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Loving & Lifting: The Weight We Carry So They Can Rise · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, realizing everyone is always learning and
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  living your full experience.
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  This is where we live out loud on purpose and with purpose.
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  I'm Coach C, your host, and this is Season 2, Episode 2, Loving and Lifting,
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  The Weight We Carry So They Can Rise.
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  Motherhood will have you doing two things at the same time that don't always feel the same.
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  Loving and lifting. And if we're honest, sometimes the lifting feels heavier than the loving.
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  Because loving, that part usually comes natural.
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  But lifting, lifting requires lessons when they don't want to hear it.
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  Limits when they want freedom.
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  Listening when you're exhausted. light when they're walking through dark moments,
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  letting go when you want to hold on.
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  And here's the truth nobody sugarcoats. Lifting ain't always soft.
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  Sometimes it looks like saying no when they want yes, holding them accountable
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  when it would be easier to excuse, standing firm when they test every boundary you set.
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  Because we're not just raising children, we're raising decision makers.
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  We're raising people who have to navigate life, handle pressure, own their choices.
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  And that means sometimes our love has to come with weight, not to break them, but to build them.
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  Now, let's talk about the part that hits different.
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  The lifting gets heavier when they're growing through challenges, choices, changes.
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  When life starts introducing them to real consequences and you feel it, you carry it,
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  you pray through it, you coach through it, you cry about it in private and still
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  show up steady in public. That's lifting.
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  And yes, sometimes it's tough love, not because we're hard, but because we understand
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  something they don't yet.
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  Life doesn't bend just because you're not ready. So we prepare them anyway.
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  We correct, we guide, we discipline,
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  not out of anger, but out of assignment, because sparing them now can cost them
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  later, and we refuse to raise children who crumble when life applies pressure,
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  so we lift even when it's heavy.
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  Loving makes them feel safe, but lifting makes them strong.
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  And if you're doing both, you're not being too much. You're being exactly what
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  they need. Now, here's your fearless homework.
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  Number one, think about one situation right now where you've been struggling
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  between being soft and being strong as a mother.
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  Write it down. Then ask yourself, am I loving them in a way that feels good?
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  Or lifting them in a way that builds them. And this week, number two,
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  I want you to do one thing.
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  Choose the response that develops them, not just the one that comforts them.
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  Because motherhood isn't about raising children who feel good all the time.
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  It's about raising children who can stand when life doesn't feel good at all.
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  This is Real Talk where we're realizing everyone is always learning and living your full experience.
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  This is Coach C. I'll see you in the next one.