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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: You Have To Have Grace With Yourself, OK? · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily Badi here. You are listening to five
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  Speaker 1: Minute Friday from Hurdle. Happy for the July everyone. I
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  Speaker 1: don't usually release on holidays, but it's been a second AKA.
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  Speaker 1: This is exactly what I'm going to talk about today.
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  Speaker 1: Last week I was doing the most. I get the
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to do a lot of different things that I enjoy,
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  Speaker 1: from writing and editing to podcasting and hosting, and I
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  Speaker 1: did so many of those things last week. I was
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  Speaker 1: in Paris for Breaking, which I was reporting on for
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  Speaker 1: Marie Claire as a writer, and I was also podcasting
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  Speaker 1: them while I was there, and working through emails and
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  Speaker 1: edits on other projects that I'm working on, and planning
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  Speaker 1: months ahead at the same time, and taking meetings and
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  Speaker 1: so many things. And it came to be Wednesday, and
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  Speaker 1: I got to this point when I realized that something
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  Speaker 1: had to give, and I am bad at that. I
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  Speaker 1: am bad at letting something fall by the wayside when
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  Speaker 1: I commit to something like I am all in. And
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  Speaker 1: as many of you know, I have a newsletter that
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  Speaker 1: comes out every Friday.
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  Speaker 2: It's called the Weekly Hurdle.
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  Speaker 1: And upon evaluating all the different things that I was
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  Speaker 1: doing and all of the obligations that I had. I
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  Speaker 1: made the conscious decision that I had to let the
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  Speaker 1: weekly hurdle go last week.
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  Speaker 2: It had to happen.
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  Speaker 1: I thought about the repercussions, I thought about the other
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  Speaker 1: things on my to do list, and I made the
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  Speaker 1: decision that this was the thing that I was going
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  Speaker 1: to let slide.
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  Speaker 2: And I got home on I.
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  Speaker 1: Ended up getting home on Monday because they canceled my
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  Speaker 1: flight on Sunday, which is a completely different story. But
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  Speaker 1: when I got home on Monday, I had two meetings
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  Speaker 1: back to back. I got home to my apartment around
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  Speaker 1: twelve thirty in the afternoon, two meetings back to back.
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  Speaker 2: I hit a deadline that I needed to hit.
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  Speaker 1: I finished something for the podcast, like I was doing
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  Speaker 1: a lot of things, and I remember thinking in that moment, Wow,
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  Speaker 1: like you did it. There were so many things that
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  Speaker 1: were on your plate going into last week, going into
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  Speaker 1: the international travel, and I gave myself the grace to
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  Speaker 1: choose what I could do, execute what I could do
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  Speaker 1: to the best of my ability, and release the rest.
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  Speaker 1: I have been in so many different phases, at so
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  Speaker 1: many different points where my best I would get down
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  Speaker 1: on that being not good enough. And now I recognize
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  Speaker 1: that all I could do is the best I can
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  Speaker 1: with what I've got. And so last week that's exactly
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  Speaker 1: what it looked like. It looked like no newsletter, and
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  Speaker 1: next week it will look entirely different. And that grace
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  Speaker 1: is something that has grown with me. That grace is
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  Speaker 1: like a muscle. It is something that I am strengthening.
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  Speaker 1: How does a muscle strengthen? You give it something to
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  Speaker 1: push up against. My grace with myself is pushing up
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  Speaker 1: against challenge and adversity and moments where I feel frustrated,
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  Speaker 1: right and in those moments, it is growing, it is developing,
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  Speaker 1: and for that I am so grateful.
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  Speaker 2: You've got to be easy on yourself. We only have
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  Speaker 2: this one shot. Right.
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  Speaker 1: Not to be corny or anything, but there is no
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  Speaker 1: use spending your time shoulding on yourself, woulding on myself
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  Speaker 1: saying I could have done something this way. I refuse
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  Speaker 1: to live my life like that. I accept that in
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  Speaker 1: all circumstances, I have the best intentions, and so I
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  Speaker 1: exercised those intentions last week. I chose myself. I chose
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  Speaker 1: my colm and for that I am better for it.
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  Speaker 1: My question for you this week is where could you
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  Speaker 1: be offering yourself some more grace. It's hard. I get it.
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  Speaker 1: I've been there. Where could you be a bit easier
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  Speaker 1: on yourself? And what would that look like in practice?
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  Speaker 1: And now a listener question. Hey, Emily, I've been your
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  Speaker 1: listener and follower for quite some time, and even to
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  Speaker 1: say hi in person a few times when you visited Boston.
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  Speaker 1: I am also a runner, and even after ten plus
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  Speaker 1: years of running marathons, I still struggle to balance strength
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  Speaker 1: training and running. It's always in either or for me.
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  Speaker 1: If my running is going well, it's almost inevitable that
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  Speaker 1: my lifting sessions will drop to zero or maybe one
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  Speaker 1: per week with no progression. Following you on Instagram, I
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  Speaker 1: can see that you are able to successfully combine the
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  Speaker 1: two and it's very impressive to me. So my question
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  Speaker 1: is can you describe how you did it and what
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  Speaker 1: are the principles you follow. I've been working with a
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  Speaker 1: personal strength trainer and also a running coach, but the
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  Speaker 1: strength trainer tends to overload my legs and my running suffers.
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  Speaker 1: Any advice on this, thanks so much, best, Svetlana. So, Svetlana,
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  Speaker 1: great question, and honestly, I want you to know that
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  Speaker 1: you are not alone in this You know how many
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  Speaker 1: I mean this was me. I wasn't strength training at
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  Speaker 1: all at all until I had to because running was
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  Speaker 1: taken from me. And so what I've done over the
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  Speaker 1: last year is really prioritize strength, but really take a
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  Speaker 1: step back to zoom out on my goals. Right now,
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  Speaker 1: my goals are twofold one. I'm having a lot of
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  Speaker 1: fun chasing my own potential on the run, and I'm
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  Speaker 1: also having a lot of fun chasing my own potential
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  Speaker 1: in the gym. It is hard to do both of
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  Speaker 1: those things simultaneously. The best way that I can is
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  Speaker 1: by creating an open avenue communication with my strength coach
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  Speaker 1: about where I'm at with my running goals. So I
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  Speaker 1: right now strength train for days a week. I run
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  Speaker 1: fortays a week. As you can tell, they are only
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  Speaker 1: seven days a week, which means that one or two
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  Speaker 1: of those days, depending on what's happening, might be a double.
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  Speaker 1: To that note, I work on my schedule in a
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  Speaker 1: way that I am not over doing it on my legs.
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  Speaker 1: So if I'm doing an interval session which is leg heavy,
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  Speaker 1: I will try to do my life strength workout on
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  Speaker 1: the same day, so that way I can give that
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  Speaker 1: group of muscles, that muscle group time to recover and repair.
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  Speaker 1: Fun fact, your muscles create small tears when you are
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  Speaker 1: strength training. It's totally natural, something to worry about. But
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  Speaker 1: those typically need at least forty hours to repair themselves,
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  Speaker 1: and in that act of repairing themselves, they get stronger.
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  Speaker 2: It's important. It's good.
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  Speaker 1: It's good, I promise. So I'm giving you all this information.
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  Speaker 1: I'm giving you some insight into how I operate. What
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  Speaker 1: does this mean for you? It means that, dependent on
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  Speaker 1: your goals, it will be helpful to talk one on
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  Speaker 1: one with a trainer. I love that Svetlana is saying
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  Speaker 1: that she has a strength trainer and a running coach, right,
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  Speaker 1: So communicate with those people about what you're excited about,
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  Speaker 1: and those individuals might need to communicate with one another
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  Speaker 1: as well. I cannot even stress how helpful it has
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  Speaker 1: been for me to go to physical therapy, to talk
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  Speaker 1: to my guy Luke and then have him give me
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  Speaker 1: information that I can then pass along to my strength coach.
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  Speaker 1: It's so helpful and above all else, at the end
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  Speaker 1: of the day, listen to your body, because when you've
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  Speaker 1: got a bunch of different goals, there are going to
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  Speaker 1: be times where you can't do things as planned and
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  Speaker 1: that's okay. This goes back to our topic of having
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  Speaker 1: grace with ourselves. So listen, don't judge yourself, do the
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  Speaker 1: best you can with what you have, and take things
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  Speaker 1: one day at a time.
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  Speaker 2: I hope that helps. I hope my insight helps.
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  Speaker 1: And like I said above all else here, having your
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  Speaker 1: expert team communicate with one another and listening to your
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  Speaker 1: body will be majorly helpful in the pursuit of the
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  Speaker 1: things that excite you. Make sure you're following along with
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  Speaker 1: Hurdle Over at Hurdle podcast, I'm over at Emily a
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  Speaker 1: Body another hurdle conquered.
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  Speaker 2: Catch you guys next time.
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  Speaker 1: I do in my heir