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What happens when you expose a narcissist? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So let's talk about exposing narcissists and toxic people to
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  others. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and welcome to another episode of the
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  Narcissist Code. Welcome back, Welcome back.
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  Welcome back, my beautiful folks.
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  Beautiful folks. So let's talk about exposing
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  narcissistic people to other people.
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  First of all, of course I have to lead this episode off by
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  saying used discretion if and when you try to do this type of
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  stuff. Because as most of you might
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  know, some of you might not know.
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  Reputation is like air or money or food to narcissistic people.
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  Reputation is so important to a lot of narcissists.
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  Some narcissists don't care about their reputation.
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  They they'll once once a narcissist, some narcissist self
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  destruct. They no longer care about their
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  reputations. They want to destroy you, you
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  know. That's why I just said people
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  have to be careful because once you expose A narcissist and some
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  some of them, they will absolutely try to come back at
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  you and ruin your life. Some of them become stalkerish.
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  Some of them can become dangerous.
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  Some of them will, you know, become family annihilators, you
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  know, because of the shame and whatnot.
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  So be very, very be very careful in this circumstance, in this
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  situation. But some, so many people ask me,
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  like, how do you expose A narcissist to people?
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  So I'm not. Yeah, That's why I said
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  documentation is so important. Like, you like exposing
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  narcissists. When I say exposing them, I
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  don't mean plastering it all over online, trying to embarrass
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  them, trying to get the word out there about them.
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  Can you do that? Yeah, you can do that.
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  TikTok seemed like the perfect platform to expose a narcissist.
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  Like if you have documentation of abuse or bruises, whatever,
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  whatever stuff you have used to have pictures and videos of them
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  harming you, emotionally, physically abusing you, whatever
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  you post it on TikTok, it might get millions of views and you
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  might out the person that abuse you.
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  So that's that. That type of exposure right
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  there will shame the hell out of a narcissist.
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  It will send, it will send. A lot of times.
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  Shame and exposure send narcissist into dark places and
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  in the dark. Shame.
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  Shame grows in the dark. Like shame doesn't need the
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  light to grow. Shame doesn't grow in the light.
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  Shame is like a damn vampire, you know, vampires operating in
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  the darkness, not in the sunlight.
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  So shame grows in the darkness. Shame operates in the darkness
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  like a boogeyman. So you send a narcissist to a
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  dark place sometimes when you expose them.
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  So the best way to expose them, like it's just like literally
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  just straight out, you know. And I said this doesn't have to
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  be a grandiose exposure when you do it online, like completely
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  embarrassing them and stuff like that.
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  You can be like uniquely to the people who need to see it, like
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  in court. Like sometimes you can expose
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  them in court. How do you do that?
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  Document stuff? Y'all you must say.
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  You have to get good at recording things.
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  Like when you try to record people.
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  Like if you record somebody like this with the phone in your face
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  and the phone in their face, typically they're going to
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  change their behaviour. Some of them don't care, you
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  know, they might become aggressive and violent.
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  But if you if you just put like, sometimes you can't help.
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  If you have your phone, just set it down on the table, hit,
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  record, record a video, whatever you get, like one of the little
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  spa pins or whatever voice recorders and whatnot you have
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  you. You can have a ring doorbell,
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  you can have those little wise cameras, you can have something
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  set up to record them. But you need to record you.
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  You need to record situations. Y'all document things because a
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  lot of times in these situations it is ends up being your word
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  against theirs. If you don't have visual or
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  audible proof, you know, sometimes it's just your word
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  against theirs and it's very hard to, you know, narcissistic
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  people tend to be very conniving and convincing people.
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  So they they go up there with a straight face and lie and you
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  might start reacting to their lies and then you look like you,
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  you look like you out of control, you know?
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  So just saying, documenting, documenting things helps you.
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  It just does. Documenting things that you've
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  been through or experienced help you survive against a narcissist
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  or doctors first. It's just, it's just those
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  things right there. They can absolutely help you,
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  you know, just in those spaces, in those unique spaces and
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  within those unique dynamics, it can absolutely help you out a
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  lot. So but you have to be safe.
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  You have to be careful because again at the end of the day
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  narcissists are out to protect themselves.
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  You know so they were like if you don't record them, I they
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  will record you. They will absolutely record you
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  and post things online to make you look like the abuser.
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  Absolutely true. They will post things online to
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  make you look like the abuser. They they, they just will.
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  You know, this is one story. Look up the the Wi-Fi mom
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  Chronicles, I think on YouTube or TikTok, where her ex-husband
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  was literally abusive to her, put his hands on the domestic
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  violence, got kicked out of the army for abusing her.
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  He took a couple videos of her reacting to the stuff that he
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  was doing to her, posted it online, and so many people
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  thought she was the abuser. They will record you.
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  They will record you. They will.
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  A lot of them will record you and they'll have have no problem
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  exposing you if it serves them, you know.
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  So that's why I tell people you have to be ready and prepared to
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  protect yourself, to guide yourself to, you know, to expose
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  them just in case. This is not, this is not.
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  I'm not saying, I'm not saying play the exposure game because
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  that doesn't work right there. Like you expose them, they
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  expose you and nobody knows who's telling them the truth.
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  I would say expose the narcissist as needed, you know,
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  as needed. Because I know a lot of people
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  don't want the narcissist to get away with what they've done.
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  That's the that's the main thing.
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  So many people do not want the narcissist to get away with what
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  they've done. Like don't walk.
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  They abuse you and get to walk away Scott free, which I
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  completely understand. You know, which I completely,
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  completely understand. I definitely understand that
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  space. If I just tell people, if you're
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  dealing with a narcissist, toxic person, whoever, that's the
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  space that a lot of them fall into.
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  That's the dynamic that a lot of fall into right there is that
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  they will continue to try to harm you, to continue to try to
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  destroy you. They will continue to take
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  advantage of you and put you through the wringer.
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  They will. They will.
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  So just like that's like when you expose them, just be
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  prepared. Because they once you expose
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  them, they're going to try something different.
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  You know they're going to beg. Some of them will beg and plead
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  and cry and beg you not to expose them, especially if you
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  have proof. And that's why I say about
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  recording and documenting, y'all, you might not want to let
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  them know that you're recording and documenting them.
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  You might not want to let them know.
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  It's like just so you know, I'm recording you, that might make
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  them irate. You know, if you're dealing with
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  a dangerous narcissist, that absolutely might make them
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  irate, that might make them lose their mind, you know?
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  So if you're dealing with a toxic, narcissistic person, that
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  absolutely might make them lose it.
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  They might lose their minds. They might go crazy.
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  They might just they they might try to harm you and do some
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  damage to you, you know? Are you recording me and lose?
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  They just go out. Just just go crazy.
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  You don't want that. You know you don't need that.
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  That's why I just tell people just like you don't want that.
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  You don't need that. So record them in secret.
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  Document in secret. Keep a diary if necessary.
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  Like I said, documenting things sometimes just requires you to
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  keep a diary, keep a journal, keep a detailed journal or
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  detailed diary or something like that to to keep a written record
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  of things. But it also helps to have a
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  physical visual record as well. Y'all.
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  I know it's difficult. I know it's sometimes.
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  Sometimes it can be. It can be very scary because you
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  facing down this person that is, you know, this narcissist can be
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  scary. Let's keep it real.
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  Narcissistic people can be scary as hell.
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  You know it just when you expose them to others, they might lose
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  their minds because the reputation is so important to
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  them. If you like, be, and I would
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  just say this as well, be very be careful of who you expose
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  them to. Exposing them, exposing them to
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  their family. Will that shame a narcissist?
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  Yeah, that shames a lot of narcissists because they don't
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  want to be exposed to their family.
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  But what happens a lot of times you expose the narcissist to
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  their family and the family enables their behaviour, their
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  close friends enable their behaviour, the new supply
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  enables their behaviour. Sometimes, you know, sometimes
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  exposing them to the new supply works very rarely.
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  I've seen it work sometimes. But exposing them to the new
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  supply sometimes can actually bring, can actually bring their
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  relationship closer. You know, exposing them to the
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  new supply can bring them closer, can make them the can,
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  make the can unite the relationship even more.
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  Now you have an enemy, You see what I'm saying?
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  Now, now they the triangulation has worked and now you have an
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  enemy. So be very careful on who you
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  expose them to because he exposed them to their, their
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  friends and family typically. They might take their side, you
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  know, they might not believe you.
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  They might just like, oh, we don't believe you.
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  They they haven't, they've never acted that way in front of us.
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  They've never behaved that way in front of us.
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  So what did you do? You know, so you could be
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  wasting your exposure, you know, exposing them to their siblings,
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  you know, 'cause it's very, I mean, sometimes, do the siblings
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  take your side? Yeah.
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  But a lot of times the siblings take their siblings side.
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  That's their brother, that's their sister, that's their
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  parent, you know, that's their son, that's their daughter.
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  You know, you see what I'm saying?
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  That's their child. That's how you get into that
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  space right there. You know, it it, it does happen
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  quite a bit. So that's why I'm telling you,
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  if you're dealing with a narcissistic tax person, be very
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  weary of who you expose them to, how you expose them.
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  Like I said, tick tock explodes. Sometimes you won't expose them
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  in the courtroom if that's what you need, you expose them.
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  If they have a smear campaign against you that is ruining your
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  reputation or ruining your life in some some way shape or form,
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  you can expose them to, you know, the people that need, the
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  people who need to know the truth.
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  It's like they're exposing you. If they're trying to ruin your
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  job, they keep calling your job, harassing them, telling you've
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  been abusive or whatever. You can expose them to the to
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  your job. You can expose them to the
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  police. You can expose them to the
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  necessary authorities. You can expose them to the
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  people who matter in your life. You know, people who might not
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  believe you, people who might be struggling to understand it
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  because everybody doesn't understand narcissistic abuse,
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  toxic abuse job. Unless like sometimes the
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  narcissist doesn't put their hands on you.
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  So it's just like I'm exposing the and for yelling at me.
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  And people go like, well, you need tougher skin, you know,
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  sometimes if you expose them to your friends and family, people
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  might look look at you like you're crazy.
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  Like, oh, so they didn't, they didn't hit you.
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  They just yelled at you a little bit and screaming at you, and
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  now you want a divorce. Now you want to move on.
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  Now you want to break up your family because you got yelled
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  and screamed at it and they might have lied to you and
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  gasses you a little bit. You see, sometimes you have to
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  be very careful exposing them to your own friends and family,
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  because your own friends and family might turn on you or look
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  down on you or look at you sideways.
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  You know that happens as well. Y'all that very.
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  It happens quite a bit in a lot of these relationship dynamics
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  in a lot of these spaces, so you have to be careful exposing them
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  to your friends and family as well.
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  I was like, yo, people who understand what you've been
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  through, people who understand what you went through, you know,
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  they might listen to you more. It'd be more open to listening
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  to you. And people who have also
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  experienced narcissistic or toxic abuse, they might be more
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  apt to listen to you as well. It's just very difficult
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  sometimes from other people to hear you and understand you and
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  actually try to vibe with you on that type of stuff, Y'all.
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  So be very careful when you expose them to it.
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  Because I said you know pick and choose your pick and choose your
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  battles. Y'all pick and choose your
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  battles because your battle that you picked the wrong battle.
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  You can start at war with this narcissistic person that might
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  not end anytime soon. They might be harassing you for
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  months upon months upon months upon years.
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  You know they might be doing that type of stuff for years
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  upon years. So you have to be very careful.
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