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- 0:00The cognitive overload that it takes to try to meet impossible
- 0:04standards is such a drag on your energy, on your cognitive
- 0:11ability to think about new ideas, to have a space for
- 0:16creativity or innovation. I think it really can impact
- 0:21your mental health. And I think I've seen 2, like
- 0:25imperfectionist cultures, the bar is always moved.
- 0:28You think that you're reaching something or achieving
- 0:31something. You get there and there's a new
- 0:33bar, there's a higher bar. And so you never get that sense
- 0:37of satisfaction of completing something, of succeeding at
- 0:41something, because there's always something else to
- 0:44achieve. Hi, I'm Lars Galleon.
- 0:55And I'm Aparna Ray, welcome to the Circle Back Club, the
- 0:59podcast for anyone who has ever suspected that the problem isn't
- 1:03us. We name what's broken at work,
- 1:05back it up with the receipts, and build real power with
- 1:08workers who are done performing. No productivity hacks here, no
- 1:12personal brand advice, just an honest analysis and a community
- 1:16ready to change the status quo. Yeah, we are here to reimagine
- 1:21and rebuild workplaces, to strengthen communities instead
- 1:24of depleting them, to see your Co worker as your comrade, not
- 1:29your competition, and to stand up for the dignity and care of
- 1:32all humans and this beautiful planet together.
- 1:35And today we're going to talk about the ideal corporate
- 1:39worker. Well, the image of the perfect
- 1:43worker. We probably all have someone or
- 1:46some way of being that comes to mind, whether it's the parody of
- 1:51corporate work, welcome to Circle Back Club, or maybe it's
- 1:56an ideal that you've tried to be or you're still striving
- 1:59towards. People write books and build
- 2:03careers around perfecting the best way to be in corporate
- 2:07work. From what you're wearing to the
- 2:09way you speak, how you spend your time.
- 2:12Now we're all flexing AI fluency.
- 2:16Today we're going to get into some of the research that helped
- 2:19us to understand the ideal worker and of course, talk about
- 2:23the cost to ourselves and others when we try to meet this very
- 2:28specific type of corporate perfection and reimagine a new
- 2:33ideal that is rooted in community access and care.
- 2:38So we're going to talk about performing perfectionism.
- 2:40We've learned how targeted universalism helps to create a
- 2:43framework that is designed for all people.
- 2:46We are not here to tell you who or how to be.
- 2:50We're here to talk about how we are together in corporate
- 2:53environments and just ask, is this serving our humanity?
- 2:57And we are so lucky to be joined by our friend Valerie Williams.
- 3:01Welcome to the club, Valerie. Thank you so much.
- 3:05Thank you. It's an honor to be here.
- 3:07I love you both so much and I'm excited for our conversation.
- 3:11We really can't wait. And a little bit about you,
- 3:15y'all. Valerie is the founder and
- 3:17managing partner of Converge Collective, which is a workplace
- 3:21culture strategy house. She's a leadership coach and an
- 3:25autonomy advisor for ambitious women, which feels very relevant
- 3:30for today. So again, welcome.
- 3:32We're so happy to have you with us.
- 3:34Thank you. Thank you.
- 3:36So let's warm up a little bit. Given the fact that we are
- 3:40talking about the ideal worker, I'm curious if there is an ideal
- 3:45in either of your lives that you tried to fit into that you just
- 3:50never could. It could be at work or outside
- 3:53of work. Anything come to mind?
- 3:56You know, for me, I, I went to Business School now remember
- 4:01being in Business School saying where am I in Business School?
- 4:05You know, my reason for going to Business School was that I
- 4:09needed some time to pivot. I knew that I was wanting to go
- 4:13into a different direction with my career.
- 4:15And so that's what everyone was doing at that time.
- 4:18But I felt like I did that because that's what everyone was
- 4:21doing at that time. So that felt like an environment
- 4:24that was not for me. Now Grant and I had a great
- 4:27time. I learned a lot but that felt
- 4:30can't feel off. Yeah, the ideal that I tried to
- 4:33fit into that I never could. I would have to say it's a
- 4:37pencil skirt. Yeah.
- 4:42And you know, as a little chubby human coming out of like coming
- 4:51out into the workforce at a time when the Super low waisted jeans
- 4:55were in and also the pencil skirts.
- 4:58I just like trying to find clothes to go to work in.
- 5:03Was was a little bit traumatic in my early 20s.
- 5:09I have stories there one of my first jobs coming out of college
- 5:14and this this fits with my answer is needing to perform a
- 5:19certain type of sales role and I was told that I shouldn't go to
- 5:22a sales appointment without my nails done.
- 5:25Can you imagine like lol and that's somebody.
- 5:30Sent that to me like 3 years ago.
- 5:34Yeah. And like, what are we doing with
- 5:35our hands anyways? Whatever.
- 5:37Like, yeah, yeah. My, my, like the ideal I never
- 5:43fit was my gender presentation. I tried so hard throughout my
- 5:47life and every year from middle school to college that in
- 5:51between summer, I was like, I'm going to be summing in this time
- 5:55and I would straighten my hair, which is, you know, probably
- 5:58ages me a little bit, wore girly clothes and it would last like 2
- 6:01weeks. And now I'm Lars.
- 6:04This is who I am. But it would took like a really
- 6:07long time to figure out that not only that I didn't want that,
- 6:13but who I actually wanted to be. And I think that's a really
- 6:17interesting theme in this episode too, where when we try
- 6:21to fit within a specific mold or identity, we don't actually have
- 6:24space to figure out who we actually are.
- 6:27But they're going to Business School or wearing a pencil skirt
- 6:30or whatever it is, you know? So I appreciate those answers.
- 6:35So let's set this up. I probably read too much
- 6:40research in prepping for this episode and I'm finding that as
- 6:44a host, I think I am going to just be the.
- 6:49I mean, we're both. The nerd, but but it's you're a
- 6:51nerd. I literally go and you sent me a
- 6:53text message yesterday where you're like, I'm still working
- 6:56on the script for this. And I was like, how?
- 7:00I feel like we wrote the script together already last week.
- 7:03Yeah, we literally, we literally did.
- 7:05Yeah. But then I read, and I do think
- 7:09it's helpful because when we talk about the ideal worker, I
- 7:13think we could look at it in different ways.
- 7:15And just to clarify for our listeners and what we're getting
- 7:18after today, one way you could think about the ideal worker is
- 7:22what a good employee looks like. Like good employee attributes.
- 7:26Kind of like when we talk about what a productive worker is.
- 7:30And there's endless studies on this that are traits that we
- 7:33probably all agree with, like communication, teamwork,
- 7:37adaptability, integrity, empathy, initiative, willingness
- 7:41to learn, all of those traits that are universal soft skills
- 7:46and obviously an ideal way to work in regards to the way that
- 7:51you treat and engage with other people alternatively.
- 7:56And what we're trying to actually look at today is the
- 8:00ideal worker in the sense of the type of worker we actually
- 8:03experience behaviorally at work. So that's reinforced by the
- 8:08culture norms, obviously, like the way the business is set up
- 8:11and the way that they reinforce whatever the culture is.
- 8:15And what we're interested in talking about is what does the
- 8:19pursuit of trying to be an ideal worker do to us as people?
- 8:24The ideal something that we are striving towards to show our
- 8:29allegiance. You know, so that includes the
- 8:32way of working, location, time spent, communication channels,
- 8:38access, our choice to take parental leave or your
- 8:41presentation of self. That all has these policies and
- 8:45programs that kind of reinforce that expectation.
- 8:48And these aren't all inherently wrong.
- 8:51I don't think that's really the point of the episode, but in the
- 8:55United States, we have one of the worst family, medical and
- 8:59parental leave policies literally in the world.
- 9:01So there's also a lot to talk about, which is exactly what
- 9:05we're doing. But that's the focus of this
- 9:08type of striving towards ideal. So Valerie, I'm curious, just
- 9:14like right out of the gate, when you hear the ideal corporate
- 9:18worker, who comes to mind for you?
- 9:20Well, you know, the first term that came to mind was unbridled
- 9:24devotion. You know, I, I think about the
- 9:28people that you encounter at work that are just like they
- 9:31have the company's name tatted on their chest.
- 9:33It's like they are all a beneath.
- 9:35They work their 16 hour days, they go home, they do their one
- 9:40hour at home and then they're back online.
- 9:42I just think about that person that you know, that you
- 9:46encounter at work that is all about the company, and I've
- 9:51definitely encountered those people throughout my career.
- 9:53Yeah, When I think about the ideal corporate worker, I as
- 9:58somebody who has never worked in corporate, right.
- 9:59So that is I only know corporate culture because they've been my
- 10:06clients, but I've never been an employee in a, let's say a big
- 10:09Fortune 1000 company. And when I think of ideal
- 10:13corporate worker, I I think subservience and I think similar
- 10:19to the of being using corporate speak, seeking alignment and
- 10:26lots of PowerPoint presentations, lots of meetings
- 10:29to decide when you're going to have other meetings to, you
- 10:32know, order swag, right? Like how many meetings does it
- 10:37take to order facts? So those are the kinds of things
- 10:39that I think about when I think of the ideal corporate worker,
- 10:42it's somebody who's not asking a lot of question.
- 10:45They're definitely devoted and depending on the industry, they
- 10:48also look a certain way. They also have this like
- 10:51physical appearance where I think in tech it's very normal,
- 10:55especially for men to wear Tivas and socks, which for the record,
- 11:02I find acts actually a little disgusting.
- 11:06But that But that doesn't really apply to the women that work in
- 11:10tech, right? Like they can't quite look that
- 11:12mousy, so they have to look a little bit put together.
- 11:15And Lars, I'm thinking about this video that we watched by an
- 11:20influencer in December. You like you and I were watching
- 11:23this video and this woman is like, yeah, right.
- 11:26Like so if you're working in this industry, this is how you
- 11:28should. Dress.
- 11:30And while no one should go to work in pajamas or their
- 11:34housecoat, that right, like she was so stern with whoever the
- 11:39audience was that she was speaking to, where she's like,
- 11:42do your makeup, do your nails right?
- 11:44Like put on your suit. And so, yeah, Valerie, you're
- 11:48like, yes, I mean. What came to mind when you were
- 11:52saying you talked about our the tech guys, but what about the
- 11:55sales guys, Right. You know, you can go go to lunch
- 11:58anywhere at a restaurant and stay at a bar and you can see
- 12:01the white and the blue collared shirts and, you know, listen to
- 12:05the conversations. Those are those are that's the
- 12:07ideal worker. You know, they're having their
- 12:09sales calls, they're getting ready for their next meeting.
- 12:12So that's what comes to mind for me.
- 12:14Yeah. And to both of your points,
- 12:16there is, there's both obviously like that, Yeah, that balance of
- 12:20devotion and performance. And part of this episode is
- 12:25getting curious about what is the cost of that, You know, if
- 12:28you like it, if you're into it, Yeah, that's that's a wonderful
- 12:31thing. And that has a systematic,
- 12:35systematic impact on the way that the world runs around you.
- 12:40And the the first time that the ideal worker was named and
- 12:44studied was by a University of Oregon professor named Joan
- 12:47Acker, who passed away in 2016. And in in 1990, she published a
- 12:54really important paper called Hierarchies, Jobs, Bodies, a
- 12:59Theory of Gendered Organizations.
- 13:02And the study said that the ideal worker was exactly as you
- 13:05described, Valerie, someone who prioritizes work above
- 13:09everything else, is fully devoted to the organization and
- 13:14embraces work as the primary identity.
- 13:17And when you bring gender into it, that is reinforced through a
- 13:23division of Labor, the cultural symbols, how you interact your
- 13:27your own identity, the logic of the company.
- 13:31And So what she's saying, and I think it's super relevant still
- 13:36today, is that the way that we prioritize the job also
- 13:40reinforces the gender norm are the gendered ideal worker.
- 13:45And here we are in 2026. Aparna sent this to me and I was
- 13:49shocked. There's a recent study that will
- 13:51link in the show notes finding that Gen.
- 13:54Z men are twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives
- 13:59should obey their husbands. Interesting.
- 14:03So have you not seen the study? I have not seen the study.
- 14:07Please this. Is it's like it's so insane.
- 14:10OK, but but also the women are getting more conservative.
- 14:14Also the Gen. Z women are getting more
- 14:16conservative and they're aspiring to the stay at home
- 14:20girlfriend. Yeah.
- 14:22Yeah. Where?
- 14:26OK, So what do you think happened?
- 14:28We look generation to generation to generation.
- 14:31How do we think we got here to where we have feminism and the
- 14:36rise of women in the workplace, let's say in the 90s and the
- 14:422000s to now this trend where we people don't want to work
- 14:48anymore. People don't aspire to have
- 14:52career as the top priority in their lives anymore for this
- 14:56generation. And that's of course
- 14:57generalizing, but what do we think happened in that time
- 15:01period to have this phenomena? OK, first of all, this is our
- 15:05podcast and so like we we ask you the questions.
- 15:12Lol. Fine.
- 15:20OK. But do you, OK, do you guys want
- 15:22to know more details about this study?
- 15:25They apparently surveyed to 23,000 people, which is a
- 15:32substantial. It's a big.
- 15:33Pool. And it's not just, you know, US
- 15:38based, the, the study is like across something like 30
- 15:42countries and 1/3 of Gen. Z males across the world, right?
- 15:49This is not just in the US, but it includes the UK, Brazil,
- 15:53India. 1/3 of the men said that a husband should have the final
- 15:59word on important decisions. So this is happening globally.
- 16:04And so I think, Valerie, like you're asking what's happened,
- 16:07right? Like in the 70s and the 80s, we
- 16:09were like, women are amazing. You know, like women should go
- 16:12to college, women should be lawyers, Women can be anybody.
- 16:15And all of our moms went to work.
- 16:18Like I am from India. My mom, my mom has worked her
- 16:21whole life, literally her whole entire life.
- 16:25And I think that's true for y'all, y'all's moms as well.
- 16:28And I what I think is happening is the partly what I think is
- 16:38happening is the things we heard as millennials around being a
- 16:43boss girl that actually didn't work out for most millennials.
- 16:49That rhetoric of like negotiate your pay and do this.
- 16:52And you know, like go to 18,000,000 networking events a
- 16:56month. That actually has not resulted
- 17:00in closing the gap. Even Let's see if the three of
- 17:03us individually have done well for ourselves it through our 30s
- 17:07and coming into our 40's. The reality is that the wage gap
- 17:11still stands and has been stuck at $0.80 for white women and
- 17:16$0.50 for native women. And arrangement means 50 and
- 17:19$0.80, right. And queer, like women
- 17:24identifying people are also not doing that well, right?
- 17:26They have it. They they've also, they also
- 17:28experienced a pretty significant pay gap.
- 17:30So I think the younger generation is looking at that
- 17:32and it's probably asking themselves, well, like these
- 17:35women burnt themselves into the ground.
- 17:37And so why do I have to write like the softer aesthetic, the
- 17:42softer tried wise life that looks really good to me, not
- 17:45realizing what that actually means.
- 17:47But I I but I think for the men and I lived in India in my early
- 17:5230s and started to see some of these things as moldy was coming
- 17:56into power in India is fascism requires division to be
- 18:05successful and fascism requires and patriarchy requires women to
- 18:12be subservient. And so you see this in policies
- 18:16and practices across the world now that are really pushing
- 18:20women down and putting men on a pedestal.
- 18:24And, and so I know that this is true also of Gen.
- 18:28Z men in India, that, yeah, they also, they also believe that
- 18:34women should stay at home, that there's no urgency for women to
- 18:38get higher education. And then of course, that like
- 18:40your wife should await you. So I think there's many, many
- 18:44things happening, and a lot of it is the orchestration by
- 18:47conservatives to move. Our.
- 18:50World in the direction where they have greater and greater
- 18:54control. That was a lot of words, no?
- 18:59That's that's real and it's I think, you know, like all of us
- 19:02have been in this work in culture, work in corporations
- 19:06for a long time. And the age-old debate is like,
- 19:11what is the balance of systemic change versus supporting the
- 19:14worker directly in being able to navigate the system, which I
- 19:18think is really obviously relevant and why that question
- 19:22was important. Valerie if like what?
- 19:24Like the cost of trying to fit the ideal is also we keep the
- 19:30system as it is like we need to redesign what we think success
- 19:36looks like. We need to redesign the way the
- 19:39bureaucratic system is. We need the everything, right?
- 19:42Like we need the overhaul. And when we perpetuate the
- 19:46performance of the ideal worker, you know, we all know this and
- 19:51probably our listeners know this because you've experienced it is
- 19:54is that we just end up in that same cycle over and over.
- 19:57And so it's, while it is disappointing to see that this
- 20:02is where Gen. Z landed, I think to your point,
- 20:04apart is like, well, like what? Where are we at?
- 20:07This is late stage capitalism, baby.
- 20:09We're like praising CEOs in ways we've never done before.
- 20:15You know, like the Kingdom, the like, the like we are in like
- 20:19this tipping point of ideal worker modeling that, you know,
- 20:25compared to when Joan wrote this piece in the 90s, you know, I
- 20:28think even then culturally it was a little different.
- 20:31It was about access. So yeah, yeah.
- 20:36So who, who are we modeling around right now?
- 20:40Like who is the model? You know who the model is?
- 20:43Did you see the creepy video with Melania Trump and the
- 20:46robot? No.
- 20:49Have we not seen it? That we did not see that.
- 20:52She she released this video and this robot is literally being
- 20:57touted as like the future of work.
- 20:59And they both walk out side by side.
- 21:02This is who we are modeling the ideal worker after now a robot.
- 21:07I mean, we see all of these companies, we see these
- 21:11companies with these layoffs saying it's for AI block other
- 21:18tech companies, right? Every company, every company,
- 21:23the ideal work for this perfection.
- 21:28Humans are not we. We are never going to meet up to
- 21:32the level of precision a robot can give in certain industries,
- 21:37right? I think we're modeling after
- 21:42robots. The ideal worker is no worker at
- 21:46all. Is actually no worker at all.
- 21:50We're just insane. I think Lars, were we talking
- 21:53about this where I was like, so you know, there's like the rise
- 21:58in Silicon Valley right now of investing in the zero employee
- 22:02startups or the goal being a zero employee startup.
- 22:06So at exit, you don't have to share anything with humans and
- 22:11AI agents don't require Rs us. You don't have to pay Rs us.
- 22:16You don't have to give equity to an AI agent and people are
- 22:21trying to build 0 employee startups.
- 22:27It's really. I mean, not to take us to the
- 22:29end of the world scenario, but I mean, like you said, late stage
- 22:34capitalism, I mean anything is possible at this point.
- 22:36Yeah, we're watching it and just how like deeply we've lost the
- 22:41thought that part of, I think part of creating a company is to
- 22:47help create work for people or just like part of part of
- 22:52creating something where you're working with other people is to
- 22:55create and share stability in the world.
- 22:59But obviously we're not there anymore.
- 23:02Wild, absolutely wild. And now we are in to your point,
- 23:08Valerie, this even more anxious, even more hyper striving towards
- 23:15perfectionism. And that has a real like a real,
- 23:22real impact. And I feel like we, so in 2023,
- 23:26the Harvard Business Review platform, this research done by
- 23:28Maura Aaron's Nilay about the anxious achiever.
- 23:33Did you all follow that when that came out?
- 23:36No, OK, so it's a book and a podcast now.
- 23:39And basically it was just saying what we know.
- 23:43Corporate workers are extremely anxious.
- 23:45Oh my gosh, I'm married to one of these people.
- 23:47I'm literally married to one of these people.
- 23:50And, and part of it, which is absolutely your husband is that
- 23:54they're saying anxious, you're an anxious achiever like you
- 23:58are, your anxiety is a driver in your corporate career.
- 24:02And the resources are more so focused on how do you calm the
- 24:08individual's anxiety as opposed to change the organizational
- 24:12structures that make you anxious.
- 24:16And there's, there's another body of research done in 2020 by
- 24:21like multiple big academic institutions that basically said
- 24:26that there are very specific ways that a company can make you
- 24:28anxious. 1 is if the culture norm is overly results oriented,
- 24:35which to our earlier point about the salesperson, right, that
- 24:38creates a ton of anxiety. And the research basically was
- 24:42like, people can be intrinsically motivated when
- 24:47they are supported, when they are connected with other people.
- 24:52But in, in, in work life, we can't even fathom that.
- 24:55Like we need the OK R we need it.
- 24:59And you can also cause anxiety when there's loose standards or
- 25:02if you don't have like a, a consensus on what the culture
- 25:06is. So you end up having these like
- 25:08warring factions internally. I don't know if you either
- 25:11experienced that. And working with companies where
- 25:13it's like marketing department versus, you know, whatever
- 25:17department and they want to prove that their culture is more
- 25:20important, people get very anxious about that.
- 25:23We pause there. Have you all ever worked at a
- 25:26company that does the competition like a fitness
- 25:29challenge and then every department is on a leaderboard?
- 25:34No, I haven't. Yeah.
- 25:37Absolutely, absolutely. It is.
- 25:40It is weird at best, you know, but it's it's meant to like
- 25:49foster team building and you know, competition, healthy
- 25:53competition, but it just really doesn't quite do that at the end
- 25:58of the day. But yeah, yeah, I've definitely
- 26:00seen it. The weight loss challenge like
- 26:03the company wide weight loss challenge that I have worked at
- 26:09a place that did that. Yikes.
- 26:12Yikes. Yikes, yeah I don't know what
- 26:16you 2 are like when you're anxious, but for me, when I'm
- 26:19anxious, my vision of possibility and capacity to
- 26:24connect with other people, it's full survivor mode.
- 26:28So you're very susceptible to saying yes to whatever the
- 26:33person who is in a position of power is saying to you because
- 26:37you're just trying to meet that mark.
- 26:39And I think it's the same with this, this performance of
- 26:42perfectionism. I'm curious for you too, when
- 26:47you think about what perfectionism does to us at
- 26:50work, what have you seen? For me, I mean, you touched on
- 26:55it a little bit with sort of that mental health piece.
- 26:58I think it's, it's really like mental capacity, like you're
- 27:02that the cognitive overload that it takes to try to meet
- 27:06impossible standards is such a drag on your energy, on your
- 27:13cognitive ability to think about new ideas, to have a space for
- 27:18creativity or innovation. And I think it really can impact
- 27:23your mental health. And I think I've seen two like
- 27:28imperfectionist cultures. The bar is always moved, right?
- 27:31So you think that you're reaching something or achieving
- 27:36something. You get there and there's a new
- 27:38bar, there's a higher bar. And so you never get that sense
- 27:42of satisfaction of completing something, of succeeding at
- 27:46something, because there's always something else to
- 27:49achieve. So I think you just get
- 27:51demotivated over time. To your point, you don't bring
- 27:54those new ideas, those new thoughts.
- 27:56You're just, you know, pushing, pushing that cog along the wheel
- 28:00and going home and doing it again the next day.
- 28:03Yeah, I worked. I worked for an organization
- 28:06when I lived in India in my early 30s that was run by the
- 28:10CEO just, you know, like perfectionism and sort of the
- 28:16ideal workerness in that organization was so intense.
- 28:22I came into a role where I was supposed to take an e-learning
- 28:25product and launch it across the country.
- 28:28And one of my biggest challenge was that in India, you have to
- 28:33be in person to get stuff done. You're not going to get it done
- 28:37over phone calls and Zoom meetings.
- 28:39And, and she's, I remember her saying to me, she's like, well,
- 28:42what's stopping you from, you know, living in a different city
- 28:46for two weeks and then going to a different city?
- 28:48And I was like, ma'am, my mental health is what's stopping me
- 28:52from basically being a travelling salesman full time
- 28:55with no end in stop. And in the end, like I wanted so
- 29:00desperately to make this job work that I had over, I had
- 29:05booked over 80 flights in my first year in that job.
- 29:11Wow. It was, and that was just the
- 29:15flights. It was not the train travel, it
- 29:16was not the bus travel. It was not the inner city
- 29:18travel, intercity travel, right? It was.
- 29:21So it was so much. And then I came to the USI came
- 29:25back to the States in 2017. And Lars, this is like right
- 29:30around the time that you and I had met and was doing work on
- 29:34the policy side for paid leave. And one thing that I realized
- 29:38was an ideal worker, the perfect worker, not only doesn't have a
- 29:43family, but they're also never pregnant.
- 29:49An ideal worker is not birthing new life, which is how we get
- 29:52any new additional workers. Like there's literally no other
- 29:57way for us to have new workers. Well, I guess we have robots now
- 30:00and we have our AI agents, So maybe we don't have to have
- 30:02kids, but there's like no way to bring, you know, to have more
- 30:06workers. You, you have to birth human
- 30:08children. And, and because we were, I was
- 30:12working on paid family and medical leave, I was like, oh,
- 30:15this is a, this is a policy way for a company to enforce being
- 30:22an ideal worker. You make having access to paid
- 30:27leave so painful. And by the way, America doesn't
- 30:29have federal paid leave and they're only, they're less than
- 30:3210 states in the United States that have paid leave.
- 30:36But you make it so hard through your policies, through your
- 30:39practices, you, you don't like, you experience punitive measures
- 30:47when you do take some version of leave for any kind of
- 30:52caregiving, especially having a kid.
- 30:56And so it's not just the media landscape.
- 30:59It's also like companies are baking this into their policies
- 31:02and practices. And, and Valerie, like, I'm so
- 31:05curious because you've worked on a lot of policies and practices
- 31:08in house and now as a consultant, I'm super curious,
- 31:12where have you seen like, what are the policies and practices?
- 31:15I mean. It's all over the talent cycle,
- 31:18right? If you just look at the entire
- 31:20talent life cycle, I mean, you mentioned we talked about like
- 31:23promotions being tied to billable hours.
- 31:26I mean, literally translating promotions based on how many
- 31:31hours you can work and build back for the company.
- 31:35I mean, you mentioned paid time off, but it's interesting.
- 31:38Unlimited vacation is always a, a red flag for me because I'm
- 31:41like, what what's happening there that you have to offer
- 31:46unlimited vacation? And often that utilization of
- 31:49that vacation is not even there because people are scared to
- 31:52take it because they're like, what's happening here?
- 31:53Why are you giving so much time, right?
- 31:55But I mean, you can see it all over.
- 31:57It's who and how you hire. It's those job, it's those job
- 32:02descriptions. How are you describing those
- 32:04jobs, right? I mean, it's how, which, what do
- 32:07you focus on during onboarding? What, how are you socializing
- 32:11people early in two different cultural norms based on what
- 32:15you're telling them to do and the information you're
- 32:17presenting and onboarding, right?
- 32:19It's in, it's really throughout the ways that that ideal worker,
- 32:26how we want to crash you into the the perfect person for us,
- 32:30for our organization, right? In the early days, we're going
- 32:34to really onboard you into that ideal worker profile.
- 32:37So you see it throughout the entire time of life cycle.
- 32:40Is there a particularly egregious example of molding a
- 32:45person to be the perfect or ideal worker for a company?
- 32:49We don't need to know which company, but I just yeah, I am
- 32:53curious. You know, I think that I've seen
- 33:00and I have delivered Introduction to Inclusion
- 33:05workplace workshops, right? And on the surface, you know, it
- 33:11can be a way to communicate skills that you hope people can
- 33:20embody and to demonstrate on their teams and their
- 33:23interactions throughout the organization.
- 33:26Sometimes it can turn into a way for us to really overemphasize
- 33:35certain cultural norms in a negative way.
- 33:39So I don't think that's like the most egregious example, but I
- 33:44see that how inclusion programs sometimes can also perpetuate
- 33:50some of this cultural norms that we're also trying to actually
- 33:56disrupt, if you will, in the workplace.
- 33:58Well, something that comes to mind for me and that is related
- 34:02to that that we haven't talked about yet.
- 34:06And there there's, there is research on this too.
- 34:09I can't stop. But not ruffling feathers like
- 34:13not causing, not like saying that something is wrong, not
- 34:18engaging in any kind of conflict resolution conversations.
- 34:23We've been pacified to litigate immediately if we are in some
- 34:31kind of conflict. I think in some cases, like
- 34:34overemphasis on inclusion can have like a swing effect where
- 34:39it's like, I can't actually turn to someone and be like, please
- 34:41don't say that, you know, because it becomes a risk.
- 34:45And I saw that. And in being in house, you know,
- 34:49where DEI people are often tapped as being that in between
- 34:54HR or employee relations to try to, to be able to figure out a
- 34:59different way that doesn't have to be a litigated process.
- 35:06And you know, I think like speaking personally for myself,
- 35:11I think some of the success in my career has been because I
- 35:18have gotten along with people. And it's obviously that's not a
- 35:23bad thing. Like we want to get along with
- 35:25people we work with. Like that's not like it's not,
- 35:28it's not bad, but there is another side of that of like
- 35:33playing it. So you're not causing issues,
- 35:37they're not friction. Agreeable.
- 35:39Yeah, agreeable is a better word.
- 35:41Yeah. Yeah.
- 35:43So the art of not ruffling feathers is, I think, really an
- 35:47important part, which is why I think that like full adoption to
- 35:50the company is so important and being the ideal worker is that
- 35:56you're also not saying, hey, we should change this.
- 35:59I don't mean leave, I'm good, whatever that is.
- 36:03Well, I want to I want to go back to Valerie.
- 36:05You know what you were saying, right?
- 36:07Like what what is egregious and sometimes the inclusion
- 36:11onboarding and it's become it's inclusion has almost or words
- 36:18like psychological safety or belonging have become stand in
- 36:21for no friction ever. I want, I never want to have a
- 36:26negative experience with anybody.
- 36:28I don't ever want to be made to feel bad.
- 36:32And you guys, I had this client and I, I think they fired us,
- 36:38but I had this client and you know, it was, it was probably
- 36:42like this one of these one-on-one O 1 trainings.
- 36:46And I was giving an example of culture, cultural appropriation.
- 36:50And I talked a little bit about yoga.
- 36:52And then I get a two page e-mail from the CE OS EAA, who is so
- 36:59upset with me because and like this is a white woman and
- 37:04whatever you want to picture when you like, want to picture a
- 37:07white woman who does yoga, like she fit physically and like
- 37:10aesthetically, all of those things.
- 37:13She was so upset with me because did I know that yoga saved her
- 37:16life? And when I used that example,
- 37:19did I, did I not know that like yoga is a powerful tool for like
- 37:24self empowerment? And, and I was like, listen,
- 37:28this was an example. Like I'm, I'm literally from
- 37:30India that this is the birth place of yoga.
- 37:33And I'm not saying anything negative about your personal
- 37:35practice. And and then the CEO made me
- 37:39have a mediated conversation with her in person, literally in
- 37:44person. She was like, you've really
- 37:46upset this person. And I hope that, you know, as a
- 37:49practitioner, you can model what you're preaching.
- 37:54And I had to and I had to eat my words.
- 37:56And I have to be like, I'm so sorry.
- 37:58Like I should have seen you more fully.
- 38:00And like, I totally see that like yoga, like restored your XY
- 38:05and Z. And in my head, I'm like, this
- 38:08is ridiculous. This is ridiculous.
- 38:12Yeah, it's, it's a, it's a slippery slope.
- 38:16You know, when, when we, when we sort of water down these efforts
- 38:24to the All Lives Matter level, right?
- 38:27It, it just, it's important always for everyone to feel a
- 38:33sense of belonging in the organization, of course.
- 38:37But what can happen sometimes is that we lose that nuance of our
- 38:42differences and the beautiful diversity that makes us
- 38:45different. And that will cause friction
- 38:47that will cause us to be uncomfortable.
- 38:49And instead of us learning how to gracefully navigate those
- 38:53interactions, we sort of shrink away sometimes from them.
- 38:56So I, I hate that you had that experience, but I did think of
- 39:00another egregious example for you as you were talking.
- 39:03Tell us yes, I worked at a star in tech company that it was a
- 39:10norm to work on the shuttle bus on the way to work.
- 39:16So you have a 45 minute drive there and back, sometimes two
- 39:21hours depending on traffic. Right.
- 39:23But the norm was that was work time, right?
- 39:27And I to this day can't I, I get nauseous in the car because of
- 39:32that time period of my life. But like, that was normalized.
- 39:36It was normalized to be on campus all of the time because
- 39:40we have all these fun things to do.
- 39:42But they really wanted you to work there all the time, right?
- 39:45They wanted you to be on campus because they wanted you to
- 39:47continue to work. And so I think you start to see
- 39:50these kind of industry practices, the tech industry,
- 39:52and that time was very much like competing for talent with all of
- 39:56these toys, right, all of these fun things.
- 40:00But it was drive home this point about this ideal worker of what
- 40:04we wanted you to do, how we wanted you to spend your time,
- 40:07where we wanted you to be, right?
- 40:09And how we wanted to really orchestrate how you spend your
- 40:12time and how you actually do your work.
- 40:14So that was in hindsight, a very was a very socialized way of
- 40:22doing things. That was.
- 40:25Really about how we want the employee to interact with us and
- 40:29engage with us and get their work done.
- 40:32OK. So in my previous life in my
- 40:3520s, my partner worked at Microsoft and he would take the
- 40:40connector shuttle, right, which is the company bus service,
- 40:43essentially. And I remember like this is
- 40:47being being so naive at like 26 or 27.
- 40:50He was like, yeah, it's really great to take the shuttle
- 40:53because there's Wi-Fi on board. And my little tiny naive brain
- 40:58was like, why do you need a Wi-Fi on the bus?
- 41:02Like what? For what reason do you need
- 41:05Wi-Fi on the bus? But like, you could listen to
- 41:10your music or you can read a book or you could take a nap,
- 41:13you know. And this is the reason, right?
- 41:16Because the expectation is that the bus is comfortable.
- 41:19And by the way, it's not a public bus.
- 41:20So that's the other thing is that you don't have to write
- 41:24with the riffraff. You don't have to write with
- 41:26like your fellow citizens. You only get to write with your
- 41:28peers. Absolutely, absolutely keep on
- 41:33working. The commitment so we know what
- 41:42we're working with, like what the current state is, that feels
- 41:46that feels pretty clear. And I think that there is also a
- 41:50lot of pre-existing wisdom and strategies and ways that we have
- 41:55all worked worked to try to create a new ideal of worker
- 42:00that serves all people that is responsible for the way that the
- 42:05company is treating their workers and also treating the
- 42:09world and a partner. I don't know like for on your
- 42:12side when you when you think about those strategies, what
- 42:17comes up for you? Yeah.
- 42:20So I'm curious, have either of you heard of targeted
- 42:24universalism? Thanks to you.
- 42:28Do you know what? Thanks to you exactly.
- 42:33So targeting targeted universalism is it's a policy
- 42:37framework. It comes out of public policy,
- 42:39right? And it says that we set an
- 42:41ambitious goal for everybody, but using tailored strategies or
- 42:47designing to help specific individuals reach that goal.
- 42:52And one very, very common example of targeted
- 42:55universalism, what you know is often like, what would you do to
- 43:02help a single black mom achieve X goal, right?
- 43:06And because her identity sit at the intersection of so many
- 43:11oppressions, single parenthood, being black, being female.
- 43:15And and so something that I've been kind of tossing around in
- 43:20my head is what would that look like?
- 43:23What would using targeted universalism look like at work?
- 43:27And I got another dose in this framework.
- 43:30Last night. I was hosting an event for a
- 43:32friend who's running to head up the Board of Education in
- 43:36Chicago. And he talked about his focus on
- 43:41kids. And I was like, of course, I
- 43:43agree. Like kids are important.
- 43:45And he said, what would it look like if, what would it what,
- 43:50what would it look like if? The question we asked was, are
- 43:56kids learning? And he said that he had audited
- 44:00like hundreds of hours of school board meetings.
- 44:03And he also was an appointee on the Chicago Public's school
- 44:06board for a couple of years. And he said, if we met for 150
- 44:11hours, maybe ten of those hours were spent talking about student
- 44:15learning, right. Your, your role, your governance
- 44:22role is to make sure kids are learning.
- 44:24That is literally the reason public schools exist.
- 44:27And so I'm curious, I want to hear from both of you, what if
- 44:31we applied this framework of targeted universalism to work?
- 44:36What would be, what would we focus on?
- 44:38What would be that ambitious goal and what might be a
- 44:41targeted strategy to help a specific group that helps us get
- 44:46to that goal? Yeah.
- 44:47I mean, as you were talking, it doesn't sound much dissimilar to
- 44:52design principle we use all the time and DEII shouldn't say all
- 44:55the time, but that we like to employ around the curb cut
- 44:59effects and. Yes.
- 45:02Right, right. The curb cut is the little dip
- 45:06that you see on sidewalks and they originally was designed for
- 45:10wheelchair access, but we all use it, right?
- 45:13When you have luggage, you have a stroller, right?
- 45:16And so the idea of that with a design principle when you're
- 45:19designing for change within an organization, is that you design
- 45:23for the most marginalized person.
- 45:24Yep, right. And so first you have to
- 45:27identify who that is in your organization, right?
- 45:30And I love this example of this single black mom, right, that
- 45:35sits at these intersections. You, you first need to
- 45:37understand what are her barriers, right?
- 45:40What if actually happened with her?
- 45:41Let's get to the core and the root of those problems, right?
- 45:44And then you design from a theory of change from those, the
- 45:48barriers that you're solving for that particular person.
- 45:50And guess what? And when you do that for her,
- 45:52the experience improves for everyone else.
- 45:54That's what the curb could affect says, right?
- 45:57So you think about the most isolated person in your
- 46:00organization and solve their problems.
- 46:02And I guarantee you the rest of your organization is going to
- 46:06benefit from from that those solutions.
- 46:08Yeah, Lars, what comes up for you?
- 46:11What's an ambitious goal and maybe a strategy?
- 46:15I think the like the complement to this around the actual
- 46:22business structure in how you, if you, if we want workers to
- 46:29show up in a specific way, like we're altruistic, we are
- 46:33committed, we are kind to each other, whatever those qualities
- 46:38are, there are organizational structures that we already know
- 46:43exist to help make that outcome possible.
- 46:47So a culture that is focused on teamwork and employee
- 46:50development, helping people grow if they see, if you see your
- 46:54customers as partners and not just people you're selling to.
- 46:57If you're focused on a humane work environment that actually
- 47:02and that all, you know, all those things feel like kind of
- 47:04fluffy to say in absence of policy.
- 47:06But that does create the conditions where the curb effect
- 47:11or targeted universalism can be possible because the values are
- 47:16there. When we try to design on top of
- 47:20an organizational culture, values like hyper competition,
- 47:24you know, the carrot sticks with reward and punishment, it's also
- 47:28not possible. And you can do another like
- 47:32culture design where it could be more dynamic, entrepreneurial,
- 47:36creative, where if you want to be a culture that's focused on
- 47:40taking risks, you can do that, but you have to be very flexible
- 47:46and you have to be responsive rather than hyper bureaucratic.
- 47:51And all of this is like all of this is studied.
- 47:53Like we know that this is what exists.
- 47:57But I think again, like the ever present question in our
- 48:00conversation today is if you, if we're talking, I think talking
- 48:05about the system versus the worker is really important
- 48:08because the two of them are just doing the stance constantly.
- 48:12But you have to honestly look at what is the company value on top
- 48:17of who is the most marginalized worker?
- 48:19And through that, you can actually create a design that
- 48:22works. OK.
- 48:23Can Ioffer you both something a little bit?
- 48:27I've just been mulching on this and you can tell me to shut up
- 48:29once you hear it. So targeted universalism, the
- 48:32curb cut effects, right? These design principles or
- 48:34policy frameworks typically designed to the edge, and the
- 48:37edge is the person who's the most marginalized.
- 48:41And I have just been sitting with this idea, which I have
- 48:45honestly been a little afraid to say out loud.
- 48:48So we might have to ask Ari to cut it.
- 48:52What if our ambitious goal was happiness?
- 48:56And we could answer the question, are my employees
- 49:01happy? Are are the people that I work
- 49:04with happy? And the edge that we designed
- 49:07too, is white Men At Work? What strategies?
- 49:14Because I feel like they're so unhappy, they're so lonely,
- 49:21they're so mean and so entitled. Not all white men just saying
- 49:26that, you know, Lars, thank you for being here.
- 49:32But what if we said, like, our goal is our workers are happy
- 49:36and then we design for white men to be happy at work?
- 49:43Is that insane? Lars, I'm going to, I'm going to
- 49:45let you go 1st. I'm going to, I'm going to
- 49:47noodle. I'm going to noodle on that.
- 49:49On behalf of all white people, I think what you I think what
- 49:58you're talking about is important in the sense that and
- 50:02you know, this is data we is common.
- 50:05Now, white men are most likely than any other demographic to
- 50:09end their lives by suicide in the United States.
- 50:16There's an incredible amount of pressure that exists to be
- 50:20solely devoted to your career and the the value of being a
- 50:25provider above anything else. There's plenty of data that
- 50:31shows that white people have been essentially bred out of our
- 50:37capacity for empathy. And so being able to actually
- 50:41connect with people and check when apathy is coming through is
- 50:47something that we have multiple generations of relearning to do.
- 50:52So, yeah, I think that, you know, is happy the right term?
- 50:56I don't know, you know, I think it gets us close.
- 50:59But I think the, the question that you're asking is that the
- 51:03way I am interpreting it and the way that I have like completely
- 51:07pivoted my career to focus on is, are these the working
- 51:11conditions that actually work for the majority too?
- 51:15And if we give, if we take white men as the sample and we look at
- 51:20the data, we can say probably not, you know, like Mark
- 51:25Anderson, what's his name, Andreessen.
- 51:28Andreessen sorry, two ES, you know, flexing that he's not
- 51:33introspective, you know, it's like, bro, that's actually how
- 51:39we track diagnosing psychopathic symptoms and.
- 51:47And he actually said, great men don't sit around and think.
- 51:51And I was like, literally that is all of the great men in
- 51:55history. That's all they have done is
- 51:58leave a legacy of hundreds and thousands of letters that they
- 52:02wrote to each other, what were going on?
- 52:05And they're the OG influencers. They're like the gal that is
- 52:09like has like 18 TikTok reels a day.
- 52:12That is the great man of history.
- 52:13All they do is is think and write about thinking.
- 52:16Yeah. And there's so much to say.
- 52:18And I think it is a really good example too, because that is
- 52:22like, this is the model that he was taught and the rest of the
- 52:26world is looking at him now. And we're like, that's not
- 52:28greatness. We don't think it's cool that
- 52:30you're a billionaire, but that's not actually what we think
- 52:35greatness is. But what they have been said is
- 52:38that, and yeah, like, how do we, how do one of the biggest
- 52:47questions Aparna and I asked in choosing to do this project is
- 52:51how do we support the people with the most material safety in
- 52:55the world to see that this also isn't working for us.
- 52:59And bringing that to white men is pretty compelling.
- 53:02That's like, it is. It is its own curb analysis.
- 53:08So yeah, I don't think it's too edgy.
- 53:12I, I mean, I let, let me say this, you may be on to
- 53:16something. I, it's interesting you brought
- 53:18up, interesting you brought up Marc Andreessen.
- 53:21It, it just may not be my work, but it may be, it has to be
- 53:23someone's work, right? And so I remember the, I've
- 53:28worked with dozens of clients and there's only been like a
- 53:32couple of clients that it just didn't work out.
- 53:35And one of those clients was a venture capital firm.
- 53:38And I remember it was 20, like the end of 2020, early 2021.
- 53:43And they hired me to do a series of conversations with their
- 53:49team. And the first conversation, what
- 53:54they wanted was a interesting intellectual discussion around
- 54:00the dynamics of what was happening in the world.
- 54:03What they did not want was that introspection of how did I
- 54:08participate in that? How am I perpetuating some of
- 54:11these issues? What can I do to change some of
- 54:14these? They didn't want any of that,
- 54:16right? And so it was just a mismatch.
- 54:18And I think you're right. When your North Star continues
- 54:22to be capitalism over everything, money over
- 54:25everything, that's going to be the driver of all of your
- 54:29decisions. And so it just trying to have a
- 54:33humanity, humanity conversation was just so out of left field
- 54:40for them that we just parted ways.
- 54:42We just cut the contract, right? Because we just had different
- 54:46goals. And like we had different goals
- 54:48and we had different perspectives on what was most
- 54:55important for us to focus on right now and what unique impact
- 54:58they could have to start righting some of these wrongs.
- 55:01And so it's not my ministry, it's not my work, but the it's
- 55:06needed because this community holds so much power and I think
- 55:13we can't not engage. We can't not try to engage with
- 55:19this population. So let me know how that works
- 55:21out for you. I'll.
- 55:24Keep you updated. But I want to, I want to come
- 55:30back to Joe and Acker and actually ask Aparna to read this
- 55:34quote because we're talking about like, yeah, who is this
- 55:39new ideal that we want to design for?
- 55:42And Joan kind of said it in 1990.
- 55:46So partner, we we do us the great honor.
- 55:48Yeah, Joan Acker, a bad ass human.
- 55:51I read Joan Acker when I was in grad school and that ages me
- 55:54somewhat. So here's something she says.
- 55:57She says such a transformation would be radical in practice
- 56:00because because it would probably require the end of
- 56:04organizations as they exist today, along with a redefinition
- 56:09of work and work relations. The rhythm and timing of work
- 56:13would be adapted to the rhythms of life outside of work.
- 56:18Caring work would be just as important and well rewarded as
- 56:22any other. Having a baby or taking care of
- 56:25a sick mother would be as valued as making an automobile or
- 56:29designing computer software. Hierarchy would be abolished and
- 56:32workers would run things themselves.
- 56:35Of course, women and men would share equally in different kinds
- 56:38of work. Perhaps there would be some kind
- 56:41of communal or collective form of organization where work in
- 56:44intimate relationships are closely related.
- 56:47Children learned places close to working adults, and workmates,
- 56:51lovers and friends are all part of the same group.
- 56:56No notes. You know it's no notes.
- 56:59You know what that sounds like A village.
- 57:03And. Everyone's aligned to their
- 57:07purpose. Yeah, Everyone's unique skills
- 57:10and talents are being honored. You know, we're human first.
- 57:16We're actually human first, right?
- 57:20So no notes. No notes.
- 57:23Yeah, Jones says simply. We're producing goods, caring
- 57:27for people and disposing of the garbage.
- 57:30That's our headline. And I think that's that's it.
- 57:33But we got to name it. Name it to change it.
- 57:39Shall we, shall we switch gears? Shall we do some rapid fire fun
- 57:43together that we did not prepare you for, Valerie?
- 57:47Let's do it. Let's do it.
- 57:48I'm ready, I think. I'm happy to read Valerie and
- 57:55then a partner you want to follow.
- 57:57Oh my God. Yeah, OK.
- 57:59Yeah, I didn't prep either of you for this.
- 58:01OK. And then it's become a
- 58:03traditional on the podcast. So Valerie rapid fire don't
- 58:06think too hard first sentence. The white collar workers
- 58:10greatest superpower, if they chose to use it, is.
- 58:15Efficiency. I was going to say organization.
- 58:20Yeah, OK. Yes, yes, our our deep devotion
- 58:25means that we can do that and then we can flex that somewhere
- 58:28else. Yes.
- 58:29OK. Valerie, what is your favorite
- 58:32corporate phrase? Obviously ours a circle back.
- 58:35What's your favorite corporate wording?
- 58:39Let's table that until tomorrow, or let's table that too after
- 58:43the holidays. And yeah.
- 58:46Yeah. Low hanging fruit Let's go after
- 58:51the low hanging fruit. Yeah, what's a corporate phrase
- 58:55that white collar workers say that actually means?
- 58:58I'm scared or I'm worried. Oh, I'm scared.
- 59:07Or I'm worried. A part of you have years ago.
- 59:10Mine is. I'm seeking strategic alignment
- 59:13before. Moving forward on.
- 59:14Something. OK, I'm going to say I was going
- 59:21to say circle bag, but no, let me get back to you for that.
- 59:24Yes. What's one thing the system
- 59:29never told white collar workers about their own power?
- 59:39It relies on authenticity. I would say that they have
- 59:45power. Yes, yes.
- 59:49Yes. OK.
- 59:51Last one, Valerie, and this is just for you.
- 59:54If you could say in one sentence directly to every white collar
- 59:58worker listening to this right now, what is possible on the
- 1:00:02other side of breaking the myth of the ideal worker, what would
- 1:00:05it be? True human center partnership
- 1:00:14where all parties involved are mutually benefiting from the
- 1:00:18partnership, is possible. That's it.
- 1:00:24Is she a marriage therapist? We don't.
- 1:00:27Know. OK, we, we close out every
- 1:00:33episode. Unfortunately, the end of our
- 1:00:35time together is here with one take away each.
- 1:00:39And one thing that you invite listeners to do this week.
- 1:00:42Not something you can do months from now, but like what's
- 1:00:44something that they can do today?
- 1:00:46And we'll model it because we'll have Lars go first.
- 1:00:49One take away one thing you can actually do.
- 1:00:51This is just a big theme right now for my coaching clients
- 1:00:54where they're trying to balance actively figuring out how to fit
- 1:00:58into whatever the norm is at their company while trying to
- 1:01:03maintain their sense of self or integrity.
- 1:01:05And, you know, sometimes we can turn it on and be happy, like
- 1:01:08tuck in our shirt, say, you know, let's let's table it and
- 1:01:11you're in the groove. Like you, I've been happily
- 1:01:14ignorant before and performative in corporate spaces playing the
- 1:01:18game as a strategy. And the point of this podcast is
- 1:01:23to give workers a different vantage point of how to ask what
- 1:01:27is the cost for us. And so my offer for this week is
- 1:01:31take some time with a Co worker too and just ask them the
- 1:01:35question, who do you think is the ideal worker here?
- 1:01:39And is this ideal aligned to who you are as a person outside of
- 1:01:43work? Literally just ask those two
- 1:01:45questions. A lot of what we're trying to do
- 1:01:48here is give us language to actually see what's going on.
- 1:01:51And some people might say, yeah, this is who I am.
- 1:01:53I'm. I'm full MPC and I love it.
- 1:01:56And some people might surprise you and you can learn about what
- 1:02:00they actually care about. So let's work towards asking
- 1:02:04questions where we can change the future together.
- 1:02:06And you can actually start to see the person next to you in
- 1:02:10their well-being, their humanity.
- 1:02:14And. Yeah, if we're going to change
- 1:02:16the world, we have to be honest about what we're doing.
- 1:02:18So that's that's what's up for me.
- 1:02:22That honest piece is is big, right?
- 1:02:26When I think about the vision for the future ideal worker, I
- 1:02:33think of honest, honest relationship to the organization
- 1:02:45on both sides, right? I think we have to get out of
- 1:02:49the delusions of family, of a workplace being completely your
- 1:02:56identity. I think we just have to be
- 1:02:59honest about the transaction. And so my gift is first you have
- 1:03:06to be honest to yourself. And I think that starts with
- 1:03:09personal alignment. And so my offer and what is
- 1:03:13coming up for myself and a lot of clients these days is what
- 1:03:16does a true alignment look like for you individually and what
- 1:03:21does alignment look like as you develop these partnerships,
- 1:03:25these contracts with these organizations?
- 1:03:28Understand what that alignment looks like.
- 1:03:30But first, start with alignment for yourself in yourself.
- 1:03:34Beautiful. Mine would be take the heels off
- 1:03:39right? Like you don't have to wear
- 1:03:41uncomfortable shoes and and extend that metaphor into
- 1:03:46whatever parts of your work life you need to extend it into.
- 1:03:52Buy yourself a pair of ultras. You know, enjoy the the white
- 1:03:56toe box It it makes a difference.
- 1:03:59I do, yeah. Valerie, thank you so much for
- 1:04:04being here with us. Thank you.
- 1:04:05Thank you so much. For having me, this has been
- 1:04:08great. I love this podcast.
- 1:04:11I'm so excited to continue to watch and see where this goes.
- 1:04:16Best of luck to you too. Thank you.
- 1:04:19Thank you. Thank you.
- 1:04:20Yay. OK folks, on our next episode
- 1:04:24we're going to keep going and we're going to talk about
- 1:04:27psychological safety and psychosocial hazards at work.
- 1:04:31And there's such a big global field of research in how other
- 1:04:36countries honestly are making workplaces safer for humans.
- 1:04:41And my really dear friend and colleague, Dr. Nicole Dekay is
- 1:04:46going to be with us on that episode.
- 1:04:49And we hope that you'll TuneIn to this and that all, actually
- 1:04:53all of them. It's a good one, you don't want
- 1:04:55to miss it. It blew my mind the first time I
- 1:04:58learned about the fact that there are these hazards that are
- 1:05:02well documented. We know what work is doing to
- 1:05:05us. So please join us and we want to
- 1:05:08hear from you. Circle Back Club.
- 1:05:11We are collecting stories from workers who are sharing their
- 1:05:15ICS, their hopes, their reactions to our episodes.
- 1:05:18All around corporate work. We want to be able to give a
- 1:05:21voice to people who can't quite say it out loud because you're
- 1:05:25on the inside and we want you to know that you're not alone.
- 1:05:28So if you have a story, please share it with us via e-mail,
- 1:05:33written or audio recording to hello at Circle back dot club.
- 1:05:38I'm Lars. I'm Aparna.
- 1:05:41We'll circle back. Thank you.