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5 Aspergers Symptoms in Adults (Wow!) - No One Tells YOU · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  You have arrived. Welcome to the Aspy world.
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  Here's where we talk about anything and everything ASD in
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  an upbeat and informative way. And now here's your man on the
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  spectrum, your autism ambassador, Daniel Morgan Jones.
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  So we always hear about kids on the autism spectrum, and that's
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  all great. But have you ever wondered what
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  are the Aspergers syndrome traits in an adult?
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  Because everything is geared towards kids, right?
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  In this video, I'm breaking down five of the most interesting eye
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  opening traits of Asperger syndrome in adults that you can
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  understand. OK guys, what's going on?
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  Welcome back to the Asperger world.
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  My name is Dan. I've got diagnosis of Asperger
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  So Asburger syndrome in adults is really interesting.
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  It's actually quite fascinating because Asburger syndrome
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  actually refers to something called a low support needs
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  autism individual because they took the term Asburger syndrome
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  out of the DSM, which is kind of like the diagnostic criteria way
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  back in 2013. But the interesting thing about
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  it is that people still look for and understand the term Asburger
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  syndrome to talk about what I'm talking about right now, which
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  is the high support needs, autistic individuals, the people
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  who fly under the radar really easily.
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  So I'm going to go through some of this right now.
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  So the first one is delayed in onset of emotions.
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  Now, when you are an autistic person of low support needs or
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  Asperger's syndrome, then you're around more people because you
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  can hold down a job or you may have a relationship or you may
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  have lots and lots of friends and you're going to do a lot
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  more than someone typically with higher support needs, right?
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  And in this situation, you'll find yourself kind of having to
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  deal with lots of emotions, lots of feelings, and lots of
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  different people's insurance and outs of conversion.
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  Now, one of the most interesting things in this specific one is
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  there's a delay in the onset of the emotions.
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  An autistic individual with Asperger's syndrome may have
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  something happen to them that they may feel intently irate
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  about or sad or emotional about, yet they won't display how they
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  feel or even understand how they feel until a little bit
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  afterwards. This is also to do with
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  something called Alexa thymia, which comes kind of comorbidly
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  Co occurring alongside autism. It's kind of part and parcel of
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  it. And because of that, the person
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  will feel the emotions way afterwards because what we have
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  is the word emotion comes from energy in motion and we feel the
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  energy, but we can't identify it yet to put it into motion.
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  So that's delayed. And this is very common in
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  autistic people. So you may find that like and it
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  happens with jokes. You may tell somebody a joke
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  like Darren, your friend, you don't know if he's autistic or
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  not. You tell Darren a joke and then
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  a day later he may text you saying like dude, that joke was
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  so funny. Or he may have just burst out
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  laughing days later. Tell me about that joke.
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  I have this all the time. Jokes is one of my biggest
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  issues because I don't understand and also social
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  settings. I don't understand the social
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  setting until afterwards. I've had to process and think
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  about it and think about it. And then I kind of think, Oh
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  yeah, I get it now. So that delayed onset of
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  emotions is very prevalent in Asperger's syndrome.
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  OK, so #2 is scripted conversation or rehearsing
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  socializing? This is so interesting.
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  Me and my partner, bless us all. We do this quite often.
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  We'll script what we want to say, especially with telephone
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  conversations or like if we're going to meet new people, we're
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  going to script like how are we going to go about this?
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  We're going to, we're going to think about it in this way and
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  we're going to script it. So we kind of prepare ourselves
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  for the social conversation and you'll see somebody practicing
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  this or thinking about it or going over in the head what
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  they're going to say to the person or what they're going to
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  say in that situation or what they're going to say on the
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  phone. This is just so indicative of
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  Asperger's syndrome because the rehearsing scripted conversation
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  for socializing is something that nobody does unless you have
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  an issue with socializing. Socializing issues on
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  communication levels happen for people on the autism spectrum,
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  and people with Asperger syndrome will display this more
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  openly because of their lowest opponies, meaning they're going
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  to be around those situations a heck of a lot more than the
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  video. OK, so #3 is sensory seeking
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  through internal sensations. Now this could be a whole number
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  of things. And one of the things I will
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  give you as an example is people with Asperger's syndrome may hum
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  to the vacuum cleaner because that's kind of like an internal
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  sensation of stemming or self symmetry behavior or sensory
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  seeking through internal ways. Another way to do this is that
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  maybe they're always crunching on lettuce or celery because
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  that need for sensory stimuli, they're getting that internally
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  through those things because it's it's making them feel a
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  certain way internally. Another way would be to remember
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  a sound or remember a time or remember a feeling that will
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  give you satisfaction and unleash dopamine in your brain.
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  This is something that autistic individuals, especially people
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  with Asperger syndrome will do. They will think about something
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  that gives them dopamine because it's a sensory seeking activity
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  through internal stimuli. And I think this is absolutely
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  fantastic. Similar to why I have so many
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  tattoos because that that vibration of the tattooing gives
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  me a sensory stimuli calming feel.
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  It's super awesome. I actually have a tattoo book
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  for next week because I just love getting tattoos because of
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  the way it feels. And it might be quite odd and
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  kind of counterintuitive because it's painful, but it's also very
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  OK, the next one is hyper logical empathy.
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  Now empathy comes in a very interesting way.
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  Empathy to be empathetic means to see something from somebody
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  else's point of view and feel their feelings right?
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  How would you like it if you were in a situation, etcetera.
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  Now, autistic individuals will not be able to specifically get
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  that. However, what we do have for
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  people with Asperger's syndrome, low support needs autism.
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  We will have hyper logical empathy, meaning that we can
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  look, analyze the situation logically, think how would that
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  person feel, and then think, OK, if I was in that situation, I
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  would do this, that and the other, oh, I wouldn't say this
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  or whatever. So we can analyze, we can
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  confront that situation, see it directly head on, analyze it
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  logically, come out with an algorithmic distribution of
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  outcomes and then choose the best outcome for that.
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  So it's not really understanding empathy, it's understanding
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  those things. And so for example, an autistic
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  person may give you this example if you are non autistic and you
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  have a friend who's had something happen to them and the
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  the autistic person you think may not understand them, you
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  say, oh, come on, have some empathy.
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  Like think about it from their point of view.
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  Now the person with Asperger syndrome may turn around and be
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  like, okay, give me some variables.
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  What is the process? What's happened, how do they do
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  it? And may ask you more questions
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  than you probably thought was socially acceptable about that
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  thing. They're gaining that
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  information, that data to process an outcome, to
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  understand, to be empathetic in that moment.
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  And this is so interesting. I used to get so much trouble
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  for this from people because I didn't understand the situations
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  without understanding more information about it.
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  And that's okay because we're autistic and we need to gather
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  that data before moving forward with our conclusion or even our
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  empathy. But this is something very
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  interesting and it is prevalent in autism and Asperger's
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  syndrome specifically. OK, my last final one, but not
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  the least is emotional flashbacks to social failures.
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  Now autistic individuals, Asperger people, people with
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  Asperger's syndrome will always flashback to situations in
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  social situations that they failed in.
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  They may feel like, oh, I was on a date with a girl, it's going
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  so well and I said something stupid.
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  Oh, and that would just flashback constantly and just
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  sit there and, and make them feel rubbish.
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  Or they'll think about a time when they're in school and they
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  they didn't have many friends because they were socially
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  unable to deal with a situation that presented itself.
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  Or like gym class or any situation could be going out on
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  to a club and trying to, you know, meet friends or do
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  something interesting. But no, the failure will always
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  flashback and give you kind of this trauma where rather than
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  just letting go, we'll obsess over the fact that, oh, we did
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  this thing wrong, we did it wrong or we failed.
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  We failed. It's OK, like I I literally
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  coach autistic individuals one-on-one with how to increase
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  their potential towards life and be the most awesome people they
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  possibly can. Now if this is something you're
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  interested in, I'll leave a link down below where you can
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  actually book a one-on-one consultation consult with me.
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  Or you can just go into the aspyworld.com/dan book and you
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  can book a session with me and speak to me directly.
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  We'll have a hang out on Zoom and I can help with all areas of
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  your life. But it's so interesting, the
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  emotional flashbacks for social failures haunt autistic people
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  to no end. And I know I can see you.
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  I can see you like smiling right now because you know you do it.
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  I can help you. So give this video a thumbs up
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  and subscribe if that is something you deal with.
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  OK guys, I'll see you in the next one.
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  Peace. Hey guys, thank you so much for
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  Make sure you subscribe. OK guys, see you in the next
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  one. Peace.