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What is the right age to settle down? · Anele and the Club on 947

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  Speaker 1: Wake up with a fang Hey, wake Up and the club.
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  Speaker 1: On nine four seventh, I.
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  Speaker 2: Came across a a It's one hell of a statement
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  Speaker 2: from Ghosts of the Waste Underscore on Twitter also calls
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  Speaker 2: on the South. Godzilla says, getting going to Married at
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  Speaker 2: First Side when you're twenty four years.
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  Speaker 3: Old is peak giving up?
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  Speaker 1: Is this the show?
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  Speaker 2: The show Married at First Side? So you go there
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  Speaker 2: when you kind of tried every other avenue in the
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  Speaker 2: dating thing. You've been on Tinder, you've been on Bumble,
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  Speaker 2: you've been on Grinder, you've been on Facebook, you've been
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  Speaker 2: on LinkedIn.
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  Speaker 3: You've been to.
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  Speaker 2: The to the Tiger's milk, you know, you just literally
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  Speaker 2: You've been to the gym because apparently that's where you
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  Speaker 2: find people. You've been to the airport, that's where you
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  Speaker 2: find other people. You have been to the woolies at
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  Speaker 2: seven o'clock in the evening where all the single guys
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  Speaker 2: are there to buy their food to warm up because
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  Speaker 2: no one is at.
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  Speaker 3: Home cooking for them with them.
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  Speaker 4: You have try did all and then you step onto
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  Speaker 4: a reality to share and you say, whoever, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 4: marry now first sight, let's go.
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  Speaker 2: You say, you guys take over. You guys take the will.
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  Speaker 2: I'm tired of trying. So this tweet from Godzilla, say,
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  Speaker 2: is going to marry the first side when you're twenty
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  Speaker 2: four years old?
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  Speaker 3: Is peak giving up?
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  Speaker 1: Right?
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  Speaker 2: Do you think twenty four years old is peak giving up?
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  Speaker 3: When should you give up?
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  Speaker 1: When you settle? Is that the when should you say?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, fine, let me give this to the professionals. Now,
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  Speaker 2: my dating life now needs professional help.
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  Speaker 5: You mean when am I willing to risk public humiliation? Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: in pursuit of a partner. Yes, I think twenty five
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  Speaker 5: is too young. Yeah, I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe fifty fifty, Yeah, I agree with that. Five zero, yes,
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  Speaker 3: even because you know what you know.
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  Speaker 2: I know they're anomaly, but you know couples who make
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  Speaker 2: it fifty two to fifty three and they got married, right,
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  Speaker 2: But that's the number for me. Fifty two I think
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  Speaker 2: after twenty eight you know why?
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  Speaker 1: Eight? Yeah? No, but twenty eight. What I'm trying to
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  Speaker 1: say is trade carefully by twenty eight in your half.
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  Speaker 4: By twenty eight, I feel like you've you've met enough
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  Speaker 4: people to know where you're probably gonna land, right, you know?
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  Speaker 3: So, because I'm saying what your problem.
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  Speaker 1: Is because you know is giving up is settling? Right?
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  Speaker 4: So twenty eight I think you know, all right, maybe
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  Speaker 4: I can settle. Yeah, because you know that you've consistently
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  Speaker 4: dated fives. Oh and you and you're dreaming of a ten,
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  Speaker 4: but you know that you're not a ten kind of person.
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  Speaker 2: Oh is that why people hold back and get married?
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  Speaker 2: They think something big, something big is coming all of you.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to meet a man with money.
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  Speaker 5: Oh never comes you see never? And you're married to
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  Speaker 5: Bell and you guys get a nice haval and a
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  Speaker 5: two better parts.
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  Speaker 1: And you're happy. You know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 4: I'm just I think by then you've lived in long
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  Speaker 4: enough to know where you're dreams will last.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. But by that, by that rationale, I didn't think
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  Speaker 2: thirty six, thirty six, thirty seven is where when you know, Wotie,
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  Speaker 2: I have not had a man who's bought me anything.
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  Speaker 5: But you know, no, I'm against that gives me three years.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, that's when you know, wootie, it's fine. This is
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  Speaker 2: this is the income bracket. I have a high strike rate, and.
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  Speaker 3: That's why I feel like now you're not going.
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  Speaker 2: To get edwin Sodiebabe, who's going to buy you a.
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  Speaker 3: Gew wagon and send you to Switzerland? When not warm buds?
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  Speaker 4: And the artist because I think, I mean, everyone has
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  Speaker 4: their little list of things that they would love in
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  Speaker 4: a partner, right, everyone crazy these a little list, and
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  Speaker 4: I just think at that age they're around twenty eight
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  Speaker 4: to thirty.
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  Speaker 1: You know, what is a realistic?
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  Speaker 3: Everything is still right on Titan Brides.
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  Speaker 6: So what are you guys asking? At what age? So
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  Speaker 6: I want to settle because settling going to marry that
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  Speaker 6: first sight is settling.
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  Speaker 1: You should speak giving up. That's what clesing up.
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  Speaker 2: You are saying, you guys, take over and wherever it lands,
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  Speaker 2: that's where I'll be. So what's the age where you
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  Speaker 2: should just like let somebody else take over, Cindy.
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  Speaker 6: I don't know, honest, be honest. Maybe your mid thirties.
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  Speaker 6: But it also depends on where you see. Women are
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  Speaker 6: under pressure because we've got eggs and we want to
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  Speaker 6: have babies, and those things age and then they're like, oh,
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  Speaker 6: it's dangerous at babies over forty. So sometimes women do
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  Speaker 6: settle a lot younger based on that, But you I
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  Speaker 6: don't know. Last I would say no, I would say
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  Speaker 6: mid thirties.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. Thirty six thirty seven, that's.
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  Speaker 3: Twenty three thirty four.
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  Speaker 1: When did you get married?
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  Speaker 6: Since age twenty seven? But the mark also twenty seven
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  Speaker 6: turning twenty.
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  Speaker 5: Eight, right, so see Mark, Oh, Mark new.
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  Speaker 2: We know this, We know Mark Sai you're a hot
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  Speaker 2: blonde babe.
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  Speaker 6: No, I just gave him a deadline. I was like, Baddie,
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  Speaker 6: if we're not engaged by the end of next year.
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  Speaker 2: But even then, the reason he takes the deadline is
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  Speaker 2: because he knows that if you walk away, you're gonna
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  Speaker 2: find somebody else's.
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  Speaker 3: Gonna marry the hot blonde. And then he has to settle.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, exactly four miles because actually in a secret service program,
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  Speaker 5: he is sure.
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  Speaker 2: Oh one one eight thirty eight nine four seven.
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  Speaker 7: I'll take it.
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  Speaker 3: I don't care. He settled well.
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  Speaker 6: Right right right?
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  Speaker 1: Hell know what?
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  Speaker 6: On I have so many comments, but I'm not going
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  Speaker 6: to be mean to Frankie on.
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  Speaker 3: A please do it different.
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  Speaker 2: No, No, I still need everybody until nine after nine o'clock.
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  Speaker 3: You can do whatever you want.
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  Speaker 2: Going to marry the first sight whilst you twenty four
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  Speaker 2: is peak giving up? At which age do you think?
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  Speaker 2: Because we believe twenty four is too young to go
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  Speaker 2: to marry at first site as well, At which age
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  Speaker 2: do you think, okay, fine, now you can go. Now
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  Speaker 2: you've tried everything that you can do in your power.
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  Speaker 2: Now you need other people to step in. I say
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  Speaker 2: thirty seven, Cindy says thirty three, fifty, and no one
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  Speaker 2: cares what Frankie says.
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  Speaker 8: I say forty, Like forty five is a good sweet spot.
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  Speaker 8: But between fourteen forty five, yeah, then you can just
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  Speaker 8: embarrace yourself on TV.
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  Speaker 9: I think between thirty five and forty that is the
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  Speaker 9: bracket where you can go and put yourself out.
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  Speaker 3: There for a guy.
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  Speaker 9: I think at least forty I think a la is
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  Speaker 9: spot on the money.
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  Speaker 2: About thirty seven thirty eight years old.
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  Speaker 6: Then basically a woman knows what.
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  Speaker 4: She wants and a man knows what he wants.
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  Speaker 2: You twenty four is really young, like I would say
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  Speaker 2: thirty five.
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  Speaker 9: Upwards, Sana settling at twenty four? Why what is the reason?
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  Speaker 9: Why are you not at affirmations? Sometimes you gotta understand
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  Speaker 9: that maybe your husband actually has a different color passport.
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  Speaker 9: Maybe he's not on a show, he's just in a
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  Speaker 9: different country.
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  Speaker 1: There we go.
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  Speaker 3: Is it travel?
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  Speaker 2: Dude, take up a cooking course.
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  Speaker 3: Start rowing.
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  Speaker 2: It's not playing paddled twenty four, No man, nosey you
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  Speaker 2: and Rysantaine, what do you think?
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  Speaker 7: Good morning the team?
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  Speaker 3: How are you not fantastic? How are you?
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  Speaker 7: I'm goddamn good. Okay. Firstly, I say on that show,
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  Speaker 7: the age for entry, it was supposed to be forty,
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  Speaker 7: not for any in or over eighteen. It was supposed
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  Speaker 7: to start at forty up towards because twenty four really
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  Speaker 7: it's too young. They will pay you with someone you
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  Speaker 7: choose the mouth open and you don't like that. They
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  Speaker 7: will pay you with someone who fast every time they move.
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  Speaker 7: You don't like that. And then we will divorsee at
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  Speaker 7: the age of twenty five, because obviously one last you'll
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  Speaker 7: tell your said I'm still young, I'm not worth this,
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  Speaker 7: I'm not there. But at the age of forty, like,
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  Speaker 7: I've been there, done that. As long as it's not smelling,
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  Speaker 7: as long as it's not spitting to me, I'll puddle
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  Speaker 7: the guys. So I think the agent you should start
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  Speaker 7: from forty that show towards from.
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  Speaker 2: I hear what you're saying, because at twenty four everything
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  Speaker 2: is a big deal.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you haven't lived enough.
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  Speaker 3: At forty, you just like whatever.
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  Speaker 2: At twenty four, another goal saying to your man, Hey, gods,
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  Speaker 2: it will set you over. As at forty if somebody
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  Speaker 2: says the man, hey, god, you see that m he
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  Speaker 2: is going because you're just so comfortable with yourself as well.
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  Speaker 3: Right, yeah, I hear, I hear what you're saying.
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  Speaker 10: So at the age of twenty four, you don't have
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  Speaker 10: that energy that I will fix my man, I'll trest
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  Speaker 10: my man, I'll teaching to do this out. We have
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  Speaker 10: that a snag to do that at the age of
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  Speaker 10: forty end about because they're like, Okay, well am I
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  Speaker 10: gonna go or who am I gonna get after if
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  Speaker 10: I lose this one.
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  Speaker 11: Let me just fix my man.
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  Speaker 7: And be whatever that I want.
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  Speaker 11: But at the age of twenty four, then you don't
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  Speaker 11: have time. You must go out and have fine meet
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  Speaker 11: people you or whatever you get someone not on that show.
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  Speaker 2: Also, at twenty four, you bought the builder. Hey, you
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  Speaker 2: are going to build your man to be this thing?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah exactly.
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  Speaker 3: At forty you just like doesn't know how to put
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  Speaker 3: your shoes on.
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  Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 4: Everyone has that list, right, So the list of things
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  Speaker 4: that I want in my person.
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  Speaker 3: At twenty four it's long.
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  Speaker 4: Twenty four it's long, and then at thirty you start realizing, okay,
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  Speaker 4: but these things actually don't matter.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, for the things I thought matter doesn't really matter.
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  Speaker 3: Go get in the East Ran. What do you think?
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  Speaker 12: Yeah, morning team, I think I agree with Frankie. I
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  Speaker 12: just think the previous cool life because you know what, guys,
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  Speaker 12: if you're a woman and you're over forty, let's be honest,
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  Speaker 12: the eating pool, the Tichnies are really slim right in
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  Speaker 12: the eating pool. But when you're twenty eight, you see enough,
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  Speaker 12: like what Frankie says, so you have a good idea
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  Speaker 12: of how you are as a person and what you're
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  Speaker 12: looking for, and you've been on the market. So I
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  Speaker 12: think this thing of if you're a woman eating for
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  Speaker 12: too long, you know, like what Cindy was mentioning about
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  Speaker 12: women when you are like twenty eight, your eggs are
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  Speaker 12: really oh, you know, you've got that biological clog also
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  Speaker 12: against you, right, whereas men don't have that biological clog.
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  Speaker 12: So for us eating for too long, it prejudices us,
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  Speaker 12: and it doesn't prejudice men, you know, and men and guys.
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  Speaker 12: The reality is that men who are in the when
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  Speaker 12: you're twenty eight, right, Men in the thirties are looking
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  Speaker 12: for people in who are twenty eight. But when you're
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  Speaker 12: in your late thirties, you're not likely to get men
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  Speaker 12: in the thirties looking for you because they're looking for
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  Speaker 12: a younger age.
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  Speaker 2: I was going to say to you really hard, at forty,
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  Speaker 2: the dating pool is murky because you're.
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  Speaker 3: Looking for a forty year old. You should be looking
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  Speaker 3: for seventy somebody.
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  Speaker 2: Just younger woman is relative. Guys, at forty years old,
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  Speaker 2: you are a younger woman to a man who's seventy.
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  Speaker 3: Do you know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 2: So the dating pool is not murky. It's just that
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  Speaker 2: when you're looking around here next to you, look higher,
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  Speaker 2: go to retirement homes.
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  Speaker 4: Well, then if you're looking at seventy when you're thirty,
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  Speaker 4: what he is to tear up that list?
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  Speaker 1: Your list is very sure?
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  Speaker 3: Is he breathing?
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  Speaker 1: Is he breathing? Is there a little bit of money?
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  Speaker 11: Does he?
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  Speaker 3: Does he remember where he lived? His friend? That's your man.
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  Speaker 8: By now it's back to making your morning in La
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  Speaker 8: and the club I Love on nine four seven