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EP 20 " A Seat at the Table" with Jeanine, India Monae, and Davonne Reaves · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 1: talk back. Thank you guys for tuning that to a
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  Speaker 1: new episode. Up we talk back. It's your girl a J.
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  Speaker 1: And it's Tam Bam. Y'all were here and look, we
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  Speaker 1: got some women on this today. They got forty two
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  Speaker 1: thousand black women to deal with, so imagine that ship. Right,
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  Speaker 1: we got the lovely Jenney Smith, Davon Rees, and India Money.
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  Speaker 1: I believe they're all based out of Atlanta, Georgia, and
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  Speaker 1: they're all booming in real estate. One is even a
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  Speaker 1: hotel owner, right, So listen, these are women who are
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  Speaker 1: getting to the bag. They're sharing their experiences with us.
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  Speaker 1: Um even a little bit about their relationships. You know,
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  Speaker 1: you can't come on we talked back and not talk
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  Speaker 1: about these niggas. So we'll be all in people's business
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  Speaker 1: because that's where we do. So tune in. Thank you
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  Speaker 1: ladies for joining us so much. Thank you have you,
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  Speaker 1: thank you for cutting here. So um, tell us all
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  Speaker 1: your names and how you got started in the real
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  Speaker 1: estate industry. So we're gonna start with India. Listen today,
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  Speaker 1: I am staying investor here based in Atlanta. My entry
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  Speaker 1: into this game is a little bit of a hell
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  Speaker 1: of a story. It's a long story, so um, let's
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  Speaker 1: see if I can shorten it. So I was an entrepreneur, right,
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  Speaker 1: I was a fashion stylace and um a clothos store
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  Speaker 1: owner of Bouti owner and I owned my store at
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  Speaker 1: the time for a few years. And I was working
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  Speaker 1: full time, and I did a pop up shop on right,
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  Speaker 1: So I did this puple shops, worked all day with starving.
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  Speaker 1: I was leaving a pop up shop at like nine
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  Speaker 1: o'clock um, on way to a restaurant, and out of
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  Speaker 1: the blue, this this car comes flying up the street
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  Speaker 1: doing like almost ninety on residential street and smacked the
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  Speaker 1: car that I was in, super super super hard, so
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  Speaker 1: hard that my car went back up the street and
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  Speaker 1: ended up in the patio of a restaurant here in Atlanta,
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  Speaker 1: and our car hit a waitress and she broke some
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  Speaker 1: ribs stopped because of a tree. Right. And so I
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  Speaker 1: was a passenger at the time, and I guess I
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  Speaker 1: was just in shock because I tried to jump out car.
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  Speaker 1: Our cars like smoking. It was just a bunch of chaos,
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  Speaker 1: you know. It was a bunch of people outside of
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  Speaker 1: the restaurant and I started to like pull myself up
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  Speaker 1: out of the car and I couldn't move. I was
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  Speaker 1: stup um. The car was smashed down on my feet literally,
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  Speaker 1: so I'm saving to pull my left foot out of it,
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  Speaker 1: but my right foot was stuck. So it took forty
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  Speaker 1: minutes for the paramedics, firefighters, the police, pedestrians, white folks, strangers,
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  Speaker 1: all trying to get this car off of my foot,
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  Speaker 1: cutting pieces piece by piece because they didn't want to
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  Speaker 1: cut bridge um. And so that happened. And by the
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  Speaker 1: time I got out of the chair, I mean the car,
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  Speaker 1: my feet was both of them were completely shattered. So
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  Speaker 1: I have like eleven metal plates through my left foot
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  Speaker 1: and a couple of schools my right foot and had
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  Speaker 1: to get emergency surgery the next day and I ended
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  Speaker 1: up in a wheel chair for about six months. Wow.
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  Speaker 1: So that that that kind of begins this charity, right
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  Speaker 1: because in that chair, I realized I had to create
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  Speaker 1: passive income. I had to create strange the vicom that
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna flow whether I was walking or not. Especially
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  Speaker 1: just dawn on me, Like you know, I had always
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  Speaker 1: want to invest in real estate, but we always think
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  Speaker 1: we have time got started that's an amazing story. A
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  Speaker 1: lot of people may not have made it the way
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  Speaker 1: you have have that to have that happened to them.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, that's where that financial literacy coming because you know,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people come into money all the time.
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  Speaker 1: You know, we like to think that, oh, there's no
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  Speaker 1: money in the black community. It's plenty money. We just
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  Speaker 1: have bad spinning abits. They get their bodies done exactly
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  Speaker 1: and guess what, that ass ain't even working And I
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  Speaker 1: don't know that as laying on their stomach riding home. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: what'd you say, hey, j to walk in a call center, Yes,
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  Speaker 1: to get that fat ass to sit on it all
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  Speaker 1: day in a call center, Like, it does not make
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  Speaker 1: sense to me. If you're gonna use the ass, if
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna get the ask please, you're bit God, I'm
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  Speaker 1: sorry something. Tell us your story how you got started.
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  Speaker 1: So I got started act. I started working as a
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  Speaker 1: front that's agent at the Higher Regency Atlanta. So I've
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  Speaker 1: been in the industry for about fourteen years and I
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  Speaker 1: probably was at the High for about six and a
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  Speaker 1: half years. I mean I worked probably every position you
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  Speaker 1: could think of, well, I want to say every position,
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  Speaker 1: every shift, because I mostly stayed in the front office.
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  Speaker 1: I did cast force, meaning I travel to different hotels
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  Speaker 1: to help open and to help train. And I was
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  Speaker 1: just like, you know what I need, I need to
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  Speaker 1: do something else, right. I love the benefits, I love
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  Speaker 1: the people that worked with but I just needed something
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  Speaker 1: that was a little bit more challenging. And so an
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  Speaker 1: opportunity came and it was an unpaid internship. UM, because
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  Speaker 1: I knew I wanted to get out of operations, but
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  Speaker 1: it was hard for me to you know, go into corporate.
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  Speaker 1: It was like, oh, staying operations, right. Um. I didn't
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  Speaker 1: go to school for finance. I didn't go to school
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  Speaker 1: for real estate. So I had a lot of strikes
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  Speaker 1: against me. UM, which didn't help me, you know, trying
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  Speaker 1: to transition into commercial real estate or trying to transition
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  Speaker 1: into investing hotel investing. And so unpaid internship came along
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  Speaker 1: my way. I took up for about three months. UM,
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  Speaker 1: that was part of about three months, and UM, I
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  Speaker 1: was like, you know, I like this, this is cool.
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  Speaker 1: That was my introduction to the merchant real estate. That
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  Speaker 1: was my introduction to the hotel ownership. That was my
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  Speaker 1: introduction to the transactional side. That was when I saw
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  Speaker 1: the possibilities of actually developing and owning a hotel, and
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  Speaker 1: so I took that. I paid internship, like I said,
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  Speaker 1: stay there three months, and then I they kept me
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  Speaker 1: on and UH say I stay there for about two years.
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  Speaker 1: I went to Boston. Uh and I was there for
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  Speaker 1: about two years. And at the time, my portfolio or
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  Speaker 1: hotels that I was asset managing was about probably north
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  Speaker 1: of a billion dollars um that I had to oversee
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  Speaker 1: and help oversee and oversee the portfolio. And I just
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  Speaker 1: saw the amount of well, you know, because we had
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  Speaker 1: access to folks, you know, uh, professionals shaking the council.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, what is that is? It's real like you
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  Speaker 1: had there many zeros. I had to do a deble check. Right,
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  Speaker 1: it's like over like sixty millions at back right a manute.
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  Speaker 1: Now I'm in the wrong I'm in the wrong position, right,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Because it was the actual
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  Speaker 1: it's like you know, bank Satan and everything. And so
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  Speaker 1: I was like, wait a minute, I'm helping these folks
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  Speaker 1: bill they brand, you know, I'm helping oversee their portfolio.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, you know, that's something that I
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  Speaker 1: would like to do for myself. So two thousand and seventeen,
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  Speaker 1: I've ventured into entrepreneurship right and now started my own
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  Speaker 1: company called the Varne Group UM. And then two thousand
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  Speaker 1: nineteen UM I partnered with one of my UM college friends,
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  Speaker 1: Jessica Myers, and we formed Epic Collective where and UM
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  Speaker 1: in two thousand twenties when we acquired our first property
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  Speaker 1: partner with NASA invest nets I don't Ohio and we
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  Speaker 1: acquired our first hotel property and UM L ringo U Oklahoma,
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  Speaker 1: um so home two seeks eighty five round. So that
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  Speaker 1: was that's my story, when my journey into a hotel
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  Speaker 1: on the ship. That's amazing. That's amazing story. Now, who
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  Speaker 1: asked you this? Because that's something like really huge to
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  Speaker 1: jumping too. Were you affected by fear at all like
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  Speaker 1: I did? UM, I was a lot of people told
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  Speaker 1: me I tried to partner. Was so funny, right, I
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  Speaker 1: caught a partner with a lot of people because I wasn't.
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  Speaker 1: I was fearful that I couldn't do it. I felt
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  Speaker 1: I felt like that I had to do with others.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't have enough money like I just because this
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  Speaker 1: is what I was surrounded by you know, I didn't.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't around people who looked like me. I wasn't
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  Speaker 1: around a lot of people. I'm not really around a
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  Speaker 1: whole bunch of old white men that's goes around, right,
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  Speaker 1: white women, And that was it, right, Um. I mean
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  Speaker 1: I would go to conferences, will be four hundred plus
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  Speaker 1: people and I'm the only black person, right, and then
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  Speaker 1: you got that, you know, the servers and everything over there,
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  Speaker 1: But wasn't it was just me, And so I was
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  Speaker 1: fearful and finally, um, and then I even tried to
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  Speaker 1: partner with black women who were season who at and
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  Speaker 1: then you and I in it right, working each other,
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  Speaker 1: helping each other, and they're like no. And then black
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  Speaker 1: men they always I don't want to I'm not downing
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  Speaker 1: them anything. It's just that they were older and you know,
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  Speaker 1: and my in their opinion, I was in experience. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't have access to capital. You know, there's just so
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  Speaker 1: used to doing They're used to a certain system. And
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  Speaker 1: I respected, I respect them, not talking bad about them anything,
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  Speaker 1: but I just realized that I can't wait on them
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  Speaker 1: for my dreams. Right. I knew I wanted to own
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  Speaker 1: the hotel, and so Finally, I just had to do
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  Speaker 1: it on my own to figure it out. Right, Um,
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  Speaker 1: I had to figure out how to raise capital. Really
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  Speaker 1: your really, your network is really your network. And I
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  Speaker 1: don't people realize that, right? People think I always say that,
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  Speaker 1: right right, this is way way, way, way way, this
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  Speaker 1: is they're worth way more than anything, exactly money right now.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't when I was starting off. I didn't have
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  Speaker 1: millions and millions of dollars in my bank account. Like,
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  Speaker 1: well the kids know about it, so too. But what
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  Speaker 1: I was able to do, I was able to pull
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  Speaker 1: people together. I was able to pull my network. I
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  Speaker 1: live for my network, and we were able to collaborate.
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  Speaker 1: We were to come together and we were raise capital together. Um,
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  Speaker 1: and then the deal just made sense. And that's how
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  Speaker 1: we was able to acquire the hotel. So did your
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  Speaker 1: network consist of any other brown people? Girl? All of them? Honey, okay,
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  Speaker 1: some brown people to work with. And the thing is, wait, wait, wait,
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  Speaker 1: wait wait, these ladies they're not on this deal. No, no, okay,
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  Speaker 1: we actually make this year is so funny. But you
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  Speaker 1: know what what I did was I remembered how when
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  Speaker 1: somebody didn't really did me a chance to partner with
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  Speaker 1: them on the deal or didn't with me an opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to really invest. And so what I did was, um,
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  Speaker 1: I partnered with people. I worked with people who really
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  Speaker 1: wanted to invast who had the capital to invest, and
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  Speaker 1: they're not necessarily have been knowledge. I knew I had
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  Speaker 1: the knowledge, UM, but partner with people who had more
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  Speaker 1: capital and not either were more capitalized and they would
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  Speaker 1: have better relationships with the banks because of the side
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  Speaker 1: of the NY they were on, And that's how we
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  Speaker 1: were able to quotes want to do. So did you
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  Speaker 1: have do you have any formal education? Like did you
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  Speaker 1: have any um? I know you said he didn't have
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  Speaker 1: any education in real estate? Or did you do any
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  Speaker 1: everything for like hopcility and sociology but nothing like so
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  Speaker 1: what I do I'm doing for like finance even though
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  Speaker 1: you don't need to go to school for finance, economics
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  Speaker 1: or real estate. Also self thought right operience? Yeah, well,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean. The people who I worked with,
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  Speaker 1: they went to Cornell and Harvard and m I team.
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  Speaker 1: So that was that, you know, I just thine, I
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  Speaker 1: hate to say that kind of peggy their education, but no,
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  Speaker 1: that's that's the that's the thing is that when Black
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  Speaker 1: people get ahold of anything. And that's why I think
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people outside of black community they're afraid
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  Speaker 1: of our potential because when we get ahold of some information,
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  Speaker 1: we excel. You don't think you're listening. They don't think
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  Speaker 1: we listen. I'm sure, I'm sure of people like to engratually.
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  Speaker 1: That's a part of the cool. It's what you like.
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  Speaker 1: You can't even let them know, you know, a lot
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  Speaker 1: of times, alright, Janine, alright, tell us your story. All right,
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  Speaker 1: So my story probably falls in line with our topics
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  Speaker 1: night about relationships and business and all that. So um
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  Speaker 1: mine actually came out of, honestly, one of the worst
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  Speaker 1: times in my life. I was engaged to be married,
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  Speaker 1: planning a wedding to my daughter's father, and I was
• 12:33
  Speaker 1: coming out of work and I got a call on
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  Speaker 1: Valentine's Day from another woman, and I can a hundred
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  Speaker 1: Christians say, um, it spiraled me. I was like, you
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  Speaker 1: know what, I'm sticking working at this workerate job. I'm
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  Speaker 1: sticking taking their crabs overweight, UM, miserable. I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to do this anymore. Um And you know, like I
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  Speaker 1: was definitely trying to stand and depressed for a couple
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  Speaker 1: of months. Probably smelled like a lot of tequila. Um.
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  Speaker 1: But at the time I had a nanny, Mashila, who
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  Speaker 1: she still to this day. She's been with me, um
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  Speaker 1: with my daughter. One day she came in the room
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  Speaker 1: and she was like, look, Um, so I think you've
• 13:18
  Speaker 1: been in here long enough, Like you cried long enough,
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  Speaker 1: they did the room long enough. She's like, yeah, dressed
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  Speaker 1: and go out. The best thing ever happened to be
• 13:28
  Speaker 1: um going out and getting back out kind of re
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  Speaker 1: sparks um my drive my desire for my life. And
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  Speaker 1: literally two weeks later I put my job. I took
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  Speaker 1: a new job. On the first day of worth, I
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  Speaker 1: met my now Beyonce. I was absolutely not expecting to
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  Speaker 1: meet anybody. I was like, I'm just gonna you know,
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  Speaker 1: we always said my foy saw me, I'm gonna do
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  Speaker 1: me and my daughter and my friends like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna believe in love again. It's like, yeah, girl,
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  Speaker 1: just gonna work out doesn't mean it's not out there
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  Speaker 1: for you know, God told you what I'm supposed to have.
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  Speaker 1: And I didn't like my now biaf at birth. I
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  Speaker 1: was like not sure. He was a financial advisor, and
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I need more, more schools, I need
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  Speaker 1: life insurance, all these things. So I um get him
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  Speaker 1: all my business, did all my life insurance with him,
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  Speaker 1: financial planning boxy, and I in college plans like you
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  Speaker 1: just like bought me in line. And so then one
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  Speaker 1: day he was like, you know, what do you really
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  Speaker 1: want to do? And I said, well, I've always wanted
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  Speaker 1: to do real estate, but I just at the time
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  Speaker 1: didn't have the money. Um, no education whatsoever. It's that
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  Speaker 1: all the HDTV I have watched while I was depressed
• 14:45
  Speaker 1: in bed, I can't do it right. So um, he
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  Speaker 1: was like, your one k looked like what your equity
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  Speaker 1: looks like? That's the equity I who had some of that?
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  Speaker 1: And at the time I have been printing rooms at
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: my house like friends, old co workers, um, people like that.
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  Speaker 1: And I was charging them basically my mortgage. So I
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  Speaker 1: was just paying my mortgage down, pay my horgage down.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, let's check it. He's like, hey, you know,
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  Speaker 1: give about the thousand right here. It's like the markets
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  Speaker 1: look good just several years ago, Like we could just
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: kind of use your house as your first one. Let's
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  Speaker 1: fix it up and it's like, yeah, I got some
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  Speaker 1: bonus money coming. I was like, I didn't have about
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: like Tempytee grand coming, Like yeah, it's like could fix
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  Speaker 1: my house. Instead it's doing ugly furniture that I'm not
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: gonna keep from American's signature this year. So well, we
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  Speaker 1: got Dad in my piance. We paint at my house,
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  Speaker 1: my mom came, We planted my cricked yard, changed out cabinets,
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  Speaker 1: carpet everything, put my house on the market. I wanted
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  Speaker 1: their contracts above asking in three days. Ten days later,
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  Speaker 1: I had a little verse seventy thousand knowledge in my
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  Speaker 1: bank account. IF and Nick we moved in together into
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  Speaker 1: an apartment with my daughter and we launched business and
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  Speaker 1: um from there. As I was going to do this thing,
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  Speaker 1: I was like, Uh, it feels like there's no other
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  Speaker 1: black women that I see out here, like trying to
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: go networking events and things like that. I just didn't
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  Speaker 1: see us. So it's like, I wonder if I should
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  Speaker 1: start a group and find other women and if they
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  Speaker 1: want to like hang out, I get educated, teach and talk,
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  Speaker 1: and honestly that's where black grows. The real estate group.
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  Speaker 1: So I've had black from the real estate program year
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  Speaker 1: and we're now at forty two thousand black women in
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  Speaker 1: roald Estates. It's turned into a huge platform. I teach,
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  Speaker 1: I coach, UM, we connect, we do deals together with
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  Speaker 1: a development deal on the table. UM. I mean all
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  Speaker 1: these chasing women I've met Sevan and India UM through
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  Speaker 1: the platform. So honestly, it just changed my life. It
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  Speaker 1: was just one of those moments where I was like, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I'm just gonna try to give you something different than
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  Speaker 1: to continue to like live what I call a ordinary life.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna still pratraordinary, schochtraordinary. That's been my plea focus
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  Speaker 1: legacy buildings for black women and family. That's what I'm feel.
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  Speaker 1: Not so you're you're your group doesn't consist of black
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  Speaker 1: men at all. No, okay, But to my conference, I
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  Speaker 1: have a conference and um Kiku and have reference resorts
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  Speaker 1: ron August and actually a lot of women are bringing
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  Speaker 1: their husbands, so it'll be good. But they're literally it's
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  Speaker 1: just there and all sorts mentioned. So so isn't that
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  Speaker 1: is it not open to men? Or is just okay?
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  Speaker 1: So the reason why I'm asking these questions is because
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  Speaker 1: I have a few friends in real estate. UM A
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  Speaker 1: couple of UM women. But one of my guy friends, UM,
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  Speaker 1: he's out in the Midwest. He does really well in
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  Speaker 1: real estate and he just mentioned it is crazy. He
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  Speaker 1: just mentioned to me a couple of weeks ago that, um,
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  Speaker 1: he finds like the like that the black women that
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: are in real estate in his area, they kind of
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: like keep secrets. They don't they don't really like, they
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: don't really like message the men. You know what I'm saying,
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: something like, how do I that I have some like
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: they network? They don't network network with the only network,
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: you know, amongst themselves. So I do have one on
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: one students that are males. I have a couple actually
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: I have mails that come to the classes, but the
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: group is specifically griven towards us that it's no shade.
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: I love our brothers shade with them. UM. I just
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: think that's like when we need to leg up to right. UM.
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: I think maybe the guys may feel like a shade
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: is mad, but the thing is like, it's no, it's
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: no competition. Right. So, because recently I've gotten into stock
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: option trading and the guy I've been working with, he
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: really just wants to mentor black women because he feels like,
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: you know, Asian women have their Asian men, white women
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: have their white men, and I don't know if you
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: guys on a clubhouse, but it's like a constant battle
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: between black women and black men on display for the
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: world to see at this point, like what's going on.
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: It's like, I do like clubhouse, but I feel like
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: everybody on there is being competition. So it's like everyone
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: wants to level up the last speaker. So if you're like, oh, hey, yeah,
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: I on a hotel, well I got to the booth
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: last year, I don't. I don't. I'm sorry, I don't
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: get that on my slone when I say I own
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: hope real quiet, like I thank you, ridiculous. It's like,
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: I don't know. It's kind of like vanes City, and
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: I have a lot of friends that are like, don't
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: you use clubhouse? Why don't you do this? And then
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I literally organically through my entire platforms up
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: forty two thousand people with no outside marketing, no promo,
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: just me and word them out like not that's yeah,
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: Like there's no shade or mediafa because that you know,
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: I could probably leave the figure if I did do
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: some of that, but I just don't know, like that's
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: face all the way. I know some investors from Climouse.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: I had some folks investments in some of my hotels
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: from club House, so I don't Yeah, y'all are going
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: on tour soon, right where you're going in? Like, what's
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: that gonna look like for you? So we're going to Atlanta.
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: We're going to Charlotte, Charlotte. Are you Charlotte? Yeah, I'm coming.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: I'm coming. Charlotte's gonna be in January. Okay, that's in September.
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: Houston is in July. Yeah, me, Miami is in Noami.
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: So what do we have like five yeah, not including
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: the conference. Yeah yeah, hold on, before we get into
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: anything else, let's pay some bills real quick. So I
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: got a question going back to Jenny. You said the
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: woman called. You can tell us what she said. What
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: that woman said? You girls see how this show trying
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: to look because we could still pull up and fire here.
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: Now I know you already, but did you a last weapons?
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: So all of this stuff was a minute. I he mad,
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: don't worry about it. He made two says you came
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: all the way Like, yeah, wouldn't be I said that
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: she wished I was, and he wished I was his
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: baby Bama. Right. Basically, did he try to join your group,
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: Petty mayonnais? I would just say, oh no, let me
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: do a charge your super premium. Tell you more. I'm
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: telling you, well, let me say that. Basically, she called
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: and was like and he was a crazy thing. The
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: number was one of those numbers where you like, it's
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: the same digits as like the other person. So it's
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: like the family plan where like digits are off with
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: the same numbers are on like the first for you.
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: It's not like I'm like like hey, hey, like it
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: is went from there, just like I've known about you
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: all these things. I mean it was I mean, honestly
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: it was crazy be so my daughters seven. So we
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: were together almost six years and in his true land
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: of fashion, just you know, double life in it and
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: being messy. Okay. So wait, so the woman knew about you,
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: but you didn't know about her. So essentially she was
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: a side bitch. She stode because she came into the girls.
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah wait, it's the movie. It's you funny it out
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: even getting the club. You know, I'm Patty, I'm already
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: look were Donna have to bleep her name out there name.
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: I don't even know her. I don't even girl, I
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: don't even know her, not even like her. Look, we
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: don't want no legal issues over here, no slander, no
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: libel lawsuits listened, I will bleep that didn't friend, thanks
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: for me to real quick? Are you are you all
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: exclusive to black men? Are we on date outside of
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: your race? Oh? Janie's on. Janine is in a relationship,
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: she's getting married, indeed. But I had this moment when
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: I was in college. I went to the Paul University,
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: which is like a predominantly white college, and white boy
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: he was he was outside the club and when his
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: friends ran up to him, and he was like because
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: he was looking at me, and I felt like, oh,
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: maybe I'll say something differen was like, hey, bro, there's
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: born for that. And I was like, oh not. And
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: after that, I you any white man that everyone has
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: like me look at me? I was like, oh, well
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: to them, it's your fish. Yeah that's crazy, Like, yeah,
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: that's you know what, bitch. I probably would I probably
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: would a hockey spin on his ass. That's what I got.
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I could be really disrespectful. I would have
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: did something. I was like, what, Yeah, it was like
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: it was so shocking actually, and I was younger. I
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: wasn't like mode, but like, I cannot believe somebody had
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: said that it was like that. To me, it was
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: so disrespectful. M hmm. What about what about you India
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: and Davon? Are you always sposive to black men? Yeah,
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: I don't do others. I don't know what. To me,
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: it's like, oh, let's do cute Like it's kind of
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: like seeing kids just like you know, attracted, you know
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: what I mean? Like like that, But we as brock
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: women really exclusive to black men, but they aren't exclusive
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: to and that's why we end up sharing so much
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: more than we would like to. I think I love
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: my brothers, I support I support my black man, So
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: I would date, you know, I've never actually dated that.
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: I did go back when I was young. I did
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: day That's how my race. I dated as someone who's cubing.
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: So that's probably the only time I dated outside that's
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: still like a right, still a minority. Yeah, but I
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: never like, don't you feel like white men always state
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: women that looks like really more like ethic or African? Yes,
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: I don't think they're really attracted like like brown girls,
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: I don't I haven't seen so why guy never really
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: tried to I say that back when I was in Boston,
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: I had like a couple of white guys trying to
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: talk to me, but real dark skinned girls with big
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: titties and naphew, that's what they like. I haven't seen
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: some nap we've like this one girl had like a
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: mop on her head, like like, let me tell you.
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: I have a whole theory about that. And why when
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: you see white man with a more ethnic looking woman,
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: because you know, the whole thing out here, the whole
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: conspiracy is that white people numbers are declining. Right when
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: you especially like in your places like that, you see
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: a lot of black women with white men. That's they're
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: trying to survive. At this point, I really feel that way.
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: I really feel like it's like a vival of the
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: fittest at this point, because over here you you'll see
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: more black men with white women, right. The genes are
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: stronger that way. But I really feel like, like these
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: white men, they're trying to survive, so why not get
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: with a white woman? I mean, a black woman that
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: can produce a black woman is not going to create
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: a white child. I don't understand what you mean by that. Yeah,
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: but then the man in the home is gonna have
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: like the biggest influence on the house. Right. So science
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: says it only takes three generations to change the race.
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: So now if you have the black man to the
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: white white man to the black woman, three more generations,
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: you should get another white person. Oh god, I've never heard,
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: never heard that. I read it black black black. That's
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: not true, which is not true. Look at look at
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: Mega Marco, Look at Mega Marco. Her baby is white.
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: Her baby is white. Right now, that's why that black
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: women's children will then be part white, and then you
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: so on and so forth. So now if your father
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: is white, usually so you have in America, you have
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: black men that are with white women, right, so they
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: are there're nine times out of tend are more inclined
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: to then be with black men. If you are a
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: black woman with a white man and pro creating, because
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: the man is still going to be the head at
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: the home for the most part, your children will probably
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: be more inclined to be with white men. Do you
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: see what I'm saying. So you have by wracial children,
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: then going with white men. Are they gonna go back
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: to a black man? We don't know because they weren't
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: even raised by one. That's what that black point was like. Typically,
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: if you know a bi racial male who has a
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: white mother, he could women and as much as he
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: like black women bodies, like you, you let your seed
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: going too. I don't want to call it a seed,
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: you let your air because we're talking about somebody who's
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: worth millions and millions of dollars. You're now transferring for
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: in that world to this Caucasian woman or whatever her
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: you know, whatever it is that she is. So um yeah,
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: like you, you like black women bodies, so you get
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: you a white woman who has the features, and that's
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: who you procreate with. Like that's a white man. Drake
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: is a white man, right, Daddy is always black, he
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: is not white man. Alright. Question, So do you feel
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: a ladies are India and Davon are y'all single? Y'all single?
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: Do you feel like it's harder dating now that you
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: have you know, greater wealth? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, I mean
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: it is. It's kind of Yeah, where where are you located?
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: Both of you? So? I know it's harder because especially
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: when you just want black men, because the numbers are
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: slim out there. Baby, The numbers of men out there
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: that are actually interested in women and then actually as
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: interested in black women is very small out there. No,
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: you have the cipher through. Yeah, guys that have gone
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: to jail. There's guys that are bi sexual. There's guys
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: that are just um, you know, straight gay, um, guys
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: that have a lot of kids. Like, there's a lot
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: that you have to kind of um doubts through and Atlanta.
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: To me, I'm originally from Chicago. This is a very
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: big difference and I got here, but I think men
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: here are for precied with who you are. What do
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: you do when he brings this table? If you say,
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: if I hear that one more time? Yes, because why
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: can't women just need women? Why we got to bring
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: the table? Why do we have to about that table?
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: I'm like my lady Star hotel, hotel, how about right up?
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: Say you're like what you's got going on? The friend
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: it's hard, You're you're lovel and eating, like you need
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: a very submissive man that can just go and I can't.
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: I can't date it like a nanny that like I'm
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: with you and do what you need to do or
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: you're gonna have to get like a fault. Would y'all
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: not date men that make less than you know? No,
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: not me? It can make your net worth, right, Yeah,
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: when she said you can have a high network, you
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: can make less only if you got a high net worth.
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: That's what you're saying. Well, I mean because it's kind
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: of hard because it could be intimidating, right, you know,
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: it could be intimidating, you know, because technically the man
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: is supposed to quote unquote make more, right, and it
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: could be we can say this, but will a man
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: really truly feel secure that his woman is men? I
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: hear him saying, and then when it happens, it's completely good.
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: It's it's different. They can't handle it, you know, especially
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: if they want a hard work a woman. But if
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: the woman gets the spotlight and if she's doing this
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: and she's doing that and she's making more, it's it's
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: it's it's you know, why do you want a hard
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: working woman? Because that's all they saw their mom doing. Right,
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: So you say you want somebody there? What you bring
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: it to the table? Like ship? What's want? Like you said,
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: you know what I mean, like, you want somebody that's
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: bringing a lot to the table. So then you get
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: a woman who brings a lot to the table, but
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: then you want her to be some That's the whole
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: other conversation, right, So maybe you have somebody who does
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: bring a lot to the table. Book in you know,
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: I have meals from what is that fresh to go fresh? Whatever?
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: I have, I have a nanny and the maid and
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: the maid companies. Like there's some difference things you really
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: are like the superwoman uh syndrome, in my opinion is
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: very real. I think we've all done it. We've all
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: tried to kill ourselves our business and we know that
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: that's not a healthy space to operate with. The self
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: care and being able to look at that back is important,
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: especially when you have a platform. You know, people said,
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: oh yeah, guess what, that's thirty two thousand women that
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: are responsible a certain things that you're a certain thing
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: that you're working with. It's a non stop factor. So
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: self care really comes this that we have have a
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: partner that understands building and doing and hopefully you're supported absolutely.
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: So Indea, what were you about to say? Because when
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: asked that, yeah, you you had you look like you
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: had a difference in opinions. Maybe so. At first I
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: was saying, the reason why they are so big on
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: this table in Atlanta, and I think it's because there
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: are so many successful black women, so they almost can
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: have a choice. They know that they're slim, and there's
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: a whole lot of us. So I called the playground.
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: Atlanta is a playground because they have so many choices, right,
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: And they come from like Jane's from Chicago and from Ohio.
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: Those smaller areas are you know, like hoods. They kind
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: of get with the people that they're with early and
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: stay with them for a while. And you don't like elevate, right,
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: like go to college and get your masters, you don't
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: get to experience as much, right. So here you have
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: a lot of educated women, a lot of black entrepreneurs,
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: one of the highest This is probably the highest concentration
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: of you know, women entrepreneurs. So they got a whole
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: lot to choose from, so they can play more games. Um.
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: But aside from that, you were saying what I did
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: somebody that makes less to me. My thing is I
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: know how to create income, right, and I know how
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: to purchase assets that are going to create more income
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: for us as a couple. And so sometimes they just
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: don't have the knowledge, like so it kind of depends
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: on their drive, Like they're found their shoe, right, do
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: they have any type of correlations? If you don't have anything,
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: you can have no educational background. Most of the time,
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: you don't have to discipline to do what I'm gonna
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: teach you how to do it or to maintain to
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: teach you how to get so you can't be like
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: making a whole hundred thousand now less than me, but
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: you know, maybe ten, ten twenty grand less and then
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: we're gonna love that. You know what. The thing is
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: that I never really had a project before my man
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: like that, Like they don't make some money, they're gonna
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: have a business, but they're gonna sell drugs. But they
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: they're gonna be a real bullshit because you know, most
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: men who get money, they're gonna have women. They're just
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: like it's like now, it's like, ah, what's the damn
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: trade off? Like you santity, you get your bitches or
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: like that part it's having a woman outside of you.
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: Let's that you're with the man who's making you very
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: happy to nan you are Um, if he has a
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: woman outside of you and you find out about it,
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: is that a deal breaker for you? I'm out and
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: I have not about that man. And even when I
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: found out the first time, that was the final day,
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: broke it off ended, got like engagement, called off the wedding.
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: All that was done within two hours. I had nothing
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: to think about. It's not a deal breaking from you.
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: A little would be so pussy on the side. It's
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: not the deal breaking from me. You should have gotten enough.
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: I can't been. I ain't family oriented it, but I
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: just don't have. I feel like sometimes you said, our
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: realistic standard form one another when it comes to our
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: real human nature. You know, I know, I used to
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: go that way until I've seen man. You know, I've
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: seen you know, relationships and and and and mayorages have
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: been together for years and years and years, and the
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: men didn't. Of course they look, but they didn't. They
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: didn't cheat, they didn't step out, So I didn't. Growing up,
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: all my friend's parents were married. I never saw the
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: board parents thirty four marriage for thirty five years steel sweethearts. UM,
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: I really firmly believe in the power of marriage and
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: the power of like the right person. I think it
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: just takes the right person. And you get that, you
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: might feel a little biggle girl like who I might
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: when you get that one nigga, that just does it
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: for you, girl, That's a different a different feeling to
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: be person love done like it, sir, thank you right now,
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: head toodnight. Really fine, but changes your mind. You just
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  Speaker 1: got me the right one. He's out there for you.
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  Speaker 1: Dam to know that the right one or the right too.
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  Speaker 1: And the three let me tell you stressful man, I'm
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  Speaker 1: telling you one nigg is stress enough. Have like five
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: women because I would be thinking of me because they
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: love headaches. They love headaches like they like I was.
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: You know, I was just talking to one of my
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: ex is recently and I'm like, you know, you should
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: just take a break because he's not a bad man,
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: but he runs through women and I'm just happy I'm
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: not one of those women no more. But you should
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: really take a break because how do you, I said,
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: are you playing on um? You know, getting some real money?
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: Because I mean he owns a home, he has a job,
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: you know, but you cannot build no type of wealth
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: exerting your energy on bitches all day long, like how
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: you're not focus focused like we're getting and you know what,
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna think about it. You're right, I'm gonna think
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: about it at the letting all these you you putting
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: your demon energy out there and receiving all this demon
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: in energy, like you're gonna always be confused. Like, just
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: take a break from fucking bitching. Sometimes you're about to
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: be forty years old, so I can smashing everybody get
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: his hand on. It's ridiculous. I'm going I like that.
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: Are all of you mothers? Yeah? How do you feel
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: like juggling motherhood in business? Our artn't ever feel like
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: you you're failing on one in the Yeah, So Davon
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: and India, you guys are not in relationships, right, How
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: do y'all feel about proposing to men? I'm half What
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: do y'all feel about the phenomenal India proposing? Huh? Halfway
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: in one? But you will never getch me getting on
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: my knee. That's I'm proposed now. I'm not doing grab
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: who don't have to worry about it because it's not
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: gonna happen, right because yeah, I'm not doing that. I'm
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: already kind of like dominant now I could be you know,
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: you know tis if well, if you're not get married,
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: but I'm it just it just won't work. I feel
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: like it's there's definitely a balance and there's definitely roles.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: I believe in that. And that's like the man they
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: really like playing really big two big things that first
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: day in that proposal, and that's something that they should
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: have that they should playing and be in controlled because
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: the now just messed up the dynamics. And yeah, and
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: it's just it's it's almost the same thing as a
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: man taking on a date. Like you on your cell
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: phone looking through all the all the different niggas like
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: let me see sending mass text messages out to people
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: who won't take me on a date. You want to
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: go out to eat, Like, it's the same thing that's
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: getting on your knees and asking a man to marry you.
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: Like if that man wanted to take you on a date,
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: and he would have planned it and he would have
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: hit you up. If that man wanted to marry you,
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: he would have planned it and he would have got
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: on his knees to marry you. That's why I'm act
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: vampion And wasn't her name? Chris Jones. Sam Bam okay,
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: Sam damn. I mean there's a reason for it, right,
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: like I need Look, y'all should have told me to
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: bring my tea cup, my mug because this is just
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: a whole little conversation right here. It's not all rated
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: for me. Okay, clutching my furls right now. Okays, any
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: liked von Boo, I got you. I'm drinking it tea
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: for us, but I got I got you. Bum dates
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: my fad. Is it okay to wear a bomb in
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: the airport? No? No, no no, I grab my hair,
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: So like if you go take that decent here, huf
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  Speaker 1: you out of this conversation. Okay, exactly high school he
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: was coming the rocks. Yeah that a dubie or something.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: Goes like next three years of that duby. Yeah, but
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: that's like, yeah, that's over. Okay, I'll know about a
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: hair wrap. This girl in the store and the airport,
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: going shopping to the mall. I'm like, why it's not okay,
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: I don't like it. And that's that's been wearing your
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: bed clothes outside and I've seen that dude, they when
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: they put yours, I mean it's sad, you know in
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: sands and you're not on the binding baby slipper and
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: the first that's because we live in Lena's Strippers. They
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: got off and work took the money right you in there.
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: It's like you don't know what people got going to,
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: like somebody could just pass the win they're hopping on
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: the flight. You know, I don't. I just I just
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: don't care that much about other people, like with the
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: body like I don't. None of my friends would ever
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: wear a bonnet to the airport. Those are different people. Okay,
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: we we need a different alien over here, like they
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: need something else. But I don't really care about what
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: they do. That would your grand mother would turned over
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: in her grave like I was raised it. You couldn't
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: even go to the kitchen table unless she brush your
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: teeth and wash your face. So band it couldn't even
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: come to the kitchen table. So you think I'm going
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: outside with a buy it eat outside, like like chips
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: and stuff outside. You have to just eat in the kitchen.
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: And that was it, absolutely outside. But I feel like
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: these are P P P travelers. I don't want to
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: say you did. I don't want to say it, but
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: she did. If you only people leave the people alone
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: in Nay chip Okay travelers, they're going over there the
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: Dominican Republic to get the ask done. Hold on, before
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: we get into anything else, let's pay some bills real quick.
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: So we have a segment on our show called dumping Story, right,
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: and it's where women and we have also shared a
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: time where we got played. Oh man. So he says,
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: look at my best friend. My best friend, she was like,
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: wait a minute, let me call in. I got a
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: story for y'all. Let her do it, like several stories,
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: y'all get here, right on here. If I left Indian
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: Indians the cool and common collected one out of us,
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: I'm just laughing. I'm trying to think. I'm sure I
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: got a couple of you know, I have relationship with
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: my exces great one of them was my mentory. He
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: has like ft two properties. Okay, let's talk about that
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: just right quick before we get because I do have
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: a sam series from a man. So sim series is
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: going to be like your equivalent to a dumb bit story,
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: but just right quickly. So you're in a situation ship,
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: you're getting into a relationship, right, how does your significant
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: can other feel about you having uh contact with men
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: that you've been with before. He talked, ship and that's
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: about it. He can't really stop it, so you know,
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: like we kind of like out of females. I'm a
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: GYMANI too, So I mean, I love you girl. You
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: talk to him, but you can't shut down, you know,
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: Like I said, my texes are like business partners for me.
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: You know, I always have good relationships with my exes,
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: So I don't you know, it's not something he can
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: really stop. He hasked talking about it. But then one
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: of them, another one of my exes own so hundreds
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: and owns the dealership and he had me have him
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: looking for him a BMW last week. So hey, their
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: resources for both of us at this point, because that's
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: that's always my thing is like I don't want to
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: get rid of good people, you know. You know what
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like that's a that's an on guard argument
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: in my relationship, Like I don't want to get rid
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: of good people, and I'm asking you to either, like
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: you know some people that are good for you, good,
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: resourceful people, good and also just even meeting new people
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: new friends can oftentimes give you played his old friends can.
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: So we just limit ourselves to each other for fifty years,
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: Like how to funk? Are we supposed to grow our network?
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: Our network? Everything? You can't follo? Let me find this
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: uh this simp story right quick. So this guy's name
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: is I was born fly eighties six on Instagram. All right,
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: So he says I was dating this girl in two
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: thousand and seven. After a few months of talking, she
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: asked me could I help her pay for school and
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: pick up a few bills in the house because she
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: was going to cut her hours from one job to
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: focus on school. So I did pay three thousand dollars
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: for one semester of school. Took the money out of
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: my four oh one K and I was paying And
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: I was paying her rent, car note and car insurance
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: for six months, also six d a month rent. I
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: even pick up a second job to support her in
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: her dreams. After a few months, something wasn't adding up.
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: To make a long story short, the money I gave
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: her for school, she used it to help her boyfriend
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: get a lawyer to fight a drug case. She was
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: also selling drugs on the side for him. Once he
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: got out of jail, they started back dating, but she
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: called me and said he had been beating her every
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: day since. That sounds like some series and a dumbing story.
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: When you were telling the story back when you say
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: he took out his four O one K, I knew
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: where it was going. I don't gonna go to the jail,
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: but I knew it was gonna be. She messed up,
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: and so poor poor boy, Now he ain't gonna trust
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: exactly because that could have been somebody who was willing
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: to go in his four on one K to help
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: y'all get a property, you know what I'm saying. So
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: now he's not even trust trust the word trust worthy
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: of women anymore because of one bit as do our
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: own work, right, we gotta tell who are these people
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: that's a problem. Just give it up, do all this stuff,
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: like we gotta check it was good it was our
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: he went. It's like even with him, he should have
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: determined to know what you got going on, you know,
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: like she could have been a con artist. But one day,
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: let me say, let me say something because this is
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: not Let's feel bad for you, Terrence, but I feel bad.
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: You don't just give money away, right, My brand is
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: called labels. You create in constraints with the money. I
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: would have said, I'll give you the money to start
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: an Airbnb, and that'll create an extra cash for your
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: bills or whatever. Now you know you gave the money
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: one time and the money just got blown. This is
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: why even when my my parents go, family members come
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: asking for money. Once you give that even waite at
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: one time, they're gonna come back after some exactly teach
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: them what to do with the cash. Is that the
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: cash creates ongoing in whether it's don't over to the airbnb,
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: a four row started, e book, e plumos, busy whatever.
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: This is why you don't just help people by giving
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: out money or just spending the money because we suspect
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: expect you didn't got to spend Sarence, stop spending money
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: over girls. But Terence, we appreciate your good heart. You know. Okay,
• 50:30
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• 51:54
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• 51:57
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, we're gonna conquer it all. Seriously, Yes,
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: I love it. It was and you know, I got
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: a lot of um I know, you know, I actually
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: had a real estate license in South Carolina, but I
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: never sold any real estate. I just had my ship
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: on um what do they have it not not suspended?
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: But um I worked for a broker for maybe a
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: week so that I can I guess it's called I
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: can't remember exactly what they call it, but it's like
• 52:25
  Speaker 1: you make it inactive. Right. But I was in college
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: getting a real estate license, and I really like, I've
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: always known about real estate, like this is how you
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: get the bag, but you need money. I was broke,
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: so I realized that while going through the real estate classes,
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: like I need some fucking money so I might get
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: back into it. Yeah, definitely go to bear thing in January.
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna go. Should. I might hit the one up
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: in Atlanta. I think that that maybe even a little
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: bit sooner. Oh yeah, yeah, should. I'm trying to go
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: to cancuon so I can't learn in and get my
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: grow back. Oh right, maybe we could do can't goon
• 53:04
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