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Faith Over Fear: Raising Children God’s Way · DFC Podcast

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Welcome to the Dorchester Family Church podcast, our vision to be
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a church known for our love. Our wholehearted love for God,
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our authentic love for each other, and our compassionate
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love for our community. Each week get fueled up to
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worship passionately, grow meaningfully together, and make
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an eternal impact on the lives around you.
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Lean in close as we explore this Sunday's practical Bible based
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message unpacking that transformative vision.
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So good morning again. So just a few moments ago, we
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had the privilege of dedicating some of our babies.
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And young children to God. And these moments are always
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special moments, even though we are blessed with many children
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and young people in DFC and quite a number.
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Of babies on the. Way each one is unique and a
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blessing in their own way, loved by God and loved by us precious
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to God. And precious.
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To us, and for those of you particularly who are new to us
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or are visiting or guests for the dedications here at DFC, we
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don't practice infant baptisms. Firstly because we don't see
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examples or teaching of it in the Bible, but secondly because
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we see baptism as being in response.
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To personal faith rather. Than in the hope.
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Of personal faith. Because the Bible commands us to
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repent, That means to turn away from our sin and turn toward
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Jesus to recognise what our sin cost him.
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He had to die on a cross for it, and then to choose to live for
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God for for now, it's a wonderful, free gift of grace.
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But even the smartest babies aren't going to be able to.
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Repent of their sins. Or put their trust in Jesus.
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Or make the decision to. Follow him for themselves.
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And after all, despite what some first time parents might think,
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keeping you up all night is not really sinful.
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It's just babies showing how much they love.
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You and want to be with you wait.
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Until they become toddlers and teenagers.
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Then they will have lots of sin to say sorry for.
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And lots to repent of, therefore, instead of infant.
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Baptisms we'd. Love to follow the biblical
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example of dedicating our. Children to God.
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Which, as I said, is about firstly giving thanks.
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To God for our children. Psalm 127 says children are a
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heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him, and
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I remember that feeling acutely at the birth of our first child,
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Abigail. Who is now 17 driving?
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And going to. Uni this year.
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Boy, that went quickly, but then they hand you this newborn and
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it's an. Incredible moment and an.
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Incredible shock and an incredible gift from God because
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within each and every child we see the creative genius of God
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who performs miracles. Every day in creating new life
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in every. Person we see the beautiful and
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unique image of God every person, whether very new or
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very. Old is a gift of God.
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And so just as we like to instill the importance of
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gratitude in our children, so we realise that it must be
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primarily based on our gratitude for our children.
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Particularly when life gets hard and our patience is wafer thin.
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It does us so much good to remember that these are all.
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Gifts from God. To the parents, to their wider.
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Family to the church family and so.
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It's right to give thanks and the glory.
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To him first, Secondly. We are choosing to dedicate them
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to God's will and His. Plan for their lives.
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Yes, they are a gift, but in another way they're.
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They're sort of alone. A gift to bring us and others
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joy, but with the expectation that we will raise them to know
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and love God, to give them every possible opportunity to see
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their lives as a gift. Of God for themselves.
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And that they were primarily created for a relationship with
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him and to. Follow his.
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Will for their life, even when that might go against what?
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We might want for their lives. Dedication.
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Say God, I want your will for them.
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Even above my own. And so in the Bible we see godly
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parents bringing their children to God and dedicating them to
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Him as we've. Done this morning.
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Like with Samuel, as we hear the words of his mother, Hannah, she
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said, I prayed for this child. And the Lord has granted.
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Me what I asked of him. So now I give him to the Lord
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for his whole life He. Shall he shall be given over to
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the Lord? We also see this with Mary and
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Joseph that the Nativity bit after the shepherds and the
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angels and the wise men as they bring the month old Jesus to the
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temple. And I love that on both of those
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occasions the parents got to hear the voice of the Lord for
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that child. Like in the verse here where
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you've got three Hebrew words prayed for, asked and given,
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which are actually all the same. Root word in Hebrew.
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Which is really the word Samuel, from which they got the name
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Samuel, because Samuel would be the great prayed for, asked for.
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Gift of God for Israel. And with Jesus dedication we we
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see these two elderly faithful servants, Simeon and Anna
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grabbing the child. Hopefully with parental.
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Consent. But then they're speaking words
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over this newborn and over the. Parents.
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Because for us, the these. Children are so new.
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We we just see an empty slate, a future not yet begun, but God.
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Sees everyday mapped out. For their lives and for those of
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us. Who those who have dedicated
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their children. God has a plan and a purpose for
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your child. And so dedicating them to God at
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the beginning is a great. Start so well done.
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Thirdly. As I said earlier.
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We're asking for help. We ask for help from God.
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Friends, family and church. Because yes.
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They are a gift from God. A blessing from God.
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And yes, God has a plan for their lives.
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But boy, it's also the hardest thing in the world to be a.
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Parent tons of joy. But also tons of challenges.
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Even those parents that seem really confident.
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Will always struggle at times. Therefore, the third part of the
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dedication process is the acknowledgement that we want,
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that we need. The help of others, particularly
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our church family. It's to say I don't want to be
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one of those parents constantly struggling because they somehow
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feel like they need to do these things alone or they somehow
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have to write the book on parenting themselves.
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It's accepting that raising children in today's world will
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always be challenging. But it shouldn't be chaotic as
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the famous. African proverb says.
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It takes a. Village to raise a child, and
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wonderfully, we have that village.
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In our church family. Whether our own physical family
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are close or not to help. We have brothers and sisters and
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mums and dads and granddads and grandmas in the church to
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support one another. I love this verse from Proverbs.
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11 for lack of guidance a nation.
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Falls, but victory is won through many advisors.
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Dedications are saying parenting can feel like a.
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Battle at times against. The will of our children against
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unfair expectations from others, even a battle for our own sanity
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sometimes, but with many godly. Advisers and friends and
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encouragers walk in this road with us.
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There are also some spectacular victories to be enjoyed as well.
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And so This is why we dedicate our children to God and why
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these times are always special. And they're also special because
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they're a great opportunity to talk about parenting, to
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encourage all. The church.
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Parents and say well done and to challenge them a bit, let's stay
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together and let's stay. On track with this.
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And it's also an opportunity for every one of us, whether we have
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children of our. Own at home.
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Right now or not to feel a. Good and godly pressure to.
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Check what we're doing right now to support.
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The families around us. And potentially feel that
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invitation, even that godly push.
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To find new ways to support the babies and children and young
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people and parents within our wider church family.
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But before we get to the support that we can be, I first want to
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talk about godly parenting so we all know the goal.
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That we are heading towards. Because everyday the world is
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telling us and speaking to us about how we should raise our
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children. Not all of it's bad, but.
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Most of it comes with a price tag and something being sold.
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Maybe a book? Or an experience.
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Or a holiday. Or a game.
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Or a sport. And we see.
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All the adverts. We watch the social media
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videos, some of us somehow have enough time to watch lifestyle.
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TV where the celebs. Show us choose how the celebs
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choose to raise their children and all you need is vast amounts
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of. Money and endless free time.
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The world. Preaches us all the.
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Time about parenting. Which is why I find it ironic
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that Christians are told off for.
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Preaching about anything. Don't.
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Tell me how to parent my children.
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Don't. Tell me how to.
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Live my life. Ignoring the fact that we
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welcome all of that into our homes all the time, at least I'm
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being open. And honest about it.
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And at least we're basing what we believe on a trustworthy
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source of wisdom. God's Word, rather.
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Than just our thoughts. Our ideas or our limited?
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Experience. So therefore, this morning, to
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those of us we're children at home and to the friends and
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family who came. To support those dedications.
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And to those in the church family who seek to be a support
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to. The families in our church,
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basically that's everyone in the room.
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Today I want. To ask the question, what kind
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of parenting are we seeking for our families?
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And also what kind of? Parenting are we trying to
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encourage in our families? Well, particularly.
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When we all agreed to help our families and I heard you all say
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we will. So this is what you've signed up
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for? Because there are many ways that
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we could categorise different. Types of parenting.
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But for this morning I would just want to categorise them.
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Two ways. And I would summarise.
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Them with two words, faith or fear.
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Are we seeking and encouraging fear based parenting?
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Or faith-based parenting. So when we consider our own
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heart. When we watch those adverts or
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read those blogs or listen to the advice of friends.
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Or indeed, I hope, as we read the Bible and ask what?
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God expects of us. When we look deep into our
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hearts. And check our responses to
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situations our. Responses to the joys and
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challenges of parenting would. We find a foundation of faith or
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a foundation of fear. Now I'm I'm a parent of I've got
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3 kids and especially being a church leader means I know the
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answer that I want to give. We all do.
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Of course it's faith. Of course we know that God.
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We trust that God is in control. We we trust that He holds our
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future and the future of our children in His hands.
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We trust that His word is best for our family.
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And yet. When I stop for a moment, as
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we're doing this morning and. Then look a bit deeper.
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Into my own heart, my own responses.
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My own choices. Suddenly there's some warning.
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Flags that appear like red lights on the dashboard.
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At which point in with those reactions, I have to kind of
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think maybe I've crossed the line from faith.
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Interfere and that maybe. I'm not really living by faith,
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but. Rather, I'm being driven by a
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fear. So therefore before I consider 3
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gifts to help us. Parent with faith.
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In fact, I think 3 gifts that help us with faith in.
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Every aspect of life. So no.
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One in the room needs to switch off.
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Before I share those, I thought I first want to share four of
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the. Warning signs that I.
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Know I can recognise in myself. And in friends around me.
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And these aren't the. Only warning signs out there
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but. Perhaps they're more.
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The more obvious ones today. And for these I am indebted to
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the HTB. Parenting course which?
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Lists them as signs of unhealthy control, but I also want to see
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them as four ways that fear gives itself.
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Away fear reveals itself. And if you want more of the
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parenting course wisdom, then do sign.
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Up for our parenting. Evening coffee #1.
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Monday the 29th of June and. In case you're wondering, I
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think I've. Got all four myself.
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I've got the full set. Here are some.
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Warning flags for fear. Firstly, micromanaging our
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children's lives. What today we might call the
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helicopter parenting because we are constantly hovering over
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them as they play, as they. Learn as they make friends, as
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they grow up. Maybe you're the parent that
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always has to stay for. Children's parties maybe in Kids
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group in. Church because my child gets.
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Upset if I leave. Yes, kids do that, but then they
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learn to have a bit of independence or maybe something.
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Tricky happens at school and you are straight on the phone to the
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head. This needs sorting out right
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away. My child had a bad maths lesson.
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You need to. Sort it out right now.
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Or maybe, and I have done this, they make a mistake on their
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homework and then they go to bed and you think.
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I could just adjust. It a little.
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Bit I could just make it right. The artwork's not that good, but
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I can make it look better and then they'll look.
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Better at school in the morning. And the intentions are good most
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of the time. It's not wrong to care for our
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children and want to be there for them.
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But the great danger is that our children don't grow up to.
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Think for themselves or cope in tricky situations or really grow
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up. And our fear, rational or
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irrational, is determining our parenting and it's exhausting
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for both parties because our kids never truly to be
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independent for. Themselves secondly, being over
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competitive for our children. Now last weekend was the final
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time after 12 years of me getting to watch my son.
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Joshua play football in a youth team.
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Which is a very sad moment, but it was probably a good time for
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the. Sake of the Gospel and the
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reputation of the Church. Because I am not good at.
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Watching my kids play sport, I get.
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Far too engaged and excited and may have had to apologise to a
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number. Of refs well meaning.
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Who though clearly in the wrong? And who?
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Could do with a visit to Specsavers perhaps.
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Didn't deserve to have their judgements.
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Called into question as I did. But sadly though, it's not just
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on touch. Lines of football games.
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We save faith versus not fear when.
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Our kids. Need to have the.
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Best exam results be top of the class.
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They need to read at a level two or three years above.
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Everyone else later they. Have to go to university but not
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any university. The best universities.
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Or they have to follow in our footsteps or go beyond us.
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They have to be busy everyday with lots of sports and and
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extracurricular activities perhaps to.
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Live out an unmet desire in US. Which puts so much unfair
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expectation and pressure on our children.
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And whilst it's easy to focus on the unrealistic expectations
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that our children might get from TV or social media and so put
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filters and measures in place, it's easy for us to miss.
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The even greater oppression that our own fear based expectations
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are placing on them. So it's been over competitive.
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Thirdly, it's over. Scheduling our kids lives.
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Again, this can just add to the pressure on our children and
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the. Pressure on our parenting and.
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Again, this can be so fear driven.
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Fear of them missing out on experiences that I enjoyed or I
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think they should have, Fear of them not being in the right
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crowds. Fear of them missing the the
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sport or the hobby that will guarantee the happiness and
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success and contentment that every.
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Parent wants for their child and so we.
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Fill up every. Evening with activities.
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And every weekend has. Sports and hobbies and mini.
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Breaks we have to explore new areas because we saw that on
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social media and every holiday needs to be this overseas
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odyssey. Normal life isn't good enough.
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And I know for me, comparison is really dangerous because let's
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be honest, we live in a part. Of the world with a lot of
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wealthy families. And we see other kids getting to
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do everything. So I can think that joy and
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happiness and contentment can never be.
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Found in the ordinary life or in everyday experiences like meals
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round the table, summer nights, playing in the garden, reading
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together, going to church together.
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Cheap holidays close to home where you are at the.
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Whim of English weather. So our third time was over
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scheduling. Fourthly, over protecting our
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children's lives. So you only let them play in
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those parks? With that rubber.
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Matting and definitely not the. Monkey bars because one. 100% of
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kids. Break their arms on the monkey
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bars. Every time they're used.
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And maybe you need to drive everywhere because walking
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crossing roads is just. Too dangerous it might be in
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trying to ban all. Media from their lives, meaning
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they don't grow up to discern right and wrong and.
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Like all of these things, in a way, they all come from
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conscientious parenting, because who wouldn't want to protect
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their kids? Who would knowingly put them
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anywhere near danger? And yet it's easy to see where
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fear based. Overprotection has LED our
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society. Because as they.
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Grow overprotection always. Intervening and with
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withholding. Challenging situations prevent.
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Children from taking responsibility or learning from
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their mistakes. And in the end, we have children
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who don't know how to deal. With danger or with?
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Difficult people or with setbacks?
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Because mum and dad always dealt with them first and they have a
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low frustration tolerance. They don't.
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Learn to regulate emotions and sadly, we've seen it ends up.
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With high rates of anxiety and depression and low self esteem.
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And maybe like me, whether you have your children are young or
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teenager, or maybe they've left home or and you, you see, you
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see these things, don't feel bad.
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We all do it. But do feel encouraged to move
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more and more towards faith-based parenting.
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Because if fear based parenting is most often driven by anxiety
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and control. And the need to prevent failure.
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Faith-based parenting is focused on entrusting our children to
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God, offering love and discipline, and modelling faith
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in our families. It's about teaching them to see
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danger, but also to know that our heavenly.
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Father has made it possible for us to walk the safest.
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Paths it is about being aware of.
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The times around us. But it's knowing.
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That there is a. God above and beyond all human
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culture and life situations and even world events.
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And so to help us have. Faith-based Parenting.
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I want to share 3 gifts that God has given us to grow our faith.
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And the first one is prayer. Philippian says do not be
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anxious about anything but in every.
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Situation by prayer and petition with Thanksgiving.
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Present your request to God. And the peace of God, which
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transcends all understanding, will.
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Guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
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Rather than denying our fears, acknowledge them.
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Because fear is the most common response to a dangerous,
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uncertain world. Which is why the Bible never
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just says don't have. Fear or pretend you lack fear.
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But it says there's a. Place where we can take our
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fears. This is where we.
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Take our worries about the world and about our children.
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Please don't believe the lie that you can worry.
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Yourself out of worry or reason yourself away from it, but do
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know that. Prayer is the place.
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Where you can take your worries. And if you struggle to pray,
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that's OK. Just start small.
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Just learn to. Talk with God.
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Don't try and overreach. If you're parenting alone, then
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why not invite someone? To come and pray with you and
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meet regularly maybe when your. Kids are young and it may be
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choosing to walk to school with a Christian friend and just
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spend a few moments of that journey praying together.
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With your eyes open, of course, especially crossing roads.
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Maybe you could have a prayer WhatsApp with just simple.
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Prayers from chosen friends. Or if you're a couple then
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commit to to pray everyday. Just simple, small, unimpressive
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sounding prayers as you cast all your.
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Cares on him together because he cares for us.
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And This is why I think prayer meetings should be faith fuel
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stations for parents everywhere and where others in the in the
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church can become great prayer supporters for our.
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Families. So that whatever the theme of
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the prayer meeting might be, you can be the one that keeps
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bringing it back to the babies and children and young people
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and. Parents.
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Because prayer takes fear. And it adds faith.
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The second gift is community. Hebrews 10 says and let us
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consider. How we may spur one another on.
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To love and good deeds, not giving up.
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Meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but
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encouraging one another all the more as you see the day
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approaching. Christian community is great.
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Because that's where faith is caught from others, if you.
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Lack faith, then ask for it in prayer, but also get around
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people who seem to have more. Faith.
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Than you stop listening to voices that kill faith.
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Start listening to voices that seem to build it equally.
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Being in community means some. Sometimes it means going up to
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parents who seem a bit further. Down the road than.
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You and asking how do you do it? Not that they did things
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perfectly, but faith grows through godly experience and
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people are always happy. To share their experience if we
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ask them and offer to buy them a coffee or have a meal together.
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Because sadly. Often church is the.
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Thing that gets laid aside when we get lost in overprotecting
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over scheduling and micromanaging our children's
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lives. We have time for every activity
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but but we just have to. Compromise on community so maybe
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we don't have time for connect group or meeting with other
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families or going to church and. And these things just kind of
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slip down our. Priority list.
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Which is why today I'm so grateful.
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That my parents were committed to church community as I was
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growing up and there were the four of us 4 two brothers and
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two sisters. And but my parents regularly
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fostered other children. So sometimes there were.
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Seven or eight children in the house life was crazy and they.
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Would bring in their difficult. Family situations into us.
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And yet church community was always there to keep our family
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in faith. And though I doubt I saw it or
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appreciated it back then, especially when I wanted to play
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football. On Sunday mornings.
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I do thank God for it now. So regardless of how stressed
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life can feel, learn more into community because it would.
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Be a wonderful. Source of faith.
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To keep you going. And the final gift is the word
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of God. Deuteronomy 6 says love the Lord
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your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with
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all your strength. These commandments I give.
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You today are to be on your heart, impress them on your
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children, talk about them when you sit at home and.
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When you walk along the road, when you lie down, and when you
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get up. I'm convinced that so much often
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we struggle because we ask Google before we ask God.
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AI gets to inform us more than the great I am.
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Now the Bible won't tell you how to settle.
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Your child at 2:00 AM. But it will remind you that God
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is with you there because. He never sleeps.
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It won't tell you how much screen time is safe, but it will
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speak about guarding your child's heart until they can.
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Discern right and right. It won't tell you how much
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pocket money to give, but it will teach them how to avoid the
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love of money and be generous of what God has given them which
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will protect them in the future, however much or.
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Little they earn. Spending time in God.
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'S words will help you shepherd a child's heart more than just
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react to their behaviour. It will remind you that though
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we. All mess up.
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Regularly we have. God is our Heavenly Father too,
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and he loves to give grace and. Peace and second chances.
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To those who see their need of him.
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It will help you teach godly values to weave them into daily
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life and everyday conversations so the child will.
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Carry those values. Even when we're not.
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Hovering over them because those apron springs eventually would
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need to break. And the Bible reminds.
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Us that though. We may have good.
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Intentions. God's.
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Plan for their life. Began even earlier.
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Psalm 100. And 39 says all the days
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ordained for me were written in your book before one of them
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came to be. And truths like these as we
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read. Them and meditate them and talk
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about them with our children and teach them.
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Are the best responses to our fears and the best
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encouragements to faith. So if, like me, you you look at
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your parenting and see some of those warning signs of fear, do
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consider how you can. Take hold of these gifts of
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prayer, community, and the Word of God more and more.
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To begin to starve the. Fears and feed and grow the
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faith. And then begin to see how much
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more enjoyable and sustainable and life affirming parenting
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with faith is. Rather than the chaos and the
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worry and uncertainty of parenting with fear.
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However, before I come to a close, I do just want to quickly
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add two more benefits. Of these three gifts.
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In that firstly, with each of these things, this is where we.
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Discover what God is really like and get reminded.
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Because when I speak about faith, I don't mean faith in
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ourselves or faith in the world or things that the world will
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get better faith than even in our children.
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True faith is only found in God and rooted in who He is, what
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He's like, and what He's promised and done for us.
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And so in prayer, we don't just dump our.
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Worries we we find a Heavenly Father who loves our children
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even more than we do. We see a God at work even when
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our physical eyes can only. See the problems around us?
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In community, especially as we worship and study the Word
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together and enjoy times in the Spirit, our eyes are lifted
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above the trials of life. And unto the promises of God.
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Because when we're away from community, families naturally
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tend to focus on either what's going wrong or just the constant
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everyday of life. Breakfast routines, school
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nursery clubs, uniform bills. But parents connected with other
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parents. As well as.
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Singles and other. Generations and life.
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Stages in the Church. Get to lift their gaze to what
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God is like, what He's done, and what He's doing for us every day
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and in the Word. Of God, we don't just find
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wisdom. For life or tips for happiness
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most importantly. We get to.
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See what God is like. Most notably seen in the.
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Person of Jesus. Christ, the one who drew
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children to himself. Like a magnet.
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The one who who healed the sick, who fed the hungry, who taught
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the lost, who forgave the Sinner, who ran towards the
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prodigals. Because faith comes most of.
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All when we remind ourselves what God is really like.
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Fear comes when we forget. And the second benefit is that
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these are the ways. That the rest of us can help
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support these families. First, you can encourage and
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give faith through prayer. Just going up to.
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Parents saying well done, he got through another week.
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It's not easy, but can I? Pray for you how?
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Easy would it be to send a message to someone in your small
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group or someone? You see on Sundays.
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And just say I'm just going to be praying for you this week.
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Is there anything particular you're worried?
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About and then expect an avalanche.
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Earlier this year in our Mother's Day talk, Lou shared
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about a couple who've supported and prayed for our kids before
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since before they were born. And she still.
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Sends encouragement. She remembers their birthday.
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She wants to know their exam schedule.
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You could be. A prayer support.
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Like that and the impact that it's had on us and our children.
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I'll be eternally grateful for that.
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Secondly, be an example of faith in your church.
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Family speak faith over others. Speak faith into others, give
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space and room for their faith to grow, which might be offering
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to hold their baby while they're in.
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Live wise so the mum can be in here and get faith from God's
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Word and get ministry and just take a breath.
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Sometimes it means sitting in a different place on a Sunday so
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that our worship gets to bless those who are just trying to
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juggle children and meet with. God, if you aren't a parent, you
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have an incredibly important role too.
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You get to live faith around these parents.
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And you get to ask God. For words and share.
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Them on Sundays and. Write them on cards and
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demonstrate faith around them. It will make such a.
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Difference and finally God. 'S word.
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I love seeing adults who have children have left home, or
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perhaps adults who sadly. Never had kids of their own.
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Committing to teaching. What God is like through?
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Our in the Bible. Through our kids and youth
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programmes. Which if you've seen the size of
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our groups. Always needs more helpers.
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Thank you if you do that teaching what God is like to
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young people. Despite the cost of.
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Your time, Maybe the cost of your dreams of retirement.
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Sometimes even your health. Because let's face it.
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Kids are germ factories. Thank you.
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If you do that. But let me put.
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This nicely. We need a lot more of you.
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So maybe God might be stirring faith in you to inspire.
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Faith in the next generation? Maybe when you said we will
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earlier. Agreeing to help.
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These. Children being dedicated, maybe
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this is what God might want it to look like for you.
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And so as I come to a close, not only do these gifts.
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Inspire faith in parents. Ultimately reminding them what
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God. Is like and remembering his
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promises. But they're also ways that the
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rest of us can be a source of faith to the busiest and most
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fear prone families in the church.
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And yes, it will cost us, but what an impact it will have.
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On these parents and these children.
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What a church. Community it will build around
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us, and what a light of hope it will be to all the fearful
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families in our community around us.
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Let's pray together, Father God, we do.
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Lift up, not just the families. Being dedicated but all families
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in our church. We pray for those.
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Who are struggling with fear? Who are?
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Listening to the world. Or listening to.
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Some advice from friends. Or family that is just bringing
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fear. Maybe there were flags?
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That they recognised in their own life and I pray that you
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would instill faith into families today in Jesus name.
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And I pray for each of us that we would find ways to inspire
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faith. In others through prayer
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through. Being more community by by
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speaking God's word into. These families that we would.
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Be a source of. Faith to these families as well.
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Would you create in us a community of faith more and more
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through the gifts that you've given us?
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In Jesus name we pray, Amen. Thank you for listening to the
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Dorchester Family Church Podcast.
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We pray that God's Word ignited a flame in you today to burn
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brighter for Him. But the journey doesn't stop
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here. Stay motivated by visiting
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dfc.org.uk to get plugged into community, join a small group,
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find serving opportunities, and take your next steps in joyfully
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living out your faith every day. Please join us next week as we
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continue being equipped to wholeheartedly worship,
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intentionally grow, and boldly go make disciples.
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Grace and peace until next time.