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Episode 306: Forgive and Forget? · Positively 365: Inspire, Motivate, Support

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Positively three hundred and sixty five, a podcast
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  Speaker 1: by Joe wattis we wish to entertain, instruct and motivate.
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  Speaker 1: If nothing else, hopefully we can entertain and inspire you
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  Speaker 1: to live a more positive.
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  Speaker 2: Life three hundred and sixty five days a year. We
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  Speaker 2: hope you enjoyed this message.
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  Speaker 3: A man walks into a bar with his dog. He
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  Speaker 3: says to the bartender, this is a talking dog. If
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  Speaker 3: he answers your questions, can we get a drink on
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  Speaker 3: the house. The bartender smirks and says, sure, let's hear it.
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  Speaker 3: So the man turns to the dog and says, what
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  Speaker 3: is the opposite of smooth? The dog says roofe? What
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  Speaker 3: is on the outside of a tree? The dog says bark?
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  Speaker 3: Who is the greatest composer? The dog says mach. The
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  Speaker 3: bartender rolls his eyes and kicks both of them out
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  Speaker 3: of the bar. As they sit on the curb. The
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  Speaker 3: dog turns to his owner and says, should I have
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  Speaker 3: said Mozart? In this week's episode, we're diving into a
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  Speaker 3: powerful truth. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting. Too often we're
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  Speaker 3: told that if we forgive, we should move on like
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  Speaker 3: nothing ever happened, But the reality is things just don't
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  Speaker 3: go back to the way they were, and maybe they're
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  Speaker 3: not supposed to. In this episode, we'll unpack why forgiveness
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  Speaker 3: is less about pretending and more about protecting peace yours
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  Speaker 3: and sometimes even theirs, without rewriting the past or ignoring
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  Speaker 3: the hurt. Let's get into it, but first we have
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  Speaker 3: know the answer to this week's trivia question? The question
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  Speaker 3: was what animal can sleep for up to three years
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  Speaker 3: at a time. The answer the oodlefish, or, more commonly,
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  Speaker 3: the sleeping cucumber see cucumber. See cucumbers. A marine creature
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  Speaker 3: can enter a state of dormancy and sleep for up
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  Speaker 3: to three years, especially when environmental conditions are not ideal.
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  Speaker 3: During this period, they essentially stop eating and the metabolic
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  Speaker 3: rate drops dramatically. It's like the ultimate nap, an extra
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  Speaker 3: long one. So if you're feeling lazy today, just think
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  Speaker 3: of it as being a little more se cucumber like.
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  Speaker 3: Now you know, you know a lot of people talk
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  Speaker 3: about forgiveness like it's a magical reset button, like once
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  Speaker 3: you say I forgive you, everything just rewinds, the pain disappears,
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  Speaker 3: the relationship goes back to normal, and you're supposed to
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  Speaker 3: move on like it never happened. But that's not how
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  Speaker 3: real life works, and honestly, that's not what forgiveness is.
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  Speaker 3: Forgiveness is about release, releasing resentment, releasing the desire for revenge,
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  Speaker 3: releasing the weight that's been dragging you down. But it
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  Speaker 3: doesn't mean forgetting. It doesn't mean pretending the hurt didn't
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  Speaker 3: happen or that it didn't change you, because it did.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes we forgive people and still need to walk away.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes we forgive but set new boundaries. Sometimes we forgive
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  Speaker 3: and the relationship survives, but it looks different and that's okay,
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  Speaker 3: that's healthy. There's this pressure, especially in families or close relationships,
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  Speaker 3: to just move on, to not bring it up again.
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  Speaker 3: But ignoring pain isn't healing. Its avoidance forgiveness. Real forgiveness
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  Speaker 3: can hold two truths at once. I let go of
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  Speaker 3: what you did to me, but I also acknowledge that
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  Speaker 3: it left a mark. Forgiveness isn't a free pass. It
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  Speaker 3: doesn't erase accountability, and it's not the same thing as reconciliation.
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  Speaker 3: Reconciliation takes two people willing to rebuild trust. Forgiveness that's
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  Speaker 3: something you can do on your own for you. So,
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  Speaker 3: if you've ever been told that forgiving means you have
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  Speaker 3: to get over it or just let it go and
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  Speaker 3: act like nothing ever happened, I want you to know
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  Speaker 3: that that's not true. You're allowed to forgive and still remember.
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  Speaker 3: You're allowed to forgive and still say I don't want
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  Speaker 3: to go back to the way things were before. That
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  Speaker 3: doesn't make you bitter, That makes you better, It makes
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  Speaker 3: you wise. Just grab an old plate and throw it
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  Speaker 3: on the ground. Okay, done, did it break? Yes, now
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  Speaker 3: say sorry to it, sorry to go back to the
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  Speaker 3: way it was before. No, it didn't, do you understand.
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