Rerelease | When Abusers Play the Victim to Make You Feel Guilty

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse · Jun 9, 2026 · 38m

In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon discusses how victim-playing abusers use guilt, empathy, and blame-shifting to make survivors feel responsible for the abuse they are experiencing.

The episode looks at how an abuser may present themselves as wounded, abandoned, misunderstood, or mistreated in order to gain sympathy early in the relationship. But as the relationship continues, that same victim story can become a way to control the survivor, avoid accountability, win arguments, and make the survivor feel guilty for having boundaries.

Brandon breaks down how this…