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DLHS Hour 2 | Son calls stepmom mommy · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: So the questions were asked. Here's the ideo.
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  Speaker 2: I just met up with my ex husband to exchange
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  Speaker 2: our son, and I found out that my toddler has
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  Speaker 2: been calling my ex husband's new wife mama.
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  Speaker 3: What do you think, skip, Uh, you know, it depends
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  Speaker 3: on the dynamic. Now, if there's a news, you know,
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  Speaker 3: your eggs just get married and they've been in a
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  Speaker 3: life for a month a year, and you come on, man,
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  Speaker 3: tell me your daddy when you ain't around.
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  Speaker 1: Now I'm around.
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  Speaker 4: I'm daddy, all right.
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  Speaker 3: You can come up with some cute little pet name,
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  Speaker 3: you know, like what do you call like mister, I
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  Speaker 3: don't know what, but I'm daddy. That name is taken,
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  Speaker 3: the damn dad. Yeah, you know that name is taken.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, I would think. I think it's disrespectful to
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  Speaker 3: do anything other than that. I mean, if a person,
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  Speaker 3: if it's a good person, you know what I mean,
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  Speaker 3: if they I wouldn't have my kid if it was
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  Speaker 3: if I had custody, I wouldn't have my kid call
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  Speaker 3: another woman mother a mom if if their mom.
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  Speaker 1: Was still right.
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  Speaker 5: Well, I could see if you're changing custody of the
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  Speaker 5: kids at the sheriff department already.
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  Speaker 1: It's a perilous situation. So juniors handed the king, what
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  Speaker 1: do you.
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  Speaker 6: Think, Well, it is kind of touchy, but it seems
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  Speaker 6: like if you married somebody knew and you're introducing your
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  Speaker 6: kid to that person, you would assigned whatever nickname or
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  Speaker 6: whatever or way they should be addressed at that time,
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  Speaker 6: because obviously you've been dating before you got married. So
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  Speaker 6: there's been a period where these you know, these two
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  Speaker 6: individuals got to know each other. So you know, she's
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  Speaker 6: not mom, she's Kathy or you know, mommy, you know
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  Speaker 6: or whatever, you.
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  Speaker 4: Know, Yeah, something like that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean remember Kamala, I mean it was it
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  Speaker 3: mamaa mama mama.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, So but why make a big deal about it.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, you're gonna get mad.
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  Speaker 5: Kamala's homer, but that's stop.
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  Speaker 1: Come on, but not alone or I don't like it.
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  Speaker 4: I don't like it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you got three years, three and a half.
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  Speaker 4: Years, hiddo.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, do you think she was right?
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  Speaker 5: I mean, should you call your exes spouse mom or dad?
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  Speaker 1: Should the kid call your spouse mama, dad? We're going
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  Speaker 1: to the phones.
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  Speaker 8: So I agree with what he said as far as
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  Speaker 8: if there are active parents present in the child's life,
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  Speaker 8: there's no need for the child to call their parents'
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  Speaker 8: new spouse mom or dad. You know, there are great
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  Speaker 8: step parents and even if you don't call them mom
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  Speaker 8: or dad, there are other and daring titles that you can,
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  Speaker 8: you know, share with them. But it doesn't have to
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  Speaker 8: be mom or dad. Kids know who's there for them
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  Speaker 8: and who's not. I don't think any child should be
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  Speaker 8: forced to call anybody mom or dad. But if the
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  Speaker 8: love is there, the love is there, but it's all
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  Speaker 8: about respect.
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  Speaker 9: If the mom or dad is respect to one and
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  Speaker 9: shawn love to the kids, I don't see why they
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  Speaker 9: wouldn't call him mom or dad if they're showing respect
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  Speaker 9: and love towards the kids.
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  Speaker 8: I have all the step mom, but it takes time.
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  Speaker 8: They have to earn that title. But it took years
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  Speaker 8: for me to call her, but I call her bonus mom,
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  Speaker 8: call her mom, I call her my bonus mom for
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  Speaker 8: almost seven years to come back. So no, I don't
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  Speaker 8: think it's.
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  Speaker 10: Okay, you know, to call anybody mom besides your mom
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  Speaker 10: or your.
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  Speaker 8: Father, unless it's okay the mother or father, like I said,
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  Speaker 8: they're my bonus mom.
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  Speaker 11: Just my opinion me personally, If the man and everything
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  Speaker 11: is doing his job regardless, and it's actually being an
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  Speaker 11: active parent. I think that it's okay, you know, it's
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  Speaker 11: it's not really a big toe in all, honestly, because
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  Speaker 11: it's just the same as.
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  Speaker 12: In my eyes, right, like how somebody could have one
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  Speaker 12: in the community, right and you call them aunty, but
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  Speaker 12: they're not really blood right, So I mean, it just
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  Speaker 12: all depends on the individual and everything, and if they
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  Speaker 12: feel comfortable, that's how I feel about it.
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  Speaker 13: I have no absolute problem with that. That's how my
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  Speaker 13: family raised me and a giant Southern community. So I
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  Speaker 13: called my stepma mom. My mother didn't have a problem
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  Speaker 13: with that. If that person is a great parent and
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  Speaker 13: they are helping you raise your child, by the way,
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  Speaker 13: then you should be able to call the mom or
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  Speaker 13: that if that's what they're happening. Like, no one said
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  Speaker 13: you can only have one mother.
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  Speaker 10: That's just stupid and ignorant.
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  Speaker 14: Hell to the now, if I'm involved in my children's life,
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  Speaker 14: there is no way on God's green nerves is I'm
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  Speaker 14: gonna let my children call somebody else's dad. For one,
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  Speaker 14: is disrespectful to me. For two, what is the mother
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  Speaker 14: saying about this? For three, it confuses my child. So
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  Speaker 14: now off the rip. I don't care what the dynamic is.
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  Speaker 14: If I am involved with my children, there is no
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  Speaker 14: fricking way on God's green nerd that they will be
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  Speaker 14: called or somebody else Dad.
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  Speaker 1: So the question we're asking his a little bit of
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  Speaker 1: the audio.
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  Speaker 2: I just met up with my ex husband to exchange
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  Speaker 2: our son and I found out that my toddler has
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  Speaker 2: been calling my ex husband's new wife Mama.
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  Speaker 1: What do you think?
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  Speaker 15: I think it depends on the dynamics, But I also
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  Speaker 15: think that that should have been a conversation that the
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  Speaker 15: three of them sat down and had together before the
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  Speaker 15: child started calling the stepmom mom. That way, at least
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  Speaker 15: the mother felt included and they could have respected whatever
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  Speaker 15: her decision would have been.
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  Speaker 4: And my answers, here, bro is.
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  Speaker 16: A route to the brother, route to the DL he
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  Speaker 16: was a brother? My answer is, actually, you're I'm older
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  Speaker 16: and I had to get permission from my mom. Actually
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  Speaker 16: why I ask my mom permission to call my wife's
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  Speaker 16: mom mom? So you know, I guess the different situations,
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  Speaker 16: but yeah, it's all about respect and you know how
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  Speaker 16: you were brought up.
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  Speaker 10: So first of all, I don't really care if my
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  Speaker 10: son calls someone else's mom, because what I know to
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  Speaker 10: be true is that evident is no one could take
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  Speaker 10: my place. And if the child tends to call that
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  Speaker 10: person mom or dad and they're not coersed, but they
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  Speaker 10: choose to call him, that that said something to me
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  Speaker 10: as his biological mother, that obviously the other person is
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  Speaker 10: treating him nice enough or kind enough where he feels
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  Speaker 10: comfortable calling her dad or if it could be vice
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  Speaker 10: versa mom or dad. So instead of us getting under defensive,
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  Speaker 10: it may say something about the person that they're really
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  Speaker 10: treating your child right, that they feel comfortable enough to
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  Speaker 10: call him. As long as a child chooses the comliment
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  Speaker 10: and not coerse by other individuals, I.
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  Speaker 7: Don't have a problem with it.
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  Speaker 17: I don't have a problem with it. I think that
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  Speaker 17: if the parent is proficient and doing their parental duties,
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  Speaker 17: you know, it's just a converse because it's more common
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  Speaker 17: today than it's ever been. I'm a believer in conversation,
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  Speaker 17: you know. I think the mother or fathers have a
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  Speaker 17: conversation with the child and see why they're doing that,
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  Speaker 17: you know what I mean. But if you're secure and
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  Speaker 17: what you're doing as a parent, I don't think it
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  Speaker 17: should be a problem. I think it's too many other
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  Speaker 17: problems in the world right there today to let that
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  Speaker 17: be an issue.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I'm going to give you my situation.
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  Speaker 8: My father left my mother when I was three months old,
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  Speaker 8: and my stepfather he's been there ever since, so I
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  Speaker 8: called him Dad.
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  Speaker 10: I called my father by his name. So it depends
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  Speaker 10: on the situation. I think it's a case by case basis.
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  Speaker 7: First of all, I want to set there who really
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  Speaker 7: you're doing a great job. I mean letting them knowboy
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  Speaker 7: Donald Trump, he just the biggest pig that the other
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  Speaker 7: man he called a pig. But get back to the top.
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  Speaker 7: It all depends on, you know, how old a kid is.
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  Speaker 7: Because I'm in marriage. I've been with the girl fifteen years,
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  Speaker 7: and after year my kids got called the mama. But
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  Speaker 7: along with the mumma is doing what she's supposed to
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  Speaker 7: be doing, you know, irritating a fan which may as
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  Speaker 7: didn't have a problem with it because she would buying this,
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  Speaker 7: spending more than the real mama was finding. But you know,
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  Speaker 7: I think it's okay. It just all depends on. Now,
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  Speaker 7: if you got a shaggy mama, get old mama. Yeah,
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  Speaker 7: she ain't gonna like it. I don't care if they
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  Speaker 7: buying them diamond rings or whatever they're doing for him,
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  Speaker 7: she ain't gonna like it no way. And to me,
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  Speaker 7: and they are the most problem out there. Did anybody
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  Speaker 7: when he called another man daddy? But if you're doing
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  Speaker 7: your job, you ain't got to worry about it.
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  Speaker 18: I think that relationships matter. My oldest son calls me mom,
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  Speaker 18: and he calls his bonus mother my gi. He calls
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  Speaker 18: his dad dad and calls my husband his bonus dad, huh,
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  Speaker 18: and we all get along. He was raised by four
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  Speaker 18: amazing parents, And like I said, relationship matters. So I
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  Speaker 18: don't see a problem with it as long as everybody
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  Speaker 18: agrees to it and get along.
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  Speaker 1: And it's fine that boy trades Hit'll let us know
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  Speaker 1: what life is like. At an HBCU went with My
• 9:01
  Speaker 1: Life on the yall, excuse me, my Life after the Yard?
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  Speaker 4: The graduapec. What's good, y'all?
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  Speaker 19: This is that boy tray back then with another episode
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  Speaker 19: of My Life on the Yard, And so I look.
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  Speaker 4: At an HBC graduate's life.
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  Speaker 1: We had to switch up the.
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  Speaker 19: Intro, outtro all that stuff because I'm not an HBC
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  Speaker 19: student anymore.
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  Speaker 4: It's officially postgrad graduate life.
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  Speaker 19: And we are still playing scheming, doing all that is
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  Speaker 19: necessary for the next steps. It has become a common
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  Speaker 19: trend amongst me and my friends that we are all
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  Speaker 19: currently unemployed. We are all just rocking right now.
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  Speaker 1: So many of my guys.
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  Speaker 19: Came back home and are just chilling at the crib.
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  Speaker 19: Jobs are just really, really, really hard to come by.
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  Speaker 19: Some of the smartest, most qualified resume people I know
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  Speaker 19: are struggling to find jobs.
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  Speaker 4: I'm feeling that too.
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  Speaker 19: I'm back home, but not like it's staying here crazy
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  Speaker 19: or anything like that. I'm just back for a week
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  Speaker 19: and some change, actually moving around on some business stuff,
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  Speaker 19: trying to get involved in some really cool things, taking
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  Speaker 19: the necessary steps, moving the right chess pieces, and right
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  Speaker 19: now things might be kind of uncertain, but we are
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  Speaker 19: moving in the right direction. I got a lot of
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  Speaker 19: stuff going on this summer that could potentially change my life.
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  Speaker 19: So it's really just about putting the head down.
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  Speaker 20: And taking the necessary steps and doing all the right work.
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  Speaker 20: I ain't trying to be crashing at mom and Dad's
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  Speaker 20: place into my twenties, not knocking anybody who has to
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  Speaker 20: do that.
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  Speaker 19: Because the economy sucks right now. Oh my god, the economy,
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  Speaker 19: the job market, everything is so damn expensive anywhere worth
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  Speaker 19: being a studio apartment. Oh my god, it's gonna run you.
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  Speaker 4: Like fifteen hundred.
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  Speaker 19: Damn here. It is tough out here. And my mom
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  Speaker 19: was talking to me and my friends about how when
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  Speaker 19: she got out of college, she had a damn near
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  Speaker 19: six figure job lined up, you know, didn't even look
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  Speaker 19: back at her parents' crib, had her apartment set up
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  Speaker 19: and everything.
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  Speaker 4: She admitted herself. She's like, hey, it's a different day
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  Speaker 4: in time now, y'all have it way tougher.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm glad that she sees that, and it's.
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  Speaker 19: Comforting knowing I could come back home if need be,
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  Speaker 19: but hell nah, I need to get on my own stuff.
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  Speaker 4: Anyways. That's all I got for y'all today. So next time, there's.
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  Speaker 19: Been that boy Trey, and this has been my life on.
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  Speaker 1: The yard inside. Look at an HBCU graduate's life