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What's Up With The YN's · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion
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  Speaker 1: to talks back.
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  Speaker 3: What's up, y'all, it's your co hosts a j holiday.
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  Speaker 3: What's up?
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  Speaker 1: Big Tam Bam, y'all is me Tam Vam. I love
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  Speaker 1: y'all so fucking much, man.
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  Speaker 3: While y'all yelling at them, it's love y'ell, god, Jam,
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  Speaker 3: it's got a lot of hell.
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  Speaker 1: I feel so fucking good right now, man, I feel good.
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  Speaker 1: How are you doing?
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  Speaker 3: Tired, sleepy? It's Monday. I'm trying not to hate Mondays
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  Speaker 3: all over again in life. I think I'm doing a
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  Speaker 3: pretty good job. But I'm really really trying hate Monday,
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  Speaker 3: trying not to hate Mondays. Man. But other than that,
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  Speaker 3: I had a pretty good weekend. What you do nothing,
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  Speaker 3: breathe that. I went over to my one of my
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  Speaker 3: friend's house, the one who's having a baby, la Quandra.
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  Speaker 3: She's doing any day now child. So we went over
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  Speaker 3: there and helped her unpack all her baby stuff and
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  Speaker 3: put stuff up, and I sanitize out her baby bottles. Bitch,
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  Speaker 3: I feel like I'm having a whole baby, Okay, I
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  Speaker 3: cannot wait for this dude to touch down Little Cameron.
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  Speaker 3: So we helped her do all her stuff this weekend,
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  Speaker 3: and shit, I was exhausted from that girl. She got
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  Speaker 3: about eight hours of work out of me.
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  Speaker 1: Well she Saturday around her.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, So the Aunties is four of us. Apparently someone
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  Speaker 3: sent out in the group chat last week, like, let
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  Speaker 3: me read it to y'all. It's so sweet. Okay, I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: how fuck do you like? She is so lucky right
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  Speaker 3: when people be feeling like shit is not like you.
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  Speaker 3: You always have like some good ass people, right. So
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  Speaker 3: one of our friends, Shiuanna sha Wanna, put out the
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  Speaker 3: auntie's chat and it's like a whole and I turned
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  Speaker 3: it into like an apple note so we can all
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  Speaker 3: revisit it. But like task for each one of us
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  Speaker 3: to do, and what dates? So meal drop offs, you
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  Speaker 3: know when she first had the baby, meal drops off
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  Speaker 3: drop offs, lighthouse cleaning, grocery run, baby holding, snuggle time
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  Speaker 3: mom mom, not break, laundry, help, sibling playtime if any
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  Speaker 3: that would not apply to me, And I'm pretty sure
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  Speaker 3: she don't want dash over there, and then anything else
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  Speaker 3: we could think of. Isn't that so nice?
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  Speaker 1: That is so thoughtful there is, and I think more
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  Speaker 1: women wish they had people who was like making a
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  Speaker 1: schedule for their baby.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so we're gonna fill out this this calendar of
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  Speaker 3: events and make sure we help our friend out. Yeah, dude,
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  Speaker 3: at least the first month child, so she can get
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  Speaker 3: acclimated because we old mama's out here. Man, forty mamas.
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  Speaker 3: But you had going on this weekend, you know what.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so locked in with this seventy five heart. Mm hm.
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  Speaker 1: All I did was work out. I mean on Easter Sunday,
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  Speaker 1: I did not get up and go to church, but
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  Speaker 1: I did get up and go to the lake and
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  Speaker 1: I worked, walked four miles around the lake, and I
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  Speaker 1: listened to church as I was experiencing the earth. I
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  Speaker 1: thought that was good, you know. So I did that
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  Speaker 1: Sunday morning. And then after I finished listening to church
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  Speaker 1: and getting my work with my walk on, I came
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  Speaker 1: home and I laid out on the grass and smoked
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  Speaker 1: the joint because it was also four twenty, so I
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  Speaker 1: celebrated everything.
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  Speaker 3: I know a post that said I don't know who's
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  Speaker 3: gonna be higher this Sunday, Me or Jesus. It was
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  Speaker 3: the most high. So you participated in all the things
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  Speaker 3: this past weekend.
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  Speaker 1: So y'all lift me up in prayer because trying to travel.
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  Speaker 1: I haven't been traveling, you know this because class has
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  Speaker 1: been over for two weeks now, and and I'm about
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  Speaker 1: to travel again starting tomorrow. I gotta go to Philly,
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  Speaker 1: then back to New York, then Atlanta all in one week,
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  Speaker 1: and do to workouts today. So y'all keep me perried
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  Speaker 1: up because I don't know if I'm gonna be able
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  Speaker 1: to make it, but I'm gonna try my best. I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna so I thought about going to the airport early
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  Speaker 1: and walking on the you know, the little roller walkway,
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  Speaker 1: the little it'd be flat, but it's like a it's
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  Speaker 1: like an escalator, but it's flat. M h. I thought
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  Speaker 1: about getting on that and walking backwards on it. But
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  Speaker 1: how is that?
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  Speaker 3: That's just getting you to the other side faster. It's
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  Speaker 3: not like a real workout.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I'm talking about walking the opposite the opposite
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  Speaker 1: direction on it for forty five minutes in the morning.
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  Speaker 3: That is a treadmill. Yeah, that is a treadmill. You'll
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  Speaker 3: look stupid, but try it, Like what fuck?
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  Speaker 1: I gotta get my forty five minuteses some kind of way.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, that's it. I ain't do shit but work
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  Speaker 1: out and drink water, and bee is.
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  Speaker 3: Always the thing that's on the forefront of your mind
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  Speaker 3: every fucking day.
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  Speaker 1: I'm being bad.
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  Speaker 3: I gotta lose weight, I gotta stop beating, I gotta,
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  Speaker 3: I gotta. It's just it just clouds my judgment about
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  Speaker 3: everything else in life, because I just feel like I
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  Speaker 3: gotta do that first.
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  Speaker 1: Everything else all in line behind that exactly.
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  Speaker 3: But like then, when you do the workout, you feel
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  Speaker 3: like accomplished for the whole day, like I gotta do
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  Speaker 3: nothing else today.
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  Speaker 1: I've done all that God needed me to do today.
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  Speaker 3: No, but for real, Once you like conquer the diet man,
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  Speaker 3: everything else in life gets easier.
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  Speaker 1: I do feel like after this fifteen days, I do
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  Speaker 1: feel like I have like a new level of clarity
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  Speaker 1: going on. I feel very happy. I have so much
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  Speaker 1: joy right now. I think it's the endorphins that are
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  Speaker 1: flowing because all the exercising, So I can't complain. I
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  Speaker 1: won't complain. I'm in a good space.
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  Speaker 3: Nicely, that's what matters the most. Shit fuck that the
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  Speaker 3: mental I mean the physical workout, that mental workout to
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  Speaker 3: kick your ass too. So if you're feeling good mentally, man,
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  Speaker 3: that's that's really what matters a man. How y'all feeling
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  Speaker 3: mentally y'all good, y'all, nigga's good outdea. Let us know right,
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  Speaker 3: we care absolutely, So let's get in a let's get
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  Speaker 3: in a stupid internet news y'all.
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  Speaker 1: Let's go.
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  Speaker 3: So Shannon Sharp, Uh, he's facing a fifty million dollar
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  Speaker 3: lawsuit over an alleged sexual assault accusation. Basically, but it
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  Speaker 3: says the Hall of Fame tight end. Shannon Sharp made
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  Speaker 3: headlines last week in connection with this pursuit of a
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  Speaker 3: nine figure podcast deal. This week, he's facing an eight
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  Speaker 3: figure lawsuit Sharp pursuit on Sunday by a woman proceeding
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  Speaker 3: under the Jane Doe suit and him. The thirteen page
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  Speaker 3: civil complaint filed in Nevada State Court alleged that Sharp
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  Speaker 3: committed assault, sexual assault, battery, and sexual battery, and that
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  Speaker 3: he engaged in the intentional inflection of emotional distress. The
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  Speaker 3: planet claims that they embarked on a rocky, consensual relationship
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  Speaker 3: that lasted nearly two years. The complaint alleges that Sharp
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  Speaker 3: recorded their sexual activities. Well, we know he court, this
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  Speaker 3: accidentally accidentally went live last year and all y'all won't
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  Speaker 3: forget that ship. And I'm not saying like he sexually
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  Speaker 3: assaulted anybody, but anyway, something without her knowledge. So basically,
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  Speaker 3: he's recorded some shit without her knowledge, and that he
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  Speaker 3: was sharing the videos with others without her permission or knowledge.
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  Speaker 3: The complaint contends that it was another woman, not the
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  Speaker 3: plane of with whom Sharp was having sex with. He
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  Speaker 3: accidentally livestreamed the encounter on Instagram. Okay, so she's saying
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  Speaker 3: it wasn't her for the Instagram post, but this is
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  Speaker 3: something prior to that. Very interesting though.
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  Speaker 1: See, I don't be one like when someone says they've
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  Speaker 1: been sexually assaulted, my instinct is to believe them. But however, comma,
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  Speaker 1: lately it does seem like a you know, a money
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  Speaker 1: grab oftentimes, you know, so it's just the same attorneys, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and it makes it difficult to trust that everybody is
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  Speaker 1: being just you know. So I think he doesn't strike
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  Speaker 1: me as the type that needs to or wants to
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  Speaker 1: take pussy, you know, don't strike me as that type.
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  Speaker 1: But you never know, you know, you never know, what
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  Speaker 1: do I know? You know?
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  Speaker 3: But it isn't consent on this show, and you know,
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  Speaker 3: this person is saying that she was in a two
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  Speaker 3: year relationship with him, and sometimes he consent within a
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  Speaker 3: relationship could look kind of weird, you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 3: People may not cons like me not wanting to have
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  Speaker 3: sex and in your boyfriend, like forcing you to kind
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  Speaker 3: of have sex like that can be considered a problem,
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  Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. And I think it probably
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  Speaker 3: happens to women in relationships. They just don't speak on
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  Speaker 3: it because this is my boyfriend, right thing, So it
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  Speaker 3: could be that she's reflecting and now she may feel like,
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  Speaker 3: you know, I was uncomfortable in that situation. Let's see,
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  Speaker 3: you know. But yeah, it's the same attorneys that's always
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  Speaker 3: on these lawsuits and after the me Too movement, And
• 10:34
  Speaker 3: I know y'all probably can't stand CANi Owns, Okay, but
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  Speaker 3: I do watch Candice Owns. But she's been doing a
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  Speaker 3: special on Harvey Weinstein as of lately and actually reading
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  Speaker 3: and looking into the lawsuit against him during that time,
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  Speaker 3: which because I think Harvey Weinstein, like his case kind
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  Speaker 3: of pretty much kicked off the me too movement. There's
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  Speaker 3: a lot of situations where I just don't think we
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  Speaker 3: should automatically believe women just because it's a woman saying
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  Speaker 3: that something happened to them. I think that's kind of dangerous.
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  Speaker 1: You know, there was a time where I would have
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  Speaker 1: been like, what woman is gonna you know, be a
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  Speaker 1: naive to people's greed and shit like that, Like, what
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  Speaker 1: woman is lying about somebody? You know, believe believe her?
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  Speaker 1: That was my energy.
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  Speaker 3: But this is the funniest thing about the Harvey Weinstein
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  Speaker 3: shit in this lawsuit. Some of it went like the
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  Speaker 3: main Jane well, they're not even Jane Doeese anymore. The
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  Speaker 3: main people who are basically like they're the ones that
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  Speaker 3: ultimately got him put behind bars. They actually a lot
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  Speaker 3: of people got they should got thrown out of court
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  Speaker 3: because they asked them to describe his penis and they couldn't.
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  Speaker 3: So back in the nineties, the nigga had his balls
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  Speaker 3: taken off because he had gang green. So if they
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  Speaker 3: describing a penis with balls, they would be lying. So
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  Speaker 3: a lot of women.
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  Speaker 1: I was about to do it, but I'm sorry do it.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god.
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  Speaker 3: It was short and it was shaped like a funnel.
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  Speaker 1: The balls were very long.
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  Speaker 3: And you would be lying if you were talking about
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  Speaker 3: Harvey Weinstein exactly, you don't have none exactly. So it
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  Speaker 3: was a lot of situations like this ship is you
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  Speaker 3: know what that made me bigger? It's like funny, but
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  Speaker 3: I love those I would make a joke out of everything.
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  Speaker 1: Oh what movie was like say, I know you want
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  Speaker 1: these nuts? Were girl?
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  Speaker 3: You know you want these nuts? You said a little
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  Speaker 3: bit more, girl, you know.
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  Speaker 1: You want these nuts? What movie is that? Booty call?
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  Speaker 1: Booty Call?
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  Speaker 3: That's what he wanted to eat, that koochie with this
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  Speaker 3: ran wrap and all that ship beauty call. Hold on,
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  Speaker 3: we don't have the booty called to them, Harvey Wise,
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  Speaker 3: stay all this shit. This is about Shannon Sharp. So
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  Speaker 3: Sharp gets out of this mess season and hopefully he
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  Speaker 3: hopefully his allegations just aren't true, you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 3: And he can he can, I don't. I just hope
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  Speaker 3: he just doesn't try to put a statement out to
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  Speaker 3: try to prove himself in the court of public opinion.
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  Speaker 3: Just stay quiet, let your attorneys handle it. Maybe you
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  Speaker 3: pull a little jay Z put a load.
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  Speaker 1: What if he did it, then he needs to pray no, absolutely,
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  Speaker 1: but we'll see.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not ever interested in having someone guilty and then
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  Speaker 3: they got to prove himself innocent.
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  Speaker 1: That's right.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so everybody's uh and inside Jonathan. Yeah. And then
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  Speaker 3: you know the way they go after the civil lawsuits
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  Speaker 3: instead of calling the police when the thing actually happened
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  Speaker 3: and reported it, reporting it. That gives me. That gives
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  Speaker 3: me pause too. I'm side eying, like you want to
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  Speaker 3: do a civil lawsuit? Now twenty years later.
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  Speaker 1: Right, I still feel like I should sue Applebee's. Every
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  Speaker 1: time I hear stories like this, is it.
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  Speaker 3: Too late to say the company I should sue or
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  Speaker 3: couldn't sue for sexual erast because it was actually a
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  Speaker 3: woman at a bank and I used to work like
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  Speaker 3: customer service and she would come and put her titties
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  Speaker 3: on your back. And it wasn't until years later when
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  Speaker 3: her and another female got fired because they got caught
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  Speaker 3: having sex on the job. This lady was a lesbian
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  Speaker 3: the whole time and probably getting off.
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  Speaker 1: My girl be putting her titties on my shoulder when
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  Speaker 1: she's doing my eyebrows. But I like it.
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  Speaker 3: I did not like this white little pillows the Jennifer up.
• 14:45
  Speaker 1: This is nice. I'm tired you such a man, Uh,
• 14:54
  Speaker 1: Kevin Gates versus Lebron, So I don't know if y'all
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  Speaker 1: caught this. Kevin Gates posted a response to to Lebron's
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: James and Savannah following their previous post, seemingly reacting to
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  Speaker 1: his initial comments in which he stated he wouldn't trade
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  Speaker 1: places with the athlete because he doesn't like the way
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  Speaker 1: his wife, Savannah looks at him. And it was weird
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  Speaker 1: because why are you even commenting on that they.
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  Speaker 3: Even come from.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it was very left field for you to even
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  Speaker 1: give a fuck about Savannah how she's looking at Lebron
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  Speaker 1: and how you would you absolutely would want to trade
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  Speaker 1: places with le Bron James. Let's just be clear that
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  Speaker 1: Nigga is very rich and very successful and he can't
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  Speaker 1: have his way. But he loved his wife, so what
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  Speaker 1: and she love him? What's the shape?
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  Speaker 3: Been together for a long time, So if I'm not
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  Speaker 3: out at you with starry eyes, it's probably because, Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: we got some years of bullshit between us. Nonetheless, I
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  Speaker 3: love you. You are the father of my children. I
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  Speaker 3: wo wasn't having no other way? And what Kevin Gates
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  Speaker 3: is such a messy devo.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and then talks about like the way the white
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  Speaker 1: bitches look at him. But Lebron commented, he posted the
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  Speaker 1: pictures Savannah looking staring at him, and she's smiling and
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: she looks so happy, and he said, we don't entertain peasants. Basically,
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  Speaker 1: we're too next period, Queen, We're too next queen. Gotta
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  Speaker 1: say nothing, Yeah, because what.
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  Speaker 3: Kevin Gaz need to be checking on? Drika fine ass
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  Speaker 3: over that motherfucking farm.
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  Speaker 1: She over there eating fresh fruit and don't give her weed.
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  Speaker 3: And lingerie and looking fine. You're run here trotting around
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  Speaker 3: with Brittany Rayner. All of a sudden, she's a Muslim.
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  Speaker 1: What's going on? What is that about?
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. And I've been seeing like I hadn't
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  Speaker 3: really looked into it because I really just don't give
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  Speaker 3: a fuck.
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  Speaker 1: I can't. Yeah, I can't pay it like energy. Kevin Gates.
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  Speaker 3: I literally just googled last week to see what because
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  Speaker 3: I just knew he was an Aquarius. He's not, though,
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  Speaker 3: so I had to look up. I forgot what he
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  Speaker 3: what he was, but he's not an Aquarius, but he
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  Speaker 3: just gives Aquarius vibes for sure. Larious, I'm I'm wrong.
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  Speaker 3: The nigga isn't Aquarius. I literally, what the fuck did
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  Speaker 3: I look up? His birthday is February fifth, This nigga
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  Speaker 3: isn't Aquarius.
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  Speaker 1: What does that mean? You say that, like, I don't
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  Speaker 1: know what that means? Now? What does that mean?
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  Speaker 3: When I tell you I can see an Aquarius, all
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  Speaker 3: I need to do is hit him speak a little bit,
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  Speaker 3: and I know exactly who the fuck I'm dealing with.
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  Speaker 3: Aquarius men are very very very smart, highly intellectual people,
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  Speaker 3: and they fucking crazy at the same time, like really
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  Speaker 3: like mad scientists type crazy people, very manipulative. It's almost
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  Speaker 3: like a sickness. I can see my girl. Fu fuck
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  Speaker 3: Kevin Gates.
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  Speaker 1: I know.
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  Speaker 3: I talk about the women, y'all. I love Aquarius women,
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  Speaker 3: like my oldest sister's Aquarius, and she's one of the
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  Speaker 3: nicest people in the world. But the men are a
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  Speaker 3: different species of human. They may not even be human. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: it's something wrong with them. Niggas.
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  Speaker 1: Who is who? That's your ex.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, But I have like, anytime a woman is telling
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  Speaker 3: me about somebody, I'm like, is he an Aquarius? Any
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  Speaker 3: just based off the descriptive type of things that they
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  Speaker 3: might be going through with this person. It's all I
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: swear to either it's a query, it's a scorpio. I
• 18:15
  Speaker 3: can point them out.
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I love me a scorpio.
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: No scorpios gonna fuckh at you forever. That's why I
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: like them niggas got They definitely gonna fuck the ship
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: out of you. And they can make babies all day
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: long too. But them niggas got some ship with them too. Man,
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: they they You're gonna feel possessed fucking with a scorpio.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: We get a fucking I. This ain't on the docket,
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: but I got a third thist in there, y'all. I
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: saw Sinners over the weekend. I saw it on Thursday,
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: the first night, y'all. That Mightael b Jordan. I almost
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: forgot about him for a little while because then Jonathan
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: make me fine on film. He's so fine on film.
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: I listen. I ain't never wanted to fuck brothers. It
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: was him. It was him twice.
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: He was a twin, but we played twins in the movie.
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: He played twins in the movie.
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: Thing. Okay.
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: I can't wait to see that smoke and stack oh okay,
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: And they can smoke and stack me anytime of the day. Okay,
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: y'all go see Centers support black films.
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I can't wait to watch that movie. You're gonna
• 19:34
  Speaker 3: really enjoy I already know without even seeing the film,
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: but just seeing like the the preview and stuff like that.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: Aminos and I like watching education on TV.
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: I like watching shit. I'm gonna learn something from all
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: that confirms things. I already think. Those are the type
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: of movies I like, You're really enjoy it, Yes, And
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: I already think The Motherfuckers is real life vampires, Like
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: we think they only exist in movies. No, they do not.
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: I believe vampires really exist in real life. And then
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: you got people who just be sucking people's energy.
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm gonna say that's what I believe is vampire. Yeah,
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: those type of vampires.
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: But and maybe the movie was like a like a
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: subliminal thing like that. Yeah, all right, so I'll see it. Okay.
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: So Tracy Ellis Ross, So y'all know our previous prior
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: first lady, Michelle Obama and her brother. They have a
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: podcast called Emo. I am Oh, So, Tracy Ellis Ross
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: did a recent episode of Emo. And you know, she's
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: a fifty two year old woman, she's never been married,
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: she didn't have any children. This is Diana Ross's daughter,
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: and you know, she gets they get into a little
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: bit about you know, just being that age, being single,
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: dating date, dating younger men, all the things. So this,
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: I guess that is that on the docket for a
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: stupid Internet news and our topic this week because I
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: want to talk about that episode.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: You got ways, let's get into it. Let's let's take
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: our break and let's really deep dive into this because
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: you know, I love me and Waiian.
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: This could be our life, right all right, So we're back,
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: and yeah, we want to talk about I don't know
• 21:20
  Speaker 3: if y'all watched it, let us know if you didn't,
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: but Tracy Ellis was on in my opinion, and did.
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: You watch it, dam I did watch it. I thought
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: it was interesting, what you know, Tracy Ellis Ross had
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: to say about how men of her generation had a
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: certain level of toxic masculinity that she just could not
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: subscribe to, and that younger men were more open in
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: their thoughts about gender fluidity and homosexuality and gender roles
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: and you know, and what's going on in modern society, because.
• 21:56
  Speaker 4: I mean, we've talked about this that often I date
• 21:57
  Speaker 4: younger men and a lot of it is.
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: Because that's stop on that, folks. Oh my god, we
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: had a great dinner.
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: We had a great dinner.
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: By the ways, the table your husband goes. But why
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: and I said, well, maybe because I.
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: Can what I'm saying tales from Tracy's.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: Tale.
• 22:20
  Speaker 4: But but but one of the reasons though that because
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: I had to ask myself that question.
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: I was like, what is this about?
• 22:27
  Speaker 4: Because I want a partner and so often and it's
• 22:30
  Speaker 4: not just that I'm older.
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: I'm also very embodied.
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: I am a full, very whole person who knows myself,
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: who is in charge of my life, and who lives
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: a very full, just robust life. So it's not just age.
• 22:45
  Speaker 4: It's like life experience and sort of a difference. But
• 22:48
  Speaker 4: I had to ask myself the question, why why does
• 22:50
  Speaker 4: this keep sort of coming up? Other than they're hot
• 22:52
  Speaker 4: and gorgeous, There's that. There's that, But a lot of
• 22:55
  Speaker 4: men my age are steeped in a toxic masculinity and
• 22:59
  Speaker 4: have been in a culture where there is a particular
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: way that a relationship looks.
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: For one part I heard her say saying that you know,
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: she would be out with maybe a guy of her age,
• 23:11
  Speaker 3: and the things that they would say about other groups
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: of people, like she would be looking like, are you crazy?
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: You can't say stuff like that. So she, you know,
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: leans more towards the more modern approach to gender. Right
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: with his fluidity, you know, you could be who you
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: want to be type man. You know, you get older
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: generations of people, even we eighties eighties babies, we may
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: not see that shit the same as somebody born in
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: two thousands. Right, yeah, yay, you know it ain't no
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: by type shit, you know what I'm saying. It just
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: depends on the I do think that's generational though, right.
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: She maybe she's a little bit more liberal in that
• 23:53
  Speaker 3: in that matter, so she leans to leans towards like
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: the younger generation when it comes to I don't know
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: what that has to do with a man that she's
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: in a relationship with them.
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so I don't know why I don't typically date
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: men older than me, And I always attributed it to
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: me being childish, you know, but perhaps there's more to
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: it than that, you know, like I enjoy.
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: What it is, she just don't. She just didn't say
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: that though.
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: That she childish too, Yes, but our kids anymore, we're
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: not childish, like I'm not child like. I'm not a child,
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: so I don't think it's me being childish. Maybe a
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: long time ago that would have made sense, but at
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: this age it's just I don't know a lot, all right,
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: so I don't have I think sometimes I don't have children.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: So younger men typically aren't parents, you know, So that's easier.
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: If I want to get up and go to Africa Friday,
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: I need somebody who can get up and go to
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: you know. So I'm attracted to someone who can move
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: like I can. And then also I think it's nice
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: to have someone that ain't done done at all. Damn,
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: I can't do nothing new with you, because.
• 25:09
  Speaker 3: Now you sound like a man. That's why men like
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: younger women, you know what I'm saying, Like they're easily malleable, right, manipulate,
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: Like when I see an older person saying like they
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: date younger, not you, right, and not even her, just
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: just some like we may look at men like this,
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: the men, and a man says he wants a younger woman,
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: we automatically think manipulation, man or woman. I'm thinking that
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: we know that the younger person isn't already set in
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: their ways, right, so you think that you could probably
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: help mold a little bit. And that might be another
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: thing that she didn't say, and another thing you're not
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: saying right now. I just don't want to pack bag
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: lunch and have to pick up dick and drop it off.
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: That's why I don't like younger niggas.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: I don't mind what you like. You like turkey on
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: your sandwich, I hate I like.
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: I like men my age, that's all. You know what
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: I'm saying.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: I know my age or younger, but I typically don't
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: like older men. You know what, I won't say. I
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: don't even know. I haven't even given them a try
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: to know. The last time I fuckus with someone older
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: than me, I was in my early twenties, you know,
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: so I don't know. I might enjoy an older man
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: and just don't even know it because I haven't even
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: tried it. But then I typically no. I'm about to lie,
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: but I say I typically don't attract older men, But
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: that's not true. I just don't be entertaining them. Then,
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: you know what, Then I also have an issue with
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: my moral my mortality that I have to unpack with
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: a therapist. But since y'all hear and y'all listening. I'm
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: gonna pack with y'all older men. Makes me more aware
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: of my mortality. There, I said it.
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: Really m h. I mean I understand that, right, But
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: it's like I don't know. I already look at death
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: totally different anyway. I don't worry about that part of life.
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: It has to happen. That's nothing that scares me. Like,
• 27:18
  Speaker 3: once you conquer death, everything else is the fucking breeze.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: You don't aker death until you do it.
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: No, you can conquer death mentally, whether it happens today
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: or tomorrow. I'm okay with that, Like I'm okay with
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: getting the fuck up out of here, however it may. No,
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: I just don't want to. I don't want to be
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: alive and suffering. So you mean mortality meaning like just
• 27:40
  Speaker 3: the process of getting older is what you're being reminded of, right.
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: I don't have a problem with that either. My only
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: problem with getting older is that I don't have a
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: million dollars yet, which is work in progress. That's my
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: problem right now, the problem I'm working on it right now, right,
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: that's my only problem about getting older. And then also
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: I do want a child, right, those are my only
• 28:01
  Speaker 3: two hang ups about getting older, honestly, but I wonder
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: at Tracy Ellis Ross even you know, she's fifty two,
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: so she's you know, a whole ten years plus at
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: this point than us. But maybe those maybe maybe she
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: has those same same hang ups.
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: So looking at her, it's just like watching her talk
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: about because her you know, having you know, paying with
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: the fact that she never got married and she never
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: became a mother. And I mean, she's okay with her
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: life and she's happy because she says to her life
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: it's full and robust, but she does feel some angst
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: about not having those things ever accomplished. That was scarier
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: than sinners watching her and saying like what if that
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: becomes me? You know? M hm, So I that is
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: fearful that what if I never have a family, what
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: if I never get married, and not saying that I
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: won't be this joyous, happy person And still I think
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: I still will, but there will be some pain associated
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: with never having that.
• 29:06
  Speaker 3: Experience, right, Yeah, So this is her, This is a
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: little so. Ross discussed her inclination toward dating younger men,
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: attributing attributing this preference to the openness and emotional availability.
• 29:21
  Speaker 3: She often finds in them. She contrasted this with her
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: experiences with men her age, whom she described as often
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: entrenched in traditional gender roles. She did say gender roles okay,
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: and toxic masculinity. Ross emphasized that she is no longer
• 29:38
  Speaker 3: interested in relationships where she feels controlled or treated as
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: a possession, stating, I have long been past the age
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: where I feel like it's my job to teach somebody
• 29:49
  Speaker 3: or grow them up. But when you're dealing with a
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: younger person, you're going to have to grow them up, right,
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. So is she willing to
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: deal with that from a younger person? More so because
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: she just say, Man, these older niggas is on diabetes medicines,
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: and I don't want no hospital's husband. Maybe that could
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: be a point she ain't about to say in front
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: of Michelle Obama, Right, But you.
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: Know what I don't I when it comes to health,
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: I don't look at that because a young person can
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: be sick. I've seen it, you know.
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: Yeah, these young dudes be on those all those from
• 30:25
  Speaker 3: the gas station.
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and listen, you motherfucker's drinking red bull. Y'all better
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: stop drinking that ship that ship is. I always associate
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: chemicals to the same ship that the Ninja Turtles drink
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: in the sewer.
• 30:43
  Speaker 3: And people mix it with liquid. That's even more crazy.
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: Now, yeah, stop putting that shit in your body. I like,
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: I'm in this mental space where everything I'm looking at
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: everything different every.
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: Aj You're acting like me.
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: Now you're wearing off home, You're rubbing off of me,
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: bitch handles. I'd be like, oh, that feels toxic, Like
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: the little.
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: Lot of the candles we burn is you're literally sitting
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: and haling in bullshit and it's all that black smoke.
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: You go to blow your nose and all the black
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: smoke is coming out, like.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: Rubbing some smelly, smelly lotion on my arm, and I
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: was like, what's in this? You know? Just everything you know?
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: I was like, what's in it? I don't want it exactly, Yeah,
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: but and that's how I'm Yeah, men too, though, like
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: what's in them? I don't hear?
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: I swear to golla, y'all listen to me. I had
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: I did my my physical earlier this year. Y'all know.
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: I'm in a whole relationship, right, but I just feel
• 31:41
  Speaker 3: like I've ripped me out the package, bitch amack and
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: brand new, like I just got the plastic, like once
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: you got super duper clean bell of health. You don't
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: want nobody fucking your ship up even now you're with
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: That is how I feel like I need Like it's
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: just I don't know, and I'm okay the fuck I'm
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: in the plastic me too, right.
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: Now, my wholeness that deleted, ready to go.
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: I think I go to a different doctor for to
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: delete that. Now I need to go to God, change
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: everybody mind, and I remember you.
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: It ain't what you be. A call is what your
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: answer to you?
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: Okay, moved to a new zip code, girl, fuck you
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: shut up? All right? So now these are her reflections
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: on marriage and motherhood. So addressing her personal life choices,
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: Ross express occasional grief over not having married or had children,
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: acknowledging these as milestone she once envisioned, her envisioned for herself. However,
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: she affirmed her commitment with her life, highlighting her refusal
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: to settle for a relationship that doesn't enhance her well being.
• 33:00
  Speaker 3: She stated, as much grief, as much as grief does
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: surface for me around not having children, children and not
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: having a partner I still wouldn't want the wrong partner.
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: Now that's a big that's a big did a big
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: one right there. Yeah, like people, a lot of people
• 33:16
  Speaker 3: are in relationships just because because of commitments, the key
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: things like kids just not being able to stand on
• 33:25
  Speaker 3: you m so. And then we also know about men
• 33:28
  Speaker 3: that they get married when they're ready to. So whoever's
• 33:30
  Speaker 3: in front of them, they're gonna marry, but they probably
• 33:33
  Speaker 3: missed out on the one they actually really want. So
• 33:35
  Speaker 3: now nine times out attend. If you probably married a
• 33:38
  Speaker 3: man in the forties, you might be his second option,
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: the one he actually wanted got the fuck away from
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: his ass. So now you got to deal with that.
• 33:49
  Speaker 3: But you'll never know, you would never know.
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: It's ugly. I hear, y'all.
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: It is.
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: No, no, you know it's beautiful out here, y'all. I
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: changed my.
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: Mind mindset, right. You know, this is an important discussion
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: because this could be us. Right, we could be fifty
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: two with no children and not married. It could happen.
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: I rebuked that in the name of Jesus.
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: I'm just saying it could happen. I mean, if you
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: don't want it. I feel like another part of this
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: conversation I'm gonna get to in a minute. But is
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: there really somebody for everybody? That might not be true?
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: No, because the number of people don't match unless we
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: are meant to be gay.
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: So let's go ahead and let's go ahead and get.
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: To that right quick. Now that's another conversation. Well, guess yeah,
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: let's stay away from that.
• 34:42
  Speaker 3: That still somebody, right, may it be if we want
• 34:45
  Speaker 3: to do the non binary route, right, it's still a somebody.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: I did enjoy them titties on the back of my
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: shoulder when I was getting my eyebrows, so.
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: I actually looked into this. So statistically speaking, with billions
• 34:58
  Speaker 3: of people in the world, odds are there are many
• 35:02
  Speaker 3: people who could be compatible with you. So in a
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: purely numerical sense, yes, it's likely there's at least one
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: someone right. Spiritually speaking, some believe in soulmates or divine timing,
• 35:16
  Speaker 3: that the universe or God has aligned you with a
• 35:19
  Speaker 3: specific person. If you believe in destiny or purpose driven connection,
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: then yes, there's someone designed just for you when you're
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: going to meet them. Mmmm, could be fifty three, who knows.
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: Uh.
• 35:32
  Speaker 3: Realistically speaking, not everyone finds or ends up with that
• 35:37
  Speaker 3: someone life circumstances, timing, geography, personal choices. I think geography
• 35:44
  Speaker 3: we kind of got to narrow down a little bit
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: because you got social media right, so you should be
• 35:48
  Speaker 3: able to whoever to fuck. You know, you see your
• 35:50
  Speaker 3: person like damn, I like that. I like how he looked.
• 35:52
  Speaker 3: Just if that's supposed to be the person for me,
• 35:55
  Speaker 3: the initial attraction and then you hop in the DM
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: and then see what happens from there. But personal choices
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: and trauma can effect whether you cross paths with them
• 36:05
  Speaker 3: or recognize them when you do so, Like speaking to
• 36:08
  Speaker 3: the men in their forties getting married, forties and fifties
• 36:11
  Speaker 3: getting married for the first time, did you not recognize
• 36:15
  Speaker 3: that woman you had before? I saw? I don't know
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: what show this was, and I gotta find it because
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: I want you all to see. It was just a
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: quick clip. I didn't watch the full episode. But the guy,
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: one of these dudes, was actually at the the Saint
• 36:29
  Speaker 3: Jude event last year in Memphis. But their guest said,
• 36:33
  Speaker 3: you guys are two just three men. So the guest
• 36:36
  Speaker 3: was also guy, and he said, you guys are too
• 36:38
  Speaker 3: eligible bachelors. And he said, there are women watching this
• 36:43
  Speaker 3: episode and they're gonna see y'all like, damned too? Why
• 36:45
  Speaker 3: they not marry type things? So he was like, how
• 36:47
  Speaker 3: does a woman or what kind of woman? How would
• 36:52
  Speaker 3: that woman have to be to get you to marry them.
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: So the one guy was like, well, you know, there's
• 36:56
  Speaker 3: a vetting process. He was like, okay, sure, So how
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: long is the vetting process? And he said like two years?
• 37:02
  Speaker 3: Like two years? And the guy the guest was like,
• 37:05
  Speaker 3: so you mean to tell me you want to meet
• 37:06
  Speaker 3: a woman and know she's the one, but still make
• 37:09
  Speaker 3: her wait two years? You're not really eligible bachelors, y'all
• 37:13
  Speaker 3: are just y'all are just bachelors. Y'all not really eligible,
• 37:18
  Speaker 3: y'all not really looking to be married. I know one
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: of the guys is a divorceee who's on the podcast,
• 37:24
  Speaker 3: but y'all, y'all all had playing with women two years?
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah that's too long.
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so y'all not really wanting to be married. Y'all
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: are just wanting to play the field. Y'all want access
• 37:36
  Speaker 3: to the one you want, and you want her to
• 37:38
  Speaker 3: wait while you run through everybody else.
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: Child. But here's the thing, I feel like men are
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: starting to feel like and y'all, guys, correct me if
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: I'm wrong that marriage does not benefit them.
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: And that's bullshit because married men will tell you all
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: day long how they benefit, probably their real wives from
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: being married.
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: I believe, because they say men live longer when the
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: women keep men alive.
• 38:06
  Speaker 3: So your single ass out here talking about what's your
• 38:08
  Speaker 3: benefit from marriage, You're gonna die early or earlier. So
• 38:14
  Speaker 3: this thing about is there somebody for everybody? So philosophically speaking,
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: maybe it's less about there being one perfect someone or
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: more about becoming the kind of person who attracts and
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: builds deep, healthy connections that shifts the focus inward, which
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: can be empowering. So is there someone for everyone? Probably,
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: but rather you find them. Right whether you find them
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: might depend on timing, openness, and maybe a little faith.
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: So I my take from that is that no, they may.
• 38:50
  Speaker 3: There may just not be somebody for everybody, especially if
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: you can't find that person. If you if you're if
• 38:55
  Speaker 3: you're gonna die at seventy five, you know what I'm saying, Like,
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: it's a possibility that if these are the things you're
• 39:01
  Speaker 3: searching for, somebody like a a soulmate and all like,
• 39:09
  Speaker 3: it might take a very long time. You may not.
• 39:11
  Speaker 3: And one thing Tracy Elis Ross did say that, I
• 39:14
  Speaker 3: was like, oh, that's a good that was a low line.
• 39:16
  Speaker 3: She said, chemistry is not is not a relationship, and
• 39:23
  Speaker 3: love does not always include chemistry. So just because you
• 39:27
  Speaker 3: have chemistry with somebody, just because you have chemistry with
• 39:31
  Speaker 3: someone that does not equate to a relationship. That does
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: not necessarily mean that's the person you're supposed to be
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: in a relationship with. And just because you love somebody,
• 39:40
  Speaker 3: that doesn't mean you should automatically have all this chemistry, right,
• 39:46
  Speaker 3: I agree. So that goes to like learning to love
• 39:49
  Speaker 3: who you with.
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: So is it possible that makes you more chemistry with
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: my than my main I'm joking, y'all, I'm joking. When
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: it happens, it's because that's.
• 40:01
  Speaker 3: Where you're putting the energy at your mental energy over there,
• 40:04
  Speaker 3: can't wait for the next time to get over there,
• 40:07
  Speaker 3: like to where you're neglecting the thing that's right in
• 40:09
  Speaker 3: front of you. So that's why being in love is
• 40:12
  Speaker 3: always like a state of mind, like you got to
• 40:14
  Speaker 3: constantly do things to keep falling in love with the
• 40:16
  Speaker 3: person you're with. Like Michelle Obama said, her and Barrock,
• 40:19
  Speaker 3: you know they've been together thirty years, and she would say,
• 40:21
  Speaker 3: like ten years, ten years out of those thirty we
• 40:23
  Speaker 3: might not even like each other for a whole ten years,
• 40:27
  Speaker 3: I don't fuck with you, and then somehow we find
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: a way to find fall back in love with each other.
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: So if you are a single person with no kids,
• 40:35
  Speaker 3: never been married, it's maybe you'd be dipping out of
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: situations too quick because it's not looking exactly how you
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: want it to look in that fucking moment, you know
• 40:44
  Speaker 3: what I'm saying.
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: So that's why you know a lot of people are
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: doing that. They people and I'm not gonna say people
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: without including me can be very.
• 40:52
  Speaker 3: Still without including me. Yeah m hm, Because I think
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: when you are by yourself for a good length of time,
• 40:59
  Speaker 3: you you like things a certain way, and you know,
• 41:04
  Speaker 3: instead of you're trying to find somebody that's gonna meet
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: everything you want, right, and then that person is then
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: also trying to find somebody that's going to meet everything
• 41:12
  Speaker 3: they want. You forget that there's compromise and some things
• 41:16
  Speaker 3: you got to tweak about yourself to make this thing work.
• 41:18
  Speaker 3: The person has to be worth it. So you mean
• 41:21
  Speaker 3: to tell me that by fifty two years old, you
• 41:23
  Speaker 3: haven't been able to find anybody that's worth the headache.
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: You might just need to be by yourself because it's
• 41:29
  Speaker 3: not gonna be easy with anybody. Like as much as
• 41:32
  Speaker 3: we think love is supposed to be like this just
• 41:36
  Speaker 3: every day Flowers and Lebron James twinkle with Savannah James
• 41:42
  Speaker 3: and the Eyes every single day, it is just not
• 41:45
  Speaker 3: like that. It is so hard cohabitating. It is so
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: hard just being with somebody else for the rest of
• 41:54
  Speaker 3: your life, Like.
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: Dealer with not live with me since two thousand and six, team,
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: and I don't know who I would be in a
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: house with another man, you know with Yeah, I don't
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: know who I would be.
• 42:13
  Speaker 3: Girl, it's tough, Like you probably haven't met him yet.
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: It ain't nobody you've been with.
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: Like, we do have a problem with me walking, so
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: I sometimes I would go to the refrigerator, ask naked.
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: I will walk in my own kitchen, ask naked, get something.
• 42:27
  Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure there's no man that's gonna have a
• 42:28
  Speaker 3: problem with you walk around naked, right.
• 42:31
  Speaker 4: But.
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: I also might not want to be touched.
• 42:38
  Speaker 3: Are you who the fuck you? What are you talking
• 42:41
  Speaker 3: about me?
• 42:42
  Speaker 4: No?
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: You do that?
• 42:44
  Speaker 3: Yes, I do not like to be fondled all the time.
• 42:47
  Speaker 3: So when you're living with a man and you walk
• 42:48
  Speaker 3: around with ass and titties out, like men are always
• 42:51
  Speaker 3: like these predators, right, So imagine like not having space
• 42:56
  Speaker 3: to just want because I come from a naked family,
• 42:59
  Speaker 3: Like everybody just be naked, bitch. If we can go
• 43:01
  Speaker 3: outside like that, we wouldn't, you know, as soon as
• 43:04
  Speaker 3: you hit the doors.
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: Just definitely very comfortable being.
• 43:08
  Speaker 3: So I like to be like that, especially in the home.
• 43:10
  Speaker 3: And imagine like somebody who just thinks that's fun time
• 43:13
  Speaker 3: to grab your titties when you're just trying to go
• 43:15
  Speaker 3: get some fucking water.
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: I don't always what I just found, Like, can I
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: go get my water ethnic and not have sex? So yeah,
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: but we'll see. I mean that's not I mean, it
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: ain't no problem. I gotta get the mand first, I guess.
• 43:38
  Speaker 3: So just to wrap this up, So in the episode
• 43:41
  Speaker 3: on In My Opinion, Tracy Ellis, Ross also talked about
• 43:47
  Speaker 3: like embracing independence, what we're talking which we're talking about
• 43:49
  Speaker 3: right now, and personal growth. Ross spoke about embracing her
• 43:53
  Speaker 3: independence and personal growth that has come from navigating life
• 43:58
  Speaker 3: on her own terms. So single people doing their own thing.
• 44:02
  Speaker 3: She shared that she has learned to live fully and
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: enjoy life without waiting for a partner. Reflecting on the
• 44:07
  Speaker 3: courage and resilience she has developed, she remarked, sometimes I
• 44:11
  Speaker 3: think of all the things I've done, the courage that
• 44:14
  Speaker 3: I have had to have, and what I've learned, you know,
• 44:18
  Speaker 3: what I've learned to do as a single person. So
• 44:23
  Speaker 3: this is how she deals with now not having found
• 44:27
  Speaker 3: that person, not having had kids, She fell in love
• 44:29
  Speaker 3: with herself. So once you completely fall in love with yourself,
• 44:32
  Speaker 3: and now you're fifty two out here dating and you're
• 44:35
  Speaker 3: dating younger men, what are and you be thirst trapping
• 44:39
  Speaker 3: sometimes on the internet like a younger woman, What are
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: you really looking for?
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: I don't feel like thirst trap have no age limits
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: as long as you can keep them quenching, keep them quenching,
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: baby girl.
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know, there's a difference between getting niggas
• 44:54
  Speaker 3: and getting niggas. You can getting niggas all day long,
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: but our nigga's keeping you.
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: Are you kids?
• 45:04
  Speaker 3: It goes both ways. Some people. I don't think women
• 45:07
  Speaker 3: look and we don't look at ourselves. Sometimes we just
• 45:09
  Speaker 3: always think it's an external problem. You see what I'm saying,
• 45:15
  Speaker 3: we got to do some self evaluation, is what I'm saying.
• 45:19
  Speaker 3: Sometimes you gotta do you gotta self evaluate, is it?
• 45:22
  Speaker 3: Maybe maybe you are an impossible person. Why she hasn't
• 45:25
  Speaker 3: found somebody she like? I'm pretty sure she has had
• 45:28
  Speaker 3: some extensive therapy, so I'm not gonna not gonna say, like,
• 45:32
  Speaker 3: but maybe there is just not somebody for everybody, and
• 45:36
  Speaker 3: maybe she's just to date and teach other people things
• 45:40
  Speaker 3: until she get the fuck up off this planet.
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: Who knows?
• 45:43
  Speaker 3: Who knows? Because she's a beautiful woman, banging body at
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: fifty two exact. Yeah, who wouldn't want to have her?
• 45:52
  Speaker 3: We'll never know? Like, look at halle Berry. Halle Berry
• 45:55
  Speaker 3: has had so many husbands. She in love again right now.
• 45:58
  Speaker 3: And maybe maybe that's the thing, Like you don't have
• 46:01
  Speaker 3: to settle even when you're in a relationship. Who's next?
• 46:06
  Speaker 3: Who's next?
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: Throughout life?
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: Yeah, throughout life? Maybe we aren't supposed to just be
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: staying with this one person ever, All.
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: Right, listen, I have enjoyed variety, like what's that got? Like? Not,
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: y'all hold on, because.
• 46:23
  Speaker 3: That's not even just fucking just conversation with different people.
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I have enjoyed experiencing different people in different perspectives
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: and different conversations and different senses of humor and things
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: like that. So I you know, it might be difficult
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: to just have this one nigga forever.
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: I don't know. Man, we talk about nonminogamy a lot
• 46:53
  Speaker 3: at nauseum when we talked back, and is that more reasonable?
• 46:59
  Speaker 3: Is it more reasonable? Doesn't make more sense? I think
• 47:03
  Speaker 3: just people like knowing you can get burned and shit
• 47:05
  Speaker 3: like that. That's really what keep people with one person, bitch.
• 47:08
  Speaker 3: If people couldn't catch a STD, they'll be having three
• 47:11
  Speaker 3: sims around here or baby, right, I tell my body
• 47:16
  Speaker 3: when they get pregnant, if we could do some shit
• 47:18
  Speaker 3: like that, then it'd be on and popping. I think.
• 47:21
  Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't know what y'all think. Y'all
• 47:26
  Speaker 3: check out that episode. And I got a whole nother
• 47:29
  Speaker 3: whole bunch of other thoughts on the first lady having
• 47:31
  Speaker 3: the podcasts. Also, I don't know about that shit anyway.
• 47:36
  Speaker 3: Why that shit is fucking weird to me? Like we
• 47:38
  Speaker 3: have enough podcasts we have we talked back, right, our
• 47:42
  Speaker 3: regular assets, having conversations about relationships and everything else. Like
• 47:46
  Speaker 3: I need y'all to have the podcast from the First Lady,
• 47:51
  Speaker 3: you got to have a little bit more depth as far.
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: As how many episodes have you seen?
• 47:55
  Speaker 3: I don't know. That was the only one.
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so you haven't even seen. That's why I can't.
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: I don care form an opinion about it.
• 48:05
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I have just relationships being one topic with a
• 48:08
  Speaker 3: fifty two year old bitch on there. Like, I don't know,
• 48:11
  Speaker 3: I'm side eyeing all the old ass.
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: It's probably people saying the same shit about us, and.
• 48:18
  Speaker 3: They can have that opinion. The difference between me and
• 48:20
  Speaker 3: other people is I don't like I have your opinion.
• 48:23
  Speaker 3: It's fine, don't infringe your mind.
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: But I'm saying, like, hey, mirror, look in the mirror.
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: The advice should talk about them apply to you.
• 48:34
  Speaker 3: I'm doing all the things too, But I ain't never
• 48:36
  Speaker 3: been the first lady. I don't claim to be the
• 48:38
  Speaker 3: first lady. Yeah, I just feel like that that's a
• 48:41
  Speaker 3: different echelne of conversation needs to be being had. I
• 48:46
  Speaker 3: don't know. Maybe it's just me, you know, I don't know,
• 48:49
  Speaker 3: Maybe it's just me.
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: Anyway, Well, we all got to have relationships, right, first
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: Lady and everybody in between.
• 48:57
  Speaker 3: Where her brother set up on there, y'all. That's what
• 49:01
  Speaker 3: y'all like anyway, that's more competition. They need to get
• 49:05
  Speaker 3: out the way. Why are y'all in this lane? Why
• 49:07
  Speaker 3: are y'all in this lane?
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: Listen? We'll we all want to be love. We all
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: want people talking, y'all. Now we talk bad? You sick
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: of people Talking's crazy?
• 49:21
  Speaker 3: Why the fuck is the first lady in our lane?
• 49:24
  Speaker 3: It's what I'm saying. Do you understand what I'm saying? Like,
• 49:27
  Speaker 3: why are you in this lane? Go talk about something
• 49:30
  Speaker 3: else and go do something different? And y'all doing movies?
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: Now?
• 49:32
  Speaker 3: Why are y'all in this lane?
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: She said she could do whatever.
• 49:38
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