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Season 2 - Episode 98 - It’s always about what we get. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the And Coop. So today an interesting concept
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  I want to share with you that something that has been brought
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  up to me about my behavior. So obviously, y'all know, I love
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  my chickens. I'm shoot this from the chicken
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  coop. I currently have babies in the
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  chicken coop. It is a very exciting time
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  Springtime for me and enjoy everybody.
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  Not just me, but I particularly love Springtime because it's
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  like that Rejuvenation, it's like the Purge, you clean out
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  you, you get things going, the gardens going flowers, are
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  growing. Lots of things are happening.
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  Baby, chicks are being hatched lots of good stuff.
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  Someone pointed out to me, your chickens are very spoiled and
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  it's just not necessary to be that way with chickens.
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  And, you know, at first I was like, what is wrong with this
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  purse? Because I felt like I had to
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  Convince this person of the quality of the identity of
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  chickens, and then I realized what was really going on for me.
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  It was that I was trying to prove that my efforts were
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  worthwhile, and when I had that aha moment, and I mean, it was
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  like a slap in the head when I realized, as I'm having this
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  conversation. What the hell am I doing?
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  Why am I talking to this person about this?
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  Clearly we are not like minded people.
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  Clearly we are coming from two different directions.
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  So what am I trying to? To prove in having this
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  conversation with this person. Am I trying to prove that I'm
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  right? Maybe.
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  And that really got to me because I don't, I don't profess
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  that I am right in any situation.
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  I just offer opportunities especially in coaching, I want
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  to always offer my people perspective and new ideas and
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  ways to think of things. So, when this was brought up to
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  me, it was kind of like, I was trying to prove that my efforts
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  were worthwhile and then I started About well, where else
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  does that show up? How often do I do that?
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  Do I try to prove that I have? My efforts are worthy of your
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  acknowledgement and the truth is a lot because it was just
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  ingrained to me early on. You do things to make other
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  people happy. And I think a lot of us are in
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  that mindset where we do things to quote unquote, make other
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  people happy but the reality is we are really doing it to make
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  ourselves happy because Of the acknowledgements that we get and
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  there's no reason why we can't give ourselves the
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  acknowledgements. Now years ago, I had started
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  doing this thing where I give myself.
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  I track all my activities. I put them into a daily.
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  Planner. I use passion planner, by the
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  way, no promo here. I don't get paid by them, but I
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  absolutely love their books passion planner.com.
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  I love their erasable pens, they're stickers, everything
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  about them, and I give myself stickers when I have great days
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  because I loved them as a kid, and they make me happy.
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  And I acknowledge, I do all of that because it makes me happy.
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  I track it because it gives my certainty girl proof, but this
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  comes down to something different when I'm challenged
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  with something and I need somebody else to see, no, no.
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  What I'm doing is valuable, I need you to see, I'm valuable my
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  efforts are valuable what I believe or this.
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  And I had this aha moment the other day about it and I was
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  like, Wow, right down to just even when you think I think you
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  are so far along in the process, right?
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  When you're at that cusp, the universe and God remind you.
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  I'm not so much. Sweet potato, let's back it up
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  here and say, hey, you're always in learning, you're always in
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  growth, you're always expanding. You're always giving yourself
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  New Perspectives. So in that moment, I recognized,
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  I am not trying to do anything other than make this
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  acknowledgement from this person.
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  Get this acknowledgement from this person.
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  And that I was right with my efforts, going in the right
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  direction because to them chickens are stupid, they
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  weren't worthy of anything. And then I realized when I had
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  that, I was like, wow, I could sit here and talk all day to
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  this person and try to convince them, but it's not going to
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  change their point of view. And more importantly, it's going
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  to frustrate me not from. Just the fact that they're not
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  getting that that Chickens are not that way.
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  But again, it comes down to what do they believe about me?
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  And so they look at me and they say, well, she's just silly.
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  She's just a silly girl. And you know what?
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  Maybe I am a silly girl and I am truly okay, with that, it caught
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  me off-guard. But once I recognized it, I was
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  like, wow, no, I am, okay, being silly.
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  I am. Okay, being the person that does
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  things differently, I am. Okay, being the person that you
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  know, this whole thing came about because Because of the
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  whole conversation around, how often you change your Coop out,
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  how often you clean them, what you do with them, how you talk
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  to them, you don't have to buy them.
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  That quality of food. It was like, this whole very
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  Dynamic conversation about you, don't the care of chickens.
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  And the truth is, I care for all of my beings this way, it
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  doesn't matter. If you're my son, my daughter,
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  my chickens, everybody is going to be that way.
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  And the reason that it's that way is I have incredibly high
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  standards And it's not just for them and their well-being, but
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  it's for me and my well-being and when I keep, I have to keep
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  circling back to that. So I'm going to challenge you
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  all to really take a look at when somebody has that effect on
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  you. When somebody says something and
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  you are arguing your points, you have to look back and say,
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  what's really happening here? Am I doing this?
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  Because I am trying to help that person or am I doing it to prove
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  something to myself? And the reality is you already
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  know about yourself. You already know what you need
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  to tell yourself. You already know where that is
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  and you don't need to prove anything to anybody.
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  No, it's often said that the person that talks is the person
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  that doesn't know anything. And I'm not going to say that
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  that's true because I don't believe that that's true
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  completely. But I will say in our culture.
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  Right now, there are a ton of people out there who want to
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  force things on us. And And it doesn't have to be
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  that way. So I'm going to tell you look at
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  this because it was a profound. Aha, for me in an area where
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  I've already had it many times and it was thrilling to see that
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  it can still show up and help. So, I hope you guys have a
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  blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.