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Season 3 - Episode 207 - The art of being wrong · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Little quiet because the girls are stuffing their face with
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  watermelon this morning, but let's dive right in.
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  So how do you handle when you know you were wrong or not
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  correct or could have been better?
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  However you want to say it comes down to one major factor.
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  You were wrong and you have to acknowledge the fact that you
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  were wrong, at least to yourself.
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  Maybe not to other people, but you have to acknowledge it.
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  And the question is, how do you handle something like that?
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  Now, here's what's interesting about this.
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  People just don't like to be wrong.
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  At least I know I can have a difficult time with it in
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  certain situations with my husband.
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  Yes, I, I hate to admit that. And the reason this is coming up
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  is because this weekend I, I have this new, I have a couple,
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  2 new plants to be specific. And they are carnivorous plants.
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  They're hooded carnivorous, carnivorous plants.
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  And I got them at a reptile show we were at for his business.
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  And it was interesting because I'd never seen them for sale
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  before. These people were new selling
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  them. But they were beautiful and they
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  looked like they were just so much fun to grow.
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  So I got them because I've never grown them before.
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  And the guy said to me, you know, they have to live in these
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  boggy conditions. And he had them all in these
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  nice pots, but right away things come to my house and they grow
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  rapidly and they outgrew these pots.
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  So I had to figure out, OK, what am I going to do with these?
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  Because I, I, I really like them a lot and I want to make sure
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  that I take the best care of them.
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  So this past weekend we go out and we get a new dish that like
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  a water planter that doesn't have a hole in the bottom for
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  drainage. And he's going to help me create
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  a bog situation because he's seen these in the wild before as
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  he's a master naturalist. And so I'm like, OK, great,
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  we're doing this. And he's telling me how he wants
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  to create this little trellis for them so they can stand up
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  better. I don't like the way he's saying
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  it because I have this thing in my head about how it's going to
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  look. And I said to him, I don't think
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  this is going to work. And he's like, well, can we at
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  least try it first? And I was pouting like, I'm
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  going to be really honest, I was pouting because I didn't think
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  it was going to look very good. And so he comes back, he he with
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  paint sticks. I say, I don't want to use paint
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  sticks. We use bamboo.
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  And at least if we have to do this this way, and I'm still
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  pouting, by the way. And we go through and it takes
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  us about 45 minutes to get this whole thing set up and tied the
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  right way. And I sit back and I look at it
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  and I have to admit it looks pretty cool.
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  Now I I'm thinking this to myself.
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  I'm saying this looks pretty cool, but I'm not necessarily
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  saying it out loud to him. And he's just like, OK, so it's
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  good. And and I knew he was waiting
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  for me to say that I liked the way it looked and I wasn't ready
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  to say it. And I thought to myself, this is
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  silly. I can say this.
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  I had to switch my driver. I stand up and I went, it looks
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  better than I thought it could look.
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  And he's like, thank you for saying that.
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  And I was like, you're welcome. And he's like, are you happy
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  with it? And I said, yeah, I mean, I'm
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  happy with it right now. We'll see how it looks as it if
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  they can stand up with it and be safe.
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  And he says, OK. And I could see that it made him
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  happy to know, one, that he made me happy, but two, that I was
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  able to say it and I was not holding back with it.
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  So the point of this today is when, you know, I could have
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  walked away and not said anything, but I knew, I knew
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  that he wanted that. I knew he was looking for that.
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  And I knew he had a feeling and emotion around the fact that he
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  wanted to know. One, he made me happy, but two,
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  that he felt like he was better inclined to inform me on this.
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  And he was, because he's seen them in the wild, he knows how
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  they grow. And quite frankly, he's better
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  at trellising any time than I am.
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  And I just sat there and thought to myself, this is so dumb.
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  Just because I had an idea in my head of how it was going to look
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  doesn't mean it can't have an adaptable look.
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  And I know that because of how much I, you know, teach
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  creativity and everything else. However, I was stuck.
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  I was stuck in that mode of being that way.
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  Now, when you get in that mode, the most important thing is to
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  acknowledge the possibilities, stay curious.
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  So when I said, all right, let's just try it in my head, I had to
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  stay curious. And when I got to the end, then
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  I had to jump into a place of being humble.
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  I had to say I had to get humble to drive my bus in that moment
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  and say, OK, stop, stop. This is something that's not
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  working to sit here and just say thank you.
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  You have to say it looks better or something to acknowledge it.
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  Not only his effort, but his ability to put up with me
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  pouting through the process. So the point of the conversation
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  today is to make sure that when you know you're wrong and you've
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  got to go back to it and eat some humble pie, do it and be
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  happy about it because it helps us grow.
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  And as soon as I did that, my friends, I felt a ton better so
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  and I wasn't pouting anymore. So I hope you all have a blessed
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  day and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.