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Are People Still Looking for Marriage, or Has Modern Dating Changed Everything? · Off The Wall Podcast | Motivation & Personal Growth

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  OK, y'all, I lied. I'm back.
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  I just thought about something. I'm thinking of a topic.
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  Well, I already thought about a topic, but I heard this.
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  I've been hearing this a lot. A lot of people don't want to be
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  married. This is coming from, you know,
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  social media. I think a lot of people are
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  scared to be married or to be in a relationship.
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  One is because of money. You know, people are using other
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  people for their money. And my reasoning behind that is
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  because a lot of people don't come from a wealthy background.
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  When you, if you don't come from love or a healthy a wealthy
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  background, you're going to do things you, you basically lived
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  off of survival. And hey, I appreciate you
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  turning back in juice. I go like I thought I was done,
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  but I'm not angle. I'm not.
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  I don't gotta be up until a couple hours, but it's I'll be.
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  I was saying do still do people still want to be married?
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  I don't think people want to be. Who is this man?
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  They can know. Well, I don't even, bro.
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  How do you say your name, bro? Kilo Vasquez.
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  OK, let me see. I don't see what he talking
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  about. Hello.
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  Yo. What's good with it?
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  Hello man, What's up? You alright?
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  I'm good, bro. I ain't gonna lie.
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  At first I was not gonna add you 'cause I'm like, who is this?
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  And then I looked at your bio like it got like, I don't know
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  what is it Spanish in your bio or is it Chinese?
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  It's it's Polish. Oh shit.
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  I was way off, bro. I ain't.
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  I was way off. My question is OK, cool.
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  My question is like do you think people still want to be married?
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  I feel like in this time of day, in this generation, I don't
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  think so. I think it's a nice thought that
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  that that people still hold. But I don't really feel like
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  girls my age. I'm 33.
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  I don't feel like girls my age or younger really be thinking
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  about getting married. Wow.
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  You say you're 33, you're pretty young, so women around your age
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  Whiting they don't want to be mad is because social media has,
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  you know, played a part or. Yeah, man, I feel like, I feel
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  like I feel like a female in her head.
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  She got a a million options, you know what I'm saying?
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  And and she she feel as though that she going to weigh her
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  options until she get the best one.
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  And even if she found the guy, she's still looking for
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  something better. So do you prefer women you know,
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  older or a little bit younger if you wanted to marry someone?
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  Could have. If I wanted to get married, I
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  would want to marry somebody my age.
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  OK. Again, man, I'm going to.
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  I got a date. I would, I would mess with an
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  older chick, but I don't know. It's like a little disconnect
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  though, somewhere down the line, you know what I'm saying?
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  Yeah, that's crazy. You know, most men would.
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  I don't know, you'd probably give it a try because I heard,
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  you know, off social media, I haven't really came across
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  someone that was saying like dating someone younger and she
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  just haven't worked out. I hear like women that are older
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  is more so there is relatable. They can relate to them and you
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  know, they know what they want compared to, you know, younger
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  women. They don't know what they want,
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  but you know, they're just off of what I heard.
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  I'm just saying once you get like a it's hard to even.
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  Men are even men too, not just women.
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  It's hard to meet the older person that isn't stuck in their
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  ways. Dang, I hear that dude.
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  I hear that. I hear that.
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  Like so they want things a certain way and they not willing
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  to conform and change yeah for the next person Cause the next
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  person ain't like the last person Dang.
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  So how? Many like I'm doing this and I
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  ain't doing that, and that's what it is.
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  So how many women have you have came across where you know they
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  didn't want to change, but you seen potential in there?
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  It was like, I can see myself, man A.
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  Lot of women, man, I was just talking to this to this one,
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  talking to this one girl since like maybe October or something.
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  I just kind of recently fell back from talking to her.
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  But you got all little ways and he ain't changing like you felt
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  that I just left right there. Bang.
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  So do you still want to get married or was marriage
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  everything for you? Honestly, I've never really seen
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  myself getting married. And I wrote that.
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  Let me ask you. I'm not opposed to it though,
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  but I just never really put a thought into it.
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  That's fair, that's fair, that's fair.
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  I don't. I would say nowadays, like you
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  said, I don't think people want to be married because you have
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  people marrying for the wrong reasons.
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  You got people want to be married.
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  And then like the Janet Jackson thing, she married the
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  billionaire and in the contract she had to stay with him for the
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  same many years and she got like some of his money.
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  I think it was like 18,000,000. And then she had a baby.
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  Something crazy? Yeah.
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  Yeah, it was 50 million. And it's like, damn it, you
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  know, it makes you not want to, you know, marry some young
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  ladies in the United States. But you know, they just probably
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  just that one young lady. Something wouldn't want to go
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  through the. Men.
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  Men as much as they trying to which everything up around and
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  men are more emotionally sound. True, you know.
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  What I'm saying it it it's usually the the man that leaves
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  the relationship last, you know what I'm saying?
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  Because he's trying to make it work and stuff like that.
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  These bro are not as much as they try to make them seem like
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  emotional creatures, bro. They more like praying mantis.
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  They more like opportunists. You know what?
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  I'm saying I, I get it. And you see that now, I'm not
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  bashing no woman, but that's one thing I just thank God and I
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  pray about, just like, Lord, just give me the discernment.
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  So I don't marry a woman who's opportunist because I know
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  there's women out here who are really looking for a man, not
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  for what a man has, but for who a man is.
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  You got some women who are marrying man just because of
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  their height, not for who they really are that you got.
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  Yeah. That's crazy.
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  It is bro, It is. And I was saying on my recent
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  video like when did height come about?
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  When did height become so important?
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  I thought, you know, if you want to be married, you're you're
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  marrying this person because, you know, you made a covenant to
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  God, but also you genuinely like or love this person.
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  You wouldn't. But I don't think that's the
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  case. I don't think that's the case
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  nowadays. I think in the 90s, you know, it
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  was true love. Now social media has taken over
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  and everybody mindset is like you said, opportunist or I got
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  options. I'm the baddest.
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  I'm that *** you know? Nobody's really.
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  Getting a lot of that last man like.
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  If we talk about options, man, options don't last long because
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  eventually you're going to run out of good people and there's
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  not going to be a lot of good people around and.
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  You. Either you going to marry
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  someone that you didn't love, love for real, or you going to
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  just die single. But I don't think you get that
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  many opportunities coming across someone that's good.
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  And I think marriage is a beautiful thing.
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  I think yes, I am afraid of coming across the wrong woman
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  and say like I do and when I say I do and it and you show me
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  exactly what other men are talking about because all I see
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  on YouTube don't get married. Peace over marriage.
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  It's like damn like. You hear that's that's my thing
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  with it too, bro. You always hear a lot of men
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  that don't like your man after after year.
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  They say don't get married. Like, yeah, man, people say that
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  some of the worst decisions they made, so I don't be knowing how
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  to step into that realm. Oh, like so you might.
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  Just seem like it's like, like I wouldn't mind it if I, if I knew
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  that the Shorty that I was with was willing to just rock
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  everything out. Like, you know what I'm saying?
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  Yeah. Like if we go through something,
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  we going to talk it out, work it out next week.
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  We we cool. Like you mean, not that the
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  first thing that happened. She's like, I'll fuck you.
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  And this is the world is crashing at that point.
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  Like man, this ain't sustainable.
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  At all. At all, I think people.
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  Realize that people that have been in 4050 year relationships,
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  they've been through some shit. Yeah, but wait.
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  OK, what is? Alright, let's say you marry.
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  You know you're a woman. You know what is a non
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  negotiable like? All right, I understand that you
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  know we're married, but you we all know right from wrong.
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  But if you do this, we're no longer married.
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  I like that eaten our back as I. Feel man, like and and the way
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  I, the way I classified any level man any level of cheating,
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  I got to I got to say I got to pull back yeah.
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  I agree. I agree 'cause when I hear
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  people say like, you know how you say like, you know, people
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  been through stuff for 4050 years.
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  I don't care how much I love someone, if you cheat on me,
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  that can't be a thing. That can't be a thing.
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  Like we, we no longer can we, we no longer can be together and
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  'cause I'm. I'm the type of person, bro, if
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  I'm getting in like some serious relationship or something,
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  locking in, you know what I'm saying?
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  I'm cutting my hoes off because in my head, if this don't work
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  out, I there's always going to be more women.
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  I get more women If this, if this ever comes to an end, you
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  know what I'm saying? Yeah, be.
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  Locked in, I'll be focused. Do that type of action right
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  there towards me. Yeah, that should have turned me
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  sour. Yeah, yeah, I agree.
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  Yo, Hey. What's good off the wall?
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  Off the wall Kilo Have have other of you ever been married?
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  No, no. All right, what the fuck?
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  Bro I thought this shit was. I mean this has been married.
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  No bro like I'm asking a question like do people still
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  want to be married? Yeah, like do you got the
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  thought of being married, Reggie?
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  What's that like? Did you really do you?
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  Got the thought of being rap married.
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  Do you see yourself getting married?
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  I I can't see myself. I wait.
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  Hold on, hold on. So let me ask you what what's
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  the longest relationship you've ever been in?
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  I don't. Know long on and off
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  relationship. Longest.
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  I'm saying longest. Like.
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  Straight running, maybe year or some change straight.
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  Years of change, yeah. Are you guys young?
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  Yeah. How old do you guys?
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  I'm 31. I'm. 27 I.
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  Mean. How do we we're?
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  Not all that. We're not all that far.
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  Far apart. No, but.
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  Yeah, how do we decide? I mean, how do you decide?
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  What do you want to do? I think it just all comes down
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  to being the right person. Like if you're ready, if you're
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  ready to be married, you have to court that person and you're not
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  going to really get to know that person just based off of 1 date.
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  It's going to take multiple dates.
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  And then, you know, if you really like that person, y'all
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  can move forward and say, hey, look, I want to make this
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  exclusive. We make it exclusive, you know,
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  I'll see if it's, you know, from God or not.
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  But it, it's going to take time. I ain't gonna lie, it's going to
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  take time. I'm more so patient on being
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  married because of what I see on social media.
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  I was just telling Kilo like, there's so many, there's so many
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  men coming out saying that they don't want to be married anymore
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  because of a bad experience. Just so many people are picking
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  peace over marriage. And it's like, bro, I thought
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  marriage was a beautiful thing. Why is it that no one wants to
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  be married anymore? And Keeler was saying that it's
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  usually the man that leaves late because they want to make the
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  relationship or the marriage work.
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  And I was like, damn, that's kind of like that low key sound
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  like it's true, because you do hear a lot of men leaving like
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  like the Derek Fisher thing, like Derek Fisher wife end up
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  leaving him for what apparent reason, you know, we don't know,
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  but I know he him and Matt Bourne's fought over the woman.
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  Bro, bro, bro. Oh, no, Oh no.
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  You were making. Oh, no, hold on, Hold on, yo.
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  I'm not going to lie to you right now.
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  You will make it, like a very, very good point.
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  Yeah. And then you, yo.
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  And and you are still correct. And then you brought up Derek
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  Fisher versus Mark. Matt Barnes.
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  That's you too. Yo.
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  I'm saying I'm good. I'm good.
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  He's not wrong. He's not wrong, you know.
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  But she end up leaving. Yeah, that's his wife.
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  Why would you not fight for your wife?
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  I would drive, I would drive 100 miles, of course.
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  But. It wasn't the same, though.
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  See, she made it. She made it a a sparring match.
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  See, that's what these women do. They put you on the next guy to
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  see who's going to outdo the maybe.
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  Maybe. Maybe I have, maybe I have bad
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  information. What?
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  Hold on, I feel, I feel like good point was made just just 10
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  minutes ago. It's not even just that though.
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  Yo what up? But yeah man, guys don't wanna
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  get married because shit women initiate 85% of the divorces.
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  Yes. And a lot of the times they only
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  do that because, you know, they get tired or bored or you know
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  what I mean? There's not no real longevity
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  are anything anymore. Not saying that it ever was, but
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  you know, shit man, usually back then when you have kids with
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  somebody, shit, she was locked in.
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  Nowadays people, you know, they only be there for the kids and
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  then when the kids turn 18, they out of there.
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  You know what I'm saying? So, but it's not everybody, bro.
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  At the same time, marriage might not be for everybody.
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  But yeah, man, I still think like a good healthy or like a
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  marriage bro. That's just a beautiful thing,
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  man. But you know, probably be hard
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  to find, but I'm pretty sure that it's possible.
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  Now if if your. Relationship is based off of her
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  being happy and you got to keep making her happy.
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  That ain't no relationship bro. Well, agree, that's what I'm.
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  Saying for exact yeah. That's what the woman to leave.
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  You're not making me happy anymore.
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  Like bitch, what the fuck you mean making me happy?
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  We we have been. Together for seven years, we got
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  bills and shit. We got a kid on the way.
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  Like we got shit to do. Like what the fuck is you
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  talking about? Happiness bitch.
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  You guys got kids, both of you? Yeah, I.
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  Got a son what? Have you?
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  I'm, I'm sorry, term before? Have you ever heard that phrase
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  before? You're not making me happy.
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  Yeah, I definitely heard that. No, I'm not.
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  I've said it. Yeah, so you've said it before,
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  I. Sure have.
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  Like what? What did that mean?
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  What did that mean to you? Like.
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  Man, she but she was more stressed than she was worth.
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  Wow, I mean, that really happened, man, And I'm fucking,
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  you know, I'm not saying it's better now, but it's like she
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  was more, she was more stressed than she was worth, truly.
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  I'm not lying to you bro. Dang, that's that's crazy.
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  So did. You leave that relationship or
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  or yeah. I left, I left, but how?
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  Long did you put up with that shit?
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  There was no, there was no putting up with anything.
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  No, we look, we, we had a whatever, we, we had a great
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  relationship for approaching 6 years and then and then all of a
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  sudden didn't work anymore. It's really difficult to
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  explain. It really is I I I'm trying to
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  figure it out myself. So you don't know what the
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  downfall was or would it start going like?
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  I know. I mean, obviously, I mean, yeah,
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  he. Know it's kind of I picked it.
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  He just not ready to say it, you know?
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  Hey bro, you don't, you don't know me.
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  We but there are people, there are people who know me on here
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  obviously, you know, drinking, men drinking and masculinity and
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  men. And so it's going to go bad.
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  And that was like, there's certainly a part of it.
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  And then, yeah, oh, man, things fall apart, you know?
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  Yeah. So you think you was getting
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  drunk too much? Of course, yeah.
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  Are you saying you were? So wait, wait, wait.
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  You said you were. You started to ruin the
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  relationship. No, I think so, bro.
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  Yeah. Why you say she was stressing
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  you out? Was she stressing you out
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  because she wasn't allowing you to drink?
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  No. No.
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  That's not no. No, no, no, that's not.
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  No. Where's the part that she's
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  stressing you out? I mean all.
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  Right, So what do you what do you do for work?
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  Bros those those starting to gate in which movies this is?
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  The question bro, I'm not thinking anything I.
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  Think he's just trying to get to the bottom of it so he can
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  explain what led to you know him, you know him drinking.
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  No, I'm trying to ask what you do for work.
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  You asking Keith? OK, Both of you.
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  Oh. I work with children bro.
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  I work at an alternative school. OK.
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  So can you hear me? It's hard.
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  It's hard to sustain a relationship nowadays.
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  I do feel like the OK because we, I, I do feel as though like
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  we had no personal space as humans.
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  What you mean like you talking about growing?
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  Up or you know what I'm saying, like within the relationship,
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  you really have no personal space.
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  You don't have any time to yourself any any moment of the
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  day. You're accessible even when you
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  leave out the house that her presence.
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  She can call you, she can text you, she can video call you like
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  yeah, man, she interacts with you all day.
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  So you not interacting with her a certain time period, she's
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  going to be like, what's going on?
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  That's that's. You making a valid point.
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  I'm not going to lie, that's a very valid point.
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  I think when it comes to young ladies, you know, they all about
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  the physical and the emotional touch or whatever you want to
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  call it. They they, some women feel as if
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  if they can't talk to you every day, then you're not their type.
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  And which I'm not a fan of because if we talking every day,
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  we're going to run out of a lot of things to talk about.
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  I believe in like space. We don't have to be.
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  We don't have to be, you know, talking for five hours just to
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  get to know each other. Long as I see you, you see me,
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  you know, I, you know, I'm cool with that.
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  We can see each other every day, but as long as we give each
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  other space, I'm fine with it. And I agree with you saying we
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  don't have enough time, you know, to, you know, how to
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  ourselves. But I thought, I do think it.
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  I do think then we are afraid to get in relationships because of
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  what we see off social media. I feel like social media has
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  made it a lot scarier to be married then back in the 90s and
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  the 80s I think people were supposing.
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  Was really going on though, but you know what I'm saying?
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  Sometimes it's exposing the chick away from her man.
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  Sometimes these chicks should be having a whole bro.
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  Like I'm not gonna lie. Like like as a man, yeah, I love
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  a whore. Like you know what I'm saying?
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  Yeah, but also as a man, I know what I but expectation for
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  women. So when I'm seeing some of these
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  women, it'd be like, she got a man and he's shaking that ass.
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  Like, yeah, man dropping the door.
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  It's like, bitch, you got a man like, but you know what I'm
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  saying? Like, yeah, that I won't fuck or
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  nothing, but it's like, bitch, I don't think of you and no type
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  of light, like, you know what I'm saying?
• 26:34
  Yeah. I get it.
• 26:35
  I was explaining that to I was explaining that to a young lady
• 26:40
  like one thing, bro, I, I don't tell a woman how to dress, how
• 26:44
  to do none of that. But when it comes to men out
• 26:47
  here, you don't get a second impression.
• 26:51
  So how you show yourself that is just what you get and you don't
• 26:59
  get another opportunity to do that.
• 27:00
  And she made a post of her titties and she put it like on
• 27:06
  her page. And I was just like, and you
• 27:09
  know, she liked me or whatever. And I was just like, you know,
• 27:13
  but men who don't know you, they gonna think that they can slide
• 27:17
  in your DM's because you showed you showed your ass that way.
• 27:21
  And she was like, well, I'm not that type of girl.
• 27:24
  I was like, you may not be that. But for the men that don't know
• 27:28
  you, we're they gonna think like, oh, she's easy because you
• 27:32
  bending over with your purse and you got your ass cheeked out.
• 27:37
  But some type of going with that like you going with somewhere
• 27:40
  like. When my boys.
• 27:43
  Say who? This full see.
• 27:47
  And it's, and it's crazy, you know, it's crazy because social
• 27:51
  media, it would have you doing shit knowing like you're not
• 27:56
  that type of person. But it's just influence, bro.
• 27:59
  So many people have influence nowadays.
• 28:03
  It's influence to women to do shit that they usually don't do,
• 28:07
  but they're just doing it for the lights.
• 28:09
  And I think it's social media is a good thing for people who can
• 28:13
  look at things differently and, you know, don't put yourself in
• 28:19
  a bad light. Or.
• 28:20
  Rush into shit. Look at look at this too though,
• 28:24
  bro, women be having warped minds because they had take the
• 28:27
  social media and see the, the, the Megan, the stallions, the
• 28:32
  Ori, the Ori Fletchers and shit, shit in the ass and shit.
• 28:36
  And they see that they don't got 500,000 likes, a million likes.
• 28:40
  And they're like, well, I'm going to do it too because this
• 28:42
  is what men like. Men visit the strip club all the
• 28:47
  time, but men don't take them bitches serious.
• 28:50
  Well, you said a key thing, too. You said earlier, man, we like
• 28:54
  whores. That don't mean we gonna watch.
• 28:57
  That don't mean we gonna, you know, marry you, you know.
• 29:00
  What I'm saying fun time. Yeah, for sure.
• 29:02
  And don't get mad when you don't get the guy that you wanted,
• 29:07
  because women hold the key to sex.
• 29:09
  We hold the key to marriage. And that's the thing that women
• 29:12
  don't understand. You can have all your fucking
• 29:16
  glorious years. Well, you're 19 or 25 and shit.
• 29:21
  But the minute you don't have that value that you had in high
• 29:26
  school and college and a little bit after college, that's when
• 29:32
  they say, like people start hitting the wall, you know what
• 29:35
  I'm saying? And they say, man, don't hit
• 29:38
  that prime until we're 35. And so once we get to 35, but we
• 29:44
  have all the options. And then they said we really
• 29:48
  started prospering when we're 40.
• 29:50
  So it's like young ladies, as long as social media is up and
• 29:57
  y'all still twerking it's going to stop men from wanting to be
• 30:01
  married because the whole. Thing with us, we always have
• 30:06
  options, you know what I'm saying?
• 30:10
  Yeah, Through our 40s. Through our 50s, we can get it.
• 30:13
  We can have a young chicken and and get her pregnant.
• 30:15
  We see it all the time. You know what I'm saying?
• 30:18
  But once, once a woman passes a certain threshold, all she has
• 30:24
  to offer is her mind and her pussy.
• 30:28
  Eat. Her wound is gone.
• 30:29
  You know what I'm saying? She can't even give you a kid.
• 30:32
  You can't be no more. Yeah, her, her.
• 30:37
  Her purpose in life is gone. Are you what I'm saying like you
• 30:41
  that's. If she trashed it though, that's
• 30:42
  if she trashed it. If she trashing her her 20s
• 30:47
  she's she wouldn't be valuable. I feel like if she's still
• 30:50
  working out she's still her body is her temple.
• 30:54
  If she's still carrying herself like a beautiful woman, then I
• 31:01
  don't think her won't be gone. But I get you with a woman.
• 31:04
  I'm saying once a woman is unable to have kids anymore,
• 31:08
  that shit is over. And what age can they stop
• 31:13
  having children? What age is is it?
• 31:15
  What 44.5? Yeah, it's 40 something.
• 31:18
  When they start going through menopause, their bodies start
• 31:24
  changing. So if a woman came with you
• 31:29
  right now, she's never been married.
• 31:30
  She's 35. This is for you too, Lamar J
• 31:35
  Would y'all take her serious? She's. 35 get to know her, yeah.
• 31:41
  OK, would you would you think something is off because she's
• 31:47
  35? Never been married?
• 31:49
  No, no, no. Alright, Luke.
• 31:54
  Why? Why?
• 31:57
  Yeah. We live in a time period where
• 31:58
  where marriage is really just an option.
• 32:06
  True, true. We not.
• 32:07
  Forced to get married anymore. We don't have that that standard
• 32:11
  of or you just sleeping with this girl or you just you've
• 32:15
  been dating her for 12 years. We don't.
• 32:17
  We don't have that perception no more.
• 32:23
  The reason why I asked is because a social media thing
• 32:28
  that it was saying like if a man or woman is over a certain age
• 32:32
  never been married, there is something off.
• 32:37
  But mind you, that's social media.
• 32:39
  You know I'll be lying if I said I didn't think that way for a
• 32:42
  bit. But you know what I'm saying.
• 32:45
  You're more so open to getting to know someone.
• 32:49
  Would you marry someone or which I made my bad what you going to
• 32:52
  say? I was going to say, we just
• 32:54
  don't have that standard of you got to get married by 25 or, or
• 32:59
  stuff like that. We don't have that standard no
• 33:02
  more. OK so would y'all marry someone
• 33:07
  35 with three children? I see down with them kids
• 33:19
  though. Is she holding it down by
• 33:21
  herself? Yeah, she hold it down by
• 33:23
  herself. The fathers.
• 33:26
  Let's she let's say she got three baby fathers.
• 33:33
  I was feeling like I was feeling her, like I'm, I'm attracted to
• 33:37
  her and she's like got my mind. Is she holding it down with them
• 33:42
  kids already? Like yeah, but if she's
• 33:45
  struggling with them kids, fuck no.
• 33:50
  But what if she just needs the man?
• 33:52
  What if she just needs you or like one of y'all Rondo or
• 33:56
  Lamar? What if she just needs y'all
• 33:59
  just like you, the perfect guy. Not saying like you have backup,
• 34:04
  you have backup option. You just happen to be that guy
• 34:08
  to be that missing piece. Like, she's a great woman.
• 34:12
  She just struggling to take care of all three.
• 34:15
  Yeah, you know, she agreed. And she acknowledged like, yeah,
• 34:19
  I was moving too fast and I was carrying a load that I couldn't
• 34:23
  carry. Eleanor Yeah, I'm not gonna lie.
• 34:27
  Eleanor. Yeah.
• 34:31
  OK, let me let me see what DeMar gotta say.
• 34:34
  I'm sorry. Yes.
• 34:38
  Yo. What up Kilo?
• 34:39
  What up Clarence now? If.
• 34:44
  She got three baby fathers. I don't know about that G like
• 34:48
  you know what I'm saying? I'm not being judgmental, but
• 34:50
  not not if she got three baby fathers dog like.
• 34:56
  Bro talk like he from Chicago if I met her.
• 35:00
  And let's say you met her and he the type of chick she don't
• 35:03
  introduce you to the kids off the back.
• 35:06
  So you, you've been chilling with her for four or five months
• 35:09
  now and yeah, man, she's been making some time for you.
• 35:12
  Y'all go out, y'all chill. You might have clapped already,
• 35:15
  but you fill in her. You know what I'm saying?
• 35:17
  You, you ain't meet her kids or nothing yet, but you fill in her
• 35:21
  and then like, yeah, man, just go along and she start breaking
• 35:24
  down like, yo, dude, three baby dads.
• 35:28
  He's like you, caught up in the midst already.
• 35:35
  Yeah, I'm not going to lie. Like I feel like, I feel like
• 35:44
  having three baby fathers is kind of like wild.
• 35:52
  I'm not gonna lie. It's it's kind of wild.
• 35:56
  But if she dope, it'll be hard for me to overlook it.
• 35:59
  I ain't gonna lie. If she dope, it'll still be hard
• 36:02
  for me to overlook that. She got three baby fathers
• 36:04
  'cause I met a young lady. She had three baby fathers.
• 36:07
  One was in jail, other ones in another state and the other one
• 36:11
  was in a different state, you know, So it's like, you know,
• 36:15
  you a little bit unstable, but like the kids seem like they had
• 36:19
  like everything all together. Like I got a cousin she got she
• 36:24
  she got what like 4 baby dads or something?
• 36:27
  But 2/2 of the baby dads are dead.
• 36:33
  You know what I'm saying? The one baby dad she don't like,
• 36:35
  I mean she's not in the sexual relation with that motherfucker.
• 36:39
  No more or nothing like that. He just take care of his kid.
• 36:43
  And then the 4th 1 is some guy she met and the bull the bull
• 36:47
  married her. But she works over the post
• 37:00
  office too. See, that's tough.
• 37:05
  I'm not gonna lie. That's tough.
• 37:08
  That's that's tough. Let me see what Lamar I gotta
• 37:11
  say, yeah. 'Cause when you break it down,
• 37:14
  when you analyze that type of lifestyle, you know, do you want
• 37:17
  to go through that struggle with her?
• 37:18
  You know what I'm saying? With kids that aren't yours, You
• 37:21
  know what I'm saying? So it's, it's kind of best to
• 37:23
  find somebody within your means. Like if you single man and you
• 37:28
  ain't got no children, the best thing to do honestly would be to
• 37:31
  find a woman with no children. Now say for instance, tragedy
• 37:36
  happened, God forbid, and the woman that you with her baby
• 37:40
  daddy died or something like that.
• 37:41
  OK, you know what I'm saying? You can assess that, but at the
• 37:44
  same time you got to be careful. You know also that woman, she
• 37:50
  can't be upset if you choose to not continue to be with her if
• 37:55
  you find out later that she got children by three different men
• 37:58
  or whatever the case may be if she got children period.
• 38:02
  I've seen it happen, you know, where guys have been with
• 38:05
  females that kind of like didn't say anything about they private
• 38:10
  life and then they finally brung it up when things got serious
• 38:13
  and it's like, you know that person, that man didn't feel the
• 38:16
  same way. Dang, that's crazy, man.
• 38:23
  Sorry to hear that about our baby dad's passing and stuff
• 38:26
  like that. And then that's why I'm saying
• 38:27
  you got to be careful with that because you don't know.
• 38:32
  How? That has affected them, you know
• 38:34
  what I'm saying? Losing somebody like that, you
• 38:37
  know, especially the father, year old kids, it's a lot of
• 38:40
  women out here that lost the father to their children and,
• 38:43
  and, you know, there was a wreck for a for a time, you know,
• 38:47
  before they got stronger. So how you how you feel about
• 38:51
  that kilo? How you feel about what he said?
• 38:55
  I feel like he's spot on, not gonna lie.
• 38:57
  He didn't. Say nothing wrong like the the
• 39:00
  the pops had died when the kids was young like get what I mean
• 39:04
  it was like the one kid, her dad died when she was like 1 the
• 39:09
  other kid, her dad died when she was like 3-4.
• 39:13
  So they they, they've been going.
• 39:16
  She met the guy when the kids was like 13 and 15 and shit.
• 39:24
  Whoa, whoa. We're rocking out with her
• 39:26
  though it. Was good.
• 39:28
  I ain't gonna lie. He's saying like a solid dude.
• 39:30
  All that. And that's good.
• 39:34
  He's saying like a He's saying like a solid dude.
• 39:37
  I ain't gonna lie. He seemed like a solid dude.
• 39:39
  I know for me, I only got 1, you know, only got 1.
• 39:42
  I got a son I prefer, you know, at least you know, one with one
• 39:48
  child or just, you know, no child at all.
• 39:53
  You know, got to be God fearing. But I I can't walk.
• 39:58
  Up and take them responsibilities.
• 40:00
  Like that's what I'm saying. If she was struggling or
• 40:02
  something like that, like I don't know.
• 40:07
  Yeah, I, I get it. I, I do get that.
• 40:10
  I, I know for me, I didn't came across a young lady and she was
• 40:14
  very pretty. Like very pretty.
• 40:16
  First time talking to a Mexican chick.
• 40:19
  She just had three children. But that wasn't the case.
• 40:23
  What would turn me off if she was talking about her, her baby
• 40:26
  dad and mom and psycho. And if you like somebody, that's
• 40:32
  just something you wouldn't tell them, you know what I'm saying?
• 40:34
  I'm glad that you told me, but I had to make that decision to be
• 40:39
  like, you know what? I love my life.
• 40:43
  I don't want to talk or be associated with anyone who has a
• 40:47
  psycho baby dad. So I just can't deal with the
• 40:52
  one who has three children. That's that's just me.
• 40:57
  And there's nothing against the children.
• 40:59
  I would just prefer at least 1. The Max is 2, but at least one.
• 41:06
  Could you date someone that has, you know, two children?
• 41:08
  Or are you cool with just one? Or you prefer not to have none
• 41:12
  at all? Bro.
• 41:14
  I'm a mother fucking optimistic as hell, bro.
• 41:17
  Like I ain't going to lie to you.
• 41:20
  I ain't going to lie, When I was, when I was 19, man, I found
• 41:25
  myself, I was dating this older chick at the top and right,
• 41:32
  right. More situational for me a little
• 41:35
  bit like, yeah, man, because I had started staying at her house
• 41:38
  for like a couple of months and shit.
• 41:40
  But yeah, she had kids damn near my age.
• 41:44
  Like, yeah, man. And she had a kid that was
• 41:48
  motherfucking like 4 years old. But I mean, she had like,
• 41:51
  fucking like like four or five kids in that crib.
• 41:55
  Now he was never asking me like I granted, I was 19.
• 42:00
  I was, I was, I was still, I was.
• 42:02
  I was in motion though. But he never.
• 42:06
  Asked me to take care of them kids or nothing like that.
• 42:08
  If I did something that's just, that's just what it was like.
• 42:12
  I mean, she never asked me like yo, I need help with this bill
• 42:15
  or she ain't never asked me. Nothing like that.
• 42:22
  Are you mad at me? Let me see what Margaret said.
• 42:25
  And that. Too getting into a relationship
• 42:28
  involved with a woman who has teenage kids or grown kids, that
• 42:32
  part too, you know, because now you definitely have to watch and
• 42:37
  be on your PS and QS because these kids are older and they
• 42:41
  aware you know and it ain't no telling what they getting into
• 42:44
  and they like while they growing up.
• 42:47
  True. That's, that's true.
• 42:52
  Yeah. That's that's just a big shooter
• 42:54
  feel, man. I ain't gonna lie.
• 42:55
  That's a big shooter feel. That's a that's a big shooter
• 42:59
  feel. I I prefer, like I said, I just,
• 43:02
  I prefer a woman with just one child.
• 43:07
  Yeah, I prefer, I ain't gonna lie.
• 43:09
  Prefer. I prefer.
• 43:10
  But I ain't perfect. I ain't perfect.
• 43:13
  But do would you date someone younger than 29 as far as like,
• 43:23
  you know, marriage but. I would have to, I would, I
• 43:30
  would definitely have to test the waters and just see where
• 43:33
  her mind is at 'cause I wouldn't want to date a chick.
• 43:40
  Under. 25 I'm only 33 but like under 27 or something like that
• 43:47
  'cause it's still like they still kind of grasping who they
• 43:51
  are. True, True.
• 43:56
  What? What's the oldest?
• 43:59
  What's the oldest? You'll stop at mid 40s, Mid 40s,
• 44:08
  yeah, that's not bad. Under 27 to mid 40s, yeah. 27 to
• 44:18
  45. Age 25, 40. 5 though I don't
• 44:24
  know if I would take her serious though.
• 44:25
  Like that's what I'm saying. I would have to really date a
• 44:27
  chick that's my age. Like, yeah. 45 Yeah, that's
• 44:30
  tough. I would hit her, but like in
• 44:33
  five years she'd be 50. But you know what I'm saying?
• 44:38
  In five years I'll be 30. I'll be 39.
• 44:40
  Like it ain't too far off from her but it's like you going
• 44:45
  through different shit at this point.
• 44:47
  You ready to sign up for Medicaid and shit?
• 44:51
  You getting on the bus for free now?
• 44:59
  Serious, serious. Same type.
• 45:00
  Deal, I'm already know that. Y'all trying to go eat?
• 45:06
  You going? Y'all getting half off all y'all
• 45:10
  meals? Yeah, make sure she buy the
• 45:15
  movie tickets. Oh me, she's still getting
• 45:18
  coupons bro, that's tough. She.
• 45:25
  Like, hey, don't forget to grab the coupons.
• 45:28
  That's crazy. Yeah, I ain't gonna lie.
• 45:30
  This. Yeah, that's something that you
• 45:32
  have to pay attention to. 45 bro.
• 45:35
  Yeah. You're right, I wouldn't see
• 45:37
  myself talking to nobody that's 45 'cause that's, that's just
• 45:41
  crazy. Not not to marry though.
• 45:45
  Like what? What type of what is your type
• 45:48
  when it comes to like a woman? You know, every man have their
• 45:53
  type. They say women don't have a
• 45:55
  type, but that's kept. So what is like your type when
• 45:59
  it comes to a woman? And then what will make her a
• 46:07
  wife? A wife to you?
• 46:11
  You want to play these two droughts before we go.
• 46:13
  Yeah, yeah, yeah. Let me shoot that's. *** She
• 46:17
  getting AARP in the mail, all that type stuff, bro.
• 46:20
  Yeah, absolutely. I feel like you should also
• 46:22
  date, you know, within your age range, you know, don't go too
• 46:26
  low, don't go too high. And the oldest woman I think I
• 46:31
  dated was like 50 and it didn't work out because.
• 46:35
  She she was just too. Bossy, you know what I'm saying?
• 46:38
  She's trying to be my mom's. I already got a mom.
• 46:43
  'Cause I. Said earlier it was crazy she
• 46:44
  even looked 50 on me. She looked like she was 30 and
• 46:48
  good at the least, like you know what I'm saying?
• 46:51
  She she didn't look a she didn't look a day over 30 like for real
• 46:56
  Damn, but she's stuck. But remember I told you earlier,
• 46:59
  bro, I said older chicks. He's stuck in they ways you.
• 47:02
  Did say that you did same kind of?
• 47:04
  Mold and be like, oh, I'm fucking with this with this
• 47:06
  younger dude. Let me like, yeah, man, let me
• 47:08
  let me just catch the vibe. See she's like motherfucker, you
• 47:11
  going to do this and do that? I want you in the house at 9.
• 47:15
  You go get me in the. House at 9:00 that's like stop
• 47:24
  it, stop it's brother chick. Be bro she'd be more possessive
• 47:27
  and controllers. Here's no Do you want you to
• 47:32
  turn the TV off you want? You on the bed.
• 47:40
  What's all that loud noise in there?
• 47:42
  I'm watching the game baby. Nope, turn it off.
• 47:45
  We got Comcast bro. Shit bro.
• 47:51
  Heckstein ain't no man, bro, ain't no Jesus.
• 47:57
  You. Saying about the type of trick
• 47:59
  like you mean like appearance wise or like?
• 48:02
  Yeah, just like attributes. Attributes like what are you
• 48:06
  looking for in a woman for you to be like, you know, that's my
• 48:10
  wife right there. Like I will, I will wife her.
• 48:16
  I'm looking. For a chick like you got to be
• 48:20
  she got to be down to earth, man.
• 48:22
  I don't, I don't, I don't want one of those chicks that just
• 48:25
  like is about herself and. He's.
• 48:32
  Just too focused on money and all this, like I want to check
• 48:35
  this down to earth and she know what's going on and she know
• 48:38
  $100 is $100. Fuck that, you got there.
• 48:46
  That was nice. I like that.
• 48:47
  I like that that was nice. She know $100 is $100.
• 48:51
  That's nice. I like that.
• 48:52
  That was simple, but that was tough I.
• 48:54
  Like it because you know, a lot of chicks, man, they be just
• 48:57
  wanting to go in your pocket. I'm not.
• 48:59
  I'm not with that. I want to check this that that's
• 49:02
  able to go in her pocket for me. You know what I'm saying?
• 49:06
  I ain't saying like I I I like I like Shorty give me some money.
• 49:09
  What I'm saying like I don't know, I like things too.
• 49:13
  I got to know my boy art down there.
• 49:15
  He like flashlights like it'd be dope as hell.
• 49:17
  You come home and you check out you this new flashlight.
• 49:21
  Like you know what I'm saying? Like OK like you mean I don't
• 49:24
  want A1 sided relationship where I'm just putting out too fucking
• 49:28
  much and I ain't getting nothing but some pussy in conversation.
• 49:36
  So you want a woman who is simple?
• 49:44
  Yeah. I like to take this a little
• 49:45
  adventurous so that we can go on some trips and stuff like that.
• 49:48
  Like like a woman that's too self orientated.
• 49:57
  You know. What I'm saying like when they
• 49:59
  say happy wife, happy life? No, we.
• 50:01
  I don't believe that. Be happy.
• 50:03
  Yeah, you know what? I'm.
• 50:05
  Saying yeah, I don't I don't believe in that angle.
• 50:07
  I, I do not believe in the happy wife happy life.
• 50:10
  Cause what about the man's peace?
• 50:13
  You know what I'm saying? What about our sanity?
• 50:16
  I, I agree with that. Let's see, let's see what Lamar
• 50:19
  gotta say. Oh, let's see what art gotta
• 50:21
  say. Then we're gonna get to Lamar.
• 50:24
  Hey. Gentlemen, hope you're Bill
• 50:25
  doing well up there. Yeah.
• 50:27
  Kilo, a kilo ain't wrong, man. I'm a fucking sucker for a
• 50:30
  flashlight, man. You know what, let's what I say,
• 50:33
  I understand why women buy like purses and shoes and shit like
• 50:36
  that, right? And like I say, like I don't
• 50:39
  want, I don't don't expect something from me, right?
• 50:43
  If they like as in financial ways, right, Especially towards
• 50:47
  the beginning of the relationship, right?
• 50:50
  Like I'm a very giving person. Unless you expect it, If you
• 50:53
  expected it ain't gonna be there, right?
• 50:55
  If I know you're struggling in in your, you won't ask, man.
• 50:59
  I wanna, I wanna do everything I can to help you, you know, But
• 51:02
  yeah, I appreciate this chat. So I hope you're all doing well.
• 51:06
  And we appreciate that, alright? Dang, I'm not gonna lie, that
• 51:09
  was fired. Said like he is, you know, a
• 51:14
  giving person. But don't expect it.
• 51:17
  Do you think nowadays women are expecting certain things in the
• 51:23
  first three months? Like all right, I'm behind on my
• 51:26
  way now that we dating pay this bill.
• 51:30
  Yeah. Wow.
• 51:33
  Yeah. Well, I haven't met a lot of
• 51:36
  chicks just like that and they asking for whatever they asking
• 51:40
  for and it's like, bitch, I don't even know you like really?
• 51:48
  That, that part made me chill off and like, yeah man, like
• 51:51
  approach a chick so damn fast 'cause it's like they all got
• 51:55
  some type of shit going on and need help and it's like, I don't
• 51:59
  know, I wanna be involved for that.
• 52:02
  That's crazy. Let me check out what Lamar got
• 52:04
  to say. Yeah, she was trying to mold me
• 52:07
  into a gentleman, and that was cool and all, you know what I'm
• 52:10
  saying. But she was really trying to
• 52:11
  change my mannerism. She was trying to change the way
• 52:13
  I talk. She was trying to change the way
• 52:15
  I eat, you know, the way I dress, all that.
• 52:17
  You know what I'm saying? I ain't got nothing against
• 52:19
  dressing formal and stuff like that.
• 52:21
  You know what I'm saying? When when it's called for.
• 52:23
  You know what I'm saying? Like if we going out on on on a
• 52:26
  certain outing and doing a certain situation where I need
• 52:29
  to be dressed, you know, up for an occasion.
• 52:33
  Yeah, but she won't be dressed like that shit 24/7.
• 52:37
  No, I, no, I see. I haven't experienced nothing to
• 52:43
  me. I haven't experienced nothing
• 52:47
  like that at all. So for, you know, having to go
• 52:51
  through that, it's kind of crazy.
• 52:53
  You know, you hear stuff like that on social media, like, man,
• 52:56
  don't mess with these Cougars. You know, they'll try to, you
• 52:59
  know, do this and do that. Like, but hearing that thing
• 53:01
  that's kind of crazy. Say Tyler mold you to a
• 53:04
  gentleman, she's gonna have you dressing and like, you know, a
• 53:09
  leopard pint tie. That's crazy.
• 53:14
  Do I put this put this fedora on?
• 53:18
  Well, don't leave her without the feather, baby.
• 53:22
  Hey, that's. Crazy.
• 53:25
  That. Is crazy hex?
• 53:28
  No, bro. Let me see what else you gotta
• 53:30
  say. Yeah.
• 53:31
  Before I got married to my wife, I said I wanted a woman who
• 53:35
  appreciate it. You know what I'm saying?
• 53:37
  The things that I did for on top of being Guy Fern, you know what
• 53:42
  I'm saying? And.
• 53:43
  And then just have a hustle is my ambition.
• 53:45
  Like she get to the bag. You know what I'm saying, 'cause
• 53:48
  I get to the bag. So I need a woman who won't get
• 53:50
  to the bag. That's what I like saying, bro,
• 53:55
  I need a girl that that they get to the bag so she can do some
• 53:58
  stuff for me. Sometimes.
• 54:00
  I ain't saying that I need it, but I'm saying it shouldn't make
• 54:04
  you feel good. Somebody give you a gift?
• 54:07
  True true. Do y'all feel like it's
• 54:12
  important for both part? You know how men we supposed to
• 54:18
  be providers? You know I'm saying if you don't
• 54:19
  work, you don't eat. But do men get spoiled the way
• 54:25
  women get spoiled? You got.
• 54:29
  To get the right check. Bro, I'm trying to tell you,
• 54:34
  yeah, I get the right chick. Bro, it's chicks out here that
• 54:37
  appreciate that, That, that I appreciate you.
• 54:42
  Yeah, man, Your birthday, holidays, little stuff in
• 54:47
  between. They might have heard you
• 54:48
  talking about something. That next thing you know, next
• 54:51
  time they see you, they got it. You know what I'm saying?
• 54:54
  It might have only been $25.00, but they like, He was talking
• 54:58
  about this. He seen you adamant about it.
• 55:00
  Let me grab it. You know what I'm saying?
• 55:03
  I ain't going to lie, like I know Art was saying like he a
• 55:06
  sucker for like flashlights. If a woman was to buy me Cologne
• 55:11
  and I'm attracted to her, I'm gonna have to put a ring on it
• 55:14
  'cause I love Cologne. I have a lot.
• 55:16
  I love Cologne. So if you appreciate me that
• 55:19
  way, yeah, I gotta take you serious.
• 55:22
  Gotta take. Let's say you had.
• 55:24
  That conversation with her and you telling her that and now she
• 55:27
  like alright no he like Cologne. If she really start popping up
• 55:31
  with that stuff she filling you you know what I'm saying?
• 55:33
  Cause for one of females only going to spend her money on you
• 55:36
  if she filling you they so pingy.
• 55:39
  True, true. Yeah, she do that like if I like
• 55:43
  I said, if I'm attracted to her now, if you just buy me the
• 55:46
  Cologne and I'm not attracted to you, I'm going to take the
• 55:48
  Cologne like I'm going to take it.
• 55:52
  But but don't expect like told me to be like, you know what?
• 55:56
  I I see some of you. I'm not.
• 55:59
  I just kindly, you know, like thank you.
• 56:01
  I appreciate it. You know, you know, do you want
• 56:04
  this back? You know what I'm saying?
• 56:07
  But you know, I ain't gonna I ain't gonna be ready.
• 56:10
  But if I'm attracted to it, if she's God fearing and she just
• 56:14
  got a dope vibe to her, I'm gonna, I'm be like, yeah, she
• 56:18
  might be the one, 'cause like you said, a woman is not going
• 56:21
  to spend her money on no one. If you know she don't like you
• 56:26
  of some sort. And I think you know that that
• 56:31
  plays a part. What is your role?
• 56:35
  You said what I said. Yeah, that's a major role if she
• 56:39
  starts spending some of her hard earned cash.
• 56:42
  If she could have just been taking yours.
• 56:46
  True. You know what?
• 56:48
  I'm saying. True.
• 56:48
  See, she she like you. I had a young lady offered me to
• 56:54
  work like pay to go see sick, pay to go see a game.
• 57:01
  I think it was LeBron. I was like, Nah, you tripping,
• 57:06
  You tripping. I'm gonna be like, I'm gonna be
• 57:08
  too lit. Let's not even go.
• 57:11
  Let's let's not even. Down but my collar, man.
• 57:13
  Let's go. Bro, I should have went, but I
• 57:16
  just like if I do this, she going to expect more, you know?
• 57:22
  So it's like, and then I went. You weren't feeling it.
• 57:24
  You didn't like it. Yeah, I went feeling it at the
• 57:26
  time like that. But it was like, damn there.
• 57:28
  You just turned down Braun like but I know next time I probably
• 57:34
  you should have. Went look these chicks go on so
• 57:36
  many dates with dudes they don't like this so they can get some
• 57:39
  food. I should have, but I got a good,
• 57:43
  I got a healthy conscience, bro. I got a healthy conscience.
• 57:46
  So I I would have been thinking about it so much and I would
• 57:49
  have felt bad. So I ain't doing angle I next
• 57:53
  time if I get off of that bro, I'm I'm taking it off of bro.
• 57:56
  I'm not gonna lie. Let's see what Art got to say.
• 57:59
  All right, so man, that's the do do men get spoiled the way
• 58:02
  chicks get spoiled? And like, you know, talking
• 58:04
  about like, you know, chicks getting gifts and stuff where
• 58:07
  you may not like I know I'm like kind of like not the norm here.
• 58:10
  Like I don't like gifts. Like I'm even when I was little,
• 58:14
  my parents said like I ruined fucking Christmas for him
• 58:16
  because I, I don't like gifts. I don't I don't want to be
• 58:19
  giving a gift in really any way, shape or form, but my but my
• 58:23
  chick can spoil me in other ways, right.
• 58:25
  What I consider being spoiled, right, as in like, like maybe go
• 58:30
  and start my truck up in the morning when it's cold out.
• 58:34
  Why I got she only had to do that knocks.
• 58:36
  I got the key fob do that deal. But you know what I mean, like
• 58:39
  shit like that. That's that means that means a
• 58:41
  lot to me. You know what I mean?
• 58:44
  You know, just being considerate and whatnot, right?
• 58:48
  But yeah, I mean, everyone has their thing of being spoiled,
• 58:51
  right? You can be, you know, whatever
• 58:53
  does it for you. Right.
• 58:57
  Yeah. That's a GIF as a thing.
• 58:59
  Like it can be she waking up, you getting dressed, you got to
• 59:03
  breakfast and your lunch bag. Yeah, that's.
• 59:07
  Cold. My baby might be all shit like
• 59:10
  that. She gonna bring me a lunch bag,
• 59:12
  all that she need to pack a bag for me, juice and snacks and all
• 59:16
  that shit in there. That's cold.
• 59:19
  That's love. See that need to be.
• 59:21
  Displayed. On social media, bro, that needs
• 59:24
  to be displayed because we don't hear that.
• 59:27
  Now, maybe, you know, maybe Lamar, I know I'm pretty sure
• 59:31
  his wife is doing that. But for men to be loved like
• 59:35
  that, bro, you'll feel like no *** can touch you.
• 59:38
  It's like, bro, my wife is better than your wife.
• 59:40
  You'll have a competition, *** I bet your wife ain't doing this.
• 59:44
  I bet your wife ain't doing that shit like that that'll make a
• 59:48
  lot of men rethink about getting married because you know y'all
• 59:53
  talking about you know, being spoiled in that manner like that
• 59:58
  is hard. I ain't going to lie, that's
• 1:00:00
  hard. I would love to get spoiled like
• 1:00:02
  that bro. It's dope bro.
• 1:00:07
  That's what I'm saying like when I say like all different type of
• 1:00:10
  stuff throughout the year, bro, again, man, as well as as I'm
• 1:00:15
  giving like but it feel good to get some stuff like whatever it
• 1:00:20
  is like yeah, man, it feel good to feel appreciated, to feel
• 1:00:25
  loved, to feel like somebody is there with you versus you just
• 1:00:31
  pouring it today pot. Let me ask you salvation now, do
• 1:00:38
  you spoil or I don't know if you in a relationship or married,
• 1:00:42
  but if you were in a marriage or in a relationship, did you spoil
• 1:00:47
  your significant other? Absolutely, but I was which?
• 1:00:54
  Ways. I spoiled like my significant
• 1:00:59
  other, the person that like I was like currently in a
• 1:01:03
  relationship with because that's why you do you have to like put
• 1:01:06
  out into it, but people don't change.
• 1:01:11
  So I had to get rid of him. Like if they have after
• 1:01:17
  Alcoholics and stuff like that, like they never change like and
• 1:01:21
  yeah, OK. What is your spoiling?
• 1:01:24
  Looks like you know not. I didn't mean to cut you off
• 1:01:27
  boiling. Well, it depends.
• 1:01:28
  Like hopefully, like if you're in a relationship, you're with
• 1:01:32
  lawyers to like a relationship here with somebody that you're
• 1:01:34
  attracted to. And if that's the case, then you
• 1:01:37
  can spoil him a lot of ways, like romantically.
• 1:01:42
  But if you're just a relationship where you're just
• 1:01:44
  not attracted and just friends and you can spoil them with like
• 1:01:48
  find them little presents since doing little things of
• 1:01:51
  appreciation. So it just kind of depends.
• 1:01:56
  OK, how do you spoil? Well, I have not spoiled anyone
• 1:02:03
  because I only been in one relationship out of my whole
• 1:02:05
  life and I got cheated on. But at one point of time I did
• 1:02:10
  allow that to like stop me from one to be married.
• 1:02:15
  It it took me this year to change my mind about marriage.
• 1:02:19
  I'm not gonna lie. My mom and dad, they were
• 1:02:24
  married at one point of time. My dad, he's a pastor.
• 1:02:30
  So like I kind of steered off from being married, wanting to
• 1:02:34
  be married. But Long story short, I never
• 1:02:38
  spoiled anyone. I never came across the young
• 1:02:41
  lady to us. Like I want to spoil her.
• 1:02:43
  It's more so just haven't got that opportunity, you know, But
• 1:02:49
  I know important. Important chick haven't.
• 1:02:55
  You been that attracted to somebody where you're so excited
• 1:02:58
  to like see them, like you're so excited to get off of work so
• 1:03:02
  you can like spoil them. No, yeah, you haven't.
• 1:03:06
  Had that kind of attraction to anyone.
• 1:03:08
  No. Bro, you said you got one kid,
• 1:03:11
  so yeah. What was that, A one night
• 1:03:13
  stand? Yeah.
• 1:03:15
  Yeah, that's yeah were. You drunk or was she?
• 1:03:18
  Drunk. It was in college and you know,
• 1:03:22
  came out here for my birthday. We was vibing.
• 1:03:25
  But that was the year that I got cheated on.
• 1:03:28
  And so I was still healing. I was young, I, I, I didn't tell
• 1:03:33
  her until after the fact, but I was healing and she came down
• 1:03:38
  and then couple months later, you know, she not telling me
• 1:03:42
  that she was pregnant. So we never really dated and she
• 1:03:47
  like she's pretty but. It.
• 1:03:51
  Was she was a. Rebound.
• 1:03:54
  You can say that but but. Let's re Let's rewind though, to
• 1:03:58
  when your heart, your heart was broken, because you must have
• 1:04:00
  gave a lot into that relationship.
• 1:04:02
  I. Definitely did, bro, Definitely.
• 1:04:05
  Right, you spoiled her that. That was my first relationship
• 1:04:08
  ever that. Was my first for her.
• 1:04:12
  I'm not going to lie if we talking about bought something
• 1:04:15
  OK I lied. I end up I sent her money.
• 1:04:18
  I sent that like $200. Mind you I was in college, $200
• 1:04:21
  is a lot in college bro. So she sent her 200.
• 1:04:25
  Dollars. She said she's gonna get her
• 1:04:27
  nails done and then she said she was gonna get her hair done.
• 1:04:31
  This was 2016. I was fresh in college, so I'm
• 1:04:37
  27, by the way. So 2016 it wasn't that much to
• 1:04:41
  get your hair done and get your nails done, but I did that for
• 1:04:46
  and then what else I did, Oh man, I was just sending a little
• 1:04:53
  stuff like I'll send her Bible scriptures.
• 1:04:55
  Like that's the type of man I am.
• 1:04:56
  I'll send her Bible scriptures out, you know, sit, tell her
• 1:04:59
  like how much I love her through like certain songs, you know,
• 1:05:04
  And then when I, when I found out she cheated on me and she
• 1:05:07
  put so-called, put our business out there on Twitter, 'cause I
• 1:05:11
  have a lot of followers. I have 4K followers.
• 1:05:13
  She had like 10 and she said I'm going to start exposing your
• 1:05:19
  feelings. And she said it on Instagram.
• 1:05:22
  I mean, so whatever. She put out my business out
• 1:05:24
  there and then like my heart was shattered for a bit, I'm not
• 1:05:27
  going to lie. Would she cheat on you with?
• 1:05:31
  Don't know. And I was in Dallas, she was in
• 1:05:36
  Houston, so I was in. We was both in college, so we we
• 1:05:41
  seen each other almost every other week and the truth came
• 1:05:45
  out through a text and I was just like, Dang.
• 1:05:50
  And she went over these famous guys house like Chris Sale,
• 1:05:54
  Chris sales and Armin and Trey daylight known people in Houston
• 1:05:59
  and like the whole thing was off.
• 1:06:01
  Like her vibe was off. And then my homies was telling
• 1:06:07
  me like, Hey bro, she got your password.
• 1:06:09
  It was just a lot going on, but I really haven't had the
• 1:06:12
  opportunity to really spoil someone.
• 1:06:15
  You know, I would love to but never had the opportunity to
• 1:06:18
  would. You.
• 1:06:22
  Say you over that now. Yeah, I got, I got over it.
• 1:06:26
  My mind has changed. I want to get married, but God
• 1:06:29
  is still pruning me to be a better person instead of like,
• 1:06:35
  not wanting to be married because I know marriage is a
• 1:06:37
  good thing. It's just that I allow one bad
• 1:06:41
  thing to change my mind for. Dang there, almost 10 years but
• 1:06:47
  why do? You think she cheated on you?
• 1:06:50
  Oh. That's a good question.
• 1:06:52
  She, I remember one day we was in my dorms.
• 1:06:55
  She was talking about how she never met a guy like me.
• 1:07:00
  And I just like, what makes you say that?
• 1:07:02
  She said that her ex will mistreat her.
• 1:07:07
  And I mean, one day I, I don't argue, but, you know, we had a
• 1:07:11
  debate and she was like, are you gonna hit me?
• 1:07:15
  I was like, what? She was like, are you gonna hit
• 1:07:17
  me? Because I'm, you know, I'm used
• 1:07:18
  to that. I was like, Nah, like, I don't
• 1:07:21
  know. Why would you think that?
• 1:07:24
  And yeah, it is. And I think maybe she is used
• 1:07:28
  to, she was used to that type of love.
• 1:07:31
  And I guess that the love that I gave her, it was so different.
• 1:07:37
  She didn't know how to handle it.
• 1:07:40
  So did you have sex with her or not?
• 1:07:43
  Oh yeah, of course we was dating, you know what I'm
• 1:07:45
  saying? That was awesome.
• 1:07:46
  Yeah. That was like, he's so young.
• 1:07:47
  So yeah. You got a message, bro?
• 1:07:50
  Oh. Snap, my bad.
• 1:07:52
  Hello. Yeah.
• 1:07:54
  Shout out to you dog for being transparent about being cheated
• 1:07:57
  on. I was cheated on.
• 1:07:58
  That turned me into a beast. I ain't gonna lie, dog, because
• 1:08:01
  the be the the person that I was for that, for that individual.
• 1:08:06
  I. Felt like I would never be that
• 1:08:08
  again 'cause I thought I'd let my guards down a little too much
• 1:08:11
  and she damn near took advantage of me like real shit, you know
• 1:08:15
  what I'm saying? Making it seem like she was all
• 1:08:16
  about me when? She.
• 1:08:18
  Had other engagements. Yeah, that.
• 1:08:23
  Yeah, I ain't gonna lie. Sucks.
• 1:08:24
  Being cheated on sucks, but I know one day I'll find the right
• 1:08:31
  person. No.
• 1:08:34
  Salvation, let me ask you a question right you.
• 1:08:38
  Asked. Why did why does she cheat on
• 1:08:40
  him? Does it have to be a why?
• 1:08:43
  As if like he did something like or or the other party did
• 1:08:48
  something well. Because I mean, if I was him,
• 1:08:51
  I'd be like, OK, was I not good enough in bed for her?
• 1:08:55
  Or was I not spending enough money or time with her?
• 1:08:59
  Or I'd be curious if I was him to what there what the excuse
• 1:09:04
  was? Or was she drunk?
• 1:09:06
  Was she under the influence? Was she taking an advantage of
• 1:09:09
  like what were the circumstances wanted to?
• 1:09:11
  Do. That could.
• 1:09:14
  That could be it. That could be it.
• 1:09:17
  What is he? Different opportunities and it
• 1:09:20
  had nothing to do with him. So how'd you find out then?
• 1:09:24
  Because, well, why'd you have a guilty conscience to tell you?
• 1:09:29
  More so I'm the type of person I had to just get clarity.
• 1:09:36
  We had a talk, I think like a year later, she said that, you
• 1:09:40
  know, she never did, but her actions didn't align to what she
• 1:09:45
  did. And I even asked the same thing
• 1:09:49
  that you asked, you know, salvation.
• 1:09:52
  It was more so like, what did I do?
• 1:09:59
  I even said, you know, was it terrible?
• 1:10:01
  Like was I terrible at doing sex?
• 1:10:03
  She was like, no, you were great.
• 1:10:04
  I said, So what was it that made you want to, you know, cheat?
• 1:10:11
  She just never really gave me a straightforward answer.
• 1:10:14
  And and it's crazy the type of man I am.
• 1:10:18
  I told every young lady that liked me at school.
• 1:10:21
  I'm not, I'm not gonna lie. I was pretty.
• 1:10:23
  You know, I had a name for myself in college.
• 1:10:25
  I want no Holdo. But women did love me.
• 1:10:29
  And I told him I was like, hey, look, I got a girl this her and
• 1:10:34
  I even showed her, you know what I'm saying?
• 1:10:37
  I even showed the young ladies like, this is her.
• 1:10:39
  That was like, OK, yeah, she's pretty.
• 1:10:41
  But when I when they found out that she cheated on me, they was
• 1:10:44
  mad. It was like, see that you could
• 1:10:46
  have dated me and I was just like, Dang, I could have, you
• 1:10:49
  know? But she just never really gave
• 1:10:52
  me a straightforward answer. And I learned from that.
• 1:10:56
  It took me years to really heal from it.
• 1:10:59
  And I did base my opinion or I was been, I was stereotyping a
• 1:11:07
  lot of women because of her. I should have never done that,
• 1:11:11
  but I did. I stereotyped a lot of women and
• 1:11:16
  it messed me up for a bit. But I've gotten a lot better and
• 1:11:21
  my mindset has changed. So did you break up because of
• 1:11:27
  that? Yeah.
• 1:11:29
  That's that's I. I can't look at you the same,
• 1:11:34
  right? I can't look at you the same if
• 1:11:38
  if you say you love me, then you gotta honor that.
• 1:11:43
  If loving me have you to talk to someone else and sleep with
• 1:11:50
  someone else. That's not love.
• 1:11:52
  That ain't love. I don't believe that's love.
• 1:11:57
  I feel like you waited a. Year after it happened to tell
• 1:12:00
  you. No, we didn't.
• 1:12:01
  We never went a year. It was a year later like we
• 1:12:04
  already broken up. It was a year later.
• 1:12:06
  We only dated for six months. Oh, so you found out right away,
• 1:12:11
  right? Away because she said said
• 1:12:14
  everything all on Twitter she said everything all on Twitter.
• 1:12:18
  She said before I had a new, before I had a new man, I had an
• 1:12:22
  old man. And then her friend was
• 1:12:27
  basically agreeing and saying like, girl, yes, we already know
• 1:12:33
  he was the backup option and stuff like that.
• 1:12:36
  And I was like, damn, you know, why would you go to Twitter
• 1:12:41
  about it? You know, Twitter was a very
• 1:12:43
  popular thing back there. And you know, I go, I heard me
• 1:12:49
  for sure. It hurt me, especially putting
• 1:12:51
  the business out on Twitter. What do you have to have a
• 1:12:53
  backup option? What?
• 1:12:54
  What would she have to have a backup option for?
• 1:12:57
  Like what are you doing to give her a reason why she thinks she
• 1:13:01
  has to have a backup? I think I'm a great, I'm a great
• 1:13:06
  man. For her to have a backup option,
• 1:13:08
  that's just her loss. I mean, she followed me on
• 1:13:10
  Instagram, social media to this day, 'cause she know I'm a great
• 1:13:14
  dude. She know I'm a great dude and
• 1:13:18
  that's why she's just trying to peep in everything that I'm
• 1:13:22
  doing. She know that she would never
• 1:13:25
  find a guy like me. I know a lot of people say that
• 1:13:27
  I I truly believe this like for real.
• 1:13:30
  She would not ever come across a guy like myself.
• 1:13:33
  I have not ever cheated. I don't have no intentions to
• 1:13:36
  cheat. But I'm not perfect.
• 1:13:39
  I'm you know I'm flawed just like any other man or woman.
• 1:13:43
  I just care. I care.
• 1:13:46
  I come from a loving background. Why did she say she cheated
• 1:13:51
  though? Didn't she tell you?
• 1:13:53
  Did she tell you why she. Never gave me an answer.
• 1:13:56
  You got. You got 2 messages bro.
• 1:13:58
  Dang, I'm not even paying attention.
• 1:14:00
  OK, let me see what. Hey CJ man, I'm sorry to hear
• 1:14:04
  you got the cheated on me. That's tough.
• 1:14:07
  But in my opinion, and obviously I don't know the whole story,
• 1:14:09
  right? In my opinion, my man, you're
• 1:14:11
  asking the wrong question. You're asking you ask her like,
• 1:14:15
  what did I do? What did I do?
• 1:14:17
  What did I do wrong to make you want to do this when in my
• 1:14:20
  opinion, the question should have been why did you do this
• 1:14:24
  all? You know, I always said that,
• 1:14:25
  hey, just call it if you're going to cheat, they call me,
• 1:14:28
  give me the respect to call me up and be like, Hey, it's over.
• 1:14:31
  You know, I might not like that answer right then right, But I
• 1:14:33
  respect that a lot more than than than the latter.
• 1:14:37
  Right, man, I don't I don't think it's anything.
• 1:14:38
  I mean, I feel you shouldn't be like asking, like asking
• 1:14:42
  yourself, what did I do? Should be like, why, why did
• 1:14:46
  you, why did you feel that was acceptable to do that without
• 1:14:50
  just giving me a call up and be like, Hey, you know what?
• 1:14:53
  This just isn't working out. It's it's got to be over right
• 1:14:55
  now. As much as that would have hurt,
• 1:14:57
  it would hurt less than than the latter, I feel.
• 1:15:01
  True. I mean, I'm not gonna lie, at
• 1:15:03
  that time I was young, so that was my first reaction to acts
• 1:15:07
  like, why? You know what I'm saying?
• 1:15:10
  Like what did I do 'cause I'm I'm on the phone with her two
• 1:15:16
  hours a day, you know, telling her my goals, telling her what I
• 1:15:21
  want to do. And I told her and this still my
• 1:15:23
  mindset. I date to Mary.
• 1:15:25
  So if I'm dating you, it's just going to be me and you.
• 1:15:28
  I don't believe in Oh, I'm dating around.
• 1:15:31
  If I'm dating everyone else that I was talking to, you know, they
• 1:15:38
  don't exist. It's just me and you.
• 1:15:39
  But that was my mindset of, you know, why did you do me like
• 1:15:44
  that, you know? Yeah.
• 1:15:46
  I believe you will find the right person too, dog, you know
• 1:15:48
  what I'm saying? Just don't force it, you know
• 1:15:52
  what I'm saying? Let it gradually happen, you
• 1:15:54
  know? Protect.
• 1:15:56
  Your energy, you know what I'm saying?
• 1:15:58
  That's, that's that's how you find the right person when you
• 1:16:00
  protect your energy and you at the, the, the, the highest
• 1:16:04
  height of what you could be in life.
• 1:16:06
  You know what I'm saying? For yourself and other people.
• 1:16:09
  Hey bro, it'll fall in line one day.
• 1:16:11
  Thanks. Thanks.
• 1:16:12
  It definitely will. It definitely will.
• 1:16:14
  Yeah. Well.
• 1:16:15
  I got a 26 year old that's single.
• 1:16:19
  She would be perfect for you because you would be the perfect
• 1:16:22
  son-in-law with how you're describing how you like treat
• 1:16:24
  the woman. Well, I appreciate that like.
• 1:16:27
  So far you sound like a good guy and that's few and far between.
• 1:16:31
  Usually they don't have a job or they have like kids or they have
• 1:16:38
  child support toward or they have a disability or they have
• 1:16:43
  like and oh, it's just always something.
• 1:16:48
  Well, no, I get it. I mean, I do have a son.
• 1:16:50
  I would never be ashamed of my son, and I love my son.
• 1:16:55
  But that's just how I was raised.
• 1:16:57
  I was raised to be a gentleman. I was raised to tell the truth.
• 1:17:04
  Now, do I always tell the truth? No.
• 1:17:05
  But I was raised to tell the truth and to treat a woman
• 1:17:09
  right. If I didn't, I would get in
• 1:17:12
  trouble. I get I got a lot of weapons
• 1:17:14
  growing up, so I don't know. But but yeah, yeah, I mean, I
• 1:17:27
  got a lot better. I got a lot better.
• 1:17:29
  So I know when the time do come, I'll be ready for, you know,
• 1:17:34
  marriage. And so now I'm back on the
• 1:17:36
  marriage train. There's absolutely no choice or
• 1:17:39
  no chance for you to get together with the mother of your
• 1:17:42
  son. Oh no, no, not at all.
• 1:17:46
  Not at all. Not at all.
• 1:17:50
  It was. That big of a mistake like was
• 1:17:53
  it was it that was the sex that bad or was was it was or was it
• 1:17:59
  that dark or you didn't care and no attraction at all like I'm
• 1:18:04
  I'm. Gonna say this and then I 'cause
• 1:18:06
  I don't want to make it about me, 'cause I want everybody to
• 1:18:08
  talk. I'll just say this when God
• 1:18:11
  gives you like a sign, you gotta pay attention.
• 1:18:15
  I'm a big believer in discernment, I think.
• 1:18:19
  And I know one of the biggest things that I paid attention to
• 1:18:24
  was observation. I'm very good at observing
• 1:18:31
  people. I knew from the get go, the sun
• 1:18:33
  was off. I just couldn't figure it out
• 1:18:37
  until what was it 3 years ago? I'm not going to say it on here,
• 1:18:43
  but this young lady, I could have went to jail over a lie.
• 1:18:49
  I could have went to jail over a lie.
• 1:18:53
  And if you put me in a situation where the laws get involved, I
• 1:19:02
  can no longer look at you the same.
• 1:19:05
  Not saying like I want to hurt you.
• 1:19:06
  It's more so I could have went to jail.
• 1:19:10
  So that was God protection for me not to take, you know, my son
• 1:19:17
  and mom serious. Now I'm glad I love my son.
• 1:19:20
  I won't ever, I will not ever, you know, disown my son.
• 1:19:25
  But I've seen some in her that that my my mom and dad and my
• 1:19:35
  family members couldn't see and they wanted me to date at night.
• 1:19:38
  And I told her I was like, I'll date you, but I just want to, I
• 1:19:42
  want to love you for you. I don't want to love you because
• 1:19:45
  we have a son. I need to find, you know, I need
• 1:19:48
  to figure out what it is that makes, you know, that'll make us
• 1:19:54
  compatible. I don't know if that answers
• 1:19:57
  your question, but yeah. So.
• 1:20:02
  Are you are you single? Right now I am.
• 1:20:08
  Do you want to be married? Yeah, but it seems like I, I
• 1:20:14
  would probably like need 5 husbands with all the different
• 1:20:19
  needs that you. What?
• 1:20:22
  What is Vibe Husbands? What is that?
• 1:20:24
  Yes, because like OK, you need like a mechanic or like a
• 1:20:31
  plumber or like. Someone.
• 1:20:33
  That can like have. Husbands, that's what.
• 1:20:36
  I thought girls. Like.
• 1:20:36
  You need like a special guy that's a a good lover like or
• 1:20:41
  someone that's like really loyal that can be traveling with you
• 1:20:44
  and be a provider. You know you can't like find.
• 1:20:48
  All those women, this is what I was saying is no satisfying a
• 1:20:52
  woman. Like we want like all that in
• 1:20:56
  one package and it's like you can't get that all in one
• 1:20:58
  package anymore. Yes, you.
• 1:21:00
  Can anymore? Can you can get that in a man?
• 1:21:06
  You can. You can definitely get that in a
• 1:21:08
  man bro. This is the prompt example of
• 1:21:10
  why relationship if I. Was like younger, but now it's
• 1:21:14
  like I just turned 50 so it's harder, like when you're my age
• 1:21:19
  and yeah. You see what I've been saying?
• 1:21:20
  He you did say that, you see. What I've been saying bro, I've
• 1:21:24
  been saying this the whole time brother.
• 1:21:26
  Put you on game bro. He said.
• 1:21:29
  He said earlier what we. Want the men to be men.
• 1:21:32
  We want you guys to provide and what is.
• 1:21:36
  OK, what is a man to you? Don't let's not go off of social
• 1:21:40
  media 'cause when a woman say and I scroll on Instagram T. 50
• 1:21:44
  bro like. A teammate, a man like a perfect
• 1:21:47
  husband is like the captain of the football team.
• 1:21:50
  You know, he's like, you're on a team if you're in a relationship
• 1:21:53
  together. And then he is making sure that
• 1:21:57
  he can provide and that he can, like, travel with you.
• 1:22:02
  What? I don't feel like you follow
• 1:22:05
  instructions so. So I'm a.
• 1:22:08
  Gemini so oh. Wait, what?
• 1:22:10
  Wait. Wait, wait, let him finish.
• 1:22:12
  What does that mean? I follow instructions like I've
• 1:22:18
  broken rules in the past and I've like, I've had like I've
• 1:22:22
  been cheated on and I've also cheated on partners.
• 1:22:25
  And so it's like, I know, like, 'cause women.
• 1:22:28
  Say they they want a man and then and then when they get a
• 1:22:31
  man they say they don't want to be bossed around.
• 1:22:35
  So which one is? Well, it.
• 1:22:36
  Depends on like how the how do you do the bossing?
• 1:22:40
  You know, like we and besides you, we, we don't want somebody
• 1:22:44
  that we're arguing with and we want a guy that like is we can
• 1:22:49
  cuddle with and like have fun with.
• 1:22:52
  We don't want some guy that's gonna be like all nitpicking and
• 1:22:56
  bossy and who who the heck wants that?
• 1:22:59
  You want fun? Like you only live once True.
• 1:23:01
  So. OK, So what?
• 1:23:04
  What is a man to you like we we have?
• 1:23:09
  On social. Media not trying.
• 1:23:12
  To someone that like holds the door open for you.
• 1:23:16
  Someone that can like help you like pay your bills or somebody
• 1:23:21
  that can make sure that you're OK.
• 1:23:23
  Someone that can like make? Sure, that.
• 1:23:27
  Yes, exactly. Whoa, how long salvation it
• 1:23:32
  goes? Both ways so you you use us for
• 1:23:34
  sex so it's like and and we. See bro I've been playing one
• 1:23:39
  game all night. Your needs so.
• 1:23:42
  It's like we in return expect you to like fulfill life just.
• 1:23:47
  Because you gave a man sex, he should offer all those things.
• 1:23:52
  Absolutely. In addition, then he gives you.
• 1:23:55
  Sex in return if we and. That massages and like we, we
• 1:24:01
  take care of you. So it's like we take care of
• 1:24:03
  you, then you should take care of us in return.
• 1:24:05
  That's just the way that it should go bro 100.
• 1:24:07
  Percent. She's single right now.
• 1:24:10
  So OK, right. Oh damn salvation.
• 1:24:13
  Listen, I you look. I've been.
• 1:24:16
  Putting you on game all night bro.
• 1:24:18
  I ain't. Gonna lie, yeah.
• 1:24:19
  But listen, my, my, my thing is this right when you say you want
• 1:24:25
  a man, right. I'm looking at a biblical term.
• 1:24:29
  A man, he has to he has to lead. And.
• 1:24:35
  And the Bible talks about when there's no order, it's spoiled.
• 1:24:39
  Good. So if the man is not
• 1:24:42
  establishing a law in that house, then the house is going
• 1:24:46
  to be chaotic. Have you noticed like every time
• 1:24:50
  a man leaves a home, the children are always, you know,
• 1:24:53
  in trouble or you know, in some type of, you know, some type of
• 1:24:59
  crap you know going into? And in order for a man to lead,
• 1:25:02
  the Bible also says a man needs to provide like a exactly.
• 1:25:06
  He got to provide exactly right, but he has to lead though it has
• 1:25:11
  to be saying. Like woman wasn't working in the
• 1:25:13
  fields back then. That.
• 1:25:20
  Was that for salvation or was that for me?
• 1:25:22
  For salvation? OK, they don't know.
• 1:25:24
  I act like the woman was just sitting in the house being
• 1:25:26
  pretty. Yeah, we were tending the
• 1:25:30
  gardens and. Doing.
• 1:25:31
  The laundry. So you you want a man to
• 1:25:39
  provide, but you don't want him to like lead you and like in a
• 1:25:43
  in a stern way. Well, it depends because I mean,
• 1:25:48
  of course you want a guy to lead.
• 1:25:51
  It depends on what the circumstances are that you're
• 1:25:54
  talking because like it's kind of nice to have some guy to take
• 1:25:59
  charge when you get into like intimate see.
• 1:26:02
  But like when it comes to like other things, I mean, there's
• 1:26:08
  leading and being bossy. We want a guy to lead, but we
• 1:26:11
  don't want him to be like super, super bossy.
• 1:26:13
  That's all that. See.
• 1:26:15
  That's that's we want him. To be like a teammate.
• 1:26:19
  Yeah, let let's leave what inferior I gotta say so.
• 1:26:21
  When we have sex, it's not your pleasure as well as ours.
• 1:26:27
  Of course it is so. That's an equal exchange.
• 1:26:33
  If you if you both aren't having any pleasure when you're having
• 1:26:36
  sex and you're with the wrong partner just.
• 1:26:38
  But I'm saying just cause a woman gives me sex I don't.
• 1:26:41
  I don't think she should change my oil the next day.
• 1:26:46
  Change your what oil the next? Oh yeah, I don't think you
• 1:26:49
  should be able to change your oil for new.
• 1:26:51
  Tires the next day. Yeah, my, what is?
• 1:26:57
  She offering besides that sex like, well, you.
• 1:27:00
  Can at least be a chauffeur then, if nothing else.
• 1:27:04
  I will. I will be.
• 1:27:05
  You don't. Have to like give a give a girl
• 1:27:07
  like a new car or anything like that but you can at least drive.
• 1:27:11
  See this mindset is crazy like. She's speaking from a three or
• 1:27:14
  four mindset. I'm just saying.
• 1:27:18
  Oh. This ain't you.
• 1:27:20
  You had this mindset for so long and you never thought to change
• 1:27:23
  it. No, I mean, you should.
• 1:27:30
  It's a partnership. You should be in a marriage and
• 1:27:33
  that's a partnership. That's what I mean working and
• 1:27:37
  this is a program that a lot of females are operating under and
• 1:27:41
  it's not working. I know because now it's like the
• 1:27:45
  guys aren't working like anymore.
• 1:27:47
  Like they used to. What?
• 1:27:48
  What? Guys.
• 1:27:49
  And they're not. Providing like like they all
• 1:27:51
  these guys like. We have.
• 1:27:52
  To do. The we have to do.
• 1:27:54
  The providing, yeah. We work.
• 1:27:56
  We work I I work 3 jobs. Yeah, I work 3 jobs too.
• 1:28:01
  That's good. But that's not good for it's
• 1:28:03
  the. Disconnect with the women though
• 1:28:05
  because y'all have this type of mindset that we can't even come
• 1:28:11
  to a common ground. Y'all just want to come in
• 1:28:13
  leeching office? Well, yeah, because you should
• 1:28:17
  help to provide like if you want me to be a teammate and help you
• 1:28:21
  as well. Like that's the way it should be
• 1:28:24
  like your, your home should be like a castle with your partner
• 1:28:28
  and you can build like the castle together.
• 1:28:33
  That's the way it's supposed to be.
• 1:28:34
  It's not supposed to be. Like there's just so many bums
• 1:28:38
  out there that it's not even funny.
• 1:28:39
  So many guys that don't want to work, so many.
• 1:28:43
  It's just so frustrating. All the guys up here work.
• 1:28:47
  Yeah, we all work. We.
• 1:28:49
  I just think you run across a lot of a lot of dope friends or
• 1:28:52
  something like I don't know what type of guys you run across, but
• 1:28:55
  every guy I know works, gets to it.
• 1:29:02
  And all the guys that do work, the really good paying jobs,
• 1:29:05
  they're already married. How about you find a guy that
• 1:29:08
  works a regular job? How about you stay in your
• 1:29:13
  league and. Then and not only that, but then
• 1:29:16
  just like to find somebody that you're attracted to that's like
• 1:29:19
  a whole and like other thing, it's like especially when you're
• 1:29:23
  older then it makes it even live like a bit harder sometimes.
• 1:29:27
  When a guy chooses you, you think you check off every box.
• 1:29:32
  Well, no, of course not. But when like you, like I don't
• 1:29:39
  know you don't. You just never know.
• 1:29:40
  Like you relationships are just complicated, that's all.
• 1:29:47
  Like a perfect world. You get married and live happily
• 1:29:50
  ever after, have the White House, the picket fence, the
• 1:29:52
  kids and everything, but it's like it's just, I don't know, it
• 1:29:58
  just doesn't happen that way anymore.
• 1:30:00
  Let. Let me ask you, let me ask you
• 1:30:01
  something, Would you be open to? Have you ever dated outside your
• 1:30:06
  race? Yeah.
• 1:30:09
  Yeah, black men, Hispanic. Asian.
• 1:30:19
  No, I have like. Well, I had like, but not
• 1:30:24
  seriously outside of my race. No, I haven't had like a serious
• 1:30:28
  relationship outside my race. I just had like blinks.
• 1:30:32
  Try to try to try a black man a hard.
• 1:30:36
  Working black. Man.
• 1:30:40
  He's going. To change your mind a.
• 1:30:45
  Hard. Working black man is going to
• 1:30:47
  change your mind from the man that you came across like Kilo
• 1:30:51
  said, the man that's in this chat, you know what I said?
• 1:30:55
  A hard working man. We all have jobs, right?
• 1:30:59
  I think you just came across the man who sold you a dream.
• 1:31:02
  Cause a real man is one who I don't know which I believe in,
• 1:31:08
  but you know, have God in his life.
• 1:31:11
  You know, it's hard working. He has a goal and ambitious and
• 1:31:17
  you know he want to provide for his family one day.
• 1:31:19
  Let me. Let me throw a monkey wrench in
• 1:31:21
  there, yeah? For sure like.
• 1:31:22
  Like, like what's your relationship goal seeming that
• 1:31:26
  you're 50 and you can't have kids?
• 1:31:33
  Just see if that's why I need to find a sugar daddy now, somebody
• 1:31:36
  that I can like travel with as and you know what, even though I
• 1:31:40
  can't have kids, I still do have kids and they're both girls and
• 1:31:45
  that's why I have to work three jobs.
• 1:31:47
  So but. How old are those kids I have?
• 1:31:51
  A 26 year old and a 16 year old. So what are you offering a man?
• 1:31:58
  I'm offering him like, see, I have like nothing.
• 1:32:05
  See, that's why I'm single. I have nothing to offer.
• 1:32:08
  That's see we. We.
• 1:32:09
  We're not bashing nobody. We we are not the what do you
• 1:32:12
  call it? The what's that part I have?
• 1:32:15
  You know what I have fresh and. Fit podcast.
• 1:32:17
  We're not that good. Back massages and neck massages
• 1:32:20
  and like a fun time and like cuddling and like I would be
• 1:32:26
  like a great like travel partner and I could like help like take
• 1:32:33
  care of the house that you build me.
• 1:32:37
  And do you cook any I could? Do a lot.
• 1:32:39
  I could even take care of the garden.
• 1:32:41
  I could do a whole. Lot you know how to cut grass.
• 1:32:45
  What I can, Yep, and I even have a like a self-propelled lawn
• 1:32:48
  mower. OK, OK, Hey, look.
• 1:32:52
  There's somebody in this chat. Yeah, you.
• 1:32:55
  Could be useful on the tool belt.
• 1:32:58
  I can even cook, and I can cook good too.
• 1:33:02
  You you guys too much potato tot hot dish and beef stroganoff and
• 1:33:07
  steaks and stuff. OK, mine, the tater tot, the
• 1:33:12
  beef and the yeah. Can you guys cook?
• 1:33:15
  Yeah, for sure. That's your job now I.
• 1:33:19
  Can like go like you crazy for that?
• 1:33:24
  Yeah. Bro I'm real also man and woman.
• 1:33:26
  Shit bro like that's her job. No, I don't.
• 1:33:28
  Know I just decided I don't even need a husband I just need a
• 1:33:31
  Butler at this point just somebody that can like help with
• 1:33:36
  the housework and. See bro, they don't really want
• 1:33:39
  us bro, they just drive. Us around, be the chauffeur.
• 1:33:43
  No, see you as the listen you, I'm not telling you like what to
• 1:33:49
  do, but you were doing good. Somebody was in here was like,
• 1:33:52
  you know what? I think that's the one.
• 1:33:55
  But when you say like the Butler, you need a Butler, you
• 1:33:59
  need a sugar daddy, like no, I don't do that.
• 1:34:02
  It seems like you a dope woman. I feel like, I feel like you
• 1:34:10
  just not being realistic with yourself.
• 1:34:14
  That's it. I feel like you just not being
• 1:34:16
  realistic. I'm pretty sure there's men out
• 1:34:19
  there who would love to date you, but you're just not
• 1:34:22
  realistic enough. Yeah, you're not down to earth.
• 1:34:27
  I I I said she dope bro. I said she could be dope like
• 1:34:30
  she she got like I feel. Like she got a dope.
• 1:34:32
  She she's the Princess of somewhere in her mind, and
• 1:34:38
  that's not reality. I think she dope bro.
• 1:34:42
  I think a. Princess, I am totally a Prince.
• 1:34:47
  No, I'm not a. Princess, I was told I'm a queen
• 1:34:50
  there. We.
• 1:34:51
  Go. That's what I was.
• 1:34:52
  Told. So and you know what I shouldn't
• 1:34:54
  do, you know, and women, we shouldn't be expecting anything
• 1:34:57
  less than to like meet our king is somebody that can like make
• 1:35:02
  our castle. Make your castle, yeah.
• 1:35:07
  Exactly. And make our home a castle,
• 1:35:10
  that's what the man. Supposed to be the king.
• 1:35:12
  And make our home to a castle. What's that?
• 1:35:15
  A relationship is more of a fantasy to a woman than a
• 1:35:19
  reality. That's why they always looking
• 1:35:24
  for more. Love novels are so like,
• 1:35:27
  popular, that's why. You never satisfy a woman, they
• 1:35:30
  always looking for more. You just want somebody that can
• 1:35:35
  respect us and be like a really good lay in bed, that's all.
• 1:35:38
  Like somebody that's respectful, that can provide and that's
• 1:35:41
  amazing in bed. That's not like asking a lot you
• 1:35:45
  just described. The black man no, ain't no
• 1:35:48
  disrespect to the. Men.
• 1:35:52
  No, no disrespect to, you know the other men here, you know
• 1:35:56
  what I'm saying, But you know, you just described the black
• 1:35:58
  man. Obviously I'm joking, but you
• 1:36:00
  just got to find now to the people that's laughing here, but
• 1:36:04
  you just got to find the the you should you got to find the right
• 1:36:09
  person. You got to find the right person
• 1:36:12
  for real, because they're out there out here.
• 1:36:15
  They're out here you you're probably shining them.
• 1:36:19
  You're probably walking past them.
• 1:36:21
  Oh, let me get never mind on here.
• 1:36:22
  He been trying to get on my bed but.
• 1:36:25
  She got standards bro that exceeds her her her her current
• 1:36:30
  status. Yeah, I mean.
• 1:36:35
  Like what? You mean you wanna meet a rich
• 1:36:37
  man? Like, are you rich?
• 1:36:41
  But no. But I mean I make enough money
• 1:36:42
  to pay my bills. Then why?
• 1:36:44
  Do you why do you put that person and I have.
• 1:36:46
  Extra money to go gamble with afterwards.
• 1:36:48
  So that's fun. It's kind of nice to be the guy
• 1:36:51
  that can help me gamble too. I kind of like going to the
• 1:36:54
  casino. It's like.
• 1:36:55
  Once in a. While ain't.
• 1:36:57
  Wrong going to the casino, do your thing, you know, saying do
• 1:37:01
  your thing, but this. Is my prime example bro.
• 1:37:05
  I think you dope. She's.
• 1:37:08
  Cool bro, I feel like she. Well, if I bring jobs, I deserve
• 1:37:12
  the play. And you know what?
• 1:37:14
  Sometimes like being at the casino is more fun than hanging
• 1:37:18
  out with certain people, so at least you still get wins once in
• 1:37:22
  a while. I think you just.
• 1:37:24
  Gotta, I think you just got to give someone a chance.
• 1:37:31
  Let's let's I for example, let's say this guy's a great man, but
• 1:37:37
  he is a custodian. Would you still talk to him or
• 1:37:41
  no? Because of his job title, he's
• 1:37:44
  not going to make no more than what, 46 I and.
• 1:37:49
  You know what if he's got a job and he's good looking and I'm
• 1:37:51
  attracted to him heck yeah, he's hello custodians make good money
• 1:37:57
  and if he's. Average looking if I'm.
• 1:37:58
  Attracted to him and he's amazing about yes, 100% I would
• 1:38:02
  totally. I would be OK with that.
• 1:38:06
  What if he's not that attractive?
• 1:38:08
  You know, like he's just, he's decent looking.
• 1:38:18
  You drive a hard bargain Salvation.
• 1:38:21
  I don't know. I mean what did do you date a
• 1:38:24
  girl that's attracted or you don't you date a girl that
• 1:38:27
  you're not attracted to like? Like I told him earlier, I'm
• 1:38:32
  optimistic man. Like I'm optimistic man.
• 1:38:38
  I didn't try it with a fat chick, I mean.
• 1:38:40
  Sometimes I think that guys don't even care what girls look
• 1:38:42
  like as long as it gets their Willy wet.
• 1:38:45
  That's Cap. That's Cap, yeah.
• 1:38:47
  That's alive. That's.
• 1:38:48
  Cap I don't men be some men be lying men they be like pussy
• 1:38:53
  don't got a face. It has a face over here.
• 1:38:55
  OK, it has a face over there. If you don't look good, you're
• 1:38:59
  not getting none of this. You're not getting none of this.
• 1:39:02
  And I'm just not out here slinging shit.
• 1:39:04
  But no, it definitely, this is quality over quantity any day.
• 1:39:10
  If I'm not attracted to you, it just probably won't be anything.
• 1:39:15
  You know, I'm saying exactly, exactly.
• 1:39:19
  You don't have to have now when I'm being attractive, she don't
• 1:39:23
  have to be the prettiest in the face.
• 1:39:25
  She don't have to have the fattest ass.
• 1:39:27
  She don't have to have the biggest titties.
• 1:39:30
  As long as you know, she's simple, you know, not a
• 1:39:37
  headache. Guy fearing.
• 1:39:39
  You love children, it'll work out.
• 1:39:41
  You don't got to be the baddest. I'm not looking for the baddest.
• 1:39:45
  I'm just looking for someone who's compatible, you know, guy
• 1:39:48
  fearing like who can laugh, who know how to have a good time.
• 1:39:54
  You know, I don't think I feel like men we love unconditionally
• 1:40:02
  and then some women love under the condition that that man is
• 1:40:06
  in. Now.
• 1:40:07
  All women are like that. I feel like a woman, like
• 1:40:10
  Salvation, wants you to love her, with her, what with your
• 1:40:13
  wallet. More than the wallet, but you
• 1:40:20
  just have to have a job, that's all And.
• 1:40:22
  And and and good and good there are so.
• 1:40:25
  Many bums out there that it's not even funny or else guys
• 1:40:29
  that. Let me ask you where, where,
• 1:40:32
  where are you located? You don't gotta say like.
• 1:40:35
  You know, in the. Midwest.
• 1:40:39
  Damn, OK, kind of be in a. Desolate area.
• 1:40:42
  What's what's the Midwest? I don't know shit about the
• 1:40:44
  Midwest. What is that like Ohio?
• 1:40:48
  No, we got like Minnesota, we got MOV America.
• 1:40:52
  Oh, Minnesota, OK, I, I know a couple people out there, they
• 1:40:56
  they pretty dope. I didn't see you.
• 1:40:58
  You dope, you just, you just gotta, you know, just.
• 1:41:02
  Shelter goes kind of like living in the Hicks.
• 1:41:04
  Pretty it ain't. Even much jobs up there.
• 1:41:07
  So what type of man do you expect to get?
• 1:41:09
  Like be realistic. Crazy.
• 1:41:12
  It's like, well, in this turn into like senior citizen network
• 1:41:17
  pretty much like it's everything that where I live in the area,
• 1:41:20
  it's just pretty much for senior citizens.
• 1:41:23
  Like there's not a lot of stuff for young kids to do around here
• 1:41:26
  and for like y'all. Got the AARP deals?
• 1:41:30
  The older people outpace them to you.
• 1:41:32
  We don't. Even have a hospital, we just
• 1:41:35
  have a clinic. We just.
• 1:41:38
  Damn, like what? Type of man do you expect to
• 1:41:41
  meet in that area? Yeah, well, we got bunch of farm
• 1:41:45
  boys and farm boys make good money.
• 1:41:47
  But yeah, I need listen. So now you want a farmer.
• 1:41:54
  No, I just want somebody that has a job and that wants to
• 1:41:56
  travel and like have fun and that's amazing in bed.
• 1:42:00
  That's all I want. That's.
• 1:42:02
  All women, someone. That I'm attracted to, that has
• 1:42:04
  a job that likes to travel. That's.
• 1:42:07
  Yeah. And that's like, amazing.
• 1:42:09
  With that, hey, there's ain't. Nothing wrong.
• 1:42:11
  You might. Wanna move?
• 1:42:13
  I know exactly come. To the South, come to the South.
• 1:42:17
  Right. Yeah, you might want to move.
• 1:42:20
  Yeah, even my daughter, she's. 26 years old.
• 1:42:22
  And she's beautiful and she's still single and it's like.
• 1:42:25
  Yeah, both might want to move. You.
• 1:42:30
  Might want to pack the family out somewhere to go plus.
• 1:42:33
  She's too picky like. Is it both of y'all want to?
• 1:42:37
  Who? Yeah.
• 1:42:38
  I might want to move man, go somewhere different like it.
• 1:42:41
  It's popping off in the South and and the West Coast and the
• 1:42:44
  East Coast keeps popping off. It's popping.
• 1:42:47
  Midwest is is desolate. Hold on, we got it.
• 1:42:51
  We got a message. Sometimes you got to move out of
• 1:42:54
  your town to find love. There's billions of people out
• 1:42:58
  here. Move around.
• 1:43:05
  You already said right, so if. Anybody wants to fund me to
• 1:43:07
  move, then I would be glad. Undo like why do you keep like
• 1:43:11
  come on, man. See you go from home now I.
• 1:43:14
  Agree I need to move but that cost like a lot of money to move
• 1:43:18
  so that's not going to happen anytime soon.
• 1:43:20
  You. Listen one thing I will say you
• 1:43:22
  a lady, it's easier for y'all to promote yourselves and I'm not
• 1:43:26
  talking about only fans. Go go fund me is easy to do that
• 1:43:33
  for a woman than a man. If a man do a GoFundMe they're
• 1:43:35
  gonna be like *** get to work. But for a woman, you know what
• 1:43:40
  I'm saying? They like.
• 1:43:40
  Save you some money up for two years and then yeah, I'd be too.
• 1:43:44
  Embarrassed to do a GoFundMe for like give me for like living
• 1:43:48
  expenses. It's like, that's why it's like
• 1:43:51
  save some money. For 2-3 years and then move to
• 1:43:53
  Florida. Yeah, Florida, right.
• 1:43:57
  Yeah, I got sister lives over there.
• 1:43:59
  She loves it. Her and her husband and kids are
• 1:44:01
  there and they seem to really like it.
• 1:44:04
  So. Move closer to your sister.
• 1:44:07
  I know dating. So is dating bad where you're at
• 1:44:10
  and. Yeah, there's, there's just OK.
• 1:44:15
  Honestly, there's just not a lot of attractive people in this
• 1:44:18
  area. They're just so.
• 1:44:20
  Come on now, stop it, right? Well, she live in.
• 1:44:23
  The Midwest girl. No, stop.
• 1:44:26
  Like how long now? Like you have to come across
• 1:44:30
  somebody for. Attractive people live in
• 1:44:32
  sunnier states. OK, there's also a lot of
• 1:44:35
  attractive women and stuff in our state, but like for
• 1:44:38
  attractive men in our state, that's just.
• 1:44:41
  The tale Linda Kentucky, unfortunately.
• 1:44:45
  I don't. I ain't gonna lie like I don't.
• 1:44:48
  I don't know. I don't know.
• 1:44:49
  I didn't. Met some pretty women from
• 1:44:51
  Minnesota. No bullshit.
• 1:44:53
  That's Minnesota there. Is a lot of pretty women in
• 1:44:57
  Minnesota, but the men are not, there's not a lot of good
• 1:45:01
  looking men. And so they're they're spoiled,
• 1:45:04
  like they can easily cheat and everything on the women and
• 1:45:06
  everything like that, especially if they have jobs and stuff
• 1:45:09
  because there's not a lot of good looking men that yeah,
• 1:45:13
  Minnesota sound like. My type of town.
• 1:45:16
  That I know you should move to Minnesota in.
• 1:45:19
  Minnesota. Say true Hey, where will?
• 1:45:24
  Yeah. Living lavish.
• 1:45:29
  The winters suck, but otherwise? At least we don't have in.
• 1:45:33
  The winter, we don't have alligators here, so that's a
• 1:45:36
  good thing. I've been the top 1% for show
• 1:45:39
  the top one. Percent.
• 1:45:42
  The best looking man that came to Minnesota.
• 1:45:45
  Having my way. Removed.
• 1:45:49
  Retired there. I don't know, maybe maybe you
• 1:45:57
  know, you should try like the, you know what I'm saying, the
• 1:46:00
  dating app, if you say there's not a lot of good looking men,
• 1:46:04
  you can do a dating app and that way you can filter it to it like
• 1:46:09
  OK, Florida, Georgia, Texas, you know what I'm saying?
• 1:46:17
  Everything is bigger in Texas, you know, they say California,
• 1:46:21
  you know. Have you tried a dating app?
• 1:46:25
  Not really. Not me.
• 1:46:28
  Just meeting somebody online is just not as like real as like
• 1:46:32
  meeting somebody in person. I don't know.
• 1:46:34
  It's like dating apps. You just don't really have any
• 1:46:38
  any luck for it. And not only that, but you don't
• 1:46:40
  even know if you're like talking to like a real person or AI.
• 1:46:43
  You know I'm. Not gonna lie, you got it is you
• 1:46:46
  gotta take your chances 'cause I definitely got catfished off
• 1:46:49
  that motherfucker. Dead ass, dead ass.
• 1:46:54
  Oh my gosh, it was. Oh fuck.
• 1:46:59
  Terrified and. All that, but sometimes, like
• 1:47:02
  the people on the dating apps and stuff, they that's not what
• 1:47:05
  they look like in real life. It's like you use a filter.
• 1:47:09
  Man, I got catfished so bad. I prayed, I ain't gonna lie, I
• 1:47:12
  prayed, I prayed to God. I said God don't ever let me do
• 1:47:15
  nothing like that again. So you gotta, you gotta take
• 1:47:18
  your chances, but it's better. Did you find?
• 1:47:21
  Out who the catfish was that like catfished you, No.
• 1:47:25
  I seen her in person, I. Say oh Dang yeah.
• 1:47:34
  It was I was like, fuck. Got my eyes.
• 1:47:39
  Got my eyes. I should have stayed my ass off
• 1:47:42
  there motherfucker. But a hard head make a soft ass.
• 1:47:47
  But if day naps is not your move, don't do it.
• 1:47:52
  Don't see her down here to Florida as the leader of the
• 1:47:56
  black conglomerate who respectfully decline.
• 1:48:01
  All right, now you got library. I got catfished.
• 1:48:04
  It was a dude like y'all was touching.
• 1:48:06
  Don't. You know that we all started to.
• 1:48:08
  Pray after that what happened. Nah, bro, I I get catfish when a
• 1:48:12
  dude, it was a girl bro it was it was a girl.
• 1:48:16
  She. Just that's a.
• 1:48:16
  Relief. So what was the dude just
• 1:48:19
  started touching you've? Seen so many times TV shows
• 1:48:22
  where yeah it's a dude. It ends up being no.
• 1:48:25
  I I get catfish that bad now, but you know, just just wasn't
• 1:48:30
  the. How much money did you spend
• 1:48:34
  that one? I probably spend like like 1
• 1:48:44
  some. I ain't come out of my pocket
• 1:48:46
  like that. Like 100 and some.
• 1:48:51
  Yeah, like 1 some like, I'd say like at least 115.
• 1:48:56
  Without even seeing her in person, you just forked over
• 1:48:59
  some money. No, no, no, no.
• 1:49:01
  I just didn't like hey, come out here.
• 1:49:03
  It was more so she wanted to and I'm like OK, cool, like alright,
• 1:49:09
  why not? Shit, I said, man, listen, I
• 1:49:18
  told myself after that I won't ever do that shit again.
• 1:49:22
  Like it was so you. You bought her bus, bus ticket
• 1:49:25
  to to meet you and then her bus ticket to go back home.
• 1:49:29
  Yeah, she came out here on her own.
• 1:49:31
  She flew out here. Yeah, she she flew out here.
• 1:49:36
  So you like bought her ticket to fly back?
• 1:49:40
  No, Hell no. So she.
• 1:49:46
  Flew out that way for nothing. Yeah.
• 1:49:51
  Yeah, imagine a guy you thinking you fend a seed like that is
• 1:49:57
  good looking whole time. He built weird.
• 1:50:01
  He built like bubble bath. You know what I'm saying?
• 1:50:05
  Well, he built like I don't know, he just he not built like
• 1:50:09
  the way he said he was built. And you know, you you go to the
• 1:50:14
  airport, you pick him up and you like where where are you?
• 1:50:18
  He come out. You.
• 1:50:21
  Already didn't you know? I'm saying the guy, the hotel or
• 1:50:24
  whatever you did, you know what I'm saying?
• 1:50:27
  It's like, damn, so you. Met her at the airport and you
• 1:50:30
  said hello goodbye right away. No, I played it cool.
• 1:50:35
  I played it cool. I, I played it cool.
• 1:50:39
  I ain't gonna say I played. I, I played it, I played it
• 1:50:42
  cool. I ain't gonna lie.
• 1:50:43
  I played it cool. Yeah, I played it cold.
• 1:50:45
  But I just know that that would not be a move for me ever again.
• 1:50:50
  So I wouldn't recommend, you know, day naps.
• 1:50:57
  I wouldn't recommend. My FaceTime is needed.
• 1:51:02
  I did that shit without FaceTime.
• 1:51:04
  That's how bold I was. Yeah, I was bold.
• 1:51:12
  Tripping out bro bro. Tripping out, bro, tripping out.
• 1:51:17
  But. Now it's like you gotta do so
• 1:51:18
  many different like So what? Does he look like?
• 1:51:20
  And he had to see if they're like way in debt or you gotta
• 1:51:25
  see if they have like crazy people, like crazy baby Mamas or
• 1:51:29
  crazy exes or there's just, it's just not easy to date.
• 1:51:34
  It's just so much simpler to be single.
• 1:51:38
  And that's why I think I'd be better off getting a Butler.
• 1:51:42
  I don't think, man, we don't have to worry about that.
• 1:51:45
  We don't have to worry about all the the scary shit.
• 1:51:48
  What? What this show do you look like?
• 1:51:51
  Bro she didn't look like her pictures.
• 1:51:52
  Bro, I ain't gonna lie to you. Like I can't even like describe
• 1:51:58
  like what I seen Like it bro, it's not even funny.
• 1:52:02
  Like I want to laugh but I can't like what I seen.
• 1:52:05
  I was like what the fuck? I was like yo.
• 1:52:12
  And the crazy part about I'm like, yo, I'm finna, but I got
• 1:52:16
  this girl, she coming out here, bro.
• 1:52:19
  This shit happened last year. I'm like I got this girl coming
• 1:52:23
  out here, bro. I'm finna send it to my panic.
• 1:52:25
  He like, yeah, bro, tell her pull up shit.
• 1:52:30
  I said if this *** would have seen her out, it would have been
• 1:52:35
  like my credibility would have been down.
• 1:52:38
  It would have been down for from a man of quality, that one
• 1:52:42
  quality my *** one quality at all.
• 1:52:46
  I had How long were you talking to her before you saw her in
• 1:52:49
  person? 6.
• 1:52:52
  Months. We.
• 1:52:53
  Never. We only FaceTime.
• 1:52:55
  We only FaceTime twice and I'm like damn, why she always
• 1:53:01
  putting her face on the side? She always.
• 1:53:05
  Put her face on the side like no fool.
• 1:53:09
  No full face or nothing. No full face or nothing.
• 1:53:13
  I'm damn she not like showing her face like she OK she just
• 1:53:18
  shy. Maybe I'm just making her
• 1:53:20
  nervous. Shit my ass should have just
• 1:53:25
  abort. I said no, I should have known.
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  I should have known. I should have known.
• 1:53:30
  It just didn't click for me. It just didn't click for me.
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  Yeah, that she was that she was terrible voice experience.
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  So you never. Questioned her for the whole six
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  months to see her face correctly.
• 1:53:45
  That's crazy. Yeah.
• 1:53:47
  Bro yeah. Hello.
• 1:53:48
  Wait, so she had a pretty face? Her body just was crazy as him.
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  And he gave her money to on top of it, but at least it was only
• 1:53:58
  like 100 and some dollars. And so like thousands of dollars
• 1:54:01
  like some guys get sucked into doing.
• 1:54:05
  Now spending 1000 no won't do that won't ever, especially for
• 1:54:13
  like a weekend get together and I'm spending 1000 shit hell no
• 1:54:22
  Kilo you spending 1000 for? Some random tick.
• 1:54:27
  It's crazy how much feel like you hear people like spend sent
• 1:54:31
  to like these love interests online without even meeting
• 1:54:35
  them. It's like how much money did you
• 1:54:37
  give? What are you thinking?
• 1:54:41
  No, not $4000 though. You just said you was looking
• 1:54:45
  for that type of dude salvation. No, like not well, you had to
• 1:54:54
  give me money. That's fine.
• 1:54:57
  But still like I don't want, I'm not going to be, I want to be
• 1:55:00
  like out of deceptive, like deceptive ways.
• 1:55:03
  Like I don't think that's cool. I want all legit.
• 1:55:10
  If somebody's going to give me money, it's going to be legit.
• 1:55:12
  Just not going to be like out of any like deceptive means.
• 1:55:17
  I don't know. I don't have to stoop that low.
• 1:55:19
  That's fine. Well, nowadays if a man is some
• 1:55:25
  man, if they feel like spending $1000, you know what I'm saying?
• 1:55:30
  It's a lot and it is $1000 is a lot and they give you that they
• 1:55:35
  going to want some in return. And it's not going to be a hug.
• 1:55:39
  It's going to be that ass or or you know, they said what what
• 1:55:47
  you know, so you got to be worried at.
• 1:55:51
  Right. And then if I'm not attracted to
• 1:55:53
  him, I'm not gonna be like accepting any lavish gifts or
• 1:55:56
  any money or anything to have him expect anything in return
• 1:56:01
  'cause I just won't take anything.
• 1:56:03
  You don't take anything unless it's like I'm attracted to the
• 1:56:05
  guy. OK, well, that's, well, that's
• 1:56:09
  good. That's good.
• 1:56:10
  Yeah. Well, yeah, you gotta be worried
• 1:56:12
  that 'cause you know nowadays. So how do you feel if how do you
• 1:56:19
  feel before I wrap this up, how do you feel about a man paying
• 1:56:23
  for the date right and expecting some after?
• 1:56:30
  Oh well, you know, like if a guy pays for a date and I'm
• 1:56:34
  attracted to him and stuff, then he's probably going to get
• 1:56:37
  dessert afterwards. But if I'm not attracted to him,
• 1:56:40
  it doesn't matter if he does pay for the date, there's not going
• 1:56:44
  to be any dessert. Now why would you waste his time
• 1:56:48
  though? Exactly then it's like you mean
• 1:56:52
  exactly salvation. Why was the guy if you?
• 1:56:54
  Already know when you're here see bro then I see this earlier
• 1:56:58
  they just want to go out with with some dudes and just but.
• 1:57:01
  If a guy wants to buy you a free meal, that's why you.
• 1:57:04
  Should have took them tickets bro bro.
• 1:57:06
  For real that's crazy. You going to use a guy for the
• 1:57:10
  meal and say exactly? Bro, I've been putting you on
• 1:57:14
  game all night, bro. I mean.
• 1:57:16
  My company is valuable, so just because this.
• 1:57:21
  Guy. Doesn't.
• 1:57:21
  Mean that my company company. Is valuable.
• 1:57:23
  Did you add any type of value to that man when you spending the
• 1:57:27
  company time with him? You know it's he.
• 1:57:31
  Is you up in his his bank account or something?
• 1:57:33
  Is you up in his stocks and his his bonds and stuff If we're.
• 1:57:37
  In a relationship together, I'm up in time is.
• 1:57:40
  Volume you. Bet, and he's gonna be up in all
• 1:57:43
  mine. Because we're gonna You haven't.
• 1:57:44
  Made me richer this whole conversation.
• 1:57:49
  That's crazy. So you so if a man is not
• 1:57:53
  attractive to you, you will still let him take you out of
• 1:57:56
  the day, but you wouldn't take him serious but you like.
• 1:58:00
  I was. I went on.
• 1:58:01
  Take me on a date. I'm not going to go out on a
• 1:58:03
  date with a guy I'm not attracted to.
• 1:58:07
  But you just said that, you know what I'm saying?
• 1:58:09
  Well, if I'm out, like, OK, like I've gone to the casino with a
• 1:58:14
  guy and he's and played and then he like went to the Wood Fire
• 1:58:19
  Grill and then we like ate steak, but it was free.
• 1:58:23
  It was why would why would I deny?
• 1:58:26
  And I didn't, I didn't sleep with him afterwards.
• 1:58:29
  It was just being nice. Some guys are actually nice.
• 1:58:34
  I mean, I'm sure he wanted something afterwards, but I've,
• 1:58:39
  I'm not going to sleep with a guy that I'm not really or that
• 1:58:41
  I'm not attracted to, no matter what kind of a steak he buys me.
• 1:58:46
  That's the way that that's. What if it's AT bone steak?
• 1:58:50
  It don't make. Ain't even all that.
• 1:58:54
  And you know what? You went straight to Outback.
• 1:58:58
  Now that ain't Outback. That's that.
• 1:59:01
  That's now. But what's that?
• 1:59:03
  What's that? You gotta.
• 1:59:04
  Take it to Steak 48. No, Hell no.
• 1:59:07
  Steak 48. That's a lot of money.
• 1:59:10
  But you know, like if I am like starving and it's a really dark
• 1:59:15
  room, you think you. Were stake 48 salvation.
• 1:59:25
  It's just good to like, I don't know, I'm just in the perfect
• 1:59:31
  world, you'd find the guy that you're attracted to that would
• 1:59:34
  provide and then have amazing sex with and then you'd get
• 1:59:38
  married. But it's not a perfect world.
• 1:59:43
  It is. It's not.
• 1:59:43
  Sex in the City. Yeah, that's what I was
• 1:59:46
  thinking. This is not Sex in the City.
• 1:59:50
  You, you not go listen, That's, that's, that's, that's rare.
• 1:59:56
  That's rare. That is very rare is that's a
• 2:00:00
  tough ask. I'm not gonna lie.
• 2:00:02
  That's a tough ask. Very, very tough ask.
• 2:00:06
  I mean, but maybe you may find that guy.
• 2:00:09
  He's he's somewhere in Minnesota.
• 2:00:11
  He's somewhere around here. You know where he's.
• 2:00:16
  You know, pretty reasonable, you know, pretty well off.
• 2:00:20
  I don't know. Would you date younger like 40?
• 2:00:29
  Well, my last boyfriend was 36. So you.
• 2:00:33
  Ran him off because. He was he would never change.
• 2:00:38
  He kept on drinking and he kept on like one minute he's the most
• 2:00:42
  amazing person ever and the next minute he's the biggest
• 2:00:45
  douchebag. So I can't, I can't do that.
• 2:00:49
  I had to like, let him go. So where you like open to, you
• 2:01:02
  know, giving therapy with him to see like why was he drinking?
• 2:01:06
  Not saying it was the problem, but.
• 2:01:11
  Umm, well, that's what I'm, I'm hoping that he gets into some
• 2:01:14
  sort of like a outpatient therapy program, but I don't
• 2:01:20
  know. I don't you just, you got to
• 2:01:22
  write a person off. You can either like I spent a
• 2:01:26
  lot of time and a lot of resources and just wait too long
• 2:01:30
  for for being in that relationship.
• 2:01:33
  It was not a good situation. He kept on promising he'd get a
• 2:01:39
  job and then he'd never get a job and instead he'd just go out
• 2:01:41
  and get fucked up instead. See so.
• 2:01:46
  That does that doesn't work. I shouldn't have to work three
• 2:01:50
  jobs and not go on a vacation and then see my ex go on a
• 2:01:55
  cruise with his wife. That's not fair.
• 2:01:58
  Why are? You following your ex.
• 2:02:01
  What? Why?
• 2:02:03
  Are you following your ex? Why?
• 2:02:06
  What? Why are?
• 2:02:07
  You following your ex. Oh, I'm not just some.
• 2:02:11
  No, my daughter just told me about it.
• 2:02:13
  So it's like. Oh, that's.
• 2:02:14
  Nice they got to go on a cruise. That's nice.
• 2:02:17
  So I. Was dating somebody.
• 2:02:19
  That could like take me on a cruise.
• 2:02:21
  Oh, no, wait, wait, wait. He's doing better since he left
• 2:02:24
  you. Well, now he is, but he's only
• 2:02:28
  alive because he's only alive because of me.
• 2:02:31
  So. Whoa.
• 2:02:32
  The hell was your little killer? This doesn't make any sense.
• 2:02:37
  No my. Guy.
• 2:02:40
  Is out enjoying his life now, drinking mojitos, looking at the
• 2:02:45
  blue. My daughter out boating when she
• 2:02:47
  was young and I took her aside and I said, you know, OK, he's a
• 2:02:50
  dumbass. He's probably gonna joke about
• 2:02:52
  pretending to be like drowning and everything like that.
• 2:02:56
  And so like that, but when you come, when it comes to water,
• 2:02:59
  you don't, you don't fuck with water, you don't you take if
• 2:03:02
  somebody is like struggling, you take them seriously.
• 2:03:06
  And like, sure enough, she went out and they went on a boat and
• 2:03:10
  they're hanging out and he wanted her to jump in.
• 2:03:14
  But I told her do not jump in the Mississippi River.
• 2:03:17
  I don't give a shit because of you just don't.
• 2:03:20
  I just especially when she was only like 6 years old.
• 2:03:23
  So I did not want her jumping in there.
• 2:03:26
  And sure enough, I guess he was joking about pretending that he
• 2:03:32
  was going to be drowning and stuff.
• 2:03:34
  And sure enough, he like jumped in.
• 2:03:36
  She's like, I'm not going to jump in, you jump in.
• 2:03:38
  And he jumped in. And sure enough, he was starting
• 2:03:41
  to struggle and it was because she recognized him and like
• 2:03:45
  saved him. He'd be alive because her
• 2:03:47
  cousins, they just started laughing and she's like, he's
• 2:03:51
  actually struggling. She like took put the anchor
• 2:03:55
  down and everything and threw the stuff out and saved his
• 2:03:58
  life. And it's like, Dang, why did I
• 2:04:00
  have that conversation with him? Because you know what, if I
• 2:04:03
  would, if I went to have had that conversation with her, he
• 2:04:07
  would have been dead. And then I wouldn't be jealous
• 2:04:10
  that he's on a cruise with his wife.
• 2:04:13
  But I had to be an. No, that was a.
• 2:04:19
  That was a He sounds like a fun guy.
• 2:04:21
  Yeah. And then when she was like when
• 2:04:24
  she was really young, she was in a car accident with him because.
• 2:04:27
  And I told her, I said if you get in a car or if you if you're
• 2:04:31
  driving with your dad out of town, you make sure that he
• 2:04:33
  doesn't go like, or make sure that you put your seat belt on.
• 2:04:37
  And if you think you're going to get in an accident, then you
• 2:04:40
  need a hunch down and cover your head.
• 2:04:43
  And sure enough is winter and he took her with a friend and his
• 2:04:49
  buddy to have her go skiing. And on the way back during the
• 2:04:55
  winter he tells his friend to go over 100 mph, go real fast, go
• 2:04:59
  fast. And then he like he lost
• 2:05:04
  control. And then the cars like flipped
• 2:05:07
  like 3 or 4 times and it landed on its hood and they had to
• 2:05:11
  crawl out of the back windshield.
• 2:05:15
  So and my daughter said she's like, I was praying that if I
• 2:05:20
  had, if I die, I'd die fast because she was that like
• 2:05:24
  petrified. But she said she had her head
• 2:05:27
  down. She had her head covered and she
• 2:05:31
  could see him flying all over the place, right up there when
• 2:05:34
  it was flipping. And it's a miracle that nobody.
• 2:05:37
  And you know what, like when the cops arrived, they went down to
• 2:05:42
  the ditch where the where the car landed on its hood and the
• 2:05:46
  snow, like, went up to their thighs.
• 2:05:49
  So they're lucky that they had that padding and otherwise they
• 2:05:54
  for sure would have been dead. But still, who the fuck drives
• 2:05:57
  100 miles in the winter? That's not cool at all.
• 2:06:00
  Yeah, Hell. No, that's crazy.
• 2:06:04
  Yeah, he is. He's playing with it.
• 2:06:07
  Yeah, he played his life, Yeah. So he's alive, do.
• 2:06:11
  People still want to be married? I don't know.
• 2:06:14
  Do people still want to be broke?
• 2:06:19
  Right, If you're married, then you got the extra income.
• 2:06:22
  That's so helpful. It's beneficial to be married.
• 2:06:27
  Well, as long as you work as a team and as long as you both
• 2:06:30
  contribute and support and have the good vibe.
• 2:06:38
  Well, listen, it was nice talking to y'all.
• 2:06:43
  I gotta get up. I'll be back home probably
• 2:06:47
  around 2:00, two PM tomorrow. So if y'all free tomorrow, you
• 2:06:53
  know, make sure y'all tap in. Y'all fit you know.
• 2:06:57
  Yeah, let's play these last messages before before we close
• 2:07:00
  the show, Yeah. For sure see what Dan for.
• 2:07:04
  Me and my wife are married and we are the most brought people
• 2:07:07
  in the world, but we are the happiest.
• 2:07:11
  Shout out to Dan for that. Yeah, the most we are the most
• 2:07:13
  what? Me and.
• 2:07:15
  My wife are married and we are the most brought people in the
• 2:07:18
  world but we are the happiest. Like that not.
• 2:07:23
  If they keep buying up hair products and they and the woman
• 2:07:28
  wants shoes and by the end of the day you spent $10,000 on
• 2:07:34
  brand new hair. Alright, the elephant in the
• 2:07:41
  room question. Resbutia or Precious, Which one
• 2:07:46
  does she look like? Built like bubble bath dead yo,
• 2:07:56
  he said. Bill.
• 2:07:58
  He keeps saying Bill. That means she was a big chick.
• 2:08:02
  Yo bubble bath but you. Said she's pretty though, thank
• 2:08:08
  God. No, she wasn't.
• 2:08:12
  She wasn't like Bro. She wasn't the face.
• 2:08:15
  Pictures bro, she was getting you this you you like them
• 2:08:18
  drinks you frying on it Rob? Bro, listen, bro, she could be
• 2:08:31
  in here listening, you know, disguising herself as one of
• 2:08:34
  these people. I'm gonna play it cold.
• 2:08:37
  I ain't gonna, I'm gonna play it cold.
• 2:08:38
  But like I'm I'm, I'm explaining one day.
• 2:08:42
  I'm explaining one day. But I gotta get up at in the
• 2:08:48
  morning. So if y'all free, you know what
• 2:08:52
  I'm saying. 2:00 PM. I'll make sure I'll be talking
• 2:08:55
  about another topic, so you're always welcome to join in and
• 2:08:58
  talk about it for sure. Well, you know, talk.
• 2:09:01
  And. What love, man?
• 2:09:03
  I love y'all be great. He got another measure, no?
• 2:09:06
  So you like those pictures boy? He was in loved.
• 2:09:19
  I didn't say I was in love, bro. No, I was not in love, bro.
• 2:09:22
  I was not in love. Matter of fact, it's tomorrow.
• 2:09:25
  I'm gonna start it off. I'm gonna start it off talking
• 2:09:28
  about like how I went to hell, bro.
• 2:09:29
  I'm gonna, I'm gonna, I'm gonna talk about that at 2:00 PM.
• 2:09:33
  But I'm gonna make sure I follow y'all.
• 2:09:35
  So y'all just follow me back. But I appreciate y'all for
• 2:09:40
  tuning in and listen to us and y'all be great.
• 2:09:43
  Y'all have a blessed night. Well, love, alright.
• 2:09:46
  Now have a. Good night.