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S3 #14 "They're Baaaaack!" · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Benn and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with our radio back. Hey, it's Ashley. We're back for
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  Speaker 1: our undisclosed assignment location. That's so much work done together. Ben,
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  Speaker 1: I got to know you so well. Hey, we want
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  Speaker 1: to say a Vanessa Field in forth last week and
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  Speaker 1: she did an incredible job, such a good job that
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  Speaker 1: we want her back. Uh for the two eighteen I mean, geez,
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  Speaker 1: I almost forgot what years coming up? That's wild. It's
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  Speaker 1: almost two eighteen. It was the fastest year of my life.
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  Speaker 1: And we are very excited to start season four of
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  Speaker 1: the Ben and Ashley Almost as podcast on January second,
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  Speaker 1: to the day after our season premieres. Yeah. Actually, I
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  Speaker 1: gotta tell you congratulations on three. I mean, this is
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  Speaker 1: our last episode of our third season. This is pretty big.
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  Speaker 1: This is a pretty big deal. We got of the
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  Speaker 1: off season being able to fill up time like we
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  Speaker 1: were able to talk about The Bachelor every single week
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  Speaker 1: without the show being on. This shows how exciting our
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  Speaker 1: lives are. Speaking of exciting lives, we have an exciting
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  Speaker 1: guest with us who has a lot going on in
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  Speaker 1: life right now. One of Bachelor Nation's favorite Bachelor at
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  Speaker 1: Ali FORI is with us in studio right now. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: thanks for having me, Hi ban Hi. Actually hey, and
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  Speaker 1: that's not just something that we say to everyone. You
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  Speaker 1: were the first season I ever watched, Yes, and I
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  Speaker 1: loved your season still like it hooked me forever. I'm
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  Speaker 1: a life for now because of you. If it wasn't
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  Speaker 1: because of you my life, who had known where I
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  Speaker 1: would be right now? Who would know? Who knows that
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  Speaker 1: I was gonna say? I was like, Allie, I don't
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  Speaker 1: know if I don't know if I should thank you
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  Speaker 1: for that or not. But if if Ashley I Connettie
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  Speaker 1: started her bachelor journey via years show, you have a
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  Speaker 1: lot of response and how the world is operating in
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  Speaker 1: Baination right now, I actually feel that's a really good
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  Speaker 1: compliment because I feel like, actually you were one of
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  Speaker 1: my favorite reasons for watching and everything, so it all
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  Speaker 1: came full circle. Thanks. Yeah. And when I think it's
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  Speaker 1: cool is like you were also my kind of career
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  Speaker 1: role model. I love the way that you first off,
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  Speaker 1: you kicked ask you were like you were working for
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  Speaker 1: Facebook when you're on the show. Yeah, I was at Facebook.
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  Speaker 1: I honestly I missed that job. I loved that job.
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  Speaker 1: It was so cool, and that's why I had to
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  Speaker 1: do my little you know, leaving the Bachelor to go
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  Speaker 1: back to my job, and you did go back for
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  Speaker 1: a bit. I did. I left him, but then I
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  Speaker 1: asked to come back and he said no, really, I
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  Speaker 1: don't ask me that. Yeah, I know I had no
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  Speaker 1: offense to Jake, But you know, sometimes you look back
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  Speaker 1: and you're like, what, like what did I see? Like?
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  Speaker 1: How did I feel like I was interested in that
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  Speaker 1: person because he's just not my type. But the best
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  Speaker 1: Bachelor moment of all time moment yes, a Pavelka breakup
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  Speaker 1: episode with Vienna. It was at the start of brad
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  Speaker 1: second season. You have not seen this, I highly recommend
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  Speaker 1: the YouTube, Like I don't want to laugh at other
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  Speaker 1: people's sadness and misfortune, but it is one of the
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  Speaker 1: best things I have ever watched. I think I've watched
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  Speaker 1: it times. That's well, I knew going into like that season.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, well, I liked Ali's season. But now,
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  Speaker 1: after watching this fight between two people who I have
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  Speaker 1: no idea who they are, I am going to be
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  Speaker 1: invested in this show for life, because like, I am
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  Speaker 1: so entrenched with this drama and I have no idea.
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  Speaker 1: What it's about Harrison's best work ever? Because they have
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  Speaker 1: this big argument over the dog poop, and like it
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  Speaker 1: goes on and on. We've all been there, right point,
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  Speaker 1: Chris literally says, no one cares about the dog. Stop
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  Speaker 1: interrupting me. But do you think they can look back
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  Speaker 1: on that now and laugh about it? I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I hope. So it was so brutal that I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure they watch it with like just their head
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  Speaker 1: in their hands. Probably probably for me though, Oh you're joy.
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  Speaker 1: It was good. It was and then she stormed off.
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  Speaker 1: It was like one of the craziest Bachelor things and
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  Speaker 1: it's not even talked about that much anymore. It was
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  Speaker 1: so crazy because it was almost ten years ago, isn't
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  Speaker 1: that That's how ancient I am? Yeah, I mean, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it was eighty eight, and it was two nine Jacob
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  Speaker 1: Vienna that season, and then to that for the beginning
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  Speaker 1: of two mine was two thousand ten. So yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: mean it's two thousand eighteen, eight years ago. But my
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  Speaker 1: lone time, I'm old guy. You are not old? How
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  Speaker 1: old are you? Thirty? I think I'm thirty three, You're
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  Speaker 1: you're very young. Bachelorette though you were twenty six when
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  Speaker 1: you're the bachelorette, right, I think it was even twenty five?
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  Speaker 1: No way, So did you think that they were really
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  Speaker 1: ready in the moment? And you look back and you're like,
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  Speaker 1: I probably wasn't ready. I probably was. I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: I mean maybe not. I mean honestly, I thought I
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  Speaker 1: was ready to get married when I was twenty Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and now at twenty nine, I'm like, oh, you definitely weren't.
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  Speaker 1: And your O now right right? So, I mean I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. Was I ready? Probably not? Um, but I
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  Speaker 1: felt like I was at the time. Yeah. So well
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  Speaker 1: and here I am not. Now I am married. We
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  Speaker 1: got a kid, another kid on the way. It's crazy
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  Speaker 1: hill life changes. Yeah, tell us about the Alley catch
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  Speaker 1: ut up a little bit. I mean, you have a
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  Speaker 1: kid who we all love and we follow on your
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  Speaker 1: social media, and then you have another one on the way.
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  Speaker 1: Do win and and kind of walk us through how
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  Speaker 1: is this, kim about? Are you planning on more? Are
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  Speaker 1: you excited about this? What's going on? Well, Ben, let
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  Speaker 1: me tell you about the birds and the beat. This happened,
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  Speaker 1: This happens, kidding, Do walk me through that we have
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  Speaker 1: our adorable daughter, Molly, who was just the best thing ever.
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  Speaker 1: And yes, I'm one of those super lame parents that
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  Speaker 1: gives their child an Instagram handle, but I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I want to snatch it up before somebody
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  Speaker 1: else takes it and get her followers. So if she
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  Speaker 1: doesn't amount to anything in life, at least she can
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  Speaker 1: have an Instagram following. But kidding, she is going to
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  Speaker 1: be a doctor. But yeah, and then we we wanted
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  Speaker 1: to have two kids really close together. We wanted them
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  Speaker 1: to be two years apart. They're going to be exactly
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  Speaker 1: twenty three months apart, so almost exactly two years. Um.
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  Speaker 1: And we feel super lucky and I'm finally feeling better
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  Speaker 1: for st Trim. Mr always sucks for me. It's the worst. Um.
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  Speaker 1: But the problem with this pregnancy is that like I'm
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  Speaker 1: already huge, like I already have, you are not. I'm
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  Speaker 1: sitting right next to her. She's not. She looks perfect,
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  Speaker 1: she carries beautifully, but my belly is big. What is
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  Speaker 1: up with you Bachelor girls just carrying like magically? I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to be the Kim Kardashian of the Bachelor franchise
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to me getting pregnant, like I'm just
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  Speaker 1: gonna not be able on my face is going to
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  Speaker 1: be so freaking puffy, I'm gonna gain seventy pounds. I
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  Speaker 1: thought that about myself too, though really in that didnt
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  Speaker 1: I was, I honestly feel better pregnant, like how I
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  Speaker 1: look better about my body and how I look more
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  Speaker 1: than when I'm not pregnant. You So, because you feel
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  Speaker 1: that way about yourself, you'll probably be super beautiful. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I think Carly felt the same way. Like Carly gets
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  Speaker 1: puffy just in the heat and humidity in Bachelor in
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  Speaker 1: Paradise and she was like, I am going to blow
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  Speaker 1: up like a balloon. And now she's carrying like a
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  Speaker 1: little maternity model. Yeah, she's so cute. She I feel
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  Speaker 1: like she's tunny. The first pregnancy, that's the thing. He
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  Speaker 1: barely doesn't get that big at the beginning. It's more
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  Speaker 1: towards the end. The second pregnancy. Your body just like
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  Speaker 1: it's just like all just like falls out like it's
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  Speaker 1: fun and and Ali, I'm I love and I hear
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  Speaker 1: about it a lot, and we're actually talking about before
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  Speaker 1: the episode came on. Here you have a blog, so
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  Speaker 1: any new moms or current moms or moms trying to
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  Speaker 1: experience or share life with somebody, they can go to
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  Speaker 1: your blog. Ali loves filled a l I l u
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  Speaker 1: v s. Yeah, I love Yeah, please tell us about it.
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  Speaker 1: Sure I Um. I started this blog like I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: maybe four years ago honestly just to show like it
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  Speaker 1: was when I was on the news, and it was
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  Speaker 1: just to show my outfits every day because everybody was
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  Speaker 1: asking about my outfits. And then it sort of turned
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  Speaker 1: into this like still outfits. I love doing affordable fashion stuff.
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  Speaker 1: But um, now it's turned into like a mommy blog
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  Speaker 1: and really just like a personal venting blog. Probably what
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  Speaker 1: you guys do on here, I do on my blog,
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  Speaker 1: you know, just like it's all like word vomit. Um.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, it's turned to just like really a job
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  Speaker 1: for me, and it's been great because it's allowed me
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  Speaker 1: to spend most of my time working from home and
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  Speaker 1: letting really my full full time job be being a mom,
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  Speaker 1: which has been so awesome. So it's been great. That
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  Speaker 1: is basically my perfect lifestyle. Yeah. In the future, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's amazing because I mean working a little bit and
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  Speaker 1: then being a mom. When you get pregnant, you can
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  Speaker 1: bring your baby here into the studio and you know,
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  Speaker 1: give your baby a little microphone and you know, see
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  Speaker 1: what they have to say. When I did my first
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  Speaker 1: interview with Jaden Tanner post emmy, she was two weeks
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  Speaker 1: old and she was cooing into the mic and it
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  Speaker 1: was so adorable. That's so sweet. Maybe she'll be your
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  Speaker 1: future third co hosting in here, who knows. But but yeah, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: we'd miss you too much. Um but yeah, So it's
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  Speaker 1: been great because you know, I basically about one or
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  Speaker 1: two days a week. I work at Home and Family,
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  Speaker 1: which is on the Hallmark Channel, which is a show
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  Speaker 1: that I've been on for I think I've been going
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  Speaker 1: in there for about a year now, officially for only
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  Speaker 1: since September. But it's the best show to be a
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  Speaker 1: part of. I'm so lucky that all my bachelor crazy
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  Speaker 1: stuff has led me like sort of on this little
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  Speaker 1: TV career path, which is, yeah, it's great, right. And
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  Speaker 1: people always say, oh, you're in the entertainment business now,
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  Speaker 1: so you must have gone on the show just to
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  Speaker 1: be famous or you know, just to be almost famous podcast.
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  Speaker 1: It's like no, it's like these opportunities arise after and
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  Speaker 1: the reason I'm sure like with you, Ben and saying
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  Speaker 1: with you. Actually that people sort of were drawn to
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  Speaker 1: on the show is because you you know, I don't
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  Speaker 1: know a better way to say this, but like to
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  Speaker 1: talk or like, you know, like like to share. So
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  Speaker 1: I've turned that. It's turned into opportunities and I've taken
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  Speaker 1: a hold of them. And yeah, I get to do
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  Speaker 1: this awesome show Home and Family and UM one day
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  Speaker 1: week and then do my blog and then be a
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  Speaker 1: stay at home mom the rest of the time. So
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  Speaker 1: I feel like life is good right now. I cannot
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  Speaker 1: complain that is perfect. I've always yeah, I've always said
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  Speaker 1: the same thing. I'm like, well, yes, did I got
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  Speaker 1: my master's in broadcast journalism. Of course I was excited
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  Speaker 1: for the doors it was going to open. But if
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  Speaker 1: Crystals was my husband, I would have probably dropped those
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  Speaker 1: dreams and moved to Iowa to be just be a
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  Speaker 1: mom and a wife like that's just that's my style,
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  Speaker 1: or you would do this podcast from Iowa. That yeah,
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  Speaker 1: would have worked out too. What do you think of Ari?
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  Speaker 1: I love that Ari is the Bachelor. I mean Ari,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like you do. I don't I've never met you,
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  Speaker 1: know what, I can't even see This is a crazy
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  Speaker 1: thing about being part of the Bachelor family is that
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if this ever happens to you. Actually
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  Speaker 1: you been. But sometimes I'll meet somebody and I'll be like,
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  Speaker 1: have we met? Because I feel like I know them?
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  Speaker 1: But you know, probably how some of the viewers feel
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  Speaker 1: when they meet you. You know, they feel like they
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  Speaker 1: know you. I feel like that about contestants, and then like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, Sarah Herron. The other day I saw her,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my gosh, I need to be She's
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  Speaker 1: like when we met at Jaden Tanner's water I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my gosh. I follow her on social media, so
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  Speaker 1: like I felt like I hadn't met her, but I
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  Speaker 1: Jane Tanner's wedding didn't count. There are so many people
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  Speaker 1: briefly waved at and I didn't get to really know.
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  Speaker 1: But so I don't think I have my ari, but uh,
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  Speaker 1: you know, we follow each other on social media, so
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  Speaker 1: obviously we're super best friends. Um. So yeah, I'm just
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  Speaker 1: liked it's him because I feel like, again bringing back
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  Speaker 1: to how old I feel, but I feel like it's
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  Speaker 1: like a throwback to my error of the show. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm excited if he fall in the timeline like were
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  Speaker 1: you bachelor at first? Or was Emily? Emily was after
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  Speaker 1: so it was me Ashley and then Emily, so he
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  Speaker 1: was actually so everybody thinks he's old school. Um, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I know, he was a few years after me. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like there's like a specific generations, and I feel
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  Speaker 1: like it may have started again with the Year season
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  Speaker 1: or Jake season, and then I think the new generation
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  Speaker 1: started probably with Christal season. Yeah, yeah, probably for sure.
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  Speaker 1: Some of us have been here since the very first one. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: we're you a fan of the show beforehand. I watched
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  Speaker 1: one season of the show before I was on it,
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  Speaker 1: and that was Jason Mesnick season, and I watched it
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  Speaker 1: because I was in a crappy relationship and the guy
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  Speaker 1: treated me like can I say, yeah, I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: I guess I just did. Um, but I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: get out of it. I needed a distraction. So I
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  Speaker 1: was watching Jason Mesnicks season and thinking, oh, I would
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  Speaker 1: just love it if a guy treated me like this,
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  Speaker 1: which is weird because he was dating with a juicy ending.
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  Speaker 1: That's one of the best juiciest ever I know. See,
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  Speaker 1: there's a lot of there was a lot of juice
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  Speaker 1: back though, because we need to get some scandal going on.
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  Speaker 1: What's going on? That he did stay with her though,
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  Speaker 1: So even despite the weird like switcheroo, he's still with her,
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  Speaker 1: even listening having no idea what we're talking about. It
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  Speaker 1: was a long time ago, but I mean it's crazy
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  Speaker 1: they've been married for like eight years. A kid picked
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  Speaker 1: Melissa Ryecroft in the finale, he like proposed then at
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  Speaker 1: the after the final rows he changed his mind, which
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  Speaker 1: I just think is like what And I can't think
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  Speaker 1: of her name, Molly Molly Mesnick. How can you forget that?
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  Speaker 1: Till the other day? She's in She works for I
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  Speaker 1: Heeart Radio. Also she has a radio show she does. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: she does question he like, did he break up with
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  Speaker 1: Ryecroft before he broke up with TV? I think she
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  Speaker 1: was blindsided. I think you guys know how the show works,
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  Speaker 1: so you know how the producers can you know, I
• 13:33
  Speaker 1: hate to use the word manipulate, but like theyway you know, like, hey,
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  Speaker 1: you can't say anything before because of encouraged exactly, So
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  Speaker 1: you know, I'm sure he was made to feel like
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  Speaker 1: that was his only options. Such a good things weren't great,
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  Speaker 1: you know, what I mean people, Oh absolutely, you know,
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  Speaker 1: like the little rendezbouts. I was gonna say, how how
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  Speaker 1: was those happy couple of weekends were not? Obviously, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so I just remembered you. I forgot. I fully forgot
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  Speaker 1: an entire relationship you had, because you're talking about I'm
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  Speaker 1: talking to. I just had a weird yeah, because in
• 14:11
  Speaker 1: my mind Ali, I know Ali's husband, and she's so
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  Speaker 1: married to him. It's like you've been married to him forever.
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  Speaker 1: I literally just had this realization like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: you dated the guy that you got engaged to. Yeah, whoa, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: we like the lifetime ago. It seems like another life. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's funny. I was just saying the other day to
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  Speaker 1: somebody like I would actually at this point it's so
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  Speaker 1: funny because they were actually considering Roberto to be the
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  Speaker 1: bachelor after um we split up. But I was so
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  Speaker 1: upset about it, like I was just like it was
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  Speaker 1: too fresh, and I was just like that's not okay,
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  Speaker 1: Like you can't do this to me, Like I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to see that. Um because like you know, obviously
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  Speaker 1: people from the show are you know, recycled and you
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  Speaker 1: you know, the cast off of the previous season becomes
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  Speaker 1: the Bachelor, but it's the cast off. It's not someone
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  Speaker 1: who was actually a real long term relationship after the show.
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  Speaker 1: So anyway, at this point, the you know, I'm married.
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  Speaker 1: I'm happy, it's been so long. I mean, I've texted
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  Speaker 1: with Roberto the other day, like we're totally important. He doesn't, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: he just see single. I think so. I think he
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  Speaker 1: is because I think that they've been looking at him
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  Speaker 1: for other things, for things. Yeah, I would be so
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  Speaker 1: like on board for him to be the Bachelor, Like
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  Speaker 1: I would be ruined along with him with everybody else watching,
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  Speaker 1: Like I I honestly think it would be cool if
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  Speaker 1: it happened. So he was so my type. When I
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: was watching her season, I was like, I would be
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  Speaker 1: just as physically attracted to this man and not be
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: blind to everyone else, just like Ali's being right. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like you'd make a good couple. Honestly, I do.
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  Speaker 1: He's a good guy. He's he is a good guy.
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  Speaker 1: We just were totally you know, we just didn't Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't match up together, you know what I mean. Um,
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, I would be into seeing him, seeing him
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  Speaker 1: do it in the future. I bet. I'm sure everybody
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  Speaker 1: asks you all the time, but would you do it again? Uh?
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: That is such a good question, Ali, Would I do
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: it again? I could? I have such a hard time
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: now saying no, And I would never do anything again
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: because I find myself saying that and then doing the
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: exact same thing I said I would never do again.
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: But I I honestly I can't even imagine like it would.
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: It gives me anxieties that even think about the idea
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: of stepping back into that role and like going about it.
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: I just think dating on television is really hard, and
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: then dating afterwards even is even harder. And so I
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: don't know if I want to put myself or anybody
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: else through that again. I don't. It would be really
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: hard for me to say yes to do you know
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: what I want to put you in? Though? Ben? What's up?
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: A blue apron? Wow? You know that Amy and my
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: fantasy with Ben? Cookie in his kitchen and the blue
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: apron and no shirt. Well, guys, the holidays are here,
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: Families in town, it is time to make some food.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: Blue Apron is the leading meal kits delivery service in
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: the US. And while you may know what they do,
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: do you know all the types of meals that you
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: can eat when you cook with Blue Apron. It's not
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: just burgers. It is short ribbed burgers with a hoppy
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: cheddar sauce on a pretzel bun. Dan, that sounds really
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: good right now, Ben should do this for us for
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: Valentine's Day. I'm serious, Ben, are you saying just the apron,
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: just the apron and cooking us blue Apron? This is
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: making it like a maazing candle light the whole thing.
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: This is what we'll do. We'll take pictures of Ben
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: and post it on social media him doing this for
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: all the single girls out there on Valentine's Day. Um.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: They also have seared steak with pan sauce, mashed potatoes
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: this one, okay, mashed potatoes, green beans, and crispy shallots.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: You can make all this under forty five minutes without
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: a trip to the grocery store. Blue Apron's mission is
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: to make incredible home cooking accessible to everyone. Right, we're
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: making it so easy for Ben to keep us happy,
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: So so easy. Listen to these other recipes. For December.
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: There's roasted chicken with maple butter, pepl butter with mashed
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: sweet potatoes and collared greens, Chilia butter steaks with lemon
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: parmesan broccoli. Love the sound of lemon parmesan broccoli and potatoes,
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: and Blue Apron is treating you to your first three meals.
• 18:13
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• 18:19
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• 18:25
  Speaker 1: Blue Apron a better way to cook. Wow, that was incredible, Ashley.
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: You are incredible and I would love I would love
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: the cookie guys and dinner sometimes, but I I think
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: health code requires me to wear asshurts a Ali. I
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: know life we we just kind of touched on it,
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: but I know life posts Bachelor I got really crazy
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: and really had a lot of opportunities for you really quickly.
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: Can you help all of us kind of understand because
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: I think you're one of the first to really step
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: into the world of entertainment or posting that really after
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: the Bachelorette and you did a great job that you've
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: been really successful and as you said, you're now doing
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: a show on on the Hallmark Channel. Kind of how
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: has that experience been for you, and it's led you
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: up to this point today. Do you feel like you've
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: grown a lot since the Bachelorette? Oh my gosh, I
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: feel like I'm a completely different person. I still sometimes
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: will get tweets from people saying, remember when you were
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: mean to Vienna on The Bachelor, and I was just
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: like I was twenty four years old, Like that was
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: a decade ago. I'm thirty three with a daughter, and
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: like's I'm a different person. So yeah, I've completely changed
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: since then. And I obviously don't agree with all of
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: my behavior back then on the show. We've all been there,
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: We've all made mistakes on the show, I'm sure, um,
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: but yeah, I mean for me, I went on the
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: show wholeheartedly wanting to find love, Like not not the Bachelor.
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: I wanted the Bachelor for a good time and free drinks. Okay,
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: nobody anyone who tells you that you go on as
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: a contestant to like really find love. I feel like
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: it's it's a kind of a little bs. Oh yeah.
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: I actually just watched ours first episod out and like
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: all these girls been like, I'm so excited to be
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: here to find love. I'm like you really think that
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: that one man that you're paired up with is going
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: to be your life. Come on, guys, you go on
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: open to finding love for sure? Right? It was a
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: hopeless romantic of course if you're not looking for a
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: husband and then get out. Yeah. Like I was, like,
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: like I said earlier, to really bad relationship. So I
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: just wanted a distraction, right, Um. So yeah. But then
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: once I realized, okay, this is possible to find love
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: once I became the Bachelorette, That's when I went on
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: like really to find love. But this is the thing.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: I had to leave my job at Facebook to be
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: the Bachelorette. I had to leave it. I left all
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: my stock. I didn't have a ton of stock. I
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: wasn't like super earlier like some people. But enough, um,
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: I had to leave my stock options because I wasn't invested.
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: Um and this Jake season no, yeah, the Bachelor. I
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: knew at that point that I had to figure out
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: how to survive after that. I needed to figure out
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: how to make money after that. So did I go
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: on thinking, oh, well, I'm just going to find love
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna go to Nebraska and never stepped
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: foot in the entertainment industry. Again, No, I didn't think
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: that way. You know, I did think I'm going to
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: take advantage of every opportunity. In fact, the best advice
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: I ever got, and I think somebody else told me
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: they got this advice from Jimmy Kimmel once. Um uh,
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: you know, we were lucky enough to go on his
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: show after the seasons and he said to me, make
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: all the money you can right now. That advice. Yeah,
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: because he said he gave that advice to me to
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: and Chris sold. He said, do as much as you can,
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: make as much money you can as you can with
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: the burden that is fame. And I think that is
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: I mean, it is such a brilliant piece of advice
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: because you know, we're all hesitant to do anything with
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: it post Bachelor, bachelorrette. But what he's saying is, hey,
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: you're already gonna your your name is already out there,
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: your face is going to be everywhere, Like, do something
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: with that because you're not gonna get away away with it,
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: right right. No, that's so funny. He must like give
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: us all that advice, which is great advice. I'm glad
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: I is on Jimmy. He didn't say this just kidding.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: It was it was be a FaceTime so it's a
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: little different. But for me he said this, you know,
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: I think it was off camera. That's actually make as
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: much money as possible. But no, for you know, he
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: said to me too, is it's fleeting. And that's one
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: thing with the show. You are a hot commodity right
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: after the show is over. It's funny. I feel like
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: every Bachelor contestant kind of goes through this. Honestly, maybe
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: except for you, Ben, because you're just the nicest person
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: in the face of the planet. But I feel like
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: every Bachelor or bachelorette when the show is over, they
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: kind of feel like they're super important, right Everybody wants
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: to talk to them, everybody wants their interview, you know.
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: So it's kind of and I've heard this from other
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: people in the industry that like some of the Bachelor mets,
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: they get a little bit too much on their high
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: horse after the show. But then a year passes, Let's
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: say they break up from their relationship, then really they're
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: not people don't care as much anymore, and then the
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: theme starts going away and they start becoming nice and
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: being the real the real selves again. I feel like
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: that that's happened with so many people. Um me too, honestly,
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: Like I feel like after the show, I all of
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: a sudden thought I was very important and like kind
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: of put because you gotta put up these walls of
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: like everyone's trying to get a piece of you that
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: you feel like you kind of have to like shut
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: everybody out, and then it comes across wrong and you
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: know it's a cycle, but um but anyway, I feel
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: like the same goes away. So you gotta like take
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: hold of those opportunities right at the beginning. And that's
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: what I did, you know. I feel like I really
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: kind of just like grasp onto every opportunity I could get.
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: And I knew one thing that I was good at
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: was public speaking. I think that you and I you
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: really were my role model. Well that is like seriously
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: the nicest thing. Thank you for saying that. And then
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: but yeah, so and then here I am. I mean,
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: I'm lucky that I've been able to stay in the
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: industry someone and make a living out of it, and
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: I feel super grateful for that. But I think the
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: problem is the people that like go in thinking that's
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: going to be their path and never is. I didn't
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: like go in thinking that I'd be here eight years later,
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: you know, working on a TV show and you know,
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: on Universal Plaza. Um. I thought, you know, I'd be
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: way done with it by now. So I think if
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: you go in not really expecting it, it kind of
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: happens for you. And it's a lot of hard work too.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: I have to work hard. Yeah, So this industry isn't
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: all like glam that you see on TV. It's also
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: you know, you still work for it, even though we
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: obviously got the big bump of being on the show
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: and becoming recognizable. Yeah. No, I mean that's what I'm saying.
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: You give some good advice. And I think one of
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: the things about you, and even talking to you at
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: at the wedding a few years ago, that I appreciate
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: is you are honest with your successes and failures and
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: have you you've kind of handled yourself post Bachelor and
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: kind of this platform that I actually I always say
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: it's just been given to us, um, And what would
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: be your advice to anybody out there that is either
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: going to go in the Bachelor or The Bachelor or
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: just trying to pursue a career that they feel is
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: almost unpossible right now, what would be your advice to them,
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: and how do you handle yourself as a person with
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: character in that process. Well, I think you can't. That's
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: the big problem is I think you can't go on
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: the show kind of expecting there to be a career afterwards,
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: you know, if it's in the vice, like I guess
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: for me with it in the back of my mind
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: that I needed to see his opportunities afterwards because I
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: just gave up one of the best jobs of my
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: life and all you know, yes it was. But I
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: think you need to make your main focus like not
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: about that, because I think when you start making it
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: about that, that's a problem. I think after the show
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: the biggest thing to get on the show. I don't
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: know if you guys agree with this. I think to
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: get on the show, you have to be open and
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: willing to talk about anything in your feelings. Right. People
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: always like, what I'm doing casting for a bachelor tomorrow,
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: what is your advice for me? I'm like, be willing
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: to talk about everything going on in your life, be
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: super vulnerable, super open, and just like if they ask
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: you like the most personal question ever you answer it like,
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: don't say like I've never thought of I've never thought
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: of that, even though I've done this so many times.
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: Is because people ask all the time. The advice that
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: is great advice, because you better be ready to have
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: your life completely displayed on television maybe for years to
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: come right right, And you know what, if you're a crier,
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: let yourself cry during Did you cry during guest? I didn't,
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: but I think I probably did, like show emotion, like
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: when I was talking about like having never had a boyfriend,
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: I was probably like, I know, this is awkward. This
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: is so awkward to like vocalize to a stranger, but
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: you feel you sound a little bit emotional. And I
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: of course had to talk about I talked about the
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: virginity thing in my casting and I knew that it
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: would help me get on the show, which is why
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: I was open about talking about it, but it was
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: also true. It wasn't something that I came up with
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: and get on the show. People, of course, during my
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: first season, they're like, how this girl, It's just she
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: came up with something to get attention, and I'm like no,
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: And I think after a season or two they were like,
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: oh no, she's will a hundred percent legit awkward, but
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: you were open about that during would you have to
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: be That's how you get cast in the show. After
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: you get on the show, this is my thing. You
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: if you make it to the end, towards the end,
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: I guess, and becomes sort of a face of the show.
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: That's how you're going to get the opportunities. It just
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: it's such a bummer because like people who kind of
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: get eliminated the first couple episodes will be like what
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: should I do? How do I get And I'm just
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: like You're like you're sorry. I'm like, I'm sorry, but
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: people don't know your face enough, like you know, you're
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: gonna have to go about it the hard way. Well
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: you know, really the traditional way, which is like working
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: your way up from the bottom as like a p
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: A assistant and then going up. You know, I'll respect
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: to p A p A um or they are that's
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: what the isstant is production assistant, but um But anyway,
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: I mostly say if you do have a little bit
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: from it, like take advantage of it at the beginning.
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: But like b and I apologize if Ashley Ben You've
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: done any of this, but be careful not to jump
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: on the bachelor bandwagons. I think that's one of the
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: things that I've really tried not to do in terms
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: in terms of making um, it's not just about like
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: posting an Instagram to make money, right, turning into something
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: else making it more authentic. I don't know if that
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: really makes sense. I don't want to like insult anybody
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: or putting anybody down. But for instance, I'll say this,
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: after the show, I was given the opportunity to rep
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: a brand that I was not comfortable with. It was
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: a brand that I thought sent a wrong message to
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: young girls about body image and something. Yeah, it wasn't
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: a healthy like there are some healthy ones out there,
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: not even a healthy diet pelle, but like all natural
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: ones that actually think maybe I did do a campaign one,
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: but it was like one of those ones that's like
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: like the federmin in it or something. I don't know
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: what that ingredient is that's not good for you. So
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: I was offered I think I can't remember exactly, but like, honestly,
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: it was like half a million dollars, Like it was great.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: I've never been offered anything like that that amount, not
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: even close. I was just beside myself. It was for
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: like a long term campaign. This was right after The Bachelor,
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: and it was so hard for me to turn that
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: down because that would have changed my life. That would
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: have a house, that would I mean, it would have
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: changed my life. And I chose. I remember having long
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: talks with like my friend who was like a kind
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: of manager to me at the time, um and my lawyer,
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: and we just decided, like collectively, as like a team,
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: that like, that's not the message I want to send
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: to young girls out there, and that's not the kind
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: of brand that I want to put out there for myself.
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: So I could have taken it, but I didn't. And
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: you know, sometimes even I'm like, should I just have
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: taken it? Would it really have effected thing? But at
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: the time I didn't want to because that was my thing.
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: But damn, well, now we really have to give you
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: the same thing here. I mean, we're very very picky
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: about people that we let sponsor this show and have
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: to believe in them, and they have to be a
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: fit for Benn and Nashley. And it's like I respect
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: that and I believe in that for them too. I
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: think that is the key to longevity and you know,
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: congratulations to you guys and your fourth season coming up
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: the end of season three. Um, but I think that's
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: a key and it's great that you guys are doing
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: that because I think like keeping true to yourselves and
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: your brand and not you know, people say like all
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: the things when Bachelor people post Instagram for money, it's
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: selling out. It's not selling out if it's a product
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: they really like, it's selling out when it's something that
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: they wouldn't use are uncomfortable way. So I think that's
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: the key to like having a career after the Bachelor.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: I use Loreale because of Blake Lively, so my thing
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: because her hair is Look, if you would take a
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: you know, a diet pill to in your regular life
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: and you want to enduse it, then do it, you know.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: So I'm not saying that product is bad. That's just
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: not something I do. So that's why it's something that
• 30:33
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  Speaker 1: Wait what parabin freak, Alex Mommy, Ali? Can you please
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: explain me? What is I mean from I think I
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: don't want to misspeak, but like there's not like a
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: bunch of chemicals in it. Parabins are like bad for
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: you your skin and stuff, so something something I mean,
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: not bad for you, but like they say, if you're pregnant,
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: you should use products that are parabin free. So I
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: it was psyched to hear you say that. Yeah, before
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: you leave us, Ali, I love to like tie in
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: the way people whose Bachelor or Bachelor experiences didn't actually
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: work in the traditional way, but they did end up
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: meeting their husband or wife somehow through the opportunities that
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: they got through the show. We had Andrew Firestone on
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: like a month ago, and he was telling us about
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: how he was here to record an after show or something,
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: and he ended up meeting his wife while like at
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: a bar in l A. And he wouldn't have been there,
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: it weren't for the show, and I feel like you
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: kind of met your husband in a similar way. You
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: were the host of First Look, which is so interesting
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: because Ben and I actually have a Golden Globes episode
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: of First Look coming out like a week. Yeah, I know,
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: look at this, so full circle. But anyway, tell us
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: about how you met your husband through that. Yeah, so
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: I um. After actually right after Roberto and I entered
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: our engagement and broke up, I randomly got a call
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: um from somebody saying the show First Look wants you
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: to host it because they thought I was perfect, because
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: they're like, oh, she just entered her engagement, so we
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: can send her all over the country, you know, and
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: she'll be fine with it because she has no attachment
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: that you guys are doing the specials. The specials are
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: like reserved for like very important people, so I should
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: feel I don't even think I did any of the specials.
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: Ben sent some non specials as well. But this this
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: is a little different in the sense that it was NonStop.
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: I mean that show, I loved it, but man, it
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: was hard. I traveled. I was on a plane every
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: like three days for a year and a half. Like that,
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: where's so you can't have any attachments. So anyway, they
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: had me do this show. So I went and did
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: First Look and my now husband, um uh he was
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: his best friend was one of the producers for the
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: show in Chicago, and I was in Chicago doing a
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: um round of episodes and his best friend, who my producer,
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: asked Kevin to come on and co host one of
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: the episodes of me. So he came on and coast
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: one of the episodes. He was in a very serious
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: relationship at the time, so um, we didn't. We didn't uh,
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: you know, instantly fall in love or anything. But man,
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: then then and I met him, I was like, oh,
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: dang it, like I this guy would be perfect for me.
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: And of course he's taken, so um. I mean he
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: was married at the time, so he was very taken. Um.
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: So I just kind of like forgot about it. And then,
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: you know, six months later, my producer, when I was
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: back in Chicago, he was like, yeah, you know, you
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: know said how is Kevin doing and everything? He said, oh,
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: you know, he's okay. He's kind of going through a
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: rough times, going through a divorce. And I was like,
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, and then keep down inside.
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: I was like, yes, I feel so bad, like even
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: just say that out loud, But like I just knew
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: this guy was like meant for me. I don't know it,
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: just like the secondment, I knew he would have been
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: perfect for me. The universe knew too, and you didn't
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: cause the problems. So hallelujah, you know exactly know it
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: all worked out the way it should obviously, um and
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: uh yeah, So if it wasn't, I always say, like
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: people will say, would you let your daughter Molly be
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: the bachelotte one day or going the Bachelor? And I'm like, yes,
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: if it wasn't for the Bachelor Bachelorette, she would not
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: exist because I never would have had that TV show.
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: I never would have met Kevin, or maybe I would
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: have just a different way, who knows. But so how
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: could I say to her, No, you can't go on
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: that show, and one you can't go into your eighteen anyway,
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: and at that point I can't control Well, at that point,
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: I guess that's a good thing. Imagine if they had
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: a bunch of eighteen, oh right, unless they took the
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: show maybe to like Copenhagen or something for they would
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: be allowed, but we don't need anybody. Actually, I think
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: I know that in other countries they can be below
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: twenty one for that reason. On the show is like
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: that's funny. Yeah, but you know what, people are already
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: saying there's too many young girls and already season this season,
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of times like, really, anyone
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: under twenty one for sure has some growing to do
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: before they need to get married, So let's keep it on.
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: At least we should raise it to five. Really, I
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: think so too. I totally think so. Guys. The more
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: the more age we raise it to, the less drama
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: we get. And we just talked culiar we need more drama,
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: we know what more do I don't know? Then I
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: feel like there's more people they're craving romance than drama
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: these days. Hey, hey, I actually I'm all about that.
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: But the first couple of weeks are still fun to
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: watch the train wreck here, So I'm just I'm just
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: saying I like that. I'm really interested in in one
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: thing here if we if you don't mind, I would
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: like to take it back a few years, um, because
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: you know, the Bachelor has had uh, just a lot
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: of press recently, there's been a lot of negatives to it. Uh,
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: you know, but the Bachelor is still something that you
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: and I uh participated and and found somebody that really
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: cared about. If you don't mind you, I mean, did
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: you really find love on the Bachelorette or it was
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: that relationship real to you or was it just more
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: of being caught up in the moment by being on
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: the show. The relationship to me when we got engaged
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: was absolutely real in my mind. I mean, there are
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: parts of me looking back I think like, was I
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: really ready? Was I just caught up in the moment?
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: I do think I was caught up in the moment.
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: I do think I was caught up in the idea
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: of wanting to get engaged and wanting it to work out,
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: knowing how much pressure would be on me to have
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: something work out. Um, and I do think I do
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: think it was real in the sense of any relationship
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: that's not meant to be how it starts out. You know,
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: it started out great, like, oh my gosh, I thought
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: it was the hottest thing in the world when we
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: were together, Like I just couldn't every time I saw him.
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: I think on camera even I just made out with
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: him because I just couldn't this myself, um so, but
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: reversist myself. I couldn't resist him, um so. I you know,
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: I do think it was real, But I think I
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: knew pretty early on in my case that it wasn't
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: gonna work, um just because I realized how fundamentally different
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: we were right from the get go in terms of
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: our beliefs on um just like how things work in
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: a household, you know, like like small things that we
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: were just so fundamentally mentally different on that I knew
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: right away. But like any any relationship I've ever been in,
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: I don't know about you guys, but regardless of the show,
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: before the show, I've always stayed in too long, like
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: it should have ended a year before, months before, and
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: you stay in it, You stay in it, you fight
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: for I'm sure people listening can totally relate to this.
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: You know, you should break up with this guy, but
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: he just you love him so much. You try and
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: you try and you try to make it work. So
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: I think that's kind of what I went through. I
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: knew very early on, probably within honestly the first few weeks,
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: to be honest, that like this wasn't something was off,
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: but I believed deep down in my heart that like,
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: we loved each other and we couldn't make it work.
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: So how did it feel to accept a proposal from
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: somebody who you had that gut feeling it was. I
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: didn't like, sorry, I didn't have that at the proposal.
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: I had that once we were in like the happy
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: couple getaways. Um, those were actually fine. I think we
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: had one little argument during that time that I was
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: kind of like, this is not good. Um. But I
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: think it was after after we came up publicly, I
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: should say within a few weeks after that, I was
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: kind of like, okay something. And we were to get
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: there a year and a half after the show, after
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: we got engaged. Yeah, I mean that is I mean
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: a decent amount of time. At the time. It was
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: at the time when we broke up, we had been
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: the longest engaged couple that didn't get married from the show.
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: And now these people have been together a lot longer,
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: but at the time it was very long. Um, and
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: I just but I think that's the thing. It wasn't
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: just Yes, there was the pressure of the public to
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: stay together. Yes, there was the pressure. Um, you know
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: of you know, even the show wanting us to stay together. Um,
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: but the biggest pressure was the pressure I put on
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: myself to want to stay together because I just I
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: knew this guy was great. He was good looking, he
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: was responsible, he was very kind people, a good person.
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: Why wasn't I Why wasn't this working? Like I was
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: like upset with myself. So, you know, I think I
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: put the most pressure on myself for sure, But you know,
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: I think we all do that. I think we all
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: do that relationships. We stay in a relationship too long
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: and you knew you should get out. All your friends
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: are telling you this guy or this girl is bad
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: for you, get out of this relationship, and you're like, oh,
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: but I don't know. I love him and you know
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: we're meant to be. And that's kind of what I
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: was going through in my head. And then one day
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: I just said, this is not right and just it
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: was very ended, very abruptly. But well, Ali, thank you
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: for telling us all about your bachelor journey. We need
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: to talk about what you're doing currently with your new
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: It's it's a new show, right, it's starting to it
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: just started air, but it's crazy home and family. I
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: feel like it's for like twenty years or something. It's
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: like a super long running show. It used to be
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: on another network, but it's on Hallmark Channel now and
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: it's in its sixth season on Hallmark Channel. Um, it's
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: such a great show. I mean, I know we talked
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: about how like this business. No no, no, no, no, no,
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: I'm not Mark. Um and Debbie are the co host
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: of the segments on it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I feel
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: in sometimes I fill in for them sometimes. Um, when
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: they're out doing stuff. They're the craziest. Um. They have
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: the craziest schedule and they work harder than anybody in
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: the business. Um. But the great thing about this show,
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: so I'm we call what I'm called is a family
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: member on the show. And the thing is it might
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: sound cheesy, like honestly, when I first got on the show,
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm a family member. Like, well, I'm like
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: a corresponder, I'm a I get it now because we
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: are a family on that show. It is truly the
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: best show to be a part of. I'm not just
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: saying that because i know they're going to listen to this.
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: I'm truly not just It is the truth, Like people
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: care about each other. They are If someone has a hardship,
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: whether it's someone on the camera crew or a producer,
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: anybody has a chip in, they're like, we pulled together
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: money to help them out. Like it is one of
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: the best working environments that I've ever been in, and
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: I feel so fortunate and like you to be part
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: of the show. Like if nobody with the show is
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: doing great, thankfully, but if nobody watched the show, I
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: still would want to be on it every day just
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: because it's such a great environment to be a part of.
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: Um And they give us food every day, which is
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: really nice. That's always a part. It always makes me
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: feel like I'm going to gain a solid ten pounds
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: just from working there every day. I actually, on the
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: way here, I think I filled up a to go
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: container and was like eating fried cauliflower and like all
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: this stuff. But yeah, I eat a lot there, don't
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: It's in the morning. What can you do? What exactly
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: is the show about? Though? Just real quick for anybody
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: listening if they want to tune in, what should they expect? Yeah,
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: so actually kind of like you were saying, actually, how
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: like people really want like some good feelings right now?
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: Like they said they want the romance. I think right now,
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: with like the state of our world and everything going on,
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: and every time we turn on the news, it's like
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: another sad story, um that people just kind of wanted,
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: like to feel good. And so the show is a
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: lifestyle show where we do a lot of cooking segments.
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: You'll learn how to bake like a champ after watching
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: our show. Um. We do a lot of d i
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: y segments. Um, I do fashion, I do a lot
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: of kiddos stuff, so like fun activities to do with
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: your kids, a perfect mix of stuff for you. Yeah,
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: it's so much fun. It's a great show. Um. And
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: so we do that, and I feel like people just
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: kind of go to Hallmark right now, not just for
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: the like awesome, binge worthy homework movies. Come on, everybody
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: you met, you're watching those homework Christmas movies right now,
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: but you also go to Homework for like the warm
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: and fuzzies totally. So that's what our show is all about.
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: It's just about feeling good. And this is a thing.
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: The warm and fuzzies that you see on the show
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: are legit. What's happening on the show, even behind the scenes,
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: which is why it works so perfect. Yeah, you should
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: come on you guys sometimes do something with you. Yeah,
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: let's do something. We'll have to plan something and do it. Yeah.
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: We had Eric Bigger on the show recently. It was
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: on Rachel's season. Um, yeah, so we will have to.
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: It's just up the road. It's a Rocks throw away
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: from here. So you guys love to come up amazing. Well,
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: you're just a great guest. You're everything that we've ever
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: thought you'd be. Smart and articulate and warm and beautiful.
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: So thank you so much for being here. Ashley and
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: I are officially I'm gonna make her hang out with
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: me every day just so I can feel as good
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: as I feel right now my original Bachelor at No,
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not kidding Ali. I literally tell everybody
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: I like to hang out with Ashley, not because she's
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: just awesome, but because she makes me feel awesome all
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: the time, and that's what she's a good co host here.
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: So hey, before you leave, all I want to I
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: want to say it one more time. If you want
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: some more warm and fuzzies in your life, make sure
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: to check out Ali and the rest of the Great
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: Team on the Home and Family uh television show on
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: the Hallmark Channel, and then also uh for every day
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: reading visit Ali loves dot com. That's a l I
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: l u v s dot com. Hey Ali, I, I
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: really I want to personally thank you for coming on
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: Almost Famous podcast. I have to go and so I'm
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: gonna hand this over to Ali and Ashley to take
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: it from here. Hey, I appreciate you both, and we
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: will talk very soon on episode one of the even
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: for January second, I'll talkulate guys. Thank you, Bye ch a. Alright, Ali,
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: we have some insane callers. Um, I'm looking at their
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: stories right now. There was a girl, her name is Emily.
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: I'm hoping we can get her on the phone. Her
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: boyfriend broke up with her this a month by dumping
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: her in the best man's speech, like as she sat
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: in the audience of a wedding reception. He said in
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: his speech like he broke up with her. So Emily
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: will be on to tell this dumping story that's insane.
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: Just a few minutes. But first we have to talk
• 45:38
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• 45:51
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• 45:54
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• 45:57
  Speaker 1: we love them so much. Um. We both got pairs
• 46:00
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• 46:03
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  Speaker 1: this crew of people who are just obsessed with me.
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: And it's actually funny that you said it made a
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: great Christmas gift because actually last year I was thinking
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: in my head, when did I serve that subscription for him?
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: I started it for him last year at Christmas because
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: he told me that's what he wanted. So he told
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: me I want me and I want you for Christmas.
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: So that's how I found out about it. That's how
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• 47:51
  Speaker 1: so it really does make a great gift. You're gonna
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  Speaker 1: have to reap that subscription, all right. Emily is on
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: the phone, Emily, are you there? Hi? Ashley. Yes, Hey,
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: it's Ali Fantowski. Manoh and Ashley. Ben had to leave,
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: so that's fine. So sorry you had I know, I'm
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: so sorry. I'm sure you called for Ben, but I
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: was probably calling for Ben because of what happened to her.
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: At least she thought, Oh, I'm going to talk to
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: a cute, nice single guy exactly with us, and we
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: have this segment that we'd like to call Dr Ben
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: where he gives the best relationship advice. And Emily, I
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: don't know if I can give you advice on this topic,
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: but I'm here to listen for a most most support
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: emotional support. Yes, so please tell us the story. So
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: me and my boyfriend has been dating about nine months
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: and he is uh, he was a brother and he
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: was the best man in his brother's wedding, so I
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: was his date. He's the best man's state. I don't
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: know me only been eating nine months, so I mean
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: we know, I know his family very well. Um, and
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: I'm going I'm, you know, the best man's date. So
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: I'm like been doing all the wedding party stuff the
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: whole entire weekend, um, which is like totally fine with me.
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: You know, I get along with strangers. Um, I I
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: didn't know everyone in the wedding party, but obviously I
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: knew his brother. But anyway, so he gets up to
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: do the best man speech. Um uh, the weddings on
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: a Saturday night, and there's about three hundred people at
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: the wedding, so it's, you know, pretty big wedding. And
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: he's seen him friend of everyone. He says, you know,
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: whenever I look at Calling Callings his brother, Whenever I
• 49:25
  Speaker 1: look at Colin and Sara, you know the way I
• 49:28
  Speaker 1: see Colin looking Snora, I just know that they're meant
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: to be forever. And um, I just you can just
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: tell that he feels like she's his wife's partner. And
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: and then he goes and I don't know if everyone
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: here has not my girlfriend Emily, and he points me out,
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: and I'm obviously like, oh my god, where is this going?
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: And I'm you probably thought it was going to propose. Well,
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: well that's all I gets about part of later. So um,
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my gosh, you know, where is this going?
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: And I mean I proposed proposing, like I knew that
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: was gonna happen. I mean I kind of figured that
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: would happen, probably after you know, a few more years,
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: just because both of us are on our mid twenties
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: right now. Um. Anyways, so I'm you know, I'm kind
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: of scared. I'm like, I don't know all these people here,
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: but I figured it wasn't gonna be a big deal.
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: And he says, and whenever I look at Emily, UM,
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: you know, I just kind of think yeah, and I know,
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: and goodness no, And here's the thing, like, you know, right,
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: so the thing is half of the room like gas
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: because they're just like shocked and horrified this happened. And
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: then the other house, you know, last there was a joke.
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: I think that's a joke, but it was. It would
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: have been the last funny joke ever exactly. It was
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: kind of like when the kind of aspect was back.
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: I know, he was so nervous for at the speech
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: and at the beginning of the speech because all week
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: I's been like, oh, please practice for me, practice for me,
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: and he was like, no, I'm just knowing it. It's
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: gonna be fine because he's pretty charismatic and it's good
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: at speaking in front of people. And I was like, Okay,
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: that's gonna be fine. And so then I've noticed in
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: meeting ever from the speech, and I kind of am like,
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: you know, getting nervous for him kind of, and then
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: he kind of just throws me into the bus with
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: this stupid joke and I'm anyways, and so I'm very
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: thankful that at least some people were laughing, because I
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: don't want everyone like three people in this room that
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: like I finally know like probably like fifty of them.
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: I don't want them to think that I'm you know,
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: like hurt or embarrass what I mean, I don't know
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: I should be able to feel hurt and embarrassed, but
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: so I kind of pretend like it's no big deal
• 51:23
  Speaker 1: for the rest of the wedding, and people are, you know,
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: coming up to me and they're like kind of just
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: hit him. And it's so frustrating because and I don't
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: want to sound conceited, but you know, our relationship, you know,
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: I mean, it's obviously I don't really you know, if
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: someone's a reacher and someone's like the um, you're the I.
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: He's very attractive, he's very attractive, You're the full package
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: in the relationship. Well, I don't want to stay bad
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: because I'm sure his friends do that view that that way,
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: but I think my friends kind of view him as
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: like the full package, like we complement each other. Well,
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: why like why did he feel the need to do that. Well,
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: I'm sure you're saying you must have forced to break
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: up now once you addressed this in an actual conversation
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: with him, why so like I get back, we get
• 52:06
  Speaker 1: so basically right when you get back to the hotel room,
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: I just like started crying and I'm like so mad
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: at him, and he's like kind of like, oh my gosh,
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: I didn't realize if I would be back because you know,
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: and he just liked said so little lack of empathy,
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: and I mean he, I mean was apologetic and sorry
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: that you just you know, I'm just like, like, what's
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: wrong with you? Basically, like why would you ever think
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: that's the way, And like, I know you don't feel
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: that way, but he just humiliated me in front of
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: three hundred people. And also, I've only knew your brother
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: for nine months, Like in what world is it okay
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: to include someone that's in a speech given at his
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: wedding Like I was the only name, you know, it
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: so like he like mentioned his parents or anything. It's
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: like he's only known me for nine months. Earsing. Basically,
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: he was just like, I'm sorry, I was so nervous. Um,
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: you know, he said something like, you know he wasted
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: man ever, I mean, yeah, yeah, he I mean, he
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: definitely took a blench of tequila shops right before you
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: were up there. But I don't even want to blame
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: it on the Alcoho hall because I feel like he's
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: always able to control himself when you drink alcohol. It's
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: like it doesn't really matter how much he had to
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: during So did you guys break up on the spot
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: when you had this conversation in the hotel room. No.
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: I waited until, like after all the wedding festivities were
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: taken over, because I I just didn't want to take
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: any attention away from the people getting married. I was
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: sous to be more embarrassing. Um, you're nice. I would
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: have been like I would have made the biggest scene.
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: Probably I would have. And what this sounds bad? Like?
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: There was? I mean why when that happened, I thought,
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: you know, there's actually no way that I'm going to
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: come out of this looking like sad, you know, So,
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: I mean I remember, well the worst part was but
• 53:37
  Speaker 1: I had an ex boyfriend in college by dated for
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: about three years or four years, and one of his
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: friends that they were returning brothers, but he his friend
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: actually happened to be at the wedding and his friend
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: um came up to me after this teacher and was like,
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: oh my gosh, Emily, like I'm still sorry, like obviously
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: your boyfriend has no idea like what he's doing, you know,
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, um, just so awkward, you know, because
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, like have you talked to him since
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: that I've talked? I mean we, I mean we It
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: was now that kind of wedding, so we drove back together.
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: But is it done done or is this like the
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: type of thing where you're still kind of talking on
• 54:14
  Speaker 1: the side or are you done with this guy? Well
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: when my first contacting device on the podcast, in my mind,
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: I was done together. Yeah, And so right now it's
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: like kind of we're in this um like in between
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: swoit where it's like, you know, Emily, what I was
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: going to tell you is like the bright side of
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: basically the most embarrassing moment I've ever heard is that like,
• 54:40
  Speaker 1: at least you know that the guy that you're dating
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: is so much of a dick that, like you should
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: have no problem just dropping his ass. No, I'm gonna
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: give this guy. I'm gonna give this one one Hall pass.
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: This guy gets one wedding jitters. I'm wasted. I screwed
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: up Hall pass. Mark doesn't think so Mark, we need
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: the guy's opinion, do you think so unless he goes
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: overboard to really make it up to you, And it
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: doesn't sound like he's doing that. I mean, if they
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: get married one day, it would make a pretty great story,
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: you know. And I thought another thing I said, I
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: told him we talked about and I got but I go,
• 55:14
  Speaker 1: this thing is Jack, I'm gonna have to monitor. So
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: I had a Christmas party the next weekend after the wedding,
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: and I told him. I was like, listen, John, um,
• 55:24
  Speaker 1: you're uninvited to my work Christmas party because I don't
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: know what you're gonna say in front of people, and
• 55:28
  Speaker 1: you're gonna embarrass me. And I think that that kind
• 55:30
  Speaker 1: of like that crushed him a little bit, hurt a lot,
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: you know, and he was like, okay, like I can't
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: act like that. Um. So he's been very apologetic and
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: he's I mean, he's always been so amazing and so
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: great is get out of Jail three? But did you
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: feel did you feel about him before? No? It was
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: The thing is, it's like that comment. I know, like
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: I know for a fact he doesn't feel that way,
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: and I think it kind of for me, it's more reprising.
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: I'm just like, how could you humiliate me? Like? You know,
• 56:01
  Speaker 1: my only thing is sometimes people try to be funny
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: and if they're not, they're not funny in their mind. Oh,
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: I'm going to get a big laugh out of this, Like,
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: and I look at my girlfriend, like, right, if it
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: was totally sarcastic and then he just didn't say it,
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: and then very sarcastic, you couldn't deliver it still, heaven,
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: I don't know I have the emotional intelligence to throw
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: out a bachelor word for a second. You've got to
• 56:27
  Speaker 1: have that emotional to know that that is going to
• 56:29
  Speaker 1: hurt somebody, especially when you're dating such a fragile thing.
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: I was like, you know, why don't you Yeah, I
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: use the word emotional intelligence. You know why why didn't
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: go register with you? You know you're so smart, you're
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: an engineer, and maybe that's it. You know, he's he's
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: lacking emotional tools. Maybe he's us past. I wish he
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: was on the phone right now. You need to call
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: back for their next show. That's so funny that you
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: said that, because I was gonna say, hey, can you
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: check back with us in a month. I love to
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: see where you're at with the people, email us what
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: they think because split that because I'm my friends have there.
• 57:08
  Speaker 1: Even my friends are very like giving me advice. Both
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: all of them are divided. I have one friend that
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: I feel very strongly, and I have another friend that's
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: very different. I have a lot of other people that
• 57:18
  Speaker 1: are like you, guys are great together. This is a
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: question that giving him a break? What do you think all?
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: I can't make that decision because, like Emily, what is
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: he like now? You know, like this might have been
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: if it was a one time slip up and he's
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: normally the best boyfriend ever and constantly makes you feel
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: super loved and appreciated, then I say, yeah, I give
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: him a hall pass because he probably was trying to
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: be funny and he's just not that funny. Sorry dude.
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: But if on a daily basis or even you know,
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: every once in a while he's making you feel not
• 57:49
  Speaker 1: appreciated and not loved, and that he's not serious about you,
• 57:52
  Speaker 1: then you need to leave him. So only you know
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: that what is your what is your me? Asking you
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: that question directly right now, how do you feel about that?
• 57:59
  Speaker 1: Do you feel like he's serious about you? Do you
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: feel like he shows you that love on a daily basis?
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: He's very serious about me, and he's always makes me
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: feel appreciative, and I know he loves me, and I
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: know that this was just a one off mistake, but like,
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: and this just sounds terrible, but I'm just not a
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: very forgiving person. So it's taking so much for me
• 58:17
  Speaker 1: to like work on forgiving him. And you want to
• 58:19
  Speaker 1: be with him. You have to forgive him, and you
• 58:21
  Speaker 1: have to move on because if you hold this against him,
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: he will just you guys are going to start resenting
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: each other. You have to go. You have to let
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: him come to things like I get the holiday party.
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: You cut him out for one thing, but you can't
• 58:31
  Speaker 1: come out of other things you have. If you want
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: to move forward, you have to let go of really
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: good advice, good advice. I just think you chuck it
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: up to this dude is not a good best man.
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: Stop trying to be funny. You're not funny, and you
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: sarcasm to cope. That is how I get through life,
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: all right. And he promised me that he would never
• 58:49
  Speaker 1: that he probably won't be the best to the best
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: Nancy again. And if he did promise me, he would
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: run it by me. That's a good compromise, right, It
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: was a good compromise, not even a compromise. I feel
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: like that to have just been given. But yeah, I
• 59:02
  Speaker 1: mean I feel like he is making efforts to change things,
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: but it was a very awkward car ride home from
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: the wedding. Um, well, Emily, thank you for sharing your story. Um,
• 59:14
  Speaker 1: we do want to hear from you in a couple
• 59:15
  Speaker 1: of weeks. I want to know about how you're doing
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: for giving him and like what kind of strides he's
• 59:20
  Speaker 1: making to make it up to you. And we do
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: want to hear from all our fans out there about
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: their opinions on this topic. Our email is Ben and
• 59:28
  Speaker 1: Ashley at I heart media dot com. Um, don't forget
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: that we get tweets all week long. What's the email?
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: What's the email? It is Ben and Ashley at I
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: heart media dot com. Thank you so much, Emily for
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: being so honest and sharing this horribly embarrassing moment with
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: us and not being afraid to do so. Yes, Thanks Emily,
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: good luck, bye and Ali, this was fun. Thanks for
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: having Thank you for being such a terrific co host
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: for the past twenty minutes. Well, my my, my life.
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: You know, it's kind of a little bit boring some
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 1: days with my husband and my kid, so when I
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: get to hear other people's things going on, I get
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: really excited. So that was fun. Welcome to mom life.
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 1: You know, white, So your daughter starts like getting into
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 1: boys because my mom lives off of my sister and
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 1: my you know, drama dating life. You got to actually too,
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: text me when you hear back from Emily and let
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: me know when this episode is coming in so I
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: can hear what's going on because I'm invested. Now, Okay, Well, Ali,
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: you've been terrific. You're smart, you're wonderful, you're beautiful, you're
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: great mom. It's so cool to see how you've come.
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: Thank you, congratulations and all your success and thanks I
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 1: know you know you were. I don't even know if
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: I'm allowed to say this, but I disclosed location recently,
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 1: but I hope to be seeing you on my TV
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: soon knows um. Yeah, anyway, don't distract me now, all right.
• 1:00:51
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• 1:00:55
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