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Season 3 - Episode 285 - Creating quality time · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  How do you define quality time? It's interesting question
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  because everybody has a different version of it, right?
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  Depending upon what you're doing, where you are, who you're
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  with, what is quality time? Like if I spend quality time
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  with somebody and I'm I'm working towards making that
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  person feel important in my life, am I focusing on my
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  version of quality time or their version of quality time?
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  What a very introspective question to ask.
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  Well, it's important because each one of us has different
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  rules for quality time and what it means.
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  So for me personally, quality time is where somebody's, you
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  know, digging in, spending time doing the things that I want to
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  do and enjoying it with me. So that might be gardening, it
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  might be plant shopping, it might be doing some sort of
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  work, artwork, things like that that I love to do so much.
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  Recently, my daughter and I, we signed up to go to clay, to go
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  to a clay class, like wheel class where we could learn how
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  to do pottery. And we spent, you know, 4 hours
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  every week for six weeks doing this class.
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  And I consider that real quality time because it was something
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  that she wanted to do and it was something that I wanted to do.
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  And we engaged in it together and we got to meet up at a
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  place, sit down, laugh, look at our stuff, come out with things.
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  It was very fun quality time. I got to spend real quality time
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  with her. So is it quality time?
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  Someone recently asked me, is it quality time when we are just
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  hanging out and we're watching TV?
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  And I was like, well, it can be if that's what you want it to
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  be. It doesn't have to be if that's,
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  you know, not what you want. It's more about is it agreeable
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  to everybody? Is it agreeable to you?
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  So As for some people, quality time is just taking a space and
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  saying I'm just going to sit down and I'm just going to watch
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  TV for a little while. Because if I don't take a break,
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  if I just don't sit down and relax, I'm not going to have any
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  time by myself anytime soon. And I just want to be by myself.
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  I just want to sit back and relax.
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  I want to watch an episode of something I've already seen 100
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  times like Seinfeld or something like that.
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  And I just, I just want to chill out by myself.
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  Nothing wrong with that. If that's the quality time and
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  how you define it, that's OK. Again, I know you guys hear me
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  say this a lot, but quality time is defined or all of our things
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  are defined by our own definitions of it and how we
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  have to keep checking in on it. It is a fact, it is a hard fact
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  in the world that we need to keep checking in on what how we
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  define things. That way we understand what they
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  mean to us. And if we don't know what the
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  definitions are for our partners, our friends, people at
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  work, we'll never know. So you can think all you want
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  about buying somebody a gift, but if it's not something that
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  they want or something that they can appreciate all the time that
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  you put into it might not be registered the same way because
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  that person isn't thinking that you took the time to think about
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  them. They took that you took maybe
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  took the time to just think about the fact that you wanted
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  to give them a gift, but you focused on what you would want
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  as a gift as opposed to them because you have different rules
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  for it. So it comes back to time is no
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  different because time is precious, right?
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  We all have limited amounts of time and we have to make sure
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  we're doing an excellent job at using our time wisely.
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  So when we spend quality time, we want to really spend quality
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  time. Like even with my chickens, when
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  I come out here and I sit down, I don't just come out and I sit
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  on my phone while I sit in the chicken, you know, run with
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  them. Even though they're all out
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  walking around, there they are. Wherever they may be, I am.
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  I come, I sit. I wait for them to come and sit
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  with me. It's all purposeful.
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  I'm on task with this. I'm sitting here and I'm
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  spending time with them. That's probably why a lot of
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  them just come and they sit with me and they don't jump up.
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  They like sit on my lap. They want to sit with me, they
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  want to hang out with me. But it's partly because I'm very
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  present and I'm on purpose with it.
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  I am spending what I think is quality time with them, giving
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  them snacks, doing whatever. That's quality time.
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  And that's their version of quality time, not just my
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  version, but their version. So this is, this is a, a work in
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  progress for most people to figure out how other people
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  determine quality time. You have to do some research,
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  you have to ask questions, you have to dig in with those around
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  you that you actually care about and ask the right questions,
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  collect the right information so that you can make good choices.
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  Because when you make good choices, you make people happy.
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  And isn't that what this is all about?
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  Life is very short. Making yourself and making other
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  people happy. That's what it's all about my
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  friends. So I hope you have a very
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  blessed day and I will see you tomorrow for some more quality
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  time here. Bye.