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Will Compton's Daughter Has Near Death Experience + Drinking Your Wife's Breast Milk · Bussin' With The Boys

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  Speaker 1: Hey, guys, welcome to episode three A for the Dads.
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  Speaker 1: I am Sherman Young. I'm the co host alongside Will Compton,
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  Speaker 1: who's the host of the show. This week. We have
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  Speaker 1: some really crazy stories. I won't spoil it here at
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  Speaker 1: the top, but Will has maybe one of the craziest
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  Speaker 1: stories He's definitely told on for the Dads, but maybe
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  Speaker 1: even in Busting History. Make sure you check that out.
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  Speaker 1: We go through Dad callins again. Guys, six to oh
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  Speaker 1: one the Dads. That is our call in number. You
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  Speaker 1: guys have been crushing the call ins. We've had to
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  Speaker 1: dump our voicemails on our for the Dad's phone already
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  Speaker 1: because you guys are blown up the line. We thank
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  Speaker 1: you for that. You guys have been crushing the comments section.
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  Speaker 1: We're seeing comments all over the place, whether that's socials
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  Speaker 1: rather that is YouTube. A reminder for the credits is
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  Speaker 1: when we play dad content. So if you guys want
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  Speaker 1: to continue to dm us, any gender reveals, funny dad moments,
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  Speaker 1: anything that is fun that you want to share with
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  Speaker 1: us is okay for us to post on socials. Make
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  Speaker 1: sure to send that in. And last, but not least, guys,
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  Speaker 1: huge news. We are moving to a new YouTube channel.
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  Speaker 1: So the episodes right now that you're watching are on
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  Speaker 1: Busting with the Boys. Next week, it's going to be
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  Speaker 1: on before the Dad's YouTube channel. We will be posting
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  Speaker 1: all content for the dads from now on on that
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  Speaker 1: new channel. We'll make it very easy for you guys.
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  Speaker 1: Will is always making fun of the boomers and I
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  Speaker 1: get it. But boomers can figure it out quick and
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  Speaker 1: we'll make sure we'll hold your hand in the process.
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  Speaker 1: We'll be sharing that link of the new channel for
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  Speaker 1: you guys, but be on the lookout for that. Make
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  Speaker 1: sure you subscribe. We got to bump those numbers up.
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  Speaker 1: As Taylor always says on Busting, unsubscribe, re subscribe. It
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  Speaker 1: helps us out a lot. If you want some merch
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  Speaker 1: like this, we have some new hats, some new bucket hats,
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  Speaker 1: to hop on on BWTB dot com and get some
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  Speaker 1: new bus and merch. This is a really fun episode.
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  Speaker 1: It was super long. Hope you guys enjoy. Let's jump
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  Speaker 1: into that episode.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to for the Dads. Uh, listen a lot to
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  Speaker 2: break down. I've been in Chicago and New York this
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  Speaker 2: past week. Right now, it is currently as you're watching this,
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  Speaker 2: it's Wednesday, It's Wednesday morning. And again, I know I
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  Speaker 2: said in the intro before the dads, the older generation,
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  Speaker 2: the baby boomers who don't quite have everything figured out electronically,
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  Speaker 2: please make sure you're subscribed to this channel on YouTube,
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  Speaker 2: Bust with the Boys.
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  Speaker 3: And again we will be kicking off.
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  Speaker 2: We will have a channel of our own here in
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  Speaker 2: July coming up, so be on the lookout for that.
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  Speaker 2: We will be We'll be teeing it up to you,
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  Speaker 2: laying it up to you as easily as possible to
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  Speaker 2: make the transition, because again I know there are a
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  Speaker 2: lot of older dads that listen. And on that note,
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  Speaker 2: I will say, being in the airport at UH at Loguardia,
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  Speaker 2: there were a couple dads who came up and were
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  Speaker 2: just like, hey, man, love the new show.
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  Speaker 1: Are you serious?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, dude, I'm sitting there. You know, I'm whipping around
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  Speaker 2: the little double stroller. Who knows the times they called me?
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  Speaker 2: I know, one gentleman caught me in a spot where
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  Speaker 2: I'm just trying to make to the bathroom and just
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  Speaker 2: try to find are we good? Are we good on audio?
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  Speaker 2: Or I'm just trying to find the bathroom. Take a
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  Speaker 2: little quick, you know quick dad time out. Got one
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  Speaker 2: of the little kiddos with me and he just wanted
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  Speaker 2: to come over. He'say, hey, man, don't want anything. I
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  Speaker 2: just want to tap you up and just say I
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  Speaker 2: love the new show. He was wearing like a dad hat.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, really looked like a baby boomer. So that was that.
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  Speaker 2: Fired me up? Yes, dude, fired me up. Fired me up.
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  Speaker 1: It's like in his sixties. I don't want to put
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  Speaker 1: that on fifties. Yeah, a little just say fifty. He
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  Speaker 1: looked good, he looked he looks good.
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  Speaker 2: For his age.
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  Speaker 1: Come on, he looked good for his age. That's exciting.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but right now, I know you guys said, you
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  Speaker 2: guys are listening on Wednesday morning again, get the get
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  Speaker 2: the trash cans out to the curb. We are shooting this.
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  Speaker 2: It is nine thirty on Sunday.
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  Speaker 3: I landed.
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  Speaker 2: We had hopes and dreams of shooting this episode at
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  Speaker 2: probably four because we have a big week ahead of us.
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  Speaker 2: We have a lot of interviews that we're doing for
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  Speaker 2: tightening you for busting with the boys. So we needed
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  Speaker 2: to get the four of the Dad's pot. In early
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  Speaker 2: Razy week, I hit the boys up saying, hey, we're
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  Speaker 2: sitting on the tarmac right now. We are delayed a
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  Speaker 2: couple hours, so didn't quite make it in. It's bit hell.
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  Speaker 2: I'll just I'm just gonna kick it off. It's been hell.
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  Speaker 2: Number one. New York is overrated. We had fun, we
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  Speaker 2: made memories, we had fun, but I feel like I
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  Speaker 2: just got back from another military tour just being with
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  Speaker 2: the family. Were we were staying at the Hackston and
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  Speaker 2: we were in like a four hundred square foot hotel
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  Speaker 2: room where there's like no extra space, there's no closets.
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  Speaker 2: Our bags are everywhere. When you have a couple of kiddos,
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  Speaker 2: parents out there know this, you'll know this too, but
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  Speaker 2: you're each kid kind of has a bag of their
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  Speaker 2: own because there's so many things that you have to
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  Speaker 2: pack for a seven month old, There's so many things
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  Speaker 2: you have to pack for the three year old. Things
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  Speaker 2: you have to pack for yourself. Your wife's got every
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  Speaker 2: outfit because she was visiting a friend out there in
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  Speaker 2: New York. So there's dinners, there's you know, she had
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  Speaker 2: stuff for work out there, so she's got a throw
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  Speaker 2: outfits that she had, so we had a lot of luggage.
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  Speaker 2: It's pretty much laid out, utilizing as much space as
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  Speaker 2: possible in this small ass hotel room that was a
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  Speaker 2: prison at times, which we can get into. But it's
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  Speaker 2: been a long week. It's been a long week. It's
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  Speaker 2: been a long weekend. It was fun being at Barstool
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  Speaker 2: HQ last week in Chicago, New York. Had some fun moments.
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  Speaker 1: Yep, two and O on the Dozen, Yes, two and
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  Speaker 1: O on dozen Trivia.
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  Speaker 2: We made it to the final four. I'll be out
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  Speaker 2: in Boston this Thursday. That'll be live stream on Barstool's
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  Speaker 2: YouTube channel. But the Booze Ponies are We're coming where
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  Speaker 2: two and oh We're coming.
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  Speaker 1: I love me some Dana Bears, Yeah, shameless.
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  Speaker 3: Love some Dana Beers.
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  Speaker 2: Love fidal Berg, love fiddle Berg, love file Berg. If
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  Speaker 2: you haven't checked out Tires, go check out Tire season two.
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  Speaker 2: That's no free shout outs to the boy Shane Gillis.
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  Speaker 2: But fidal Berg made a little appearance on episode six
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  Speaker 2: and crushed it. Crushed it with Vince Vaughan and Gillis. Yeah, yeah, uh,
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  Speaker 2: but a lot of good dad stories. I'm glad you
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  Speaker 2: guys are tuned in with us, and again, love all
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  Speaker 2: the comments.
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  Speaker 3: That you guys are leaving. I was kind of just
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  Speaker 3: scanning through them.
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  Speaker 2: I love that you guys were just like, fuck it, dude,
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  Speaker 2: go over an hour if you guys have to, we
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  Speaker 2: don't care. I saw I saw one comment. It's like, hey,
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  Speaker 2: you guys's hopes of going under an hour are gone.
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  Speaker 3: Sherman.
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  Speaker 1: He now has a spotlight. I'm the problem.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, she's got the spotlight.
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  Speaker 1: There's no way you two are ever going to go
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  Speaker 1: under an hour.
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  Speaker 2: But that's a good.
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  Speaker 1: Thing, not wrong.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a good thing. But just scanning through these comments,
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  Speaker 2: a Rock eighty six shot out. You really appreciate you
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  Speaker 2: boys for featuring me. Shout out. No free shot out
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  Speaker 2: for the dads will ensure them. You guys are the goats.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you for a solid future dad advice and appreciate
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  Speaker 2: recognition for my wife and I was journey. Big hugs,
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  Speaker 2: tiny kisses. Again, just a little little warning down at
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  Speaker 2: the screen. This is not an expert father show or
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  Speaker 2: just a couple of dads just talking shop.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Here we go Mark Mark Arnett sixty four to seventy seven.
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  Speaker 2: Pro tip for Sureham dad of a ten year old
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  Speaker 2: girl an eight year old boy. Leave the tag on
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  Speaker 2: all the clothes until the day they put them on,
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  Speaker 2: so when they outgrow it, before they actually wear it,
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  Speaker 2: you can just go swap it out at the store
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  Speaker 2: for the next size up. That is a hell of
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  Speaker 2: a comment. That's actually a lot. I can crack a
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  Speaker 2: cold one too. That's something you can crack a cold
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  Speaker 2: one to. No free shout outs to bud Light and
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  Speaker 2: on the voicemails. Like we'll get into the call in
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  Speaker 2: segments later in this show. But Shirm texted me last
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  Speaker 2: week or he messaged me last week saying the voicemail
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  Speaker 2: thing filled up. We had to take the line off
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  Speaker 2: for a moment. Yeah, because it was like three hundred voicemails,
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  Speaker 2: Yes and yeah, we had to shut it down. Get
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  Speaker 2: them off into a dropbox file so that way you
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  Speaker 2: can reopen up the line. There's already eighty seven more
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  Speaker 2: keep calling in. We're gonna I don't know if we're
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  Speaker 2: ever going to figure out a way to get everybody's
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  Speaker 2: voicemail heard, but we're going to try to integrate maybe
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  Speaker 2: more than just one or two. So if you have
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  Speaker 2: a motherfucked moment, if you have a crack a cold
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  Speaker 2: one too moment, if you have a quote or a
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  Speaker 2: theme or something that leaned on recently, or a lesson
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  Speaker 2: that you've liked, you can share with us if you
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  Speaker 2: just want to vent with us different ways where we
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  Speaker 2: might fit them into our segments, other than just a
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  Speaker 2: hotline moment where we only share one or two. Because
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  Speaker 2: I know there's a lot of great voicemails out there.
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  Speaker 2: We would love to get to all of them. It's
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  Speaker 2: like a It's a great pop problem to have. It
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  Speaker 2: also pained me thinking about all the voicemails coming in
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  Speaker 2: because I'm like, damn, I wish we could feature you.
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  Speaker 2: Wish you could feature all of them.
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  Speaker 1: When you have that many. Chef, we've highlighted a bunch
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  Speaker 1: is like our intern for this show. But when you
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  Speaker 1: have that many voicemails, this guy's cutting up clips. We
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  Speaker 1: got two other interns just fishing through offloading all of
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  Speaker 1: these voicemails into dropbox. They're listening to the voicemails as
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  Speaker 1: they do that so they can categorize the voicemails. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's truly like Santa's Workshop, and the elves are just
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  Speaker 1: like doing the damn thing.
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  Speaker 3: You say, elves, But we have one and it's Chef.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we have one. And he's having to also be like, hey,
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  Speaker 1: if you guys could jump in here, because there's two
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  Speaker 1: hundred and seventy of these things cut up, these clips.
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  Speaker 2: He's on intern he's on intern brain like, hey, I'm
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  Speaker 2: working on the show, working pro maybe possibly for a job.
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  Speaker 2: He's trying to do everything possible to make sure this
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  Speaker 2: thing's right. Chef, we appreciate you here on a Sunday night, unpaid,
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  Speaker 2: here on a Sunday, unpaid, unpaid here on a Sunday night.
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  Speaker 2: Shout out the boys. Chef.
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  Speaker 1: We did buy him dinner, though, I will say that
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  Speaker 1: we bought them down nice good. We got them dinner.
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  Speaker 1: What was the other thing we're talking, Oh, voicemails. The
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  Speaker 1: streets are saying, and I'll pitch this to you, I'll
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  Speaker 1: pitch this to the viewers. But the streets are saying,
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  Speaker 1: it could be fun every five episodes if we did
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  Speaker 1: a strictly call in episode. That's just an idea. We're
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  Speaker 1: not saying it's gonna be officially a thing. Maybe let
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  Speaker 1: us know in the comments.
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  Speaker 2: If people if we get a I won't say overwhelming,
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  Speaker 2: but if we get a solid response and people just
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  Speaker 2: put need a call in episode, if they just have
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  Speaker 2: that in all caps, yeah we have enough of them.
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  Speaker 2: I think that is where you start take into account. Hey,
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  Speaker 2: this could be this could be fun.
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking like fifty of those.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, fifty be a great number.
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  Speaker 1: That's a number where it's like, okay, guaranteed we'll do it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because again, we want this show to be about
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  Speaker 2: embracing fatherhood, building community, being all about the badass dads
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  Speaker 2: out there just embracing the suck and wanted to be
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  Speaker 2: a part of it.
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  Speaker 1: And when yes, I had some great if we're going on,
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  Speaker 1: just like people comments all that stuff. How to buddy
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  Speaker 1: from high school who is a girl dad reach out
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  Speaker 1: to me. We talked pretty regularly, but just via text,
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  Speaker 1: sent a really nice text about the show that he
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  Speaker 1: was loving it, but said he sent it around to
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  Speaker 1: a bunch of his dad friends and one of them
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  Speaker 1: hit him back like two hours later said just listen
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  Speaker 1: about episodes.
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  Speaker 2: He's awesome, which got me. I've had guys being like, hey,
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  Speaker 2: I'm not even a dad. But it fires me up
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  Speaker 2: to be one one day just from listening to the show.
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  Speaker 2: So it's like there are people out there watching and
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  Speaker 2: listening that aren't even in parenthood right now. And one
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  Speaker 2: thing that that's also a great reminder because you said
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  Speaker 2: your boy was sharing it with his dads. Whenever we
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  Speaker 2: do stand up our next whenever we do stand stand
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  Speaker 2: up this channel afore the dads, or whether we have
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  Speaker 2: it on both YouTube and audio, no matter what it is,
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  Speaker 2: for this show to get a little bit more awareness,
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  Speaker 2: this will be. We need the organic growth from the
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  Speaker 2: dads out there sharing it in your group chats, letting
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  Speaker 2: other dads know.
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  Speaker 1: I saw it.
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  Speaker 2: As a matter of fact, I don't have the comment
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  Speaker 2: pulled up, but when I was scanning, I saw a wife,
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  Speaker 2: a gal watching and it was like, hey, I've sent
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  Speaker 2: this to all my dad friends. I'm trying to get
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  Speaker 2: everybody on board. She's somebody out there out there watching.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry I can't shout you out and know your
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  Speaker 2: name right now, but I saw that comment and that
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  Speaker 2: fired me up. So yes, if you're watching and listening,
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  Speaker 2: share around with your with your with your little dad,
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  Speaker 2: gang with the dad army, with your dad group chats,
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  Speaker 2: because that's that's how we're gonna grow the channel.
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  Speaker 3: That's how we're gonna get this out there.
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  Speaker 1: True, Hey, this is my very last The streets are saying, okay,
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  Speaker 1: another rumor that's swirling, and then we can jump into
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  Speaker 1: the episode. I would love for just an empty frame
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  Speaker 1: to sit somewhere on this set for next month. That's
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  Speaker 1: that of the.
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  Speaker 2: Month and we got to pick one, and we gotta
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  Speaker 2: pick one. That's a lot of pressure. That comes with
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  Speaker 2: a lot of pressure.
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  Speaker 1: But think about how legendary that will be for that
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  Speaker 1: dad when they get selected in their Dad of the month,
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  Speaker 1: they're up there for a whole month.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. The problem you run into is like, there's gonna
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  Speaker 2: be I would assume a lot of dads that'll be
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  Speaker 2: doing whatever. We're like, hey, this is how you get
• 12:35
  Speaker 2: in the running for Dead of the Month. And now
• 12:37
  Speaker 2: guy's been doing it month after month and they don't
• 12:39
  Speaker 2: get in a little bit of resentment builds up, like, boys,
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  Speaker 2: are you not seeing the content that I'm pushing your
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  Speaker 2: guys's way.
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  Speaker 1: But then to that point, I would say, are you
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  Speaker 1: doing it for the love of the game? Are you
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  Speaker 1: doing it for the trophy?
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  Speaker 2: Oh? Because yeah, we're There is no trophy in fatherhood.
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  Speaker 2: There is no trophy in fatherhood.
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  Speaker 1: And I am not a dad, so that that's some
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  Speaker 1: stolen valor saying that, and I do apologize. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: dad yet.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, by the way, how's how's Jildie being doing.
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  Speaker 1: She's doing very well, she texted me since the day's nine.
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  Speaker 1: On a Sunday, she texted me a picture of her
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  Speaker 1: belly in our third trimester coming any week now, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: thirty seven weeks and said we're ready for dadas. And
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  Speaker 1: I did not reply to that text. So thoughts and prayers.
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  Speaker 1: She's good though, she's doing great. When does a maternity
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  Speaker 1: leave start for her? Because I know she's in healthcare, Like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure she's over the fact of being in the
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  Speaker 1: office or she's probably getting there. Yeah, she is grinding, dude.
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  Speaker 1: The people on her floor are doing a great job
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  Speaker 1: of just kind of surrounding her helping her. But Jill
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  Speaker 1: is just to brag about my wife really quick, very pretty,
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  Speaker 1: very hard working, very determined, and so no matter how
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  Speaker 1: many times they're telling her to sit down, what are
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  Speaker 1: you doing, We're giving you the easiest patient on the
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  Speaker 1: floor that she is moving and grooving, doing her thing,
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  Speaker 1: cannot take no for an answer, So she's kind of
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  Speaker 1: her own worst ending me right now?
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  Speaker 2: Is she going to work until the time comes?
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  Speaker 1: I mean truly, she has three more shifts left.
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  Speaker 2: Her shifts are long too, right.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, they're like twelve hours, they're like six A
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  Speaker 1: to six P. But really it's like five thirty A
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  Speaker 1: to like, yeah, seven thirty p. Yeah, she's just a dude.
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  Speaker 1: She's a trooper. And it sounds like Charles the same way.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, she's got like multiple businesses. She's doing her
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  Speaker 1: thing as well.
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  Speaker 2: But I uh, I love how you're trying to deflect
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  Speaker 2: it and goes go a different direction.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true. And you have told me I need
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  Speaker 1: to yeah, stay in it, except yeah, take the ball
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  Speaker 1: and yeah yeah except yeah, my wife's a badass.
• 14:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, accept the shout out.
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: Man, she's badass.
• 14:44
  Speaker 3: Should we get into should we get into? Motherfucked?
• 14:46
  Speaker 2: I have I have some stories that I've been holding
• 14:48
  Speaker 2: on my chest. There's one that I haven't even told
• 14:50
  Speaker 2: you about that was wild, not this past weekend, but
• 14:55
  Speaker 2: the weekend before. And I refrained from saying it on
• 14:58
  Speaker 2: Busting with the Boys because I've like, this is a
• 15:00
  Speaker 2: great one to live on for the dads.
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: That's a big moment, dude. We're getting breaking news on FTV.
• 15:06
  Speaker 2: This isn't a positive, This is not a this is
• 15:09
  Speaker 2: a fun This is a learning experience for all of
• 15:14
  Speaker 2: the parents out there that just a snap of the finger, dude,
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: and shit can go sideways quick. And this isn't like
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: a true motherfucked moment, more of like an internalized like
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: how did this happen? But I'm sitting so to paint
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: the scene, It's Saturday afternoon and I'm sitting on the island.
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: I'm sitting at the island and I'm trying to send
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: an email. I'm trying to send an email. So I'm
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: on my iPad and Charles sitting on the couch and
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: she's playing with Scotty. Sorry, Kitchen island, Kitchen Island. I'm
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: sitting at the kitchen island, Rue sitting there eating lunch.
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: We're trying to get her to eat lunch, some chicken
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: fingers before we have some quiet time and before Scotty
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: goes down for her nap because we hadn't eaten all
• 15:57
  Speaker 2: morning or she had ate a little bit. But you know, kids,
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: they want to snack. They want to do all these
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: different things, and you're trying to Hey, you're gonna eat
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: some lunch. You need some real food. So I'm sitting
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: at the kitchen with Rue. Charo is on the couch
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: with Scotti, playing with Scotti. I'm sending this email. Rue's
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: in the middle of eating and I'm telling her, you know,
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: you gotta eat five bites. I'm saying whatever to her,
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: but she's trying to talk to Charro and I don't
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: hear anything. Like again, I'm zoned in on my iPad,
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: trying to get this email out, and she talks to
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: Charro about doing this magic trick, and Charle's like, oh,
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: we can do the magic trick later. And Charles kind
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: of briefing me on what happened after the fact because
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: this bizarre moment happens and I kind of just lose
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: all I kind of lose all senses. Fire departments at
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: the house. Yes, bro, Rue chokes on a coin. She's
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: Charo had been Charlo had done this as Charlie knows
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: this magic trick to where it's either behind your ear
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: or in your hair, or the coin's like on your
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: elbow and it looks like you eat it, you eat it. Oh,
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: but she's done this magic trick before, over and over
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: in front of room because it entertains Rue. So I
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: guess Rue found this euro this euro coin.
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: It's a big coin, a little bit bigger than a quarter.
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I don't know if it's bigger than a quarter,
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: but it's up there. Yeah, and Rue apparently finds this coin.
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: I didn't see the coin. And again, mind you, I'm
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: thinking she's just eating lunch, and I'm just trying to
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: get this email off, thinking she's eating, like you know,
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: we do this all we do this every day, and
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: so Ru's trying to get her attention Charles like I'll
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: do it for you later or not right now, I'm
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: playing with Scotty or something. So I guess Rue in
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: her mind is like, I'm going to try to do
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: this magic trick on my own. Who I'm sitting there
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: on my iPad and I hear like choking, gagging, and
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: I stop, and I look over at Rue and her
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: fingers are down her throat and she's like, oh, and buddy,
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: it's not even registering to me that she's choking at
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: the moment. I look over at her, and she puts
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: her fingers in her mouth amp and like gags and
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: I'm like, what are you doing? Thinking that she's just
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: like gagging herself, you know what I mean, like just
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: like being like, oh okay, I found something new. I'm
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: like choking myself from gagging myself. And I'm like, what
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: are you doing? And she starts like panicking like uh uh,
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: and I'm like are you are you choking? And Charl's like,
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: oh my god, she's choking. She's choking. Charlie like sprints
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: over to the island. I like, stand up. I'm in like,
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: what in the fuck is going on? Ruth's choking on
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: this coin? She's like, are you choking a coin? She's
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: like yeah, And I get behind Rue and I start
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: trying to do the heimlik and I'm I'm like, you know,
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: I'm like got it up under a sternum and I'm
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: like trying to go like up with it. Charle's like,
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: are you doing it the right way? I'm like I
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: think so. When I started like trying to jump with
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: her to get this coin out, the coin's not coming out, bro, Yes,
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: it's okay. It's tap being and you've seen.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: Rue throat hurts listening to you tell the story, buddy.
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: It was so I'm smiling through it at this moment,
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: but this was such a fucking panic. She's choking and
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: Charles like, Charle's like watching it and starts like digging
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: down her throat. She's like, I got it, I got it,
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: I got it. No, he tries to get it up
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: and she's like, I lost it. I lost it. It's
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: down there and Ruth's panicking. I'm panicking and you know,
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: we tried. Charli gets on behind her and try to
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: do the homack. I'm like, what do we do? What
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: do we do? She's like, she's like, call nine one one,
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: Call nine one one. I fucking call nine one one.
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: I'm in a panic. You know. They're taking it slow,
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: like what's your name, what's your address, what's PROHNE number
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: in case we need to call you?
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: What's happening? I'm like, my three year old is choking.
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: She's still currently choking on this coin. Yeah.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: We're trying to get out of her and it's not
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: coming out.
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: And are they coaching you?
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: Godly, It's hard to remember because it was such a
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: moment of like panic and you don't know what's going on,
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: Charles just jumps into like superhero mode, like yelling all
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: these coaching directions to do it. I'm thinking, I'm doing
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: the Heimlit correctly because I took the CPR class back
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: when I was a lifeguard back in high school. Yeah,
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: and I'm just talking to I'm talking to whoever nine
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: one one on the phone and saying what's going on.
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: They're like, we're sending somebody over to you. As they're
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: sending somebody over to me. That call lasted three minutes.
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: Probably around the two minute mark, Charo is down.
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: Her throat again.
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: She's like, I got it, I got it, and then
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: pulls it out, gets the coin out. As they're driving
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: over to the house and I'm like, coins out. She's fine.
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: She's like is she breathing? And I walk over to
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: the room, I'm like, hey, you know, I'm asking her
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: questions and stuff. She seems like she's gonna be okay.
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: She's just in a panic and she's crying. There's blood
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: everywhere because Charle probably scraped her throat or scraped something
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: inside of her mouth. Because there's blood on my there's
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: blood on my shirt, there's blood on the counter. Yes, bro, Yes,
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: I've been holding that on me for over a Yes,
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: And that was one of those moments where it's like
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: you're internally motherfucking yourself because I was just trying to
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: do something on the iPad and next thing you know,
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: she's gagging and choking.
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: And it happened. It happened quick, you know what I mean.
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: Yes, if you turn away for one second, you have
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: food set up, you're trying to get something off on
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: the iPad and she's gagging herself and the next thing you know,
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: she's choking on a coin and fire department ambulance comes over,
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: they're running her vitals, they're doing all this stuff. She
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: checks out, Fine, she's all good, but she was choking
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: on a fucking coin. Bro from winning to mimic of
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: magic trick? Can we.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: Really quick before we jump into this, Can we crack
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: a cold one to Chario saving today?
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: Oh buddy, yeah we can, because Chrall went into superhero mode. Yeah.
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: I was in it. I was in just panic. Like
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: I again, I'm like trying to do the Heimlich. I
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: think I'm doing it right, but nothing, your mind is
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: going everywhere. That was so long ago. When you do
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: the CPR class that you don't know if you're doing
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: it correctly.
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: And bro the fact that she had the wherewithal to
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: just be like, I'm digging this shit out.
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, get.
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: I'm getting it because I'm seeing it happen and my
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: eyes are wide open again. I was just like a
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: kid sitting on the fucking sideline thinking like I don't know,
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: you're thinking your kid could die right there. Because then
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: when the fire department everybody comes over and they're kind
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: of breaking it down. They're like, hey, if by any
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: chance this were to happen ever again and she goes unconscious,
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: all you have to do is just hit like the
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: I think it was like thirty CPR, Yeah, CPR compressions presses,
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: whatever it is, give her some marriages to keep oxygen
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: going to her brain. But they're like, if she was unconscious, like,
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: we would have still been able. We would have still
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: been able to save her. With it being a coin,
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: we would have still been able to save her even
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: if she's unconscious. Yeah, So just to put your mind
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: at ease, because you're thinking, if they don't get.
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: Here before her eyes closed, before her.
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: Eyes closed, like she would die. That's what's happening. That's
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: what I'm thinking of my mind. I'm assuming Charles and
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: the same exact thing.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: Also, we are not experts and do not take any
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah this is not yeah yeah yeah, but while I
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: asked this question, this is my personal question too.
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: Will.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: This is not for the listeners to take in as advice.
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: Aren't you supposed to do like the two finger the
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: three finger thing with toddlers and not like the full
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: hand compression.
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: So Chef Jack is saying, yes, take his advice.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you can take no.
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: I think with like rue her being three, you would
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: still go like on on the front. It feels like, uh,
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: it feels scotty. You'd be flipping her back and forth,
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: patting on the back and patting on the front. Yeah.
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: For the compressions, I think, yeah, you do like fingers
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: or whatever. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah dude, that was so
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: long ago, but I was trying to I was trying
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: to like remember, like as I'm just like doing the
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: hoimelock and everything else.
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: But it was ar will Okay. Also that brings that
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: reminds me and I'm gonna go buy one.
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: Go take a CPR class.
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: Hey one, go take a CPR class. You can get
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: them for free. At your local county hospital. Don't quote
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: me on that, but do I'm almost positive that's a thing.
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: If Chef Jack can google that, I'm almost positive that's
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: a thing. Secondly, these choking like kid rescuer things, it's
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: those little like it's like a mask and you do
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: the suction is really bad radio, but yeah, you put
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: it on like it's a mask and it has this
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: little almost like a ball pumper thing on the bottom.
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: And I've been seeing videos on the internet that make
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: me want to go buy that thing tomorrow. I know
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: you have a kid in the world.
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that would be smart to do.
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: But oh my god, buddy, it was terrifying. It was
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: terrifying round of.
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: The yeah, yeah, dude. She flew into action, bro, And
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: I'm sitting there like, how did this happen so quick?
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Because I was the one
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: like sitting by her. Oh yeah, And again I looked
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: over like I heard the I heard the choke in
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: the gag and I look over at her and then
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: she's looking at me and she like does it again?
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: And I'm like, what are you doing? And she just
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: starts kind of panicking, and I'm like, are you all right?
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: And Charles like, oh my god, she's choking. She's choking.
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: Sprints over. I'm like, she's choking. She's like she's got
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: a coin. I'm just thinking a fucking coin. I'm just thinking,
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: what in the hell is happening again, immediately started doing
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: the Heimlich Charles like idly standing by, just like watch out.
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: She's like watch out, move you call.
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: Nine one one. She starts fucking trying to dig down.
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: Dude. It was.
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: It was terrifying. Dude, Thank god I.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: Do have a nurse for a wife.
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm gonna pop quizzer when I get home and
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: not tell her this part of the story first. I'd
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: be like, theoretically, yeah, like Scarlet's cheering on it. You know,
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: she gets a coin down there. Where are we doing
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: tess her? Yeah, but hopefully.
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: You heimelick until you would Basically what they were kind
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: of telling us is you would you would heim lick
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: and try to get it out up until they go unconscious.
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: When they go unconscious again, you can't like don't panic,
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: and you sit there and do the compressions. You would
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: hit thirty compressions, try to blow get auction to their brain.
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: You're just trying to keep oxygen going until help gets there. Yeah,
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: because they were there within like within five minutes from
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: the call. Damn, we were on the phone. She's like,
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: I got somebody headed your way. And even when I
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: was like, hey, the coin's out, I think she's all good,
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: they're already on their way. So whenever they get there,
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: like they'll choke bottles and make sure everything's clear. And
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: they were saying, it's it's honestly, it's better, like it's
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: a good thing that it was that it was a
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: coin and not food, because food can start breaking down
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: and actually block her throat or where she was breathing.
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: Because since root didn't pass out, they were under the
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: impression that it probably wasn't fully blocking her airways.
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: Well, and it's so big it probably got caught up
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: more like in her.
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it was like it was like I'm not sure
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: it was like up here, and they're like if it
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: would have got there, like you know, showing her if
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: it would have got down to here. You know, they
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: were just kind of talking to her to have conversation
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: with her. She was just like trum, Yeah, I slept.
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: I mean, you're you're beating yourself up. Just as a parent,
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: because you take your eyes off of it for a
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: minute and something can go sideways like that, and then
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: you know, Charles was Charle was struggling for a while afterwards,
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: and you know, I'm like, you know, maybe we don't
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: teach the magic trick to Scotti.
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: Did she laugh?
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: She yeah, she knew I was joking, but she's like, yeah,
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: like you're just not you know, Charle's not thinking she
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: was gonna do something like that, No, because the last
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: time I saw charge do that magic trick was a
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: long time ago, and I guess rue she saw the
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: coin and it probably just reminded her of the magic trick.
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: She's like, look, mom, I think like rou was showing her, like,
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: hey mama, do the matrics. She's like, I'm playing with Scotty.
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: I'll do the magic trick with here with you in
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: a little bit. And then she just got a wild
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: hair and was like, yeah, I'm gonna try this magic trick. Ude.
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: Thank god she did that, right. I mean, obviously it
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: would have been better if it hadn't happened, but thank
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: god she did it in front of you guys. Thank
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: god y'all were there.
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: Dude.
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, no, doubt, no doubt, I very randomly. This
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: is just a dad tip for people out there. Uh,
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: we were at a family like easter hunt. Somebody had
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: a green pool cover. I was young enough to think
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: that the pool cover was like a putting green because
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: it kind of looked like AstroTurf or whatever. Walked out
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: on it and went underneath, uh the pool cover. My
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: cousin ended up getting help almost drowned. But it was
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: like one of those things where like everybody's easter hunting,
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: like Easter egg hunting, and then all of a sudden
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: they look up and you know, my dad's seeing somebody
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: trying to fish me out. It's crazy, dude, it can
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: just happen.
• 29:14
  Speaker 3: It happens.
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: And were at our We were at a friends a
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: few weeks ago and we were in the pool in
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: the backyard and Rue was playing on a couple of
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: the noodles And can't like fully swim yet. But she
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: can do like a couple of things, you know what
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: I mean. She can go underwater, she can swim like
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: a couple of strokes or something like that, but she
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: can't handle herself by herself with water. But I'm in
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: the water with all I'm in the water with her
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: and our friends' kids. Yeah, and one came outside and
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: was wearing an outfit and I was complimenting her outfit,
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: and you know, I'm like playing with Rue, but Rue
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: wanted to play on this noodle.
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: She's like, no, Dad, let go, and.
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: So I'm like, let go, and she kind of does
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: a thing where she like, let's go for a end,
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: goes underwater and then comes back up on the noodle. Yeah,
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: we've been we were playing for we were playing for
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: a long time. There's probably been forty minutes at this point.
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: And then the other one, the sibling, comes out and
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: wants to show me his outfit because I'm complimenting his sister. Oh,
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: well look at this, and I'm like, look over my
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: Oh that's awesome, buddy, and dude. I turn around and
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: Srew was like struggling in the water for a moment.
• 30:12
  Speaker 3: I pick her.
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: I just pick her up. It wasn't like anything close
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: to her drowning or nothing like that, but just another
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: subtle reminder that you turn your head for like one
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: minute and things could be things could be crazy. Nobody
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: saw either, Like I picked her up and she was
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: like crying for a second, I'm like, hey, sweetheart, like,
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: this is why you know you need to use the noodle,
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: this is why you need to be close to the side,
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: because she was like, you know, she's like trying to
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: get she's like trying to do things more for herself.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: She's trying to like prove to herself that she can
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: do more without help and things like that. Yeah, and
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: uh but yeah, that was just another like just quick
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: reminder that you can turn your head for a second
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: and something could just go south. It's scary, dude, It's nuts.
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: See what in the world while you were telling that. Uh,
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: my throat felt terrible the entire time you were telling
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: that story, and I felt like I had something in
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: my throat. That was the worst story I've heard in
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: a while.
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: When the first time when Charles said she had it,
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: I got it.
• 31:07
  Speaker 3: I got it.
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: I got it. And then she's like, I lost it.
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: I lost it. What's going on?
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, thirty minutes, Oh got you?
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 31:15
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, well one second and.
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: I lost I lost it. Like in my brain, I'm thinking,
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: holy fuck, how are we going to get out of this?
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: Cause again I'm not thinking about like when the fire
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: they were over at the house, being like, oh, she
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: would have we would have still got it out and
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: you guys would have been fine. I'm thinking that was
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: like a life or death moment getting that out before
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: the ambulance.
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what, So what's your mother?
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: So what's my mother? Well, I'm glad you asked, well,
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: my motherfucked?
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: Is that?
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: My wife said? I need to talk with you guys
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: more about college football and less with her.
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: She not, she not, she's not a ball fan.
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: She's a ball fan.
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: But is she a ball fan?
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: But when, apparently, when she's hungry in the morning, when.
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: She's third trimester hungry in the morning, and you're bitching
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: about Baylor, she don't want to hear it.
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: When I'm trying to tell her, Hey, here's the deal.
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: Like a lot of people are kind of sleeping on Baylor.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: They could have a really good season, though, Honey. They're
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: eight and four last year.
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: Sweetheart.
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: When you look at Baylor's schedule, what do you see?
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: And tell me really quick, tell me. Are you more
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: worried about Auburn? Are you more worried about SMU? And
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: I get it, SMU is a ACC school, but they
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: were a playoff team last year.
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: Honey, Sherman, get your head out the fucking clouds. We're
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: about to have a baby here in two weeks, and
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: you're talking about Baylor football.
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: We're going to the game. I already told you we're going.
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: I would go to the game with you.
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: Go talk to your buddies at work.
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: No, But she quite literally was like, do you realize
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: where you work? Because I told her. I was like, honey,
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: I just like, I like talking about this stuff. She goes, well,
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: I want to talk about us. I want to talk
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: about our daughter that's about to be here. Maybe you
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: can talk about that at work where you guys talk
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: about sports and stuff. I was like, you know what, God,
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: motherfucked in that situation. But she's right, I need to
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: talk about that stuff.
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: You know. But is she You're just trying to include her.
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: I am, here's an interest in my life. She chefs
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: back to She's.
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: Like, sure, yeah, he said.
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: Women want there are men to talk more, and when
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: they want to talk about their interest, that being football,
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: they're trying to be vulnerable and share something with you.
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: This is a moment where I will get going, dude,
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: like I'm talking, I'm not even I'm probably missing turns
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: left and right on the way to Velvet Taco where
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: she wanted to have breakfast. They don't have breakfast tacos.
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: I didn't complain. I took her to Velvet Taco. And
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: I'm probably missing turns left and right. I'm talking about Baylor,
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: and I get it. It's okay. I'm not upset about it,
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: but uh, it does hurt because when she's talking about
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: her shows or she's talking about her stuff, I've been listening.
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah, buddy, this is the space, this is the show
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: to do it all because for you to be as
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: much of a college football fan or a football fan
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: in general as I know you to be, and you
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: just got to the point where you were like you said,
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: she's right, and it's like, hang on a second. You
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: gotta love yourself, bro.
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: I don't even think I was talking about Baylor. Was
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: the best part. I don't even know what I was
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: talking about. But I wasn't even talking about Baylor.
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: You're trying to share an interest with your wife.
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was just I was just sharing something along
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: the lines of I wish I could remember, but I
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: think I was talking about some SEC team and I
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: was talking about their schedule and like, yeah, it's kind
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: of crazy. Game days always usually following Bama, and you know,
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: I'm going like a million miles an hour, and she's
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: just like, this is the last thing I want to
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: talk about right now. I'm like, honey, I get that,
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: but like you put on.
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, how many things is she talking about that you
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: don't want to hear about? Yeah?
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: And when you eat it, I eat it. When you
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: put on the Damilio Show, the Riality TV Fallen Charlie
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: d'milio and her sister, I sit there, Yeah, for those
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: forty five minutes, sweetheart.
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: I do my best to create space. When you want
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: to tell me back about this Onyx and Storm book
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: that you're reading, I'm trying to buy in. It's hard.
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: But ladies, let me tell you. When your man talks
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: to you about college football and the upcoming season and
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: you just tell him, hey, go talk to your boys
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: about this at work, you're just telling us you don't
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: matter right now.
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: And you know what the worst part is, because she
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: is a longhorn. I guarantee you if I've been talking
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: about arch Man now, honey, you know that you know
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: they're saying this, and that they're saying sarks really only
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: like a player's coach. If he doesn't have the squad,
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: he can't really get a team there. He's not a
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: numbers guy. Yeah, and she would listen and eat that
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: up all day if I was talking about the Longhorns.
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: If I wasn't talking about her longhorns, that's pretty selfish. Yeah,
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: cut that part out, cut that part out. But yeah,
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: that's my that's my motherfucked it. It doesn't even touch
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: uh will's I feel like yours is motherfucked crack a
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: cold one and potentially dad hack. Don't take us, you know,
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: verbatim on that.
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: But yeah, I mean it's all it's all of the
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: things in one survival kit.
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: I'm looking it up at.
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they like that. The dad hack again for two
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: weeks in a row, coming more so from my wife,
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: jumping action and try to dig that fucking coin out.
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: Of their throat.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: Get in there that it doesn't matter.
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: Hey, if you see blood.
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: You just the eyes closed. It's okay, all right, fine,
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: department's gonna get there.
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: Fine. Oh buddy, Yeah that.
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: Was dude, you've had it. That was two weeks.
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we haven't even talked about the New York story.
• 36:41
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• 38:38
  Speaker 2: My crecit cald one this week is going to go
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: to finding your way back to your teammate. I was
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: wondering if I would tell this story on this show.
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: I kind of vented to the boys about it before
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: the show started. But finding your way back to your
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: teammate in my in this circumstance, In this situation, it's
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: my teammate is my wife. We we were in New
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: York over the weekend. We had a lot of great moments,
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: but we had a couple of down moments. In one
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: of those down moments is we were at each other's
• 39:05
  Speaker 2: throat at like two in the morning on Saturday. I'll
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: preface this, sweetheart, you were right, you were right.
• 39:14
  Speaker 3: I was wrong.
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: This sounds like a motherfucked as well.
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, but you got to crack a
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: cold one too, because we made we found our way.
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: We both apologized to each other.
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: There we go.
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: But we had a great night on Saturday where we
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: we got a sitter. We were out in New York.
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: Charo had a work thing earlier in the week and
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: then parlayed into visiting a friend, a really good friend
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: of hers in New York, and we were hanging out
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: with that couple. They have two little ones of their own,
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: like eight years old and five years old, so the
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: five year old was close with Rue. They were great
• 39:46
  Speaker 2: to Rue. They were great with the kids. But on Saturday,
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: we've been doing all the family stuff to where you know,
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: we're all with each other. We're going to dinner, we're
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: doing breakfast. Hey, let's go to the pool, let's do
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: this and that. But on Saturday, it was just it
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: was just the adults. We got a sitter, We went out,
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: we had dinner. There was a little double date. We
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: had dinner up on a rooftop somewhere, and then afterwards,
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: at ten forty five, we went to this speakeasy magic show.
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: It's a really cool setup. You go in, you kind
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: of in this waiting area, like inside of this bar.
• 40:14
  Speaker 2: Guy comes up and grabs you.
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: He was like, was there a secret cut?
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: Uh? Yeah, but the person who booked it had to
• 40:20
  Speaker 2: do all the secret codes stuff, gotcha Okay, So he
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: grabs sham, takes him over. Hey, you guys are going
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: to the other side. Tell him George sent you go
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: to the other side. It's the cleaners, to where the
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: cleaners is closed. And you walk in and you know,
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: you got the desk sitting up front. You got all
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: these clothes hanging from like dry cleaning and everything else.
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: You say, what the code is, Hey, George sent us,
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: and you take your little coupon. You walk behind. There's
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: like a door behind all the closes. You're like walking
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: through the close and everything else. There's a secret little door.
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: You entered the secret door, and then you're back in
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: this bar area with a little stage and it was
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: a magic show. We had a great time at the
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: magic show, a lot of different magicians. You know, they
• 40:56
  Speaker 2: have about ten minutes at each table and they get
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: up and they do different they do different sets, they
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: do different things.
• 41:03
  Speaker 3: It was a great night.
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: During that night again double date, we had a sitter
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: for all four kids at my wife's friend's apartment. So
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: Ruin Scott Yeah, ru and Scottie are essentially having a
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: little sleepover at at Susan's. Okay, so they're at Susan's.
• 41:25
  Speaker 2: They have a little movie night, they watch Frozen, they
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: go down to sleep. Rue's having a little sleeping bag sleepover.
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: Scotty's down for the count around seven, seven thirty. She's
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: the easy one to put down. And Rue and and Uh.
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: The two friends, the eight year old and the five
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: year old, they do a little sleepover together in one
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: of their bedrooms. And throughout that night they're alluding to, hey,
• 41:47
  Speaker 2: the kids seem like they're having a great time. They
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: can just stay all night at our house. And Charles's
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: kind of pushing back, Oh, we can go back and
• 41:53
  Speaker 2: we can get them, And in my mind bubbling up
• 41:56
  Speaker 2: is like, hey, if they're offering, and take them up
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: on this offer, and we could just go back to
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: our hotel room or four hundred foot square foot hotel room.
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: We could have the bed to ourselves, we could sleep
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: and we don't have to worry about the kids in.
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: That in that moment, are you doing any hints towards
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: Jara of kind of like a hey, no.
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: I think I nudge her one time, like, hey, it'd
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: be kind of nice, kind of nice. She's like, hey, sweetheart,
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: there are kids. I feel you, I feel you, but.
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: Would be nice.
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: And at this point, it's like one one thirty in
• 42:28
  Speaker 2: the morning, and I am absolutely beat. Everybody's kinda beat,
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: and we're finishing out this magic show. And again they're
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: doubling down, doubling down on. Hey, they're already asleep. They
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: can just sleep at our they can just sleep at
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: the apartment, and they you know, we'll just we'll handle
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: them in the morning.
• 42:46
  Speaker 3: And I'm thinking it.
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: Could be kind of nice, sweetheart, come on, she doesn't
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: want to do it. They they're tripling down.
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: I was just about to say, don't tell me they
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: triple down, tripled Then then it's like you you may
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: even be kind of rude. Then it's like, what they
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: don't want their kid, We're not good enough.
• 43:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, and then yeah. Then he gets to the
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: point where I'm like, we're uber and back, and I'm
• 43:09
  Speaker 2: thinking to myself, why aren't we getting an uber back
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: to the hotel like they've offered us, Like, why not
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: take them up on this offer, knowing that my man
• 43:18
  Speaker 2: Chris on the other side is probably like, he's probably
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: i'd be nice. You guys can get your kids. You know,
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: he's not saying nothing, No, he's like, yeah, he'll be fine,
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: dam too.
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: Or I know my man Chris, He's like, yeah, you guys.
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: Get your kids. Get you And I'm thinking, hey, sweet,
• 43:34
  Speaker 2: let's fucking just go back to the hotel room. So
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: we go back, We wake them up. It's two in
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: the morning, we wake up, we wake up Scottie, you know,
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: Charles getting Scottie and the carrier.
• 43:45
  Speaker 3: I'm getting rue.
• 43:47
  Speaker 2: We get an uber to go back to the hotel,
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: roosting a tantrum the entire time back to hotel. Obviously
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: she's tired, Yeah, all the different things, right, And I'm
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: just sitting there, I'm exhausted, and I'm starting to get
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: in like a bad mood for the fact that we
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: ended up taking the kids back to the hotel. And
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: we're pushing them down. We're going down the hall. We
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: got the stroller going down the hall. And Troll makes
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: a comment, it seems like you're it seems like you're
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: kind of mad, kind of mad at me right now,
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: because I think roommate the comment like that day you frustrated.
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: Oh no, that is not frustrated, that is just tired.
• 44:18
  Speaker 2: And charl goes, it feels like you're kind of mad
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: at me right now. And I'm like, we could have
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: left the kids at the apartment and came back to
• 44:25
  Speaker 2: the hotel. This is basically all I said. Oh so
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: you are mad at me. I'm just saying it would
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: have been nice if we could have just came back
• 44:31
  Speaker 2: to the hotel room and got some sleep with each other.
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: And so I'm, you know, doing this thing when when
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: I get upset, I'm very much like an internal an
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: internal being. A lot of things fester inside. I'm more
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: so suppressed. I suppress. I know my therapist would say, hey,
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: you need to talk about this stuff. I'm a guy
• 44:47
  Speaker 2: that suppresses my emotions when when.
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: I've traveled with you for travel shoots, that happens also
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: when you get tired. It seems like yeah, so it
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: was a little double down.
• 44:59
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, we were wipe.
• 45:01
  Speaker 2: We were exhausted because you're run around, you're doing some
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: with the kids all day, and nap time there wasn't
• 45:05
  Speaker 2: really a whole much of a nap time because again
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: you're just on the move, you're in a different city. Yes,
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: And then when we're going back to our hotel room,
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: like our hotel room is insanely small, so we're all
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: four on the bed, Scotty's playing. You're trying to get
• 45:17
  Speaker 2: her down, but she doesn't really want to go down,
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: so it's like, all right, we're just gonna eat this
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: nap time. So everyone's essentially just exhausted. And because I
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: was on an earth, now that was a different that
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: was a different day. All these days run together. But
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: you're sleeping in you're sleeping in the bed with your toddler.
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: We don't do we don't normally do that. So it
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: was like, you know, she's adjusting all night long. You're
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: waking up like about eight times because her foot is
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: like on your face and you're like, hey, sweetheart, you got.
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: To move over.
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: Go bother mom or something apparently like between them and pillow. Yeah,
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: she's in between us. But we were just at that
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: part of the night to where there was not a
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: lot of like, uh, diplomatic resolution. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: know what I mean. Yeah, and uh, where we said
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: a few things back and forth to each each other.
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: Okay that I'm not proud of. I know she's not
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: proud of. I escalated the situation because I more so
• 46:06
  Speaker 2: wanted to suppress a maternalize and say no, I don't
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: want to talk about this shit. I want to go
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: to bed and I want to sleep on it. It's like, oh,
• 46:13
  Speaker 2: so you don't want to get you don't want to
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: get this figured out and talk about it tonight. No,
• 46:16
  Speaker 2: I don't want to talk about it tonight. I want
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: to go to sleep. I want to put the kid down.
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: I want to go to sleep. Well, she's like, well,
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: Ru's already asleep, but can't you just help me with Scotty.
• 46:24
  Speaker 2: I still got to do my face routine and brush
• 46:26
  Speaker 2: my teeth and everything else. And I told her, I said,
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: I told you that when we got to the apartment
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: that I had Ru, meaning you have Scotti. So even
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: though Ruth's asleep, that's a win for me. You got
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: to put Scottie down. That was the deal. So, oh,
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: so you're not going to be my teammate. You can't
• 46:46
  Speaker 2: have some perspective on how I've been grinding with the
• 46:49
  Speaker 2: kiddos all week long out here in New York while
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: you were in Chicago. I'm like, oh, so now you
• 46:53
  Speaker 2: want to bring up the scoreboard. Now you want to
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: scoreboard me to death? Make me feel guilty. I wish
• 46:58
  Speaker 2: I could have been out here with you.
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: Are you in your pjs while you're having this?
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: Just in my short so yeah, I guess I'm in
• 47:06
  Speaker 2: my pj's. I'm like scratching Ru's back, And there's a
• 47:09
  Speaker 2: part of you, there's a part of me after the fact.
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: I wasn't thinking about it in the moment, but after
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: the fact that my I kind of hate that. I
• 47:13
  Speaker 2: was kind of going back and forth with mom, like
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: because Rue was there. I think she was sleeping, But
• 47:18
  Speaker 2: you know, when you're young, it's like you could be
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: fake sleeping and you're listening to mom and dad argue.
• 47:21
  Speaker 2: I don't know if she's old enough to have that
• 47:23
  Speaker 2: figured out yet.
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: Well you all doing Uh have you ever seen the
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: other guys?
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah? Of course, which we're fighting.
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: You said I that means you have Scotty.
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: You No, No, we were not wasn't too high, but
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: we were allowed. We were loud enough. I was loud
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: enough for sure. And I kind of do things where
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: like roll over there, Charles like sitting there like like shaking,
• 47:46
  Speaker 2: like you know, rocking Scotty trying to get her to
• 47:48
  Speaker 2: sleep because she's fussy now. But you got Scottie at
• 47:52
  Speaker 2: that volume with that Yeah, I think I I can't
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: believe remember, oh, no thing. I kind of like roll
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: over and I'm trying to fall asleep and try not
• 48:02
  Speaker 2: to think about all the words that I said because
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: I'm trying to just sleep. She's like, so you don't
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: want to figure this out. No, I don't want to
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: figure this out. I want to go to sleep. Just
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: log us a therapy session. We can talk about this
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: with a therapist. And she's like, we don't have she's
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: not booked for next week. I'm like, well, you better
• 48:19
  Speaker 2: book her because we need to figure out We got
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: to Yeah, we got to talk about this conversation with
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: the therapist. And she's like, oh, it doesn't seem like
• 48:26
  Speaker 2: it's very healthy if we have to use the therapist
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: to talk about this, Like we need to be using.
• 48:30
  Speaker 2: We need to be doing the stuff that she's talked to.
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: Us about to help us through. Not to solve every Yeah, yeah,
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: not to solve it.
• 48:38
  Speaker 2: The sweethearted is June you don't want to respect mental
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: What is it mental Health Awareness Month?
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: I think it's Pride month? Is it both? Yeah?
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: It might be both, It might be better. Yeah, yeah,
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: June teenth, Come on, there's a lot of things going on,
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: of things going on.
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: Come on, dude, June's a big month.
• 48:52
  Speaker 2: And I like to think I I kind of I
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: hardheaded that argument to where listen, I'm going to sleep.
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: I don't want to argue about that.
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: I want to talk about this being a dude, being
• 49:03
  Speaker 2: a full on dude, having a low moment as a husband,
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: as a father, and as a man.
• 49:08
  Speaker 3: In the next morning, she beats me to an apology.
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: She's like, hey, you know, I'm sorry for uh I
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: said some things I didn't mean last time. I am
• 49:15
  Speaker 2: sorry for bringing the schoolboard that makes it. I didn't
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: want it to go there, and I was like, I
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: want to be I did want to. I needed to
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: be the first to apologize because I was being a
• 49:23
  Speaker 2: bit about the entire situation, because I just wanted to,
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: like just go back to the room. We don't got
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: the kids. It's like they offered, we take it up night,
• 49:31
  Speaker 2: me and you. We go back, we sleep, we wake up,
• 49:33
  Speaker 2: we go down and get lattes, like we enjoyed just
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: a nice little morning before a little pool day that
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: we were about to have on Saturday or whenever that was.
• 49:43
  Speaker 3: And she's giving me the whole Hey, the kids are.
• 49:45
  Speaker 2: Our responsibility, Like, I don't want to put our kids,
• 49:48
  Speaker 2: the responsibility of our kids on my friend when even
• 49:51
  Speaker 2: though she's offering and saying yes, like I know what
• 49:54
  Speaker 2: it takes to, you know, handle a couple of kids,
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: and they would have all four of them doing all
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: their morning routines and they're getting the same amount of
• 50:00
  Speaker 2: that we're getting. Yeah, And she's like it's our kids
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: are our responsibility. I'm thinking of myself like, yes, she's right,
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: but we would have had a little lifeline, we would
• 50:08
  Speaker 2: have had a little anyway, what I'm cracking a cold
• 50:12
  Speaker 2: one too. We ended up finding our way back to
• 50:14
  Speaker 2: each other. We were both apologetic to each other because
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: you know, I was being a pussy. Yeah, well that's
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: why I said. I was like, I'm sorry for being
• 50:21
  Speaker 2: a pussy last night. Like I was really bitching about
• 50:24
  Speaker 2: it and I was taking it out on you, and
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry for that.
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: Everyone won in that situation.
• 50:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's one of those I was going back and
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: forth on if I wanted to tell that story on here,
• 50:37
  Speaker 2: But then I think, like, that's real life. Yeah, that's
• 50:42
  Speaker 2: a that's like you go at it, and that's a
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: perfect example of an argument over something like trivial when
• 50:50
  Speaker 2: you look back at it now. Yeah, but it was
• 50:53
  Speaker 2: a good moment of like Charro's going off of that
• 50:55
  Speaker 2: philosophy of like the right choice here is the harder
• 50:58
  Speaker 2: one to make to go pick up our kids. Now
• 51:02
  Speaker 2: you say that, I feel even worse because you're one
• 51:04
  Speaker 2: hundred percent right.
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: Like, and I live by those words just because Jill's
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: stepdad says religiously, He's like, if you have two options,
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: the right one is usually the harder one to do.
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, all right, God.
• 51:15
  Speaker 2: But that doesn't I couldn't see that, so I could
• 51:18
  Speaker 2: not see it in the moment.
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: I didn't want to see that in the moment. We
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: always get blinded in moments like that. I do all
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: the time. Yeah, and I'm really bad. I feel like
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: every single wedding I've ever been to, the dad of
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: the bride that like, you know, talks that right before
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: the receptions about the guys. You know, the only advice
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: I'd give you guys is, uh, never go to bed angry.
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: You know, solve it before you go, Like, dude, I
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: know that's what they all say.
• 51:47
  Speaker 2: The whole Yeah, don't go to bed angry. I struggle
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: with that because I am just such a being that
• 51:53
  Speaker 2: I almost need a night's sleep and I'll be a
• 51:56
  Speaker 2: lot more clear minded when I wake up, because when
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: I'm in it, I'm just not in I'm just not
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: in the mental space to solve it the way that
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: we actually need to solve it.
• 52:06
  Speaker 1: Yes, Jill sounds like very similar to Charro. She wants
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: to do it right then and there and what that entails.
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: And this is nothing against Jill. That it's gonna be
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: a lot of monologuing from Jill, and I need to
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: keep maintain eye contact. I need to show her that
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: I'm listening. But it's also one point thirty in the morning.
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: I want to go to bed. I'm exhausted, and I
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: don't have the brain capacity to fully solve this thing.
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: And it's hard. It's a double edged sword because it's like, Jill,
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: you're not getting the best of me right now. I
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: know you want to solve this right now, but you
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: you're getting a pissed off, upset, tired, and probably hungry
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: sherman right now. Who sucks. That's the worst version of me.
• 52:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: So if we did this tomorrow, yeah, with sound minds
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: and a nice sleep and some thought. Yeah, but that's
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: just life, dude.
• 52:57
  Speaker 3: They Yeah, can you wake up the next morning?
• 52:59
  Speaker 2: You're kind of feeling a little weird, like, you know,
• 53:00
  Speaker 2: I know I need to say something I need to
• 53:02
  Speaker 2: figure out right at the right time. Yes, right to them,
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: we're kind of like, hey, you want to get Scotty
• 53:07
  Speaker 2: in this? Or hey do you want you know, I'm like, hey,
• 53:10
  Speaker 2: what do you want me to get in the what
• 53:12
  Speaker 2: do we need to get in the green backpack for
• 53:13
  Speaker 2: the day?
• 53:13
  Speaker 3: Like how long were we gonna plan to be out?
• 53:15
  Speaker 2: Like you know, I'm trying to do all the stuff,
• 53:17
  Speaker 2: and you know, it's just sitting in your mind, like
• 53:19
  Speaker 2: we know we have some some words we need to say,
• 53:22
  Speaker 2: like apologizing.
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: What was the little quote you said? The hard the
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: hard choice. The hard choice is usually the right one
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: to make. I'm just gonna call my wife. I have
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: a good feeling about this before she picks up.
• 53:38
  Speaker 2: I have a good feeling about this.
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: It's ten twenty on a Sunday.
• 53:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I we're in the middle of this episode right now,
• 53:47
  Speaker 2: and I just I feel I felt inclined to call
• 53:51
  Speaker 2: you and tell you that I am once again sorry
• 53:54
  Speaker 2: for the way I acted the other night. That Sureham
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: just hit me with a quote that said the hard
• 53:58
  Speaker 2: choice is usually the right choice to make. And in
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: that moment of in that moment of weakness, I was
• 54:07
  Speaker 2: very much trying to take the easy way out, and
• 54:09
  Speaker 2: I was projecting on you in a way that you
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: did not deserve. And again I said it yesterday, but
• 54:15
  Speaker 2: I was I was being a bitch when I was
• 54:17
  Speaker 2: when we were coming back to the hotel, and I
• 54:18
  Speaker 2: just once again, I want to apologize to you and
• 54:20
  Speaker 2: then say I'm sorry a bit. It's kind of, you know,
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: it's kind of a mix because we're on the show.
• 54:28
  Speaker 2: I was kind of talking about my crack of cold.
• 54:30
  Speaker 2: One was finding your way back to your teammate, Charo.
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: I will say this, and I'll just interject here. I
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: do apologize when I said that quote. He grabbed his
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: phone and was like kind of partially halfway listening to
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: what I was talking about. I could tell he was like,
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: I need to call my wife right now. So I
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: don't think this is fully a bit. I think he
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: really did want to call you.
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: Thanks, You're welcome. I hope you hope you're enjoying your night.
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: I know it's ten twenty on a Sunday. I will
• 54:56
  Speaker 2: be home soon. But again, I just yeah, I had
• 55:00
  Speaker 2: loser mentality the other night when Surem hit me with
• 55:02
  Speaker 2: that quote on the hard choice is usually the right one,
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: I was like, God, yes, she was. No. No, I
• 55:11
  Speaker 2: believe that because you were kind of giving me the
• 55:12
  Speaker 2: right like I was thinking of from a perspective of
• 55:15
  Speaker 2: more selfishness, on we would have a room to ourselves,
• 55:18
  Speaker 2: your your friends tripled down and offered to have the kids,
• 55:22
  Speaker 2: and that felt like the easiest, most comfortable choice to make.
• 55:25
  Speaker 2: And when ru hit me, or when not Rue, when
• 55:27
  Speaker 2: Suram hit me with that quote, I'm thinking back to it,
• 55:29
  Speaker 2: and you were leaning into I know, but these the
• 55:32
  Speaker 2: kids are our responsibilities. So I'm like, you were choosing
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: the hard choice even though you probably you know you
• 55:37
  Speaker 2: would have loved to have done the same thing as me.
• 55:42
  Speaker 4: I don't know what to say, because.
• 55:47
  Speaker 3: You could just say I love you and you're the
• 55:48
  Speaker 3: best husband in the world.
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: Well, I agree, Okay, let's go.
• 55:56
  Speaker 2: I love you, so I'll see you later. I think
• 56:00
  Speaker 2: they went well.
• 56:01
  Speaker 1: I think that Hey, I think that was pretty good.
• 56:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it went pretty good, she said, I.
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: Agree with what you said.
• 56:10
  Speaker 2: She did.
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: Yell you. Yeah, hey, we're you're if like you're in
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: the doghouse right now. I think you're like well out
• 56:18
  Speaker 1: of it, you know what I mean, Like your tails
• 56:20
  Speaker 1: still might be in the doghouse.
• 56:21
  Speaker 2: Ol, buddy, out of the doghouse, when I tell you,
• 56:23
  Speaker 2: I put on a heroic performance when we had to
• 56:26
  Speaker 2: sit on the tarmac for ooh, that's all of two
• 56:29
  Speaker 2: and a half hours today when we were flying back
• 56:31
  Speaker 2: from LaGuardia. Yeah yeah, I mean I had Rue all right,
• 56:35
  Speaker 2: had Scotty on my lap. I you know, BASE essentially
• 56:38
  Speaker 2: gave Charles like a two two and a half hour
• 56:41
  Speaker 2: break because I was like, hey, do you want me
• 56:42
  Speaker 2: to hold Scotty? And because I again Charles like carrying Scotty.
• 56:47
  Speaker 2: I'm messing with Rue a lot of the time. But dude,
• 56:50
  Speaker 2: when you're stuck on the tarmac. We were stuck on
• 56:52
  Speaker 2: the runway. We were supposed to fly out at noon.
• 56:55
  Speaker 2: We got on, we got boarded around twelve thirty, and
• 56:58
  Speaker 2: we didn't leave until about three, like take off till
• 57:01
  Speaker 2: about three. Like that. Dude, that's a different kind of Hell. Yeah,
• 57:04
  Speaker 2: that's a different type of Like the kids were good
• 57:07
  Speaker 2: for the most part, Little dad hack out there. If
• 57:10
  Speaker 2: you're flying with your family, always sit by the window.
• 57:14
  Speaker 2: Reason being if there's a blowout or a heavy diaper
• 57:19
  Speaker 2: and your wife's in the aisle, she would usually have
• 57:22
  Speaker 2: to be the one to go to the back.
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: After that, photegal. Yeah, it's crazy, it's crazy.
• 57:32
  Speaker 2: But you got you got to you got to strategize
• 57:36
  Speaker 2: at some points. I listen, I was I was a one.
• 57:39
  Speaker 2: They were in c but they got to do the
• 57:41
  Speaker 2: family boarding after a But I don't work this hard
• 57:43
  Speaker 2: to you know, just let my A one go to
• 57:46
  Speaker 2: waste on Southwest. Yeah, so I hold down the row
• 57:50
  Speaker 2: that we're gonna be on full flight, not an empty seat,
• 57:52
  Speaker 2: the entire not an empty seat when we were taking off.
• 57:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, so I'm holding down the row and it's like,
• 57:58
  Speaker 2: you know, I just happen to be on the inside.
• 58:00
  Speaker 3: And I was thinking about.
• 58:01
  Speaker 2: This whenever we were getting towards the end and Scottie
• 58:03
  Speaker 2: I was seeing kind of a blowout. She had wetness
• 58:05
  Speaker 2: on the outside of that. Oh shit, nice, know, we
• 58:11
  Speaker 2: gotta change it. But matter of fact, Charle changes are
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: right there in the row. I ended up putting Rue
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: on my lap and she just changes Scotty right there
• 58:18
  Speaker 2: in the middle seat. Oh damn, Yeah, Charles scared to
• 58:22
  Speaker 2: get her hands dirty.
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: No, that's dial.
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: She ain't scared to get her hands dirty. She'll she'll
• 58:29
  Speaker 2: do it in public if she has to.
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: I need to train on diaper training. By the way,
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: that is something that I am very like, not nervous about.
• 58:40
  Speaker 1: But I'm like, I want to be a pro. I
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: want to be an Officianado.
• 58:44
  Speaker 2: Oh you'll you'll get there. You'll, you'll, you'll you'll learn quick.
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: You'll learn quick watching you do it that one time.
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: It's the only barrier you get across. You got to
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: get across is once you realize there they're more durable
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: than you INTI bait.
• 59:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because you want to be very careful. You think
• 59:02
  Speaker 2: everything hurts them. Like when I was putting clothes on Rue,
• 59:05
  Speaker 2: for I mean really first several months, I'm always like
• 59:09
  Speaker 2: very careful because I don't want to pull a string
• 59:11
  Speaker 2: of a strand of hair, you know what I mean. I
• 59:13
  Speaker 2: don't want her to be uncomfortable as I'm trying to
• 59:15
  Speaker 2: put like a shirt or something over a head. But
• 59:17
  Speaker 2: once you get past kind of that barrier that they're
• 59:19
  Speaker 2: that they're pretty durable, then you'll you'll get rolling.
• 59:23
  Speaker 3: Not in a way to where you're throwing them around.
• 59:25
  Speaker 2: But I remember when you were you were at the
• 59:27
  Speaker 2: house and I was like, hey, go ahead, like change
• 59:30
  Speaker 2: your diaper or I was having you do something. Oh,
• 59:33
  Speaker 2: just seeing how you were very cautious.
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: You were having me practice feeding. Yeah, you have practice feeding.
• 59:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I was holding on when I was showing you
• 59:44
  Speaker 2: the diaper. I was showing you you.
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: Showed me the diaper change.
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: But then you were like, hey you can feed her
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: like here, you put your elbow up here.
• 59:52
  Speaker 2: Yes, you were being super which I completely get. Like
• 59:56
  Speaker 2: I was the same, Like I was the same way.
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: I was holding a glass ballerina. Yeah, I was like,
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 1: what in the world is this? Yeah, You're like not.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 2: Get her, get her sitting up.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: You gotta push it in just I'm like late, and
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: then Brad doing the bottle during the trailer. Dude, I
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: always think about that, putting the bottle underneath his chin
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: and Scotty just I'm like, oh my god, I was
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: getting so nervous.
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 2: So easy, there you go.
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 1: You're sitting like ten feet back. You're like, what are
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: you doing?
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 2: Just move it. Yeah.
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 1: We ran long again, which is which is totally fine,
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: Which is totally fine. But I was going to kick
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 1: it too. We had a survival kit and a dad hack.
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 1: I was gonna hit the what are the odds?
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 3: What was your crack a cold one?
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, okay, crack a cold one will probably.
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 2: Listen, listen. We got enough comments. People don't care.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 3: If it goes over.
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 1: It's okay.
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 3: If we go, it's okay if it goes over. Until
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 3: people say, hey, you guys gonna shut the fuck up.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 2: I think it's all right. I think we gotta go.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 2: I think we got enough good feedback. Like in my head,
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 2: I'm thinking these would be a lot better if they're
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 2: under an hour. I would love to ideally hit that
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: every episode. Yeah, but no, Like I don't know if
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 2: I'm in my own head about it. A lot of
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 2: the times and all the reassuring comments. It's like, hey,
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 2: we love you guys, taking your time, you guys talking
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 2: everything else.
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 3: It's kind of like, bro, just rip it.
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 2: Bro.
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 1: Well, if we're coming in with two stories like that
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 1: off the top, I mean those are bangers. We looked up.
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: We looked up after the choking story, it was thirty
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 1: five minutes.
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and that felt like that.
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it was the worst minutes I've ever been through.
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 1: You're having to listen to that. Yeah, okay, So my
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 1: crack a cold one.
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 2: Uh.
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 1: Will brought up Daily Dad, and then he also brought
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 1: up Strong Fathers Strong Daughters. I made it my homework
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 1: assignment that first week to get both of those books.
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 1: I have both of those books as well. Some others
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 1: shout out Papa Sheerm. He listens to the episodes. He
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 1: actually the one that got on Amazon and said, I
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 1: heard you wanted these? Do you want these? As like
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 1: a little gift, let's go. So Papa Shirm hooked it up.
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 1: I dove into Strong Father's Strong Daughters. I literally have
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 1: only read the intro. So we got it last night
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 1: or two days ago. I got it and started reading
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 1: it last night out loud to Jill. I have only
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 1: gotten through the intro and then like part of chapter one,
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 1: but I cannot recommend it more just because the introduction
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 1: is and I forget the author's name. That's terrible that
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 1: I forgot her name. Strong Father's Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker,
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 1: shout out Magneeker. So written by a woman, And essentially
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: in the introduction, she's like, hey, listen, I've been a
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: doctor for like this long I've had to treat She's
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 1: done some stuff in mental health as well as well
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 1: as being like a family pressitioner, I think is what
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 1: she is. She's like, I've had all these daughters come in,
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 1: all these girls, it's the same thing about their dad,
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 1: of like, these are the types of qualities that I
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 1: love in my dad, or somebody that had a terrible
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 1: relationship with my dad. It's these are the things that
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 1: I really wanted from my dad. Yeah, And she's basically
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: sitting there in that introduction and just being like, Dad's
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 1: you are the most important relationship with your daughter no
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 1: matter what. Don't care who they married, don't care who
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 1: they date, who their best friend is, if they're best
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 1: friends with Taylor Swift, does not matter. You are going
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 1: to be the most important relationship in your daughter's life.
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 1: Bar Nune. Even with mom and hearing that and reading
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 1: it aloud, and then Jill like sitting there on the couch,
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 1: it was fun, dude. I was getting like actually really
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 1: juiced up of like because I'm hearing you talk about that,
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 1: I'm hearing Jill every now and then she said this
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 1: great quote, She's like, the only thing I've ever been
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 1: worried about you, Sherman, is that our kids are gonna
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 1: love you more than me. And she was like, and
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 1: that's the best thing I could ever be worried about.
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 1: And she's always talking about Scarlet's gonna be a daddy's girl,
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: She's gonna be obsessed with you. You're gonna be her favorite
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 1: person in the whole world. So like hearing all those
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 1: things and then reading from this doctor Meg Meeker that
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 1: wrote this like best selling book, like it is your
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 1: job to be her needle in life, of like morality,
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 1: of spiritually, of emotionally, Like you are going to be
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 1: the driving force in her life. Buckle up, because you
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 1: play a really important role. And she had a great
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 1: quote she was like, if you knew how important your
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 1: role was in your daughter's life, you'd be terrified. And
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 1: I stopped reading out loud, and I looked at Jill.
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 1: I said, well, good thing. I'm already scared shitless, so
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 1: I uh, like, I'm very excited, and so I wanted
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 1: to crack a cold one to you. I know we
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 1: already cracked our bud lights, but I'm just oked off
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 1: of like, and that was only off of one night
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 1: of reading. I'm gonna get home. I have so much
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 1: coffee in me it's late at night that I'm gonna
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 1: have to read The Fall asleep. I know exactly what
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 1: I'm reading, So shout out to you and uh for
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 1: that book recommendation, and I'll do like a more succinct
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 1: breakdown I guess of like each chapter as I go
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 1: through it.
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's I'm only a few chapters in, but it is.
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 2: It's cool that you say that too, because I feel
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 2: like a lot of people have DM me saying that
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 2: they got that, that they got strong Fall Strong sick.
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 2: People I've talked or have mentioned The Daily Dad. I
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 2: know I've recommended it before, and a couple of people
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 2: also were talking about the twelve hours and twelve weeks
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 2: like a sleep the sleeping method, but a lot of
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 2: people getting strong father strong daughters, And dude, I'm telling you,
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 2: whether again you're an expecting father, whether you're somebody that's
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 2: already doing it and your daughter is young, whether you're
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 2: older and you have a teenage daughter, Like, there are
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 2: so many stories that she breaks down on that Yeah,
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 2: it's like the greatest thing in the world, and you,
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 2: just as I'm reading it, you already know it's going
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 2: to be one of the hardest things in the world,
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 2: especially when they get older and resent you and have
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 2: all these things where they push back on and they
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 2: don't listen to you, and you kind of, I would assume,
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 2: feel like you don't have a great relationship with your daughter.
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 2: You come across a lot of these stories that you're
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 2: almost it's like in my head as I'm reading it
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 2: and I have a three year old, it's like, oh,
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 2: this is going to be inevitable that you're going to
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 2: have these like bumps in the road, or these could
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 2: potentially be long periods of feeling like you're not doing
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 2: good enough for your daughter. So even if you're a
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 2: dad right now and you have a teenager, you have
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 2: somebody who's in their twenties, and you'll read these stories
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 2: and I'm sure you'll get whether it's flashbacks or even
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 2: things to look out and prepare for that you're not
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 2: going to be able to stop just because you feel
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 2: like you have the best relationship of all time with
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 2: your daughter, because it seems just from what I'm reading
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 2: that there are going to be those moments. There's gonna
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 2: be those phases impossibly like years where it seems like
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 2: they're far away from you. So it's cool. I think
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 2: the book is incredible. I think that I would strongly
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 2: recommend the book to every girl that out there.
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, it's sick. Even when you were just talking
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 1: about in the teenage years when they started pushing back,
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 1: she was like, that's when they need you even there most.
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 2: And it's not even something that I feel like you're
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 2: going to have like a result from. Yeah, it's just
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 2: going to be knowing that you still have to intentionally,
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 2: just through your actions, just show that you're being there,
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 2: because it's it's like them testing you, and they might
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 2: not even know that they're testing you because they're so
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 2: they're so hormonal, Yeah, that they might just be resistant
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 2: to you. But it's like I feel like the book
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 2: gives you a lot of good perspective to be prepared
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 2: for or again, you might be in it. You might
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 2: be in those teenage years to where you just you're
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 2: able to compartmentalize and understand what's happening, and it gives
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 2: you some good practical ways to continue to show up
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 2: even though it probably doesn't feel like you're showing up. Yeah,
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 2: so the book is the book is incredible so far.
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 1: One last note I would say on the book that
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 1: was something that caught my attention. And the introduction was
• 1:08:08
  Speaker 1: she said, and this is for any dad's out there
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 1: that like maybe you don't have the strongest relationship with
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 1: your daughter. She had a great quote, and they're saying,
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 1: this book isn't just for like dad's at the you know,
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 1: precipice of this relationship. If you're trying to heal or
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 1: trying to like recover that relationship with your daughter, it
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 1: is never too late. And that's Meg Meeker's words and
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 1: not mine, but she says, you know, it's never too
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 1: late to revitalize that relationship, Like even if you are
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 1: separated from your daughter right now, like there's still a
• 1:08:40
  Speaker 1: place in her heart where like she wants dad, she
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 1: needs dad. So I thought that those were powerful words.
• 1:08:46
  Speaker 1: I was like, damn, dude.
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 2: Dude, it's it's buckle up. You'll get you'll get teary eyed.
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah I'm not.
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 1: I mean I didn't last night, but you'll.
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 2: Even get teary eyed over the stories that you kind
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 2: of just read about. That's like, it's just you know,
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 2: it's tough.
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 1: There were there were some stuff just at the beginning
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 1: of chapter one where she was talking about like sex
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 1: education and stuff for you know, what the kids are
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 1: learning in school. And this book was written I don't
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 1: know when, but it sounds like maybe written a ways back,
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 1: not too far back, but like we have Google, Yeah,
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 1: we do have Google.
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 2: There's gonna be one story you come up on here
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 2: pretty soon to where it's like the daughter, something happened
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 2: to the daughter and she kind of told her dad,
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 2: and her dad was going off for like a uh.
• 1:09:32
  Speaker 1: Two thousand and six, okay, because.
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, six, her dad was going out for a tea time,
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 2: and the daughter was kind of telling her dad and
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 2: he just made the comment like, oh, boys will be boys,
• 1:09:43
  Speaker 2: and just that comment right there, and it dives into
• 1:09:46
  Speaker 2: it dives into that that girl's story and it just
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 2: I don't know, man, You'll you'll you'll get a lot
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 2: of perspective, a lot of like, oh shit stuff that
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 2: you'll just think about like as a man, you know
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 2: what I mean. Yeah, that if you don't know any better,
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 2: you get caught up and hearing the whole.
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 1: Boys will be boy's phrase.
• 1:10:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And now that it's like you have a daughter
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 2: and you're you're seeing it from a whole different perspective
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 2: and a whole different lens, you just realize how truly
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 2: important like those moments are.
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 3: It's you'll like it.
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 1: Damn, I'm still you'll like it. But that was that
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 1: was my kracker cole one. And did you already do
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 1: your crackerle one?
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 2: My cracker hole was finding your way back to your tea.
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 2: My cracker call one ended in a phone call to
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 2: the missus, just hey, sweet, I just want you to know,
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 2: is this a bit? I am on the show? You
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 2: are calling me out saying that this is a bit.
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 2: But I do mean every word that I'm saying.
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 1: I was just checking my mis calls because I saw
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 1: a Jay on there for Jill, but it was actually
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 1: Jared Beamon, who might be the second most important Jay
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: in my life.
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Jared Demon.
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 1: Jared Demon, that's a producer here. We got, we got.
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 1: You have a what are the odds? I do have
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 1: a what are the odds? I put Will on the
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 1: spot earlier. I've warned you multiple times. This has been
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 1: a recurring issue with me at my past jobs. I
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 1: do a very poor job of asking for PTO in advance.
• 1:11:11
  Speaker 1: I feel like this was well in advance, though, But
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 1: I did put you on the spot in front of
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 1: chef and I said, Hey, Baylor is playing Auburn for
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 1: their season opener night game blackout in Waco. Ari bought
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 1: tickets for it. What are the odds night game blackout Waco?
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 1: Scarlett is going?
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that was so Sran was like, so I got
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 2: tickets to this game. It's like August twenty ninth, August
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 2: twenty eight, somewhere around there.
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 2: Paternity leave, I know, I got it up until football
• 1:11:46
  Speaker 2: season starts. However, once paternity to leave in what's paternity leave.
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 1: In labor day weekend?
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah? How about some vacation time? What are the changes?
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 2: I get out of the office and go to the
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 2: Baylor home opener blackout blackout, I said, I don't see
• 1:12:05
  Speaker 2: why not.
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 3: I reserve the right to change my mind.
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 1: You one hundred percent do you one hundred percent.
• 1:12:10
  Speaker 2: Don't see why not? I think you are insane. How
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 2: old Scarlet gonna be eight weeks? Yeah, maybe two months? Yeah,
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 2: you're taking her to a game? Hell yeah, she's going
• 1:12:20
  Speaker 2: phones on.
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 1: Hell yeah.
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 3: You know you ain't gonna You're not gonna be at
• 1:12:23
  Speaker 3: that entire game.
• 1:12:25
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, No, I'll be in the concourse probably, you know,
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 1: five minutes in the first quarter, Jill going, Jill's going. Okay,
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 1: it's a family affair.
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 2: So if it's a full, premeditated, planned out affair, got
• 1:12:37
  Speaker 2: a hotel room in Waco, there's a chance you might
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 2: get to be at the entire game. But I would
• 1:12:43
  Speaker 2: assume eight weeks postpartum, she ain't gonna want to say.
• 1:12:49
  Speaker 1: That whole fucking game.
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 2: She's gonna be at that game. When you guys get
• 1:12:53
  Speaker 2: in Waco, she's gonna be like, what the fuck are
• 1:12:55
  Speaker 2: we doing?
• 1:12:55
  Speaker 1: She and to bring it to bring it back to
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 1: our buck or my motherfucked quit talking about CFP. She's
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 1: actually very stoked for the sounding yeah right now, So
• 1:13:09
  Speaker 1: you're saying the what are the odds shout out FanDuel
• 1:13:12
  Speaker 1: the what are the odds? And what are the odds?
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 1: Might not even be with your boss. Yeah, no, the
• 1:13:16
  Speaker 1: what are the odds are? Will we make it through
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 1: the whole game? Can Scarlett make it through a full
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 1: ninety those odds?
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 2: Or you're got you got plus fifteen hundred at least? Okay,
• 1:13:28
  Speaker 2: I can make it through the whole game. I mean
• 1:13:32
  Speaker 2: I know that this might be a little tam I
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 2: and you don't even have to share this is she breastfeeding?
• 1:13:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah? I feel so kind of weird as but they
• 1:13:42
  Speaker 1: have they have the little you know, like kids sections,
• 1:13:47
  Speaker 1: the little baby sections that you go into in the
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 1: concourse for like the breastfeeding. The diaper changes could be
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 1: kind of nice.
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 2: Could be kind of nice. I'm excited to hear how
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 2: that experience goes. The chef said, we need a dad vlog?
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah we are. This is for the dads.
• 1:14:06
  Speaker 1: Can I at some point I.
• 1:14:07
  Speaker 2: Would assume we might expand in the vlogs?
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 1: Can I, uh, could we send somebody down to film
• 1:14:17
  Speaker 1: that blog?
• 1:14:18
  Speaker 2: Possibly potentially if I buy the game ticket for him? Well,
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 2: I mean that would this this is where it's like
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 2: the company would Oh okay, we're gonna make a vlog
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 2: out of it. It's for the brand. Yeah, yeah, you
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 2: know what I mean. Yeah, you wouldn't have to come
• 1:14:33
  Speaker 2: out of pocket to Okay, this fun.
• 1:14:37
  Speaker 1: That could be fun or it could be the worst
• 1:14:38
  Speaker 1: blog ever because it's like yeah, she you know.
• 1:14:45
  Speaker 2: Oh she she's gonna go feed you mind if I.
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 1: Get the camera chef and Jared or in the hotel
• 1:14:53
  Speaker 1: room we're trying to put her dad. We're like, all right, Jill,
• 1:14:56
  Speaker 1: you mind if we filmed this? Okay, so Jill, hey
• 1:14:58
  Speaker 1: for this scene. It's actually to be really good because
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 1: here's what we're gonna do. But yeah, I guess.
• 1:15:04
  Speaker 2: So.
• 1:15:04
  Speaker 1: One of the odds is will I make it? Will
• 1:15:07
  Speaker 1: I go to the game? Will we make it through
• 1:15:09
  Speaker 1: the game? Now that we've talked through this, you'll go
• 1:15:11
  Speaker 1: to the Yeah you're allowed to go. Yes, Okay, let's now.
• 1:15:14
  Speaker 2: What are the odds is? Will you make it through
• 1:15:16
  Speaker 2: a full game with the missus, like with with the squad.
• 1:15:19
  Speaker 1: And any any bears out there, any dad bears out
• 1:15:26
  Speaker 1: If you gotta eat tips at McLain Stadium, I gotta
• 1:15:31
  Speaker 1: reach out to McLean and see what the.
• 1:15:32
  Speaker 2: Most important thing is that you and Jill are just committed. Yes, dude,
• 1:15:38
  Speaker 2: you guys are committed. I think you can make it happen.
• 1:15:41
  Speaker 2: She told me all she wants again, you keep saying,
• 1:15:44
  Speaker 2: she told me this is a different time frame.
• 1:15:46
  Speaker 1: This is different time frame than eight weeks. But she
• 1:15:49
  Speaker 1: said the only thing she wants in this world is
• 1:15:52
  Speaker 1: sushi and alcohol postpartum. Okay, she said, as long as
• 1:15:57
  Speaker 1: she gets a couple of dogs and a couple old ones,
• 1:16:00
  Speaker 1: a couple of bud lights before the game, She's gonna
• 1:16:04
  Speaker 1: be a happy camper. She's a big beer girl, She's
• 1:16:06
  Speaker 1: a bit a big dog girl. She loves live sporting events.
• 1:16:11
  Speaker 1: I don't think Jill is the issue. I think I
• 1:16:13
  Speaker 1: think Scarlet is the issue.
• 1:16:14
  Speaker 2: Again. This is Jill pre momick in a little differently
• 1:16:21
  Speaker 2: and may maybe maybe maybe she'ld be a road dog
• 1:16:23
  Speaker 2: and none of that will change.
• 1:16:24
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and I'll be sober, sure but all day. Yeah,
• 1:16:27
  Speaker 1: and let her just you babe, you go.
• 1:16:30
  Speaker 2: But it's almost like you like learn different things on
• 1:16:32
  Speaker 2: the fly because moms are so in tune with everything
• 1:16:37
  Speaker 2: that's going on that moments of that they find out
• 1:16:40
  Speaker 2: everything that they put in their body ends up going through.
• 1:16:43
  Speaker 1: If they're breastfeeding. Oh yeah, she wouldn't be able to
• 1:16:45
  Speaker 1: breastfeed if she's drinking. She's not pumping dump.
• 1:16:48
  Speaker 3: Yeah, the old pump and dump. Yeah.
• 1:16:50
  Speaker 2: Fuck so you never know, you never know, never know, Okay, godspeed.
• 1:16:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, there's a lot. It sounds like we're.
• 1:16:57
  Speaker 2: Shut out, fand shut out baby sweetheart, you said we
• 1:17:02
  Speaker 2: was doing this like you know what are the Osmo
• 1:17:04
  Speaker 2: home presented by Fandel We gotta we can't.
• 1:17:07
  Speaker 1: Pump and dump this segment shots going, demons going, They
• 1:17:12
  Speaker 1: will might even go. I think Will's gonna cub.
• 1:17:14
  Speaker 3: No Huskers play Cincinnati. Oh, come on, Augus, come on.
• 1:17:17
  Speaker 1: Now a Baylor two and a half. By the way,
• 1:17:20
  Speaker 1: two and a half dogs at home? Night game Blackout
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 1: be fun game, Be a fun game.
• 1:17:27
  Speaker 2: Uh, Survival Kit dad Hacks, we can rip through these.
• 1:17:31
  Speaker 2: I see you got a survival Kit one on here.
• 1:17:33
  Speaker 2: Like again, Survival Kit and dad Hacks kind of run.
• 1:17:36
  Speaker 2: I feel like they kind of run together because my
• 1:17:39
  Speaker 2: dad hack is almost my dad hack is a product.
• 1:17:42
  Speaker 2: I guess I could be survival Kit. I guess my
• 1:17:44
  Speaker 2: dad hack could have been. And that's not even a
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 2: dad hack, that's a parent hack. Even the mom's out
• 1:17:48
  Speaker 2: there listening. You get that window seat on the plane,
• 1:17:52
  Speaker 2: make the old dog go in the aisle. I'm telling you,
• 1:17:54
  Speaker 2: that's strat right there, that's some high level strat.
• 1:17:57
  Speaker 1: That's strat. That was a gag crazy after that though,
• 1:18:01
  Speaker 1: but it's it's a good strat. I love that strat.
• 1:18:06
  Speaker 2: Hein nobody there dads will even Dad's a vibe with
• 1:18:09
  Speaker 2: this too, But I think there's there's not a dad
• 1:18:12
  Speaker 2: in the game that times up bathroom breaks quite like myself.
• 1:18:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you have said that, you you have Scottie down
• 1:18:19
  Speaker 1: almost to the tea.
• 1:18:22
  Speaker 2: What are you talking about. I'm talking about bathroom breaks
• 1:18:26
  Speaker 2: like you use them as like a lifeline. You're talking
• 1:18:30
  Speaker 2: to hold the kid. You're holding the kid. You've been
• 1:18:32
  Speaker 2: putting in you know, you've been putting in the holden time.
• 1:18:34
  Speaker 2: You've been looking over at the wife. She had been Yeah, hey, Scotty,
• 1:18:38
  Speaker 2: daddy's got to hit the bathroom. You offload them now
• 1:18:41
  Speaker 2: it's their turn to hold the kid. They're not just
• 1:18:43
  Speaker 2: going to give the kid back to you when you
• 1:18:44
  Speaker 2: come back from the bathroom. You'll be going to the
• 1:18:46
  Speaker 2: bathroom doing your thing, and all of a sudden the
• 1:18:48
  Speaker 2: time shifted or it's like.
• 1:18:52
  Speaker 1: You can get an extra a couple of minutes. When
• 1:18:54
  Speaker 1: she tries to hand Scotty back to you, I didn't
• 1:18:56
  Speaker 1: wash my hands.
• 1:18:56
  Speaker 2: Hold on, yeah, hey, let's let's go up and get
• 1:18:59
  Speaker 2: bedtime started. I'm gonna run to the bathroom real quick.
• 1:19:02
  Speaker 2: They'll get bedtime started first. You know what I mean. Yeah,
• 1:19:05
  Speaker 2: it's just a little subtle It's a little subtle game. Okay, now,
• 1:19:09
  Speaker 2: just putting out into the universe.
• 1:19:11
  Speaker 1: I have a note section that I'll add bathroom breaks too.
• 1:19:16
  Speaker 2: I'll come up with more situations too, so that this
• 1:19:18
  Speaker 2: can be like a solid, solid clip in the future.
• 1:19:22
  Speaker 1: I have a for mine. I was just gonna say,
• 1:19:25
  Speaker 1: I'm looking at my survival kit and my dad Hack
• 1:19:27
  Speaker 1: and I feel like they should one hundred percent be switched.
• 1:19:30
  Speaker 1: Now I'm looking at it.
• 1:19:32
  Speaker 2: Let me go ahead and hit the survival kit, my
• 1:19:34
  Speaker 2: survival kit shout out. This baby product is going to
• 1:19:37
  Speaker 2: be is called the mom Cozy. What the mom Cozy
• 1:19:40
  Speaker 2: is is it? It's this deal that you put the
• 1:19:45
  Speaker 2: water in and it heats it up for you. You charge it,
• 1:19:47
  Speaker 2: you have it on the go, but it heats it
• 1:19:50
  Speaker 2: up for you. So if you want to get the
• 1:19:51
  Speaker 2: water up to one oh five. So that way, when
• 1:19:53
  Speaker 2: you have the bottle, once you get to the formula
• 1:19:55
  Speaker 2: phase or the formula stage, or even I guess, yeah,
• 1:20:00
  Speaker 2: breast milk you could just put you could dump breast
• 1:20:01
  Speaker 2: milk in it and it'll heat it up for you.
• 1:20:04
  Speaker 2: So if you're on the go, grab some some room temp,
• 1:20:07
  Speaker 2: water cold, what doesn't even matter. Throw water in it,
• 1:20:10
  Speaker 2: hit the button, gets it up to ninety five, one
• 1:20:13
  Speaker 2: oh five, whatever your desired temperature is.
• 1:20:15
  Speaker 3: Heats it up to it.
• 1:20:16
  Speaker 2: You throw it in the bottle, You put the formula,
• 1:20:18
  Speaker 2: and you shake it up and you're ready to go.
• 1:20:20
  Speaker 2: So my survival kit is called it's called the mom
• 1:20:22
  Speaker 2: Cozy because you'll you'll learn too. It's like if you're
• 1:20:25
  Speaker 2: gonna go out and you might heat up milk before
• 1:20:28
  Speaker 2: you go, thinking like, all right, she's gonna eat or here,
• 1:20:30
  Speaker 2: or she's gonna eat in about twenty to thirty minutes,
• 1:20:32
  Speaker 2: so we'll be able to have a heated bottle in
• 1:20:35
  Speaker 2: the car for him, or like there's some backpacks that
• 1:20:38
  Speaker 2: have like a little insulated insulated sleeve that you might
• 1:20:41
  Speaker 2: set it in and hope that it lasts for however
• 1:20:43
  Speaker 2: long you need it. But this little mom cozy is
• 1:20:46
  Speaker 2: like this little portable heat up like it looks like
• 1:20:50
  Speaker 2: a little I don't want to say yetti, but it's something.
• 1:20:54
  Speaker 2: It's something like that to where you put the water in.
• 1:20:56
  Speaker 2: It's got a little it's got a little battery pack
• 1:20:59
  Speaker 2: on the bottom that you would charge, plug in and charge.
• 1:21:02
  Speaker 2: You charge it up, and whenever you turn on, it'll
• 1:21:05
  Speaker 2: heat up your water to the to the desired temperature.
• 1:21:09
  Speaker 1: This thing looks sick. Yeah, I didn't even know.
• 1:21:12
  Speaker 3: It's a game changer.
• 1:21:13
  Speaker 2: It's a game changer because you could just have in
• 1:21:14
  Speaker 2: you know, again, you could just have a bottle of
• 1:21:17
  Speaker 2: water and whenever it's time to eat or time to feed.
• 1:21:20
  Speaker 2: It could be hours later. But you have this thing,
• 1:21:22
  Speaker 2: and you might be on the go to where you're
• 1:21:23
  Speaker 2: not anywhere where you can get some hot water or
• 1:21:25
  Speaker 2: some warm water, because usually people will heat it up,
• 1:21:27
  Speaker 2: whether you know, they get hot water in this at
• 1:21:29
  Speaker 2: the bottle, yeah, in the in the hot water, or
• 1:21:32
  Speaker 2: they got a little they got a little bottle warmer
• 1:21:34
  Speaker 2: in the house. This is like one on the go.
• 1:21:37
  Speaker 1: I didn't even realize that you had to heat it up.
• 1:21:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:21:40
  Speaker 1: But now, thinking back to one of my favorite movies
• 1:21:43
  Speaker 1: as a kid baby say out. I don't know if
• 1:21:44
  Speaker 1: you'll ever saw that one burns himself trying to heat
• 1:21:47
  Speaker 1: up the bottle the OG's node.
• 1:21:49
  Speaker 2: Then you know, yeah, but I didn't know heat. I
• 1:21:52
  Speaker 2: didn't know you had to have heat and milk either.
• 1:21:54
  Speaker 1: That's crazy, okay, mom cozy because if you.
• 1:21:57
  Speaker 2: Think about it, when they're feeding on the booth, there
• 1:22:00
  Speaker 2: didn't add that body temperature milk. It's coming out warm.
• 1:22:03
  Speaker 1: Bro, I've been learning about uh, colostrum, colosstrum. Yeah, dude,
• 1:22:11
  Speaker 1: I saw some body like.
• 1:22:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, the little yeah, listen to this. So
• 1:22:20
  Speaker 2: apparently this is my wife giving me this game. But
• 1:22:25
  Speaker 2: apparently if your kid is like sick or they have
• 1:22:29
  Speaker 2: a cold or something, the mom their body knows because yeah,
• 1:22:34
  Speaker 2: the baby's like communicating with the tea like when they
• 1:22:37
  Speaker 2: latch on, and they're ultimately telling the mom what it
• 1:22:40
  Speaker 2: needs nutrient wise, and the mom ultimately makes it like
• 1:22:43
  Speaker 2: when they're breastfeeding. So if they're sick or something, the
• 1:22:46
  Speaker 2: mom is like formulating something based off the communication between
• 1:22:50
  Speaker 2: the nipple and the mouth when they connect that hey,
• 1:22:53
  Speaker 2: my body, the baby needs this right now, so it
• 1:22:55
  Speaker 2: provides them the nutrients that they need. Even when they're sick.
• 1:22:58
  Speaker 1: It's crazy here looking for aliens. We've been aliens the
• 1:23:02
  Speaker 1: whole time. That's crazy. Nuts, that's so cool, dude. That
• 1:23:07
  Speaker 1: is like the human body is so badass. Like the
• 1:23:12
  Speaker 1: way that everything on Jill's body is just like changing
• 1:23:15
  Speaker 1: to make this happen is crazy. We were talking about
• 1:23:18
  Speaker 1: like the swelling and the legs. Yeah, these Jill's gone
• 1:23:22
  Speaker 1: up like three shoe sizes, and the fact that there
• 1:23:26
  Speaker 1: is telepathy between the tit and the baby is nuts.
• 1:23:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:23:31
  Speaker 1: And then also for any meat heads out there that
• 1:23:34
  Speaker 1: think that, I swear to God, people like sell colostrum.
• 1:23:39
  Speaker 1: Jill was telling me this. They they will like syringe
• 1:23:42
  Speaker 1: it out and they'll they'll freeze it. And then these
• 1:23:46
  Speaker 1: bodybuilders are like these juice heads.
• 1:23:50
  Speaker 3: One of the best things.
• 1:23:50
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, they're like, oh hey, who gets colossum? Yeah, yeah,
• 1:23:55
  Speaker 1: he gets a colostrum, bro. Jill told me registered nurse
• 1:23:58
  Speaker 1: that doesn't that doesn't do the trick for adults. It
• 1:24:02
  Speaker 1: does have a lot of nutrients in it, but it's
• 1:24:05
  Speaker 1: not worth all the time of you know, buying some
• 1:24:07
  Speaker 1: clossrum on the black market. That's what the streets are saying,
• 1:24:11
  Speaker 1: Are you buying are you buying coloster.
• 1:24:13
  Speaker 2: You're looking at me like I like the supplement clossrum.
• 1:24:17
  Speaker 1: I'm not there is a supplement.
• 1:24:18
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, colossrum is a big thing
• 1:24:21
  Speaker 2: on the one. Yeah, you're trying to get jack.
• 1:24:23
  Speaker 1: You want to get some gloss the guys you're one
• 1:24:27
  Speaker 1: of the guys that you was talking about.
• 1:24:30
  Speaker 2: Jill, Listen, she might be wrong in saying that because
• 1:24:37
  Speaker 2: it seems to be a lot of research buying clossrum.
• 1:24:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I think so, Okay, maybe I'm mixing up two stories.
• 1:24:44
  Speaker 1: And she was talking about breast milk.
• 1:24:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so there are guys like I had an ex
• 1:24:49
  Speaker 2: neighbor of mine that thinks like boom milk is like
• 1:24:52
  Speaker 2: the fountain of youth. So he would tell me, he
• 1:24:56
  Speaker 2: would he would tell me like, hey, he would tell
• 1:24:58
  Speaker 2: Charles if you got any left over that not gonna use,
• 1:25:00
  Speaker 2: Like he'll take it.
• 1:25:01
  Speaker 1: He said that to her face.
• 1:25:02
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 1:25:04
  Speaker 1: What was her reaction to that? Laughter, like nervous laughter, Like.
• 1:25:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, because we're like friends, you know what I mean?
• 1:25:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but he's like.
• 1:25:12
  Speaker 2: He's dead ass, seriously. But I'll be like, you drink
• 1:25:15
  Speaker 2: your wife's boot milk and he's like, yes.
• 1:25:20
  Speaker 1: Good for him, dude, was he jacked?
• 1:25:24
  Speaker 2: He's yeah, he's a he's a good looking human being.
• 1:25:27
  Speaker 1: Okay, maybe there is some some science behind it. And
• 1:25:31
  Speaker 1: Jill's what he says, Oh she has to pump indom. Yeah,
• 1:25:38
  Speaker 1: and the kids like something like that.
• 1:25:41
  Speaker 2: Oh oh yeah, you're talking about when he comes up
• 1:25:44
  Speaker 2: to his mom and he's like he's like sucking at
• 1:25:46
  Speaker 2: the teat and he's like, uh, how old is he?
• 1:25:49
  Speaker 2: And she's like she's like, uh, what'd you say? Forty
• 1:25:53
  Speaker 2: eight months?
• 1:25:53
  Speaker 1: Or yeah, oh yeah, she says some ridiculous amount of
• 1:25:56
  Speaker 1: months that equals up to like seven.
• 1:25:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, or like seventy two months. He's like so so.
• 1:26:01
  Speaker 1: Three yeah, oh my god, great call out.
• 1:26:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I was mixing up the Yeah, there are there
• 1:26:10
  Speaker 2: are cats out there that drink boot milk. I tasted, Charles.
• 1:26:13
  Speaker 2: I haven't like drank it, you know what I mean? Like,
• 1:26:15
  Speaker 2: as I'm gonna use this as a supplement.
• 1:26:17
  Speaker 1: You did it? Is like a bit to be funny.
• 1:26:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I did it, Like let me see what this
• 1:26:21
  Speaker 2: is all about. Yeah yeah, and it really won't that bad.
• 1:26:24
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna try.
• 1:26:25
  Speaker 2: It really won't that bad.
• 1:26:26
  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna sit here and act like I'm not
• 1:26:28
  Speaker 1: gonna try it. Yeah, but yeah, dude, seeing the colossrum
• 1:26:31
  Speaker 1: was crazy.
• 1:26:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's just it's different for every woman. It's
• 1:26:35
  Speaker 2: like Charles having a really hard time on herself because
• 1:26:38
  Speaker 2: I want to say, with rue, she might have got
• 1:26:40
  Speaker 2: to about four months. And there are some women who
• 1:26:42
  Speaker 2: you know, they like freeze their boot milk and they
• 1:26:44
  Speaker 2: have like months worth of supply. But it just varies
• 1:26:48
  Speaker 2: for it just varies for everybody. Scotty, she had a
• 1:26:51
  Speaker 2: little bit more. She's able to do more. Maybe her
• 1:26:54
  Speaker 2: body was adjusted for the second pregnancy. Yeah, because some
• 1:26:57
  Speaker 2: women will breastfeed for a long time. I don't even know.
• 1:27:00
  Speaker 2: I don't even want to say a number, but they'll
• 1:27:02
  Speaker 2: be able to breastfeed for like a long time, Like
• 1:27:03
  Speaker 2: I'm talking like a year, over a year, as long
• 1:27:05
  Speaker 2: long as they can. Yeah.
• 1:27:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because they're like back in the olden days when
• 1:27:10
  Speaker 1: like you would have like a back in the medieval,
• 1:27:13
  Speaker 1: Back in the medieval, what would they call those the
• 1:27:15
  Speaker 1: nursing the wet nurse.
• 1:27:17
  Speaker 2: I don't know, we'll say it for this story, the
• 1:27:21
  Speaker 2: wet nurse.
• 1:27:21
  Speaker 1: I hope I'm not like saying some super non PC
• 1:27:24
  Speaker 1: but I'm pretty sure that's what Yeah, yeah, yeah, a
• 1:27:27
  Speaker 1: wet nurse that just like she just always had boot
• 1:27:31
  Speaker 1: milk gun. Yeah, you didn't have to breastfeed. It was like,
• 1:27:35
  Speaker 1: you know, put her, put her on nurse.
• 1:27:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because there's just so many different variables, one being
• 1:27:40
  Speaker 2: the mom like the supply that they have, and then
• 1:27:42
  Speaker 2: another one is like if the kid is like breastfeeds, well,
• 1:27:46
  Speaker 2: sometimes it won't be coming out fast enough, so they'll
• 1:27:49
  Speaker 2: be very irritated, and then then you start to switch
• 1:27:51
  Speaker 2: to the bottle because they're just not getting a lot.
• 1:27:54
  Speaker 3: There's a lot of different things that.
• 1:27:55
  Speaker 2: You'll that you'll experience in the damn in the postpartum life,
• 1:27:58
  Speaker 2: because that's a that's a real thing that goes down.
• 1:28:00
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm in a holding pattern right now
• 1:28:02
  Speaker 1: with this podcast. I'm very excited for Scarlett to be here.
• 1:28:06
  Speaker 1: Obviously for Scarlett to be here, but I feel like
• 1:28:08
  Speaker 1: just the amount of stuff that's gonna hit me in
• 1:28:10
  Speaker 1: week one, I'm gonna.
• 1:28:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it'd be some fun. Yeah, it'll be some good story.
• 1:28:14
  Speaker 1: It's gonna be seeing there chuckling as I'm like cross
• 1:28:17
  Speaker 1: eyed and like, yeah, what the fuck is?
• 1:28:19
  Speaker 2: And you'll have different experiences, you know what. I mean, yeah, well,
• 1:28:21
  Speaker 2: I'm assuming that you'll probably have like different experiences.
• 1:28:24
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, for sure.
• 1:28:25
  Speaker 2: That it won't be the exact same thing that I experience.
• 1:28:27
  Speaker 2: Like everybody, everybody's different, so you just never know, but
• 1:28:30
  Speaker 2: it will be.
• 1:28:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's gonna be nice.
• 1:28:32
  Speaker 2: The fact that you're you're playing this Waycoat trip, we
• 1:28:36
  Speaker 2: gate we Scarlet's life. She's gonna go to her first
• 1:28:40
  Speaker 2: ball game.
• 1:28:42
  Speaker 1: And you think the Bears are gonna lose with Scarlet,
• 1:28:44
  Speaker 1: there'd be crazy.
• 1:28:45
  Speaker 3: That'd be crazy. That'd be crazy.
• 1:28:47
  Speaker 1: There's no way. Oh yeah, my survival kid and Dad
• 1:28:52
  Speaker 1: hacks A'll go really quick. We have the baby Breza
• 1:28:57
  Speaker 1: nice that was give to us. It's kind of like
• 1:29:01
  Speaker 1: our was that you.
• 1:29:03
  Speaker 3: Get the bottle cleaner one or you got like the
• 1:29:04
  Speaker 3: Formula one.
• 1:29:05
  Speaker 1: Bottle cleaner one, and that thing is crazy. I got
• 1:29:09
  Speaker 1: to see it in action. Jill also bought the set
• 1:29:13
  Speaker 1: where it like holds the bottles and stuff for Yeah,
• 1:29:17
  Speaker 1: we had it on our what was it called where
• 1:29:20
  Speaker 1: all your gifts are on the Internet and your loved
• 1:29:21
  Speaker 1: ones like registry registry. It was on our baby registry,
• 1:29:26
  Speaker 1: So shout out whoever got that for us. But the
• 1:29:29
  Speaker 1: Baby Breza is sick, And I'm like, why aren't all
• 1:29:32
  Speaker 1: dishwashers like this? Now that I think about it, if
• 1:29:35
  Speaker 1: you just had a smaller dishwasher instead of waiting all
• 1:29:39
  Speaker 1: for your dishes to just like collect over a long
• 1:29:41
  Speaker 1: time and put in this dishwasher where it's so big
• 1:29:44
  Speaker 1: that it's not really like getting everything, why not have
• 1:29:47
  Speaker 1: like a small concentrated dishwasher like this baby Breza that
• 1:29:51
  Speaker 1: just gets it dialed and you only put like the
• 1:29:53
  Speaker 1: cups and plates that you use from dinner in it.
• 1:29:57
  Speaker 1: But watching that thing work, it was crazy.
• 1:29:59
  Speaker 2: There might be one out there, And now as you
• 1:30:00
  Speaker 2: said that, if there's not, maybe it's our first product.
• 1:30:03
  Speaker 2: That'd be six just great manufacture, our first product.
• 1:30:06
  Speaker 1: You just George Foreman style pushing these mini diss and guys,
• 1:30:11
  Speaker 1: I'm well compted when I'm not podcasting cleaning dishes.
• 1:30:16
  Speaker 2: Uh.
• 1:30:17
  Speaker 1: And then Survival or dad Hack was Goodwill. Goodwill came
• 1:30:22
  Speaker 1: in Clutch today. It was a Sunday all the city
• 1:30:25
  Speaker 1: dumps where you can like go legally dump your stuff.
• 1:30:27
  Speaker 1: We're cleaning out the house because her parents, my parents,
• 1:30:30
  Speaker 1: they're all going to be coming in next week. Because
• 1:30:33
  Speaker 1: Jill gets to induced on the second so they're gonna
• 1:30:35
  Speaker 1: come in on the thirtieth. The moms, I think are
• 1:30:39
  Speaker 1: gonna be staying with us kind of on and off.
• 1:30:42
  Speaker 1: Everybody has hotel rooms and airbnbs, but Jill wants the
• 1:30:46
  Speaker 1: house looking perfect. So we're like purging all this stuff.
• 1:30:49
  Speaker 1: All the city dumps are closed. I'm like, where the
• 1:30:52
  Speaker 1: hell can I take all this stuff today to like
• 1:30:54
  Speaker 1: get it out here, because Jill's like, I want it
• 1:30:56
  Speaker 1: gone Goodwill. Dude asked zero questions, and I'm sitting there,
• 1:31:02
  Speaker 1: I'm giving them like two or three chances. Like the
• 1:31:05
  Speaker 1: couple in New York. I'm like, you sure, like I
• 1:31:08
  Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know what's in this container. I
• 1:31:12
  Speaker 1: don't know what I'm about to like dump in here.
• 1:31:14
  Speaker 1: And they're like, oh, well, that's the miscellaneous bin so
• 1:31:16
  Speaker 1: you can just it was incredible, dude. It was just
• 1:31:21
  Speaker 1: a weight off the chest. So Dad Hacks if you know,
• 1:31:24
  Speaker 1: the missus is ever Anya. It's like, hey, you gotta
• 1:31:27
  Speaker 1: get this this stuff out of here. Go to good Will.
• 1:31:30
  Speaker 2: Dude.
• 1:31:30
  Speaker 1: They asked zero questions. Love that, but be good to them.
• 1:31:33
  Speaker 1: Don't give them a bunch of nasty stuff to sift through,
• 1:31:35
  Speaker 1: which I hope I didn't I look through it enough
• 1:31:38
  Speaker 1: that it's like, Okay, nothing's gonna you know, piss them off.
• 1:31:43
  Speaker 1: But yeah, it was a good little dad hack.
• 1:31:45
  Speaker 3: That's it. That is a good dad hack. Should we
• 1:31:46
  Speaker 3: dive into the to the voicemails.
• 1:31:48
  Speaker 1: Let's dive into the voicemails. Do you want to do
• 1:31:50
  Speaker 1: a serious one or a funny one? First? H serious? Okay?
• 1:31:56
  Speaker 1: And the serious is not over serious overly serious? This
• 1:31:59
  Speaker 1: week it's more so this dad is looking for advice
• 1:32:03
  Speaker 1: directly from Will Compton. I cannot answer this question.
• 1:32:10
  Speaker 4: Hey, fellas, this is Thomas from Chattanooga. Want to call
• 1:32:14
  Speaker 4: in and get some advice from the boys about making
• 1:32:18
  Speaker 4: the jump from one to two kids. My wife's expecting
• 1:32:22
  Speaker 4: our second in November. We'll have two under two. Just
• 1:32:27
  Speaker 4: kind of wanted to see what that jump was like
• 1:32:30
  Speaker 4: and what to expect from it.
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  Speaker 2: All right, thanks fellas, Thomas from Chattanooga.
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  Speaker 3: Appreciate you calling in.
• 1:32:35
  Speaker 2: Brother two under two I here is a different animal.
• 1:32:40
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 1:32:41
  Speaker 2: Charl and I we had our we were trying to
• 1:32:43
  Speaker 2: go for two under two, but we obviously if you
• 1:32:45
  Speaker 2: listen to the IVF podcast on bus with the Boys
• 1:32:48
  Speaker 2: around Mother's Day that we dropped it. We had problems
• 1:32:51
  Speaker 2: getting pregnant with the second one with Scotti, and so
• 1:32:54
  Speaker 2: Rue was I would say, what was about two and
• 1:32:58
  Speaker 2: a half when we had so we didn't necessarily have.
• 1:33:02
  Speaker 3: Two under two. I do hear two under two is
• 1:33:03
  Speaker 3: like a different.
• 1:33:04
  Speaker 2: Animal, because again it's like the first one. They haven't
• 1:33:06
  Speaker 2: been walking very long. Rue I feel like she's not
• 1:33:11
  Speaker 2: she's not the most useful, but she's somebody who's aware
• 1:33:14
  Speaker 2: of like she's wanting to help out. So I feel
• 1:33:16
  Speaker 2: like that helps. When you have the older one, they're
• 1:33:18
  Speaker 2: over two years old, you'll be you think you'll be
• 1:33:23
  Speaker 2: playing man to man because you're not necessarily outnumbered yet.
• 1:33:26
  Speaker 2: You'll be too two v two in the household, but
• 1:33:28
  Speaker 2: you're still somewhat playing a bit of zone defense because
• 1:33:31
  Speaker 2: what the older one needs. The older one's gonna be favoring,
• 1:33:34
  Speaker 2: whether mom or dad at the time the newborn, you
• 1:33:37
  Speaker 2: guys are gonna be able to like you already know
• 1:33:39
  Speaker 2: what to expect out of the second one because you
• 1:33:41
  Speaker 2: had the first one, So the second one really won't
• 1:33:43
  Speaker 2: be a problem. Once they get sleeping, it's it's gonna
• 1:33:46
  Speaker 2: be all about getting them to sleep, getting them in
• 1:33:47
  Speaker 2: a good rhythm. I would strongly recommend twelve hours by
• 1:33:50
  Speaker 2: twelve weeks. I forget who the author is, but that's
• 1:33:52
  Speaker 2: a good book out there for like for like sleep training.
• 1:33:55
  Speaker 2: It's not too aggressive. It's how to get to the
• 1:33:58
  Speaker 2: kid to adapt to your life versus the other way around.
• 1:34:01
  Speaker 2: And that was like a method we went by. So really,
• 1:34:03
  Speaker 2: the first one's all about getting in that good sleep routine,
• 1:34:05
  Speaker 2: because that one, again, it's like when they first come out,
• 1:34:07
  Speaker 2: it's they're eating every three hours. You kind of know
• 1:34:09
  Speaker 2: what to expect. With that second one. It's going to
• 1:34:12
  Speaker 2: be the older one that is going to be experiencing
• 1:34:15
  Speaker 2: new emotions as they age. They're gonna have there used
• 1:34:19
  Speaker 2: to being the only child. They're no longer the only child.
• 1:34:22
  Speaker 2: Something that we did with Rue because we were very
• 1:34:24
  Speaker 2: intentional about how we introduced Scotty into the world with Rue.
• 1:34:30
  Speaker 2: And I was getting this stuff from like honestly Instagram.
• 1:34:34
  Speaker 2: But one thing that we did when Scotty was born
• 1:34:36
  Speaker 2: is when Rue came to the hospital, we had our
• 1:34:39
  Speaker 2: nanny holding Scottie. We had our nanny holding the newborn.
• 1:34:43
  Speaker 2: So that way, when Rue walked into the room for
• 1:34:47
  Speaker 2: your first child, you you and mom are their entire world.
• 1:34:51
  Speaker 2: So when she's walking into the room to check on Mom,
• 1:34:54
  Speaker 2: the entire goal was while I was walking room, it's like, Hey,
• 1:34:57
  Speaker 2: we're gonna go see mom and you can meet your
• 1:34:59
  Speaker 2: new little sister. So we wanted Rue to see when
• 1:35:02
  Speaker 2: she walked into the room, Mom not holding the newborn,
• 1:35:07
  Speaker 2: Mom who Rue saw as her entire world being Mom
• 1:35:11
  Speaker 2: recovering from having Scotty, the second child. So Rue could
• 1:35:14
  Speaker 2: walk in, crawl up on the bed with mom, check
• 1:35:16
  Speaker 2: in on mom. And then we were like, hey, do
• 1:35:18
  Speaker 2: you want to meet Scotty? Do you want to meet
• 1:35:19
  Speaker 2: your baby's sister who our nanny was holding. So as
• 1:35:22
  Speaker 2: a family, we kind of go over and introduce Rue
• 1:35:25
  Speaker 2: to Scotty. So that way Rue feels like the baby
• 1:35:28
  Speaker 2: is getting introduced to all of us at the same
• 1:35:30
  Speaker 2: time getting introduced to our world. That was one thing
• 1:35:32
  Speaker 2: that we did. The second thing that we did, which
• 1:35:35
  Speaker 2: Steve and Cha shout out to the boy Stephen Cha
• 1:35:37
  Speaker 2: for putting me on this and I feel like this
• 1:35:38
  Speaker 2: isn't like a secret or anything. But when we were
• 1:35:42
  Speaker 2: taking Scotty home, our second baby home, we were telling
• 1:35:46
  Speaker 2: Rue as we were driving in the car, Hey, Scotty
• 1:35:49
  Speaker 2: got you a present when you get home, and we
• 1:35:53
  Speaker 2: got her like some like ELSA, some little like ELSA
• 1:35:55
  Speaker 2: jewelry or something from the store. So when Rue got home,
• 1:35:59
  Speaker 2: Scotto he had a gift for her. We're like, hey, Scotty,
• 1:36:02
  Speaker 2: got this gift for you and re opened up. I
• 1:36:03
  Speaker 2: was all excited. So we were very intentional about introducing
• 1:36:07
  Speaker 2: the second baby into our home with Rue being our oldest.
• 1:36:12
  Speaker 2: So I would I would recommend a couple of those things.
• 1:36:17
  Speaker 2: And then it's like how you can immerse your oldest
• 1:36:20
  Speaker 2: into being helpful with Scottie. You're like, hey, do you
• 1:36:23
  Speaker 2: want to do you want to show Scotty how we
• 1:36:25
  Speaker 2: do your bedtime routine? That actually kills two birds with
• 1:36:28
  Speaker 2: one stone, because you're trying to get you know, it's
• 1:36:30
  Speaker 2: hard enough to get your your oldest one in the
• 1:36:33
  Speaker 2: bedtime routine every night consistently. So you're like, hey, do
• 1:36:37
  Speaker 2: you want to show Scotty how we do bedtime? How
• 1:36:39
  Speaker 2: we do our routine, And so Rue would be like
• 1:36:41
  Speaker 2: helping out, we do this, we do that kind of
• 1:36:43
  Speaker 2: talking to the baby, and in the same breath, Ruth's
• 1:36:46
  Speaker 2: getting ready for bed. So you're kind of like, you know,
• 1:36:48
  Speaker 2: you're kind of gaming her up to get ready for
• 1:36:50
  Speaker 2: bed as well. She obviously you're your oldest doesn't know
• 1:36:55
  Speaker 2: how to read yet. But we would tell we would
• 1:36:57
  Speaker 2: have Rue like, hey, what books should we read Scotty
• 1:36:59
  Speaker 2: for the first time? Which we do here, what we
• 1:37:01
  Speaker 2: do there? And so we were we were We allowed
• 1:37:03
  Speaker 2: Rue to be very instrumental into introducing Scotty into our house.
• 1:37:09
  Speaker 2: So those would be the things that I would tell you.
• 1:37:10
  Speaker 2: As far as going one to two, you know you'll
• 1:37:14
  Speaker 2: get mixed reviews. You know you have you'll have the
• 1:37:16
  Speaker 2: people that are like, oh, you only have one kid, now,
• 1:37:18
  Speaker 2: wait till you have the second one. But honestly, dude,
• 1:37:20
  Speaker 2: it's not. It's not that bad. You're already in your
• 1:37:23
  Speaker 2: own routine of having a kid in the first place,
• 1:37:25
  Speaker 2: and balancing work, family, being home, all those different things,
• 1:37:30
  Speaker 2: and helping your wife out. The second one is really
• 1:37:32
  Speaker 2: not as as difficult when you have to. Obviously, mom's
• 1:37:37
  Speaker 2: going to be leaning on you to help with the
• 1:37:38
  Speaker 2: older one a lot more getting ready for bed because
• 1:37:41
  Speaker 2: she's going to be on a lot more of a
• 1:37:42
  Speaker 2: routine with the newborn.
• 1:37:44
  Speaker 3: But it's not it's not.
• 1:37:45
  Speaker 2: As bad as I feel like what reviews can be
• 1:37:48
  Speaker 2: on going one to two.
• 1:37:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm speaking so out of turn. I have
• 1:37:53
  Speaker 1: no idea, but I almost see it as like as
• 1:37:56
  Speaker 1: the two get older, like that their relationship starts budding.
• 1:38:01
  Speaker 1: They're able to start pouring into each other. They're able
• 1:38:04
  Speaker 1: to kind of entertain each other in types of ways
• 1:38:08
  Speaker 1: to where almost like the two dog principle.
• 1:38:12
  Speaker 2: I guess, yeah, yeah, Well, it's like once they can
• 1:38:15
  Speaker 2: start smiling, like anytime Scotty's like smiling at Rue, or
• 1:38:19
  Speaker 2: because Scotty watches Rue a lot, just play and do
• 1:38:23
  Speaker 2: all the things and just making the comments Scotty loves
• 1:38:25
  Speaker 2: you so much, Oh, Scotty loves her big sister, you know,
• 1:38:28
  Speaker 2: getting them to say it back and forth. So Rue
• 1:38:30
  Speaker 2: feels very connected to Scotti. And another thing that we
• 1:38:33
  Speaker 2: would do that I think we learned on Instagram as well.
• 1:38:36
  Speaker 2: I know for me I did. It was like how
• 1:38:38
  Speaker 2: you kind of talk to the newborn with the oldest
• 1:38:41
  Speaker 2: sitting there. So it's like if Rue wants my attention
• 1:38:45
  Speaker 2: to play, Hey dad, Dad, can we play Hide and Seek?
• 1:38:48
  Speaker 2: And I know I gotta do something with Scotti before
• 1:38:51
  Speaker 2: I play with Rue. And I'm trying to be conscious
• 1:38:54
  Speaker 2: about just telling Rue like Hey, I gotta de feed Scotty.
• 1:38:57
  Speaker 2: I can't play with you right now. Instead, I would
• 1:38:59
  Speaker 2: look to Scott and be like, hey, all right, we
• 1:39:01
  Speaker 2: can play hide and seek. I just got to tell
• 1:39:03
  Speaker 2: Scotty something that I look at Scotty. Hey, Scotty, when
• 1:39:06
  Speaker 2: I'm done feeding you, I'm gonna go have to play
• 1:39:08
  Speaker 2: hide and seek with your sister if that's okay with you.
• 1:39:10
  Speaker 2: So I'm kind of telling Scotty. I'm kind of saying
• 1:39:11
  Speaker 2: that in front.
• 1:39:12
  Speaker 1: Of Rue, so Rue knows that, oh.
• 1:39:15
  Speaker 2: Dad's gonna spend time with me, he just has to.
• 1:39:17
  Speaker 2: He's letting Scotty know he's got to play with me
• 1:39:19
  Speaker 2: before he plays, yes, dude, versus being like, I can't
• 1:39:22
  Speaker 2: play with you right now, I'll play with you after
• 1:39:23
  Speaker 2: I'm done feeding Scotty. Because then in their brain or
• 1:39:26
  Speaker 2: what I've tried, like learning or gathering, like in their
• 1:39:29
  Speaker 2: brain it's like, oh, I'm second fiddle to this new trial.
• 1:39:32
  Speaker 2: So that could build up some resentment like in their
• 1:39:34
  Speaker 2: brain because I, sweetheart, I can't play with you right now.
• 1:39:37
  Speaker 2: Let daddy. Daddy will play with you after I'm done
• 1:39:39
  Speaker 2: doing what I gotta do with Scotty. Instead, I'll look
• 1:39:41
  Speaker 2: at Scotty and explain what I'm gonna have to do
• 1:39:43
  Speaker 2: with Rue after I get done executing what I need
• 1:39:46
  Speaker 2: to execute with the new.
• 1:39:47
  Speaker 1: Dude, that is some serious game.
• 1:39:49
  Speaker 2: You like that?
• 1:39:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, shout out Instagram, man, Yeah.
• 1:39:52
  Speaker 1: Shout out Instagram. That's so sick.
• 1:39:55
  Speaker 2: You're like, listen to the breakdown and you hear the
• 1:39:56
  Speaker 2: why behind it, and you're like, oh that that that
• 1:39:59
  Speaker 2: makes a lot of sense, yes, and how it could
• 1:40:01
  Speaker 2: come off to the child that doesn't know any better.
• 1:40:03
  Speaker 2: They're just hearing, no, I can't play with you right now.
• 1:40:05
  Speaker 2: I gotta do this with the newborn. And it's like, well,
• 1:40:08
  Speaker 2: you know, where's the time for me? You know what
• 1:40:11
  Speaker 2: I mean? And then I can build up some it
• 1:40:12
  Speaker 2: can build up whatever the resentment is. Like, really, the
• 1:40:14
  Speaker 2: only issue we have with the ruined Scotti is if
• 1:40:17
  Speaker 2: Rus just starting to break down and she sees Mom
• 1:40:21
  Speaker 2: say holding Scotty like it happened today on the on
• 1:40:24
  Speaker 2: the flight like Charo had, Scottie had the carrier and
• 1:40:28
  Speaker 2: she was shrapped to her chest, and ru was just
• 1:40:30
  Speaker 2: like having a little moments like Mom, I want you
• 1:40:32
  Speaker 2: to hold me. I don't want you to hold Scotty. Yeah,
• 1:40:34
  Speaker 2: so then you got to kind of, hey, I'll take
• 1:40:35
  Speaker 2: the baby so she can hold Rue and stuff like that.
• 1:40:37
  Speaker 2: But really that's about as much jealousy that we've seen
• 1:40:41
  Speaker 2: out of Rue. It's more of just like when Ruth's
• 1:40:42
  Speaker 2: having a moment and see Scotty being held, She's like,
• 1:40:45
  Speaker 2: I want you to hold me. I don't want you
• 1:40:46
  Speaker 2: to hold Scotty.
• 1:40:47
  Speaker 1: It's very much the power. Forgot where I heard this
• 1:40:52
  Speaker 1: or read it, but the power of we, the power
• 1:40:55
  Speaker 1: of us, like using those types of terminology with like
• 1:40:58
  Speaker 1: co workers, even if it's a job that only you're
• 1:41:01
  Speaker 1: gonna be doing, but if you're saying it to your
• 1:41:03
  Speaker 1: coworker of like yeah, if we do that, yeah, that's
• 1:41:06
  Speaker 1: gonna work out great. I think that would be the
• 1:41:08
  Speaker 1: best option for us. It's like integrating we're a team. Yeah,
• 1:41:13
  Speaker 1: Like you're letting Rue know like, hey, we are playing
• 1:41:17
  Speaker 1: hide and go seek. That's a given. We just gotta
• 1:41:19
  Speaker 1: break it to this little thing over here. I love that, dude.
• 1:41:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah it's been Yeah, it's worked out. It's been a
• 1:41:26
  Speaker 1: good move for us.
• 1:41:26
  Speaker 2: But that that's what I would That would be my
• 1:41:29
  Speaker 2: advice on going from one to two.
• 1:41:30
  Speaker 1: Let's go and then we'll be reaching out to Thomas
• 1:41:34
  Speaker 1: in Chattanooga to get his address and he'll be receiving.
• 1:41:38
  Speaker 2: Did we do a good job following up with our
• 1:41:40
  Speaker 2: callers from last week? Let's go chef.
• 1:41:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so we and yes, our friends that do the
• 1:41:49
  Speaker 1: merch stuff. We have like a great doc that's all
• 1:41:52
  Speaker 1: put together. We're gonna be putting people's addresses into it.
• 1:41:56
  Speaker 1: We also you and I need to write some thank
• 1:41:59
  Speaker 1: you for those guys as well. That will be included
• 1:42:03
  Speaker 1: with so huge shout out to Thomas for reaching out.
• 1:42:08
  Speaker 1: We have another call from Stephen, Stephen Steven. Let's go Stephen.
• 1:42:14
  Speaker 1: This one might sting for you.
• 1:42:19
  Speaker 5: What's up, boys, This is Stephen. I'm currently living in
• 1:42:23
  Speaker 5: Warner Robbins of Georgia, originally from the borough. When it
• 1:42:28
  Speaker 5: comes to kids, let's just talk about the bedtime routine.
• 1:42:33
  Speaker 5: My kids have had the same bedtime routine since the
• 1:42:37
  Speaker 5: dawn of time. Seven o'clock, they go lay down eight o'clock.
• 1:42:42
  Speaker 5: They're usually asleep by then. I feel that when it
• 1:42:45
  Speaker 5: comes time to put them to bed at seven o'clock,
• 1:42:48
  Speaker 5: it's not just oh, hey, go to bed, it's seven o'clock.
• 1:42:51
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, no.
• 1:42:53
  Speaker 5: My kids I have to put them to bed, so
• 1:42:55
  Speaker 5: I have to go in the room. I got to
• 1:42:58
  Speaker 5: make sure they're steiling fans on. I gotta turn on
• 1:43:00
  Speaker 5: the curtain lights. I gotta turn on their little box
• 1:43:03
  Speaker 5: van because we're from the South and we gotta have
• 1:43:06
  Speaker 5: two fans in our bedroom at all times. I gotta
• 1:43:09
  Speaker 5: cover them up and kiss them and tell them good night.
• 1:43:13
  Speaker 5: And all this time, they know they're gonna be thirsty.
• 1:43:17
  Speaker 5: They know they're gonna want water. Yep, my daughters have
• 1:43:22
  Speaker 5: a billion water cups. You know they got the o Wallas,
• 1:43:26
  Speaker 5: they got the Stanley's. Do you think they fill that
• 1:43:28
  Speaker 5: thing up knowing they want it before bed? Absolutely not.
• 1:43:34
  Speaker 5: So as I finish the routine, I kiss them and
• 1:43:37
  Speaker 5: tell them good night, I go to leave the room
• 1:43:39
  Speaker 5: and I hear can you fill up my a walla?
• 1:43:43
  Speaker 5: And the rage that fills up inside of me could
• 1:43:48
  Speaker 5: blow the roof off the building. Because they have known
• 1:43:53
  Speaker 5: since I started putting them to bed that they were
• 1:43:57
  Speaker 5: gonna be thirsty. Bedtime routine super important. But I know
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  Speaker 5: I'm not the only one out there that gets frustrated
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  Speaker 5: by it. And then I just sit here and think,
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  Speaker 5: I just cannot wait for them to get older and
• 1:44:09
  Speaker 5: put themselves to bed, and I cannot wait until they
• 1:44:13
  Speaker 5: put themselves to bed. I got a twelve year old boy,
• 1:44:17
  Speaker 5: and I got three daughters, ten year old, eight year
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  Speaker 5: old and a three year old. Well that's my story.
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  Speaker 1: Shout out to the boys.
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  Speaker 2: Have a good day. Steven from Georgia appreciates you calling in.
• 1:44:30
  Speaker 2: The first thing I would say, listen, I can tell
• 1:44:32
  Speaker 2: by your voice. I know you're in it right now.
• 1:44:34
  Speaker 2: I know you're in it, and you said the words
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  Speaker 2: I can't wait until they can put themselves to bed.
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  Speaker 2: But I need you just to pause for me, and
• 1:44:40
  Speaker 2: I need you to understand. All of us dads, all
• 1:44:44
  Speaker 2: of us parents. I have those thoughts many times throughout
• 1:44:48
  Speaker 2: the week, and I have to just remind myself that
• 1:44:50
  Speaker 2: one day, one day, we're going to be old, and
• 1:44:53
  Speaker 2: all of these kids are going to be out of
• 1:44:54
  Speaker 2: the house, and we're going to be own, lonely, and
• 1:44:57
  Speaker 2: we're going to be trying to talk to our wives
• 1:44:58
  Speaker 2: about the college football sked coming up, and.
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  Speaker 1: They ain't gonna want to hear it. They're not gonna
• 1:45:01
  Speaker 1: carry You're.
• 1:45:02
  Speaker 2: Gonna be an empty nester and you're gonna wish that
• 1:45:05
  Speaker 2: you were back in this moment, hoping that you can
• 1:45:09
  Speaker 2: put your daughter to bed and she can annoy you
• 1:45:11
  Speaker 2: by saying, Hey, dadda, can you fill up my what
• 1:45:13
  Speaker 2: did he call it?
• 1:45:14
  Speaker 3: The the a wala? That can you filla walla?
• 1:45:18
  Speaker 2: You are going to miss that one day and we
• 1:45:20
  Speaker 2: both know that you're going to And I know as
• 1:45:21
  Speaker 2: I sit there and say this, you're like, God, damn it.
• 1:45:23
  Speaker 2: I know he's right because we all go through that shit.
• 1:45:26
  Speaker 2: We always get so mad when you get him to bed.
• 1:45:29
  Speaker 2: Hey dad, Dad, I'm hungry all of a sudden. It's like, buddy, rue,
• 1:45:34
  Speaker 2: that is why you had to eat your dinner. There's
• 1:45:36
  Speaker 2: no snacking. There's no snacking a night. We got to
• 1:45:39
  Speaker 2: set a precedent. We got to stand on business. Daddy,
• 1:45:42
  Speaker 2: Can I listen? I go through the waterface or we're
• 1:45:45
  Speaker 2: in the waterface, like Dad, that kind of have some water.
• 1:45:48
  Speaker 2: I'll already kind of have it filled up. But here's here,
• 1:45:51
  Speaker 2: Here would be some unsolicited advice that I would give
• 1:45:55
  Speaker 2: you before you enter that war room. Yeah, each night
• 1:45:59
  Speaker 2: is you lay out the expectation of bedtime and it
• 1:46:02
  Speaker 2: doesn't always go smooth. It doesn't.
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  Speaker 3: We know that it doesn't.
• 1:46:06
  Speaker 2: But if you lay out the expectation like, Hey, we're
• 1:46:08
  Speaker 2: gonna have a good, clean, fun bedtime. We're gonna have
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  Speaker 2: a consistent bedtime tonight. There's no problems.
• 1:46:15
  Speaker 1: Does the heart need to turn black for bedtime? Yeah?
• 1:46:18
  Speaker 2: When when when you hear that door click, your heart
• 1:46:22
  Speaker 2: needs to turn black knowing that you have a mission
• 1:46:28
  Speaker 2: to accomplish that is bedtime, and you lay out the
• 1:46:32
  Speaker 2: expectations like, hey, we're gonna get your pjs on. Rush
• 1:46:37
  Speaker 2: will still wear a pull up. We're gonna get the pullup.
• 1:46:38
  Speaker 2: We're gonna get the pjs on. That's never That's hasn't
• 1:46:41
  Speaker 2: necessarily been a problem, unless she wants to go see
• 1:46:43
  Speaker 2: mom and give her a hug before bed. We're gonna
• 1:46:46
  Speaker 2: brush your teeth. Dad is gonna brush your hair. I'm
• 1:46:48
  Speaker 2: gonna start low on the hair, just like you like it.
• 1:46:50
  Speaker 2: We're not gonna We're gonna try to minimize as many
• 1:46:52
  Speaker 2: tangles as possible. I know, dads feel me on that.
• 1:46:55
  Speaker 2: It's kind of a learning curve when you're going through
• 1:46:56
  Speaker 2: brushing the air. You gotta start low, you gotta start
• 1:46:58
  Speaker 2: at the bottom.
• 1:46:59
  Speaker 1: That's game.
• 1:47:01
  Speaker 2: We're gonna get your pjs on. We're gonna read two
• 1:47:03
  Speaker 2: books because what you don't want to get into is
• 1:47:07
  Speaker 2: you get on a rhythm, you get in, you build
• 1:47:08
  Speaker 2: some momentum, because dads, I know we're all good storytellers
• 1:47:11
  Speaker 2: out there when we're hitting, when we're hitting the green
• 1:47:13
  Speaker 2: eggs and ham, we're hitting the you know, fancy, Nancy,
• 1:47:16
  Speaker 2: I'm reading Ziggy and the Three Little Pigs right now.
• 1:47:19
  Speaker 3: Yes, they've hadded a fourth pig.
• 1:47:20
  Speaker 1: Hungry hungry caterpillar.
• 1:47:22
  Speaker 2: Hungry hungry caterpillar. You set the precedent with two books.
• 1:47:26
  Speaker 2: We're gonna read two books. We're gonna brush your teeth,
• 1:47:28
  Speaker 2: and we're gonna get in bed. And when we get
• 1:47:30
  Speaker 2: in bed, you better not be thirsty. If you need
• 1:47:34
  Speaker 2: a drink of water, you're gonna drink it before you
• 1:47:37
  Speaker 2: get You're gonna drink it before you brush your teeth. Now,
• 1:47:42
  Speaker 2: when you get to bed, they're still gonna want that water. However,
• 1:47:46
  Speaker 2: now that you set precedent and you set expectation, you
• 1:47:49
  Speaker 2: can look at them say, sweetheart, I have a water
• 1:47:52
  Speaker 2: bottle sitting over there right now. We're not gonna drink
• 1:47:54
  Speaker 2: this water long because Dad already told you that we're
• 1:47:58
  Speaker 2: not drinking water once we get in bed. Yeah, now
• 1:48:01
  Speaker 2: you go get them the water. They take a little
• 1:48:02
  Speaker 2: sip and be like that one's on the house. Next time,
• 1:48:04
  Speaker 2: it's gonna cost you. But you got to understand that
• 1:48:09
  Speaker 2: Dad said we weren't gonna have water. So that way,
• 1:48:11
  Speaker 2: it just starts to cultivate a behavior to where at
• 1:48:15
  Speaker 2: least they think twice about getting the water. And if
• 1:48:17
  Speaker 2: they do get the water, they're gonna keep it short.
• 1:48:19
  Speaker 2: They're gonna keep it sweet. That would be that would
• 1:48:23
  Speaker 2: be my advice.
• 1:48:24
  Speaker 1: So don't don't have water living on the nightstand.
• 1:48:28
  Speaker 2: So we started that way, okay, But when I knew
• 1:48:31
  Speaker 2: she was gonna get me for some water, yeah, I
• 1:48:34
  Speaker 2: would already have it kind of filled up. Yeah, and I.
• 1:48:36
  Speaker 3: Wouldn't fill it up very much.
• 1:48:38
  Speaker 2: When she's like I need more water, it's like, sweet art,
• 1:48:40
  Speaker 2: we both know you're gonna wet the bet if you
• 1:48:41
  Speaker 2: drink more water.
• 1:48:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah, she might throw fin. I might end up getting
• 1:48:44
  Speaker 3: her more water.
• 1:48:45
  Speaker 2: But what I try to set the expectation on is
• 1:48:48
  Speaker 2: this is all the water you have. You know when
• 1:48:50
  Speaker 2: it's gone, it's gone. So you can have your water
• 1:48:52
  Speaker 2: in the crib. I'll let you keep it in the
• 1:48:54
  Speaker 2: crib if you want to. But there's only like a
• 1:48:55
  Speaker 2: little bit of water in there, so she can utilize
• 1:48:57
  Speaker 2: the water if she wants to. She's trying to stay
• 1:49:00
  Speaker 2: she's trying to continue to stay up and find new things.
• 1:49:03
  Speaker 2: When she was younger, it would be she has to
• 1:49:06
  Speaker 2: tell the stairs a good night, she has to tell
• 1:49:08
  Speaker 2: the rail good night. Just tell all of her stuffed
• 1:49:10
  Speaker 2: animals good night. Yep, I gotta go tell this door
• 1:49:12
  Speaker 2: good night. You got to take them all around the
• 1:49:15
  Speaker 2: house to say good night to everything. But you realize
• 1:49:17
  Speaker 2: they're strategizing against you. They're negotiating to stay up longer.
• 1:49:21
  Speaker 2: It's all about setting expectations right from the jump, and
• 1:49:25
  Speaker 2: those expectations always they always.
• 1:49:27
  Speaker 3: They won't go according to plan.
• 1:49:29
  Speaker 2: However, you're setting expectations so that way when they get there, listen,
• 1:49:33
  Speaker 2: I'll get you out of bed. We can go say
• 1:49:34
  Speaker 2: good night to the world one more time at the window.
• 1:49:37
  Speaker 2: But whenever we say good night, we're not going anywhere else.
• 1:49:39
  Speaker 2: We're going in the bed. Okay. You make them say okay,
• 1:49:43
  Speaker 2: and when they say okay, you get them up. You
• 1:49:44
  Speaker 2: go over there when they say good night to the world,
• 1:49:46
  Speaker 2: Where do we go now we go to bed?
• 1:49:48
  Speaker 1: Can I pitch you a plan really quick. Since I
• 1:49:52
  Speaker 1: have not gone through bedtime routine. Can you tell me
• 1:49:54
  Speaker 1: if this is a good plan? Yeah, I get daughter,
• 1:49:58
  Speaker 1: I get Scarlet. I say, hey, Scarlett, we're gonna go
• 1:50:00
  Speaker 1: get our night night water. It's the only water that
• 1:50:03
  Speaker 1: we're gonna get before night night.
• 1:50:04
  Speaker 2: This is it.
• 1:50:05
  Speaker 1: Let's go fill it up together. We go fill it up, Scarlett.
• 1:50:08
  Speaker 1: I know that you want to say nine night to
• 1:50:10
  Speaker 1: the stairs, to the railing. Let's go ahead and do that.
• 1:50:12
  Speaker 1: I'm holding her and she's got her water. We're telling
• 1:50:14
  Speaker 1: night night to all the stuff that we want to do.
• 1:50:16
  Speaker 1: I'm I'm knocking out all the things that she's wanted
• 1:50:18
  Speaker 1: to do with her before bet and after we do this,
• 1:50:22
  Speaker 1: we're going to bed. Let's sell the stuffed animals night night.
• 1:50:25
  Speaker 1: Let's sell the blah blah blah. Is that too much
• 1:50:27
  Speaker 1: to like feed into those little things that she's wanting
• 1:50:30
  Speaker 1: to do? Am I giving her too much of what
• 1:50:32
  Speaker 1: she wants?
• 1:50:32
  Speaker 2: You won't know until she starts negotiating with you, and
• 1:50:36
  Speaker 2: then after a few days you're gonna understand what a
• 1:50:38
  Speaker 2: rhythm is and what is imperative is you don't go
• 1:50:43
  Speaker 2: one by one, is that you just lay out the
• 1:50:45
  Speaker 2: plan before it happens. So if it's we're gonna go
• 1:50:48
  Speaker 2: down and get water, we're gonna say good night to
• 1:50:50
  Speaker 2: the stuff, or whatever their cadence is.
• 1:50:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, we're.
• 1:50:53
  Speaker 2: Gonna go downstairs and get water. We're gonna say good
• 1:50:55
  Speaker 2: night to the animals. And when we say good night
• 1:50:56
  Speaker 2: to the animals, after the last one, we're gonna get bed. Okay.
• 1:51:01
  Speaker 2: Once they say okay, they might want something else, and
• 1:51:03
  Speaker 2: they might be crying about something else. You gotta know
• 1:51:06
  Speaker 2: that you got to give them enough of what they're wanting.
• 1:51:09
  Speaker 2: But then you implement the expectation of bedtime. After that
• 1:51:13
  Speaker 2: second or third thing out of their list of five, Hey,
• 1:51:16
  Speaker 2: you're not getting all five. Here's the three that I'll
• 1:51:18
  Speaker 2: give you, because you know it's bedtime right now. Here's
• 1:51:21
  Speaker 2: the two or three that I'll give you. We'll go
• 1:51:23
  Speaker 2: do those things. But after that second or third one
• 1:51:26
  Speaker 2: we're now getting, we're gonna get back in bed. Okay.
• 1:51:28
  Speaker 2: Is that a deal? They'll say? Okay, So then you
• 1:51:31
  Speaker 2: start hitting the things. Where do we go to next bedtime?
• 1:51:35
  Speaker 1: Two books?
• 1:51:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm a two book guy. I'm a two book guy.
• 1:51:40
  Speaker 2: She'll get me up to three four every now, and
• 1:51:42
  Speaker 2: then sometimes you got to negotiate too. It'll be like
• 1:51:46
  Speaker 2: you might get two books and it's like I want
• 1:51:48
  Speaker 2: I want one more book, and they're not wanting to
• 1:51:50
  Speaker 2: go brush your teeth. Like hey, sweetheart, here's what we
• 1:51:52
  Speaker 2: can do. Let's brush your teeth. We'll get you in
• 1:51:55
  Speaker 2: bed and I'll read you one more book. They might
• 1:51:57
  Speaker 2: not want. They might want the book on the couch.
• 1:52:00
  Speaker 2: So again, you gotta it's gonna be instinct, it's gonna
• 1:52:03
  Speaker 2: be in the moment, but you're gonna have to give
• 1:52:05
  Speaker 2: to get some It's all about places. It's all about
• 1:52:07
  Speaker 2: setting the expectation. That's all I say. It's about setting
• 1:52:10
  Speaker 2: the expectation, laying out the expectation and getting them to say, okay,
• 1:52:15
  Speaker 2: getting them to think like, okay, that is a good deal.
• 1:52:17
  Speaker 3: That's I can get those couple of things.
• 1:52:19
  Speaker 1: Okay, I feel comfortable with that.
• 1:52:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you'll rocket.
• 1:52:23
  Speaker 1: I'm definitely like, just from the relationship of Jill and
• 1:52:27
  Speaker 1: I with our dogs, like I know that I'm gonna
• 1:52:30
  Speaker 1: have to be the disciplinarian, the one that's kind of
• 1:52:33
  Speaker 1: you know, setting that line and as our miss missus
• 1:52:36
  Speaker 1: Meek or doctor Meek is telling me and strong father's
• 1:52:40
  Speaker 1: shock daughters like, I'm gonna be driving the boat.
• 1:52:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:52:44
  Speaker 1: So I'm I'm already just from my poor performance with
• 1:52:48
  Speaker 1: Ru and her sticker book of giving her exactly what
• 1:52:51
  Speaker 1: you wanted in the in the moment and given JJ
• 1:52:54
  Speaker 1: here in the office exactly what he wanted in the moment.
• 1:52:57
  Speaker 1: I'm just like, man, I gotta with Scar, I gotta
• 1:53:00
  Speaker 1: lock in. Yeah, my heart has to turn black at
• 1:53:03
  Speaker 1: some point. Yeah yeah, And dadas is gonna have to
• 1:53:07
  Speaker 1: step up and say no, no, no, no, no, no.
• 1:53:10
  Speaker 2: It's gonna go. You gotta know when you realize what
• 1:53:14
  Speaker 2: they want, you got to think in your mind, I'm
• 1:53:16
  Speaker 2: gonna give them what they want, but you have to
• 1:53:17
  Speaker 2: follow it up with what your expectation is going to
• 1:53:19
  Speaker 2: be after that and then get them to say okay,
• 1:53:23
  Speaker 2: and then when it happens, then then they know what
• 1:53:25
  Speaker 2: do we do next?
• 1:53:26
  Speaker 1: We get in bed, are you ever doing story times?
• 1:53:29
  Speaker 2: Like?
• 1:53:29
  Speaker 1: Are you ever making stuff up? I feel like you'd be.
• 1:53:31
  Speaker 2: Good at that. Uh. I will if I get the
• 1:53:35
  Speaker 2: light off and I'm laying next to her because she
• 1:53:36
  Speaker 2: loves when dadad lays next to her in bed at night,
• 1:53:38
  Speaker 2: So I'll like lay down by her crib because you know,
• 1:53:40
  Speaker 2: the low back. I'm not trying to like stand up
• 1:53:42
  Speaker 2: the entire time or sit sometimes they get so I'll
• 1:53:44
  Speaker 2: be like laying down on a pillow next to her crib.
• 1:53:47
  Speaker 2: If she wants another story, I'll just bet how about
• 1:53:49
  Speaker 2: Dadad tells you a story, and then I'll just I'll
• 1:53:52
  Speaker 2: just riff on something and tell her a story, usually
• 1:53:55
  Speaker 2: like something it's like a sports moment that happened back
• 1:53:58
  Speaker 2: in my that happened back in the day, oh yeah,
• 1:54:00
  Speaker 2: of myself, and I'll just make up a different character.
• 1:54:04
  Speaker 1: Dude, I can't believe or I can't wait until she
• 1:54:06
  Speaker 1: becomes like aware of your playing background. That's gonna be fun.
• 1:54:12
  Speaker 2: No, it'll be interesting because it won't mean shit to him. No,
• 1:54:15
  Speaker 2: it'll mean shit when it's cool.
• 1:54:16
  Speaker 1: Oh oh yeah, like elementary time. Yeah, uh huh yeah yeah.
• 1:54:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's yeah, I'll riff and do some story time.
• 1:54:23
  Speaker 2: I love reading the children's books because I love like
• 1:54:25
  Speaker 2: doing different voices, like she loves she would be on
• 1:54:27
  Speaker 2: a kick of like Beauty and the Beast, changing beasts voice,
• 1:54:30
  Speaker 2: like changing all the voices. I love doing that kind
• 1:54:32
  Speaker 2: of stuff.
• 1:54:33
  Speaker 1: Oh dude, shout out Brett Burford that he was our neighbor.
• 1:54:37
  Speaker 1: He would sometimes he and his wife would babysit while
• 1:54:40
  Speaker 1: my dad and mom like went out to dinner, and
• 1:54:43
  Speaker 1: he would read us the o G. Harry Potters, which
• 1:54:45
  Speaker 1: miss Amy was not a fan of.
• 1:54:47
  Speaker 2: My mom.
• 1:54:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think she knew that he was reading
• 1:54:50
  Speaker 1: us Harry Potter, but he would get into that hagrid
• 1:54:52
  Speaker 1: voice and get into that dumble Doore voice. Heah, I
• 1:54:55
  Speaker 1: still remember that. I'm thirty two years old and I
• 1:54:57
  Speaker 1: still just dine laughing wizard.
• 1:55:02
  Speaker 2: Oh, stuff up.
• 1:55:05
  Speaker 1: We have our topic quote.
• 1:55:07
  Speaker 2: Or yes, dude, so mine is going to come from
• 1:55:11
  Speaker 2: let me find it. Mine is going to come from
• 1:55:14
  Speaker 2: The Daily Dad by Ryan Holiday. This book right here
• 1:55:17
  Speaker 2: highly recommend great one to half just on the dinner
• 1:55:19
  Speaker 2: table if you're eating every night, just a little breakup session, like, hey,
• 1:55:23
  Speaker 2: you want Data to read something out of his book.
• 1:55:25
  Speaker 2: She'll say yes, and then we'll read something out of
• 1:55:28
  Speaker 2: The Daily Dad. Three hundred and sixty six Meditations on Parenting, Love,
• 1:55:31
  Speaker 2: and Raising Great Kids by Ryan Holiday, a number one
• 1:55:35
  Speaker 2: New York Times best selling author of the Obstacle is
• 1:55:38
  Speaker 2: The Way in the Daily Stoic Big in the Stoicism
• 1:55:41
  Speaker 2: love Ryan Holiday's books, So we rock the Daily Dad
• 1:55:45
  Speaker 2: for dinner time.
• 1:55:46
  Speaker 1: Shout out, going to one hundred and ten percent. I
• 1:55:48
  Speaker 1: see they went one day extra of a three hundred
• 1:55:51
  Speaker 1: and sixty.
• 1:55:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah right, yeah, yeah, I can appreciate that.
• 1:55:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah. But also it's a flex, like what are you
• 1:55:56
  Speaker 2: trying to just make an extra day?
• 1:55:59
  Speaker 1: Come all right, come on?
• 1:56:03
  Speaker 2: This this is one for man, I'm stuck between two.
• 1:56:08
  Speaker 2: This one's called just go to bed. So this is
• 1:56:12
  Speaker 2: for dads out there, and this is great for us
• 1:56:15
  Speaker 2: because we love staying up and playing pubg. A lot
• 1:56:18
  Speaker 2: of career guys out there, a lot of working dads,
• 1:56:19
  Speaker 2: a lot of working moms that stay up late and
• 1:56:21
  Speaker 2: sacrifice or sleep to stay up late doing whatever they're doing.
• 1:56:24
  Speaker 2: In our case, sometimes I'll stay up late playing a
• 1:56:27
  Speaker 2: video game or just doom scrolling.
• 1:56:29
  Speaker 1: Because this is is he about to tell us not
• 1:56:31
  Speaker 1: to do that?
• 1:56:32
  Speaker 2: Uh, he's not about to tell you not today. I'll
• 1:56:34
  Speaker 2: read it to you. I'll read it to you. Okay.
• 1:56:36
  Speaker 2: Here's a quote from Arthur Choppenhauer. Sleep is the interest
• 1:56:41
  Speaker 2: we have to pay on the capitol, which is called
• 1:56:44
  Speaker 2: in at death. The higher the interest rate and the
• 1:56:46
  Speaker 2: more regularly it is paid. The further the date of
• 1:56:49
  Speaker 2: redemption is postponed. All right here it is. You know
• 1:56:54
  Speaker 2: your kids are a mess when they don't sleep. That's
• 1:56:56
  Speaker 2: why you follow the bedtime ritual religiously. You know that
• 1:56:59
  Speaker 2: kids get into trouble at night if left to their
• 1:57:02
  Speaker 2: own devices. That's why your teenager has a curfew that
• 1:57:05
  Speaker 2: you enforce with an iron fist. And yet here you
• 1:57:07
  Speaker 2: are up late again, mindlessly watching TV. Here you are
• 1:57:11
  Speaker 2: tired in the morning again because you were uplate on
• 1:57:14
  Speaker 2: your phone. You could have gone to bed. You knew
• 1:57:17
  Speaker 2: you should have gone to bed, but you didn't. Who
• 1:57:20
  Speaker 2: suffers your kids do because you're grouchy, because you don't
• 1:57:24
  Speaker 2: have the energy, because you're behind, because maybe they even
• 1:57:27
  Speaker 2: sense that you're a hypocrite. If you want to be
• 1:57:30
  Speaker 2: a better parent, start going to bed earlier, Give yourself
• 1:57:32
  Speaker 2: a bedtime that you honor and respect and enforce, value sleep.
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  Speaker 2: Take care of yourself and everyone else will benefit.
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  Speaker 1: That hits home. Dude, we do stay up. We are
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  Speaker 1: we are too really bad.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we can be a couple times, definitely, those couple
• 1:57:52
  Speaker 2: nights a week that will stay up playing the video
• 1:57:53
  Speaker 2: game doesn't mean I'm gonna stop playing yeah, just means
• 1:57:56
  Speaker 2: that this is a great reminder that even when you
• 1:58:00
  Speaker 2: do stay up late, you're just aware that we are
• 1:58:03
  Speaker 2: doing it to ourselves. That almost makes I'll versus stand
• 1:58:09
  Speaker 2: up late your grouch. You're kind of pissing a moment
• 1:58:11
  Speaker 2: everybody you're making it. You're just in a bad mood
• 1:58:14
  Speaker 2: because you stayed up late, you feel bad about yourself
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  Speaker 2: for doing it, and you're just more so projecting on
• 1:58:18
  Speaker 2: everybody else. Something like this right here just makes me
• 1:58:21
  Speaker 2: aware that I am doing it to myself, so be
• 1:58:26
  Speaker 2: aware and be intentional of it the next day. To know,
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  Speaker 2: like if you if I am going off the rock
• 1:58:30
  Speaker 2: or a little bit, that it's only because I did
• 1:58:33
  Speaker 2: it to myself the night before. I that.
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  Speaker 1: Just inspired me as far as Pubgen nights go, because
• 1:58:41
  Speaker 1: now I know the cost, and it's.
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  Speaker 3: A cost that we will continue to pay.
• 1:58:45
  Speaker 1: It is a cost, Like they know that we got
• 1:58:50
  Speaker 1: to be accountabilly buddies the next day, truly, which I
• 1:58:55
  Speaker 1: feel like we already kind of do at the office
• 1:58:57
  Speaker 1: those those next days, Like I pumped into my veins,
• 1:59:01
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I know what I did, yeah, and I'm
• 1:59:03
  Speaker 1: but I gotta show up this next day. And kick ass.
• 1:59:08
  Speaker 1: But I do love that message, just because as far
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  Speaker 1: as work goes, I obviously don't have a kid yet,
• 1:59:14
  Speaker 1: but as far as work goes, do when I'm getting
• 1:59:15
  Speaker 1: that sleep, it's crazy how much better I'm operating and
• 1:59:20
  Speaker 1: so applying that to like, you know, being able to
• 1:59:23
  Speaker 1: have those conversations with my kids and my wife and
• 1:59:26
  Speaker 1: be more there, be more present. Yeah, that's a that's
• 1:59:30
  Speaker 1: a good learning Listen. Did you have another one?
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  Speaker 3: It's a good little reminder. I did have two.
• 1:59:33
  Speaker 2: I might as well just read the second one says
• 1:59:35
  Speaker 2: right here. This one's called it's good that you worry
• 1:59:39
  Speaker 2: about this, a quote from Michael Ian Black. One great
• 1:59:43
  Speaker 2: thing about having kids is that they force you into
• 1:59:45
  Speaker 2: an active practice of love, whether you're ready for it
• 1:59:47
  Speaker 2: or not. The question hits you in a soft place.
• 1:59:51
  Speaker 2: It hits you when you least expect it, and yet
• 1:59:53
  Speaker 2: it's there constantly. Am I a good parent? Am I
• 1:59:56
  Speaker 2: screwing this up? Your own parents will try to reassure
• 1:59:59
  Speaker 2: you that every parent thinks this way, except that's not true.
• 2:00:03
  Speaker 2: There are, in fact two types of parents who never
• 2:00:05
  Speaker 2: think that. There are parents who are so convinced that
• 2:00:07
  Speaker 2: they're the center of the universe, that they never question themselves,
• 2:00:10
  Speaker 2: never wonder what they're doing wrong. Then there are parents
• 2:00:14
  Speaker 2: who don't even care enough to ask, although they are
• 2:00:16
  Speaker 2: very different. In the end, these two types of parents
• 2:00:19
  Speaker 2: are the same. They are not good parents. But you
• 2:00:23
  Speaker 2: the type who is always checking in and wondering am
• 2:00:26
  Speaker 2: I doing enough? Who actually cares about whether you're doing
• 2:00:30
  Speaker 2: a good job or not. You are, by definition, a
• 2:00:33
  Speaker 2: good parent because you are thinking about your kids first,
• 2:00:35
  Speaker 2: not yourself. It's proof that you care, that you have
• 2:00:39
  Speaker 2: self awareness, that you're always trying to improve, that you
• 2:00:42
  Speaker 2: would stop to evaluate your own performance, that it would
• 2:00:45
  Speaker 2: bother you to give anything less than the full measure
• 2:00:49
  Speaker 2: of your devotion is all the evidence you need to
• 2:00:52
  Speaker 2: reach a positive conclusion. So if you feel that negative thought,
• 2:00:55
  Speaker 2: that doubt come up today, be reassured. It means that
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  Speaker 2: you're putting them first, and it means that you're doing
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  Speaker 2: a good job. I like that a lot. Yeah, solid
• 2:01:05
  Speaker 2: one for solid one for parents. The it kind of
• 2:01:10
  Speaker 2: sucks to read there where he just says they're not
• 2:01:13
  Speaker 2: good parents, because I'm sure it's, like, you know, I
• 2:01:15
  Speaker 2: feel like every parent kind of thinks are wonders that
• 2:01:18
  Speaker 2: they're doing a good job or not?
• 2:01:20
  Speaker 1: Of course, yes, everybody thinks about anything in their life,
• 2:01:24
  Speaker 1: not just parenting of like am I a good friend?
• 2:01:27
  Speaker 1: Am I a good husband? Am I a good employee?
• 2:01:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah? I guess it's like a good m reminder or
• 2:01:34
  Speaker 2: shift in perspective of asking yourself like have I checked
• 2:01:40
  Speaker 2: in with the wife? Have I checked in with my wife?
• 2:01:42
  Speaker 2: Have I checked in with my kids? Have I checked
• 2:01:43
  Speaker 2: in with myself? To kind of measure performance whatever that
• 2:01:46
  Speaker 2: performance is. I don't think there is like a measuring
• 2:01:47
  Speaker 2: stick for it. Yeah, but if you're at least like
• 2:01:49
  Speaker 2: conscious of it enough to think like so, because we
• 2:01:53
  Speaker 2: don't know what our blind spots are unless we ask
• 2:01:55
  Speaker 2: people in our close circle, you know what I mean?
• 2:01:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I know exactly what. But you man, it's something
• 2:02:00
  Speaker 1: that I'm already starting to think about with like the
• 2:02:04
  Speaker 1: everything that's coming up, and like the next three weeks
• 2:02:07
  Speaker 1: for me are about to be a whirlwind. It's about
• 2:02:09
  Speaker 1: to be crazy. Yeah, And I'm already starting to think
• 2:02:13
  Speaker 1: to myself about like still trying to prioritize Jill even
• 2:02:18
  Speaker 1: though Scarlet is going to be in the picture, and
• 2:02:21
  Speaker 1: like that's going to be our main focus no matter what.
• 2:02:24
  Speaker 1: But with postpartum depression and all the things that you
• 2:02:28
  Speaker 1: hear of like hey, is is Jill? Like am I
• 2:02:31
  Speaker 1: doing enough for Scarlet? But I am I also doing
• 2:02:33
  Speaker 1: enough to support Jill? And is Jill okay in this moment?
• 2:02:37
  Speaker 2: You know?
• 2:02:38
  Speaker 1: It's I feel like it's one of those things that
• 2:02:40
  Speaker 1: like the like we were talking about last week, when
• 2:02:43
  Speaker 1: you ask yourself you're like, man, I hope I'm going
• 2:02:45
  Speaker 1: to be a good dad. It's like the fact that
• 2:02:47
  Speaker 1: you're asking yourself that, or that you're wanting that, that's
• 2:02:51
  Speaker 1: already a good sign.
• 2:02:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's And if you're somebody out there thinking
• 2:02:58
  Speaker 2: of because I, like you said about like just you know,
• 2:03:01
  Speaker 2: making sure Jill's all right, if Jill's good, being on
• 2:03:04
  Speaker 2: the same page with Jill, it's like essentially asking your
• 2:03:08
  Speaker 2: wife those questions like you know, hey, am I doing enough?
• 2:03:12
  Speaker 2: What do you need from me right now? Or am
• 2:03:15
  Speaker 2: I operating how you would assumed if you could give
• 2:03:18
  Speaker 2: me a performance evaluation right now? And some of those
• 2:03:21
  Speaker 2: questions are some of those thoughts might be like scared
• 2:03:23
  Speaker 2: to have with your wife, Like if you're a dad
• 2:03:24
  Speaker 2: right now listening thinking to yourself like maybe I haven't
• 2:03:27
  Speaker 2: checked in with myself recently, or I haven't checked in
• 2:03:29
  Speaker 2: with my wife, and it could be like a frightening
• 2:03:31
  Speaker 2: thing because you might know what the answer is. You
• 2:03:34
  Speaker 2: almost just have to you almost have to lean in
• 2:03:37
  Speaker 2: and still seek those answers that you might not be
• 2:03:41
  Speaker 2: excited to hear. Because it's one thing that we talk
• 2:03:43
  Speaker 2: about all the time is like conflict delayed is conflict multiplied.
• 2:03:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And so.
• 2:03:47
  Speaker 2: If you don't seek out those answers and rip that
• 2:03:49
  Speaker 2: band aid off and kind of hear something that you
• 2:03:51
  Speaker 2: might not be ready to hear, it would be just
• 2:03:55
  Speaker 2: to open that door. It would be like, yeah, open
• 2:03:57
  Speaker 2: that door and face it and have those conversations, because
• 2:03:59
  Speaker 2: that's you know, right, like anytime like I might not
• 2:04:03
  Speaker 2: be doing something well enough, or when charl and I
• 2:04:05
  Speaker 2: are laying in bed and it's just as simple as
• 2:04:07
  Speaker 2: like you know, hey, what do you.
• 2:04:10
  Speaker 1: Need out of me this week?
• 2:04:11
  Speaker 2: Where it's like we should know that answer, but it's
• 2:04:14
  Speaker 2: almost allowing the space for that conversation to happen and
• 2:04:18
  Speaker 2: them to even say it.
• 2:04:19
  Speaker 1: Out loud, or the fact that you're even asking yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 2:04:24
  Speaker 1: or like I feel like I fell short here and
• 2:04:28
  Speaker 1: you're seeking feedback whatever that might be.
• 2:04:30
  Speaker 2: It's like all those conversations are important.
• 2:04:32
  Speaker 1: I I one hundred percent have not checked in with
• 2:04:35
  Speaker 1: Jill like that. I'm trying to remember the last time
• 2:04:38
  Speaker 1: that I've done that.
• 2:04:40
  Speaker 2: I really, yeah, and me intentionally, I don't. I'm not
• 2:04:45
  Speaker 2: thinking of the last time I actually did that charing
• 2:04:47
  Speaker 2: and I will do as you know, a couple's therapies.
• 2:04:49
  Speaker 2: So I feel like that stuff comes out when we're
• 2:04:51
  Speaker 2: sitting down talking about it, and sometimes you're.
• 2:04:52
  Speaker 3: Just not you're not privy or you're not aware.
• 2:04:55
  Speaker 2: It's like, oh, oh snap, I didn't know that you
• 2:04:58
  Speaker 2: know this was happening or this was in your mind.
• 2:05:00
  Speaker 2: And I can do a better job of seeking out
• 2:05:03
  Speaker 2: whether it's that information, her feelings in a certain situation.
• 2:05:09
  Speaker 1: But yeah, dude, which I gotta get that dialed into
• 2:05:12
  Speaker 1: what couple therapy. That's another thing that Jill and I
• 2:05:16
  Speaker 1: did pre mariital.
• 2:05:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, the premarital counseling.
• 2:05:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, prepping for and it was awesome, dude, And I
• 2:05:24
  Speaker 1: like we every I feel like every two weeks we're like,
• 2:05:27
  Speaker 1: we gotta get that counselor thing set up. We got it,
• 2:05:30
  Speaker 1: you know with the therapists and national Yeah, I'll ask well,
• 2:05:33
  Speaker 1: I heard that he does couples.
• 2:05:35
  Speaker 2: You know, Yeah, we love doing it. There are times
• 2:05:37
  Speaker 2: where I'm not necessarily sure we're going to talk about
• 2:05:40
  Speaker 2: going into it because I'm like, i feel like everything's
• 2:05:42
  Speaker 2: been going pretty smooth, and I'm not one of those
• 2:05:44
  Speaker 2: types who likes to just sit in like what we're
• 2:05:47
  Speaker 2: feeling in every moment. Yeah, you know what I mean.
• 2:05:51
  Speaker 2: You know, I'm like a guy's guy, I guess when
• 2:05:53
  Speaker 2: it comes to that. But I do enjoy I do
• 2:05:56
  Speaker 2: have a different perspective on therapy since doing it and
• 2:05:59
  Speaker 2: going to it, because I do feel like we get
• 2:06:00
  Speaker 2: a lot out of it because you have a third
• 2:06:02
  Speaker 2: party perspective that has zero bias toward either of our lives, Yes,
• 2:06:07
  Speaker 2: helping us kind of talk through what our differences might be,
• 2:06:09
  Speaker 2: and they're there to kind of help you zoom out
• 2:06:11
  Speaker 2: and see it for what it is, and you like
• 2:06:14
  Speaker 2: learn a different skill set of communication and like what
• 2:06:18
  Speaker 2: your triggers are and you you come to find out
• 2:06:20
  Speaker 2: you get some stuff off your chest that you might
• 2:06:23
  Speaker 2: have been feeling and you didn't necessarily know that you
• 2:06:25
  Speaker 2: were feeling. So I was really shaky on it at first.
• 2:06:28
  Speaker 2: At times, I'm not like the biggest fan of going
• 2:06:29
  Speaker 2: in and talking about all the emotions and the feelings
• 2:06:32
  Speaker 2: of everything. It's like, hey, we know we have to do.
• 2:06:34
  Speaker 2: Why sit in this for an hour of our time?
• 2:06:37
  Speaker 2: But every time we leave a session, we always feel like.
• 2:06:41
  Speaker 1: A lot better one hundred percent. We always feel a
• 2:06:44
  Speaker 1: lot better one hundred percent. That got me stoked.
• 2:06:49
  Speaker 2: That got me.
• 2:06:51
  Speaker 1: Wanting to I know Jill's going to be asleep when
• 2:06:53
  Speaker 1: I get home tonight, but.
• 2:06:55
  Speaker 2: It's fucking eleven thirty at night.
• 2:06:56
  Speaker 1: Oh.
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  Speaker 3: I hope you guys have enjoyed it. We went a
• 2:06:59
  Speaker 3: little longer than.
• 2:07:00
  Speaker 2: Even last week, but you guys said, hey, fucking just
• 2:07:03
  Speaker 2: let it rip, don't cut it short. Yeah, we like
• 2:07:05
  Speaker 2: the longer ones. Hopefully you guys do. Hopefully you guys
• 2:07:08
  Speaker 2: enjoyed this one. Shut out all the dads, man, shout
• 2:07:11
  Speaker 2: out everybody tune in, whether your mom or dad, somebody
• 2:07:13
  Speaker 2: just interested in parenting. Are you guys just like listen
• 2:07:16
  Speaker 2: to me and sure and talk about stuff like this.
• 2:07:19
  Speaker 2: We appreciate it, man.
• 2:07:20
  Speaker 1: We appreciate it. Shout out the guy that say he
• 2:07:22
  Speaker 1: sits on a tractor and he said make it three hours. Yeah,
• 2:07:25
  Speaker 1: the chapter all, yeah, did you see that one?
• 2:07:27
  Speaker 3: No, I did not see that one, but I am
• 2:07:29
  Speaker 3: laughing like I did hear that one.
• 2:07:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yea yeah all right for the dads,
• 2:07:35
  Speaker 2: that's fucking take out the trash boys. Come on, yeah
• 2:07:39
  Speaker 2: that was.
• 2:07:41
  Speaker 1: Was that on purpose? No, I just flipped that's tune
• 2:07:44
  Speaker 1: a round. That's great, SOD. Tell my wife a probably
• 2:07:49
  Speaker 1: ten thirty