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Romeo In The Morning 6-3-26 · Romeo In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: That was going on as Romeo, what do we get
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  into today? We talked about the situation that happened downtown
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  Bakersville with the bombing and the bomberr and the hostage
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  situation using your man's truck, and then of course complicated relationships.
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  Speaker 2: Let's think it into it.
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  Speaker 1: I let's talk about this because I thought this was
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  pretty interesting. So yesterday I was having a conversation with
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  a friend of mine. He was talking about his kid,
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  His son just graduated from high school, and I was
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  asking him where his kid's going to go to college.
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  And he says, his kid's going out of state for college.
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  Speaker 2: And the kid my buddy's kid.
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  Speaker 1: I won't say he's been sheltered, because he hasn't been sheltered,
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  but you.
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  Speaker 2: Know, he's lived at home his whole life and now
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  he's out.
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  Speaker 1: Now he's about to move out to go to college
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  in another state, away from his parents. And he was
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  telling me how he gave him a list of things
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  that he needed to know before he left. He goes, Yeah,
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  I think there was fifteen or twenty three on it.
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  Speaker 2: I don't remember. I never see.
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  Speaker 1: The reason I don't remember is because I never saw
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  the list. But I can't remember if he said he
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  had fifteen things on it or twenty things on it.
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  Speaker 2: And I never I never got.
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  Speaker 1: To see the list, And I was kind of thinking
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  about it later on last night, like what's on that list?
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  Like what?
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  Speaker 2: And when? Did I don't know when when the kids
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  start college?
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  Speaker 1: They're going he's probably moving in August, probably maybe July,
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  probably August, I think early August. They're gonna drive him
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  out to wherever he's gonna live. But what what do you.
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  Speaker 2: Think is on this list?
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  Speaker 1: And I was trying to think about it myself, like
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  what would I if I was making a list of
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  things that that that a young man needs to know
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  before he goes to college before he moved.
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  Speaker 2: I mean he's literally.
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  Speaker 1: Moving out of his parents' house on his own, I
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  mean college dormitory, but it's still kind of on your own.
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  Speaker 2: But what would you put on that list if you.
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  Speaker 1: Were making a list of things to teach your kid
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  that your kid had to know before he or she
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  moved out of the house, what would that be? You know?
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  And I was just thinking, maybe how to cook, how
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  to wash your clothes, I mean, check the oil in
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  your car? Maybe, I mean I don't think you need
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  to know how to change a tire. Probably helps, Probably
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  don't need to know how to change the oil. I
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  was just trying to think of what could possibly be
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  on this list, And to be honest with you, do
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  you even need a list anymore? You can find everything
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  on YouTube. You can look up everything on YouTube, or
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  you can AI it.
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  Speaker 2: How do I do this? I mean, what would you
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  put on the list?
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  Speaker 1: Were if you were making a list for your eighteen
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  year old son or daughter, they never lived on their
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  own before, they're moving out, they're going to be out
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  of your house.
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  Speaker 2: You're you're not even going to be close enough. How
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  what would you put on that list? Cook? Clean? Cook?
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  Do you? I mean? That's I don't even know.
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  Speaker 1: I think he said he had fifteen or twenty things
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  on this list. I wish I would have got a
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  copy of the list because it would have been easier
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  for me to have this conversation with you.
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  Speaker 2: But what would you put? Mom and dad?
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  Speaker 1: Already four two, five, four, seven to seven. Some of
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  you may have already made a list. Some of you
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  may may already be teaching your kids something because you
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  know they're leaving for college, or maybe they're moving out
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  of the house. You know, I don't know what do
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  you guys got put together a list. This kid graduated college.
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  He's heading off our graduated high school. He said, not
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  to college here, and he's gonna put together a list
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  of things that kidneys.
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  Speaker 2: To know what would be on your list? I didn't,
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  I don't. I don't know what was on the list.
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  Speaker 1: I never saw a pot two, five, four or seven
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  to seven out what's going on?
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  Speaker 3: So I was trying to answer your question because I
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  didn't have a kid that's going out of state.
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  Speaker 2: To college right now.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, and they have been pretty sheltered.
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  Speaker 4: It's a girl.
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  Speaker 5: So my list was a little bit different.
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  Speaker 3: My list involved ins like, uh, teaching her how to
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  navigate a party, so how to avoid certain situations. We
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  actually did practice rug where I had bought these a
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  little like blow in the Dark pills off of Amazon,
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  and I like the game was how many pills can
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  I flip or her drink without her nose.
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  Speaker 2: That's that's pretty that's pretty smart. How did you get in?
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  Speaker 6: I got in five?
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  Speaker 7: She was like, there's no way was my dreams?
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  Speaker 1: And I said yeah, And I was talking to you
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  and I was flying her.
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  Speaker 4: Betimes.
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  Speaker 8: You know those types of you know, those.
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  Speaker 7: Type of things.
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  Speaker 3: Unless you've really been outside off the porch like that,
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  you really don't.
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  Speaker 4: You don't deal with that. And so I had to
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  like let her know, like people do this. I had
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  to like, teacher, like, this is how you got to
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  navigate herta And thus.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely I totally agree with you. I wow, when you
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  got five in before she.
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  Speaker 5: Said she didn't even realize.
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  Speaker 3: She was like, what where did you put that one in?
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  Speaker 9: And I was like why.
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  Speaker 7: While we were talking, I was like, and I had
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  told you.
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  Speaker 3: To look over there or something I said, and you
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  look and I flipped in at the same time.
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  Speaker 2: That is hilarious. Well, you're a good mom, you really are.
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  That's awesome. That is so awesome. What else you got?
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  Speaker 3: Listen, we can't play like these kids are not stepping
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  down into the real world.
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  Speaker 5: Well, in the real world comes.
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  Speaker 3: With people that do bad things, that people that you
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  went to the party with.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I'm with you. It start like the nineties
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  where you guys could just be a hose.
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  Speaker 3: Where I'm totally glad we didn't have that chet mess.
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  Speaker 2: By put together a list.
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  Speaker 1: This kid graduated college, he's heading off our graduate high school.
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  He's heading off to college here and he's going to
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  put together a list of things the kid needs.
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  Speaker 2: To know what would be on your list? I didn't,
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  I don't. I don't know what was on the list.
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  Speaker 1: I never saw a four, two, five, four or seven
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  or seven going out.
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  Speaker 2: What's going on?
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  Speaker 4: And I just want to say a shout out to
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  all those parents that are okay having their kids move
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  out once they get to a certain age, because I
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  know some parents that they have their kids still living
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  under the roofs by the age or on their twenties
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  and thirties, and I don't think that's okay. But AS
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  want to say shout out to those parents, you know,
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  once they get to their stay their their kids to
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  go ahead and move out, because I don't know one
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  that has their me three year old daughters so living
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  up their home and it's not it's not doing them
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  a favor. Actually, it's just letting them.
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  Speaker 1: What is the daughter's going to college, or just just.
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  Speaker 4: Let me know she works, She works, you know, but
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  I don't know. I just feel like, you know, it's
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  time for her to move out of the house because
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  she has to be independently. But yeah, she doesn't pay
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  or anything. She doesn't pay builds or anything. The only
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  thing she pays is her brand new car.
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  Speaker 2: That you sound like a hater.
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  Speaker 4: Absolutely at all.
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  Speaker 2: Sounds like a hater.
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  Speaker 4: What do you care?
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  Speaker 1: You know?
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  Speaker 4: I mean it's not a haters like you know. I
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  mean that was one of those I'm not going.
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  Speaker 10: To get it, you know, I don't want to say that.
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  Speaker 4: You know that their cans to be independently and that's good.
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  Speaker 5: That's going to teach them what's out there in line.
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  Speaker 2: Appreciate it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I have to buy She sounds like a hater.
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  Why are you mad because your parents kick you out
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  of the eighteen anyway?
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  Speaker 2: Already? Four two pot four seven to seven.
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  Speaker 1: Hey Romeo, if you get gay, If you gave your
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  kid a list, it means you didn't raise them right.
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  You got to teach them young, not not last minute,
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  especially when you know you're leaving out of your parents.
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  Kids need to know most basic cooking before eighteen months,
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  unless it's a Mexican thing, which I doubt. Kids need
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  to know most basic and cooking before eighteen months. What
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  does that need mean unless it's a Mexican thing, which
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  I doubt. I don't understand what you mean.
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  Speaker 2: I don't believe that. I mean, if you give your
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  kids a list of things like you know, to do.
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  Speaker 1: To learn, you know, to know before they move out,
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  there's I mean, how's that that lady that just called
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  them and said that she wanted to teach her kid
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  how to deal with parties situations? I mean, okay, that's
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  a list, that's something you need to know. You're gonna
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  start teaching your kid at twelve how to deal.
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  Speaker 2: With party situations.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, don't I don't know exactly what you're trying
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  to say here. I think just haters. I mean, first,
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  this girl calling me in a hater because the kid's
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  not out by twenty three. You're texting me being a hater,
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  saying if you have to give your kid a list
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  on things to.
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  Speaker 2: Learn before they move out, then you didn't raise them
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  right away, You guys haters. You know already four two, five, four,
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  seven to seven, if you were.
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  Speaker 1: Putting together a list of things to teacher high school
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  graduate because they're going to college right now, they're out,
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  or they're moving out.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe they're just moving out.
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  Speaker 1: You know some kids do kids still want to move
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  out when they graduate high school bro, we could wait
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  to move out when we graduated. We were trying to
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  figure out who we were going to live with, how
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  we were gonna split the rent, who was going to
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  get the big room in the small room. Yeah, I
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  don't think kid. I don't think kids do that anymore,
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  do they? That's another subject, but yeah, what would you
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  put on that list? What would you what do he
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  want your kid to know before they're gone? So my
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  buddy was telling me he put a list together. His
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  son's going off to college out of state, and he
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  put a list together things his son should know before
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  he leaves. Right, I never saw the list, and I
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  was thinking, I wonder what's on that list?
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  Speaker 2: What would you put on that list? Alrighty?
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  Speaker 1: Fourteen five four seven seven, Hey, Rome, I would tell
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  him to wrap it up. Oh yeah, wrap it up
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  makes your birth control. Make sure you understand birth control, yo, Rome.
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  That girl was a damn was a darn hater and
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  get and is giving like she got kicked out at eighteen.
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  I mean Seahawk Lou moved out at thirty six and
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  he did fine.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, that is.
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  Speaker 1: Kind of true, though she kind of did sound like
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  a hitter. Twenty three, I don't think twenty three. I
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  think at twenty three you can, honestly, if you're working,
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  I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing. If you
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  still live at home, you might still be trying to
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  figure that out that point.
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  Speaker 2: All right, good morning, help, what's going on?
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  Speaker 8: Hey man, I'm calling about that.
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  Speaker 9: You're saying that list of people, the like kids leaving
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  and stuff.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, well, I think it's this generation.
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  Speaker 9: Brother, To be honest with you, these generations, they don't want.
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  Speaker 8: To leave home.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, okay, that's what I get it.
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  Speaker 2: I get it.
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  Speaker 9: I'm like, I'm just putting it into my perspective. Like
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  I run a kitchen and I have like twenty plus staff,
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  and I had assumed the majority of my staff within
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  their early twenties because they have a lot of them
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  live with their parents still something to find out they're
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  in their thirties, and that kind of that really alarmed me,
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  just because I was just like, hey, yo, like twenty one,
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  I had my first place already. I was kicked out
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  at eighteen, you know, I didn't have a route back.
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  And I look at this kids and I asked them, like, hey,
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  so what's your plan? And I'm calling them kids that
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  they're in their thirties, but.
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  Speaker 4: Like you know, like they're living with their parents, but
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  parents still pay up with.
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  Speaker 8: Thirty of their bills.
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  Speaker 9: Okay, that like, hey, like, what's your plan? You know,
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  you're in the thirties. What are you gonna do for
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  the rest of your life?
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  Speaker 8: And I get a I don't know?
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  Speaker 9: And that's that's alarming to me.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, do you think that's the majority of
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  the majority of thirty year olds?
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  Speaker 2: Is that the majority of kids? I mean, you know,
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  I I will tell you this now, I will tell you.
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  Speaker 1: I will tell you this because I have a different
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  experience than you in today's society.
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  Speaker 2: In my in my bubble, I have a different experience.
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  Speaker 1: All the all the kids in my bubble, the eighteen
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  year olds are all moving out to go to college,
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  or they're moving out to go to work or trade school.
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  There's very There's only a couple of them that I
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  know that are staying at home. So that's why I say,
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  is that do you think that's everybody? Or do you
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  think that's just your your bubble of people that you see.
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  Speaker 9: I don't want to say everybody, but it's just weird
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  and it's kind of alarming because I came I came
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  from up north and I had experienced something similar, and
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  then when I came down south, there's another batch. I'm
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  just like, hey, yo, okay, you should have a game plan.
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  Speaker 2: At lead for sure.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, that's not bad, that's not uh, that's I mean,
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  I don't think you're wrong.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just wondering.
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  Speaker 1: We have to since we did the show, we have
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  to talk about generalities, you know, we have to. We
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  have to feel the most you know, we got the
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  majority of the minority of what we're talking about here.
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  Do you think most people are are don't know what
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  they're doing? Or do you think these kids today are
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  all trying.
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  Speaker 2: To get out the house? Do you have to just
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  which one do you think is more popular? Staying at
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  home or getting out the house.
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  Speaker 9: Honestly, I'm gonna prom my point of view. I'm gonna
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  think I think it's staying at home because I don't
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  even know the kids playing outside as much as they
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  used to.
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  Speaker 2: That's fair, Okay, all right, all right? Man said call
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  thanks brother.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I don't know, I don't know already
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  four two five, four or seven as seven, you know
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  what's going on?
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  Speaker 2: And what's the row blue, hey, rong, White people.
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  Speaker 3: Got a lie.
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  Speaker 8: I didn't move out of my parents house at thirty five.
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  Speaker 2: Oh they said thirty six, Oh.
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  Speaker 9: Thirty six.
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  Speaker 8: I moved out at thirty right on the dot, man,
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  and not fine.
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  Speaker 6: That they're wrong with that.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not the ones saying there's anything wrong with it.
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  We have some hater calling up.
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  Speaker 1: She was mad at people kids, not parents, not letting
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  their kids move out at eighteen.
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  Speaker 9: I guess, yeah, now they got to let them go
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  free as a bird.
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  Speaker 8: But you know that's what I think. If they if
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  they if they stumble, they could come back to the house.
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  Speaker 6: You know what I mean.
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  Speaker 2: Fair enough, absolutely.
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  Speaker 8: Absolutely, fair enough?
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  Speaker 7: All right now?
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  Speaker 8: But I left at thirty and it's okay.
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  Speaker 2: I'll let everybody know, even those parents live next door.
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  Good morning, How what's going on?
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  Speaker 10: Roman?
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  Speaker 5: As a parent, I think we've all prepared for this
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  day that we send our kids off, and some of
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  us are granted, some of us look forward to.
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  Speaker 8: But I'll be.
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  Speaker 5: Honest with you, I'm here taking notes. I want to
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  hear some good.
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  Speaker 8: Things that I can answer my list.
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  Speaker 4: Because I do have a list.
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  Speaker 2: What do you have on your list?
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  Speaker 10: Now?
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  Speaker 4: Trust your instincts.
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  Speaker 5: You know, if you have a bad feeling, follow that instinct.
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  You know, all money is not good money.
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  Speaker 6: Call me for anything, just don't call me collect Okay,
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  check the oil Russian cheek.
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  Speaker 5: Don't live above your budget.
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  Speaker 2: Hi, gen Okay.
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  Speaker 5: If you ain't ready to have kids, make sure you
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  wear protection.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 5: If that worth going to jail for, don't do it.
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  There's a lot of really important things, you know that
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  I try to pass on to my kids that were
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  passed on to me.
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  Speaker 8: But I'm taking notes.
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  Speaker 5: So if anything got some good ideas, let ready to Dave.
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  Speaker 2: No, all right, David, that's funny, all right later, all right?
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  Speaker 1: Uh yeah, already four two, five for seven and seven?
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  Do you moms and dads have a list of things
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  you need to teach your kids before they move out?
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  Speaker 2: Or you just winging it already? For to you five
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  for seven to seven? Your room? You got to manage
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  your money.
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  Speaker 10: Room.
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  Speaker 1: If my kids want to stay a couple of years
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  while they work, or go to school, school, or just
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  enjoy life a couple of years, I'm okay with that.
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  But not until you're thirty, okay, Okay, Hey, Romeo, put
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  it like this. If you still play video games. You
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  haven't matured. You're still a kid. Well that's a funny conversation,
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  by the way, when you talk about that, because you know,
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  I still like to play video games sometimes, but I
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  mean it's just the games I grew up playing as
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  a kid. You can't I don't know about that. I mean,
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  if you excessively play video games and you try to
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  make that your life and you're not making any money
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  off it, Okay, now, I understand that, but video games
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  are a hobby that people have now grown up with,
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  so it's gonna be.
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  Speaker 10: So.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think you can really say that. But okay,
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  I get you.
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  Speaker 1: If you play video games to avoid your family or
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  avoid getting a job or yeah, I would agree with that,
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  just playing video I'll play a little Mario every once
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  in a while if I'm not doing anything at the house. Hey,
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  dang Rome, I can speak to this, but you ain't
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  picking up.
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  Speaker 2: You don't like me no more? Well, the ain't nobody
• 17:15
  calling me right now? Already? Fourteen five, four or seven
• 17:18
  to seven.
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: Did you guys pay attention to what happened downtown yesterday?
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: I'm sure everybody heard about it.
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: It was probably on Current County activities and every news
• 17:27
  cycle this whole.
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: I guess somebody walked into.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: The building, the Chase building on seventeenth Street and with
• 17:35
  a supposed they had a bomb. I don't know if
• 17:38
  they really had a bomb or not. And I kind
• 17:42
  of got a couple of different stuff. First, it's old
• 17:44
  bank robbery, bank robbery, bank robbery. But then somebody told
• 17:48
  me that I guess the guy was trying to was
• 17:54
  actually focused on the current county schools? Is there something
• 18:00
  like that CPS? Apparently the guy the story I was
• 18:04
  told this morning, and I don't even know if it ended.
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: There's this is it over with? Did they get the
• 18:09
  guy in the custody?
• 18:10
  Speaker 8: Hold on?
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: Let me see? But I was told it had something
• 18:13
  to do with CPS.
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: The guy went to jail.
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: He was falsely convicted or something, and he went to
• 18:18
  jail and he was trying to clear his name by
• 18:21
  going in there with a bomb. But I don't see
• 18:25
  if let's see, I don't see if yeah, I don't see.
• 18:35
  I don't see if it ended it ended right?
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: Anybody know?
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: Kind of a wild situation, man, I mean to see
• 18:43
  that going on and the way people uh distort the
• 18:47
  news nowadays, it's hard to really tell what's going on,
• 18:50
  you know what it was all about, because first there
• 18:52
  was a bank robbery.
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: Who robs a bank with a bomb? I mean, that's uh,
• 18:56
  who's getting away with that?
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: And then there was so I guess it ended up
• 19:00
  having to be and I believe that it has something
• 19:02
  to do with CPS more than I believe it was
• 19:04
  a bank robbery.
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: But I don't know.
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: I don't know when it ended. Not totally sure about that,
• 19:11
  but I may I think it's over with. I think
• 19:13
  I saw something on the news this morning. I think
• 19:17
  it was over with. But yeah, crazy situation, huh, all
• 19:21
  right in fourteen four seven to seven.
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: You guys got any details on that to share?
• 19:26
  Speaker 6: Yeah, Romeo, it's over.
• 19:28
  Speaker 7: They he's rendered. Maybe he got him in handcuffs, locked
• 19:31
  them out.
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: Oh when did when?
• 19:33
  Speaker 11: Did?
• 19:33
  Speaker 10: Did you know? When?
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: It ended?
• 19:35
  Speaker 7: About forty five minutes?
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: Really?
• 19:38
  Speaker 7: Yeah?
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's it.
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it was.
• 19:41
  Speaker 6: It did have something to do with CPS did over
• 19:43
  ten years on a crime that he alged he didn't do.
• 19:48
  Speaker 7: There was really no solid evidence, but they made him
• 19:51
  take this plea deal so that way his crime he
• 19:54
  wouldn't get life. But he argued that he was innocence
• 19:58
  the whole time, and he was just kind of to
• 20:00
  make a statement.
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: I think, Yeah, okay, Wow.
• 20:04
  Speaker 7: It reminded me of the movie Thirty Minutes or last.
• 20:07
  I don't know if you've ever.
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: Seen thirty Minutes or No. The last movie I saw
• 20:11
  was Uh, it's going to sound dated. It was Dog
• 20:14
  Day Afternoon.
• 20:16
  Speaker 8: Yeah, that's pretty old.
• 20:17
  Speaker 9: That's pretty old.
• 20:19
  Speaker 7: But we were global news.
• 20:21
  Speaker 6: Everybody's been talking about this crazy dude with the momb
• 20:26
  Baker Show.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: That's the second thing I saw that win international just
• 20:30
  like some kid, I guess some some kid, uh right,
• 20:34
  umpiring baseball little League Baseball International.
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: I saw. Uh. I saw that last week or the
• 20:40
  week before.
• 20:42
  Speaker 8: Yeah, we we we were all having a poll here
• 20:45
  on what's going to happen if it was gonna give.
• 20:47
  Speaker 7: Me did he hand in?
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: Did he really have a bomb?
• 20:51
  Speaker 6: He was ex military, so it seemed like he had something.
• 20:55
  And they rated his home in Oildale and found other
• 20:58
  explosives and stuff, so he was pretty experienced in it.
• 21:03
  So I might have been, all right, that's crazy d
• 21:09
  is on the scene.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: That's wild though, that's a wild that's a wild story. Yeah,
• 21:17
  I wonder what happened I wonder what he he did
• 21:20
  time huh for for CPS or something he did type
• 21:23
  he did time said he was innocent.
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: That's a hell of a way to make a statement though.
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: This guy, I guess he went into this the downtown
• 21:31
  bank Bank building. I don't think he was actually trying
• 21:34
  to with a bomb. Supposedly he had a bomb, and
• 21:37
  I don't know. It started at about one o'clock in the afternoon.
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: I don't know what time it ended.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: Rayder Dave said it may have ended just an hour
• 21:45
  or so ago. I'm not sure, but he was holding hostages.
• 21:48
  Apparently it had nothing to do with Robin a Bank.
• 21:50
  It had something to do with child protective Services. He
• 21:54
  might have did some time in jail, and he was
• 21:56
  claiming he was innocent. So now that he got out,
• 21:59
  I guess he was trying to prove his innocence or
• 22:01
  I don't know what he was trying to do.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: We were prickly honest with you. There's not a lot.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: I can't find a lot online about it, so I
• 22:09
  didn't even know if it ended not until ray or
• 22:11
  Dave called. But you ever been in the crazy situation
• 22:15
  like that? I was thinking, I don't know how many
• 22:16
  hostages there were. I know the couple of guys let go,
• 22:18
  but I don't know how many men. Could you imagine
• 22:21
  he was walking into the.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: Bank building or whatever. I don't even know.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: I've never been in that building, so I have no
• 22:26
  idea what the situation was, But man.
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: Could you imagine?
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: I was trying to think of the most ridiculous, you know,
• 22:36
  wild tense situation I've ever been in, and I just don't.
• 22:45
  The only the closest I can come to that is
• 22:48
  when I was in college. I was in a radio store,
• 22:53
  a car stereo store with another friend of mine and
• 22:58
  some other friends of mine walk into the store and say, Hey,
• 23:01
  we're gonna go out and fight these dudes. Why don't
• 23:04
  you come help us? And I was like, nah, because
• 23:06
  I'm not a fighter, you know, no, And then you know,
• 23:12
  ten seconds later, thirty seconds later, you hear shots fired,
• 23:14
  and my buddy shot a couple of people took off,
• 23:18
  and I was on video talking to him. But that
• 23:21
  wasn't even close to the scenario that these people must
• 23:24
  have went through yesterday. I can only imagine, I can't
• 23:27
  even imagine, to be honest, but that would be the
• 23:29
  closest to any craziness. I don't know, man, you guys
• 23:32
  ever been in a crazy situation? I think I have
• 23:34
  a friend, if I remember correctly, she was in a
• 23:38
  shoe store or something when it got robbed.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: But I don't remember the whole story.
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah, alrighty four two bought four or seven to seven?
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: All right? What is wrong with you chicks?
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: Man? Why is it that you women cannot drive a pickup?
• 23:52
  A couple of things. This happened though a while back.
• 23:58
  This happened last year some time.
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: A buddy of mine. You got a brand new pickup? Right,
• 24:01
  his wife wife borrows it.
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: Hits a pole, backs into a pole. Right for some
• 24:07
  read is a backup?
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: How can you? He chicks not back up? But they
• 24:11
  got backup cameras on him.
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: How do you hit things? And I'm gonna tell you
• 24:14
  why I say that? And this happened yesterday and today.
• 24:19
  So my buddy calls me yesterday he say, Rome, would
• 24:23
  you mind going and picking up something for me? My
• 24:25
  wife ordered something and she doesn't have a truck.
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: He doesn't. He has a truck, but he was out
• 24:31
  of town. So he just called me.
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: And I I couldn't go pick it up. I said,
• 24:35
  I had a tea time I was playing golf. I said,
• 24:37
  I can't go pick it up, but just tell her
• 24:39
  to stop by take my truck and I'll use your car.
• 24:42
  And he said okay.
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: So she came by and grabbed my truck.
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: And when I got home and she brought my truck back,
• 24:56
  there were bushes in the bumper, like she backed into
• 25:00
  a like she backed up. And this is what I'm
• 25:03
  assuming happened, because this is what I saw.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: This morning at the gym.
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: She must have backed in somewhere, and you know how
• 25:13
  they have row of bushes and you back in. She
• 25:16
  hit the bushes and caught some bushes. Didn't mess up
• 25:18
  my truck. She just hit the bushes, No big deal.
• 25:21
  But you have a backup camera. What the hell is
• 25:24
  wrong with you chicks?
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: My god, learn to.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: Drive a truck or don't drive one. Now I know
• 25:30
  why you guys should never let your wives or your
• 25:32
  girlfriends or whoever borrow your truck. Women should not be
• 25:35
  in trucks, apparently. And the reason I say that's funny
• 25:38
  is because I was walking out of the gym this morning,
• 25:42
  two women parked next to each other in Chevy a
• 25:48
  r gmc HDS Well full size hds. Both backed into
• 25:54
  the bush. They both backed in, but both of them
• 25:58
  bumpers in the bushes. What is wrong with you people?
• 26:02
  Why can't you women not drive pickups? Stick to your
• 26:07
  subs already four two four or seven to seven? The
• 26:14
  pole one was funny. That happened last year. Buddy of mine,
• 26:17
  brand new pickup, oh, brand new, and his wife barred it.
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: Backed into a pole. That was funny.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: The bushes are fine. The pole was a little more serious.
• 26:27
  But man, you women need to stay out of pickups.
• 26:29
  Unless you're riding shotgun, you need to stay out of them.
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: So it's funny.
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: I left a friend of mine, he was out of
• 26:36
  town at his truck. His wife bought something, so I said,
• 26:40
  I can't go pick it up. He called and asked
• 26:42
  me if I go pick it up for is what
• 26:43
  he did, and I couldn't because I was going to
• 26:44
  play golf. So she said, uh, So I just said
• 26:49
  to Iver, come get my truck. If they'll load it
• 26:51
  up for it, it's fine. She brought it back. She
• 26:54
  had bushes in my in my tail, in my in
• 26:56
  the bumper, the back bumper, so obviously wherever she went
• 26:59
  or whatever she did, she tried to back in somewhere
• 27:02
  and she backed into the bushes. And I saw today
• 27:07
  I saw two women do it in the parking lot,
• 27:11
  just backed into the bushes. They got backup cameras, they
• 27:15
  got sensors that vibrating. But what in the hell is
• 27:18
  wrong with you chicks? You guys do not belong driving trucks.
• 27:22
  It's ridiculous, all right, eight four two fours seven to.
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: Seven a rome.
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: I don't mind my wife driving my truck. I got
• 27:31
  good insurance. The problem is every time she uses it, though,
• 27:34
  it always comes back on empty, so I'm always out
• 27:37
  of gas.
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: Well, why is she using it?
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: I guess that's better than her denting it up, or
• 27:41
  you know, better than her breaking it. You know, like
• 27:44
  I said, you know a while back, buddy of mine
• 27:47
  got a brand new at fours last year maybe sometime,
• 27:50
  and his wife, after a month, backed it into a pole.
• 27:54
  These things got cameras in them that are unbelievable.
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: How can you do that?
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: Ado? Two four or seven to seven? A roam while
• 28:02
  you gotta be why are you being so and fair?
• 28:05
  Women can drive trucks. I drive a truck. Mine's perfectly fine.
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: The only women that I will trust to drive a pickup?
• 28:14
  Are that group of women that have horse trailers? Those
• 28:17
  women seem to never have problems driving. You see them
• 28:21
  driving on the freeway all the time. They never seem
• 28:23
  to skip a beat. So it's probably the only women
• 28:25
  I trust driving a pickup. Whoever, that group of women
• 28:28
  is that all horse trailers? Talking about these letting women
• 28:31
  drive your pickup? You husband's and boyfriends, you're letting your
• 28:34
  chicks drive your trucks. Man, they be messing them up somehow.
• 28:37
  They just cannot drive pickups. I do not understand it
• 28:40
  already four two.
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: Pop four or seven to seven year Rom. I'm gonna
• 28:44
  tell you this. I drive.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: I drive a big ass suburban. My husband drives a pickup.
• 28:52
  I bet my suburban is bigger than my my is
• 28:55
  bigger than my husband's pickup. So don't be telling us.
• 28:59
  Don't be saying that women can't drive trucks. Well, then
• 29:03
  why is it when you get in a truck you
• 29:04
  mess it up?
• 29:07
  Speaker 10: Hein?
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: No, yeah, no, I don't know why.
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: You guys cannot drive them already four.
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: Two, five, four, seven to seven yo?
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: What up?
• 29:17
  Speaker 9: Rome?
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: I heard the suspect from yesterday's Downtown chase situation. Wanted
• 29:21
  absolutely nothing to do with CACSO and didn't even want
• 29:25
  them sending in a negotiator. But the moment he hurts
• 29:28
  Seahawk Lou was in the area, he immediately cooperated upon.
• 29:32
  Speaker 7: Here.
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: Oh whatever local legend. I don't know what you're talking about.
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: Okay, good morning rome Uh no one of that, no one, no, wait,
• 29:43
  good morning Romeo. No, none of that's bad. Not your
• 29:46
  buddy hitting the pole or the bush. What's bad is
• 29:50
  when you let your girl borrow your truck and you
• 29:52
  get it.
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: Back with the oh, with the rims scratched up.
• 29:58
  Speaker 9: Bad.
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, that is the worst feeling ever. Roman.
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: Yes, I know it's a scratch on the rim, but
• 30:05
  to a guy, that's a no no.
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: It makes the truck look ugly as heck. Yeah.
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: So I don't understand why these women man, and I
• 30:16
  kind of agree. Man. You see all these Rosedale moms
• 30:18
  rolling around in their Yukons and their suburbans, and they're
• 30:22
  as big as trucks, right or their x XL's or whatever.
• 30:28
  But yeah, how can they be messing up your truck
• 30:31
  every time they get in it? Never let a woman
• 30:33
  drive a truck that's the worst. I'm just gonna let
• 30:35
  all you guys know right now, don't ever let her
• 30:38
  drive your truck.
• 30:38
  Speaker 10: All right?
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: Any four two four, seven to seven talking about letting
• 30:42
  your girl bar your truck man, And you just got
• 30:45
  to understand, Oh, this is back to the guy who
• 30:48
  says you never want to let your girl drive your trucks.
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: You come back with scratch grims.
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: And the reason why I think scratch rims are worse
• 30:57
  than a dent on a truck, it's because you couldn't
• 31:02
  fix it. But then most places don't want to waste
• 31:05
  your time. I'm trying to fix scratches on the rim suck.
• 31:09
  So every time my girl wants to use my truck,
• 31:11
  we always get into a big argument because I always
• 31:14
  tell her no. Well, I will tell you this about
• 31:18
  the car situation. I am a firm believer, and a
• 31:23
  lot of people think I'm weird because of this. I
• 31:25
  am a firm believer that I have my car, you
• 31:28
  have your car, okay, and we don't share. I am
• 31:32
  a firm believer in that, especially if you own a truck,
• 31:36
  don't ever let a woman drive your truck. She will
• 31:39
  jack it up. I mean, already four two Bavors seven
• 31:43
  seven A rom. I gotta tell you a great story.
• 31:46
  I let my wife use my truck one day, and
• 31:50
  she stopped to put gas in it. She ended up
• 31:53
  putting diesel in my pickup. I asked her why she
• 31:57
  did it. She said she thought all truck ucks ran
• 32:01
  on diesel. She didn't know that trucks ran on regular gas.
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: Ha. Oh God, bless her. Oh my gosh, that's hilarious.
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: Yo.
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: Rom My trucks lifted with big wheels.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: My wife scratched them going through Starbucks drive through.
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: I was pissed, Like I said, man, I don't know
• 32:20
  what it is.
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: And these women, these women can drive their SUVs, even
• 32:27
  the women that drive the big SUVs can drive them
• 32:30
  perfectly fine. But once they get into a man's truck,
• 32:34
  for some reason, they forget how to drive. They don't
• 32:37
  pay attention, they don't give a damn, and all of
• 32:40
  a sudden, your truck's wrecked. I don't understand that, because
• 32:44
  the woman who called and said she drives a suburban.
• 32:46
  They are, they're as long as the truck. They might
• 32:48
  even be a little longer some pickups. But my god,
• 32:52
  why can you women not drive a truck? Like I said,
• 32:55
  the only women I trust driving a truck are those
• 32:57
  women that haul those horse trailers.
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: For some reason, and those women know how to drive
• 33:01
  a truck.
• 33:03
  Speaker 10: I don't know.
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: Maybe it's because they care about their horses so much
• 33:05
  they don't want anything to happen.
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: They pay. I don't know. I don't know what the
• 33:08
  situation is. But don't let her drive your truck. Broa
• 33:13
  Romeo brother, alright, man, check it out.
• 33:15
  Speaker 8: What's going on?
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: Oh you mean with the bombing thing?
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: What the.
• 33:23
  Speaker 9: Well?
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: I mean it happens. I mean the guy was pissed
• 33:27
  about something.
• 33:28
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess he was.
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: He didn't didn't didn't ten But what I understand Dave
• 33:33
  Raynard Davis said he did ten years for a crime.
• 33:35
  He didn't come in u with CPS. So he was
• 33:36
  trying to, you know, straighten that situation out.
• 33:40
  Speaker 8: At the bank.
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: No, no, no, I guess the current County of Schools
• 33:44
  has an office.
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: In the building. Oh okay, So I don't think he
• 33:48
  was trying to rob a bank with a bomb.
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: I think he was trying to get the attention of whoever.
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: I think the current city.
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: Schools or current I don't know, had something to do
• 33:58
  with CPS from what I understand, not to do with
• 34:00
  Robin a bank man.
• 34:02
  Speaker 4: That's a that's a tough situation apparently.
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: Well, I mean, it happens.
• 34:09
  Speaker 8: And then they'll be at.
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: What I'm trying to figure out through the whole situation though,
• 34:14
  is this. You know, when people get pissed for some reason,
• 34:18
  they pull out their phones and think that that's going
• 34:20
  to solve their August video myself on Instagram talking about
• 34:24
  what they did to me.
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: My man went to old school and just walked in
• 34:28
  with a bomb. Damn. I mean that's what happened. What
• 34:32
  happened to going on TikTok or Instagram and plead your
• 34:35
  case for no reason?
• 34:38
  Speaker 7: Well now they.
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah, don't don't quote me on all that. I don't know.
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: This is all second hand information. I really have no clue.
• 34:46
  Well some other somebody else told me about it, but
• 34:49
  I have no and I have no Raider Dave is
• 34:52
  pretty up pretty up to date on the criminal scene
• 34:54
  though in Bakersfield, So.
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: All right later, Yeah, I don't know.
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: I mean, nowadays everybody just grabs their phone and makes
• 35:12
  a video and it's going to change the world.
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know what was. I really don't know
• 35:16
  the whole situation.
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: I got bits and pieces of how it all went down,
• 35:20
  but it is kind of crazy to see it happen
• 35:22
  in your town. Let me get to some of the
• 35:25
  things you text message, just so you guys know, I
• 35:28
  do keep everything you text me. If I don't get
• 35:30
  to it, I do just I print it out and
• 35:32
  just hold on to it so I can get to
• 35:34
  it later. Hey, Rome, what do you think about this?
• 35:37
  I've been dating this girl for about six months and
• 35:40
  I really like her. She has two kids and the
• 35:44
  baby daddy is involved in the kid's life. Well, I
• 35:49
  found out that the daddy, the baby daddy, takes the
• 35:52
  kids to school a couple of times a week. Sometimes
• 35:55
  he'll stay at her house the night before he has
• 35:58
  to take them to school. I'm not sure what to
• 36:01
  think about that. What do you think, Rome? I can
• 36:07
  tell you what everybody listening is gonna think. Oh, she's
• 36:10
  still sleeping with her baby daddy. Why does he stay
• 36:13
  at her house? I mean, I get it. The kids
• 36:16
  probably get up early for school. What time the kids
• 36:18
  get up for school? Six seven? So uh if he's
• 36:21
  trying to uh, I guess it's easier for him to
• 36:27
  just go to stay there. I have a couple of
• 36:32
  questions for you before I guess I Well, here's a
• 36:39
  couple of questions for you. One, has he stayed the
• 36:42
  night when you've been there? Because if he has stayed
• 36:46
  the night when you've stayed the night, or have you
• 36:49
  stayed the night at her house, that changes the dynamic
• 36:53
  a little bit. She's probably being straight up with you.
• 36:56
  And where does he sleep.
• 36:59
  Speaker 10: All?
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: So, does he like work nights or something? Does he
• 37:02
  got like a does he work late? What time does
• 37:05
  he show up there? I mean is he showing up
• 37:08
  like if he has to take the kids to school
• 37:09
  the next day? Is he showing up at getting off
• 37:12
  at five and just going over there and staying there
• 37:16
  until the next day they're having dinner together like a family.
• 37:20
  I mean, what's going on? It sounds a little strange
• 37:22
  to me. I mean, it's not unreasonable for exes to
• 37:27
  get along, especially if they have kids and try to
• 37:30
  do what's best for their kids.
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: And but.
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: You still got a couple other questions. They're like, where's
• 37:38
  he sleeps? He got his own room, sleep on the couch?
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: Does he? And when does he show up? I mean
• 37:45
  if the guy works.
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: You know, Let's say he's a bartender and he gets
• 37:50
  off at eight and or you know, at midnight, one
• 37:53
  or two, and he's just coming over, sleeping, getting the
• 37:55
  getting up and taking the kids. I can understand that
• 37:58
  a little more than if he's got a day job
• 38:01
  and gets off at four and he's just going to
• 38:03
  your going to her house and staying. So that would
• 38:06
  change the dynamic. I guess I'm gonna say, get out.
• 38:12
  I guess I guess if I would say that's too
• 38:15
  much to handle, no woman's worth that. You can go
• 38:19
  find a woman who's just as good as her without
• 38:21
  those kind of you know, without those kind of without
• 38:24
  that kind of baggage, A baby daddy who stays over
• 38:27
  and kids. Okay, you don't need to do all that.
• 38:30
  So a guy sent me this and he was talking
• 38:32
  about I guess he's been dating this woman for about
• 38:34
  six months and apparently she has two kids and her
• 38:39
  baby daddy. Her ex takes the kids to school a
• 38:42
  couple of days a week, he says, so sometimes he'll
• 38:44
  stay at her house the night before, which I guess
• 38:48
  makes some sense, right because kids get up early.
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: I mean, kids get up pretty early, right for.
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: School so you gotta you, you, you gotta get him,
• 38:56
  get them ready, so it might make it easier.
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: He just doesn't know what to think about it. Yeah,
• 39:02
  I don't know either. It's interesting already four two four
• 39:06
  seven seven yo.
• 39:08
  Speaker 9: Rome.
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: Tell that guy it's only been six months.
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: He needs to get out of that relationship because I
• 39:14
  can almost guarantee she's still sleeping.
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: With her ex.
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: Now. It may not be all the time, she may
• 39:22
  sleep with them between boyfriends, but she's always going to
• 39:26
  sleep with her ex. I have two kids with my
• 39:29
  ex wife, and when she's not dating anybody, we still
• 39:34
  sleep together. The funny thing about the funny thing about
• 39:40
  people who have kids together, They always think that it's
• 39:44
  okay to go back to sleep with each other and
• 39:47
  it doesn't matter whether they're in relationships or not.
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: Kind of a been there, done that type of thing.
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: Hey, Rom, ain't no way they aren't sleeping together. I
• 39:57
  don't care about his job as scheduling or if he
• 39:59
  only has rides a one leg and rides a bicycle,
• 40:03
  he can pick up pick him up in the morning.
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: Okay, maybe.
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: This guy said he's been dating this girl for six months, right,
• 40:13
  she's got a couple of kids, but the baby daddy,
• 40:16
  I guess, is involved with the kids lives. So he
• 40:18
  found out that the dad takes the kids to school
• 40:21
  a couple of times a week, which is right, none
• 40:24
  wrong with that, But sometimes he stays over, which yeah, I.
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: Don't know, man, maybe it's weird, maybe it's not.
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: I mean, it would make it convenient for him to
• 40:34
  just get up with the kids, right, get him ready
• 40:36
  and go.
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: But I guess it.
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: Just depends on the other, say, other what happens surrounding
• 40:43
  the situation.
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: Does he what time does he show up? You know,
• 40:47
  what's the deal with? Does he have a key to
• 40:48
  the house.
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: I mean, there's a lot of uh, there's a lot
• 40:51
  of questions that need to be answered before I would say, lever,
• 40:55
  it's only been six months, just get out. I mean
• 40:58
  they may not be sleeping together anymore more, but I
• 41:01
  would say get out just because why would you want
• 41:04
  to deal with those headaches or those questions when there's
• 41:06
  a lot of other women out there who aren't doing
• 41:08
  things like that, who aren't putting their their relationships or
• 41:12
  their future relationships and some sort of jeopardy by having
• 41:15
  these types of possible red flags. So I would say
• 41:19
  just go find a woman without kids or with a
• 41:22
  baby daddy that's locked up or something. Go find one
• 41:24
  where the baby daddy's not around. That would be easier
• 41:26
  if that's what you're into already four two for seven
• 41:32
  to seven. I do want to say this though, I
• 41:35
  do believe what the last person said, that they're still
• 41:38
  sleeping together. I and that couples who have kids, for
• 41:44
  some reason, they're logic when it comes to jumping back
• 41:47
  into bed with each other that it's okay, it's not
• 41:51
  cheating because we've already been there, done that, so it's
• 41:55
  not it's like an extension of the previous relationship, no
• 41:59
  matter when they have sex again. I do believe that
• 42:02
  most people think like that that, well, men don't care,
• 42:06
  they just want to have sex. I think women justify
• 42:10
  it by saying, well, we've already had kids together, so
• 42:14
  him sleeping with me is nothing new, so it doesn't
• 42:18
  really count as a new experience. Even though you may
• 42:22
  be in relationships with other people, it's not considered cheating.
• 42:26
  I do believe that a lot of women think like
• 42:29
  that men.
• 42:31
  Speaker 2: I don't think men care. They just trying to get
• 42:33
  so alright eight four two five four seven seven.
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: This guy's story is kind of wild, right, He's been
• 42:38
  dating this woman for six months. Apparently the baby daddy
• 42:41
  she has two kids. The baby daddy's still very involved
• 42:43
  with the kids, takes them to school a couple of
• 42:46
  times a week. So sometimes the baby daddy will stay
• 42:48
  at the house, which he doesn't know what to think
• 42:50
  about that.
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: He was asking me, I don't know. They could still
• 42:53
  be sleeping together.
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: Or he could just be I don't know, And there's
• 42:57
  so many questions that need to be answered. Hey, room
• 43:00
  still go stay at my baby mama's house to do
• 43:02
  the same, I'll go sleep with the kids in their
• 43:05
  bunk beds. Some we have a son who is autistic,
• 43:08
  so sometimes instead of bringing to my house, depending on
• 43:12
  how late she falls asleep and she is getting overwhelmed,
• 43:17
  I'll just stay.
• 43:18
  Speaker 2: Well, that is a little bit of a different situation.
• 43:21
  I get that.
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: I did tell her once one of us gets serious
• 43:25
  about someone, that will stop out of respect to whoever
• 43:29
  we end up with. So with that, I'll be with that.
• 43:33
  All being said, leave more. It leaves more questions for me.
• 43:39
  Does he just stay the night to stay the night
• 43:41
  or is there a reason he does? Well, Yeah, that's
• 43:45
  a good question. I mean, it makes a lot of sense.
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: With you, you.
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: Know, if you have a special needs child and you
• 43:50
  got to do what's best for them and keep them
• 43:53
  in their comfort zone, So that makes a lot of sense.
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: He leaves more questions and answers basically right now already four.
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: Two, five, four or seven to.
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: Seven a roam that sounds complicated. It does sound complicated.
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: He needs to.
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: He's only been dating for six months. Bro, you don't
• 44:10
  need complicated. You can find uncomplicated, you know what I'm saying.
• 44:15
  No woman is worth complicated, especially if you've only been
• 44:18
  dating it for six months.
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: I know the first four to five.
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: Years after me and my ex split, we were still
• 44:24
  hooking up. But it's been two years after both of
• 44:27
  us going through serious relationships and now out.
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: Of them again.
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: We haven't even looked at each other that way at all,
• 44:36
  and he stayed at my house with the kids. So
• 44:39
  two years ago I would have definitely laughed and said
• 44:43
  and said, oh, there's no way they aren't hooking up still.
• 44:47
  But now I know you can have a co parenting
• 44:50
  relationship without any extras.
• 44:53
  Speaker 2: Okay, fair enough? Already four two five, four or seven
• 44:57
  to seven. So a guy said me.
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: He said, he's been dating this girl for about six months. Right,
• 45:00
  she got two kids. Apparently the baby daddy her ex
• 45:03
  is very involved with the kid's life. So every once
• 45:05
  in a while he'll stay at her house because he
• 45:08
  takes the kids to school a couple of times a week.
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know, what do you think four two, five,
• 45:13
  four or seven to seven?
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: Wording?
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: Not? What's going on?
• 45:16
  Speaker 10: Romeo?
• 45:17
  Speaker 8: When did men become the women in the relationship?
• 45:21
  Speaker 10: What today's call today's call? I the dream was to
• 45:27
  have a woman that that wasn't all over us all
• 45:31
  the damn time, that let us go out and be
• 45:33
  a man. But now where the whims in these relationships?
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: Why do you say that?
• 45:42
  Speaker 10: Because there I don't know too emotional about what's going on.
• 45:49
  Speaker 8: If it's a six month relationship.
• 45:52
  Speaker 4: Is he's saying he's in love with oh.
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: I see, Yeah, he might be in a little up
• 45:56
  in his feelings right now. Or maybe he's just asking
• 45:59
  because this might be a turning point where he has
• 46:01
  to decide whether he's gonna commit or not.
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: I mean, that could be why he's asking the question.
• 46:06
  But I get with you.
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: I mean, if you're gonna fall in love that quick,
• 46:09
  ain't no woman and a six month relationship worth complicated.
• 46:13
  I'm gonna tell you right now, there ain't no a
• 46:16
  woman out there that's worth complicated after six months?
• 46:19
  Speaker 8: Right.
• 46:19
  Speaker 10: Don't date a woman with more problems than you have.
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: That's a good rule to live by.
• 46:27
  Speaker 2: It, that's a good rule of thumb right there.
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: Don't date a woman with more issues than you, although
• 46:38
  don't they all have more issues than you already? Fourteen
• 46:41
  pot four seven seven Hey romeyo. Oh, let me tell
• 46:44
  you my situation. So my baby daddy or ex husband
• 46:49
  and I broke up four years ago. We got divorced.
• 46:53
  Now we have a nineteen year old who just graduated
• 46:56
  high school and is in college.
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: Oh lash okay, and we have a fourteen year old.
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: When we split up, we said we would both take
• 47:06
  care of the kids, that we would not get in
• 47:09
  serious relationships because the kids had to come first. So
• 47:14
  we still do sleep together because of because of the kids.
• 47:22
  We still do sleep together because of the kids. Oh,
• 47:26
  you guys still sleep You guys still sleep together because
• 47:29
  you made a decision that the kids were gonna come first.
• 47:33
  No outside, I see no outside relationships until the kids. Now,
• 47:37
  let me tell you, Romeo, when our youngest, the fourteen
• 47:41
  year old, graduates high school, things may change because both
• 47:46
  our kids will be out.
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: Of the house. Do you still live together? That's a
• 47:52
  good question.
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: Both our kids will be out of the house, so
• 47:56
  things may change and we may go off and find
• 47:59
  other people to set up down with. But until that,
• 48:02
  we still have a relationship for our kids and still
• 48:06
  have a sexual relationship. Okay, I mean, I can't argue
• 48:12
  with it. I mean sounds like you guys had a plan.
• 48:14
  The kids come first, right, So okay.
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: What do we got here?
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: You'll roll my baby Mama treats me like, treats me
• 48:22
  bad because I don't sleep with her. That goes for
• 48:26
  when she's in and out of other relationships. If she
• 48:29
  got a baby daddy, If she got a baby daddy,
• 48:33
  that door will always be open.
• 48:35
  Speaker 2: It's funny how women are like that. Huh.
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: If you'll always sleep I think most of you not
• 48:43
  always always is a strong word, but I kind of
• 48:45
  believe with what some of you guys are saying. You
• 48:47
  will still sleep with the father of your child, because
• 48:53
  well it's not It's nothing new, I guess it's because
• 48:56
  you have a child that it makes it okay.
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: I don't know, yes, yeah, whatever, Hey.
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: Roam, Speaking as a woman, it depends are the kids
• 49:06
  under five? If so, it's more likely they're sleeping together.
• 49:10
  How long has he been separated from the ex? Women
• 49:14
  tend to stay in their comfort zone and to keep
• 49:17
  that their body count low.
• 49:20
  Speaker 2: Is that why you.
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: Women will sleep with it, sleep with your ex baby
• 49:23
  daddy or your baby daddy because keep your body count low.
• 49:27
  Does the X have a place to stay or is
• 49:29
  he living with mom? This is important because he could
• 49:33
  just be trying to get back in the house and
• 49:36
  what are the boundaries? Would it be okay with his
• 49:39
  one year? Would this be okay with it with with
• 49:43
  this or would he be okay with this one year
• 49:44
  from now or not?
• 49:46
  Speaker 2: He needs to leave now?
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: I mean yeah, I think he just needs to get
• 49:51
  out because the thing. Let me, let's be honest when
• 49:55
  it comes to dating or when it comes to relationships. Right,
• 49:59
  I understand a couple who's been married for ten years
• 50:05
  and they got a couple of kids and their lives
• 50:08
  are totally intertwined, and that's complicated.
• 50:12
  Speaker 2: Something happens.
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: You guys want to get divorced, you separate, the separation,
• 50:17
  you try to get back together. I mean, there's a
• 50:18
  lot of complications involved in relationships, and I understand that.
• 50:25
  I understand somebody. I understand a guy or a woman
• 50:28
  or a man who just got divorced after ten years
• 50:32
  and are trying to straighten it out. You know, it's complicated, right,
• 50:36
  it's complicated. You got kids, you got houses, you got responsibilities,
• 50:41
  and you're trying to you know, start all over again
• 50:44
  or figure it all out, so you may still, you know,
• 50:48
  hook up because it's easier than dealing with you know,
• 50:52
  everything else. But I don't understand is you guys who
• 50:57
  walk into complicated right, There's no reason no woman is
• 51:02
  worth walking into complicated. Now, if you're a guy who's
• 51:07
  been with this woman ten years and she decides to
• 51:10
  leave you, or you decide to leave her, or something happens, happens,
• 51:14
  and now you're dealing with all this complicated situations because
• 51:18
  of this relationship, Okay, she's worth that because you were
• 51:22
  there ten years. Now you got to deal with complicated.
• 51:25
  But I'm just saying, any of you guys out there,
• 51:28
  if you're walking into complicated, no woman's worth it. I
• 51:33
  guarantee you you can find one just as good who
• 51:37
  has no complications.
• 51:38
  Speaker 2: In her life.
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: Okay, so this guy six months, I would walk just
• 51:44
  because already four four or seven to seven. Rome So
• 51:48
  me and my wife when we broke up, we said
• 51:51
  we would never talk back talk bad about each other
• 51:55
  if we weren't together anymore to our kids. Now that
• 51:58
  I'm in a new relationship, she went back on a word.
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: What do you think about that?
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: I think I think women are emotional beings and they
• 52:05
  can't control themselves when they feel like they've been done dirty.
• 52:10
  The question is, why did you guys split up? Did
• 52:14
  you cheat on her and she was just keeping her
• 52:17
  tongue she was just keeping her mouth shut in front
• 52:20
  of the kids, Or did you guys just decide we're
• 52:23
  not going to be together. There's questions that need to
• 52:25
  be answered. But I think you should have expected that
• 52:28
  from her, because you know, if you broke up with her,
• 52:32
  she's never gonna be able to keep her mouth shut
• 52:35
  long enough. She's always gonna hold a grudge and be bitter.
• 52:38
  It's just how women are, Hey, Romeo. What if the
• 52:43
  woman is not complicated, but her BD baby daddy is
• 52:49
  and they have three kids.
• 52:51
  Speaker 2: Should I run?
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I just.
• 53:00
  Speaker 2: Here's the thing.
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: And you guys all either you've been through this in Bakersfield,
• 53:06
  or you've.
• 53:10
  Speaker 2: Or you uh.
• 53:14
  Speaker 8: Or you know.
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: Somebody that's been through this in Bakersfield. You don't need
• 53:18
  to deal with complicated women. Okay, there there's no There
• 53:22
  is nothing special about a complicated woman who brings baggage
• 53:31
  from her previous relationship allah her baby daddy. There is
• 53:37
  nothing so special about her that you got to get
• 53:41
  into that complication that you've got to get into that
• 53:43
  situation that could cause you more headaches than not. Okay,
• 53:48
  you can go find somebody, and this is nothing against you.
• 53:52
  Speaker 2: This is nothing against.
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: Uh, you know women in complicated ex relationships with baby daddies.
• 53:58
  There's it's nothing against you. It's just there's nothing so
• 54:01
  special about you that anybody who doesn't want to be
• 54:06
  involved in that sort of situation or complicated relationship, they
• 54:10
  can just go find somebody who doesn't have that complication.
• 54:13
  There's enough women out there that if you're one of
• 54:15
  these guys that hey man, you got like you said,
• 54:18
  what if she's not compliable, well she is complicated. You
• 54:22
  can't if the baby daddy they got three kids together,
• 54:25
  and you're telling me the baby daddy has the issues. Okay, well,
• 54:30
  you can't exclude her from that situation because she's in
• 54:34
  the middle of that situation.
• 54:35
  Speaker 2: That makes her complicated.
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: That makes the relationship a complication that you have to
• 54:40
  deal with if you decide to date her.
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: Okay, I mean, even.
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: If you want to date a single mom, there are
• 54:50
  plenty of them in Bakersfield that don't have issues because
• 54:53
  the baby daddy's not around, or the baby daddy's somewhere.
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: You know, it's just not there. If that's what you want,
• 55:00
  go get it. But I'm just saying there's nothing special
• 55:04
  about it.
• 55:05
  Speaker 10: Now.
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: Some of you guys, you know you're in a position
• 55:08
  where that's all you can get is a complicated woman,
• 55:11
  and you.
• 55:12
  Speaker 2: Got to suck that up. But if you're in a
• 55:13
  position where you don't have to like this guy for six.
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: Months, no, man, she's not worth it. And that's nothing
• 55:21
  negative on hers. Just why would you deal with a
• 55:24
  bunch of nonsense when you don't have to.
• 55:26
  Speaker 2: So this guy started something that's kind of interesting.
• 55:28
  Speaker 1: He says, you're dating this woman for six months with
• 55:31
  two kids, right, got a baby daddy who sleeps over,
• 55:33
  apparently because he takes the kids to school a couple
• 55:36
  of times a week's sol he's an evolved parent. You know,
• 55:38
  is he cheating or are they still sleeping together?
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: What's the deal? Shit? He stays. What he's trying to
• 55:42
  figure out.
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: I don't think you should stay because if you got
• 55:45
  something going on in your life, then there's no reason
• 55:48
  for you to deal with her complications of her ex relationship.
• 55:52
  Speaker 2: If that's going to bother you.
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: Okay, obviously it must because you asked, because you asked
• 55:59
  me the question. This is the guy who said, oh,
• 56:02
  this is the guy. He responded. He said that him
• 56:05
  and his wife split up. They were taking care of kids.
• 56:07
  They promised they wouldn't talk bad about she about bad
• 56:10
  about each other, but once he got in a new relationship,
• 56:13
  the baby mama started talking bad, which it happens. They're bitter.
• 56:17
  Women are bitter people. Man, You just can't. It's just
• 56:20
  you should have known that what's going to happen? And
• 56:22
  I asked him how the relationships He says, rom, I know,
• 56:26
  I never cheated on her.
• 56:27
  Speaker 2: We just we just worked nights. We just work.
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: Nights, come home, go to sleep, wake up, spend a
• 56:35
  couple of hours with my kids and back to work
• 56:37
  so she can have everything.
• 56:39
  Speaker 2: Okay, so it was just your work schedule got in
• 56:42
  the way and then you guys just strift it apart. Okay, well, yeah,
• 56:45
  then she's mad.
• 56:46
  Speaker 1: I mean, of course she's going to talk bad about
• 56:48
  you because she's holding a grudge against you because you
• 56:52
  didn't do enough. You should have been able to work
• 56:57
  all you could provide her the lifestyle she wanted and
• 57:00
  your kids and still had as much time as she
• 57:03
  wanted or needed from you.
• 57:04
  Speaker 2: Okay, that's just how women are.
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: You know, they're a little selfish sometimes, but hey, what
• 57:09
  are you gonna do about it?
• 57:11
  Speaker 2: You know what, she let her talk bad about you.
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: I do want to say this though about you dudes,
• 57:17
  And I know a lot of you guys are idiots
• 57:20
  and you fall for the oakieed oak and you see
• 57:23
  these women that are so amazing and you think they're
• 57:26
  just great and then you find out, you know, they're not.
• 57:31
  Speaker 2: Like the guy who said, I want to read.
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: This, this guy said, what if the woman's not complicated,
• 57:38
  but her baby daddy is.
• 57:39
  Speaker 2: They have three kids.
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: Well if he's complicated, she's complicated because they're they're a
• 57:43
  package deal at that point. But what I've learned in Bakersfield,
• 57:49
  and part of it is these dudes fault. You don't
• 57:52
  even know your own self work. Dude, I mean most
• 57:54
  of you guys, I don't. And I say it like
• 57:57
  this because you guys are so desperate and lonely and
• 58:01
  insecure you can't even look at the fact of what.
• 58:04
  Speaker 2: You have to offer. And that's a real problem.
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: You know, if you're thirty five with a good job,
• 58:13
  you're buying a house, you got a car, you've got
• 58:17
  good work ethic, and you're a good dude. You don't
• 58:21
  have to put up with a lot of things from
• 58:23
  a woman. I'm not saying you got to take it.
• 58:26
  I'm just saying you don't have the deal if you
• 58:28
  don't want If you want a woman without kids or
• 58:30
  baby daddies, or you want a woman with no complications
• 58:33
  in her life, they're everywhere and you can go find
• 58:36
  them because you don't have any complications in your life.
• 58:40
  If you're six months out of Layeredown you need a
• 58:42
  place to stay, you might have to deal with the
• 58:44
  woman with three kids and the crazy baby daddy. Okay,
• 58:48
  your options are much more limited at that point. But
• 58:52
  you guys really need to look at your life in
• 58:55
  less of an arrogant way and go, you know what,
• 58:59
  I'm a good dude. I got a job buying a
• 59:02
  house on this I don't have to deal. I can
• 59:06
  pick and choose the type of woman that I want.
• 59:10
  That's not going to stress me out, that's gonna be
• 59:13
  down to be part of my life. You dudes don't
• 59:16
  understand that, because you're so damn insecure and afraid to
• 59:20
  be alone, you will take the next, you know, the
• 59:24
  first thing coming and deal with all the complications and
• 59:28
  then wonder why your life ended up the way it
• 59:30
  ended up. You dude's got to think, think better yourselves.
• 59:34
  You gotta have a higher opinion of who you are
• 59:40
  and understand that if you wait long enough, if you
• 59:43
  just understand, you get to choose all you men, Most
• 59:48
  of you men in Bakersfield believe that you don't have
• 59:52
  a choice in who you settle down with.
• 59:54
  Speaker 2: You absolutely do.
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: If you got the confidence and and the resume, you
• 1:00:01
  can take your pick of the litter.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 2: But you dudes don't understand that.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: Already for two seven to seven, Hey, Romeo, I hear
• 1:00:12
  what you're saying. These guys that got a lot to
• 1:00:15
  offer a woman don't need to deal with a bunch
• 1:00:17
  of bs when they don't want to. Here is the problem, though,
• 1:00:21
  that you are not talking about. I am a thirty
• 1:00:25
  seven year old single woman. I have a good job.
• 1:00:29
  I'm a college educated individual. I have my own house.
• 1:00:33
  The guys that you're talking about either don't want to
• 1:00:38
  settle down because they can get all of the women
• 1:00:41
  that they want, so they're just out there being players,
• 1:00:46
  or they're so arrogant they're hard to deal with. They
• 1:00:50
  don't know how to humble themselves.
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 10: Hm okay.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 2: Or you know what's going on?
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 3: Romeo?
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 2: What a man?
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 8: Man? He said some of the the stuff I heard.
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: Well, it's these guys are idiots, man. They don't realize
• 1:01:04
  what they got on. They over he settling when they.
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 5: Don't have to because they're afraid I'll probably top ten,
• 1:01:12
  you know, I mean.
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 8: Because of who.
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 9: Okay of them believe the rest of them don't even
• 1:01:23
  send a hand.
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 12: Okay, okay, yeah, I mean you just insecurity and loneliness
• 1:01:35
  will really lead you.
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 2: To make some bad decisions.
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 1: And I know you men all think a lot of
• 1:01:41
  you dudes, most of you dues think that it's it's
• 1:01:44
  her choice.
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 2: No, bro, you don't need to. If you if you're a.
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: Good dude and you got everything going on, you don't
• 1:01:52
  need to settle. You can take your pick. It's that simple.
• 1:01:57
  It really is that simple, all right. What did you
• 1:01:59
  say here? Eight four two five four seven seven. Hey Rome,
• 1:02:04
  I'm a forty year old dude. I'll work out in
• 1:02:07
  the oil fields. I make some really good money. I
• 1:02:10
  got a high position at my company. I want to
• 1:02:13
  house a couple of cars. The thing that you fail
• 1:02:16
  to realize when you're talking about this, there's not a
• 1:02:19
  lot of good women to choose from in Bakersfield. They
• 1:02:22
  all have been ran through, or they got baby daddies,
• 1:02:25
  or they're cheaters. You're giving a lot of credit to
• 1:02:28
  these women here. I don't know if I'm giving women
• 1:02:38
  a lot of credit in bakers I'm just saying there,
• 1:02:41
  you know, you can pick and choose. I mean maybe
• 1:02:44
  the circle that you run in. I'm not gonna say that,
• 1:02:48
  you know, because you work in the oil fields, I'm
• 1:02:51
  gonna guess you probably don't have a college degree, so
• 1:02:54
  you probably run in different circles based on the people
• 1:02:56
  that you you know work with. Even though you said
• 1:03:00
  you were higher up in the company and maybe maybe
• 1:03:03
  your bubble of women that you've met in Beggersville.
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 2: That's just what you see. It's going on for me
• 1:03:11
  right road here, Hey, Robin's going on.
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 8: Hey, it sounds like a cowboy's gonna have a complicated
• 1:03:17
  relationship with this.
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 5: So either he's uh, you know.
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 8: I'm gonna deal with it or let them, you know,
• 1:03:23
  continue what they're doing. And you know, I don't know,
• 1:03:27
  make no sense basically, I mean, a guy should never
• 1:03:29
  be in that in that position, you know, I mean
• 1:03:32
  if their friends or not. They're trying to double parent,
• 1:03:34
  you know what I mean.
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't disagree.
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 8: Okay, just tell tell him get out while he can,
• 1:03:41
  or he's gonna live in a company, you know, relationship
• 1:03:44
  with there where they're both going to have sex with
• 1:03:45
  there once she wants them to either.
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 2: One, you know, God, all right, maybe they'll do it together.
• 1:03:51
  I don't know. Doing here live from the Just wing
• 1:03:55
  A Studios. Hey, Romeo.
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 1: Some females are turning into dudes these days. Want to
• 1:04:03
  be players too.
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I mean.
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 1: There are and there's always in the in the nineties,
• 1:04:14
  eighties and nineties, they call them hoes. In twenty twenty six,
• 1:04:16
  they call them players, right, Yeah, I mean there's there's
• 1:04:20
  there's females of all kinds out there. There's women who
• 1:04:24
  want to be taken care of. There's women who are
• 1:04:25
  going to be heads of industries. There's women who are
• 1:04:27
  going to be you know, hoes and players and whatever
• 1:04:32
  you want to say. They're all there's all different kinds.
• 1:04:34
  There's you know, they're all different. So I don't understand
• 1:04:40
  why you guys don't have don't value yourselves.
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 2: You know, if I'm just gonna put it too like this.
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 1: If you're a dude with a good job who owns
• 1:04:53
  a home, yeah you have some to offer some woman,
• 1:04:59
  and you can pretty much have your pick of the
• 1:05:02
  litter as long as you're a cool dude. I mean,
• 1:05:04
  you know you can't be a jackass. That's still your
• 1:05:08
  personality still plays a part in what kind of woman
• 1:05:11
  you can get. I mean, but you just you devalue yourself.
• 1:05:17
  I feel sorry for your dude, for you guys out
• 1:05:19
  there that devalue yourself. Oh I work, you know, you
• 1:05:24
  know you're over here comparing yourself to the meathead with
• 1:05:26
  a six pack who spends forty hours a week at
• 1:05:28
  the gym and has to drive his ex girlfriend Saturn.
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 2: Around to get by.
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 1: You compare yourself to that dude, because you got a
• 1:05:36
  little bit of a beer gut and you work every day,
• 1:05:39
  and you think that he's the winner.
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 2: He's not the winner. You're the winner. So you might
• 1:05:45
  lower your standard when you don't have to.
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 11: Oh, you know what the problem is is the anxies
• 1:05:50
  that got money in the house and the good jobs
• 1:05:53
  is they want arm candies. So they're trying to buying
• 1:05:56
  women who aren't ready to settle down there clever who
• 1:06:01
  you know, little little picking hay, that's good on the outside.
• 1:06:04
  They're horrible people.
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right about that. They're these guys, are You're right?
• 1:06:10
  I agree with you.
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 1: That that is going on a lot around town. That's
• 1:06:14
  why I said, But they just don't. I mean, they
• 1:06:16
  can go fine. Instead of that they're armed. What's funny
• 1:06:19
  about Bakersfield in twenty twenty six is arm candy today
• 1:06:24
  comes in all different ages. It's not like back in
• 1:06:27
  the day when you know, over forty women started to
• 1:06:30
  go downhill. Nowadays they're looking great in their fifties, their sixties.
• 1:06:34
  I mean, whatever's whatever's going on, women are staying healthier
• 1:06:38
  and looking looking better.
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 11: So for I remember when when my mom was laid
• 1:06:43
  seeing where it's not a cool forty year.
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 1: Old, don't tell her that.
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 7: Yeah, good stuff.
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 1: So yeah, I mean it's real and and a lot
• 1:06:58
  of these guys are too ignorant understand that's I'm with you.
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 2: I understand what you're saying.
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 1: I think there's that's going that's a that's happening a
• 1:07:05
  lot today.
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 2: I think you're right.
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 4: Maybe maybe they should lower their standards just.
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 8: A bit, if that's what they're looking for.
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 2: Well, it depends on what you mean by lowering their
• 1:07:14
  standards by. Is it by age? Is it by looks?
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 4: Is it by I think because I have a friend,
• 1:07:21
  that's the same thing with the other guy. He's a
• 1:07:23
  foe man.
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 11: He makes good money, he's single, he's been divorced for
• 1:07:27
  a while, he's a good dad.
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 8: He's taking his.
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 2: Is he going through midlife crisis or is he trying
• 1:07:33
  to settle down?
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 4: No, they want his money.
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 2: Okay, all right, all right, I can't I get what
• 1:07:40
  you're saying.
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 1: I don't disagree with you. I think you're absolutely right
• 1:07:43
  in what you're saying. I think that happens a lot
• 1:07:45
  of Bakersfield I do, all right. My point though, is
• 1:07:52
  you don't have to lower your standards. And because women
• 1:07:56
  today of any age. I get twenty year olds look great,
• 1:08:01
  thirty year olds look great, forty year olds get great,
• 1:08:04
  fifty year olds. I was just at a golf tournament
• 1:08:06
  a few weeks ago, and you can see because at
• 1:08:10
  some of these golf tournaments, I go to the guys
• 1:08:13
  who set up their tents and their booths and their jobs,
• 1:08:15
  they want hot women there. And there were hot women
• 1:08:19
  from all ages, you know, the forty year olds, the
• 1:08:23
  fifty year olds, all the way down to the twenty somethings.
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 10: You know.
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 1: So that's my point. You don't if you're looking for looks.
• 1:08:32
  There are women out there that are in your age
• 1:08:35
  range that look great, and they're not just after your money.
• 1:08:40
  That's my point though. You guys are so it's just biggers.
• 1:08:44
  Well man, you guys are too stupid, just too stupid
• 1:08:47
  to know what your worth is. And when you do,
• 1:08:50
  you're over here getting played by some chicken heads. She's
• 1:08:52
  right about that. When you don't have to what did
• 1:08:56
  you get here? Hey, row, We need to get you
• 1:08:58
  a clerical be preaching to them. I was married for
• 1:09:05
  twelve years, made good money, divorced for seven years forty two.
• 1:09:10
  If the person I be dating don't got act right,
• 1:09:14
  I don't chase them. I'll replace them. Women pick and choose,
• 1:09:19
  so can man, so can a man. You don't have
• 1:09:23
  to settle And I'm not afraid to be alone. I'm
• 1:09:26
  a good guy, so I'm the catch because I got
• 1:09:29
  myself together, I can do bad all by myself, exactly.
• 1:09:33
  I mean, here's the problem with you dudes, and I
• 1:09:36
  don't understand the logic. I don't get it. And I
• 1:09:39
  like the way he said. I'm okay with being alone,
• 1:09:42
  but most of you dudes are so insecure with yourselves,
• 1:09:47
  especially some of you cats out there who have been
• 1:09:50
  through relationships before. You let those bad relationships jade you,
• 1:09:57
  and you make that more bad decisions right, or you
• 1:10:00
  won't settle down because you know what. It's just, I
• 1:10:03
  can't trust women because I made a bad choice. I mean, look, man,
• 1:10:07
  there are bad men and women everywhere. Everybody's been in
• 1:10:10
  a relationship that hasn't gone right, or you've all been
• 1:10:13
  in something. But if you let that, if you let
• 1:10:16
  that complicate complicate you and your decision making process, then
• 1:10:21
  you're never gonna settle down, you know. But the problem
• 1:10:25
  is most men are insecure and they're afraid to be alone.
• 1:10:32
  But being alone, what does that actually mean. That doesn't
• 1:10:38
  mean you're not outdating, that doesn't mean that you're not
• 1:10:40
  out having sex. It just means that you're not in
• 1:10:43
  a relationship some of these dudes, and you just and
• 1:10:50
  you just don't understand, you know. It's okay, like this
• 1:10:54
  guy said, he knows what he's worth. You guys should
• 1:10:56
  know what you're worth. Man, you don't need to settle Okay,
• 1:11:02
  you don't need to let some you know, society tell
• 1:11:06
  you that you're not a catch because well you're fifteen
• 1:11:11
  pounds twenty pounds overweight. I mean, that's really kind of
• 1:11:14
  what women want you. Hot women want you. And let's
• 1:11:18
  be honest, if you're if you're gonna be, because you
• 1:11:22
  can't deny it, if you're gonna be. Every dude wants
• 1:11:27
  a certain type of woman. And if you want your
• 1:11:30
  quote unquote a hot girl, whatever that is to you,
• 1:11:35
  maybe it is a ten and you think you're seven, but.
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 2: You're not.
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 1: The ten will want you. You just got to find
• 1:11:46
  her and it just and you know what makes it
• 1:11:50
  even worse that I've learned just being in Bakersfield. A
• 1:11:54
  lot of these cats that have that makes some money
• 1:11:58
  and maybe they've gone through it wor worse.
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 2: Maybe this guy's one of them. That girl was right,
• 1:12:03
  the woman that called earlier and said, they're right.
• 1:12:04
  Speaker 1: You're always chasing these twenty somethings, these thirty somethings who
• 1:12:09
  want to be in the Bakersfield scene because you got money.
• 1:12:12
  They want to be out at happy hour, they want
• 1:12:13
  to be at the concerts and the shows that put on.
• 1:12:16
  They want to be at the festivals that we do.
• 1:12:18
  They want to be on Instagram showing everybody how they're
• 1:12:22
  living their life, you know, out at Luigi's on Saturday,
• 1:12:26
  you know, you know, spending money doing those types of things.
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 2: You're right they do.
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 1: But guess what, there's also forty and fifty year olds
• 1:12:34
  that look just as good and have a better attitude.
• 1:12:39
  Speaker 2: Why aren't you.
• 1:12:39
  Speaker 1: Guys out chasing that? Let me tell you what, what
• 1:12:42
  did you send me here? Excuse me already? Four two
• 1:12:46
  by four seven seven eight. Rom You need to preach,
• 1:12:50
  preach to the team, Romeo. You right, the older the berry,
• 1:12:53
  the sweet of the juice. Older women have a better
• 1:12:56
  mindset the younger women for the most part. Oh over
• 1:13:01
  the younger women for the most part. And we'll understand,
• 1:13:04
  have a good communication, have good communication skills.
• 1:13:08
  Speaker 2: You're absolutely right. But the world's different.
• 1:13:13
  Speaker 1: The world's changed, and I don't know why a lot
• 1:13:15
  of these guys haven't figured that out, especially in Bakersfield.
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 2: I mean, I get it, okay.
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 1: So it's like the girl who called and said when
• 1:13:25
  her mom was her age, she didn't look as good
• 1:13:28
  as her.
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 2: And that's the truth.
• 1:13:32
  Speaker 1: For whatever reason, maybe it's because everybody's carrying around a
• 1:13:35
  yetie with water. I have no idea, But for whatever reason,
• 1:13:39
  no matter what your age range is, you can find
• 1:13:45
  a hot woman. They just I don't know, maybe the
• 1:13:50
  Lulu lemons do it. I don't know what it is.
• 1:13:52
  But for some reason, just men and women in general
• 1:13:58
  are looking better longer.
• 1:14:02
  Speaker 2: So if you're some like this said, if you're some dude.
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 1: Who is looking for a woman, and you got a
• 1:14:08
  good job, and you got a house and a car
• 1:14:11
  and everything going for you, you don't have to chase.
• 1:14:14
  As this woman said earlier, these chicken heads in their
• 1:14:16
  thirties who just want their money because they look hot.
• 1:14:21
  You can go find an older woman with a better mindset,
• 1:14:24
  better communication skills, who's not looking for your money, and
• 1:14:29
  just as hot. So I mean, I'm trying to help you, guys,
• 1:14:37
  I really am.
• 1:14:39
  Speaker 2: But yeah, I don't know. I don't know what more
• 1:14:43
  I can do to explain it to you. Oh what
• 1:14:46
  did you send me here?
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 1: Hey?
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 2: Roam.
• 1:14:49
  Speaker 1: Guys now are so insecure and just jump on the
• 1:14:52
  first woman who is into them, even if it's a
• 1:14:56
  one night stand. They fall in love with a woman
• 1:14:58
  who is an eight with three kids rather than a
• 1:15:02
  seven with no kids in career. Let me lay in
• 1:15:05
  the bed they make. Let me lay in the bed. Oh,
• 1:15:12
  let men lay in the bed they make and complain later.
• 1:15:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't get it.
• 1:15:18
  Speaker 1: I would expect you guys to be smarter, but you're
• 1:15:21
  just not for some reason. Yo, Rome, my girl just
• 1:15:26
  had our baby four months ago and her body hasn't
• 1:15:30
  bounced back. She gained forty pounds. To me, I don't care.
• 1:15:33
  I think she's beautiful the way she is, but she
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  keeps complaining about her body. She is hardly working out,
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  and her eating is pretty bad. How can I tell
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  her to start eating cleaner and start working out more
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  without hurting her feelings.
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  Speaker 2: Honestly, what you need to do is just do it
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  with her.
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  Speaker 1: The best way to do it is, well, there's two
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  ways to do it. She's either got to have friends
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  that look way better than her and are there to
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  make her feel guilty about her body. But it's not
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  going to be you. It's going to be her friends,
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  somebody close to her. Or the best thing you can
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  do is be supportive and do it with her. Say hey, honey,
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  let's you know, we say, hey, I know you're complaining.
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  Speaker 2: About your body.
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  Speaker 1: You look great, but hey, just start doing exercise with her,
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  whether it's start just walking around the block after dinner, honey,
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  let's take a walk, honey, let's do this. Start start
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  eating better, start working. The best thing you could do
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  is do it with her. For all you guys out there,
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  the best thing you can do for your lady if
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  you want her to lose weight is do it with her.
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  And even if you got to act like it's for
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  you and not for her, you gotta do it.
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  Speaker 2: You gotta trick them.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, Romeo, Yes, older women are so much better at everything.
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  They will cook without asking. They don't ask where you're going,
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  will lay out your clothes and always ask if you
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  need anything, and when you're ready for sex, they're always
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  ready for you. Yes, Rader Rob has no complaints older.
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  Speaker 9: Uh.
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  Speaker 2: When we say.
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  Speaker 1: Older women though, we're talking about like forty year olds
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  or we're talking about like fifty year olds. We're talking
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  about these women that thirty years ago didn't look this
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  that age range, that age, that age range, did not
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  look as hot as they do now. So when it
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  comes to you guys over there chasing these thirty year
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  olds because they look hot, or these twenty year olds
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  because you look hot and you have a little bit
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  of money and you got headaches and you're not settling
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  down because you're just going to one chicken head after
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  the other because they're they're they're just you know, you
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  can only deal with them for so long. The thing
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  that you guys need to understand is you're in the
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  wrong age range. You need to go for the forty
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  year olds and the fifty year olds because they know
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  what they're competing with. Not only are they staying hot
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  or longer, but they also know that they have to
• 1:18:19
  have a lot more common sense because these thirty and
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  twenty these twenty and thirty year olds got no common sense.
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  They don't know how they don't know how to act mature.
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  So you guys are just out there chasing the wrong
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  thing in the morning, every morning.
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  Speaker 2: Morse ninety four point one