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149. Your Life's Mastermind · Impact Ready

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Welcome to Impact Ready, a show dedicated to helping you elevate
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your impact in the world. I'm Steph Safra, your host.
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Let's explore the power of showing up with intention and
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energy each day. This is for those who seek to
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make life truly meaningful. Get ready for impact.
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Hi team, Hope you had an awesome weekend today.
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In this episode, we're going to continue to talk about the
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people in your life and who you surround yourself with.
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I'm in a mastermind group with about six other people.
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I've been in the group for about a year now, and I made the
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decision and the investment to be in a mastermind because I
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wanted to be surrounded with people who were smarter and
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higher thinking than I was. I wanted to be pushed and
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challenged to elevate my business and I wanted a mentor
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and a coach who walked the walk and had been in the trenches and
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built his way out of the trenches.
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And my coach specializes in speaking and building the
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business of speaking and coaching.
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And it's been an just an absolute joy to work with him
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and my fellow colleagues in the group.
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They're from all over the country.
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We get the opportunity to meet three to four times a year in
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person, as well as have bimonthly meetings to check in
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on each other and report our progress and celebrate each
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other's wins, etcetera. And I've been thinking a lot
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about what this group has brought to my life as we just
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had our one year anniversary of being in the mastermind.
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And I know that masterminds aren't for everybody.
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I know some of you are like, what the hell is a mastermind?
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I know that not everybody has the need or the desire to be in
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one. But I want to talk about this
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because what strikes me is we all have our own masterminds in
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our life in a sense, a group of people that we surround
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ourselves with that influence us and impact our well-being, our
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progress, our ideas, just our way of living.
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We are a product of our environment and the people that
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we hang out with, that we talk to everyday, that we call text,
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share our dreams and our goals with.
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I mean, think about the five to 10 people in your life who you
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see the most, interact with the most.
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Who do you go to coffee with? Who do you travel with?
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Who do you call when you have an idea or a problem that you want
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to talk through? We all have our own mastermind
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in a sense. We just might not have
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consciously chosen it. And for the mastermind I've
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chosen, it strikes me again how many lessons there have been for
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me and how much I've observed in this group.
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That applies to real life, day-to-day in the trenches,
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normal living. And I want to share a few of
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those ideas with you, especially right now when we're in a season
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where things start to ramp up for people.
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We have the holidays coming, our social calendars get really
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busy. And oftentimes we can de
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prioritize ourselves and the things that keep us well, like
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our good habits, our exercise, our nutrition, sleep, healthy
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boundaries. I mean, the list can really go
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on and on for miles. Not surprisingly, a lot of these
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lessons that I want to talk about today, they overlap with
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the things that we've talked about on this podcast.
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Topics and episodes that are really powerful for people are
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well and alive in these lessons and observations that I've seen
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within my own mastermind group. So I want to share a few of them
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with you. Let's talk about 5 different
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ideas. The first idea is they're all
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seeking to improve. Every single person in my group
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is trying to better themselves, and not just in a business
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sense, although they are all growing their own businesses and
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striving to be and have the best business they can.
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But ultimately they're all just trying to be better people.
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They love learning. They're all striving to do
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things that push themselves out of their comfort zones.
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I mean, OK, one of the members, she's ex military this summer,
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she just completed the Bad Water Ultra Marathon.
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And if you've never heard of this race, it's a race in
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freaking Death Valley. And it's 135 miles.
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And it starts at what they call the Bad Water Basin.
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And it goes up to the trailhead to Mount Whitney, which is one
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of the tallest peaks in the western United States.
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It is absolutely insane running in the heat of the freaking
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desert. Another woman in my group just
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finished writing her book about the MR340, which is a 340 mile
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long kayak race that you do solo.
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It's that long. It's some ridiculous crazy
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kayaking situation with crazy water obstacles and just
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unprecedented terrain. And she completed the race and
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then wrote a book about it. And these examples are not about
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trying to be the best athletes in the world.
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They just want to challenge themselves and better
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themselves. So they take on big challenges.
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And it's awesome and inspiring and it makes me want to be a
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better person and a better version of myself.
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I mean, you should have seen us when our colleague Delicia
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showed up and she is telling us about the bran and how difficult
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it was and what happened in the heat of the day and her support
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van and just all, it's fascinating to hear how somebody
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could push themselves through this.
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Who's so cool? And I wonder who is that in your
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life? Who is somebody who just wants
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to better themselves and is constantly pushing themselves
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out of their comfort zone or trying to get just a little bit
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better every single day? The second idea is they're
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always trying to be of service to people.
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So many of our discussions that happen in the bimonthly morning
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meetings are about, OK team, how can we make this offering for
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this product better so it serves people better?
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It's how can we provide true value to people, whether it's in
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speaking or coaching or product creation.
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And I think that that takes things to a whole different
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level. It taps into a different level
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of creativity and possibility. There's no bad ideas in that
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group because everybody's drawing from their own personal
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experiences in their own walks of life.
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We're all so different and we all truly want to help improve
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whatever it is that we're talking about.
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The other badass thing about it is that these guys just aren't
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afraid to ask for help. So if they don't know how to do
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something or they don't know the answer, they just ask somebody
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or they ask somebody to connect them to somebody else who can
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help them do it. There's no getting lost in the
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minutiae or the weeds because that just slows them down.
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And these projects are way too important to them.
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I think they're so important to them because it's not just about
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them, it's about something bigger.
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And that gives you a willingness to step outside of your comfort
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zone so you can get to a solution faster.
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I freaking love that. I love asking the question, how
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can I make this bigger than myself so I can get out of my
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own way and think about no, there's an urgency here for me
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to share my gifts or to put this thing out into the world because
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people need help. That changes the whole entire
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perspective on everything. And I'm wondering, do you have
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someone like that in your life? Someone who's always trying to
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serve other people or causes Someone who doesn't get afraid
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of asking for help because they're so laser focused on a
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goal that's much bigger than them.
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The third idea is these guys set boundaries and they they know
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they're worth. One of our gatherings last May,
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we were all going out to eat for lunch during one of our long
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days. It was like business breakdown
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day and one of the guys was noticing that a lot of us were
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talking about nutrition and looking over the menu and trying
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to figure out what some of the healthier choices would be.
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And it started this discussion about some of the non
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negotiables in our life. And for many of us around the
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table, exercise and nutrition are non negotiable.
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A lot of people track their macros.
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Everybody has a sort of a regular exercise routine.
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There are a lot of things that we're all really boundaried
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around because we know that those habits help us have great
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energy and be at our best. And this guy admitted to us at
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the time that he hadn't been protecting his boundaries around
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his nutrition or his workouts. They've been getting de
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prioritized by other things in his life, and rightfully so.
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He's a busy guy. He's got a lot of irons in the
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fire. He's creating a lot of great
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stuff for people. And it makes sense.
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But we talked a lot about some simple things he could do to
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create some changes. And in September, we all met
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again and he came back to us and he said, guys, I've lost over 30
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lbs. Over the summer.
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He really started creating boundaries around that stuff for
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himself and knowing that he had to show up so that he could have
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great energy and deliver at his speaking gigs and with his
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coaching clients and be able to create all those crazy awesome
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products that he puts out in the world.
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And in the background for all of this is the conversation that
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simply goes like this. You're worth it.
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You are worth every minute of sacrifice, of exercise, of
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thinking about nutrition, of doing those daily habits, of
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planning for them. You are worth the energy so you
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can consistently stand in front of people and share your gifts,
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which are incredibly valuable. These guys have boundaries
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around their calendars, how much time they spend on things, how
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they time block for different things in their day, what they
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do consistently every single week, the time they devote to
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family or friends, and every single meeting we have, somebody
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is saying something like this to another member.
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You're worth more than that. I can't even tell you how many
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times I've heard that phrase. You're worth more than that.
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They do not default from that. They do not let somebody say,
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oh, I'm going to under charge here or I'm going to maybe I'm
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just, maybe I'll just do this here.
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And they're like, no, no, no, you're worth more than that.
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And in a society where so many people are looking to devalue
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other people or services or businesses, this is gold.
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This is a lifeline. And so in your life, who is
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fantastic at setting boundaries? Who in your life knows they're
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worth and refuses to compromise on that worth in your own life's
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mastermind? 4th idea is these guys, they
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take action fast. Remember we talked about the
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concept of shortening the time that you take between the big
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idea you have and the action that's required.
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That's how we get fast results. We shorten the time between idea
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and action and that's what gets us true transformation.
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And that's what these guys do, team.
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I remember recently my coach challenged one of the guys, Ed,
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to write a book. He said to him, it doesn't have
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to be the book like your life's workbook.
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Just get your first book out there about something that you
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care about. And my colleague really took
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that to heart. And within a few months, I mean,
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he's well into this writing process and starting to talk
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about putting the finishing touches on it, getting those
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final chapters. These people are fast movers.
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And here's the truth. They all struggle with the same
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limiting beliefs and saboteurs that that everyone else does
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that you and I do. We talk about them in the
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meetings. We talk about how Ed had to get
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out of his own way and just write the damn thing.
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And because we have this really safe, open space where we can be
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honest with each other, Ed could receive that feedback and
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encouragement and really get started and get out of his own
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way. So my question is, what person
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in your crew, in your life's mastermind makes things happen
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quickly? Which one is the person who
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doesn't hem and Haw and wait for things to happen, but they just
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get going and get into action as fast as they can?
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The 5th and final idea is that these people lift each other up
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and this has to be hands down. One of my favorite parts about
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being in this mastermind is that we all cheer each other on so
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much. I have no reservations about
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writing on the group Slack channel.
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Something that I want to celebrate with the group,
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something that I did for the first time, or a client that I
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landed, or a speaking gig that I got contracted to do.
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These guys are at the ready to respond right away, cheering me
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on, celebrating me, and it's just the culture that we do that
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for every other person in our group.
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Do you know how freaking good that feels?
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There's no worry about coming off as bragging or lacking
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humility because that's not what it's about.
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We know that we're all striving for similar things and there's
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no ego involved. We all do such different stuff
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and there's so much room for everyone.
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It's just nice to have a group of people who want you to win.
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So the question for you is, who is your cheerleader?
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Who is someone in your life who doesn't just not discourage you,
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but actively encourages you? They pump you up.
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They're like your hype person. Who is that?
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The reason I wanted to talk about this on the podcast is
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because I think if all of us could live in these five realms
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a little more powerfully, our lives would look a lot
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different. I mean, well, the last episode
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in this podcast was about surrounding yourself with people
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who want to see you win, other people who lift you up and cheer
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you on. Just like that last idea.
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That one on its own could change so many people's lives if they
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felt like they were surrounded by people who could really
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encourage them rather than discourage them in one way or
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another. It would certainly change the
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impact that we would have in our lives.
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It's the impact that these folks have on me that's so tremendous
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and they don't even know it. And then it's also the impact
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that I'm then able to go out into the world and have as a
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result of my interactions with them.
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It is this awesome positive upward spiral of energy.
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It becomes exponential, and it has tremendous ripple effects
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that just reach so many areas of the world that we don't even
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know. And it's exciting to be around
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people who care about things. They care about themselves and
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their worth deeply. But beyond that, they care so
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much about the people they serve and their relationships and the
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greater world at large. They just care so damn much.
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And I want that for you. I want you to have your own
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group of people who live by these similar rules.
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I want you to find your crowd and be able to look around and
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say these people make me better. And I want you to be the
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designer of your life's mastermind.
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So start paying attention and purposely orchestrating it.
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It's absolutely possible for you to do that and you'll be amazed
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at the momentum you get just with a few tweaks and the people
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you're surrounded by. So I hope this helps.
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I hope that as you go into this next season, you approach it
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with peace and excitement and joy, and you start to look for
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the people who look at it the same way.
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Hope you have a fantastic week. I love that you guys are here.
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Thanks for listening and as always, thank you for being
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you to own your impact and recognize that you are powerful.
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