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Chacha Eke-Faani Announces The End Of Her Marriage Due To Domestic Abuse - Faani Denies The Allegations · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to my channel.
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  I am Lauren, cod4, and this is banks with Lawrence here.
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  So thank you very much for staying tuned.
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  you for staying tuned. So for today's episode, I want
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  to talk about Nollywood actress. Cha-Cha AK funny.
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  So as we all know, yesterday, Church Rak, released a statement
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  announcing the end of her marriage for the second time in
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  two years. So let me just take you back
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  Cha-Cha. Nollywood actress met Austin.
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  Funny in 2009 on a movie set, he was directed the movie.
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  She was staring in and they the Mets fell in love, got married
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  in 2013 had before two years ago, they have three children.
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  So in 2020, everybody was sitting there minding their
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  business Cha-Cha are can release the video announcing the end of
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  a marriage and people were surprised because before this
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  time church, I was posting pictures that she looked very
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  unkept. She looks Do you know, she cut
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  her hair? She was licking really unlike
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  her because China is kind of person that she loved photo
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  shoot, she loved being out there.
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  She loved being in your face and when that happened, people were
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  not wondering what is going on with Chacha.
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  Why is she looking strange? Some people defended her saying
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  that all not everybody wants to be, you know, fat.
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  Everybody is trying to lose weight.
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  Everybody's trying to do this, everybody's trying to do that
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  because she really Just a whole lot of weight at that point she
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  will look to darker than she used to.
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  So she came out online. I said, oh she was going
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  natural. She was trying not to use all
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  this product, she even puts her head because she wants to do,
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  you know, the natural gang, whatever.
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  She claimed at that point. So when she came out in 2020 to
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  announce the end of her marriage, she actually made a
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  video, cha cha said she's tired of the whole domestic abuse that
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  her husband abused. And she's living with her life
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  that she don't want to die in a marriage.
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  Five days later the same chapter a came out online and said she
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  had bipolar. She said she was pregnant and
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  any time that she's pregnant a bipolar disorder affects her.
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  And she becomes sometimes mentally imbalanced.
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  She see things that she doesn't mean she had a point.
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  She said, her husband has never laid his hand on her that he's a
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  good man. He is this.
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  He is that Her brother. Her think her elder brother came
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  out online and said my sister is not by fulla.
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  The husband is the one making her to you know make all those
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  videos and say all these things that his sister is not bipolar
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  before. You could drop your cup of
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  coffee Cha-Cha, came out and insulted our brother.
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  She said that her brother has never cared about her, he hasn't
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  even seen her in two years, so he should mind his business.
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  That he is, she doesn't have anything to do with the AK
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  family. Charlie, I can't hold back.
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  So they're releasing videos. Releasing pictures.
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  They were doing photo shoots off on photo shoots when she gave
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  birth. They went to church.
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  They distance giving this old seed.
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  She claimed that the dispute. It was people like Spirit
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  Village would I was following her.
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  That was why she was acting crazy that.
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  Now she has been delivered and she has delivered a bouncy baby
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  girl that she's happy her family's happier.
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  Family is beautiful. We follow every because they
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  live there. Life on social media.
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  We followed all these things and all of a sudden, yesterday,
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  chatter release an understatement.
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  That's how marriage has ended that.
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  She's leaving a marriage brother live, a life that live in a box
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  that my husband is abusive. How she made the whole lot of
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  clean similar to washing meet two years ago.
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  But now people are thinking, we believe Cha-Cha, do we?
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  Leave. Maybe she's pregnant because
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  according to her two years ago, she said whenever she's pregnant
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  he affects her bipolar or the it makes her bipolar.
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  I don't even know how that is poor.
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  There was a claims two years ago, so people are thinking is
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  Cha-Cha pregnant again. Maybe this is what her bipolar
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  is back. But according to the statement
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  in fact let me just read the statement for you quickly, so
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  Cha-Cha Rudy's on social media with the title.
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  Leave. Now a live or leave as a corpse
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  many have died returned in all this world.
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  While least, wishing hoping and praying for a better tomorrow, I
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  don't want to die or go inexplicably missing.
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  I sincerely and publicly apologize for living a lie, this
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  past Year's true to random speculation.
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  There has been trouble in my perceived Paradise for the
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  second time. In three years, I am here again
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  on Social media boldly. Declaring that I am done with my
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  marriage. My long-overdue Relentless
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  stands on this is of course, no news to Austin, funny.
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  The doctors and my parents. If push comes to shove and
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  suddenly I am incommunicado my lawyers, the welfare department
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  and the Nigerian police force have my testimonials in recorded
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  video clips statement for set. Public release on all social
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  media apps, and National newspaper.
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  This is czarek a funny yesterday.
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  And when all this whole thing was going on, people are
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  wondering what is going on and then the husband releases on
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  statements, let me just read that of the husband husband came
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  out to say, I am not a violent person.
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  Personally, I detest violence in any form.
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  I have never raised my hands on any woman in my life, including
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  my Wife everyone close to this case knows the absolute truth
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  and it's not in my place to divulge it.
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  The one person who has started the the one person who are
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  started the talk will in due time.
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  Continue to talk. Let's lies lead.
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  Hmm. So this is Char are can making
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  claims about domestic abuse. While the husband is saying that
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  I have never abused her. I have never laid my hands on
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  her. Her and, you know, he is very
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  confidence. I mean, your diversity for me is
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  the fact that he is confident that she is going to come out to
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  debunk anything that she is saying for the fact that he said
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  case is no longer. You know, I am very sure that
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  according to Chacha lawyers are involved welfare and involved,
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  police are involved and even the families involved in this who is
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  not even a matter is a case. Now according to Husband.
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  So for him he feels that he has. He can convince her to come out
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  again to say that this is a lie, you know, I have bipolar
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  disorder or I have this and I have that well, well, I don't
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  even everybody's confused because initially, when people
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  came out hard on Austin was the same Cha-Cha who came out to say
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  that Austin has never laid his hands on her.
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  And these are they making in all this, you know, videos and
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  picture-perfect trying to project that happy family.
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  But one thing I want to make categorically clay in this
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  video, is the fact that just because Austin is claiming that
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  he has never laid his hands on cha cha does not make him
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  innocent. We always think that abuse is
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  when you pick up or a stick and hit somebody or where you punch
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  somebody or when you hit somebody.
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  Typically they think, okay, that is just abuse, there are so many
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  forms of abuse. And in may interest you to know
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  that especially Africans, especially Nigerian women.
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  You don't know that these are abuse when your husband is
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  abusing you financially, he's an abuser, why?
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  Your husband is a busy you mentally, he's an abuser when
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  your husband is abusing. You psychologically, he's an
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  abuser when your husband is abusing you sir.
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  Actually, yes I said sexually. He's an abuser.
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  I'm not even on Cha-Cha Acres site.
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  Like that is not even what this video is all about, because I am
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  just coming at it, in two different ways.
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  For a woman, a married woman with children to come out and
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  say that her husband is abusing her or more.
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  You are an abuser, you have done something, something food, a,
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  slight you and then make you think you're Crazy person,
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  especially when it comes to mental abuse.
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  Some people will not even say anything, but the way they treat
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  you, the way the look at you the way, you know, you know that I
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  look that condescending look all that, you know, are of if I made
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  you, I think even maybe that's his even the worst of the whole
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  thing I made you who you are. You keep that person down and
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  then the person is going crazy and you're wondering is it a
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  thin line between Sanity and Insanity.
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  So where are you think you're just poking, you know Africans,
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  we will see insult as Banta, you know, Go Polish.
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  You you are my heart, you will never succeed.
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  And I think this is no more. Some people even tell you, if
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  it's not insulting, you then that is not a healthy
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  relationship, because we grew up in trauma.
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  We grew up in abusive situations Even if your family is perfect,
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  you go to school, you are being picked on, you go to the
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  playground, you are being picked on and then you have to defend
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  yourself. The society is broken, the
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  society itself is broken and most times.
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  I am very sure. When church I came out the first
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  time to talk about her abuse, it will still be.
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  Maybe husband Family Church, people pastors that will come
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  out and tell her. Why do you want to spoil your?
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  A family why you want to allow the devil to to spoil your
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  beautiful family? Why don't you just come out and
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  say this and say that to save face?
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  Why do we have to do? This was selves as for funny.
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  Hello, sir. Welcome, if you're watching this
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  and you are claiming that you're not an abuser, I am here to
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  educate you on the different abuses just because you're not
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  hitting charge, does not make your you've not.
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  I won't be your theory of that. Poor had to come to your house
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  and have bipolar disorder. If you are not a good husband,
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  there must be something you have done because the family claimed
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  when she left to come and marry you, she was not bipolar, you
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  made her insane. You have to take that
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  responsibility whether you like it or not just because you are
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  not hitting her. You have you have turned her
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  from Sunny to to Insanity whether it is true.
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  Or whether it's not true, you have done something to this
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  woman to break her down. So take responsibility, don't
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  come out and clean. Oh, she's still going to come
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  out because he said abuse and you claim you're thinking or
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  because abuse abuse means physical.
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  So because you've never hit her. She's still going to come and
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  claim that you've never hit her. A whole lot of people are not
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  even believing churches, because they said initially, she came
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  out and said she was abused or you.
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  Years ago and all of a sudden she came out to debunk
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  everything and she paid people with you know picture-perfect
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  marriage that does not mean that was not take away.
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  The fact that she is still being abused, she may want to save our
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  marriage. Maybe one prophets told her.
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  If you do this and this your marriage because she went to
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  church, she posted all those videos.
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  She went to church. She prayed that the demons eyes
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  following her have left. I don't know, is the demon back?
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  We don't know. But the bottom line here is if
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  anybody that is, if you know anybody that has been abused,
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  regardless of, whether that person is willing to receive
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  help, regardless of, whether this person comes to the tell
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  you one story and then the next day, they're telling you a
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  different story. That does not guessing.
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  Nobody is just going to wake up one day and start talking crap
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  about their husband that person that was born is Win something
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  even if he's walking on the street and you see him as the
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  most responsible person, the person living with that man is
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  the one to tell you about his character, not the one you're
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  seeing walking about, not the one you're seeing doing, give
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  you a up and down, not the one that you'll see in England,
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  astronauts being generous and very cheerful.
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  No, he's the person living with a person that will tell you the
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  long and short of this, whole topic is we should start taking
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  on. Mental health, seriously, leave
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  for your children, leave for your sanity, leave for your for
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  your own health, for your own mental well-being.
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  Don't steal. Somebody that will abuse.
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  You that will reduce you to nothing just because you want to
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  be married, you want to be mrs. You want everybody to, you know,
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  expand insurance. They will tell you.
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  If you're not married, you have never, you have not even
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  achieved anything. If you're not married, you have
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  Looks arrived. If you're not married, you don't
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  have respect. They cannot have called.
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  You will respect. Regardless of yourself who you
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  are? They feel for the fact that it,
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  man. And this is the way they put it.
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  The fact that a man has no puts you out home, then there must be
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  something wrong with you. We need to change that
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  narrative. This is why a lot of people are
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  jumping into abusive situations, half of the people that you see,
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  they're married. If you ask church are not, she
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  will tell you even believe on that altar.
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  She knew that something was wrong.
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  She knew that she was getting married to the wrong person
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  butts I want to, I want to be a wife.
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  I want to marry a lot of people are jumping into very horrible
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  situation, so let us take care of our mental health, regardless
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  of whether you're married without regardless of, whether
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  you're single there are who see it is.
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  The see people think of abuse just starting marriages.
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  That is not true you and your relationship with somebody that
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  person is abusing you and you Think when you get married that
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  abuse is going to stop, it will not stop.
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  It is not going to stop. So let us take care of ourselves
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  physically, mentally spiritually and the spirituality, I mean, is
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  no going to church and going to pastors to pray for you.
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  Take care of yourself, take care of your psyche.
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  Make sure that you are meditating.
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  You don't allow anything to come in your scene.
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  Take care of your psyche, your psyche is the most important
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  thing. Your psyche is what separates
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  your sanity and insanity and if you let anything distract the
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  space, you come out and be shouting today, you're bipolar.
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  Then the next day you're not There's also be mindful and even
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  if or commenting on chatter a case Keys.
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  Let's also understand that everybody can be in dust.
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  Anybody can be abused, regardless of how strong you
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  think you are, you can meet somebody, that's who break you,
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  if you allow it. The watchword is, if you allow
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  it, anybody can be abused. Once you identify that, this is
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  a buse The mental, physical psychological, Financial sexual
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  abuse. This is once you identify that
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  this person is abusing you in one form or the other, you have
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  to save yourself. You have to see, we have the
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  generation before us, they've raised traumatic people.
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  There is traumatic people, we have to undo some of those
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  Things. But if we also are jumping into
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  situations, that is abusive. We are damaging the generation
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  coming after us. That is just plain blank simple.
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  Let us try. Let's try to be good people.
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  This was try to take care of our mental health.
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  Let us look out for one another, even if you see somebody being
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  abused and going back to the abuser, let us know.
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  Blame them. Because this isn't he eating x a
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  lot. Six in dots to leave situation
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  when your marriage, not even to talk of when you have children
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  with kids are involved. It takes a whole lot of Courage.
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  So my, you know, prayers goes out to tractor and her family to
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  give them, you know, wisdom in handling the situation and to
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  also put the kids into consideration regardless of how
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  they want to bring out the daggers at this time.
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  They should understand that they have for Children grow up to see
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  all these things. The internet never forgets.
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  Oh, thank you very much for watching.
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  Today's episode. Bye bye.