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Hypnosis for Self-Acceptance - Feel Safe Without Approval or Validation · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by the hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here and you're about to listen to a hypnosis
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  session all about self acceptance and full validation.
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  And a lot of people that had the kind of upbringing where they
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  had to earn approval, they had to have conditions met to
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  receive love, affection or attention, actually have a lot
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  of desire deep down to have the validation or approval of other
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  people. The problem with that is it
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  gives a lot of power to other people, and they don't even know
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  that some people will exploit the fact that if your.
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  Worthiness. Is linked to their approval.
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  Then it. Exposes you to.
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  Influence or even. Manipulation because your
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  emotions could be played. Now what can protect you against
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  the need for external validation is if you have lots of self
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  validation. If you like yourself so much,
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  accept yourself so much, approve of yourself so much, then you
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  can want other people to like you, but not need other people
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  to like you. That is a big difference.
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  And that's really what this hypnosis session is about.
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  It was created for someone that was very successful, a high
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  achiever, very, very capable. And yet.
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  Felt that they had to. Earn.
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  Approval. They were scared of judgement of
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  other people and because of that it made them highly.
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  Anxious in a. Lot of different situations.
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  This hypnosis session is designed to deal with the very
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  root cause of that and that is full self acceptance so that the
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  only approval and validation that you need is your own, even
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  if you can like approval and compliments from other people.
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  So if this resonates then I would encourage you to find a
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  quiet, comfortable place where you won't be distracted or
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  disturbed. Relax.
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  And enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that slow, long, relaxing breath.
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  And as you exhale, just allow your eyelids to close.
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  And as they close, feel the sense of release going down from
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  your eyelids, down your jaw, spreading across all of those
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  tiny muscles of your face as you breathe in a wonderful feeling
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  of relaxation and just release. Any tension, any insecurities,
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  any worries, so that each breath takes you to a deeper level of
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  relaxation and acceptance. That's it.
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  Scan your body for any clues, not just of tension, but
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  anything that feels like dependency, unworthiness, any
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  blocks. That's it.
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  And imagine them as blocks of ice within your body.
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  And as you breathe in a wonderful feeling of
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  resourcefulness, imagine it like sunshine on the ice, that as you
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  breathe in that warmth, those insecurities, any old beliefs
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  that aren't true, start to incrementally and gradually melt
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  away. And as you exhale, feel, feel
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  the release of what is melting away.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel.
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  And the more relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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  Each breath takes you to a new level of relaxation.
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  Just notice the rhythm of your breathing and scan all the way
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  back in your past. And perhaps you can acknowledge
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  that your mind and your body has always known how to survive,
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  before you ever had savings, before you ever had certainty,
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  before anyone chose you or approved of you.
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  You are hard wired for survival, breathing, adapting, responding
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  and learning. And the deeper part of the mind
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  already knows something that the thinking mind sometimes forgets.
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  Safety has never truly come from other people's choices, because
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  other people have always been unpredictable.
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  You, more than most, know that other people change their minds.
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  They misunderstand. They have their own triggers,
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  fears and preferences. And yet somehow, through all of
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  that unpredictability, you are still here.
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  Which means something much more powerful has been present all
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  along. Resourcefulness.
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  The ability to think, to adapt, to learn, to redirect, to
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  manage, survive and sometimes thrive through unexpected things
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  and situations. The fact that you're so
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  resourceful, independent, is evidence that you cope, you
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  manage, and you make things work.
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  And when your mind begins to really recognize that, a new
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  kind of deep inner confidence starts to emerge.
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  Not the fragile temporary confidence that comes from being
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  chosen, but the deeper confidence that comes from
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  knowing that you can handle life.
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  And maybe for a long time, your nervous system truly believed
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  that safety required something external like approval,
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  acceptance, being preferred, being chosen, or winning and
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  coming first. And that belief may once have
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  even served a purpose, because there were times when belonging
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  mattered deeply for survival. But your mind is not fixed.
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  It can update in the same way that technology can update its
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  software or firmware. Your mind can update its
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  understanding because the adult you has something far more
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  reliable than approval. You have capability.
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  You have the ability to figure things out, the ability to
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  recover, the ability to build something new if something old
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  disappears. And the more you think about
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  that, the truer it becomes so that being chosen isn't
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  required. It's just nice and pleasant.
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  Wouldn't it be wonderful that all these things that you want,
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  thought you needed for safety are just desirable but no longer
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  essential? And I wonder if you can utilize
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  the power of your imagination to think of the idea of an internal
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  structure of safety. Not something given by others,
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  not something dependent on money or status, but something that
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  exists within you. A foundation made from
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  experience that extracts the wisdom from every challenge
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  you've ever faced, every problem you've ever solved, and every
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  time life surprised you and yet you still found a way forward.
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  What if all of those experiences built something indestructible
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  inside you? Resilience.
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  The invincibility that you felt in the past wasn't because it
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  was dependent on the words or actions of other people, it was
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  just vibrating with a frequency that is already within you.
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  Because when you are resilient, you feel invincible, and
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  resilience creates a form of psychological and emotional
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  immunity. I wonder if you could imagine
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  what it would be like to be immune from judgement, immune
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  from rejection, immune from the pressure of needing to win.
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  Just allow your mind to take you to thoughts like that of
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  playing, but not to win, but just to grow and improve.
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  To spend time with people and just evaluate them rather than
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  feeling you need them to be a particular way.
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  And when people show you who they really are, you can accept
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  them as much as you accept yourself.
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  The two words of anxiety are what if.
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  The two words of resilience are even if, But even if something
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  goes wrong, you will find a way. Even if you're rejected, you
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  will find someone that accepts you.
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  Even if money is lost, it can be regained.
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  Even if there are difficulties, there is always a problem.
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  And when the mind trusts that truth, then the nervous system
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  no longer needs to scan the world for danger in the same
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  way. And if your unconscious is
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  willing to update the what ifs to even ifs, let me know by
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  nodding your head. That's it.
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  And don't be surprised if in the hours, days and weeks that
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  follow you catch yourself with a what if thought and maybe you'll
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  notice how quickly your mind updates it to an even if.
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  Even if that thing happens, you have the resources to handle it.
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  Now consider the idea not of partial self acceptance, but
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  complete self acceptance. Acceptance not based on
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  performance, not based on comparison, and not based on
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  what others think, but based on something simpler.
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  You are the only person who has lived your entire life.
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  You know the intentions behind your choices and you know the
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  effort that you've made. You know the lessons you've
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  learned. And because of that, you can
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  believe something very freeing, that you don't need permission
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  to accept yourself. Acceptance is a decision, a
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  recognition that you are already enough to live your life on your
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  terms. Not perfect, not superior, but
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  complete. And from that place of
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  completeness, self trust grows naturally.
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  And I want you to imagine a future situation where something
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  unexpected happens, a situation where you are not chosen, a
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  situation where you are misunderstood, where
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  circumstances or predictabilities suddenly
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  change. But see that future version of
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  you doing something different. Instead of panic or low self
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  worth, there is space. There is a moment of calm
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  curiosity. That deeper part of you now
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  knows that whatever happens, you will handle it.
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  That if one door closes, you will find several more that
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  open. If something disappears, you
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  will simply create something new.
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  Your safety and security does not come from external
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  guarantees. It comes from your resourceful
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  ability to respond, and that ability cannot be taken away.
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  The more you trust yourself implicitly, this understanding
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  then deepens and something else begins to happen.
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  The need for validation or approval quietly loosens its
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  grip. Validation is pleasant, but it's
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  no longer required. Approval is enjoyable that it's
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  no longer necessary. Belonging can still be valued,
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  but it's no longer the foundation of safety.
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  Instead, belonging becomes something entirely different, a
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  choice, a preference, a gift, or perhaps a bonus.
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  It's no longer a requirement for peace.
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  And when belonging becomes optional rather than necessary,
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  relationships become lighter, more genuine, and less anxious.
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  Because when you need approval, when you need to be chosen, when
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  you need to belong, that can lead to dependency, unhealthy
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  attachments. Wanting to belong, wanting to be
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  chosen is a natural human need, and you can desire it without
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  feeling that your very safety requires it.
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  And before we return to the present, just consider the idea
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  of judgement. Because other people will always
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  have opinions. That's just part of being human.
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  But opinions are not threats, they're just perspectives.
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  And when the mind fully accepts and owns its own resilience,
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  judgement loses its power. Someone else's opinion does not
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  determine your worth, and it does not determine your safety.
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  Your safety comes from something far more stable, your ability
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  and resources to navigate life. So from now on, the mind will
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  adopt A new principle. A principle that strengthens
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  self trust and reduces that need for dependency.
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  And the principle is simple. You are safe because you are
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  capable. Not because everything is
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  predictable, and not because everyone approves, but because
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  you have the intelligence, adaptability, the resilience,
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  and the resourcefulness to handle whatever happens.
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  And that understanding finally allows the nervous system to
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  fully rest and relax and feel truly safe.
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  Those external things become desirable rather than necessary.
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  The longing becomes enjoyable, success becomes satisfying,
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  recognition becomes rewarding. But none of them are required
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  for peace and safety. Your inner peace comes from
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  knowing that you are already enough, and if your unconscious
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  is willing to accept that, you have the resources to feel safe.
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  And when you feel safe, you don't feel fear.
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  And when you don't feel fear, you don't feel shame.
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  Just let me know by nodding your head.
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  It's time to float back to the present, taking all of these
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  changes with you with a desire or willingness to change the
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  what ifs to even ifs, to turn doubt into trust, to turn
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  dependency to resiliency. Take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now.
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  As I now count, from 1:00 to 10:00 you will awaken, returning
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  with a wonderful sense of resourcefulness, which is your
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  new internal structure. For safety.
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  Starting to count 123 Waking up 456.
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  More alert 7-8 Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910.
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  Wide awake, Wide awake. Wide awake.
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