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Stassi Schroeder · Untraditionally Lala

• 0:05
  Speaker 1: Hello, Gorgeous.
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  Speaker 2: Today is a very special podcast because it is not
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  Speaker 2: just the three amigas, Amiga and Amigo, but I have Stace.
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  Speaker 3: This is very exciting. Let me just say, I fucking
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  Speaker 3: live for this setup. I feel like I'm on the
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  Speaker 3: Morning Show right now, like I'm in an audition, but
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  Speaker 3: I feel oddly comfortable.
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  Speaker 1: That's good, right, It's like a good kind of cast.
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  Speaker 1: It's like an actual one.
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  Speaker 3: I love it. I love it.
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  Speaker 1: I love it too. Did you like I did like
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  Speaker 1: the Versailles with your photo?
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  Speaker 3: I know you didn't.
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  Speaker 1: No, I did that.
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  Speaker 3: You photo shopped it?
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  Speaker 1: I did that?
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  Speaker 3: Are you joking?
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  Speaker 1: I swear to god.
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  Speaker 3: That's gonna bring tears to my eyes.
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  Speaker 1: It was so special.
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  Speaker 3: No, like that made me feel so good. I reposted
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  Speaker 3: and I was like, oh my god, the art like
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  Speaker 3: Versailles and then like my like yellow big bird Lufa dress,
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  Speaker 3: like I loved that dress.
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  Speaker 2: I trolled your Instagram and I was like, what photo
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  Speaker 2: would she look best in?
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  Speaker 1: Being placed at Versailles? And that's the one I choke.
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  Speaker 3: I can't believe you know how to photoshop?
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  Speaker 1: I know, isn't that hard?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, la, you didn't even have venmo like
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  Speaker 3: four months ago.
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  Speaker 2: Which, by the way, didn't realize how annoying it was
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  Speaker 2: when someone didn't have Venmo.
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  Speaker 3: Shit, literally every time we went to dinner, and I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: this fucking bitch, she's so lucky she doesn't drink because
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  Speaker 3: it doesn't even matter. I'm like, you only had like
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  Speaker 3: one entree. I don't care, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 3: But if you were to be drinking, yeah, and contributing
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  Speaker 3: to the alcohol cost and you didn't have Venmo, I
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  Speaker 3: want to cut you out as a friend.
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  Speaker 2: Oh Dan, maybe I should have not gotten it, because
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  Speaker 2: then I'd just be like balling on free meals stas. Yeah, no, Venmo,
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  Speaker 2: I finally got it. I learned how to photoshop somewhat. No,
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  Speaker 2: all you do is like screenshot the photo and then
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  Speaker 2: like hold the actual person in the photo and it
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  Speaker 2: copies it, and then you just paste it.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I'm talking about. Nope, I'm gonna show
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  Speaker 1: you how to do this, Okay, show me. No, it's
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  Speaker 1: so good.
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  Speaker 2: People went insane when I told them that you were
• 2:14
  Speaker 2: coming on the podcast. I literally have not had you on.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think since the very first episode of this podcast,
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  Speaker 2: since I was pregnant. The three of us meet or Brett.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I only come on this podcast. You only asked
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  Speaker 3: me on when I'm pregnant.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I feel like I've been pregnant kind of a
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  Speaker 1: lot in the past couple of years.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like that. And in all fairness, no, like
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  Speaker 3: there was a long time where I was like, I'm
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  Speaker 3: not doing podcasts, so like, it feels good to be
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  Speaker 3: back with you.
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  Speaker 1: Asking you to do my podcast was like asking Beyonce. No,
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  Speaker 1: for real, Oh.
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  Speaker 4: My god, this is the first official studio in studio
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  Speaker 4: interview Lala's had.
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  Speaker 3: Really, where have you been doing your Oh yeah, their
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  Speaker 3: table did the table? Yeah, but the table is so cute,
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  Speaker 3: it was.
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  Speaker 1: That's great, But this is much better.
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  Speaker 3: Honored to be first, honored to be in the same
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  Speaker 3: breath as Beyonce right now but always yeah.
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  Speaker 2: All, okay, so you're pregnant again. I think you're carrying
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  Speaker 2: different this time around.
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  Speaker 3: Duh.
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  Speaker 1: I'm surprised your shoes fit.
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  Speaker 3: No, for real, you guys. When I was pregnant with Harford,
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  Speaker 3: within the first I think it was week sixteen, I
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  Speaker 3: started to swell and I couldn't fit into any of
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  Speaker 3: my shoes. It was also covid. Okay, so I didn't
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  Speaker 3: leave my house. I just sat around watching the Great
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  Speaker 3: British Bake Off Show, baking all day and eating what
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  Speaker 3: I baked all day. So like, yes, I am carrying
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  Speaker 3: differently this time around.
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  Speaker 1: You think you ate more during that time than now?
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  Speaker 3: Yes, really, Lola baked goods morning, noon and night.
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  Speaker 1: You did bake a lot. Yes, a lot of people
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  Speaker 1: did in COVID.
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  Speaker 3: That's all I had to live for cupcakes.
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  Speaker 2: I remember who we went on a tripe? Where did
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  Speaker 2: we goo?
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  Speaker 1: No? I think it was like Mead, Oh, yeah, yeah
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  Speaker 1: it was. They're all the sand, They're all the sand.
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  Speaker 2: And Stacy fitting her little sausage feet into Chanelle's. I
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  Speaker 2: was like, I think we ought to give them up, girl,
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  Speaker 2: I think it's time.
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  Speaker 3: No, it was sad. It was definitely. You know, like
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  Speaker 3: those images of Kim Kardashian when she was pregnant and
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  Speaker 3: her feet are like bubbling out of her her heels,
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  Speaker 3: that that's what that was. I also think that women
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  Speaker 3: carry differently with girls. I think that actually you looked
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  Speaker 3: like a goddess. So like this theory doesn't make any sense,
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  Speaker 3: but like when you're pregnant with a girl, you get
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  Speaker 3: fugly but like when you're pregnant with a boy, they
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  Speaker 3: don't steal your beauty. Oh, so many people have written
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  Speaker 3: me that that I believe it.
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  Speaker 2: Wait now that makes me so nervous because I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: Like I didn't gain much weight with Ocean, but she
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  Speaker 2: was also small in the tummy. She came three weeks early,
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  Speaker 2: but I wouldn't know if I was fugly or not
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  Speaker 2: because it was COVID. I was in sweatpants and there
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  Speaker 2: was no reason to get ready or put makeup on.
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  Speaker 2: Like that's gotta be fun this time around because you
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  Speaker 2: can like actually get ready.
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  Speaker 3: No, you have no idea. This whole experience has been
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  Speaker 3: so different. Like I was scared at first and apprehensive
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  Speaker 3: to get to try and get pregnant again because I
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  Speaker 3: associate it with just like being stuck at home feeling depressed, yeah, baking,
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  Speaker 3: not like not putting on clothes, just wearing sweatpants, all
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  Speaker 3: those things, and I'm like, I can't do that to
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  Speaker 3: myself again. And then I kind of had to be
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  Speaker 3: reminded that, okay, well life's not like that. And so
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  Speaker 3: this time I'm like, what can what? How do I
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  Speaker 3: fill my days? How do I jam pack? Them as
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  Speaker 3: much as possible. Like even if I'm at home, I
• 5:36
  Speaker 3: put on a cute outfit, I do my hair and
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  Speaker 3: my makeup. I just it's so different. Everything about it
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  Speaker 3: is so different. Just wait until you get pregnant again
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  Speaker 3: and you're able to just leave your house and film
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  Speaker 3: or just record your just it's so much more fun.
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  Speaker 2: I believe that I've started saving images of like Rihanna
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  Speaker 2: because she's my pregnancy fashion inspo, Like I can't wait
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  Speaker 2: to just like wear bikini tops out to craigs with
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  Speaker 2: like unbuttoned jeans.
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  Speaker 3: You're gonna kill it.
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  Speaker 1: I want to kill it.
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  Speaker 3: Will.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so jealous of you. Why Because for.
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  Speaker 2: Me, there's not many relationships that are in I've seen
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  Speaker 2: successful relationships like with my mom and dad, with my
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  Speaker 2: older brother, but within the front group, there's not many
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  Speaker 2: relationships that I.
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  Speaker 1: Look at and go, I want that.
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  Speaker 2: That's so nice, Lola, Well, it's true, and I talk
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  Speaker 2: to you about this on your podcast, But just the
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  Speaker 2: way that you and bow parent Hartford, the relationship that
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  Speaker 2: the two of you have, you can just tell that
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  Speaker 2: you enjoy each other so so much, And I'm wondering
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  Speaker 2: how you find that balance of like how am I
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  Speaker 2: a good wife? You obviously are a working mom and
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  Speaker 2: then you're a mom, So how do you find the balance?
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  Speaker 2: And I hate when people ask me this question, but
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  Speaker 2: people are going crazy and want to know, like how
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  Speaker 2: you maintain every being when and when it's not so great?
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  Speaker 1: What does that look like?
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  Speaker 3: Well, I'll tell you what I'm failing at right now.
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  Speaker 3: And I've noticed that I've failed at it for like
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  Speaker 3: a good chunk of time, Like every year, I'm like
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  Speaker 3: failing in the friendship area of my life. Like I
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  Speaker 3: do feel like I don't keep in touch with people
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  Speaker 3: very well because I'm like I'm there's so much I
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  Speaker 3: personally feel like is on my plate just being a
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  Speaker 3: mom and working and being a wife, that like I
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  Speaker 3: don't know how to also give myself to my friends
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  Speaker 3: the way that I used to. And I notice that
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  Speaker 3: and I don't like that about myself. But also it's
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  Speaker 3: like you can't have it all, like sometimes in life,
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  Speaker 3: like other things are going to suffer because you're focusing
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  Speaker 3: on something else. And I try to not expect in
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  Speaker 3: return from my friends too much because I'm not able
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  Speaker 3: to give it. So, like's that part of my life
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  Speaker 3: I've recognize is like it's suffering, Like I could be better,
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  Speaker 3: you know, okay, but I also feel like I'm not
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  Speaker 3: that great of a wife, Like I could totally have
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  Speaker 3: sex without way much way more, like truly I could.
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  Speaker 3: I think that all of the things, like we both
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  Speaker 3: respect each other so much, and we're both best friends
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  Speaker 3: and so we like the day to day of our lives.
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  Speaker 3: Like it works so well because I think that respect
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  Speaker 3: is there and that friendship, but I could be better
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  Speaker 3: at making him feel wanted. But like I'm tired all
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  Speaker 3: the time.
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  Speaker 1: Well you're like one hundred months pregnant, but I.
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  Speaker 3: Feel I know, I just feel guilty because he does
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  Speaker 3: such a good job of making me feel wanted. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: that like I've recognized that, Like I don't do that.
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  Speaker 3: So while you look at us and say that I'm slacking,
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  Speaker 3: like I can see that I'm slacking.
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  Speaker 2: But I feel that it's not even about like I'm
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  Speaker 2: looking at just Instagram and going it's not real life.
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  Speaker 2: Like I think you have been totally open and honest
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  Speaker 2: with me about the pieces that sometimes are lacking, and
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  Speaker 2: it just feels like a very healthy relationship. Like obviously
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  Speaker 2: it's not going to be perfect all the time, and
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  Speaker 2: there are things that you could do differently and better,
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  Speaker 2: But I feel like the way that you and bo
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  Speaker 2: handle that is like the coolest part.
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  Speaker 3: Well, the difference between like this relationship and anything else
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  Speaker 3: I've ever experienced before. It's like three things. One is
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  Speaker 3: just like there is that respect for each other. I
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  Speaker 3: respect him so much and I know he respects me,
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  Speaker 3: so like that informs everything that I do. Yeah, what
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  Speaker 3: was those fun? Those three things? Literally? Like what was
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  Speaker 3: the two other things?
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  Speaker 1: You have? Pregnancy breaks right now? Voice?
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  Speaker 3: There was a spect part of it. The oh, the
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  Speaker 3: fact that we put each other first sometimes before Hartford
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  Speaker 3: because we feel like if that foundation isn't there, then
• 9:55
  Speaker 3: like how are we going to be there for her?
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  Speaker 3: So like I know that's like controversial to say, like
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  Speaker 3: you should always put your kid first, but sometimes no,
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  Speaker 3: because because I feel like we both know that, like
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  Speaker 3: if we're not cool, then how are we gonna be
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  Speaker 3: cool for our kids? So at least we're on the
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  Speaker 3: same page there, okay. And then the third thing is
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  Speaker 3: the way that we parent. It's like we both it's
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  Speaker 3: not a competition of like who's doing better or who's
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  Speaker 3: like had to work harder, you know what I mean? Like,
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  Speaker 3: I feel like so much of the time I've seen
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  Speaker 3: couples that they're like, well I did this all day,
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  Speaker 3: or I was with the baby all day, or like
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  Speaker 3: blah blah blah, that we don't do that. It's like
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  Speaker 3: if I see that like he's struggling or like needs
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  Speaker 3: a nap or something, it's like, okay, tap out, like
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  Speaker 3: I'll do it. I don't mind. It's there's no competition.
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  Speaker 3: I love that it feels like a partnership. And those
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  Speaker 3: are like the three things that I feel like has
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  Speaker 3: like really worked for us.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So I learned that if you go into couples therapy,
• 10:57
  Speaker 2: they always say that the relationship always comes before the child. Really, yes,
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  Speaker 2: because without a healthy relationship, you don't have a healthy
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  Speaker 2: home for your child.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Right, So if you're constantly making sure that the.
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  Speaker 2: Kid is good, but you and your co parent or
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  Speaker 2: partner are not, then that fucks up the entire dynamic
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  Speaker 2: of the home.
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  Speaker 3: Right. I agree with That's how I feel because like,
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  Speaker 3: think about it, like when you're in a fight or
• 11:24
  Speaker 3: an argument with your partner, like, oh my god, if
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  Speaker 3: bo and I are fighting, like I'm so testy with Hartford,
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  Speaker 3: and like my I have a short fuse and I'm
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  Speaker 3: just irritating, and then like the energy and the vibe
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  Speaker 3: and the house is thick and so like, that's not
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  Speaker 3: what I want for my kids.
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  Speaker 2: No, and that's more toxic having that type of situation.
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  Speaker 2: Two parents in the same home who aren't getting along,
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  Speaker 2: then two parents who decide let's go our separate ways.
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  Speaker 2: And yes, the child will be bounced back and forth,
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  Speaker 2: but at least they're being bounced back and forth to
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  Speaker 2: healthy homes.
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  Speaker 3: Fully agree, la La. My parents divorced when I was
• 12:01
  Speaker 3: four or five, and I have zero trauma from that.
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  Speaker 3: All I have are like happy memories of just like, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: two happy homes and my parents then were friends totally,
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  Speaker 3: and like I never really saw. Of course, you should
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  Speaker 3: see fighting, like you should see realistically, like what a
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  Speaker 3: relationship is going to be like. But it was never
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  Speaker 3: anything that I'm like, oh, this was like a dark
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  Speaker 3: place to live in.
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  Speaker 1: Like it scarred you. It didn't do that.
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  Speaker 3: No.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think watching parents like have an argument and
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  Speaker 2: then seeing how they come out of it is definitely important.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I feel like that's kind of what we
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  Speaker 2: were exposed to.
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  Speaker 5: I feel like you should watch your parents argue and
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  Speaker 5: then make up because it feels like you can stand
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  Speaker 5: up for yourself and it won't ruin a relationship. Excuse me,
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  Speaker 5: it won't ruin a relationship totally right, So yeah.
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  Speaker 3: No, I think it's I really agree.
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  Speaker 4: Do you know what it seems like too, just that
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  Speaker 4: I'm noticing with you, I feel like you make conscious efforts.
• 12:56
  Speaker 4: And I say that because you just had mentioned you
• 12:59
  Speaker 4: wake up and get ready every day, Like for me,
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  Speaker 4: that is such a conscious decision, even in like your appearance,
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  Speaker 4: You're like, I feel better about myself. I'm gonna wake
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  Speaker 4: up and get ready every day now with your relationship,
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  Speaker 4: I feel like you're probably the type of person who
• 13:14
  Speaker 4: makes a conscious effort, like maybe I'm not doing this,
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  Speaker 4: I'm gonna make an effort, a conscious effort to do that.
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  Speaker 4: And I was just having that conversation with my boyfriend
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  Speaker 4: of seven years with just friendships. I don't know how
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  Speaker 4: mothers do it, but I'm like hot juggling friends and
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  Speaker 4: my relationship right now, and we just talked about like, Okay,
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  Speaker 4: maybe I need to put more of a conscious effort
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  Speaker 4: into like more time with me and my partner versus
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  Speaker 4: me and my friends.
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  Speaker 3: And I feel like you do that.
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  Speaker 4: Do you think do you are you like conscious about
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  Speaker 4: that and you're like I need to make these decisions
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  Speaker 4: versus it coming naturally or.
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  Speaker 3: Now that you say that, I'm like thinking about thinking
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  Speaker 3: about like my whole life, but like I do spend
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  Speaker 3: a lot of time thinking about like what makes me
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  Speaker 3: feel good, what makes the energy and like my home good,
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  Speaker 3: like what makes and then I make decisions based off that,
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  Speaker 3: Like I know that if I don't do my hair
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  Speaker 3: and makeup or put on a cute outfit every day,
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  Speaker 3: that day is not going to be that great, Like
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna I'm just not gonna look back on that
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  Speaker 3: day and be like nailed it. So like I make
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  Speaker 3: it efford to do that, and I think I do
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  Speaker 3: that with every area of my life. And I don't
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  Speaker 3: know that I that if it came naturally or if
• 14:27
  Speaker 3: it's just something I've been practicing, but I feel so
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  Speaker 3: you're making me feel so wise right now.
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  Speaker 1: I think you.
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  Speaker 2: I think you that you do take a step back
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  Speaker 2: from your reality and process and see where things need
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  Speaker 2: to shift. Because even in our friendship, you know, you
• 14:46
  Speaker 2: were very vocal to me about things that like we're
• 14:48
  Speaker 2: not working and I feel like we had a conversation.
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  Speaker 2: It was like, got on the phone, this is annoying me,
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  Speaker 2: and I would like to see a change.
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  Speaker 1: So I think you're like that, even at least in
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  Speaker 1: our friendship.
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  Speaker 2: So I can only imagine what it's like when you're
• 15:03
  Speaker 2: at home with BO or with Hartford.
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  Speaker 3: Thanks. Yeah, I guess I am.
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  Speaker 1: We're here to build a bit yup.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: I think you're doing great, sweetie.
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  Speaker 2: Speaking of your relationship, was there anything that you feel
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: after your relationship with that one guy with the man hair,
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: the man Bun. Yeah, after that relationship, because that was
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  Speaker 2: the last one before you got with Bo.
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  Speaker 3: Right, Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Did you take a step back from that and say,
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: this is what I'm looking for in a dude, and
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: this is what they have to bring to the table
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: in order for me to settle down with them.
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  Speaker 1: Or did that just kind of happen with Bo?
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  Speaker 3: No? I knew No, I knew what because he because
• 15:42
  Speaker 3: Man Bun made me realize definitely what I don't want. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: Man Bun made me feel bad about my job, bad
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  Speaker 3: about my career.
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  Speaker 1: About reality TV, didn't like.
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: Reality TV, didn't like the quirky I don't think he
• 15:54
  Speaker 3: liked my basic bitchness. He didn't. There's so he wanted
• 15:57
  Speaker 3: to change me all the time. I just felt like
• 15:59
  Speaker 3: I constantly having to be somebody that I wasn't with him,
• 16:04
  Speaker 3: and that would And then also the other thing was
• 16:06
  Speaker 3: that man Bun never made an effort to be around
• 16:09
  Speaker 3: my friends. So after Man Bun, I was like, if
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna end up with someone, that person will want
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: to be around my friends and will make an effort
• 16:16
  Speaker 3: with my friends, and he's going to love all the
• 16:20
  Speaker 3: things about me, or at least fucking pretend you know
• 16:23
  Speaker 3: what I mean, like pretend that you like that I'm
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: a basic bitch, you know, I mean, be my biggest cheerleader.
• 16:29
  Speaker 3: And I found those two things in Bo, and it
• 16:32
  Speaker 3: was just like something that I had never really or
• 16:34
  Speaker 3: I hadn't felt in a really long time. And I
• 16:36
  Speaker 3: think that's also something that makes this relationship work, Like
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: I never feel like I have to change myself or
• 16:42
  Speaker 3: be something different when I'm with Bo.
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: And you had met Bo a couple times before and
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: like hung out and it was like, no, no, I
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: never know, wait, someone didn't Kristen or someone want to
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: set you guys up, and you were like you met
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: and it was like no, and then one night you
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: like hooked up or something or did I make this
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: up in my head?
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: You're blurring it a little, Okay, tell me.
• 17:02
  Speaker 3: Kristen and Katie had wanted to set me up with
• 17:04
  Speaker 3: Boe for a while and he didn't want to meet me.
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: I love the honesty. You're blurring it. He didn't like me, he.
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: Didn't want to know. He saw my Instagram and he
• 17:16
  Speaker 3: was like no, like I don't think that this is
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: going to work. Whenever I talk about this to him now,
• 17:22
  Speaker 3: he's like, obviously, like I thought you were beautiful, and Sonny,
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: He's like, I just saw this like blonde, big boobed
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: reality star who probably gets like bottle service and clubs
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: and stuff like you know what I mean, Like just
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: not anything that like would fit in with like my
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: life or would want to be with me, Like we
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: wouldn't be a good match. So it took a while
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: for him to want to meet me. Then when I
• 17:43
  Speaker 3: met him, I just want him over with my sparkling personality.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: But it's like, I guess I can take a break
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: from Barney's beanery with STOs.
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: Literally though nailed it, nailed it, nailed it.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: Such a perfect fit.
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: And I love the two of you next to each
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: other because you got bo with like most of the
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: time a Rams had on.
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: He loves the Rams most of the time. Yeah, all
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: the time, fual.
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: Little button up shirt, jeans, vans, and then stossy just
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: in the most basic way.
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: I guess, decked to the fucking line. And it's the
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: best thing to see. I want that you will find.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: That's manifest that you will Although talking about your co
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: parenting and relationship, I'm like, I kind of got that
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: with my mom.
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: I really got that ship down to with science.
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: You really, you really do?
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: Were you?
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: Because I always tell all I'm like, don't be looking
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: for it, not like you are, and that's when it'll come.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: Were you ready and looking for a relationship?
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: No, see, that's true. That's that's the thing. I was
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: so loving being single. I was loving dating around. I
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: was loving going on girls' trips, doing whatever the fuck
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: I wanted, like shopping all the time. Like I always
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: tell my friends who are single, like, enjoy this shit
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: because one day you're not gonna have it, Like you
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: get to just live for yourself right now. I loved
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: every second of it. So when I did meet Bo,
• 19:20
  Speaker 3: we took it slow because I was in no. I
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: really enjoyed my life the way that it was, so
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: I was in no hurry to disrupt it.
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and you like loved your your apartment that you were.
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: Like, I love that apartment. It loved it.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: But I mean your house now, by the way we
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: talk about I think about this all the time. I
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: remember coming over to your house and obsessed, right gorgeous.
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: I loved all of it. It was totally your vibe.
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: And I was like, are you a little worried for
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: like when y'all have kids, And you're like, well, what
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: we're gonna do is once we decide to have kids,
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: we'll probably start looking in the valley and put this
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: up for sale.
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: No, that did not happen. Oh okay, the market's crazy
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: right now, Lola. I'm gonna die in this house.
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: Literally, I could think of worse places to die.
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah. No, I know. And I feel like a brat
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: when I complain about it, because I am so in
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: love with my house, so in love with it. But
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: for two children, there's not that much to do, Like
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: there is no yard, there's so many stairs. It's kind
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: of like a haunted house. The way that it's like
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: set up, like Bow's closet is in Hartford's room. The
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: baby's not even gonna have its own bathroom right now,
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: so like it's it's just I.
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: Totally get what you're saying.
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: But like Ocean has the tiniest closet ever, because I
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: was like, you're small, we can fit a lot of
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: clothes in here, and like I took over the closet
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: in her bedroom.
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: Hearts. I guess Hartford doesn't have a closet. She has
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: an armoire.
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: Okay, that's all she needs, right the closer it's so
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: small that no, I had to give up your room
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: of a closet.
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: Yes I did, Yes, I did.
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: The new baby is it done?
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: No, it's not. And that's literally I cried like once
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: a day pregnancy hormones because I'm just like nothing's ready.
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: I do not feel prepared. When I was pregnant with Harford,
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: everything was done within like for the first four months
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: because COVID baking, I had nothing to fucking do. But
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: this time, nothing is done. And I feel like if
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: this baby were to come, like where the fuck would
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: I put him? What would I do?
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: I don't feel do you have a bassinet?
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: I do, but like nothing else is done.
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: That's okay, it's the second baby.
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: It's like those commercials where it's like first kid and
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: you're like freaking out about everything.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: Second kids, you're like, it's like you just kind of
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: wing it a little bit more.
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: No, for sure.
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: How do you feel about the snow?
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: Hartford hated it, so I'm not doing I'm not getting
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: it again.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: I saw the price tag on that, and I was like,
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: we ain't snowing.
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: Oh, none of you guys, speaking of what's the snow.
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: It's supposed to be this miracle crib, so it moves,
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: so the baby's constantly being rocked, which so many babies
• 22:03
  Speaker 3: like are obsessed with it sleep through the night right away.
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: Hartford did not like it. It was so expensive. We were
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: able to like sell it on Craigslist, but for a
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: fraction of the price.
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: It's like, what a couple thousand dollars.
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: I think it's like two thousand dollars. I think we
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: like sold it just to get it out of the house.
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: I think like three hundred dollars lost money on it.
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: I would say this, like, if this baby sucks it sleeping,
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: I would consider renting it to try it out. But
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: do not buy the snow. You guys. If I could
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: just give anyone any advice, just don't buy the fucking snow.
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: I don't think you should buy the snow either.
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: It Also, I think it's like a straight jacket in there,
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: so they're like attached to it and then it rocks them,
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: and then if they wake up even a little bit,
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: it starts rocking again. But a lot of my friends
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: who used the snow, their kids are.
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: In their bed now.
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: I hear that in the parents, in my parents.
• 22:55
  Speaker 4: Unless this new wants to be a sponsor of the podcast,
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: then all my little.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: Ass off, don't give you one too.
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: People loved us talking about style on your podcast. Yes, okay,
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: the first thing I want to know is what is
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: one of your least favorite trends that has ever existed,
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: whether you took it on or not. Like, what trend
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: did you hate of all the times of trending?
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: Okay, And I won't be able to say, like my
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: absolute least favorite because I would need to give that
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: days and days of thought, of course. Okay, so right
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: now I'm going to say, like those big, like big
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: chunky sandals I just like, can't.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: Get like Ferman munster looking sandals.
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: Yes, they're so masculine, or like even when people wear birkenstocks,
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: or like those big slides.
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: Do you hate those worse than the bucket hat? Oh?
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: Fuck, bucket hat shit? Never mind the bucket hats number one.
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: I'll say bucket hats number one. No one looks cute.
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: It literally takes away from your attractiveness, Like no one
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: looks good in a bucket hat. So like, don't do it, babies,
• 24:04
  Speaker 3: that's it. But even Hardford sometimes like, take the bucket
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: hat off. I can't.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: I showed up to Stoce's one time in a burbery
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: bucket hat. She did not give a damn. She's like,
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: it's hideous, take it off.
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: And I did buy some prouda Herman Monster shoes and
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: I've only worn them one time.
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: Oh no, no, you're talking about the loafers, the lofers.
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: Oh I live for a loafer.
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: No, they're not a loafer. They are the exact sandal
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: that you're talking about. Okay, so bulky okay. And I
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: don't really know what I was thinking when I bought that.
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: I think that everyone who is wearing these big chunky
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: sandals will all collectively look back at this moment in
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: time and say, what the fuck were we thinking?
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: What do you think it'll be in comparison to like back, like,
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: what will be the equivalent from back today?
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: Necklaces the way that I wore them? You love the stream,
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: But I look back and I'm like, what the fuck?
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: Why was I wear wearing armor with every outfit? I
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: would literally eat to the beach. Literally.
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: I don't know what's weirder, though, is you on a
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: beach or a statement necklace on the beach.
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: I'm not really like a beach girly like I'll go.
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: But nos is like, take me somewhere that's frigid and
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: it's very old.
• 25:16
  Speaker 3: I'm a city girl, city an old city girl.
• 25:20
  Speaker 4: So you don't like the chunky, so you're probably not
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: a What do you think about docs?
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: Do Martin? The platform?
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: Any docs? You hate them?
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: I don't hate them because I think there's a way
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: to style them that I think is interesting. Okay, So
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: like I just because I'm not wearing them doesn't mean
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: I can't appreciate them on somebody else.
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, I can't picture you want a doc? Martin?
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: No it's not me. You're like a delicate I prefer
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: a feminine shoe. Yes, it makes me feel my best.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: Like there are times where I'll go to like Bloomingdale's
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: and be like, oh my gosh, Stas has not these
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: exact shoes because we know STOs is like, do not
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: buy what I have?
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: No.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: I put them on and I'm like, I look ridiculous.
• 26:05
  Speaker 4: Really, No, Can you do me a favorite and describe
• 26:08
  Speaker 4: your style in three words?
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: Oh my god, so funny that you just asked me this.
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: But I love this because I just had on Alison
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: what's her last bornstein? Okay, okay, she's the one on
• 26:20
  Speaker 3: TikTok who's gone viral, who who did did the three
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: word method for your style? And I was so excited
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: to have her on my podcast. The episode didn't come
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: out yet, and I've been like, Allison, I've been trying
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: to think of my three words for like a year now,
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: and I like all my words are boring when I
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: hear them together. Because I was like classic, chic, polished.
• 26:41
  Speaker 3: I'm like, that's fucking boring, like all three of those together.
• 26:44
  Speaker 3: And then she's like, I'm going to figure out your words,
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: and she went through my closet. Okay. She looked at
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: everything and she's like, I know, I know what it is.
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: She goes, classic is one of them, and she goes
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: and chic can be one of them. But she's like,
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: your other one is baroque. What is like versa Ill Okay, baroque,
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: like you know, like the style of Versailles. Yes, And
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: I'm like, that is it? Because she's like, you love
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: like a fluffy sleeve, you love jewels on everything, Like
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: there's this like element of like barokeness to your style,
• 27:18
  Speaker 3: but you still dress pretty classic.
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: I originally thought you said broke, and I was like,
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: hold up, she may be basic broke.
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: No, it's like the way that it got me excited.
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: I can't. It made my It made my year. It
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: made my year to hear that word.
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: That's actually so because when we went to Versailles. Yes,
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: to Versailles, you looked like if I were to put
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: you onto the wall, it would just blend.
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: Thank you, because I dress again for a theme.
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: Okay, so we have your three words.
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: What are your three words? Let's do it. Oh my god,
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: oh this.
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: Will be wait. I want to know because you're into
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: this stuff.
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: What would mine be Okay, I would say sexy or
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: something that has to do with that word, like something
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: that it doesn't have to exactly be that word, but
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: it could be a synonym for it. Okay, like you
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: you're a hot person, like you dress like a hot person.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: Thank you.
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: Okay, So like that has to be one of your words.
• 28:10
  Speaker 3: I think elevated should be one of your words. I'm okay.
• 28:14
  Speaker 3: So like sexy and elevated and then casual.
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: Bam, that's it.
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah, along the same lines, it's like you don't dress
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: up that I mean, yes, you do dress up, and
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: but even still when you dress up, it's there's an
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: element of like California casualness, sire, you know.
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's how I've always been, Like, yes, I want
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: to look good, but above all else, I'm trying to
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: be comfortable.
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah. So like write those down and if you like
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: want to tweak them go for me.
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: We said sexy, yeah, casual, elevated, Wow.
• 28:49
  Speaker 3: Because you still you still always look put together and elevated,
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: like you never look like a casual like slob.
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: I think that's because I spend money on my shoes
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: and bags.
• 28:57
  Speaker 3: Oh that's what that's what I say too, Like I
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: don't spend money on clothes like that. Shit can be
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: from anywhere, Like yeah, but bags and shoes that's important.
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: What about jewelry, No, I'm big. I'm huge on jewelry.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: I know you are always fingers dripping the neck, be drippen.
• 29:14
  Speaker 3: There is nothing that makes me more excited to like
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: put on like in the morning than jewelry overclothes, overshoes,
• 29:21
  Speaker 3: over purses, over makeup, overhair. Like I feel my best
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: when I'm in jewelry.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: I relate to that with my hoops.
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah, see, we all have our things.
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: What's the thing you own a pair of hoops?
• 29:36
  Speaker 3: I you know what I think I do because during
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: COVID we're like so big and everywhere, and I was like,
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: maybe I'm a hoops Gurly and I bought them. I
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: wore them once. I'm like, I'm not a hoops Gurly.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: Okay, can we please do this one night?
• 29:49
  Speaker 3: We're gonna dress each other.
• 29:51
  Speaker 2: Yes, we're going out to dinner. I'm dressing you, You're
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: dressing me. We're gonna feel very uncomfortable, but it's.
• 29:56
  Speaker 3: Okay once I get like peact again absolutely, because you're
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: not going to dress me in your sexy sexy, casual,
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: elevated style.
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: I want to dress you like Rihanna with a bump.
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: I would have the best time, Oh my god, like
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: the best. I've never walked out showing my bump. Ever,
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: oh you're missing out, like ever. The only time I
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: got to do it was when we went to I
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: think Katie's house and I wore a crop top and like,
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: all we did was just sit there. I also think
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: I dyed my hair a little bit. Pink covid was
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: a weird time.
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: You did have pink covid suckedvid.
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: Was a very weird time.
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: It really was.
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: What's the ugliest you've ever felt?
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: Oh? Probably like no, no, I would go with like when.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: Either without being pregnant, I want to know the ugliest
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: ever in your lifetime that you've ever felt.
• 30:42
  Speaker 3: I genuinely feel ugly pregnant without like my hair, makeup
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: and clothes. Like this weekend I've felt me and Harford
• 30:52
  Speaker 3: have been sick and we didn't leave the house and like,
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: so I didn't do anything to myself. Yeah, and I
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: truly feel like Quasimoto. I feel like a beast, Like
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: I'm not one of those people that loves being pregnant.
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: I do the best with it, Like I'm I'm so
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: thankful that I am so I like try to make
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: the most out of being pregnant. I feel guilty when
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: people message me and they're like, God, you know, you
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: make pregnancy look so easy and so fun, and I
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: love your attitude towards it. I'm like, fucking attitude towards it.
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: I hate this shit, Like, I hate this shit. I
• 31:21
  Speaker 3: can't wait to be hot, hot person again. So like,
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: I'm not somebody that loves being pregnant. I don't feel
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: good about myself when I'm pregnant.
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: That is so crazy.
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: Maybe, but maybe postpartums worse though. Postpartums worse like those
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: like first couple months after you give birth, when your
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: belly's like deflated and like your thighs are still chafing,
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: and you're like, what the fuck is.
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: Like I felt so hot after I dropped Ocean out
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: of the game.
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: That's me because that is because within three days you
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: looked exactly how you did pre pregnancy. It was disgustingly
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: unfair and rude, rude.
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: That is true.
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: But what if my second this is what I'm nervous about,
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: is the second baby.
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: What if it like You'll be fine. You really, I laala,
• 32:06
  Speaker 3: you are gonna be more than fine.
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: I'm starting to prep my body now.
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: You're never gonna have to worry about not being a
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: hot person.
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: Trust I kind of agree.
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: I agree, Okay from Stacy's mouth to fucking God. Yes,
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: I'm taking it up with the man. If that ever changes,
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: You're fine.
• 32:22
  Speaker 4: But do you ever look back at photos of yourself
• 32:24
  Speaker 4: the first time pregnant and be like I felt so ugly,
• 32:27
  Speaker 4: but look how cute I was?
• 32:28
  Speaker 5: No?
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: Really, no, I look back. I do this every night, Okay,
• 32:33
  Speaker 3: I look back just to make myself feel better at all,
• 32:36
  Speaker 3: like the exact week that I was pregnant with Hartford
• 32:38
  Speaker 3: at the week I am like currently, so that I
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: can see how much uglier I was than I am
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: right now, Oh my, to make myself feel better about
• 32:47
  Speaker 3: where I am right now? Are you?
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: Are you nervous about this second baby coming? Not because
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: it's a second child, but like, for example, I sit
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: there and with Ocean and like, in my mind, she
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: couldn't get any cuter, anymore perfect, And like I think about, okay,
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: when another baby comes into play, like.
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: Is it gonna be as cool?
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: Is it gonna be as cool as ocean to where
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: I'm like, Okay, I love you just as much, or
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: am I gonna be like.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: I don't know about this.
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: I'm not worried about that. I'm worried that it's gonna
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: like totally disrupt all the things I love about my
• 33:25
  Speaker 3: life right now. Like I love my life right now.
• 33:28
  Speaker 3: I love our little family, and I love like how
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: we handle Hartford. I love how we do things together.
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: And everything that I hear about having a second baby
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: is like you don't really get to spend time with
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: your partner that much anymore because you're just like separated,
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: taking care of once, taking care of each kid. And
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: so I'm mainly worried about like what that will do,
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: how a second child will disrupt our flow.
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm obviously not a parent of two kids, so
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: I'll probably be coming to you for advice. However, I
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: think if you and bo can really create for the
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: first I know it sounds like a really long time,
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: but think about it, it flies by. Hartford's already what over
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: two and a half. If you can say, okay, for
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: this amount of time, it's gonna take maybe a year
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: and a half two years of where things may be
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: a little bit funky because then once this baby boy
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: is you know, old enough.
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they're gonna be playing together totally.
• 34:25
  Speaker 3: And no, I And that's something that I tell Bow
• 34:27
  Speaker 3: all the time because he gets more stressed out with
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: like Hartford than I do. And I'm like, bo, this
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: is temporary. Everything that you're feeling right now is temporary.
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: This tantrum is temporary. How she's acting is temporary. When
• 34:40
  Speaker 3: this baby comes, that will be temporary. It like life's
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: always changing, so like when you feel like getting frustrated,
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: just like, it's not always gonna be like this.
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: That's so crazy that you're the one that's saying though.
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: No, it is so weird that like I have like
• 34:53
  Speaker 3: this like weird amount of patience when it's but like
• 34:57
  Speaker 3: I don't have patience with anything else.
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: It is crazy because when I see you with Hartford,
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: she could be having a meltdown and Starsy's like it'll end.
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: No but true, And I'm like I don't want to
• 35:06
  Speaker 3: match her energy and then all of a sudden like
• 35:09
  Speaker 3: be wound up in fucking crazy because then she's gonna
• 35:11
  Speaker 3: think that like, oh, well that's that's the norm. No,
• 35:14
  Speaker 3: I'm like I gotta stay calm.
• 35:15
  Speaker 4: It causes anxiety too, because love my parents to death.
• 35:18
  Speaker 3: But that's what my mom was.
• 35:20
  Speaker 4: She was like, if I got wound up, she got
• 35:21
  Speaker 4: wound up, and then I grew up with anxiety because
• 35:24
  Speaker 4: of it.
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: Good for you, Well you would have had it anyway.
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: Do you compare Hartford to other kids?
• 35:32
  Speaker 3: Fuck? Yeah, you're a liar if you say that, you're
• 35:36
  Speaker 3: not comparing your children. The other day also I heard
• 35:38
  Speaker 3: both said to Harford, he goes ocean would never do this.
• 35:44
  Speaker 3: And I was in the other room and I'm like,
• 35:47
  Speaker 3: we can't do that. Okay, we can say it behind
• 35:49
  Speaker 3: her back, but we cannot ever say that.
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: Wait, what was she doing? What was Hartford?
• 35:56
  Speaker 3: I don't know. One of the things whenever I tell
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: her no, she does the opposite, which I get is
• 36:01
  Speaker 3: a normal thing for toddlers, like totally normal, test their boundaries,
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: all that stuff. But it was just one of those things,
• 36:08
  Speaker 3: like she she just she's disrupted all day long. Okay,
• 36:11
  Speaker 3: So like it's hard for me to pinpoint exactly what
• 36:12
  Speaker 3: she was doing this one time. But I literally heard
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: in the other room say that, and I'm like, no, no,
• 36:20
  Speaker 3: we can't say that. We say that behind her back.
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: Bo my good parents. We only talk shit behind our
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: kids back. Yes, not to their faces, no, but with Ocean.
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: If I want her to do something, I have to
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: tell her not to do it. Like I'll be like,
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: because we had to take Santa Claus away, I told you.
• 36:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: So I'm like, don't you brush your teeth? Don't you
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: brush your teeth?
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: That's actually And then she's like, that's pretty genius, genius.
• 36:45
  Speaker 3: I would like to try that. I'm gonna go home
• 36:48
  Speaker 3: today and be like, you better not fucking eat your dinner, bitch, bitch,
• 37:00
  Speaker 3: I can't breath. You're gonna get so many messages from
• 37:03
  Speaker 3: people being like, that's sassy calling her kid a bit again,
• 37:06
  Speaker 3: don't worry, everyone relaxed. It's a joke ever to her face,
• 37:11
  Speaker 3: but it's all good.
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: So many people are asking about your Taylor swift Era's
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: tour experience.
• 37:23
  Speaker 3: Oh wow, did you go? No?
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: No, I got invited and I was like, I'm good,
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: and now I'm what.
• 37:31
  Speaker 3: I know.
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: I know I didn't go, but congrats on going.
• 37:35
  Speaker 3: It was like one of the best experiences of my life.
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: It would have been mine too, And I was a
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: dumb ass and was like I don't really listen to
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: her music.
• 37:42
  Speaker 3: That would have been a really fun girls thing to
• 37:44
  Speaker 3: do together like that. That's actually that's a bummer. It's
• 37:48
  Speaker 3: a huge about that. Actually, do you like Beyonce? Of course,
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: everyone loves Beyonce, and I hope to get tickets to Beyonce. You.
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: I want to see if you can come on the fourth.
• 37:59
  Speaker 3: It's on the fourth.
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: I'm going on the fourth. It's Beyonce's birthday and I'm
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: gonna go for my birthday. What the fourth of oh September.
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: Oh, you're giving birth like two days after Never.
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: Mind, for that's actually really sucky.
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: What if you gave birth at the Beyonce concert?
• 38:16
  Speaker 3: I was literally thinking about that at Taylor Swift because
• 38:18
  Speaker 3: I was in pain. Wait really no, it was It's
• 38:22
  Speaker 3: such a long night and you get there early and
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: then she goes on for so long that I'm like,
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: this is I am physically hurting so badly, but I'm
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: having so much fun. I mean, you had good seats. No,
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: it was incredible. I went with free People, and like,
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: I will be loyal to free People forever and ever
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: until I die.
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: Like you went with free People. What a perfect Taylor
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: Swift brand.
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: Right, to go, I know, And I was like so
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: excited to pick out clothes from their website to wear
• 38:51
  Speaker 3: to tailor swift and then I'm like, I'm pregnant. I
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: can't wear any of this fucking shit. All I could
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: all I could get was like, Okay, I guess this
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: blazer will fit me, like fun, like whatever.
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: Was it the most?
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: Because I know that Hartford's is swifty, yes, but are
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: you as swifty?
• 39:08
  Speaker 3: I so I never know whether I'm allowed to call
• 39:11
  Speaker 3: myself a swifty or not because like I don't know,
• 39:14
  Speaker 3: like the chance, you know, I don't know all of
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: the like you know, they're like chance.
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: Oh, I thought it was just it meant like you
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: liked her or you didn't.
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: No, it's like way serious and I don't want yeah
• 39:27
  Speaker 3: if it feels like it, and like you have to
• 39:29
  Speaker 3: know like all Easter eggy things and everything about her
• 39:31
  Speaker 3: life and I don't know that. I just really love
• 39:35
  Speaker 3: her music and I love to play it and I
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: like her. I like every time I see an interview
• 39:39
  Speaker 3: with her, I'm like, God, she's so fucking likable. Like
• 39:42
  Speaker 3: I'm I root for Taylor Swift always. I hope that
• 39:46
  Speaker 3: that makes me a swifty but I'm not gonna pretend
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: that I'm like some die hard.
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: Fan that in this room makes you a swifty.
• 39:53
  Speaker 3: I feel like I'm a swifty.
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: You're a swifty. You're a fan.
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: Like I don't need you to be like collecting friendship
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: bracelets and know the.
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: Channels, all right, that's when I put you into.
• 40:03
  Speaker 3: I loved I loved the friendship bracelets like that was
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: so fun.
• 40:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they like exchanged them, right, Yeah, it was really fun.
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: It was like four hours, right, yes, just her part?
• 40:14
  Speaker 2: What yeah, I mean just her part openers.
• 40:17
  Speaker 3: The openers. In addition to that, it's a lot. No,
• 40:21
  Speaker 3: it's a long fucking night. She's like an athlete.
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: Wait, she's on stage for four hours.
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: It was I feel like it was over three and
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: a half. It's definitely three and a half. Yeah, I
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: feel like it was four Yes, she is on stage.
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: John Head producer John said, it's four hours, four hours,
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: and you go.
• 40:39
  Speaker 3: Did not?
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: You didn't remember? We heard about that.
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: So many people were asking me, like what era are you?
• 40:44
  Speaker 3: And I thought that meant like what era is my favorite?
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: Like what Taylor Swift era? So I was going around
• 40:50
  Speaker 3: telling everyone reputation because that's my favorite and people were
• 40:53
  Speaker 3: looking at me like I was batshit crazy, and finally,
• 40:56
  Speaker 3: like I talked about it on my podcast and everyone
• 40:58
  Speaker 3: was saying, no, when people ask your era, that means
• 41:01
  Speaker 3: which one are you in? And Reputation's all about like revenge.
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: Oh that's where I'm at then, but that is.
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: Not where I'm at, So people were probably taking aback, be.
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: Like really like that not her newest album? No, what's
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: Vigilante Shit on?
• 41:14
  Speaker 3: I love that one Midnights? So what I is your
• 41:17
  Speaker 3: era like when I'm in right now?
• 41:20
  Speaker 4: Well, like, yeah, it's when people ask you the correct
• 41:23
  Speaker 4: answer would be what Fearless now?
• 41:26
  Speaker 3: But I don't think so. I feel like maybe nineteen
• 41:30
  Speaker 3: eighty nine. It's extreat one. It's just so like boppy
• 41:34
  Speaker 3: and fun.
• 41:35
  Speaker 2: It's not what Lovers is on or whatever or Trouble
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: True bad Love.
• 41:40
  Speaker 3: I can't get track of I can't keep track of
• 41:42
  Speaker 3: all the songs that are on each one, but I
• 41:44
  Speaker 3: will say I do have a new favorite now. Reputation
• 41:47
  Speaker 3: used to be my favorite. Okay, Midnights for sure, often
• 41:50
  Speaker 3: after seeing her, like it's the one with Vigilante Shit,
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: It's there's there's just such like a wide range of
• 41:58
  Speaker 3: cool music right that I'm like, this is this is
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: what's fucking up? Like this is elevated.
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: Okay, I want to become a swiftie.
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: I think I'm going to dedicate the next few months
• 42:09
  Speaker 2: to like understanding what it means. I'm gonna make the
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: friendship bracelets or whatever. Like, I don't have that much
• 42:15
  Speaker 2: going on. I can fit that into my head.
• 42:16
  Speaker 3: You have the most going on, I do you? Yes?
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: And what my mind?
• 42:22
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, my mind can still talk me into a
• 42:24
  Speaker 2: dark hole. So clearly there is enough time for me
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: to do something different.
• 42:28
  Speaker 3: You know what I mean?
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: Well, if I'm like very busy, but yet my mind
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: can still go to like strange places.
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: About like oh my god, what is my life going
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: to turn out to be?
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: Then we need to figure out something that's productive to
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: place in to those moments so that the mind doesn't venture.
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: The mind needs no time to venture right now? Okay,
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: what do you mean?
• 42:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah? What time of day is your mind venturing?
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: Nighttime? Once I put the kid to bed.
• 42:55
  Speaker 3: Okay, you should start watching like Outlander or something.
• 42:59
  Speaker 2: I've been watching Housewives actually, okay, like rewatch, not the
• 43:04
  Speaker 2: Desperate Housewives, not the what did I say?
• 43:06
  Speaker 3: You said? Desperate Housewives.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: Desperate Housewives on to melatonin.
• 43:10
  Speaker 3: So not Real Housewives.
• 43:12
  Speaker 2: No, I want to know if you can tell me
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: would you two things? The first thing I want to
• 43:18
  Speaker 2: talk about is would you ever do reality TV again?
• 43:20
  Speaker 2: Because when I see you, I'm like, this bitch hasn't
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: figured out. Go live your best life, keep the cameras away.
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: But how do you feel about it?
• 43:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah? I know I would do it again, Like I
• 43:30
  Speaker 3: I it would just have to be something that I'm
• 43:33
  Speaker 3: not changing my life to fit in to that show.
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: Right, you know what I mean, Like keep your life
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: the way it is and then have cameras come in
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: and cover what this is.
• 43:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah, if it worked out that way, which I don't
• 43:44
  Speaker 3: know that it would. You know, I don't know that
• 43:46
  Speaker 3: that's interesting to people. I don't. I don't know if
• 43:48
  Speaker 3: that's ever going to be something that's on the horizon.
• 43:50
  Speaker 3: But I'm it's such like a complicated answer like that.
• 43:54
  Speaker 3: I feel like people like like want a black and
• 43:57
  Speaker 3: white answer from me, like they want when people ask
• 43:59
  Speaker 3: me this, like would you do gratitude again? They just
• 44:01
  Speaker 3: want like yes or no. But it really would just
• 44:04
  Speaker 3: depend on what it is. I'd probably be so nippicky
• 44:07
  Speaker 3: about it that by the the end of like the discussions,
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: they'd be like, God, you're exhausting. We don't even want
• 44:12
  Speaker 3: you anymore. Do you know what I mean?
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: Yes?
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: And I know that people like a black and white
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: answer when it comes to this topic, but I so
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: relate to what you just said. It's like, I don't
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: want anybody disrupting what.
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: I have going on.
• 44:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: Do you you have your name picked out for the boy?
• 44:29
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: Can you share with us the names you did not pick? Yeah?
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: I want to know the names that you didn't choose.
• 44:37
  Speaker 3: Okay, the main one. Yeah, people are gonna hate it.
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: Tell us it can't be worse than Utah, which is
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: why I want.
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: When you said that to me, I'm like, get out,
• 44:47
  Speaker 3: get your bucket hat and get the fucking house.
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: Take your Jesus sandals, your budget hat, and the name Utah.
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: Okay, fuck out, you guys.
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: The main one that I was gonna name this boy, Yeah,
• 45:00
  Speaker 3: it was Luring what l O R I n.
• 45:03
  Speaker 2: G so basically what people call me, but with an
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: ing on the end. Yeah, I am so offended Luring.
• 45:12
  Speaker 3: I mean I thought it was so fun.
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: It's so bad, Stacy, I can't lie to you.
• 45:16
  Speaker 3: What the fuck? Okay, let's look at these other ones.
• 45:20
  Speaker 3: Oh my god, these are so embarrassing. Okay, I didn't okay,
• 45:23
  Speaker 3: Bo said no to every single one of these, so
• 45:24
  Speaker 3: they weren't like properly Like It's not like we were
• 45:27
  Speaker 3: going to name him this like Luring was literally the
• 45:29
  Speaker 3: only one that we agreed on except for this current name.
• 45:31
  Speaker 2: I'm shocked that Bow would agree to die. Okay, what's
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: the next because it's cool?
• 45:36
  Speaker 3: Okay, and you can call him Lore and Lare's our
• 45:38
  Speaker 3: favorite podcast to listen to, Bow and I, so I
• 45:40
  Speaker 3: was like, that's cute. We can call him Lawre l
• 45:43
  Speaker 3: O R E.
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: I don't like it. Fuck off.
• 45:46
  Speaker 3: Okay, you guys, these are bad. I wrote Wolf from
• 45:51
  Speaker 3: Wolf's so bad throw Fox f A w K E S.
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: I'm not mad at that.
• 46:02
  Speaker 3: Credence, Oh you know what, I really liked Crescent.
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: Not mad at that either.
• 46:06
  Speaker 3: I thought Crescent was cool.
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: Fox and Crescent. I'm not mad about, okay.
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: Clement now, oh my god. You know what one? I
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: was actually really hardcore thinking about AUSO s SI because
• 46:18
  Speaker 3: it rhymes with stuss.
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: You should have just done Assi. I just or tossy
• 46:26
  Speaker 2: only I'm sweating. I'm sweating for you. They're so bad,
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: They're so bad. And then to think of the name
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: that you chose, I'm like, thank god, And like, how
• 46:36
  Speaker 2: was that even in the list of names of names
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: that were so bad?
• 46:40
  Speaker 3: I know, I know, because la la. This is the thing.
• 46:43
  Speaker 3: There are so many popular names that I really love, Like,
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: I love all the popular names, but I just don't
• 46:49
  Speaker 3: want my kid to have the same name as everyone else. Oh,
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: I actually really liked Easton, but I can't do it
• 46:54
  Speaker 3: because I know one.
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: Easton's super cute.
• 46:56
  Speaker 3: It's a great name. But like I, if I know
• 46:58
  Speaker 3: one person, the name is off the list.
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: I don't know one person who has the name of
• 47:03
  Speaker 2: the baby that's coming next month.
• 47:04
  Speaker 3: Me neither. Yeah, me neither, bitch.
• 47:06
  Speaker 2: And I'm not going to tell you my names until
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: I'm it's set in stone, because then you're gonna have
• 47:13
  Speaker 2: to pretend to like it.
• 47:14
  Speaker 3: I agree with that, because the name that now we've chosen. Yeah,
• 47:18
  Speaker 3: when I do tell people the name, I'm like, if
• 47:21
  Speaker 3: you don't like it, lie to me, keep it to
• 47:23
  Speaker 3: yours because I love it and nothing's going to talk
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: me out of it.
• 47:26
  Speaker 2: So like, don't Yeah, don't even try. Yeah, okay, what's
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: my last question before I let you go? What is
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: your biggest fear with this baby coming.
• 47:36
  Speaker 3: I think I've kind of already touched on that.
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: The disrupting, Yeah, that it's just that, like the birthing experience.
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: Oh no, because you had a pretty easy labor with.
• 47:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I did, so, Like, I'm just like hoping, and
• 47:48
  Speaker 3: everybody says that for the most part, your second labor
• 47:51
  Speaker 3: is easier than the first. Really, so if I had
• 47:53
  Speaker 3: it easy the first time, then I'm hoping. I think
• 47:56
  Speaker 3: my worst fear, this is my worst fear. I'll tell you, Okay,
• 47:59
  Speaker 3: this is it. The epidural is not going to kick
• 48:01
  Speaker 3: in or it's not going to be right, okay, and
• 48:03
  Speaker 3: I'm going to feel everything.
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: I always ask pregnant people this question, and I'm like,
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: but don't get dark, Like obviously our biggest fear is weird,
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: of course, but I'm like, yes.
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: No, like the surface lever biggest fear yours is.
• 48:14
  Speaker 3: That the epidural won't kick in because you hear about that,
• 48:16
  Speaker 3: or like your labor goes by so quickly that there
• 48:18
  Speaker 3: was no time for it or something. I'm like, no, no,
• 48:21
  Speaker 3: I'm not doing this without it. I'm not. I refuse.
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: I refuse to.
• 48:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because mine kind of went out for a second, no,
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: during my labor and I was like, what is happening?
• 48:32
  Speaker 2: What is happening like something like disconnected, so and it
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: was very painful.
• 48:37
  Speaker 3: No, but like I don't understand, like how because you
• 48:39
  Speaker 3: have to get fisted. That might be fun one of them. No,
• 48:44
  Speaker 3: like literally like I remember just like that, you know,
• 48:47
  Speaker 3: like they literally like stick their whole hand to see
• 48:49
  Speaker 3: how much you're dilated. And they're like, and I can't
• 48:52
  Speaker 3: do that.
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: You're at about eighth sonam discussing.
• 48:55
  Speaker 3: I cannot do that unless I have.
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: Well, that's because you're being fisted by your partner.
• 49:00
  Speaker 3: I'm I'm not being fisted by my partner.
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: Whatever, you get a dick inside of you, Okay, I'm
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: just saying I'm not going to be having sex to
• 49:06
  Speaker 2: get pregnant this round.
• 49:07
  Speaker 3: No, I know, I don't think there's anything wrong with
• 49:09
  Speaker 3: saying that.
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: So fist away during the labor experience. I'm welcome to
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: do this.
• 49:14
  Speaker 3: So in order to like check to see how much
• 49:17
  Speaker 3: you're dilated, they pretty much have to stick their whole
• 49:19
  Speaker 3: entire hand up your vagina. I'm not joking.
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: It's fine.
• 49:23
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't think I have.
• 49:25
  Speaker 3: And then your doctor I forgot about this part has
• 49:28
  Speaker 3: to like literally massage but like aggressively open your vagina
• 49:33
  Speaker 3: went once you're ready to like actually start pushing. I
• 49:36
  Speaker 3: remember our doctor, the same one doing that, and I
• 49:40
  Speaker 3: just forget I'd like buried that and forgot about it.
• 49:43
  Speaker 3: And now I'm remembering that all over again.
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: This is my hell.
• 49:48
  Speaker 2: You're right, I've kind of blocked all of that out.
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: I'm just so excited for you and your life and
• 49:55
  Speaker 2: where you're at, and I'm so grateful that I.
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: Got to have you on the podcast today.
• 50:00
  Speaker 3: This was so fucking fun.
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: Was it easy?
• 50:02
  Speaker 3: Yes? I will literally come back anytime.
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: I'm taking you up on that, so like truly like give.
• 50:07
  Speaker 3: Me two months after I get first, and then like
• 50:09
  Speaker 3: I'll literally let's do the day thing.
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: All right. I love you so much, you guys.
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: Thank you for listening to another episode of the Give
• 50:15
  Speaker 2: Them Lama podcast, And I will catch you guys next
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: week