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Obsessed with Success: Stop the Excuses and Start Winning · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: No more, no more, no more excuses, No more I'll
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  Speaker 1: start tomorrow. No more just this one time. No more
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  Speaker 1: accepting the short falls of my own will. No more
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  Speaker 1: taking the easy road, no more bowing down to whatever
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  Speaker 1: unhealthy or unproductive thoughts that float through my mind.
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  Speaker 2: No no more.
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  Speaker 3: Everything worthwhile is uphill. You see every dream that you've
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  Speaker 3: ever had, it's all uphill. If you have a great
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  Speaker 3: relationship with somebody, you had to work on it, it's uphill.
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  Speaker 3: If you build a wonderful business, guess what it was uphill.
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  Speaker 3: If you've made the right decisions. They're not easy, are they.
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  Speaker 3: It's uphill. And the only way that you can go
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  Speaker 3: uphill is to be intentional. Nobody ever accidentally went uphill.
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  Speaker 3: You have never talked to a successful person and said,
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  Speaker 3: how did you get to the top of the mountain,
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  Speaker 3: and then look at you say, I have no idea.
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  Speaker 3: If they're at the top of the mountain, they know
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  Speaker 3: how they got there because they had to have effort.
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  Speaker 3: It took energy, it took time. Everything worthwhile, everything worthwhile.
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  Speaker 2: Is ill.
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  Speaker 4: Life is always giving you a test, trying to give
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  Speaker 4: your way out, trying to give.
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  Speaker 5: Your excuse not to show up.
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  Speaker 4: This is my excuse today. But guess what, You've got
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  Speaker 4: to have the mentality to show up every day of
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  Speaker 4: your life no matter what life throws at you. I
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  Speaker 4: don't care what's your goal through what life done at you,
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  Speaker 4: it's your responsibility to find a new husital.
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  Speaker 6: Sent People always say you gotta love the work. You
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  Speaker 6: gotta love what you do. You don't have to love
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  Speaker 6: what you do. You's gonna addicted to what you do.
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  Speaker 6: You gotta be addicted to winning. You cannot work short hours.
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  Speaker 6: You gotta work long hours. You gotta work smarter, and
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  Speaker 6: you gotta work than hard. It's the work that you
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  Speaker 6: put in, the time and effort, the dedication, the hours
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  Speaker 6: that nobody else saw here, the sacrifices.
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  Speaker 1: You have to be disciplined, you have to be obsessive.
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  Speaker 1: You have to be addicted to the result.
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  Speaker 5: The bigger your dream is, you're harder to grind. You
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  Speaker 5: might have small beginnings, you might not have a lot
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  Speaker 5: of money, you might not have a lot of resources.
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  Speaker 1: But there's no excuse.
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  Speaker 5: And I need you to understand that the bigger your
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  Speaker 5: dream is, the earlier you're gonna have to get up,
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  Speaker 5: the longer you're gonna have to stay up. The more
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  Speaker 5: effort you're gonna have to put in.
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  Speaker 3: You have to fight for it every day. You have
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  Speaker 3: to climb for it every day. Does it come to you?
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  Speaker 3: It's not in three easy packages, and it's not the
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  Speaker 3: cure to overnight success. And the only way that you
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  Speaker 3: go uphill is by self discipline. So listen to me
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  Speaker 3: very carefully. It's an impossible for you to have continual
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  Speaker 3: success without having self in your life.
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  Speaker 7: Now.
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  Speaker 3: Self discipline enables you to go uphill. You can't go
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  Speaker 3: uphill without self. Nobody will carry you uphill, nobody can
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  Speaker 3: coach you uphill, nobody can push you up here. If
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  Speaker 3: you go uphill, you got to do it yourself.
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  Speaker 8: Most people know what they need to do, but very
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  Speaker 8: few actually do it. We spend a lot of time
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  Speaker 8: trying to figure out how to get better, and way
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  Speaker 8: less time actually doing the work. It all comes down
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  Speaker 8: to how much you want it. Most people know what
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  Speaker 8: they want, but very few people want it bad enough
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  Speaker 8: to actually do something about it. So, on the days
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  Speaker 8: where you don't feel like showing up, are you the
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  Speaker 8: kind of person to push past and keep going or
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  Speaker 8: are you the one looking for an excuse to take
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  Speaker 8: a break?
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  Speaker 9: If you're going to try go all the way. Otherwise,
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  Speaker 9: don't even start. If you're going to try go all
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  Speaker 9: the way, this can mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives, jobs,
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  Speaker 9: and maybe your mind. Go all the way isolation is
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  Speaker 9: the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance,
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  Speaker 9: how much you really want to do it, and you'll
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  Speaker 9: do it. That's by rejection and the worst odds. If
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  Speaker 9: you're going to.
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  Speaker 10: Try go all the way, you're not all you could be.
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  Speaker 10: And there's pain in that, and there's the necessity for
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  Speaker 10: a certain amount of judgment about that, and even a
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  Speaker 10: certain amount of exclusion because what you are that is
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  Speaker 10: insufficient in some sense should be not be allowed to
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  Speaker 10: propagate further. But you know, here's some things about you
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  Speaker 10: that are virtuous and good and they're pretty powerful, actually,
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  Speaker 10: and if you just made those more manifest you could
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  Speaker 10: dispense with a lot of this immaturity and misery and
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  Speaker 10: you could start walking this pathway that makes things better.
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  Speaker 10: And the thing is that as soon as you start
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  Speaker 10: walking the path way that makes things better, then things
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  Speaker 10: become better because your whole orientation changes. And you know,
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  Speaker 10: if you're in a bad place, but you're escaping. That's
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  Speaker 10: pretty positive.
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  Speaker 7: I don't wait for the perfect moment. Usually the perfect
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  Speaker 7: moment is now the right time to tell somebody that
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  Speaker 7: you love that you love them, when you feel it
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  Speaker 7: is right now, the right time to make that contact,
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  Speaker 7: right now. So I want to challenge you today. That
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  Speaker 7: call you need to make, make it now. That email
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  Speaker 7: you need to send, send it now. That chapter you
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  Speaker 7: need to write, that copy that funnel, do it now.
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  Speaker 7: I love knocking things off the list because that creates momentum.
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  Speaker 7: And the more you do this, ironically, you will develop
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  Speaker 7: confidence in yourself to be able to attack things in
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  Speaker 7: the moment.
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  Speaker 11: Commit means to make it happen no matter what. See,
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  Speaker 11: when you make a commitment, I'm going to become wealthy.
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  Speaker 11: When you make it important, when you decide, I'm going
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  Speaker 11: to do it no matter what, life changes for you. See,
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  Speaker 11: most people don't keep their commitments to their commitments. That's
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  Speaker 11: why they lead lives of lives of misery, lives of unhappiness.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes it's about consistency.
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  Speaker 1: Just keep doing it and keep doing it.
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  Speaker 9: You keep doing it, you can never stop, you never
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  Speaker 9: give up another quit.
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  Speaker 5: You all get what we tolerate in ourselves and other people.
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  Speaker 5: But when you're no longer willing to tolerate something, that's
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  Speaker 5: when your life changes. The difference in people is their
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  Speaker 5: standards periods.
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  Speaker 3: When you look at some of the most successful high performers,
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  Speaker 3: it might be tempting to say that they were born
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  Speaker 3: this way their talented end of story. In fact, talent,
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  Speaker 3: while undeniably making life easier, is but one part of
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  Speaker 3: the equation. I used to be a shy and fearful person. However,
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  Speaker 3: my apparent misfortune turned out to be a source of
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  Speaker 3: strength because it provided a spark to introduce big changes
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  Speaker 3: in my life. By continuously pushing my comfort zone, I
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  Speaker 3: not only overcame social shyness and improved my communication skills,
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  Speaker 3: but also developed high self confidence and overcame other fears
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  Speaker 3: in my life. I might not have been born with
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  Speaker 3: the talent to be a people person. I still prefer
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  Speaker 3: solitude to crowds, but with self discipline and consistent work,
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  Speaker 3: I still achieved astounding results. Next time, before you complain
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  Speaker 3: that you don't have a talent for something or weren't
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  Speaker 3: born this way, remind yourself that self discipline in many
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  Speaker 3: situations can more than make up for a lack of
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  Speaker 3: inborn traits. Life's easy when you live it the hard way,
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  Speaker 3: and hard if you try to live it the easy way.
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  Speaker 3: Self discipline means living your life the hard way, resisting
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  Speaker 3: temptations and instant gratification in order to receive bigger and
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  Speaker 3: better rewards in the future. It's certainly easier to avoid
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  Speaker 3: all kinds of discomfort and indulge yourself whenever you want,
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  Speaker 3: But in the end, all that you get from that
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  Speaker 3: approach is fleeting pleasure now at the expense of your future,
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  Speaker 3: which otherwise could have been much better. Consider a weak
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  Speaker 3: willed person who, when faced with a challenge, immediately opt out.
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  Speaker 3: How likely is this person to achieve anything substantial in
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  Speaker 3: life if their primary value is to feel comfortable? How
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  Speaker 3: is this person going to manage crisis that they must face.
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  Speaker 3: Even a relatively insignificant problem can become an insurmountable obstacle
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  Speaker 3: for a person who's been living a sheltered life and
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  Speaker 3: always avoided what's difficult or disagreeable. Now, contrast that with
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  Speaker 3: a person who voluntarily makes his or her life harder.
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  Speaker 3: They seek out and welcome challenges as opportunities to grow.
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  Speaker 3: Each self imposed affliction strengthens them so that fewer and
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  Speaker 3: fewer difficulties in life overwhelm them day by day. They
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  Speaker 3: immunize themselves against problems precisely because they seek them out.
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  Speaker 3: When life deals them an unexpected blow, they're ready to
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  Speaker 3: handle it because thanks to living their lives the hard way,
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  Speaker 3: they're always ready for hardships. Your choices are made in
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  Speaker 3: a moment, but their consequences will transcend a lifetime. Humans
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  Speaker 3: have the capacity to act against their urges in exchange
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  Speaker 3: for a better future. Unfortunately, many people live by the
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  Speaker 3: principle of if it feels good, do it, and if
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  Speaker 3: it doesn't, don't do it. Caving into your temptations whenever
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  Speaker 3: you feel them emerge is like relinquishing your humanity in
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  Speaker 3: a way. As an intelligent human being, you have an
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  Speaker 3: ability and I dare say, an obligation to make decisions
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  Speaker 3: that are based on rational thinking, not on your instincts alone.
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  Speaker 3: Strive to be a better human and embrace your humanity
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  Speaker 3: by exercising your will power muscle instead of coming to
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  Speaker 3: your most primal and least helpful for your long term
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  Speaker 3: goals part of the brain. Your most primal instincts may
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  Speaker 3: provide temporary comfort, but seldom are good for the long term,
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  Speaker 3: except when there is a direct threat to your survival.
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  Speaker 2: If you study a subject every day for one hour
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  Speaker 2: a day, five days a week and five years, you
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  Speaker 2: will become an expert in that area. Some things simply
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  Speaker 2: have to be done every day. You know the old
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  Speaker 2: saying an apple a day keeps the doctor away. Well,
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  Speaker 2: eating seven apples all at once isn't going to give
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  Speaker 2: you the same benefit. If you want to improve, intentional
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  Speaker 2: growth needs to be a habit. A habit is something
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  Speaker 2: I do continually, not once in a while. Motivation may
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  Speaker 2: get you going, but the positive habits you develop and
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  Speaker 2: practice consistently are what keep you improving. As I have
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  Speaker 2: work to improve on a day by day basis, two
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  Speaker 2: words have helped me to stay on track. The first
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  Speaker 2: is intention. Every morning, as I start my day, I
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  Speaker 2: intend to learn something that day. This develops a mindset
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  Speaker 2: in me to look for things that will help me improve.
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  Speaker 2: The other word is contemplation. Time alone is an essential
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  Speaker 2: for self improvement. When I spend time thinking about my challenges, experiences,
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  Speaker 2: and observations, it allows me to gain perspective. I can
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  Speaker 2: evaluate any losses and I can learn from them. Contemplation
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  Speaker 2: time by myself also gives me time to do positive
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  Speaker 2: self talk. Motivational humorist Or Walker stated, the most important
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  Speaker 2: words you will ever utter are those words we say
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  Speaker 2: to ourselves about ourselves when we are by ourselves. During
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  Speaker 2: these conversations, we can beat ourselves up and make ourselves
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  Speaker 2: feel really small, or we can learn and build ourselves
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  Speaker 2: up so that we become better. If you want to
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  Speaker 2: spend some time each day try to improve yourself, you
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  Speaker 2: might want to begin by asking yourself three questions at
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  Speaker 2: the end of the day. As I do. They are
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  Speaker 2: I learned today, what spoke both to my heart and
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  Speaker 2: my head? How did I grow today or touched my
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  Speaker 2: heart and affected my actions? What will I do differently?
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  Speaker 2: Unless I can state specifically what I plan to do differently,
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  Speaker 2: I won't learn anything. One of the things I don't
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  Speaker 2: do is compare myself to others during that time. There's
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  Speaker 2: a reason for that. My desire is to not become
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  Speaker 2: superior to anybody else. I only want to be superior
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  Speaker 2: to my former self. Intention and contemplation assist me in
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  Speaker 2: doing that make improvement. Intentional improvement is within the reach
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  Speaker 2: of anyone, no matter how experienced or green educated. Or ignorant,
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  Speaker 2: rich or poor. To start improving today, do these three
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  Speaker 2: things decide you are worth improving. To improve yourself, you
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  Speaker 2: must believe you can improve. Author Dennis Whitley has a
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  Speaker 2: wonderful definition for personal development. He says that it is
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  Speaker 2: the conviction that there is value in your dreams. As
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  Speaker 2: a development, he says, is the belief that you are
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  Speaker 2: worth the effort, time, and energy needed to develop yourself.
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  Speaker 2: It gives you permission to invest in yourself so you
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  Speaker 2: can develop your own potential. You can invest in yourself.
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  Speaker 2: You don't need anyone's dreams but your own, and you
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  Speaker 2: don't need to become anyone other than yourself at your best.
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  Speaker 2: The great philosopher Thomas Carlyle once wrote, let each become
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  Speaker 2: all that he was created capable of being. I can't
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  Speaker 2: think of a better definition of success. Life challenges us
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  Speaker 2: every day to develop our capabilities to the fullest. We're
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  Speaker 2: successful when we reach for the highest that's within us,
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  Speaker 2: when we give the best we have. Life doesn't require
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  Speaker 2: us to always come out on top. It asks only
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  Speaker 2: that we do our best to improve at whatever level
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  Speaker 2: of experience we are currently on. Take an area to improve,
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  Speaker 2: you will have plenty of time to improve other areas
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  Speaker 2: of your life. Focus on the one now that makes
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  Speaker 2: the most of your strengths and is closest to your
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  Speaker 2: sense of purpose. I am suggesting you to spend an
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  Speaker 2: hour a day improving in that area. Then take it
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  Speaker 2: slow but steady. We always overestimate what we can get
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  Speaker 2: done in a day or a week, but we underestimate
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  Speaker 2: what we can get done in a year. Just imagine
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  Speaker 2: what you will be able to get done in five years.
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  Speaker 2: Find opportunities to improve in the wake of your losses.
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  Speaker 2: Focused strategic improvement is important to success, but so is
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  Speaker 2: learning from our losses as they come. However, let me
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  Speaker 2: say this, some lessons in life cannot wait. You must
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  Speaker 2: make the most of them when they occur. If you
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  Speaker 2: don't examine what went wrong while the details are fresh,
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  Speaker 2: you may lose the ability to learn the lesson. Besides,
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  Speaker 2: if you neglect to learn the lesson immediately, you may
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  Speaker 2: experience the loss again. Business professor George Knox said, when
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  Speaker 2: you cease to be better, you cease to be good.
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  Speaker 2: When you stop growing, you cease to be useful. A
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  Speaker 2: weed in the garden of prosperity. We are what we
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  Speaker 2: are today because we were what we were yesterday, and
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  Speaker 2: our thoughts today determine our actions tomorrow. Those who learn
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  Speaker 2: from their losses give themselves that permission. As your friend,
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  Speaker 2: I give it to you also. Knowledge may come from study,
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  Speaker 2: but wisdom comes from learning and improving in the wake
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  Speaker 2: of your mistakes. I always try to remember that I
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  Speaker 2: am a work in progress. When I maintain that perspective,
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  Speaker 2: I realize that I don't have to be perfect. I
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  Speaker 2: don't have to have it all together. I don't need
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  Speaker 2: to try to have all the answers, and I don't
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  Speaker 2: need to learn everything in a day. But I make
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  Speaker 2: a mistake, it's not because I'm a failure or worthless.
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  Speaker 2: I just didn't do something right because I still haven't
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  Speaker 2: improved enough in some part of the process, and that
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  Speaker 2: motivates me to keep growing and improving. If I don't
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  Speaker 2: know something, it's an opportunity to try to improve in
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  Speaker 2: a new area. I'm in it for the long haul.
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  Speaker 2: I try to be like industrialist Ian McGregor, who said
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  Speaker 2: I work on the same principle as people who train horses.
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  Speaker 2: You start with low fences, easily achieved goals, and work up.
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  Speaker 2: When I got started, my fences were embarrassingly low, but
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  Speaker 2: in time I was able to raise them. Today i'm
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  Speaker 2: still raising them little by little. That's the only way
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  Speaker 2: I know how to keep improving, and I always want
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  Speaker 2: to keep doing that, because improvement is the focus of learning.