER_00: We've had our first week now of summer classes.
19:32
SPEAKER_00: What do you think about the new schedule?
19:34
SPEAKER_00: Are we liking the three-day schedule?
19:36
SPEAKER_00: We would love feedback on that.
19:37
SPEAKER_00: Or maybe it's too soon, still, you need another couple weeks.
19:40
SPEAKER_00: You love it, Priscilla.
19:43
SPEAKER_00: My concern at times is there's so many classes.
19:47
SPEAKER_00: So, this is part of my concern as homeschoolers.
19:50
SPEAKER_00: Um, I don't want to take family time, but I do want to support the mom and help in every way.
19:57
SPEAKER_00: Um, it's a bit of an adjustment, but we like the three days a week.
20:00
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
20:01
SPEAKER_00: Um I think we should go heavier for three days.
20:07
SPEAKER_00: And this is and so that's why we're testing this for summer, so that you have less on the weekends um and just have more classes, maybe even start earlier during those three, more co-op style, where you get those classes for those three days.
20:21
SPEAKER_00: Because homeschoolers, I like a long weekend.
20:23
SPEAKER_00: Let's go do, let's make it a long weekend.
20:26
SPEAKER_00: Let's see if dad can take off early and we go play.
20:28
SPEAKER_00: And so that's my own personal preference, but I would love to see.
20:33
SPEAKER_00: But if anybody has opposite that if we're on the same page, we will start leaning that way.
20:38
SPEAKER_00: If we're not on the same page, then let's find out.
20:41
SPEAKER_00: Okay, but we're continuing to read through this summer.
20:43
SPEAKER_00: Grandma's a bit intimidated by login for Charlie to take the classes, insert I roll here.
20:48
SPEAKER_00: So I'm working on our baby cell.
20:50
SPEAKER_00: Okay, why does grandma do it?
20:51
SPEAKER_00: Isn't she 10?
20:52
SPEAKER_00: 10-year-old should be able to do this herself, right?
20:54
SPEAKER_00: Grandma shouldn't have to log in.
20:55
SPEAKER_00: Your daughter should be able to do it all.
20:57
SPEAKER_00: That's been our schedule for years.
21:00
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
21:01
SPEAKER_00: We've got a bunch of Europeans, you guys.
21:03
SPEAKER_00: I have literally been approached by women in Ireland.
21:10
SPEAKER_00: Yes, Ireland and the UK begging us to have morning classes because it's their early evening, early afternoons.
21:19
SPEAKER_00: And they're like, we want to be in my homeschool village.
21:21
SPEAKER_00: This is an amazing program, but your classes are so late, our kids are asleep.
21:24
SPEAKER_00: Can you please do it sooner?
21:25
SPEAKER_00: And we're like, okay, that means morning classes.
21:27
SPEAKER_00: And we just felt that morning classes was way too much.
21:30
SPEAKER_00: But I know, right?
21:32
SPEAKER_00: It's like, wow, we're getting worldwide here, you guys.
21:35
SPEAKER_00: Okay, morning classes.
21:37
SPEAKER_00: And I think that as families, we need to have the options.
21:39
SPEAKER_00: Now, having a morning doesn't mean the class you want will be in the morning.
21:42
SPEAKER_00: It just means that there will be classes in the morning.
21:45
SPEAKER_00: And we've been trying to do all teen classes afternoon because they need to sleep in.
21:50
SPEAKER_00: But if some of you are like, can we put them a little earlier to force my kid to get out of bed?
21:55
SPEAKER_00: We can do that too.
21:56
SPEAKER_00: So let's play with this summer.
21:58
SPEAKER_00: Um Your PSD, so not too early.
22:02
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
22:02
SPEAKER_00: Uh uh, yeah, that we're also very much aware of that.
22:06
SPEAKER_00: And eventually, as my homeschool village grows, please know eventually we might just have to do two hemisphere classes.
22:13
SPEAKER_00: Like in this hemisphere, you get these classes, this hemisphere, you get these classes.
22:16
SPEAKER_00: And we might we'll probably get there eventually because of how it's going.
22:20
SPEAKER_00: But for now, I completely agree.
22:23
SPEAKER_00: I have to work sometimes painfully slowly.
22:26
SPEAKER_00: I think she's getting through there, though.
22:27
SPEAKER_00: Good.
22:27
SPEAKER_00: I'm crossing my fingers for some time.
22:29
SPEAKER_00: Now, Alana, you can always have one of um no, wait, let me make sure I understand this.
22:34
SPEAKER_00: You're talking about grandma or your daughter.
22:37
SPEAKER_00: So you're working slowly with grandma.
22:39
SPEAKER_00: Okay, with grandma.
22:41
SPEAKER_00: I can't imagine teaching my mother how I work with my kids and ask her to do it.
22:47
SPEAKER_00: I couldn't.
22:49
SPEAKER_00: She I love my mom and I'm grateful for her.
22:52
SPEAKER_00: But she would fly out to see us.
22:55
SPEAKER_00: Um, yeah.
22:57
SPEAKER_00: When I was with my mother, she would fly out for a week or two and I would like go somewhere and do something and homeschool my kids while she was here.
23:04
SPEAKER_00: And she turned my house into a public school for a week.
23:07
SPEAKER_00: Like that's she did it the way she thought it should be done.
23:10
SPEAKER_00: She was after my kids all the time.
23:11
SPEAKER_00: Why are you not?
23:12
SPEAKER_00: She was on top of them.
23:14
SPEAKER_00: By the time I got home, my kids were in tears, and my mom was like, What is the problem with your kids?
23:17
SPEAKER_00: Homeschooling doesn't work here.
23:19
SPEAKER_00: My kids would be angry, my mom would be angry, and I would be like, Mom, it's not homeschooling.
23:28
SPEAKER_00: And um, yeah, we stopped calling her to help with those things anyway.
23:33
SPEAKER_00: Okay, mom's book club.
23:37
SPEAKER_00: Thank you, Lizzie.
23:38
SPEAKER_00: So, yes, the previous generation is having a really hard time wrapping their head around homeschooling and how it works.
23:44
SPEAKER_00: Eventually, we might even have class and group schedules per time zone.
23:51
SPEAKER_00: Um, I will be honest, that idea intimidates me a lot because why wouldn't it?
24:01
SPEAKER_00: That's I like a small group.
24:03
SPEAKER_00: I like a small group.
24:04
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
24:06
SPEAKER_00: Right?
24:07
SPEAKER_00: And what that would do is allow the kids who are all in the same time zone to meet up and maybe even like, yeah, it's exciting to think about.
24:14
SPEAKER_00: And I will tell you, um, the heavens are opening in inspiring ways, and I've been receiving some ideas that I'm like, oh, the Lord has a bigger plan for my homeschool village than Becky did.
24:28
SPEAKER_00: Um, he does.
24:30
SPEAKER_00: He has this has always been his company.
24:33
SPEAKER_00: I am simply a worker bee, and the Lord has some big plans for my homeschool village.
24:39
SPEAKER_00: He's just been waiting for us to figure some things out, and I don't want anybody to suffer if it gets bigger.
24:44
SPEAKER_00: We're gonna figure this out a step at a time.
24:46
SPEAKER_00: It is great when he blows my mind.
24:48
SPEAKER_00: It's my favorite part.
24:51
SPEAKER_00: Maybe creating something for them that unfortunately excludes lives.
24:55
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, maybe.
24:56
SPEAKER_00: If you have ideas on that, Priscilla, I'd love to hear more.
24:59
SPEAKER_00: Like what?
25:00
SPEAKER_00: Do tell.
25:01
SPEAKER_00: Um, I want to share this with you guys.
25:04
SPEAKER_00: This is very personal and very private, but you guys are my friends, and I love sharing with you.
25:08
SPEAKER_00: And because it will eventually affect you, but I had um, we're not doing Spanish class because we found it was too hard to keep up with the levels.
25:18
SPEAKER_00: Like there would be a class one, class two, class three, class four, so that they could continue to progress.
25:22
SPEAKER_00: So real progression wasn't happening.
25:24
SPEAKER_00: So we took off the language, and you can do it inside of Schmoop.
25:29
SPEAKER_00: And I actually now recommend for language.
25:31
SPEAKER_00: There's a company I'm trying to work with that, but there is a lot of companies out there that actually have good classes, but we have found that that the language, because of the levels, it's like teaching a math class.
25:43
SPEAKER_00: It's like you just have too many levels and kids that worked and kids that didn't, and you need it needs a different curriculum than we were able to do.
25:50
SPEAKER_00: So we actually took it off.
25:53
SPEAKER_00: Okay, so here's the message the Lord's trying to get in my head.
25:57
SPEAKER_00: And I say this out loud because I wonder if he's trying to tell any of you the same thing.
26:01
SPEAKER_00: Now, I was raised to give.
26:03
SPEAKER_00: I am a Christian woman, I was raised in the gospel to be like the savior and serve others, sometimes to the detriment of myself.
26:10
SPEAKER_00: Wait, we're women, yeah.
26:12
SPEAKER_00: So um, service, right, at all costs.
26:16
SPEAKER_00: Well, that's all well and great until you burn out or whatever.
26:20
SPEAKER_00: I am learning the other half of that gospel.
26:23
SPEAKER_00: And this is the part that I am just not just learning, I've been working on for years, and it finally kind of hit me is the receiving end.
26:31
SPEAKER_00: We can be like Christ, but we have to receive him, we have to receive his promises, we have to be grateful for what we've been given.
26:36
SPEAKER_00: We have to, the receiving side is not like if somebody comes to your house, like, hey, I'm here to help you.
26:41
SPEAKER_00: What do you need?
26:42
SPEAKER_00: You're like, nah, I'm good.
26:43
SPEAKER_00: You didn't receive, which means they couldn't serve, which means the magic didn't happen.
26:48
SPEAKER_00: And so I'm learning to try to be the person that says, I would love your help, thank you, so that they can serve.
26:53
SPEAKER_00: I can receive, we've bonded, and he gets the glory.
26:56
SPEAKER_00: And this is something I've been working on because we got all these servers, but nobody's receiving, and we kind of have to shove it down their throat, but now they're not happy with it, and you feel bad because you serve, right?
27:07
SPEAKER_00: And so the Lord needs more receivers.
27:10
SPEAKER_00: Okay, so I'm working on that in my head.
27:12
SPEAKER_00: Learn to receive service.
27:14
SPEAKER_00: And you guys are teaching me this because you guys keep reaching out and offering to help with my homeschool village and give.
27:19
SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, I need, and I feel the Lord going, Yes, I sent them.
27:23
SPEAKER_00: Receive it.
27:24
SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, oh, oh, I get help.
27:26
SPEAKER_00: Okay, okay.
27:28
SPEAKER_00: So as I've learned to receive, you know what he told me.
27:30
SPEAKER_00: I don't know if you've noticed, my homeschool village has not blown up in the way that I would hope it would.
27:34
SPEAKER_00: But there's been a lot of back end that lessons learned, business lessons learned, history here that some of you know, some of you don't.
27:43
SPEAKER_00: Um, you know what he said?
27:45
SPEAKER_00: He said, You just need to let me spoil you.
27:48
SPEAKER_00: Stop fighting me.
27:51
SPEAKER_00: Stop thinking you're not worthy, stop rejecting what I have for you.
27:56
SPEAKER_00: I just want to spoil you.
27:59
SPEAKER_00: And it like I just balled.
28:03
SPEAKER_00: The Lord just wants to spoil us.
28:06
SPEAKER_00: He's just looking at all of you women doing so much for your children and for your families, and the sacrifices you give, and the way you look at him, and all that you're doing.
28:17
SPEAKER_00: And he's looking at you and going, You're my baby girl, and I just want to spoil you.
28:24
SPEAKER_00: These parents, when we get to just spoil on a kid for a minute, that is our true joy, right?
28:29
SPEAKER_00: When we can just give and we see their faces light up as we're able to do something for them that just they feel it, that's all he wants for us.
28:38
SPEAKER_00: And he's like, just let me spoil you.
28:42
SPEAKER_00: And number one, I didn't realize I wasn't letting him, but it was this my heart opened up in a way that hasn't in a very long time.
28:51
SPEAKER_00: And as doubt comes in and struggles come in, I'm gonna like tattoo this on my forehead.
29:00
SPEAKER_00: Let him spoil you.
29:02
SPEAKER_00: Oh, if I look to my heavenly father as a king, and I'm a princess little girl, there's all kinds of things I'm gonna ask for.
29:11
SPEAKER_00: There's all kinds of things I want, there's all kinds of things I'm gonna work for.
29:15
SPEAKER_00: I'm willing to work for him.
29:16
SPEAKER_00: Um, and so that was my lesson is we have to let him spoil us.
29:22
SPEAKER_00: It's not that he doesn't want to, it's not that he's not, it's just that I think we get so caught up in the service and the old Christian styles of beat yourself because that's where we truly become great at the masochism that has come through our religions over the centuries, and the Lord's like, I don't want to spoil you.
29:43
SPEAKER_00: Can you just let me do that, please?
29:44
SPEAKER_00: So there you go.
29:46
SPEAKER_00: Um, did I lose somebody else?
29:49
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes when I get spiritual, somebody will leave because they don't appreciate it, and that's okay.
29:54
SPEAKER_00: And sometimes people just have to leave, and that's okay.
29:58
SPEAKER_00: Um, okay.
30:00
SPEAKER_00: Anyway, hope I didn't offend anybody, but at the same time, that's who I am.
30:04
SPEAKER_00: So I'm sorry.
30:05
SPEAKER_00: I'm never here to offend, but I'm also not here to hide.
30:08
SPEAKER_00: So I am who I am.
30:10
SPEAKER_00: Um, good.
30:11
SPEAKER_00: Michelle goes, let the Lord spoil you.
30:13
SPEAKER_00: So, our number one goal is how can I better let God spoil me and my family and my children?
30:21
SPEAKER_00: How can I receive?
30:23
SPEAKER_00: That's what we should work on.
30:24
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
30:25
SPEAKER_00: We'll get to math and reading and writing and science and all those things and whatever else we need to do, but focus on that.
30:31
SPEAKER_00: Michelle, let me know how that goes.
30:33
SPEAKER_00: How about that?
30:34
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I feel totally jumped that I don't get period paints.
30:37
SPEAKER_00: I just get grumpy.
30:39
SPEAKER_00: But my daughters are terrible.
30:41
SPEAKER_00: It's like, what is what happened to the next generation?
30:43
SPEAKER_00: I don't know, but they did something to the next generation that has made period cramps worse than ever, I think.
30:48
SPEAKER_00: Or maybe we're finally just able to say it safely.
30:51
SPEAKER_00: What's the command center?
30:52
SPEAKER_00: Okay, let me show you what the let's see if I can get you.
30:54
SPEAKER_00: You're gonna see the mess on my wall.
30:56
SPEAKER_00: You ready?
30:58
SPEAKER_00: Okay, and all of our drinks.
30:59
SPEAKER_00: We have a whole station over here of computer.
31:02
SPEAKER_00: So the command center is behind you.
31:03
SPEAKER_00: So this right here is a yearly calendar.
31:06
SPEAKER_00: So it's driaries, and you can erase it.
31:09
SPEAKER_00: It's like the whole year written out, so you can plan your year.
31:12
SPEAKER_00: Up here is this is a place where you can write out the quotes, things you want your kids to memorize.
31:18
SPEAKER_00: Um, when we first moved here, we put our address up there so all the kids could see it, things like that.
31:22
SPEAKER_00: This right here is like job chart and job tracking, um, goal tracking, and it has four spaces for four kids.
31:29
SPEAKER_00: And then this right here is a weekly calendar.
31:31
SPEAKER_00: I use it for meal planning.
31:32
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I write it out in like, here's where mom is this week.
31:35
SPEAKER_00: I'm a big, if it's not in their face, they're not gonna see it.
31:38
SPEAKER_00: Like I always have a wall like this when homeschooling because we're ADHD family, out of sight, out of out of mind.
31:44
SPEAKER_00: And if it's on my computer, that's still out of sight.
31:47
SPEAKER_00: So this is how we put what is in mom's head and in mom's phone for the family to see.
31:53
SPEAKER_00: This right here is not part of it.
31:54
SPEAKER_00: This is just a big whiteboard I bought from Home Depot, and this is the book list right now that they're working through.
31:59
SPEAKER_00: And then this is just a big metal board I got from Home Depot, and then we just use it to put up stuff when we need.
32:04
SPEAKER_00: So that's the command center.
32:05
SPEAKER_00: You can get it on the website if you want.
32:07
SPEAKER_00: So if you know anybody who's looking for one, I'll put those out.
32:11
SPEAKER_00: Right?
32:12
SPEAKER_00: Everybody needs a work whiteboard.
32:13
SPEAKER_00: All right.
32:14
SPEAKER_00: Um, so are you talking about so like us as moms to put in that like government rights?
32:22
SPEAKER_00: Like, I would love really on the 13 amendments and our rights and our government and our right, like that?
32:28
SPEAKER_00: You want to teach it?
32:31
SPEAKER_00: I did not know Glenn Beck is creating curriculum.
32:34
SPEAKER_00: We can put it in, right?
32:36
SPEAKER_00: I agree with you, Karen.
32:37
SPEAKER_00: That's why we went to Prager.
32:38
SPEAKER_00: We had another one we were recommending, but it started to go too politically based, and so we left them.
32:44
SPEAKER_00: Um but Glenn Beck.
32:47
SPEAKER_00: Do you know who else is doing a curriculum?
32:49
SPEAKER_00: Is Peterson.
32:50
SPEAKER_00: What's his name?
32:51
SPEAKER_00: Peterson.
32:53
SPEAKER_00: I can't remember anyway.
32:55
SPEAKER_00: Um, and so yeah, as better curriculums are coming out, as better things are coming out, we will be swapping out curriculums here in the village as well as adding.
33:05
SPEAKER_00: So I'm part of this torch program, Glenn Beck's torch program.
33:11
SPEAKER_00: It's called Torch.
33:13
SPEAKER_00: Okay, cool.
33:14
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna look into that.
33:15
SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
33:17
SPEAKER_00: I'll go look that up.
33:18
SPEAKER_00: I love it when you guys share new resources with me so I can do it because I cannot keep up myself.
33:22
SPEAKER_00: Um, and so we'll look those up.
33:24
SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
33:24
SPEAKER_00: Good to know.
33:25
SPEAKER_00: Very cool.
33:27
SPEAKER_00: Appreciate that.
33:28
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
33:29
SPEAKER_00: So um, thank you, Lizzie.
33:32
SPEAKER_00: Always on top of those links.
33:34
SPEAKER_00: Got it.
33:35
SPEAKER_00: Wow, go glance back.
33:38
SPEAKER_00: Very cool.
33:40
SPEAKER_00: I like that.
33:41
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
33:42
SPEAKER_00: Um, I even like his website, I might copy that a little bit.
33:47
unknown: Cool.
33:48
SPEAKER_00: All right, you guys.
33:49
SPEAKER_00: Um, time to go.
33:50
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna head out.
33:51
SPEAKER_00: Thank you for all the help with all of your resources and guidance.
33:55
SPEAKER_00: Is there anything else?
33:56
SPEAKER_00: Okay, I think we're good.
33:58
SPEAKER_00: Thanks, guys.
34:01
SPEAKER_00: That's the wrap for today.
34:02
SPEAKER_00: I hope you're leaving with something real, something you can actually use.
34:06
SPEAKER_00: This is a long game.
34:08
SPEAKER_00: You don't have to get it all right today.
34:10
SPEAKER_00: Just show up tomorrow.
34:11
SPEAKER_00: That's enough.
34:12
SPEAKER_00: If this episode helped you, share it with another mom who needs it.
34:15
SPEAKER_00: And if you're ready for a village to do this with, find us in the show notes.
34:19
SPEAKER_00: And until next time, keep going.
34:21
SPEAKER_00: The revolution starts at home.