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How To Get Under A Narcissist's Skin · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about how to get under the skin
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  of a narcissist, how to bother them, how to just how to mess
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  with their heads, right. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist and
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  I'm here to help everybody Y'all and welcome to season 2 of the
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  narcissist code. Let's get it.
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  Boom, Welcome back folks, welcome back, welcome back, yes
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  y'all. Oh my goodness.
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  Welcome back to the Narcissus Code Season 2.
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  Today we talk about how to get under the skin of a narcissist.
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  Get under the get underneath those that that that that that
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  the exoskeleton. I should change it to the
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  exoskeleton. How to get under the exoskeleton
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  of a narcissist, right? They would make more sense like
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  Lee, you're right, because narcissist, they're not people,
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  they're they're aliens and they don't have really have skin.
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  They have an exoskeleton and that's what it is, right?
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  So, but no narcissistic people y'all really do have skin and
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  it's not y'all I need y'all this one that I need y'all to stop
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  doing. Stop making it seem like
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  narcissist or invincible. Stop making it seem like it's so
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  hard to set a narcissist off, to make them lose control, to make
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  them lose their damn minds. It is not difficult to make a
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  narcissist lose their shit. I'm I'm just look, I'm just
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  keeping it real with you. It really isn't right as you
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  keep moving forward, you're going to understand and listen
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  to this video. You understand that it really is
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  not hard to get under the under the skin of a narcissist.
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  The first thing you have to do y'all is literally you can
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  ignore them. Ignore a narcissist.
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  Watch them lose their shit. Watch them lose their mind.
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  Watch them act like they had they have no self-control like
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  they don't know what the hell is happening, like they don't they
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  don't know what's going on. Watch them lose it because they
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  feel like they're out of control, because they feel like
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  you're moving on, because their mind cannot function around the
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  fact that you just want to be done with them and you want to
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  leave them alone. They can't handle it.
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  You can't handle the truth, ma'am.
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  They can't handle it. So if you ignore them and they
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  can see that you're reading their messages, you haven't
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  blocked them, you're just ignoring them.
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  You're not giving them any energy that will bother them.
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  They will get underneath their skin.
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  It absolutely will. Don't let them convince you that
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  narcissists are just like you can't hurt a narcissist, you
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  can't. It's ignore them and watch what
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  happens. Now, is this going to work for
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  every single narcissist? No.
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  Sometimes if you ignore them, they'll take that as you moving
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  on and they'll move on, right? If this is an intimate
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  relationship, they'll take you ignoring them as a sign of you
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  being done with them and then they'll move on.
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  And so if you're not ready, if you're not ready for that, you
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  might not want to ignore them, right?
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  Because they will move on and they'll use you ignoring them as
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  an excuse for you, for them moving on.
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  Well, I didn't think you wanted to be with me anymore.
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  So what, you want me to sit around and wait for you even
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  though you were ignoring me? What do you expect from me?
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  That doesn't sound fair to me. Like, wow, it really is your
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  fault. And then they'll they'll get
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  inside of your head. You actually, they start to
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  believe that it's your fault. They'll start to mess with you.
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  It'll it'll keep creeping in and getting deeply, deeply into your
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  psyche. It just was one of those things
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  that just will happen. It absolutely will happen.
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  It can't. It's like really nothing, damn
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  near nothing you can do to stop it from happening, right?
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  So they'll keep doing so. Ignoring them can get under
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  their absolute narcissistic exoskeleton.
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  Another thing that you can do and this can't.
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  Yeah, this can absolutely work. Take it a step further than
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  ignoring them. You can block they ass blocking
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  their nurses will get under their skin boy again, y'all?
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  You have to use discretion when you're doing you have to use
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  discretion when you're doing this technique right here when
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  you're trying to block them or whatever the situation may be.
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  You have to use discretion in these scenarios because like if
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  you block them, they can start popping up at your house.
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  They could drive by your house. You know at AI did a one-on-one
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  with a lady today. She said she blocked her
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  narcissistic ex and is the bastard.
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  Start sending her messages to do an app saying it.
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  Oh, I drove by your house to make sure that you were to be
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  close to you. I drove by your house to make
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  sure that you were safe. What?
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  I haven't heard from you in a while and I noticed that I was
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  blocked, so I just drove by your house to make sure that things
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  were only up and up. What?
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  No, heck no y'all, I'm telling you some of them.
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  So if you block them, you got to be prepared for what might
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  happen. But it will get under their
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  skin. Yeah, it will get under their
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  skin. But you got to be prepared for
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  what goes on underneath that skin, right?
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  You got to be prepared for what might happen underneath that
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  skin. You know, like under the sea,
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  you know, underneath that skin, you got to be prepared for what
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  might happen in that situation. Because they will lose their
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  minds because blocking them, if you block them, they absolutely
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  will. That's what the mind goes to.
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  The mind absolutely goes to that.
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  The fact that you might be moving on.
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  That's literally what they go to.
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  They go to you might be moving on, they go to yet you might be
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  done with them and they can't handle that.
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  So they start just kind of popping up on your place,
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  showing up at your job, creating fake text messages and apps and
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  doing all this other stuff. They keep, they keep, they keep
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  right, they keep, they keep, they keep, you know, as you keep
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  doing this type of stuff, do do do do do do do do.
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  Sorry, y'all don't see, I had to send a message to a, a woman
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  just I have a call here in a few minutes.
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  I wonder what I got to do. And she said she attached to, I
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  don't know, wasn't attached, but yeah, blocking them.
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  He will absolutely get underneath their skin.
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  Another thing you can do to get under their skin.
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  If you're not done with them, if you're not right, if you still
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  have to Co parent with them or live with them or something like
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  that, you can just Gray rock them.
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  Gray rocking does work. It absolutely does.
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  When you Gray rock a narcissist or a toxic person, it absolutely
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  does work. You know, because they can get
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  under their skin because you're not giving them emotional
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  energy, You're not giving them any type of emotional energy,
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  any type of emotional response. Gray rocking is literally you
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  becoming born as a rock. Gray rocking is you.
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  You're done with them and you stop allowing them to trigger
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  you on purpose. You stop exploding on them and
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  giving them an emotional reaction or emotional energy
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  overall in the grand scheme of things, That's what Gray rocking
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  does right there. Gray rocking just allows you to
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  kind of reset and do this type of stuff for yourself and just
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  like not give them your emotional energy.
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  Now again because it gets under their skin, they can't
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  absolutely lose their minds. Gray rocking can't make them
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  think that something is wrong with you.
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  Like why the hell you act? Why the hell you talk to me like
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  that? Why you acting so damn stupid?
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  Like what the hell is wrong with you?
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  And they could lose their minds again y'all?
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  So it's like you have to use discretion on every single thing
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  you do with a narcissistic person because some of them
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  can't and absolutely get violent with you, right?
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  It can and get violent with you. And then in these situations, in
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  these spaces and we're not. So you still have to be safe as
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  you is humanly possible because of how things are going, because
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  of how things are going, because of how things are going to keep
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  going forward. Like if you Gray rock them, you
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  have to be prepared for the reaction.
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  If you if you do anything to them, you have to be prepared
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  for the reactions right anything that you do to them.
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  You got to be prepared for how they might respond to you before
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  before they how they might act and whatnot.
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  You have to be prepped for that because they can't lose their
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  shits and like that's what they go.
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  You mean also add y'all that if you really truly want to get it
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  under their skins and this right here is going to just, you know,
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  I hope this helps everybody is that you move on and live your
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  damn life to the fullest extent. Like narcissist want to be
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  needed. We really do.
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  At the end of the day, that's all we want.
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  We want to be needed. We want to be wanted.
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  We want you to need us. So the faculty, we want to be
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  needed when this happens, when this occurs, when this goes
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  down, we want you to need us so badly that we sacrificed so much
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  for from ourselves, right? That we try to create this need
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  for you, this need for us in your life.
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  So when you're moving on, when you're thriving in life, will
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  you prove that you no longer need this narcissistic person?
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  It will absolutely get under their skin.
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  And I say move on to live your life.
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  There's so many different moving pieces of that situation, right?
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  Because moving on and living your life can also mean like you
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  finding somebody else, but it doesn't have to be you finding
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  somebody else. This is not me trying to rush
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  you out there to find a new partner, to find a relationship
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  partner. This is not the hell yeah, hell
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  no. This is not what I'm doing,
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  right? This is not what I'm trying to
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  do. What I'm actually trying to do,
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  what I'm actually trying to open your minds and your hearts up to
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  is that some narcissistic people, right?
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  Some toxic people, like they think they, they base happiness
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  on proximity to relationships, like proximity, like
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  relationship status. So if they think if, if you are
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  not in a relationship, they're not going to make you happy.
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  But if you are in a relationship, they'll think
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  you're happy, right? So you don't have you don't,
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  we're not doing anything to appease them, right?
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  This is how you get under their skin.
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  But it's not even about them. It's about you living your life
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  to the full extent. So many people want revenge on a
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  narcissist. So many people want to hurt the
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  narcissist. And I get all of that, right?
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  I get, yeah, I'm under human being.
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  I understand the subtle intricacies of how the human
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  mind works and how people want revenge.
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  I get that. So you want revenge on an arse?
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  You want to get under their skin, live your life to the
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  fullest extent, Go do all of the things that they said you could
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  not do, the things that they held you back from, the things
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  that they talked you out of that you knew would have been, that
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  you knew would have been beneficial to you.
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  I talked to a person the other day said that he was like he
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  wanted to go back to school, get a degree.
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  His narcissistic wife told him like, no, why do you need a
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  degree for just stay where you are.
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  You know, you're fine, you're doing fine right now.
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  You like you won't be spending enough time with the family.
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  And here's what happened. She end up leaving him for
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  somebody else and then he went back to school literally.
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  Of course he's heartbroken like, but he's keep he gets started on
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  this glow up journey. Got back in school a couple
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  months after she left. Yeah, yo.
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  And got his degree. And you know what happened?
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  He checked like he wanted his kids to be there.
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  It was his weekend to have the kids or whatever, his graduation
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  ceremony. So he was having trying to have
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  the kids there. Guess what happened?
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  She tried to keep the kids from the graduation ceremony,
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  literally trying to ignore his calls and ignore his phone,
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  stuff like that. Ignore everything so his kids
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  couldn't come to his graduation ceremony because she was jealous
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  of it, you know? But thank goodness his mom was
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  already in route to pick him up and she popped about the house
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  and the kids are outside and he ended up working out for the
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  best, right? But she hated on him.
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  She didn't want him to get under his skins, got under her skin so
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  much that he was being successful, that he was moving
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  over his life. He didn't have a new
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  relationship. He was just graduating with a
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  degree that she told him he didn't need.
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  And she was so jealous that she didn't even want his kids to be
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  there to celebrate with him. That's damn near evil.
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  There goes there. Also goes to show you that
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  narcissistic women exist, right? They don't want they want to
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  hold you back. And even though she had somebody
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  else, she was still jealous of his success.
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  It got under her skin. Again, he didn't do that to get
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  under her skin. He did that to to thrive on his
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  own, which again is what you need to do.
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  So as you're moving forward, as you're on this journey, that's
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  what you have to do. Y'all like you want to get under
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  their skin. Be you, live your life, do
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  whatever that you want to do, live your life to the fullest
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  extent possible because it's crazy as that sounds.
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  That's all it takes. Your happiness is literally all
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  it takes to set them off. It really is like you being
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  happy, you being joyful, you you experiencing joy.
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  Imagine like you want. You really want to set a
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  narcissist off? Be happy around them, huh?
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  You really want to set a narcissist off?
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  Just experience joy around them. What?
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  What? Look, it's crazy.
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  Be happy around them. Experience joy they don't get
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  under their skin. Smile in front of their face.
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  You want to know what? How I got these scars?
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  My narcissistic wife hated when I smiled, so I smile all the
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  time now. Like imagine your smile setting
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  them off That's insane, that's crazy.
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  But as you're moving forward, as you're healing, as you're
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  growing, understand that your joy is not to be sport.
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  Your joy is not to be lessened. Don't let them lessen your joy.
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