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Focus on Yourself, Not Others: Key Insights for Unstoppable Personal Growth · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: You can't is not an option. It's either I will
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  Speaker 1: or I won't. I can, I know I can, but
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  Speaker 1: I will or I won't. You know, And that's the thing.
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  Speaker 1: And in some cases you may try your hardest and
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  Speaker 1: you just don't win, or you don't pass the test,
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  Speaker 1: or you don't succeed. That's part of life understanding. It's
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  Speaker 1: gonna take hard work, discipline, and learning how to work
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  Speaker 1: with other people in order to get to the next level.
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  Speaker 1: The first rule is to love and respect everybody you
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  Speaker 1: come in contact with. You're not gonna agree with them,
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  Speaker 1: you're not gonna even like them on some occasions, but
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  Speaker 1: you love them and you respect them. Number two is
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  Speaker 1: to be your best. You know, if your best is
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  Speaker 1: a C on the test, even if it's D or
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  Speaker 1: F on the test, I will you know. You can
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  Speaker 1: never be disappointed if you know you gave it your all.
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  Speaker 1: And then you know. Number three is we don't use
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  Speaker 1: the word can't. You know it's not in our vocabulary.
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  Speaker 1: I was told my entire life, you'll never do that.
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  Speaker 1: You'll never do that. You can't do that, You're impossible
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  Speaker 1: for you to do that. When you tell somebody what
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  Speaker 1: they can't do, for some people that drives them, you know,
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  Speaker 1: because you're not gonna tell me what I can or
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  Speaker 1: cannot do. Uh. But for other people, when you tell
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  Speaker 1: them all you'll never be able to do that like that,
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  Speaker 1: that could be the breaking straw, you know, and in
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  Speaker 1: that in that back for that person, that's their spirit
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  Speaker 1: to actually go out and succeed. So I never tell
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  Speaker 1: my kids. If they come to me and they may
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  Speaker 1: have the most outrageous idea, I say, all right, cool,
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  Speaker 1: let's figure out how we're gonna do it. I'll never say,
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  Speaker 1: oh man, you can't do that. We ain't doing that.
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  Speaker 1: As a work ethic, you gotta be passionate about whatever
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  Speaker 1: it is that you're gonna do, whether it be you know,
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  Speaker 1: an artist, entertainer, sports, bigger, political, like whatever it is
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  Speaker 1: that you decided to do in life. You have to
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  Speaker 1: have an ex extreme work ethic. You gotta be willing
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  Speaker 1: to do stuff that other people aren't willing to do.
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  Speaker 1: You have to have respect. The first thing I taught
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  Speaker 1: my kids when they can understand it, was how to
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  Speaker 1: shake somebody's hand. If your if your agenda is to
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  Speaker 1: help make an impact on people's lives, and it shouldn't
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  Speaker 1: matter if your name's at the top of the banner.
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  Speaker 1: It shouldn't matter if you know your your gifts have
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  Speaker 1: certain uh name tags or whatever however you want to
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  Speaker 1: do it. I'm super competitive, so nobody's gonna tell me
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  Speaker 1: what I can't do. I mean, somebody don't even I
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  Speaker 1: can't sing, But don't tell me I can't sing. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you my best singing possible. It's not
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  Speaker 1: that I can't sing, it's just I don't sing well.
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  Speaker 1: But you know what I'm saying. So it's like for me,
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  Speaker 1: I always had a drive to like, not prove people wrong,
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  Speaker 1: but to prove God's right. You know. God said that
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  Speaker 1: he has great plans for me. So my grandmother passed
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  Speaker 1: away from breast cancer in nineteen ninety five. I was
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  Speaker 1: going to the hospice. The woman that was her roommate,
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  Speaker 1: per Se, was very She was from the South, you know,
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  Speaker 1: and she was very racist. You know. Every time I
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  Speaker 1: come in the room, she'd say, oh, that goes at
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  Speaker 1: that boy. I had to do everything I could she
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  Speaker 1: You know, I knew I had grown because I didn't
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  Speaker 1: respond the way I probably should have really responded had
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  Speaker 1: she caught me. A couple of years earlier. But uh,
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  Speaker 1: you know my grandmother. After a few weeks, my grandmother,
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  Speaker 1: you know, she reached over and pulled grab my arm
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  Speaker 1: and she was like, you know, if I, if I,
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  Speaker 1: if I have happened to die before she does, I
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  Speaker 1: want you to come back and see her. And I'm like, no,
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  Speaker 1: it's just not my grandmother talking right now. And so,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I ended up happening, like three weeks after
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  Speaker 1: my grandmother said that, my grandmother passed away. And so
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  Speaker 1: my grandmother I saw something at the time that I
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  Speaker 1: didn't really understand why she was doing it. But I
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  Speaker 1: went back and I go into this room and the
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  Speaker 1: ladies like it's just like most sits up on her
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  Speaker 1: seat and she's just starts bawling, crying and this is
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  Speaker 1: the racist lady. Yes, And then she was like, I'm
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  Speaker 1: I'm so glad I got a chance to see you again.
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  Speaker 1: I loughd I'll never see you again. You know, I
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  Speaker 1: apologize for how I treated you. You know, I've gone
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  Speaker 1: to church. I've done so many things. You know, in church,
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  Speaker 1: I've served the homeless, et cetera, et cetera. But I
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  Speaker 1: did I wasn't doing the one thing that I know
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  Speaker 1: that God would have approved of the most and that's
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  Speaker 1: loving his people. And then she h she asked me
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  Speaker 1: if I can give her a hug, and I said,
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  Speaker 1: in my ted talk, you know, I was a little
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  Speaker 1: apprehensive about doing that because she she could have you know,
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  Speaker 1: shanked me or something like that on the side, but
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  Speaker 1: you know, I hugged her. And when I hugged her,
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  Speaker 1: she said, you're You're like the son that I never had.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm going, okay, I never understand. I didn't understand
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  Speaker 1: it at the time. I'm walking out, and then uh,
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  Speaker 1: the ladies say, you know, the ladies up front, they
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  Speaker 1: were like, that was so beautiful the witness because you know,
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  Speaker 1: essentially the reason why she had so much anger towards
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  Speaker 1: you was because she kind of got dropped off, which
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  Speaker 1: happens a lot in nursing homes or you know, care centers.
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  Speaker 1: The family dropped her off. And she has two daughters,
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  Speaker 1: and the daughters just couldn't handle the uh seeing their
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  Speaker 1: you know, their mom in that position. And uh, my
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  Speaker 1: grandmother saw that before I would have ever saw it.
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  Speaker 1: She just saw, you know, an opportunity for even the
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  Speaker 1: the hardest of hearts, uh to be changed, even in
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  Speaker 1: their dying days. If you can have impact on somebody
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  Speaker 1: that you know that way, then just imagine what's going
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  Speaker 1: to happen when you do that to a complete stranger.
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  Speaker 1: And it may not be I love you and I
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  Speaker 1: believe in you. It may be the action of sewing
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  Speaker 1: me you're worthy of nice clothes or nice pair of shoes,
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  Speaker 1: or you're worthy of You're worthy of being able to
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  Speaker 1: go and enjoy a movie. You know, in college, the
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  Speaker 1: more successful people at the one most of the time,
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  Speaker 1: the people that are more well rounded. You kind of
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  Speaker 1: have an appreciation for what other people do and whatever
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  Speaker 1: the people are going through. But you can be inspired
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  Speaker 1: on any given moment, any given day just talking to people.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't get any easier. You just get stronger. If
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  Speaker 2: you want to change, don't expect your life to stay
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  Speaker 2: the same. Expect it to get harder. Expect it to
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  Speaker 2: actually get really, really tough, tougher than you can even
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  Speaker 2: imagine right now. And this is where you can move
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  Speaker 2: past the boundaries that used to hold you back, used
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  Speaker 2: to hold you by the neck. Now you can move
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  Speaker 2: towards the fulfillment that's your future. And this you see, this,
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  Speaker 2: this is where you can finally feel the satisfaction of
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  Speaker 2: your work. This is when you finally get to feel
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  Speaker 2: that success. Now is the time for you to step up,
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  Speaker 2: stand out, and become the person you need to become.
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  Speaker 2: Your future is in your hands, and this is what
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  Speaker 2: sets your life up to be worth the potential that
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  Speaker 2: you deserve. Your power is and always has been, the
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  Speaker 2: thing that's gonna take you towards the life that you
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  Speaker 2: have earned. Don't fail yourself. Perseverance is the aspect that
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  Speaker 2: takes you towards the future. Worthy of your strength, worthy
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  Speaker 2: of your progress. So take pride in that. More than
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  Speaker 2: anything you have and you always will have this. This
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  Speaker 2: potential to improve, this potential to adapt, and this potential
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  Speaker 2: to change. This is what you've been working for. Go
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  Speaker 2: on and receive that one mistake shouldn't hold you back
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  Speaker 2: for more than one day. The rise is the most
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  Speaker 2: important part of your progress. The rise makes your future
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  Speaker 2: something different. It makes you you, makes you strong, and
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  Speaker 2: the intelligence of that takes you to a power worth
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  Speaker 2: your future and value this. This moment of pain is
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  Speaker 2: not going to last forever unless you let it last forever.
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  Speaker 2: You don't need this, so let it happen. Change your perspective,
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  Speaker 2: change your mindset to something, always willing to grow, always
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  Speaker 2: willing to take courage. Make this who you are and
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  Speaker 2: make this worthwhile. This power that you have is valuable
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  Speaker 2: because your future is valuable and your potential is valuable.
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  Speaker 2: You're more than you could ever imagine. Man, your power
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  Speaker 2: is stronger than you could ever imagine. This progress. It's
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  Speaker 2: going to take time, but this opening to work, this
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  Speaker 2: opening that you have in this moment, it's not always open.
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  Speaker 2: So take it, Take it right now, Take it now
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  Speaker 2: before it's too late. You're more than your last minute.
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  Speaker 2: You're more than your last minute. You're more than your
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  Speaker 2: last mistake. Get prepared for the success, Get prepared for
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  Speaker 2: the progress. You can make this you make this power yours,
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  Speaker 2: yours to keep forever, because this is what you're gonna
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  Speaker 2: leave behind. This is what your legacy is made up of.
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  Speaker 2: The moments when you get knocked down but rise up
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  Speaker 2: over and over again. These are the building blocks of
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  Speaker 2: the legacy that you're constructing. These moments when you push
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  Speaker 2: forward and rise up over and over again, and that
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  Speaker 2: is what brings you to the place where you thrive,
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  Speaker 2: the place where you thrive and become better.
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  Speaker 1: People. Gave to me and my family and my mom
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  Speaker 1: and other kids in my situation when they had nothing
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  Speaker 1: to gain in return. And that's character, you know, when
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  Speaker 1: you can give someone something and do something for somebody
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  Speaker 1: and it's really not about you, it's really about helping
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  Speaker 1: them and you're not expecting anything return, right, you have
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  Speaker 1: to set the precedence of like being authentic. You know,
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  Speaker 1: we live in a very you know, inauthentic world where
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  Speaker 1: we don't do nearly much as we could do if
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  Speaker 1: we didn't have an agenda. I don't have an agenda,
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  Speaker 1: you know. My only agenda is to literally change everybody's
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  Speaker 1: life that I could possibly change in one way or another.
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  Speaker 1: Being authentic and being me has has literally changed my
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  Speaker 1: whole life because people are really starving for truth