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The Worst Things Men Have Said to Women, Tipping Culture & Relationship Red Flags · Two Personal with Joy Taylor

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  Speaker 1: I like a really grown man. That's a good man, Savannah.
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  Speaker 2: So as you can imagine, I did not have sex
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  Speaker 2: with him.
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  Speaker 3: A trophy?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, he was like, getting you pregnant would be like... Hey, guys.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Joy Taylor. Thanks so much for joining me alongside
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  Speaker 1: equipment available in the world. I just don't have it
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  Speaker 1: with me. I am in chaos.
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  Speaker 2: What's going on in the world today, Haley?
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  Speaker 3: We have to talk about this meme in this online discussion.
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  Speaker 3: Where women are sharing the worst things men have said
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  Speaker 3: to them. They are outrageous.
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  Speaker 2: The worst things that men have ever said to them.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure they're diabolical. We have them in the studio, Specs.
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  Speaker 1: So Specs, I'll bet that mine are worse. But let's
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  Speaker 1: see what Haley has. Let's see what the women have.
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  Speaker 4: All right, let's hear it.
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  Speaker 2: You ready?
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  Speaker 3: I'm ready.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: Number one. You're not the kind of woman I can
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  Speaker 3: show off, but the kind I can marry.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: Number two. I like my women a little insecure. It
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  Speaker 3: makes them easier to love.
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  Speaker 1: All right.
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  Speaker 2: Number three.
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  Speaker 3: I thought you were going to be more fun in bed.
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  Speaker 1: Damn.
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  Speaker 4: All right. Damn, that's just me.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: This one. Number four. I don't want my daughter growing
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  Speaker 3: up to be like you.
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  Speaker 1: Ugh.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's tough.
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  Speaker 3: You're the first woman I've ever respected enough to tell
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  Speaker 3: the truth to.
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  Speaker 2: Red.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: You're lucky I'm not one of those men that beats women.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, Lord.
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  Speaker 3: Ooh, this one. Can I call you mommy? Mommy is insane.
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  Speaker 1: Not mommy. No. Mommy.
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  Speaker 3: Can I call you mommy?
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  Speaker 1: Like.
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  Speaker 1: Mommy.
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  Speaker 3: No, you cannot.
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  Speaker 1: Ew.
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  Speaker 3: You actually can never say that word.
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  Speaker 1: Ew.
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  Speaker 2: Specs, what's your favorite?
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  Speaker 1: Other than the domestic violence one, obviously.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, man.
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  Speaker 1: I'm guessing mommy.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god it's.
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  Speaker 5: Such a curveball it's such a curveball it is a
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  Speaker 5: curveball i like that.
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  Speaker 3: One it is a curveball can i call you mommy
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  Speaker 3: is insane ew.
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  Speaker 1: It's so weird you only want to be called mommy
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  Speaker 1: by people.
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  Speaker 3: That my child that i pushed out.
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  Speaker 2: Only your crotch call me mommy i can call you mommy.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, you said you had ones that you think are worse.
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  Speaker 3: How are they worse than this?
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  Speaker 2: Well, they're just insane. Okay, so I have three.
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  Speaker 1: One, this one was a long time ago. This one was,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I was probably like 20 or something. But
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  Speaker 1: I'm hooking up with this man recently. Who's my age, obviously.
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  Speaker 1: And we are having sex.
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  Speaker 2: Like, we are having sex.
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  Speaker 1: And in this time, I was very much into my, like,
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  Speaker 1: leave marks era. Like, I was, like, you know, doing
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  Speaker 1: a lot of back scratching.
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  Speaker 2: That was my thing. Back scratching? Yeah. Not, like, a
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  Speaker 2: cute scratch.
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  Speaker 1: Like, you know, one of these. Like, claws. He was
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  Speaker 1: not hitting it enough to solicit the claws, but it
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  Speaker 1: was just... It was just my thing at the time.
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  Speaker 1: So we're having sex. I'm doing the claw thing. And
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  Speaker 1: he goes, stop scratching me. You're going to leave marks
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  Speaker 1: and my girlfriend's going to see.
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  Speaker 3: Not girlfriend. Now you have a girlfriend, sir?
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  Speaker 2: You're what?
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  Speaker 1: That's crazy. So, you know, I gave him a good rap.
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  Speaker 1: You have to.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, have to.
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  Speaker 1: And then had to remove.
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  Speaker 3: On some real Catwoman vibes.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, for sure.
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  Speaker 1: For sure. See that?
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  Speaker 2: That was crazy.
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  Speaker 1: The second one, this was with someone that I really
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  Speaker 1: cared about, so this really hurt my feelings.
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  Speaker 3: Uh-oh.
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  Speaker 2: But he said, you make me wish I hadn't got divorced.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, that's fucked up.
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  Speaker 2: It's so fucked up.
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  Speaker 1: And it really hurt my feelings because I really cared
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  Speaker 1: about him.
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  Speaker 2: And he, I had told him this.
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  Speaker 1: What makes it worse is he said this after I
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  Speaker 1: told him something about myself that I had not told
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  Speaker 1: another man. And I was like very vulnerable. And it
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  Speaker 1: was like the universe reminding me, like, don't tell men shit.
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  Speaker 1: They can't handle shit. They're not. You just don't tell.
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  Speaker 3: Men like that shit.
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  Speaker 1: Men like the idea of transparency, but then they get
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  Speaker 1: transparency and then they don't handle it well. And then
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  Speaker 1: they want to know why you don't tell them everything.
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  Speaker 1: And it's like, well, you're not going to not be
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  Speaker 1: with me. It's not going to make you like me less.
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  Speaker 1: It's just going to make you insecure or bother you.
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  Speaker 1: And you're going to say mean things to me. So
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  Speaker 1: you have to bread, you have to breadcrumb your way
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  Speaker 1: into transparency, which is a lifelong lesson.
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  Speaker 2: For me.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, you make me wish I hadn't gotten divorced
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  Speaker 1: is crazy.
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  Speaker 2: Wild. I'm so upset about that one.
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  Speaker 1: And then.
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  Speaker 2: Another man said to me, I.
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  Speaker 1: Don't want more kids, but if we dated, you would
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  Speaker 1: have to have a kid because it would be like
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  Speaker 1: a trophy knowing that I got you pregnant.
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  Speaker 3: He said that out loud? Was he a child?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, not a child, but was he a young'un?
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  Speaker 1: The latter two were grown men. So as you can imagine,
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  Speaker 1: I did not have sex with him.
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  Speaker 2: A trophy?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, he was like, getting you pregnant would be the
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  Speaker 1: ultimate win.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I get that from a male's perspective, but
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  Speaker 3: to actually say.
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  Speaker 1: That out loud. You don't say that out loud. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, if I sat here and really thought, I
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  Speaker 1: could probably think of a whole bunch more. But yeah, men,
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  Speaker 1: the thing I expect, maybe you can confirm this because
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  Speaker 1: this has been my learned experience in life with men.
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  Speaker 1: As women, we pine over things. Like we think about them.
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  Speaker 1: We have anxiety. We play them out. We have the
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  Speaker 1: whole conversation in our brains before we have it out loud.
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  Speaker 1: We ask our girlfriends. We talk to our therapists. Like
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  Speaker 1: we pray about it. We journal about it. Men think it,
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  Speaker 1: out it goes.
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  Speaker 4: Thought, mouth.
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  Speaker 2: Like thought, mouth.
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  Speaker 3: So impulsive.
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  Speaker 2: Thought, sound. Am I wrong about that?
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  Speaker 4: Thought, sound.
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  Speaker 5: I think for most of us, you're pretty much right.
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  Speaker 5: It's not really a multi-layered response that demands a lot
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  Speaker 5: of explanation. It's usually just kind of like a one
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  Speaker 5: phrase kind of answer type of thing. I don't know
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  Speaker 5: if that's by nature, but I would say so it is.
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  Speaker 5: Because I have the tendency to kind of answer like that,
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  Speaker 5: but it's also because I've thought it over a bunch
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  Speaker 5: of times and then I'm trying to just kind of
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  Speaker 5: package all of my thoughts into one concise like two
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  Speaker 5: sentence response but then.
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  Speaker 1: I but you've had to apologize for yeah you've had
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  Speaker 1: to apologize for what you've said before uh.
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  Speaker 5: Yes yes I've had to yes I've had to apologize
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  Speaker 5: but I felt like what I was saying I.
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  Speaker 4: Felt like I felt a little justified.
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  Speaker 5: Because I don't ever say nothing that hurt nobody's feelings.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think, well, the girlfriend one obviously was insane.
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  Speaker 1: That's insane.
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  Speaker 2: But the latter two, I don't.
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  Speaker 1: Think they thought at all about it being something hurtful
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  Speaker 1: or psychotic. I think they were just like, this is
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  Speaker 1: what I think and I'm going to say it. No,
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  Speaker 1: that was a blur for sure.
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  Speaker 4: No, those were blurts.
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  Speaker 1: The last one was, they're both blurts. The second one,
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  Speaker 1: you make me wish I hadn't gotten divorced. He admits
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  Speaker 1: now that that was the.
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  Speaker 2: Wrong thing to say.
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  Speaker 4: Absolutely. That was out of bounds. That was out of
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  Speaker 4: bounds for sure. That was crazy.
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  Speaker 2: It's crazy.
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  Speaker 1: It's crazy. Crazy. Crazy. Anyway, shout out to the ladies
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  Speaker 1: and all of our psycho minions.
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  Speaker 2: You guys are a lot. A lot. Haley, you can't
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  Speaker 2: participate unless it's from high school, right?
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 3: And I don't... Yeah, we want to air out. Yeah, there's...
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  Speaker 3: I don't even remember.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Haley's been locked down for a long time, so.
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  Speaker 5: Is it mean that I told this woman, you suck
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  Speaker 5: at being yourself?
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  Speaker 4: Is that what that means?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that sounds mean.
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  Speaker 1: But does she suck at being herself?
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  Speaker 5: I feel like she did. I feel like she had
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  Speaker 5: too many different versions of herself. I just told her,
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  Speaker 5: I was like, you suck at being who you actually are.
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  Speaker 5: She hated me.
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  Speaker 3: For the rest of my life.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: It's not as bad as other ones, but.
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  Speaker 3: There's a line between honesty and like... I feel like
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  Speaker 3: I was being honest. Yeah, I think that's being honest.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, especially if it was true.
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  Speaker 1: We just, We just know Specs, so we're on his side.
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  Speaker 3: I've never heard Specs be mean, ever.
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  Speaker 5: Don't bash me at the homegirl crib for saying that.
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  Speaker 1: Can you believe this?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure.
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  Speaker 1: For sure, if we didn't know you.
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  Speaker 2: I think, though, we are all villains in someone's story. Oh, 100%.
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  Speaker 3: I could name two right now.
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  Speaker 4: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah. I know a few people who are right
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  Speaker 1: now sitting around talking about what a villain I am.
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  Speaker 2: And some of them are not wrong. Some of them
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  Speaker 2: have created a villain for themselves.
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  Speaker 3: Some of them are living through their consequence.
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  Speaker 1: What it is.
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  Speaker 2: That part.
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  Speaker 3: Lay in your bed.
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  Speaker 1: Yep.
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  Speaker 2: And I hope it's smelly. I hope it catches on fire.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: What else is going on?
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  Speaker 3: I was reading a Food Institute article. And you and
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  Speaker 3: I have both worked in the service industry when we
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  Speaker 3: were younger. And they're talking about tipping fatigue. really tip
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  Speaker 3: prompt fatigue. So what they're talking about is, you know,
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  Speaker 3: when you go pick up food, let's say you order Wingstop,
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  Speaker 3: you do pick up, it's a little Clover, whatever it is,
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  Speaker 3: little POS system. And even though it's to go, even
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  Speaker 3: though you have not been served, there's a tip prompt
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  Speaker 3: every time. And the workers are feeling like it's hurting them.
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  Speaker 3: like the experience in their opportunity to receive tips.
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  Speaker 2: And it's true.
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  Speaker 3: It's like a trickle down effect into when you actually
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  Speaker 3: are being served because we're just asked to tip for
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  Speaker 3: every single thing. Now I thought it was really interesting
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  Speaker 3: because I remember relying on tips. Like that was my salary.
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  Speaker 3: My salary was not my hourly pay. It obviously there
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  Speaker 3: was no benefits. It was those tips and not getting
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  Speaker 3: them and going home and like, I made $ 40 today.
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  Speaker 1: It was hard.
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  Speaker 3: So this is really interesting. I do think those prompts
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  Speaker 3: are OD though.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, the prompts are crazy. The prompts are crazy.
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  Speaker 1: It's... And I'll say this. I worked in the service
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  Speaker 1: industry for a long time. I worked all through college
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  Speaker 1: and even a little bit after college when I started
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  Speaker 1: my career because I was working as a part-time radio
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  Speaker 1: producer making like $ 8 an hour.
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  Speaker 4: Oof.
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  Speaker 1: Before taxes and living in Miami.
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  Speaker 2: So I would produce the show, which obviously was like
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  Speaker 2: a few hours a week.
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  Speaker 1: And then I would either bartend or waitress every single night.
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  Speaker 1: So I worked during the day and then I worked
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  Speaker 1: at night. So just a double every day. And I
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  Speaker 1: was grateful for it because the flexibility of working that
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  Speaker 1: kind of job, kind of similar to in LA being
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  Speaker 1: an actress or something, you have flexibility. You can switch shifts.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes you can call out and it's not the end
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  Speaker 1: of the world. Those type of things. The service industry
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  Speaker 1: really provides a lot of flexibility in that way. I...
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  Speaker 1: But that was when, to your point, in a job
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  Speaker 1: where you're supposed to tip.
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  Speaker 2: Like I am bartending.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I bartended at a bunch of different places,
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  Speaker 1: but like high volume, like clubs and stuff like that. Like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: maybe you're getting a dollar or two on each drink,
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  Speaker 1: but you're making 300 drinks, you know? So like it
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  Speaker 1: adds up. Or you're waitressing tables, waiting tables and... You know,
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  Speaker 1: you'll have like a big party or you have like,
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  Speaker 1: it's a busy night. So there's turnover or sometimes to
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  Speaker 1: your point, it'd be a slow night. And maybe you
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  Speaker 1: do only make 35 bucks a night, but you never
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  Speaker 1: really know what you're going to make. I think the
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  Speaker 1: issue with the tipping overload is that like you never
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  Speaker 1: used to be expected to tip on a coffee, right?
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  Speaker 1: Like you're making the coffee, you're being paid to make
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  Speaker 1: the coffee. why do I also have to tip you
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  Speaker 1: to make the coffee? Like I'm paying for the coffee.
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  Speaker 1: You're not bringing the coffee to my table. You're not
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  Speaker 1: making some sort of extra, like if you're, I'm ordering
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  Speaker 1: a coffee, I'm buying coffee, you know?
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  Speaker 2: Um, and to be clear, I still tip on my coffee,
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  Speaker 2: but I like.
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  Speaker 3: Dollar, $ 2, $ 3 option. Like I always tip a dollar.
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  Speaker 1: Um, but yeah, I do feel people's fatigue because stuff
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  Speaker 1: is already expensive. I mean, we're already talking about a
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  Speaker 1: $ 7 latte. So now it's an $ 8 latte. Everything's expensive.
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  Speaker 1: Everything is not required tips. I will say for takeout food...
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  Speaker 1: you shouldn't be tipping 20%. You should be tipping, if
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  Speaker 1: it's a small order, like a buck or two, because
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  Speaker 1: they do bag it, make sure that everything that you
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  Speaker 1: ordered is in the bag, put in utensils, those type
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  Speaker 1: of things.
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  Speaker 2: So I've worked takeout counters before.
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  Speaker 1: There is work to it.
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  Speaker 2: So, you know, you get paid.
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  Speaker 1: A regular rate, like whatever the minimum wage is, because
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  Speaker 1: people don't tip as much usually, but you, you know,
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  Speaker 1: you should still.
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  Speaker 2: Tip on takeouts.
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  Speaker 1: Like if you have a huge, massive takeout order, like,
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  Speaker 1: leave them 10 bucks. You don't need to tip like
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  Speaker 1: you sat at a restaurant, but they did put all
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  Speaker 1: that together.
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  Speaker 2: Make sure your order was right. Make sure you had
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  Speaker 2: the napkins.
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  Speaker 1: Make sure you had the extra salad dressing.
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  Speaker 2: Do that.
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  Speaker 1: But I do think that the tipping overall, tipping culture
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  Speaker 1: has gotten out of control. And people are blaming the
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  Speaker 1: wrong people. They need to blame these fucking corporations who
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  Speaker 1: won't pay people a living wage.
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  Speaker 3: This is very true.
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  Speaker 4: Absolutely, absolutely.
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: This is very true.
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: That's what it is.
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: It's that they want to go cheap on everything and
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: they want to put everything on the consumer to make
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: up for them not paying their workers. And again, politics
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: plays a role in absolutely everything that we do. That's
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: why you guys don't.
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: Want to raise the minimum wage.
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: You don't want to provide benefits for employees. you don't
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: want to pay people properly, you'd be like, okay, well,
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: then you're going to have to tip. It's going to
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: have to go somewhere. If you don't want to make
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: these corporations pay people properly, which we have the power
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: to do as the people, then you're going to pay them.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: And that's what it is. That's why I don't really
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: feel bad about it because I'm like, everybody wants to
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: be lazy about everything, but then expect some sort of utopia.
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: Like you can't have it every which way.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: If you want to complain about people are asking for
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: too much money and people want a living wage and
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: people want to be able to live with dignity. Oh
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: my God, work harder. Okay, well then you need to
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: tip on everything you do because they can't make enough
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: money to work at Starbucks. But you don't want people
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: breaking in your house and stealing your shit.
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: So, I mean, the service industry in general, like, if
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: you go to a restaurant, tip. I don't, you're sitting at,
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: you're sitting at a table, people are bringing you food.
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: That is the way it goes. If you don't like it,
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: go to Europe. And go to a restaurant.
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: You don't like it, you don't like it, leave. Yeah.
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: And go where you can afford to tip.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: Go where you can afford to tip.
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: Don't go to $ 200.
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: Bill and then you can't leave a 20% tip on $ 200.
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: Like, That's part of the cost of going to a restaurant.
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: That shit irritates me so bad. Or when you're at
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: a group dinner and they're like trying to like contribute
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: to the tip and it's like, girl. I don't eat out.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: I don't eat out with people that, well, first of all.
• 19:20
  Speaker 3: Group dinners stress me out.
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: Anyone who, oh, this is a good topic that we've
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: kind of wandered into. Because this happens to me a
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: lot because I did work in the service industry. So
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: I have a deep anxiety about inconveniencing other people, particularly
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: people who are waiters or waitresses or bartenders, people who
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: are security, like the staff. I don't like to inconvenience
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: people because I... I used to be that person and
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: I know how it is. When it comes to group dinners,
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: I don't like going out to eat with people who
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: do not understand the rules of going out. There are rules.
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: You either are immediately Venmoing me. If I put it
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: on my card, immediately, immediately ask for my Venmo. Don't
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: get up from the table without Venmoing me.
• 20:12
  Speaker 4: Okay?
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: Because I know you're not.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: About to send me money. I just did this the
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: other day. I put my card down for a tab.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: Do you think I've seen a single dollar? Do you
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: think $ 1 was sent? A single dollar.
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: Oh, that irritates me so bad.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: Am I Big Mama or something? None of you are
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: eating my pussy. So why am I paying for your drinks? Ladies,
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: I love you, but send me some fucking money.
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: Send me five bucks.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: Okay. I have, I also have anxiety about owing people money.
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: I don't like to owe people money. So that's one
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: or two. If we're splitting, put your card in. Okay.
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: If you only had a soda, we got you.
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: All right. Cool.
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: Like we're friends.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: I know you're going to get me on another one.
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: Shit like that.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: But if we all ate, don't... If you want to
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: sit here and be like, I only ordered fries and
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: a drink, you need to tell the waitress when you order,
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: can you please put.
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: Mine on a separate tab? Here is my card.
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: I'm a big advocate for that.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: Don't be this bitch at the end who's like, well,
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: I only had soda water and fries. And.
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: So I shouldn't be paying the same as the rest
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: of you.
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: I agree. Did you tell the waitress at the beginning?
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: Because now the restaurant is full and she's going to
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: have to go over and search through and split this off.
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: So... It's too much. Don't be a dumb bitch around me.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: I don't like that shit. You will not be invited back.
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: I don't expect you to pay for things that you
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: didn't eat. But what goes around comes around. If you
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: are a close friend of mine, like... I'm going to
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: get your drink one time. You're going to get me
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: on another one. We are not going to sit here
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: and split dollars. I do not have friends like that.
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: I'm sorry.
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: And if that's how you are, I love that for you.
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: I don't mind.
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: However, it's your responsibility to make sure that you tell
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: the waitress at the beginning of the meal, hey, I
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: would like my tab to be separate. Here is my card.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: Please keep my items separate from everyone else's. Cool.
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: I don't mind. You don't have to pay for my oysters.
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: But I'll be damned at the end after you done
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: had all of your shit that you're like, well, mine
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: was 22 and yours was 24. Bitch, you would never
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: eat with me again.
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: I'd be so embarrassed.
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: I can't.
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: You're never eating with me again.
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: You better get it right. You better get it right
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: because you are not eating out with me ever again. Ever.
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: I don't want nothing to do with it. And listen,
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: everybody got their own shit.
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: Right? But that ain't my.
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: That ain't my kind of people.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: No. It's not my kind of people. I cannot do it.
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: I cannot do it. I don't do it on trips.
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: I don't do it when I go out to eat.
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: I don't do it for drinks. Girl, if you like
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: your shit to be separate, I'm totally fine with that.
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: But your shit is your shit. You take care of it.
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: If you think I'm finna sit here and do some
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: fucking math, you got me fucked up. I'm two glasses
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: of Bordeaux in. I don't give a fuck about your
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: extra fries.
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: The fuck? Ruin the whole fucking evening sitting here doing math.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: Shit is embarrassing. And also those people be slit too
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: because they know that you really don't like doing that shit.
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: So I'll be like, fuck it. Just put it on
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: the fucking card.
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: I'm not doing this shit. I'm like, well, I just
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: don't know, but you cheap and you would rather sit
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: here and spend 20 minutes.
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: Splitting up this fucking bill.
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: Cause what they do is they'll ask the waitress like, oh,
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: can you split off?
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: No bitch.
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: This bitch has six tables.
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: She doesn't remember that you ordered an extra fucking aioli.
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: Dumb bitch. Oh, I can't stand those people. Oh my God.
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: The worst kind of people. I'm sorry. I'm the person
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: to tell you you're the worst kind of person because
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: it doesn't, it's fine to like want to pay for
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: your own shit, but it's your responsibility to make sure
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: that the waiter knows that they are working.
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: They're not here to serve you.
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: You're not, they're not your fucking servants. So weird.
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: Maybe too much.
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: I can't.
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: Oh, I don't, I don't like them either.
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: I'm not going.
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: Especially, I don't like.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: I love group dinners with people who I know. With
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: people who I don't know, like if it's someone's birthday,
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: I'm like, what's the deal here? Who's paying? I'll be
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: that one to ask at the beginning.
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: Who's paying? How are we doing this? At the beginning.
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: When they first come for drinks, we split in.
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: We all pay in, and you always see one person
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: that's like, I kind of want to do separate.
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: And then the waitress is like, we can't do separate
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: on more than... More than five people.
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: It always happens. And then I'd be like, just put
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: it on the card and everyone Venmo me and no
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: one ever Venmos.
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: Only perk of that is your points.
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I got to pay for them points. I know.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: I still got to pay cash on points. Who wants
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: the points? Bitch, I got plenty of points, okay? Pay
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: me the actual money for the actual food you ate.
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: There's an app that like, it just came out recently
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: where it like makes what we're talking about like so easy.
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: I can't remember what it's called.
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: We've been using it, Splitwise. Whenever we travel, when we
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: do girls trips, we use Splitwise. So, because what will
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: happen is one person will get an Uber and then
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: the next person will get an Uber and then this
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: person will pay for these drinks and then this person
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: only brought their Amex and this place.
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: Only takes Visa.
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: So at the end of the day, you just put
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: in what you spent and it splits it equally amongst
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: everybody that used everything. So again, as long as you're
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: not with someone that's psychotic, then it's great.
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: And you know what ends up happening?
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: I owe somebody 20 bucks or they owe me $ 18.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: It almost always ends out almost completely even, which is
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: the wild part of using it.
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: But yeah, Splitwise does it very easily.
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: I need to try it. I need to try it.
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: I saw another crazy meme. I've just been in my
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: internet bag this week. I don't know. Listen, there's a
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: lot going on. I've just been scrolling.
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: We need a break from the politics anyway.
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: No, this one is.
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: Ooh, girl.
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: I don't think y'all ready for this.
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: Maybe you are.
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: This might be your thing. It's not for me. Here
• 26:17
  Speaker 3: we go.
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: You ready? Mm-hmm.
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: The meme said, if your girl... Never rode that dick
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: while on the toilet while you took a shit. She
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: never loved you. You want me to walk in the bathroom,
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: your pants down, you're shitting, it smells, there's sounds, water
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: is splashing, and you want me to sit on your dick?
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: I have questions.
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: First of all, I've obviously never loved anyone, if this
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: is the standard.
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: This is diabolical. Specs, really invasive.
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: Question, okay?
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: So please let me know if I'm overstepping here, but
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: this is for anatomical purposes, as Haley and I do
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: not have penises.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: Which may be news to some parts of the internet.
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: Is it even possible to be erect whilst shooting?
• 27:23
  Speaker 4: I mean, I imagine it could. I imagine it could.
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: I imagine it could. That's all I got.
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: That's not even freaky. That's just, you nasty.
• 27:34
  Speaker 4: That's all I got. I imagine it's a possibility.
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: Can you imagine?
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: I don't know that I can imagine that the body
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: functions that way.
• 27:46
  Speaker 5: If you got to use the bathroom really bad, that
• 27:49
  Speaker 5: is like both ports.
• 27:52
  Speaker 4: So i mean it's a possibility.
• 27:53
  Speaker 3: Let me say this though as a possibility it's a
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: possibility i've had sex before and like oh shit oh
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: i gotta go to the bathroom and just hit me
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: and i might be positioned in a certain i gotta
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: let's just roll over Get it back on up there. Like,
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: sometimes shit just be coming.
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: Like.
• 28:21
  Speaker 3: Well.
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: So, I mean, maybe that's... So, maybe they could with that.
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: And I don't... Listen.
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: To be like this and go like this.
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: Listen, it's... It's... Obviously, this is rage bait.
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: Okay?
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: This is obviously rage bait.
• 28:39
  Speaker 4: This is rage bait.
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: However... People and their obsession with women and using the
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: restroom and women's obsession with making sure that men have
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: no concept of their bodily functions.
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: I'm so glad you said this. All the phases, right?
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: And I do think once you have a child, it
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: does change things because it's like your body changes so
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: much that if you're not comfortable with what a woman's
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: body does.
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: Oh, I should. Naturally does.
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: Right. Like if you can't deal with that, you're, you're
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: not a man to me. Like you're not a grown man.
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: You're a child still. You haven't, you haven't matured. Like
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: I like a really grown man.
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: So you're comfortable like when you're in a relationship, not
• 29:33
  Speaker 3: just dating, whatever, like you're like, this is my man.
• 29:37
  Speaker 3: You're not hiding.
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: Oh no, I'm not, going to announce it. I'm not
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: going to... like use the bathroom with the door open.
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: I don't want you in there while I'm using the restroom.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: Like don't, don't acknowledge it and make some big fucking
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: deal about it.
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: Everything is not jokes.
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: Okay. But if I have to use the bathroom, I'm
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: going to use the bathroom. Like I'm not going to
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: like hold it until you leave or like not go
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: in your bathroom at your house or like No. If
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: I'm using the bathroom, I'm using the bathroom. I'm a
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: grown adult woman. I have to use the bathroom sometimes.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: It's a bodily function. I'm not a little kid doing
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: that shit where it's like, I got to.
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: Oh, I'm not going to use it at his house.
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: Girl, I'm not doing all that. Now, I'm, like, I'm
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: not interested in, like, purposely farting in front of someone.
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: I still do that.
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: I am not.
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: I'm not, like, being like, ooh, I got a shit.
• 30:34
  Speaker 4: I think it's just me.
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: I got a shit or something like that. Like, I'm
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: a lady.
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: Oh, I'd be saying I got a shit.
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: Oh, no, I'm not doing all that. But I'm also not.
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, I mean, but I'm not going to say that.
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: I'm going to be like, I really need to use
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: the bathroom. Like, let's go. Like, it's serious. Something like that.
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm not like going overboard about it.
• 30:58
  Speaker 3: See, when I imagine using the bathroom, it should be
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: like some quiet time.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: It's peaceful.
• 31:04
  Speaker 3: You have your privacy.
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: It's my time.
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: I don't want to use the bathroom like that in
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: front of anyone.
• 31:09
  Speaker 3: I don't want to do that in front of my mother.
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: And she made me. Like, I want my time.
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: I've been going to the bathroom. I don't even need
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: a lot of time. I'm on probiotics. The shit be
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: sliding out.
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: Okay?
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: 60, 90 seconds tops, right? But from the moment I
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: sit down, the first release, here comes.
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: The two dogs.
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: Here comes Aiden. Mommy, can you do this in Minecraft?
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: Here comes his dad.
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: Babe, where did we put the... Now everybody in the
• 31:38
  Speaker 3: goddamn bathroom. I can't even drop my.
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: Shit in peace.
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: No, that's my actual nightmare. Like, I don't know if
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: this is a mom thing. I imagine. Oh, it's absolutely
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: a mom thing. It's absolutely a mom thing. It's reason
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: number 752 about why I don't want children. And when
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: I've been in long-term relationships, I've had men do that
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: thing where they come in and they're like, oh my God,
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: I know you're in here using the bathroom. Then why
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: are you in here?
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: I'm going to be out in a few minutes. Stop
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: bothering me.
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: It's not about you not knowing me trying to hide
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: the fact that I use the bathroom. This is a
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: private time. I would like some privacy to use my body.
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: Thank you. It's not about me being embarrassed. Can I
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: use the bathroom in peace? Like, we don't shit on
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: the corner, right, around strangers. We go into a stall.
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: Like, leave me alone. That part is what I'm talking about.
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: I'm not talking about, like, there are women who are like,
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: my husband has never heard anything about pulp.
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: All right. You got a special one.
• 32:48
  Speaker 3: Listen, I had some surgery a couple years ago, and
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: I couldn't wipe myself.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: So I.
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: That's when I was really like, oh, yeah, we really
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: love each other. Because he'd wipe my shit.
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, that's what I'm saying.
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: Someone had to wipe it. If you are in a
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: relationship like that, your partner is going to experience your
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: body at some point, whether it's surgery, whether it's childbirth,
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: whether it's you getting sick, whether you... ate something crazy
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: and it's like I gotta stop on the side of
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: the road like things happen we have human bodies but
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: yeah like I can't the men who are like I
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: never want to hear anything like women don't poop yes
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: they do alright you you you one of them type
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: I don't know I don't know exactly what it is
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: but it ain't for.
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: Me yeah it's some real kid shit cause what.
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah but I am not Back to the original Ragebait?
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: Nah.
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: You can have that bathroom.
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: Mm-mm. I'm not into the... What is the technical term for.
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: Specs, help me out. I know you know.
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, no.
• 34:10
  Speaker 4: Don't do me. Don't you do me.
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: What word?
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: For, like, you know, people that like getting peed.
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: On or, like, you know, that type of stuff. Oh,
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: I don't know what that is.
• 34:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know the type of stuff.
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: Nasty shit. But that's not, that's not, yeah, that's, it's not,
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: no kink shaming, okay?
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: No.
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: Whoever wrote that is, you got issues. We need some
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: attention because that's crazy.
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: Ain't the kind of type of attention you're going to
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: get from me.
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: No.
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: All right.
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: What is the would you rather for today?
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: Our personally would you rather is, would you rather have
• 34:52
  Speaker 3: your closest friends tell you when they don't like your
• 34:55
  Speaker 3: partner or keep their opinions to themselves unless you ask?
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: Ooh. Ooh.
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: This can create a lot of drama, depending on which way.
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: I have lived both of these. I think at this
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: point in my life, I would prefer that they tell
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: me because I would imagine that it would be for
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: a very valid reason. Like, maybe when we were younger,
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: it could be for a more petty reason, like he's
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: ugly or, you know, he.
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: Doesn't buy drinks or something, you know, but I think
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: like now as a grown woman, there would be a
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: valid reason for why they don't like him.
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: And I would like to know about it. And I have,
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: I have friends whose partners I, I.
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: Do not like.
• 35:50
  Speaker 3: And then you've just accepted them if like, they're not
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: leaving them.
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, yeah. I mean, I mean, most people's, you know,
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: our situation is different because.
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: Your partner is my friend. Like my brother.
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: But most people's, most of my girlfriend's like partners, they're
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: kind of like their pets to me. Like, you know,
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: I don't, you know, like, hi, how are you? Yeah.
• 36:20
  Speaker 3: Like you just don't even think about them.
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: Like I'm not, yeah.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: Like I'm, I don't, I don't, they're, you know, we're
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: all at dinner. Like it's fine, you know, like to
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: know things about your life and all that. But like, yeah,
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: they're not like active participants in my life. So as
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: long as they're good to them, then, you know, it's,
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: it doesn't really make a big difference to me. Um,
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: when they start being bad to them, that's, that's a
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: whole different, you know, conversation, but I don't need your, my.
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: Friends, partners to be like incredible.
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: You know, they don't have to blow me away as
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: long as they make you happy and they take care
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: of you and.
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: Protect you and do what you're supposed to do, uh,
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: as a partner.
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: Like it doesn't, you know, they don't have to be
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: my friends or like, I don't have to be, you know,
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: I don't, they're like pets.
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: Like, okay, cool. Like you got a, you got a
• 37:08
  Speaker 2: new cat.
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: It's exciting.
• 37:11
  Speaker 3: Have you ever experienced like when friends will, they just
• 37:16
  Speaker 3: always have to have something negative to say about maybe
• 37:19
  Speaker 3: someone you just started dating, but it's really because they
• 37:22
  Speaker 3: liked them later or they are lonely and lacking and it's,
• 37:27
  Speaker 3: you know, they're envious of whatever your situation is. So
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: they're just kind of trying to sabotage it.
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm. Yeah.
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: If that's a real thing.
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: It is a thing. I think it's important to.
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: Be a person who receives the energy that is being
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: given to them.
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: And what I mean by that is so.
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: Much about how we move through the world is designed
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: to make us doubt ourselves. and question ourselves. And, you know,
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: we're crazy. We're overthinking it. You were doing too much.
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: And sometimes we are, but most of the time it's
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: our nervous system and our gut and, and like the
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: universe giving us signs that we habitually ignore because we
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: don't want to be someone who is completely closed off
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: to everything. But the reality is like the energy that
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: you feel from someone and it feels negative. It's, Either A,
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: what your first instinct is, which is like, wow, okay,
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: they are jealous because they want this person. Or they
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: are going through something and they're taking it out on me.
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: But neither of those things are acceptable. So when you
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: know that that is the case, like when you can
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: constantly feel that energy, then I think it's important to
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: address it. And if that person has a negative reaction,
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: it's usually because they're caught. If they have a reaction
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: of like, oh, oh my God, like, I'm so sorry
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: that you feel that way. Like, that is not at
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: all my intention. Like, I will change my behavior. And like,
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: you know, I was just having a bad day that day.
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: And like, I should have not said that. and then
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: they actually correct their behavior, it doesn't mean you don't
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: still watch them. But then that to me is like
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: a person who takes accountability and changes their behavior. Like
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: that's a person who you maybe were overthinking it. But
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: for the most part, when you call out people who
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: are masked, they tend to freak out. Like I had
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: a person in my life for a long time who
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: ended up being a.
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: Parasite.
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: And I really struggled for a long time with understanding
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: how I could let this person so close to me
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: and not see who they really are.
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: Because I think I'm a.
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: Pretty good judge of character when it comes to most people.
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: And the way it was explained to me made a
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: lot of sense, which is that when someone is trying
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: to deceive you, They always keep you right in front
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: of them because they have a mask on. So everyone
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: around you can see that this person is fake because
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: they can see that they're wearing a mask. You know,
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: they can see the bands. They can see the edge
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: of the face and they can see that they're wearing
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: a mask. You can't see it because someone has the
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: mask on. You're looking them straight ahead. You can't see
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: the mask. So you're defending them. You're like, no, you
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: just don't know them. You're making excuses for them. And
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: the truth is your close friends who are like, hey,
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: I don't really like this person for you. Or hey,
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: I don't really trust this girl around you. Or hey,
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: this person is jealous of you. They can see the
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: mask and you can't. But the reason that you can't
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: is because that person works really hard to make sure
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: they always stay in front of you. And it's kind
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: of like a visual concept, but it really helps me
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: to understand how I could be defrauded so badly for
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: so long. And it helped me get over me.
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: Not trusting myself in a lot of ways.
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: Because to your point, having people or women around like
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: that who are jealous of you. And sometimes they're not
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: even jealous of your partner. They're just jealous of you.
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: They're jealous of your happiness. They wish they could be
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: like you, look like you, have your life, have your personality,
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: have your energy. And they're just leeches. They're just vampires.
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: They're just parasites. They just live off of sucking energy
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: out of other people.
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: And that's their flaw.
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: And it's impossible to navigate life and never get one
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: of these on you. But that's why being protective of
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: your energy and trusting yourself and trusting people that you
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: know have your best interest at heart is important. So
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: that's why I think to answer your question, I would
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: prefer that people that I trust and love tell me like, hey,
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: don't love this person for you.
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: Because there's got to be a good reason why.
• 41:45
  Speaker 3: Same.
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: 100%.
• 41:47
  Speaker 5: I would like to pose a question to you ladies.
• 41:53
  Speaker 4: Have y'all ever had to do the reverse?
• 41:56
  Speaker 5: Have y'all ever had to tell somebody that your homegirl
• 42:00
  Speaker 5: was dating was like, listen, homegirl is you need to
• 42:05
  Speaker 5: go somewhere else.
• 42:06
  Speaker 4: You need to take your business elsewhere.
• 42:08
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 42:10
  Speaker 4: Or would y'all even consider doing that? Like, you know that, like, man.
• 42:13
  Speaker 3: You mean, like, tell the.
• 42:15
  Speaker 5: I love the homegirl, but I know how she is,
• 42:17
  Speaker 5: and she's doing this dude crazy right now.
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: Oh. And, like, tell him? No.
• 42:23
  Speaker 2: No, I support women's wrongs.
• 42:25
  Speaker 5: Maybe not tell him what's going on, but, like, suggest
• 42:28
  Speaker 5: him to go.
• 42:29
  Speaker 4: And.
• 42:30
  Speaker 3: Is he my friend, too?
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: No.
• 42:32
  Speaker 4: No, no, no, no.
• 42:33
  Speaker 3: Absolutely not.
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: Oh, no, no. Absolutely not.
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: No.
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: No way.
• 42:38
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: You gotta figure it out, bro.
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: Absolutely not.
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you be aight. You be aight. All right.
• 42:43
  Speaker 4: You be aight. You be aight.
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: Absolutely not.
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: No. Now, if both of them are friends, if I'm
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: friends with both of them, it depends on who's more wrong. Like,
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: I had this situation once where I became friends with
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: two people at the same time. A man and a woman.
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: They were together.
• 43:04
  Speaker 2: Very serious relationship.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: It ended and I took the woman's side because it
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: was the only side to take. He was insane. What
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: he did was movie level diabolical. And he called me
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: and was like, I can't believe you just took her side.
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: And I said, let me tell you something. That was
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: your family. Okay. That was your wife. Your wife is
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: your family. That's the person that decides if they pull
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: the plug.
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: Or not on you, okay?
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: If you would do that to your wife.
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: What the fuck you gonna do to me? I'm just
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: one of your friends. You're one of my many friends.
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: The fuck? This is a very easy choice.
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: What you did was insane and diabolical. Of course, I'm
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: gonna be on her side.
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: You need help, like emotional, mental, physical, financial, like whatever.
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: You need to be put in a cave, okay? You
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: don't deserve to see the sun. And you think I'm
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: going to pick your side over her? Get the fuck
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: out of here.
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: Absolutely not. People be crazy.
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: You think just because you did something fucked up to
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: your partner that I'm never going to judge how you behave.
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: If you would do that to someone that you love,
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: you would definitely fuck me over.
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: For sure. And guess what?
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: He'd fuck a bunch of people over.
• 44:25
  Speaker 3: All the time.
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: I'm sure he did.
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: Judge off your character.
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: What do you mean? Of course I'm not going to
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: pick you. But yeah, that's not my friend.
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: That's her pet. No, her pet will figure it out.
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: Absolutely not. No.
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: Have you ever done that, Specs?
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: Have you ever pulled a homie's girl aside and been like, hey,
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: you need to... No, I haven't.
• 44:49
  Speaker 5: I try to stay out of that business. I stay
• 44:52
  Speaker 5: out of that for sure. I might have my own
• 44:55
  Speaker 5: comments to myself. And also I'm like, well, it's tough. But,
• 45:02
  Speaker 5: which obviously I feel, I feel like, you know, a
• 45:05
  Speaker 5: little sad for her. But, you know, I try to
• 45:08
  Speaker 5: stay out of grown folks' business, to be honest. I've
• 45:11
  Speaker 5: had people ask me before.
• 45:13
  Speaker 4: Okay, how did that go?
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm like, nah, girl, that ain't my business.
• 45:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that ain't my business.
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: And then I tell the person like, yo, keep this
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: little girl away from me. Because I ain't about to
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: be in your shit. I will make everybody around here uncomfortable.
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: I'm not responsible for you.
• 45:32
  Speaker 2: The fuck?
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: I'm just trying to enjoy my martini and truffle fries.
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: You over here asking about your motherfucking relationship. You already
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: know the answer. Why are you asking me? You already know.
• 45:45
  Speaker 3: Usually when they ask, they do already know. They just
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: want that confirmation.
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: You just over here to get your feelings hurt. Let
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: me tell you. That's a good man, Savannah.
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: Nope.
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: No, thank you.
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: No. Anyway, this was fun. It's a beautiful, sunny day
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: in New York. Have a great weekend, everybody.
• 46:10
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• 46:14
  Speaker 1: And I feel like we learned a lot about our
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: bodies today. It's been an educational day. Thanks, guys. No.
• 46:24
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• 46:30
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