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What's Happening at the Courthouse: Family dynamics gone wrong · "What's happening at the Courthouse?" with Rameez Khan

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  Speaker 1: For some, prison is where it ends. For all, court
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  Speaker 1: is where it begins.
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  Speaker 2: The show this is the real world and this is
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  Speaker 2: what's happening at the courthouse.
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  Speaker 1: On KFM Mornings.
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  Speaker 3: With Ramis Okay Dogs, Remi's out in Bellevale yesterday.
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  Speaker 2: South Africans, also Champions and Shenanigans.
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  Speaker 3: It's rug there we go. This is a real world.
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  Speaker 3: Remi is asking everybody one simple question.
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  Speaker 1: What are you doing at the courthouse today? Supporting my sister.
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  Speaker 4: She had a protection order taken out against a spouse.
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  Speaker 4: She's also busy with divorce proceedings.
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  Speaker 1: Where did this whole thing start?
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  Speaker 4: You know, most relationships they run a certain course, and
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  Speaker 4: I think her relationship went this course.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: He decided then to run the other courts. Yeah, becoming
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  Speaker 4: a bit of a douche by doing what verbal and
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  Speaker 4: physical at times before it escalated, she said, it's canceled.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, do.
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  Speaker 4: It through the court and have her interdig done and
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  Speaker 4: to have the divorce proceedings done correctly. You know, it's
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  Speaker 4: one of those moments where mom lives curiously through the daughter.
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  Speaker 1: You're saying that your mom set up.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, she was like determined for it to happen. Oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: why is there because she never had the opportunity and
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  Speaker 4: my sister obviously had had a.
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  Speaker 1: Kid with him. Okay, she has a kid too with him.
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  Speaker 4: Now, I initially wasn't too keen on her getting married,
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  Speaker 4: not because of him, because the reason why she should
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  Speaker 4: get married.
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  Speaker 1: Because of your mom. Yeah. What was your first impression
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  Speaker 1: of the sky? I thought he was.
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  Speaker 4: What they call stale water. Oh because like an older guy. No,
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  Speaker 4: he's non progressive. What does that mean, doesn't see too
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  Speaker 4: much for himself. So if you don't see too much
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  Speaker 4: for yourself, how can you see much for your family? True?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, so and you picked that up on the first impression.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I have a bit of a reader of a person.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, so I'm a psychologist, so so so, yeah, what
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  Speaker 4: do you see for yourself, like in a year from now?
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  Speaker 4: And he was like yeah, as it comes, you know,
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  Speaker 4: And I was like, oh, great flag. But I can
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  Speaker 4: also not stop her because she's now agreeing with mom,
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  Speaker 4: and she's so young and impressionable at the time.
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  Speaker 1: And why and why would your mom be wanting this.
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  Speaker 4: Like she never had the opportunity to marry, So it's
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  Speaker 4: like those ballet moms.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so your mom to remember.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, listener, I'm telling you childhood trauma. I've
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  Speaker 4: dealt with mine, So I speak of her in the
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  Speaker 4: third person because she's no longer with us. Okay, Condolencesspaitflair,
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  Speaker 4: say that. That's why I'm back here and I'm leaving
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  Speaker 4: on Sunday. She's gained some experience in how to respect
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  Speaker 4: herself and love herself first. Yes, also make sure that
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  Speaker 4: she loves a life that could be exemply to her
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  Speaker 4: daughter for her daughter, so that she doesn't fall in
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  Speaker 4: the same cycle.
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  Speaker 1: Correct.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, so we're all about breaking these hereditary cycles.
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  Speaker 1: You know, these generational curses.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, oh, brother preach, I didn't ask you though, Why
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  Speaker 5: are you going.
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  Speaker 1: Back to to Liberia? Wow?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, at least say heartbreak took me there and yeah
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  Speaker 4: no no, I love the place.
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  Speaker 1: Wow. Yeah. Thank you very much for your time. Thanks,
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  Speaker 1: thanks for your insight. Thank you so much. Bye bye.
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  Speaker 1: What are you doing at the courthouse today?
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  Speaker 6: I'm actually for a very simple stupid pathetica. Is my
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  Speaker 6: son is seventeen years old. He was accused of assaulting
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  Speaker 6: adult mile in between forty forty five.
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  Speaker 5: So it could like basically be his dad or his
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  Speaker 5: grandfather for exact dad's uncle.
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  Speaker 6: Oh, okay, family related, just a bobby WIFEI quarrel. But
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  Speaker 6: we told the emails that we're going to sort out
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  Speaker 6: our own problems. Okay, they is told insisted on coming
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  Speaker 6: to the back and intervene or interfere whatever they did.
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  Speaker 6: Things escalated to a point where the uncle shoved my
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  Speaker 6: son against our wind the house and guy the first
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  Speaker 6: first punch. Oh that's when instead he stepped in between
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  Speaker 6: the two of them.
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  Speaker 1: But that's got nothing to do with your son, because
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  Speaker 1: he told.
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  Speaker 6: His grandma of the numerous times mark and it's just
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  Speaker 6: go in marketing. It's just we're gonna sort it out.
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  Speaker 6: My kids are fed up, he told her mark and
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  Speaker 6: to just in if in. So that's when the uncle
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  Speaker 6: stepped in. He was fed up. But as an adult,
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  Speaker 6: I think you just gonda talked to my son instead
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  Speaker 6: of raising hands on my son in front of the parents.
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  Speaker 6: That's uncle for you don't discipline my child in front
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  Speaker 6: of me. That's my job. You can tell me what
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  Speaker 6: he did wrong in hour reprimand my child.
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  Speaker 1: In all of this, my husband.
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  Speaker 6: Is recycling also Can's beer bottles. There was an empty
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  Speaker 6: beer bottley. My son can't fight due to bulloying. Last
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  Speaker 6: year he dropped out of school. It doesn't want to
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  Speaker 6: go back, but we're all looking to get him into
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  Speaker 6: Northing College so he can just get something on his name.
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  Speaker 6: Correct In any case, he saw the empty beer bottle
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  Speaker 6: standing in there, but it was nighttime. He just threw
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  Speaker 6: the bottle towards the uncle. But the beer bottle muster uncle.
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  Speaker 6: My son was opened to the windows by my husband.
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  Speaker 6: But the uncle got stab wounds in the arms and
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  Speaker 6: he fell and I don't know what happened. We don't
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  Speaker 6: know my son was standing open to the windows, but
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  Speaker 6: the uncle claims he was my son stabbed him with
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  Speaker 6: a beer bottle heat in the arms.
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  Speaker 1: The uncle is obviously a bit of a bigger guy.
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  Speaker 6: My son can't fight Ecomican foot party. But as a mother,
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  Speaker 6: I know my child even when friends fight walk away.
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  Speaker 5: Obviously, the uncle now lays a charge against your son,
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  Speaker 5: and that's how you end up here court.
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  Speaker 6: Yes, the only reason why we didn't praise charge in
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  Speaker 6: the first place because the uncle Riddick came out of
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  Speaker 6: prison oh for something he also did. I don't want
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  Speaker 6: to go into details, but he wasn't there for quite
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  Speaker 6: a while his family he's my husband's uncle, we didn't
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  Speaker 6: want to aid on top of that, and correctional services
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  Speaker 6: still doing the rounds coming to him and that's.
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  Speaker 1: The Yeah, why would he even go a.
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  Speaker 6: False case behind our beds?
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  Speaker 7: What?
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  Speaker 6: Yes, pathetic, stupid? But why though I don't know, he's
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  Speaker 6: been in jail for quite some time. He is from retreat.
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  Speaker 6: You can't go back here. My son had to go
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  Speaker 6: love in health by my mom because by thus of
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  Speaker 6: them can't be on the same property during the process
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  Speaker 6: of the court case.
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  Speaker 5: All because they were trying to get involved in an
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  Speaker 5: argument that you and your husband were having.
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  Speaker 6: He wanted to get involved before and thus was his opportunity.
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  Speaker 1: Ah, I see, But why I don't know. All I
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  Speaker 1: know is this stupid and how did this happen?
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  Speaker 6: Community in the alone knows what type of child I have.
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  Speaker 6: He is not a fighter. He as the old people
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  Speaker 6: he can They're all knowing. That's why they're all are
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  Speaker 6: so furious when they are. He was imprisoned for two days.
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  Speaker 6: What I only caught him out of Wednesday.
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  Speaker 1: And then what is this guy say? This this uncle?
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  Speaker 6: He can't even look me in the face. That says
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  Speaker 6: a lot. You can't look me in the face.
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  Speaker 1: Why not just drop the case.
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  Speaker 6: You will never stay away from negative people because I
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  Speaker 6: know them.
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  Speaker 1: They are vile people.
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  Speaker 6: All the negative things you can get under the negative category,
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  Speaker 6: that's them. And I move, but in silence that still move.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you very much for your time, man, I appreciate it.
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  Speaker 1: My please.
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  Speaker 3: I have a guy there, buddy, the sun can't five.
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  Speaker 3: We've got that loud and clear.
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  Speaker 2: Sure, But two stories and two fractured families there, Hey.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, family suing families.
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  Speaker 2: And the psychologist brother really broke it down for us.
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  Speaker 3: And you know, you probably certainly think how does that
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  Speaker 3: even happen? Until one day it happens to you and
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  Speaker 3: you go, oh, so we that family?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we all how things can escalate very quickly and
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  Speaker 2: the next thing you're talking to ramis outside the courthouse.
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  Speaker 1: So many of these issues are so layered. Ay you
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  Speaker 1: think you get it?
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  Speaker 2: Do you think you understand? And then there's.
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  Speaker 3: Another element layered and you'd say, for the court's time, lame,
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  Speaker 3: I mean you know.
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  Speaker 1: Because as well, Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Alright, good job brother, that's what's happening at the courthouse.
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  Speaker 3: Your comments from the Kangaroo Court. You welcome to drop
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  Speaker 3: them on O way to nine four five zero, nine
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  Speaker 3: four zero those that called through and ready for your
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  Speaker 3: comments from what's happening at the courthouse from Roumis and
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  Speaker 3: here we go.
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  Speaker 7: Maybe the ghost of Mabel left the uncle. The story
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  Speaker 7: just doesn't sound right. I don't know this at.
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  Speaker 1: Against them and that woman is a person that cover up.
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  Speaker 7: That's appeal that.
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  Speaker 1: I think it under the bride that said no it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't know it is the But why for me?
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  Speaker 3: But why?
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  Speaker 2: But why?
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  Speaker 7: I think we need parents to admittween the kids or
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  Speaker 7: naughty because everything just takes a child as a red
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  Speaker 7: like con is called the honey. So Maody can't clain me?
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  Speaker 7: Then who stepped the uncle? I mean, come on, aunties,
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  Speaker 7: we need to repromote our kids when they do wrong
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  Speaker 7: and not protect them. That's why the world is so crookeds.
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  Speaker 1: I don't believe that Auntie. I was feeling that man.
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  Speaker 1: She's covering up for a lightly.
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  Speaker 4: How can you be putting the wall and still be
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  Speaker 4: able to grab an in the bottle.
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  Speaker 1: I don't believe it.
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  Speaker 3: See how heart it as being a judge in South Africa?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, because who stabbed the uncle? He said, Untie, you
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  Speaker 1: need to come with more evidence.
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  Speaker 3: Please, if you missed that this morning, you have to
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  Speaker 3: go re listen to it The Mystery because he can't fight. Remember,
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  Speaker 3: she said, many, many times, he can't fight.