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Hypnosis for Public Speaking Anxiety - Turning Driving Confidence into Speaking Confidence · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And you're about to listen to a
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  hypnosis session all about public speaking, confidence.
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  And a lot of people feel nervous about speaking in front of
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  crowds, speaking in front of large people, even speaking in
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  front of a camera like I am now. And that's because there is a
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  fear of being judged, a fear of getting it wrong, a fear of
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  being mocked and laughter and all of these things which mainly
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  are an overreaction. It can happen.
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  People can have opinions, things, people definitely will
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  judge, but So what? In the big scheme of things, it
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  makes very little difference. Now the client that I was
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  working with when I asked the question, was there anything
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  that initially they did that they felt quite anxious, but the
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  more they did it, the more confident they get so that now
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  they don't even worry at all about doing that thing.
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  And for them that was driving. They love driving, love driving
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  fast, love driving on motorways, big open spaces and not everyone
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  does. I've worked with some clients
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  that that's their biggest fear. But for this client, they were
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  anxious about public speaking but felt very confident driving.
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  And I asked. One very specific question, I
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  said, how many people do you think die by doing public
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  speaking? And she thought, and she smiled,
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  and it dawned on her that she had lots of confidence driving,
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  even though people do crash all the time and it can be
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  devastating and people can die. And she did feel anxious public
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  speaking, even though it's a very safe thing to do because
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  the brain was acting as if it was a threat, when actually it's
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  a very, very safe thing. That's important because we want
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  to bridge the resources of how she felt driving into the space
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  of public speaking. So this will work particularly
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  if two things are true for you, if you're a confident, happy
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  driver and also you get anxious public speaking, if those two
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  things are correct for you, you're going to get a lot more
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  value from this session than if they're not.
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  But equally, if you do want a bespoke session, maybe it's
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  something else for you that you're really confident in,
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  Could be cycling, it could be, could be running, it could be a
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  particular sport, whatever it is, and you want to have a
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  bespoke session to make you feel as confident as you feel in that
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  area, in a different area of your life, then check out my
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  website adamcox.co.uk. Or you can have a look in the
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  description and there's various ways that you can figure out how
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  to work with me directly. For now though, I'd encourage
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  you to find a quiet place Erhas, a sofa, maybe a chair, maybe a
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  bed, something comfortable where you won't be distracted or
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  disturbed, and then relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  slow, long, relaxing breath. And as you exhale, allow
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  yourself to release any feelings of pressure, any artificial
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  ideas about perfection standards, especially those that
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  were never yours to begin with. And as you breathe in and
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  breathe out, just allow the inward breath to breathe in for
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  longer and deeper. And as you exhale, just to keep
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  on allowing that breath to continue until your lungs are
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  empty. So the next inward breath
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  activates that diaphragm. Your unconscious already knows
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  that the more you breathe from deep down in the diaphragm, the
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  more relaxed you feel. Almost like the way you breathe
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  is a switch. Shallow breathing from the chest
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  makes you more vigilant, cautious and slow.
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  Deep breathing from the diaphragm.
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  It makes you feel more confident, calm and relaxed.
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  The deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel, and the more
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  relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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  And I wonder if you can use the power of your imagination to
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  imagine stepping back in time to when you got your driving
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  license. Maybe it was moments after
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  passing a test. Maybe it's a memory of a first
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  car. Well, the first time you drove
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  on a motorway or a long journey with friends.
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  And the more you think about that, the more it dawns on you.
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  Your brain already knows how to feel calm and relaxed without
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  needing to be perfect and without needing to be in control
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  of everything. And when you think about
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  driving, just for a moment, not the theory of driving, but the
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  lived experience behind the wheel, maybe you can even
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  imagine your hands on the steering wheel, your eyes
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  scanning the road on a day of sunshine and open roads.
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  That kind of fun free driving. And there are countless
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  variables. Cars changing lanes, sometimes
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  traffic lights or pedestrians. It could be sunny 1 moment, then
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  cloudy and raining the next. And yet none of that creates
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  panic, because something inside you already knows how to
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  respond. In fact, you don't need to
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  predict everything. You simply respond in the
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  moment. The car slows down, you slow
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  down, a light changes, you adapt, someone behaves
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  unpredictably, you create more distance, and somehow your mind
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  and body respond quickly and effectively.
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  Driving confidence doesn't come from controlling every
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  possibility. It comes from trusting your
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  ability to perceive, to respond, or to react.
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  And good drivers don't try and predict every scenario.
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  They just are aware. They're present, they're
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  responsive. The road is dynamic.
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  And so the driver becomes dynamic too.
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  Alert but relaxed. Focused but adaptable.
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  And the more you think about it, the more you realize the
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  presenting and public speaking is surprisingly similar.
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  When someone stands up to speak, it can feel like taking the
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  steering wheel and driving onto that road.
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  And there may be different faces in the audience, different
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  reactions, unexpected moments. But just like driving, you don't
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  need to control everything. You simply respond.
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  I want you to activate that level of self trust, the trust
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  you have in driving. Just allow that to really
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  amplify and supercharge in your trust in your ability to speak,
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  because across your lifetime, you've spent more hours talking
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  than you have driving. It's a skill you already have.
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  Something happens in a conversation, you know you can
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  adapt to an unexpected question. You know that you can respond in
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  real time and if you can do that in a one to one conversation,
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  you can do that in front of a bigger audience.
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  The same abilities used when driving are available to you
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  when speaking. You still have awareness,
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  adaptability, quick thinking and confidence in responding.
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  The only difference is that if speaking to other people was a
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  journey, you've completed more journeys with your voice than
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  you ever have in a car. And I wonder how many thousands
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  of journeys you've had, if speaking is like driving, each
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  one filled with small adjustments that happened
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  automatically, without overthinking, without anxiety,
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  and you have a deep, ingrained belief that you can handle
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  whatever happens. It's true in driving and it's
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  true in speaking. Every presentation, every
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  difficult conversation, whether it's to conference delegates or
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  colleagues, whether it's a sales presentation or an annual
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  review, just every presentation is simply another journey.
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  You have a start, you move through the route and before you
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  know it, you arrive at the destination to find yourself
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  back on that open Rd. The weather is clear, the road
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  stretches ahead, and there is a sense of movement, flow,
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  freedom. And when you enjoy driving, you
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  smile without realizing, because at some level, driving on an
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  open Rd. under sunshine is a symbol of freedom.
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  There are some places in the world certain people, certain
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  genders are not allowed to speak.
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  And what if speaking also represents empowerment, freedom?
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  And I want you to feel that sense of freedom when you drive,
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  imagine feeling it when you speak.
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  I want you to imagine feeling a sense of fun, liberation,
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  relaxation, the confidence that comes from knowing that you can
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  just do it. Not because everything is
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  perfect, but because there is a sense you've done it before, you
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  have the skills and capabilities and you can respond if
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  necessary. And you've had moments when
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  driving where you've encountered something unfamiliar.
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  An unusual bridge, a long tunnel, winding roads high up in
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  mountains. It can feel daunting.
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  Maybe it's driving in a different country, different
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  rules, different Rd. signs. After doing it once, the brain
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  recalibrates and very quickly. What once felt intimidating
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  feels normal. And isn't it strange when you do
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  difficult driving, all the other driving feels easier in
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  comparison. This is how confidence expands,
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  finding those things that stretch your ability to make
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  everything else easier. And what if public speaking
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  works the same way? What if if you deliberately
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  choose opportunities that stretch way beyond your comfort
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  zone? What if something powerful
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  happens there? What if that recalibrates the
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  brain? A conference talk, A new or
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  bigger audience, A live interview?
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  And once you go beyond the comfort zone, the comfort zone
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  expands and everything else already in it becomes easier,
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  becomes more manageable. And I wonder if you could
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  manage, manage to imagine the very next speaking event,
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  whether it's a big presentation or perhaps an internal meeting.
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  But I want you to imagine seeing it through your own eyes,
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  feeling the way you would feel if you were driving on open
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  roads. See that version of you.
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  But I want you to see yourself, see yourself oozing
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  resourcefulness. I want you to see that version
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  of you smiling, not forcing a smile, A relaxed smile, your
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  posture comfortable. See yourself projecting your
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  voice well. From this perspective, the
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  confidence is obvious, the steady voice, the natural flow
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  of ideas. You see someone capable,
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  engaging, resourceful, inspiring, responding moment by
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  moment. You've got your destination, but
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  you're able to respond in real time if needs be.
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  And as you watch this version of yourself, notice how naturally
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  things unfold. People listening, nods of
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  agreement, eye contact, moments of connection.
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  And when you're absolutely certain that version of you has
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  the resources to far exceed the demands, let me know by nodding
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  your head. That's it.
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  Now rewind it and just as it's about to start, step into that
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  future version of you feeling how it would feel to be calm,
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  comfortable, confident, a deep seated belief that this is well
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  within your capabilities. Imagine you've got your
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  destination. If you need to respond, you can.
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  I want you to feel that this seems easier than driving.
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  Deep down there is a part of you that knows, even if it's rare.
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  Occasionally there are accidents on the road.
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  There are some dangers to driving and yet you feel
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  confident. I want you to make the
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  evaluation that you are more capable, safer.
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  This feels well within your capabilities.
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  Feel the relaxation, the focus. Allow yourself the permission to
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  enjoy, to feel the freedom of responding naturally, and then
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  you can rewind and do it one more time, noticing that it gets
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  easier and easier. And the more you think and
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  connect resourceful feelings to the idea of doing the very thing
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  that has been daunting in the past, you erode the very
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  foundation of anxiety and instead build a foundation of
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  capable confidence. Allow your mind to think that
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  this is easier and safer than driving and know that it is
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  true. And as you hold that thought,
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  it's time to return. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now.
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  As I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  You will return bringing all of these new thoughts, beliefs,
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  resources with you, and most of all, the very next time you
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  present. It will feel more fun, free, and
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  within your capabilities than driving.
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  Starting to count. 123 Waking up 456 More alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes, open your eyes. 910 wide awake, wide awake, wide
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  awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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  on today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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