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90 Day Fiance Season 12 Episodes 9&10: Actions Speak Louder Than Words; I'm Questioning Everything · 90 Day Book Club

• 0:01
  SPEAKER_00: The 90 Day Book Club is intended for entertainment purposes only and contains adult language.
• 0:17
  SPEAKER_00: Hello everyone and welcome back to the 90 Day Book Club.
• 0:21
  SPEAKER_00: This is a reality TV recap podcast.
• 0:24
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host.
• 0:25
  SPEAKER_00: My name is Jen.
• 0:27
  SPEAKER_00: Why is this show called 90 Day Book Club?
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: Well, here's why.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: I am not just a reality TV addict, I'm also a reader and an author of romance books, and this year La Podcast is my outlet for all of the above.
• 0:44
  SPEAKER_00: Today I'm recapping episodes 9 and 10 of 90 Day Fiance.
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_00: Episode 9, action speak louder than words.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_00: And episode 10, I'm questioning everything.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_00: I am questioning everything the more I watch the show.
• 0:59
  SPEAKER_00: I'm questioning everything about myself.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: At the end of the show, if you need more escape, I'm gonna plug some of my books.
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: So let's get going with Marissa and Edward.
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_00: Jersey smells bad.
• 1:17
  SPEAKER_00: Did you know that?
• 1:19
  SPEAKER_00: This is what Marissa needs to point out to Edward as they're driving into the city.
• 1:26
  SPEAKER_00: What a beginning to the show.
• 1:28
  SPEAKER_00: She sort of shames him for not knowing what the Empire State Building is.
• 1:33
  SPEAKER_00: She says you gotta learn a lot about New York.
• 1:35
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I really hate it when people are like this when you don't know something.
• 1:41
  SPEAKER_00: You don't know what the Empire State Building is?
• 1:43
  SPEAKER_00: You've never seen X-Men.
• 1:46
  SPEAKER_00: You've never watched Sandlot.
• 1:49
  SPEAKER_00: We all gotta do stop doing that.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_00: Including myself.
• 1:52
  SPEAKER_00: I recognize myself in this and I'm working on it.
• 1:55
  SPEAKER_00: I just I don't I really don't like this.
• 1:57
  SPEAKER_00: Especially somebody who's not from the US.
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_00: So before she goes to work, she takes Edward to see her New York apartment where she stays, I guess, during the week while she's working.
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_00: It is highly entertaining watching Edward encounter a motion sensor trash can for the first time.
• 2:21
  SPEAKER_00: And just like she did with the touch faucet at her house, just like she shooed him away from the chocolate.
• 2:31
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I'm still mad about that.
• 2:32
  SPEAKER_00: She has to cut him off and get annoyed immediately because he's playing with the motion center trash can.
• 2:38
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, let the man play with some toys, please.
• 2:43
  SPEAKER_00: Later on, they show them at a restaurant, and it's a really nice view of the city, and once again she quizzes him.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_00: That building over there is the Chrysler building, she points out.
• 2:54
  SPEAKER_00: Do you remember the name of the other building I showed you earlier?
• 2:57
  SPEAKER_00: Stop it.
• 3:00
  SPEAKER_00: So Marissa says she wants this to be a fun date night, but she notices that Edward is looking kind of serious.
• 3:10
  SPEAKER_00: He says he's aggravated because he feels like he's under a lot of pressure.
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_00: He says, You like to be in control, but I also want to be in control because I'm the man.
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_00: Marissa says, You say that, but there are several things I'm looking for.
• 3:25
  SPEAKER_00: She says, I'm looking for you to be productive, and I don't know if you can do that.
• 3:31
  SPEAKER_00: Wow, I'm already two minutes into this show and I'm hating this episode completely.
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: He says, the only thing I need is time.
• 3:41
  SPEAKER_00: I will figure things out.
• 3:43
  SPEAKER_00: She says, Well, I haven't seen you figure anything out yet.
• 3:46
  SPEAKER_00: I do believe you could be successful, but I've yet to see you be successful in your life at all.
• 3:53
  SPEAKER_00: The thing she says makes me have to watch through my fingers, like holding my fingers up over my eyes like I'm watching a horror movie.
• 4:01
  SPEAKER_00: This is like jump scare things that she says of him.
• 4:09
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, so the next time we see them, they're at Kleinfeld Bridal, where Marissa works.
• 4:15
  SPEAKER_00: Everyone there is over the moon to meet Edward.
• 4:20
  SPEAKER_00: It is very cute.
• 4:21
  SPEAKER_00: He gets lots of hugs.
• 4:23
  SPEAKER_00: He says he feels like a rock star and he wants to go back in and do that again.
• 4:29
  SPEAKER_00: Uh later on, Edward's wandering around Times Square while Marissa's at work.
• 4:34
  SPEAKER_00: She's worried about him, but he says, there's like a thousand Dominicans here.
• 4:38
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna be okay.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, this man is like a puppy in all of the everything in Times Square.
• 4:46
  SPEAKER_00: Excited about everything.
• 4:48
  SPEAKER_00: I want a full episode of Edward walking around the city and making comments about everything.
• 4:57
  SPEAKER_00: So in the next episode, episode 10, um, we have Trash Gate.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_00: This is following closely, I guess, on the heels of Gate Gate, where he fixed the fence uh very jankly with some random pieces of crown molding laying around.
• 5:17
  SPEAKER_00: And she's explaining you have to make the trash look neat when you take it to the curb.
• 5:24
  SPEAKER_00: And he uh is uh trying to understand what curb means.
• 5:31
  SPEAKER_00: And actually what's happening here is he heard her say curva, which in Spanish means curve with a V.
• 5:41
  SPEAKER_00: So she has to explain to him what a curb means in English.
• 5:45
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know what it is in Spanish.
• 5:46
  SPEAKER_00: There's lots of different words for the different meanings of curb in Spanish.
• 5:53
  SPEAKER_00: But you understand this is a a communication issue.
• 5:57
  SPEAKER_00: Very simple.
• 5:58
  SPEAKER_00: Now we know.
• 5:59
  SPEAKER_00: See, he figured it out.
• 6:01
  SPEAKER_00: I think Marissa just has a very low tolerance for trial and error.
• 6:07
  SPEAKER_00: And in her talking head, she says it's taking him a lot longer to integrate into the culture than I thought it would.
• 6:19
  SPEAKER_00: So she has a little uh brunch at the country club with Mama Joanne.
• 6:26
  SPEAKER_00: Emily Gilmore is not the person I would be venting to because we know she's biased, she does not approve of this engagement.
• 6:37
  SPEAKER_00: Marissa confesses to Joanne that she's disappointed in herself because of the way that she talks to him and he doesn't get mad.
• 6:50
  SPEAKER_00: Joanne says, You say he never gets mad, and that's a problem.
• 6:54
  SPEAKER_00: And Marissa agrees with this.
• 6:56
  SPEAKER_00: She's like, be a man, speak up for yourself.
• 7:00
  SPEAKER_00: And then Joanne says, he may be a really nice guy, but you can't teach someone to have a fire in the belly.
• 7:10
  SPEAKER_00: If you don't see ambition in 90 days, that's the person you have.
• 7:17
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 7:18
  SPEAKER_00: So this word choice is really leaning in to a whole uh set of stereotypes about Latin American culture being lazy, and I hate it.
• 7:34
  SPEAKER_00: I think we can see that Edward is not lazy.
• 7:37
  SPEAKER_00: He I do think is trying so hard, and this is so difficult to watch sometimes.
• 7:45
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes she doesn't make any sense to me.
• 7:47
  SPEAKER_00: Let's move on to Mallory and Rashit, please.
• 7:52
  SPEAKER_00: So, of course, they got the$25 attachment for an improvised bidet on their toilet, just like I predicted they would.
• 8:03
  SPEAKER_00: These two are so goofy together in their talking head.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_00: I laugh so hard.
• 8:09
  SPEAKER_00: Mallory says, I was worried that with an$800 bidet, he would leave me because the$25 one isn't gonna twiddle his ball sack.
• 8:22
  SPEAKER_00: Uh Rashit turns to her.
• 8:24
  SPEAKER_00: He says, You are my everything baby.
• 8:26
  SPEAKER_00: Shut up.
• 8:28
  SPEAKER_00: So also they have set up a place for Rasheed to do some woodworking in a shed on her property, which is really nice.
• 8:38
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but one day while he's out there working, she comes out with a piece of paper that has a rundown of everything she has to pay for every month.
• 8:47
  SPEAKER_00: Her monthly bills, um, grocery expenses.
• 8:52
  SPEAKER_00: Rashid says, well, I need to add 100, 150 per month for my family.
• 8:58
  SPEAKER_00: He says, My family's living in a tent, baby.
• 9:01
  SPEAKER_00: They need money.
• 9:03
  SPEAKER_00: This is probably the not the best time to bring up the idea of a prenup, but here we go.
• 9:11
  SPEAKER_00: Mallory tries to explain to Rashit by asking, Do you know what a prenuptial agreement is?
• 9:19
  SPEAKER_00: He says, No.
• 9:20
  SPEAKER_00: She says, when you go into a marriage, you have a list of things that I have and a things list of things that you have, so that in 10 years or 20 years down the line, we can't say, I'm leaving you or you're leaving me, and one of us wants half of her accident money, for example, from her settlement.
• 9:42
  SPEAKER_00: So as he's absorbing all of this, it it goes south pretty quickly, the way it always does with these types of conversations on this show.
• 9:53
  SPEAKER_00: He says, Well, you broke my heart right now, baby.
• 9:55
  SPEAKER_00: I don't want your money.
• 9:59
  SPEAKER_00: She tries to explain.
• 10:00
  SPEAKER_00: I've never had a good example in marriage.
• 10:03
  SPEAKER_00: Her parents broke up when she was 10.
• 10:05
  SPEAKER_00: It was really ugly.
• 10:06
  SPEAKER_00: Mallory says it kind of alters your brain forever.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_00: And Rashi cannot relate, he had a more positive family dynamic.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_00: So, of course, Rashi thinks she doesn't trust him and she's trying to explain.
• 10:19
  SPEAKER_00: It's not about distrust, it's about what I've been through and needing to protect myself.
• 10:25
  SPEAKER_00: He doesn't understand why she thinks they're gonna break up in 15 years or 20 years.
• 10:30
  SPEAKER_00: So he's definitely not gonna sign it.
• 10:32
  SPEAKER_00: And this interaction goes very badly, ends up with her storming off, him cursing at her.
• 10:39
  SPEAKER_00: I don't like to see these two like this.
• 10:44
  SPEAKER_00: And this is one of those moments where they really needed a translator because most of these fiancés coming over to the States are not familiar with what a prenup is, and also to have him visit with a lawyer independently so he knows what he's signing if she actually ends up drawing something up.
• 11:05
  SPEAKER_00: So in episode 10, he he appears to be still moody about this uh the next time we see them.
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_00: They are in the car headed to Huntsville, Alabama to see the Trash Pandas baseball team minor leagues.
• 11:24
  SPEAKER_00: It's his first baseball game.
• 11:25
  SPEAKER_00: She's hoping Mallory's hoping this will cheer him up a little bit.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_00: And we come to find out Rasheed is gonna throw out the first pitch.
• 11:36
  SPEAKER_00: Um, he's excited, but he's also pissed because Brandy is coming.
• 11:41
  SPEAKER_00: He's upset that Brandy still calls Mallory and texts Mallory.
• 11:46
  SPEAKER_00: Rasheed insists on Turkey, this would be considered disrespectful.
• 11:52
  SPEAKER_00: But hey, Rashi throws a pretty good first pitch, better than I would throw.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_00: Of course, Brandy can't let that go without a comment.
• 12:01
  SPEAKER_00: Says, my grandma can throw better than that.
• 12:06
  SPEAKER_00: Rin, his best friend, says, Do you remember the first time you threw a baseball?
• 12:10
  SPEAKER_00: Brandy says, Yeah, it was majestic.
• 12:15
  SPEAKER_00: Roshit goes back to the stands, and of course, there's a little kerfuffle about the seating arrangement.
• 12:20
  SPEAKER_00: He doesn't want Mallory sitting next to Brandy, as if they're gonna start taking their clothes off in the middle of the minor league baseball stadium.
• 12:28
  SPEAKER_00: So the national anthem begins, and everybody stands up, and Brandy goes, nudges Rasheed, stand up and take your hat off.
• 12:38
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, he doesn't know, and you could say it a little nicer, Brandy.
• 12:44
  SPEAKER_00: Then things really fall apart when Rasheed asks Rin how baseball is played, and Brandy cuts in and starts to explain the baseball.
• 12:54
  SPEAKER_00: Meanwhile, the girls, Michaela and Mallory, have gone off to get some beers, specifically those baseball bat cups full of beer.
• 13:03
  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, Rin is starting to explain it, and uh Brandy cuts in with more explanation, and Rashit looks and says, No, I want to listen to Rin, not you.
• 13:14
  SPEAKER_00: So Brandy walks off.
• 13:16
  SPEAKER_00: Rin turns to Rasheed and very wisely, very diplomatically says, I'm gonna tell you right now, I've known Brandy for a long time.
• 13:26
  SPEAKER_00: He's my best friend, he has no intentions with Mallory.
• 13:30
  SPEAKER_00: You'll see the good side of him one day.
• 13:32
  SPEAKER_00: And I think they're definitely setting us up for them to be friends eventually.
• 13:38
  SPEAKER_00: Then Brandy comes back and says something that I'm not clear what it is.
• 13:43
  SPEAKER_00: He's scooting past Rashit as he's heading back to his seat, and he says something like, excuse me, shitballs?
• 13:52
  SPEAKER_00: Fuck balls?
• 13:53
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 13:53
  SPEAKER_00: They bleep out the first words.
• 13:54
  SPEAKER_00: I have it's something balls, which is I I can't figure out what it is that he said.
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_00: So Mallory and Michaela come back with the beers in the baseball pat and realize what's been going on.
• 14:09
  SPEAKER_00: Mallory turns to him and says, You're gonna have to put your big boy pants on and get over this.
• 14:14
  SPEAKER_00: But Rashid doubles down, turns to Brandy, says, I don't want to be friends with you.
• 14:17
  SPEAKER_00: Brandy throws his popcorn, and this conversation is over.
• 14:22
  SPEAKER_00: Rashit, I've been rooting for you all season, and you're being a real dick right now.
• 14:28
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I'm gonna move on to Thomas and Paola.
• 14:33
  SPEAKER_00: So this guy, Paola has been in this apartment for a couple weeks now.
• 14:38
  SPEAKER_00: She still does not have a dresser.
• 14:41
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so this scene is sort of coming in at the tail end of another argument about furniture.
• 14:49
  SPEAKER_00: She says she doesn't want to keep saying she wants to go back to Brazil, but if she doesn't see any movement on Thomas's part, she doesn't want to keep spending her energy fighting and would just prefer to go back.
• 15:00
  SPEAKER_00: Thomas is upset.
• 15:02
  SPEAKER_00: She he does not want to see her leave.
• 15:04
  SPEAKER_00: She's getting all teary-eyed and saying, I need you to recognize I have different needs than you.
• 15:11
  SPEAKER_00: I'm asking for acknowledgement.
• 15:12
  SPEAKER_00: Finally, he says, Yeah, I recognize that you had different needs.
• 15:16
  SPEAKER_00: And they hug.
• 15:18
  SPEAKER_00: And she reminds him, This is my home.
• 15:20
  SPEAKER_00: This is not a hotel.
• 15:23
  SPEAKER_00: Thomas says, Yeah, these things are important to you, but we have to make a wedding happen.
• 15:29
  SPEAKER_00: Finally, they agree, they kiss and make up.
• 15:34
  SPEAKER_00: But this is not going to be the end of the argument about space and furniture and tiny stuffs, I assure you.
• 15:43
  SPEAKER_00: In the next scene, we we watch them um headed to the Queen Mary, which is a huge ship permanently docked at Long Beach.
• 15:55
  SPEAKER_00: Formerly a cruise ship, then it became a warship, and now it's a hotel.
• 16:01
  SPEAKER_00: Um, Thomas says Paula's obsessed with it because she thinks there's ghosts on board.
• 16:06
  SPEAKER_00: And here we meet one of the star extras, certainly the best officiant of the season.
• 16:13
  SPEAKER_00: Captain James.
• 16:16
  SPEAKER_00: They give him a tour of the boat.
• 16:17
  SPEAKER_00: Captain James tells us that it's the most haunted place in Long Beach.
• 16:24
  SPEAKER_00: Um, it's frequently haunted by a spirit people have been calling the Lady in White.
• 16:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um, pretty obvious that Thomas does not believe in ghosts.
• 16:38
  SPEAKER_00: And Paula says, I will be the first person to pray for the ghost to go to the light.
• 16:44
  SPEAKER_00: Um, okay, I gotta say, the bow of the ship where they're gonna do the ceremony is a gorgeous view.
• 16:53
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm happy to see them both on the same page about this.
• 16:56
  SPEAKER_00: They're both happy about this idea.
• 16:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um, then they get to a brief conversation about family and whether or not they'll come to the wedding.
• 17:05
  SPEAKER_00: And this time we get a little bit more background about Thomas's parents.
• 17:10
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so the two sides of the family have never gotten along.
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_00: There was a lot of fighting during Thomas's childhood.
• 17:15
  SPEAKER_00: And the last time Paula visited North Carolina, Thomas introduced her to his biological mom, and then Paula posted about it on social media, and the other side of the family got real butthurt about it.
• 17:28
  SPEAKER_00: Um, his stepmom said it was an injustice.
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_00: Sounds very dramatic.
• 17:34
  SPEAKER_00: Paula says, family's very important to me.
• 17:36
  SPEAKER_00: I think we should go there and talk to them about how you feel.
• 17:39
  SPEAKER_00: Thomas does want both of his parents there.
• 17:42
  SPEAKER_00: So now we're planning a trip to North Carolina.
• 17:46
  SPEAKER_00: Cut to them flying on a plane to Charlotte.
• 17:51
  SPEAKER_00: Um, she's got her tiny stuffs on the plane and it's adorable.
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_00: They show them driving to the farm.
• 17:58
  SPEAKER_00: I really wonder where they are.
• 17:59
  SPEAKER_00: It looks a lot like places close to where I live.
• 18:06
  SPEAKER_00: Um, oh my god, what if they're in the same county as me?
• 18:10
  SPEAKER_00: I would die.
• 18:12
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, so we meet Thomas' dad.
• 18:16
  SPEAKER_00: His name is also Tom, and we meet Rini, the stepmom.
• 18:20
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, right out the gate.
• 18:21
  SPEAKER_00: Reanie in her on the fly interview is so mean.
• 18:27
  SPEAKER_00: Um, Tom, the dad says, the first time I met Paula, she was very family-oriented, and I recognize that.
• 18:34
  SPEAKER_00: And Reanie says, I don't feel very close at all to them.
• 18:38
  SPEAKER_00: Great.
• 18:39
  SPEAKER_00: So good, good first interview.
• 18:42
  SPEAKER_00: Um, for some reason, these people are making them stay in a camper on the property, and it kind of looks like Tom and Raini are also staying in a camper, and I do not understand what's going on here.
• 18:55
  SPEAKER_00: Um, Thomas is explaining to Paula about how they have to empty the uh tank when they're done using the camper to clean out all the sewage.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_00: She is disgusted by this.
• 19:09
  SPEAKER_00: So Paula says, Can I go in the middle of the forest?
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_00: Because I think that's a better place with a dirty than dealing with a dirty tank we have to clean at the end of the trip.
• 19:19
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, I agree.
• 19:21
  SPEAKER_00: I agree.
• 19:23
  SPEAKER_00: Um, they come out of the camper after they change clothes, and Rini, right away, because she's super pleasant, says, A blue jean skirt and a tank top is not farm clothes.
• 19:33
  SPEAKER_00: And Tom, the dad, is trying to be nice about it and says it's not bad.
• 19:38
  SPEAKER_00: We get some very funny scenes of Paula feeding the sheep, actually running away from the sheep and throwing food at them.
• 19:47
  SPEAKER_00: Um, later, Paola, this is why I love her so much.
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_00: She has a tiny suitcase and gives it to Reanie as an invitation to the wedding.
• 19:58
  SPEAKER_00: And Reanie is all about it.
• 20:02
  SPEAKER_00: It has a tiny little pig in there.
• 20:04
  SPEAKER_00: She loves it.
• 20:07
  SPEAKER_00: So they're having a cookout outside.
• 20:10
  SPEAKER_00: I'm starting to think, what is the reason?
• 20:12
  SPEAKER_00: We're not getting any shots of the inside of the house.
• 20:15
  SPEAKER_00: What's going on in there?
• 20:18
  SPEAKER_00: What are they doing in there?
• 20:20
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, Reading once again surprises me, makes vegan burgers for Paula, which is nice.
• 20:25
  SPEAKER_00: And she does ask Paula some questions about herself.
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_00: When Thomas drops the bomb, that he plans to invite his biological mother.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_00: You can kind of hear the crickets for a minute after that.
• 20:39
  SPEAKER_00: And then we get a side interview with his dad, who explains that when Thomas was nine, um, there was a divorce.
• 20:48
  SPEAKER_00: The mom, the biological mom was not involved with the kids, so I ended up with the kids, which is not normal, he says.
• 20:56
  SPEAKER_00: He says I had to be strong for and be there for them, and they had to be strong for themselves.
• 21:03
  SPEAKER_00: I want more information.
• 21:08
  SPEAKER_00: In the end, Thomas's dad and Raini say they're gonna do their best to come to the wedding.
• 21:16
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm kind of reading them as definitely not coming.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_00: Rene's already making excuses about how there's nobody to cover the farm.
• 21:28
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm sorry.
• 21:29
  SPEAKER_00: You there's farmers have a network, you can find somebody to cover the farm for a few days.
• 21:36
  SPEAKER_00: And that's all we get of Thomas and Paula.
• 21:38
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna move on to Josh and Katie.
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_00: Hold on, I need a drink.
• 21:45
  SPEAKER_00: So it's the next morning after Katie's rampage at the bar on her birthday, and of course, she's waking up, puking, and hungover, and looks like all the blood has been drained for her body, just pale, translucent, dehydrated, miserable, puffy.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: My gosh.
• 22:02
  SPEAKER_00: Josh tells her, Well, last night you were literally trying to make out with everything that moves.
• 22:06
  SPEAKER_00: She says she's sorry.
• 22:09
  SPEAKER_00: And he says, sorry stops meaning anything after a while.
• 22:12
  SPEAKER_00: Sooner or later.
• 22:13
  SPEAKER_00: You need to see some action.
• 22:16
  SPEAKER_00: She does look pretty regretful when he tells her she was trying to kiss Mark and he didn't want to be kissed.
• 22:23
  SPEAKER_00: She says, Well, I don't want to cross his boundaries.
• 22:25
  SPEAKER_00: And Josh is like, You're you're you're you're crossing my boundaries.
• 22:31
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and Katie's talking head, she is very upset and says she's definitely lost friends because of her behavior.
• 22:38
  SPEAKER_00: And she starts to cry and says, I don't want anybody to abandon me.
• 22:42
  SPEAKER_00: This girl has some deep issues.
• 22:44
  SPEAKER_00: Ultimately, Josh tells her it's up to her to decide whether or not she can show him that she's committed.
• 22:50
  SPEAKER_00: It's up to her whether or not this relationship will work.
• 22:54
  SPEAKER_00: Katie says, Because of my OCD, I tell myself to stop obsessing about things and enjoy the moment, but then I relax and I get impulsive and make out with people.
• 23:07
  SPEAKER_00: No, you're an alcoholic and you black out and you lose control of your judgment.
• 23:12
  SPEAKER_00: That is what is happening here.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so then we see Ryan.
• 23:17
  SPEAKER_00: Um, again, he's still in town.
• 23:20
  SPEAKER_00: They go for a run.
• 23:21
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, props to her for going for a run while she's hung over.
• 23:24
  SPEAKER_00: My gosh.
• 23:25
  SPEAKER_00: Ryan is the only person in her life, despite their past, who has been really honest with her.
• 23:34
  SPEAKER_00: Um, after they run, they sit down and talk, and she's like, I'm worried.
• 23:37
  SPEAKER_00: He says, I'm worried about your relationship to alcohol.
• 23:41
  SPEAKER_00: Katie says, Yeah, Josh was disappointed in me.
• 23:43
  SPEAKER_00: I feel defeated and sad.
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_00: I'm worried I'll never change and I'll ruin my life.
• 23:49
  SPEAKER_00: Ryan says, Why do you think he keeps forgiving you?
• 23:52
  SPEAKER_00: And what would happen if he stopped forgiving you?
• 23:55
  SPEAKER_00: How would that feel?
• 23:56
  SPEAKER_00: And she says, I'd be in a really bad place.
• 23:59
  SPEAKER_00: Ryan says, Should you be getting married with these feelings?
• 24:02
  SPEAKER_00: Katie says, Realistically, not.
• 24:05
  SPEAKER_00: But if we want to start our life together, we have to get married.
• 24:11
  SPEAKER_00: Why do you have to get married?
• 24:14
  SPEAKER_00: Why don't you want to work on yourself before you get married?
• 24:20
  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna move on to Aisha and Maxwell.
• 24:25
  SPEAKER_00: Um, back in Nigeria, they are going to a restaurant for a date night together.
• 24:31
  SPEAKER_00: And he wants to know why she was flinging his arm away when he was trying to put his arm around her in the market.
• 24:37
  SPEAKER_00: He says, He didn't like that.
• 24:38
  SPEAKER_00: He says, Oh, oh, they give us a flashback where he says, You better behave yourself.
• 24:43
  SPEAKER_00: And she's like, quit using the word behave.
• 24:47
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so in Asia's Talking Head, she says, This is not the Maxwell that I know.
• 24:51
  SPEAKER_00: Usually he's very chill and caring and lovey dovey, and now he seems more focused on other people's opinions.
• 24:59
  SPEAKER_00: She asks him to clarify what he said in the car, saying that he wasn't sure about the relationship and whether or not God really wants him to be married.
• 25:10
  SPEAKER_00: She says, It's amazing to me you went this long being head over heels and all of a sudden you're feeling shaky.
• 25:15
  SPEAKER_00: Maxwell says, I just want things to be done the right way.
• 25:18
  SPEAKER_00: I want peace between you and my family.
• 25:21
  SPEAKER_00: Aisha says, I'm not disrespecting your family.
• 25:24
  SPEAKER_00: He says, You better not.
• 25:26
  SPEAKER_00: And she says, hush.
• 25:28
  SPEAKER_00: And he says, Don't tell me to hush.
• 25:31
  SPEAKER_00: And she has to get up from the table to walk away.
• 25:34
  SPEAKER_00: She goes to the bathroom to cool down.
• 25:36
  SPEAKER_00: That's probably a smart move.
• 25:38
  SPEAKER_00: And when she comes back to Maxwell and sits down, and she says, You need to decide right now if this is what you want to do, because I will pack up my mom and go back to the United States.
• 25:49
  SPEAKER_00: She says, God told you I was your wife.
• 25:53
  SPEAKER_00: Do you want to protect our relationship or do you want to tear up the relationship?
• 25:58
  SPEAKER_00: Maxwell says, if I didn't want you, I wouldn't let you come here.
• 26:01
  SPEAKER_00: But at the same time, I want things done the right way.
• 26:04
  SPEAKER_00: He says, You're marrying me and my family.
• 26:07
  SPEAKER_00: I'm marrying you and your family.
• 26:09
  SPEAKER_00: If my family doesn't have a place in the relationship, I don't like it.
• 26:13
  SPEAKER_00: She says, I love your family.
• 26:14
  SPEAKER_00: Don't worry about that.
• 26:17
  SPEAKER_00: He says, I choose you, baby.
• 26:19
  SPEAKER_00: I love everything about you.
• 26:21
  SPEAKER_00: She says, Okay, we gotta pray like we've been doing and not let the devil in.
• 26:26
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so then they move on to make a pro-con list about trying again with a fiance visa or going for the spousal visa.
• 26:38
  SPEAKER_00: When they talked to the consulate, uh, the person they talked to kind of sounded like they didn't want them to attempt the fiance visa again.
• 26:47
  SPEAKER_00: So they're gonna opt for the spousal visa spousal visa.
• 26:51
  SPEAKER_00: Now they're excited.
• 26:52
  SPEAKER_00: She says, We're getting married, sweetie.
• 26:54
  SPEAKER_00: He says, 100%.
• 26:55
  SPEAKER_00: Now they gotta go get the dress and the hair and certificate and the paperwork and efficient.
• 26:59
  SPEAKER_00: They got a lot of planning to do.
• 27:01
  SPEAKER_00: And she's got to get some of our other family members over to Nigeria to witness the wedding.
• 27:08
  SPEAKER_00: Back at the Airbnb, Sister Blaze and the Mamas are talking.
• 27:14
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, Maria, Mama Maxwell, says to Juliet, I want to discuss Acia's age.
• 27:20
  SPEAKER_00: Juliet is my favorite person.
• 27:24
  SPEAKER_00: She's sitting there sipping her wine and smiling.
• 27:27
  SPEAKER_00: She is happy and unbothered.
• 27:30
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, Maria says to Blaze, Did you know about Aisha's age?
• 27:34
  SPEAKER_00: She's 38 years old.
• 27:36
  SPEAKER_00: Blaze is like, huh?
• 27:39
  SPEAKER_00: In her talking head, she says, Is Maxwell okay?
• 27:42
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like they are joking.
• 27:44
  SPEAKER_00: This is weird.
• 27:44
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so Acia and Maxwell walk in with the snacks.
• 27:47
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know what this timeline is, if this is the same night as their date, or if this is another night, I don't know.
• 27:53
  SPEAKER_00: This must be why Juliet is so happy.
• 27:55
  SPEAKER_00: My girl Juliet likes to eat.
• 27:57
  SPEAKER_00: But they come in and they say, We got a big announcement.
• 28:00
  SPEAKER_00: Maxwell says, We're gonna do the spouse of Visa on this trip, and we're gonna get married in a little ceremony, and we're gonna bring some family here.
• 28:11
  SPEAKER_00: Juliet looks over at Maria, says, Mom, you look disappointed.
• 28:17
  SPEAKER_00: And uh, Maria's like, I am surprised.
• 28:20
  SPEAKER_00: Blaise says, Actually, I'm bothered.
• 28:23
  SPEAKER_00: Mom just told me she's older than you by 10 years.
• 28:26
  SPEAKER_00: The difference is quite much.
• 28:27
  SPEAKER_00: Maxwell says, How did you know?
• 28:29
  SPEAKER_00: Blaise says, Well, mom told me.
• 28:31
  SPEAKER_00: Juliette says, I said it when we were talking.
• 28:35
  SPEAKER_00: Juliet does not like all this.
• 28:37
  SPEAKER_00: Well, who told you and how did you know?
• 28:38
  SPEAKER_00: She's just like, no, I told everybody.
• 28:40
  SPEAKER_00: It was me.
• 28:41
  SPEAKER_00: Let's get on with it.
• 28:43
  SPEAKER_00: Aisha says, I deliberately did not tell these people my age because of how she knows they view older women.
• 28:52
  SPEAKER_00: Blaise looks at Aisha and says, You have a good character, but the age difference.
• 28:56
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not in support of it.
• 28:58
  SPEAKER_00: She says, I can be 10 years or 100 years older than Maxwell, but one thing for sure, we're getting married because this union is God ordained.
• 29:07
  SPEAKER_00: Clement, Maxwell's dad says, This is not what I expect from you, Maxwell.
• 29:13
  SPEAKER_00: I don't like this.
• 29:14
  SPEAKER_00: Blaze was like, Well, and how long before you have kids?
• 29:17
  SPEAKER_00: Aisha says, give us a year.
• 29:19
  SPEAKER_00: He needs to settle in, get a job, you know, acclimate acclimate to the United States.
• 29:25
  SPEAKER_00: Blaise is not having it.
• 29:27
  SPEAKER_00: Aisha's like, who created time?
• 29:32
  SPEAKER_00: This is actually brilliant.
• 29:34
  SPEAKER_00: Um, Blaise says, God.
• 29:36
  SPEAKER_00: Aisha says, so the creator of time put us together at a certain time, and we are going to trust in God's timing.
• 29:43
  SPEAKER_00: And she looks at Maxwell.
• 29:44
  SPEAKER_00: Is that right, sweetie?
• 29:45
  SPEAKER_00: He says, Yes.
• 29:48
  SPEAKER_00: Asia says, in the US, we have options.
• 29:51
  SPEAKER_00: You can freeze your eggs, there's surrogacy.
• 29:54
  SPEAKER_00: Fertility is a very personal and it's a bit much, but we are all faith-based people.
• 30:00
  SPEAKER_00: She says Sarah in the Bible was 90-something years old when she had a child.
• 30:05
  SPEAKER_00: If God wants it to happen, it's gonna happen.
• 30:08
  SPEAKER_00: Blaise says, I'm still worried.
• 30:10
  SPEAKER_00: Juliet's like, what are you worried about?
• 30:14
  SPEAKER_00: Blaise says, I'm worried about how she might treat him.
• 30:17
  SPEAKER_00: I'm worried she might treat him bad.
• 30:19
  SPEAKER_00: Juliet gets right to the point.
• 30:22
  SPEAKER_00: She turns to Max.
• 30:23
  SPEAKER_00: Maxwell, are you worried she's gonna mistreat you?
• 30:27
  SPEAKER_00: Maxwell says, Mama, Aisha is not going to even try it.
• 30:31
  SPEAKER_00: Aisha respects me a hundred percent.
• 30:33
  SPEAKER_00: Juliet says, I know that's right.
• 30:35
  SPEAKER_00: Maxwell is grown.
• 30:39
  SPEAKER_00: I love Julia so much.
• 30:43
  SPEAKER_00: And Maxwell says, You are all worried about the wife submitting to the husband, but the Bible says, submit to one another.
• 30:52
  SPEAKER_00: Ooh, get ready for the Bible lessons.
• 30:56
  SPEAKER_00: He says, So, submission is not only about woman to man.
• 31:00
  SPEAKER_00: He says, I'm looking not for a wife, but a partner.
• 31:04
  SPEAKER_00: People have been missing their blessings because of the things they have in consideration.
• 31:09
  SPEAKER_00: They want someone tall, they want someone fit, but you should look out for understanding, respect.
• 31:15
  SPEAKER_00: Respect is earned, and I've earned it from Aisha.
• 31:18
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my goodness, Maxwell, you're giving me the chills.
• 31:21
  SPEAKER_00: Blaze finally concedes.
• 31:23
  SPEAKER_00: She says, If mama says you won't be mistreated, I want to believe in your mom.
• 31:31
  SPEAKER_00: I love you, I just have my fears.
• 31:34
  SPEAKER_00: Aisha says the kingdom of God needs to be the main focus.
• 31:39
  SPEAKER_00: Clement has been fully won over.
• 31:42
  SPEAKER_00: He says marriage is an institution of God and whatever God put together, no men should put asunder.
• 31:47
  SPEAKER_00: And then he says, Age is not a barrier.
• 31:52
  SPEAKER_00: It's genius how she turned these people around.
• 31:57
  SPEAKER_00: And now Maria's like, God blessed Abraham's wife when she was old, so I can say Aisha has not reached Sarah's age.
• 32:08
  SPEAKER_00: And I hand everything over to God.
• 32:10
  SPEAKER_00: Aisha says, I Aisha says, I appreciate everyone's opinion.
• 32:16
  SPEAKER_00: No, you don't.
• 32:17
  SPEAKER_00: She's a let's pray and let God seal everything.
• 32:21
  SPEAKER_00: And Lord Almighty, she is speaking in tongues after about 10 seconds of this prayer.
• 32:26
  SPEAKER_00: It's amazing.
• 32:27
  SPEAKER_00: It's truly a masterpiece of persuasion.
• 32:33
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, let's move on to Shay and Annabelle.
• 32:35
  SPEAKER_00: So Shay's selling a bunch of Nicole's furniture on Facebook Marketplace for her.
• 32:40
  SPEAKER_00: He's driving his truck with a trailer around Holland furniture to and fro.
• 32:45
  SPEAKER_00: Annabelle's pretty upset and hasn't talked to him today.
• 32:48
  SPEAKER_00: He gets done with his little errands.
• 32:50
  SPEAKER_00: He comes back to Annabelle's grumpy ass sitting on the porch.
• 32:54
  SPEAKER_00: He says, Let's go get a coffee.
• 32:55
  SPEAKER_00: So while they go get coffee.
• 32:58
  SPEAKER_00: Annabelle says, I feel like the whole relationship is a lie.
• 33:01
  SPEAKER_00: Because she found out he still had feelings for Nicole, according to what Allison says.
• 33:05
  SPEAKER_00: But she's willing to listen to what she has he has to say.
• 33:08
  SPEAKER_00: Shay says, Yeah, all that stuff Allison said did happen, but it was just taken totally out of context and blown all the water.
• 33:16
  SPEAKER_00: She says you were calling me in the Philippines with Nicole there, and you turned the phone around so I didn't see Nicole.
• 33:22
  SPEAKER_00: Shay says, Maybe I should have told you, but I didn't want to upset you.
• 33:26
  SPEAKER_00: You're too far away.
• 33:27
  SPEAKER_00: There was nothing going on.
• 33:29
  SPEAKER_00: She says, Why does Alison still think you love Nicole?
• 33:32
  SPEAKER_00: Shay says, I it's been like 20 years and it's like a running joke.
• 33:38
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I love you, I always love you, but I can't stand you.
• 33:41
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, Shay, you are not helping your case.
• 33:44
  SPEAKER_00: But he looks at Annabelle and says, You're my person.
• 33:48
  SPEAKER_00: She says, That's not gonna work for me.
• 33:50
  SPEAKER_00: I set boundaries, and if you do not agree, I'll get a ticket and go back to the Philippines.
• 33:54
  SPEAKER_00: He's like, Well, what kind of boundaries are you talking?
• 33:58
  SPEAKER_00: She says, You need to break off everything with her.
• 34:00
  SPEAKER_00: You don't need to talk to her.
• 34:02
  SPEAKER_00: I don't want you seeing her.
• 34:03
  SPEAKER_00: He says, Well, we got a child together.
• 34:06
  SPEAKER_00: I'm always gonna have somewhat of an attachment.
• 34:09
  SPEAKER_00: We can at least say hello.
• 34:12
  SPEAKER_00: She says, No, you need to cut her off completely.
• 34:16
  SPEAKER_00: He says, All right, I'll do what makes you feel comfortable.
• 34:18
  SPEAKER_00: I'm done with Nicole.
• 34:20
  SPEAKER_00: Can we just start planning our wedding?
• 34:22
  SPEAKER_00: Forget about all this.
• 34:23
  SPEAKER_00: She finally says yes, a little grudgingly.
• 34:27
  SPEAKER_00: So they have a little shared talking head um together, and they're talking about his 55th birthday is today, and he's gonna have a party with his friends up at the lake.
• 34:39
  SPEAKER_00: She says, Your partying days are done.
• 34:43
  SPEAKER_00: And he says, Don't they say 55 is the new 35, babe?
• 34:48
  SPEAKER_00: Uh so they head off to the lake for his birthday party.
• 34:51
  SPEAKER_00: This is interesting.
• 34:52
  SPEAKER_00: Annabelle says, I was surprised to find out he had two houses and there's nobody living in there except him and me.
• 35:00
  SPEAKER_00: She says, We could do a honeymoon every day because he has a house on the lake.
• 35:03
  SPEAKER_00: So then Allison shows up and Shay sends Annabelle inside to stir the chili and cracks open a beer while she's gone, then goes up to Allison.
• 35:13
  SPEAKER_00: Why'd you say all that stuff?
• 35:15
  SPEAKER_00: Allison says, She came to my house, and you can't get married on secrets.
• 35:20
  SPEAKER_00: We almost weren't married because of you, and she says, actually because of you.
• 35:26
  SPEAKER_00: You know, Allison does love to stir shit, but she's not wrong.
• 35:31
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so people are starting to show up to the party, and oh my gosh, his friend Sabrina, boozy auntie Sabrina is here with a Stanley cup.
• 35:42
  SPEAKER_00: You know, it's gotta be full of full of booze, full of I'm gonna say it vanilla vodka.
• 35:51
  SPEAKER_00: She walks up with her blonde hair, already drunk, going, where is the beautiful Annabelle?
• 36:00
  SPEAKER_00: She needs to get her hands around Annabelle.
• 36:05
  SPEAKER_00: She gives her a hug.
• 36:08
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my gosh, she's drinking straight from the wine bottle next.
• 36:13
  SPEAKER_00: Sabrina knows how to party.
• 36:15
  SPEAKER_00: You know what?
• 36:16
  SPEAKER_00: At least everybody's very nice and welcoming to Annabelle.
• 36:19
  SPEAKER_00: Amidst all the solo cups.
• 36:22
  SPEAKER_00: This does kind of look like a fun party, I gotta say.
• 36:25
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 36:26
  SPEAKER_00: I might I might have a little bit of maybe 5% redneck in me.
• 36:30
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 36:31
  SPEAKER_00: And I love the part where we see one of uh his niece's friends called Aspen.
• 36:40
  SPEAKER_00: He's openly flirting with her right in front of Annabelle.
• 36:43
  SPEAKER_00: I I think she might just be in her early 20s, and so this is making it a little bit extra gross.
• 36:50
  SPEAKER_00: He tells Aspen, if I were younger, I'd be buying you your own island.
• 36:54
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know what that means.
• 36:58
  SPEAKER_00: But the uh consequences are coming, because in the next episode, Annabelle is pushing him away when he's trying to get a sloppy drunk kiss from her.
• 37:10
  SPEAKER_00: Annabelle asks Shay, How many beers have you had?
• 37:12
  SPEAKER_00: She says he says, I don't know, six or seven.
• 37:14
  SPEAKER_00: She says, No way, at least twenty.
• 37:17
  SPEAKER_00: I have a headache.
• 37:18
  SPEAKER_00: I'm going inside.
• 37:20
  SPEAKER_00: And at this point, he should have just let her go inside and cool off.
• 37:23
  SPEAKER_00: Instead, he goes in after her, drunk, and saying, like, you're embarrassing me in front of my friends.
• 37:29
  SPEAKER_00: You need to come outside, they're here for you.
• 37:32
  SPEAKER_00: She's like, I'm sleepy and upset.
• 37:34
  SPEAKER_00: I gotta say, there is nothing more annoying than being the only sober person.
• 37:39
  SPEAKER_00: Alison, meanwhile, is outside going, uh, Annabelle is in for it if she thinks this is bad, because this is a tame version of dad.
• 37:47
  SPEAKER_00: If she can't hang, then this isn't a fit.
• 37:51
  SPEAKER_00: Oh boy.
• 37:54
  SPEAKER_00: So moving on to Debbie and Mito now.
• 37:56
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, we only get them in episode 10.
• 37:59
  SPEAKER_00: We didn't see anything of them in episode 9.
• 38:02
  SPEAKER_00: Um, he's still kind of ignoring her since the big blow-up over Halloween.
• 38:10
  SPEAKER_00: She's vacuuming and he's sitting around moping.
• 38:12
  SPEAKER_00: So I can't really tell the difference if this is them getting along or not getting along, because this is usually what's happening.
• 38:20
  SPEAKER_00: She's cleaning and doing stuff, and he's sitting around doing nothing and moping.
• 38:25
  SPEAKER_00: Finally, she breaks the ice and says, Let's go to the lake.
• 38:28
  SPEAKER_00: So they go to this pier or causeway, I'm not sure, but looks like could be lake poncha train.
• 38:36
  SPEAKER_00: Finally, he says, Do you think what happened with me is right?
• 38:39
  SPEAKER_00: She's like, No, I don't want anything like that to happen ever again.
• 38:42
  SPEAKER_00: It was bad behavior across the board.
• 38:45
  SPEAKER_00: And now you're so closed off.
• 38:47
  SPEAKER_00: I know this is a conversation you don't want to have, but if we don't deal with it, it's gonna come up again.
• 38:52
  SPEAKER_00: She says, I deserve a good heart to be with me.
• 38:54
  SPEAKER_00: And she says, We both deserve that, and I love you.
• 38:58
  SPEAKER_00: When she says this, Mito looks pained.
• 39:03
  SPEAKER_00: He says, I don't like you to tell me that all the time.
• 39:07
  SPEAKER_00: I don't talk all the time, I love you, I need you, blah, blah, blah.
• 39:11
  SPEAKER_00: Oh boy.
• 39:13
  SPEAKER_00: Debbie says, I know you love me because you wouldn't have done what you did.
• 39:17
  SPEAKER_00: Mito says, Okay, excellent, because you know it.
• 39:21
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, which means she let him off the hook for saying it, even though clearly she needs to hear it.
• 39:29
  SPEAKER_00: Debbie says, Well, I don't want anything like that to happen again.
• 39:34
  SPEAKER_00: So what do we do?
• 39:35
  SPEAKER_00: Mito says, I don't have any plan.
• 39:38
  SPEAKER_00: He's not looking at her, he's looking down, he says, It depends on you if you fix it or not.
• 39:43
  SPEAKER_00: And she's like, Well, it's not just me.
• 39:45
  SPEAKER_00: Of course he's not gonna take any accountability.
• 39:50
  SPEAKER_00: He doesn't want to do any work for this relationship because he I don't think he even really likes her.
• 40:01
  SPEAKER_00: And then this weird, creepy moment, they are back at the apartment, and Mito is sitting on the couch staring at headshots.
• 40:18
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, not real professional headshots, just like printouts of photos of himself.
• 40:25
  SPEAKER_00: He's just sitting on the couch staring at them.
• 40:28
  SPEAKER_00: He's got like three or four spread out on his lap, and he's looking at them.
• 40:33
  SPEAKER_00: It's so weird.
• 40:35
  SPEAKER_00: And Debbie's sitting at the table, scrolling on her phone, and then Devin, her daughter, walks in.
• 40:41
  SPEAKER_00: Looks like she's just been out for a run, and she's like, Okay, there's tense energy in here.
• 40:48
  SPEAKER_00: Mito looks at her and says, I don't need, I need some quiet and resting.
• 40:55
  SPEAKER_00: And Debbie says nothing, and then Devin's like, okay, I'll just go ahead and leave y'all to it.
• 41:02
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so a little bit later, Devin and Debbie go and get a pedicure.
• 41:07
  SPEAKER_00: I have to talk about this salon.
• 41:11
  SPEAKER_00: It's like chamois chic farmhouse style.
• 41:15
  SPEAKER_00: The chairs, the pedicure chairs are not traditional massage chairs.
• 41:21
  SPEAKER_00: They are swing chairs, they're like attached to the ceiling with chains.
• 41:27
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 41:28
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like you should be charging less if you're not gonna have those massage chairs because I'm not that's like half of the reason why I go.
• 41:36
  SPEAKER_00: I love the massage chairs.
• 41:39
  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, Devin says, Mom, how are things going with Meatow?
• 41:44
  SPEAKER_00: I notice he's still sleeping on the couch.
• 41:47
  SPEAKER_00: You aren't talking, but you're still talking about getting married?
• 41:52
  SPEAKER_00: Debbie says, We've been together six years.
• 41:54
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not willing to throw him away on a whim.
• 41:57
  SPEAKER_00: Devin says, and I love her for this, it's not a whim.
• 42:01
  SPEAKER_00: You have a mountain of evidence from a few months of being together.
• 42:07
  SPEAKER_00: Debbie says we both need time.
• 42:10
  SPEAKER_00: Devin says, Well, that's not really something you have.
• 42:14
  SPEAKER_00: The clock is ticking.
• 42:19
  SPEAKER_00: It's a sunk cost fallacy, folks.
• 42:21
  SPEAKER_00: She's put so much time and effort into this relationship that even if it's totally not worth it, she still has to salvage it.
• 42:31
  SPEAKER_00: Devin's comment pretty much sums it all up.
• 42:35
  SPEAKER_00: She says, To me, the logic isn't there, to be honest.
• 42:39
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, Devin.
• 42:40
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, Devin.
• 42:42
  SPEAKER_00: There's nothing logical when it comes to these two.
• 42:49
  SPEAKER_00: And that is all for 90 Day Fiance recap.
• 42:53
  SPEAKER_00: Um, just a teeny tiny little book club corner.
• 42:56
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just gonna mention a couple of my books.
• 42:59
  SPEAKER_00: By the time you're listening to this, it'll be October.
• 43:03
  SPEAKER_00: And if you're in the mood for sweet but spicy autumn reads, I have a bunch.
• 43:13
  SPEAKER_00: One of my favorites from 2024 is called He Falls First.
• 43:20
  SPEAKER_00: It's a small town fall festival vibe.
• 43:23
  SPEAKER_00: Local firefighter falls for this frazzled assistant to a recluse heiress.
• 43:32
  SPEAKER_00: It's a whole thing.
• 43:34
  SPEAKER_00: Um, it's real cute and sweet, but also very spicy.
• 43:40
  SPEAKER_00: So if you like that, go check it out.
• 43:42
  SPEAKER_00: He falls first.
• 43:43
  SPEAKER_00: Autumn vibes, small town festival vibes, hot firefighter.
• 43:48
  SPEAKER_00: There you go.
• 43:49
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I will put the links in the show notes.
• 43:52
  SPEAKER_00: And if you want to support what I do, I'm gonna link my Amazon page in there too, so you can go look at anything else that I write too.
• 43:59
  SPEAKER_00: If you want to leave me a tip, there will be links to that.
• 44:03
  SPEAKER_00: That's all I have for you today.
• 44:04
  SPEAKER_00: I will talk to you soon, you can use it.