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My wife PRANKED me during our wedding... and I can't move on from it! -r/BestofRedditorUpdates | Reddit Stories | EP3086 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 4: My wife pranks me during our wedding and I can't
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  Speaker 4: move on from it. You may think it's funny, but
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  Speaker 4: that hurt. Wife says, I need to get over it.
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  Speaker 4: But I can't stop obsessing over a prank that ruined
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  Speaker 4: my wedding experience and left me furious. I had an
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  Speaker 4: amazing wedding experience that was completely ruined by a prank
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  Speaker 4: my wife and friends played during the garter removal. During
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  Speaker 4: the reception, we were doing all the usual wedding games...
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  Speaker 4: And eventually I was told it was time to do
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  Speaker 4: the garter removal. As everyone gathered around us in the
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  Speaker 4: middle of the dance floor, my wife was sitting in
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  Speaker 4: a chair and my friends brought out a blindfold and
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  Speaker 4: told me I would be doing the garter removal blindfolded.
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  Speaker 4: Do we think?
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  Speaker 5: I already know where this is going.
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  Speaker 4: Bet Opie maybe. I see you. Garter removed. Someone weird.
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  Speaker 2: Probably a guy.
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  Speaker 4: Maybe her dad. Or his mother.
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  Speaker 2: I was going to say mother or another, like a friend.
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  Speaker 4: And I hope not. I think mother, father, like her father,
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  Speaker 4: or a friend. I should have been suspicious at their grins,
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  Speaker 4: but I'd had some drinks. Wasn't suspecting anything. Put it
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  Speaker 4: on and tried to be a good sport about it.
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  Speaker 4: As everyone seemed like they were having a great time.
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  Speaker 4: Myself included. As soon as I was blindfolded, however, my
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  Speaker 4: wife slipped out of the chair and was replaced by
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  Speaker 4: one of my groomsmen.
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  Speaker 2: Was he wearing a dress?
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  Speaker 5: I don't know. I hope so.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know. He's a friend of the family I've
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  Speaker 4: grown up with, but I would not say we're close. Now,
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  Speaker 4: I literally cannot stand him. Why is he your groomsman?
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  Speaker 5: Well, because I think it's the on the other side.
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  Speaker 5: Didn't he say?
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  Speaker 4: No, it's his groomsman.
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  Speaker 5: Well, yeah, but it might be like the sister or the.
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  Speaker 4: He's a friend of the family I've grown up with.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe the family forced him.
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  Speaker 1: Oh.
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  Speaker 4: I'm just saying, why did you, you didn't have to
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  Speaker 4: make him one of your groomsmen.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe to make it even.
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  Speaker 4: That's so stupid. If you can't stand him, why? Although
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  Speaker 4: he's not a bad guy, other than my anger at
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  Speaker 4: this prank. Or maybe it's, maybe perhaps it is now
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  Speaker 4: I can't stand him. I don't know. By the way,
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  Speaker 2: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
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  Speaker 4: don't know all the answers. We only know what we'd do.
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  Speaker 4: So please, let us know what you would do in
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  Speaker 4: the comments. Opie says, Sitting in the chair in place
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  Speaker 4: of my wife. My groomsman was in shorts with a
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  Speaker 4: garter around his thigh. My wife stood behind him and
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  Speaker 4: was talking to me as they walked me over to
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  Speaker 4: keep me fooled into thinking it was her. On their instructions,
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  Speaker 4: I got down on my knees and began reaching for
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  Speaker 4: what I thought were my wife's legs. Once I found
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  Speaker 4: the leg, I found the garter and began pulling it down.
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  Speaker 4: But at that moment, I heard my wife say, with
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  Speaker 4: your mouth, with your mouth.
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  Speaker 2: And Opie, you're hearing it behind you?
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  Speaker 4: I'm going to be so for real.
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  Speaker 5: No, she's probably like next to him.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, she's probably like, what's your mouth?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: So I leaned forward and grasped the garter belt in
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  Speaker 4: my mouth. The shrieks and applause of the crowd with
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  Speaker 4: the garter in my teeth. I pulled it down his
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  Speaker 4: leg and then my wife actually came around to help
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  Speaker 4: me get it over his shoe because it got stuck.
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  Speaker 4: It felt awful.
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  Speaker 2: Aww.
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  Speaker 4: I was furious, I wanted to say, and do a
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  Speaker 4: million different things, but I didn't. For some reason, I
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  Speaker 4: just felt that pretending it wasn't a big deal was
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  Speaker 4: the best defense. That showing anger would be confirming how
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  Speaker 4: badly I'd just been humiliated for their delight, and that
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  Speaker 4: would have made my humiliation all the worse. So I
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  Speaker 4: sucked it up, sleepwalked through the rest of the wedding
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  Speaker 4: while doing my best to keep a smile on my face.
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  Speaker 4: My wife could tell I was stunned, but she kept
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  Speaker 4: on going too. She definitely had no idea how badly
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  Speaker 4: I was taking it. Everyone was standing around us and
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  Speaker 4: we couldn't talk openly about how I felt. At least
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  Speaker 4: not without ruining everything. And I didn't know whether I
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  Speaker 4: wanted to go there after all the effort and money
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  Speaker 4: put into the wedding. So I kept sucking it up
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  Speaker 4: the next day at the brunch and for most of
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  Speaker 4: the next week through most of our honeymoon.
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  Speaker 2: Dang.
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  Speaker 4: Dang, you sucked it up a while.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. That's just filling with more resentment.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, it's just building up.
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  Speaker 5: It's more rage.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: You're going to explode, OP. You're about to explode.
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  Speaker 5: I don't know. I feel bad because it's kind of
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  Speaker 5: like he got bullied on his day.
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  Speaker 3: He did.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. He is the Joker. You know, can I see
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  Speaker 4: where she was coming from?
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  Speaker 7: Yes.
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  Speaker 4: Yes. I can see how she thought, oh, this will
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  Speaker 4: be funny. It's his friend, yada, yada. But also in
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  Speaker 4: a much realer sense, why do we want to even
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  Speaker 4: do anything that makes fun of our partner on the
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  Speaker 4: day that's supposed to be about us?
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  Speaker 8: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: It's like, I don't know.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Like during weddings, like it's lighthearted or like stuff like that, but.
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  Speaker 4: It's like smashing your partner's face into the cake. It's
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  Speaker 4: only fun if they say yes and want to be
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  Speaker 4: a part of that.
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  Speaker 5: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: And you know your partner will think it's funny. I will.
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  Speaker 4: Well, even then, like, it's like, you know, can I
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  Speaker 4: do that?
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  Speaker 2: No, you just ask.
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  Speaker 5: I will immediately unlive my husband if he slams a
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  Speaker 5: cake in my face.
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  Speaker 4: Same.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 4: I think the jokes that are fine are, like, the
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  Speaker 4: ones where they, like.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, where they, like, dot your nose. I'm like, okay, whatever.
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  Speaker 5: It's just my nose.
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  Speaker 4: And applying that here, if OP was not blindfolded and
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  Speaker 4: they said, okay, we got your groomsman. Like, you have
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  Speaker 4: to deal with him. And OP was like, okay. Like,
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  Speaker 4: different context. He's in on the joke. Everyone's laughing with him.
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  Speaker 4: But this is, yeah, this is just mean. Ugh.
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  Speaker 5: I hate that because that's what he, like, now his
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  Speaker 5: entire wedding is room. That's all he thinks about.
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  Speaker 4: That's all he's gonna think about.
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  Speaker 2: Aww.
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  Speaker 4: At some point, I told myself that my wife didn't
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  Speaker 4: mean to hurt me and there's no reason to ruin
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  Speaker 4: her wedding memories by telling her that my experience had
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  Speaker 4: been ruined. But then at the end of our honeymoon,
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  Speaker 4: I had had a few drinks and I just couldn't
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  Speaker 4: help it. And once I started talking to her about it,
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  Speaker 4: I just went off. I told her it was trashy,
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  Speaker 4: that it hurts, if not destroyed my trust. and sense
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  Speaker 4: of intimacy towards her. I was harsh and got carried away.
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  Speaker 4: After at first apologizing a bit she got upset and
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  Speaker 4: left me sitting out there. I think I just kept
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  Speaker 4: going because I felt hurt and wanted to maybe make
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  Speaker 4: her feel bad as well to be honest. Since then
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  Speaker 4: it's been a difficult subject. I've told her I don't
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  Speaker 4: want to hear about the wedding. I don't want to
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  Speaker 4: write thank you notes, look at pictures. If it was tomorrow,
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  Speaker 4: I wouldn't make plans to celebrate our anniversary. My wife
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  Speaker 4: and I have a lot of strengths in our relationship,
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  Speaker 4: but I just can't stop thinking about this and the
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  Speaker 4: feeling when I took off that blindfold. I literally cannot
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  Speaker 4: stop my mind from replaying it over and over, and
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  Speaker 4: I get mad again every time. And perhaps the worst
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  Speaker 4: part of it is that it's all recorded. We had
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  Speaker 4: a professional photographer shooting a video. And in the video,
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  Speaker 4: I see at least four other people recording it on
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  Speaker 4: their phones. Watching the video, I find myself looking at
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  Speaker 4: the laughing faces of family and friends in the video.
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  Speaker 4: And there's a part of me that I'd never act
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  Speaker 4: on that wants nothing more than to the old one
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  Speaker 4: to them in the face. The fact I know that
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  Speaker 4: these videos are out there makes it feel like it's
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  Speaker 4: constantly happening to me. My wife says that she's sorry
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  Speaker 4: that she thought I would take it better and laugh
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  Speaker 4: it off and that I need to move on. That
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  Speaker 4: you can't just tell people to move on.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's not how it works. That's like, you know.
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  Speaker 5: It's like you, you like cut your knee and it's like,
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  Speaker 5: stop bleeding.
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  Speaker 1: Stop.
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  Speaker 4: Just stop. Stop bleeding.
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  Speaker 5: Stop.
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  Speaker 4: Why aren't you stop? It's not stop.
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  Speaker 5: Listen, stop.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. Don't happen.
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  Speaker 5: That's not how it goes.
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  Speaker 4: I think maybe I am the a-hole. No good is
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  Speaker 4: coming from obsessing over this, but I literally cannot let
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  Speaker 4: it go. I find myself coming up with reasons to
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  Speaker 4: be angry. I tell myself sometimes it was a harmful
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  Speaker 4: act because I was tricked into putting my mouth on
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  Speaker 4: another man's leg without my consent. But I think that's
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  Speaker 4: just rationalizing my anger. I don't know. Am I the
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  Speaker 4: a-hole for refusing to let it go? And we got
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  Speaker 4: some comments.
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  Speaker 5: I don't think that that's like a question for this. Like,
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  Speaker 5: I don't think you would, you know, be the a-hole
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  Speaker 5: for not being able to get closure from this. It's
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  Speaker 5: like those two. That's not like the question to ask you.
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  Speaker 5: The question is, are you willing to move on from
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  Speaker 5: this or not?
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  Speaker 4: Can you move? I mean, I guess that it's the same.
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  Speaker 4: It's it's a very similar question. Yeah. Yeah. I guess
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  Speaker 4: it's you're not the a-hole for not moving on. It's
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  Speaker 4: just can you? Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: I don't think like I mean, if anyone's the a-hole here,
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  Speaker 5: it's obviously the people involved in the prank.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: And, you know, they thought it would be funny and
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  Speaker 5: it wasn't. But the thing is, they're not doing anything
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  Speaker 5: about it to make you feel better about the situation completely.
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  Speaker 5: Cause you know, they got their laughs, everything worked out.
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  Speaker 5: The prank was funny. Everyone laughed. So they got everything
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  Speaker 5: they wanted, but yet you're stuck being like, that was
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  Speaker 5: the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to me. And
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  Speaker 5: I don't know where to go from here. That's all like,
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  Speaker 5: whenever he sees these people, he's like, Oh, that's all
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  Speaker 5: they're thinking. But really it's not, you know? But we
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  Speaker 5: got some relevant comments. Commenter says, um, you're totally allowed
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  Speaker 5: to be pissed off and totally get it.
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  Speaker 4: So what do you want to happen? She's apologized. You
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  Speaker 4: vented and now? Opie says, I don't know. I think
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  Speaker 4: this is why I'm so mad about it. I don't
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  Speaker 4: know what can be done to take away that feeling
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  Speaker 4: of taking off the blindfold and seeing him. Instead of her,
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  Speaker 4: everyone breaking out laughing at me, looking up to see
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  Speaker 4: her laughing at me, realizing I was the butt of
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  Speaker 4: the joke. And everyone had been laughing at me instead
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  Speaker 4: of along with me the whole time.
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  Speaker 5: But you're right.
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  Speaker 4: What do I want now? I don't know. Maybe there's
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  Speaker 4: nothing I want other than to forget about it. And
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  Speaker 4: when I think about it, part of me wants to
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  Speaker 4: be a good sport. Part of me gets so mad
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  Speaker 4: and I can go either way and I hate it.
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  Speaker 4: And we do have an update two and a half
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  Speaker 4: months later. Oh, What? Hi, everyone. This is the wife.
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  Speaker 5: Oh.
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  Speaker 8: Okay okay okay okay put it in now do we
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  Speaker 8: think wife is going to make it better or worse
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  Speaker 8: for herself because we've seen it either way where like
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  Speaker 8: the you know the second person will will come in
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  Speaker 8: and reveal some information that we didn't know.
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  Speaker 4: But also sometimes they just kind of dig their grave
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  Speaker 4: even deeper. So what do we think is going to
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  Speaker 4: happen here? Put it in the comments. One, she's digging
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  Speaker 4: that grave. Two, she, I don't know. She's making it better.
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  Speaker 4: She makes it better. They're happy with it. If you
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  Speaker 4: know us and what this is about, please know we're
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  Speaker 4: very embarrassed about this. We took it down, but it's
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  Speaker 4: been shared so many times it just keeps trickling on.
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  Speaker 4: So I'm writing this for both of us. This feels
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  Speaker 4: like a PR statement. Please know that we're very embarrassed
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  Speaker 4: by this. And we did take it down. And we
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  Speaker 4: are talking to our lawyers. Publicly apologizing. This is the
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  Speaker 4: last thing we want to say about this. My husband
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  Speaker 4: deeply regrets some of the language he used. This is
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  Speaker 4: a PR statement. Aren't you speaking for your husband? Yeah, what?
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  Speaker 2: She's like, let me clean this up.
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  Speaker 4: He intended to write anonymously and was letting out unfiltered emotions.
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  Speaker 4: Abraham Lincoln said, write an angry letter and tear it up.
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  Speaker 6: Are we writing a college essay?
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  Speaker 4: She's doing the same thing. She's doing the same thing
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  Speaker 4: that she did earlier. This is crazy. She said, just
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  Speaker 4: move on.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 4: My husband made the mistake of hitting post, assuming this
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  Speaker 4: was harmless venting. He regrets it. Why are we... Does
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  Speaker 4: he have no mouth? He cannot speak? We've reached out
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  Speaker 4: to and are on good terms with everyone involved. Everything's fine.
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  Speaker 4: As regards to the wedding, I am the only one
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  Speaker 4: who messed up here. Our planner gave us options. I
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  Speaker 4: watched the videos. I thought it was funny. I messed up.
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  Speaker 4: This isn't opinion. It's fact.
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  Speaker 5: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: I messed up because it wasn't funny to the only
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  Speaker 4: person who mattered to me. I want people to understand
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  Speaker 4: both of our perspectives because no one here.
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  Speaker 5: Is an a-hole.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, keep going.
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  Speaker 4: Are you trying to convince yourself?
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  Speaker 2: Whose feelings got hurt? Who got really upset and had
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  Speaker 2: a bad wedding?
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  Speaker 4: Okay, if you say so.
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  Speaker 2: A bad wedding experience.
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  Speaker 5: If you say so.
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  Speaker 4: What my husband didn't make clear is that he was
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  Speaker 4: an absolute sweetheart at the wedding afterwards. I'm sorry? Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: he did make clear. Did we forget? I'm sorry, he
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  Speaker 4: did make that pretty clear that he was a good
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  Speaker 4: sport and pretended that he was okay. In reality, he
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  Speaker 4: was not okay. This is juicy. I like this. Overall,
• 12:20
  Speaker 4: our honeymoon was amazing because he was masking his feelings.
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  Speaker 2: Aww.
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  Speaker 4: This is insane. And he doesn't mention at all that
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  Speaker 4: he only got mad at the end because I was
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  Speaker 4: teasing him about it. So you made it worse.
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  Speaker 2: Ugh.
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  Speaker 4: And I was only teasing him because I had no
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  Speaker 4: idea he was upset about it. I could tell I
• 12:38
  Speaker 4: was needling him, but it was meant to be good-natured.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 4: Having said all that on my own behalf, of course
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  Speaker 4: I thought he would think this was funny. He has
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  Speaker 4: a great sense of humor. We joke around a lot
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  Speaker 4: and always will. This just hit different. And sometimes that happens.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like an idiot taking this risk at our wedding.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't exactly tell him to get over it. I
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  Speaker 4: couldn't talk about it anymore when it was first brought
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  Speaker 4: up because I love my husband and was upset to
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  Speaker 4: hear him get angry. Probably in large part because he
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  Speaker 4: never gets angry like that. Afterwards, we decided to wait
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  Speaker 4: to talk about it until we could do so calmly.
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  Speaker 4: At the same time, we did need him to get
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  Speaker 4: over it and move forward. Wow.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, my. This is like backhand everything she says. She says, like,
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  Speaker 5: I apologize. But also he shouldn't have taken it like that.
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  Speaker 4: At the same time, he needed to get over it. Yeah. Like,
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  Speaker 4: who are you? We can't never mention our wedding or
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  Speaker 4: anniversary again or live with anger again. With casual eye,
• 13:35
  Speaker 4: it looks like this is a well-received prank in a
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  Speaker 4: hundred different videos. I thought it would go over well
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  Speaker 4: and so did everyone else. I do now wonder if
• 13:43
  Speaker 4: there are videos of this prank that didn't get posted
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  Speaker 4: because the husband made it clear he didn't like it.
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  Speaker 2: I looked at some comments.
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  Speaker 4: Keep going.
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  Speaker 2: We're almost done. I looked at the comments for this one.
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  Speaker 6: Oh boy.
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  Speaker 2: It's, uh, yikes.
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  Speaker 4: I'm sure people tear her apart, as they should.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, boy.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: As they freaking should. Yeah, yeah, yeah. This girl's a witch. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: she sucks. On all levels.
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  Speaker 1: She sucks.
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  Speaker 4: Pretty, pretty bad. But we got more. Bottom line, this
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  Speaker 4: was unfortunate and completely unnecessary. But you live and you learn.
• 14:11
  Speaker 4: We're doing great. And this has been blown way out
• 14:14
  Speaker 4: of proportion. On the bright side, how many couples can
• 14:16
  Speaker 4: say their weddings were covered by the New York Post?
• 14:20
  Speaker 5: What?
• 14:20
  Speaker 4: We're happily moving on. My husband says he hopes everyone
• 14:23
  Speaker 4: gets his thank you cards. That's it.
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: Goodbye.
• 14:27
  Speaker 4: That's it. Goodbye. Wow. Yikes. Okay, wait.
• 14:32
  Speaker 5: So did her wedding get covered by the New York Post?
• 14:34
  Speaker 4: I imagine the Reddit post got covered.
• 14:37
  Speaker 5: Okay.
• 14:37
  Speaker 4: Because sometimes Reddit posts blow up and then they get
• 14:39
  Speaker 4: posted on.
• 14:40
  Speaker 5: And you're happy about that?
• 14:42
  Speaker 4: Now everyone knows you're a witch. That's why she posted. Well,
• 14:44
  Speaker 4: now I think she's like, oh, shoot. It got like
• 14:47
  Speaker 4: everyone knows about this and now I have to do
• 14:49
  Speaker 4: damage control. My God. But we got some final comments
• 14:54
  Speaker 4: and I do imagine they're not good.
• 14:57
  Speaker 5: I hope they're not good.
• 14:58
  Speaker 4: This comment on the wife's post seems to reveal a
• 15:00
  Speaker 4: section she removed.
• 15:02
  Speaker 5: Hmm.
• 15:02
  Speaker 4: I want people to understand both of our perspectives. Oh, okay, okay, okay.
• 15:06
  Speaker 4: So this comment got a deleted part of the post
• 15:11
  Speaker 4: and reposted that or re-commented that part of the post. Okay.
• 15:15
  Speaker 4: So this is still the wife. I want people to
• 15:17
  Speaker 4: understand both of our perspectives because no one here is
• 15:20
  Speaker 4: an ale. I probably wouldn't have liked it at our
• 15:23
  Speaker 4: wedding if my husband had tricked me into getting down
• 15:25
  Speaker 4: on my knees between another man's legs and taking something
• 15:28
  Speaker 4: off of his thigh with my mouth while everyone stood
• 15:30
  Speaker 4: around laughing and filming it. So you're the ale. I
• 15:33
  Speaker 4: probably would have thought it was tacky and possibly gross,
• 15:36
  Speaker 4: depending on who the guy was. I will get trashed
• 15:38
  Speaker 4: for this, but I did not think it would be
• 15:40
  Speaker 4: the same for a guy.
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: Oh, boy.
• 15:42
  Speaker 4: She's like, guys don't need to have consent, right? That's funny.
• 15:48
  Speaker 4: That's just for women.
• 15:49
  Speaker 5: He thinks it's funny, guys.
• 15:51
  Speaker 4: Another man biting another man's leg. That's comedy.
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: That's peak comedy. I got some of the comments saying, From, like,
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: the main, the original post. And then we also have, like,
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: the updated post with all that stuff. This is the
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: original post. Softbrush1082 says, you're the a-hole. I don't feel
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: a shred of remorse in this post. Lucky for you
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: that your husband seems to have forgiven you. You may
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: find out later down the line that he actually never forgot.
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: And there's, like, everyone is just calling her an a-hole.
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: Someone said two words, damage control.
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: Literally.
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: And then OP says, actually, we're fine.
• 16:27
  Speaker 4: Okay. That's the wife.
• 16:29
  Speaker 5: That is not.
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: That's the wife.
• 16:30
  Speaker 5: Yeah, that's not the husband.
• 16:32
  Speaker 4: No, no, we're fine. Well, the we're is always the wife. No,
• 16:35
  Speaker 4: we're fine. We're his husband. We're his wife. Dang.
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: Then the actual post with the update and everything. Someone said,
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: Amazon Mommy says, well, he's chained up in the basement,
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: but everything's fine.
• 16:48
  Speaker 4: See? Fine. Yeah, it's fine.
• 16:49
  Speaker 5: Literally.
• 16:50
  Speaker 4: He's fine. He's okay. He's fine.
• 16:51
  Speaker 5: That's what I'm thinking. I think they have him chained
• 16:54
  Speaker 5: to the radiator.
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: He's chained.
• 16:55
  Speaker 4: He's got to be. He's got to be.
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: No, it's crazy.
• 16:57
  Speaker 5: I don't know.
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: Another comment here from Kimmy the Pooh says, I feel
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: like the fact that the update came from the wife
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: and not the husband is the problem. Like, I want
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: to hear from the husband.
• 17:08
  Speaker 5: The one who actually posted and had concerns.
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that his feelings were, you know, hurt.
• 17:13
  Speaker 5: And she just covered it up and was like, no, actually,
• 17:15
  Speaker 5: we're fine.
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah. We're okay. We talked it through.
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: Oh, and I found something. I found it here.
• 17:21
  Speaker 4: What?
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: Cake Day at Christmas says, from what I gather, the
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: post was shared widely and was even written about in
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: the New York Post. Trash birdcage liner tablet. And she
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: was embarrassed by it because it does not paint her
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: in a good light. So she went public relations damage
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: control and wrote the second post. And also the update
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: does not paint her in a good light.
• 17:40
  Speaker 4: No, it does not. No, it does not. Wow.
• 17:43
  Speaker 5: Did not do any damage control. You made it ten
• 17:46
  Speaker 5: times worse, you freaking idiot.
• 17:48
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I knew it would. I knew it would. It's
• 17:50
  Speaker 4: always one of those.
• 17:51
  Speaker 5: She needs to buy a brain. I don't even know.
• 17:52
  Speaker 4: Like, you can't.
• 17:54
  Speaker 5: Hers obviously doesn't work.
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: Hers is broken. Hers is really broke. But that's the
• 17:58
  Speaker 4: end of that story, folks.
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: Dang.
• 18:01
  Speaker 4: And also probably the end of their relationship.
• 18:03
  Speaker 7: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 18:05
  Speaker 7: go on to the next one.
• 18:06
  Speaker 5: I asked my wife for one small favor, and she
• 18:10
  Speaker 5: turned against me.
• 18:11
  Speaker 4: Ah, a guy can't get a favor on you?
• 18:14
  Speaker 5: I spent a weekday afternoon at the local park slash
• 18:16
  Speaker 5: playground roller skating with our nine-year-old.
• 18:19
  Speaker 4: That sounds so fun.
• 18:21
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I would do that in a heartbeat. I had
• 18:24
  Speaker 5: brought skates, helmets, protective gear, water bottles, etc. About an
• 18:28
  Speaker 5: hour in, I realized he was getting too warm in
• 18:30
  Speaker 5: jeans and could have used shorts.
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: Uh-oh.
• 18:33
  Speaker 5: At that point, we were already in the middle of
• 18:34
  Speaker 5: roller skating. He really didn't want to stop and go
• 18:37
  Speaker 5: home because we would have had to take off a
• 18:40
  Speaker 5: lot of gear, walk to the car, drive home, get
• 18:44
  Speaker 5: the shorts, drive back, and gear up again. The drive
• 18:47
  Speaker 5: itself is only about five minutes each way, but it
• 18:50
  Speaker 5: would have interrupted the whole thing. He also didn't want
• 18:53
  Speaker 5: to stay alone in the park while I went. Well,
• 18:55
  Speaker 5: why would he not go with you?
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: He's nine years old.
• 18:59
  Speaker 5: I would not leave my nine-year-old alone at a park.
• 19:02
  Speaker 4: Don't do that.
• 19:03
  Speaker 5: This feels like very, not all, but very dad coded.
• 19:07
  Speaker 5: So I called my wife who was at home. and
• 19:10
  Speaker 5: asked if she could find his shorts and maybe, only
• 19:13
  Speaker 5: if she wanted to, walk towards us with them so
• 19:16
  Speaker 5: I could run downhill and meet her halfway. The park
• 19:19
  Speaker 5: is about a 10-15 minute uphill walk from our house.
• 19:22
  Speaker 5: She said yes and said she could just take a
• 19:26
  Speaker 5: walk all the way up.
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from Normal Door Man.
• 19:30
  Speaker 5: Very peculiar name. And if you want to submit your
• 19:32
  Speaker 5: own stories, go to the r slash okay story time subreddit.
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia. I'm Dakota.
• 19:37
  Speaker 5: And we're here to give some good advice goofily.
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: But guess what? We don't have all the answers.
• 19:42
  Speaker 5: I don't even know what I ate for breakfast this morning.
• 19:45
  Speaker 4: But yeah, we're going to say some stuff.
• 19:47
  Speaker 5: And, you know, you can fact check us. I don't
• 19:49
  Speaker 5: know if that's going to work, but then you're going
• 19:51
  Speaker 5: to say some stuff and we're just going to go
• 19:53
  Speaker 5: with it. As Opie says. A few minutes later, she
• 19:56
  Speaker 5: called back and said, you know what? I was being
• 19:58
  Speaker 5: too nice before. I offered way too much. I'm not
• 20:02
  Speaker 5: going to walk up there. I'll put the shorts in
• 20:05
  Speaker 5: the driveway and you can come get them. Wait, that's
• 20:08
  Speaker 5: so funny. That's so funny.
• 20:10
  Speaker 4: I'm just imagining if my boyfriend Tyson was like, hey, like,
• 20:14
  Speaker 4: do you mind doing this favor? And I was like, yeah,
• 20:15
  Speaker 4: of course. And then 10 minutes later, I'm like, I've
• 20:18
  Speaker 4: been too freaking nice before. You do it.
• 20:21
  Speaker 6: How dare you?
• 20:24
  Speaker 4: So strange. I said, okay, no problem.
• 20:28
  Speaker 5: And did not push it. I know when to not.
• 20:30
  Speaker 5: In the end, we did not go get the shorts.
• 20:32
  Speaker 5: We just rolled up his jeans, which worked fine. Later
• 20:35
  Speaker 5: that evening, when we came home, my wife was still angry.
• 20:39
  Speaker 5: She said she felt insulted that I had asked her
• 20:41
  Speaker 5: to bring the shorts when I was the one with
• 20:43
  Speaker 5: the car.
• 20:44
  Speaker 4: And the drive was so short.
• 20:46
  Speaker 5: She said if the rules were reversed, I would never
• 20:48
  Speaker 5: have agreed to walk up there. She didn't want to
• 20:51
  Speaker 5: hear anything about why I had asked, but demanded that
• 20:53
  Speaker 5: I acknowledged and agreed with the feeling of being insulted.
• 20:56
  Speaker 5: I think it was completely fine. She didn't want to
• 20:59
  Speaker 5: do it, but I did not agree that it was
• 21:00
  Speaker 5: insulting to ask.
• 21:02
  Speaker 4: It's, I think it's very, I don't know. I haven't,
• 21:06
  Speaker 4: I've been in situations where people will say even asking
• 21:09
  Speaker 4: for a favor, like certain favors, is insulting. I personally
• 21:13
  Speaker 4: am not of the mind that asking for something is,
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: for most things, is insulting. Because you can just say no.
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: That's true. You can just say no.
• 21:21
  Speaker 5: But then some people can't say no.
• 21:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but that's on them. It's not on me. Say no.
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: That's true. Unless I know that they can't say no
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: and I'm always asking them.
• 21:28
  Speaker 5: From my point of view, I made a low pressure
• 21:30
  Speaker 5: practical request. She could have said no. When she changed
• 21:34
  Speaker 5: her mind later, I accepted it without arguing. When I
• 21:37
  Speaker 5: wouldn't agree that the request was insulting, she said, don't
• 21:40
  Speaker 5: ever ask me anything again that you wouldn't do yourself.
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: But I'm assuming he would do that. I feel like
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: he would do that. You know, she's assuming that he
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: wouldn't do that. It doesn't feel like he has ever
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: agreed with her. Yeah, I don't know.
• 21:56
  Speaker 5: I really don't know. I don't think it is true.
• 21:58
  Speaker 5: I would refuse the favor if rules were reversed. Depending
• 22:02
  Speaker 5: on the situation being the same, I would have absolutely
• 22:05
  Speaker 5: done it. And on such a sunny day, I would just.
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: Turned it into a run.
• 22:09
  Speaker 5: I also don't think anybody should make a rule about
• 22:11
  Speaker 5: not asking questions. By the way, I'm going to be
• 22:14
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• 22:22
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• 22:24
  Speaker 4: I agree with Opie.
• 22:25
  Speaker 5: I don't think that's any harder than asking a question.
• 22:29
  Speaker 4: Honestly, truthfully, she might be on her period. I agree.
• 22:32
  Speaker 4: I agree. Someone said maybe she's pregnant. I genuinely think
• 22:36
  Speaker 4: this adverse reaction feels like maybe this is not a
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: thing that she does a lot. If you're like, she
• 22:43
  Speaker 4: always does this, then maybe that's another issue.
• 22:46
  Speaker 5: Yeah, this is something she's never done before.
• 22:49
  Speaker 4: Could be could be a phase of the moon.
• 22:52
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know what her deal is, because I
• 22:55
  Speaker 5: feel like this wasn't a big deal. And you were like,
• 22:57
  Speaker 5: no worries, I'll get it. And then like, was she
• 22:59
  Speaker 5: mad that you that she put it out and you
• 23:01
  Speaker 5: didn't get it? You know, but even then, like, why
• 23:03
  Speaker 5: is that a big deal? Who cares? Nobody was like suffering.
• 23:06
  Speaker 5: I don't know. For context, my wife is generally not
• 23:09
  Speaker 5: the one who spends several hours doing activities like this
• 23:12
  Speaker 5: at the park. If she takes him, she is usually
• 23:14
  Speaker 5: watching rather than participating, and she would normally stay for
• 23:18
  Speaker 5: a shorter time. She prefers to stay at home, so
• 23:20
  Speaker 5: I don't think this was about her being jealous that
• 23:23
  Speaker 5: I was at the park while she was home. Am
• 23:25
  Speaker 5: I the a-hole for asking her in the first place?
• 23:27
  Speaker 4: There is an edit.
• 23:28
  Speaker 5: The part about reversed roles has come out completely wrong,
• 23:32
  Speaker 5: opposite of my intent. Now fixed. I have said no
• 23:35
  Speaker 5: to her occasionally in the past, but I would have
• 23:37
  Speaker 5: done this, and the verdict is you're an a-hole. Really?
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: I don't think that's an a-hole. I have no idea
• 23:43
  Speaker 4: at all why you would be the a-hole in this scenario.
• 23:46
  Speaker 5: And she said like she said no. And you didn't
• 23:49
  Speaker 5: like give her tongue or anything.
• 23:50
  Speaker 4: You were just like, oh, no worries. Didn't give her what?
• 23:53
  Speaker 4: He didn't give her tongue or anything. Maybe that's why
• 23:56
  Speaker 4: you're the a-hole. Didn't give her tongue. Do you mean lip?
• 23:59
  Speaker 4: Give her lip? You didn't give her tongue and now
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: she's an a-hole? You didn't give her tongue or nothing.
• 24:06
  Speaker 5: Right before I said that, I was like, I hope
• 24:07
  Speaker 5: this is the right thing that I'm going to say.
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: And it wasn't. I just bombed. I mean, you didn't
• 24:14
  Speaker 4: give her head or nothing. Not even a lick.
• 24:19
  Speaker 7: I didn't even get a lick of anything.
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: Not even a little kiss. A little blow of a kiss.
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: I got nothing. Blow or nothing. Am I the a-hole
• 24:28
  Speaker 4: for not giving tongue?
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: Whatever.
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: I guess it's lip. I thought it was tongue.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: Whatever.
• 24:34
  Speaker 4: It's close. It's right there.
• 24:36
  Speaker 5: She didn't care. Teeth.
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: It's on the tip of the teeth. The tip of
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: the tongue.
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: The lips.
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: The teeth. The tip of the tongue. The tip of
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: the tongue. The teeth and the lips.
• 24:43
  Speaker 7: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 24:45
  Speaker 7: go on to the next one.
• 24:46
  Speaker 4: My best friend was lonely, but my wife refused to
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: let me visit. Well, secret's out, you stink. So my
• 24:53
  Speaker 4: wife and I, 29 male and she's female, are in
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: a disagreement and I'm looking for neutral opinions. That's what
• 24:59
  Speaker 4: we've got. I will do my best to lay out
• 25:01
  Speaker 4: the facts neutrally. My best friend and I grew up together,
• 25:04
  Speaker 4: so neutral, and have been friends for almost 20 years.
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: We lived in the same city until about eight years
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: ago when I moved away. He stayed in our home city,
• 25:12
  Speaker 4: so I would still see him a few times a
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: year when I went back to visit family. At the
• 25:16
  Speaker 4: beginning of the year, he moved to a new city
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: where he knows almost nobody. Now, about six months in,
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: he's told me he's lonely and having trouble making friends.
• 25:26
  Speaker 4: He's planning to host a get-together in a few weeks
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: to try to meet more people and become better at
• 25:30
  Speaker 4: friends with the acquaintances he's made so far and would
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: love if i could come he offered to let me
• 25:35
  Speaker 4: stay at his place he's renting a small but comfortable
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: place with a couple of bedrooms and one bathroom now
• 25:41
  Speaker 4: this is important because although he would be happy to
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: host both of us in the spare bedroom it's a
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: deal breaker for my wife to share a bathroom.
• 25:51
  Speaker 5: Uh share the bathroom with the other.
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: Guy no i i get that that's kind of just
• 25:55
  Speaker 4: ridiculous to me yeah i I mean, then get a hotel.
• 25:59
  Speaker 5: I don't know.
• 26:00
  Speaker 4: Additionally, my wife and I have a kind of big
• 26:02
  Speaker 4: trip planned at the end of the year, and it
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: would not be financially wise of us to throw another
• 26:06
  Speaker 4: trip on the books. Also, the city he's in is
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: hosting the World Cup matches, and hotel prices are ridiculous.
• 26:14
  Speaker 5: So you're in L.A.
• 26:19
  Speaker 4: Aren't there other ones on the East Coast, too?
• 26:20
  Speaker 5: I don't know.
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: Yeah, they're all over the place. Yeah, I think they're
• 26:23
  Speaker 4: all over the U.S., Basically, I can afford to get
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: a flight for myself and go see him without paying
• 26:28
  Speaker 4: for a hotel. I can't really do two flights and
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: hotels for me and my wife to both go. By
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: the way, this comes from Screen Storytelling, and if you
• 26:36
  Speaker 4: want to make your own stories, go to the r
• 26:38
  Speaker 4: slash OK Storytime subreddit. I'm Sophia. I'm Savannah. I'm Dakota.
• 26:43
  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 26:44
  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers. We only know what we do.
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
• 26:49
  Speaker 4: And Opie says, I floated to my wife the idea
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: of me heading out there for two, two nights to
• 26:55
  Speaker 4: visit him for a weekend. She does not like the
• 26:57
  Speaker 4: idea and says I shouldn't leave her for a weekend.
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: That sounds like codependency.
• 27:04
  Speaker 5: I was going to say that.
• 27:05
  Speaker 4: Do you want to sing it?
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:07
  Speaker 5: That sounds like codependency. Yeah.
• 27:11
  Speaker 4: I thought you guys were going to sing it together.
• 27:13
  Speaker 4: I thought so too.
• 27:14
  Speaker 5: And then she didn't join in.
• 27:15
  Speaker 4: Oh, one, two, three. That sounds like codependency. I push
• 27:22
  Speaker 4: the subject a little and she seems pretty firm, but
• 27:25
  Speaker 4: I really miss my friend and want to cheer him
• 27:26
  Speaker 4: up since he's going through a rough time. So I'm
• 27:29
  Speaker 4: considering bringing up the subject again and saying respectfully, but firmly, look,
• 27:34
  Speaker 4: I need to go see my friend. This is a
• 27:35
  Speaker 4: one-time thing. And as my wife, I'm asking you to
• 27:38
  Speaker 4: find it in your heart to be okay with that.
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: Or maybe look, I would love for you to come
• 27:43
  Speaker 4: with me, but we can't book a hotel. I would
• 27:45
  Speaker 4: be happy to do that, but she seems very anti-sharing
• 27:48
  Speaker 4: a bathroom. Other info, my best friend and her get
• 27:50
  Speaker 4: along great. He was the best man at our wedding.
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: We've all hung out a few dozen times over the
• 27:55
  Speaker 4: eight years that she and I have been together. There's
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: never been any drama between them. She's even tried to
• 28:00
  Speaker 4: set him up with a couple of her friends before.
• 28:02
  Speaker 4: We all get along. Alright, my wife and I are
• 28:05
  Speaker 4: generally happy in our marriage, and as far as I know,
• 28:08
  Speaker 4: there are no unrelated issues affecting this disagreement. We trust
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: each other and have no history of cheating or anything
• 28:13
  Speaker 4: like that. We don't have any special plans for the
• 28:16
  Speaker 4: weekend that I want to go visit him. It's just
• 28:18
  Speaker 4: a random weekend that we don't have anything planned. Genuinely,
• 28:22
  Speaker 4: is she not letting you go on any trips by yourself?
• 28:25
  Speaker 4: Cause that's weird. That is actually crazy. If I told
• 28:29
  Speaker 4: my boyfriend that he can't go on a trip with
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: his friends. Oh God. That would be insane.
• 28:34
  Speaker 5: I would want my man to go. Not that I
• 28:36
  Speaker 5: wouldn't want him to like, you know, be around me
• 28:38
  Speaker 5: or whatever, but like get your man, like, you know,
• 28:41
  Speaker 5: they have to get their steam off. Some way, like
• 28:43
  Speaker 5: go do the boys night. Like, you know, just like
• 28:46
  Speaker 5: how girls need a girls night. Like boys need to
• 28:48
  Speaker 5: go do stupid things together. So then they feel better.
• 28:51
  Speaker 4: I've had my boyfriend go on trips with like, you know,
• 28:54
  Speaker 4: a co-ed group of friends, but like, I don't like,
• 28:57
  Speaker 4: it's a camping trip. I don't even go on it.
• 28:58
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 28:59
  Speaker 4: It's his thing. So if he doesn't like to camp,
• 29:02
  Speaker 4: it's his thing. I like, just my point is you
• 29:05
  Speaker 4: don't have to do everything together. And I went to
• 29:07
  Speaker 4: Guatemala without him. So every other weekend this summer would
• 29:11
  Speaker 4: have presented other obstacles to We have no children, two
• 29:14
  Speaker 4: pets who are pretty self-sufficient and easy to care for,
• 29:17
  Speaker 4: solo for two nights. Aside from one family vacation early
• 29:21
  Speaker 4: in our relationship before we were married, I've never gone
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: on any non-work-related trips without my wife. This is the
• 29:27
  Speaker 4: first time I've ever wanted to do anything like this.
• 29:31
  Speaker 4: I occasionally travel for work, but it's like max three
• 29:33
  Speaker 4: weeks total over an entire year. My wife has no
• 29:36
  Speaker 4: problems with me traveling for work, but she does get
• 29:39
  Speaker 4: a little sad. when it happens it sounds like she
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: needs to like have an extended support system have friends
• 29:46
  Speaker 4: that she can hang out with when you're gone because
• 29:49
  Speaker 4: this is a little ridiculous.
• 29:51
  Speaker 5: Yeah this is not healthy uh especially because she can't
• 29:55
  Speaker 5: be on her own for like what was she doing
• 29:57
  Speaker 5: before you I don't know. I don't trust people who
• 30:00
  Speaker 5: can't like live independently. That's way too much pressure on
• 30:03
  Speaker 5: me and way too much pressure on them.
• 30:06
  Speaker 4: Always? Always? We have an update. She brought up three
• 30:10
  Speaker 4: points about her perspective. I did not intentionally leave out
• 30:13
  Speaker 4: any of the following context. I just didn't realize this
• 30:15
  Speaker 4: info would be relevant. But now that we've discussed the
• 30:18
  Speaker 4: subject more, it is because it's her POV. First is
• 30:21
  Speaker 4: a quick one. The bathroom thing. She's got IBS. I
• 30:25
  Speaker 4: knew this already and maybe it was silly of me
• 30:27
  Speaker 4: to not put that in my original post for context.
• 30:29
  Speaker 4: It's not severe, but does make her self-conscious about sharing
• 30:32
  Speaker 4: a private bathroom with anyone who isn't a family member.
• 30:35
  Speaker 4: The thing is, I didn't understand the extent to which
• 30:38
  Speaker 4: it makes her self-conscious. We have never been anywhere traveling
• 30:41
  Speaker 4: where we needed to share a private bathroom in an
• 30:43
  Speaker 4: overnight stay with anyone who is not a family member.
• 30:46
  Speaker 4: So this consideration is new to me as it has
• 30:48
  Speaker 4: never come up before learning moment. Second is her main point,
• 30:51
  Speaker 4: which is... is that she says it's a cultural difference.
• 30:55
  Speaker 4: She is from Colombia, not just her heritage. She lived
• 30:58
  Speaker 4: there until she was 20. I mention the heritage thing
• 31:00
  Speaker 4: because we are friends with another couple who are both Latino,
• 31:03
  Speaker 4: and a guy recently went on a few nights guy's
• 31:06
  Speaker 4: trip with some of his best friends. I brought this up,
• 31:09
  Speaker 4: and my wife said, yeah, well, they're Latin, but we're
• 31:12
  Speaker 4: both raised in the US and have a blended, semi-Americanized
• 31:15
  Speaker 4: way of seeing things. She says that in Latin America
• 31:17
  Speaker 4: in general, it would be pretty much unheard of for
• 31:20
  Speaker 4: a married man to go on a non-work trip and
• 31:23
  Speaker 4: for the wife to be okay with it unless it
• 31:25
  Speaker 4: was a friend's bachelor trip or something. To the point
• 31:27
  Speaker 4: where she said she's not going to mention me visiting
• 31:29
  Speaker 4: my friend to any of her friends back home because
• 31:31
  Speaker 4: they would question her and judge her for it.
• 31:33
  Speaker 5: That's crazy.
• 31:34
  Speaker 4: I gotta be honest. This perspective is difficult to wrap
• 31:37
  Speaker 4: my head around. And I find the logic quite flawed
• 31:40
  Speaker 4: because a bachelor trip stereotypically would lend itself to debauchery.
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 31:45
  Speaker 4: Whereas I'm just seeing a friend in another city for
• 31:47
  Speaker 4: a weekend for two days. He's not thrown rager. He's
• 31:51
  Speaker 4: going to have like 10 people over and we're going
• 31:53
  Speaker 4: to play games and grill.
• 31:55
  Speaker 5: And she's also invited. Like that's the thing. It's not
• 31:58
  Speaker 5: like she's not invited. And she's like, no, don't go
• 32:00
  Speaker 5: without me. Like, yeah, you could go, but you don't
• 32:03
  Speaker 5: want to.
• 32:04
  Speaker 4: I don't have any leg to stand on to disagree here, though,
• 32:07
  Speaker 4: because I didn't grow up in South America, so who
• 32:09
  Speaker 4: am I to say what would and wouldn't be expected?
• 32:12
  Speaker 4: But yeah, this is something I intend to unpack with
• 32:14
  Speaker 4: her another time. Finally, the last point is that her
• 32:16
  Speaker 4: mom is visiting and staying at our place, but it's
• 32:19
  Speaker 4: before I would leave to visit my friend. Her mom
• 32:21
  Speaker 4: is going to be staying with us for about two weeks,
• 32:23
  Speaker 4: and then two nights after she leaves is when I
• 32:25
  Speaker 4: would leave. She and her mom are extremely close, and
• 32:28
  Speaker 4: living in different countries is hard for them. And my
• 32:31
  Speaker 4: wife gets very sad when she leaves, but she gets
• 32:33
  Speaker 4: sad for like a day. I thought two nights of
• 32:35
  Speaker 4: us being together would be plenty of quality time for
• 32:38
  Speaker 4: her to get past saying goodbye to her mom again.
• 32:41
  Speaker 4: My wife said she was just looking forward to spending
• 32:43
  Speaker 4: the weekend together after her mom leaves so that she
• 32:45
  Speaker 4: doesn't feel lonely. I'm sorry, girl. It's two days.
• 32:49
  Speaker 6: Yeah, what?
• 32:50
  Speaker 4: It's two days.
• 32:51
  Speaker 5: You can feel lonely for two days. It's not the
• 32:53
  Speaker 5: end of the world. Go hang out with your friends. Yeah,
• 32:56
  Speaker 5: or like call a family and be like, hey, want
• 32:58
  Speaker 5: to do something?
• 32:58
  Speaker 4: Like, I don't know. Ask your mom to extend her
• 33:02
  Speaker 4: visit by two days. Maybe that's an option.
• 33:04
  Speaker 5: There's so many things you could do here. And she's like, nope,
• 33:07
  Speaker 5: you have to drop everything for me and you can't
• 33:10
  Speaker 5: do anything if I'm not there.
• 33:12
  Speaker 4: In the end, I'm going to see my friend by myself.
• 33:15
  Speaker 4: And her mom ended up extending her trip there. Boom, boom, boom.
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: Got it.
• 33:20
  Speaker 4: I see you. And she'll leave the same day that
• 33:22
  Speaker 4: I get back. I told my wife, OK, I'm glad
• 33:25
  Speaker 4: that's a solution. But I also told her gently and
• 33:28
  Speaker 4: with love that it shouldn't really have been a problem anyways.
• 33:31
  Speaker 4: Thank you. Thank you. And if something with similar circumstances
• 33:37
  Speaker 4: comes up again in the future. Whether her mom is
• 33:39
  Speaker 4: staying with us or not, it shouldn't be a problem.
• 33:43
  Speaker 4: I encouraged her that she is more than welcome to
• 33:45
  Speaker 4: go on a girl's trip and pointed out that she
• 33:47
  Speaker 4: would probably expect me to have no issues with that
• 33:49
  Speaker 4: if it didn't interfere with other commitments and was affordable
• 33:52
  Speaker 4: for us. That seemed to maybe make a difference. I
• 33:55
  Speaker 4: also want to give some broad responses to perspectives shared
• 33:58
  Speaker 4: by several people who commented on the original post. About
• 34:01
  Speaker 4: my wife, she is a lovely human being and I'm
• 34:03
  Speaker 4: happy to share my life with her. As is the
• 34:05
  Speaker 4: case with any human being, she is not perfect. Yes,
• 34:08
  Speaker 4: I agree with some comments that she is handling this
• 34:10
  Speaker 4: disagreement immaturely, but I do not consider her an immature
• 34:14
  Speaker 4: or selfish person. She rocks in so many ways. But
• 34:17
  Speaker 4: the point of my post was not to go on
• 34:18
  Speaker 4: about the great things about her. It was about gathering
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: opinions for this specific disagreement. I do not need permission
• 34:25
  Speaker 4: to go on the trip. But as several married people indicated,
• 34:27
  Speaker 4: this isn't really about permission. It's about not rocking the
• 34:31
  Speaker 4: boat for things that aren't worth it. This is not
• 34:33
  Speaker 4: catastrophic disagreement. It's just one that was unexpected. If it
• 34:37
  Speaker 4: was going to be a serious issue, then I would
• 34:39
  Speaker 4: have had to choose between pissing her off or accommodating
• 34:42
  Speaker 4: something I found unreasonable. And then, yeah, I would have
• 34:45
  Speaker 4: probably become a pain point. But it didn't get to
• 34:48
  Speaker 4: that stage because we reached an understanding. A few years
• 34:51
  Speaker 4: ago when he was going through a really rough time
• 34:53
  Speaker 4: for totally different reasons. Him telling me that he's kind
• 34:56
  Speaker 4: of lonely is not a drastic call for help. It's
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: just a heads up. that he misses hanging out. I
• 35:00
  Speaker 4: even asked him, how are you really? And he was honest,
• 35:03
  Speaker 4: said yeah. Admittedly, he isn't feeling his best, but he
• 35:06
  Speaker 4: reassured me he's not in a serious crisis. Money stuff,
• 35:10
  Speaker 4: this disagreement wasn't really about money. Money is relevant, but
• 35:15
  Speaker 4: it's not the point. I'll just say that we are
• 35:17
  Speaker 4: thankfully financially sound, but that's because we make the effort
• 35:19
  Speaker 4: to find a good balance between hitting our savings goal
• 35:22
  Speaker 4: and enjoying life. We both agree that two nights of hotel,
• 35:25
  Speaker 4: especially given the high rates because of the World Cup,
• 35:27
  Speaker 4: is just not worth it. And that's the end of
• 35:29
  Speaker 4: the story. Well, I don't know.
• 35:33
  Speaker 5: It still is an issue. I feel that needs to
• 35:36
  Speaker 5: be addressed.
• 35:37
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 35:37
  Speaker 7: Just, I don't know.
• 35:39
  Speaker 5: I mean, maybe she needs therapy. Maybe like, because you
• 35:42
  Speaker 5: can't always be there. There's going to be times where
• 35:44
  Speaker 5: you cannot physically be there and she has to be
• 35:48
  Speaker 5: okay with that. It's just part of life. No one
• 35:50
  Speaker 5: is attached at the hip.
• 35:52
  Speaker 4: No one's there all the time.
• 35:54
  Speaker 5: So you're going to have to figure it out.
• 35:56
  Speaker 4: But that's the end of that story.
• 35:58
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• 36:04
  Speaker 1: I discovered my girlfriend cheating with multiple people, so I
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: exposed her.
• 36:09
  Speaker 4: As you should. Get her out there on the streets.
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: I made this Reddit post to address you. I won't
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: put your name out there, but I know you regularly
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: read posts like these since you used to bring them
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: up and listen to podcasts with them. I'm sure you'll
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: know it's about you when reading it. I, 29 male,
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: caught my girlfriend, 31 female, cheating on me. This time
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: I have undeniable proof after she lied to my face
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: about it. We've been friends for five years and started
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: dating three years ago. I love this woman with everything
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: I had. I truly thought she felt the same. A
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: few months ago, we hit a rough patch and argued
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: a lot. I really thought we were going to break up.
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: I hit rock bottom. I was severely depressed. One Saturday,
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: we had plans to attend a wedding together. You live
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: a fair distance away and neither of us had a car.
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: But we didn't mind taking the extra steps to make
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: it work. That morning, I asked what time you'd be
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: coming over so we could get ready and head out.
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: I even offered to pay for your Uber. You said, okay.
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: Hours went by. I didn't hear from you. And I
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: started spiraling. I had a panic attack. I checked your
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: location and it wasn't your house. It was some random
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: parking lot. I messaged you. No reply. After a while,
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: your location just disappeared. Turned off. By the way, this
• 37:29
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• 37:31
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• 37:34
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• 37:35
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• 37:37
  Speaker 1: all the answers. We only know what we do know.
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: If you have anything you'd like to add, please add
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: it down below. OP says, I was worried sick. I
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: kept calling. No answers for six hours. I was panicking.
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: Then at 9.30 p.m., note this time, you finally picked up.
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: Your first words were, are you okay? I just broke
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: down crying, asking, are we okay? told me your phone
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: passed away and that you just were out with your
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: friends from some school and I believed you. You never
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: lied to me before or so I thought. The next
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: day I couldn't even get out of bed. The pressure
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: hit me like a truck. You came over to comfort
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: me but something felt off. I tried to shake off
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: thinking maybe it was just in my head. The morning
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: I placed your Apple Watch on the charger. That's when
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: I saw messages from you to your friend from school
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: that you hung out with the day of the wedding.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: One said, He was growling in my ear. Another said
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: I had to cover up my spicy kisses like I
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: was in school. Sent around 9.30, the exact time I
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: was crying to you on the phone. When you got
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: out of the bathroom, I saw the marks on your neck.
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: When I asked you, you said they were from scratching.
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: On your way to work, I brought up the messages.
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: You said you were lying to your friend, that you
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: all made it up. I didn't believe you, but I
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: swallowed it. and I swept it under the rug. Today,
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: I was at your house as your family had a
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: birthday party for you. Your family was there. Some of
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: your friends and our mutual friends were there too, including
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: the one that celebrated you cheating and lying. The house
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: was packed. I drank quite a bit because I knew
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: I wasn't going to have the courage to do what
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: I did. I went to your room to lie down
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: in your bed, saying I didn't feel well. And after
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: some time, I told you I was going home and
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: ordering an Uber. I'm in the Uber now typing this
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: up along with the iPad I gave you. While lying
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: in your bed, I found it, and on it, I
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: didn't find proof of you cheating. I found everything. The
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: day you turned your location off, you were with the
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: guy you played Call of Duty with. I'm mad at
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: myself for not catching how often you played with him.
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: And you laughed at his jokes. I saw the messages.
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: How you talked for months. And how you planned a
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: hotel meetup the day after he picked you up from work.
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: how you kissed him in his car, how you told
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: him we broke up, you sending a pic of the
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: spicy kisses he gave you, and guess what? Those messages?
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: At 9.45 p.m., the same time I was breaking down
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: on the phone, and you were telling me everything was okay.
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: How inconsiderate could you effing be hearing someone you claimed
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: you love cry on the phone while you were texting
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: your school friend and him about your infidelity? Speaking of
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: the school friend, I saw conversations celebrating your decision to
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: cheat and laughing about how you got away with it,
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: gassing each other up for lying to me. And there's
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: more crap I found. I found flirty texts with multiple
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: Uber drivers. I found out the ring you said was
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: from your late grandmother was actually from your ex-boyfriend. You
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: wore our entire relationship. I found messages to him, too,
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: telling him you were single, that you will always love him.
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: I saw more messages with your Call of Duty duo
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: with him saying very spicy related things and saying how
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: nice that sounded. That was the same day I surprised
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: you by coming over to your house for Thanksgiving. I
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: found you sending spicy selfies to multiple men. Some of
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: those photos were from outings that we were out together.
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: All this crap, and yet you talked about marrying me.
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: You're a piece of crap. Normally, I'm not a petty person,
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: but F it. By the time I press post, I
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: will have already sent screenshots of everything to your friends,
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: the ones who would be ashamed of you, to your family,
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: the ones who would disown you, to your Call of
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: Duty buddies who knew nothing about your double life, to
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: my family, to our friend group, and the crappy friend
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: who knew everything, smiled at my face at the party,
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: and is still there thinking everything is great. Every person
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: who ever believed in us will know the truth. I've
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: never been more disappointed than anyone in my entire life.
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: You made this bed. Now lie in it. Am I
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: the A-hole for exposing my no-good, cheating-butt girlfriend and breaking
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: up with her via Reddit? This is how he's breaking up.
• 41:50
  Speaker 5: I mean, I don't know if she would find... I mean, maybe. Because,
• 41:54
  Speaker 5: like he said, she reads about these, blah, blah, blah.
• 41:57
  Speaker 5: How are you supposed to know?
• 41:58
  Speaker 4: I think you should just do it directly.
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, directly. Agreed. Agreed. Directly. Over Reddit, it's petty and
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: you're really hurt.
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: Which.
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: This is a crazy thing to do. An eye for
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: an eye makes the whole world blind.
• 42:13
  Speaker 4: That's true.
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: I would do it in person.
• 42:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 42:17
  Speaker 5: I mean, if you don't care about getting the closure,
• 42:19
  Speaker 5: you just want to be done.
• 42:20
  Speaker 2: He is. He is.
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: I think he's at that point.
• 42:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but then also like.
• 42:24
  Speaker 5: Just sending something and then just never receiving an answer
• 42:27
  Speaker 5: on it. Like, and you're just sending it anonymously to,
• 42:30
  Speaker 5: you know, the world.
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: All right. Update two days later. Out of all the
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: options I had in that moment, the one I chose
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: felt like the smartest. If I had confronted her in private,
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: she could have manipulated the narrative or gaslit me into
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: doubting what I saw. If I had gone downstairs and
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: made a scene, I would have been surrounded by her
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: family and friends, which would have turned into a screaming
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: match where I'm outnumbered. So I remove myself from the
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: situation and let the truth unravel on its own. Just
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: to clear a few things up. We both had our
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: locations shared on iPhone. I wasn't stalking her. The spicy
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: photos weren't noodles. And even still, I didn't send those
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: pictures out. Only the text conversation between her and the
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: guys she was messaging. Sending those to people is wrong
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: on another level, and I would never stoop that low.
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: After I left, I took an Uber home, grabbed a
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: few things, and went to stay at my friend's place
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: for the night. I felt okay, but thought that's just
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: the adrenaline... And I'm going to crash hard. I've already
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: signed up for therapy, scheduled an STI test, and am
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: planning to take boxing and pottery classes just to keep
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: myself active and focused. Beautiful, honestly. Something to get the
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: rage out and something to make art with.
• 43:51
  Speaker 4: That's true. Very good outlets.
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: What?
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: Do you not like that?
• 43:55
  Speaker 4: No, I think that that is good.
• 43:57
  Speaker 5: That wasn't sarcasm. No, I think like getting all the
• 43:59
  Speaker 5: anger out and be like, yeah, yeah, yeah. And then like,
• 44:02
  Speaker 5: And then turning to the creative side and being like,
• 44:05
  Speaker 5: I can mold this into my new understanding of myself.
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: And now I have a cup to drink coffee out of.
• 44:12
  Speaker 5: Or to cry into. Collect my tears.
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: While I was staying over, one of her Call of
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: Duty friends messaged me. Turns out the guy she slept
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: with has a wife and kid. I'm not sure how
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: that situation is unfolding, but I hope his wife finds out.
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: That friend also told me she's been removed from their squad.
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: A mutual friend group has shown a lot of support.
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: One of them even removed her as a bridesmaid from
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: her upcoming wedding and blocked her entirely. I thought everything
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: had finally calmed down until it came back home this morning.
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: I had already blocked her on everything, so there was
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: no way for her to reach me. Instead, she showed up.
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: She drove her parents' car to my house and sat
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: outside until she saw me. As I walked to my door,
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: she came out crying hysterically, a messy mix of sadness
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: and rage. I didn't say a word, Just walked inside
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: and closed the door while she yelled from the other
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: side until she eventually left. Nothing was mentioned about the
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: Reddit post, so I guess she didn't see it. Later
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: that day, her brother called me. He apologized on behalf
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: of the family. He said everything seemed normal after I
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: left until their mom checked her phone. She pulled my
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: ex aside, trying to keep things quiet. But then her aunt,
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: the one who talks a lot, shouted, You're cheating on
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: your boyfriend in front of everyone? That blew the lid. Okay, auntie. Okay, that's...
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: With things like this, you gotta keep it kind of quiet.
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: Can't really confront him like that. That's crazy. That's really wild.
• 45:39
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 45:40
  Speaker 5: Either way it was gonna come out, I don't know
• 45:42
  Speaker 5: what the best way would.
• 45:44
  Speaker 4: Not this.
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: What the mom was doing was the best way. According
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: to him, their family has a history with infidelity and
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: it caused serious pain in the past. So this incident
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: not only reopened old wounds... But more cheating scandals within
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: the family were exposed that same night. This party was
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: supposed to be a nice moment for relatives who hadn't
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: seen each other in years. And the friend who celebrated
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: the cheating with her, she got cussed out so badly
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: by the family that she left in tears. Her brother
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: told me he doesn't blame me for anything. He even
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: said I handled it better than most would have and
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: he's here if I need anything. Honestly, the only thing
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: I feel bad about is unintentionally ripping apart a family
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: that was trying to move forward. I had no idea
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: all of this was going on behind the scenes, and
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: I do feel like an a-hole for being the grenade
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: that set it all off. Update 2, 12 days later.
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: On the health front, I'm clean so far, thankfully. I'm
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: staying cautious and plan to regularly check up just to
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: be safe. I'm also currently looking to move. I don't
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: want to risk her showing up at my place again.
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: Therapy's been going great. Pottery, though, I still suck horribly,
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: but will still continue to go. I still carry some
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: guilt about what happened with her family. I know I
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: didn't cause the factures, but I lit the match that
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: exposed all of it. According to one of her friends,
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: she's aware of the post. That same friend messaged me
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: calling me a wiener, claiming this was an evasion of privacy,
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: and that I should have talked to her one-on-one instead
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: of going public. I didn't respond.
• 47:22
  Speaker 5: I mean, she didn't talk with him about going to
• 47:25
  Speaker 5: see other people, so she publicly did.
• 47:28
  Speaker 4: That as well.
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: Oh, I don't remember the part where she asked me
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: to go cheat on me with other guys.
• 47:34
  Speaker 4: Publicly. I'm sure they all were in public places.
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: It was entertaining. You're just pissed it was entertaining.
• 47:40
  Speaker 4: There's no way this post was worse than what she did.
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, exactly. After everything that's happened, I've said my piece.
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: I'm not interested in debating my healing process with people
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: who are enabling her. Right now, I'm focused on moving forward.
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: I like that you also exposed those that were encouraging her.
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: That's really good.
• 48:03
  Speaker 4: Because you should.
• 48:04
  Speaker 5: It's just like, you obviously have probably done it too,
• 48:08
  Speaker 5: if you're a fan of it.
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: Like, no.
• 48:10
  Speaker 4: You call people out.
• 48:12
  Speaker 5: Whether you're a friend or a family, if they're doing wrong,
• 48:14
  Speaker 5: you call them out.
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: And someone asked, is this the same friend who got
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: chewed out and left the party previously? And Opie says,
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: it was not. It was a different friend. She had
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: no problem going public with her no-no square.
• 48:25
  Speaker 4: Yep.
• 48:25
  Speaker 5: And it's true.
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: That is not Victoria's secret. That's everyone's secret.
• 48:29
  Speaker 5: Ooh. Everyone's got something to say about that secret.
• 48:34
  Speaker 7: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 48:36
  Speaker 7: go on to the next one.
• 48:38
  Speaker 4: Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite good time boy host here.
• 48:42
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• 48:46
  Speaker 5: My partner accused me of cheating until I caught him
• 48:49
  Speaker 5: doing it.
• 48:51
  Speaker 4: Uh, you first. You smelt it, dealt it. A little
• 48:55
  Speaker 4: bit of backstory.
• 48:57
  Speaker 5: Significant Other and I have been together for four years,
• 49:00
  Speaker 5: and about two years ago, when the Rona hit, I
• 49:03
  Speaker 5: moved in with him as we both lost our jobs
• 49:05
  Speaker 5: and needed to save on gas and utilities. Since then,
• 49:07
  Speaker 5: I have found a new office job, and Significant Other
• 49:10
  Speaker 5: takes some odd jobs online but basically stays at home
• 49:13
  Speaker 5: most of the time. Significant Other has always been on
• 49:16
  Speaker 5: the controlling side. He wanted me to cut all my
• 49:19
  Speaker 5: male friends from my life. In his defense, he also
• 49:21
  Speaker 5: cut all contact with women, or at least to my knowledge.
• 49:25
  Speaker 5: SignificantOther has always been very adamant that he doesn't condone cheating,
• 49:30
  Speaker 5: and even if someone else in his life was a cheater,
• 49:33
  Speaker 5: he would cut them out. The relationship has had its
• 49:36
  Speaker 5: ups and downs, but recently things were looking okay for
• 49:39
  Speaker 5: a while, or.
• 49:39
  Speaker 4: So I thought.
• 49:42
  Speaker 5: Significant other has become quite guarded with his phone lately,
• 49:45
  Speaker 5: including hiding it if I look over his shoulder. He
• 49:48
  Speaker 5: has never done this before. I am very open with
• 49:51
  Speaker 5: my personal tech. He's always welcome to look through my
• 49:53
  Speaker 5: phone and laptop because I have nothing to hide. We
• 49:56
  Speaker 5: even know each other's phone passwords. My gut feeling kept
• 50:00
  Speaker 5: telling me something was wrong. So when I got up
• 50:02
  Speaker 5: for work this morning while he was still sleeping, I
• 50:05
  Speaker 5: took his phone from the nightstand and checked his conversations.
• 50:09
  Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from Indiscriminate123, and if you
• 50:13
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• 50:15
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• 50:16
  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah. I'm Dakota.
• 50:18
  Speaker 5: And we're here to talk about some stuff, maybe get
• 50:20
  Speaker 5: some advice, maybe make you cry, maybe, like, make you laugh.
• 50:22
  Speaker 5: I don't know. Who knows what we do here?
• 50:24
  Speaker 4: But guess what?
• 50:25
  Speaker 5: We don't have all the answers. We'd only tell you
• 50:26
  Speaker 5: what we would do.
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: But let us know what you would do down in
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: the comments.
• 50:29
  Speaker 4: Do it.
• 50:30
  Speaker 5: As up, he says. Significant other has been chatting with
• 50:33
  Speaker 5: a girl he met online. 25 female? I only skimmed
• 50:37
  Speaker 5: through the last few messages as I didn't want him
• 50:39
  Speaker 5: to wake up and catch me snooping, but they have
• 50:41
  Speaker 5: been texting back and forth every day while I was
• 50:44
  Speaker 5: at work and sending each other noodles.
• 50:48
  Speaker 6: No, not the noodles.
• 50:50
  Speaker 5: I don't know when it all started, but I assume
• 50:53
  Speaker 5: it's been at least a month, because that's when I
• 50:55
  Speaker 5: first noticed the suspicious phone guarding behavior. Honestly, no matter
• 50:59
  Speaker 5: how much I look for a solution, there's no coming
• 51:01
  Speaker 5: back from this. I know I have to leave. I
• 51:04
  Speaker 5: didn't confront him yet because I don't want him to
• 51:06
  Speaker 5: try and persuade me to stay or spin it that
• 51:08
  Speaker 5: it's my fault. Here's where I need advice. I have
• 51:11
  Speaker 5: a place to move to, and I have to move
• 51:13
  Speaker 5: all my stuff. I don't want him to damage my
• 51:15
  Speaker 5: stuff to spite me. He has a history of throwing
• 51:17
  Speaker 5: my possessions when angry.
• 51:18
  Speaker 4: Uh, girl, you should have left a long time ago, what?
• 51:21
  Speaker 6: What are we talking about?
• 51:23
  Speaker 5: Yeah, he has a habit of ruining my stuff when
• 51:27
  Speaker 5: he gets mad.
• 51:27
  Speaker 3: He has this cute little quirk where he'll take my
• 51:29
  Speaker 3: stuff and he'll throw it when he's mad.
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: No!
• 51:34
  Speaker 5: So I'll have people come help me move when he's
• 51:37
  Speaker 5: not in the house. We have separate finances, so that's
• 51:40
  Speaker 5: not an issue. The problem is we have a dog.
• 51:43
  Speaker 5: I adopted him with his approval when I moved in.
• 51:45
  Speaker 5: It's technically my dog since I do 90% of the
• 51:48
  Speaker 5: dog activities. He rarely takes him out. Then I buy
• 51:51
  Speaker 5: all the dog toys and food.
• 51:52
  Speaker 4: Okay, so that's your dog.
• 51:54
  Speaker 6: Next question. Not even a question. That's your dog.
• 51:56
  Speaker 4: You said I adopted him.
• 51:58
  Speaker 5: I know he loves the dog and the dog loves him,
• 52:00
  Speaker 5: but I don't think he'd be able to take care
• 52:03
  Speaker 5: of him and get up at 6 a.m. to walk him.
• 52:05
  Speaker 5: Should I take the dog with me without telling my
• 52:07
  Speaker 5: soon-to-be ex, or should I leave the dog with him?
• 52:11
  Speaker 5: Another thing, should I leave him a note or a
• 52:13
  Speaker 5: message with any explanation? Any advice is appreciated. So, yeah,
• 52:19
  Speaker 5: I don't know. I guess if you don't want to
• 52:20
  Speaker 5: have that conversation, yeah, just leave him a note. If
• 52:22
  Speaker 5: you want to, like, leave him a note, block him,
• 52:24
  Speaker 5: take the dog for sure.
• 52:25
  Speaker 6: 110,000%. I'm going to take that dog.
• 52:30
  Speaker 5: Especially if like he hurts your possessions out of spite.
• 52:34
  Speaker 5: You do not want him to hurt that dog. So
• 52:37
  Speaker 5: take the dog with you so he can't do anything.
• 52:40
  Speaker 5: You do everything for it anyway. So go home, take
• 52:43
  Speaker 5: the doggy and run.
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 52:46
  Speaker 5: I mean, if you want to leave him a note, yeah,
• 52:48
  Speaker 5: leave him a note or text him or something. I
• 52:49
  Speaker 5: would leave a note just and, you know, then you
• 52:52
  Speaker 5: could block him if you don't want to have that conversation. Personally,
• 52:55
  Speaker 5: I think you should have the conversation. But if he's
• 52:57
  Speaker 5: going to be If he's going to be aggressive, dude.
• 53:01
  Speaker 5: Then you don't want that. Then just leave a note
• 53:03
  Speaker 5: and leave and block him and be done.
• 53:05
  Speaker 4: Update.
• 53:06
  Speaker 5: First, I'd like to thank everyone who commented on my
• 53:08
  Speaker 5: previous post. One particular comment stuck out to me that
• 53:11
  Speaker 5: my pet doesn't know what's best for them and they
• 53:14
  Speaker 5: could roll in literal crap and be happy, which really
• 53:18
  Speaker 5: solidified my decision. As a preface, I'd like to apologize.
• 53:22
  Speaker 5: I was paranoid that I could be found out, so
• 53:24
  Speaker 5: I altered a couple of details in the original, one
• 53:27
  Speaker 5: of which was that we owned a cat, not a dog. However,
• 53:31
  Speaker 5: I was still doing 90% of the caring for the cat.
• 53:34
  Speaker 4: You liar!
• 53:37
  Speaker 5: Same deal. Still an animal.
• 53:38
  Speaker 4: Still your cat. Take the cat.
• 53:41
  Speaker 5: After making the decision to take the cat, I called
• 53:43
  Speaker 5: my best friend, her boyfriend, and my parents to tell
• 53:45
  Speaker 5: them I'm breaking up and discuss logistics. It took me
• 53:48
  Speaker 5: quite some time to put everything in motion, three weeks
• 53:51
  Speaker 5: to be precise, in which time I was doing my
• 53:53
  Speaker 5: best to act like everything was okay while secretly moving
• 53:56
  Speaker 5: some of my stuff to my parents' place to ease
• 53:58
  Speaker 5: the final load. Finally, last Friday morning, best friend, her boyfriend,
• 54:02
  Speaker 5: and my dad came. We loaded up everything on my
• 54:05
  Speaker 5: father's truck and left. The whole ordeal took an hour
• 54:09
  Speaker 5: and a half. Wow, not bad. I took everything that
• 54:12
  Speaker 5: I paid for out of my pocket, including a monitor
• 54:16
  Speaker 5: and a headset that I lent him due to his
• 54:18
  Speaker 5: equipment breaking. The only thing I left was a queen-size
• 54:21
  Speaker 5: bed I bought shortly after moving in. I also made
• 54:24
  Speaker 5: sure to log into X's World of Warcraft account to
• 54:27
  Speaker 5: cancel his subscription, which was paid from my bank account.
• 54:31
  Speaker 3: Dude, that is the biggest red flag I've ever seen
• 54:35
  Speaker 3: in my life as a former World of Warcraft just degenerate.
• 54:41
  Speaker 3: You got to pay for your own supply.
• 54:43
  Speaker 6: You know what I'm saying?
• 54:45
  Speaker 5: I left a note on his desk that basically said,
• 54:47
  Speaker 5: do not panic. You have not been robbed. I just
• 54:50
  Speaker 5: took all my stuff and left. I'm taking the cat
• 54:52
  Speaker 5: with me because I don't trust you to take care
• 54:54
  Speaker 5: of her properly. Do not call me, my friends, or
• 54:56
  Speaker 5: my family. We have already had the talk, so there's
• 54:59
  Speaker 5: nothing else to say. Have a nice life.
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: Your ex.
• 55:03
  Speaker 8: Sheesh.
• 55:04
  Speaker 3: I wouldn't have even had to say, like, because I
• 55:06
  Speaker 3: don't think you could take care of him. I'd just
• 55:07
  Speaker 3: be like, I'm taking the cat because it's mine.
• 55:08
  Speaker 4: Dang.
• 55:09
  Speaker 5: Dang. That's crazy.
• 55:11
  Speaker 4: I mean, good for you, but like, woo.
• 55:14
  Speaker 5: I didn't tell him I know about the cheating because
• 55:17
  Speaker 5: at this point it was irrelevant. I blocked his number
• 55:20
  Speaker 5: and never looked back. Sure enough, he messaged me on
• 55:23
  Speaker 5: WhatsApp as soon as he came back to the empty flat.
• 55:26
  Speaker 5: The gist was that we could have done it the
• 55:28
  Speaker 5: civil way, LMAO. And why did I take the cat
• 55:32
  Speaker 5: this way? We raised her together and he loved her.
• 55:35
  Speaker 5: He also tried to call three times but gave up
• 55:37
  Speaker 5: soon after. I then blocked him on WhatsApp as well.
• 55:40
  Speaker 5: The next few days were pretty uneventful. Yesterday, he showed
• 55:43
  Speaker 5: up at my workplace unannounced. I didn't want to make
• 55:46
  Speaker 5: a scene in front of the colleagues, so I took
• 55:48
  Speaker 5: a break and went out with him to the park
• 55:50
  Speaker 5: across the street. He said he wanted closure and that
• 55:53
  Speaker 5: I owed it to him after all these years. The
• 55:56
  Speaker 5: conversation was mostly boring, so I'll highlight the important details.
• 56:00
  Speaker 5: He said he wanted his, which is mine, monitor back
• 56:04
  Speaker 5: and that he's willing to pay for it or trade
• 56:06
  Speaker 5: me his new one. which is better, but wasn't with
• 56:09
  Speaker 5: the same curve that he was used to. I told
• 56:12
  Speaker 5: him that I like my monitor and tough luck. The
• 56:15
  Speaker 5: best part is he went out, bought a new monitor,
• 56:19
  Speaker 5: set it up to play World of Warcraft, but realized
• 56:22
  Speaker 5: that I also took the headset. He then asked his
• 56:24
  Speaker 5: mother to buy him one and she bought headphones without
• 56:27
  Speaker 5: a mic. Pity. He asked to have the cat back.
• 56:31
  Speaker 5: He offered me money, offered me all his crypto savings,
• 56:34
  Speaker 5: and even offered me 60k gold in World of Warcraft LMAO.
• 56:39
  Speaker 5: The fact that he has more money in World of
• 56:41
  Speaker 5: Warcraft than like his actual life is crazy.
• 56:44
  Speaker 6: It's just pathetic.
• 56:46
  Speaker 5: I told him some things can't be bought with money.
• 56:48
  Speaker 5: He then asked to co-parent, and when I said no,
• 56:51
  Speaker 5: he asked to at least say goodbye to her in person,
• 56:53
  Speaker 5: also denied.
• 56:54
  Speaker 3: No, it's, when are you, just tell him. Oh, this is,
• 56:59
  Speaker 3: that you're even doing this. Tell him he cheated on
• 57:01
  Speaker 3: you and to leave you alone.
• 57:03
  Speaker 5: I brought up that I'm the cat's primary caregiver and
• 57:06
  Speaker 5: he can't even clean her crap. I also pointed out
• 57:09
  Speaker 5: that if he really loved the cat that much, he'd
• 57:11
  Speaker 5: want the best for her and to be with the
• 57:12
  Speaker 5: one who takes care of her instead of wanting to
• 57:15
  Speaker 5: keep her for selfish reasons. He kind of agreed on that.
• 57:18
  Speaker 5: The most baffling part, he offered to pay me to
• 57:21
  Speaker 5: go grocery shopping together. I pointed him to a couple
• 57:25
  Speaker 5: of sites where he can buy groceries and have them delivered.
• 57:29
  Speaker 5: He said it was too much work. Is this guy
• 57:32
  Speaker 5: like seven or like he has to be under 16?
• 57:37
  Speaker 6: He's got his mommy buying him headsets. He doesn't. He
• 57:41
  Speaker 6: doesn't know how to grocery shop?
• 57:42
  Speaker 3: Which, to be fair, I struggle with that, but I
• 57:45
  Speaker 3: wouldn't ask my ex who just broke up with me
• 57:47
  Speaker 3: to grocery shop for me for money.
• 57:50
  Speaker 6: That's absurd.
• 57:52
  Speaker 5: I told him to adjust and evolve.
• 57:54
  Speaker 4: Yep, basically. He also apologized.
• 57:58
  Speaker 5: One too many times for hurting me, to which I
• 58:00
  Speaker 5: replied every time that I wasn't hurt. I was just
• 58:03
  Speaker 5: disgusted at the conversations I read, to which he got
• 58:05
  Speaker 5: offended and mumbled that it was private. Not once did
• 58:09
  Speaker 5: he mention the side chick. Even then, he didn't have
• 58:12
  Speaker 5: the balls to admit to the affair. I brought her
• 58:15
  Speaker 5: up a couple times, told him I wished them both
• 58:17
  Speaker 5: the best, and since I left in the bed, he
• 58:19
  Speaker 5: doesn't have to worry about effing in the janitor's room anymore. Dang.
• 58:24
  Speaker 5: He asked to be friends multiple times. I told him
• 58:27
  Speaker 5: also multiple times. He betrayed me, and he's a pathological liar,
• 58:30
  Speaker 5: and I don't want to be friends with a dishonest person.
• 58:33
  Speaker 5: He legit couldn't comprehend how his dishonesty impacts a potential friendship.
• 58:39
  Speaker 5: He said he wanted to tell me he wasn't committed
• 58:41
  Speaker 5: to me anymore but couldn't bring himself to do that.
• 58:44
  Speaker 5: I pointed out the hypocrisy of him blowing up at
• 58:47
  Speaker 5: me for platonically talking to male friends online but cheating
• 58:51
  Speaker 5: the moment a semi-attractive woman comes his way. He said
• 58:55
  Speaker 5: that a woman cheating on a man is the greatest
• 58:57
  Speaker 5: sin but a man cheating on a woman is not
• 58:59
  Speaker 5: so severe.
• 59:01
  Speaker 4: What the actual F?
• 59:03
  Speaker 5: The rest of the conversation was him trying to play
• 59:05
  Speaker 5: buddy buddy and me reminding him that he's a closed
• 59:08
  Speaker 5: chapter to me. After what seemed to be an eternity,
• 59:11
  Speaker 5: we said our hopefully final goodbyes and I went back
• 59:14
  Speaker 5: to work. In conclusion, for the past week since I left,
• 59:18
  Speaker 5: I felt like a huge load has dropped off my shoulders.
• 59:22
  Speaker 5: I'm working on myself, I'm reconnecting with people I haven't
• 59:24
  Speaker 5: talked to in years, and I don't regret anything.
• 59:27
  Speaker 3: You must be a real sweetheart to take care of
• 59:29
  Speaker 3: this baby for however long you guys dated.
• 59:32
  Speaker 4: Update two.
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  Speaker 5: A bunch of things have happened since I last posted,
• 59:36
  Speaker 5: and I figured y'all might appreciate how Karma's caught up
• 59:39
  Speaker 5: with my ex.
• 59:41
  Speaker 4: Uh-oh.
• 59:42
  Speaker 5: Disclaimer and some background. I left out a lot of
• 59:45
  Speaker 5: information in the original post and altered a lot of
• 59:47
  Speaker 5: details to make sure X did not find the post.
• 59:50
  Speaker 5: Our real ages are 28, him, 33, me, and 34,
• 59:52
  Speaker 5: side chick. X and I were together for almost seven years,
• 59:59
  Speaker 5: not four. X had a chronic disease, nothing fatal if treated,
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 5: very manageable, and a lot of people with the condition
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 5: can work. He was, of course, using it as an
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 5: excuse not to work and mooch off of me. Got it,
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 5: so he's like on disability.
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 6: Yeah, but his girlfriend's the one paying it.
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 5: We lived with his mother, who was supporting his narrative
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 5: that he is too sick to work. My last update
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 5: ended with X coming to work to offer me pixel
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 5: money for my cat. This was in August 2022. I
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 5: thought everything was said and done, and I would not
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 5: hear from him again. Since the breakup, he has messaged
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 5: me about every three months on Discord for various BS,
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 5: like how he lost his best friend or asking for
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 5: photos of the cat. Sometime in March, I found out
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 5: by chance that he's still using my old League account.
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 5: He has been banned on three different accounts for toxicity. Dang,
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 5: you gotta get that leak account back. I gave him
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 5: the password while we were dating, but I did not
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 5: think he would have the audacity to continue using it
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 5: after we broke up. It really rubbed me the wrong
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 5: way that he could message me with his woe is
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 5: me crap on four different occasions, but conveniently forgot to
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 5: mention that he is still playing on my account. I
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 5: wondered for about a week whether to let it slide
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 5: or just change the password. Then he contacted me again
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 5: about wanting to ask me something. I shot this down
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 5: and reminded him that I explicitly told him not to
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 5: contact me. He said, okay. This lasted for a fortnight
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 5: until he messaged me again saying that he will ask
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 5: his question regardless.
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 4: Oh my god.
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 5: I mean, this guy knows no boundaries, nothing.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: Loser.
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 5: The question was, what did it feel like to be
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 5: with a complete monster for seven years? Why did you
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 5: stay for so long? There were a lot of crocodile
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 5: tear-laced explanations that followed. The gist of it, that he
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 5: was doing some reflection, realized he is a complete lunatic
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 5: and needs help, and apologized for how he behaved. I
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 5: also found out that he spent all his savings and
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 5: disability money, including the crypto he offered me for the cat. Also,
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 5: to nobody's surprise, his little affair did not work out.
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 5: I did not ask for questions, but what he said was,
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 5: I think I finally met a person who is more
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 5: sick and broken inside than me, which is.
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 4: Quite an achievement.
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 2: Wow. Wow.
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 6: Wow.
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 5: So his life went down the crapper.
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 1: Good.
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 5: That's what he gets.
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 6: It's almost like it's some sort of karmic justice.
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 5: A few months prior to this revelation, a World of
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 5: Warcraft friend from the side chick's country messaged me. Friend
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 5: knew my side of the story, and when he found
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 5: out that side chick was flying to my and X's country,
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 5: he put two and two together. He told me he
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 5: does not expect much from their relationship since a year ago,
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 5: the chick was dating a mate of his, broke his heart,
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 5: and flew somewhere else for the next World of Warcraft
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 5: guy that gave her attention. Knowing these facts, I mentioned
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 5: to X how it was ironic that he cried cheating
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 5: if I was five minutes late after work, but decided
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 5: to involve himself with a woman who was practicing cheating
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 5: as a sport.
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 6: Guys, I'm not going to lie.
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 3: That is like if you have a partner who is
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 3: constantly accusing you of cheating when you've done nothing wrong,
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 3: like if they have like past like trauma about it,
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 3: like it could be a conversation. But like if it's
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 3: just a constant thing, you should not be in that relationship.
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 5: He agreed it was quite ironic and that he had
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 5: to lie in the bed that he made. Also, did
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 5: I mention he was too dumb to wire his own
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 5: debit card to his World of Warcraft account, which is
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 5: why he could not play anymore? Well, yeah, but I
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 5: guess also because he lost his sugar mommy that was
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 5: paying for it and failed to secure another. As for me,
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 5: Kitty and I are thriving. I am active, I lost
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 5: 12 kilos since the breakup, and I'm getting back in shape.
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 5: I have reconnected with most of my friends and explained
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 5: why I hadn't contacted them much in the past seven years.
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 5: They were very understanding, and things have gone very much
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 5: back to how they were before. I have also met
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 5: the most decent, kind, and compassionate man out there, so.
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 4: Life is looking good. Okay, Opie. You're getting a new man.
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 6: I mean, to be honest, anything is an upgrade from
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 6: that guy.
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 4: Well, Opie.
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 5: You got a good head on your shoulders, and I
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 5: think you're doing all the work necessary in order to
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 5: get back to where you want to be. So kudos
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 5: to you, and I wish you luck.
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 7: And that's the end of this story.