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Keion Henderson - Faith Leader & Visionary | How Life's Struggles Prepare You for Your Calling · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  Being the 12-year-old wanting to play basketball on the middle school basketball team,
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  then when I started playing, I started having these massive chest pains.
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  I wanted to find out I have a hole in my heart, the size of a quarter.
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  Keon Henderson is the founder and senior pastor of the Lighthouse Church in Houston,
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  leading a community of over 15,000 members and reaching hundreds of thousands online each week.
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  My mom took me to church six months later. That machine was off me and I was playing basketball.
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  God is the source, but he also leads you as the scripture says to paths.
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  So you still have human responsibility in every shift in your life.
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  You just have to be a resilient person, and then you add faith on it, the size of a
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  mustard seed, and then you can move mountains. Starting his ministry journey at just 14,
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  he's also a best-selling author of the shift in lazy love, and the founder of the L3 conference
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  focused on leadership, learning, and lifestyle. I get that question all the time, people say,
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  yeah, but it's hard. It is hard, and that's why everybody doesn't do it. We all are born in
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  an incredible amount of talent. Beyond the pulpit, he's an entrepreneur, motivational speaker,
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  in humanitarian, recognized by the John Maxwell Institute,
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  and nominated for a CNN Heroes Award. In this episode, we explore Keon's powerful journey of
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  purpose, growth, and leading with faith. Sometimes you have to stop fighting the environment,
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  and you have to succumb to it so that you can find your best. If you're going to be a leader,
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  In your book, The Shift, you talk about surviving transitions in life. I think this is very,
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  very applicable to everyone right now. It feels like they're, their fundamentals have been
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  uprooted over the past five years, but you grew up in poverty and Gary and Deanna.
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  You didn't know your father who was actually your pastor, and then eventually you became the
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  founding member of, I think these numbers are old, but over 20,000 people in your congregation and
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  your church. So you've gone through all these shifts yourself, massive shifts. And there's a lot
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  I left out we're going to talk about as well. But if you think about your life, what was one of
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  the shifts that you went through that helped you realize that life's seemingly painful transitions
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  could actually be transformational opportunities. Man, I think every one of the shifts did that.
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  Let me think back to the first one. The first shift that I ever remember was being the 12 year old
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  wanting to play basketball on the middle school basketball team. Now remember telling my mom
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  that I finally wanted to play basketball. She supported it. And then when I started playing,
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  I started having these massive chest pains and didn't know what that was all about.
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  We didn't have health insurance. You know, I had never been to a doctor. So what we did in our
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  houses, like you just you tried to figure a way around every sickness. And so it wasn't going
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  to the doctor, wasn't an automatic assumption. So we just tried to figure it out. It kept happening,
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  kept happening. Every time I would play basketball, shortness of breath, this sharp chest pain,
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  go to the doctor. I wanted to find out that I have a hole in my heart, the size of a quarter.
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  And so the doctor told my mother that I would never be a very active kid, that I would never be
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  able to play basketball things of that nature. That was the first shift. And I remember telling my
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  mom, very young, like mom, we need to get a second opinion. But we need somebody else to tell us
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  if we can do this because like I feel like I can do this. I feel like I'm supposed to. I love,
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  love the game. Like I can't tell you how much I loved it. So we were able to get a second opinion.
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  And the doctor put a monitor on me. So I was the kid in school walking around the hallways with
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  this big strap. You know, think the technology wasn't so good. Then this huge strap around my
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  shoulder, like a man purse, right? And it's got this big, huge mechanical device hanging from
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  the side. And every time I felt a chest pain, I had to hit a button. And that was it recording what
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  was happening. And I remember, man, I remember when it first got on, I was pushing that button all
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  the time and I would cry. And I'm never going to play basketball. Long story short, I don't know
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  what happened. My mom took me to church, had people at church pray over me. And six months later,
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  that machine was off me and I was playing basketball. And I was on the beat. I was on the beat
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  team, right? I was on the beat team. I wouldn't get on the on the A team by eventually left college as
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  a starter at a division one school. So that was my first big shit starting out being told I wouldn't
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  be able to play leading out one of the best on my team. And so that was that was a big shit for me.
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  That's huge. That's absolutely huge. Most people, I mean, you've gone through a lot of
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  a lot of difficulty in your life. I think that most people, when they think about these, you know,
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  these types of stressful life situations that that happened to all of us, I think that most people
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  don't look at them as transformation opportunities. They look at them and they run away as far as
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  quick as possible. Or if they can't run away from them, what ends up happening is they let that
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  thing rewrite their story in the worst way possible. Wow. Wow. That's huge. That's huge.
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  Because you do have, you do have two options. Fear can make you forget everything you're on.
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  Right? F-E-A-R. That's what fear can do. It can make you face reality and recognize that
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  this is an opportunity. And that's really, and I know you know this, that's really the only
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  difference between those who are successful and those who are not. Those who won in life
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  went through their circumstance with optimism. And those who didn't went through it with pessimism.
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  That's really the secret. And everybody's trying to read books and find out, well, how did,
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  you know, how did such and such do this? And, you know, they'll look at you and try to figure out
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  how did you get a successful podcast? Well, you just kept going when everybody else quick,
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  right? I'm sure that that were moments where, you know, the numbers were not where you wanted
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  them to go. But you just kept going. 100 percent, dude. Yeah. So you forget everything you run.
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  Are you you face everything and realize that that you can do it? Let's answer sort of the elephant
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  in the room. Obviously, obviously, it's easier said than done to have something negative happen
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  to you and just realize that this could be a blessing, right? It's just it's nice to talk about
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  it on a podcast. But when people come to you and they're going through shifts in their life,
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  what is the thing that they have to, or what did you have to lean on
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  to make it through the most difficult parts of the difficult times? What is the thing that
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  is it? Is it God? Is it self-belief? Is it what is the most important idea? Then we'll unpack
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  that a little bit. Yeah. So obviously, for me, as a man of faith, it's going to be God. But I
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  want to make sure that I could tell that with some flexibility and by that, I mean, God is the
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  source. But he also leads you, as the scripture says, to paths. That's Psalms 23. He leads you
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  through paths of righteousness. So you still have human responsibility in every shifting your life.
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  You see, because I'm going to be talking about it. I've got a minister here in California today.
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  And I'm talking about the four stages of a miracle and every one of them required human
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  responsibility. So whether you're a person of faith, or whether you're agnostic, whether you're
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  an atheist, because there are still ways to scale and make money and and make shifts in life.
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  Without God, I'm not saying that I believe the outcomes are going to be apropos, but there are
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  a lot of people in the world who have tons of money and never read the Bible, right? So when you
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  when you boil it down to what does it take to make it through the physical aspect of life,
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  human responsibility that there is no mystical formula, not even for those of us who believe in God.
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  We don't just lift our heads and say, hey, God, you know, send a million dollars and it just
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  comes out of the sink when we turn the water on. You're still going to have to put the axe to the
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  grind. You still got to work. You still have to believe. You still have to be self-motivated.
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  You still have to be self-driven. You still have to navigate life's transitions.
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  You still have to be resilient. You still have to find purpose. And none of that
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  is either existing or non-existent because I'm a man of faith. So when you ask me the question,
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  what do I tell people? I don't care what you believe in. These are things you're going to have to do.
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  These are things you're going to have to do. There is a, you know, a Christian dollar bill and a Muslim
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  dollar bill. You know what I mean? Good point. You know, there is it. There is an abutist
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  resilience and a agnostic resilience. You just have to be a resilient person.
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  And then you add faith on it, the size of a must-forced, and then you can move mountains.
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  Do you think that some people, this will be a question, I guess, for people that are
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  very religious? Do you think that sometimes you see people using religion as a crutch, as opposed
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  to having all of the other components in navigating hard times? Do you think that there has to be
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  this beautiful balance of both? I think it has to be a beautiful balance. And when I hear you say
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  the word crutch, I would summarize it by saying that I think that there are some folks who use their
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  relationship with God as a way of not having to show up for themselves. Right? So it's like, hey,
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  God, I give an example, there's a miracle in a Bible man that's been laying on the bed for 38
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  years. There are some who would use their relationship with God to say, hey, God, come and pick me up
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  off of this bed. I've been here for 38 years. But the story says that Jesus tells the man,
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  pick up your bed and walk, human responsibility. So even though God was there, God didn't pick him up
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  nor did he pick up the bed. He told him to pick up the bed because God has to make sure that we have
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  the faith, the drive, the resilience, and the purpose to continue to move even in moments where
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  we cannot feel him. So yes, I think a lot of folks will use their relationship with God to be an
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  end or be all but and I know it'll be a controversial statement, but I can go through, Scott, I can go
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  through every miracle in the Bible and prove that human responsibility was necessary. Okay,
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  let's take the one that everybody knows, Jesus turns water to wine. But what does he tell them? He
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  says, go and bring the water pots to me. Human responsibility. He didn't bring the water pots to the
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  you go bring the water pots to me and then I'll do it. The man who was blind, God tells them,
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  you have to go wash your eyes and the pool. The man who had the hand that was atrophy, God says,
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  you have to stretch your hand. The woman who had the issue of blood, she went 12 years trusting
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  doctors until she got to Jesus and he says to her, hey, do you want to be me? Oh, she says to
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  herself, if I could just touch the him of his garment, see human responsibility. If I could touch
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  the him of his garment, I'll be me. Oh, there is a human component, no matter what your faith is,
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  to all transition, resilience, breakthrough and purpose, there is always a human component that's
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  necessary. I love that. I think that's such an important message too. I think that before we even
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  get further, well, we were even just talking about before we press record. You mentioned that
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  this book, the shift, this is a re-release of a book that you put out, he's a four years ago,
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  and you've written other, I mean, you've written other books since and I thought that was an interesting
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  story. How people will bring you some of the other books you've written or the book signing for
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  one of the other books, but then they'll bring you this book and they'll be like, this changed my
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  life. Like, please sign this, you know, this has been incredible. So I think that it's interesting to
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  touch on sort of the anatomy of what a shift is, why it's so important, why this idea resonates with
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  so many people. I'm sure you have, I'm sure you have a couple thoughts because there's something about
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  the idea of a shift of going through these massive transformative moments in your life that is so
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  powerful that literally out of all the incredible work you do, people are still saying, hey,
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  this was the book that had the most impact on my life. Why do you think that is?
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  Yeah, because I think that the one thing that is inevitable in all of our lives, we want to all be rich,
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  we want to all be poor, we want to all be born black, we want to all be born white, we want to all be
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  affluent, we want to all be struggling, everybody won't be fit, everybody won't be not fit, but we
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  all will go through a transition. I don't care what spectrum you follow. You could live in the heels
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  of Hollywood or you can live on the streets of Gary and Deanna where I came from, you're going to
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  go through a shift. So embracing change as opposed to resisting change is the emphasis that the
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  books put on because change is inevitable, but not only is it inevitable, it's necessary.
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  It's necessary. The tree can't spare C forever, right? The oak tree can't stay in acorn forever. If
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  you stay in the original form of which you were planted, you'll never flourish into what you were
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  meant to be. So in this book, I'm encouraging the readers to lean into the shift rather than to
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  resist it. One of my mentors tells me a story about his brother who when he was younger,
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  he used to ride motorcycles and his wife used to ride motorcycles with him and you probably
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  know this guy is like, when you are on the back of a bike or motorcycle with somebody, you have to
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  lean the same direction as them. You know, my wife and I will go jet skiing and she all really
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  like the water. So I'm going left and she's leaning right. I'm like, no, you got to lean with me this
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  way because if you don't lean with the tur, you'll tip it. It's the same way with life. If you don't
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  lean into the change, if you don't lean into the tur, then you're going to tip the boat and you have
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  to trust that every season has a purpose and you got to lean into it. It makes sense. It's very
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  scary when you're living it. Why do people not lean into it? I love this idea. Get out of your
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  comfort zone. You have to go through these hard periods of your life to get on the other,
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  everything worth doing is on the other side of hard work, hard conversation. All these ideas
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  are so powerful. Yet people still shy away from them their entire life. So these ideas, these
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  ideas, people know them. They know that there's going to be change in shifts in their life. But for
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  some reason, we negotiate with ourselves. We negotiate with ourselves until we die. So there is a
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  huge mental block when somebody stays in a job or a relationship or in a circumstance that does
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  not serve them quite literally until they're no longer on this earth. What is this block? What's
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  what's going on? Yeah, I think there are several blocks. That's a question that I can see a
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  Lego amount of Legos. It could be the block of, you know, imposter syndrome. It could be the block
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  of inadequacy and insecurity. It can be the block of character versus personality. So none of us
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  have the same block, but here's the deal. I get that question all the time. People say, yeah,
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  but it's hard. It was hard for the person who did it. It's it is hard. And that's why everybody
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  doesn't do it. It is hard. And that's why everybody doesn't reach it. It is hard, which is why
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  they are all stars in basketball and people who sit at the end of the bench and have to cheer.
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  We all are born within an incredible amount of talent, right? For those of us. And I'm not
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  talking about people who were born with and God blesses with the severity of a handicap, right?
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  Are something that holds them back. I'm talking about folks who can actually function psychologically
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  in their everyday life without the assistance of, you know, medical attention. Obviously,
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  we understand that there are some folks in life who have been disadvantaged. But if you,
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  and everybody's watches social media now, there are folks who were born disadvantaged,
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  who've gotten the slightest edge on folks who don't have disadvantages.
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  I mean, I can't think of the guy's name. He spoke for me one time. I wish I could think of him. He
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  has no legs. Nick had neck sat in the stomach. Nick spoke for me at a conference. And literally,
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  he's from Florida. I know him. Wow. Incredible. He inspired me so much. Nick, I never,
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  I never met Nick. I just saw him online and had our team to reach out to him. This guy is an
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  itinerant speaker like he's everywhere around the world. He somehow thought it kind enough
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  to come to our church and spoke sat on the edge of a step at our stage with no lyrics, a partial
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  arm and tore the room upside down and is quite honestly making huge amounts of money right now,
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  speaking all over the world, who literally could have said, I have no legs and no arms.
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  And so I'm not going to do anything. That's what I mean by leaning into the ship. He took what he
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  had. He leaned into it and he made something of himself. Folks listening today, I understand it
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  as hard. And I don't think Scott nor I are saying that it is easy. But what we are saying is you
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  You started your your story and your book and you spoken about this before
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  confronting your pastor asking if you was your father. That's that's an interesting
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  that's an interesting way to start off your story because that's a massive shift. That's a massive
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  you know, breaking outside your comfort zone. That's a massive difficult conversation.
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  So what did that shift teacher? It taught me that I have to be brave because I was so scared.
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  I was so scared. I thought if he rejects me, I'm going to crumble. If he
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  if he denies it, then he's telling me my mother's a liar because she's the one that told me he was.
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  I had all of the anxiety you could imagine. But I manned up Scott at 12 years old and went up to a
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  fully grown man who I had tremendous amounts of respect and fear for as a pastor. And I looked
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  him in his face and I said, are you my father? And within three seconds that man said yes.
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  And so it taught me courage because I got my first big yes because I wasn't too afraid not to
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  receive a no. Yeah. In fact, I tell folks that you normally have to go through nine
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  nose to get to one yes. So you have to calculate it in your mind that whatever you're seeking,
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  whatever you're seeking to find out, wherever you need the validation from, whether it's for me,
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  it was a father for you may it may be an income level. For somebody else, it may be a million
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  subscribers on YouTube. For somebody else, it may be the corner office. Do I go in interview
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  for the for the next position above me? Whatever it is, you have to be willing to be told no
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  to get to a yes. If the only answer you want is yes, there's stay at home and give them to
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  yourself. But if you step out in that real world, somebody's going to tell you no, but you don't
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  stop at that. You lean into it. You lean into it. And it's like, you know, when I was in the eighth
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  grade, I never were forget I played for an AAU team. And we went to the Rattleson Hotel in
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  Mayorville, Indiana. I couldn't swim. I couldn't swim. So all of the kids was all my brothers on the
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  basketball team. They were in the swimming pool jumping around. It's got I can't swim. So I'm standing
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  back. One key comes and pushes me in. First is me in the deep end of the pool. And I'm just fighting
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  for my life. I'm screaming and I'm getting me out of it. Give me out going up. And it was only about
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  eight feet. So I was able to hit the bottom and then jump up. And I heard one of the lifeguards
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  said, stop fighting. Stop fighting. I didn't realize that he wasn't going to jump into the water
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  while I was fighting because I could have drowned both of us. So knock him out or you pull him down.
• 27:03
  Yeah. Yeah. I didn't know it at the time. He waited until I relaxed. And the moment I relaxed,
• 27:08
  he had me out of the water in what seemed like five seconds. Sometimes you have to stop fighting
• 27:14
  the environment and you have to succumb to it so that you can find your bearings. And then when
• 27:21
  you're brought out, you come out with more knowledge like I'm talking to you about, I didn't learn
• 27:27
  that in swimming class. I learned it in a drowning incident. So there are some things you learn in the
• 27:32
  fight that you don't learn on the shore. So you got to lean into it. You got to lean into it.
• 27:38
  I didn't learn that sitting in the lawn chair. I didn't learn that I can still see the hotel
• 27:43
  right now. I can still see the seats. I can still see the kidney shape swimming pool. I can still see
• 27:48
  the waterfall coming down the rocks. I went there for that. I left there with this story.
• 27:55
  There I went for enjoyment. I left with a testimony. So you have to lean into it. But you have to
• 28:01
  survive it. So when people have the courage to lean into these shifts and they lean into them
• 28:09
  again and again and again until they get to the yes or they get to the desired outcome,
• 28:16
  I always thought that that would be sort of a good proof point that if you lean into the
• 28:23
  uncomfortable for a long enough period of time, you're going to get to the other side of it.
• 28:27
  But one thing that you mentioned and I'm curious what you mean by this and I believe that it's
• 28:32
  probably because two ideas can be true at the same time. So you describe that life is a series of
• 28:37
  shifts, but you can't build your life on your last shift. And that's interesting because I would
• 28:44
  have thought the last shift is proof that taking risks and doing the hard uncomfortable things
• 28:51
  actually can work. But you're saying you can't just rest on that. What do you mean by that?
• 28:56
  I mean that. So yeah, I'm a sports guy. And it's it comes from a sports background like
• 29:03
  Coach Bobby Miles, my high school coach, you would always tell us you're no good, no better than
• 29:07
  your last win. So I was taught. I was taught that like, okay, you won. You won the last game,
• 29:13
  but you don't show up the next game as a winner. You're not automatically guaranteed to win
• 29:21
  the next game because you won the last game. You show up as a competitor, the next game,
• 29:25
  and you have to prove that you're a winner again. And then you get past that and then you show up
• 29:30
  at the next game and you have to prove that you are a winner again. Every game starts 0-0.
• 29:37
  So you don't walk in the room with a with a head start because you won the last shift, right?
• 29:43
  So you embrace change, but you also overcome setbacks. And like you said, they both have to be true
• 29:48
  at the same time because the mindset that calls the problem that you have is not going to be the
• 29:57
  same mindset that solves the issue that you have. You know, it's it's the mindset that you have
• 30:04
  that calls the current problem that you are now facing. You cannot solve the problem you are facing
• 30:11
  with the same mindset that caused it. So then you have to shift. You have to think about
• 30:19
  a bigger perspective or collaboration. Who do I need to collaborate with to overcome this?
• 30:28
  Some people need accountability partners. Who is a person that I will allow in my life
• 30:33
  to encourage me when I can't encourage myself? Right? Who's whatever you have to life hack yourself.
• 30:39
  You've got to you've got to figure out who you are. And then you got to put in place what's
• 30:44
  necessary to not only help you to accomplish the next version of yourself, but not to atrophy and
• 30:50
  become who you escaped. Right? So I'm looking at you. The last time I spoke to you,
• 30:57
  this wasn't the background you have for the pocket. No, it wasn't. It wasn't. So this says to me,
• 31:03
  this is tremendous growth from what I saw last time. And I'm thinking about
• 31:08
  when you designed that somebody built it, I can tell you exactly what happened and you not
• 31:12
  mentioned to me. That was a blank wall. They took those shelves. They had to paint them. You had
• 31:18
  to tell them what you wanted to look like. Your interior designer found all of those individual
• 31:22
  pieces, placed them. She said, no, the book looks here. I'm gonna put the clock here. All of that
• 31:27
  was placed. That takes vision and collaboration. Right? So what people are looking at and folks
• 31:35
  who are watching this right now, I want you to look at that wall behind Scott. I want you to look
• 31:39
  at it. It took hours to find all of those pieces didn't come out of the same store. The person
• 31:46
  who designed that over here, over here, over here, over here, over here, and it takes time to do that.
• 31:52
  You know, and you always want it done quicker than they are finished. And you like, what has taken
• 31:56
  them so long and I tell folks all the time, never look at somebody else's job and assume how long
• 32:03
  it's going to take until you've done it yourself, you'll never realize how hard it is.
• 32:06
  What do you say to people who do achieve and to go through a shift?
• 32:14
  But they're still hard on themselves. So the idea is you're moving your own goalposts.
• 32:19
  Too much. So again, two ideas have to be true at the same time. Shifts have to happen.
• 32:25
  But that person saw us to have grace and celebrate where they came from.
• 32:29
  Oh my God. So huge. Because I'm a big proponent of self-talk. Like, you have to talk to yourself
• 32:41
  because this world is so noisy. This is so noisy. It can discourage you. Oh my God. I mean,
• 32:49
  you can look on social media and and make an assumption about somebody's numbers or somebody's life
• 32:56
  or somebody's matriculation. And you can be discouraged because you'll look at yourself and like,
• 33:00
  and I've been at this for so long and I'm not, you know, I'm not scaling. I'm not, I'm not growing.
• 33:05
  But you have to pause and think, man, I'm not where I want to be, but I am not where I used to be.
• 33:12
  Right. And I've got to, I've got to celebrate in the middle, at least I didn't quit. At least I
• 33:22
  didn't completely fail our fall apart. And I read this once before, even if you did fail,
• 33:28
  the definition of failure, I never will forget it. I was at a barber shop in Fort Wayne, Indiana.
• 33:34
  And I never will forget. I saw it on a barber shop written in dry erase marker. It said failure
• 33:40
  is the opportunity to begin again with increased intelligence. I read that as a kid. And it's
• 33:46
  it's say what you feel like. That's a good quote. That is a good quote. Massive. That's a
• 33:51
  fire quote has been with me for 30 years in a barbershop reading a dry erase marker board.
• 33:59
  Because one of the ideas in your book is discussing how like some shifts they require us to
• 34:04
  acknowledge limitations. But that's empowering to a degree. And I think that's what that's what
• 34:11
  that quote means to me. Yeah, I absolutely love that. Like acknowledging limitations. It's clarifying
• 34:23
  because then we know where we have to work. But if we don't lean into the shift, sometimes we're
• 34:27
  super ignorant of our own shortcomings. And they're only made aware to us when we're doing
• 34:33
  the uncomfortable stuff. Imagine what you say. Yeah. Imagine what you said about
• 34:38
  acknowledging limitations. You and I are driving up what's the what's the street Miami that's over
• 34:46
  above the one. What is Collins? Is that is yeah. Okay. So you and I are driving up Collins. And you are
• 34:53
  in a Ferrari. I am in a Honda Civic. What business do I have pulling up side of you
• 35:05
  threatening a race? I have to recognize the abilities of what you have and the limitations of what
• 35:12
  I have. And what I do is I prevent myself from incurring a loss that is unnecessary by
• 35:20
  recognizing the equipment that I have and recognizing the equipment that you have. There's no
• 35:25
  need to even try. And I think that some people think that faith and that hard work and ingenuity
• 35:34
  means walking around as if reality isn't real. There's some things that just real. I would never
• 35:41
  recommend a turtle to taunt a cheetah. This would recommend. I don't care how tough you are.
• 35:48
  There's just something you lead to somebody else and you fight the race. That's the set that's
• 35:55
  the set before you, right? You you you fight the game that's in your purview and you win that one
• 36:02
  and guess what? You get better. And then you can challenge on the next level, but you have to win
• 36:08
  where you are before you can be where you want to go. If the win where you are for you can be where
• 36:14
  you want to go. When you're going through when you're going through a shift, you speak about
• 36:22
  the danger of getting stuck in your shift. What does that mean? I got that from my wife and I
• 36:29
  went to Las Vegas one time and they have these things you can write called slingshots. You know,
• 36:35
  the three wheel part. Like a like a sand buggy. Yeah. Yeah. We look everywhere we go. We find some
• 36:44
  sand buggy or ATV something I bought. We love to have a good time. And we were driving
• 36:52
  up Las Vegas Wheel of Art with these slingshots and she didn't know it because I tried to hide it
• 36:57
  from her that I didn't know how to drive a stick shift. I've never had I never had. First of all,
• 37:02
  my mother didn't have a car growing up and then we did it was automatic. So I never drove a shift.
• 37:09
  My wife, her father told her how to drive a shift and she's just out here just shifting and I'm like,
• 37:13
  I'm going to keep up with this girl, but I can't do it. So she kept looking back and she looks
• 37:18
  back at me one time and I had pulled over to the gas station because I had given up. I could not
• 37:23
  figure out how to get out of first. And that story prompted me to talk about getting stuck in shifts.
• 37:32
  Like when you when you don't recognize what powers you have and what powers you don't have,
• 37:39
  when you don't recognize that you have to embrace change and not resist it, when you don't
• 37:44
  recognize that you have to overcome setbacks and not succumb to them, when you don't recognize
• 37:49
  that faith and trust in God is the way out of some of these things, then you you're over on the
• 37:54
  side of the road, stuck in the gear because you either don't believe or haven't sought advice
• 38:04
  on how to get out of that that gear. So I asked her finally swallowing my pride,
• 38:11
  how do you get out of this? She said you have to push the I believe if I'm saying it correctly,
• 38:19
  you have to push the gear that's associated with the shifter and the brake class, the clutch,
• 38:27
  you have to you have to press those. I did not know I'm doing it with one foot, you know,
• 38:32
  I got one foot like an like an automatic car. Yeah, I'm almost embarrassed to say I didn't know
• 38:38
  what to do. I look down there said, what do we have three? I'd never driven a stick in my life.
• 38:43
  Don't don't be embarrassed. I don't think I don't think many people know how to you know,
• 38:47
  change a tire, your drive stick. I don't think I don't think it's like a common skill,
• 38:53
  so don't don't be embarrassed. Had no idea. That lady told me how to drive that stick ship
• 38:58
  in the matter of two minutes and we drove to the Hoover Dam all the way over there on these
• 39:05
  slingshots because I yelled for help when I could not shift. I pulled over didn't didn't keep going
• 39:16
  because I grind it Scott so long and I couldn't catch up with it. Just pulled over. How do you
• 39:22
  know when how do you know when that right moment is to to ask for help? Not not on like a small
• 39:28
  trivial idea, like not like a small thing where you should put the work and figure it out but like
• 39:34
  I don't know relationship switch career start a business marry someone break up with someone
• 39:42
  these are major shifts right and there's a lot of other ones you know for things that are affecting
• 39:48
  your life health like maybe you don't have the treatment available to you where you are so you
• 39:53
  gotta go to a different city different country spend lots of money like do you bring people into
• 40:01
  these decisions right away you try and navigate it yourself first what do you what do you recommend?
• 40:06
  I think the the most efficient way we all are going to try to navigate it ourselves I
• 40:12
  again person as a man of faith I invite God in from the beginning um but this is when you know you
• 40:17
  need a shift you know you need a shift when it causes you stress time energy and money
• 40:23
  and when you're when you have copious amounts of stress you're losing time you have no energy
• 40:29
  that is costing you money then you need a new system and you need to find some folks who can
• 40:34
  help you to build it because it is difficult to do anything alone right it's difficult to do
• 40:40
  anything alone and even when you think you're doing it alone you're not doing it alone somebody's
• 40:45
  about to have to come alongside and help you for instance again with the podcast folks don't know
• 40:50
  you've got a camera setup they don't know you have a switcher back there they don't know you've
• 40:53
  got a computer connected to all they can see is the lens and if you have to get up right now
• 40:58
  to service any of those things you're not on camera if you get up right now to go switch the
• 41:03
  angle you got so in order to do it from a multi-layer perspective has to be somebody else in the room
• 41:08
  to do it for you otherwise we have to stay with this angle and I would say that anybody who wants
• 41:14
  to scale it life from multiple angles diversify your income structures diversify your portfolio
• 41:21
  you're going to need some collaborative efforts you're going to and you're going to have to do
• 41:25
  something that you probably struggle to do because of what life is done and let's trust somebody
• 41:30
  other than you that's tough I you deal with it in business all the time I mean I deal with entrepreneurs
• 41:34
  who can't delegate don't don't feel comfortable hiring who don't feel comfortable giving people
• 41:38
  access to the things that they've built but it's not it's not just a visit the business ideas they
• 41:44
  all translate into into relationships into into mental health into physical health everybody wants
• 41:50
  to go out of the loan my favorite my favorite idea is that nobody is self-made like like self-made
• 41:56
  is fake it's it's false it doesn't it doesn't exist not a single person but we all go out we all
• 42:03
  have ego right you do yeah and ego I read somewhere before said ego it means to edge got out
• 42:13
  right it's it's it's it's this idea that I can do it alone it's impossible it's impossible nobody
• 42:21
  and I agree with you and you hear people almost self-made millionaire how did you forget the teacher
• 42:26
  that taught you arithmetic yeah what about your customers what about your customers right what about
• 42:33
  your critics because you learned from them too yeah I think that I think that ego this is what I
• 42:43
  believe I said you know like when you have something on the top of your head and you just keep
• 42:47
  bringing it up right now that now that I'm speaking to somebody who who works with God on the
• 42:52
  regular I'm gonna get your opinion on this because I've spoken to a lot of people that do not work
• 42:56
  with God about this and they generally agree I think that secularism in society and lack of God in
• 43:04
  society has avoid has been filled with ego and I think that ego and believing that you are the
• 43:11
  most important thing on this earth is the most damaging to society your own development relationships
• 43:20
  career success however you want to define it I think that humility and removing ego is a single
• 43:27
  most important thought that that especially people who do not believe in some version of God have
• 43:35
  have to start understanding yeah I just brought it up on my on my laptop here the Bible says a
• 43:42
  second Timothy chapter three verse two it says that when when the end times come one of the ways
• 43:49
  we will know is that people will become lovers of themselves so that's that's that's one of the
• 43:58
  tail tail alerts that we're in trouble because people are increasingly
• 44:11
  becoming lovers of themselves and and Paul says that's how you know you're in the last days
• 44:17
  and it if you if you look around everybody's going at it alone everybody's going at it alone
• 44:24
  and and then you go back to the book of Genesis where the scriptures explicitly say that God did
• 44:30
  not create man to be alone so that's why COVID was so destructive because everybody was alone
• 44:40
  and and the mental health epidemic that we're in right now and people can ignore all they want
• 44:46
  the mental health epidemic is as serious as the COVID pandemic yeah I agree yeah it's because
• 44:55
  an idol mind is the devil's workshop like do you know what is being done to a person who has a
• 45:05
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  i really appreciate it i think that we don't have community the way that we used to have
• 49:03
  we don't have we don't we don't feel i mean everybody now is so transactional so when they're
• 49:09
  dealing with like bringing it back to to this particular idea going through shifts if your whole
• 49:14
  life you feel like you're alone then you're gonna go through these shifts alone too and your
• 49:18
  chance to success is is fraction insignificant compared to if you had you know a community a team
• 49:27
  a family a group of people that actually loved and cared about you behind you and i think that
• 49:32
  covid just was like nail in the coffin of everyone's isolated and maybe you have a couple
• 49:38
  close friends but even then during covid it tested those because you couldn't even see them
• 49:43
  i don't know i i feel like i feel like everyone is there and and i think that i'm speaking from
• 49:49
  sort of my generation obviously my parents generation they had much closer a friendship because
• 49:54
  nothing was really built online it was all built in person but now people are building relationships
• 49:59
  that younger generations building relationships online and i think that it's scary it's amazing
• 50:04
  you said that i just i just yeah preach that this past sunday 75% of college students say that they
• 50:10
  are in a long distance relationship online 50% of people in america were in relationships and that's
• 50:17
  about 28 million people said they they met their spouse online and have some sort of it's actually a
• 50:25
  thing it's called ldr long distance relationship so there's an acronym for it so that's that's
• 50:30
  how real it is right now it's like i'm in an ldr so yeah this bringing it back to sort of your
• 50:36
  story we we spoke about that one early life shift with your father as as your pastor and and sort
• 50:45
  of getting the courage 12 years old to have that conversation which is not easy you speak about
• 50:50
  how shifts reveal something so tell me what that revealed something that you wouldn't have seen
• 50:56
  or you wouldn't have known before you went through that shift so what did that particular shift
• 51:00
  show you man you you should be on the TV doing this man you get some provocative questions there
• 51:07
  do you know i didn't learn um the full lesson of that 12 year old oldness until i was 35
• 51:18
  so the first thing i want to say to folks is stop expecting every shift to happen every night
• 51:26
  they don't happen every night and they don't happen overnight some a short term or there's some
• 51:32
  long term things that come out of these shifts that will change your life i never will forget
• 51:36
  my daughter was born when i was 30 31 years old and i remember a mentor telling me your heart
• 51:49
  on your father i mean being hard on him do you know do you know what how much of my life he missed
• 51:56
  and never came to a basketball game what do you mean hard on everything that i feel about him
• 52:01
  he deserves so upset with him and this man looked at me and he said
• 52:08
  when you become a father talk to me okay i will and it wasn't until i became a father
• 52:18
  that i recognized how difficult of a position my father was in now let me give you the other
• 52:25
  father's story sky my mother and father conceived me while my father was separated from his wife
• 52:36
  so his divorce was not finalized i have a younger sister we share both parents so it wasn't just
• 52:45
  me it was my sister kiana who was born from that union as well long story short my father
• 52:53
  reconciles his relationship with his wife which now means that he has two children outside of his
• 53:02
  marriage and he's a pastor that's not easy that is not easy and it wasn't until i became a parent
• 53:13
  and a pastor and a man and had constituents and members and boards to know that oh my god
• 53:22
  to come out and say that i was his child meant the possibility of losing his income his life's work
• 53:32
  and i can hear folks right now listening to me saying so what he you know when you make your bed you
• 53:38
  have to lie in it true but as difficult as it is for the person who would judge my father's
• 53:44
  situation as difficult as it is for them to make their shift that was the difficulty that he faced
• 53:50
  in making that shift and it wasn't until i became a man that i didn't absolve him from it but
• 53:56
  i understood the difficulty of it and it allowed me to bring more grace to my perspective realizing
• 54:05
  that that was a very difficult situation to be a very hard situation and i said to myself and i
• 54:12
  said to him before he passed and he died at 77 years old but i said to him in his sitting room
• 54:24
  there he had in the house in this lazy boy i looked him in his face and my a minute to late
• 54:29
  30s and i said to him i said i forgive me for everything that we've ever been through and i
• 54:35
  asked for your forgiveness because i couldn't have been a better son i didn't have to be angry all
• 54:40
  these years i didn't have to ignore your calls i didn't have to scout out his bits i was so angry
• 54:46
  sometimes i said the hell with it i don't i don't want to hear from me i don't want to hear from
• 54:50
  i don't want to reconcile i don't i don't want to hear your side of the story i was i was so
• 54:55
  angry as a child and i woke up one day and realized it was hard and that i had
• 55:08
  every right to forgive him in spite of folks who wanted me to stay mad at him that was my decision
• 55:16
  i i had a right to say it's okay because you didn't do it to them you did it to me
• 55:25
  and i get to say it's okay and i get to say i forgive you and i get to tell everybody my mom
• 55:31
  and my sisters included stop the anger because where has it gotten us where has all of the anger
• 55:39
  that we spewed in this house over the last 20 years gotten us we drunk the poison and expected in the
• 55:45
  die it doesn't work that way i changed my approach to him it was so liberating and i believe
• 55:54
  with everything in my heart that many of the blessings that i look at and see in my life right now
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  is a result of the forgiveness that i gave to a person who in society's perspective
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  probably didn't deserve it but it wasn't their decision to make it was mine it's interesting how
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  when we go through shifts we become selfish and we expect the shift to benefit us and we forget
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  everyone else that that shift impacts very very i think we default to being self centered
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  and i think that when you go through these shifts you have to realize that you don't operate in a
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  silo and the and the journey that you go on i mean yours is an extreme example but the journey that
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  you go on i think you have to be conscious of all the other pieces that it impacts and affects
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  our card agree with that yeah i'm just thinking of like an example of somebody
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  being so self serving that they go on a shift in their career or what i see often is people want
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  to start a business and they go through a difficult shift and then they're upset when their
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  spouse isn't on board with them working 120 hours a week but they quit their job and they're
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  wondering why they're not happy anymore and i don't think that should dissuade you but i think
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  if possible being a little bit less selfish before you decide to take action and just
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  understanding sort of the butterfly effect of all the of the of the shift and the journey that
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  you're going to go on is important it is not just all positive for you that's not how the world
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  works so i can tell just by listening to you talk the huge amount of self motivation self
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  responsibility that your parents put in you like it's ever did that somebody raised you would
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  say it you pick your stuff up by the bootstraps and you pick the job done and you acknowledge the
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  folks who help you along the way otherwise you're going to be on punishment for the rest of the
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  month and because this is what you're every family i can hear it and it's an amazing quality because
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  are the character that we possess are the things that our parents put on the put in us our
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  personalities are the mask that we purchased to be able to survive in society right and so
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  most folks want to be judged on the personality not recognizing that you will be judged on the
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  character the things that are in you see Brooks says in his book from strength the strength he says
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  that most folks are working on resume virtues when you should be working on eulogy virtues
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  right so so most people want to be known and recognized for the resume stuff i was on time i made it
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  i'm a hard worker i don't know it's the it's the eulogy stuff i was trustworthy i was kindhearted
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  i was there those are the things that we we will be judged upon in our shifts um the eulogy
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  stuff not the not the resume stuff i love that that's that's that's that's that's hard that's hard
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  like what are people going to say about you at you know at your funeral i don't think people
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  think that way i don't think most people go through life thinking that way maybe maybe i'm just
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  maybe i'm just pessimistic i don't know you're right you're right and it's it's a shame that more of us
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  don't but these are the the voice and deficits that make society so vitriolic and here's a deal
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  everybody didn't grow up in a loving household like you and i right date some folks
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  um i'm thinking of a young lady in particular she grew up her mother was addicted to drugs
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  her mother was murdered murdered by a drug dealer her little brother was in the house
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  when the drug dealer murdered her mother and the only way they found out that her mother
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  had died is the baby cried for two to three days straight and the neighbor finally sent
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  someone over for a well well fair check wellness check only to find out that the next door
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  neighbor had been murdered and the young lady that i'm talking about is a good mother is now raising
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  that boy which was her brother but raised him as a son is a a nurse at one of the most successful
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  hospitals in Houston, Texas and she just so happens to be my god sister so you can't tell me
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  what can't happen if you don't just lean into the shift i mean there's somebody whose stories
• 1:00:55
  is is equally tragic but life is 10% of what happens to you and it is 90% of how you respond to
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  and we have way more victims in our society than we have victors a very sad story and next
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  the gentleman you're speaking about before with the no legs and and and one arm and the other arm
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  is it's not there um his brother he spoke about this publicly and so i don't mind telling this
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  story but his brother passed away and overdosed because he felt so bad about Nick's condition
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  oh my god isn't that just wow yeah that's when i heard that and then i like i met Nick
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  obviously at a at a much later stage in his life when he was already thriving and he speaks
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  globally now and he i think he's now in china and Dubai and he's in florid every once in a while
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  because he has a house here and i actually spoke at an event that i put on and i was like florid
• 1:01:58
  like people and i put on an event uh it was basically a room full of people that it sold companies for
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  between 50 million and 500 million all exuded entrepreneurs everyone was bawling their eyes out
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  everybody was in it everybody like the guy is phenomenal yes i mean two people
• 1:02:18
  wildly different outcomes one very sad and tragic but the person you had the actual
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  difficult physical problem and he doesn't even he's so positive he won't ever call it a problem
• 1:02:32
  he'll he'll think of some clever way of saying that's the best he's ever happened to him because
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  that's just who he is yeah here on he makes more he makes more money and he can tap into some of
• 1:02:42
  the hardest most logical uh successful entrepreneurs in the work that she didn't do it in front of me
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  and and he's just wildly different outcomes i don't even know i can't put his i can't put justice
• 1:02:55
  to his story because he's just uh he's such an incredible person um but just goes to show you
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  you can he's an example him and his brother are extreme examples of leaning into shifts
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  into and not and not and anyways absolutely incredible
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  for people that for people that uh i'm sure that you may have spoken about this story before but for
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  you because i think it's always helpful to to hear from personal experience it's a lot better than
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  like theoretical what was the hardest shift that you've gone through in your life and what did
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  you learn from it i think it depends on what stage i was in the hardest would have been my father
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  um and then the second would have been um i had made up my mind that i was going to play basketball
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  for the rest of my life you know i wanted to go overseas my route was i was going to go overseas
• 1:03:58
  work real hard get caught up by the NBA and uh my coach does know i never will forget um
• 1:04:06
  i was passing a church in college and somehow through his kindness he allowed me to
• 1:04:13
  go and leave the church in the morning and then come back and practice right and then go teach
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  it was real close i was in a small town so you know you're talking about a 5 and 10 in the drive
• 1:04:23
  and um he looked at me one day and he said you're going to have to make a decision you're
• 1:04:27
  going to have to play basketball and you're going to if you're wanting to do this full time and he
• 1:04:31
  was honest if you're going to do this full time you got to put more effort in it and he said i'm
• 1:04:37
  not going to make that decision for you because if you want to be a pastor it's going to need everything
• 1:04:42
  you have but if you're going to do this it's going to need everything you have and so i made a decision
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  um that day i said um against middle Tennessee state in Fort Wayne, Indiana at the uh the gate
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  center i said um yeah i'm going to stop preaching and i'm going to play basketball
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  and that was at four o'clock doing pre-game meal four seven o'clock game
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  at seven o'clock the game starts by eight o'clock that night
• 1:05:14
  i was in the locker room on the stretcher on my way to the hospital because i tore every
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  ligament in my left knee that's why i wrote the book the shift because the knee i was
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  depending on the gift is what god was depending on and he shifted the thing that i was
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  depending on to develop the thing that he was depending on and now i am doing what he called me to do
• 1:05:36
  because he had a lot of shift in the thing that i wanted to do so and this is the thing this is
• 1:05:46
  the thing about life nobody gets through it without some test just i don't care where you start
• 1:05:58
  it's going to get difficult even if you get started at the top climbing another mountain is even
• 1:06:04
  more difficult it's going to be hard for us all do some people get a leg up absolutely
• 1:06:11
  that was the hardest shift recently the hardest shift july 8th 2024
• 1:06:19
  two days after my 43rd birthday my wife and i were enjoying a nice birthday dinner
• 1:06:27
  and i get a call from someone at the office that says that the hurricane hit our church
• 1:06:34
  and our north location was completely destroyed by hurricane barrel and to see
• 1:06:43
  i mean we we purchased it
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  and it was in bad condition when we purchased it so everything good about it we did it together
• 1:06:55
  and to see millions of dollars and thousands and thousands of hours and
• 1:07:03
  miracles performed and signs and wonders all in that building to see the roof
• 1:07:10
  um laying in the middle of the floor was just it's so it's traumatic like i can't
• 1:07:16
  i'll get i'll get i'll never get the images out of my head
• 1:07:19
  uh and fighting with the insurance company over the last nine months has been
• 1:07:26
  um the fight of a like this has been a huge huge huge huge shit um i got so many
• 1:07:37
  i got so many but those are the ones that pop into my head but everyone does everyone has so
• 1:07:43
  many and and the thing is like in the moment in the moment one thing you do very well like you live
• 1:07:50
  what you teach is you do not let it rewrite your story you you when you messed up your knee
• 1:08:02
  you could have been down and out and that could have psychologically you could have spiraled
• 1:08:07
  and you could have not i mean when when you when when you are saying i'm not going to be a preacher
• 1:08:15
  i'm going to go play basketball and then that night you mess up your knee
• 1:08:21
  that could push you farther away from god and preaching the never before because now you have hate
• 1:08:26
  now you have anger and you're like you know what you know screw screw you i'm not gonna i'm not
• 1:08:32
  gonna go towards you i'm not gonna i'm not gonna become the preacher because i don't know what you're
• 1:08:38
  trying to do here but uh this is this is this is this is what i actually wanted and you didn't you
• 1:08:43
  didn't believe in me like that could be the conversation that you're having it's not but that could
• 1:08:47
  have been one of the conversations and i think that that's what we have to be careful of when we go
• 1:08:52
  through a shift it does it just because you lean into a shift doesn't mean that the outcome is
• 1:08:57
  always gonna be a hundred percent positive and you can't let that rewrite your story and you've
• 1:09:03
  never you you know you in particular never let that rewrite your story and i think that that's
• 1:09:09
  what people have to take away what i've always not all positive and all things yeah all things work
• 1:09:14
  together for my good it don't feel good it doesn't look good but because i believe and when i tell
• 1:09:23
  you i believe i'm not playing i believe so since i believe i will accept no outcome that doesn't
• 1:09:36
  work for my good so i'm gonna find a good in the back yeah i'm gonna find a good one other i
• 1:09:43
  yeah you have to you out even with that what's about what is happening with your church whatever
• 1:09:48
  you build will be bigger and better and help more people and that's the way you have because
• 1:09:54
  because if you believe it it will happen because we don't believe it it'll also happen and that's my
• 1:09:59
  my coach you say success comes in cans not can that's i like that so whatever coaches are the best
• 1:10:06
  coaches are the best things all they always do if you believe you can you're right if you believe
• 1:10:11
  you can you're right one more idea that i think is important because he's spoken about these huge
• 1:10:15
  sort of milestone moments in life but i think it's important to help people recognize shifts
• 1:10:24
  every single day like the small little things that can have impact they should lean into
• 1:10:29
  because you you mentioned the shifts occur all around you every single day so what is the practice
• 1:10:34
  or what is an idea that somebody can internalize so that they can see these shifts and these
• 1:10:40
  opportunities five times before lunch so here's what i i have a affirmation that i
• 1:10:50
  keep with me all the time okay and and i just recently changed it i used to have these five
• 1:10:56
  eggs i used to say you know i control my atmosphere you know i i control my approach right these are
• 1:11:03
  the things that i would just say to myself and now i'm i'm saying i have the power to empower myself
• 1:11:10
  i have the empowered embrace the situation so i went from five years to five years and it's
• 1:11:15
  something simple like i've got this thing and and i believe in it so much let me see if i can
• 1:11:19
  find it in my phone this is my daughter my daughter's 12 years old before we go to bed every night
• 1:11:24
  this is what i say to my daughter i say repeat after me i am uniquely created and there is no one like me
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  i am deeply loved by my god my parents and myself and she says it after me i tell her my voice
• 1:11:37
  matters she says my voice matters i say my mistakes don't define me she says my mistakes don't
• 1:11:42
  define me and then no matter what happens i will always be here for you say that no matter what happens
• 1:11:49
  you'll always every night now i don't know if she believes it but i know if i keep putting that in
• 1:11:56
  her spirit in her mind and in her soul one day she's going to have to draw from that and all
• 1:12:03
  of us don't have a father that gives us that all of us don't have a father that gives us that our
• 1:12:06
  mother our friend but man you got to you got to borrow me or Scott as a mentor how do you do that go
• 1:12:14
  online and just borrow us you don't have to know us to get that information you know you borrow a
• 1:12:20
  person's psychology until you meet him i believe that thought attracts that up on which it is
• 1:12:26
  directed there's no no mistake that you and i are sitting here talking about our perspectives in
• 1:12:31
  lives it can say over and over again you know what i agree with that something about how we believe
• 1:12:37
  and think has brought us together right and and that's the same thing folks that you have to do
• 1:12:43
  this podcast is actually me in your life this is Scott in your life and and we may not be in your
• 1:12:49
  living room but we're in your life and you just let these words echo over and over and over and
• 1:12:54
  over again until you can repeat them with belief and then you become for somebody what you didn't
• 1:13:02
  have for yourself and i'm going to tell you one of the greatest things you can do for yourself
• 1:13:06
  is teach what you learn because when you're teaching you're learning more than the students
• 1:13:12
  i'm learning more right now by saying than this than you are by hearing this
• 1:13:18
  so so i want you to get in that same position find out who you're going to help
• 1:13:23
  as a result of the help you received and then you stay on a lifelong journey of servitude
• 1:13:29
  serve as many people as you can and then be grateful gratitude and servitude are the life hacks
• 1:13:36
  on how to make it through a shift i serve and i'm grateful i love it i absolutely love it
• 1:13:42
  what is what is one very important idea from the book but just around shifts that i didn't ask you
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  about i think that there are you know what we're saying right now is kind of mystical to people
• 1:13:58
  right it seems like this unattainable thing i think the thing that we probably
• 1:14:04
  should leave the folks with is realizing that although what we say seems mystical but there are
• 1:14:11
  actual practical steps that you have to take in order to do this i think that if you're going to be
• 1:14:19
  a leader you have to be a reader i don't know of anybody and i'm not saying that it doesn't exist
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  but i don't know of anybody who is a massive leader who isn't also a massive reader
• 1:14:33
  that's one thing number two i think that you have to feel your best physically in order to feel
• 1:14:40
  your best mentally right and i'm not you know i'm not downgrading anybody but you got it you got
• 1:14:49
  a move like you you got to put one foot in front of the other you can't you can't be a couch potato
• 1:14:56
  you can't you know you can't be in the dark room all day you can't you can't just binge watch
• 1:15:01
  television and expect to be this massive force in the world you got to do something okay you got
• 1:15:07
  to move you got to you got to have agility and then last but not least which i think is probably
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  more important than the first two you got to flat out have some courage you have to be brave
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  because you're going to be scared the whole way you're not going to feel like Superman you're
• 1:15:29
  going to feel like Clark Kent but you still got to go on the phone booth and you got to come out
• 1:15:33
  with that suit on and you got to show up at life like you believe you can leak a tall building
• 1:15:41
  in a single bound and you be you be surprised at how life will bow to a person who believes that
• 1:15:46
  they can conquer so i think that those are our three steps that we leave folks with and obviously
• 1:15:53
  having their courage to believe it all i love it where can people connect with you obviously the book
• 1:15:57
  you can get anywhere you can get books i'll put it in the show notes but where else do you want to
• 1:16:00
  send people yeah you can go to anywhere books a million christian books.com you can get any you
• 1:16:07
  amazon it anywhere a book is so but to connect with me because i often break down our books and i
• 1:16:13
  share it in by size content but you got to have the book to know where i where i'm going so follow
• 1:16:18
  me on instagram and pass the key on follow me on youtube um scott we just passed over i think oh
• 1:16:25
  me i think we're six thousand away from six hundred thousand subscribers on our new channel which
• 1:16:31
  is huge for a youtube channel that's typically about faith right so you know we're we're we're pleased
• 1:16:40
  with that um you know our website tlhc.org man just type me in my name in google it'll it'll
• 1:16:48
  lead you to where we are and i'd be glad to have a friend like you uh walk with me alone in journey