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Release Your Side of the Rope: Win by Letting Go · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we are realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C, and this is Season 7, Episode 1, Release Your Side of the Road.
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  This season's theme is Fall into Focus.
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  And Real Talkers, as I welcome you back, I have a question.
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  Have you found yourself playing tug of war with a situation,
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  a shortcoming, a relationship, a disappointment, or a set of circumstances this year?
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  And here we are in the fourth quarter, and you're still pulling,
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  still tugging, still trying to prove your point, still trying to get somebody
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  to understand, still trying to force something to work,
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  still fighting a battle that has been draining you since the first,
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  second, maybe even the third quarter.
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  Well, if that's you, Coach C came to tell you something today.
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  Release your side of the rope.
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  Listen, stop participating in tug-of-wars that require your energy to continue.
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  Because here's the thing about tug-of-war. It takes two sides pulling to keep the battle going.
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  And sometimes we're so focused on winning that we haven't stopped long enough
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  to ask ourselves, what exactly am I trying to win?
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  And baby, if you're competitive like me, I totally understand.
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  Because sometimes it's not even about the rope anymore. Now it's about,
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  oh, you think I'm letting go. Listen.
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  Meanwhile, you've been holding on so long, you've got blisters and calluses forming on your hands.
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  Your arms are tired, your energy is depleted, your peace is disturbed,
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  and you're still pulling. For what?
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  Real talkers, you don't have to win every battle.
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  Sometimes the win is realizing, I don't have to participate anymore.
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  Sometimes winning looks like opening your hands. Sometimes winning looks like walking away.
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  Sometimes winning looks like saying, you know what, you can have this rope.
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  Because releasing your side of the rope doesn't mean the other side won.
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  It means you decided this battle no longer deserves your energy.
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  And I need somebody to hear that because we have been conditioned to think releasing
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  something means quitting.
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  No, sometimes releasing means recognizing. Recognizing that something has run its course.
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  Recognizing that you're forcing what should be flowing.
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  Recognizing that you're spending energy trying to control something.
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  Isn't yours to control. Recognizing that you've been fighting for something
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  that may not even fit where you're going next.
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  And real talk, you can't properly reach for what's next while both of your hands
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  are wrapped around what's now.
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  Something has to be released. We're in the fourth quarter.
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  This is not the time to drag every fight, every frustration,
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  every disappointment, every failed expectation, every unanswered question,
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  and every unnecessary battle across the finish line with you.
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  Some things don't need closure. Some things don't need another conversation.
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  Some things don't need another explanation.
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  Some things don't need another attempt.
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  Some things just need to be released.
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  Release it. Reset and run toward your next relay because that's the shift.
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  You've been playing tug of war when life is trying to put a baton in your hand.
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  And you can't grab the baton if you're still gripping the rope.
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  Your next opportunity needs your hands. Your next assignment needs your hands.
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  Your next idea needs your hands.
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  Your next level needs your energy.
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  Your next chapter deserves your attention.
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  So maybe the question isn't, how do I finally win this tug of war?
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  Maybe the question is, why am I still pulling?
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  And what What could I be running toward if I simply let go?
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  Real talkers, we're falling into focus this season, and focus isn't only about
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  deciding what deserves your attention.
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  Focus also requires deciding what does not.
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  So today, release your side of the rope. Let your hands heal. Let your mind reset.
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  Let your energy return.
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  And when that next baton comes your way, RUN!
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  Because you're not quitting, you're redirecting, you're not losing,
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  you're choosing, and you're not giving up, you're making room for what's next.
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  Here's your fearless homework. I want you to identify one rope you're still holding. Not ten, one.
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  Ask yourself three questions.
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  Number one, what am I still pulling against? Is it a person,
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  a disappointment, an expectation, a mistake, something you can't change?
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  Number two, what is continuing to hold this rope costing me?
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  Your peace, your time, your energy, your confidence, your focus. Be honest.
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  And finally, number three, if I release this rope today, what could I pick up instead?
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  That's your baton. Write it down. Then make one intentional move toward it this week.
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  Because we're not spending the fourth quarter pulling against things that aren't moving.
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  We're releasing, we're resetting, and we're running toward what's next.
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  Let go of fear. Live in favor.
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  And remember, decide, commit, succeed.
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  Keep learning. Keep living. This is Real Talk for Real Life where everyone is
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  always learning and you're living your whole experience.
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  Life, that's L-Y-F-E, for more inspiration, merchandise, and motivation between episodes.
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  This is Coach C. I'll see you in the next one.