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From Pain to Purpose - Disappointment or Divine Appointment · Military Broadcast Radio | MBR Talk

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Welcome to the Propane to Purpose radio show.
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I'm your host, Viva Fulton. In this show, we explore the
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incredible journeys of resilience, healing and
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transformation. In each.
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Episode, we will sit down with individuals who have faced
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unimaginable struggles and turn their pain into power,
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heartbreak into hope, and their challenges into meaningful
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change and finding new purpose in life.
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Through candid conversations and inspiring stories, we will
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uncover how pain, whether emotional, physical, mental or
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spiritual, can be the catalyst for profound growth and a deeper
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sense of purpose. So if you are looking for
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motivation, insight, and real stories of triumph over
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adversity, you're in the right place.
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Let's get started on this journey from pain to purpose.
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Let's give veterans a voice through military broadcast talk.
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Hey, hey, welcome to everybody today is Saturday, August 1st,
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the year of our Lord 2026. Welcome to the propane to
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purpose radio show. I got a external glow today Look
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at this I've got a new set up here.
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Shout out huge shout out to Joel.
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I man he's he makes us look good, doesn't he look at this
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look at this I'm so excited thank you Joel.
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I can see him in the in the back back here.
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Man, I am so excited. Maybe he's connecting me to
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something and I didn't know I got to hit Instagram Go live
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too. Sometimes I forget doing that.
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Go live, there we go. All right, so you know, man,
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what a week, what a week if and if y'all follow me on social
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media, especially with my Facebook and Instagram.
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My daughter said yes last night. I'm so excited for her and and
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Cole and Asher, 'cause I am Nana now.
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You know, it's kind of neat walking into this Nana roll.
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I got to eat my feet propped up. Sorry, move my little cushion
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over 'cause my feet can't touch the floor when I turn this way.
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All right, there we go. So, you know, they started
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dating what I guess four months ago, not long before I came back
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to Texas and I got to meet this young man.
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And a few weeks ago when we were at the Ranger game, Carrie went
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to the restroom. She didn't know that, you know,
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we were chatting a little bit, but he showed me a picture of a
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ring. So I've kind of been holding the
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secret. I, I kept it in the bag all this
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time. I'm not always good with
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secrets, but this was a good one to hold on to.
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So I'm super excited about the journey that this young family
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is going to go on. They recently purchased a house
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together and they are, they're just a cute couple.
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You know, it was kind of kind of nice after he had told me at the
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Ranger game what he was planning on doing.
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Carrie and Asher were walking ahead of us.
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And he goes, that, that right there.
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That's my world. That's my world.
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And I was like, this is the man for my daughter.
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You know, I, I can't, I can't let just any man be there for my
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daughter. But if, if a man like that is
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going to say that's his world, then that's then that's my world
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that I'm just, you know, super, super excited about the way our
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people garden grows, you know, So Speaking of, you know, if
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y'all been following me on my dissertation journey and working
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on my PHDI had success last weekend with getting enough
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participants for my study. I'm so excited.
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Not too late. If you're in North Texas and San
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Antonio areas, I and if you want, I will go ahead and read
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it to you. You gotta put the nerdy glasses
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back on. So, and this is a little flyer I
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handed out. So what am I doing?
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I am, I am studying the unfulfilled needs of female
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combat veterans. And this is how I, I, you know,
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say it. This is how I was pitching it to
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the ladies. I'm studying the unfulfilled
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needs of female combat veterans. Because nobody ever asked us,
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right? They haven't ever asked us.
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Nobody's ever asked us, really, what do you need?
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And it was interesting that even the messaging that we were
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getting from the VA at the summit, this was the regional
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Southwest Network. I think it's what they call it,
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the Southwest Network. It's what we call it in my
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federal job that this was, you know, you got to think about it,
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guys, guys that this was a system built for men.
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They didn't consider designing it.
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They, we've just kind of been getting some ad hoc stuff here
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and there to design it, to design programs for women.
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And that's important, right? It's important because I don't
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have the same needs that Joel, our producer has.
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He has kind of said different Physiology there, right?
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Same for any of you, male or female, you have, we have
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different Physiology, we have different hormonal needs.
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And that was one of the interesting things that I heard
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time and time again at the conference was how about HRT,
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right? I probably TMI for you guys, but
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I had I had the lady parts taken out from due to some metal
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medical stuff back in 2017. Was I offered any hormone
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replacement therapy? No, no.
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So anyways, I will get into this.
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My name is Eva Fulton. I'm a doctoral student at
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National University. I am conducting a research study
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to utilize Freeman stakeholder theory.
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Guess what? In this world of ours, you the
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veteran, my fellow sister veterans, you are a stakeholder
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in the grand design about policy in public administration.
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Who would a thunk? So I'm using this as a
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conceptual context to explore the unfulfilled needs of at
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least 25 to 40 modern day female combat veterans who served in
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combat roles. Now, I'm not saying you had to
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be in combat, you just had to have been in theater where where
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conflict was happening, right? You, you getting the right
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ribbons on your chest is what I'm talking about.
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And this is to determine the public administration policies
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and programs needed from the United States Department of
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Veterans Affairs and other veteran program providers.
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And I'm gonna so this is how I want you to think about it at
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the federal, state, local and non profit levels, right?
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Because those are the levels that are looking at helping us.
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And I, and when I say local, that could be county, that could
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be your city, that could be your, you know, whatever your
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local tribe, that's another way of looking at it too.
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So what are the requirements to be a biological female, which is
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in context with Executive Order number 14168 published in 2025,
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you're eligible for VA healthcare.
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I didn't say you had to be getting it because maybe you
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choose not to. I just need to know that you're
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eligible for VA healthcare, were released from the military more
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than five years ago, retired or discharged.
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I don't care how you got retired or discharged.
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The purpose of the five years, just so you understand, is that
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you know somebody who recently got out, you, you don't know
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what you don't know yet, right? And I'd get it that there are
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women who and men who have been out more than five years who
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still don't know what they don't know.
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But you probably have at least experienced some familiarity
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with what your issues are, what the barriers are, what the
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problems that you've experienced.
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You know, you're going to have some kind of reference on what
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your needs are versus, you know, somebody who got out brand new.
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So yeah, I need you to. Let's see, let's see what's the
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next Oh, so the next the next item is to you served on active
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duty in a designated This is where I was getting it while
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ago. You received combat pay or
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earned a combat specific award such as Bronze star, the Army
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combat action bagged or recognized combat related
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campaign service medal. That could be Desert Storm,
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could be Vietnam, right? We have a lot of women who
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served in Vietnam, boots on the ground.
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Some still might be around for Korea, probably not too many.
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Iraq, Afghanistan, Libyan falls into that category.
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As long as you've been out for more than five years, then the
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other two criteria is that you live in the North Texas area
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service by the Dallas VA Vision or San Antonio by by that area.
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So anyways, you know that's what I have been working on.
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I have enough participants, so I'm super excited.
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I get to host my first call with the with the participants on
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Tuesday evening and we're going to have some discussions.
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Then I'll have another discussion with the San Antonio
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ladies. And so it's not too late.
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If you are in North Texas or San Antonio area, reach out to me
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and would love to have you participate in my study.
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I think that this is really going to help inform all of
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those 4 levels that I was talking about and, you know,
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provide them some context. I mean, I was even reading a
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study that was published. Where did it go?
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There was a study that I was reading Here It Is that was
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published in. What is this?
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This is the I want to say it's 2025.
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Yeah. June 2025.
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Homelessness and female veterans, a phenomenological
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study on perceived precipitating factors.
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And in some ways that's what I think the study is going to hit
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on. The literature review that I've
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done so far is really pretty informing about the women who
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are having issues. And I think that that is really
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going to, you know, like I said, I think the purpose of what this
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study is going to do and, and help us out is is going to, I'm
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praying is going to help move the needle for a lot of us.
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And, you know, I've been advocating for veterans for a
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long time. And I have a comment.
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OK, thanks, Joel. He's reposted it to the stream.
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So anyhoo, I wanted to get into what my topic today is, and that
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is disappointment versus divine appointment.
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What is it? I have had divine appointments
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for years, years and years and it I didn't know what they were
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until I, I think the discernment right?
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The, I think God just kind of like said, it's a divine
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appointment. You're on the right track when
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you're on the Camino, when you're on the Appalachian Trail,
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when you are, you know, brothers and sisters.
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When you are, when you know that the compass is headed in the
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right direction, you know you're you.
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You know those signs. There's that landmark, there's
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that you know that you were at the right place at the right
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time. And I started getting these a
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long time ago. I really, I think I cognizantly
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recognized it when I started writing my book.
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I was going through a horrible time through my divorce,
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blindsided, if you will, that my husband had left me and I was
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listening to radio and, and as the radio was playing this song,
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he lives. There was an SUV driving in
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front of me in the back window in white shoe Polish said he
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lives. I was like, OK, I guess I'm at
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the right place at the right time for God to give me this
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message. But I've had other people that I
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have met along the way that, you know, I, I'm there for a reason,
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right? You know, I talked a little bit
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last week about meeting the this lady as I was leaving out of the
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summit. I was, I was peddling the very
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last copy of my study, trying to recruit her.
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And here we were walking out the door and I told her about, you
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know, you had discussion about this, but then I told her about
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the radio show, the two radio shows and, and she just started
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crying. You know, she's 70 years old.
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This woman is still working full time.
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Y'all she has. And I really, really want her to
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get on. She's a beautiful lady.
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And she sent me the picture of us together.
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And that just warmed my heart, 'cause you know, you know, you
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meet people and you feel you just, you just know that I'm at
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the right place at the right time.
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There's a confirmation that this person is supposed to be in my
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life. And that's why I wrote, welcome
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to my people garden, right? We have to grow our people,
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garden. We don't exist in and of
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ourselves. We are supposed to grow
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relationships. We are supposed to sow seeds of
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faith, hope and love. Right.
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And you know, it was so when I was telling this lady about the
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revivalist, she started crying. They were not tears of sadness.
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She was, she's been caring a lot.
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You know, this is a lot in connection with the Revivalist
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Radio Show because I told her the Revivalist Radio Show is
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built upon a veteran mission. Yes, veteran mission, that
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ministry, that's, that's the spiel, right?
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It's a veteran ministry. Yes, it's a mission, but it is a
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veteran ministry based upon moral injury, healing and
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recovery 'cause we have to put God back in the true north of
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moral compass that He's the one that's in charge of us.
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He's the one that keeps us on the right track, on the right
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path, moving the right direction, headed towards the
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right destination. And He wants us to get there
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safe and sound. So bye ongoing project in case
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y'all don't follow me on social media.
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I am rehabbing an RV bought it from my dad he doesn't have a
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need for it anymore. So it's it's a 22 footer and
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it's got some water leaks so it's dusty.
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I, I had to wash my hair twice today, you know, just to get
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all, and I think I still have insulation, a little bit of
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insulation on my arms. And so I had started, you know,
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started some of the original demo at Dad's and dad helped me
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get that flooring issue, you know, stabilized because I
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needed the floor stabilized before I could, you know, and
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not put a a foot through anything.
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Had to get that all stabilized so that I could actually finish
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doing the rest of the work. So now that I am here for a
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little bit, settled down and, and going to take Carrie and
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Cole and Asher camping in a couple weeks.
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So I got a lot to get done and I'm not new at construction
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guys. I used to own a construction
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company. So I got power tools no problem,
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got tape measures. I got saw horses, I got the
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sawzall. Sometimes I have to have a
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little bit extra elbow grease. So Cody, my youngest son who
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still lives with me through I asked him, I need your help
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today. So anyways, I had to go get the
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materials last night so I went into the hardware store Home
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Depot. Love Home Depot.
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They give they give us good veteran discounts and I have my
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pro account set up from way back in way back when yes, I still
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have a pro account. So, you know, it's kind of
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funny. Guys always look at you funny.
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I'm wearing my dress because yes, I went and got my massage
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1st and I'm, I'm shopping in the hardware store, the dress and
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manhandling the lumber and all that kind of stuff.
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And the guy's like, you want what you want what he didn't
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know. He didn't know what he was
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getting to. Anyways, so I ran into this lady
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who's on a scooter and she was looking at the same the same
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sheets that I was. So I, you know, part of what I'm
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redoing the whole front end, it's add some water leaks.
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So I'm going to have to seal it all.
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I got the roof kit coming in should be here Monday I think.
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But I still have to get all the demo done and see where are the
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issues at, where are the issues in the roof so I can make sure
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I, you know, tape everything up. So I didn't, I believe me, I
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know how to do the demo and make sure you got to get it in the
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right order, right? Because if I just do the roof,
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but I don't know where the holes are and, and what if I
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accidentally poke a hole while I'm doing the demo?
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Then you got more issues 'cause then you're, you're sealing it
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up, but now you got to fix something else.
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So. Anyways, I'm getting all the
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demo done. It's looking way better and I'm
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going to have plenty, plenty of I'm using, you know, the
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sheathing that's got the white, it's kind of like the
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wainscoting look. So that's what I use.
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So then the, in case you're wondering about what am I going
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to do with the RV, it is not only going to help, you know,
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provide a place where we can go camping, but it's going to be my
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studio on wheels. And I 'cause I have a surprise
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for that, I'll share a little bit later.
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So I have, I have plans for this RVI have plans to maybe get some
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other female veterans out there and we get out there in the
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woods and just enjoy some time, right?
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Some very great time, just kind of relaxing, enjoying some walks
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in the woods, some wild thought, you know, some fire, contain hot
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wildfire, but contain fire. You know, it's, it's going to be
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fun. So, but I don't think I'm going
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to drive it to Wyoming. It's too far.
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That's too far for Wyoming. I don't know, maybe I'll think
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about it, but so I'm going hunting at the end of September.
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I'm going antelope hunting at the end of September.
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I'm so excited working with a nonprofit called Brave Souls
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United, and that's because I've always wanted to go hunting.
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I haven't done that. I know I'm kind of goofy, but I,
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I, I don't know. This is, it'll be fun.
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So I'm over there in the hardware store looking at this
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wainscoting, you know, sheathing.
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And the, this lady that I, I'm just, she's just a stranger and
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she's, she's a black woman and she's on a scooter and we just
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start striking up a conversation.
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I said, yeah, I, you know, got this project.
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And she goes, I have projects too, but she's not quite sure
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about doing it. And we started, you know, chit
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chatting a little bit about construction, how you used to
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own a construction company. And she, she's looked at me and
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I said, this is a divine appointment, isn't it?
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And she goes, a divine appointment.
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I said, yeah, you know, where God puts us at the right place
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at the right time. And she goes that, that she
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says, God's God's with me. She said, you know, I've, I've
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been struggling lately. She said I've been struggling,
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struggling with disappointments. And she goes, I've had this
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conversation with God that disappointments isn't the right
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term and I'm putting too much into disappointments and I've
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got to take that word out of my vocabulary, flip it around and
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make it a divine appointment. You and I, we cannot choose or
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give somebody the will of what they are supposed to do.
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But it does take a certain mindset to change things and
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start having divine appointments 'cause you have to start getting
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comfortable with you, with what's in your heart and what
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motivates you to do the things you do.
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And. That's different, right?
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You know, I was talking to one of my friends the other day, You
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know, I'm drinking my electrolytes.
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We were talking about relationships.
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So this is not quite half empty, right?
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But if it's full and overflowing, I have the
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overflowing. That's enough to share with
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other people. But if I'm still missing this
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part, I still have to work on making sure that my heart is
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full because otherwise I'm still trying to add into my own cup
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while I'm giving out to others. And, and if you know, I've used
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the analogy before about going, you know, you're flying and the
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flight attendant gives you the instructions, make sure you know
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that she uses the it'll drop down oxygen mask.
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You got to put the oxygen mask on yourself first before you can
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put it on your kid or the senior that you know is flying with you
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or somebody who cannot help themselves.
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You have to put the oxygen mask on yourself.
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So sometimes you just kind of have to get out of your own way
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and change the way you look at it and stop being disappointed
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by other people because you cannot control them.
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Right, we could try. To will them all day long.
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But we can't. Control them.
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Hold on folks, I have a U PS: That ring the bell.
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Whenever things get rough or it feels like you're at the edge,
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remember this. Storms pass.
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All right, so. Sorry, guys, I thought I had to
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sign for it. That was the stabilizer jacks
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that was being delivered. They're heavy.
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I didn't pull it inside. Funny, funny thing, you know
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when you're traveling across the country.
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I was traveling across from the country from Dad's, you know, I,
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I had pulled off to get gas and didn't judge the slope right,
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that was headed out of the gas station and messed up the front
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Jack. So I didn't tell dad about that
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yet, but fortunately my oldest son works at a place that was
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able to order them for me and I got them sent to your.
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Let's see, Jose has the Jose. He he comes on after me with the
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motivated mindset. He says, hello, Eva.
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Yes, you can't pour out of an empty cup.
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Amen, He said. Amen.
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And then he said, oh, did you get cookies in that UPS
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delivery? You know, we'd love that.
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I wish they were cookie snow. I'm not a big cookie fan,
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believe it or not, but stabilizer Jack.
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So I told you I was working on rehabbing this RV.
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So let's get back to where we were, you know?
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Excuse me, people are and can disappoint us.
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But it kind of goes. Back to something that I talked
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about last week, expectations. We have expectations that people
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are going to do this. And then they deliver.
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This right, And we get disappointed by that.
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But they're. Human too.
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They are going through stuff. We don't know what somebody else
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is going through. We don't know what their mindset
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is. And then that gets back to, you
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know, I was I was telling this woman last night about, you
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know, the premise of this show that I have built it on the like
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this wooden chair. I wish I had a fake wooden
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chair. I could hold up every time.
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Maybe I'll have to look in and see if I can find one.
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The wooden chair is physical, mental, emotional and spiritual
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pain. So right, think about this
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wooden chair and and you're sitting on the wooden chair.
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That didn't work too good, did it?
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You're sitting on the wooden chair.
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Well, if one of these, you know, legs gets a little weak.
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The stability. That you're sitting on.
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Gets gets a. Little weak too, right?
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You might fall out of that chair.
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You're not stable. And.
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When we are over investing, when we are putting too much into
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somebody about and thinking that they are going to be all of
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that. I'm not saying you.
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Can't be hopeful about people but don't think that they are
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going to live up to your expectations because maybe they
30:43
have a mindset that C is good enough, right?
30:50
C is satisfactory. You want them to perform at an
30:55
A+ level, but they are OK with C.
31:01
And then you think. That they're actually delivering
31:04
an F. Because they thought.
31:07
C was fine. That was satisfactory.
31:12
But they delivered. F and you were disappointed.
31:17
But we're. If we're putting so much
31:20
investment into somebody else, we're putting so many
31:23
expectations on somebody else, the only person who really is
31:28
disappointed is you. And you can't change them to be
31:32
something more than they're not, right?
31:36
They're not what you want them to be.
31:39
They are who they are, and we can only be who we are.
31:44
So the expectation lies back in ourselves about being realistic,
31:54
giving grace and kindness, giving grace to ourselves,
32:02
because maybe we thought that somebody was gonna, somebody
32:05
else was going to rise to the occasion, and we didn't figure
32:08
out how to go fix it ourselves. I mean I wish I had a magic
32:14
genie that could fix the RV. But you know what?
32:19
I actually get a lot of joy out of seeing the evolution of
32:25
something evolving, and I can do it.
32:31
So far you. Know expense wise, let's see,
32:35
that was $200 last night. 50 bucks for.
32:39
The jacks because I jacked it up so it's 2:50, I'm in.
32:49
I have a. Little portable AC that's on the
32:52
way. So that's almost 100.
32:54
So it's 350 in. I need to get some floor tile
33:00
that that'll be maybe another 50.
33:03
It's not very much square footage.
33:06
I've got a twin mattress out in the garage I can use or I can
33:11
order AI, don't know. All in all, I think what I'll
33:17
have spent to rehab this RV is 500 bucks.
33:22
That's way cheaper than buying a new RV.
33:26
I'll be happy with that. Yeah.
33:31
So that I've got the air conditioner resolved,
33:34
refrigerator works, stove works, hot water heater does not work.
33:39
I have a I'm gonna have to get an Insta hot installed.
33:44
I'm I have to figure that one out And let's see I have what's
33:50
the other thing that's oh, there's a water leaks.
33:52
There's some kind of water leak back there in the shower area.
33:55
So I haven't used the shower. I I used the water with the the
34:01
kitchen sink and I've got there's a water line.
34:06
I'm going to have to I think open up the wall back there in
34:09
the bedroom area there. It's not a bedroom.
34:13
It's just a platform with the mattress, but I have to open up
34:18
that wall and see if the PEC, the PEC's line is cracked or
34:23
something. Chances are it's something
34:26
pretty easy. I'm hoping that it's pretty
34:29
easy. I can fix that no problem.
34:32
Yeah, it's got the toilet. Toilet works.
34:36
We'll be good. We'll be.
34:37
Good. I don't know.
34:39
Maybe. All in all, you know I might be
34:42
out 750. That's still.
34:46
Not bad, not bad, not bad, but I get to control what I'm doing
34:52
and when I'm doing it. Oh, and yeah, I got.
34:56
The roof kit, forgot to mention the roof kit, so that's on
34:59
order. It should be here Monday and
35:02
that's costing me 300 bucks. I got ladders, I got all that
35:08
kind of stuff. Maybe have to have a little bit
35:10
of help rolling it on. We'll see.
35:15
We'll see. My point in all of that is we
35:19
want to, you know, we had this, we have this thing in our head
35:24
and thinking that somebody else is going to do something for us
35:29
and we have to roll that back and say, well, how much can I
35:33
contribute to this, right? How much?
35:39
How much? I don't care whether it's your
35:42
own care at the VA, if it's a relationship that you're doing.
35:48
I mean, I've got a book up there.
35:49
I remember, you know, when you're working on relationships.
35:56
Have you ever thought? About like, if you're married,
36:01
what are you doing to like, redate your spouse?
36:06
What are you doing? To like.
36:08
You know. I want to say Renew, and I
36:12
forget which book it is. I saw you off the top of my
36:17
head. I remember the name of it, but
36:20
man, I'll just share. That was really, really good.
36:26
Love, dare that's. What it was the love dare?
36:30
Y'all haven't done that one. Love Dare is really good and
36:36
that is just really kind of stretching you out of your
36:40
comfort zone. So that's kind of.
36:44
Like getting back to what that Lady said last night, we have to
36:48
stretch ourselves out of our comfort zone.
36:51
I've never, I have never refabbed an RV before.
36:55
I have done demo at the color police station.
37:00
I've done demo at a hospital. Yes, I own a used to own a
37:03
construction company. I told you I can I I built a
37:08
closet upstairs. Cody helped me.
37:12
We built the closet. The only thing I had to hire a
37:14
contractor for was to spray the splatter stuff on there and and
37:22
because of the height of it I I paid him to paint.
37:26
I'm very careful. About how much I think I'm
37:29
having to, you know, count on somebody else to do things
37:32
because I trust what I can do. I have a lot of confidence in
37:39
myself and what I can do. But we try to.
37:43
I think as a society we have tried to, well, let me hire
37:49
somebody else to do that. Let me hire.
37:51
And then we get disappointed because we get poor service.
37:55
We put an investment in somebody else to do something that we
38:01
chose to not do. Why are we lazy?
38:05
We. Do we?
38:08
Have we? Become so complacent to think
38:12
that we can't stretch our boundaries and try something
38:17
new. So that's why it's so important
38:19
to go back to what this lady was talking about, the mindset of
38:23
being disappointed versus a divine appointment.
38:26
Sometimes that divine appointment's going to be with
38:29
yourself and you're going to have the confidence and say,
38:30
yeah, well, I can man. What I did, You know, what is
38:36
it? I have.
38:37
Yeah. The the mass of Nuttin Ultra
38:40
tracks. That was kind of a.
38:43
Divine appointment too I. I knew that it.
38:47
Was a it was a hike, but I wasn't anticipating that kind of
38:53
hike. That was like I, I think I
38:55
almost bit off more than I can chew, but guess what?
38:59
I chewed it. I did it, and I'm telling you
39:02
that giving you affirmation for that, that you can do it too.
39:07
I mean, look at what Joel's doing here.
39:10
Look at what I'm doing here. I mean, we can do more than what
39:16
we give ourselves credit for. We did it in the military and I
39:20
get it. We have physical challenges.
39:24
All right, Well, adjust fire. You know, one of the things that
39:28
I did when I came back from the VA Golden Age games, I had an
39:33
appointment scheduled with my primary care.
39:36
I told her what I wanted to do. I and I talked about this last
39:42
week, You know, I'm going to drop the bowling.
39:44
I like to bowl. But I, I, I, I know the physical
39:50
side of me says that's not the right sport for me to continue.
39:56
So I'm still practicing the archery and looking forward to
40:00
some competition for that. I, you know, joined, joined the
40:04
National Archery Association. And let's see, I, I'm still
40:11
gonna do the golfing. I gotta, it's too hot to golf
40:15
right now. Sorry, it's just too hot to
40:18
golf. But I will get back out on the
40:21
range in the fall. It just got to cool off a little
40:25
bit. You know, if you're not out
40:27
there by 6/30, 7:00 in the morning here in Texas, give it
40:32
up. It's not going to happen in
40:34
Texas. Way too hot.
40:37
So those are the my main 2 sports.
40:40
But then when I mentioned getting the referral from my
40:45
primary care inside the little, you know, medical database
40:52
thing, wherever they have their, all their referral places that
40:56
they can do referrals for ortho pain management, eyes, whatever.
41:01
There's a section for adaptive sports.
41:05
And because I saw it on the screen and I saw that the
41:10
acronym in VGAG, that's the national veterans Golden Age
41:14
games. That's the acronym.
41:17
And I was like, that's it, that's it.
41:19
I need the referral to adaptive sports because I know that the
41:25
other option for me is to ride a bicycle.
41:29
So why a recumbent bicycle is what I need?
41:33
I have debris in my knee. I have 3 screws.
41:37
In each knee and a knee replacement on my right.
41:44
So I don't know what's. Happening with my left knee.
41:46
I've kind of talked about this before, you know, having this
41:49
extra debris in there. And so I can't kneel, which I'm
41:55
Catholic, so not kneeling is not good.
41:57
You know, you sit on the edge of the bench is the best I can do
42:02
and that's kind of a little frustrating.
42:04
But I also had to switch sides on my bed, which I'm OK with.
42:09
It's, it's closer to the door. So that's all right.
42:12
I'm just used to getting on the right instead of on the left.
42:14
But but when we went to the water park and I had to climb
42:20
the steps up for, you know, the water slides, my knee froze.
42:27
That was kind of a little scary because I haven't had it freeze
42:31
like that. It locked.
42:33
And that's really the right term.
42:34
It locked. So, you know, I, I'm kind of a
42:39
little frustrated. You know, I understand and
42:42
manage my own expectations about, you know, what do I do?
42:47
I love hiking, but I until I get my knees figured out, especially
42:54
this left knee, I'm having to manage my own expectation and
42:59
not be disappointed. I don't want to be disappointed
43:03
that I can't hike. So in.
43:09
My brain I'm making a conscious shift into we're coming bicycle.
43:19
Then what's the other part about why we're coming?
43:21
Bicycle Eva? Well, if y'all have.
43:24
Seen my other video I play sometimes, the intro video about
43:29
the car wreck that happened on my 22nd birthday.
43:34
I had three pelvic fractures from that accident.
43:39
Yeah, 3 pelvic fractures. And ever since then, sitting on
43:46
a normal bicycle is something that hurts.
43:49
I have tried different seeds, I've tried different gel covers,
43:54
different sizes of seeds. It doesn't matter.
43:58
It's just no, it's that's not good for me that and you know,
44:03
with all the back issues and stuff that I have as well,
44:08
recumbent bike is going to be the thing.
44:10
So I'm kind of looking, I'm really looking forward to
44:14
exploring this new thing that is going to align.
44:17
So if I have to have the knee surgery to get the debris out,
44:23
you know, I have something that I can do therapy on and I can
44:27
feel like I'm moving because I'm not one for sitting at home and
44:33
twiddling my thumbs. I, I can get plenty of things
44:36
done here, believe me. But I'm all about motion.
44:40
I'm all about where am I going to go?
44:43
What are we going to do? So, you know, I'm, I refuse to
44:49
be disappointed. I look for those divine
44:53
appointments because guess what? You can't have a divine
44:55
appointment if you're sitting at home twiddling your thumbs,
44:59
right? Don't you want the opportunity
45:02
for the divine appointment? And that's what that Lady was
45:05
last night. I, I, I, you know, with shared
45:08
information. She goes, I'm gonna, I'm gonna
45:10
look out for you. I'm gonna contact you.
45:12
Believe me, so you know, it's I love when there are those events
45:22
and I know that I'm I'm at the right place at the right time.
45:27
God put me at the right place at the right time, and that's just
45:34
that's just beautiful. I I challenge you look for those
45:38
moments and just feel that warmth and know what's the right
45:44
place at the right time. Thank you.
45:47
That's a little gift from God, right, that's a little gift and
45:50
just say all right, I got this you know I got this you have
45:56
that confirmation and everything's gonna be fine.
45:59
So what's what's looking up in the future, man y'all got I'm so
46:06
I have a jam packed let's see August I'm gonna start covering
46:12
this. I gotta got to help you guys
46:14
out. So I have Keani Washington.
46:20
She's got we had a great conversation a couple weeks ago.
46:26
So she's going to join me on the 8th.
46:28
Happy birthday to her. I think it's her son today.
46:31
So happy, happy birthday to Keani's son.
46:37
But she's going to join us next Saturday and talk about small
46:42
business and how she's motivated as a veteran business owner to
46:46
do stuff. And then the following on the
46:53
15th. So I'm actually going to be
46:56
camping with my kids with Carrie, Cole and Azure.
47:00
I get to be Nana for the weekend.
47:03
That will be a pre recorded show with an old army buddy of mine.
47:10
So he's a Jag attorney. Well, he was a Jag attorney now
47:13
he's retired. But so Rick Rousseau going to
47:18
talk about claims and I will put more spiel out about him.
47:25
And I have been inviting all kinds of people to join on the
47:29
show. So, you know, hopefully we can
47:32
confirm the dates on the 22nd and the 29th.
47:37
But now let's see. I think I'm going to have to.
47:40
I think I'm about to drive back to the East Coast.
47:43
Dad. Yeah, I I probably will go
47:47
ahead. And I don't know if I'll bring
47:48
the trailer. I don't know.
47:52
I might. I might.
47:53
I'm thinking about it, but my good friend, why am I brain
47:59
cramping on on his name rally for bets and I'm trying to get
48:05
Jose. We're going to broadcast live.
48:09
At least I will. Hopefully Jose can too.
48:12
We're going to broadcast live from Dominion Raceway in
48:18
Virginia. Commentate.
48:21
We're I've already talked with Joel yesterday about how we can
48:25
get the screens and we're going to commentate the race and it is
48:30
going to be, it's a race guys, it's a race.
48:34
So it'll be fun. There's different classes of the
48:37
vehicles and all right, which branch is going to win is space
48:43
for. So the Coasties going to show
48:44
up. I don't know.
48:46
We'll see, We'll see. I think the Marines won it last
48:52
year. Maybe I have to bring some
48:56
crayons for y'all. I don't know.
48:58
We'll keep you in good spirits with some crayons.
49:01
But Army's really representing on the on the race.
49:06
So I was watching. Where did I find?
49:11
If I can get back over to Facebook, I can go look and see
49:15
what the count is. We go look, go look now help me
49:23
find rally for vets. That's what I'm looking for.
49:29
Where is the darn Sir? There it is Rally for vets.
49:35
So, and once you sign up guys, there is a group for that so you
49:42
can get, you know, all of the info on on you know, what the
49:51
expectations are. Let me go ahead and share a
49:53
screen on my Facebook so you can see for yourself.
49:58
Rally for Vets. Here's the cat.
50:02
Guys. If I can make that.
50:05
Bigger. I can't even see that.
50:10
I don't know. Wow.
50:15
It is what it is. So Air Force right now y'all
50:20
only got 3 representing army has 14 told you Army has the most
50:26
sign ups? This is as of July 28th.
50:30
Marine Corps has seven signed up.
50:32
Navy has three. Coasties have two.
50:36
No space force, no space force I'm going to copy the link for
50:42
you guys and I'm going to drop it in the chat.
50:48
So if y'all want to join you know if y'all haven't, if you've
50:55
never heard of them, let me tell you about Raleigh for vets.
50:58
So their mission we should be able to see.
51:02
Oh man, here we go. So.
51:09
Yeah, he, oh, he's even. Look at you, Montana.
51:15
He was visiting in Montana and they put him on the local news.
51:22
There you go. And we had so much fun last
51:27
year. Lots of fun.
51:30
I got to y'all, if y'all missed it, I, I told you I, I got to
51:36
race in the car in the Miata last year.
51:40
That was so much fun. Y'all know I love adrenaline.
51:45
I, I didn't know I was so much into adrenaline junkie stuff and
51:51
until the last few years and that this is one of those things
51:54
that I enjoy. But yeah, lots of great
52:02
pictures. So why do they do this?
52:04
There is a charity that they have partnered with.
52:08
Rally for Vets has partnered with a charity and they help
52:12
raise the dogs, you know, good service dogs for our veterans.
52:19
And, you know, that's a really important mission.
52:23
There you go. See, they have, you know, who
52:29
was that there? Yeah.
52:31
There we go. I think some of these are the
52:32
pictures that I took last year. But there you go.
52:37
They race for something bigger. And it's about the, you know,
52:42
service dogs and great organizations, great
52:47
partnership. The camaraderie out there is
52:50
really good, everybody helping each other, and I can't wait to
52:57
be back out there and support this organization.
53:02
But I think it's just going to be so much fun to, you know, to
53:06
commentate this. And so I'm just letting you
53:11
racers know y'all need to make sure that you are putting your
53:16
little mini bio together that I can share.
53:21
Jose and I are going to want to, you know, interview you if
53:24
you're willing. Hopefully you will and we can
53:30
talk about the great things about any of the other
53:33
organizations that are out there supporting the cause.
53:38
You know, last year it was a 2 day race, so apparently it's a
53:41
one day race this year. So you have to get that practice
53:46
in street cars are a bit were authorized.
53:50
You have to make sure you have all of the right safety
53:53
features. I am not trying to be your
53:56
safety expert by any means, but I know that you have to have a
54:01
helmet for sure. You have to have, you know, a
54:05
good racing helmet. They're not too terribly
54:09
expensive, but you got to have one.
54:13
Cannot race trucks. I asked.
54:18
I asked so. But you can race your streetcar.
54:22
I don't know if they have other requirements about the extra
54:26
safety harness and stuff like that.
54:29
I told you I'm not the safety guru on it, but you might have a
54:33
divine appointment. Just saying it's worth a try.
54:36
Go out there. But it was a lot of fun.
54:39
I grew up racing, my dad raced jeeps off road.
54:45
So I why do y'all think I know how to do a lot of this stuff?
54:51
Construction stuff, fixing cars. I can do that stuff too.
54:55
Dad taught me right. Learned a lot in the military as
55:00
well in the Army. You know, man, I was not afraid
55:02
getting out there and mowed a pool and getting, getting greasy
55:05
and dirty and packing some grease in the wheels.
55:08
I did that no problem. Change the I remember one time
55:13
in the Army, we had to, I was driving the Humvee.
55:16
I was the colonel's driver. Guess who had to work on the
55:19
Colonel's Humvee? Me, we had to take the tires off
55:25
and put them on the wheels 'cause they were putting, sorry,
55:28
we had to take the old tires off.
55:31
They were trained changing, you know, tread types and put the
55:36
new ones on. That was.
55:40
They. Didn't know how to do that.
55:42
I kind of knew how to do that, but it's kind of funny.
55:47
It was kind of funny. I knew exactly how to work work
55:50
that iron and work it around the wheel.
55:55
Don't ever. Underestimate me.
55:57
I'm just saying don't underestimate me.
56:00
God's given me a lot. Of gifts, so you know.
56:05
So what else? Let's see the night, the 19th,
56:12
yeah, the 19th, I'll be in San Antonio.
56:15
So if you're in the San Antonio area, veterans, I'll probably
56:20
sharing out some information about it.
56:23
There is going to be an event out at Saint Mary's.
56:27
So I'll be volunteering out there because I'm the vice chair
56:31
for HUD Veterans Affinity Group and we are hosting an event.
56:35
Well, we're not hosting it. We're helping support an event
56:38
for foster youth and at the college.
56:42
And I think the ROTC, we're trying to get the ROTC out
56:46
there. JROTC do the color guard and do
56:50
all of that and then I plan on being in an archery competition
56:56
here back home on the 20th, which is a Sunday and that
57:01
following weekend have to see if I that's when I can.
57:07
Nope, I. Am traveling to Wyoming on the
57:11
26th. I don't know, maybe I'll do a
57:12
show on the road. September is going to be busy,
57:17
busy, busy because I'm going antelope hunting.
57:22
So anywho, life is life is lifing, Life is busy.
57:28
And I'm still doing all of my same nerdy stuff.
57:32
You know, Cody was out there helping me today on the RV and
57:36
he goes, You always got some kind of project, don't you?
57:40
Yeah, I do. But you know what?
57:43
And I don't mind as a devil's playground.
57:47
And I'm going to close. It with this an idol?
57:49
Mine is a devil's playground. You can sit at.
57:53
Home and you can twiddle your thumbs and you can think that
57:58
everything is what was me. That everything is.
58:08
You know, it's all. Somebody else's fault.
58:11
Or you can. Take control can take control
58:15
and you can get up and you can move and you can go find your
58:19
own divine appointment and it's going to happen for you, I
58:25
assure you. So anyways, hope you all have a
58:30
fantastic week. Join us Monday on the Revivalist
58:34
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