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Men Can't Do It Alone · Relationship Talk Thursday

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  Speaker 1: Relationship Talk Thursday here with the Power Couple Pastors the
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  Speaker 1: Moaning Airica Glenn.
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  Speaker 2: A man can't do it alone. Your presence unlocks his potential.
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  Speaker 2: So what is it specifically.
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  Speaker 1: That the woman can bring to the table.
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  Speaker 3: I think, without making it too gender bias, she brings
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  Speaker 3: a lot to the table, right, it's first of all,
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  Speaker 3: I want to just say, it depends on our gifts.
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  Speaker 3: So not every woman is the same, Okay, So but
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  Speaker 3: number one, with that being said, bring your gifts. So
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  Speaker 3: she brings her gifts to the marriage, to the relationship.
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  Speaker 3: Her gifts are suitable, complementary, and helpful. There are areas
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  Speaker 3: in her strengths that are obviously his weaknesses, and so
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  Speaker 3: when she brings her gifts, that is a big thing
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  Speaker 3: by itself.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to get into roles because that's different.
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to say bringing your cooking skills because
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  Speaker 3: you might not be a good thok you know what
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  Speaker 3: I'm saying.
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  Speaker 4: He might be a better cook than you.
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  Speaker 3: I just want to say, bring your gifts to the
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  Speaker 3: relationship and let those gifts start to unpack and explore
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  Speaker 3: what that looks like.
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  Speaker 4: Value.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I think everything that he said, you know, a
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  Speaker 5: woman knowing her gifts and bringing them to the marriage,
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  Speaker 5: to the to the relationship.
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  Speaker 6: But I would have to say, for me, just what.
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  Speaker 5: I have seen over the years is your prayer life
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  Speaker 5: as a woman. Your prayer life, to me, dictates the
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  Speaker 5: temperament of your household, the prophetic voice for your house,
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  Speaker 5: for your children, those the individuals that God has a
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  Speaker 5: sign to your life, like laboring and praying for them
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  Speaker 5: is just a major, major gift.
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  Speaker 1: Let's get into it. Relationship talk Thursday.
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  Speaker 2: It's Sonia with the Power Couple pastors demoted Erica Glenn.
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  Speaker 2: Just in case folks are listening in for the first time.
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  Speaker 2: I know y'all, but how would you introduce yourselves to
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  Speaker 2: our listeners, to.
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  Speaker 1: The world that's listening right now.
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  Speaker 3: That's very interesting. Yeah, we're the Glens. Twenty years of marriage.
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  Speaker 3: So we've been together, love of my life, partner and purpose.
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  Speaker 3: We have three children. We serve as an executive pastor.
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  Speaker 3: I do a New life here in Chicago, and we
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  Speaker 3: have our own ministries to marriages and families. My wife
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  Speaker 3: is a Crown's coach, who's who of America's teacher retire educator.
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  Speaker 3: I go on, I go on, but you know, we
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  Speaker 3: just love what we get to do and glad that
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  Speaker 3: we get to do it here. Thanks for inviting us
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  Speaker 3: and being a part of relationship talk Thursday.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah did he cover it pastor he covered it all?
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  Speaker 1: You get it in?
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  Speaker 4: He covered it all?
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  Speaker 1: Okay? All right?
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  Speaker 2: So a man can't do it alone. Your presence unlocks
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  Speaker 2: his potential. So let's talk about that you were made
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  Speaker 2: to multiply his mission, not mute your own. Yeah, right,
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  Speaker 2: that's an agree. And why why past?
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  Speaker 3: You know, because there has to be alignment. Attraction is important,
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  Speaker 3: but assignment is equally as important as attraction. Of course,
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  Speaker 3: please please please don't marry somebody you're not attracted to.
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  Speaker 3: Please don't you go to look at them every day.
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  Speaker 3: But beyond that attraction or what enhances that attraction is
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  Speaker 3: the assignment.
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  Speaker 4: The alignment.
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  Speaker 3: So so the person that you wit doesn't feel like
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  Speaker 3: that they're losing themselves in purpose. Right, everybody loses a
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  Speaker 3: little bit of themselves in o mission, but don't feel
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  Speaker 3: like they're losing themselves in purpose to be with you
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  Speaker 3: as a partner. So alignment agreement for the excitement for
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  Speaker 3: the assignment that God has put on your life. That's
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  Speaker 3: how you unlock your potential. As I said as a
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  Speaker 3: previous segment in Genesis, when God created woman in the
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  Speaker 3: role of a wife in Genesis too, it was because
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  Speaker 3: he gave Adam such an extreme assignment, a mandate, things
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  Speaker 3: to accomplish, things to do, and say, you cannot do
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  Speaker 3: this alone. It's not that you can and do it,
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  Speaker 3: but you can accomplish it to the level that you
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  Speaker 3: were created to accomplish it. And now I know people
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  Speaker 3: don't like you know, oh, this is a love thing.
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  Speaker 3: It's not a partnership. It's not a business. It's a marriage,
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  Speaker 3: you know, and all that. But life is a business.
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  Speaker 3: And at the end of the day, you can be
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  Speaker 3: in love with somebody and attracted to them. But if
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  Speaker 3: y'all not aligned in an assignment, it's gonna tear.
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  Speaker 4: You're gonna pull in two different ways.
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  Speaker 3: Being not unequally yoked is the picture of two animals
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  Speaker 3: yoked together by the neck, walking at the same pace
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  Speaker 3: in the same direction, plowing a field, pushing ahead.
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  Speaker 4: Do not be unequally yoked. Don't mean both y'all gotta
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  Speaker 4: be saved.
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  Speaker 3: Both y'all gotta be fis you can be saved fildoligos
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  Speaker 3: and be unequally yoked. It means do y'all walk at
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  Speaker 3: the same pace? Are y'all on the same purpose? Do
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  Speaker 3: you have the same passion? Are you puffshit for the
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  Speaker 3: same mission? Because if those elements are not in place,
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  Speaker 3: you can be in love, love, love all you want.
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  Speaker 3: Eventually there's gonna be a tear. There's a lot of
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  Speaker 3: people that's in love, they don't like who they're with.
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  Speaker 3: There's a lot of people that's attracted, but they do
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  Speaker 3: not share an assignment. And in some regards, we have
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  Speaker 3: to understand what the big picture is so that we
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  Speaker 3: can help push. So you don't mute your You don't
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  Speaker 3: mute who you are as a person, and I don't
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  Speaker 3: try to mute you.
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  Speaker 4: If we're if.
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  Speaker 3: We're aligned, If we're aligned, I amplify you. If we're aligned,
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  Speaker 3: you become more I become more quen we together than
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  Speaker 3: we are when we.
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  Speaker 2: What are some real leugh examples of being aligned and
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  Speaker 2: working in assignment, like maybe even in your lives, like
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  Speaker 2: what is what is something?
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  Speaker 6: How can we see this? You know visually realistically?
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  Speaker 5: So I think with my husband what he what he
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  Speaker 5: has said in the past, in regards to marriages, is
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  Speaker 5: like even in regards to our friends, you know, we
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  Speaker 5: would say he would say, you know, what is what
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  Speaker 5: is the man doing? Like if he has a business
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  Speaker 5: and you have your you know, you have your own
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  Speaker 5: thing as a wife, you work at a corporate job
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  Speaker 5: or whatever. You have to make sure that if your
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  Speaker 5: husband has something that he's doing that as his wife,
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  Speaker 5: you're helping in some way some fashion, or you're using
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  Speaker 5: your expertise to make certain things administrated, something something that
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  Speaker 5: says that we are working in partnership. So I can
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  Speaker 5: use us as an example. Oh yeah, right, getting away
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  Speaker 5: of what he's doing. So you know, I knew that
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  Speaker 5: I could marry him because I saw what his goals
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  Speaker 5: and his values were on paper. I was looking over
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  Speaker 5: his shoulder, he was looking at his goals and his values,
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  Speaker 5: and in that moment, I saw that some of the
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  Speaker 5: same things that he wanted in life were some of
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  Speaker 5: the exact same things that I wanted in life.
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  Speaker 6: It wasn't predicated on him.
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  Speaker 5: It was predicated on what I knew my assignment was
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  Speaker 5: and what I knew my purpose was, and he I
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  Speaker 5: would not lose myself by marrying him. I was going
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  Speaker 5: to ten times myself because we had the same interest
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  Speaker 5: and have the same desire and basically understood our assignments
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  Speaker 5: individually so that we could come together and to see
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  Speaker 5: where we could fit in so that we could move
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  Speaker 5: it faster. So it's like, with all of that being said,
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  Speaker 5: you just have to know you have to know yourself first,
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  Speaker 5: and then you can't It's not enough to just hook
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  Speaker 5: up with somebody for the sake of hooking up. But
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  Speaker 5: what is it that we are both called to do
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  Speaker 5: that we feel that we can do it together.
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  Speaker 4: I'll take it another step and pivot.
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  Speaker 3: Also that we are both first borns with both oldest grandchildren.
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  Speaker 3: About what ten years into our marriage, we came to
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  Speaker 3: a point where we're pretty we're pretty self sufficient, we're
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  Speaker 3: pretty strong, we know how to do a lot of
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  Speaker 3: the same and similar things. We have the same interest
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  Speaker 3: and we had to come to the realization that in
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  Speaker 3: our marriage that we weren't interdependent on each other and
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  Speaker 3: enough we were like we needed to find a space
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  Speaker 3: where we could need each other and become vulnerable and
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  Speaker 3: create space for the other person to help.
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  Speaker 4: I could cook, you could cook, I could clean. You
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  Speaker 4: could clean. I could wash my clothes you could wash
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  Speaker 4: your clothes, We could do it ourselves.
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  Speaker 3: So how do we create space where we need each
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  Speaker 3: other so we're not just roommates, so we're not just
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  Speaker 3: living and here it is. We're an autopilot because we
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  Speaker 3: know what it is. And so we had to have
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  Speaker 3: this vulnerable conversation where we created room and space for
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  Speaker 3: the other person to be involved in our lives so
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  Speaker 3: that we could need each other in a healthy way,
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  Speaker 3: not in a needy way, but in a healthy way
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  Speaker 3: where where I could desire support. And then early on
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  Speaker 3: in our marriage, I think because I came to the
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  Speaker 3: marriage which we you know, while the two were becoming one,
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  Speaker 3: we both came to the marriage with such a such
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  Speaker 3: an ecosystem of how we do things that you know,
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  Speaker 3: my wife always had a desire to help and to
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  Speaker 3: support me. She didn't always know how to help and
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  Speaker 3: support me, so I had to show her how to do.
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  Speaker 3: So there's times in our marriage where I've been frustrated,
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  Speaker 3: like feeling like I was carrying it all or doing
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  Speaker 3: it all and.
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  Speaker 4: She wasn't helping me. And she was like, well, what
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  Speaker 4: does that look like?
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  Speaker 5: Like?
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  Speaker 4: How do I support you in this space?
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  Speaker 3: You got this person for this, you got this for this,
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  Speaker 3: this person do that, that person do that.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know where to get in at And I'm like,
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  Speaker 4: you know what, that's fair.
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  Speaker 3: You know I got a whole staff, I got a
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  Speaker 3: whole violence, I got all these people around me. So
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  Speaker 3: how do I now create space and tell you what's
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  Speaker 3: important for me? What?
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  Speaker 4: How do you want to help? And what can I delegate?
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  Speaker 4: And where do you want to jump in?
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  Speaker 3: So it's just a lot of nuances, and over all
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  Speaker 3: the phases of our marriage, we've had multiple conversations about
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  Speaker 3: both helping one another, allowing the other person to help,
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  Speaker 3: and then figuring out what support looks like.
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  Speaker 4: And I think people need to have those conversations.
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  Speaker 6: That's pretty good allowing allowing.
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  Speaker 4: That people don't want to allow you to help you, because.
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  Speaker 7: Then I need you exactly because wrong.
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  Speaker 4: Then I created a space where now.
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  Speaker 7: I got to figure out how to do it. If
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  Speaker 7: you don't just don't work right. So people don't make
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  Speaker 7: they don't make that kind of space for their spouse
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  Speaker 7: where you could cripple me. But that's what you that's
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  Speaker 7: what it is.
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  Speaker 3: Really Being in love is like, man, I'd have built
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  Speaker 3: my life so around you that the two become one
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  Speaker 3: that if this rip apart, you're gonna take a part
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  Speaker 3: of me with you no matter where you go. A
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  Speaker 3: lot of people, a lot of people aren't married. They're
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  Speaker 3: not married to the point where if you take if
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  Speaker 3: you take yourself and I take myself, you take a
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  Speaker 3: part of me with you.
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  Speaker 1: Relationship Talk Thursday. Here's the power couple.
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  Speaker 5: And what I have seen over the years is your
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  Speaker 5: prayer life as a woman. Your prayer life, to me,
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  Speaker 5: dictates the temperament of your household, the profit, the prophetic
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  Speaker 5: voice for your house, for your children though the individuals
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  Speaker 5: that God has assigned to your life, like laboring and
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  Speaker 5: praying for them is just a major, major gift. And
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  Speaker 5: when I feel when things are just going haywire in
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  Speaker 5: your household as a woman, I think you have to
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  Speaker 5: check your prayer life. You'll realize that I'm not praying
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  Speaker 5: as much and I'm not taking I'm not taking those
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  Speaker 5: things to God. I'm stressed out because I'm trying to
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  Speaker 5: carry them. I'm trying to be the little g in
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  Speaker 5: the whole household versus giving them to God. Because as
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  Speaker 5: a woman, you have a discernment, you have you can
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  Speaker 5: look at things that are not there, but you can
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  Speaker 5: see it in certain people and certain things.
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  Speaker 6: In certain situations.
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  Speaker 5: God shows you stuff before it happens, and instead of
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  Speaker 5: always having to talk about it, sometimes that's just what
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  Speaker 5: you need to rap in prayer. So, I mean, I
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  Speaker 5: know all of the other things are great and everything
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  Speaker 5: like that, but I would have to say the one
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  Speaker 5: thing that I can definitely say that woman brings to
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  Speaker 5: the table as a wife and as a mother is
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  Speaker 5: her prayer life. If she has one, and if you
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  Speaker 5: don't have one, you need to get one, because I
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  Speaker 5: just you know, I might.
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  Speaker 6: Be a little biased about that.
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  Speaker 5: I love being a woman, and I believe God, not
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  Speaker 5: that he don't hear man's prayer. I don't.
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  Speaker 6: I'm not saying that.
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  Speaker 2: But if you look, he hears He exactly hears. He
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  Speaker 2: hears a woman's prayer differently because she was made out
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  Speaker 2: of man.
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  Speaker 6: She was the internal part of man.
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  Speaker 2: So she recorrect, she reconnects herself back to God as
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  Speaker 2: as the original form when she gets in prayer.
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  Speaker 5: That's her communion with God. A man, everything is outside
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  Speaker 5: of him. That brings production and that brings life. Everything
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  Speaker 5: aside of a woman is internal. And so when you yes,
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  Speaker 5: so She's entering into a space and a place with
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  Speaker 5: God that a man can go to, but it might
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  Speaker 5: take him a little longer to get there. She instantly
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  Speaker 5: can just get there because she already is internal with God,
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  Speaker 5: the Lord.
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  Speaker 1: It's relationship talk Thursday. I'm so yill with the Glenn's
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  Speaker 1: passage of own and Erica Glenn, a man can't go
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  Speaker 1: on alone.
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  Speaker 2: Your presence unlocks his potential. Let's talk about prayer. I
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  Speaker 2: know past Erica was talking about it. You know, the
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  Speaker 2: power of a woman's intercession in marriage, but praying together,
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  Speaker 2: as we're talking about, you know, a man can't do
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  Speaker 2: it a loan, but but together, the power of prayer.
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  Speaker 2: What role does that play in a marriage? To praying together?
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  Speaker 2: I know you have your separate time.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, if any two should touch and agree, you don't.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, if you and your wife have a prayer life,
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  Speaker 3: you can you can do anything. If any too should
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  Speaker 3: touch and agree as touching anything, it shall be established.
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  Speaker 3: So if you two need anything, all you have to
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  Speaker 3: do is touch and agree with each other. If no
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  Speaker 3: one else agrees with you in the entire work, God
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  Speaker 3: made a promise that if y'all agree, the whole world
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  Speaker 3: has to respond to your agreement. That's the power of agreement,
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  Speaker 3: that's the power of alignment, that's the power of intercession.
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  Speaker 4: Together. Just touch and agreed.
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  Speaker 3: Just be in enough alignment with your spouse that you
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  Speaker 3: can that you can decide a thing and decree a
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  Speaker 3: thing and agree in prayer, and God himself will do
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  Speaker 3: it anything for you.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think.
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  Speaker 5: I think another the flip side of this is that
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  Speaker 5: when you as a woman, we talked about power, dominion
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  Speaker 5: and all of those things. If you're having a conversation
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  Speaker 5: with your husband and you don't agree with him, y'all
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  Speaker 5: can talk it out and all that other kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 5: And you go into this place and you have this
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  Speaker 5: conversation or whatever, but you don't agree with him. When
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  Speaker 5: you get on the same page with him.
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  Speaker 2: You have stated this is why I feel this way,
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  Speaker 2: this is whatever, whatever. But when we walk out of
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  Speaker 2: this room, we are standing in the power of agreement.
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  Speaker 2: There are things that God is going to do for
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  Speaker 2: that man and for your relationship because you agreed.
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  Speaker 4: That's right.
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  Speaker 5: And I think people just marriages, just do not realize
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  Speaker 5: that when you make a decision, When you make a
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  Speaker 5: decision and you're on the same page, you have invited
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  Speaker 5: God to do the supernatural.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of problems will go away if people just
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  Speaker 3: pray together. Don't have to be loan, don't have to
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  Speaker 3: be deep and agree, just pray.
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  Speaker 4: But yes, that's my definition of prayer.
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  Speaker 6: You can't you can't pray if y'all don't agree.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So, and that's why people don't pray, because if there's
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  Speaker 3: disagreement happening, then this unity discord is not going to
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  Speaker 3: create any opportunity for you to walk in agreement. Agreement
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  Speaker 3: is an accelerant, so people can just if people a
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  Speaker 3: lot of problems will go away and people just learn
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  Speaker 3: to pray together.
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  Speaker 2: It's been a great conversation on this relationship truck Thursday
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  Speaker 2: with pastors Damone and Erica Glenn. Any thoughts on our
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  Speaker 2: topic today. A man can't do it alone. Your presence
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  Speaker 2: unlocks his potential. Any thoughts, Maybe y'all want to break
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  Speaker 2: this prayer noise and is stick up in there right now?
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  Speaker 3: It's just some guys out here way you know, for nothing.
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  Speaker 3: You know, you dating the girl, you love her, You
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  Speaker 3: see her, she got the good, she did. What it is,
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  Speaker 3: just make a decision, man, pick the woman of God.
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  Speaker 3: Make the choice and build with her. There are some
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  Speaker 3: things God is withholding from you until you if it's
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  Speaker 3: your desire to be married, until you make a decision
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  Speaker 3: to be married. So I just pray that God give
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  Speaker 3: you the courage to make the decision that you know
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  Speaker 3: you need to make and quit avoiding, and that God
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  Speaker 3: gives you peace in your decision making, and if she's
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  Speaker 3: not the one, that you don't waste your time or hers,
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  Speaker 3: and that He gives you the courage to even walk
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  Speaker 3: away from that. But there's some decisions to be made.
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  Speaker 3: That's me is on the other side, the decision that
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  Speaker 3: you've been avoiding. So I just pray that you have
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