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Your real flex is how you regroup after things go wrong (S4)S53:E5 · Inspirations for Your Life

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  Well, hey guys, and welcome to the show.
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  It's great to be with you.
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  Today, if you didn't know, it is December
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  31st, and yeah, that means it is the
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  very last day of the year, and it
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  is great to be with you on the
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  Inspirations to Real Life show.
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  Today is going to mark us being on
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  the air, actually, for four years in a
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  row, and tomorrow we will start being on
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  the air our fifth year, and I'm really,
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  really excited for that.
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  If you've been here before, I want to
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  say welcome back, and thank you if it's
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  your first time here.
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  Of course, I want to say thank you
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  for joining us.
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  Happy New Year to everyone.
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  A little bit early, and hopefully some ideas
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  to help you have a great New Year.
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  This is, yes, Inspiring Wednesday, and it's perfect
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  for your motivational rhythm.
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  I'm John C.
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  Morley, and I want you guys to know
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  about Inspirations to Real Life, and I want
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  you to know what we're about, and why
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  we're on the air, and pretty much what
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  we do, because this is the key, guys,
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  to having an amazing life.
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  I'm John C.
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  Morley.
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  I'm a serial entrepreneur.
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  I'm an engineer.
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  I'm a marketing specialist.
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  I'm a video producer, podcast host, coach, graduate
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  student, and a passionate lifelong learner, and back
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  as a team motivational expert of the day.
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  And today's granular topic to end, remember I
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  told you we had these little short weeks
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  because of the way we were doing this?
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  Your real flex is how you regroup after
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  things go wrong, and I hope you'll pay
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  attention to this, because these are some things
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  that really can make or break you in
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  the New Year 2026.
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  Remember, guys, I said if you have failed
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  to plan, you have planned to fail.
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  Welcome, everyone, my friends, my colleagues, my associates,
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  so great to have you here on another
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  energizing, amazing episode, ladies and gentlemen, of, yes,
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  guys, the ever-popular Inspirations for Your Life
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  show, the Daily Motivational Show.
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  Again, we are clocking in after today, being
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  on the air officially, yeah, four years on
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  the road, guys, and tomorrow will mark our
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  fifth year.
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  We're all about motivation, leadership, growth, and mindset
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  mastery.
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  Again, I am your host, John C.
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  Morley, and I'm here to guide you on
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  this amazing enigma of a powerful journey of
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  self-improvement and team transformation.
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  Over the years as a serial entrepreneur and
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  coach, I've learned that the real strength of
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  any group, whether it's in business, family, or
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  friendships, shows not when things go perfectly, but
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  when we bounce back after being together, after
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  a setback.
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  So today, we're diving into 30 ideas that
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  help you and your team, well, be able
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  to rise stronger after these challenges, because bouncing
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  back isn't just about recovery.
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  It's resilience in action.
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  Let's begin together.
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  You ready?
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  Number one, name one tough situation your household
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  has already survived.
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  It could be anything, all right?
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  Acknowledging past victories reminds everyone that, yes, they've
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  been through storms before and made it through.
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  Reflection builds faith in your collective ability to
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  overcome again and again and again.
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  And hopefully, that'll be, let's say, more fuel
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  to get us to do more of that
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  in the future.
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  Number two, ask what did we learn instead
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  of, why did this happen to me?
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  Shift from the blame game to the growth
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  game.
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  Every setback carries a seed of wisdom.
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  If we pause long enough to find it,
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  we will.
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  Number three, guys, build a hard day playlist
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  together.
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  Music heals wounds.
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  I've said this before.
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  Create a shared soundtrack that uplifts your spirit
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  and reminds your team to keep moving.
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  Number four, celebrate one tiny win from today.
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  It could be anything.
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  It could have been the fact that you
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  guys took the Christmas tree down together, that
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  you went on a walk, that you had
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  breakfast together, you made breakfast together, whatever it
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  is.
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  Even a small success is worth recognition.
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  So small wins generate momentum and strength and
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  connection.
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  That's our key.
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  Number five, guys, tell someone, thanks for how
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  you handled that.
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  Gratitude softens stress and builds trust.
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  Recognizing effort fuels future teamwork.
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  Are you ready for number six?
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  I know you are.
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  Turn one mistake into a next time.
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  We'll plan for that.
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  Progress happens when you convert errors into a
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  strategy.
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  Use setbacks as training for the true comeback.
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  Create a code word that means I need
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  support, not solutions.
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  Sometimes people just need empathy, not advice.
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  A shared code empowers honest communication.
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  I think that's really important to realize.
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  Number eight, guys, take a five-minute walk
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  together after an argument.
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  Movement clears mental fog.
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  Walking allows emotions to percolate in cooling while
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  keeping the connection intact.
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  Number nine, write three ways you're stronger than
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  last year.
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  Growth often hides in our hardships.
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  Recognize how far you've come individually and, yes,
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  collectively.
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  Number 10, guys, ask this question.
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  What would make tomorrow just 1% easier?
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  Tiny adjustments spark big change.
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  Focus on incremental wins rather than instant fixes.
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  Number 11, share a story of a past
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  comeback.
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  Stories nurture our hope.
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  Remind your team of the strength they've demonstrated
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  before.
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  Number 12, plan a midweek treat.
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  A fun break, dessert, drive, movie, or even
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  a game.
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  This will recharge the morale within your group.
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  Balance keeps teams bonded, and I think many
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  people don't realize that because they try to
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  stress teams and get teams to do more
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  than they actually can.
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  And then everybody wonders, well, why is the
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  team falling apart?
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  Well, if you were going to do a
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  run, right, and you started out running really
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  fast and you really couldn't handle the run,
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  that would be a problem, right?
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  But if you built up incrementally, then you'd
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  be able to handle it, right?
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  That's the important thing.
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  Number 13, say we're allowed to be disappointed
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  and hopeful, okay?
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  Healthy teams acknowledge feelings without losing true optimism.
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  Both truth and hope can coexist together, yes,
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  within the same sentence and even in the
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  same environment.
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  Number 14, turn off bad news for one
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  hour.
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  I mean, if you have a TV on,
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  I'm not a TV person watcher, but the
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  TV always has bad news on it, right?
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  So why not turn it off?
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  I mean, there's always going to be bad
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  news somewhere.
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  Why not focus on the positive right here?
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  Constant negativity drains resilience.
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  Protect your mental space to restore balance.
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  Number 15, please list three resources you have
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  right now.
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  It could be skills, people, or even tools
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  in your life.
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  Focusing on the assets.
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  Instead of problems, shifts the perspective from scarcity
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  to capability.
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  I think that's something a lot of people
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  miss, but it's something you have the power
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  to do right now.
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  Now, as we are on the dawn and
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  probably people are wondering, so how many, and
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  it's a good question, how many hours and
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  minutes till New Year's?
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  And so right now when we're shooting this
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  show, and this is going to change, right,
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  from time to time, it's definitely going to
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  change, because as we get closer to New
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  Year's, the time is obviously going to change.
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  But if somebody had to ask you right
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  now, how many, let's just say, how many
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  minutes and hours till midnight?
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  And again, I think when we think about
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  that from a perspective point, it gets us
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  to realize things are real in our life.
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  So maybe you want to go to like
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  a countdown clock.
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  Those are some really good things that you
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  can do.
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  And I think tracking this whole thing of
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  what New Year's is, is important, not just
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  for me, but for everybody, because we want
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  to celebrate what's happened in our life.
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  We want to celebrate some of these challenges,
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  right?
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  And so I know a lot of us
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  out there, we get a little bit daunted
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  by what something means.
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  And so I want to tell you that
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  right now, at this exact moment, there are
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  actually six hours, two minutes, and yes, 50
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  seconds till midnight.
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  That'll keep changing, right?
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  But so that's not a lot of time.
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  So if you have failed to plan, you
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  plan to fail.
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  Now, don't feel bad if you have not
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  planned yet for 2026.
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  You can still take tomorrow and figure out
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  what you want to do.
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  And there's lots of things you could do,
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  right?
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  But my advice to you is don't let
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  tomorrow go by without coming up with at
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  least an initial plan of how you're going
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  to make your 2026 an even better year.
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  All right?
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  That's something I want you to think about.
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  It's not something to scare you, but I
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  don't want you to be like, oh my
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  gosh, this just went by and I don't
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  know where I'm going.
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  If you don't know where you're going, chances
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  are a lot of people are going to
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  be in the same boat and be like,
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  that's on your team, be like, I don't
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  know what we're doing.
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  What are we doing?
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  I have no clue what we're doing.
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  And I think sometimes people don't realize that
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  they have more power than they give themselves
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  credit for.
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  Does that make some sense?
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  I mean, I'm hoping it does.
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  Because if it makes some sense, then that
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  will change the perspective, ladies and gentlemen, of
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  who you are and who you are becoming.
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  Yeah, that's a very, very powerful thing to
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  understand.
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  All right, a very, very powerful thing.
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  And what I wanna say to all of
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  you right now is that potential is what
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  2025 should be all about to you.
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  Okay, it should be all about that.
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  Doesn't have to be about that, but that's
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  what it is about.
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  And so when we think about 2026, like
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  I said, now looking at the clock, six
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  hours and no minutes and basically 50 seconds
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  at that moment until midnight hits.
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  So number 16, ask what's the next right
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  step that I need to take?
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  So not how do we fix everything at
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  the moment.
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  We're not trying to solve the world's problems
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  in 20 seconds.
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  Big problems will shake when they're divided into
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  clear, manageable, kind of like modal comments, simple
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  actions.
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  Number 17, guys, thank the person who stayed
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  calm when you couldn't.
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  Acknowledging emotional anchors strengthens trust and connection within
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  any group.
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  I don't care whether it's a family unit.
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  I don't care whether it's a volunteer unit.
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  I don't care whether it's an educational unit.
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  It has that power and it will strengthen
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  if it's truly done with the right premise.
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  Number 18, guys, admit, today was rough.
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  Yeah, it was, but we're still here.
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  And I think sometimes we miss that point
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  that look at all the stuff we've gotten
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  through this year.
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  If you were just to play a little
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  deja vu reel, right, of 2025 in your
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  head, and think about all those challenges you
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  went through, right, I know I can roll
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  that reel in my head.
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  I'm like, oh my gosh, but we're still
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  here.
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  We got through them and everything is fine.
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  So I think our brain goes into hyperdrive
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  mode and is like, oh my gosh, right?
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  But we need to tell our brain, look,
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  we've gotten through this in the past and
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  we can get through this in the future
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  again.
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  We never get challenges that our body can't.
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  Our universe will never do that to us.
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  Vulnerability, ladies and gentlemen, grounds progress.
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  It's okay to accept struggle while still showing
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  determination.
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  So some people think if I show a
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  struggle, then that means I'm a failure.
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  No, it doesn't.
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  Some of the greatest minds of our time
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  have struggled.
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  If we don't struggle, we don't succeed.
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  I think sometimes when things come to us
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  too easily, maybe we're afraid of how that's
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  gonna embrace us.
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  Maybe we're afraid of what that's gonna do.
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  Maybe, right?
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  I mean, that's just the thing.
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  So if we can embrace these things and
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  we can embrace the moments in our life,
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  that's pretty powerful, guys, pretty powerful.
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  And I wanna make sure I got this
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  out to you before I went out to
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  dinner for New Year's Eve, because I know
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  how important it is to you guys to
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  have this.
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  And I didn't wanna be doing this show
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  at 1230, even though I could have.
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  I wanna make sure this happened on December
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  31st, 2025.
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  And in case you're wondering about the New
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  Year's countdown, well, now we're five hours, 58
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  minutes, and 12 seconds till it happens.
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  So you can really appreciate the 2026 when
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  you think about all the good things that
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  you did in 2025.
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  Now, I'm not saying 2025 was a perfect
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  year because it wasn't for everybody, but there
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  were things in 2025 that you learned and
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  lessons that you're gonna carry into 2026.
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  Are you ready for 19?
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  I know I am.
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  Reframe one setback as practice, not failure.
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  Success is built on reps, okay?
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  Just like if you lift weights, right?
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  So you can do three sets of 12,
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  right?
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  Three sets of 15.
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  The number of reps you do, right?
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  The number of repetitions, right?
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  So three sets, three sets, and the reps
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  might be 12 or 15, right?
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  With dumbbells or weights or what have you.
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  Or maybe you're doing squats.
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  Three sets of 12 squats, right?
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  So the reps is what's part of the
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  set, and the set is what you repeat.
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  Treat your missteps, ladies and gentlemen, as training.
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  Don't as defeat, because you're gonna kill yourself.
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  Number 20, write a backup plan for one
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  big worry you have.
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  Preparedness creates a calmness environment.
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  When you know there's a plan B, stress
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  just sort of, I don't know, loses its
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  momentum.
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  It loses the power that it was originally
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  charged with.
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  Number 21, say we're a team.
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  Nobody does this alone.
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  Unity multiplies strength.
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  Remind everyone of the power in collaboration.
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  Now, I don't say this to you weekly.
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  It's important that you understand that collaboration is
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  something that we need to be doing, not
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  because we should have to do it, but
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  because we wanna do it.
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  Does that make sense to everybody?
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  I hope it does.
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  Number 22, guys, make a no yelling promise
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  for tonight's disagreement.
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  Now, I know it might be people in
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  your family.
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  They may yell, they may argue, they may
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  scream.
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  Even if they're in pain, they may yell,
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  they may scream, they may curse.
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  But you know what happens when you do
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  that?
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  It actually doesn't make the problem better.
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  It exacerbates the problem.
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  It seems like it takes energy off of
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  the current emotion, which it does, but it
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  just makes the problem worse and it makes
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  people around you be like, oh my gosh,
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  like what's going on?
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  I mean, we've all been in discomfort before.
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  Lots of different comfort, right?
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  I can give one to you when I
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  broke my tib and fib.
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  And I remember after my leg healed and
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  I remember going across the floor and I
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  remember the phone ringing and my mind knew
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  that I was supposed to take it easy
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  on the foot, even though I had just
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  gotten the cast off.
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  But for some reason, the phone rang and
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  a mean thing I did was just said,
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  oh, I got the cast off, I can
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  just walk.
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  And I felt the funniness on my left
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  leg.
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  Not a pain, but a discomfort.
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  I'm like, oh, I don't think I wanna
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  do that again.
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  But I didn't make that my whole day
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  because what you focus on will repeat.
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  If you say I'm in pain, if you
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  say I'm in discomfort, if you say I
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  hate life, guess what keeps happening?
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  The universe keeps giving you more reasons to
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  hate life.
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  So why not try saying I love life?
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  I know I'm in discomfort right now.
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  I know I'm not as the way I
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  wanna be, but I know I'm getting better
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  and I know each day is becoming easier
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  for me.
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  Try that ladies and gentlemen.
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  Respect creates a safety.
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  Conflict can be resolved without noise or any
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  shame.
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  So many people I know try to throw
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  shame and all these noise because they think
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  it's gonna solve the problem.
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  But you know what it does?
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  Again, it exacerbates the problem.
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  Number 23, share a meme or a joke
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  to break the tension.
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  Laughter resets energy.
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  It's an underrated form of resilience.
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  Does that make sense guys?
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  I hope it does.
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  Number 24, remember one fear that never actually
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  came true.
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  I can talk of lots of those in
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  the past, especially when I was younger, right?
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  You know, we worried about so many things,
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  even school.
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  And a lot of those things never came
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  to fruition because we actually worried about things
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  that never really existed.
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  So if we spend time worrying on things,
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  especially if we can't control something, that's not
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  gonna make us feel very good.
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  It's gonna deplete our energy and it's gonna
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  make us feel depressed, right?
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  You know that guys.
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  So perspective is what becomes our reality.
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  You create your reality.
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  You create everything in your life by the
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  perspective for which you assign.
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  Perspective will heal the anxiety.
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  So let's just change the lens a little
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  bit, especially in 2026.
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  Let's put a softer lens on and let's
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  not be so harsh on things.
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  Most worries guys will lose the steam and
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  the momentum when they really prove out that
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  you're kinder.
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  And I think that's an important thing for
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  us to know.
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  Number 25, guys, ask this question.
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  How can we support each other better this
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  week?
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  Yes, how can we support each other better?
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  What can I do to help you this
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  week?
• 20:14
  Teams will thrive when everyone's needs are seen
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  and valued.
• 20:18
  A lot of people have this thing in
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  them.
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  It's called selfishness.
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  You know what I'm talking about.
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  Sure you do.
• 20:24
  So selfishness actually doesn't help anybody.
• 20:29
  It doesn't even help the person who's being
• 20:30
  selfish because you know what happens?
• 20:32
  You get what you want, but then you
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  feel like a jerk, right?
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  So number 26, tell someone I believe in
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  you.
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  Even on the off days, belief from others
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  will reignite the confidence when self-doubt creeps
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  in.
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  This is a real, real secret.
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  Sometimes people will not believe in your strategy
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  and it's okay.
• 20:53
  You don't need to get other people to
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  believe in you, okay?
• 20:58
  As long as you believe in yourself, who
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  gives a darn what the rest of the
• 21:02
  world thinks?
• 21:02
  I don't care whether they're family, whether they're
• 21:04
  friends, whether they're, let's say they're competitors.
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  It doesn't matter what anybody else thinks because
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  your reality will become their reality when you
• 21:17
  focus on it long enough, all right?
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  I know that seems very powerful.
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  Number 27, take one deep group breath.
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  You ready guys?
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  Inhale.
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  Remember, hold it.
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  You're gonna hold it for four.
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  One, two, three, four.
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  Okay, inhale for four, holding it for two
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  and exhale for six.
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  One, two, three, four, five, six.
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  So we're gonna go ahead and do this
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  again.
• 21:41
  We're gonna inhale for four, hold it for
• 21:45
  two, great, and exhale for six.
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  One more time.
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  Inhale for four, hold it for two and
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  exhale for six.
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  I know your group might be saying, I
• 21:59
  don't wanna do this.
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  Well, maybe the people that don't wanna cooperate
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  with your team and don't understand the meaning
• 22:06
  of the word team shouldn't be on your
• 22:08
  team, okay?
• 22:09
  It's a privilege to be on a team.
• 22:11
  It's not a right, remember that guys.
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  So that one deep group breath, taking a
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  couple of them or tackling a problem, could
• 22:19
  be your ace, okay?
• 22:21
  Shared calmness creates clarity, remember that.
• 22:25
  Breathing together resets the emotional climate.
• 22:29
  And when we can breathe in tandem, when
• 22:31
  we can be in a room and our
• 22:32
  heartbeats can all sync together, okay?
• 22:35
  That is a coherence.
• 22:37
  And coherence is one of the biggest attributes
• 22:41
  of successful people.
• 22:43
  They don't necessarily know their incoherence directly, but
• 22:47
  they strive for it and they can feel
• 22:50
  their incoherence.
• 22:50
  Does that mean something?
• 22:51
  So being in coherence is a very big
• 22:54
  key, all right?
• 22:56
  Number 28, remind yourself you've survived.
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  That's right, 100% of your worst days,
• 23:06
  that track record means you can face whatever
• 23:09
  comes next.
• 23:10
  Now, maybe you have a dog, maybe you're
• 23:12
  in a room and maybe the dog comes
• 23:14
  in the room.
• 23:14
  Did you know that having that dog in
• 23:16
  the room for just a few minutes next
• 23:18
  to you, that dog and you will become
• 23:21
  in coherence within a few minutes, your heartbeats
• 23:24
  will be together.
• 23:26
  When our heartbeats are together, that means we're
• 23:30
  in a state of connectedness.
• 23:32
  Now, many people spend hours trying to figure
• 23:35
  out how do I get connected?
• 23:36
  How do I get coherent?
• 23:37
  Well, what they're doing is they're doing in
• 23:39
  a way that I'm gonna say is a
• 23:42
  superficialness, a way that's really not about doing
• 23:46
  it for truth.
• 23:47
  They're doing it because they have an ulterior
• 23:49
  motive, one that's not gonna be for the
• 23:51
  greater good of all concern.
• 23:53
  Number 29, guys, I want you tonight to
• 23:56
  end the night with one thing I appreciate
• 24:01
  about, that is gratitude.
• 24:04
  Gratitude close your day, even if everyone around
• 24:07
  you gives you negativity, tells you this is
• 24:10
  bad, tells you all kinds of things, I
• 24:13
  want you to take the lens, and I
• 24:15
  want you to realize that you can shift
• 24:18
  your perspective somewhere else.
• 24:21
  Gratitude should close your day every day with
• 24:24
  a true connection.
• 24:26
  Appreciation, guys, restores the emotional harmony.
• 24:29
  You know you want emotional harmony, so why
• 24:31
  not do that?
• 24:32
  We're almost done with this show, guys, so
• 24:34
  let's continue this strong.
• 24:35
  Number 30, I want you to wake up
• 24:37
  tomorrow morning, January 1st, with we'll figure it
• 24:42
  out together.
• 24:44
  Starting the day with unity sets the tone
• 24:46
  for teamwork and resilience, just like the dog,
• 24:49
  just like people in tandem.
• 24:51
  When people naturally come together, okay, and they're
• 24:55
  on the same page, you get a calmness,
• 24:58
  and that calmness creates a stability effect, which
• 25:01
  we call coherence.
• 25:03
  Being more technical about it, our heart gets
• 25:06
  in coherence with other people's hearts.
• 25:08
  There's been studies done on this all around
• 25:11
  the world.
• 25:11
  I'm not gonna bore you on that with
• 25:12
  tonight's show, but I just want you to
• 25:14
  understand that if you found trouble in 2025,
• 25:17
  I will tell you why it was.
• 25:19
  It's because your heart was not in true
• 25:22
  coherence, so I want you to strive to
• 25:25
  be in coherence, but do it by being
• 25:27
  a genuine person, not by being someone that's
• 25:30
  out for an ulterior motive.
• 25:31
  All right, guys, now, when teams learn to
• 25:34
  bend, okay, without breaking, guess what happens?
• 25:39
  They become unstoppable.
• 25:42
  And, you know, maybe you thought of it
• 25:43
  about this with buildings and even bridges.
• 25:45
  Do you know that bridges, some of the
• 25:47
  best bridges in the world and buildings in
• 25:49
  the world that are built, even the widest
• 25:51
  and large span bridges, do you know that
• 25:53
  they have a little bit of a sway
• 25:55
  to them?
• 25:56
  Okay, they have that little bit of movement
• 25:58
  because if they didn't, you know what happened?
• 26:00
  They would snap with any storm.
• 26:03
  So there has to be a little give,
• 26:04
  there has to be a little take.
• 26:06
  And so if you're too rigid like this,
• 26:09
  you're gonna snap or someone else is gonna
• 26:10
  snap and you're like, oh, I hate working
• 26:13
  with that person.
• 26:14
  So try coherence.
• 26:15
  Coherence will allow you to ebb and flow
• 26:18
  together.
• 26:20
  All right, ladies and gentlemen, I want you
• 26:21
  to please incorporate these practices because if you
• 26:25
  do, they will build trust, they will build
• 26:27
  gratitude, and they will build an emotional endurance.
• 26:30
  The foundation of any strong family is coherence.
• 26:35
  Company or any partnership that you have, it's
• 26:38
  coherence.
• 26:40
  If this message, ladies and gentlemen, resonated with
• 26:43
  you on any level, I invite you to
• 26:46
  please go ahead and visit, yes, BelieveMeAchieve.com.
• 26:52
  Again, we don't have a lot of time
• 26:54
  left in the show and not a lot
• 26:56
  of time till New Year's.
• 26:57
  We have about five hours, we have 46
• 26:59
  minutes, and we have exactly at this moment,
• 27:01
  10 seconds till New Year's.
• 27:03
  So don't stay home, don't depress yourself, don't
• 27:08
  say there's no reason to celebrate.
• 27:11
  You're the people that are not gonna make
• 27:13
  a difference next year.
• 27:14
  The people that say my 2026 is gonna
• 27:17
  be amazing and plan to succeed are the
• 27:21
  ones that are going to enjoy that breath.
• 27:24
  Ladies and gentlemen, I am John C.
• 27:26
  Morley, serial entrepreneur.
• 27:27
  It has been such a privilege, pleasure, and
• 27:29
  honor to be with you guys.
• 27:30
  These amazing four years we have been on
• 27:33
  the air, four years.
• 27:36
  In another few seconds, we'll be on the
• 27:38
  air four years, and tomorrow we'll celebrate being
• 27:40
  on the air five years.
• 27:42
  Thank you so much for following me, liking
• 27:43
  me, check out BelieveMeAchieve.com, and let's make
• 27:47
  2026 the year that you start following me
• 27:50
  and making these changes in your life.
• 27:52
  It's never too late to start.
• 27:53
  Happy New Year, everyone.