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Ringing in The Bells with Becca Tilley and Tanya Rad · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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Speaker 2: It's the stars of the Scrubbing In Podcast. They are
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Speaker 2: rock stars in their own way, their award winning, their friends,
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Speaker 2: and they're also with us all weekend in the mountains
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Speaker 2: of Colorado, mayor in Meredith, Colorado for Dean and Kailin's
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Speaker 2: wedding and yes, they're here to talk about all the dirty.
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Speaker 3: Details of the wedding.
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Speaker 2: Tanya and Becca, Welcome to the Almost Famous Podcast.
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Speaker 4: WHOA thank you for bull cheer ourselves.
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Speaker 5: Guys. I'm so jealous that you get to record together
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Speaker 5: in that studio.
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Speaker 4: It's so fun. Like, if y'all are here, this would
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Speaker 4: be an absolute perfect scenario.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, we are big in the in person phase of life.
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Speaker 1: We like we like refuse guests to be on Zoom.
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Speaker 4: I like that.
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Speaker 5: I mean, if you have the luxury, go for it.
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Speaker 6: Yeah.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, but it feels like Patrick Dempsey or something. We'll
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Speaker 4: take them over.
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Speaker 2: I hears something funny before you get started. I don't
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Speaker 2: know how I got on it, but like maybe three
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Speaker 2: days ago, I was scrolling through Instagram. There's a picture
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Speaker 2: of Patrick Dempsey on there, and I started looking at
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Speaker 2: pictures because of his fashion, Like I'm trying to get
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Speaker 2: into this, like I want to be a little more fashionable,
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Speaker 2: not a lot, but I just want to start wearing
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Speaker 2: clothes that like feel like almost forty year old.
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Speaker 5: And but you're not still on the other side of thirty.
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Speaker 4: Oh wait, yeah, you're younger than me.
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Speaker 6: I'm like, wait, yeah, I feel like you are kind
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Speaker 6: of fashionable.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, look at the way you killed it this weekend.
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Speaker 5: That's our first question. And I was talking about fashion.
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Speaker 5: I think that's what inspired you, is it not?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it might be Anyways, that dude is good looking,
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Speaker 2: Like that dude is really attractive, Like there is not
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Speaker 2: a picture on his social media doing whatever that you're
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Speaker 2: not like that is a good looking fella.
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Speaker 4: I know he's just aging, Like fine, fine wine.
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Speaker 5: Is he hotter now than he was? Or is it
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Speaker 5: just like impressive that he was able to like stay
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Speaker 5: so hot.
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Speaker 4: So I I thought that that he was hotter than
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Speaker 4: he was, But then you watched the whole episodes and
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Speaker 4: you're like, ash, never mind, I saw this whole montage
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Speaker 4: of him from like different years.
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Speaker 5: Did you post that or did we just have the
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Speaker 5: same exact algorithms?
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Speaker 4: That makes sense. We have the same algorithms. That makes
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Speaker 4: very much sense to me. But yeah, I did see
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Speaker 4: some like around two thousand and I think like seventeen
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Speaker 4: where I was like, oh, yeah it was that was
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Speaker 4: a good time for him too.
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Speaker 2: His hairline, he just got good hair anyway, So we're
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Speaker 2: not here to talk about that. We're here to talk
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Speaker 2: about other good hairlines.
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Speaker 3: Which is deep.
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Speaker 6: You can talk about Patrick depcs.
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Speaker 5: A great hairline.
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Speaker 3: Don't like that.
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Speaker 5: Dean's hair is going to be there forever.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, Deani's looking good. Okay, let's kick it off
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Speaker 2: with this the fashion of the weekend. We can start
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Speaker 2: now explaining the themes and kind of what Caitlin's vision
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Speaker 2: for this wedding was. I'm gonna set the stage for
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Speaker 2: what the weekend was though. We went to Meredith, Colorado,
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Speaker 2: which is a very small town. In fact, it's that
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Speaker 2: doesn't even have a town as a general store. It
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Speaker 2: is about an hour away from Basalt, Colorado, which is
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Speaker 2: where Dean grew up. This lodge that we went to
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Speaker 2: was made into a camp. They called it camp Bell
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Speaker 2: because their new last name is Bell. So all of
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Speaker 2: their guests, most of their guests were invited to stay
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Speaker 2: on property, which meant no cell phone service. All of
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Speaker 2: us were eating in the same place. We were living
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Speaker 2: in cabins kind of around this main cabin felt very
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Speaker 2: similar to summer camp and I would say, what, there
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Speaker 2: was sixty five or so people there on property and
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Speaker 2: the first day that we arrived, Kalin has planned camp games.
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Speaker 2: So they really wanted all their friends to meet each
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Speaker 2: other and enjoy some type of activity together. So they
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Speaker 2: planned camp games which included like water balloon tossces on
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Speaker 2: three legged races, tugawar, flip cup just a game do
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Speaker 2: you remember as a kid.
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Speaker 5: Right, flip cup? Total kid game.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, well up with water with water so you could
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Speaker 3: have played it at any ag. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: I think Beca and myself were the two out of
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Speaker 2: this group that were there for the camp.
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Speaker 5: Games, right, because Sonya and I wrote together.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, because you guys came in a little later in
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Speaker 2: the day that day. Becca, I've always known you to
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Speaker 2: be competitive. Yeah, there was a side of myself that
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Speaker 2: came out during these games that I told myself, please
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Speaker 2: don't let it come out, like, don't show them that
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Speaker 2: you're crazy, and it still did.
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Speaker 4: Wow, I didn't see that for me, I missed it.
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Speaker 2: It was it was mostly when cheating started to happen.
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Speaker 2: I'm not a fan of cheating. Who cheated I there
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Speaker 2: there was not to name names, but there was somebody
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Speaker 2: who was also a part of the wedding. Whose team
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Speaker 2: uh during the the race where you spun around on
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Speaker 2: a baseball bat and then dizzy bat and ran to
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Speaker 2: the other side, that did not spend five times, they
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Speaker 2: spend spend less than five times.
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Speaker 4: Was that your wife?
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Speaker 3: It might have been. She did win. She's fast though.
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Speaker 2: Beca the camp games, I really did though, think you know,
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Speaker 2: these teams were all mixed, they're random draws. It really
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Speaker 2: did help us get to know some of the people
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Speaker 2: that are a part of Kailan and Dean's life, who
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Speaker 2: were not a part of bache Nation or that we've
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Speaker 2: known before.
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Speaker 3: Right.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I also get so competitive, But I told myself
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Speaker 4: the same thing. I'm like, you know what, these all
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Speaker 4: these people don't know me, so they don't know that
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Speaker 4: this is coming from a good place. It's just a
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Speaker 4: dark part of me, but like it's from a good place.
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Speaker 4: And so when I got my team and I saw
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Speaker 4: we were mostly all women, we had the least amount
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Speaker 4: of people because Robbie was supposed to be on our
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Speaker 4: team and he didn't, so.
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Speaker 6: He would have been a good.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, well he wasn't there. So it was like we
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Speaker 4: had the least amount of people and then all girls
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Speaker 4: except for two guys I think on our team. Where
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Speaker 4: some of the teams were all men like muscles.
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Speaker 2: Mine mine, My team was all men. We had one
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Speaker 2: girl and she was pregnant, so she sat out of everything.
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Speaker 2: She didn't do one event, so okay, so we can
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Speaker 2: go into that again. This was just a setup. There
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Speaker 2: was one really amazing piece of games that I want
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Speaker 2: to talk to back about. You did win one event.
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Speaker 2: Your team did win one event? Right, Were you on
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Speaker 2: Haley's team?
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Speaker 4: No? No, their team won.
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Speaker 3: Oh they won the whole thing.
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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, Haley plays flip cup, and I didn't know
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Speaker 2: this about her, but she is very competitive obviously, because
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Speaker 2: as soon as that left cup that she flipped hit
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Speaker 2: the table and she saw that she won, there was
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Speaker 2: an inner scream that came out of her that I've
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Speaker 2: never seen.
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Speaker 3: It felt so good. It felt like it was.
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Speaker 2: Like like her sap, like her savages are like her her.
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Speaker 3: She connected with nature and all of a sudden she
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Speaker 3: became a bear.
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Speaker 4: It was asceral.
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Speaker 3: It was visceral is the word I'm looking for?
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Speaker 4: Yes, she So it was like a joke the whole
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Speaker 4: time because she won, and like her reaction. I was
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Speaker 4: talking to Debbie off to the side, and I looked
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Speaker 4: over and realized she won, and Hailey's like looking up
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Speaker 4: to the sky, like shaking her hands like she had
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Speaker 4: just won. She said she compared it to winning the
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Speaker 4: World Series. That directly from her and I was like,
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Speaker 4: oh wow, Like I didn't know that would mean so much,
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Speaker 4: did she? Like I never got chosen to play like
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Speaker 4: flip Cup or anything, and I won for my team.
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Speaker 4: So it was like a huge moment. It was deep rooted,
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Speaker 4: So it felt it felt lighthearted on the on the top,
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Speaker 4: but like it was a deep rooted reaction that came out.
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Speaker 4: But she was on cloud nine from that moment the
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Speaker 4: whole weekend.
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Speaker 2: I really think it set a vibe for the whole games. Then,
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Speaker 2: like her reaction, I think spurred all of us to go,
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Speaker 2: this can be really fun, Like let's all get into
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Speaker 2: it a little bit more. Let's all take this a
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Speaker 2: little more seriously, because I want to have a reaction
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Speaker 2: like she just had. Yeah, because that was crazy like
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Speaker 2: that was like that, it was visceral, like something came
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Speaker 2: out in that moment.
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Speaker 3: It was like, let's go. Then her team won the
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Speaker 3: whole thing. Yeah, it was great.
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Speaker 2: We'll flash forward then because the games ended, and then
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Speaker 2: we go into the evening, which I know we all
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Speaker 2: have very strong like we have a lot of opinions
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Speaker 2: on and about the fashion. The theme for that evening's party,
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Speaker 2: the reception or the rehearsal dinner was Mountain Chic. All
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Speaker 2: pass it off there because obviously the you all prepared
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Speaker 2: differently than I did.
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Speaker 5: No, okay, we all are like, I guess we'll throw
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Speaker 5: this in our shoit case because it like might be
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Speaker 5: the only thing in my closet that's bal cheek. And
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Speaker 5: you were the one that's like, I have a full
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Speaker 5: on get up that I've been waiting my whole life
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Speaker 5: to wear.
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Speaker 3: I felt very at home.
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Speaker 5: You really good too, Like you just think you presented
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Speaker 5: yourself like you were in your most confident attire.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I felt good. I think that matters.
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Speaker 2: Jessica said, I look good, which is obviously also it matters. Okay,
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Speaker 2: so let me ask you this then, if you didn't
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Speaker 2: when you heard Mountain Chic or when you saw mountain
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Speaker 2: chic on the invite. You you know two of you
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Speaker 2: live in la Actually you live in Rhode Island. I
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Speaker 2: live in Colorado. So this that isn't like an abnormal
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Speaker 2: attire for me. If I was going on a fancy date,
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Speaker 2: like I traditionally don't throw on a cowboy heyp, but
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Speaker 2: I wear a lot of cowboy boots with jeans. That's
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Speaker 2: a good look, and I can wear.
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Speaker 5: Them with seeing you in cowboy boots. But I'm sure
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Speaker 5: it looks good and I don't deny that you wear
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Speaker 5: them there.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I mean I don't like wear them to
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Speaker 2: iheartfest exactly what I'm pulling out. But if I'm out here,
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Speaker 2: that's not like abnormal for me. So for you all,
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Speaker 2: where did your mind go?
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Speaker 4: Go? Ahead? Tonya?
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Speaker 1: My mind went to panic because if you could describe
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Speaker 1: the opposite of my style, I feel like it would
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Speaker 1: be mountain cheek. So I was like, what does one wear?
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Speaker 1: I needed inspiration boards. I'd never owned a pair of
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Speaker 1: cowboy boots. I didn't even know where to buy cowboy boots.
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Speaker 1: So I went a little panicky, but.
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Speaker 6: Got it done. I feel like you crushed it. Thank you,
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Speaker 6: So much.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, so I dropped Ason off in Virginia for my
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Speaker 5: parents to take care of him, and I was like,
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Speaker 5: I remember that in maybe the back of my closet
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Speaker 5: here I would have my first pair of cowboy boots
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Speaker 5: that I got fifteen years ago when Taylor Swift used
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Speaker 5: to wear the sun dresses and the cowboy boots and
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Speaker 5: I found them and there you go, pair it with
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Speaker 5: a dress.
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Speaker 3: Wow.
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Speaker 4: I love that you keep everything.
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Speaker 6: Yeah, I.
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Speaker 2: Love that your mom keeps everything for you. My bedroom
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Speaker 2: was cleaned out the second I moved out.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, I still have my I still have my room.
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Speaker 5: It's fully I have.
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Speaker 3: It's in office. It's not even a better wait.
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Speaker 4: Actually, yours is still just how you left it.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, yeah, so it was perfectly mine when
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Speaker 5: it's still one hundred percent of mine. But like my
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Speaker 5: mom redid it when I was in grad school, just
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Speaker 5: so it looks like more like an adult room because
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Speaker 5: beforehand there was it wasn't all instinct posters like the
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Speaker 5: pin ups, but like it was still like adult posters.
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Speaker 5: So like I'd have like my American Idol posters and
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Speaker 5: I like like Jonas posters and stuff, and they were
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Speaker 5: all like very adult like like they were all framed, guys,
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Speaker 5: They're all everything on the wall was framed. But it
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Speaker 5: was still like montage, like you know montage, that's not
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Speaker 5: the word, like claged. It looked like a gallery wall
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Speaker 5: of jonahs of posters and such.
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Speaker 3: So then I was like half those posters.
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Speaker 2: So when Jared stays over with his want full of
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Speaker 2: I don't and seeing boys and.
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Speaker 3: Yeah frame posters.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, but they're like we're tokenbo.
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Speaker 4: Used to kiss her Backtory boys, I had a wet
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Speaker 4: like hole for me, I see so secretive about those kisses.
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Speaker 5: I'd like make sure that there was no little like
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Speaker 5: kiss marks.
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Speaker 1: I like actually told Kevin Richardson that I would do
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Speaker 1: that to his poster and he's like now married with children,
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Speaker 1: So you know, I.
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Speaker 5: Really for like thirty years too, that man I got
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Speaker 5: married back in the day. Also love that you were
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Speaker 5: Kevin girl because you just screamed Kevin girl.
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Speaker 6: I know I was a Kevin girl.
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Speaker 1: And actually, you know, I thought it would be weird
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Speaker 1: telling us like married man with children that, but like
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Speaker 1: all the backstory boys really rallied around it because I
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Speaker 1: feel like not a lot of people gave Kevin a
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Speaker 1: lot of love and so like.
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Speaker 5: You're the mature one, because now as adults, we all
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Speaker 5: see that Kevin was the hottest back then back and maybe.
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Speaker 6: Still ahead of my time.
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Speaker 2: The only thing in this podcast that I've got nervous
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Speaker 2: for is when boy bands are going to be brought
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Speaker 2: up and we go on a complete tangent away from
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Speaker 2: the subject.
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Speaker 5: Well, that's like when he talks about nature to me,
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Speaker 5: you know, it's like, yeah, Nature's beautiful.
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Speaker 4: It's like he loves you know, we can bring this
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Speaker 4: back to games game looking like he could be in
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Speaker 4: a boy band.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, there we go, meet in the middle. So what
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Speaker 5: did Dean look like? Ben?
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Speaker 3: He looked like a young Leonardo DiCaprio.
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Speaker 5: To me, which everybody's always said for life, but he
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Speaker 5: doesn't get enough credit for it.
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Speaker 2: Well, but I think Dean goes through phases right where
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Speaker 2: he lets his hair grow out and he pulls it
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Speaker 2: straight back and then he kind of like doesn't you know,
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Speaker 2: really care? But prepping for this wedding, and we talked
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Speaker 2: about with Kaitlin and Dean, he hiked all these fourteen
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Speaker 2: years he did. He was able to accomplish all fifty
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Speaker 2: eight of them. He got in really good shape for
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Speaker 2: the wedding, and then on wedding day he cut his
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Speaker 2: hair and he cut his hair and it was that
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Speaker 2: dude's a good looking, good looking guy, and I think
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Speaker 2: his haircut just you know, really helped him stand out.
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Speaker 2: We have a lot of wedding details to get into.
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Speaker 2: Let's go back to the reception just for a second.
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Speaker 5: I have something. I have something fun.
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Speaker 4: Ben.
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Speaker 5: You don't even know that you're sitting around with three
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Speaker 5: girls who definitely all had like secretive crushes on Dean
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Speaker 5: back you know, on you know, we all like we
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Speaker 5: the three of us always been friends. We all had
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Speaker 5: crushes and never told each other.
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Speaker 3: Not shocking, Oh, you never told each other no.
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Speaker 5: Because it was like we were all in direct competition.
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Speaker 3: We were all.
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Speaker 5: For it. Actually it was all not secretive to him,
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Speaker 5: but he played it like we were his best gal pals.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, we were all the best friends.
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Speaker 2: I mean, it's not shocking. I just remember Tanya actually
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Speaker 2: like pursuing it.
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Speaker 3: Right.
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Speaker 1: There was like a moment, remember no, oh you were
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Speaker 1: Becca was out and he guest hosted the podcast with me,
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Speaker 1: and he was like pulling my leg and he's like,
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Speaker 1: why wouldn't you ever go out with me? And I
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Speaker 1: was like we're so opposite, like we would never work,
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Speaker 1: and he's like, just give me a shot. So he
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Speaker 1: went on on a date and I was like, wait,
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Speaker 1: maybe I could like Dan.
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Speaker 6: I think I do like Dean. And it was like
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Speaker 6: very short lived, maybe like a week and a half.
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Speaker 2: But I remember this period of life. I remember because
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Speaker 2: it became a thing. It became way more than a
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Speaker 2: thing than it ever should have come back to me now.
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Speaker 6: Yeah, because it was a iHeart festival.
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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, I will never forget it, that iHeart Festival.
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Speaker 5: I feel like we all like shared him as like
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Speaker 5: we're like, oh, we're his date now, and like every
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Speaker 5: like an hour later, it was like, oh, no, Becca
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Speaker 5: is his date now?
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Speaker 4: No I was never because well the one we're talking
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Speaker 4: about I was with Haley at the time. Yeah, this
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Speaker 4: is after my crush, after her crush talking to you.
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Speaker 5: Guys the exact same time I got with Jared. So
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Speaker 5: we line in the story yeah did you really a
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Speaker 5: couple of months after? I think yeah, like three months later.
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Speaker 6: So your crushes on Dean were earlier than mine.
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Speaker 5: We're like fresh off the show right after Rachel season.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, I'm glad.
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Speaker 2: I'm glad that was brought up, because I do remember
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Speaker 2: the iHeart Festival where this became a.
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Speaker 3: We don't have to go to the details.
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Speaker 2: I just remember being like I have like this is
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Speaker 2: this is more wild than I know how to process.
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Speaker 5: I think Peter Krauss was there too, and we were like,
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Speaker 5: screw you, Peter. We're like Dean's. We were like, he's
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Speaker 5: our golden retriever boy.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 2: So to come back then to what this wedding is.
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Speaker 2: The interesting point here is Tanya, who we obviously have
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Speaker 2: always loved and known for years now, has never been
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Speaker 2: on a bachelor esque show. Right, She's been surrounded by
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Speaker 2: a bunch of people who've done this crazy show and
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Speaker 2: we became friends through it. But what we're talking about
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Speaker 2: now is something that gets really weird when you're in
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Speaker 2: a bachelor nation, that you can have crushes on people
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Speaker 2: that also are your friends that end up getting married
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Speaker 2: and you're invited to the wedding and then you're like, yeah,
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Speaker 2: that works out, Like we're all good, Like this isn't
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Speaker 2: weird no more, Like we're all of us here on
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Speaker 2: committed relationships and we're all pretty happy about it.
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Speaker 3: But like, yeah, at one point in time. I really thought,
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Speaker 3: you know, you and I had something.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was actually funny. I brought my fiancee to
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Speaker 1: the wedding and I told I feel like at some
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Speaker 1: point I told him that I had a crush on
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Speaker 1: Dean and he was like, I could not see you
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Speaker 1: with Dean.
17:04
Speaker 6: I was like, yeah, I know, but we all had
17:06
Speaker 6: a crush on him, you know.
17:08
Speaker 4: Yeah. It is a lot of cross cross contamination and
17:12
Speaker 4: uh sure the Bachelor world, but it feels very normalized
17:15
Speaker 4: when you're yea. Tanya was very Bachelor adjacent, so she's
17:19
Speaker 4: always just been.
17:21
Speaker 5: A girl that wasn't on the show. But we all
17:23
Speaker 5: feel like she could have been, and if you really wanted.
17:25
Speaker 4: To have been, you could have been, and we could
17:27
Speaker 4: just tell people she was and no one would question.
17:30
Speaker 6: It's like a deep cut one season.
17:33
Speaker 5: Uh.
17:33
Speaker 2: This comes into the next portion of what I want
17:36
Speaker 2: to talk about with you, because I had to have
17:38
Speaker 2: a heart to heart with Wells.
17:39
Speaker 3: Nobody here knows this yet. Becca. This is about you personally,
17:43
Speaker 3: so you should get nervous. This is good, This is good.
17:48
Speaker 3: Uh So, we obviously.
17:50
Speaker 5: Crush on Becca obviously, but they never dated because neither
17:53
Speaker 5: of them knew it and.
17:54
Speaker 3: I didn't know that.
17:55
Speaker 5: No, I'm totally kidding. I'm just going with a theme here.
18:00
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no.
18:01
Speaker 2: So we play field games on day one before the
18:04
Speaker 2: party that evening, and we have a couple hours in between,
18:08
Speaker 2: and so all of us are kind of going back
18:10
Speaker 2: to our cabins and we start like pouring some drinks
18:12
Speaker 2: and we're catching up because a lot of these people
18:13
Speaker 2: we don't get to see in person very often. And
18:16
Speaker 2: Beck and Haley are there, and I've met Haley a
18:20
Speaker 2: few times, I don't know how many, a few times.
18:23
Speaker 2: Jess and I have always were really excited for this
18:25
Speaker 2: weekend because we get to be around Haley again. Because
18:27
Speaker 2: a lot of a lot of you, I do see
18:29
Speaker 2: more and I know more about your life. I don't
18:31
Speaker 2: know Haley that well yet, and so I was excited
18:34
Speaker 2: to be around her. And so going into what we
18:37
Speaker 2: were just talking about, I'm sitting there and Haley is
18:40
Speaker 2: standing with Beck and I and somebody else asked the
18:43
Speaker 2: question like, how do you guys guys all know each other?
18:45
Speaker 2: And I go, well, Beck and I've made out once
18:48
Speaker 2: or a couple of times, and I left it at that, like, again,
18:52
Speaker 2: that's not a weird thing. For me to say or
18:54
Speaker 2: think about. It's not awkward for me to think that
18:56
Speaker 2: at one point in my life, like Beck and I
18:57
Speaker 2: tried to pursue something because we both it's so crazy
19:01
Speaker 2: to think about it is wild. Well, so this this
19:04
Speaker 2: kind of gets said, and I do this a lot,
19:07
Speaker 2: and that it will lead to another question later on
19:09
Speaker 2: in the show that I want to talk to you
19:10
Speaker 2: all about because I think it's relatable. So I say it,
19:13
Speaker 2: don't think much of it. Everybody leaves wells and ires
19:16
Speaker 2: in this step, and all of a sudden, I have
19:17
Speaker 2: this massive amount of anxiety that comes over me, and
19:19
Speaker 2: I'm like, I should not have said that. That was
19:21
Speaker 2: so inappropriate of me to say in front of Haley.
19:23
Speaker 2: I never like, I don't think that makes me feel weird,
19:27
Speaker 2: but I bet it makes her feel weird because she's
19:29
Speaker 2: not a part of this world. She's not like in
19:31
Speaker 2: the weird intermingling mix that we've all dated each other
19:34
Speaker 2: at some point in our life, and that that would
19:36
Speaker 2: have been like somebody standing there saying that, you know
19:38
Speaker 2: to Jess, and I probably would have felt a little
19:40
Speaker 2: weird about it or like had to kind of laugh
19:42
Speaker 2: it off and be like whatever.
19:43
Speaker 3: So I'm talking.
19:43
Speaker 2: I talked to Wells about this for forty five minutes,
19:46
Speaker 2: like why do I do this to myself? Why do
19:48
Speaker 2: I say the stupidest things and the stupidest scenarios when
19:51
Speaker 2: I really was excited to see Haley and not like
19:54
Speaker 2: I never went into seeing her being like, hey, let
19:56
Speaker 2: me say something that's really gonna like make her mad
19:58
Speaker 2: at me for the next twenty four hours. And Wells
20:01
Speaker 2: like talking off of a ledge. But he's also like, yeah,
20:04
Speaker 2: we all have to remember that, like that, those jokes
20:06
Speaker 2: that we say in our weird little family, they don't
20:09
Speaker 2: work for everybody.
20:12
Speaker 4: Well, I was telling her like after the fact we
20:16
Speaker 4: were talking about we were like laughing about all the
20:19
Speaker 4: crossover of everyone at the wedding.
20:23
Speaker 5: Yeah, what does that mean?
20:27
Speaker 4: Is this what you.
20:29
Speaker 6: What it does?
20:31
Speaker 5: He just goes to the bathroom thinks we should just
20:34
Speaker 5: continue to told this week.
20:42
Speaker 4: It's not like we were talking and he got here arrangement.
20:52
Speaker 4: He just brought it an edible arrangement.
20:55
Speaker 5: I almost want to keep this in.
20:57
Speaker 1: Yeah, you have to keep I'm sorry that just gets
21:00
Speaker 1: up mid sentence and just.
21:02
Speaker 5: Tell us you want to start telling the story.
21:06
Speaker 6: I'm just telling him.
21:09
Speaker 2: Then you started that conversation, well, really nice, a really
21:14
Speaker 2: nice old man just came the door with an edible arrangement.
21:16
Speaker 3: I'm like, I can't make this.
21:18
Speaker 6: Leave it at the door.
21:19
Speaker 3: It's not even for me, it's for my neighbors. Get home.
21:22
Speaker 4: I don't know, arrangement won't let you leave it. Someone
21:24
Speaker 4: else is sign I've gone through this, so it's for
21:28
Speaker 4: my neighbors.
21:29
Speaker 3: He's like, hey, do you know him? Can you drop
21:30
Speaker 3: it off? I'm like, I kind of know, I don't know.
21:32
Speaker 5: Okay, yeah, wait, this is so interesting.
21:35
Speaker 4: No. So I was telling Haley, I was like, I know,
21:37
Speaker 4: it's so it's probably so weird for you because we
21:40
Speaker 4: all just think of it, like I don't consider you
21:45
Speaker 4: an ex, Like I just think of you as like
21:48
Speaker 4: my good friend. We went we had this crazy experience together.
21:51
Speaker 4: But I'm not like, oh, Ben's my ex and so halu.
21:54
Speaker 4: But you know, we're going to this thing where your
21:55
Speaker 4: exers are there, and I'm like, I don't really think
21:59
Speaker 4: of it as that as much as I think, like,
22:01
Speaker 4: we went on this show together, we try to make
22:04
Speaker 4: it work. It didn't work out, but like iru, okay,
22:09
Speaker 4: but explore it was a monogamous relationship.
22:15
Speaker 5: If you had gone on a date in real life,
22:16
Speaker 5: would have admite it more awkward? No, I don't guys
22:19
Speaker 5: ever went on a date in real life.
22:21
Speaker 4: If she went on two dates, like that's basically what
22:24
Speaker 4: I did with Ben. I went on two one on
22:26
Speaker 4: one days. I think, yeah, and then she we went
22:29
Speaker 4: to an event and that person was there and they
22:31
Speaker 4: had just made out a couple times. I don't know
22:32
Speaker 4: that I would be like, I'm uncomfortable, you know. So
22:36
Speaker 4: I tried to just say it in that way, and
22:39
Speaker 4: I'm like, I know, it's weird because we talk about
22:41
Speaker 4: it so casually and like flippantly, So you know, I
22:46
Speaker 4: think I just when when she's in those situations, I
22:50
Speaker 4: just have to make sure to be like hey, like
22:52
Speaker 4: you know, grab her hand or just like let her
22:54
Speaker 4: know like where it's all good. But I think she was.
22:57
Speaker 4: I don't think she was ever in a position where
23:01
Speaker 4: she felt anything where you would need to have anxiety
23:04
Speaker 4: about it.
23:05
Speaker 2: Well, I think my point is by and I guess
23:09
Speaker 2: we probably all could get a little more careful in
23:12
Speaker 2: social situations who people with people that probably are not
23:15
Speaker 2: familiar or comfortable with that because if your partner who
23:19
Speaker 2: obviously cares about you, All of us has any type
23:24
Speaker 2: of like not jealousy, but just like it's weird, right,
23:27
Speaker 2: you don't want to be surrounded by your your partner
23:31
Speaker 2: who you loves, other people that they've dated in their life.
23:34
Speaker 2: I guess how I see it. When I see like
23:38
Speaker 2: all of these people who are part of the show
23:40
Speaker 2: or that we've had crossover with or we've tried to
23:42
Speaker 2: pursue dates with, It's like we did that because of this,
23:45
Speaker 2: like not only attraction of like hey, you're a beautiful person,
23:49
Speaker 2: but like respect of hey, I think you're somebody that
23:53
Speaker 2: would be like worth pursuing in my life.
23:55
Speaker 3: Or at least figuring out if it works or not.
23:57
Speaker 2: And for me, that is a compliment more than anything else, Like, hey,
24:01
Speaker 2: I like who you are as a person. We are
24:04
Speaker 2: obviously not going to work out romantically, but I would
24:07
Speaker 2: hope that Jessica would like come to an event and
24:10
Speaker 2: see a bunch of people that have dated I mean
24:11
Speaker 2: like at this some point in their life, Like they
24:13
Speaker 2: at least thought enough of my like now husband to
24:16
Speaker 2: like want to pursue him for marriage. Now I didn't
24:18
Speaker 2: work out for them, but at least they thought highly
24:20
Speaker 2: of him, Like at least they said yes to a date.
24:23
Speaker 5: To play Devil's Advocate. It's the attraction that makes it
24:26
Speaker 5: awkward though. It's not the respect. It's the fact that,
24:29
Speaker 5: like they thought they were hot enough to make out
24:31
Speaker 5: with them.
24:32
Speaker 3: Yeah, that could be, and so.
24:33
Speaker 5: That probably hasn't changed. They still probably think they're pretty hot.
24:36
Speaker 1: Wait, I need to know, Ben, did you come back
24:38
Speaker 1: from that spiral? So like you said that and then
24:40
Speaker 1: like went into a corner, talked to walls for an hour,
24:42
Speaker 1: and then like, how did you come.
24:43
Speaker 6: Back from that?
24:44
Speaker 2: You know, it's interesting, Okay, so this is the question
24:46
Speaker 2: I was going to ask coming up. So then I
24:48
Speaker 2: sit next to Becka and Haley the next morning at breakfast,
24:52
Speaker 2: and Haley, I think, comes in and mentions that, hey,
24:56
Speaker 2: she has a lot of social like Becka and Haley,
24:59
Speaker 2: but I think we're both talking about like after a
25:01
Speaker 2: lot of social interaction with people for long periods of time,
25:04
Speaker 2: you can oftentimes wake up the next morning and have
25:07
Speaker 2: this like uh, you guys put a good word to it, Beca,
25:09
Speaker 2: but like this like social like anxiety like why did
25:12
Speaker 2: I say that? Or what did why did I do that?
25:15
Speaker 2: And that at that at that moment, and so I
25:17
Speaker 2: was still carrying that. I would say i'd still care today,
25:20
Speaker 2: but they're the ones that bring it up about there.
25:22
Speaker 2: They're separate like communications with people, and they explained it
25:25
Speaker 2: and it made me feel a little bit better because
25:27
Speaker 2: it's like, Okay, yes, all of us have said something
25:29
Speaker 2: stupid in the last twelve hours of being around each other,
25:32
Speaker 2: Like I'm not alone in that, and so maybe we
25:35
Speaker 2: can just all forgive each other for saying something that
25:37
Speaker 2: made somebody else feel uncomfortable.
25:39
Speaker 4: I woke up this morning and was like did I
25:43
Speaker 4: In my mind, like I was like, no one likes
25:44
Speaker 4: me from the weekend, Like I had all of like
25:47
Speaker 4: mental anxiety situation where I was like did I. I
25:53
Speaker 4: just was going away. We had a nice single conversation.
25:55
Speaker 1: We had it yesterday because we were like making a
25:57
Speaker 1: joke about like our cabin and sharing a bath room,
26:00
Speaker 1: like as like a joke and like.
26:01
Speaker 4: It's like a bit from the podcast, you know, and I.
26:04
Speaker 6: Feel I felt bad.
26:04
Speaker 1: I'm like, I hope Caitlin doesn't think that we're like
26:06
Speaker 1: actually upset about the yeah, because like we're not at all.
26:10
Speaker 1: And I loved it, but then like I just felt
26:12
Speaker 1: really bad. I was like I hope she knows that,
26:13
Speaker 1: like we're totally joking.
26:15
Speaker 4: Yeah, So I went through that spiral.
26:16
Speaker 2: I got on I got on Today's podcast with Ashley.
26:18
Speaker 2: I said, hey, do you hate me?
26:20
Speaker 3: Like after did I do something?
26:22
Speaker 5: She was like, are you still mad at me? And
26:24
Speaker 5: I was like, wait a second, mad at you?
26:26
Speaker 3: About?
26:26
Speaker 5: What?
26:26
Speaker 2: Did it?
26:27
Speaker 5: What?
26:27
Speaker 2: I was like, I was just checking in, just like
26:29
Speaker 2: if you were mad at me, you had free space
26:30
Speaker 2: to tell me right now because.
26:33
Speaker 3: I don't know.
26:34
Speaker 2: I think we're all super weird. Uh So a bunch
26:37
Speaker 2: of weirdo show up to the mountains together and here's
26:40
Speaker 2: here's like how this scenario plays out. We are in cabins,
26:43
Speaker 2: we are together with no cell phone service. We spend
26:46
Speaker 2: a lot of time with each other this weekend.
26:47
Speaker 3: Yeah it was and.
26:49
Speaker 2: For me it was a very sacred experience because I
26:54
Speaker 2: just don't get to do that with you people like
26:56
Speaker 2: and we also don't have to do it without cell
26:58
Speaker 2: phones or other people pulling at your attention or one
27:01
Speaker 2: of us going to do an interview. There was games,
27:05
Speaker 2: like a lot of like like chess and card games
27:08
Speaker 2: and fish bowl.
27:09
Speaker 5: Which saw how to play, which is great because I'm
27:13
Speaker 5: not a game person. But that was a pretty great game.
27:15
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's a really great game and we.
27:16
Speaker 5: Won our team. You guys, all of us were on
27:18
Speaker 5: one team absolutely.
27:24
Speaker 2: Destroyed, and so there was a lot of that. There
27:37
Speaker 2: was like you know, communal breakfasts. Obviously, we had the
27:42
Speaker 2: rehearsal dinner that was absolutely beautiful.
27:45
Speaker 3: It was outside. Ashley and I kind of made uh.
27:49
Speaker 2: We talked about it on our first show as a
27:51
Speaker 2: kind of entering into this one that everybody's very nervous
27:55
Speaker 2: about the cold and very nervous about animals. Now, I
27:58
Speaker 2: don't think any of us this week saw a bear, right, No, no, no,
28:03
Speaker 2: are we sad about that?
28:04
Speaker 3: Now?
28:05
Speaker 5: I would have seen a bear. I would have been cool.
28:07
Speaker 5: I would have seen a bear.
28:08
Speaker 4: Like if I was like in a safe space, I
28:12
Speaker 4: think that would have been cool. But the biggest animal
28:15
Speaker 4: that cast fear was Alistair, Dean and Kaylen's dog.
28:19
Speaker 5: They removed Alistair's teeth because it has such a biting problem.
28:23
Speaker 4: He still made a mark on someone's hand and he
28:27
Speaker 4: chased me on two feet. He chased me, tried to
28:30
Speaker 4: pet him and I didn't know. So I go to
28:32
Speaker 4: pet him and he snaps at me, which I was like,
28:35
Speaker 4: oh my gosh, and then he starts running after me,
28:37
Speaker 4: like on his back legs. My bear fear immediately was
28:42
Speaker 4: replaced by the.
28:43
Speaker 1: Only fear that was caused was by Ben because he's
28:47
Speaker 1: like this alarmist texting us all days before the wedding,
28:50
Speaker 1: saying like, oh, just make sure that you don't eat
28:52
Speaker 1: a Snickers bar before the wedding, And I'm like, I
28:54
Speaker 1: just made my homemade snickers literally last night, and I'm
28:57
Speaker 1: panicking that a bear is gonna like swallow me.
28:58
Speaker 6: I didn't pack perfume because you said.
29:00
Speaker 1: This, Like I didn't want to, Like, I didn't want
29:02
Speaker 1: to have the nice sweets in the cabin to.
29:04
Speaker 6: Allure the bears. Like I was so panning.
29:06
Speaker 4: They don't like fake snickers, they only like the real thing.
29:09
Speaker 5: Yeah, your healthy snickers.
29:12
Speaker 4: Yeah.
29:13
Speaker 3: And I made this half joking but half also being serious.
29:18
Speaker 3: It was going to be really cold at night.
29:19
Speaker 2: And also, please make sure you don't keep your treats
29:22
Speaker 2: outside your cabin because if you want to see a bear,
29:24
Speaker 2: just leave something food related outside of your cabin. And
29:29
Speaker 2: I bet in the morning it's no longer going to
29:30
Speaker 2: be there. But nobody saw a bear. Nobody had any issues.
29:34
Speaker 6: The best part is.
29:36
Speaker 1: Haley comes walking into the room on Saturday night and
29:38
Speaker 1: she was like, you guys, a mouse pooped in my suitcase. Yeah,
29:45
Speaker 1: so we're all like, great, there's a mouse in our
29:47
Speaker 1: cabin and it's pooped in Haley's.
29:48
Speaker 4: Suitcares poop dropping, she says.
29:50
Speaker 1: So I go, let me see these poop droppings. I
29:53
Speaker 1: waddle on into their room. I'm like, where are they?
29:56
Speaker 1: She points in the corner of.
29:57
Speaker 5: Her superais nuts.
29:59
Speaker 6: I get it.
30:00
Speaker 1: Kleenex to like investigate because I'm like, I don't believe
30:02
Speaker 1: that it's rhinestones.
30:07
Speaker 4: The whole cabin's mood shifted because we were like, oh my god,
30:11
Speaker 4: there's a round. Yeah, we're pack and like move around,
30:15
Speaker 4: and luckily Tanya was brave enough to go in there
30:17
Speaker 4: and check it out and some rhinestones.
30:19
Speaker 6: Yeah.
30:20
Speaker 2: And to give credit to this whole venue, uh, it
30:24
Speaker 2: was so nice, like the cabins, the log cabins that
30:26
Speaker 2: we stayed in, it was beautiful. The main cabin was
30:28
Speaker 2: absolutely gorgeous. Yeah, a lot of good firetime. Very possible
30:33
Speaker 2: that mice could get into these cabins. They it was
30:35
Speaker 2: a very rustic experience. This was like I could tell
30:39
Speaker 2: personally that this was a wedding plan by Kaelin but
30:42
Speaker 2: had a lot of influence by Dean and what she
30:44
Speaker 2: thought he would want for a wedding because it felt
30:48
Speaker 2: like and in fact, when we were pulling up, Wells
30:51
Speaker 2: was in the car with me and he's like, this
30:52
Speaker 2: place feels just like deep, Like it just feels like
30:55
Speaker 2: deep and it.
30:56
Speaker 3: Did I know it?
30:58
Speaker 5: It was even pretty aside beyond yeah.
31:02
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was like such a beautiful combination of both
31:05
Speaker 4: of their personalities and styles, Like she made it this
31:08
Speaker 4: dream wedding in this place that felt comfortable and safe
31:12
Speaker 4: to him. I feel like it was just like really
31:14
Speaker 4: it was. I couldn't stop talking about it everyone. I've
31:17
Speaker 4: told him like that was the coolest thing. And I
31:19
Speaker 4: was so happy we were all there together. Like we left,
31:22
Speaker 4: like on the drive to Denver, and we were like
31:24
Speaker 4: we obviously had so much one with Tanya and Robbie.
31:26
Speaker 4: We spend a lot of time with them, and we
31:27
Speaker 4: just like loved hanging out with both of you and
31:29
Speaker 4: your partners.
31:30
Speaker 5: You know. I get so like emotional just thinking about
31:34
Speaker 5: like how blessed we are to like found these friendships
31:37
Speaker 5: from the show, because like I don't there are few
31:41
Speaker 5: groups of people that like I have that we can
31:44
Speaker 5: like get together as groups and have like that kind
31:46
Speaker 5: of camaraderie even though we only see each other like
31:49
Speaker 5: a couple times a year, and it's just so nice.
31:51
Speaker 5: And I really get mushy about it, like every single
31:54
Speaker 5: time because I'm so thankful for her because I never
31:56
Speaker 5: had that like group of friends.
32:00
Speaker 4: It's really special to have that as adults and to
32:03
Speaker 4: be able to like, like, we don't get to see
32:04
Speaker 4: each other a lot because we all live in different places,
32:07
Speaker 4: but when we do, it is so special and fun
32:10
Speaker 4: and like easy to just like z catch back up
32:13
Speaker 4: and I think, Hailey, I know that Jared. I wasn't
32:16
Speaker 4: sitting there, but Jared, I guess said something that like
32:18
Speaker 4: really impacted her about something that she's working on. Yeah,
32:25
Speaker 4: she sat next to Robbie and he made her cry,
32:27
Speaker 4: and I was like, it's just cool being surrounded by
32:29
Speaker 4: these people that, like I love so much and who
32:32
Speaker 4: have taken her in and like are such an encouragement
32:36
Speaker 4: to her. It's just it's it was just really special.
32:41
Speaker 4: Been My favorite video of the weekend is you start
32:47
Speaker 4: a dance and then I'm gonna post it. Hailey joins
32:49
Speaker 4: in and it like starts like men, Tanya joins in
32:52
Speaker 4: and then Debbie joins in. It's like a mini flash mob.
32:55
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's really cute.
32:57
Speaker 5: I was gonna say, what's nice is that? Like we
32:58
Speaker 5: were all friends, like I'd want to say, like at
33:02
Speaker 5: least six years ago, and then well, Jared was obviously
33:04
Speaker 5: part of this, but then like you three found somebody
33:08
Speaker 5: else and like your spouses basically I'm just gonna go
33:12
Speaker 5: significant others basically just like integrated so well, and like
33:18
Speaker 5: now like we have like a friend grim and used
33:19
Speaker 5: to like love everyone so much and like everybody just jealous.
33:22
Speaker 5: It's nice.
33:23
Speaker 6: Yeah, it is so nice.
33:24
Speaker 1: I felt like that too, Like I was like that,
33:27
Speaker 1: you know what we we the four of us would
33:29
Speaker 1: have never shared a cabin, Like if we let's just
33:32
Speaker 1: say it was like free for all and there was
33:33
Speaker 1: rooms available, we would we would have gone our own
33:35
Speaker 1: separate rooms. And I'm like, and I thought it was
33:36
Speaker 1: so special that we got to like do our makeup
33:39
Speaker 1: together and like wake up together, Like I felt like
33:41
Speaker 1: I was in college again and I love that so much.
33:44
Speaker 1: And like because we didn't have cell service, so we
33:46
Speaker 1: would just like walk to the main cabin and whoever
33:48
Speaker 1: was out there doing whatever. We would just like join in,
33:50
Speaker 1: go on hikes, go fishing, like, and everybody just was
33:53
Speaker 1: so open and welcoming to everybody.
33:56
Speaker 6: It was just like such a nice feeling.
33:58
Speaker 4: But how is how does just handle those situations? Because
34:01
Speaker 4: we were talking about that earlier and she's been in
34:03
Speaker 4: it a little bit longer and been around it probably
34:05
Speaker 4: more than even Haley has. But how does she handle
34:08
Speaker 4: like just the like kind of the weird Bachelor camaradery.
34:14
Speaker 2: It's weird for her. Uh, I think it's odd. It's
34:21
Speaker 2: only been odd a few times when it feels like
34:24
Speaker 2: the people she meets from the franchise don't accept her
34:29
Speaker 2: in which does happen? And I feel it even in
34:31
Speaker 2: some of these Bachelor groups right where you're like it's
34:34
Speaker 2: very clicky in some levels. I think the people that
34:37
Speaker 2: obviously she gets excited to see are are people that
34:40
Speaker 2: when you could assume she gets excited to see, and
34:43
Speaker 2: then obviously the people that she has been around and
34:46
Speaker 2: wanted to be around more. And it was also why
34:49
Speaker 2: when we were going up there, I sent the text
34:51
Speaker 2: to you know, the group and I said, Jess, it
34:52
Speaker 2: is really excited to see you guys because we were
34:54
Speaker 2: talking about it, and like that's a big feeling for
34:56
Speaker 2: me when she's excited to be around the people from
35:00
Speaker 2: this franchise. Because the show has very little impact on
35:02
Speaker 2: our relationship. It does not get talked about, does not
35:05
Speaker 2: get brought up. She doesn't really watch the show at all,
35:09
Speaker 2: and so it's just like we don't have to like
35:11
Speaker 2: to cross that line very often, but when we do,
35:14
Speaker 2: it feels really good for me to bring that part
35:16
Speaker 2: of my life into now this new season of my
35:18
Speaker 2: life and feel like I don't have to leave one
35:20
Speaker 2: of them behind, Like it feels like they both kind
35:22
Speaker 2: of grew up together, and you guys have always I
35:24
Speaker 2: mean I told Tanya, I'm beck I told you this
35:26
Speaker 2: years ago when she first met you, and she's known
35:28
Speaker 2: Ashley for longer, but like, you guys are just so
35:31
Speaker 2: sweet to her that first time at Iheartfest, when it
35:33
Speaker 2: was her first time having any public appearance ever, like
35:37
Speaker 2: she's never been like on a red carpet. All of
35:39
Speaker 2: a sudden, she finds herself an Iheartfest on a red
35:41
Speaker 2: carpet and she's like, I'm so nervous and like this
35:44
Speaker 2: isn't like something I'm used to And you guys brought
35:46
Speaker 2: her in and made her feel very welcome of that,
35:49
Speaker 2: and I think ever since then, there's a safety there
35:51
Speaker 2: when it comes to the comments like I made, which
35:53
Speaker 2: I do think is is just inappropriate and I should
35:57
Speaker 2: be more careful of those things because I don't think
35:59
Speaker 2: we can throw around as flippantly as we get older.
36:04
Speaker 2: I just I don't think she hears it. I don't
36:07
Speaker 2: think people are saying it to her very often. And
36:09
Speaker 2: also when she would hear it, she's just like, Yeah,
36:11
Speaker 2: that was just a weird time in his life. Like
36:12
Speaker 2: I don't like, there's not like a you know, we
36:16
Speaker 2: got married for a reason, we're together for a reason.
36:17
Speaker 2: I think as you're together longer that kind of phase,
36:19
Speaker 2: you're like, no, he's he's not looking to do that again,
36:22
Speaker 2: Like he's very you know, like that's it's just a season.
36:26
Speaker 5: But Ben, like has has Jess ever had a crush
36:30
Speaker 5: on Dan?
36:33
Speaker 2: I don't know if she would have even known who
36:34
Speaker 2: he was until we got together, but I bet she
36:36
Speaker 2: would have.
36:37
Speaker 3: Who does it? Just wanted to know.
36:41
Speaker 5: She could like be welcomed into this club.
36:43
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so we are going to go through some Yeah,
36:51
Speaker 2: so we're gonna go through some details.
36:52
Speaker 3: So here's what I'm gonna do.
36:53
Speaker 2: I'm gonna lead the headline of like what stood out
36:56
Speaker 2: from the weekend, you all comment on. It will race
36:58
Speaker 2: through these pretty quick. Obviously we've already touched on the
37:01
Speaker 2: rehearsal dinner. That evening, we played games and had a blast.
37:04
Speaker 2: People stayed up super late. Some people are up till
37:07
Speaker 2: four am. It was wild. The next day starts out
37:10
Speaker 2: very slowly for most people. I think it was a
37:12
Speaker 2: very slow start. This lodge that we said it did
37:16
Speaker 2: have a cold plunge. I did it for both mornings.
37:20
Speaker 2: It was the only thing that kept me going that day.
37:23
Speaker 2: Some of that tivisa all of us did. We went fishing,
37:26
Speaker 2: caught some salmon, some of our spouses caught some salmon.
37:29
Speaker 2: Some of our friends caught salmon. As we watched it, right,
37:34
Speaker 2: Robbie caught a salmon.
37:35
Speaker 6: Ye first fish ever, felt so yeah, that's adorable.
37:40
Speaker 2: Yeah, So we got to stand out there as he
37:41
Speaker 2: pulled up, and I mean the dude took it off
37:43
Speaker 2: the hook. Like a lot of people just are like
37:44
Speaker 2: weirded out by that. He just grabbed it, took it
37:47
Speaker 2: off the hook. So let's go, Josh Dunn, who is
37:52
Speaker 2: married to Debbie Ryan.
37:54
Speaker 3: He caught a salmon when we were staying there was
37:56
Speaker 3: that was.
37:57
Speaker 2: A blast, and it was like one of my favorite
38:00
Speaker 2: times of the whole weekend because it was very peaceful.
38:02
Speaker 2: We're all just down there casting a line, hanging out.
38:06
Speaker 2: Then it's time to get ready, obviously for the wedding,
38:10
Speaker 2: wedding ceremony. I'll just let you guys kind of explain
38:12
Speaker 2: it with your own words, because I think that was
38:16
Speaker 2: the next step, right. We all got ready in these cabins.
38:18
Speaker 2: We all walk out for this wedding about fifty yards
38:21
Speaker 2: maybe from where we're staying in the middle of the mountains.
38:26
Speaker 5: M So you guys can talk about my reaction.
38:30
Speaker 6: I should post that video. I got video of Ashley
38:33
Speaker 6: just a hey.
38:36
Speaker 4: It was the most beautiful setup because it was just
38:39
Speaker 4: like in the trees, the wind was blowing, the sun
38:42
Speaker 4: was shining. We were all facing the.
38:44
Speaker 6: Aisle, which is I've never seen that before.
38:46
Speaker 5: I've seen it, Like, I start emotional before anyone walked
38:49
Speaker 5: on the aisle. I was like, you, guys, I don't know.
38:51
Speaker 5: I'm sitting here and like looking at these sedunding white
38:54
Speaker 5: roses and I'm my eyes were welling up and like
38:59
Speaker 5: my throat was all before there was anyone in part
39:03
Speaker 5: of the ceremony.
39:03
Speaker 1: I've never seen the wedding set like set up like
39:06
Speaker 1: that where the chairs are all facing towards the aisle.
39:09
Speaker 4: I've just seen like Instagram and spow wedding videos.
39:12
Speaker 3: But it was.
39:15
Speaker 4: And Ashley, you said something because they played yeah, it's
39:23
Speaker 4: a thing at all, Yeah, And we were taking photos
39:27
Speaker 4: when we heard it playing, and I was like, oh
39:28
Speaker 4: my gosh, this song is so beautiful, and then you
39:31
Speaker 4: posted about it. But it was just the whole thing
39:33
Speaker 4: was emotional, and then of course the music starts and
39:37
Speaker 4: it's Lose Yourself by Eminem and that was Dean's walkout song,
39:41
Speaker 4: which couldn't have been more Dean.
39:45
Speaker 5: They didn't have bridal parties. It was just the officiant,
39:48
Speaker 5: who was Jackson, which was Dean's longtime roommate. I hadn't
39:53
Speaker 5: seen him since they were like real roommates back in
39:55
Speaker 5: like our single days, and they apparently all the three
40:00
Speaker 5: of them lived together during like twenty twenty or twenty
40:03
Speaker 5: twenty one, and they shared an apartment part time in
40:06
Speaker 5: la and Jackson's the best and he did like the
40:08
Speaker 5: greatest personalized ceremony.
40:11
Speaker 2: It's perfect, and he has a voice that you'd want
40:14
Speaker 2: to go to sleep listening to. Oh Dean, O, Kaylyn,
40:19
Speaker 2: it's very nice.
40:30
Speaker 3: Okay, so Kaylin.
40:32
Speaker 2: Obviously, I mean it's kind of even feels weird to
40:35
Speaker 2: speak about it, because I don't think you can put
40:37
Speaker 2: words to just like one, how beautiful she was all weakened,
40:41
Speaker 2: and how like accommodating and hospitable she was to her guests.
40:44
Speaker 2: And it was cool because she was also a part
40:47
Speaker 2: of field games and also part of every breakfast. And
40:50
Speaker 2: then all of a sudden she disappears, you know, on
40:52
Speaker 2: wedding day and comes back just and comes back down
40:56
Speaker 2: the aisle and I'll let you all take it from there.
40:58
Speaker 4: Well, she comes on to kiss me by suspense and
41:02
Speaker 4: the richer, and it literally felt like I was in
41:05
Speaker 4: a movie. I felt like I was watching a rom
41:07
Speaker 4: Calm movie scene like it was perfection.
41:10
Speaker 5: She kind of ran down the aisle, she kind of
41:12
Speaker 5: like skipped.
41:14
Speaker 4: Yeah.
41:14
Speaker 1: I also to have never been to a wedding that
41:17
Speaker 1: was just like efficient bride groom. It was like so intimate,
41:23
Speaker 1: like I felt like, yeah, I don't know, I've never
41:25
Speaker 1: felt that before, Like it just.
41:27
Speaker 3: Fowered a very yeah.
41:28
Speaker 5: The lack of formality made it even more emotional.
41:32
Speaker 2: Yea, yeah, it was like very intimate. Now, yeah, I
41:35
Speaker 2: did have another awkward bin moment this weekend. There's probably
41:38
Speaker 2: many that I don't even know happened, so you guys
41:40
Speaker 2: could probably fill me in all that I've told Ashley
41:44
Speaker 2: this before. You know, I really loved going to weddings
41:46
Speaker 2: and I love doing this. I have this thing where
41:48
Speaker 2: and typically it's set up where everybody's sitting facing you know,
41:54
Speaker 2: the Bradon groom, and you're not turned sideways, and you're
41:58
Speaker 2: usually at a pretty a lotiger wedding than what we were.
42:01
Speaker 2: So I see Kaylen walking down the aisle and I'm like,
42:04
Speaker 2: my goodness, like it's exactly what I I mean. Like
42:07
Speaker 2: I said, you can't put words to just how beautiful
42:09
Speaker 2: Kaylan is and how amazing she's been for Dean and
42:12
Speaker 2: all of us. But then I always turned to the
42:15
Speaker 2: groom because I want to see his reaction. So I
42:17
Speaker 2: do it right, not thinking. I have a big old
42:19
Speaker 2: cowboy hat on and I'm the only one turned facing Dean.
42:22
Speaker 2: So you know what Dean does. He gives me a
42:24
Speaker 2: head nod and a wink as she's like at the aisle,
42:26
Speaker 2: and then afterwards he's like, yeah, I had to because
42:28
Speaker 2: it was so awkward.
42:28
Speaker 3: Everybody was looking the opposite direction. You're the only one
42:30
Speaker 3: looking at me. I didn't know what to do.
42:32
Speaker 5: You have to look in the groom, though, I think I.
42:36
Speaker 3: Just did it quicker than everybody else.
42:37
Speaker 5: Okay, I'm always torn. You do have to go back
42:40
Speaker 5: and forth.
42:41
Speaker 4: Yeah, you just stood out because you had your hat on.
42:45
Speaker 3: I just have my hat on. It's a very big
42:46
Speaker 3: wide turn.
42:48
Speaker 4: Wait, we have to go back to something because you
42:49
Speaker 4: mentioned something about Klen how beautiful show it all weekend
42:52
Speaker 4: and we didn't touch on her rehearsal dinner.
42:55
Speaker 5: Look, but it was I can't even talk about it.
42:57
Speaker 5: I'm like, I'm being silent here about Kaylen's look because
43:00
Speaker 5: like you just you can't talk about It's just like
43:02
Speaker 5: she's perfect.
43:03
Speaker 4: She's perfect and like sweats so like like no makeup
43:06
Speaker 4: and sweats. Kaylen's stunning in person, Like I know people
43:10
Speaker 4: see photos of her like she's so beautiful and has
43:12
Speaker 4: like the sweetest heart. Her look for the mountains.
43:15
Speaker 1: Sheik attire like I've never seen anything like it. It
43:18
Speaker 1: belongs in Vogue.
43:19
Speaker 4: She was she was like parent trap mom when she
43:22
Speaker 4: puts the hat on the uh, the model in parent
43:26
Speaker 4: top when.
43:27
Speaker 5: Yeah, like the classic that everybody's like kind of like
43:29
Speaker 5: going for now, like the like the they're trying to
43:32
Speaker 5: kind of copy that look. But like she did it.
43:34
Speaker 5: She did she made it way better than the original.
43:38
Speaker 4: It's perfect.
43:39
Speaker 6: Yeah, she really looked perfect.
43:40
Speaker 3: So I just wanted to touch on that you stop
43:42
Speaker 3: in your tracks, you that's what happens.
43:44
Speaker 2: And then obviously together we've all now came to the
43:46
Speaker 2: conclusion they're a very good looking couple together because Dean
43:50
Speaker 2: is very good looking and we obviously know Kaylen's beautiful.
43:54
Speaker 2: The ceremony itself was emotional. Uh it's you know, there
43:58
Speaker 2: were a lot of tears, but it was informal in
44:01
Speaker 2: a lot of ways. Also, there wasn't a lot of formality.
44:04
Speaker 2: There wasn't anybody else really standing up there with them.
44:07
Speaker 2: You know, we're in the middle of this kind of
44:09
Speaker 2: like valley in the in the hills and the mountains.
44:12
Speaker 2: And but when it comes to the vows U, there
44:18
Speaker 2: is a beauty to just letting you come, like letting
44:21
Speaker 2: it come from the heart. And I'd told Ashley this
44:24
Speaker 2: before the wedding started. But Dean and I got to
44:26
Speaker 2: play golf together last week and I said, hey, man,
44:28
Speaker 2: how do you feel like emotionally because like for me,
44:31
Speaker 2: I broke down at my wedding, I did. I didn't
44:32
Speaker 2: expect too. I didn't plan on it, but you just do.
44:34
Speaker 2: It's a very weird experience. And he goes, I'm kind
44:37
Speaker 2: of nervous because I've because he said, I've been practicing
44:40
Speaker 2: my vows when I hike because I don't listen to music,
44:42
Speaker 2: I don't listen to podcasts, and I've been hiking so
44:44
Speaker 2: much that I've been like rehearsing my vows and every
44:46
Speaker 2: time I do, I start to cry like ball, and
44:49
Speaker 2: then people walk past me in the mountains and I
44:51
Speaker 2: get I feel embarrassed and I'm crying, and so like,
44:53
Speaker 2: I'm nervous I'm going to cry and feel embarrassed about it.
44:57
Speaker 2: And I was like, well, that's totally different when you're
44:58
Speaker 2: in your wedding, cry as much as you want. But
45:01
Speaker 2: then he gets up there and Kaylen gets up there,
45:03
Speaker 2: and it's time for us to talk about their vows,
45:05
Speaker 2: and I think it got a lot of us like
45:08
Speaker 2: at a deep level, why.
45:09
Speaker 3: Was that.
45:12
Speaker 5: Well the mom part, of course, you know that that
45:14
Speaker 5: was Dean bringing up his mom was gonna obviously just
45:19
Speaker 5: really do us in and I you know, it's just
45:22
Speaker 5: one of those moments where you're not gonna rem really
45:23
Speaker 5: word for word what they said, but I know that
45:26
Speaker 5: she got brought up with like him bringing back their
45:29
Speaker 5: proposal and how like feathers have always been like a
45:34
Speaker 5: like a sign that his mom's around, and that like
45:38
Speaker 5: right after he got that on one knee, Kaylyn like
45:41
Speaker 5: came running to him being like, look, Dean, Dean a feather.
45:43
Speaker 4: So I know, I'm like, I can barely listen to
45:47
Speaker 4: you tell it.
45:47
Speaker 2: I know, well the part that got me because I
45:50
Speaker 2: love Dean greatly, uh And I've got a note like
45:55
Speaker 2: Dean over the years. And you know, Dean is a
45:57
Speaker 2: complex individual, as we all are. But Dean is complex
46:01
Speaker 2: because he's very free spirited, but yet he holds onto
46:03
Speaker 2: things very tightly and he's very he's a very sensitive human,
46:07
Speaker 2: but he doesn't show that sensitivity. I think he pushes
46:10
Speaker 2: it aside very quickly. And we've all known, you know,
46:14
Speaker 2: if you know Dean, you know this about him. And
46:16
Speaker 2: he had a line in his vows that I'll never
46:18
Speaker 2: forget because I've seen it for seven years or six years,
46:23
Speaker 2: how long I've known it. He goes, you know, for
46:25
Speaker 2: seventeen years of my life since my mom's past, I've
46:27
Speaker 2: had no purpose. I lost my purpose when she passed.
46:31
Speaker 2: And Caitlyn, now that I've found you, I have my
46:33
Speaker 2: purpose again. And Dean doesn't just say that, like when
46:37
Speaker 2: he says that there's a there's something very deep with
46:41
Speaker 2: him within him saying I'm now a husband to you,
46:44
Speaker 2: and yes, I was a son and I lost my
46:45
Speaker 2: mother and once that happened, like she was such a
46:47
Speaker 2: great woman that I didn't know where to turn.
46:48
Speaker 3: And now that I found.
46:49
Speaker 2: You, like I know what I am again, And that
46:54
Speaker 2: to me is when I lost it, because like, I
46:58
Speaker 2: haven't lost a parent, I haven't lost, you know, somebody
47:02
Speaker 2: very close to me love. But like for him to
47:03
Speaker 2: struggle with that for seventeen years and I know he has,
47:07
Speaker 2: and then for him to stand it there and be like,
47:08
Speaker 2: but today's the day I have it back.
47:10
Speaker 3: Ugh?
47:11
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, no, I just I feel like we've all
47:15
Speaker 4: gotten to watch Dean grow into Like when he met Caylen,
47:21
Speaker 4: it was so different. It was like everything all of
47:24
Speaker 4: us felt it because it was so different in how
47:26
Speaker 4: he was with her, And you can watch when he
47:30
Speaker 4: talks about her, looks at her, you can feel this
47:33
Speaker 4: just like respect or something like there's something about him
47:36
Speaker 4: that just like thinks she's the greatest.
47:39
Speaker 1: Well, I just think it's like even in the small
47:41
Speaker 1: nuanced things, you know, like he said, like I've never
47:43
Speaker 1: finished a project until like you came around, and like
47:46
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, like little like she really
47:48
Speaker 1: makes him a better person, and like that is something
47:51
Speaker 1: that's so rare and so beautiful and so just to
47:54
Speaker 1: know that like he found that in her is so special.
47:57
Speaker 5: Yeah, and he's like matured but also stayed true to himself.
48:01
Speaker 5: And I think Ben, what you were saying is like
48:03
Speaker 5: we know that that sentimentality is in him, but because
48:07
Speaker 5: he doesn't often say it out loud, it was so
48:11
Speaker 5: much more mushy, Like we just felt so much because
48:14
Speaker 5: he was saying it.
48:16
Speaker 2: Yeah, we felt it. Well, we have a few minutes
48:18
Speaker 2: left with you all, and we're going to speed round
48:21
Speaker 2: some of the last things because we can agree. Caylen
48:24
Speaker 2: was incredible. She's beautiful, she's just awesome. She really hosted
48:28
Speaker 2: us all weekend as much credit as loved to give
48:30
Speaker 2: the Dean for doing this wedding.
48:31
Speaker 3: He didn't plan anything.
48:34
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you know, she was absolutely fantastic and made
48:39
Speaker 2: for one of the most special weekends I can remember
48:43
Speaker 2: in my life, just being with all of you and
48:45
Speaker 2: being with them and celebrating them the way we did.
48:48
Speaker 2: Then after the wedding, we had a great sit down dinner,
48:51
Speaker 2: nothing crazy there with when it comes to like, just
48:53
Speaker 2: a really good camaraderie breaking bread together. And then we
48:56
Speaker 2: went into the party, which was a party. They had
48:59
Speaker 2: the Jordan Con band there, who has been at a
49:02
Speaker 2: lot of Bachelor Nation weddings, including my own and Ashley's wedding.
49:06
Speaker 2: They're the best band wedding band or one of the
49:08
Speaker 2: best like live music bands I've ever heard, because they
49:11
Speaker 2: put on a good show. The unique part of their
49:13
Speaker 2: party was they did have a tattoo artist come in.
49:16
Speaker 2: Did anybody here get a tattoo? I had signed up,
49:19
Speaker 2: I was getting one, but we were too far down
49:21
Speaker 2: the list and then I went to bed before they
49:23
Speaker 2: got to me.
49:23
Speaker 4: Yeah, you ghosted the party early.
49:25
Speaker 5: Only there was a little good We already talked about
49:28
Speaker 5: that on the last podcast. He talked about how he
49:30
Speaker 5: was going to get like social fatigue and he just
49:33
Speaker 5: wanted to leave being his best self. But at the
49:35
Speaker 5: tattoo thing, so you guys had like a sheet to
49:39
Speaker 5: choose from, and they were all like predecided, which is
49:43
Speaker 5: why I wasn't a total proponent of Jared getting his
49:46
Speaker 5: first tattoo there, because I would There's just a couple
49:49
Speaker 5: of specific things that Jared's talked about getting, and I'm like,
49:52
Speaker 5: I don't want you to just like put something on
49:54
Speaker 5: your body that doesn't mean anything to do it.
49:57
Speaker 4: I think there was like a good twelve hours.
49:59
Speaker 6: Like when we found out there's gonna tattoos, Rob and
50:01
Speaker 6: I were like, let's do it, and we were like.
50:02
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then like as we started learning more, we
50:05
Speaker 1: were like, maybe not for my first one.
50:07
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know.
50:08
Speaker 5: I think Jared would have done it though for Dean,
50:10
Speaker 5: So he put his name on the list for Dean,
50:12
Speaker 5: also knowing that they probably weren't going to get to him,
50:15
Speaker 5: but like, yeah, I was like, I want you to
50:17
Speaker 5: for Dean. But I also don't know.
50:20
Speaker 4: Many people not tattoos.
50:21
Speaker 6: You see how many people got tattoos.
50:23
Speaker 2: It was not That's why I said I could never
50:25
Speaker 2: get to it. I would have either done the mountains,
50:28
Speaker 2: which I want to do anyways, for a couple of reasons.
50:30
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's been good and you have plenty.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and and my one buddy who's super sick right now,
50:35
Speaker 2: who had to move from Denver, like I would have
50:36
Speaker 2: got him kind of in memory of him, because he
50:39
Speaker 2: has that same tattoo, and I've been like, that's sick.
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Speaker 3: So I really wanted that.
50:42
Speaker 2: Or the other option was blue cheese stuffed olives, which
50:46
Speaker 2: they had on there.
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Speaker 3: Also.
50:47
Speaker 2: I don't know why they had olives, but I was like,
50:48
Speaker 2: I love a good martini, like everything.
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Speaker 5: It's a little and meaningful.
50:53
Speaker 4: For I love spicy mark. But you couldn't scale it
50:57
Speaker 4: to size, so I was gonna have one like this big,
51:00
Speaker 4: And I just said, you know what, I don't think
51:02
Speaker 4: that this.
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Speaker 3: Is the move.
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Speaker 5: Do you have tattoos at all? Tacca, No, Yes, we're
51:07
Speaker 5: all like all us girls are of tattoos.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I got them, so we were going to
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Speaker 2: It was an amazing party, a wonderful celebration. No no drama,
51:18
Speaker 2: which I think is an important note for us to
51:20
Speaker 2: highlight is there was no at least drama that I
51:22
Speaker 2: know of now, said of my own causes and anxieties
51:26
Speaker 2: in my own head. You just don't put me around
51:29
Speaker 2: people that much for like straight periods of time, because
51:33
Speaker 2: it's a lot of fun for me, and then I
51:35
Speaker 2: question everything.
51:36
Speaker 3: I just don't do it.
51:37
Speaker 4: You are so wonderful, Like I think everyone around you
51:40
Speaker 4: had an amazing time. So I think it's just.
51:44
Speaker 1: By this, Like, no, I'm not shot anytime Robbie's around you,
51:48
Speaker 1: He's like, Ben is such a great god. I've never
51:52
Speaker 1: heard anybody say anything like that. You've said anything uncomfortable.
51:55
Speaker 3: But here's the point.
51:57
Speaker 2: And I think out of all the details of Dean
51:59
Speaker 2: and Kailn's wedding, I think this is an important point
52:01
Speaker 2: for people listening because you know, kind of the hidden
52:05
Speaker 2: things that we find out about ourselves, and these really
52:08
Speaker 2: cool events oftentimes are relatable in a lot of ways
52:11
Speaker 2: to other people, where it's like, okay, you guys can
52:12
Speaker 2: say that, and I appreciate you saying that. It does
52:14
Speaker 2: mean a lot to me because I do get really
52:16
Speaker 2: jacked up about it. You could ask Jess yes to
52:18
Speaker 2: hear it. But I don't think I'm alone in that right,
52:21
Speaker 2: Like I think a lot of us go to these
52:23
Speaker 2: social events and oftentimes. I think Haley and I talked
52:25
Speaker 2: about this where we'll say no to social events because
52:29
Speaker 2: or maybe it was you and Ibeca, like because of
52:32
Speaker 2: the fear of what we'll feel like after we leave them,
52:34
Speaker 2: like will we feel this anxiety, the social anxiety because
52:38
Speaker 2: we're like, why do we say that? Or why didn't
52:40
Speaker 2: we talk to that person long enough? Or did we
52:42
Speaker 2: really hear what they were saying? Did they mean something else?
52:44
Speaker 2: Like I in my life, as I've gotten older, have
52:46
Speaker 2: stayed away from going to social situations because I know
52:49
Speaker 2: my reaction afterwards will be like one of like heaviness,
52:53
Speaker 2: and that's something I need to work on. And I
52:55
Speaker 2: realized it this weekend and a weekend that it was
52:57
Speaker 2: drama free in a weekend that was beautiful. We can
53:00
Speaker 2: filled with people that we all love and care about,
53:02
Speaker 2: celebrating two people that we care about, those anxieties still
53:06
Speaker 2: come up, and it's like, Okay, now it's somebody to
53:07
Speaker 2: work on. And that's why at two o'clock this afternoon,
53:09
Speaker 2: I'm going to therapy.
53:13
Speaker 3: Did you book?
53:14
Speaker 5: In response to this.
53:18
Speaker 6: Perfect timing?
53:19
Speaker 2: Okay, we do have to close an amazing time with
53:23
Speaker 2: all of you. Thank you for coming on the podcast.
53:25
Speaker 2: Thanks for talking about it. I'm just it's so amazing
53:27
Speaker 2: to see how life and how God has interacted in
53:31
Speaker 2: all of our lives to keep bringing us back together
53:33
Speaker 2: in an amazing scenarios with new people in our lives
53:36
Speaker 2: as well, like the Robbies, like the Hayleys. You know,
53:39
Speaker 2: Jared's always been around, like the Jessicas. It's really fun
53:43
Speaker 2: to be able to do this together and get to
53:45
Speaker 2: see where all of us have evolved in life. And uh,
53:49
Speaker 2: I couldn't be more more happy that we got to
53:51
Speaker 2: do this together.
53:52
Speaker 4: Me too, it was the best Me too, sad.
53:55
Speaker 3: Thanks for having us.
53:58
Speaker 4: Year. We coradulation to Kalin and Dean. Thank you for
54:01
Speaker 4: putting on the most epic wedding. Hopefully we do like
54:04
Speaker 4: the year reunion.
54:05
Speaker 5: Yeah, guys, where are they up their honeymoon? Are they
54:07
Speaker 5: doing one right now?
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Speaker 3: Yeah? South Africa? In a bit. I will say.
54:12
Speaker 2: Also, my house is now full of leftover alcohol that
54:17
Speaker 2: because everybody else flew. I drove in my back of
54:20
Speaker 2: my truck. I mean, I am loaded up for years
54:24
Speaker 2: to come. So if anybody else come visit, you know
54:26
Speaker 2: what you can get out of our house. Hey, we'll
54:30
Speaker 2: talk to you soon. Until next time.
54:32
Speaker 4: I've been been, I've been Ashley, I've been Tanya, I've
54:35
Speaker 4: been Becca.
54:36
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just coming in team. Make sure you go
54:39
Speaker 3: listen to their podcast they do a great job. Always
54:42
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