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Someone followed Abby after she left the club!! · Scotty and Abby UNFILTERED

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  Speaker 1: Tampa Bay's Best Music is magazine and welcome to another
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  Speaker 1: episode of Scotty.
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  Speaker 2: And Abby Unfiltered.
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  Speaker 1: But there's been so many things that have been happening
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  Speaker 1: behind the scenes here that I'm so excited that we
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  Speaker 1: get to dive into. But we also need updates, updates
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  Speaker 1: on where the hell the text message has gone. So
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  Speaker 1: on yesterday's podcast, we finally had the great news that,
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  Speaker 1: you know, the dude that somebody was trying to hook
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  Speaker 1: you up with here in the office, they sent you
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  Speaker 1: a message.
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  Speaker 3: I thought the curse had been lifted.
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  Speaker 1: It seems like okay, because before we were going to
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  Speaker 1: get in like a rabbi and a priest and a
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  Speaker 1: shaman and just to clear the air in the studio.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what we might need those in general, Well,
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  Speaker 2: that might.
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  Speaker 1: Not be a bad idea. I just don't know what
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  Speaker 1: you've done in your past.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know either. I've been you know, I'm not
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  Speaker 3: a perfect person, like I have trust me, like nobody
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  Speaker 3: is a bigger hater of Abby Murphy than Abby Murphy.
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  Speaker 2: Yikes.
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  Speaker 3: But I really haven't done anything egregious to be warranted
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  Speaker 3: this kind of treatment in my love life.
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  Speaker 1: Because what has happened every other time, Like we've had
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  Speaker 1: people that you've met over a good night, John Boy,
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  Speaker 1: people that you've met over on what Bay shore, Bason
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  Speaker 1: Bay shorts.
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  Speaker 3: I just have this curse that I get the what's
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  Speaker 3: the sport term, not the fifty yard line?
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  Speaker 2: Like, oh, like the goal line.
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  Speaker 3: I get to like the goal line, and I'm about
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  Speaker 3: to cross the goal line, and then it's like the
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  Speaker 3: universe just comes and sacks me. But like, I haven't
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  Speaker 3: done anything. It's not like I'm some bumbling, awkward fool
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  Speaker 3: and I keep fumbling at the at the goal line.
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  Speaker 3: It's like the universe is just kind of like e psych.
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  Speaker 1: It's like get your hopes up and never hear from
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  Speaker 1: the gut. Like it's the weirdest thing. Because for guys,
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  Speaker 1: and I understand, one of the biggest problems in dating
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  Speaker 1: right now is guys we don't know how to approach
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  Speaker 1: women or start a conversation, or we get a little
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  Speaker 1: too nervous or in her head. And I do love
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  Speaker 1: the one thing that Ivy always talks about is like
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  Speaker 1: supporting guys on shooting their shot.
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  Speaker 3: I'm a big proponent of a li allowing a man
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  Speaker 3: to shoot a shot. I will never shame you in
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  Speaker 3: public unless I'm really really drunk that I might like
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  Speaker 3: let something slip. I'm like, it happens. It happens the bests.
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  Speaker 3: But I have a pretty good record of always making
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  Speaker 3: sure that I honor that person in the moment if
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  Speaker 3: they asked me out or give me attention. I don't
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  Speaker 3: ever want to shame you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, which is super awesome because that's the thing that
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  Speaker 1: we fear the most. It's like, I'm gonna go to
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  Speaker 1: the bar, I'm gonna say hello, and you're gonna be
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  Speaker 1: with the group of friends, and you're gonna look at
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  Speaker 1: me like, who are you? Like, all right, well, I'm
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  Speaker 1: a piece of crap. So I'm gona go ahead and
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  Speaker 1: leave this situation now. But yesterday we came in We're like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, the curse has been lifted. This guy
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  Speaker 1: texted you. I don't even know what this guy looks like.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't even know who this guy looked like until yesterday.
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  Speaker 2: So what has happened in the past twenty four hours.
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  Speaker 3: So this is the guy that I got set up
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  Speaker 3: with by our coworker in sales. At the Raise game,
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  Speaker 3: they had this mutual friend's son, and so I gave
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  Speaker 3: this person my number literally a month ago, and I
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  Speaker 3: hadn't heard anything. So I was like, okay, classic at
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  Speaker 3: the goal line, like this person's interested, and then all
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  Speaker 3: of a sudden, they're not. And so then I ran
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  Speaker 3: into her mutual friend at this club on Friday, which
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  Speaker 3: I think pushed things alat because then I heard from
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  Speaker 3: him on Sunday. He was very enthusiastic. He said he
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  Speaker 3: was very excited to meet me, and I was like, oh, okay,
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  Speaker 3: I don't know why, but okay, you're a kid. And
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  Speaker 3: so I told him that I have a pretty flexible schedule.
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  Speaker 3: I just can't really stay out super late on weekdays.
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  Speaker 3: And so I haven't heard from him. If you're listening
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  Speaker 3: to this now, it's Wednesday, but we're recording this on
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  Speaker 3: Tuesday morning. I still haven't heard from him. I texted
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  Speaker 3: him Sunday night.
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  Speaker 2: Was it only like two texts and to go back
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  Speaker 2: and forth for a little.
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  Speaker 3: Bit anything, I'll tell you what I said, because he
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  Speaker 3: pulled up his name.
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  Speaker 1: I always try to give the benefit of the doubt
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  Speaker 1: of maybe they're busy and their job is really intensive
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  Speaker 1: and they missed text messages. But then I think again,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, man, when I was interested, I wasn't
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  Speaker 1: missing a text.
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  Speaker 3: Well, it's not that I don't think he's not interested,
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  Speaker 3: because he sounds very interested. I mean, there's a lot
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  Speaker 3: of exclamation points. He's been very complimentary. He said he's
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  Speaker 3: been listening to the station allegedly. I don't know that
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  Speaker 3: I believe that, because then he's like, sohu, do you
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  Speaker 3: work nine to five. I'm like, well, I'm on the
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  Speaker 3: air from six to ten, but maybe no. So I
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  Speaker 3: brought that up. I went back to sales because I
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  Speaker 3: was trying to find the person that set me up
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  Speaker 3: with him to let him know, or to let her
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  Speaker 3: know because she wanted updates. She's on vacation. So I
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  Speaker 3: was back with a bunch of the other sales girls
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  Speaker 3: and I was giving them the tea and one of
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  Speaker 3: the sales ladies was like, oh, but they just like,
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  Speaker 3: they don't know what we do. They don't work in radio.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, I feel like, if you hear me from
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  Speaker 3: six to ten, you know, I'm probably on the air
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  Speaker 3: and studio for Mixcent anyway. Whatever, It's fine, I'm nitpicking here,
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  Speaker 3: but this person has just been very complimentary in the
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  Speaker 3: text messages. I literally he said, I'd love to meet
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  Speaker 3: you soon. I've heard a lot of positive things.
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  Speaker 2: Ha ha, that sounds great. Think.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, well, they're lying.
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  Speaker 1: So but since then they haven't said anything else, like
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  Speaker 1: I mean, you might have had a little back and forth,
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  Speaker 1: but yeah, they're doing the same thing that we've seen
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  Speaker 1: in the past.
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  Speaker 3: They do the hard thing. They ask me out and
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  Speaker 3: then I go, yeah, I would love to go out
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  Speaker 3: with you, and then they go So I said, I'm
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  Speaker 3: usually in from six to twelve is depending on the day.
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  Speaker 3: And I said, that's so good to hear talking about
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  Speaker 3: the positive things. And then I said, just let me
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  Speaker 3: know one's good for you. I'm pretty flexible, but I
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  Speaker 3: can't stay out too late on school nights. Huh. And
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  Speaker 3: then I didn't hear from him. So then I started
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  Speaker 3: kind of freaking out because I told you yesterday during
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  Speaker 3: our recording, I actually don't know what this guy looks like.
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  Speaker 3: I remember vaguely seeing a photo and my biggest turn
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  Speaker 3: on is a guy with long brown hair like hockey hair.
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  Speaker 3: All the guys in off campus.
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  Speaker 1: I was going to say, all of those guys have
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  Speaker 1: the best flow I have ever seen.
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  Speaker 2: It's stupid.
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  Speaker 3: Flow is my turn on, Like I honestly, you could
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  Speaker 3: be five nine with good flow, and I'm like into it.
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  Speaker 2: Well, first off, there's nothing wrong with five mins.
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  Speaker 3: There's nothing wrong with five nights. But people always give
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  Speaker 3: me a hard time for saying I only take guys
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  Speaker 3: who are six foot taller. But like, literally, honestly, I
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  Speaker 3: stand by that if you have good hair and good
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  Speaker 3: muscles and a good job and you're nice to people, oh.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, and a good family and a good background.
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  Speaker 1: Family like animals, and maybe every now and then you pray,
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  Speaker 1: it might help any work.
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  Speaker 3: So anyway, I couldn't find this guy on social media.
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  Speaker 3: I could not find him. And because we couldn't, I
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  Speaker 3: couldn't figure out how to spell his last name. His
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  Speaker 3: name isn't crazy different, but there are two different spellings.
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  Speaker 3: It can either respell it this way or that way.
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  Speaker 3: So I was back there with the sales leady yesterday
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  Speaker 3: and they said, well, you can probably find him on Snapchat.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, well, dear God, I mean I'm twenty nine,
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  Speaker 3: and I hope, I hope he's not on Snapchat, but
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  Speaker 3: they said you can probably find how to spell his name,
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  Speaker 3: so shout out to our digital girl packson. He pulled
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  Speaker 3: up Snapchat with me and I found him. It's Avatar's
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  Speaker 3: a unicorn, by the way. I'm a little concerned. I'm kidding.
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  Speaker 3: I got a little got a little bit of the ick.
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  Speaker 3: But I saw that. But then I saw his username,
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  Speaker 3: and then I found him on Facebook.
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  Speaker 1: I am so interested in how the hell you found
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  Speaker 1: him on Snapchat.
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  Speaker 3: But because it links your contacts, it'll be like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: if you have a new contact, it'll pull up their name.
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  Speaker 2: Oh that's creepy.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: Did you have Snapchat on your phone before this moment?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah? I mean I've had Snapchat since college, but I
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  Speaker 3: don't go on Snapchat.
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  Speaker 2: I had deleted that many moons ago.
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  Speaker 1: I see friends open up snatchat and I like, look
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  Speaker 1: away because I'm like, I don't know it's about to
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  Speaker 1: pop up on your page.
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  Speaker 2: I'm good, y'all dirty.
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  Speaker 3: I like going on it to see my memories from
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  Speaker 3: college because it always does this day in history thing.
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  Speaker 3: I love seeing that. But other than that, I'm not
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  Speaker 3: posting on snapchat. That's a university thing.
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  Speaker 2: So you found him.
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  Speaker 3: So I found him, And I think your reaction is
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  Speaker 3: going to be the same reaction that I had when
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  Speaker 3: I saw it, because it was such a visceral reaction
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  Speaker 3: because I'm thinking, oh my god, did I say yes
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  Speaker 3: to this gremlin. I don't really even know what he
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  Speaker 3: looks like. I just know that he has good hair,
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  Speaker 3: and that's my one thing. So I said yes. But
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  Speaker 3: I was really tipsy when I saw this girl. So
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't know that I even think he's cute.
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  Speaker 3: I think I just saw his hair and said.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, do is tipsy?
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  Speaker 1: You have good Like Okay, let me go ahead. And
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  Speaker 1: I say this because sometimes and we have a little
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  Speaker 1: too much. I have like just I've made out with
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  Speaker 1: people in my past that when I got sober, I
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  Speaker 1: was like, Scott, what the hell.
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  Speaker 2: What are you doing? You're doing? What the hell were
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  Speaker 2: you thinking?
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  Speaker 3: I haven't had a makeout with anybody I think is unattractive?
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  Speaker 3: But yeah, maybe it makes you a little bit friendlier.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so it's like you're a little more open
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  Speaker 1: to just possibility.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm just the friendliest version of myself. And so
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  Speaker 3: maybe friendly me wasn't being as discerning as sober Abby
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  Speaker 3: would have been, because that so Rabby is very discerning.
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  Speaker 2: That's very true.
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  Speaker 3: So anyway, I'm gonna show you this his profile picture.
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  Speaker 2: So I have not seen a picture of him yet.
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  Speaker 3: Make sure your mike, because I want I want the
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  Speaker 3: people to get your reaction. Okay, let me turn out
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  Speaker 3: my brightness all the way.
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  Speaker 2: Is it like a shirtless picture?
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  Speaker 3: Hang on? Just are you ready?
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  Speaker 2: I'm ready? Oh god, I'm so scared.
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  Speaker 3: Three oh two one, Oh, oh.
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  Speaker 1: My god, Holy crap. Okay, now that is like Jesus Christ.
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  Speaker 1: That's a good looking man right there. Oh my god, that's.
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  Speaker 3: That was my exact response. I think my exact response
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  Speaker 3: was oh my god, because I was like, I just
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  Speaker 3: hope he's I just hope I can look at him
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  Speaker 3: and not be grossed out. And then I saw him.
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  Speaker 3: I like, he's actually really odd.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, this is like when Abby describes the guys
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  Speaker 1: that she's into that that seems pretty damn spot on.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I did tall brunette m hmm with his mom
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  Speaker 3: in front of a wine cellar.
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  Speaker 2: I know, it's like he likes he has a good
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  Speaker 2: relationship with his mom. He likes wine.
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  Speaker 3: Oh and I found his mom's house. They lived on
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  Speaker 3: the water.
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  Speaker 2: You did not find it totally? Oh my god.
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  Speaker 3: Well, because they said he bought a house, I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: I wonder what. I was like, I wonder what his
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  Speaker 3: house looks like. So I googled him and then the
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  Speaker 3: first thing that comes up is their address. I didn't
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  Speaker 3: have to look that hard. Long story short, and I
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  Speaker 3: was like, oh, Christmas will be really fun next.
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  Speaker 2: Year, kiddie. What else did you find out about this guy?
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  Speaker 3: Literally that's it because that's the only photo he has posted.
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  Speaker 3: And then I found and then I googled his name
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  Speaker 3: and then the address came up, and then that's literally it.
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  Speaker 2: So you did see his new house that he got.
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  Speaker 3: No, I saw his. I think it's his parents house.
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  Speaker 3: If I had to, if I had to give an
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  Speaker 3: educated guest, that's his parents house.
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  Speaker 1: This is so creepy, so it might get taken out.
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  Speaker 1: But is it local.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, it's local mozzle Top mozele Top to them.
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  Speaker 3: But that's I'm like, that's definitely his parents' house.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, absolutely.
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  Speaker 3: Because I also found out that he's younger than me,
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  Speaker 3: and so I was like, oh, my a little bit nervosa.
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  Speaker 2: About that how much younger because I got a couple.
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  Speaker 3: Of years, a couple of years, I.
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  Speaker 1: Continued, and I think this is because I'm the younger
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  Speaker 1: guy in my relationship. But like I continue to see
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  Speaker 1: those stories of like ladies date a younger man.
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  Speaker 3: You're only younger by like a year, a year, year.
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  Speaker 2: And a half. Yeah, not much, But I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I think we just kind of bring an energy that
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  Speaker 1: you know, you don't get from somebody that's older than you.
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  Speaker 3: So it's more than a year and a half. I mean,
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  Speaker 3: it's not like a crazy age guy. But he's twenty six. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: that's nothing, So he does meet my twenty five rule.
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  Speaker 3: I have a nobody under twenty five rule. If your
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  Speaker 3: frontal lobe is not developed, I don't want anything to
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  Speaker 3: do with you romantically.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta let them get to the stage. And
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  Speaker 1: they also got to be established. Like that's the biggest thing,
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  Speaker 1: is like have your stuff figured out so then we
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  Speaker 1: could actually start properly dating. You're not trying to piece
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  Speaker 1: together your life and like you're fumbling and maybe you're
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  Speaker 1: you want somebody that actually could live up to the
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  Speaker 1: standard that you're.
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  Speaker 2: At right now.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, well I want them to be at the same
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  Speaker 3: level as the twenty nine year olds and the thirty
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  Speaker 3: year olds that I'm dating. And to be fair, everybody's
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  Speaker 3: age is different. No thirty one year old is the
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  Speaker 3: exact same maturity wise, Like, I've met guys who are
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  Speaker 3: extremely immature who are in their forties.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, a lot of homes.
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  Speaker 3: So it's not to say that is the only thing
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  Speaker 3: you should be judging based off of maturity, but it's
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  Speaker 3: a good litmus test. And because guys mature later than women,
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  Speaker 3: I think the younger thing is also a little bit
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  Speaker 3: freaky in the sense that like, okay, you're younger, and
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  Speaker 3: statistically you're more immature. So it's just I'm a little
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  Speaker 3: I'm cautious.
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  Speaker 1: It's so funny because I don't know anything about this dude,
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  Speaker 1: but already I'm like.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, it looks like a pretty mature guy. I
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  Speaker 2: don't know why.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, he looks like a man. Like I didn't
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  Speaker 3: look at him and go, oh, that's a younger man
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  Speaker 3: than me. I was like, oh, we would look about
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  Speaker 3: the same age.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, he dressed nice, he has a great body, he's
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  Speaker 2: good hands, good hand he's for.
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  Speaker 3: Sure listening to this.
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  Speaker 2: Should we wave again? Jesus? I guess.
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  Speaker 1: Well, here's the thing I was thinking about yesterday because
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  Speaker 1: I was like, oh God, are we sabotaging any potential
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  Speaker 1: dates because we talk about these things so publicly. But
• 12:44
  Speaker 1: the rule is, if you're gonna be with a personality like,
• 12:47
  Speaker 1: that's what it's like. So the person, whoever it is,
• 12:50
  Speaker 1: they're just gonna be cool with it.
• 12:51
  Speaker 3: I think I haven't been burned enough to feel super
• 12:56
  Speaker 3: cautious about it. I do feel like I am pretty
• 12:58
  Speaker 3: good about not talking about people once they're in my life.
• 13:00
  Speaker 3: I do think I've gotten better about that. But until
• 13:03
  Speaker 3: you're in my life, I think I feel a little
• 13:04
  Speaker 3: bit more free being like he he. And also, we're
• 13:07
  Speaker 3: being very complimentary to this guy. We're like, oh, he's hot,
• 13:09
  Speaker 3: he's great hands for real.
• 13:10
  Speaker 2: I'm like, all right, come on, now.
• 13:12
  Speaker 3: His parents have a nice house. Like, we're being very complimentary.
• 13:15
  Speaker 3: And at the end of the day, yeah, I guess
• 13:17
  Speaker 3: you do kind of need to know what you're getting into.
• 13:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like this isn't bad at all, and then
• 13:20
  Speaker 1: you set the groundwork for what it looks like in
• 13:22
  Speaker 1: the future, Like not everything gets shared and you kind
• 13:24
  Speaker 1: of have those boundaries set up. Like that's the one
• 13:27
  Speaker 1: thing I've and I've talked about this before when I
• 13:29
  Speaker 1: first was on radio and I was first dating someone,
• 13:32
  Speaker 1: everything got put out in the air, our fights, family dynamics,
• 13:36
  Speaker 1: the problems in our relationships, to all the concerns.
• 13:39
  Speaker 2: Now, that's the wrong way to go about it. They
• 13:40
  Speaker 2: were not on board.
• 13:41
  Speaker 1: That is not what they signed up for because they
• 13:43
  Speaker 1: were with me before radio, and then they happened to
• 13:44
  Speaker 1: be with me as I got into radio. Now you
• 13:47
  Speaker 1: know person I'm with now, my girlfriend. They knew exactly
• 13:53
  Speaker 1: dat he's got a group now it's it's important that
• 13:56
  Speaker 1: they know what they're stepping into.
• 13:58
  Speaker 2: This is the world of sharing your life share And
• 14:00
  Speaker 2: that was.
• 14:01
  Speaker 1: Always like the biggest caveat, like they gotta be cool
• 14:03
  Speaker 1: with it or else this is going to be a
• 14:04
  Speaker 1: little awkward. And to try to get somebody on board
• 14:06
  Speaker 1: that's not going to be on board, you're just kind
• 14:08
  Speaker 1: of walking to the fire.
• 14:10
  Speaker 2: Don't want to do that.
• 14:11
  Speaker 1: So I hope that actually something happens with that guy,
• 14:13
  Speaker 1: because that guy seems great.
• 14:14
  Speaker 3: Well, we have a fun storyline and so listen, like
• 14:16
  Speaker 3: it's not like I've I've divulged everything we've ever talked
• 14:19
  Speaker 3: about ever, Like he asked me out. I found him
• 14:21
  Speaker 3: on Instagram or I found him on Facebook, found his
• 14:23
  Speaker 3: mom's house. I'm like, my guess is totally above board.
• 14:26
  Speaker 3: I found his ill a link and it's fine. Yeah,
• 14:28
  Speaker 3: fun type is O positive.
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: I mean when I was first talking to my now girlfriend,
• 14:33
  Speaker 1: she had a friend that run out a whole background
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: check on me.
• 14:36
  Speaker 3: Oh, like a literal background literal background check, you find
• 14:38
  Speaker 3: anything interesting.
• 14:39
  Speaker 2: No, there's nothing on me.
• 14:40
  Speaker 1: I am a straight laced dude, Like I've done some
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: wild stuff that is not in any public record. Luckily
• 14:46
  Speaker 1: I wasn't putting that on Snapchat. I did in college
• 14:48
  Speaker 1: things of you know, just going out my out adventures.
• 14:51
  Speaker 1: But I've never been arrested. I've gotten speaking tickets. I
• 14:54
  Speaker 1: think that's the only thing that they saw my record
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: and who hasn't exactly. But there's nothing like really bad there.
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: But it was kind of interesting because we talk about
• 15:02
  Speaker 1: how I mean, one women are like FBI agents, Oh.
• 15:05
  Speaker 3: For sure, I mean I literally it took me a while,
• 15:06
  Speaker 3: but I still found him.
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: Like we're us dudes, like we'll just kind of we
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: give up on it after like the first look, I
• 15:11
  Speaker 1: don't even know if I like really search, I'll like
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: go through your Instagram and that's it.
• 15:15
  Speaker 3: What Okay, this is a really interesting question. So you're
• 15:17
  Speaker 3: watching Off Campus, right. So one of my favorite parts
• 15:20
  Speaker 3: about that show is I think it is a perfect
• 15:24
  Speaker 3: snap into what it's like to date as a young
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: person in twenty twenty six because they show so much
• 15:29
  Speaker 3: social media of what you do when you go to somebody.
• 15:32
  Speaker 3: When you're like, have a crush on someone, you you
• 15:34
  Speaker 3: you find them on Instagram and then you started to
• 15:37
  Speaker 3: scrolling through. I'm wondering, what is the first thing you
• 15:40
  Speaker 3: noticed about your lady's Instagram when you found her.
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: I loved her personality in her pictures because it just
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: like they're Okay, there's one picture where she's like.
• 15:52
  Speaker 3: She is she got a broobs out. We pull up
• 15:55
  Speaker 3: her Instagram, we're thinking we're talking.
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: About she was seeking like an animal, but she was
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: doing it in a really fun anyway, where like she
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: had a carrot in her mouth and she was feeding
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: a horse.
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: That carrot, and I was like, this girl's fun.
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: That just shows like she's fun, she's goofy, she's down
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: to do things that are just like just different, not
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: your standard like, oh, look at me perfectly posed and
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: I have the perfect lighting. I wasn't looking for that.
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: But I mean there's other pictures too that I was like,
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: oh my god.
• 16:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah she's beautiful.
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 16:21
  Speaker 3: Do you feel any type of way now that people
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: have figured out who she is?
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: No, I mean I actually what I really like is
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: I like that I haven't even put it out there
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: fully because I mean we've had a couple of soft
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: launches and if you know, you know, like I don't
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: mind if people find out.
• 16:35
  Speaker 3: What the heck I didn't know if you were trying
• 16:37
  Speaker 3: to protect your privacy because a lot of people were
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: dming me this week and being like, oh my god,
• 16:40
  Speaker 3: I figured out who it is. Yeah, I figured out that.
• 16:42
  Speaker 3: I think confirm or do not.
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: I was just kind of like, no, people could definitely
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: know because again, like now it's one, it's official, so
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: I mean, that's going to be something that's going to
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: be shared. But I am and we are not, like
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: we don't need to just put it all out there.
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: It's kind of fun, like there's things that we could
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: just kind of keep in our own little bubble. Our
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: friends know, we know each other's friends. We're making plans
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: with friends like I love that. And then as time
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: goes on, eventually there will be the hard launch that's like, oh,
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: hello world.
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: Who do you have ideas on how you want a
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: hard launch?
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: Well, no, I don't, because I think there's gonna be
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: a lot of things that happen in the next couple
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: weeks and months that could probably even help.
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: Oh, like the wedding you're going to, Yeah, going to
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: a wedever wedding date or at least can you imagine
• 17:22
  Speaker 3: if you posted it with the caption wedding date for
• 17:25
  Speaker 3: the next six months?
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: Oh my god?
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: You god.
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: Well, I think what's fun is we have so many
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: photos that were like just months ago, and so in
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: my head, what I imagine is the hard launch will be like, oh,
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: here's actually what's been going on, and it's like boom,
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: like from March until now, until June and July, like
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: all these little moments that kind of add up to
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: what actually has been going on behind the scenes.
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: I think about those.
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: Things when I get a boyfriend, I'm really gonna drag
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: it out.
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: Well, that's why it's kind of fun.
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: Like that's why I say, like, I like sharing the
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: stories here of what we've done. But also it's kind
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: of nice not having everything out there for everyone to
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: make comments on, for everyone to have their opinion on.
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: It's kind of cool.
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: And I feel like very safe with the podcast fam
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: because a one, like, I'm already getting messages from people
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: about the last episode where I got to announce, and.
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: They're just like super excited, super supportive. Yeah, they're the best,
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: And I'm like, thank you, Like that's awesome.
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: That's the kind of support that I would want to
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: have because you all get the full story here. It's
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: not just a quick little hit on the radio show
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: of like all right, by the way.
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: It's official, middle official, and it's like cut into one minute.
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: No, you guys get to hear the whole entire run
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: through of where it started, where it is now. And
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: so I like that side we could actually support the
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: whole story.
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: It's beautiful.
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: It's been a beautiful story to follow.
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: Scott Ward, thank you.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: One of the things that we were talking about behind
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: the scenes and then you put on your Instagram was
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: your damn trip.
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: To get your car fixed. Oh my god.
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: Now I've been waiting to talk about this because this
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: is insanity because we've been joking in the studio as
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: like we were doing this whole money giveaway and it's like, ahy.
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: You got to go get your car fixed.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: And you're like, I just don't feel like, you know,
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: spending that much money.
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: I'm like, how much money could it be? Because what
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: was it? It was just your AC.
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: So I haven't gotten my car service in a while.
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: I think the last time I got it service was
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: maybe November, and so it's been a minute and I've
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: been I've been I've been dragging it out because my
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: AC has been going out. And also, last time I
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: went to get my oil changed, the lady was like, oh,
• 19:20
  Speaker 3: your brake pads might need changing. So I just know.
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: I'm like, they already up charged you for xyz amount
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: of things. I'm like, the next time I go, I
• 19:27
  Speaker 3: need to be emotionally ready for a big bill. And
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: so I finally made an appointment because it's getting ungodly
• 19:35
  Speaker 3: hot in Tampa. I think it was ninety two yesterday, yes,
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: And so I was like, I physically can't sweat in
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: my car anymore. It started to become like a hygiene issue.
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: So hear me like, I'm like showing up the place
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: to sweaty. I'm like, I need to fix this. So
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: I take my car to a place which shall relate
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: your name, shall renit? What's the word? Shall remain nameless?
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: I feel like my brain is not working this week
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: shall remain nameless? And I I was fully prepared to
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: spend a couple hundred dollars, like I was thinking maybe
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: seventy eight hundred dollars max. So I roll up and
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: I'm already kind of in a bad mood because there
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: was a huge line and I'm calling the place. I'm like, hey,
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: do I like, do I bring my keys inside? Do
• 20:13
  Speaker 3: I sit in the car? So I was sitting in
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: my afty list car for like thirty minutes good, and
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: all of a sudden, this guy pulls up. He's like,
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: are you on the phone or something. I said no,
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: I'm I'm waiting for you to get my keys, and
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: he goes, what do you mean. I'm like, well, they
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: told me to, Like I mean, you were gonna come
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: get my keys and I and he was like, no,
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: you go inside and drop them off. So I was like,
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: so I'm sitting there, I'm like in a pool of sweat.
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: I go inside, good guy, and I'm like, I'm here
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: to drop off my car. So this guy at the
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: counter comes and starts, you know, he starts talking to
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: me about my car. He's like, so, what's going on.
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: I'm like, I just need my I'm I'm already kind
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: of on the defense if I'm honestly. First of all,
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: I'm a little pissed off because i just had there
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: for thirty minutes and I'm sweaty. Second of all, I'm
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: very much in fighter flight mode because i know, as
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: a young single woman of a certain age, I'm gonna
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: get taken in.
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: That's what I was gonna say.
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: It's like it's already automatic that whatever they say, because
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: and it's one, it's definitely enhanced because like all those
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: things that you just said, but especially for us that
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: don't know anything about cars, like this happened to me
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: just what two months ago.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: I was like, damn it.
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: They know they know you don't know anything.
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: I have no idea what they're showing me. They show
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: me the oil stick, I don't know what the hell
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: the line is supposed to be. There's looks good. I'm like,
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: it looks good.
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: They're just bullshitty.
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: They can show that it's covered in ketchup and it
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: looks good.
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: No idea, So you should get McDonald's.
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: Like you're already at a disadvantage, which I would like
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: to say is not fair, but at the same time
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: it's I guess I could learn, but I could already
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: say I could understand that's not right.
• 21:40
  Speaker 3: You don't go to the doctor and expect to know
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: everything about your body, but you kind of have to
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: because sometimes the doctors don't know what they're doing. Like
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my God, might have to be responsible
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: for everything. Literally, Do I have to go to med
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: school too? So I need to go to mechanics school too?
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: So I pull up and I'm trying to make it
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: very evident I am not the one today. I am
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: not the one or the two.
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: Don't f around.
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: I am not the one, two or three. So he's
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: talking to me. I'm like, I need my oil change
• 22:03
  Speaker 3: and there's something wrong with my AC. I think I'm
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: out of cooland and he goes, actually, it's free on.
• 22:08
  Speaker 3: And I look at him and I go, okay, whatever,
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: just fix it, and he goes, well, actually it's probably
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: not the free on. We have to go in and
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: we do d da da da da da da. And
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: I look at him and I go, how much is
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: that gonna cost? And he goes two hundred and fifty
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: dollars and I'm like, oh my god, they're already doing it,
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: Like he hasn't even looked inside my car and he's
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: already even faking. He's already charging me three hundred dollars
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: just because he has to inspect it. I'm like, shouldn't
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: the inspection be a part of this whole stick? So
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: I'm like whatever. So then I passed him over my
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: keys and to me, my keys are seven years old.
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: They're a little busted. And then he holds him up
• 22:40
  Speaker 3: and he dangles them in front of his face and
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: he goes, what's going on here? And I look at
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: him and I go they're broken. And I just am
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: so done. I'm like literally, I'm like, just look at
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: my car, put the free on in it, and then
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: call it aday a refrigerant.
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: Let's go, let's go.
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: So then he goes, so are you gonna be staying here?
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: Are you gonna be leaving? And I go I'm leaving.
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: I was like, I'm not the one today, do not
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: do not fuck with my credit card today.
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: I get that.
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: So I left and I thought, fuck, did I just
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: play that wrong? Because I'm like, is it better to
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: show don't call me with a big bill or are
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: they gonna now up charge me because he thinks I'm
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: a bitch.
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: I mean, they can't really necessarily do anything to your
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: car until you agree or sign on to it.
• 23:19
  Speaker 3: Well, but they can still give you a bigger quote
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: because they can say X y and z and z
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: y x or whatever. So I leave, I go to
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: my and I decide I'm gonna go to my house
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: and I'm just gonna get some work done. I'm gonna
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: binge off campus again.
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah that's right. Let me do something that makes me
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: feel good.
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: It's some enrichment time. So I go to my house
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: and then I forgot that I have a safety bar
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: on my front door so people can't break the door in.
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: Oh no, yep, And so I can't get into my garage,
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: which has the back door that's open. So I go
• 23:49
  Speaker 3: to my front door. I'm like, I don't have to
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: break my door down. So I'm trying to like get
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: in my cats. My cats are looking at me like, mom, mom,
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: come inside. I'm like, I look like I'm an intruder
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: trying to break into my house and I can't break
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: my door open. So I'm like, fuck, I'm to thank
• 24:00
  Speaker 3: god I had my laptop. I'm like, I'm gonnaugh to
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: go sit at DII Coffee down the street until they
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: call me, allegedly in two hours. So I sit there.
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: I get a coffee and girl cheese and I'm sitting
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: there watching The Testaments on Hulu, another good show. And
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: I'm sitting there and I'm just like, hey, they're gonna
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: call me. They're gonna call me. They gonna call me.
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: And then around like I think I left the place
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: of work where they were gonna go work on my
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: car at eleven fifteen. Oh boy, around two thirty, I
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: get a call from them and or I get the video,
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: you know how they send the video and they go
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: and then this is wrong, and then this is wrong,
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: and then this is wrong. Oh yeah, So I'm just like,
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: just tell me what the fucking quote is. Oh wait,
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: you pull it up.
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm very sorry.
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: I'm not to give a pro tip for the women
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: as well, to like help you get out of a
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: situation like that.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: Because you were on your Instagram and I was falling along.
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: It's like take a guess, and people are like three hundred,
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: oh yeah, five hundred.
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: So I'm like, entertain me while they're checking out my car,
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: So I take a selfie. I'm like, let me know
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: what you think they're gonna up charge me for. I'm
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: going in for an oil change. I should have specified
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: that something's also going out with my AC so people
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: could have given a more accurate guess. So, oh sorry,
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: I misspoke. At one twenty three, I got a text.
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: So the main concern today is the vehicle is going
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: to need an AC compressor installed after tax. They are
• 25:16
  Speaker 3: one thousand, four hundred and thirty four dollars. Okay, Jesus,
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: I do have one here and we can have an
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: installed and complete by five today. And so I did
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: something dumb which I will now never do again, and
• 25:30
  Speaker 3: I said, got it, go ahead with the repair because
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: I'm like, what am I going to say? Like you
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: if you're saying, I'm like, my AC needs to be fixed.
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: It's ninety two degrees in Tampa, Like there's is.
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: There any other option? Doesn't sound like it.
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: I'm like even if, like, what am I going to
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: do don't say don't fix my AC. I mean, I
• 25:44
  Speaker 3: guess I could take it somewhere else, but I'm kind
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: of like they know what they're I've been sitting here.
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: I just want my AC fixed, and I just want
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: this to be fucking done. Yeah, you know what I mean.
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: It's not going to get much lower than fourteen hundred
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: or whatever. So I said, got it, go ahead with
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: the repair. This is where I got pissed off. My apologies.
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: They did recommend the expansion valve to be replaced with
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: the compressor as well, so the total for the compressor
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: and expansion valve will be one eight hundred and fifty
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: five dollars and seventy two cents. Oh that's what pissed
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: That's what pissed me off because it felt like because
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: I was such an easy sell one more that they
• 26:15
  Speaker 3: were like, oh, actually we need one more thing. And
• 26:17
  Speaker 3: I that's when I got pissed. And then I put
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: it into AI. I put it into chat GBT. I said,
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: this is what they're saying is wrong with my car?
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: Do you think I'm getting scammed? Scammed? And so let
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: me actually, because this is what I did the last
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: time I went to get my car fixed.
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: I took a picture of the entire like write up,
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: and I was like, chat, what are the things that
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: are actually legit? And what are the things that I
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: got scammed on? I already already paid, and I was like,
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: for the most part, everything looks good except for this
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: kind of like fluid, this kind of thing that they
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: added in for a little extra value. I'm like, son
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: of a gun, I know, I know, for next time.
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: So I'm like, ultimately, like I don't have time to
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: call my dad, my dad, my dad, I love him,
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: but he's just kind of like so I'm like, my
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: Dad's not gonna be any help. I know, you know,
• 26:57
  Speaker 3: I'm a boyfriend that can go in and be like
• 26:58
  Speaker 3: what the bud? So I'm sitting there and I'm like,
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: so the only thing I do is go to my
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: boyfriend chat GBT. And I said, chat, Oh wait, chat GBT.
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: That's so good. Okay, So here's what happened. So I
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: sent a screenshot of the text message. I said, does
• 27:12
  Speaker 3: any of the sound legit or am I getting up charged?
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: AI said, this doesn't immediately scream scamm to me, but
• 27:18
  Speaker 3: it does sound like a a a high priced repair
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: that could potentially be inflated or at least broader than necessary.
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: A few things that stand out blah blah blah blah
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: blah blah blah blah blah. He said, the jump from
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: fourteen hundred to nineteen hundred after you already proved it
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: annoying but not inherently fake. It's possible to tech added
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: the valve after a deeper inspection. What does make me
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: cautious is they haven't mentioned and then all these other
• 27:40
  Speaker 3: things that they haven't mentioned. I was like, ah, so a,
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: I knows what it's talking about. So then it said
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: for your car, roughly speaking, an independent shop will probably
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: do this between one thousand and five hundred. So unfortunately,
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: this price is kind of believable. But then here's what
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: it did. It said you should text something back like
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: can you explain what's specif typically failed with the compressor
• 28:01
  Speaker 3: and why the expansion valve is also recommended? Was their
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: debris in the system? So I thought, at the very least,
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: I don't even know if that makes sense to a mechanic,
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: but I'm if I start asking questions, the aid the
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: price isn't gonna go up because they're not going to
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: fuck fuck me over again. True, and at the very
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: least they'll make me feel better about paying this price
• 28:17
  Speaker 3: because they will explain what's going on in my car.
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: So I send the tax and it takes how long
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: did it take? It took him a couple of minutes
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: to respond.
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: Because that's like kind of almost like a oh, they
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: actually are paying attention you are.
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: Doing Yeah, I want to show them like I'm not
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: the three, four or five today.
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: I'm the one, two and three.
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: So that before this is the response I got, I
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: can work with you on the price. I could save
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: around one hundred and fifty between the oil change and
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: the AC work and take off the shop fees, which
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: is an additional forty blah blah blah, so it'll be
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: somewhere around seventeen hundred tax out the door blah blah
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. And I was like, Okay,
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: I got the price down. I mean, could I have
• 28:53
  Speaker 3: negotiated more? Sure, But at this point I was like,
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: I just want my fucking car back. Yes I was.
• 28:57
  Speaker 3: I'd been saying that coffee shop for about two and
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: a half hours at this point, and I was like,
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: I'm ready to stop sitting with these college kids.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: This is okay now, if anybody is a mechanic or
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: works in that world, I almost wonder if they drag
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: out the time.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: So it just exhausts you. So you just agree. And
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: I don't know if that's a technique. I just had
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: that thought that came to my mind, and I'm like,
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: damn if that is one.
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: I mean smart on the business, because who are you
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: gonna it's four o'clock you want your car back?
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: But that is soft up. If that's the.
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: Case, they know exactly what they're doing, and I know
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: that they scam people or upcharge you. And I'm not
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: saying it shouldn't have cost over a thousand, like if
• 29:29
  Speaker 3: there really was something wrong with my ac because my
• 29:32
  Speaker 3: car is about six and a half years old, Like
• 29:33
  Speaker 3: I'm not expecting for nothing to be wrong with it.
• 29:36
  Speaker 3: But at the same time, I'm like, I really do
• 29:38
  Speaker 3: feel like they are just taking advantage of my lack
• 29:40
  Speaker 3: of knowledge. And I just kind of didn't really know
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: what to do because I didn't like taking it to
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: an independent place. They took it to like a Jiffy
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: Lube or something last time around, and the same thing
• 29:49
  Speaker 3: kind of happened where they keep trying to upcharge you.
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: Oh and last time I went, they said there was
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: something wrong with my breaks, and these people said there
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: was nothing wrong with my breaks. So I'm like, who's
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: I feel like I'm meaning lied to constantly that I
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: I'm like, i hate going to the freaking car repair
• 30:03
  Speaker 3: people because I'm like, I know you were just stealing
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: my money. Like you're just stealing my money.
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: It's like you know your base things, and that's why
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: it's like, give me a write up. I'm gonna put
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: it in Chat. I'm gonna tell it to explain me everything.
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: And then one of the things I had on because
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: that's why I spent I was probably spent an extra
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: hundred dollars the last time because I was like, you
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: need this kind of like I'm gonna just call it
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: coolant for this one because it's coming liquid that they
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: ran through my system to clean the pipes. Yeah, I
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: had Chat told me afterwards, He's like, that's not really
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: doing anything. That's just an extra fifty bucks that you're
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: spending on your bill. Great, thanks, thanks, Chat. Now I'm
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: just fifty dollars cheap. I guess sometimes you just got
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: to pay the price, especially if you're gonna let it sit.
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: Because I did the same thing in my car. I
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: waited years before I got it properly serviced, and so
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: I walked out the door, same kind of deal eighteen
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: hundred dollars later, where I was like new brakes, new
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: air filters, new to all the things. I was like,
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: damn it, but now I feel very safe in my car.
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: It starts up fine, I got a new battery.
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: I was about saying, my car feels great when I
• 30:56
  Speaker 3: drive it. I was like, oh, this is why.
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: You take care of it exactly.
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: And I think it's just that bigger price when you
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: wait too long that you're like, this sucks. And it
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: does suck because you're like, who are you supposed to trust?
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: And how much time are you gonna search to find
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: the person that you can trust? Because at that point
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: you're like, yes, I'm seventeen hundred dollars in, but what
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: do I want to spend another week finding somebody that's
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: gonna charge me what fifteen hundred dollars?
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: That's what I mean. And because I'm not paying rent
• 31:21
  Speaker 3: and we did bonus that, I was like, I guess
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: my bonus is going towards my.
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: Freaking car, literally adulting to a t.
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: It was so annoying because I couldn't wait to set
• 31:29
  Speaker 3: up set Active as having another drop on Wednesday. I
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: was like, I'm gonna buy so much set Active Now
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: I can't because I have to pay for my car.
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I was like, I was in the same boat
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: with now my shoes. I feel like I'm getting on
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: a shoe game kick because I got these new shoes
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: and I'm.
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: Like, oh, this feels really good. I feel like I
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: look really good too. And I was like, let me
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: just look a little longer. I was like, Scott, stop,
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: like you hold back the beast. We're not making that much.
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: Let's know. I'm down.
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: Once you do it once or twice, you're like, ooh,
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: that wasn't that bad. Pay my credit card wasn't that
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: bad last time? I was like, is it a little
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: bit more?
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: I mean, the real problem is I got a new
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: phone that I haven't been able to log into my
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: credit cards like pay them all. Oh no, So I'm
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: like I'll do it eventually. So I don't even know
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: what I'm at right now. I'm kind of just going
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: with the win. But it just feels good, it's scary.
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: This is not the right financial advice. So this is
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: none of that.
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: It's just like a gut feeling for me. I'm like,
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: how much have I splurged this month?
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: Can I?
• 32:17
  Speaker 3: Can I just go for it?
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah? I did that way too many times last year
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: and it has been a very a lot of just
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: ground beef and rice kind of twenty twenty six.
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: Totally get that year because of it.
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: Nop, You know what, thanks doing all the things. Well,
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: that sucks. That really sucks to.
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: Walk in knowing that you're going to be taking advantage
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: of to walk out having to pay that price. But
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: is that your advice to the girlies to throw it
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: through chat first?
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, if you don't have a guide to
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: drop it off for you who knows anything about cars,
• 32:47
  Speaker 3: I mean, at the very least ask questions before just
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: paying the price, which is on me because I mean
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: I think a.
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: Lot you're supposed to ask, like you don't even know.
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: You don't even know what to ask. But I mean, yeah,
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: have a chat come up with a bullshit question for
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: you to at least look like you're you're not just
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: putting your credit card and calling it today. Because that's
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: what they pay their bills with, is people who just
• 33:05
  Speaker 3: don't want to deal with it anymore and go, well,
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: just ask a couple questions. You'll probably get the price down,
• 33:10
  Speaker 3: because I'm sure homeboy didn't expect Blondie McGee over here
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: to be like, so is there debris and the compressor
• 33:16
  Speaker 3: valve or whatever? Because I don't want to have to
• 33:18
  Speaker 3: explain it to you. They have fifteen other cars I
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: gotta get to.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they're trying to get you in and out, even
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: though it takes that long and it wears you out.
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: Now is that tied into okay?
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: Because you had a list up on your Instagram of
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: all the things we need to talk about.
• 33:29
  Speaker 3: All the practical reasons I want a boyfriend that aren't romantic.
• 33:32
  Speaker 3: I've just gotten to the age where I don't even
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: really need a boyfriend for romantic purposes, although that would
• 33:37
  Speaker 3: be nice. I just want someone to share the burden
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: of capitalism with. Oh, and just life in general. I'm
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: just really fatigued doing life by myself. I'm am honest
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: with you.
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: I was thinking about that the other day, like I'm
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: not in the position right now obviously, like live with
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: my girlfriend, but that does sound great because you're splitting bills,
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: you're splitting housing. Because as I was like, I'm getting
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: ready to like switch up my living situation, and as
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: I was looking downtown.
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, this is insanity.
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: By then if you had a second person and you're like,
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: oh wait, it's not about it and you're splitting it. Yeah,
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: and if you're living like you're living in the same room.
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: Because some people it's like, oh we gotta get the
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: two two. Now you got one person or two people
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: that live together. Now you're saving one on a one bedroom.
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: Now it's not that bad. That was kind of like, ah,
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: I get it down the line, or.
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: You can get the big one bedroom, the one bedroom
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: with the din.
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to view. I want a view of
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: downtown on the top floor. I don't know if that's
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: ever gonna happen.
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: It will.
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: What was the abduction situation that happened?
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: Oh my god, this has happened. So I feel like
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: this episode just needs to be titled Abby Saves Women.
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: Abby saves women's money in their lives, because I think
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: I put myself in a really dangerous situation on Friday,
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: and it's it's sort of my fault for not accepting
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: men's help. Oh and this kind of goes along with
• 34:57
  Speaker 3: my list of reasons I would like a boyfriend. This
• 34:59
  Speaker 3: is they're not romantic.
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: Okay, because there is a situation.
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: Okay, let me take a step back as we have
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: gotten closer as we have done this show. Obviously, I
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: know you are an independent woman that handles her stuff,
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: but like, even like we would go to like lightning games,
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: he's like, all right, I'm gonna walk home, And like.
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: There's this part of me that's like I don't.
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: I know she can and she has and she will,
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: but I'm always like I don't know what to do
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: because I'm like I feel like I should walk with you,
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: I should drive you, because that feels like really dangerous.
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: Where's the offer, scotsh I mean.
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: That's where I struggle because I'm like, I don't know
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: if you want it. But then I think this is
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: gonna bring it to life that may be moving forward.
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: You do you're never gonna let a woman walk home
• 35:45
  Speaker 3: alone after I tell you the story.
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: Well then, but.
• 35:47
  Speaker 3: Here's the thing, Because I think I would like to
• 35:50
  Speaker 3: live in a world where danger doesn't have to exist
• 35:53
  Speaker 3: and I can can just live my life because nine
• 35:55
  Speaker 3: times out of ten you're gonna be okay. I think mentally,
• 35:57
  Speaker 3: I live in the nine times out of ten zone
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: when there's always the one tenth and I've put myself in.
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: I look back on my life and I go, yeah,
• 36:06
  Speaker 3: I should I have gotten killed that night, should have gotten murdered.
• 36:08
  Speaker 3: There's so many nights where I'm like, yeah, one hundred
• 36:10
  Speaker 3: percent could have gotten abducted that night. But because you're
• 36:12
  Speaker 3: not in the wrong situation, you're fine. You're in the
• 36:14
  Speaker 3: nine tenths. However, on All on Friday, I was in
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: the one tenth zone, and it's I've been I feel
• 36:20
  Speaker 3: like the older I've gotten, the more one tenth places
• 36:24
  Speaker 3: I've been in, because I've been in a lot of
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: situations where I'm like, I think I'm about to get abducted,
• 36:28
  Speaker 3: something to Faari's is about to happen, my drink gets drugged,
• 36:30
  Speaker 3: those kinds of things, like, Yeah, the older I get,
• 36:32
  Speaker 3: the more angry I get it men.
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: And it's very understandable just.
• 36:37
  Speaker 3: Because it have. I said this on the podcast before
• 36:41
  Speaker 3: where it is crazy that women are a majority of
• 36:44
  Speaker 3: women are attracted to their only natural predator.
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: Oh I think I've heard you say that before. Yeah,
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: it is.
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: It is wild. I'm like, I'm supposed to fall in
• 36:52
  Speaker 3: love with you, but some of you want to kill
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: me well or do other things, you know. So on
• 36:59
  Speaker 3: Friday I went to the Fire, which is this new
• 37:01
  Speaker 3: club that opened up near Eddiebe's, which is by the
• 37:03
  Speaker 3: International Mall and the airport. Yes, it's not in a
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: bad part of town, but.
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: That's a very popular town.
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: I mean everything that they built around the airport was
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: literally centered on the fact that people are coming here internationally.
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: That's why International Mall is poppet. Yeah, like that plays Rocks. Yeah,
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: it is the nicest mall that I've ever seen.
• 37:21
  Speaker 3: It's not in a bad part of town, like I'm not.
• 37:22
  Speaker 3: Where's like the sketchy area in Tampa.
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: Well, there's a couple of little pockets, like some people
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: think of different pockets of eboard could be sketchy or
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: like South Saint Pete has some sometimes like.
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: Rough areas or in that area.
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: By International it is around like a deep part of Tampa,
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: like around the stadium could sometimes be a little rough.
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: Different pockets of Tampa.
• 37:42
  Speaker 3: So there's there's some sketchy pockets of Tampa, but it's
• 37:44
  Speaker 3: a couple.
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: Of miles down, like, it's not really right there.
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: It's just I think what happens is it's just more populated,
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: so chances go higher.
• 37:51
  Speaker 3: Yes, So my opinion of this area is that it's
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: not that sketchy. Do I feel comfortable walking around alone mostly,
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: But I'm not thinking anything to ferries is gonna go
• 38:00
  Speaker 3: down from the five minutes it's gonna take me to
• 38:02
  Speaker 3: get to my car to or from my car to
• 38:05
  Speaker 3: the Sapphire. So I had spent a lot of money
• 38:08
  Speaker 3: on Ubers. I had just bought my new ac so
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: I'm about eighteen hundred dollars down. So I'm thinking, you
• 38:13
  Speaker 3: know what, I'll go to drive to the Staphire. So
• 38:17
  Speaker 3: the Sapphire is about twenty minutes away from my house.
• 38:18
  Speaker 3: I'm not really planning on drinking, so I decide to
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: park across the street at International Mall and parking lot F.
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: It's very well lit. There's not a lot of cars around,
• 38:27
  Speaker 3: but all I have to do is cross one big
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: road and then I'm at the Sapphire. So it's gonna
• 38:31
  Speaker 3: take me about five minutes to get there. I'm in heels,
• 38:34
  Speaker 3: so maybe six and a half minutes.
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: That sounds so uncomfortable just in general.
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: But anyway, so I park my car, I walk over,
• 38:41
  Speaker 3: no problem. It's around ten thirty PM. I stay there
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: until about one and I'm like, oka, I'm gonna go home.
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: I just want to sleep. And so I was with
• 38:51
  Speaker 3: a group of new friends that I'm making new business connections,
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: and he goes, let me walk you to your car,
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: like this is you know, this is a little bit
• 38:57
  Speaker 3: of a sketchy area. I'm like, no, it's like five minutes. Literally,
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: It's fine because coming from my perspective, I've lived alone
• 39:05
  Speaker 3: all my adult life. I lived in New York by myself.
• 39:07
  Speaker 3: I have ridden the subway at three am. I've walked
• 39:09
  Speaker 3: through at Central Park drunk. Like the five minute walk
• 39:12
  Speaker 3: from the Sapphire to my car.
• 39:14
  Speaker 2: Does not freak me out that crazy.
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: Now, granted, I leave the Sapphire and I do kind
• 39:20
  Speaker 3: of go just because as I get older and I've
• 39:23
  Speaker 3: been in sketchier situations, I just think it's harder for
• 39:26
  Speaker 3: me to be ignorant. So I start walking down the
• 39:32
  Speaker 3: street and I see somebody walking towards me, and I
• 39:35
  Speaker 3: can't really tell if they're well dressed, or if maybe
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: the a little sketchy. So I'm like, you know what,
• 39:38
  Speaker 3: me like, stand up by Eddiebe's for a second. So
• 39:40
  Speaker 3: I stand by Eddie Bee's for a second and I
• 39:44
  Speaker 3: wait for them to go away, and I don't see
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: them anymore. So I finally walk up to the street.
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: I cross the street. It's fine. There's really nobody out.
• 39:49
  Speaker 3: A couple of cars here and there, but again, this
• 39:51
  Speaker 3: is a very well lit area. I see a cop
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: car down the street. There's a couple of other cars
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: kind of like parked, and I'm like, oh, there might
• 39:57
  Speaker 3: be something to fairy is happening. But whatever, I'm like
• 40:00
  Speaker 3: five minutes for my car. All I have to do
• 40:01
  Speaker 3: is keep walking. So I get to the part where
• 40:03
  Speaker 3: I'm sort of in the middle of the street. There's
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: like not a sidewalk where I have to like turn
• 40:08
  Speaker 3: in to get to the parking lot, like you know
• 40:10
  Speaker 3: when you turn your car in to get a park
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: into the parking lot, and there's like that little section
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: of road so there's no sidewalk. So I'm like walking
• 40:16
  Speaker 3: on the road, but I'm walking in the direction where
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: a car would come at me.
• 40:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you can see them coming if they were.
• 40:21
  Speaker 3: Going to come at me. So I'm on that side,
• 40:23
  Speaker 3: and then there's a road next to me where the
• 40:25
  Speaker 3: cars would be driving in the direction that I'm walking.
• 40:27
  Speaker 3: So as I'm walking in that part of the parking lot,
• 40:31
  Speaker 3: a dark gray Toyota Corolla pulls up and is about
• 40:35
  Speaker 3: to make a right turn into the parking lot, and
• 40:37
  Speaker 3: so I, of course I'm very on guard. I look
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: at the car window and I want to make sure
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: I'm in a safe position, not thinking, oh, yeah, this
• 40:44
  Speaker 3: is the car that's going to do something scary, like
• 40:46
  Speaker 3: they're probably just pulling into the parking lot. I don't know,
• 40:48
  Speaker 3: go do a drug deal or something.
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no casual drug deal, or there's some.
• 40:51
  Speaker 3: Restaurants down there. I have no idea what's going on.
• 40:53
  Speaker 3: So anyway, the car stops, and I see the driver
• 40:56
  Speaker 3: turn and look in my direction to make sure another
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: car is not coming. But then the the driver looks
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: at me, and so I stand flat on my tracks.
• 41:03
  Speaker 3: I look them directly in the eye to let them
• 41:05
  Speaker 3: know that I've seen them, and I'm like, I might
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: have to turn around. So I'm staring at the car
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: and the car doesn't move, and then the car moves
• 41:12
  Speaker 3: a little bit farther forward, and then the guy's head
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: turns even more so he is like facing me to
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: the point where it's like I see you. That's what
• 41:21
  Speaker 3: it feels like. And then I instantly step back. I
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: start walking the other direction. The Toyota Corolla drives kind
• 41:29
  Speaker 3: of slow, makes the right turn, but it's like clearly
• 41:32
  Speaker 3: going slow, and I'm watching the car. I'm walking in
• 41:35
  Speaker 3: the other direction, back towards Eddieb's, but I'm keeping an
• 41:38
  Speaker 3: eye on the car, and it just it's stopping and
• 41:40
  Speaker 3: then it will go a little bit slower, and it's
• 41:42
  Speaker 3: stopping and it's going a little bit slower, and I'm like,
• 41:45
  Speaker 3: oh my god, I'm I'm thinking like I might get caught,
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: like I've in really uncomfortable heels in a dress, Like
• 41:50
  Speaker 3: I might be take the hell off. So I keep walking.
• 41:54
  Speaker 3: And then finally the Toyota Corolla slowly keeps going in
• 41:57
  Speaker 3: the other direction. But the problem is it's going in
• 41:59
  Speaker 3: the direction of Mike. So I'm like, you know what,
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: I might just have to wait this out for a second.
• 42:04
  Speaker 3: So once the car is far enough and it gets
• 42:07
  Speaker 3: to a stop sign and it looks like it's gonna
• 42:09
  Speaker 3: go to a different part of the parking lot, I
• 42:10
  Speaker 3: turn back around and I start walking the other way.
• 42:12
  Speaker 3: And so I get to the part of the parking
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: lot to where I've kind of crossed a median to
• 42:17
  Speaker 3: where I'm out of that little section that connects you
• 42:20
  Speaker 3: to the road near Eddyev's in the parking lot. Yeah,
• 42:23
  Speaker 3: the Toyota Corolla turns around.
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: Oh my god.
• 42:27
  Speaker 3: I start freaking out at this point, and then I
• 42:29
  Speaker 3: also start noticing other cars that are in the parking lot.
• 42:31
  Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my god, what are these cars You're doing?
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: I keep doing at this hour.
• 42:34
  Speaker 3: I can see a cop car to my left, but
• 42:36
  Speaker 3: I mean I would have to like sprint to it,
• 42:38
  Speaker 3: like it's it's not the cop car can't see me.
• 42:40
  Speaker 3: I can see the cop car, but I'm, you know,
• 42:42
  Speaker 3: a little speck away from it. And so I just
• 42:44
  Speaker 3: see the Toyota Corolla start coming towards me, and so
• 42:48
  Speaker 3: I just take off. But the problem is I'm in
• 42:50
  Speaker 3: a section of the parking lot that's it's my car
• 42:52
  Speaker 3: is separated by another median.
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: Oh god.
• 42:54
  Speaker 3: And so I'm feeling a little bit like a sitting duck.
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: And so I start sprinting towards my car because I'm
• 43:00
  Speaker 3: like at this point, like I'm kind of cornered.
• 43:02
  Speaker 2: Are you actually like literally running, I'm literally running?
• 43:05
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, no, I'm explaining to God. So the Toyota
• 43:07
  Speaker 3: Corolla comes in my direction and it slows down, the
• 43:10
  Speaker 3: window goes, and the guy in the car yells something
• 43:14
  Speaker 3: at me. A gun in my head, couldn't tell you
• 43:16
  Speaker 3: what he said, but he yells something at me and
• 43:18
  Speaker 3: starts driving in the other direction and stops, and I
• 43:20
  Speaker 3: just book it. I'm like, I don't care what I
• 43:23
  Speaker 3: have to do. I'm getting in my fucking car.
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah. Who rolls down their window at one am
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: and yells at it in a parking lot?
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm sure like, like all you see
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: is just your car?
• 43:36
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, and I can see the I'm also I
• 43:38
  Speaker 3: see another car at one point that was kind of
• 43:40
  Speaker 3: parked on the side where it wasn't in a parking spot.
• 43:43
  Speaker 3: It was like parked along the sidewalk to the mall,
• 43:46
  Speaker 3: like you're gonna pick somebody up. And then one of
• 43:48
  Speaker 3: those cars all of a sudden gets out of break
• 43:51
  Speaker 3: at a park and starts coming in a direction towards me,
• 43:53
  Speaker 3: and I'm like, oh my god, I'm literally gonna get
• 43:56
  Speaker 3: going to get abducted or worse, And so I sprint
• 43:59
  Speaker 3: to my car. I sit down and locked the door.
• 44:01
  Speaker 3: And it's so crazy how in the moment you don't
• 44:04
  Speaker 3: you feel scared, but when you get that adrenaline crash
• 44:07
  Speaker 3: and your hands start to shake, oh yeah, and you're like,
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: oh my god, like I really was in a precarious situation.
• 44:14
  Speaker 3: And it's so funny because in that moment, I just
• 44:15
  Speaker 3: started blaming myself. I was like, I knew I should
• 44:17
  Speaker 3: have said yes to the guy walking me to my car,
• 44:20
  Speaker 3: Like why why did I parkle the way over here?
• 44:22
  Speaker 3: I should have parked closer. Why did I like not
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: just take the uber? Like is my life not worth
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: the fifty dollars uber? What's going on? And I just
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: got really mad. I just got really mad that I'd
• 44:32
  Speaker 3: also been in a club. And I also just get
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: kind of paranoid about like my drink getting drugged in
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: public too if I'm with people I don't know, And
• 44:39
  Speaker 3: so I was mad about that too. I was like,
• 44:40
  Speaker 3: I'm pissed that I can't just exist. I can't just
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: get a drink and not worry about somebody trying to
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: like rape me, and then I can't leave the club
• 44:47
  Speaker 3: where I think I'm gonna get raved and then walk
• 44:50
  Speaker 3: to my car and not worry about getting abducted and
• 44:52
  Speaker 3: sold into human trafficking because I'm near the airport. Like
• 44:54
  Speaker 3: I just I just got really angry. And then I
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: went home to the place where I live by myself,
• 44:59
  Speaker 3: where I have all these scuff marks on my fucking
• 45:01
  Speaker 3: door because I tried to break into my door because
• 45:05
  Speaker 3: I have to keep my safety bar because I don't
• 45:06
  Speaker 3: want somebody else breaking into my house to try and
• 45:09
  Speaker 3: abduct me. And I just got mad. I just got
• 45:11
  Speaker 3: really angry, and then I booke a self defense class. Yeah,
• 45:15
  Speaker 3: because I'm like, I don't want to feel is helpless,
• 45:17
  Speaker 3: you know.
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: I mean, it sucks that that is the reality because
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: it's the reality of so many and especially with women.
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: It's and it's very interesting that you say that, because
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: it's like, why are so many women anxious and have anxiety? Ah,
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: that maybe is a good reason why, Because everywhere you go,
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: no matter what time of day it is, no matter
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: where you live or a good part of town, you
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: feel like there's threats all around. Because nobody and no
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: history of time has ever proven differently this is supposed
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: to be the best time period that we're living in,
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: but we're still facing problems that we have faced the
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: entire human history timeline.
• 45:53
  Speaker 2: So that is extremely frustrating.
• 45:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it was annoying, and I think I think as women,
• 45:57
  Speaker 3: we don't, especially as single women, correct, you don't realize
• 46:03
  Speaker 3: how much that takes a toll on you on your
• 46:06
  Speaker 3: everyday life. And you're like, you get kind of mad
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: at yourself, like why do I always feel on edg?
• 46:09
  Speaker 3: Why don't I always feel a little bit anxious about things?
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: Why can't I just like exist in a social setting
• 46:13
  Speaker 3: and not feel on edge? And it's because of shit
• 46:16
  Speaker 3: like this that constantly just lives in the back of
• 46:17
  Speaker 3: your mind, where you just always feel like you could
• 46:20
  Speaker 3: be a target at any random moment. It could be
• 46:23
  Speaker 3: in an uber in Columbia, been there, Yeah, could be
• 46:26
  Speaker 3: at a bar in Jacksonville, Florida where you legitimately get drugged.
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: You just don't know.
• 46:30
  Speaker 3: You just don't know. And I think, kind of to
• 46:32
  Speaker 3: swing it back to the joking statement I had earlier
• 46:34
  Speaker 3: about reasons I want a boyfriend that are more than
• 46:36
  Speaker 3: just romantic. It would be nice to have somebody in
• 46:39
  Speaker 3: my life that feels like they're looking out for me,
• 46:41
  Speaker 3: or like a guy I can call and be like, hey,
• 46:42
  Speaker 3: can you come pick me up? Like I didn't want
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: to take an uber. Can you just come pick me
• 46:45
  Speaker 3: up from the airport? He come pick me up from
• 46:46
  Speaker 3: the Sapphire? Can you go with me to the Sapphire
• 46:48
  Speaker 3: so I can just turn my brain off for a second.
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think that was actually I mean, we
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: haven't even talked about off campus, but as one of
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: the best statements that I heard that show mention as
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: you need to make especially a woman feel safe, if
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: there's one priority as a and it doesn't matter like
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna use a man for example, but as a
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: man in a relationship with a friendship, like make your
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: partner feel safe. And when they said that, I was like, Oh,
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: this show isn't even like trying to be joky joky
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: with that the whole situation that.
• 47:11
  Speaker 2: They're trying to come over respect.
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: It was like I was like, that's exactly right, Like
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: that is the biggest priority. That then the standard that
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: I hold myself to, Like I don't need to be
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: starting fights in bars, but there's a presence that you know,
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: it's like Okay, I want you to feel safe. I
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: need you to feel safe, and I'll do anything in
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: order to make that because that is number one, especially
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: if you're walking around like always on edge.
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: But it's exhausting.
• 47:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I think if to your point, if you're
• 47:37
  Speaker 3: a guy and you're wondering why people are so obsessed
• 47:39
  Speaker 3: with this off campus series, I think it's because one
• 47:41
  Speaker 3: of the main plot points, and I guess this is
• 47:43
  Speaker 3: a minor spoiler. It's a plot point, but I mean
• 47:46
  Speaker 3: a little bit of a spoiler. The main characters drink
• 47:49
  Speaker 3: when she's in high school. Oh wait, I don't think
• 47:51
  Speaker 3: you've gotten there yet. Have you gotten there yet?
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: I mean they're explaining I already know how it.
• 47:55
  Speaker 3: Oh, so her a part of her trauma is that
• 47:58
  Speaker 3: in high school, her drink got drugged and she was
• 48:02
  Speaker 3: sexually assaulted at a party. Yeah. A part of the
• 48:04
  Speaker 3: appeal of the love interest is he looks out for
• 48:07
  Speaker 3: her and that helps her fall for him, and so
• 48:09
  Speaker 3: I think that's one of the reasons why I think
• 48:10
  Speaker 3: women are really resonating with the story. It's like everybody
• 48:13
  Speaker 3: wants to be in a situation where they feel like
• 48:14
  Speaker 3: they have that person that they can count On, and
• 48:16
  Speaker 3: I think that's what makes it so romantic. It is
• 48:19
  Speaker 3: touching on the really gritty, dirty parts about being a
• 48:22
  Speaker 3: lady and finding somebody that's willing to acknowledge that and
• 48:26
  Speaker 3: protect you from it.
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean I really enjoyed the show for that reason.
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: I'm like, Wow, you guys are hitting on a lot
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: of big things that I think need to be talked
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: about a lot more. And it's kind of like to
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: your point of why are women walking around so anxious
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: on edge? Because that is going through your head all
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: the time. And that took me a long time to understand.
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: I didn't get it, especially in my early twenties. I
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: knew there was always like a realistic threat because nobody
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: has proven that ever differently, But then to hear the
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: stories from women where it's like, these things happen all
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: the time, even in the short amount of time that
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: we've really known each other, Abby, this is now a
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: handful of things where I'm like, oh my god, I
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: want to make sure one it's how do we keep
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: you safe?
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: Because I that's that's what I say, Like.
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: When we're going to a lightning game and you're walking
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: back home like, well, now, probably never let you walk home.
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: Now, I'm not gonna let that happen.
• 49:15
  Speaker 3: But that's part of the nine tenths time. Like I
• 49:17
  Speaker 3: was fine on that walk home.
• 49:18
  Speaker 2: Correct, but again it's all it takes is one.
• 49:20
  Speaker 3: But to be fair, like on that I remember on
• 49:22
  Speaker 3: that walk home, specifically that we were talking about, a
• 49:24
  Speaker 3: guy came up on a bike behind me and was
• 49:26
  Speaker 3: and you know, zoom past me and like started talking
• 49:28
  Speaker 3: to me. And I had to, like, you know, use
• 49:30
  Speaker 3: my survival schools and it was fine, but like you know,
• 49:33
  Speaker 3: it still happens. I want to give a steps in.
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: I mean that's I'd literally like, I you want to
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: get your steps in, even myself personally to carry something
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: for protection, whatever that may be. I say it to
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: you know, my my ex partner, my friend who's like,
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: you know, we have her dog.
• 49:50
  Speaker 2: I tell her.
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: One like walk walk with like pepper spray or something
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: for your safety. And also the side tangent, like if
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: there's a dog that comes charging y'all, because it's happened
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: to me like three times.
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: Ooh, I'm like, you're going to want.
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: To be protected because it's a very scary moment, but
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: also for your own personal protection. I know, if you're
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: walking around, I would always have something, especially as a
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: woman walking around in today's world.
• 50:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so I need to get something from my key chain.
• 50:16
  Speaker 3: Maybe a taser?
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: Yes, hell yeah done gun.
• 50:19
  Speaker 3: I don't know, because that's a big joy of mine.
• 50:21
  Speaker 3: I love walking around downtown. I love seeing the skyline,
• 50:23
  Speaker 3: I love seeing the water like that, I walking, even
• 50:27
  Speaker 3: though it would be nice to get a ride, I
• 50:28
  Speaker 3: find a lot of joy in walking from my house
• 50:31
  Speaker 3: to get to do things. And so I don't want
• 50:33
  Speaker 3: to give up that joy because you know, men want
• 50:36
  Speaker 3: to men want to kill me.
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because men are freaking creepy and there's so that's
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: what's so frustrated. And just last little point on this
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: because I was just talking to my girlfriend about it
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: and I get to hear, you know, these moments that happen,
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: and obviously it's.
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: Like, you have to live your life.
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: You have to walk, you have to do things downtown
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: like that shouldn't be taken away from you.
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what are you gonna do living your house a
• 50:53
  Speaker 2: whole time?
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: Like no, But it is freaking annoying that guys have
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: not gotten this through their thick ass skull that it's
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: very threatening to just holler something at a woman to
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: think that is somewhere we're gonna get like we're not
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: freaking monkeys on it, like hollering at each other.
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: To make sure that you see me, we're not peacocks.
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: I'm not trying to show you my feathers like you
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: want to be a big like a great dude, Like,
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: don't do that shit because it doesn't work. And there's
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: guys that will do it at bars at a young age,
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: or those guys that think it's cool to like drive
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: their car by and yell something. Put yourself in the
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: position as a person that's having somebody just yell something
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: at you.
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: What is you think?
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: What do you think your reaction is gonna be? You
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: think that's gonna be like, oh my god, I got
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: yelled at you. I'm about to die somebody. What are
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: you screaming sir at me? Like that is telling somebody God.
• 51:42
  Speaker 2: It's just it's insane.
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: To me that so many dudes still do that dumb
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: crap where it's like, guys be better and for the
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: good guys out there continue to work with other guys
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: to make sure that they know one what it looks
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: like to be a real man. Not this like fake
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: alpha crap, but also really make sure that when you're
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: with a group of women that you step up and
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: you be that that safety net, the person you can
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: rely on, the perfect shows up in the room and
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: shows the rest of the room you're not the one,
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: two or.
• 52:11
  Speaker 3: Three, four, five or six or seven or eight.
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: None of that crap, because you shouldn't have to walk
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: through the world. And I know this is not gonna
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: be the end all be all of it, but where
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: you just have to feel on edge all the time.
• 52:20
  Speaker 3: We're gonna solve we gender inequality on this episode of
• 52:24
  Speaker 3: the podcast.
• 52:25
  Speaker 1: It's just it's insane, And I do appreciate you sharing
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: that story because I think it's I think what's powerful
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: is you could get into that, oh the nine tenths
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: of the time, nine cents of the time, everything's fine.
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, all it takes is one.
• 52:36
  Speaker 3: All it takes is one, And it's terrifying to be
• 52:38
  Speaker 3: in the one tenth.
• 52:39
  Speaker 2: That is terrifying.
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: Do you think that's like do you ever find it
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: like changing what you want to do going out and
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: doing all that stuff, or has change what you want
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: to bring with you when you do it?
• 52:48
  Speaker 3: You know, there's really nothing you can do except for
• 52:51
  Speaker 3: what can I do to make sure that if I'm
• 52:53
  Speaker 3: in that situation, I give my best I give myself
• 52:55
  Speaker 3: the best chance of survival. That's why when I travel,
• 52:58
  Speaker 3: I bring those strips that test to see if your
• 53:00
  Speaker 3: drink's been drugged or not. Or I mean I do
• 53:03
  Speaker 3: need to get some pepper spray or maybe one of
• 53:04
  Speaker 3: those flashlights that blinds things where you can like flash
• 53:07
  Speaker 3: the oh, or I can take a self defense class
• 53:10
  Speaker 3: because I don't. I'm at the end of the day,
• 53:12
  Speaker 3: like I I can't rely on somebody else, like I'm
• 53:15
  Speaker 3: moving through the world until I die, and I have
• 53:18
  Speaker 3: to be prepared for any situation, even if I'm with
• 53:20
  Speaker 3: somebody else, Like I could be with a group of
• 53:21
  Speaker 3: girls and something can happen, and I want to be
• 53:23
  Speaker 3: the one to kick their asses.
• 53:24
  Speaker 2: That's right, you don't kick somebody.
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's like whatever you could do to
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: make yourself feel like a little extra protected. And I
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: had a girl here in Tampa that went super viral
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: because the think like a guy literally like tried to abduct
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: her in her own gym, in her apartment.
• 53:37
  Speaker 2: This story was massive.
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: We had her on the show at the same time
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: because luckily she beat the crap out of the dude, damn,
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: and it started this whole revolution in this area of
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: like women taking self defense classes learning how to protect
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: themselves because it was such a weird moment where you're
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: in your own apartment, your own apartment's gym, and a
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: guy just tries to literally tackle you to the ground.
• 53:57
  Speaker 3: You don't want to fuck with the gym girls, she
• 53:59
  Speaker 3: beat jump on his part. If I'm choosing a girl
• 54:02
  Speaker 3: to abduct, it's me. I'm like a hamstock. Actually, don't
• 54:07
  Speaker 3: fuck with me because I've I've foughten people before in
• 54:09
  Speaker 3: one but I mean it's because I'm scrappy, not because
• 54:12
  Speaker 3: I'm strong, and.
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: It's gonna be like taken. I will find you'll find you,
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: and I will kill you literally. Oh my gosh. Well,
• 54:19
  Speaker 1: if you ever are in that position again, if you
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: ever need a ride, you do have somebody you could call.
• 54:22
  Speaker 2: It is me, Thank you, That is I. You have
• 54:24
  Speaker 2: my number. There you go. I live close.
• 54:26
  Speaker 3: I'd rather my boyfriend pick me up though.
• 54:28
  Speaker 2: But until he comes along and.
• 54:30
  Speaker 3: Take me to the dealership so I don't get scammed again.
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: That I can't do because they scam me too. I know,
• 54:36
  Speaker 1: thank you for being part of the podcast. Thank you
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: for one being part of these bigger conversations too. And
• 54:40
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• 54:45
  Speaker 1: it feels like does that make sense at all?
• 54:48
  Speaker 2: But I think it did.
• 54:49
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• 54:53
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• 54:55
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• 54:57
  Speaker 1: That is true, especially because you're in the podcast. Fam
• 55:00
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