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Why Simps Won_t Listen · THINK BEFORE YOU SLEEP

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  Speaker 1: So you're basically saying that you're just dating me because
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  Speaker 1: I can buy you things.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: I knew my family would have advised against me marrying
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  Speaker 1: Aunt Visa, but I still did it anyways. We've been
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  Speaker 1: married for six months, and.
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  Speaker 2: It feels good. Why are you saying it like that?
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  Speaker 1: How?
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  Speaker 2: I hate being married to George.
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  Speaker 3: I think that a lot of people don't like to
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  Speaker 3: admit it, but everyone loves a good train wreck. If
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  Speaker 3: that weren't true, traffic wouldn't slow down on a freeway
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  Speaker 3: when there's an accident on the other side of the median.
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  Speaker 3: But for me, I really love watching a good disastrous relationship.
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  Speaker 3: I loved it when shows like Jersey Shore were on
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  Speaker 3: the air, even though that show was fake. I love
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  Speaker 3: seeing it on MTV's True Life, and I like to
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  Speaker 3: indulge in watching a relationship burn in the modern day.
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  Speaker 3: So I have a show that I've been waiting to
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  Speaker 3: talk about for quite a while called 90 Day Fiance,
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  Speaker 3: which I think is perfect marketing from the Learning Channel.
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  Speaker 3: They have found a formula that literally guarantees that their
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  Speaker 3: relationships will be destructive and therefore interesting to watch. The
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  Speaker 3: premise of this show is that these couples get a
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  Speaker 3: visa and have their future spouse fly over to America
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  Speaker 3: all on their own dime. TLC pays for none of it.
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  Speaker 3: They don't even pay the people on the visa because
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  Speaker 3: it's illegal, and despite the popularity of the show, American
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  Speaker 3: cast members only get like $ 1, 000 an episode. After they
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  Speaker 3: get their visa, they have 90 days to decide if
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  Speaker 3: they're going to get married or be deported. And the
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  Speaker 3: American partners are supposed to wonder, are they in it
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  Speaker 3: for the green card? Yes, they're in it for the
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  Speaker 3: green card. All of them are. I mean, they aren't
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  Speaker 3: even getting paid for the show. Why would you even
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  Speaker 3: have to ask that? We get it, though. You can't
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  Speaker 3: afford a high-status partner from America... So you're rummaging through
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  Speaker 3: the discount bin from another country to see if you
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  Speaker 3: can get a good deal on a spouse. I mean,
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  Speaker 3: this show is so transparent on that point that you
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  Speaker 3: can tell who the foreigner is just by looking at
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  Speaker 3: the couples. So guys, let's play a game in the
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  Speaker 3: comments section. I'm going to show you a few pictures
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  Speaker 3: of couples and you tell me your answers of which
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  Speaker 3: partner you think is a foreigner. Let's try the first couple.
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  Speaker 3: Who is on a visa? Molly or Louis? Got your answer? Next,
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  Speaker 3: tell me. Which one of these two is in it
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  Speaker 3: for the green card? Alexandra or Josh? Nicole or Azan?
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  Speaker 3: Who is rummaging through that discount bin to find a
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  Speaker 3: spouse with a higher number? Do you think Mohammed is
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  Speaker 3: the American? Or is it Danielle?
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  Speaker 2: Last one.
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  Speaker 3: Colt or Larissa? Which one of them is pretending to
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  Speaker 3: enjoy the sex? Alright guys, pencils down. Let's get to
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  Speaker 3: our main couple, George and Anfisa. Anfisa is a female
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  Speaker 3: entrepreneur slash ex-cam girl from Russia who wants to live
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  Speaker 3: the American dream. George is a pot dealer from Reeferside,
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  Speaker 3: California who said he would buy Anfisa anything she wanted
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  Speaker 3: when she moved to America.
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  Speaker 2: When George asked me to come to the States, he
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  Speaker 2: promised to get me whatever I want.
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  Speaker 1: Whatever makes you happy.
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  Speaker 2: I'm beautiful and I like nice clothes, nice shoes, nice purses.
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  Speaker 2: So I expect him to pay for all that. I
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  Speaker 2: want more shoes, more bags, more. I want a car.
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  Speaker 1: There has to be a limit.
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  Speaker 2: $ 10, 000 per month?
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  Speaker 1: Don't make me laugh.
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  Speaker 2: Be reasonable.
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  Speaker 3: What about price point? What are you comfortable with?
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  Speaker 2: What is your most expensive dress?
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  Speaker 3: Our most expensive dress would be $ 45, 000.
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  Speaker 1: Is that okay? You keep wanting more and more. Like,
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  Speaker 1: when is the end? After you want something, you're going
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  Speaker 1: to want something else. And after you get that, you're
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  Speaker 1: going to want something else. Like, there's never going to
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  Speaker 1: be an end to it.
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  Speaker 3: Now, after seeing all this, you might ask, why would
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  Speaker 3: George put up with her? She's not attractive. and she's
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  Speaker 3: definitely not worth $ 10, 000 a month. I mean, if she
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  Speaker 3: was like a 10, I could see why George wouldn't
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  Speaker 3: just kick her to the curb. So really, none of
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  Speaker 3: this makes sense. But then, I found something that better
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  Speaker 3: explained this situation, and to the handful of women watching this,
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  Speaker 3: you should pay close attention. This is how ugly plastic
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  Speaker 3: surgery makes you look. Take a look at these before
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  Speaker 3: and after photos. On the left, we see a pre-plastic
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  Speaker 3: surgery on FISA, who was a strong 8 or 9
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  Speaker 3: out of 10. On the right, we see a post-Botox Anfisa,
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  Speaker 3: who has lowered her number to a 7. The big
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  Speaker 3: Botox lips ruin the symmetry of her face, which makes
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  Speaker 3: her look like a clown. And that is always the
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  Speaker 3: case with Botox. Botox looks gross, and men don't like it. That,
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  Speaker 3: plus a little weight gain, and by the time she's
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  Speaker 3: married to George, she brings herself down to a 5
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  Speaker 3: or a 6. Keep in mind that when this was filmed,
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  Speaker 3: she was in her early 20s. Now, if you were
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  Speaker 3: to watch any videos on George and Anfisa, and then
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  Speaker 3: also read the comments section, you will see that many
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  Speaker 3: people are saying that she is virtuous because she is
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  Speaker 3: honest about her gold digging behavior, and George is the
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  Speaker 3: bad guy for not meeting her demands. And they were
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  Speaker 3: partially right. George did lie about his wealth, but she's
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  Speaker 3: not honest either. By her own words, the deal was
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  Speaker 3: that he would give her money and she would be attractive.
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  Speaker 1: So basically you're saying if I can't provide, I'm worthless
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  Speaker 1: to you.
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  Speaker 2: I don't understand what's wrong about it. If I was
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  Speaker 2: ugly and fat, would you be dating me?
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  Speaker 3: But she didn't hold up her end of the bargain.
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  Speaker 3: After she moved, she got Botox and fake boobs, which again, ladies,
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  Speaker 3: lowers your number, you are spending money on and going
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  Speaker 3: through painful surgeries for stuff that makes you look less attractive.
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  Speaker 3: So she got fake boobs, Botox, and then gained a
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  Speaker 3: bunch of weight. George originally bargained for a nine, but
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  Speaker 3: by the time they were married, he ended up with
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  Speaker 3: a five. That makes her a liar. And even if
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  Speaker 3: she didn't make a bunch of choices that made her
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  Speaker 3: look less attractive, just because she was honest about her
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  Speaker 3: intentions doesn't make her actions right. If a killer is
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  Speaker 3: honest about murdering people, does that absolve him of his crimes?
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  Speaker 3: I wonder if the women enjoying Anfisa's honesty also call
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  Speaker 3: men pigs who openly say that they are only interested
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  Speaker 3: in a woman for her looks. Outside of that, for
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  Speaker 3: those of you who are unaware, this is the kind
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  Speaker 3: of person Anfisa is. What?
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  Speaker 1: She keyed idiot into the driver's side door. She broke phones, plural.
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  Speaker 1: I tried calling her. She erased my phone. That's her. Hello?
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  Speaker 2: Where are you?
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  Speaker 1: That's just an attention thing, I feel like. I'm pulling over.
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  Speaker 1: Why did you leave?
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  Speaker 3: You told me you're going to come back.
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  Speaker 1: What do you want? She's calling me up and texting
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  Speaker 1: me and trying to FaceTime me and see where I'm
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  Speaker 1: at and trying to control every move that I do.
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  Speaker 3: Hello?
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  Speaker 1: You told me you were.
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  Speaker 3: Going home and you're coming back.
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  Speaker 2: You told me! What?
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  Speaker 3: You just left! Come back right now!
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  Speaker 2: What are you doing?
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  Speaker 1: Come back! This is the kind of I have to
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  Speaker 1: go through all the time. What is the problem? I
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  Speaker 1: am coming back.
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  Speaker 3: I am coming back.
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  Speaker 2: Because I think I deserve more than 50%, no matter
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  Speaker 2: when we divorce. I think I deserve everything, and he's
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  Speaker 2: not going to take it from me.
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  Speaker 1: She doesn't want to take on debt, but then it
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  Speaker 1: spends my money.
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  Speaker 2: So what?
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  Speaker 1: I'm not going to screw myself over just because you
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  Speaker 1: want to be happy. I'm agreeing to certain things.
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  Speaker 2: Nothing changes.
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  Speaker 1: I think you're too immature to know this.
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  Speaker 2: So what?
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  Speaker 3: Don't f * * * ing.
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  Speaker 1: Smile at me like that. I'm telling you it's not.
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  Speaker 2: Tell me what? Huh?
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  Speaker 1: I'm telling you that it's... Tell me what?
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  Speaker 3: Now you can talk all about how they edit reality TV.
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  Speaker 3: Most of you.
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  Speaker 2: Probably know me from a reality TV show, and I'm
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  Speaker 2: sure you know that these kind of shows are heavily edited.
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  Speaker 3: But no matter how they edit this show, if I
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  Speaker 3: was in a relationship with her, and she broke two
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  Speaker 3: of my phones, did a factory reset on my phone
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  Speaker 3: because she was mad, screamed now at me, keyed my car,
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  Speaker 3: or hit me, if she did just one of those things,
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  Speaker 3: then the relationship would be over. Clever editing didn't make
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  Speaker 3: it seem like she did that. She actually did those things. Now,
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  Speaker 3: on the topic of Anfisa's recent behavior, since her husband
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  Speaker 3: was arrested for driving with nearly 300 pounds of weed
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  Speaker 3: in his car, she has lost weight and allowed her
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  Speaker 3: Botox to wear off, which raises her number back up
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  Speaker 3: a little bit. Curious, though. She says she hates being
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  Speaker 3: married to George, and as soon as he is gone
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  Speaker 3: in prison, she starts making herself look more attractive. I'm
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  Speaker 3: sure you guys know what she's planning to do. especially
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  Speaker 3: considering they have already been married long enough for her
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  Speaker 3: to still get permanent residency, even if they get a divorce,
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  Speaker 3: all the while being supportive of George during his time
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  Speaker 3: of need. Anfisa is weighing her options. Should she stay
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  Speaker 3: with George or leave him? Judging by her recent decision
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  Speaker 3: to become a competitive bodybuilder, it looks like she wants
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  Speaker 3: to stay with George. to leave him, but her actions
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  Speaker 3: support both games, whether she is trying to monkey branch
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  Speaker 3: or not. Tom Likas would call this investing for the future.
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  Speaker 3: Women will pay for a few dates up front to
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  Speaker 3: rope you in, and then, once you're hooked, expect you
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  Speaker 3: to pay for absolutely everything. She spends $ 200 on a
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  Speaker 3: few dates and and then gets tens of thousands of
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  Speaker 3: dollars spent on dates in return. If you try to
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  Speaker 3: call her out on it, she will just refer back
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  Speaker 3: to the beginning of the relationship and say, oh, I'm
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  Speaker 3: a gold digger? Don't you remember that one time when
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  Speaker 3: I paid for a date three years ago? If George
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  Speaker 3: is the best on fees I can get, then anytime
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  Speaker 3: he calls her a gold digger, she can just bring
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  Speaker 3: up the fact that she was nice to him while
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  Speaker 3: he was in prison and rope him back in. She
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  Speaker 3: will use that as blackmail on him for years. She
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  Speaker 3: might even throw in the, I do everything for you,
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  Speaker 3: and you do nothing for me, cliche. Just because someone
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  Speaker 3: was nice in the past and paid for something, doesn't
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  Speaker 3: mean you are currently exchanging equivalent value. That's like paying
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  Speaker 3: a contractor for one job, and then expecting him to
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  Speaker 3: do all of his future jobs for free. Now if
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  Speaker 3: Anfisa goes the other way, decides she wants to leave George,
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  Speaker 3: and that causes her legal issues, then she can point
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  Speaker 3: out that she cared for him when he was in jail,
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  Speaker 3: so she didn't just marry him to get a green card.
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  Speaker 3: This is all her playing the game. She's already shown
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  Speaker 3: us who she is, and that kind of person doesn't
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  Speaker 3: magically flip into a saint in two years' time, particularly
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  Speaker 3: when there's no benefit in doing that. So why is
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  Speaker 3: George putting up with this? Why won't he just leave her?
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  Speaker 3: Why didn't he leave Anfisa during the show? It's not
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  Speaker 3: like he wasn't warned about her behavior. Honestly, I believe
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  Speaker 3: that she thought she was coming here to the U.S.
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  Speaker 3: and that you were going to give her every single
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  Speaker 3: thing that she asked for.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: That's what happens when you pay for somebody.
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  Speaker 1: To spread their legs. I knew my family would have
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  Speaker 1: advised against me marrying Anvisa, but I still did it anyways.
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  Speaker 3: People have told him how this whole thing is going
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  Speaker 3: to play out, and he is not unaware of his situation.
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  Speaker 3: So I want you guys to pay close attention... Because
• 12:04
  Speaker 3: when you see a guy like maybe one of your
• 12:06
  Speaker 3: friends walking right into an obvious trap, this is why.
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  Speaker 3: I want you to think of George like a heroin addict.
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  Speaker 3: If someone is addicted to heroin, it doesn't matter how
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  Speaker 3: many times you tell them it's bad for them, they're
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  Speaker 3: still going to do heroin. George is an addict. He
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  Speaker 3: is repeating a destructive behavior despite the negative consequences.
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  Speaker 2: Why?
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  Speaker 3: Because he likes being stepped on by women.
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  Speaker 1: And she's just very controlling. She likes to be bossy.
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  Speaker 1: And I kind of like that. I kind of like
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  Speaker 1: her firmness of, you know, her standing her ground, but
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  Speaker 1: also stand my ground too. So, you know, that's where
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  Speaker 1: conflict comes into play.
• 12:47
  Speaker 3: Believe it or not, there are actually a lot of
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  Speaker 3: rich guys who are into this. There's a really interesting
• 12:51
  Speaker 3: episode of Joe Rogan with Sierra Lynch, where she talks
• 12:54
  Speaker 3: about how guys would pay her so they could watch
• 12:57
  Speaker 3: her waste their money shopping online. Now, understandably, Some of
• 13:01
  Speaker 3: your more normal friends may not be into the sub-dom culture,
• 13:04
  Speaker 3: but it's still a variant of this. If you know
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  Speaker 3: someone who is in a terrible relationship and they stay
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  Speaker 3: with that partner, they are doing it because they're an addict.
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  Speaker 3: We measure addiction by negative consequence, and there are all
• 13:17
  Speaker 3: kinds of bad things that can happen to you when
• 13:19
  Speaker 3: you're in a relationship with an abusive partner like Anfisa. Now,
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  Speaker 3: of course, if you see a friend in danger, then
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  Speaker 3: as a good friend, you can warn them. You would
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  Speaker 3: be a terrible friend if you saw your friend walking
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  Speaker 3: towards a cliff and didn't try to stop him. You
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  Speaker 3: can give him the tools to avoid the negative consequences,
• 13:37
  Speaker 3: but if he ignores your warnings, then the only thing
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  Speaker 3: you can do is let his addictive behavior cause him
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  Speaker 3: to fall. And that might mean some pretty disastrous things.
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  Speaker 3: It might mean jail. It might mean losing half of
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  Speaker 3: his stuff. It might mean paying five years of alimony.
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  Speaker 3: It might mean paying 18 years for a kid that's
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  Speaker 3: not his. It might mean becoming homeless. Oh well. That's
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  Speaker 3: what he's chosen, and if you try to get in
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  Speaker 3: the way of his failure, you will only make it worse.
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  Speaker 3: For example, let's say you have a family member who
• 14:06
  Speaker 3: is an alcoholic, and they lose their home. You say,
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  Speaker 3: no problem, just come live with me. By doing that,
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  Speaker 3: you have just removed the consequences of their bad decisions,
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  Speaker 3: so instead of saying, wow, I see the errors in
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  Speaker 3: my ways, they're going to say, great, I don't have
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  Speaker 3: to pay rent anymore, so I can afford a drink.
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  Speaker 3: George from 90 Day Fiancee, is experiencing that now. His
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  Speaker 3: relationship with Anfisa has had negative consequences. He is currently
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  Speaker 3: in jail. And who's to say that he didn't make
• 14:36
  Speaker 3: that mistake with his medical marijuana business because he was
• 14:39
  Speaker 3: trying to rake in more cash to meet Anfisa's demands? Now,
• 14:43
  Speaker 3: he has already been warned, so if someone helps him,
• 14:45
  Speaker 3: like posting bail or becomes his emotional tampon for all
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  Speaker 3: his problems with his wife, then he will just say, great,
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  Speaker 3: I have all the support I need, so I don't
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  Speaker 3: have to make any changes. And that's how the cycle works.
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  Speaker 3: That's why these people won't listen to reason. That's why
• 15:00
  Speaker 3: every addict is in denial. They need strong negative consequences
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  Speaker 3: before they will make any changes. You can help people
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  Speaker 3: who want to be helped, but if they refuse you,
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  Speaker 3: then the best thing you can do is shut up
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  Speaker 3: and don't support them when they are hurt by their
• 15:13
  Speaker 3: bad choices. Otherwise, you will make them worse. But that's
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