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Episode #197: Answering the Call of Your Heart's Desires · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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Hi, Welcome to tea time with Amy and Bev. Good day, good
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day, Good day, Sunday, Happy Sunday. How are you doing February?
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It's by doing yeah super fast? Right? Oh yeah, you know
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what. Let me just one second because I'm noticing old please there you go,
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there we go. I had you in my earbud. I forgot I
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had and Freeman reminded me too, so I was like, I mean,
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it's great, but you know, yeah, So back to the how are
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you doing? How am I doing? I'm doing well. I'm just focusing
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on an event next Saturday, So I'm just focusing on getting that stuff done.
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So the beauty of it is, well, let me say that the
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starting anything new, right, we got to put things together and so it
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takes a little longer, and so I'm making a list I have. I
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have a spreadsheet where I have different categories. So I'm making a list of
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each time I do something, you know, what to include, what not
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to type of thing. So it takes a little bit longer for setting up
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an event like this, but it's like once you have that list, then
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you have a checklist or something to go to as a reference and then tweak
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it with each thing you do after that. So so setting it up is
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it takes a little bit more energy. But once it's set, the next
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one all right, you have it all laid out right. And so I've
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been through the process. So so it's similar to being on this journey.
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When you choose to be on a journey of transformation. It's learning the tools,
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just gathering the information and learning the tools and figuring out what works and
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and you know, maybe taking inventory of what doesn't work, because that helps
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us as well. We're really good at knowing what we don't like. So
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so we have that information and then we have the things that that does resonate
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and that we can implement. And then as we move forward, we have
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our go to list, and as we move forward, other things might come
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in that makes it even easier or better, stronger or whatever and more connected.
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And it's just that found setting the foundation for it. So that's where
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I'm at, and it's it's actually been pretty smooth, pretty easy. I've
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been enjoying the process. There's a lot of creativity in it and things that
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pop up I'm like, oh my gosh, I didn't think about that,
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and so but that's why I got my list, so I can have something
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in the reference and it's big. It's big stuff, and it's like even
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what you just said already, it's pretty huge. Even we get so caught
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up in things that they're bad or they're good, right, And really all
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that bad or good is it's just helping to define what your preferences are.
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That's really all that it is. It's not good or bad. It's just
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like do I want more of that? Or I do not want more of
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that? You know what I mean. That's all that it is. But
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we we've learned, and we've taught, and we've been in the space of
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we focus on the bad things, and then we just focus on the bad
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things, not ever realizing that that was the first step of creativity, the
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first step of creativity, because it's helping us define what our preferences are,
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What do we want to have in our experiences? What are our passions because
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we don't know your passions without experiencing something that doesn't feel very passionate to you.
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Right. So I mean, because it's it's all part of the process,
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and it's pretty huge. You have you have a going through the whole
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process of setting this up as is a trial run right you just after right
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on the tell of doing organizing and doing all the other stuff you were for
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an event that you were part of just very recently. So it's like it's
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all the stuff. You are a super rock star. That's all I can
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tell you right now. Because regardless of how anything ever flows, when you
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just you just orchestrate it. But you know how it feels to be in
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that connection with the divine for this information to flow through, which is huge,
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and it's being in that space and recognizing, you know, if you
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get overwhelmed, and this is for anybody, and you know all this stuff
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because you do all this is your practice. But when people get overwhelmed,
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we want to shut down, go lay in the fetal position in the corner
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and cry. I've been in that space, but we don't have to be
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in that space. That I'm listening to this scal in this podcast, started
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listening to it this morning. That it's next level Soul just started this morning.
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She's a channeler and it just she starts talking about a lot of this
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stuff and it's so important for us just to enjoy the journey, like to
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all this stuff. And it's like all this stuff we we like. The
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thing is, we've gotten a taste of those aha moments, like those the
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synchronicities and the messages and you know, being in meditation and you received information
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and it's like, oh my god, I know. And it's like,
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well, it's maintaining that energy because now we're looking for that next Aha moment.
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Right, We're always looking for that that high the high connected. There's
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no there's nothing bad in that feeling, and it just feels good. It's
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all good. So we're constantly, I feel like, we constantly start searching
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for that afterwards, but we li liken it to the same experiences that we've
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already had, not opening ourselves up to even have more experience sometimes because we
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hold on to those previous experiences so tightly and look for more of that instead
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of looking for more of what's going to be shown to me next. And
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seventh, allowing it to be a surprise. Right. I remember growing up
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and thinking I hated surprises. I didn't like surprises. Don't freaking surprise me
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with anything, do not. I didn't like it because it was out of
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my control, right exactly what to say, It's all about control, it
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is, it really is it really is you know something you said last week
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and then well you know that I have told everybody and I have done it,
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and I'm like, yes, if it's not a hell, yeah,
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it's a no. And it's just recognizing that because that's now I'm in my
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boat and that's my navigation tool right now. That's how I'm navigating because and
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that also puts me into contact with my soul, with my higher self.
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So I'm asking questions or looking for that guidance before I decide that I know
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what I'm supposed to do or I know what needs to be said here,
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and I recognize it and just and I'm I'm evolving from that space right now.
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Thank you. Something that could help a lot of some things that help.
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I'm pretty good every once in a while, woo woo, are good
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And I get that because last this last week, so you know, this
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event is big for me. And one is honoring my time and energy.
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And I think I mentioned this before, but I'm just going to say it
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again. Is that people have asked me, hey, do you want to
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go do this? And I have to. I really, I really want
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to be with people because of the memory making memory, spending time with them
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right that I may never get again. And I get that, and at
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the same time, it's like, how much more can I do? That's
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going to take time and energy away from me focusing on this event where I'm
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going to have probably over thirty people attending, and so having to say no
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to things that I want I would like to do. But it is like
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it goes along with if it's not a hell, yes, it's a no
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when I feel in me like, you know, you You've got all this
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other stuff that you still have to do for this event. You have a
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week, like what are you going to do? So I a few times
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I've had to tell people thank you for inviting me, but I can't yeah,
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right, So there's that. The other thing is you know that he
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huge event that I was just part of, and I did mention how stepping
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into that role of being able to delegate tasks like Okay, what needs to
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be done? I gather the information what needs to be done, and then
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going and telling other people what to do like that's never been my moo because
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I needed to do it, because I needed the recognition, right and by
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the time I explained it to you, and you're probably not going to do
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it the way I want you to do it anyway, so far, I
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might as well just do it myself, right, yes, control, So
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we got that in that experience. I met with the ladies that are helping
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me with my event next week, and I felt so comfortable saying, Okay,
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I need you to do this, this and this and this, and
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I need you to do this, this, this and this, and it
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was just like so easy when that's not been me. And it's like,
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oh my gosh, I just added like two or three hours onto my timeframe
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of getting some more stuff done that I got to get done instead of being
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up until eleven twelve one o'clock in the morning trying to get things done and
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then get up early to go to work. Right, It's like I have
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these people to depend on to help me, and they're willing to help me
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and they want to help me, and it's like stepping into that type of
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a role and it's just up leveling my ability as a leader. And so
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again, we have these indicators as we're going along on our path of how
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well we're doing or maybe there's some areas that still need some work, and
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I'm just like, you know, just having that being proud of myself for
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how far I've come from where I was and you know a lot of my
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story. But if you were to talk to people who knew me thirty forty
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years ago that I would tell you, they'd be like, I don't even
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know who this girl is now? Who because when I knew her when she
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was sixteen, fully hell was not pretty? Yeah, So I signed,
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yeah, So just just where I'm at is super super a self pride and
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not an egotistic away. It's it's like, wow, look look at me
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now, because I ten years ago, I don't even could say that I
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would be where I'm at with myself. So but the other thing I wanted
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to head onto is something you said and we've talked about it before, is
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when you're when you're being in that creative space and your energy is in that
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creativity. So no different than my energy, my energy that I'm putting into
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this event. It matters in the whole because people are going to feel the
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energy as the whole. And if I'm bringing stressful energy into it and being
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on edge and in that angst and anxiety and oh my gosh and overwhelm and
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wanting to shut down and worry that people aren't gonna come and and if I
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then that's going to cause that right energy to push repel people from the event.
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So I just want to bring it to a different example that when people
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are making jewelry. If if you're if you just had an argument with somebody
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and then you're like, I just need to get away from them. I'm
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going to go in my room, I'll shut the door, I'm gonna work
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on my jewelry. And you're in that pissed off, angry state and you're
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making jewelry, and then you're expecting it to sell, not going to sell.
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You give it to somebody. Guess what, it's probably gonna break,
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it's not gonna last, and then you're gonna be upset with yourself because you're
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you're quality of your work wasn't that great. Well, you have to think
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it's your energy that's in that piece of jewelry and now somebody else has it
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or don't have it, Like if you're trying to sell yourself your jewelry,
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people feel that energy. So that's just a different example as to you know,
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creativity and your energy, it all matters, it's like all super important.
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It really is. Every single part of it. Every single thing that
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we experience is very important. I was talking to someone yesterday and one of
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my friends, and it's like I was telling her, you know, I
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am thankful for the triggers anymore, because otherwise we just don't. I've and
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I have said it before that I happen, but I'm thankful for those triggers,
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especially because not always, but especially when I'm in this space to be
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like, huh, I wonder what that's all about, like look at me
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right now exactly, instead of having a reaction or anything else, and I
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had so yesterday I got to the office and it smelled like a someone's reptile
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cage or whatever in my office, and I thought, I just automatically sent
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a message to the owner because she owns the building right just to let her
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know, to give her heads up because I didn't speak up for myself last
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time. But it's learning how to speak up because I could have went next
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door and talked to the people when they got in there when I had a
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chance, and I didn't do it that way. And then it ended up
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talking to them last night and they were very nice, and we'll meet up
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with each other and so they can get an idea what they're smelling to this.
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Like they said, maybe we're so familiar with this that we're not recognizing
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that it's whatever. And I said, well, you guys have only been
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there for like a couple of weeks, right, And she says, now
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we've been there for a month, and I said, well, hey,
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the positive is this is the first time I've smelled anything through and it has
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nothing to do with their business. It has to do with the city,
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with the building basically that we shared this common space. So it's not it's
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it's recognizing I was getting irritated by it, right because it was like the
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old stuff, like smelling cigarette smoke or whatever. And then I noticed that
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I was starting to react to that. So then it's like, no,
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not going to react. I'm just going to send her the message, notify
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her so she can she's aware and she can make a decision however she wants
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to do things. But with all that being said, I just I feel
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like I obviously would would have preferred someone come talk to me first about something,
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and so that's how I will do it in the future. And so
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it wasn't like anything good or bad but it was just like just what we're
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talking about. It's just recognizing. First of all, I had a trigger
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recognizing what is it? What is it to serve me for? And then
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I'm Then my clients reminded me like, hey, you probably is not going
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to be in the space much longer. It's not it's not a big deal.
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And I said, you're one hundred percent right. It's just letting.
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It's just helping me to let go because I know that when we're comfortable in
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spaces, we'll stay there forever. Honestly, if I was comfortable and enjoying
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every single thing that I'm doing, I probably would never aspire to do anything
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more than I'm doing right now. But because of all this stuff, this
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comfortability comes along and then all of a sudden you feel and I think it's
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spirit like giving you those urges and that you know you're feeling unrusted and you
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feel like you've got to do something, and you're like, oh, really,
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like you just feel inside of you you want to do something, and
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it's I think in a lot of ways, that's a motivational way to get
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us moving because they know how to they know how to push our buttons to
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trigger us in order for us to excuse me to move forward. It's that
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moving forward because sometimes we get so comfortable it doesn't even matter the space.
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We'll get comfortable in an abusive relationship because we know where it's at, we
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know what we're going to get from it, we know what to expect typically,
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and a lot of times we don't like all the other stuff. But
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my gosh, if we just if we just looked at life as more of
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an adventure, and it's like, what am I going to learn from this?
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It's like I have thought for so long, had thought and I wouldn't
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say fought, but I just really had zero desire to meditate. It wasn't
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my goal. But it's like, does that mean that I was putting myself
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on the back burner again and giving myself that piece? That that piece when
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I've had it feels so amazing, And it's like, why can't that be
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more of a practice, And why have I kept myself so busy? Why
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have I distracted myself from that? And that those are all that it's all
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triggers. So it's like I don't have all the answers for everybody, but
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I'm having I'm learning the answers for myself. So it's like this has made
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an asking for like why why am I experience experiencing this Right now? I'm
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listening to this scalve this morning and she says something I probably won't say it
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exactly the way she said it was she was talking about money, and your
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money is a reflection of how you've been devaluing yourself. So it's like,
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and so that was a huge statement. I was like, that's pretty that's
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pretty big and so and then I'm like, is that true? So just
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setting with that just to see how it feels for me, do I I
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have devalued myself? And it's like, and I hear you having the conversation.
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You're setting this thing, this function up, and you're doing all these
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things, and it's like it's you talked about not valuing yourself and you've learned
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value yourself. Your time is important, and it is Our time is all
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important, And it's like it's just recognizing how we're putting use of our energy
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into our daily activities and our daily thoughts and not chastising self when we hear
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ourselves talking and crap to ourselves again, Like wait a minute, you're getting
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all flipped out over this, like right now, why what you know?
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Asking ourselves these questions instead of feeling like a victim to our behavior, because
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then what happens afterwards we start kicking ourselves. Why did I say that?
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How come I didn't do this? And it's like, nope, nope,
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you did the best you could at that particular moment. What can you do
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better next time? How can you show up and do better? Be better
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into the next time it comes into your experience, So it's just always be
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a next time until you It's like I told was selling her, until we've
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become neutral, it's going to keep showing up for us because we have something
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to learn from it. That's all that it is. It's not a punishment,
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it's not anything bad. It's when we learn what we need to learn
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from it. It's there's no use for it anymore, just we'll fall away
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from our experience. Yeah, I had I had a conversation with somebody several
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months ago, and uh, she's having a difficult time at home and between
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her and her kids, they keep talking about it. They text each other
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during the day about it, sending images about it, like it's constant right,
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And I told her in the beginning when she started talking to me about
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it, I said, you guys got to stop talking about it. You
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just got to stop talking about it, Stop reinforcing the energy, stop giving
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attention to it. Because you keep giving attention to it, it can't change.
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You guys are feeding it. You guys are you guys are holding holding
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the energy of it to where it's at, and it can't change. And
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she heard me, but she didn't take action. Right. So here we
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are several months la and just the other day she goes, I'm really beating
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myself up for not for talking bad about this person. Of course, I
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take a breath in myself and not say I told you so, because I
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really wanted to say that, but that's my ego saying, look, I
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told you how many months ago? But you know, I'm not going to
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do that because people will only do and hear and do what they can in
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the moment. And she couldn't do it then because she's so deep into it,
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so emotionally distraught over it, and it's in her face, it's in
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her reality, and she doesn't know how to do anything different. And now
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and this is what we do, right, we we want something different,
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We're given the information, but then we don't do anything with it because it's
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a means of being able to just keep ourselves in that pattern of not good
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enough, because we don't value ourselves, because we can't see ourselves any different,
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because well, I know what to expect when I get home, and
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if I do anything different, it's right the unknown bullshit, And uh,
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I'm not going to know what to expect. I'm not going to know how
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to control the situation. I'm not going to know how to react to this
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because it's going to be something different. So if I keep it in the
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same energy as it is, I know the pattern, I know what to
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do, I know how to react to it. And but staying in that,
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you're just you know, you're not happy. You know that things are
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not the way you desire them to be. And nothing is going to change
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until you change. And I'm not saying nothing's going to change until they change,
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keyword is you. Nothing is going to change until you change. And
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in all of all all situations, there are multiple choices, multiple avenues to
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take. But we have to have the desire enough to make a change,
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to do something different and to move in a different direction to shift our energy.
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Had Bev and I not done the things that we've done for ourselves and
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changing in ourselves, we there's no way her and I would have come together
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to do this. There was no There would be no way I would even
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would have even suggested to her, Hey, let's go out into the public
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eye and be and have no no to the hell no, fuck no.
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It wouldn't have been called teach time. It had been like shots with Amy
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and Bed That's right, no doubt. We would have been drunk, happy,
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happy drunks. That's right, life bule. You know all that.
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When you're talking about a lot of stuff, it makes me think about a
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baby, right. A baby's not thinking like, oh my god, what
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if I, oh my knees got under me? What if oh my god,
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my arm? Oh I just moved? And then they started worrying about
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where they were going next. They would never go anywhere like, they would
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never go They would never they would They don't want change. Oh my god,
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what if I crawled over there and I stood up and fell down or
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something? They have you have nothing to compare it to. But we've got
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a template, right, We've got this previous patterns that we can grasp a
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hold of that don't do as any service because they're almost like having the training
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wheels off all the time. We kind of gosh, it's just even to
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be in that space of that that just like a baby being so curious about
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something that you're willing to drag your body across the floor over to see it,
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and we just don't. We've we've lost that in many ways, we've
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lost that intensity to really have that desire, that burning desire to get over
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there and pick it up and get over there and find out, you know,
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it's just a piece of lint that they stuck in their mouth or whatever.
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Because they do this stuff all the time. I've I've had kids,
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and I've have grandchildren. So it's like they whatever is available, they're they're
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going after it. That's a little shiny thing over there, they're gonna,
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they're gonna get there. But they don't think about the whole thing on the
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way there. They're just all excited because they know they're getting closer and closer
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to whatever they're getting to, and then they're they're just delighted by what they
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have. It doesn't even matter if it's a piece of lint or a box
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or whatever, a ball like it. None of that stuff even matters.
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It's just the thrilling, the thrill to get to that point. And if
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we stayed in that space of always being afraid of change, we would never
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have we would never have learned to how to crawl. But we didn't have
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all this, these beliefs or these things, you know, things that we
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think we have to grab a hold of something and that's the only way we
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can do it from here on out. We can't. They can't. We
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cannot stray from the what the norm is. And it's like we might be
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looked at, or so we might, you know, stand out a little
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bit and someone might see you, Oh my god, like all these things,
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these worries and stuff go through our mind, and it's just because it's
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stuff that we learned. But that innocent baby doesn't think twice about it.
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They're just happy, go lucky until they're not, and then they'll cry until
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they get whatever they need to get. It's it's, you know, it's
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we just don't we if we can look at life a little bit more like
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that, maybe get on the floor and crawl around a little bit and see
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what's what do you see that's the closest thing to you and move over to
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it. I don't know, it's it's just like getting back to some of
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the old patterns, the old looking at things from a different perspective. So
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you know, whether you're on your belly or or standing in the back of
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your truck looking at the grounds, you know, it's you're having a different
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perspective of things, and and things can look different and exciting again, and
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it draws your attention. And how many times I've looked outside and all of
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a sudden, the sun's shining on one particular spot. Now it's got my
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attention. I get excited. You know, we might get a little scope
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out and you check it out or or whatever. So it's just like,
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if those are the things that are exciting, that's right now. Yeah.
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The other day I was driving to work and I was it was super cloudy
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here, but as I was driving to work, there was this one huge
26:11
cloud and it was baby blue against the all the gray clouds, and I
26:18
kept looking at what I'm trying to drive. But I'm like trying to drive
26:22
and look, I was like, girl, you get in the wreck where
26:26
stuff that's awesome right over a cloud and I'd never seen a cloud of a
26:33
like baby blue huge. It was huge. I that was so amazing,
26:38
And to get excited about something like that, I mean, that was just
26:45
There was one day I was driving to work and there was a mist like
26:48
a fog, a fog that had settled in our town and it was I
26:53
go by the cemetery and I so wanted to just pull into the cemetery and
26:59
sit there. I just so one to do it, but I thought,
27:02
no, you know, I'm I'm had to work, I need to get
27:03
to work and all that. And so then I was telling my boss later
27:06
and she goes, well, then do it. She didn't exactly with me
27:11
for something like that, you know, but I have my old programming,
27:15
got to be to work at a certain time, gotta you know, got
27:18
to show up, gotta you know, all this stuff. And it's just
27:22
such a relaxed atmosphere. And she's like, if you want to stop at
27:26
a cemetery because there is a fog over it and that excites you, then
27:30
do it. Like I was just like, what, like, give myself
27:34
permission to do that? Amazing, that's fantastic. So but coming back to
27:45
your analogy of the baby. For sure, you know, first of all,
27:49
baby knows how to use its voice, right, Yes, if it's
27:55
got dirty diaper, if it's uncomfortable, you know it like you may not
28:00
know what it is, but you know, or something that's off with the
28:03
baby, right, but it knows that its voice. And it's over time
28:07
where the parent or significant significant people in that baby's life teaches it to not
28:15
use its voice, which you and I were taught very well, don't use
28:18
your voice because we don't be seen, not heard, don't care about your
28:22
problems. Suck it up, put your big girl opintings on it, like
28:26
we've heard all and so we suppressed our voice, and then we had to
28:30
learn how to use it. And so a baby it's curious, so curious,
28:40
and it wants to explore everything, and it sees something and it just
28:44
wants to go put its mouth on it. Everything goes in their mouth and
28:48
in their fingers and they're playing with it and touching it. Doesn't matter what
28:52
it is, even the nasty stuff, but they explore and they're curious.
28:57
And it's the adults that teaches them, oh, don't do that, because
29:04
oh, don't do that, because this could happen, and don't do that
29:07
because that could happen. And then we start learning those types of programmings of
29:11
worry and the anxiety and all the fear and all the stuff. And then
29:18
we have to learn how to unlearn that stuff so that we can pull that
29:23
heavy energy out of us and reprogram our mind and body to do something different.
29:33
Always comes and we say it every week. Always comes back to a
29:36
choice, Always comes back to a choice. If you don't like the way
29:38
your life is, you don't like the way things are happening, you don't
29:41
like your circumstances either, you got to change your perspective. If you're going
29:47
to choose to stay, you got to change your perspective about it, or
29:52
take another avenue of choice. There is always a choice. So one of
30:00
the choices that for this lady that I was referencing just a few minutes ago,
30:07
one of the choices is that she's just gonna go live somewhere else temporarily.
30:11
It's not forever, it's just temporarily to get her out of that energy,
30:15
so she's not seeing it every single day for hours. That she gets
30:19
to go to a place where she can have some solitude and just do something
30:25
different and get a breath, like sometimes we need that breath of fresh air.
30:29
I have another person who's gone through a separation, and what's interesting,
30:38
I thought, this is really interesting. Is just a side note. But
30:41
they chose to have the house and the kids stay in the house, but
30:48
the parents alternate who stays there. So one week the mom stays and then
30:53
the next week she leaves and the dad stays, and so instead of having
30:57
the kids bounce around house to house, the parents are back and forth.
31:03
And I thought, well, that's interesting. She said, yeah, it's
31:04
kind of a new thing. Now it's like okay, well, hey if
31:07
it works. But anyway, I told her, I said, listen,
31:11
had things haven't hadn't unfold like it did, you would have never taken two
31:17
weeks every month for yourself. You would have been a wife and a mom
31:21
and all the things that go along with that, and you would have never
31:25
ever taken two weeks out of the month to go be with yourself, to
31:30
go do what you want to go, focus on you, to go do
31:32
your transformation work, to do whatever it is. Would have never happened.
31:37
So there is value in the way this has unfolded for you, and she's
31:41
like, wow, it is so true, suck. That's that whole thing
31:48
of helping people, like what we've been talking about is really helping people to
31:52
focus on the things that are working, like what you wouldn't have had this,
31:55
like you just said, and that's kind of huge. That's kind of
31:57
huge, And it doesn't matter how it came about. I mean, I
32:00
can say that so easily, so flippantly, but it it because it because
32:06
it does matter in a lot of ways. But in a lot of ways,
32:07
when you get to the outcome, it's like that all that stuff didn't
32:09
matter as much as you thought it did. What matters now is where you've
32:14
ended up. What matters now is how you feel evolved or you've got time
32:17
for yourself. And it's like you can take a chance to or take time
32:21
to just take a breath just to be able to focus on yourself and that's
32:23
not always easy, but it's like, that's it's awesome that it worked out
32:28
that way. Gosh. It almost seems like it'd be beneficial for all families
32:31
to you know, have a parent at least to get one, you know,
32:35
one week to themselves and at least once a month, right, and
32:38
then that way you've always got the kids being taken care of, but you've
32:40
got reset time. And I think it's it's important. It's really, it
32:45
really is important. And maybe we don't need as much time as that.
32:49
Maybe it's a couple of days every other week or something like that to break
32:52
it down a bit. But there's like there's it just goes to show you
32:54
there's other alternatives. And that's really you talked about before. Every you know
33:00
choices, right, we have choices, and there's always solutions to everything,
33:04
and there's numerous, but it's like it may not be something that you've thought
33:06
about. And that's why I love talking to people because we get to get
33:08
different ideas all the time. It's not just one way. Because the experience
33:15
that we've had in this life right now, it's been our solely alone.
33:19
So it's like we're drawing from whatever we've experienced. So when we hear someone
33:22
else's perspective on something, it really gives us something to kind of it's food
33:28
for thought, right, It's something to digest and think and see if it
33:31
really would benefits? Could I do something like that? And because to me,
33:35
that's I would never have thought of that, and that is very awesome.
33:39
I think that is so smart too. That's just another option that's out
33:44
there. But again, until you start getting in with groups or other things,
33:47
and it's like pay attention to the group. Is a group like a
33:51
hell of gap making you feel good? Or is it you feeling dragged down
33:53
every single time you go into group. So that's also something to look at
33:57
too. It's like I was going to say, there's lots of face Book
34:00
groups out there and stuff too. And I even know someone else that had
34:02
gone through cancer and then started to can went into the cancer group, but
34:06
it wasn't that wasn't what she was looking for for the conversation she's looking for,
34:10
like Li's figure out how to live and not just die right now,
34:14
you know what I mean. So it's like it's just perspectives and it's you
34:17
gotta you really got to pay attention to what you like and what you what
34:21
feels good to you. I had a I saw a conversation on social media
34:27
and the person was not happy with the AA groups in his area and so
34:35
it was, uh, seeking some other kind of support and is he wasn't
34:43
happy with the idea of going to a group similar to what you were just
34:45
saying, and like, keep beating yourself up and hearing all these stories and
34:51
just it's kind of a downer type of thing. He's like, I don't
34:54
I want something different? And people not kidding you. People suggested, well,
35:01
you know you're shown these things so that you know what you want,
35:05
and why don't you just start your own group? And guess what his response
35:09
was, I don't have time for the hut. I think I'm qualified to
35:15
do something like that. I'm like, if you know you want to live
35:21
and you have this idea and this is planted on your heart, then I
35:23
bet there's other people out there who wanted to So what if you did start
35:30
something and the people showed up who would support you and have the same desire,
35:36
and how amazing it could be and you change the paradigm about AA meetings.
35:42
Like one of my hang ups about it is going to a meeting and
35:45
saying I'm an alcoholic. I don't like that affirmation. I never have and
35:52
it's not something I will. I used alcohol to get through some stuff,
35:57
but I also know I used alcohol to suppress emotions so I could have a
36:00
good time. I know what I used it for. It was a it
36:04
was a crutch, it was a means of moving through. But to affirm
36:10
in all the time that I'm this, I'm like, I would rather go
36:16
ahead and say, man, I'm amazing for showing up with this group and
36:22
change it right, and so just having a shift in perception about what it
36:28
is that you're again coming back to perspective, changing your perspective because you change
36:34
your perspective now starts changing the dynamics with yourself. I would much rather affirm
36:43
I'm a survivor, I'm strong, i am full of strength and persistence and
36:52
and diligent, Like I want to affirm all that. That's what I want
36:55
to affirm, because that's going to keep me in a space of wanting to
37:00
keep going because now I'm now I'm valuing or focusing on my strengths instead of
37:07
the opposite or beating myself up all the time because this is what I did
37:10
and this is what happened, and I'm like, can't I just cannot get
37:15
into that makes sense. Now. If I would have attended that type of
37:21
meeting back in the day, maybe I maybe that would have been what I
37:24
needed at that time. But even then, I have never attended a meeting
37:30
like that, And even then, at that age, I was like,
37:34
there's gotta be something different. There's got to be something different. And I
37:37
just kept asking and asking and asking you where what else can can I do?
37:42
Because that's not the answer. Like traditional counseling and therapy wasn't my good.
37:46
I'm like, never had it, And and you would think based on
37:51
how I am today compared to how you would swear, I've been in counseling
37:54
for years, like like traditional therapy, never been in it. Never.
38:04
I mean I've talked to traditional therapists in groups that I've been in like mastermind
38:08
groups and study groups and stuff like that. Never have I been to a
38:14
traditional therapist for my stuff. And I'm like, there are other ways,
38:21
there's other choices, and it's just being open. And when somebody suggests to
38:25
you, because I tell you I've done this myself too, it's like You're
38:29
gonna be healer and I'm like, fuck you, I am doope, not
38:32
happening. Somebody told me this for three years and I was like, oh
38:37
no, because I couldn't see that in myself to step into that role.
38:43
And I didn't want that kind of responsibility. So I understand where this person
38:47
is coming from, thinking he's not qualified. But at the same time,
38:51
when something is on your heart like that, it's important to step into it
38:55
because you're not the only one feeling that way. Yeah. Yeah, And
39:00
it's even in the groups. I don't know what kind of leeway they have
39:02
in those things because I haven't gone to any of them either, But it's
39:06
like, God, what's a better conversation is I have been sober this amount
39:12
of time or instead of I am this other thing. You know, there's
39:15
so many ways of saying things without you know, saying in a positive way
39:22
instead of it in that sort of a way, and maybe that wouldn't even
39:23
be frowned upon. But it's like in that situation, you want to be
39:28
what you want to see in the world, right, So it's like you
39:30
just show up and you you you don't have to be affected by all this
39:34
stuff because you're affected by all the stuff. That means that's what your attention
39:36
is drawn to. So you're looking at the victim and you're looking at all
39:39
this turmoil and sadness and chaos and drama and stuff, or are you looking
39:44
at like positive like, look at all these people that came in here that
39:49
are ready to be seen. They came in here because they're ready to be
39:52
seen. And it's like, what if we started and you're the change.
39:54
You just have to be You're the one that's going to be the change if
39:57
you want to affect things like that, or like you said, just create
40:00
your own group. And it's an opportunity nonetheless in any way, any any
40:05
of the there's many options, right, you could make many choices for the
40:08
whole thing, or just give up on it and not do it at all.
40:13
Yeah, And I just want to I do want to say I'm not
40:15
putting down AA meanings because oh no, no, for certain people, it's
40:21
just similar to like a Bible study or it's amazing for people for where they're
40:24
at. If it's working for you, do it. But if what I'm
40:30
what my focus is on is somebody who is desiring something different and they know
40:36
there could be something different and it's on their hard to have something different,
40:40
then step into it. Like because you're a creator. Yeah, you're a
40:45
creator creating with your words and those are your words. That's the only reason
40:49
I would bring it. That's just the I mean that to me, it's
40:52
no different than if we wanted to bring in religion or in that stuff.
40:54
It's just we're creating with our words and I don't I'm not creating from a
41:00
fear space. So it's like there's things that wouldn't resonate with me, just
41:04
like we've talked about not that long ago, when I see stuff that's advertising,
41:07
even on like YouTube, and if it's even if it's something that I
41:10
know that I would probably enjoy it. But when it's put put to me
41:15
like oh my God, do this or this is gonna happen, or or
41:20
hey, the Devil's with us right now, and like all this stuff,
41:22
and it's like that that doesn't motivate me that I know that maybe it might
41:28
have motivated me once upon a time, but I've always been really hard headed
41:30
and kind of headstrong in a lot of that stuff. So I'm not so
41:32
sure that's where my anger came into play. That's if I wanted to look
41:37
back at my life and think, oh, I could have said, I
41:39
just always say I was just always angry, but it served me. It's
41:44
not that it didn't serve me. It served me in so many ways,
41:45
but I just learned there was other ways that being nice can serve me too,
41:51
like being with other people with like minded people, being aware of the
41:55
words that I'm using because it is creating, being aware of how I feel
41:59
about money, how I'm devaluing myself, like looking at all this stuff,
42:02
and it's just we just happen to use that as a topic. Is that
42:06
as the group just because they would always say that, And it's like you're
42:08
affirming something over and over and over again, Like we just talked about a
42:12
little bit ago about your other person. You guys want to keep talking about
42:15
that story. You're keeping it in your experience and there was nothing wrong with
42:20
this. It's like getting past part of the grieving and blaming ourselves for all
42:24
these things that we did wrong instead of just acknowledging, oh, yeah,
42:28
I fucked up. But guess what, I don't have to do that anymore.
42:30
I'm a different person now, and you can show up and do and
42:34
be better. You're different than the person you were initially because you get new
42:37
tools right otherwise and even then a lot of times it's not is it wrong
42:42
because that's all they know and it's just a it's an opportunity for us to
42:45
look and explore for something else that's out there to change our life, to
42:51
give us the feel goods instead of being so caught up in all the stuff
42:55
that doesn't feel good in the drama and stuff like that, and the stuff
42:59
that we're familiar with them we know, and that's why it's so important for
43:01
us to gravitate and change, and it's to really gravitate towards all the things
43:07
that are pulling us in that direction. And I feel like we're constantly being
43:09
pulled in that direction. But how much are we ignoring it? For instance,
43:15
even going on to YouTube, whatever showing up on your feed, it's
43:17
there for a reason. It is not it's we can I can say it's
43:22
all AI stuff. And sure, you know, there's a lot of stuff
43:24
that goes by, you know, patterns, it's looking at it, watching
43:28
us and everything else, but there's it doesn't show up in our experience as
43:31
a spiritual being unless there's something there for us with it. And and it's
43:37
like so for me to even say like, well I wasn't drawn to that,
43:40
I know I'll end up watching some of these because I'll watch it and
43:44
I'll be like, oh my god, the advertising for that wasn't to me.
43:46
It wasn't. It didn't pull me in, It was actually pushing me
43:50
away. And I almost missed out on the story. But I know it'll
43:52
if it shows up a few times, regardless of whatever says on there,
43:55
I'm to watch it. So it's like it's all those messages. We have
44:00
messages around us all the time that we're just not even paying attention to.
44:04
We're not giving energy to any of that good stuff, the stuff that makes
44:07
us feel good. So again, it's like, where are you at with
44:09
how you're feeling? And you can tell, right, you can tell by
44:14
how you feel. You can just stop in and check in with yourself for
44:15
a minute if you're not feeling like bubbly excited, like driving by the cemetery
44:23
and like, oh god, I can go in there right now, this
44:25
is like the perfect time. And when you said that, I thought and
44:29
all the people that would be sitting around in there and standing around, because
44:31
it's like in my mind I could see all that as you're going by,
44:35
and it's like, man, it's like, you tell them next time,
44:37
I'll be stopping in. Yeah, I don't care where I'm going to.
44:40
I'll tell them hey, I had had an emergency at home or I'll make
44:44
up whatever. But again, see what I started to say, I'm creating.
44:47
So if I said there was an emergency at home, I'm creating an
44:50
emergency at home with my words and instead it so it's like finding ways to
44:53
use those words to you're creating what you want to create. I needed to
44:59
take it five minut and it's stop. You don't. We don't have to
45:00
say why, we don't have to justify. It's just the way it is.
45:04
This is you know, thanks for waiting for me, Thanks for waiting
45:07
for me to show up to work today at three o'clock when I was due
45:10
to be in at seven. Notice kidding, Yeah, hanging out with the
45:15
dead people, That's right, I'm here. Let's get excited, guys.
45:22
Yeah. And creativity, when it's it's in your heart, it's time to
45:29
go with it. It's time to pay attention, it's time to do something
45:31
with it, whether it's take a class or start your own thing, or
45:36
do something. The more I got into learning about energy work and and that
45:43
avenue of information, I was so fascinated by it. Then my and I
45:49
was like, Okay, well if I'm going to step into this. How
45:52
am I going to get better at it? How am I going to get
45:53
good at talking to people? How am I going to get into my confidence?
45:58
So I was started taking classes. That's when I was in a like
46:02
a networking company where I had to. I didn't have to, but if
46:07
you want to make money, it helps if you, you know, do
46:10
group demonstrations. I am not a stand in front of a group type of
46:15
girl at the time, and it was very scary and very uncomfortable. It
46:21
was shaking in my body, trying stumbling over my words. But I survived
46:27
because I'm still here. And the more I did it, the more I
46:30
got comfortable, the better I got. And so get the tools. If
46:38
there's something on your heart, something you desire, then get the tools.
46:43
There's lots of free stuff on YouTube. There are a lot of books that
46:46
have been written before us that will help guide you, a lot of leadership
46:52
books, a lot of books on how to speak right, speaking in front
46:55
of other people, and you take that information and you see what resonates with
47:01
you, and then sometimes a lot of times you create your own And that
47:07
was one of the things that was told to me several years ago was you're
47:12
gonna get a lot of information, but you're gonna create your own path.
47:16
In my head, I was like, oh, okay, I don't get
47:19
this, but whatever, And then that's what I've done, Like I've pulled
47:22
pieces from so many different teachers and stuff, and I create my stuff my
47:28
own. So it's like, how do you want to embrace? But sometimes
47:31
you got to follow some people so that you can get a grasp on,
47:37
getting a little clearer on what you want. But then you can just take
47:39
it and make it your own, put your own spin on it. Nobody's
47:45
gonna tell your story like you do. So we all might have similar stories,
47:50
or several of us might have similar stories, but we're not all gonna
47:54
have the same story. We're not gonna have the same experience, we're not
47:57
gonna have the same healing practices. But nobody's gonna know if you don't share.
48:02
So it's similar to starting a group that you desire. So many people
48:07
are out there probably desiring the same thing, but nobody wants to step into
48:10
that role. Step of the role. See what happens. If it doesn't
48:14
work out, It's okay, you learn something and then maybe it's gonna help
48:17
you make a shift, or maybe it's going to make you help, you
48:21
make a connection with somebody who has the you know, more skills in that
48:29
area that could either guide you or take the reins and show you the way.
48:36
Just see that's true. It all help because I'm just sitting here thinking
48:49
about all that stuff and it helps. And again, you've got a different
48:52
Each person has a genuine distinct perception on things than another person has. And
48:58
like I said earlier, it makes a big difference when we get those perspectives.
49:01
Sometimes those perspectives can take a lot of weight off someone can make a
49:07
big difference in their life. So it's like, it's awesome when we all
49:09
show up and our true authentic selves as our true authentic selves, and when
49:15
you it's important to me for people to lean into collaboration instead of competition.
49:22
Do you know how many healers there are in this town. It's a small
49:25
town compared to a big city like La or Las Vegas or anything. There's
49:29
a lot of healers here. Yeah, but we all do it in our
49:32
own way, and we're all going to attract the people that are attracted to
49:36
us. The way we teach, the way we talk the way we our
49:39
modalities, our skill set, our language, our body language, all those
49:44
things. It's it's it's that is like an individual basis. However, it's
49:49
an energetic basis on who's attracted to you, and we can do these things
49:55
individually. There's over even billion people on the planet and that one healer can
50:01
handle all of that. So we need many healers. But we're also more
50:06
powerful together. So if we're supporting each other. If I there's something that
50:09
I am not strong in my skill set or I don't have time for,
50:14
I'm like, hey, here's this person's number, here's that per person's number.
50:16
I know somebody who does that as well, because people ask me all
50:20
the time, do you do this? Yep, I sure do. I
50:22
don't have time, but I know somebody else who I trust, who could
50:24
do it, and I'll give them their number. So I have no problem
50:29
in doing that because there's plenty for everybody. And it's just like these groups.
50:34
If somebody is drawn to your energy and they're desiring something similar to what
50:37
you're desiring, they're going to be drawn to you. And then you just
50:42
roll with it and you're going to figure out what works, what doesn't.
50:45
Work and you keep making adjustments and it's all okay. And if you're desiring
50:51
the support, support shows up. Support shows up every single time. And
50:55
it's whether you link arms with that person to let them lead the way and
51:01
guide you, or resist it and look at it as competition and say,
51:06
oh, well they're smart at me, and then now you get into comparison,
51:09
it's like, we're stronger together. I have a lady in a group
51:15
that I'm in and that's her tagline, We're stronger together. It's absolute truth.
51:20
The more we collaborate, the better it is. It's going to be
51:22
better for the planet. So I'm totally into collaboration. I'm like, let's
51:27
let's link arms and be strong together instead of trying to do it individually,
51:30
because that's that's a lot of work. That's tough. And we get to
51:37
lift each other up in our strengths and our qualities and shine a light on
51:44
one another. So I'm like, step in to do it. Back to
51:51
those choices again, right, it's true, but it's true. Look at
51:53
how many choices we have? Yeah, so many, so many. It's
52:00
true. It's pretty phenomenal. And you don't even know until you've talked to
52:06
until you talk to groups of people until you start getting different ideas, and
52:10
then you realize. And it's like even for me, when I walk over
52:14
to take care of the cats or whatever to their house, I imagine that
52:17
I'm walking on this path and I can see the grass on both sides,
52:22
and it's lined with certain types of rocks that I want lining in the path,
52:25
and I can see that all the way to the house. And then
52:28
I can see their house in the green color with a copper roof, and
52:30
then I can see, you know, I can see all the stuff,
52:32
but I can see all the stuff. And then if you have someone else
52:36
that's collaborating with you, now they're adding something into it, and it's like
52:38
I never thought about that. Yeah, I like that. Okay, so
52:42
now we just install the water feature, right, you know what I mean.
52:44
But that's how it goes, and that's how that's how amazing it is
52:47
and fun it can be. Oh are you good? Like the opposite of
52:52
that is, oh, they already have it, and maybe I shouldn't do
52:58
it because they have already done it. Yeah, I mean, okay,
53:01
Well, how many Bible studies are there in this in just in the United
53:06
States. How many AA meetings are just in the United States. Somebody desires
53:12
desires it, and they start it. Yeah, so handlers, Oh my
53:17
god, look at how many challengers we have mediums there there. We're in
53:21
a time space reality now that we can see and have a better contact and
53:25
explore these people anybody that's online than we have ever had before in our lives.
53:31
We've never had the opportunities that we have right now, not in this
53:36
my life experience, on this life lifeline. It's no, but it's phenomenal.
53:44
Yeah, a lot of people are opening up to that in allowing it
53:50
to be a part of their truth. I have a I mean I have
53:55
an LA you know, I'm coaching and and she's open end up to mediumship
54:01
and she's like, I can talk to the dead people, but I don't
54:06
know what to do after that, Like, because that's a huge responsibility.
54:09
When you're talking to somebody's loved ones who've passed, and you're talking to the
54:14
person who's still here in the physical body. Now there's some mental and emotional
54:17
healing that needs to take place. She's like, I don't know what to
54:20
do with that, Like that's out of her realm. Like she has no
54:22
study in that at all. And she's like, I just give me your
54:25
card, like, go see Amy, you know when to work through this.
54:29
And I'm like, hey, that's cool. And in the meantime,
54:32
I'm giving her examples Okay, well when this happens, you could do this,
54:37
and and just giving her difference, like I'm lifting her up in her
54:42
abilities and allowing her to grow and sharing the information I have instead of holding
54:52
my information in the idea that well she can only do this and I can
54:55
do the rest and now they need to come to me. And I'm not
54:59
about that. I'm like, I don't know. I'm not going to play
55:00
that game. I want to lift her up. I want to because again,
55:06
how many billions of people are on the planet. I can't she can't
55:08
read for all of them, and I can't help them all. So it's
55:10
like, no, let's lift you up in your strengths and grow and learn
55:15
some skills so that you can help them. You have the ability to help
55:20
them, and I have my habit, you know, my path. So
55:25
yeah, it's always a choice to what everyone do. Yeah. I think
55:30
it was Gordon Smith that was talking about his teacher told him that I'm not
55:35
going to teach you how to use your skills, your your mediumship. I'm
55:38
going to teach you how to how you handle the public, like how you
55:42
handle each person. That was more valuable, she says. I don't need
55:45
to teach you something that you already have an ability with. It's it's your
55:50
natural thing. I don't need to teach you anything. But it's teaching you
55:53
how to how you're going to respond to people, teaching us how to honor
55:57
our boundaries, teaching us how to communicate messages in a neutral way so you're
56:02
not setting them off or triggering them, right. You want them to have
56:06
an amazing experience at that point and know that they're sitting with their loved one,
56:09
but without triggering these emotions. And so there's a lot of stuff that
56:14
kind of goes along with all the stuff. It's responsibility, it really is.
56:17
It's like one with one person in one medium would say that she knew
56:21
when they were going to die, and it's like, after a few times
56:23
of saying it, it's like she quit saying it, because things can change.
56:27
If you know that you're going to die, it might even it might
56:30
be a positive and encourage you to even live more. You go out and
56:32
live us, to your life, to the police, and next thing you
56:35
know, you're still here. Right. There's there's so many factors, but
56:37
it's like that it's just being aware of that stuff. Or even saying we've
56:43
talked to a familiar person that was told after her son died that you know,
56:50
he was stuck and he couldn't believe this has happened to him. Those
56:52
are all that was someone's experience at that time, that was the medium's experience
56:58
once they were sharing it with the person the sitter. But it's like recognizing
57:01
that information is not beneficial. And it's also having the knowledge that if you've
57:07
been doing mediumship you because I've heard it as a familiar among mediums is when
57:14
a person comes through, they're they're always bringing forth the information that you need
57:21
to hear at the time, but they're always doing it from a space of
57:25
it's always for the greatest good of the client or for the sitter. It's
57:29
all it always is. So when you're doing it that way, it's like
57:31
I feel like you're always guided. You could always go out and get more
57:35
and more teachers and study and learn more. There's the benefits of all that
57:38
there really is. But it's like at the same time, I know that
57:42
we have access to all that was inside of ourselves, and like you said,
57:46
we've got like you, you can guide them into certain places and what
57:50
to look at and everything else. But it's it's there's so much bigger stuff
57:52
going on like that, and we just really people that are here can be
57:57
very tender, very sensitive, and it's like they might be on gosh,
58:01
we're listening to that he spent how many times, And she's talked about people
58:06
sitting right across from her and telling her, Man, if you didn't bring
58:08
them through today, I was I already have my pills in my purse and
58:13
I was going to go kill myself after this. And and you know that's
58:15
after their loved ones said like, hey, you don't need to take those
58:17
pills that are in your purse, right like call them out so to be
58:21
seen. But so it's it's just recognizing there's like a gosh, almost like
58:25
a you almost have to learn how to counsel when you're in those kind of
58:29
situations too in a lot of ways, or just lets do his job.
58:34
Maybe that's just all part of the natural parts of it. And that's that
58:38
was one of one of the things that I told her right away. I
58:40
said, don't don't have people dependent on you. Oh yeah, I said,
58:45
that's you're going to be in my world. I am not a person
58:50
who wants people dependent on me. I want you to learn, I want
58:52
you to grow, and I want you to even outgrow me because I'm helping
58:58
people with where they're at right now. And as you evolve, you're going
59:00
to outgrow me. You're going to need a new mentor. It's okay.
59:02
I'm okay with that because you're you're growing and expanding and say, it's the
59:07
same thing with your clients. You you bring them in, you have the
59:13
the reading with them, you know, you know, affirm the idea that
59:21
we are still energy and connected and always around. And you teach them or
59:30
let them know or encourage them to learn to do it on their own.
59:35
They are not to be dependent upon you, and keep coming back to you
59:37
time and time and time again because they need that affirmation for me. They
59:43
need that confirmation for me. You start teaching them how to do it for
59:45
themselves, help them be independent. And so that's the space I come from
59:52
and I do the same thing in my coaching and my classes, so growing,
1:00:00
continuously growing, and that to go along with our conversation of bringing this
1:00:05
person up is also that how quickly she stepped into it and not know a
1:00:13
damn thing about it, Like she had no clue, Jo, don't know
1:00:15
what it was about, she didn't know how it works, but she stepped
1:00:20
into it. And then she would contact me and she'd do it and something
1:00:23
else would come through and then so we've been going back and forth, but
1:00:28
she was she had enough courage to just step into something she had nothing,
1:00:32
she knew nothing about, And so that goes along with what we were talking
1:00:37
about earlier. Something's on your heart and the desires are like like Bev said,
1:00:43
we are creative beings. Use your creative skills to step into it.
1:00:50
And also know that there is a lot of support around. Sometimes that support
1:00:53
you can't see it. It's our spirits guiding us, right, And so
1:00:59
step in to it anyway because and be all will with the stars will align
1:01:05
and the people will come to help guide you and support you and help you
1:01:09
flourish and be even more amazing in that role. So gosh, it's so
1:01:16
true. I mean, I agree, with a lot of with what you
1:01:20
were saying, I really do. It just makes sense to me. And
1:01:24
I also know about having the healthy boundaries because people they don't do it on
1:01:29
purpose, but they'll keep going to you constantly, yeah, instead of going
1:01:34
within, so then they're relying upon something else. Right, It's to me,
1:01:38
it's like a long It's along the same lines of when we raise our
1:01:42
kids. We kind of got a lot of make decisions and stuff, even
1:01:45
though we can see that this may not be the best decisions they're making right
1:01:49
now, but they've got to make these decisions because that's how they're learning.
1:01:52
And we do it as service by doing it for them, because then they
1:01:54
have no clue. Then then when you're gone and you're not you're you're making
1:01:59
millions and you know you're not able, they're not able to just schedule with
1:02:01
you like they would have scheduled with you before, or or whatever whatever the
1:02:06
perspective is. You know what I mean, You're not gonna be able to
1:02:08
sing in small groups anymore because you're singing on stage at a at a big
1:02:12
venue. That's what your what your life looks like now. So things change
1:02:15
and you're not is accessible to everybody else. But it's fun, you know,
1:02:19
And it's one of the things I've listened to different psychics. They say
1:02:23
Mayvis Patilla is one of those two that she wishes she would have enjoyed the
1:02:27
journey a little bit more when she when this all started for her, because
1:02:30
we want to go grow through it so fast and not want we want to
1:02:37
be at a certain stage, but we don't want to go through the whole
1:02:39
process of getting there. But that process of getting there is has so much
1:02:43
value in it, and that's the whole thing. Even even though I'll be
1:02:46
fifty four this year, and maybe I don't know exactly what I'm doing at
1:02:50
this particular moment, but it's like I know that it's constantly evolving into something
1:02:54
else. So it's like I'm just finally at a stage where I'm enjoying the
1:02:59
journey of it mostly. You know, when you have your bad days,
1:03:01
you have or what it feels like, maybe a bad day, which is
1:03:05
not even the same as it used to be. I don't know, They're
1:03:07
just different. Now. Bad days are not the same as the old bad
1:03:09
days. Those were like those bran ons for months. Now these will last
1:03:14
be maybe an hour or two or you know, I'll have my moments and
1:03:19
I'll blow up. And if I get to that point and it's sober and
1:03:24
I feel like because I understand, and I have to say my bad days
1:03:29
today compared to my bad days, then my bad day's end twenty four to
1:03:34
seven, unless I was a sleep of course, so maybe twenty four or
1:03:38
seven eighteen eighteen seven eighteen hours a day, seven days like that was that
1:03:45
was bad days. Now, if there's I'm gonna say quote unquote bad because
1:03:52
because we don't define bad or good, just is. But if I have
1:03:57
a day that gets me emotionally just drop once every other week, a couple
1:04:04
times a month compared to where I was, I'm like, that's huge,
1:04:11
right, that is huge, and I am blessed for that. So and
1:04:16
really, the things that are that I'm perceiving as uncomfortable is because I'm perceiving
1:04:23
them that way and I'm ads So it's all on me. So I'm creating
1:04:30
my own discomfort because of the way I'm looking at what's happening outside of me
1:04:38
and internalizing. It always comes back to me. It always comes back to
1:04:41
I'm not good enough, which means I'm not loving and accepted. So it's
1:04:45
up to me to change that. And I can only change that for myself.
1:04:46
So so those uncomfortable moments last, like you said, an hour,
1:04:53
maybe right, maybe maybe half a day, but not days, weeks,
1:04:58
months, and years. So that's huge, you know, something that I'm
1:05:04
hit my mind just now. I thought I had been doing really good with
1:05:09
my awareness on stuff like that, but it's like yesterday, it was kind
1:05:12
of a long day for me. I had seen like four people and then
1:05:15
at the last one we end up being there for like three hours, I
1:05:19
mean because we sat and talked afterwards and stuff. So it was a long
1:05:25
It was a long day and I wasn't recognizing it. And I was talking
1:05:27
to Freeman and I was saying things and he's like, ooh, yeah,
1:05:31
he said something about that I was putting stress on my teas and I'm like,
1:05:34
really I am, and he said yeah, and he says, well,
1:05:39
you probably haven't eaten. I had not eaten. I hadn't eaten since
1:05:42
that morning because I hadn't had time between clients, and you probably haven't drank
1:05:47
much water. And I started realizing these things and an at he's like,
1:05:50
remember you've been on a high, and it's like that's the thing to remember
1:05:54
too, Like even when you do your venues and you do all the other
1:05:57
stuff, we get on this high place, but we have to make sure
1:06:00
that we're still getting the water, the foods because we still got to.
1:06:03
When we're high in that high place, we're vibing higher. I feel like
1:06:06
we're burning probably burning more calories. There's a lot more going on as far
1:06:11
as that goes, and we really need to I say need to, it's
1:06:15
up to you. But an awareness of how you're feeling at those moments,
1:06:17
which you know I've been talking about how you know, my teaching my granddaughter,
1:06:21
my grandkids to be aware of what their bodies, what they're needing at
1:06:26
the moment, and stuff like that. So it's like here I am,
1:06:29
and then then I have someone else that's saying something to me. That's why
1:06:31
it's so important for a community and for partners and stuff like that, because
1:06:35
they notice things just like we notice things for other people. And then how
1:06:39
are you presenting that information. He wasn't saying, oh, you're stressing your
1:06:42
teas. Next thing, you know, you're going to be an asshole.
1:06:44
He didn't say anything like that, but because in the past, hangary was
1:06:48
a normal process for myself, you know, because I didn't you know,
1:06:54
the supply and demand wasn't always there. But it's like it's just it takes
1:07:00
a few minutes to assess ourselves. But I again thought I was doing so
1:07:03
great, But now I can see, well, there's a little bit more
1:07:06
fine tuning, and I also get to see how important it is. This
1:07:11
body needs food, it needs fuel, this body needs water in order to
1:07:15
function and keep doing these things that I want to do. So it's like
1:07:18
it's there's like a give and take even with our own physical bodies that if
1:07:23
we're not taking the time to listen to it, we find ourselves in these
1:07:27
depressed, depressive moments or these places that we feel like we can get out
1:07:30
of. And it's some of the things are as simple as eating foods or
1:07:34
what foods are you eating? Are you eating a lot of processed stuff?
1:07:38
Are you eating a lot of stuff with dyes? And because a lot of
1:07:40
that stuff can have an emotional reaction to your body. Your body is reacting
1:07:44
to those chemicals that you're putting into it. So it's just being aware because
1:07:47
we can make our lives so much better, or we can stay in the
1:07:50
struggle and delete that crap. I mean, it's okay, it's all right,
1:07:54
there's nothing wrong with it. I did it for many years, but
1:07:56
it's not it's unnecessary when you start. It's just like when you go through
1:08:00
the spiritual stuff, when you start sensing and feeling a lot of these things.
1:08:04
When you're feeling great, it's great, you're in that high space all
1:08:09
the time, right, You're just great, and any little thing can,
1:08:12
you know, kind of knock it off a bit. It could, especially
1:08:15
in the early times, that it can take you off your course and you're
1:08:18
thinking, I was doing so great, and then that person and then you
1:08:21
recognize that you're blaming somebody else for something and it had nothing to do with
1:08:25
anybody else, but letting you know where you were at that moment. Maybe
1:08:28
you needed food or water. It's just like taking those times, even for
1:08:32
that stuff, you're paying attention to your thoughts, pay attention to how you're
1:08:35
treating the body, like are you honoring it? Are you nourishing it with
1:08:41
what it needs, whether it's a bath or oils or lotions or foods or
1:08:45
just reast. Sometimes rest is all we need, yeah, or sure,
1:08:51
it's eleven eleven. Yeah, I wouldn't do that. I've done that like
1:08:57
three or four weeks and I'm like, just look not you can see I'm
1:09:00
I'm looking at my lap. Whether I'm looking at you because we're my cant,
1:09:04
I don't know. I'm just looking at you in the picture and then
1:09:09
everyone's ever. I just it's like, look at the clock and it's eleven
1:09:13
eleven. So I think that's fun and a lot and those four four fours.
1:09:18
You know, thank you for sharing your wisdom with us about the body
1:09:23
and paying attention to it, and it's important for people to hear that stuff.
1:09:27
So with that, this is tea time with Amy and Bev. I
1:09:34
don't know, I love coming here every week or having these conversations as much
1:09:39
as possible and sharing the information with other people. So my expression expression of
1:09:47
gratitude towards you, Bev for showing up as well and being we're doing this
1:09:51
almost about four years and it's been amazing journey just for us. So I
1:09:57
think that's fun and exciting and it took us to say yes to doing it.
1:10:03
So when you're thinking about doing something you're feeling called to do it,
1:10:10
just say yes, just do it and just see where it goes, because
1:10:13
it could be an incredible ride. So thank you for being here. Tea
1:10:18
time with Amy and Bev. Remember to share us with your friends and family,
1:10:21
to check us out, to share the content, to have conversations around
1:10:26
this stuff because other people are desiring to hear it as well, so you
1:10:30
step into that and have the courage to talk about it. So any other
1:10:35
words, have a wonderful week. All right, all right, my friends,
1:10:41
take care. We'll see you next time. Thank you, You're welcome.