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Single Parenting - part 4 [Morning Devo] · The BLAZE (Bible Study)

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  Speaker 1: Good morning, family, Good morning God, bless you. Welcome back
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  Speaker 1: my studio. Amen, but we're here, so listen. We're going
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  Speaker 1: to continue with the Single Parenting series. This is part
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  Speaker 1: four of Single Parenting. This one is dealing with guilt
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  Speaker 1: and self doubt. Guilt and self doubt. Listen, And this
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  Speaker 1: could this couldn't really apply to anyone's life, Amen, But
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  Speaker 1: we're focusing on single parents, just because the Lord put
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  Speaker 1: that on my heart last week and I was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: single parents, it's a thing, and they need support. They
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  Speaker 1: need our love, They need prayer, amen, they need support groups. Amen.
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  Speaker 1: They need community to surround them so that way they
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  Speaker 1: know that God has not abandoned them and that God
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  Speaker 1: has not forgotten about them. Amen. So I wrote this down.
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  Speaker 1: Guilt and self doubt are constant companions, right, They're like cousins.
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  Speaker 1: Guilt self doubt are like cousins for many single parents.
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  Speaker 1: They show up as inner questions that never seem to
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  Speaker 1: turn off. These questions keep on going through single parents' minds. Amen.
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  Speaker 1: And we're gonna talk about those questions in a couple
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  Speaker 1: of minutes after the break, right. We're gonna be in
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  Speaker 1: First Sammuel, chapter six, team verse number seven, First Samuel
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  Speaker 1: sixteen and seven, very popular scripture that we as believers
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  Speaker 1: read quote and believe and we know the heart of
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  Speaker 1: God on the matter. Amen. So if you have any questions, comments, concerns,
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  Speaker 1: prayer requests, or anything along those lines, please do not
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  Speaker 1: hesitate to leave it on a live chat. That's what
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  Speaker 1: we're here for, a man, We're here to engage one
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  Speaker 1: another We're here to help one another, pray for one
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  Speaker 1: another a man, listen to one another story and respect,
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  Speaker 1: and have real conversations here on soul winners. So listen,
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  Speaker 1: Let's go for it. Let's pray first. After we pray,
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  Speaker 1: we shared us out for like sixty seconds, and then
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  Speaker 1: on the other side of those sixty seconds, we'll get
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  Speaker 1: right into today's morning devo. Single Parent Thing Part four.
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  Speaker 1: We're dealing with guilts and self doubt. Father, I thank
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  Speaker 1: you that you are a God who loves us, a
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  Speaker 1: God who sees us, a God who believes in us,
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  Speaker 1: A God who created us for a plan and a
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  Speaker 1: purpose perfectly done and orchestrated by your word and by
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  Speaker 1: your Holy Spirit. I pray, Lord God, that you would
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  Speaker 1: continue to teach us, move us forward in motions and
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  Speaker 1: a forward motion by faith, knowing that you are able
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  Speaker 1: to sustain and maintain and to grant us that promise
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  Speaker 1: that you promise us their abundant life that you promised.
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  Speaker 1: I pray Lod God for every single parent right now,
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  Speaker 1: that they will be encouraged, that they will continue to
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  Speaker 1: do what they're doing, continue to seek support, continue to
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  Speaker 1: pray over their children, pray over themselves, anoint themselves with
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  Speaker 1: oil if they need to, and guard themselves from the
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  Speaker 1: enemy's lives, from the guilt and the self doubt that
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  Speaker 1: try to take over their minds. I pray against that
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  Speaker 1: in the powerful name of Jesus. Also pray a hedge
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  Speaker 1: of protection over every single person that's watching and listening.
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  Speaker 1: In the powerful name of Jesus, that Lord God, that
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  Speaker 1: you will set forth and dispatch arkmen angels to annihilate
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  Speaker 1: the tactics of the enemy and the plans of the
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  Speaker 1: enemy over our lives. We come against that. We pray
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  Speaker 1: over our children that they will have hope in their hearts,
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  Speaker 1: that they will trust and believe in the Lord and
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  Speaker 1: Saving the Lord Jesus Christ. That whatever they're facing, Lord God,
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  Speaker 1: that they would know that they are not alone, and
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  Speaker 1: that they have a parent that cares for them. If
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  Speaker 1: whether they have mom and dad in a home or
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  Speaker 1: just mom or just dad in the home, that they
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  Speaker 1: have a God, they have a father who loves, a
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  Speaker 1: father who saves, and a father who leads. We have
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  Speaker 1: the Son that saves and the Holy Spirit that leads
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  Speaker 1: them as well, and to all truth. So I pray
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  Speaker 1: and speak life concerning all things in the family dynamics
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  Speaker 1: that Lord God, you would show up and show out
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  Speaker 1: and lo, we would know that you are with us
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  Speaker 1: because of your presence and Jesus Holy Name, my prayer
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  Speaker 1: is by faith with thanksgiving, knowing that you answer everyone's
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  Speaker 1: prayers according to their individual needs and purpose in Jesus Name.
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  Speaker 1: Amen to the Amen. Help me share this out sixty seconds.
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  Speaker 1: When we come back, we'll get right into today's morning Deva.
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  Speaker 1: I'll be right back, and man, we're back. Listen, let's
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  Speaker 1: go forward. Let's get into the word quickly. As I
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  Speaker 1: showed up in the studio late, so I'm gonna try
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  Speaker 1: to not rush through it, but I'm trying to get
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  Speaker 1: to the main points before we get off the broadcast.
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  Speaker 1: And the reason why I time these amen is because
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  Speaker 1: at six oh five a m. Eastern Standard time a
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  Speaker 1: AMEN with Andrew Farley, and I don't want to mess
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  Speaker 1: up the programming on the network. That's why I stay
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  Speaker 1: on here until about six am or so, because then
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  Speaker 1: on six oh five, the next broadcast broadcasting goes on
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  Speaker 1: AMEN scheduled show. I should say so if anybody wondered,
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  Speaker 1: why does he just only have that amount of time, Amen,
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  Speaker 1: because I'm in a time slot in a schedule on
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  Speaker 1: a live radio station. Amen. Well, glory to God. So
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  Speaker 1: let me get this ready for the screen for those
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  Speaker 1: who are just listening, No worries, no problems. We're gonna
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  Speaker 1: read word for word what we're seeing on the screen.
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  Speaker 1: To that way you won't miss a beat. Amen. So
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  Speaker 1: let's go for it. So, single parent thing, Part four,
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  Speaker 1: guilt and Shane. Amen, Let's see what the Lord has
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  Speaker 1: for us today as we move forward, Amen, and encourage
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  Speaker 1: one another. Parent thing doesn't come with a handbook like. Really,
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  Speaker 1: everybody's situation and everybody's children are different. That's why we
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  Speaker 1: need God and the support of the Lord. Amen. First Samuel,
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  Speaker 1: chapter sixteen, verse seven. You probably heard the scripture before,
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  Speaker 1: and this really relates to single parents. This really relates
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  Speaker 1: to when we're dealing with guilts and shame and self doubt.
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  Speaker 1: For the Lord sees not as man sees. So we
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  Speaker 1: have to solidify that in our hearts and remind us
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  Speaker 1: amind ourselves that we're not being seen by God the
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  Speaker 1: same way man sees or mankind sees. For man looks
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  Speaker 1: at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.
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  Speaker 1: So you might be a single parent and you might
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  Speaker 1: feel like people are looking down at you, that they're
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  Speaker 1: pitying you instead of encouraging you. They're putting a guilt
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  Speaker 1: trip on you. And now you're dealing with self doubt
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  Speaker 1: because of that. Right, But remind yourself, single parent, remind yourself,
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  Speaker 1: single mom, remind yourself, single dad, that God sees you.
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  Speaker 1: He sees the heart, your heart. He knows you're trying
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  Speaker 1: to do the very best for your child or for
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  Speaker 1: your children. He knows you're trying to do what's necessary,
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  Speaker 1: but it's hard sometimes. And then when you feel that
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  Speaker 1: guilt and self doubt, remind yourself that God is not
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  Speaker 1: looking at the outward appearance or what appears to be,
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  Speaker 1: but he knows your heart. And when God knows your
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  Speaker 1: heart and you're in Him and you're in Christ, Amen,
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  Speaker 1: then there is no combination and there should be no guilts,
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  Speaker 1: that there should be no shame, and should have no
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  Speaker 1: self doubt because God believes in you. God really believes
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  Speaker 1: in you. Amen. And that's the good news for a
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  Speaker 1: single parent anybody. That's a good news for me. And
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  Speaker 1: I'm not a single parent, but that's good news. Amen.
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  Speaker 1: Guilt and self doubt are constant companions. Amen. They show
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  Speaker 1: up as inner questions, And these are the inner questions
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  Speaker 1: you might be dealing with right now as a single parent.
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  Speaker 1: Am I failing them and my family? My child and
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  Speaker 1: my family? My children? Is this hopeless? Am I being punished?
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  Speaker 1: These are questions that I believe self. Parents, you know,
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  Speaker 1: single parents be asking themselves, how about this question? Your
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  Speaker 1: kids deserve more than what you can give? Amen? Listen,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not a single parent. I have a wife. Oh
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  Speaker 1: glory to God, thank you for the grace of Guy
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  Speaker 1: that we're still together, we're still raising children. But I
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  Speaker 1: feel that way sometimes Am I doing or they deserve
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  Speaker 1: more than what I could give? Am I doing enough? Amen?
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  Speaker 1: As a man, I think a lot of men think
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  Speaker 1: that way. Amen. That's what keeps me going and keeps
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  Speaker 1: some keeps me moving. I might not have it all.
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  Speaker 1: I may not have all the financial splendor that others
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  Speaker 1: might have, Amen, but I'm determined to be here, show
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  Speaker 1: up a man, to be present and to move things
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  Speaker 1: around and have cash flow. Amen. I might not be
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  Speaker 1: the number one breadwinner here, Amen, is my wife is
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  Speaker 1: blessed with a good opportunity that she has. Amen. But
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  Speaker 1: I'm here, Amen, and I'm a support system and I
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  Speaker 1: try my best. Also, if if I were better, this
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't be so hard. A single parent would ask themselves,
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  Speaker 1: how can that be better? Well? God made you the
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  Speaker 1: way He made you to advance, to grow in grace,
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  Speaker 1: to grow in the knowledge of who He is. So
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  Speaker 1: as long as you're growing in Christ, Amen, this world,
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  Speaker 1: don't worry. They gotta rate you anyway. You're a statistic
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  Speaker 1: according to the statistics of this world, a man, because
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  Speaker 1: now you're a single parent, and then there's a whole
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  Speaker 1: lot of reasons why you could be a single parent. Right,
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  Speaker 1: it's not you don't fall into certain categories. Sometimes people
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  Speaker 1: don't know your story a man. People judge people based
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  Speaker 1: on the outward appearance. Or look at him, he's a
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  Speaker 1: single parent, so he his wife must have been X
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  Speaker 1: y Z. Or look at her. She's a single parent,
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  Speaker 1: so her husband or her boyfriend might have been in jail,
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  Speaker 1: or what see that? People judge you when they don't
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  Speaker 1: even know your story. They don't even ask, they're not
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  Speaker 1: even really concerned. But God is concerned with your question
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  Speaker 1: and with your When you're dealing with guilt, and self doubt.
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  Speaker 1: God is concerned. How about this? Am I enough for
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  Speaker 1: my child? Like? Did God make a mistake? Some single
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  Speaker 1: parents might be asking that. Listen, the way I grew up,
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  Speaker 1: I thought it was normal to have children outside of wedlocks.
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  Speaker 1: So I can't judge any parent that has children outside
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  Speaker 1: of marriage cannot. I was raised that way. I thought
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  Speaker 1: that was the way it happens. That's I didn't know God.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know his his order. Hey man, I didn't
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  Speaker 1: know how his word spoke on parenting. But now I
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  Speaker 1: do know. Now I have compassion on single parents because
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  Speaker 1: they probably didn't know the same thing. Or you know,
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  Speaker 1: people we get we're young, so you know some of
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  Speaker 1: us were young. I used to be young, believe it
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  Speaker 1: or not. And we fall into these to these I
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  Speaker 1: call it a trap, respectfully, to these love circles, these
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  Speaker 1: love traps, and then we think we're in love and
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  Speaker 1: we start doing things as if we were married, and
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  Speaker 1: then boom, a child is involved now. And because a
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  Speaker 1: lot of times we didn't get to know our spouse
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  Speaker 1: or our partner, or our boyfriend or our girlfriend, we
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  Speaker 1: didn't get to know them. We just ran right into
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  Speaker 1: the emotional part and the sexual part. Now the result
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  Speaker 1: is this. Sometimes single parenting is a result of not
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  Speaker 1: getting to know or not knowing God or putting Jesus
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  Speaker 1: in your relationship. Amen. I've been there before. Amen. I
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  Speaker 1: have a thirty seven year old son. Amen. He was
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  Speaker 1: birthed out of wetlock, but out of the grace of God.
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  Speaker 1: Because of the grace of God, he's with us. He's alive,
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  Speaker 1: he's healthy, he's thriving, he has his own family. It's
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  Speaker 1: a good position as a fireman. Amen. His mom is
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  Speaker 1: still around, his mom is still alive. So God has
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  Speaker 1: grace for those things. So while everybody outside was looking
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  Speaker 1: at me and his mom in a certain way, all
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  Speaker 1: your young kids, and look what's gonna happen. Now you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna break up. Now, look you've broken a broken family. This,
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  Speaker 1: that and the third. Whatever they were saying about us, Amen,
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  Speaker 1: some of it was true because we were, you know,
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  Speaker 1: young and naive. But now in Christ, Amen, at least
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  Speaker 1: on my end, Amen, I know that I don't have
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  Speaker 1: to have the guilt and shame, or I don't have
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  Speaker 1: to self doubt. It happened. Jesus saw it happening, Amen,
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  Speaker 1: And because of the grace of God, or we are
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  Speaker 1: able to see our child grow. Amen. And now out
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  Speaker 1: of wedlock with my wife presently Amen. We had children
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  Speaker 1: out of wedlock as well. Amen. And if you know
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  Speaker 1: our testimony, it's a long testimony. But God had grace
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  Speaker 1: on us too. Now we have two miracle daughters. Amen.
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  Speaker 1: God is faithful to his word and He's full of grace.
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  Speaker 1: Sister Joys, good morning, God blessed you. Welcome back to
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  Speaker 1: the morning. Devo, my sister, my friend. Is good to
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  Speaker 1: see you here. So that might be some questions that
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  Speaker 1: are in your mind right now as a single parent.
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  Speaker 1: Are you good enough? Am I doing enough? Am I
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  Speaker 1: able to do X Y Z? And to answer those
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  Speaker 1: to those questions is yes, where Christ, you could do
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  Speaker 1: all things because He will give you the strength to
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  Speaker 1: get it done, and the children that He allows us
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  Speaker 1: to have our gift from him. This guilt can come
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  Speaker 1: from many places. The absence of the other parent is
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  Speaker 1: the number one thing. Because now we're like, is it
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  Speaker 1: because of me that my husband left? Is because of me?
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  Speaker 1: That my wife left? Is because of me? That my
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  Speaker 1: girlfriend left? Is because of me? These questions might start
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  Speaker 1: circling in your mind. Am I enough? The absence of
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  Speaker 1: the other person. That's the guilt part. Working long hours
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  Speaker 1: and feeling emotionally unavailable, and man, I've been there Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: I come home spent and then your child wants to
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  Speaker 1: speak and talk and you're like, really not there, And man,
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  Speaker 1: that's just part of being human about this. Discipline decisions
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  Speaker 1: that feel too harsh or too soft, Amen, Are we
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  Speaker 1: disciplining our children or we're not disciplaining them because we
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  Speaker 1: feel guilty because we're not giving them enough and we
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  Speaker 1: put them in a situation that they shouldn't be in.
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  Speaker 1: Those are guilt trips. Comparing your family to others, especially
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  Speaker 1: on social media. Please don't do that. Those families on
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  Speaker 1: social media where all the filters and making things look
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  Speaker 1: all the time perfect. Amen, that can't be true. And
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  Speaker 1: marriage is hard work and relationships are hard work, especially
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  Speaker 1: when you have children involved. It's hard work. You have
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  Speaker 1: to be intentional a man, it's not about social media posts.
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  Speaker 1: Don't compare yourself with a perfect family on social media.
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  Speaker 1: That's not even fair for you to do. Regret over
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  Speaker 1: past choices. Listen, we all made mistakes. We all made
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  Speaker 1: decisions in the past that didn't line up according to
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  Speaker 1: God's will. But Guy's a god of grace. Amen, He'll
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  Speaker 1: get us back on track as long as we follow
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  Speaker 1: in his footsteps. So if you leave these things unchecked,
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  Speaker 1: guilt turns into shame, and Shane will drain your confidence,
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  Speaker 1: and Shane will drain your joy and peace. Amen. I
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  Speaker 1: don't want to leave it there, but I have to go. Amen.
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  Speaker 1: So be aware of those things, be aware of those
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  Speaker 1: inner questions, and don't let those inner questions rule your
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  Speaker 1: life just because your single parent. Your single parent for
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  Speaker 1: many different reasons. Amen. If you want to share that, Amen,
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  Speaker 1: the life chat is open. Or you could DM me
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  Speaker 1: and may want to share your story why you're single parent,
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  Speaker 1: and we could pray and we could encourage one another,
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  Speaker 1: and we could try to find a support croup for you.
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  Speaker 1: Brother John, Good morning, God bless you. Amen. Looking forward
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  Speaker 1: to that book coming out? Amen? What book by brother?
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  Speaker 1: Looking forward to that book. I don't know a book
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  Speaker 1: you're telling about. Maybe there's a book on this right Amen,
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  Speaker 1: But listen, I'm out of time, Amen, But thank you
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  Speaker 1: so much for hanging out with me, and thank you
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  Speaker 1: for your grace for waiting as I was late into
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  Speaker 1: the studio today. But God bless you all. Go into
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  Speaker 1: the Book of Life. I was gonna say the Book
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  Speaker 1: of God, Amen, which is the Bible. And we were
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  Speaker 1: in First Samuel, chapter sixteen, Verse number seven. Takes time
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  Speaker 1: to read First Samuel chapter sixteen, the whole chapter. Amen,
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  Speaker 1: So you could get the context of where I came
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  Speaker 1: from with that scripture. Amen. So God bless you all,
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  Speaker 1: got keep you all, and remember always that God is good. Peace,