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Push Yourself, Make It Happen – Stop Waiting for Permission to Succeed · Motivational Podcast

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  Speaker 1: You get to face a lot of young man, you
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  Speaker 1: got a long journey ahead of you, because you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: find out that while your dad did a lot of
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  Speaker 1: to you, you're gonna have to make it on your own.
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  Speaker 1: Because this world we live in is tough. It's tough.
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  Speaker 1: It will beat you down. The world and the life
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  Speaker 1: that we live in is the ultimate competitor. The world's tough.
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  Speaker 1: The world's tough. It will try to take you out.
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  Speaker 1: It will, It will find your weakness and it will
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  Speaker 1: just hammer you. So it's time to get back to work.
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  Speaker 1: Get back to work. Stop hearing yourself talk, Get off
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  Speaker 1: the podcast, don't be on social media too much. Cut
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  Speaker 1: out all the fucking noise. Get back to the mental lab,
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  Speaker 1: because that's where the knowledge came from. You need to
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  Speaker 1: get to a point in your life where there's nothing
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  Speaker 1: can hurt you because you know exactly who you are.
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  Speaker 1: You've faced your demons, you were able to hear all
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  Speaker 1: your past traumas, you're able to listen to them. You're
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  Speaker 1: able to say, Okay, now I can now talk to
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  Speaker 1: people about what I went through. I'm no longer embarrassed,
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  Speaker 1: I'm no longer ashamed being ashamed one of the biggest
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  Speaker 1: things that kill people nowadays in their minds, kill them
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  Speaker 1: from moving forward. I'm ashamed of myself. Don't ever be
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  Speaker 1: ashamed of anything you've done in your life. Face it,
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  Speaker 1: fix it, make it better. Everything I need is in
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  Speaker 1: my mental lab everything, because I'm in constant study of
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  Speaker 1: myself and I know what needs to be conquered. Because
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  Speaker 1: I'm constantly going through what I don't like when I'm
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  Speaker 1: not comfortable with. I know and only I can fix
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  Speaker 1: these problems because I have to face these problems. Per Kleatus,
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  Speaker 1: a philosopher born in the Persian Empire back in the
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  Speaker 1: fifth century BC, had it right when he wrote about
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  Speaker 1: men on the battlefield. Out of every one hundred men,
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  Speaker 1: he wrote, ten shouldn't even be there. Eighty are just targets.
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  Speaker 1: Nine are the real fighters, and we are lucky to
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  Speaker 1: have them, for they make the battle ah. But the
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  Speaker 1: one one is a warrior. From the time you take
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  Speaker 1: your first breath you become eligible to die. You also
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  Speaker 1: become eligible to find your greatness and become the one warrior.
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  Speaker 1: But it is up to you to equip yourself for
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  Speaker 1: the battle ahead. Only you can master your mind, which
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  Speaker 1: is what it takes to live a bold life, fill
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  Speaker 1: with accomplishments most people consider beyond their capability. I am
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  Speaker 1: not a genius like those professors at MIT, but I
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  Speaker 1: am that one warrior, and the story you are about
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  Speaker 1: to read, the story of my life will illuminate a
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  Speaker 1: proven path to self mastery and empower you to face reality,
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  Speaker 1: hold yourself accountable, push past pain, learn to love what
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  Speaker 1: you fear, relish failure, lived here, force potential, and find
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  Speaker 1: out who you really are. Human beings change through study,
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  Speaker 1: habit and stories. Through my story, you will learn what
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  Speaker 1: the body and mind are capable of when they're driven
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  Speaker 1: to maximum capacity, and how to get there. Because when
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  Speaker 1: you're driven, whatever is in front of you, whether it's racism, sexism, injuries, divorce, depression, obesity, tragedy,
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  Speaker 1: or poverty, becomes fuel for your metamorphosis. The steps laid
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  Speaker 1: out here amount to the evolutionary algorithm, one that obliterates barriers,
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  Speaker 1: glimmers with glory, and delivers lasting peace. I hope you're ready.
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  Speaker 1: It's time to go to war with yourself. Third grade
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  Speaker 1: was a shock to my system, not just because we
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  Speaker 1: had to learn cursive when I was still getting the
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  Speaker 1: hang of reading block letters, But because our teacher misdeed
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  Speaker 1: with nothing like Sister Catrick, our class was still small.
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  Speaker 1: We had about twenty kids total, split between third and
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  Speaker 1: fourth grade, but she didn't handle it nearly as well
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  Speaker 1: and wasn't interested in taking the extra time I required.
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  Speaker 1: My trouble started with the standardized test we took during
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  Speaker 1: our first couple of weeks of class. Mine came back
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  Speaker 1: a mess. I was still away behind the other kids,
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  Speaker 1: and I had trouble building on lessons from the previous days,
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  Speaker 1: let alone the pre this academic year. Sister Catherine considered
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  Speaker 1: similar signs as cues to dedicate more time with her
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  Speaker 1: weakest student, and she challenged me daily. Miss Dan looked
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  Speaker 1: for a way out, and within the first month of class,
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  Speaker 1: she told my mother that I belonged in a different school,
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  Speaker 1: one for special students. Every kid knows what special means.
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  Speaker 1: It means you are about to be stigmatized for the
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  Speaker 1: rest of your life. It means that you are not normal.
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  Speaker 1: The threat alone was a trigger, and I developed a
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  Speaker 1: stutter almost overnight. My thought to speech flow was jammed
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  Speaker 1: up with stressed and anxiety, and it was at its
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  Speaker 1: worst in school. Imagine being the only black kid in class,
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  Speaker 1: in the entire school, and during the daily humiliation of
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  Speaker 1: also being the dumbest I felt like everything I tried
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  Speaker 1: to do or say was wrong, and it got so bad.
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  Speaker 1: Instead of responding and skipping like scratch Vinyl whenever the
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  Speaker 1: teacher called my name, I often chose to keep quiet.
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  Speaker 1: It was all about limiting exposure to save face. Misdeed
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  Speaker 1: didn't even attempt to empathy. She went straight to frustration
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  Speaker 1: and vented it by yelling at me, sometimes when she
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  Speaker 1: was leaning down, her hand on the back of my chair,
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  Speaker 1: her face just inches from my own. She had no
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  Speaker 1: idea the Pandora's box she was tearing open. Once school
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  Speaker 1: was a safe harbor, the one place I knew I
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  Speaker 1: couldn't be hurt. But in Indiana it morphed into my torture.
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  Speaker 1: Chamber Misty wanted me out of her classroom, and the
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  Speaker 1: administration supported her until my mother fought for me. The
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  Speaker 1: principal agreed to keep me in road if my mother
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  Speaker 1: signed off on time with the speech therapist and put
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  Speaker 1: me into group therapy with the local shrink they recommended.
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  Speaker 1: The psychologist's office was adjacent to a hospital, which was
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  Speaker 1: exactly where you want to put it, if you were
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  Speaker 1: trying to make a little kid doubt himself. It was
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  Speaker 1: like a bad movie. The shrink set up seven chairs
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  Speaker 1: in a semicircle around him, but some of the kids
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't or couldn't sit still. One child wore a helmet
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  Speaker 1: and banged his head against the wall repeatedly. Another kid
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  Speaker 1: stood up while the doctor was mid sentenced, walked toward
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  Speaker 1: the far corner of the room and peede in the
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  Speaker 1: trash can. The kids sitting next to me with the
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  Speaker 1: most more person in the group, and he had set
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  Speaker 1: his own house on fire. I can remember staring up
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  Speaker 1: at the shrink on my first day, thinking there's no
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  Speaker 1: way I belong here. That experience kicked my social anxiety
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  Speaker 1: up several notches. My stutter was out of control, my
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  Speaker 1: hair started falling out, and white splotches bloomed on my
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  Speaker 1: dark skin. The doctor diagnosed me as an AD eight
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  Speaker 1: dy case and prescribe riddling, but my problems were more complex.
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  Speaker 1: I was suffering from toxic stress. The type of physical
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  Speaker 1: and emotional abuse I was exposed to has been proven
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  Speaker 1: to have a range of side effects on young children,
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  Speaker 1: because in our early years, the brain grows and developed
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  Speaker 1: so rapidly. If during those years your father is an
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  Speaker 1: evil man determined to destroy everyone in his house, stress spikes,
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  Speaker 1: and when those spikes occur frequently enough, you can draw
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  Speaker 1: a line across the peaks. That's your new baseline. It
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  Speaker 1: puts kids in a permanent fight or flight mode. Fight
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  Speaker 1: or flight can be a great tool when you're in danger,
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  Speaker 1: because that amps you up to battle through or sprint
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  Speaker 1: from trouble, but it's no way to live. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: the type of guy to try to explain everything with science,
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  Speaker 1: but facts are facts. I've read that some pediatricians believe
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  Speaker 1: toxic stress does more damage to kids than poli or meningitis.
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  Speaker 1: I know firsthand that it leads to learning disabilities and
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  Speaker 1: social anxiety because, according to doctors, it limits language development
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  Speaker 1: and memory, which makes it difficult for even the most
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  Speaker 1: gifted student to recall what they have already learned. Looking
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  Speaker 1: at the long game, when kids like me grow up,
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  Speaker 1: they face an increased risk for clinical depression, heart disease, obesity,
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  Speaker 1: and cancer, not to mention smoking, alcoholism, and drug abuse.
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  Speaker 1: Those raised in abusive households have an increased probability of
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  Speaker 1: being arrested as a juvenile by fifty three percent. Their
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  Speaker 1: odds of committing a violent crime as an adult are
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  Speaker 1: increased by thirty eight percent. I was the poster child
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  Speaker 1: of that Genetica term you've all heard before, at risk youth.
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  Speaker 1: My mother wasn't the one raising a thug. Look at
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  Speaker 1: the numbers, and it's clear if anyone put me on
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  Speaker 1: a destructive path, it was Trenis Gogin. I didn't stay
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  Speaker 1: in group therapy for long, and I didn't take riddling either.
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  Speaker 1: My mom picked me up after my second session and
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  Speaker 1: I sat in the front seat of her car wearing
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  Speaker 1: a thousand yard stare. Mom, I'm not going back. I said,
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  Speaker 1: these boys are crazy. She agreed. But I was still
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  Speaker 1: a damaged kid. And while there are proven interventions on
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  Speaker 1: the best way to teach and manage kids who suffer
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  Speaker 1: from toxic stress, it's fair to say that miss d
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  Speaker 1: didn't get those memoirs. I can't blame her for her
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  Speaker 1: own ignorance. The science wasn't nearly as clear in the
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  Speaker 1: one nine hundred and eighty s as it is now.
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  Speaker 1: All I know is Sister Catherine toiled in the trenches
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  Speaker 1: with the same malformed kid that Misde dealt with but
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  Speaker 1: she maintained high expectations and didn't let her frustration overwhelm her.
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  Speaker 1: She had the mindset of, look, everybody learns in a
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  Speaker 1: different way, and we're going to figure out how you learn.
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  Speaker 1: She deduced that I needed repetition, that I need this.
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  Speaker 1: I solve the same problems over and over again in
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  Speaker 1: a different way to learn, and she knew that took time.
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  Speaker 1: Miss D was all about productivity. She was saying, keep
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  Speaker 1: up or get out. Meanwhile, I felt backed into a corner.
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  Speaker 1: I knew that if I ensured some improvement, I would
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  Speaker 1: eventually be shipped out to that special black hole for good.
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  Speaker 1: So I found a solution. I started cheating. Studying was hard,
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  Speaker 1: especially with my screwed up brain, but I was a
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  Speaker 1: good cheat. I copied friends' homework and scammed my neighbors
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  Speaker 1: work During tests, I even copied the answers on the
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  Speaker 1: standardized test that didn't have any impact on my grades.
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  Speaker 1: It worked, my rising test scores, playcated Miss D, and
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  Speaker 1: my mother stopped getting calls from school. I thought I'd
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  Speaker 1: solved a problem, when really I was creating new ones
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  Speaker 1: by taking the path at least resistance. My coping mechanism
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  Speaker 1: confirmed that I would never learn squat at school and
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  Speaker 1: that I would never catch up, which pushed me closer
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  Speaker 1: toward a flunked out fate. The saving grace in those
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  Speaker 1: early years in Brazil was that I was way too
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  Speaker 1: young to understand the kind of prejudice I would soon
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  Speaker 1: face in my new hic hometown. Whenever you're the only
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  Speaker 1: one of your kind, you're in danger of being pushed
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  Speaker 1: toward the margins, suspected and disregarded, bullied and mistreated by
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  Speaker 1: ignorant People's just the way life is, especially back then,
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  Speaker 1: and by the time that reality kicked me in the throat,
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  Speaker 1: my life had already become a jacked up fortune cookie.
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  Speaker 1: Whenever I cracked it open, I got the same message.
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  Speaker 1: You were born to fail. My bad cards arrived. You're
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  Speaker 1: early and stuck around a while, But everyone gets challenged
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  Speaker 1: in life at some point. What is your bad hand?
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  Speaker 1: What kind of crap are you dealing with? Are you
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  Speaker 1: getting beaten, abused, bullied? Do you ever feel insecure? Maybe
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  Speaker 1: your limiting factor is that you are growing up so
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  Speaker 1: supported and comfortable you never push yourself. What are the
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  Speaker 1: current factors limiting your growth and success? Is someone standing
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  Speaker 1: in your way at work or school. Are you underappreciated
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  Speaker 1: and overlooked for opportunities one of the long odds you're
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  Speaker 1: up against right now? Are you standing in your own way?
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  Speaker 1: Break out your journal if you don't have one, by one,
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  Speaker 1: or start one on your laptop, tablet, or in the
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  Speaker 1: notes sapping the smartphone, and write them all out in
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  Speaker 1: minute detail. Don't be bland with this assignment. I showed
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  Speaker 1: you every piece of my dirty laundry. If you are
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  Speaker 1: hurt or steal in Harmon's way, tell the story in full.
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  Speaker 1: Give your pain shape absorb its power, because you are
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  Speaker 1: about to flip that pain on its head. You will
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  Speaker 1: use your story. This list of excuses, these very good
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  Speaker 1: reasons why you shouldn't amount to anything to fuel your
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  Speaker 1: ultimate success sounds fun right. Yeah it won't be, But
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  Speaker 1: don't worry about that yet. We'll get there for now.
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  Speaker 1: Just take inventory. Once you have your list, share it
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  Speaker 1: with whoever you want. For some, it may mean logging
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  Speaker 1: on the social media, posting a picture and writing out
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  Speaker 1: a few lines about how your own past or present
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  Speaker 1: circumstances challenge you to the depth of your soul. If
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  Speaker 1: that's you, use the hashtag bad hand kin turt me otherwise,
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  Speaker 1: acknowledge and accept it privately. Whatever works for you. I
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  Speaker 1: know it's hard, but this act alone will begin to
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  Speaker 1: empower you to overcome one time