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From Stress To Inner Peace · Your Thoughts Your Reality

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Your Reality with Michael Cole.
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  SPEAKER_00: Showing the compassionate light on the journey of veterans battling through life's challenges.
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  SPEAKER_00: Michael is a dual lead certified neuroencoding specialist in coaching and keynote training presentations, dedicated to guiding military veterans as they navigate the intricate pathways of post-deployment life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Join him as we delve into the profound rhythm of neuroencoding science, empowering these brave individuals to conquer universal battles, procrastination, self-doubt, fear, and more.
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  SPEAKER_00: Together, let's uncover the strength within you to re-engage with families and society, forging a new path forward.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hello, hello, hello, everybody.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, we have my dear friend uh Marcus Weiss on today.
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  SPEAKER_01: Again, um, he always brings so much great information and uh and golden nuggets of wisdom, if you will.
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  SPEAKER_01: So super happy to have you back on, my friend.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh Marcus is absolutely uh Marcus is a joy empowerment coach who teaches practical tools for lasting inner peace.
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  SPEAKER_01: And who does not want that in their life, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Um he helps reconnect with joy even after seasons of stress, burnout, and transition.
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  SPEAKER_01: And his foe his work focuses on presence, alignment, and emotional resilience.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh, Marcus believes peace is not found, it's practiced.
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  SPEAKER_01: So um, welcome, my friend.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, if people that don't know you yet, and they should, um, tell us just a little bit more about yourself, if you will.
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  SPEAKER_02: Well, thank you for having me, Michael.
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  SPEAKER_02: I really appreciate that and the honor and true privilege of sharing with your audience and whether you're listening or whether you're watching, my name is Marcus Weiss.
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  SPEAKER_02: Um, I am the Marcus Weiss experience because I believe that life is to be experienced.
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  SPEAKER_02: Ultimately, we're all on a journey to be okay inside, if not great, if not exceptional.
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  SPEAKER_02: And just because I think it's that feeling that allows us to look forward in our lives, whether it's looking forward to the next moment, looking forward to the next day, looking forward and hopefully looking forward to life in general.
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  SPEAKER_02: So, like you, I am a dual elite certified neuroencoding specialist.
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  SPEAKER_02: And by that I mean I help people default to feelings of even greater joy in their life.
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  SPEAKER_02: And in that, I include awe and wonder and you know, curiosity, and like you said, inner peace.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I think today, you know, we're talking about inner peace.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I know it sounds like a kind of a woo-woo buzzword, or like, oh, inner peace, inner schmeace.
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  SPEAKER_02: What does it have to do with anything?
• 2:38
  SPEAKER_02: Well, it goes back, you know what I mean?
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  SPEAKER_02: It's sort of like, oh, it's easier said than done.
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  SPEAKER_02: And yes, that is that is, I was about to say sadly true, but it is just true because life be life in as our dear friend Les Brown says.
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  SPEAKER_02: It's that life is always gonna exist.
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  SPEAKER_02: And whether we perceive it as coming at us, or whether we are you know pushing it away, or whether we're clinging to the good things, either way, that's all in the outside circumstantial.
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  SPEAKER_02: And in the end, we're all looking to be, like I said, a sense of okayness and aliveness.
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  SPEAKER_02: And so, yeah, and so would you like me to share a little bit of my story and where I'm coming from and why I do want to do that, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: Literally, just give me one second, just before we dive into that.
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  SPEAKER_01: I just want to remind everybody on the top right hand corner of your screen, there's a blue QR code that takes you to empower performance strategies.com.
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  SPEAKER_01: Again, empowerperformance strategies.com.
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  SPEAKER_01: I always point the wrong way.
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  SPEAKER_01: Finally got it.
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  SPEAKER_02: I know I went very slowly.
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  SPEAKER_02: Did you notice that?
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  SPEAKER_01: And it is so uh rose.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh please come join the join uh the family, if you will, the mission, even more so.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh, there are free ebooks I've written.
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  SPEAKER_01: There are uh Facebook groups to be part of a community, both for families and veterans, and um of course there's all kinds of other good stuff on there.
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  SPEAKER_01: So uh please check that out again if you're on the podcast forums later on just listening.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's empower performance strategies.com.
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  SPEAKER_01: And with that out of the way, yeah, shall shall we dive in, my friend?
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  SPEAKER_02: Absolutely, absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_02: I got a new toy.
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  SPEAKER_02: I got a new toy.
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  SPEAKER_02: That is amazing.
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  SPEAKER_02: Did you hit that?
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  SPEAKER_02: Did you hit that on purpose with intention?
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  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_02: Okay, that is that is fantastic.
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  SPEAKER_02: That is fantastic, and and and that is phenomenal.
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  SPEAKER_02: And life happens.
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  SPEAKER_02: This is a perfect example that life happens just as it's meant to, for lack of a better word, because we have the ability to choose to make moments magical, to make moments meaningful, to make moments powerful, whatever it is.
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  SPEAKER_02: And so I just chose, right, to embrace that, whether it's on purpose or not.
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  SPEAKER_02: I chose it's on purpose, the universe sent that, whatever, and then it made us both smile in a big way, which triggered kind of a right, a thought, like, oh, that's funny or that's fun, which translates into a feeling, which translates into sort of an energy, and then you feel like doing something that's life affirming.
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  SPEAKER_02: Amen.
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  SPEAKER_02: I know it sounds kind of right.
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  SPEAKER_02: Sorry, yeah, amen.
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  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely, absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna use that thing all day long just because it makes me smile, right?
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  SPEAKER_02: Because it because it because yeah, because it makes you smile.
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  SPEAKER_02: And if you need that in the moment, and if it's appropriate, then then great.
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  SPEAKER_02: And then you'll right, and then you then you sort of uh no, actually, not sort of, you're encoding your brain to sort of keep it there in a drawer so that if you're in a meeting or you're out there, they're in a special situation, it's a stressful situation, all of a sudden you remember it at the very least, and then you smile internally because you remember it, triggers a little bit of that feeling, and just enough lift to get through that moment.
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  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, I mean, who doesn't need that in their life, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Just to think of something and smile.
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  SPEAKER_01: Amen.
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  SPEAKER_01: Amen.
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  SPEAKER_02: Right, right, because the smile, because the smile, the smile, right?
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  SPEAKER_02: That's it, that's an outward sign of being just a little more okay inside.
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  SPEAKER_02: You know, there's there's an anthropo, an anthropological theory that laughter or and that smiles comes from a release in realizing that things are okay.
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  SPEAKER_02: That we were out hunting, sort of, you know, in the woods, you know, back in the day, and there was a rustle in the the leaves, and the leader of the group was like, Oh no, hold on, everybody, hold on.
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  SPEAKER_02: And then the bushes the bushes parted, and out comes the son of that leader.
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  SPEAKER_02: And then everybody's like, Oh, it's just the son, it's just a little kid having a good old time.
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  SPEAKER_02: Ha ha ha, we're all okay, right?
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  SPEAKER_02: That's yeah, that's where smiles, that's where laughter comes from.
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  SPEAKER_02: It's an okayness.
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  SPEAKER_02: And if we need to tell ourselves that, then um, that's what I do, and sort of, you know, I guide people, you know, in the things that I do, you know, in the in the joy experience, for example, where, you know, the the in in the coaching that I do, you know, over a period of weeks, you know, I share with people things just like that to do on purpose, to get yourself into a place of okayness, or in my case, joy, awe, and wonder from the inside out.
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  SPEAKER_02: And so, and the reason I do that, man.
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  SPEAKER_02: Can I share a little bit of the story?
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  SPEAKER_01: Please, absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's where we're going next, my friend.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, well, right, because I spent years without inner peace, and not even realizing what that what I was missing, and accepting my way of being and feeling and doing and having as sort of given as the norm.
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  SPEAKER_02: You know, it was it was pervasive and persistent, and it's just how it is.
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  SPEAKER_02: You know, oh that's waking up a certain way and or being stressed in a certain way, and that's just that's just what life is.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I it it didn't occur to me that life could be different, and that the greatest news about that is that I could have something to do with it, and I'm the closest person around.
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  SPEAKER_02: I don't even have to go looking.
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  SPEAKER_02: I mean, I know it sounds like oh oh oftentimes working on ourselves is the hardest thing to do sometimes, right?
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  SPEAKER_02: It it feels that way, and yet if we can reframe that and go, well, it's it's the greatest news of all because I'm the one closest to me.
• 8:48
  SPEAKER_02: So it took me a while to realize that.
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  SPEAKER_02: It got to the point where you know I had a wonderful wife and great children and and friends and and and and jobs, and uh and yet on the inside there was uh a pull down, man, from the neck down, it's it was just knotted up, and so every night with my head at the pillow, I'd be like, Thank God, that's over.
• 9:14
  SPEAKER_02: I didn't even specify what it was, I was just like that, you know, which which encapsulates all of life, like what happened during the day, you know, life in general.
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  SPEAKER_02: See this, this feeling, and then I would wake up with that same feeling.
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  SPEAKER_02: And by the way, I I don't think sleep, I don't think going to bed and waking up, I don't think you wake up differently.
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  SPEAKER_02: I think you wake up the way that you go to bed.
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  SPEAKER_02: And so I share with those I work with, like, you know, make sure you go to bed and you recount in your head what you're grateful for that day, or what you smiled about, or just a couple of things.
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  SPEAKER_02: And by the, and it's like counting sheep, just count your little blessings big and small throughout the day, and before you know it, you're asleep, and you wake up that same way.
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  SPEAKER_02: But I had the opposite going on, Michael.
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  SPEAKER_02: I would go to bed going, like, thank God, that's over.
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  SPEAKER_02: Whatever, that that day.
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  SPEAKER_02: And my favorite part of life was being asleep, just being unconscious.
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  SPEAKER_02: I was like, Oh, one time I was having an argument with my wife, an argument.
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  SPEAKER_02: I was in a moment of stress, and this is another thing about inner peace, and that's when you recognize that something's going on, is when out of the blue, like you you respond in a in a way that seems inappropriate to the situation.
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  SPEAKER_02: And in what right, and in one of those situations, I said, you know, sleep is all I have.
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  SPEAKER_02: I was like, I was like, that's the only time I have to myself is when I'm asleep.
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  SPEAKER_01: Marcus, a nap is nice, but it's not a way to live.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it and it wasn't for for forever.
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  SPEAKER_01: So talk to us a little bit.
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  SPEAKER_01: Wasn't forever.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I woke up one day and what's that love?
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  SPEAKER_01: I said, let's talk a little bit more about how you kind of came out of that as well.
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  SPEAKER_02: Right, so right.
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  SPEAKER_02: So what I realized that every time I opened my eyes, uh, you know, all I saw was I projected about you know a stressful life ahead of me.
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  SPEAKER_02: And it's so the stressful life came towards me.
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  SPEAKER_02: And then one day, through someone kind of just like this, online.
• 11:04
  SPEAKER_01: I'm sorry, really quick.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm really sorry to interrupt, but I want I just I need to make a real quick point here.
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  SPEAKER_01: How many people watching andor listening later on in the podcast forums can relate?
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  SPEAKER_01: Ooh, I just gotta chill.
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  SPEAKER_01: Really think about that just for a minute, people listening.
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  SPEAKER_01: How many people have been where Marcus was?
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  SPEAKER_01: I just want you to just stop and think about that for a second, whether it was in your past or it's now.
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  SPEAKER_01: There's a lot of people.
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  SPEAKER_01: Marcus isn't alone.
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  SPEAKER_01: Marcus was going through things, and he's come to the other side of it because of that hard work that's hard until it's not.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I just want people to realize and stop and and think about yourself before Marcus goes into the other part of the story.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I think it's super important that you really just stop and think.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because honestly, Marcus, I would probably say 90% of the human population has been through to some extent what you went through.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, with that said, now tell us about the light.
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  SPEAKER_02: Mm-hmm.
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  SPEAKER_02: Please.
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  SPEAKER_02: You go so many of us go through it, and what's so intense about it is that when you are in it, so it's really difficult, if not often impossible, to think that others are in the same.
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  SPEAKER_02: So when you when you need to not be alone the most, it's the hardest to not feel alone.
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  SPEAKER_02: Like you feel so you know, just when you need reaching out the most is when it feels impossible.
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  SPEAKER_02: Because you're not even thinking you're so wrapped up in yourself, uh, and trying to and struggling with yourself, uh, that reaching out is is often the hardest thing to do.
• 12:59
  SPEAKER_02: And and so through the blessing of a of a of a of a person very close to me in my in my life, which was my wife at the time, she nudged me, so I got some help from her first, a little nudge towards somebody, yeah, towards somebody, and it happened to be online during COVID who knew what they were doing because they too had gone through something and became a mentor on the other side.
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  SPEAKER_02: So they had been through it, right?
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  SPEAKER_02: And they weren't teaching theory, they were teaching they were saying, like, hey, I get it.
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  SPEAKER_02: And just and just enough of, hey, you're not alone, just like in this moment, because we're all looking to belong somehow, to connect.
• 13:42
  SPEAKER_02: And we're in an epidemic of disconnection, whether personally or whether as a community, like there's there's disconnection all all over everywhere.
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  SPEAKER_02: And so I think we're often starving for connection, or at least looking for it, as was I.
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  SPEAKER_02: And so then I and I realized and I recognized that, and something right in that person, like I like that person, I trusted that whatever who whoever was speaking.
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  SPEAKER_02: And so when they described these things to sort of to do, I found myself almost in spite of myself, doing the things in real time.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yes, in real time.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I mean, that's because it's it's the question is is at some point, not so much why am I feeling this, why am I feeling this way.
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  SPEAKER_02: It has to at some point transition into how do I feel better?
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  SPEAKER_02: How do I get beyond this?
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  SPEAKER_02: You know, especially sort of in the veteran community, right?
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  SPEAKER_02: We're used to to doing something.
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  SPEAKER_02: And and and it's often gentle, but somehow in that real moment with this, with this community, with this community, I found myself doing the things and feeling better and recognizing that yes, it came through someone else, but it was me who made the changes.
• 14:55
  SPEAKER_02: And once I realized that, I realized, wait, if I can, if I can make little changes and feel better and look forward to waking up, and I didn't want to go to sleep anymore because I didn't want to miss life.
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  SPEAKER_02: Whoa, what else is possible?
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  SPEAKER_02: And this is a key key.
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  SPEAKER_02: Not so much for me, but for other people.
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  SPEAKER_02: It's like if I can do it, I was excited about what was happening with me, and even more excited that if this is possible for me, just like the person was saying on the screen, it's gotta be possible for others.
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  SPEAKER_02: I can do what that person does, I can spread the light, right?
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  SPEAKER_02: I can be another conduit, I can be another candle.
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  SPEAKER_02: And that was the most exciting part for that recovery personally for me, which is so which is why I do what I do now.
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  SPEAKER_02: That may not be the case for for everyone, but and for me it was, Michael.
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  SPEAKER_02: For me, and so I immediately uh it was such a a change for me, such an such an awakening for me, this sense, really for the first time in my life, that I could not just find joy and create joy and be joy and share it all on purpose, which brings me back to that smile we had, right?
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  SPEAKER_02: On purpose.
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  SPEAKER_02: That means if I've done it once, I can do it again, like the next day.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I wasn't just a leaf in the wind of life, that I had ownership over my own you know, thoughts and and meanings and therefore feelings, and how I was showing up, and I how I saw life showing up to support me and more importantly, my family, my community.
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  SPEAKER_02: And it was just so it was so exciting.
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  SPEAKER_02: And all of a sudden I felt like I was soaring and really well again.
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  SPEAKER_02: You know, I use that word intentionally because the winds of life will blow, but I was the one who had the wings, man.
• 16:45
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, and I could and I could, I could, I could, I could, I could fly through life or soar through life or just float gently, and whatever you whatever metaphor you want to use.
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  SPEAKER_02: And so that was that's my story.
• 16:58
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I I love that, Marcus.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, you know, so many people choose to suffer, you know, and literally it is a choice to change that.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I see you're lighting up because it's it's it's true because uh so often, I mean, you know, your thoughts are your reality, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean, let's be real here.
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  SPEAKER_01: So uh you can choose to change that with intention, just like Marcus was saying.
• 17:25
  SPEAKER_01: It's absolutely beautiful what you just just talked about.
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  SPEAKER_02: I yes, and I love that distinction, and you may have said that intentionally too.
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_02: You said you specifically said choose with intention.
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_02: I say that because, right, the reality is that we're making a choice uh all the time.
• 17:48
  SPEAKER_02: We're making choices all the time, whether consciously or unconsciously, and that's the thing, right?
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_02: It's it's sort of like no answer is still an answer, you know, procrastinating is still is still doing something, and there was a decision there subconsciously because of all the stuff we've been through and have been programmed to or or or through life experience.
• 18:11
  SPEAKER_02: And so how can we how can we get more ownership over our choices so that we can show up with intention, so that we can exist with intention, and then you know, and that those intentions can then become right through discipline at first, if it's a big change, and then they become habits, and then eventually the good decisions become subconscious.
• 18:39
  SPEAKER_02: You know what I mean?
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  SPEAKER_02: The good ones, the healthy ones.
• 18:42
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I love that you say that.
• 18:44
  SPEAKER_01: I let's let's we're we're believe it or not, over halfway done already.
• 18:48
  SPEAKER_02: Oh my goodness.
• 18:49
  SPEAKER_01: I know we're having too much fun, and and again, I always love our conversations, my dear friend.
• 18:55
  SPEAKER_01: Um, with with that said, um, you know, we were going to talk about this has been rescheduled because of some health things, guys just saying no, but we were going to before Christmas talk about stress of the holidays and so on.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I just want to just kind of pivot into this because you know, the stress, whether it be the holidays or, you know, again, like you said, Les Brown, life be life in because you know it never stops.
• 19:20
  SPEAKER_01: It's how you react to the situation and the definition you give those things, right?
• 19:24
  SPEAKER_01: Good and bad.
• 19:25
  SPEAKER_01: So I I'd like to kind of bounce into that, if you will, um whether again it be the holiday stress or it be something at work or whatever the case may be, how how um how do we change that?
• 19:42
  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna let you do this.
• 19:43
  SPEAKER_01: So, how do we go from that stress into the that amazing place of joy or better even peace, if you will?
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_02: When we're in the midst, when we're in the midst of it.
• 19:54
  SPEAKER_01: Yep, absolutely.
• 19:55
  SPEAKER_02: Right, for example, or when right, when the world is telling us, especially around the holidays.
• 20:00
  SPEAKER_02: When the world seems to be telling us to be to be joyful or like you know celebrate, where there seems to be commands almost everywhere, and whether it's channeled through through spirit or whether it's coming from a commercial place, you know, like bye-bye bye, you know, or whatever.
• 20:16
  SPEAKER_02: Either way, we start to get that feeling.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I think uh I believe, and I say this through experience, the first key is to acknowledge that it's happening.
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  SPEAKER_02: I think every every change begins with an acknowledgement, just an acknowledgement that there's all this stuff going on out here.
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  SPEAKER_02: I'm feeling this way.
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  SPEAKER_02: And then the second thing is, how would what would I rather feel?
• 20:46
  SPEAKER_02: What would I rather feel?
• 20:48
  SPEAKER_02: What would I what what would I love?
• 20:50
  SPEAKER_02: And by love, I just mean, hey, if I had it my way, right?
• 20:53
  SPEAKER_02: And first the beginning, if I had it my way, how would I rather feel?
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  SPEAKER_02: Then it goes into some kind of a choice.
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  SPEAKER_02: What's a little thing that I can do I can do to get closer to how I would rather feel?
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  SPEAKER_02: And and and what would I rather be as a result of feeling differently, what I what would I rather be doing?
• 21:18
  SPEAKER_02: Meaning, would I what would I rather feel that is, for example, joyful, and I would therefore not snap at my family, or I wouldn't be, or I wouldn't be shaking in the car, or I wouldn't be clenching my teeth, or I'd be sleeping better, whatever it is.
• 21:34
  SPEAKER_02: And then once we decide, so once we decide that, then we can choose to give ourselves, or choose to take a deep breath, put a smile, put a smile on our face and go, I'm above ground.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_02: And like you said, with intention and without irony.
• 21:54
  SPEAKER_02: Because what comes out here goes in our own ears, our own brains, and then our brains believe it.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_02: They it believes that it's gonna be an okay day, that it's gonna be a great day, that it's gonna be a magnificent day, that we are calm, that we are whole, that we are alive, and that's that's good news, and then it'll send a message to your heart, and your heart will feel just good, just better enough to calm your nervous system.
• 22:18
  SPEAKER_02: Love it, or you right, so and then you choose.
• 22:21
  SPEAKER_02: So that's the how is acknowledgement, grace, one choice closer to what you might want to feel, and that could be like you know what, I'm not gonna buy that, or you know what, I'm gonna step out of this room.
• 22:33
  SPEAKER_02: You know what?
• 22:33
  SPEAKER_02: I'm gonna turn the radio off so I don't hear that music.
• 22:37
  SPEAKER_02: Whatever it is, but it starts with acknowledgement.
• 22:39
  SPEAKER_01: Does that answer your question?
• 22:40
  SPEAKER_01: It does, absolutely, it was beautiful, and and I so let me go even further, okay?
• 22:47
  SPEAKER_01: Because we want we want to uh have these things stick or recognize them faster, right?
• 22:55
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, okay, so that we can default back to our best selves, right?
• 22:58
  SPEAKER_01: The person we want to be that that peace, that joy, the person smiling and making other people's lives better, not the one that's uh being an ass and treating everybody like crap, right?
• 23:08
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, so we want that more in our life, and well, I think most people do, I should say.
• 23:13
  SPEAKER_01: I know I do always.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_01: So how do you um how do you recognize it faster?
• 23:21
  SPEAKER_01: Let's start there, and then I want to go into how do you make it stick?
• 23:25
  unknown: Okay.
• 23:26
  SPEAKER_01: Um how do you recognize it, how do you recognize it faster?
• 23:30
  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
• 23:30
  SPEAKER_01: So instead of being pissed off for three days, you're pissed off for three minutes.
• 23:35
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, absolutely.
• 23:36
  SPEAKER_02: So, so um in I think so people's people's reflection back to you, that is people's reaction to you is well, let's imagine that it is a consequence, a reaction to how you're showing up.
• 23:54
  SPEAKER_02: And that can be both in a good way and a not great way.
• 23:57
  SPEAKER_02: So, meaning that if the the light you shine will will reflect back to you.
• 24:01
  SPEAKER_02: Let's imagine, let's imagine for a minute that that's true.
• 24:03
  SPEAKER_02: I believe it's true, and I've ex because I say that through experience, so it's a reflection.
• 24:07
  SPEAKER_02: So, one way, because you said how do you recognize it?
• 24:10
  SPEAKER_02: Because sometimes we're we we're not reading our own jar.
• 24:14
  SPEAKER_02: Sometimes we're not we're we're not so aware.
• 24:17
  SPEAKER_02: So one one way to do it is to is to observe how others are reacting to you.
• 24:22
  SPEAKER_01: Love that.
• 24:23
  SPEAKER_02: You know, meaning like, are your kids running up to hug you when you come in the door?
• 24:28
  SPEAKER_02: Is there, you know, is your is your significant other, you know, turning towards you?
• 24:33
  SPEAKER_02: Are you are you are you getting a promotion?
• 24:35
  SPEAKER_02: Are you are are people calling you?
• 24:37
  SPEAKER_02: Are people texting you?
• 24:38
  SPEAKER_02: And then recognizing like, hmm, this might have something to do with me.
• 24:44
  SPEAKER_02: And that's like I go I say before, it's good news.
• 24:48
  SPEAKER_02: We grace, grace everyone.
• 24:51
  SPEAKER_02: Because the good news, the flip side of that is wait, if that's true, yes, that's not that's not the best for now, and change is possible because if if if I'm just gonna use this word for lack of a better one, if negative consequences have something to do with me, then let's call it prosequences.
• 25:14
  SPEAKER_02: That is good consequences, prosequences, I could do, I could have uh, you know, it could also have to do with me.
• 25:21
  SPEAKER_02: That means wait a minute, what so then um so so then if you show up better, others will show up better, right?
• 25:29
  SPEAKER_02: If you vibrate in a certain way, the the world will show up to support you, the universe or whatever, or people, you don't even have to go that big.
• 25:36
  SPEAKER_02: So that's how I would I would I would go, how are people reacting to me?
• 25:39
  SPEAKER_01: What's like I love that I love that really quick.
• 25:42
  SPEAKER_01: I'm sorry.
• 25:43
  SPEAKER_01: Um, if your dog's running from you, it's a problem.
• 25:46
  SPEAKER_02: If your dog's running from you, it's a problem.
• 25:48
  SPEAKER_01: It's a problem.
• 25:49
  SPEAKER_01: Um, here's the other thing.
• 25:50
  SPEAKER_01: I just want to add into that before you go to the next part.
• 25:53
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I love what you said, and I think it's literally just spot on, it's perfect.
• 25:58
  SPEAKER_01: Um also I'd say be aware of how you feel.
• 26:05
  SPEAKER_01: You generally, if you're crunchy, cranky, you're being an ass, you do feel it.
• 26:10
  SPEAKER_01: You feel the stress, your breathing changes, all of those amazing things that you can be aware of as well.
• 26:16
  SPEAKER_01: So I I if I can add to that, I'd say look at both of those, because they're both very valuable in self-assessment.
• 26:22
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, and I think it, I think that's uh, you know, as maybe something to look at as well.
• 26:27
  SPEAKER_02: Right, yeah, yeah, absolutely right.
• 26:29
  SPEAKER_02: And and I'm so glad you I'm so glad you added on to that.
• 26:31
  SPEAKER_02: And I I I was I was gonna share that as well, because because if that's sort of like a next level thing, right?
• 26:37
  SPEAKER_02: Look at yourself and if you're crunchy, chances are that's you know that that um something can change.
• 26:44
  SPEAKER_02: Absolutely, you know, I don't I don't I say don't shit on yourself and something something can change, right?
• 26:50
  SPEAKER_02: So then so so and then how you the next one was how to get out of it faster.
• 26:57
  SPEAKER_01: No, how to make it stick.
• 26:58
  SPEAKER_01: So once you're in the how to make it stick.
• 27:00
  SPEAKER_01: So once you're in a you realize you go through some of those things that you mentioned earlier to you know to get yourself in a good state, if you will, or a a state that you want to be in with joy, peace, all those amazing things that most people I'd say want to feel all day long.
• 27:15
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 27:16
  SPEAKER_01: So how do you then make that stick?
• 27:18
  SPEAKER_01: How do you how do you hold on to that so you default back to that quickly, obviously, because you already realize, hey, I'm being an ass, my dog's running from me, wife doesn't want to look at me, and I feel like crap.
• 27:30
  SPEAKER_01: So now you've realized you've done some of those other things.
• 27:33
  SPEAKER_01: Now, how do you make that stick?
• 27:36
  SPEAKER_02: You make it stick through reps.
• 27:40
  SPEAKER_02: Reps, man.
• 27:41
  SPEAKER_02: I mean, you get yeah, you it's like going to the gym.
• 27:45
  SPEAKER_02: The way to get stronger is to is to do the bicep curls, or you know, the way to increase your breathing capacity is to go for for walks and you increase it incrementally.
• 27:54
  SPEAKER_02: And so, and so you need to interrupt your patterns, meaning that at some point you need to stop doing this and start doing that.
• 28:06
  SPEAKER_02: And at first, it's gonna require help from the outside, perhaps, right?
• 28:11
  SPEAKER_02: To learn some kind of a tool to interrupt your patterns.
• 28:14
  SPEAKER_02: You know, we have a thing in neural encoding that's called the stop technique.
• 28:18
  SPEAKER_02: And you literally practice that or rehearse it rather, which is practice with emotion and you do it ahead of time, right?
• 28:26
  SPEAKER_02: You do it ahead of time.
• 28:28
  SPEAKER_02: But and before you get to a heavy lift, a situation, you you learn how to do it and you rehearse it.
• 28:33
  SPEAKER_02: And so, and so at first, and this is key, it's gonna feel like discipline because you're looking for change.
• 28:41
  SPEAKER_02: It's not gonna feel like you, it's not going to come naturally.
• 28:45
  SPEAKER_02: And that's when we need to keep in mind what we would rather feel, what would we rather see in our life?
• 28:52
  SPEAKER_02: And that then motivates us to keep that discipline until it becomes a habit to interrupt your patterns, until then it becomes you.
• 29:00
  SPEAKER_02: And and it doesn't have to take years, it doesn't have to take even months.
• 29:04
  SPEAKER_02: You know, the things that you and I work on, you know, they they work pretty instantly.
• 29:08
  SPEAKER_02: You get to a place where you recognize, oh, you know what?
• 29:12
  SPEAKER_02: I'm I feel cranky.
• 29:14
  SPEAKER_02: This is what's happening around me, and you know what, I do have something to do with it.
• 29:17
  SPEAKER_02: And all of a sudden you feel weird not doing something about it.
• 29:22
  unknown: Yeah.
• 29:23
  SPEAKER_02: So, so, and that's how that and that's how to make it stick.
• 29:25
  SPEAKER_02: I mean, because eventually sticking just means you're defaulting to it, and it can it meaning like you're you're gonna do the habit because it feels weird not to do the habit, or it becomes so sticky that you're not thinking about it.
• 29:41
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, absolutely.
• 29:42
  SPEAKER_01: And I want to add to that too.
• 29:44
  SPEAKER_01: So when you feel happy and and people are around you and you're attracting those kinds of people back to you because they want to be around that happy person, and you're gonna generally attract that same thing, it's very contagious.
• 29:56
  SPEAKER_01: So, a lot of times what's gonna happen is you're going to change over the reps, right?
• 30:03
  SPEAKER_01: And you're not gonna come out like you're saying, you're not gonna come out in one day looking like Arnold Schwarzenegger.
• 30:07
  SPEAKER_01: It takes time, right?
• 30:08
  SPEAKER_01: To do it.
• 30:09
  SPEAKER_01: And I love the way you talked about it.
• 30:11
  SPEAKER_01: So just keep that in mind.
• 30:13
  SPEAKER_01: Um, you know, when you start bringing the other people around you, it just starts to become natural.
• 30:21
  SPEAKER_01: My friend's Joy Marcus Marcus Weiss with the Joy Experience, dear friend.
• 30:26
  SPEAKER_01: Why is that?
• 30:27
  SPEAKER_01: Because we're aligned, right?
• 30:30
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah.
• 30:31
  SPEAKER_01: So amen.
• 30:32
  SPEAKER_01: Hey Marcus, uh, we are over time already.
• 30:35
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, so um, I did uh put up your information on here um to have people reach out to you.
• 30:43
  SPEAKER_01: So if uh anybody is interested in talking to Marcus or anything like that, is that correct, Marcus?
• 30:49
  SPEAKER_02: That is actually so that is the joy experience which is coming up of actually next week.
• 30:54
  SPEAKER_02: I'm starting another six-week, six-week group coaching uh program.
• 30:58
  SPEAKER_02: So that's the link for that.
• 30:59
  SPEAKER_02: Would you like a link for for people to get in touch with me?
• 31:01
  SPEAKER_01: You actually want to just if if you want to just let people know just on this, that's fine because um people on the podcast forums can't see this.
• 31:10
  SPEAKER_01: So if you want to just let people know out, you know, verbally, yes.
• 31:14
  SPEAKER_02: Oh, absolutely.
• 31:15
  SPEAKER_02: So I am Marcus Jacob Weiss on Facebook or the Marcus Weiss Experience on Facebook and Instagram, and then just Marcus Weiss on LinkedIn.
• 31:26
  SPEAKER_02: So anybody can find me as either the Marcus Weiss Experience or Marcus Jacob Weiss.
• 31:32
  SPEAKER_02: If you search that on all those platforms, you'll find me and just look for the bald head.
• 31:38
  SPEAKER_01: It's like it's like me with the red shirt.
• 31:41
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, right.
• 31:43
  SPEAKER_01: I'm wearing a red shirt today.
• 31:45
  SPEAKER_02: Fantastic, dude.
• 31:46
  SPEAKER_02: Fantastic.
• 31:47
  SPEAKER_01: So so, Marcus, uh, with that said, if you can give us three tips to get veterans and their families further, faster.
• 31:53
  SPEAKER_02: Okay, great, fantastic.
• 31:54
  SPEAKER_02: Okay, number one, when you wake up in the morning, do this on purpose.
• 31:58
  SPEAKER_02: And if you have to remember me and this crazy bald head, what you're gonna do is you're gonna take your fingers, you're gonna put them to your eyes like this, and you're gonna you're gonna go like this, and it sounds ridiculous.
• 32:05
  SPEAKER_02: You're gonna go, it's gonna be a great day.
• 32:07
  SPEAKER_02: Okay, or you can just do this and just remember this moment and say, it's going to be a great day.
• 32:13
  SPEAKER_02: Say that to yourself because your brain will believe you just enough for you to smile just enough, to then feel just enough to stretch or get out of bed or whatever.
• 32:21
  SPEAKER_02: I literally do that every single day.
• 32:23
  SPEAKER_02: And that change that changed my life because because you will not forget that through the day, you're gonna want to fulfill your own promise.
• 32:31
  SPEAKER_02: Number two, take a deep breath.
• 32:34
  SPEAKER_02: And whatever that means to you, you don't have to be a yogi, okay?
• 32:38
  SPEAKER_02: Just whenever you feel stress coming on, remember this moment and on purpose, with intention to get to a better place.
• 32:44
  SPEAKER_02: You stop, you just breathe in through your nose, put the corners of your mouth above the horizontal just enough, and then exhale through your mouth on an S.
• 32:55
  SPEAKER_02: Because it'll slow your breath down on the exhale, which is important.
• 32:58
  SPEAKER_02: Okay.
• 32:58
  SPEAKER_02: That's just a physical thing you can do, and you'll know that you're doing it because you'll have your body involved.
• 33:04
  SPEAKER_02: And so, and then, and then um, number three, like I shared, I'm gonna bookend it, like I shared in the beginning of this call.
• 33:11
  SPEAKER_02: Please, when you close your eyes at night, have a couple of thoughts of gratitude and what went well that day.
• 33:18
  SPEAKER_02: Giving yourself some grace.
• 33:20
  SPEAKER_02: It can be a small thing.
• 33:22
  SPEAKER_02: It can even be, you know what?
• 33:24
  SPEAKER_02: I, I, I, I, I got through the day, meaning I I succeeded in getting to this place.
• 33:30
  SPEAKER_02: You know, not like, oh God, that's over.
• 33:32
  SPEAKER_02: Gratitude, gratitude, gratitude, appreciation, you know, whatever it is.
• 33:36
  SPEAKER_02: So that you wake up the next day and you'll be inspired to start again with that.
• 33:40
  SPEAKER_02: It's gonna be a great day.
• 33:41
  SPEAKER_02: So those are my those are my three first tips that are that I would give.
• 33:44
  SPEAKER_01: I absolutely love it.
• 33:46
  SPEAKER_01: Fantastic, my dear friend.
• 33:47
  SPEAKER_01: Um, as always, you know, time is the most precious resource we have as human beings.
• 33:52
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 33:53
  SPEAKER_01: We don't get it back.
• 33:54
  SPEAKER_01: So thank you for spending this time with us and dropping this wisdom and brilliance and all the amazing things that you do.
• 34:00
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
• 34:00
  SPEAKER_02: Appreciate it, man.
• 34:01
  SPEAKER_02: Thank you.
• 34:02
  SPEAKER_02: I thank you, Singh.
• 34:02
  SPEAKER_02: But thank you so much for the privilege of your time as well.
• 34:05
  SPEAKER_02: And uh it's an absolute pleasure.
• 34:07
  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
• 34:07
  SPEAKER_01: And with that note, everybody, we are out of here.
• 34:15
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for joining us on another insightful journey of your thoughts, your reality podcast with your host, Michael Cole.
• 34:22
  SPEAKER_00: We hope the conversation sparks some thoughts that resonate with you.
• 34:26
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• 34:33
  SPEAKER_00: Remember, your thoughts shape your reality, so make them happy.
• 34:37
  SPEAKER_00: Until next time, stay inspired and keep creating the reality you desire.
• 34:42
  SPEAKER_00: Catch you on the next episode.