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Expect the Birthing Unexpected with Jared Haibon & Jess Clarke · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, everybody, welcome to the Almost Famous Podcast. I'm not Ben,
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  Speaker 2: I'm not Ashley. I'm mister Ashley, Eye and Eddie coming
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  Speaker 2: to you live from Ashley's glamor room in Ashley's house.
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  Speaker 3: And Ashley well, actually you guys. Hey, we're here with
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  Speaker 3: not just Ben but his beautiful and very pregnant wife, Jess.
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  Speaker 3: You guys. Dawson has started to call it Mama's house.
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  Speaker 3: He goes, are we gonna go back home to Mama's house?
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  Speaker 3: And then it's m Yum's house, which is why my mom, Well,
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  Speaker 3: it's actually Niam Niam Papa's house. I mean, for some reason,
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  Speaker 3: he just lets you out of this.
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  Speaker 4: He's just a three year old feminist.
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  Speaker 2: He cares about, you know, power, empowering the females in
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  Speaker 2: his life.
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  Speaker 4: That's all. So it's your house, it's grandma's house.
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  Speaker 3: That is so funny, so cute.
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  Speaker 4: It's a very cute boy guys.
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  Speaker 2: You guys, Yeah, Ben, it's gonna take till about Well,
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  Speaker 2: it's different because you guys are having as I can't
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  Speaker 2: tell because now I can rough house with Dawson, you know,
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  Speaker 2: once he turned two, it really changed for me. Of course,
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  Speaker 2: I always love Dawson, but now it's a whole different ballgame.
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  Speaker 2: I remember one time I was talking to Ari and
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  Speaker 2: Ari said that he wished he could fast forward his
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  Speaker 2: kids till like two or three, because that's when it
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  Speaker 2: really started to he bonded with them in a different way.
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  Speaker 4: And then I was like, Oh, that's interesting, And now
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  Speaker 4: I think of the same thing.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I've had enough friends have babies that say the
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  Speaker 5: same thing. Like, I don't have this wild expectation like
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  Speaker 5: I think I'm what I expect out of myself is
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  Speaker 5: that I'm going to have like almost like a primal
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  Speaker 5: like protection instinct that I'm going to be on edge
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  Speaker 5: just because that's who I am. But there'll be a
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  Speaker 5: moment at some point where I'm like, oh, she's got me.
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  Speaker 5: But like, I don't expect that right away. I'm expecting
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  Speaker 5: to just be like a good you know, helper, support system,
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  Speaker 5: diaper cleaner, swaddler at first, and then at some point,
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  Speaker 5: like if if she's like ten, and I'm like, yeah,
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  Speaker 5: I don't I don't have anything any connection.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I like you. Yeah, that's the one thing
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  Speaker 3: that we've been so honest about is like, and I
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  Speaker 3: don't actually think it's going to apply to you guys,
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  Speaker 3: But we just didn't feel like when the baby came
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  Speaker 3: out of my body like any sort of like heavenly moment.
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  Speaker 3: We like took a while to it. It's not a while,
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  Speaker 3: like a day.
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  Speaker 4: I think it was just instant.
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  Speaker 2: So many people told us like, oh my god, the
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  Speaker 2: first time you lay eyes on your child, like your
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  Speaker 2: life changes in that moment. And I remember looking at
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  Speaker 2: Dawson and it was crazy. But it's just such a
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  Speaker 2: crazy moment that you guys are about to experience. But like,
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  Speaker 2: you know, the doctors are in the room and you know,
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  Speaker 2: we're making sure you're gonna make sure that Jess is
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  Speaker 2: okay and the baby's crying, and then they have to
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  Speaker 2: take the baby and do all this stuff and it's
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  Speaker 2: just like it's kind of chaotic, you know, there's no
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  Speaker 2: sense of calmness and really soaking in and then it,
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  Speaker 2: you know, in a few minutes, once everybody's settled down
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  Speaker 2: and okay, you know you have time to really you know, you.
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  Speaker 4: Swaddle the baby and hold them her.
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  Speaker 2: And that's really nice, but it's just you know, once
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  Speaker 2: like it you know what's gonna hit you.
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  Speaker 4: It's the first time the baby smiles at you. That's
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  Speaker 4: when it's gonna really hit you.
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  Speaker 2: The first time, like, well she looks at you and smiles.
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  Speaker 2: It takes a few months, that's what I mean. Though,
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  Speaker 2: it takes a few months.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 2: The first few months it's just you're just keeping this
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  Speaker 2: thing alive and just so adorable and so wonderful and
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  Speaker 2: cuddling great. But it's really like once the baby starts,
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  Speaker 2: once she starts looking at you and then she smiles,
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  Speaker 2: that's when you're gonna be like, okay, ah.
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  Speaker 3: Right, Jessa is gonna feel it instantly, though, like I
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  Speaker 3: know this, like she said that sheels it. I never
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  Speaker 3: felt connected to it in my body. And she's like
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  Speaker 3: telling me, She's like, I don't even think I can
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  Speaker 3: wait twenty four hours for like me to be fully dilated.
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  Speaker 3: I just need to meet her right now.
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  Speaker 6: So SAMs about meeting her.
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  Speaker 4: That's why.
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  Speaker 6: Is like I've literally had dreams about like giving birth
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  Speaker 6: and holding her, and then I wake up and she's
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  Speaker 6: not there, and it's like this saddest thing ever. Like
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  Speaker 6: I'm so excited to meet her. But I also like
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  Speaker 6: now that I know when how soon we are to
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  Speaker 6: having her. I have this mental block of like actually imagining.
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  Speaker 6: I'm sure most women have this, but like I can't
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  Speaker 6: imagine pushing a baby out of my body, like I
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  Speaker 6: actually it's like a complete block.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I couldn't conceptualize that. So I was like,
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  Speaker 3: can I please have a sea section? I was like,
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  Speaker 3: for some reason, I can conceptualize a surgery, but I
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  Speaker 3: don't know how this is going to slide out of
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  Speaker 3: my body and very glad I didn't have a sea
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  Speaker 3: section now, And I was like, I've told you not
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  Speaker 3: scared this scept for the second birth. If lucky, it's
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  Speaker 3: not scary.
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  Speaker 2: You're you.
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  Speaker 6: Texting me has made me feel so much better because
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  Speaker 6: I'm like, that's so sweety, I can do this. Like
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  Speaker 6: it's just I feel like a lot of people don't
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  Speaker 6: tell you exactly what happens and like exactly what to expect,
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  Speaker 6: and the unknown is what makes it so scary.
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  Speaker 3: I think, yes, the first it's so unknown and so scary,
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  Speaker 3: but it's like it's really, in today's modern medical age,
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  Speaker 3: it doesn't have to be. It's really really doesn't have
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  Speaker 3: to be scary. It's crazy, Like I'm telling you I
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  Speaker 3: feared it so much my whole life. And then the
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  Speaker 3: second time, I acted as if I was going in
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  Speaker 3: for like a routine, like what the heck? Like I
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  Speaker 3: was like going for like idental cleaning, and Jared, He's like,
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  Speaker 3: the second time, I could have done that. It looks
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  Speaker 3: so you made that look so easy. I could have
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  Speaker 3: done that.
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  Speaker 2: Listen, I am a man, and I am the weaker
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  Speaker 2: gender here. I have I do not I There's no
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  Speaker 2: two ways about that. Like I don't think I could
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  Speaker 2: do pregnancy. I mean, of course I could do it,
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  Speaker 2: but it looks terrible, no offense. I mean, you guys
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  Speaker 2: are always sick. It just takes such a toll on
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  Speaker 2: your body. Like I look at my mother and I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: thank you for everything you've done for me, even not
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  Speaker 2: even just raising me, but carrying me in your womb
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  Speaker 2: for nine months.
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  Speaker 3: I mean it changing two ounce body out of.
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  Speaker 2: And she had no EPI dural, the poor thing. I
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  Speaker 2: can't believe she's alive. But but yeah, the second time,
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  Speaker 2: I felt very comfortable telling Ashley this because it was
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  Speaker 2: not the dorm arm got so lucky, so lucky, but
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  Speaker 2: I mean Ashley got induced.
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  Speaker 4: We went in it was like a doctor's appointment.
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  Speaker 2: They had her all set up and then they started
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  Speaker 2: giving you the potassium potossum.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you.
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  Speaker 3: Uh.
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  Speaker 2: And then they were like, do you want the epidural
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  Speaker 2: and you're like, yeah, sure, they gave you the epi dural.
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  Speaker 2: You're like, I didn't feel anything like even the needle
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  Speaker 2: going in for the epi dural. And then you gave birth.
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  Speaker 2: And then it was like two thirty in the afternoon
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  Speaker 2: and you were walking around that night, and so of
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  Speaker 2: course I went up to as that. I was like, Ashley,
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  Speaker 2: what you've done is incredible, wonderful, carrying this child amazing.
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  Speaker 2: But at the same time, I'm pretty sure my root
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  Speaker 2: canal was.
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  Speaker 4: Far worse than this.
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  Speaker 3: Okay. Also, this was induction, so it was like a
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  Speaker 3: lot less oh my god, I'm starting to have contractions
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  Speaker 3: sort of thing. I was lying in the hostle bed.
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  Speaker 3: I had the avdura before I started contracting a little lot.
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  Speaker 3: It's definitely not the norm, but you what was I
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  Speaker 3: gonna say? But I will say this, The worst part
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  Speaker 3: of that one was I felt lightheaded towards the end
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  Speaker 3: with pushing because pushing takes so much energy and I
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  Speaker 3: hadn't eaten anything since before midnight that night because you're
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  Speaker 3: not really supposed to write. So I was at over,
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  Speaker 3: like I was. I got fourteen hours of fasting, which
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  Speaker 3: is normally what I do. I'm kind of like an
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  Speaker 3: inter minute faster. But when you have to do something
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  Speaker 3: so physical as labor, you're like, oh crap, I need
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  Speaker 3: some something of substance.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, I have heard that, like make sure that we
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  Speaker 6: have I have like something to eat before I leave
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  Speaker 6: the house, and like, I guess they'll give me gatorade
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  Speaker 6: and stuff there. One of my girlfriends just gave birth
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  Speaker 6: there and at the hospital we're going to and said,
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  Speaker 6: they like, will give you popsicles. Yeah, popsicles helps you
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  Speaker 6: want so that'll help.
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  Speaker 3: Jared's hair part.
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  Speaker 2: Ben, Ben will have some of the popsicles, give you
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  Speaker 2: so many fantastic.
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  Speaker 3: It's going to be the best support system during the labor.
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  Speaker 3: Jared was great, he was he you were great.
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  Speaker 4: But since there's some tone there.
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  Speaker 3: The second time, he just acted as if like nothing
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  Speaker 3: was really happening.
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  Speaker 4: Nothing happened.
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  Speaker 3: He was like just like whatever.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, it was just I was there, I was
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  Speaker 2: I was waiting, and then that you started pushing, and
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  Speaker 2: then and then it was just like.
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  Speaker 6: In the obstacle, I know for fact that that is
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  Speaker 6: not going to be vince her mouth.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I thought I thought Jared was going to pass
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  Speaker 3: out the first time. I thought he was gonna be
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  Speaker 3: one of those dads.
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  Speaker 4: There's that risk, yeah about that, you know.
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  Speaker 5: I I have been very calm for nine months with
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  Speaker 5: like all the life change. Like I've been kind of
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  Speaker 5: like in try to get like things done mode. I
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  Speaker 5: told her yesterday, I think as soon as we step
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  Speaker 5: into the hospital that like anything that I've like pushed
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  Speaker 5: back because it just doesn't seem appropriate right now, is
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  Speaker 5: going to come out and I'm going to be, oh,
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  Speaker 5: pretty on edge. I could see myself passing out, but
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  Speaker 5: I'm I'm going to be up top.
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  Speaker 3: So you're saying you're not gonna look, and that is
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  Speaker 3: exactly what we would advise. Jared had a bird's eye view,
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  Speaker 3: which is a lot different than a full frontal view.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't matter. It's so stupid. They didn't even put
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  Speaker 2: a towel on Ashley or any type of blanket until
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  Speaker 2: we asked, you'll.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't want to. I didn't want to see myself.
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  Speaker 2: To be honest, this is not a movie. It's just
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  Speaker 2: everything is right there. You're going unless you actively try
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  Speaker 2: not to look, you're gonna see everything. Yeah, I mean
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  Speaker 2: I just saw it.
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  Speaker 5: That's maybe where like I'll start to get we's queasy.
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  Speaker 5: But then we both decided I want to cut the
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  Speaker 5: umbilical cord. My dad did it for me, and uh,
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  Speaker 5: I don't know it just like it is something I
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  Speaker 5: remember him telling me, and I'm like, that's pretty cool. Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: I don't necessarily want to like there isn't like this like,
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  Speaker 5: oh I cannot wait to be the one that cuts that. Like,
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  Speaker 5: I think it's gonna be tough.
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  Speaker 2: Mentally, you'll be fine, okay, because the doctors, everybody's just
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  Speaker 2: right there. They're literally like I cut sambilical corn on
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  Speaker 2: Dawson and hated. They practically grab your hand like a
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  Speaker 2: preschool last It's just like here dad go snip.
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  Speaker 4: Okay. Done. It's just like, oh wow, that was that
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  Speaker 4: was it. I just okay, We're done.
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  Speaker 3: This is so much fun. You guys you'll love telling
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  Speaker 3: birth story the birth stories of your children too. So
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  Speaker 3: I'm sorry we've like dominated we want to know all
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  Speaker 3: the questions that you have for us, and but thank
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  Speaker 3: you for letting us know whether you plan on looking
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  Speaker 3: or not, because at first I was like, everything is
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  Speaker 3: gonna be very discreet, nobody. I'm not seeing anything. You're
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  Speaker 3: not seeing anything, as it's impossible. I know.
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  Speaker 6: I've kind of been the same way, like you'll be
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  Speaker 6: waist up, I'm not gonna ask for a mirror, so
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  Speaker 6: like it, He'll just see my gown and the baby
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  Speaker 6: will pop out and it's all gonna be great.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: But I'm watching like an online labor and delivery video
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  Speaker 6: and they're like describing all the other things that like
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  Speaker 6: happen and come out, and I'm like, oh, Ben could
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  Speaker 6: be in trouble.
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  Speaker 3: Jared never saw the placenta, right or did you? And
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  Speaker 3: you didn't tell me that? It seems gnarly. I never
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  Speaker 3: saw my own.
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  Speaker 4: I can't remember.
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  Speaker 2: It's all just like a blur, honestly, because it all
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  Speaker 2: just happens, you know, so fast, and then you know
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  Speaker 2: the kids there and I'm focusing on the kid, and
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  Speaker 2: I don't remember if I saw your placenta.
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  Speaker 3: Or not, Dared, you would have known. It looks like
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  Speaker 3: an organ comes out of your body, which it is,
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  Speaker 3: an organ comes out of your body. It looks like
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  Speaker 3: a looks like a liver.
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  Speaker 4: Then probably not.
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  Speaker 6: No, he said, I didn't see that.
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  Speaker 4: I don't remember it. The Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: I mean it's still weird to me, and maybe at
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  Speaker 5: some point it changes, but like I don't feel still
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  Speaker 5: at thirty five like I should be having like a child,
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  Speaker 5: Like that's still a weird feeling of like we're days away,
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  Speaker 5: hours away, moments away maybe from having a baby in
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  Speaker 5: this house that now I'm responsible for. Her parents and
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  Speaker 5: my parents have been uh, you know, I think it's
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  Speaker 5: a generational thing. They are so excited to help that
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  Speaker 5: that has been a comfort. That has been like a weightlift,
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  Speaker 5: because it's like, oh, we're not just like doing this alone.
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  Speaker 5: Like I think maybe past generations felt like they were
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  Speaker 5: doing like hey go home and you two figure this out.
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  Speaker 5: It's like, no, we got a good support system, which
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  Speaker 5: is super nice. We've been doing Whalan baby training and
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  Speaker 5: he's been crushing it, so that's been super nice. Here's
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  Speaker 5: the weirdest thing for me right now. I just got
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  Speaker 5: off a board meeting before this call, and there's some
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  Speaker 5: moms on the call.
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  Speaker 4: Jared. I don't know if you ever experienced this, but
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  Speaker 4: now that the.
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  Speaker 5: You know, our little girl is big, fully developed, moving
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  Speaker 5: around a lot, having parties at night, and her belly
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  Speaker 5: she's like punching, kicking, you know.
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  Speaker 4: And I and last night was the.
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  Speaker 5: First time where I thought, oh, we're going to the hospital,
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  Speaker 5: like this is like Jess was like win seeing, couldn't
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  Speaker 5: really get words out, and I was like, this is
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  Speaker 5: this is the moment, right She's like no, she was
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  Speaker 5: just in a weird spot and kind of like pushing
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  Speaker 5: against it and kicking it. And right away I didn't
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  Speaker 5: tell her this last night. I was like, you know,
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  Speaker 5: when you're in a car wreck or like when you
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  Speaker 5: have like a big injury, you have internal bruising, you're hospitalized.
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  Speaker 4: For that, like that's a big deal.
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  Speaker 5: But you have a human like using your stomach as
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  Speaker 5: a punching bag right now, Like how is that?
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  Speaker 4: Just?
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  Speaker 5: Not?
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  Speaker 4: Like how is that okay?
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  Speaker 5: Like you have something inside of you directly making contact
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  Speaker 5: with your organs like kicking, moving, pushing against and you're
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  Speaker 5: still gonna like lay in bed and go to sleep tonight.
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  Speaker 6: Or not going to sleep, No, not going or not
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  Speaker 6: sleep for more than five minutes at all.
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  Speaker 2: I know the human body is weird. I mean, it's
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  Speaker 2: just it's a wonderful, wonderful thing, but it's weird when
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  Speaker 2: you really think about everything that goes into especially with pregnancy. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I mean, not to be graphic, but like that punching
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  Speaker 2: bag is just going to be coming out of you know,
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  Speaker 2: your wife pretty soon, just.
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  Speaker 4: As not a big girl.
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  Speaker 3: Well I've thought about that too, because you were telling
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  Speaker 3: me about like you're dilating being you know, your doctor
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  Speaker 3: was warning you how slow it could be, and I
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  Speaker 3: was like, yeah, you are tinier than me, so I
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  Speaker 3: guess it could be slower. Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: My doctor was like it could take twenty four to
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  Speaker 6: forty eight hours, like once you get to the hospital,
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  Speaker 6: and I'm like, I don't have that kind of time.
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  Speaker 6: Like when you're in the hospital, I'm going to be like,
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  Speaker 6: let's just do this thing, like I don't really care
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  Speaker 6: what it takes.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, my biggest advice would be go to
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  Speaker 2: the hospital. If it takes twenty four to forty eight hours,
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  Speaker 2: I mean, just bring I mean you'll be uncomfortable, but
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  Speaker 2: you also you know, be taken care of and on
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  Speaker 2: beds and and so like you know, bring books or
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  Speaker 2: or don't rely on the TV in the real TV.
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  Speaker 4: Don't do it.
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  Speaker 2: Download efforts on your computer do something.
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  Speaker 3: People are like, oh, I want to stay in the
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  Speaker 3: hospital for a couple of days for them to like
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  Speaker 3: give me, like, you know, like a hotel stay. I'm
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  Speaker 3: like no, because the thing is you can't see or
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  Speaker 3: hear at the TV.
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  Speaker 4: You want to be back home.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 15:13
  Speaker 2: The nice thing is that once the baby's born, the
• 15:16
  Speaker 2: nurses will take care help you take care of the
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: baby on the first However, many nights you're in the hospital,
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: so you can get some sleep because obviously once you're
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: back home.
• 15:23
  Speaker 3: Except for they do like to come in every other hour.
• 15:25
  Speaker 3: Do you need to pee? We're gonna do this. We're
• 15:28
  Speaker 3: gonna do that.
• 15:29
  Speaker 4: You don't really get a do they have medicine for
• 15:31
  Speaker 4: the dads.
• 15:46
  Speaker 3: What is crazy is that after birth, like you're only
• 15:49
  Speaker 3: gonna be pretty much given advill and thailand all if
• 15:52
  Speaker 3: it all goes according to plan. And you're like, wow,
• 15:55
  Speaker 3: that's like wacky.
• 15:57
  Speaker 6: My body is about to like double and triple and
• 16:00
  Speaker 6: and I only get advil or tilele.
• 16:06
  Speaker 4: What are some things that you're thinking about as we approach.
• 16:08
  Speaker 3: This, Yeah, ask me like the most graphic things that
• 16:11
  Speaker 3: you can ever imagine asking somebody.
• 16:13
  Speaker 5: On Actually, since the birth of Dawson has wanted somebody
• 16:17
  Speaker 5: just to ask her publicly, like, hey, did you poop
• 16:20
  Speaker 5: the bed? And she just wants to be able to answer,
• 16:22
  Speaker 5: like she's desiring to, Okay, well.
• 16:25
  Speaker 3: Did you No neither, but neither of them did you
• 16:28
  Speaker 3: nod or did no one tell you? They've told me
• 16:31
  Speaker 3: both times. I did not, and I'm pretty sure Jared
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: would have known, and that would have probably disturbed you.
• 16:37
  Speaker 4: No, I mean it would have been fine. You're pushing.
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: I mean in that moment when you're pushing it, poop
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: can easily just fly out of day, you know.
• 16:48
  Speaker 3: I remember that I went like within the twelve hours
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: before getting to the hospital too, so that like helped.
• 16:56
  Speaker 3: If I had gone like skipped to day like that
• 16:58
  Speaker 3: could have been worrisome.
• 17:00
  Speaker 6: Stern Law told me to start because they give you
• 17:02
  Speaker 6: the stool softeners in the hospital, and she said to
• 17:04
  Speaker 6: start like a couple of days before just so that
• 17:06
  Speaker 6: like which also makes me a little nervous.
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: It also makes you nervous, and that I could just
• 17:10
  Speaker 3: slide out, Yeah, exactly.
• 17:12
  Speaker 4: Another thing.
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: I don't know if this matters to you at all, Jess,
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: but one thing that mattered to Ashley that will maybe
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: make you feel better, is that once the baby is out,
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: you're just gonna lose so much like your stomach's gonna.
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: Jared, you're talking about me personally, You're not.
• 17:25
  Speaker 5: I don't know, No, I want to know this, Like
• 17:28
  Speaker 5: is that a thing we talked about the other day?
• 17:30
  Speaker 4: Heard? I like, is does it like shrink right away?
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: I mean I remember, like it's it's.
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: Going to be, you know, enlarged for a while. Yeah,
• 17:39
  Speaker 3: Jared's just making it's Jared just trying to make you
• 17:42
  Speaker 3: feel better. And the fact that like a lot of
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: the baby, wait, just actually falls off because a lot
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: of it is fluid and blood and the placenta and
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: like all these things. So to make you possibly feel better,
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: it took like three or four months for me to
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: just without really trying get back to my normal weight.
• 18:01
  Speaker 5: I'm talking about like the stomach, Like, I mean what
• 18:04
  Speaker 5: I imagine that stomach right.
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: Now is hard. It is like big.
• 18:09
  Speaker 5: There's like that, Like the weight is fine, but like
• 18:13
  Speaker 5: the stomach itself like doesn't stay like looking pregnant right
• 18:17
  Speaker 5: after that, right.
• 18:19
  Speaker 4: That's wow.
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: No, you'll look she'll look a little pregnant. She won't
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: look nine months anymore. I won't look like that, but
• 18:25
  Speaker 3: she might be like, look seven months, six months, the
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: days or so afterward, and then every like chunk of
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: days she'll get like months and months smaller.
• 18:36
  Speaker 5: Here's the other thing that I think needs to be
• 18:38
  Speaker 5: said publicly, and I know Jared can back me on
• 18:40
  Speaker 5: this because you, Ashley kind of like hinted at it.
• 18:45
  Speaker 5: I think there's maybe an idea here where the husband
• 18:49
  Speaker 5: is like there's a protection of like the mystery that
• 18:53
  Speaker 5: goes into childbirth and like, hey, you might poop the table.
• 18:57
  Speaker 5: Hey there's going to be blood everywhere. Hey, that's going
• 18:59
  Speaker 5: to really row my husband off. That is not a
• 19:02
  Speaker 5: concern for us. Like I want to let you know
• 19:04
  Speaker 5: we're married to the two of you because we love
• 19:07
  Speaker 5: you and we're like thankful for you. You can do
• 19:10
  Speaker 5: whatever you want on that table, and I'm not going
• 19:13
  Speaker 5: to be at home being like, hey, we can't like
• 19:15
  Speaker 5: touch tonight, Like that was really gross, Like that's not
• 19:17
  Speaker 5: a thought. That's not going to be a thing I'm
• 19:19
  Speaker 5: going to if you did all that. I think Jared
• 19:21
  Speaker 5: and I both would say, yeah, it would be more
• 19:24
  Speaker 5: almost like goodness, that's crazy, but like our attractiveness to
• 19:28
  Speaker 5: you does not fade because of that moment.
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: I was petrified of this the first time.
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: I know you were, But it's not a thing.
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: It's not, at least with us like maybe it is
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: with some I'm I'm way more affected by walking into
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: the bathroom.
• 19:41
  Speaker 4: After you after.
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: Than anything I've seen in the delivery rooms.
• 19:53
  Speaker 5: Yeah, so that's just like that's like a I think
• 19:56
  Speaker 5: a freedom going into this is like you can do
• 19:59
  Speaker 5: whatever you got to do on that table. Yeah, And
• 20:02
  Speaker 5: I'm just gonna be amazed and probably like if I
• 20:05
  Speaker 5: do get queasy, it ain't because of what you did.
• 20:07
  Speaker 5: It's the fact that I'm like seeing it and being
• 20:10
  Speaker 5: like this is insane, Like I don't know how to
• 20:13
  Speaker 5: make sense of this in this moment. I've never seen
• 20:15
  Speaker 5: anything like this. I've never seen anything open up to
• 20:17
  Speaker 5: be able to push out a human and like you
• 20:21
  Speaker 5: still be alive, Like that's that's crazy.
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree.
• 20:26
  Speaker 6: One of the things that we've been talking about a
• 20:28
  Speaker 6: lot recently, like in the past two days, is like
• 20:31
  Speaker 6: we've kind of been getting not like sad, but like
• 20:34
  Speaker 6: a little sad about our life changing, just like the
• 20:37
  Speaker 6: two of us, because we like love our evenings together
• 20:42
  Speaker 6: and like, you know, the freedom, and we're very realistic
• 20:46
  Speaker 6: that's going to change. But do you guys have any
• 20:49
  Speaker 6: like tips for like y'all as a couple.
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: So I think what you guys will do with one
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: you can you can dictate your schedule. I mean, it's
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: just more it's it's weird to your entire life and
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: schedule revolves around your kid now. But that's not a
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: bad thing, you know, so like if but you can
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: also change that schedule. Like you guys love your evenings together, right,
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: so I mean obviously not in the first couple of
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: months because you're just sleeping when you can, but like
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: once you know, she starts getting into a rhythm, like
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: you can put her down at seven or eight. If
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: you guys like, well, we want to have our night
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: time together and then we'll wake up early in the morning.
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: We can you know, take care of her.
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: Let me interject here. What they have going for them
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: that we don't is they're on the same sleep schedule,
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: like they like to both wake up at six am.
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: And and Jared and I that's our biggest problem is
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: that he is a morning person and he even likes
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: to have his mornings to himself, Like I would never
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: want to have quality time in the morning gross and
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: I like to stay like I ideally like to stay
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: up to like one am, and he will he's asleep
• 22:03
  Speaker 3: by eleven thirty max. But like definitely like out of
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: any sort of social range at ten thirty. So, like,
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: and our kids go to bed late, so they're more
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: on my schedule.
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: Dawson doesn't go to Dawson does not go to bed.
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: We don't shut the door till probably ten o'clock.
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: I know that's crazy. I know that's so crazy. But
• 22:22
  Speaker 3: he sleeps till nine thirty, which is ideally when I
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: like to sleep till. And then we're having issues because
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: Hayden is a wacko and he like will not sleep.
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: He like will fall asleep at eleven and then he
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: wakes up at seven thirty. So it's just like we're
• 22:40
  Speaker 3: just having a really hard time right now. But you
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: guys do have the benefit of being on each other's
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: sleep cycle and then also getting your kid on that.
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: My biggest advice would be just also try to always
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: remember this is temporary. It's all temporary, you know, like
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: when you get home and and and she's not sleeping,
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: I'll never forget the first moment we brought Hayden back
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: home and you know, with our second kids, so we're
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: diving back into this year.
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: It was like put them back in the belly.
• 23:07
  Speaker 4: I was like, I did not say that, but it was.
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: He was up from eleven o'clock at night till six
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: in the morning. He was just up and neither one
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: of us got a wink of sleep, and it was like,
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: I cannot believe we're doing this again. And it was
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: just like that moment, You're like, oh my god, what
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: did we do? But then you know, a few days
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: go by, and then he starts sleeping two hours and
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: so on and so forth, and then now he's not
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: sleeping that well, but we still can figure out a
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: schedule where we get enough sleep where we can function
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: throughout the day.
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: And then I would look at doss have a time
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: for quality time except for baby.
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: I mean, but that's the biggest you know, but we did.
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: We're doing three dates this week, but you guys are
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: fine with one kid group dates and one one on one.
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: I went, I wasn't stressed about that. I would just
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: try to always remember, like whatever's happening right now is temporary,
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: so yes, like there might be a a for the
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: next few months where it's just you guys are adjusting
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: to the schedule and trying to figure out, Okay, well
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: you know, if if she's not if she's not sleeping
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: till like I'll take the first one, you take the
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: second one. So you guys might like eight o'clock comes
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: and you want to go to bed, so you don't
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: have your nights together, but like they'll come back, you know,
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: and then hopefully we're all on this earth for a
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: very long time and then you guys will have many, many,
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: many many more nights together, and then you'll never have
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: those nights. Like I look at Dawson at times, and
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: especially with Hayden the age he is, and then I'll
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: look at pictures of when Dawson was that age, and
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: as hard as it was, I would go back to
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: it in an instant because it's just you know, it's Dawson.
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: At that age, but you're enjoying him so much more
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: at this age.
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but now, like, well, it's the it's it's the
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: fear of just the kid getting older.
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's the fear of him getting older.
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: I'm like, damn, I wish he was younger, so I
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: could experience this again because it sucks.
• 24:51
  Speaker 5: Well, and I think, I think there's some really good
• 24:54
  Speaker 5: because we had this conversation last night. Jess and I
• 24:56
  Speaker 5: have such a good time together, Like our evenings when Waylan,
• 25:01
  Speaker 5: our dog, tells us, Hey, it's time for bed at
• 25:02
  Speaker 5: seven o'clock and we all go upstairs and we shower
• 25:05
  Speaker 5: and get ready for bed, and we're all laying there
• 25:07
  Speaker 5: and cuddling. It's like magical to us. We love those moments,
• 25:12
  Speaker 5: and we have loved those moments, and I think the soul,
• 25:16
  Speaker 5: like the peace in this is two things. One is
• 25:18
  Speaker 5: taken from what Jared is saying, is like, don't wish
• 25:21
  Speaker 5: these times away, because at some point you'll wish you
• 25:23
  Speaker 5: had them back. And so I think a mentality for
• 25:26
  Speaker 5: us is like, yes, even if it seems hard, even
• 25:28
  Speaker 5: if it seems like the worst case scenario, like enjoy
• 25:31
  Speaker 5: the moments we have. And the second is I personally
• 25:35
  Speaker 5: there might be some out there. This is not a
• 25:38
  Speaker 5: blanket statement, but when we talked last night, like, I
• 25:41
  Speaker 5: don't know any parents of children in our life who's like, goodness, gracious,
• 25:47
  Speaker 5: life is worse with a kid, like life is worse,
• 25:50
  Speaker 5: Like life might be harder, but life is worse. This sucks.
• 25:53
  Speaker 5: This is the worst thing ever. I wish I never
• 25:56
  Speaker 5: would have done it. I don't know parents like that.
• 25:58
  Speaker 5: And so there has to be some magic in this
• 26:01
  Speaker 5: moment that we're about to enter into that will bring
• 26:05
  Speaker 5: a whole new chapter of enjoyment and like peace to us.
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: It's just the love, like you'll never love anything, like
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: you love your kid.
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: Like we don't put Dawson in bed till nine thirty
• 26:15
  Speaker 3: because like we're having fun with him. We don't want
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: him to go to bed.
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just like you guys, I know you love
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: your dog, but like I'll give you an instant. So
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: yesterday Lois like jumped on Dawson. He was on the couch.
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: And I was like humping him. Yeah, she like sometimes
• 26:33
  Speaker 4: tries to hump them.
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: And then so like Dawson kind of got away and
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: we were like Lois Lois and then Dawson walked away,
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: and then I was like Dawson okay, and he like
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: he does this thing where he hides it because he's like, yeah,
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: I'm okay, but he he's like holding back tears and
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: seeing Dawson hold back tears and trying to like fake
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: smile to me. In that moment, I could have kicked
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: Lows out of the house. I could have I've been like, Lois,
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: I never want to see you again. I I because
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: it's just like it's not I love Lois, but it's
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: just the way that I feel towards Dawson. The way
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: that you feel towards your daughter is that if anything
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: like it's just.
• 27:16
  Speaker 4: It's just that you're about to cry. No, it's not
• 27:18
  Speaker 4: even cry.
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: I'm about to get angry thinking about like anybody trying
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: to mess with Dawson or like hurt Dawson. I would
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: spend the rest of my life in jail and enjoy
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: every minute of it if I was able to get
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: revenge against that person.
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so he feels this way towards Hayden too, But
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: it's just like so much different when you know someone
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: so they have to develop personality and they speak to
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: you and they say like I loved you every night
• 27:43
  Speaker 3: and they hold your face and tell you sweet things.
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: That's crazy.
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: That's why everybody's life gets better because it's just like
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: you love something so much, you're like, well, I never
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: not want to feel this.
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: This is it's just like I love it. I love
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: this thing.
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: Do you know what he did to me the other day?
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: Jess would literally die when this day comes. So I'm
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: putting him to bed and like I give him like
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: these affirmations before he goes to sleep, and then he
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: touches my face with both hands and he goes, thank you, Mama,
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: and I go thank you for what he goes for
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: being beautiful.
• 28:16
  Speaker 7: Oh it's crazy, see, but that it's different when a
• 28:22
  Speaker 7: boy says yeah, like a little girl, she's gonna say
• 28:26
  Speaker 7: something like how handsome her daddy is, and that's what's
• 28:29
  Speaker 7: gonna crush Ben.
• 28:31
  Speaker 6: Like she's one day she's going to tell Ben that
• 28:33
  Speaker 6: he like looks like a prince from a movie, and
• 28:35
  Speaker 6: like that will crush him.
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: Arnie says that Jared looks like Prince Eric, so whenever
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: she sees a Frince Eric, she goes, look uncle Jared.
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: Yeah that's why Ben.
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: I think you're your I mean, you're always going to
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: be a great father, But I think the love like
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: I always love Dawson, but I think you'll be obsessed
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: with your daughter much more quickly than I was obsessed
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: with Dawson, even though I always loved him and was
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: always obsessed with him.
• 28:59
  Speaker 4: Just because and and Hayden. Of course, well, we're talking
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: about there first. That's why I saw.
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: I'm just relating it to our first. Once they have
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: a second, we'll talk about hated. But but yeah, because
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: it's just your little girl, like it's gonna be, it's different.
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: I do feel like there is a difference between having
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: a son and a daughter because you're just it's gonna be.
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: It's gonna be your little girl. That's and there's.
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: I remember, Actually, I'll tell you a buddy of mine
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: who has is a little bit older and he has
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: two grown kids, and I was like, what's the difference
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: between having a boy and a girl because he has
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: one of each? And I said the best way he said,
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: the best way I can describe it is I always
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: expect more from my son and my daughter can do
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: no wrong.
• 29:39
  Speaker 4: And I was like, all.
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: Right, well that's a nice summarization right there.
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: And apparently everybody wants a girl because his dad the
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: other day goes, they should really try for a third,
• 29:50
  Speaker 3: they really need a girl. And then he's like, it's
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: just different having a girl because he's thinking about how
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: he thinks towards Nora, his granddaughter and his daughter Shannon,
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: who we know is the favorite.
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's fine, it's it's she should be the favorite.
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: She's it's the girl. I like that as well.
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: We'll never know this and that's okay.
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: I'm my dad's best friend, but that's his little girl.
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: You know, she always will be.
• 30:13
  Speaker 6: I can't wait to see what she looks like.
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: Either.
• 30:15
  Speaker 6: That's the other thing that I'm like so pumped. I
• 30:18
  Speaker 6: would not wait to see what she looks like. She's
• 30:22
  Speaker 6: gonna have so much dark black hair.
• 30:25
  Speaker 3: She can't go wrong, though, you can make every future.
• 30:28
  Speaker 4: You're gonna have a beautiful child.
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: Let's just you know, it can't go wrong.
• 30:34
  Speaker 4: We can mess this thing.
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it would be really bad.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: But also when the kid first comes out, like just
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: get ready, like he will his head or her head
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: will will be a conehead. Like it's just weird, like,
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: oh my god, you look a little bit like an alien.
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: But then the head goes down very quickly.
• 30:52
  Speaker 5: Hey, in closing here, because we do have to go,
• 30:56
  Speaker 5: I have this theory that I'll share publicly. I don't
• 30:59
  Speaker 5: think newborns are that cute, so I don't have this
• 31:02
  Speaker 5: hair expectation. In fact, we were at the hospital other
• 31:05
  Speaker 5: day and they have a wall of newborns and I said,
• 31:07
  Speaker 5: just pick out two that you think are cute on
• 31:08
  Speaker 5: this wall of two hundred. It was hard. It's very
• 31:11
  Speaker 5: difficult to do. There are a few that you go, yeah,
• 31:14
  Speaker 5: I get it. Most Hey, I don't have this expectation
• 31:18
  Speaker 5: that this little girl's going to come out being beautiful.
• 31:21
  Speaker 5: I actually expect her to have like a bald head
• 31:23
  Speaker 5: with like hair growing out the side.
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: He's going to have hair.
• 31:26
  Speaker 5: Yeah, well, we kind of know she does alter sounds.
• 31:29
  Speaker 5: It showed it and.
• 31:30
  Speaker 4: She was like, you have heartburn. Huh.
• 31:33
  Speaker 6: The only thing we don't know is if it's a
• 31:34
  Speaker 6: full head of hair or a mullet.
• 31:36
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's the question. That's the exciting part for me.
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: A charge Costanza.
• 31:41
  Speaker 5: Yeah, that's my hope.
• 31:45
  Speaker 4: Guys, it's been great.
• 31:46
  Speaker 5: We're forty eight hours away from walking into this, so thanks.
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: For sending us all the videos and pictures and stuff.
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: I just like, love live.
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: It's gonna be so much fun when your parents meet her, Like,
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: that's such a cool part too, like seeing the site
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: it that they have and because you love them so much,
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: they're your parents and now they're the grandparents. And they're
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: meeting the kid, and it's like everybody comes over and
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: wants to hold the baby.
• 32:09
  Speaker 4: That's a lot of fun.
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: Or you could be like your parents, be like my
• 32:11
  Speaker 3: dad and my dad doesn't touch the baby until three months.
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: He's like super scared baby doctor.
• 32:17
  Speaker 5: Our parents we started this with at the beginning, they
• 32:21
  Speaker 5: they're really I mean, they're more than excited. I mean
• 32:23
  Speaker 5: Jess's dad, within his speech at our wedding said be
• 32:26
  Speaker 5: fruitful and multiply like this is really like her mom
• 32:31
  Speaker 5: has been so helpful and supportive of Jess, giving her
• 32:34
  Speaker 5: guidance and wisdom through this whole thing. Her dad has
• 32:39
  Speaker 5: been emotional when it comes to him thinking about his
• 32:41
  Speaker 5: baby girl having a child. That's been emotional. And my parents,
• 32:46
  Speaker 5: which I think the parents of the son or the husband,
• 32:52
  Speaker 5: have a really different, like kind of like role because
• 32:56
  Speaker 5: like they don't have that like emotional tie to see
• 32:59
  Speaker 5: just grow up and now to become a mother, but
• 33:01
  Speaker 5: they love just so much. But they've always wanted to
• 33:03
  Speaker 5: be grandparents. And so my mom has been like really
• 33:06
  Speaker 5: excited to dive into this and be the best Mimi
• 33:10
  Speaker 5: she can be.
• 33:11
  Speaker 4: My dad literally is a.
• 33:14
  Speaker 6: Wreck, like like like imagine the been holding a baby doll.
• 33:19
  Speaker 5: Yeah, cries like he he cries when he talks about
• 33:23
  Speaker 5: Jessica being pregnant, Like he cries looking at ultrasound pictures.
• 33:28
  Speaker 5: He cries thinking about like coming to visit. He is
• 33:32
  Speaker 5: a wreck right now. So well, the cool part is
• 33:37
  Speaker 5: we're walking into four parents, all uniquely experiencing something very
• 33:41
  Speaker 5: different but like thrilled. And I know as soon as
• 33:46
  Speaker 5: she's passed off to them in the hospital, as soon
• 33:48
  Speaker 5: as she meets them, like it is going to be
• 33:51
  Speaker 5: a blubberfest.
• 33:53
  Speaker 4: For all of us.
• 33:53
  Speaker 5: I think we're all just going to be like, this
• 33:55
  Speaker 5: is wild and I can't wait for that. Those those
• 33:58
  Speaker 5: are such special moments that we're blessed to experience, and
• 34:03
  Speaker 5: I'm really thankful that that's what we're walking into.
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: Ben, do you want to do a few of these?
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: Would you rather as like superlatives or do you think
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: we have tough time?
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: Yeah, let's do it, Okay, all right?
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: Our producers gave us a few superlatives, basically to name
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: the parent you know, to associate to each parent who
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: is most likely to do the wake up at two am,
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: and just make just to make sure the baby's breathing.
• 34:39
  Speaker 4: Ben, no question.
• 34:41
  Speaker 6: He asked to get the little like sock that monitors
• 34:44
  Speaker 6: her heart rate, so the outlet.
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: We use it on a nightly basis.
• 34:47
  Speaker 6: Yeah, okay, yeah, we just ordered one.
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: It's great. Alert be prepared, it's a there's a lot
• 34:55
  Speaker 3: of false alarms, so don't freak out. We'll talk about
• 34:59
  Speaker 3: it offline. But yeah, we are big. We are big
• 35:01
  Speaker 3: fans of the outlet. And that's funny because I always
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: make fun of Jared how he like never gives a
• 35:08
  Speaker 3: second thought to the kid breathing, Like he always just
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: assumes they're breathing, and I am constantly assuming they're not.
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: Even Dawson. I watch his breathing on the monitor. He's three.
• 35:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's me who.
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: Is going to insist on baby proofing the entire house
• 35:23
  Speaker 3: once she can start like crawling and walking.
• 35:26
  Speaker 6: Ben, he already put up baby gates and she's a potatoes.
• 35:32
  Speaker 4: Yes I did.
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: He drilled them into the wall course for you guys
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: while you're holding the baby.
• 35:38
  Speaker 4: Yes, yes, it's great.
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: Who is most likely to stay calm when the baby
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: is throwing a tantrum?
• 35:45
  Speaker 5: It's a good one. I feel like we both, I think,
• 35:49
  Speaker 5: will stay very calm. I don't think tantrums will like
• 35:52
  Speaker 5: will frustrate us. I think crying babies right now, I
• 35:57
  Speaker 5: mean Whalen will be the one that doesn't like that,
• 35:59
  Speaker 5: but he's been really good with baby training. We've played
• 36:01
  Speaker 5: baby crying and he just kind of like is curious,
• 36:03
  Speaker 5: like cox his head, like what in the world. I
• 36:05
  Speaker 5: don't love baby crying, so like I'll have to get
• 36:08
  Speaker 5: used to it, I know, become something I would do,
• 36:10
  Speaker 5: but like it kind of like like shakes me a
• 36:14
  Speaker 5: little bit.
• 36:15
  Speaker 6: I think Ben will want it to stop a lot faster,
• 36:18
  Speaker 6: and if we're in a public place, I'll want to
• 36:20
  Speaker 6: like remove her from the situation. Yeah, but I don't
• 36:23
  Speaker 6: think either of us like it's not our personality like
• 36:25
  Speaker 6: freak out.
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: Guess who's better with them? Between us, I.
• 36:31
  Speaker 4: Would say I think Ashley.
• 36:33
  Speaker 5: When they cry, you don't get as for like flustered
• 36:36
  Speaker 5: as Jared.
• 36:36
  Speaker 3: This is true.
• 36:38
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, Well.
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: It's because it's just the it's the lack of being
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: able to solve the issue. So that's what I think
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: you'll encounter with frustration, Ben, is you know, when she's
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: crying and you're holding her and she just doesn't stop crying,
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: even she's not taking food or she just you know,
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: that's the problem because it's just like it's piercing, you know,
• 37:02
  Speaker 2: and it's right there, and I can't I can't figure
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: out how to solve it.
• 37:06
  Speaker 4: Sometimes I think it's the.
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: Man thing with the solving, and all I keep thinking
• 37:09
  Speaker 3: of is this will be over, it will end, yeah.
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: Or there are moments off where you're like I just
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: need to, like I need to breathe.
• 37:18
  Speaker 5: Luckily, I'm taking like usually I spend most of my
• 37:21
  Speaker 5: days talking and meetings are like however, and I get
• 37:25
  Speaker 5: really socially exhausted from like noise by the end of
• 37:30
  Speaker 5: the day, Like I really just love to like kind
• 37:32
  Speaker 5: of check out, and I'm taking the next like month
• 37:35
  Speaker 5: and a half kind of off of those meetings, and
• 37:37
  Speaker 5: I pull myself away because I do get like noise
• 37:41
  Speaker 5: exhaustion very easily, and so I need if if if
• 37:46
  Speaker 5: I plan it right, I'll be able to handle it better.
• 37:49
  Speaker 4: That would be my answer.
• 37:50
  Speaker 3: With the second child, that's when the over stimulation really hits.
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: Like we just sit in the we're like at the
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: computer and.
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: Really well, Hayden's crying and then Dawson's like, Mama, Mama,
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: Dad doesn't got to fix Hayden, and then he starts
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: crying and then he's like dragging our arm like no,
• 38:08
  Speaker 2: no, no no. Then he's like why baby crying, and it's
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: like I'm just like He's like.
• 38:14
  Speaker 3: I made you dinner, I mean your dinner like with
• 38:17
  Speaker 3: his play food, and I'm like, excuse me, I'm so sweet.
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: And he's like hitting his toys as he's screaming our
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: name as Hayden is crying, so like the toys playing,
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: and then Dawson.
• 38:27
  Speaker 3: The TV's in the background. Then Lois is barking at
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: the ups guy cram Sorry, but really this isn't this
• 38:36
  Speaker 3: is really like a second child?
• 38:38
  Speaker 4: Sounds fun?
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah? Okay, my last question is fun one. Who is
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: the first one that's going to like be on a drive,
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: even if it's just like an errand quick one to
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: the grocery store, but then realize that you don't have
• 38:50
  Speaker 3: the diaper bag.
• 38:52
  Speaker 5: You you probably Yeah, I was gonna say me just
• 38:56
  Speaker 5: because right now I have very little familiarity with that. However,
• 39:00
  Speaker 5: in life, over time, I am more to be over prepared,
• 39:06
  Speaker 5: and Jess is more of like a let's just swing
• 39:10
  Speaker 5: it and see how it goes kind of person.
• 39:12
  Speaker 6: Yeah, like I'll leave Ben will leave the diaper bag
• 39:15
  Speaker 6: at home for the grocery store, and I'll leave it
• 39:16
  Speaker 6: at home for like the four day trip.
• 39:18
  Speaker 5: Yeah, that's probably a better way to say it. Yes,
• 39:23
  Speaker 5: that that would probably be more accurate. I will say, though,
• 39:26
  Speaker 5: I've never seen like just be as like prepared. It's
• 39:32
  Speaker 5: not like she's like an unprepared human in life, but
• 39:35
  Speaker 5: like she's on top of all this. Like if you
• 39:37
  Speaker 5: look at our house right now, like everything's set up,
• 39:39
  Speaker 5: everything's clean, everything's like organized, like everything is like ready
• 39:44
  Speaker 5: to go, and she knows how to use it all.
• 39:47
  Speaker 5: And that would probably be the biggest difference. Is I
• 39:49
  Speaker 5: know she's gonna I know she already loves this girl
• 39:52
  Speaker 5: because just knowing how to like use like items is
• 39:56
  Speaker 5: like a rarity.
• 39:57
  Speaker 3: I don't know how to use our TV. So I'm
• 40:02
  Speaker 3: always the one that's like I got this, I got this,
• 40:04
  Speaker 3: I got this. I know what we need, but I
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: need you to set it up. You do the version
• 40:09
  Speaker 3: of it. Okay, Wait, my last last question, just because
• 40:12
  Speaker 3: you brought up these products, is there any product that
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: you have debated or bought already that you're like not
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: sure that it's going to be worth it or you're
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: not sure if you're actually should buy it.
• 40:23
  Speaker 6: One of the things that I haven't bought yet that
• 40:25
  Speaker 6: I keep thinking I need to is that like half
• 40:27
  Speaker 6: moon pillow, like the breastfeeding pillow.
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: Oh so I didn't breastfeed, so I don't know.
• 40:32
  Speaker 6: Okay, I'm planning on breastfeeding. Is like the goal. I
• 40:36
  Speaker 6: have a lactation consultant in everything, So that's one of
• 40:39
  Speaker 6: the things that I don't have that I wonder if.
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna need.
• 40:41
  Speaker 6: And then we have the baby Breza, which is one
• 40:43
  Speaker 6: of the things that I don't know that we have
• 40:45
  Speaker 6: that I don't know if we're gonna need.
• 40:48
  Speaker 4: Get two of them.
• 40:51
  Speaker 3: We switch ours back. Well, we have a first floor bedroom,
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: our veterans on the first floor, so like we carry
• 40:58
  Speaker 3: it from the kitchen to the bedroom every night. But
• 41:01
  Speaker 3: you can like get too if you have the two floors.
• 41:04
  Speaker 6: Can you heat up breast milk in it?
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: No, but just our baby they're warmers out there. Oh yeah,
• 41:12
  Speaker 3: I think the Breza has a warmer say they they
• 41:17
  Speaker 3: made me redo an ad once because I didn't say properly.
• 41:20
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean we formula fed. So that was a
• 41:22
  Speaker 4: very that was very important.
• 41:25
  Speaker 3: I know it sounds stupid because you're like, oh, it's
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: not hard to make a bottle, and we're like, oh,
• 41:29
  Speaker 3: you know, you just put like three scoops and some
• 41:32
  Speaker 3: water and you shake it up. It's not a big deal.
• 41:33
  Speaker 4: When it's three in the morning, it's hard to make
• 41:36
  Speaker 4: a bottle, you know what I mean.
• 41:38
  Speaker 3: And Hayden has really preferred warm bottles over cold, and
• 41:42
  Speaker 3: Dawson didn't care about the temperature.
• 41:44
  Speaker 4: Has been amazing there, Gretza.
• 41:47
  Speaker 3: And with that, we wish you all the good luck.
• 41:51
  Speaker 3: And we're so excited because the next time we're gonna
• 41:54
  Speaker 3: see you, guys, you're gonna be parents. And I think
• 41:56
  Speaker 3: that when you become parents, you really want your friends
• 41:58
  Speaker 3: to become parents. Yeah, so commiserate, excited to take family
• 42:04
  Speaker 3: trips and such in the future, keep.
• 42:07
  Speaker 4: Those boys away.
• 42:09
  Speaker 3: Who wants Who are we going to set her up with?
• 42:12
  Speaker 4: Well, nobody, not a thing.
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: I don't know. Three years age gap with Dawson is
• 42:18
  Speaker 3: a perfect their age gap seven years.
• 42:21
  Speaker 5: Like an outlet for this, Like she's it's like not
• 42:24
  Speaker 5: a thing.
• 42:26
  Speaker 3: It's not you're not allowed. No, no, Nobody used to
• 42:30
  Speaker 3: tell me.
• 42:30
  Speaker 6: That I couldn't date till I was married, and I
• 42:32
  Speaker 6: think that's going to be Ben's Yeah.
• 42:36
  Speaker 4: Yeah, there's no question in my mind. It's so much.
• 42:40
  Speaker 3: More fun to pair off guys in the situation like
• 42:42
  Speaker 3: we're not going server, like who wants to date our sons?
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 42:51
  Speaker 4: I agree.
• 42:54
  Speaker 3: Okay, Bachelor Nation has some girls to you know, we
• 42:58
  Speaker 3: could have. He wants Emmy so that like she'd be
• 43:03
  Speaker 3: cougaring Dawson.
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: I think Emmy just because she was like the first
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: one in our circle, you know, Tanner and Jade was
• 43:09
  Speaker 2: the first one, so.
• 43:10
  Speaker 3: They got real flirty too when they're jumping on a
• 43:12
  Speaker 3: trampoline last year for those trampolines by guys.
• 43:20
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