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Overcoming Critical Parenting - Hypnosis to Reconnect with Love and Affection · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here, and you're about to listen to a hypnosis
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  session all about connecting with the ability to be.
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  Warm and loving and generous. And I was working with a client
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  that grew up in quite a strict. Environment having older.
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  Parents, one of which very strict and lots of rules and
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  responsibilities, and the other one quite critical and something
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  happened in their childhood that really had them.
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  Feeling that. Their parents didn't support
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  them or protect them or care for them in the way that they felt
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  they should. And that created a lot of.
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  Anger. And resentment.
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  And. To some extent, hate for a
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  period and a consequence of that is that it made it more
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  difficult for them to be loving in the way that they wanted to
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  be loving with, you know, affection and kind of more of
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  that genuine kind of warmth because they.
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  Didn't really experience that. As a child.
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  So what this hypnosis session does is an element of in a
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  child. Work of timeline.
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  Therapy of going back and doing two things.
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  One imagining A childhood that they would have wanted, but also
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  imagining taking the perception of a.
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  Father. And being the father to that
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  child in the way that that child would have wanted to have been
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  fathered. Now with timeline.
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  Therapy. You can't actually change the
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  past. Nobody has a time machine to
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  actually change the past. But what you can do is by
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  changing connotations. And meanings you.
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  Start accessing different ripples through time that mean
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  that if that one thing didn't happen, it then updates all the
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  way to the present. That's the essence of timeline.
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  Therapy to look at the point of inception and then create a new
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  timeline that is more useful for what the client desires.
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  And what the client desires is to be not intellectually know
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  that they love certain people, but actually be more loving and
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  feel more loving. And there's also an element of
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  the lore of the lid here, which is there's only the.
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  Ability to receive. Love in the same way that you
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  can kind. Of really connect.
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  With that self love within So what this does is is heal that
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  kind of inner child as a part as a metaphor, but giving them
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  permission to therefore give more love and receive more love
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  too. So if you.
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  Feel an element of. Emotional detachment or it's
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  difficult for you to say certain words or be around certain
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  people in a in a loving way, then you might get some value
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  from this session. Just be aware though that.
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  It was created for an. Individual and therefore certain
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  situations like being sent to a specific school or they love
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  surfing as a child. Some of these suggestions and
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  references might not quite calibrate to you and your
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  situation, so just hone into the ones that do connect and
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  disregard anything that doesn't. And if you.
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  Do like the idea of working with me directly There will be a link
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  in the description where you can schedule a free consultation
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  call and we can have a chat on Zoom and I can explain how I
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  work and and everything about what it would mean if we're
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  working together so that I'm your.
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  Hypnotherapist rather. Than you just listening to
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  these. Recordings.
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  So if. That's of interest.
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  Check that out. For now though.
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  Find a quiet. Comfortable place where you
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  won't be disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  feeling of calm relaxation, and as you exhale, feel that
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  wonderful feeling of release, as if any stress, any worries, any
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  tension is slowly but surely leaving your body in that
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  outward breath, breathing in, relaxation and exhaling tension.
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  Each breath takes you deeper and deeper, relaxed.
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  That's it. The deeper you breathe, the more
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  relaxed you feel. And the more relaxed you feel,
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  the deeper you breathe. And just allow your mind to take
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  you to that place. The place where after each
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  breath, you relax a bit more, letting go of any any sensations
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  that don't belong. Feel the surface of your mind
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  quietening, and maybe you can feel something deeper emerging.
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  A peaceful awareness No. Judgement nothing to.
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  Do just awareness. Simply be here now.
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  Allowing any thoughts, emotions, or evaluations to naturally
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  rise, to naturally change, to feel how good it would feel, to
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  just align. Just like you can trust your
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  subconscious mind to show you exactly.
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  What's ready to? Be changed, Healed.
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  Or updated. And I wonder if you could
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  imagine what it would be like to keep your physical body where it
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  is, and to imagine floating upwards as if your body stays
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  exactly where it is, but your awareness drifts almost like an
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  out of body experience. Light, effortless, floating high
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  above. And from this higher vantage
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  point, I want you to imagine what it would be like to see the
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  timeline of your life stretching out beneath you.
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  On one side the past, and on the other the future.
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  And directly beneath you see yourself with your eyes closed,
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  deeply relaxed, undergoing something that could lead to
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  profound change. And I want you to look at that
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  timeline that takes you backwards, all the way back to
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  your past, and just allow your subconscious mind to guide you.
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  Perhaps to just. Before the earliest time of.
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  Any. Form of emotional distance.
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  Maybe it was a time when there was a shift from unconditional
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  love as a baby to then suddenly rules, expectations,
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  responsibilities. But your mind can take you
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  there. Maybe a time before the life you
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  had suddenly changed, maybe before there were chores and
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  responsibilities. And I want you to see, just
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  observe that life a conflict, the freedom to express yourself
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  with friends and almost the requirement to be someone else
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  when you were at home. Just observe what kind of love
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  you received as a child. Was it tough love, conditional
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  love, or warm expressive love, affection, support and care?
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  I want you to observe it as it was, not as you wanted it to be,
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  but as it was. But look at it with a
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  detachment, like a scientist just observing an experiment.
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  Maybe raise voices, consequences, pressure, maybe
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  even a moment of what felt like to you at the time as
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  abandonment, rejection, even betrayal.
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  And maybe that child didn't feel the love.
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  Maybe that child couldn't understand how criticism or
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  rules responsibility or being moved to live somewhere else was
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  love. And that's understandable
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  because the child that felt unseen or unheard, unsupported
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  or not cared for, the child that grew up as though love had
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  conditions, some things that were required to be worthy of
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  that love that maybe had to earn through performance, to adopt A
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  role, to be obedient or be successful.
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  And as you observe from above, just get a sense then, isn't it
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  understandable if that early experience of how to express
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  love was detached, that would lay the foundations to hold back
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  from fully expressing. And as you imagine stepping
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  toward that younger version of you, now see them notice you the
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  adult that you've become, stronger, wiser, very different
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  from your father. And as you meet with that
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  younger version of you, I want you to let them know with your
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  eyes, your tone and your presence, that you see them,
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  that you understand. And I want you to give them a
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  warm embrace, a hug, take an interest in their interests,
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  maybe surfing the beach, who their friends are, what they
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  like to do. Tell them that they were always
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  enough, they didn't get it wrong.
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  I want you to get a sense of giving them a feeling of
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  reassurance. I want you to imagine a beam of
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  light from your heart to theirs, feeling like there is a
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  connection between you as you are now, and them as they were.
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  But given that this is. Just your imagination.
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  Let's try changing some of that history.
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  Just imagine you're an invisible observer and rewind everything.
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  And just imagine from being a young child, seeing that child
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  get everything that you feel that would have been useful,
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  helpful, necessary. See yourself with those hugs,
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  smiles, play, shared activities, deep conversations.
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  See yourself getting the support, someone that has your
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  back. Maybe you imagine your parents
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  with those qualities. They grew up at their time.
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  Perhaps they did the best they could with the resources they
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  had, but imagine your father being warmer, less strict, more
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  caring, more supportive, and perhaps your mother being more
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  encouraging, affectionate, supportive.
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  And just observe and see how that younger version of you,
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  that boy, changes, changes their interactions.
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  It's safe. Safe to communicate, safe to ask
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  for help, safe to give a compliment or receive a
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  compliment. See the child with parents as
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  they could have been, celebrating effort more than
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  outcome and offering comfort instead of correction.
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  And watch as that younger you receives love freely, hearing
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  words like we're proud of you, we love you no matter what,
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  You're safe here, we've got your back.
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  And notice how that inner child of yours begins to change.
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  Be less guarded, less distant. Their shoulders relax, their
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  breathing deepens, their eyes light up again.
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  And once you've seen that, just rewind everything until your
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  back as a young child. But I want you to imagine
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  stepping into your father almost like it's an avatar, that you
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  get to play that role the way you.
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  Would have wanted to have. Played it, but if you can go
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  back in time and father yourself the way you would have wanted to
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  have been, just take that perceptual position now.
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  Notice what's. Different words of
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  encouragement, support, taking a deep interest, helping them.
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  I want you to get a feeling then this version of you being the
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  father that you would. Have wanted to have.
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  Had parenting you in the way you would have wanted to have been
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  parented. And I want you to notice how it
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  feels to be nurturing, to be caring.
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  And I want you to come to a conclusion that the more loving,
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  caring, affectionate and supportive you are with that
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  child. The more it.
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  Will ripple through time. All the way up.
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  To your present, feel what it's like to father yourself,
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  providing that affection, that patience, that fun, All the
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  things that you feel were missing before.
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  Maybe you're the one to teach them how to surf, taking them to
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  the beach, playing with them as they go on that skateboard,
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  spending time with them on the beach when their friends come
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  over. There's no chores for them to
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  do. You organise fun things.
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  I want you to get a feeling that the bond between you and your
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  inner child strengthens an unbreakable connection built on
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  kindness, not control. And just allow that feeling of
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  unconditional warmth fill every cell of your body from your
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  heart, expending outwards like sunlight.
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  And then take on the position of the child.
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  And I want you to feel that you're in that version of you as
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  a child at about 12 years old. And I want you to feel that
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  there is a conversation about maybe behaviour at school or
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  something else, but the tone you hear from your father and your
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  mother is curious, compassionate, understanding.
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  They really understand your perspective.
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  They just imagine then what happened.
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  Being sent away to a different school doesn't happen because
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  that connection, that bond, that support, that love was there.
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  And then imagine floating back above your timeline again with
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  that younger self safely integrated and look down along
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  the years that follow, not sent to a different school time to
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  really develop. But I want you to see, see your
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  future, where from then to now you're just as driven, just as
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  hard working, just as ambitious. But see yourself expressing love
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  more generously, kind words, compliments, thinking of other
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  people consideration and not just doing things for other
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  people, spending time with them, your energy, your words, your
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  presence and your attention. See it changing throughout your
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  teenage years, early adulthood, moments of success and
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  challenges. But I want you to see yourself
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  with elevated levels of love and connection, affection and
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  support. And as you drift above each
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  memory, notice how they subtly update.
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  Old moments now infuse with more compassion, more humor, more
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  ease, and you're reminded of those enthusiastic, loving
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  archetypes. Successful, strong, and yet
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  affectionate and warm. Each version of you along that
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  timeline receives a ripple of love from this moment.
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  The child no longer alone, the teenager no longer an outsider
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  and defensive, the young man no longer angry and disconnected.
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  It's as if all of those earlier selves finally no they were
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  loved all along, and as you drift to the present, see
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  yourself looking relaxed exactly as you are now.
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  But then follow. Forward into the future, float
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  forwards and observe. The coming.
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  Days, weeks, and years. See yourself being more generous
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  with your time, your presence, more affectionate with your
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  words, your embraces, until you see yourself in a near future
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  moment where love is not forced and not intellectualised, but
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  expressed naturally, sincerely and openly.
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  Maybe you're with a member of your family That was difficult
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  to really express that feeling, so then observe how you offer
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  affection without hesitation, or maybe with your partner feeling
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  warmth and connection flowing freely through you and when
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  you're sure that's what you. See float into.
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  That future version of you then notice how authentic it feels.
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  Not forced or artificial. But.
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  Simple, genuine and true. Notice how your body feels
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  lighter, your heart feels open. There is nothing disingenuous.
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  You can be expressive and loving.
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  Feel the love, Have that consideration, that care without
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  trying to force it. And you're not even trying to
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  feel love. It's now something you're just
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  doing and experiencing and as you connect.
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  With these future moments. Know that your subconscious mind
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  is already reprogramming the patterns of the past.
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  Like it's updating. Your emotional blueprint to
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  reflect this new integrated self.
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  It's time to drift back from the future, seeing the ripple from
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  the past all the way up to the present and beyond.
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  As you float above your present, I want you to imagine that if
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  love had a feeling, a location where it would be in your.
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  Body. I just feel that expanding,
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  maybe there in your chest, starting to glow, starting to
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  vibrate, and as you float back into your physical body in the
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  present. Take that.
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  Wonderful. Feeling with you.
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  So that the past. And the future collide into the
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  present. Unlocking something that was.
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  Always your nature and now it has permission to be owned and
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  shared. Very soon I will count from 1:00
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  to. 10 to awaken you. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes, connect and calibrate into
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  the. Here and the now and when I
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  count. From 1:00 to 10:00 you will
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  awaken feeling refreshed. Rejuvenated, but more
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  importantly, connected. To that loving, caring, warm
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  side of your personality. Starting to count 123 Waking up
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  456. More alert 7-8 Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910. Wide awake, Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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  on today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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