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5 - Make Your Partner Laugh Today · Daily Relationship Tips: Practical Relationship Skills That Help Couples Reconnect

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  After
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  30
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  years
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  working
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  with
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  over
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  15,000
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  couples,
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  I
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  can
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  tell
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  you
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  that
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  the
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  relationships
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  that
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  stay
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  happy
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  long
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  term
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  almost
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  always
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  have
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  one
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  thing
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  in
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  common,
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  and
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  it's
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  not
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  something
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  most
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  relationship
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  spend
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  time
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  on.
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  It
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  has
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  nothing
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  to
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  do
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  with
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  conflict
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  resolution
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  communication
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  frameworks.
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  that,
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  and
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  it's
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  lot
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  more
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  fun.
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  Alistair
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  I'm
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  Alastair
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  this
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  the
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  share
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  simple,
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  practical
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  tools
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  to
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  help
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  you
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  and
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  your
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  partner
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  feel
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  close,
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  connected,
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  and
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  in
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  love
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  again,
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  one
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  small
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  habit
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  at
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  a
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  time.
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  Here's
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  something
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  most
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  people
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  don't
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  realize.
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  Joy
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  isn't
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  just
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  a
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  byproduct
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  of
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  a
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  good
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  relationship.
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  It's
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  one
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  of
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  the
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  things
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  that
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  creates
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  it.
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  The
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  happiest
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  couples
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  I've
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  worked
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  with
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  over
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  the
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  years
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  aren't
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  necessarily
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  the
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  ones
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  who
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  figured
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  out
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  the
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  perfect
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  way
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  to
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  resolve
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  conflict
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  or
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  the
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  ones
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  who
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  never
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  have
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  problems.
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  They're
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  the
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  ones
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  who
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  genuinely
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  enjoy
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  each
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  other.
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  They
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  make
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  each
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  other
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  laugh.
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  They're
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  a
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  bit
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  silly
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  together.
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  There's
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  a
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  lightness
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  between
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  them,
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  even
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  when
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  life
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  is
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  hard.
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  Now,
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  I
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  know
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  that
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  might
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  sound
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  almost
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  too
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  simple,
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  but
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  here's
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  what's
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  actually
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  happening.
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  When
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  you
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  laugh
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  with
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  your
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  partner,
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  your
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  brain
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  releases
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  oxytocin,
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  sometimes
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  called
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  the
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  bonding
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  hormone.
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  It's
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  the
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  same
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  chemical
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  released
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  when
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  you
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  hug
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  someone
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  you
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  love.
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  So
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  laughter
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  isn't
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  just
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  making
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  you
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  feel
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  happier
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  in
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  the
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  moment,
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  it's
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  creating
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  a
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  physical
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  feeling
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  of
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  closeness.
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  You
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  feel
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  more
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  connected,
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  more
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  trusting,
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  more
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  in
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  love,
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  even
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  if
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  nothing
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  else
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  has
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  changed.
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  And
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  here's
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  where
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  most
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  people
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  get
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  this
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  wrong.
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  They
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  think
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  fun
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  has
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  to
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  be
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  planned
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  or
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  special.
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  A
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  holiday,
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  A
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  big
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  date
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  night.
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  A
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  particular
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  occasion.
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  But
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  the
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  couples
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  who
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  laugh
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  the
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  most
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  aren't
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  doing
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  elaborate
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  things.
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  They're
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  simply
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  giving
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  themselves
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  permission
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  to
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  be
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  a
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  little
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  silly
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  together
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  in
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  the
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  everyday
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  moments.
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  A
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  shared
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  joke.
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  A
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  funny
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  video
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  sent
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  mid
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  afternoon.
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  A
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  ridiculous
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  impression
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  that
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  only
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  the
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  two
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  of
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  them
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  would
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  find
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  funny.
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  It
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  doesn't
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  have
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  to
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  be
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  a
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  production,
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  it
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  just
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  has
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  to
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  be
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  genuine.
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  So
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  here's
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  the
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  Make
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  a
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  deliberate
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  effort
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  to
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  laugh
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  with
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  your
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  partner
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  today.
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  Watch
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  something
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  funny
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  together.
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  Tell
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  them
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  a
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  joke,
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  even
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  a
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  bad
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  one.
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  Be
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  silly.
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  Look
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  up
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  funny
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  videos
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  and
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  share
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  them
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  over
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  dinner.
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  The
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  specifics
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  don't
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  matter.
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  What
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  matters
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  is
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  the
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  intention.
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  Choosing
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  today
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  to
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  bring
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  a
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  moment
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  of
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  lightness
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  into
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  your
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  relationship.
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  And
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  I've
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  seen
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  how
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  much
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  this
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  matters.
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  One
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  couple
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  I
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  worked
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  with
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  had
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  become
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  so
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  focused
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  on
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  the
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  serious
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  side
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  of
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  their
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  relationship
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  communicating,
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  problem
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  solving,
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  managing
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  the
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  household
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  together
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  that
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  they'd
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  completely
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  lost
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  the
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  fun.
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  They
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  were
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  good
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  partners
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  in
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  every
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  practical
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  sense,
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  but
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  they
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  couldn't
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  remember
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  the
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  last
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  time,
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  they'd
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  just
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  laughed
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  together.
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  So
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  I
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  asked
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  them
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  to
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  do
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  one
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  thing
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  that
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  watch
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  a
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  funny
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  movie
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  together.
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  Nothing
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  more
• 3:30
  complicated
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  than
• 3:31
  that.
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  They
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  came
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  back
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  the
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  following
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  session
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  and
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  the
• 3:34
  energy
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  between
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  them
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  was
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  visibly
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  different,
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  she
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  said.
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  I'd
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  forgotten
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  how
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  much
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  he
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  makes
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  me
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  laugh.
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  I
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  needed
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  that
• 3:42
  reminder.
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  That's
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  all
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  it
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  took.
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  One
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  evening,
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  one
• 3:47
  movie.
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  One
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  genuine
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  moment
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  of
• 3:49
  shared
• 3:50
  joy.
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  So
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  here's
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  your
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  challenge
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  for
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  do
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  one
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  thing.
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  Just
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  one.
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  Specifically
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  to
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  make
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  your
• 3:57
  partner
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  laugh.
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  Don't
• 3:59
  overthink
• 3:59
  it.
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  A
• 4:00
  funny
• 4:01
  video.
• 4:01
  A
• 4:02
  silly
• 4:02
  joke.
• 4:03
  A
• 4:03
  moment
• 4:03
  of
• 4:04
  playfulness
• 4:04
  you'd
• 4:05
  normally
• 4:05
  talk
• 4:05
  yourself
• 4:06
  out
• 4:06
  of.
• 4:07
  Just
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  do
• 4:07
  it.
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  Because
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  here's
• 4:09
  what
• 4:09
  this
• 4:09
  means.
• 4:10
  Long
• 4:10
  term
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  couples
• 4:12
  who
• 4:12
  laugh
• 4:13
  together
• 4:13
  regularly
• 4:14
  build
• 4:14
  something
• 4:14
  that's
• 4:15
  hard
• 4:15
  to
• 4:15
  shake.
• 4:16
  A
• 4:17
  shared
• 4:17
  joy.
• 4:18
  A
• 4:19
  private
• 4:19
  language
• 4:19
  of
• 4:20
  inside
• 4:20
  jokes
• 4:21
  and
• 4:21
  memories.
• 4:23
  A
• 4:23
  sense
• 4:23
  that
• 4:23
  being
• 4:24
  with
• 4:24
  each
• 4:24
  other
• 4:24
  is
• 4:25
  genuinely
• 4:25
  fun.
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  That
• 4:27
  feeling
• 4:28
  is
• 4:28
  what
• 4:28
  makes
• 4:28
  a
• 4:29
  relationship
• 4:29
  feel
• 4:30
  like
• 4:30
  home,
• 4:31
  and
• 4:32
  it's
• 4:32
  what
• 4:32
  keeps
• 4:32
  couples
• 4:33
  close
• 4:34
  through
• 4:34
  the
• 4:34
  harder
• 4:35
  seasons
• 4:35
  of
• 4:35
  life.
• 4:37
  The
• 4:37
  good
• 4:37
  news?
• 4:38
  You
• 4:38
  don't
• 4:39
  need
• 4:39
  a
• 4:39
  special
• 4:39
  occasion
• 4:40
  to
• 4:40
  create
• 4:40
  it.
• 4:41
  You
• 4:42
  can
• 4:42
  start
• 4:42
  today.
• 4:44
  Do
• 4:44
  something
• 4:44
  today
• 4:45
  that
• 4:45
  makes
• 4:46
  your
• 4:46
  partner
• 4:46
  laugh
• 4:47
  and
• 4:48
  let
• 4:48
  yourself
• 4:49
  enjoy
• 4:49
  it
• 4:49
  too.
• 4:51
  Those
• 4:51
  moments
• 4:52
  of
• 4:52
  shared
• 4:52
  laughter
• 4:53
  built
• 4:53
  up
• 4:54
  over
• 4:54
  time
• 4:55
  are
• 4:55
  some
• 4:55
  of
• 4:55
  the
• 4:55
  strongest
• 4:56
  threads
• 4:56
  that
• 4:57
  hold
• 4:57
  a
• 4:57
  relationship
• 4:58
  together.
• 4:59
  Now,
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  if
• 5:00
  you
• 5:00
  want
• 5:00
  to
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  keep
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• 5:20
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  connected
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