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Ep 84 "STFU" · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 1: talk back. What's up, y'all?
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  Speaker 2: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode of
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  Speaker 2: We Talk Back, a show dedicated to you niggas and
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  Speaker 2: these hoes. And yes, I did say niggas, okay? This
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  Speaker 2: is your co-host, AJ. What's up, girl?
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  Speaker 1: Hey, y'all. Hey, everybody. It's Official Tam Bam. I love
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  Speaker 1: y'all once again this week. I do. I still love
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  Speaker 1: y'all motherfuckers. Niggas and hoes.
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  Speaker 2: Because not somebody online trying to comfort me for calling
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  Speaker 2: people niggas. Pardon me?
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  Speaker 1: Everybody don't like the term niggas, but we do.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I do be trying not to use the term, but,
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  Speaker 2: you know, it's a slip.
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  Speaker 1: It's not a slip for me. I love my niggas.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all all my niggas.
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  Speaker 2: Okay?
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  Speaker 1: Right. As long as I don't put the hard ER
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  Speaker 1: on the end, it's a difference to me.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes I put the hard er I hate that don't do.
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  Speaker 1: That sometimes I do don't do that that's awful how
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  Speaker 1: was your weekend child my weekend was good I went
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  Speaker 1: to um my friend's dad's 56th birthday party and the
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  Speaker 1: shit was lit it was it wasn't none of his
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  Speaker 1: friends though it was just all her friends and then
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  Speaker 1: him Uh-uh.
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  Speaker 2: That's how he wanted it, too.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. He was on my head, too. I was like,
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  Speaker 1: go ahead, Mr. Edward.
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  Speaker 2: He was trying to see what that thing do for
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  Speaker 2: his birthday. He was going to bless him right quick.
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  Speaker 1: But we had a good time. Love her. Love her family.
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  Speaker 1: It was lit. That's all I really did. Right.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't do much or nothing this weekend, either. I
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  Speaker 2: was supposed to go to Atlanta, but I just chilled out.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not in a traveling mood. It's like, I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if it's just me or do other
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  Speaker 2: women feel this way, but when my cycle is on,
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to do shit. Don't talk to me.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to leave the house. The only thing,
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  Speaker 2: I did go out to eat. That's about it. Saturday.
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  Speaker 2: That's it.
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  Speaker 1: Other than that, I don't do shit. If it's day one,
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  Speaker 1: after day two, I can come outside. But day one
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  Speaker 1: and two, please don't bother me. Shoot fly, don't bother me.
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  Speaker 1: So I really wasn't in the mood. I was like
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  Speaker 1: in a little... I don't want to call it a funk.
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  Speaker 1: My friend says I shouldn't call it a funk. So
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  Speaker 1: I was in a mood, basically. Your pussy was stank.
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  Speaker 1: It was a funk. Bitch, bye.
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  Speaker 2: Okay? That's one thing you'll never have to worry about.
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  Speaker 1: Jerk.
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  Speaker 2: Why are you stink coochie shaming on the damn podcast?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: There's a lot of women that are looking really pretty today.
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  Speaker 2: They have a nice dress on. They're at work. And
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  Speaker 2: they're coochie stank.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: They may be having a bad day. And here you
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  Speaker 2: are shaming them.
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  Speaker 1: Your pussy stank today. That's terrible.
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  Speaker 2: Let's move on from that.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just joking. I'm just joking.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all all my niggas.
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  Speaker 1: Whether your pussy stank or not.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, stop it. All right.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right.
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  Speaker 2: What we got going on in stupid internet news, child? Tamar.
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  Speaker 2: Is engaged to.
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  Speaker 1: Congratulations.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, honey. She got her a white zaddy.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: His name is Jeremy Robinson. And he's a lawyer from Atlanta.
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  Speaker 2: And I saw it on Gossip in the City. Gossip
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  Speaker 2: of the City blog.
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  Speaker 1: Initially, right?
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  Speaker 2: And then all the other blogs got a hold of it.
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  Speaker 2: But now all these different women are coming out to
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  Speaker 2: What Workz. On his ass. All these different black women,
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  Speaker 2: including the mother of one of his kids. Did you
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  Speaker 2: see that headline?
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  Speaker 1: I missed that.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, honey. So the baby mama, the baby mama is like,
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  Speaker 2: he only, he don't pay this much in child support.
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  Speaker 2: This and a third, he's just infatuated with black women.
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  Speaker 2: So basically she's trying to say it's like a, like
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  Speaker 2: a fetish thing for him.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And he oftentimes, um, says disparaging things about black women.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know how true this stuff is. You know,
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  Speaker 2: if he's so bad for the community, why hadn't we
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  Speaker 2: heard about him sooner?
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  Speaker 1: Right?
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  Speaker 2: Because he looks like he has some shit going on
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  Speaker 2: in Atlanta. So he was really out here dogging black
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  Speaker 2: women out. I feel like, I hope he would have
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  Speaker 2: already been on the radar prior to Tamar getting with him,
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  Speaker 2: but I don't know. And I guess he was recently
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  Speaker 2: engaged to another woman. She didn't look black though. She
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  Speaker 2: looked like she may have been like Hispanic or maybe
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  Speaker 2: even Asian. I don't know. But he's a habitual proposer,
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  Speaker 2: from what I can see. And yeah, I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I'm happy for her if it's real. He's fine. Nice looking, older,
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  Speaker 2: white gentleman. Lil Duvall weighed in on it too. Lil
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  Speaker 2: Duvall said, but let us get a white woman. Y'all
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  Speaker 2: gonna snap. And my old lady ain't white. He put
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  Speaker 2: that in parentheses. His old lady ain't white. it's not
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  Speaker 2: that we be snapping the thing is that do you
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  Speaker 2: boo what black women don't like when black men you
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  Speaker 2: know or get others and it's not always a white
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  Speaker 2: woman we just don't like the shit y'all talk about
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  Speaker 2: us to justify that relationship if you like white women
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  Speaker 2: you like Hispanics you like others just like them you
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  Speaker 2: don't have to say well I like them because black
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  Speaker 2: women such as such as such and that's often times
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  Speaker 2: you know what happens so yeah well.
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  Speaker 1: I just hope it work out for her because I
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  Speaker 1: want her to be happy me too I like Tamar Mm-hmm. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Notorious big daughter Tiana Wallace posted her boyfriend's $ 1 million
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  Speaker 1: bond after he was arrested in a hit-and-run. Tyshawn Baldwin
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  Speaker 1: was stopped by police after parking his 2021 Durango SRT Hellcat.
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  Speaker 1: It's SRT. In a busy intersection. Cops also cite his
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  Speaker 1: loud exhaust and dark tinted windows as a reason for
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  Speaker 1: the stop. Mm. Sound like profiling to me. After cops
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  Speaker 1: ran his information, they found out his license was suspended.
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  Speaker 1: They then ordered him to step out of the vehicle.
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  Speaker 1: That is when he allegedly sped off and slammed into
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  Speaker 1: a group of pedestrians. Three people sustained serious injuries as
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  Speaker 1: a result of the hit and run. Amongst the injured
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  Speaker 1: is a mom who was pushing her two-year-old daughter in
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  Speaker 1: a stroller and a food delivery man. Baldwin was arrested
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  Speaker 1: six days after the incident when he surrendered to cops.
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  Speaker 1: Court document shows that Wallace, Notorious B.I.G. 's daughter, put
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  Speaker 1: up her $ 1. 5 million home in Brooklyn to secure her
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  Speaker 1: boyfriend's bond.
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  Speaker 2: No, thank you.
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  Speaker 1: Well, okay.
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  Speaker 2: Not a boyfriend. Not for a boyfriend. Husband, yes. A boyfriend,
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  Speaker 2: not so much.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think my husband would want me to put
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  Speaker 1: up our $ 1. 5 million house to get him out for
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  Speaker 1: a hit and run. Yes, he would.
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  Speaker 2: And hopefully you'd be married to a man that would
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  Speaker 2: be able to.
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  Speaker 1: Pay it. The man I'm about to marry, he is
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  Speaker 1: going to be able to pay it. That's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: You remember that girl in Charlotte? She had won all
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  Speaker 1: this money. She won the lottery. Millions and millions of
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  Speaker 1: dollars in the lottery. Her boyfriend, her baby daddy kept
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  Speaker 1: going to prison. She kept bonding him out on these
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  Speaker 1: million dollar bonds. They only give people those type of
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  Speaker 1: bonds who they know got the means to do it.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 2: So, His bond, it could be excessive. It could very
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  Speaker 2: well be excessive. That cash bond system is fucked up.
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  Speaker 1: Well, he did hit six people. And I saw the
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  Speaker 1: video of him.
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  Speaker 2: It looks like he was about to hit a mom
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  Speaker 2: with a stroller.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. Some stupid shit like that, you
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  Speaker 2: might need to sit down, sir. You might need to
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  Speaker 2: sit down until you go back to bond court. Maybe
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  Speaker 2: they'll lower it. Because she's going to fuck around and
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  Speaker 2: lose her house playing with him. Right. Because he sounds
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  Speaker 2: pretty dumb. I would not have.
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  Speaker 1: Right, because if you make me lose my house, I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to come in the door waving the 4-4. All
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  Speaker 1: you heard was, Tammy, don't hit me no more.
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  Speaker 2: Right. Shame. Look, so we need y'all to stop talking
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  Speaker 2: shit about BBLs because apparently y'all going to the doctor
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  Speaker 2: to get more dick, okay? The headline reads that male
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  Speaker 2: genitalia enhancements are more popular than ever, and BBLs are
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  Speaker 2: dying out, says a cosmetic surgery, excuse me, cosmetic surgery CEO,
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  Speaker 2: Angela Kogan, speaks on the latest trends.
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  Speaker 1: So, where y'all at? Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Get your dick, do your dickos, baby. I'm here for it. Now,
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  Speaker 2: I do have a homeboy who just recently, well, last
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  Speaker 2: year he had got the abs and like some cuts
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  Speaker 2: in his arms, and just recently he went and got
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  Speaker 2: like some... I think this nigga did a lap band
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  Speaker 2: surgery or something like that. Like men are out here
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  Speaker 2: doing this stuff and I feel like y'all been doing it. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: I'm here for it. If they got something to make
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  Speaker 1: your dick bigger in this little, go get your dick
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  Speaker 1: bigger son.
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  Speaker 2: Right. Why not?
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  Speaker 1: But stop talking shit about them BBLs.
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  Speaker 2: I am sick of the BBLs too now. I ain't
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  Speaker 2: gonna lie now. Like women with real ass, like come on,
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  Speaker 2: you got to compete with this shit. Now everybody just walk,
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  Speaker 2: people are assuming that everybody's just walk around with a
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  Speaker 2: fake ass and everybody isn't.
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  Speaker 1: There's some people's bodies shaped like that. Yeah. I know.
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  Speaker 1: People be like, what doctor did your ass?
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  Speaker 2: Dr.
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  Speaker 1: Jesus.
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  Speaker 2: That is so ignorant to even ask somebody.
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  Speaker 1: Ask me that. Right.
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  Speaker 2: That is so ignorant.
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  Speaker 1: Dr. Jesus. Dr.
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  Speaker 2: Grits and cornbread. Because you can tell who got the
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  Speaker 2: fake asses.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. I'm sorry. It's the thighs. Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all look like a Hennessy bottle. A lot of them. Now,
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  Speaker 2: some people have some really nice ones.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: Favorite go-to for really nice BBLs, Iggy Azalea. Her body
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  Speaker 2: is nice, okay?
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  Speaker 1: Bernice. But even when she shake it, you can see
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  Speaker 1: that little flap on the bottom.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it'd be like a little bridge down there. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it's like a little.
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  Speaker 1: Bridge on the bottom where the meat don't connect where
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  Speaker 1: it's supposed to in real life.
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  Speaker 2: That's a damn thing it look good don't move though
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  Speaker 2: don't move.
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  Speaker 1: But Bernice Bernice got that bomb ass body.
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  Speaker 2: Too she just looks amazing yeah she has a nice
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  Speaker 2: body who else got a nice BBL that I can
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  Speaker 2: like yeah I would go to whoever doctor did that
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  Speaker 2: shit that's about.
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  Speaker 1: It see what they didn't do is they didn't figure
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  Speaker 1: out how to give you thigh uh like some people
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  Speaker 1: need hips too though.
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  Speaker 2: Some people need hips and thighs so you just add
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  Speaker 2: in the butt but you know what about everything else.
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  Speaker 1: And then some yeah exactly exactly um so yeah guys
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  Speaker 1: get your dicks they're going they're going for a good
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  Speaker 1: right these days i hear get your man a dick
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  Speaker 1: for christmas and then get him one of those little
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  Speaker 1: gawk gawk 3000s It look like a dick wash to me.
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  Speaker 2: It don't even look like- The penis pump? No, it's
• 11:20
  Speaker 2: like giving head, like with all that solution in there.
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  Speaker 2: I saw it on Amber Rose's Instagram page.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, it's a machine. It's like a dick machine.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's like, it look like a dick wash
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  Speaker 2: to me because it's all sudgy and like, I guess
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  Speaker 2: that was supposed to resemble spit, but it looks like soap. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: so it's a dick wash. You just stick your dick
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  Speaker 2: in there and it washes it for you.
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  Speaker 1: Get one of those.
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  Speaker 2: For the new dick.
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  Speaker 1: You stupid. All right. So I saw this on the internet.
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  Speaker 1: A husband pays for him and his friend to sit
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  Speaker 1: in first class, but pay for his wife to sit
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  Speaker 1: in economy. So apparently this man goes on vacations every
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  Speaker 1: year out of the country with his bestie. And his
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  Speaker 1: wife is never allowed to go. And this particular year,
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  Speaker 1: he invites his wife to join him and his bestie
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  Speaker 1: on the trip. And she realizes that he has booked
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  Speaker 1: two first class tickets for him and his best friend.
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  Speaker 1: And her seat is for economy. And when she confronts
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  Speaker 1: him about it, he says that he paid for your ticket.
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  Speaker 1: Isn't that enough? And he felt like, oh, you're ungrateful
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  Speaker 1: because I finally invite you. And this is the thanks
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  Speaker 1: I get. And then the best friend goes on to
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  Speaker 1: confront her about it and says that she acts so
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  Speaker 1: entitled and that's why he never wanted her to come along.
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  Speaker 2: Imagine me being entitled to my husband.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: Why are you so entitled to my husband?
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  Speaker 1: That part.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Clearly, your wife is your side bitch. And that's his
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  Speaker 1: main reason. Exactly.
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  Speaker 2: The wife is the beard. So I saw that article.
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  Speaker 2: I saw that headline and I wish they would have
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  Speaker 2: used like two white dudes for the illustration. But anyway,
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  Speaker 2: because I think mom, they said, she said she dropped
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  Speaker 2: her kids off to her mom. We know they're in
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  Speaker 2: Europe somewhere.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: It ain't no fucking way you that stupid. That is
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  Speaker 2: the ultra dumb bitch story.
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  Speaker 1: First of all, why is your man going home? You
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  Speaker 1: ain't going on no vacation, but he going on vacation
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  Speaker 1: with his friend every year.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: That you not allow. So people do take boy strips.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But not just you and one man. Where are the
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  Speaker 2: other niggas?
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  Speaker 1: And then y'all go every year and I don't go nowhere? No. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: She said she never goes on vacation. This is the
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  Speaker 1: first vacation she's been invited on.
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  Speaker 2: I thought she was saying that's the first vacation she's
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  Speaker 2: been invited on, like their little vacation that they go on.
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  Speaker 2: So she hasn't been on vacation at all in the marriage?
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  Speaker 2: That's not how I read that.
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  Speaker 1: It says, my husband and I haven't been on a
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  Speaker 1: trip out of the country for years while he goes
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  Speaker 1: every year with his best friend.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. That's the divorce. I really would like to know
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  Speaker 2: where they're located because I know it's not the United States.
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  Speaker 2: I want to know where they're at. What's the culture?
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  Speaker 2: And how the hell is that okay? Could you imagine? No.
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  Speaker 2: The plane ain't taking off.
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  Speaker 1: It ain't never taken off for years. That plane ain't never...
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  Speaker 1: That plane is grounded. I done destroyed the whole plane.
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  Speaker 2: They better have them beds and shit in first class.
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  Speaker 2: I'm fucking all of that up. Like, are y'all crazy?
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  Speaker 2: Are you crazy? I would have cleaned the plane with
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  Speaker 2: him and his nigga.
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  Speaker 1: Stupid internet news. Black woman is on the runway destroying
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  Speaker 1: a United Airways plane. Facts.
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  Speaker 2: Ain't none of y'all going nobody going if i can't
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  Speaker 2: go yes so she ends up saying she doesn't want
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  Speaker 2: to go and now this guy is telling her how
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  Speaker 2: selfish she is like imagine your homeboy hitting the wife
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  Speaker 2: up i wish i was married to a man and
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  Speaker 2: his homeboy hit me up trying to check me on
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  Speaker 2: some shit in my marriage are you dumb especially something
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  Speaker 2: like that like is this your man That's his man. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: that's his man all day long.
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  Speaker 1: Let's give him my man, my man, my man.
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  Speaker 2: She just needs to make a decision at this point because, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: that shit dead. It's dead, honey bun. Anyway, y'all, listen.
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  Speaker 2: We're going to go to commercial right quick, and when
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  Speaker 2: we come back, we want to get into our main topic, y'all.
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  Speaker 2: We talk about, you know, talking back all the time.
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  Speaker 2: You know, the show is We Talk Back, but when
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  Speaker 2: should you shut the fuck up? We'll be back. We'll
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  Speaker 2: be back. Okay, so listen, like I said, the show
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  Speaker 2: is We Talk Back. We have an opinion. We have
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  Speaker 2: shit to say, but we are grown adult women, right?
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  Speaker 2: So we know that you have to use discernment sometimes
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  Speaker 2: and judgment, you know. It's not always appropriate to have
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  Speaker 2: an opinion on some shit. And it's okay not to
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  Speaker 2: have an opinion. It's okay to not say anything sometimes.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, especially in relationships with your friends, family. Co-workers, all
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  Speaker 2: that good shit. So we want to get into it, y'all.
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  Speaker 1: When should you shut the fuck up, Tammy? Now, you know,
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  Speaker 1: a bitch always going to have an opinion, but she
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  Speaker 1: don't have to speak it out loud. That's what I'm saying. Right.
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  Speaker 1: She always going to have an opinion now.
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  Speaker 2: Now, my eyes can't have an opinion either?
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  Speaker 1: No, keep your eyes straight, bitch.
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: Because usually the damn eyes going to tell the whole shit.
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: I don't even got to say nothing like.
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: So listen, so we actually found an article on this
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: because I'm like, okay, so we know in situations when
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: you should not, I guess it's kind of like you
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: got to be in the moment, right? But we found
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: an article that kind of gives some examples of when
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: you should shut the fuck up. All right, so we
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: just want to go through them with you guys.
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: So the first one is when you want to correct someone,
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: particularly when that someone is a new acquaintance or a superior.
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: There are times when you need to correct people. Like
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: if someone says, Bob costs the company a million dollars
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: and you're Bob and that's not true. So that's true.
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: But say someone says, as everyone knows, we only use 10%
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: of our brains, which is one of those non-factual facts
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: that people spew all the time. We actually use our
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: entire brain. If you correct them, you might embarrass them
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: and you're not actually going to gain anything. They might
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: not believe you and you could wind up in a
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: dumb argument about it. taking out your phone and finding
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: sources to prove you're right until you shut them down. Sure,
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: you have demonstrated your superior knowledge, but a lot of
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: people will actually hate that.
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: Okay, let's talk about it. Because I feel like I
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: have gotten into so many debates with people and people
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: will say things like it's absolute. And this could be
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: a time I could just shut the fuck up and
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: just not have the discussion. But I wouldn't say that
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: this would be in a corporate setting because when I worked,
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: I mean, you know how to, I know how. And
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: when half the time I'm not going to say anything,
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: you know, because I have had a boss tell me,
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: I know you think I know you think I'm stupid, Ashley.
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: She said that to me. And I had minimal exchanges
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: with her. And most of them were like via email.
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: And she was a new a new manager. So I'm like, damn,
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: is this bitch? Is she watching my Instagram messages? Not Instagram,
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: but my like the internal messaging system. Like because I
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: did call her stupid at some point, but not like
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: I never act acted that way towards her.
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: Right. So whatever.
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: She could have been projecting. I don't give a fuck. Anyway,
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: but I feel like when you're in debates with people
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: about information and stuff like that, I feel like I'm
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: always the one to have to prove it to them.
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: Because people will say things like absolute and be period.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: Like that's what it is. But they are not going
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: to come with any real facts about it. It's just
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: like better believe me because I said it. But I
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: can give you proof.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: But see, that's the thing. That's what we're talking about. Like,
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: just don't do that.
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: It's pointless.
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: It's a pointless waste of time. And it just makes
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: you look bad when you do all of that.
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: How, though? Like, how? So people just want to just
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: go out here aimlessly.
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: Some people do. And sometimes you just, let me tell you,
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: I'll let you have it. I'll let you just run
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: your mouth and just talk, talk, talk. And then I'll
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: be like, okay.
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: Smile and nod.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: And then go on about my day. It's just a
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: waste of time to correct people. Right. I hate, like,
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: I hate a well, actually, motherfucker. Like, well, actually, I
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: know somebody like that. Just, well, actually, everything. And bitch
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: don't even know what she talking about. I be like, oh, look,
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: that's a daddy long leg. Well, actually, that is a
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: recluse spider and it's indigenous. Girl, shut the fuck up.
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: You don't even know if you're right. Right.
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: You just saying some shit just to say it. I
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: don't do that to people. I don't just be saying
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: shit to say it. and I'm also not about to
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: engage in just with anybody and trying to correct them
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: I'm not I'm not gonna do that to like you
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: know in a business setting or something like that I
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: wouldn't do it but like somebody that I'm normally like
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: going back and forth with about some shit maybe maybe
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: not if I feel like.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: It the next one When you have set a big goal,
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: this is a good one.
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: Yes, this is a very good one.
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: You might think that announcing your intentions to others will
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: increase your chances of achieving your goals, but research suggests
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: the opposite is true. NYU psychology professor Peter Goldwitzer found
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: in four different studies that people who kept their intentions
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: to themselves were more likely to achieve them than those
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: who made them public. Another reason for not trumpeting your
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: big plans is that if you don't follow through, you'll
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: be seen as flaky.
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: Yes. I think when I've kept certain things to myself,
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: they manifested quicker. When you start telling people about shit,
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: it's like you don't know who's really for you. Yeah,
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: you don't really know who's for you. And they may
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: not intentionally do it, but I feel like people can
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: definitely stop some shit for you.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: Right, they be manifesting, subconsciously manifesting your shit not to
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: happen because they're jealous.
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: I feel like that in a certain situation right now.
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: Even if you accidentally tell the wrong motherfucker, shit might
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: go left.
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: So keep your goals. Sometimes, you know, tell the people
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: that really need to know. Tell the people that you
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: know are 100% for you. Those are the people you tell.
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: Everybody else don't fucking matter. Like, don't put the shit
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: on social media.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: Or to tell the people that can make the goal happen. Exactly.
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: There's that part.
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't put everything that you're planning or doing online
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: because now you actually summoning the fucking energy of all
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: these different people. Some people that fuck with you, some
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: people that don't. Right.
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: And it'll be a bitch that don't like you screenshot it,
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: put it in her group chat. Now she got a
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: whole slew of bitches manifesting some bad shit for your goal. Exactly.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: Look, the next one is when you want to gossip.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: I like it. I be liking the gossip.
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: Me too. I enjoy this. Fuck this list.
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: So shut the fuck up when you want to gossip.
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: But God, come on. Who doesn't gossip? And I'm not
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: one of those keep my name out your mouth type bitches.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: I talk about you. You talk about me. We talk
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: about we.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: Like, it's fine.
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: It's true.
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: I mean, that's a terrible waste of good energy, right?
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: To be slandering people and gossiping. But it is so
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: much fun. Like, I love to screenshot a bitch and
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: put it in my group chat. I really do. Look,
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: I'm the bitch from the last post. Don't post your
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: shit to me. I manifest bad energy toward it with
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: my friends if I don't want to.
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: I'm not.
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: Uh-uh.
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: You going to manifest bad energy to somebody's shit?
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: By accident, because I'm going to screenshot it and put
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: it in my group chat.
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: Like, girl, look at this bitch.
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: Talking about she's selling clothes. Look at these outfits.
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying?
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: Like, I be like that. That's fucked up, Tammy. All right,
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: so I'm going to work on that, y'all. I'm just
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: being honest. That's something I would do.
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: All right, so it says, when you want to say
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: something negative about someone behind their back, don't.
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: Just don't.
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: There's almost never a good reason to do this. It
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: makes you look petty, childish, and mean-spirited. And it might
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: get back to the person you're slandering. I say almost
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: never because sometimes someone might do something truly terrible and
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: you might need to discuss it to decide what course
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: of action to take. But this is rare. So now
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: I understand that too. Sometimes you got to talk shit
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: out so it's really not gossiping about somebody, especially if
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: you're in the gossip. If I'm in the gossip and
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: I'm asking somebody about something to get their opinion on,
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: a situation that's really not gossiping. Like I can't help
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: but gossip about you at this point.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: Sorry. Yeah. I don't like that one. I'm going to
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: work on it though. Cause I know I'll be gossiping. Yeah.
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: Gossiping is fun. I mean, you obviously don't have any friends.
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: If you don't gossip, you don't have any friends. Right.
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: You ain't got nobody to talk to, bitch. But you
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: know what? I have like, I have had people come
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: talk to me, like coming to me to like talk
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: shit about somebody that I actually like and I will
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: shut it down.
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, me too. Don't ever come to me to talk
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: shit about, even talk shit about my friend or something
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: like that.
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: I will shut that down real quick. Yeah.
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: You know who I, I've had to cuss a few
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: people out over Charlamagne ass. Like imagine you calling me
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: thinking I'm going to talk to you about my fucking friend.
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: Like this is my friend in real life for a
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: long time. And I wouldn't do it to you. But
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: how do you feel that comfortable to come to me?
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: I've never talked to you about this person. So why
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: do you feel like you could?
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: Because because I think it's because he's such a public figure.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: People feel like they can just say what they want.
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: Shit is crazy.
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: No, absolutely.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: I would shut that shit down quick, too.
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so you coming to me because now you want
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: to go to the next person is acting like you
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: got some inside person. You don't have an inside person
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: over here when it comes to people I love.
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: Fuck you. And I'll fight you. How about that? Like, look,
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: you thought we was friends. Now I'm about to come
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: beat your ass.
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: Now we ain't friends no more.
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: All right, next one. When the deal isn't quite done,
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: look to that old adage, about count your chickens before
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: they hatch. If you're making a deal of some kind,
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: never announce until everyone has signed on every dotted line
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: and everything is airtight. You'll feel stupid if things fall apart.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: It's kind of similar to the last one.
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: It's kind of similar to the one with big goals.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: So all of that goes together. Just keep anything you're
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: actually working on, trying to do it. If it doesn't
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: involve the people you're telling, why do they need to know?
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: Right. And that day reminds me of me making plans
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: to go to Europe next month because I thought I
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: was about to get me a festival check. You're so
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: fucking stupid.
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: You make me sick.
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: You make me so sick. I was picking out outfits,
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: places I was going to take pictures in my outfits.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: I ain't going nowhere. You're so stupid. I'm going to
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: be right home.
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but shit, even when the deal is done, it
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: might not be done until it actually happens.
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: So, yeah. Right. The only thing about that, I mean,
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: you have to, you have to like prep for those things.
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: So we planning and prepping, planning, advertising, all that good stuff.
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: Sometimes stuff fall through. When you're mad, you should shut
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: the fuck up.
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: That's the hardest one for me.
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: Lord, work on me, Jesus.
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: You ain't through with me yet, Father. Please help me
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: with that. It says, when someone annoys you, don't respond
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: right away. As you are likely to blow up and
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: or say something you will regret. And you can't take
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: it back. Even if you apologize, people will not forget. Hey,
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: so best bet is don't fucking talk to me if
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: I'm mad then.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: Don't talk to me if you mad. That's only, that's
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: only that. That's not, see, you supposed to make this
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: about you, not like, don't talk to me if you mad,
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: don't talk to me if I mad. How about you
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: don't say nothing when you're mad? That's what they're saying.
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: Okay. So how did, how does that one work?
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: Because right now I'm mad, right? Like say for instance,
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: I'm mad. I'm in a relationship with a guy. I'm
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: mad at him right now. I don't say nothing, right?
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: Are we saying that when I finally get to a
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: place where I'm not mad and I want to have
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: a conversation with him about it, you don't think the
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: conversation going to cause me to get fucking mad again?
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: Like it is.
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: Well, it depends. It depends on what your goal in
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: the conversation. Are you, are you, so what I saw, like,
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: instead of trying to attack each other to win, you
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: decide that the issue is not each other, it's the problem. Right.
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: And y'all are attacking that together to resolve it. So
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: if you look at it that way, when you're mad,
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: you won't be, you'll try to take the anger out.
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: And take that, put your anger at the problem and
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: not the person. I guess.
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: Did you learn that in therapy?
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I did.
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: Great job, therapist. Who taught you that? That's a hard
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: one though, man. Because when you're mad, like one thing
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: I don't do when I'm mad, I don't say the
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: worst shit to win the argument. So I'm going to
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: be talking shit, but I ain't going to say like
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: the worst shit. To win the argument.
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: I will. I used to do that. I haven't been
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: with nobody in a long time to ever have that
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: type of time going on. I haven't been that close
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: with anybody where I could just go for the guzzling
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: like that. But I used to. I have.
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because I still want you to love and like
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: me later. It's certain shit somebody can say to me
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: and I'm not fucking with you no more.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: Period. But yeah. But I used to not care at
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: that point. It was like, you said something to hurt me.
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: Now here's something to hurt you. How you like the mapples?
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: That's how I used to feel. That's what I'm saying.
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: Like the mean things, that's just a mean person thing
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: to say crazy shit to each other when you fucking mad.
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: It's just a mean person thing. It's not a man
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: or a woman thing. It's just a mean person thing.
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: In that moment, we can be really mean.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: To each other. But my last boyfriend, he used to
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: bring that out of me. He used to tell me like,
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: shut your dick sucking lips. That's what he used to
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: tell me.
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: I would have been like, thanks for the compliment. Look,
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: the next one is when you're drunk.
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: Come on. That's a good one.
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: Now I'm usually pretty like crunk when I'm drunk, but
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: I'm not a mean drunk though. So I'm always having
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: like fun. Got my microphone. I travel with a mic.
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: Like I be.
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: Fun when I'm drunk.
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: You might be annoying, too, though. No.
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: I've never had somebody tell me I'm annoying when I'm drunk.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be like you say mean shit
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: when you're drunk. It also could be like you just
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: word vomit, just telling shit. Did I tell you that?
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: Did I say that? Or calling a nigga that you
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: used to like that you don't even really like no more. Like,
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: what you doing right now, John? You home? I want
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: to pull up. Like, shut up. Don't call that nigga.
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: You don't even like him.
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: All right, so it says it's really hard to keep
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: your mouth shut when you're drunk, but alcohol lowers inhibitions,
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: and you're far more likely to say something inappropriate when inebriated.
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: It's true.
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because let me tell you, the elevators went out
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: in my building. It was all kind of firemen downstairs,
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: and it was Saturday, late Saturday, and I walked into
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: the lobby, and I just was so inappropriate with them firemen.
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: I was like, ugh. I love a man in uniform.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: You're going to save my day. You're going to save
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: my day. And they was looking like, bitch, it is late. Like, bitch, ew.
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: No, they probably was looking like, bitch, shut the fuck up.
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they was. And everybody in the lobby was laughing.
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: That was just inappropriate. And then I was embarrassed the
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: next day. Like, damn, concierge saw that.
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: They got you on camera downstairs.
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: I got like a little slut.
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: Like a drunk slut. I wasn't about to do nothing
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: with them, man. I just was drunk and trying to
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: be funny. Yeah.
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: I'm not a crazy drunk, though. I have some friends
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: that are crazy drunks, and if you're not drunk while
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: they're drunk, it's just not fun.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: Like, bitch, ugh.
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: You just be disgusted with them. Like, I got to
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: be drunk to deal with you while you're drunk. I
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: know those people. I'm not one of them people.
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: I don't think I'm like that.
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd be having fun.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, good time.
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: But I did. It was embarrassing that night. I will
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: not lie.
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: All right. So the next one says, when you're about
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: to ask a question that isn't really a question, let's
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: give that some context. So it says, if you're sitting
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: in a meeting that's about to wrap up and you
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: find yourself raising your hand to say something like, so
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: we're going to use our core competencies, competency, reach out,
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: ride the swim lane and move the needle until we
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: swift excuse me, until we shift the paradigm, don't. You're
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: not asking an actual question. You're spewing corporate jargon so
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: that people will know you're in the bathroom. I was
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: about to say you're in the bathroom, so people will
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: know you're in the room. And they will hate you
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: for it because they want to end the meeting and
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: get back to their jobs. I remember people like that. Like,
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: you're just trying to be fucking noticed. Just shut the
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: fuck up so we can go back. Or actually, if
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: it's the end of the day, so I can log
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: off and go to Target.
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: Right, because while we're in the meeting, I'm going to
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: start sending everybody but you the Viola Davis meme of
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: her getting her purse and walking out. I'm sending everybody that.
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: Everybody, like, doing gifs and shit about you. Right. Because
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: now you're just doing some shit for attention.
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: And here goes this brown noser again doing too much.
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: Yep. So that's a good time to shut the fuck up.
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: All right, here's a good one. When you're about to complain.
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: It's hot.
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: You have too much work. Something smells. The project is stupid.
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: All true, probably, but keep it to yourself. Nobody likes
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: a whiner.
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: This shit is for fucking work, isn't it? But anyway,
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: we can apply it to real life. So I feel
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: like complaining should be like the 11th commandment. Thou shall
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: not complain.
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: It's hard.
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: But you have so many other things that you can
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: be and should be grateful for that this thing is minuscule.
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: Why are you complaining? It be like little shit people
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: be complaining about.
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: I hate when people doing free shit and complaining about
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: free shit. This nigga took you on a free vacation.
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: You complaining about, oh, I need salt.
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: Bitch, I know you ain't talking. I know you done
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: complained on a free vacation before.
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: I don't complain. I'm so easy to get along with
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: on free. When we doing free shit, if it's free
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: for me, I'm pleasant. I'm pleasant. I rarely send food
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: back when I.
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: Ain't paying for it. Even when I'm paying for it.
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, especially now since businesses are short staff and costs up.
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: I rarely, rarely... It gotta be really bad for me
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: to send it back. Yeah. I....
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: I try not to complain, but if I complain on you,
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: it was really bad. Because I'm like one of those
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: people who just silently go away. I just be like, no,
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: I ain't fucking with that no more. And I'm going
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: to tell other people. I'm going to gossip about your business.
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: But I'm not going to like fuck your day up
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: about it. So if I fuck your day up about
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: some shit, it is really bad. And it's like, why
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: are you playing with me at this point? If I
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: really complain about some shit. And I guess that also
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: goes into relationships. My ex, one of my exes, he
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: would always complain about my hair being on the floor
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: and shit like that. Nigga, your beard hair is all
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: on the floor like pubic hair. You know what I do?
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: I come in the bathroom, I just sweep the whole bathroom.
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: I don't pinpoint what's yours and what's mine. You just
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: clean up behind each other because that's what you do
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: in relationships. But for whatever reason, oftentimes people only see
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: what the other person is doing. They don't see their
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: little quirks and shit that get on everybody else's nerves.
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: I have a high tolerance for bullshit. So I don't
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: be complaining like in relationships specifically about shit the other
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: person does. Not like regular little things like that. Personality shit,
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: I'm complaining about.
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: I used to get, like my ex-boyfriend, I used to
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: get mad when he would leave the toilet seat up
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: because I would fall in. And then I had picked
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: up some weight and then I ain't fall in. I
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: was even more mad.
• 36:07
  Speaker 2: Bitch, put that toilet seat down.
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: Your ass done got fatter. I ain't even fall in
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: this time. I'm real mad at you.
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: That's some legitimate shit to complain about, all right? Leaving
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: that toilet seat up. Don't nobody want to sit on
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: that dried up pee.
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: You piss on the toilet seat and you ain't cleaning it.
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: Now, that's a legit complaint. My dad used to be like,
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: did you lift the toilet seat up when you was done?
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: That's how he used to get us. Yeah, but it
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: don't go up.
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: It go down. Exactly.
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: But he was like, daddy, why you ain't put the
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: toilet seat down? He'd be like, why you ain't put
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: it up?
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: Nigga.
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: Nigga.
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: Right. And then my ex used to complain about, all right,
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: I have this thing where I don't tighten the lids properly.
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: on seasonings. When I put them back in the cabinet,
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: like if I'm seasoning food as I'm cooking, I put
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: the lid on it and then I put it up
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: and I never tighten, screw it tight. He used to
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: get mad that the screws were never tight on the seasoning.
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because you picked it up and now you dropped
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: it and it's wasting.
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: It spilled, right? But, and I get it. And I
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: was like, okay, I'll make a conscious effort to start
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: tightening them. But how about you start cooking some shit
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: in here sometimes instead of me having to cook all
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: the time. And then you can make sure they're tight
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: when you cook it because you don't ever cook.
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: Was that your response when he gave you some critique
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: on something? Is the response of something you don't like
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: of him?
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that was.
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: That's some bullshit. Just take it and be like, okay, baby,
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: I'll remember.
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: Period. Right, because instead of attacking the person, attack the problem.
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: I learned it. I told you I just learned that
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: in therapy, girl. Yeah, see?
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: See how that works, y'all? Y'all see how that works?
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: So I'm trying to nitpick with your damn partner all
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: the time.
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: And that's just in anything.
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: Huh?
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: Because he like, can you just tighten the lids on
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: the damn season? Can you just shut the fuck up
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: and eat the food I prepared for you? Why are
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: you in my cabinet anyway?
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: You don't cook.
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: Don't cook shit in here ever.
• 38:08
  Speaker 2: Let's see. When someone else is being a jerk. Why
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: can't I shut the fuck up? Yeah.
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: When someone else is being stupid, rude, belligerent, or an
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: idiot in some way or the other, lit them. Don't
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: call them out, get mad, or insult, or embarrass them. First,
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: they could just be having a bad day or not
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: know how to handle themselves in whatever situation they're in.
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: Be kind. I guess. I guess everybody's allowed to have
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: a bad day. And maybe it's an opportunity to ask them, hey,
• 38:44
  Speaker 2: you okay?
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: As opposed to, you know.
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: Being a jerk back. Yeah.
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: Being nasty back to them. Because when we say shut
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: the fuck up, it's like.
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: Negative. Right.
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: If you come in with something positive, yeah, absolutely say
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: whatever it is. But if you come in with some
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: negative shit, then shut the fuck up.
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: Basically. Which I mean, I'm confused.
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: In that situation. So this person is clearly having a
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: bad day. Or we're assuming maybe they could possibly be
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: having a bad day if they being a jerk. Ask
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: them if they're having a bad day as opposed to
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: matching their jerk.
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: Matching their energy.
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: But y'all know y'all be like, I reciprocate y'all energy.
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: I reciprocate y'all energy.
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: I know I do. Or I just won't say anything
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: to you. If I could clearly see that you having
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: a bad day. day or you acting like a jerk,
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: I'll just shut down. I'm not even saying nothing to you.
• 39:34
  Speaker 2: And I feel like that was one of the issues
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: in my last relationship too, because I didn't feel like he,
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: if you were having a bad day and something's going
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: on with you and you need my love right now,
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: and you need me to be that feminine energy to
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: make you feel better, you have to be inviting me.
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: Of that. Your energy has to be inviting of that. Otherwise,
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: because when I have a bad day, I really want
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: to be left alone. So that's how I want to
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: be done, right? So I have to match people whatever
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: their love languages is. But you have to be inviting
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: of the love. If you need a hug right now
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: because you had a hard day, you can't just be
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: blatantly nasty to me and expect me to give you
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: a hug. I'm actually not going to say nothing. So
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: that will be a time that I'll shut the fuck up.
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: if you just blatantly being nasty to me. I'm not
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: gonna argue with you initially. Now, if you keep poking
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: a motherfucking bear now, I might kick sweep you. I've
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: been in the gym trying to learn how to kick
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: sweep niggas mid-argument.
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: See, that's counterproductive. Bitch, could you imagine that?
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: You'd be at my house or something like that, and
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: I'm arguing with my nigga, and you just see me kick,
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: sweep him in his head, like bonks off the floor
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: a little bit, like, boop, boop.
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: Oh my God, that would be... I'd be like, oh
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: my God, I'm leaving. I'm leaving right now. I don't
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: want no parts of this shit right here. This girl
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: is a ninja. I'm like, when people are jerks sometimes,
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: especially as people that, you know, I'm... I know, and, like,
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: there's something going on. I'll just be, like, overly nice
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: just to make them more mad. You ever do that?
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: So you ain't shutting the fuck up. You just going
• 41:15
  Speaker 2: to be super nice.
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: Super nice. Super nice. And make them more angry, like, oh,
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: I hate this bitch today. Like almost so nice that
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: it comes off fake, you know? Right.
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: And that's why they get mad because they know that
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: shit ain't fucking genuine.
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: So you should probably shut the fuck up. Right. Right.
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: My point exactly. Having a bad day, Ashley? Oh, my God.
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: Somebody get her some caffeine, guys. She's having a bad day.
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: No, clearly you're having a bad day.
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: Want to talk about it? No? Okay. Going back to
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: my desk.
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: Shame.
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: Oh, goodness. Do you need a moment?
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: All right.
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: When you're about to talk to fill in the silence,
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: silence can be awkward, but there are a couple of
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: reasons you shouldn't necessarily rush to fill it. The first
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: is that some people just like to think before they
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: speak and aren't as freaked out by pauses as others.
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: So when you jump to fill in The void, you're
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: actually cutting off their thought process. Way to beat and
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: make sure they're not preparing to speak. Another reason is
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: that if you're both uncomfortable with silence, sometimes you can
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: learn a lot by letting the other person feel it.
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: As we often tend to overshare, we want to impress
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: and overcome any sort of awkwardness that could be perceived
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: as our fault for not holding up our end of
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: the conversation. This tactic is particularly useful when conducting interviews
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: or during meetings.
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: Okay, so that's some job shit.
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: So listen.
• 42:56
  Speaker 2: Okay, if there's some awkward silence, like on the phone,
• 43:00
  Speaker 2: I'm getting off the phone. First of all. I'm not
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: filling in shit. I'm like, let me call you back.
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: Let me call you back. Let me call you right back. Like,
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: I'm getting off the phone. In person, I don't really
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: have that problem because maybe I am one of those
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: people that will fill in silence.
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? I'm filling in with a
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: joke real quick. Yes. Real quick with a joke. Exactly.
• 43:20
  Speaker 2: Like, I'm good with that. So, if you're somebody that's
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: not engaging in a conversation, I just... And if I
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: can't talk to you, you really whack.
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. It depends on what we're talking about.
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: Because if we're talking about something heavy, I'll let that
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: pause ride just so you can like... Because I remember
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: that time I told you I told that dude like
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: his dick was trash. It was a long pause. I
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: wanted him to absorb what I was saying. I didn't
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: say it mean. I said it nice. You know, I
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: wasn't like, your dick is trash.
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: I was just like, You let him think too long, though,
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: because didn't he get irate after that? Calm down.
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: Clearly, you're having a bad day. Do you need a moment?
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: Somebody get him some coffee. His dick don't work. That
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: was a nice one.
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: We're going to have a urologist on next week, y'all,
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: to talk about erectile dysfunction. So that's a nice little.
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: Some information.
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: Segway. Yeah.
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: If anybody has ED, call up. We want to hear
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: from y'all.
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because we want to help.
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we want to help too.
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: Because we want all dicks to work in 2022.
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: They got to change their diets, man. They talk about
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: black women like leading and diabetes. All black people. Black women,
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: black men. We all have the same type of health issues.
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: These things is not genetics. It's the food that we eat, obviously.
• 44:47
  Speaker 2: So everybody just needs to change the diets.
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: And we'll get into that next week. Yeah. So tune
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: in for that. Let's take a break. We'll be right back.
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: We're going to come back with our dumb bitch story
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: for this week. It's good. Dumb bitch story. You are
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: so dumb. Because we've all been a dumb bitch at
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: least once or twice. All right.
• 45:08
  Speaker 2: So listen, we're back. And listen, today's dumb bitch story
• 45:12
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• 45:15
  Speaker 2: I won't say her name. She says, I don't think
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: my dumb bitch story is that exciting, but I love
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: the show and I just wanted to write in. So
• 45:23
  Speaker 2: I started dating this man when I was 25. I'm
• 45:26
  Speaker 2: 29 now. He's 11 years older than me. He was
• 45:29
  Speaker 2: really nice.
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: A gentleman.
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: Sex was good, etc. Plus, he used to spend those bags.
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: I ended up falling in love with him. He said
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: and showed the feeling was mutual, but I could never
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: get this man to actually say we were together. I
• 45:43
  Speaker 2: used to borderline beg the nigga to be with me.
• 45:46
  Speaker 2: I've dated other men throughout the years, but I always
• 45:49
  Speaker 2: end up running back to him for the comfort. And
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: I know he's going to take me to nice places.
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: Fast forward to now. I hit him up a few
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: months ago and he's back in my life. He's finally
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: ready to settle down with me, but I don't feel
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: like that anymore. Um, I'm really over the nigga. When
• 46:07
  Speaker 2: we're together, I don't want to be touched. We've had
• 46:10
  Speaker 2: sex once recently and I wasn't into it at all.
• 46:13
  Speaker 2: I had to fantasize about someone else to even attempt
• 46:16
  Speaker 2: to enjoy it. I no longer enjoy our conversations. I
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: get irritated quickly. At this point, I really just keep
• 46:24
  Speaker 2: him around just out of fear of being alone, I guess.
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: I guess I'm a lonely dumb bitch. That's what she said.
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: Ah!
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: So that's a lot. The thing is, is that.
• 46:39
  Speaker 2: Do we really want men to like us? Because I
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: feel like sometimes when they start liking us at the
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: same capacity.
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: Say, for instance, you chased.
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: Him in the beginning, right? And then once he starts
• 46:50
  Speaker 2: liking you in the same capacity, sometimes women start pulling away.
• 46:54
  Speaker 2: Is it because it was the chase you were in
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: love with? Or is it because... it's like, nigga, you
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: made me wait all this time. Now I'm not really
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: feeling you like that. Because once sex is bad, the
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: relationship really is over.
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: Facts.
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: If it's like disgusting for you to fuck on him,
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: it's like done.
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, just sit him on his way. Because, I mean,
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: you're just being mean to the nigga at this point. Like, ugh,
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: why are you breathing, nigga?
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: Like, shh.
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: You know, like. Right. Yeah, just sit him on his way.
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: I mean, just be lonely. Find something to fill your
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: time up with besides a nigga you don't like.
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: Because she was liking him when he was being indifferent.
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: She liked him when he wouldn't say, yes, we're together.
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: She liked him. I do like that sometimes. I like
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: a little chase. That's why I'm saying these things. But
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: is it a chase though? If it's the chase that
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: you want, right? For some women who like to chase, right?
• 47:58
  Speaker 2: When you get the thing, because that chase shit is
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: really some masculine shit for you to be chasing. Men
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: are the hunters. Men like to conquer, right? So as
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: a woman, that's not like a natural thing for us.
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: Well, I like it. I don't know. I guess because
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: I just feel like so many men be after me
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: all the time that... Sometimes I want to be like
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: the one doing the chase a little bit. Not like crazy.
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: I don't want to be like, let me take you
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: to dinner.
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: Let me ask you to marry me.
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: Right. No. What I do like when a man isn't
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: like just always available at my every whim and just
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: give me something to like wonder about a little bit. Like,
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: where you at? You know, like just a little bit.
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: Not like you're my husband and where you at is
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: four in the morning, but. Just give me a little, like,
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: give me a little chase. Just a little chase.
• 48:53
  Speaker 2: I don't like men that's always available because I don't
• 48:55
  Speaker 2: like people always clocking me. Okay? Like, I don't work
• 48:59
  Speaker 2: a job, but if I did, I would never tell
• 49:01
  Speaker 2: a nigga my schedule. That type of thing. Like, I
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: don't want you to ever know exactly when I'm available.
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Or I don't like when a nigga message me
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: on Instagram and then turn around and message me on
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: Facebook the same shit. Don't do that. That's weird.
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: That's weird.
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: That's annoying. I feel trapped by you.
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: Not you feel trapped, but not like you don't think
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: for a second that he just want to make sure.
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: Listen, hey, I'm in the running.
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: You see me? Like, he want to make sure you
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: see him. I see you, nigga.
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: I see your message in Instagram. You don't have to
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: come over here to Facebook. Shame. God damn.
• 49:50
  Speaker 2: I don't know. Girl, leave that man alone if you
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: don't like him anymore. Or maybe you need to figure
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: out what it was that made you like him in
• 49:59
  Speaker 2: the first place and go back to that place. So
• 50:01
  Speaker 2: maybe y'all can fall in love with each other now.
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: Why? She gonna be like, stop coming over there and
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: You fucking with somebody else, then you can be like, damn,
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: where Joshua at?
• 50:09
  Speaker 2: Exactly. See, and that's the weird thing. Why we like
• 50:12
  Speaker 2: that hurt? It's like everybody got a fucking pain body.
• 50:15
  Speaker 2: Everybody just want to feel. I don't like that feeling
• 50:19
  Speaker 2: in my chest. I don't like it. I can't sleep
• 50:21
  Speaker 2: at night. I don't like it. I don't like my
• 50:24
  Speaker 2: chest to hurt. I don't know what's wrong with y'all bitches.
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: I don't like my chest to hurt either.
• 50:28
  Speaker 2: Y'all bitches like y'all chest to hurt. Y'all do.
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: I don't.
• 50:31
  Speaker 2: Y'all like that drama feeling and y'all like the makeup afterwards.
• 50:34
  Speaker 2: I don't like it.
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: Ooh, I like that. See? I do like the makeup.
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: I don't like that.
• 50:37
  Speaker 2: I just like mutual, everything just.
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: Cool, copacetic.
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: That's what I like. No, because sometimes that after fight
• 50:44
  Speaker 2: sex be so good. It's not even an after fight.
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: It's like, oh, he ain't answer the phone. Even if
• 50:51
  Speaker 2: you're in a situation where you can't check a nigga
• 50:53
  Speaker 2: about some shit because they ain't really your man. Y'all
• 50:57
  Speaker 2: not established in an actual relationship yet, but he ain't
• 51:00
  Speaker 2: answering the phone for you. Now you just going crazy
• 51:03
  Speaker 2: in your mind. You may not display it to him,
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: but that gives like some fire, some passion. That is
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: weird old fucking behavior.
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: I like it.
• 51:12
  Speaker 2: I don't like that, man. I don't like to have
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: to wonder about shit. I don't.
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: Just a little wonder. I don't need to like, I
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: don't want you to be too predictable and too accessible
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: to me because then it's just like, Another piece of
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: bland chicken for dinner tonight. Night after night.
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: So if you call a guy and he don't answer
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: the phone, that don't bother you?
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: No, because I can't answer the phone every time you call.
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: I'm out with somebody else. All right, y'all.
• 51:44
  Speaker 2: Listen, if you enjoyed this episode, please tune in every
• 51:47
  Speaker 2: Thursday on the iHeartRadio.
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: App or wherever the fuck you get your podcasts at.
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: That's how you're going to do my thought.
• 51:55
  Speaker 2: Do you want a husband or not?
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: This is what we're talking about. I already know who
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: my husband is.
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: God damn.
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: I already know who he is. Okay. I met him.
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: We're building right now. All right.
• 52:12
  Speaker 2: I hear that, y'all. Y'all hear that? So y'all, I'm
• 52:14
  Speaker 2: getting married next year. I know I'm getting married next year.
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: I don't know about you, but I'm getting a husband
• 52:20
  Speaker 2: this year, child. And I'm going to have a whole
• 52:21
  Speaker 2: baby next year. How about that?
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: I don't know about the baby for me, but I'm
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: definitely getting married. I hear that.
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: We gonna see. We gonna see.
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: But anyway, like she said, if y'all like this show,
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: go ahead and do your shit.
• 52:41
  Speaker 2: Listen, if you enjoyed this episode, please tune in every
• 52:44
  Speaker 2: Thursday on the iHeartRadio app and wherever the fuck you
• 52:46
  Speaker 2: get your podcasts at. This is your co-host AJ Holiday 2.0.
• 52:50
  Speaker 2: Y'all follow me on Instagram. Keep them dumb bitch stories coming.
• 52:53
  Speaker 2: And the white people scared. They ain't fuck with us.
• 52:55
  Speaker 2: So we don't have no ask a black friends in
• 52:57
  Speaker 2: a while.
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: All right, y'all. Follow me on Instagram. Official Tam Bam.
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: I love y'all. Remember to speak now.
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: And never hold your peace. Girl, what the fuck was that?
• 53:14
  Speaker 2: I can sing in real life.
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: Bye, y'all. Bye. Bye.